1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,079 Speaker 1: The Fred Show is on. It's stay or go. 2 00:00:05,519 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 2: Zach. 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: It's here, Hi Zach. How you doing Jack? Great talk? 4 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: I'm doing good? Yeah, okay, Hey. 5 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:17,040 Speaker 2: Hi Zach. Yeah, welcome. Frendshi Radio dot com, French Shier 6 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 2: Radio on Instagram. You can always find us there. What's 7 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 2: going on with your girlfriend? Let's see if we can 8 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:26,640 Speaker 2: get to the bottom and as solve all of your 9 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 2: life problems right now. 10 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 3: So okay, like okay, I'm me and my girl. 11 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:39,479 Speaker 4: We've been together for a really long time and our 12 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 4: relationships been really happy and it's the healthiest one we've had. 13 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:46,879 Speaker 4: I mean, she and I we've even been talking about marriage. 14 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 4: So it's going like you know, it's going that well. 15 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 4: But I really need you guys's opinion on something I 16 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 4: can't really tell if I'm if I'm if I'm acting crazy. 17 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:01,279 Speaker 2: You know, we come to the right place because if 18 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 2: anyone would know if you're acting crazy, it's me. 19 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:03,959 Speaker 1: So let's hear it. 20 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 4: So recently I found out that my girlfriend put me 21 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 4: on this page that's called something like are we. 22 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: Dating the same guy? Because there's one? 23 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:24,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, So I guess you know, I was trying to 24 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:25,759 Speaker 4: figure out what it is. 25 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 1: It's like a it's a page where women will post. 26 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 4: Somebody if they think their man's cheating I guess, or 27 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:35,119 Speaker 4: has like a family or something that they're not telling 28 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:35,679 Speaker 4: them about. 29 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 3: And the post that she posted me up. 30 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:44,119 Speaker 4: On there, which you know, I was kind of really 31 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:47,559 Speaker 4: bothered by. I mean, the post that she had of 32 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 4: me up wasn't really bad. She didn't, like, you know, 33 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 4: she didn't say anything bad about me, and she did 34 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 4: put that we're like discussing getting married. She just wants 35 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 4: to know if anyone had any key on me. 36 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 2: Okay, so she was so she has no reason to 37 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 2: suspect that you've done anything. You haven't done anything. But 38 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 2: she just decides, let me post this guy, I've been 39 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 2: with him for a long time, let me post his 40 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 2: picture on this message board that's intended for cheaters and 41 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 2: and you know, essentially people who mistreat people. That was 42 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 2: the that's the purpose. I've seen this thing before. That's 43 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 2: the purpose of it. It's become a little gossipy, but 44 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:28,680 Speaker 2: the purpose of it was like, hey this guy stole 45 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 2: from me, or hey this guy's a criminal, or hey 46 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 2: this guy's married, or hey this guy you know has 47 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 2: another girlfriend or whatever. I think it's kind of become like, 48 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:39,359 Speaker 2: here's a picture of a guy that I have never 49 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 2: met on bumble, what do we think of him? Which 50 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 2: is I think it's completely unfair. And that's how I 51 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 2: got up there, by the way, posted a picture of 52 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 2: me on that thing, and it was like, tell us 53 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 2: about this guy, and then it just became this whole 54 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 2: threat about people whose names I've never seen before, saying 55 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:55,640 Speaker 2: like you know this and that. Yeah, so that's what 56 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:57,240 Speaker 2: it's become is a little gossipy. 57 00:02:57,400 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm in one of them. And this is kind 58 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,680 Speaker 5: of common too, like I'm about to commit, I'm about 59 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 5: to make you know, we're about to be boyfriend girlfriend 60 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:06,919 Speaker 5: or get married or get engaged. I just want to 61 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 5: check if anyone out there is either seeing him, dating 62 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 5: him or whatever. 63 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: So that's that's fairly common. 64 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 2: But here's the thing, though, short of him being a 65 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:18,239 Speaker 2: felon or a serial cheater, what possibly could come from 66 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 2: that that's positive? 67 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 1: Well, I've seen some woman go I'm banging him too, 68 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:23,839 Speaker 1: That's what I said, though, Like it's short of that, 69 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 1: short of being a cheater. 70 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 5: Or people don't comment typically on things other than that. 71 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 5: You get taken down if you do that. 72 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:31,640 Speaker 1: But any but what. 73 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 2: Anybody could say anything, you know what I mean, Like 74 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 2: somebody could go on there and say, oh, yeah, five 75 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 2: years ago this happened or whatever, and then that shakes 76 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 2: up the whole relation. I guess it's like, why are 77 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 2: we not letting sleeping dogs lot? Like I guess I 78 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 2: don't know what's positive from them. 79 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:47,560 Speaker 5: You have to come with receipts too, like people move 80 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 5: like to private messaging, and. 81 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: Then it's a whole thing. I just don't I don't 82 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: see the problem. 83 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 2: I don't see the purpose because he's not cheating, and 84 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 2: unless she doesn't trust you or has no reason, maybe 85 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 2: she does, she have any reason to leave, Like in 86 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 2: her mind, does she think that you're cheating? I just 87 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 2: think she's looking for something that she may find, but 88 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 2: that isn't relevant to this scenario. What if somebody What 89 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 2: if somebody says something from five years ago and they've 90 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 2: been together for four And I'm not talking about he's 91 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 2: a child molester or he's a cheater or he's a thief. 92 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 2: I mean like, oh, I went on a day with him, 93 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 2: and you know I didn't. 94 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:24,840 Speaker 1: Like it would change your opinion. I don't know what 95 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 1: I mean, But. 96 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:27,040 Speaker 2: What do you do it on there, then you know, 97 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 2: I think you're looking for It's like when people go 98 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,839 Speaker 2: through people's phones, like you're gonna if you're looking for something, 99 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 2: you'll find something. 100 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 1: If he's banging someone else, I want to know what actively, 101 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 1: But like what do we do that? 102 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:42,160 Speaker 2: I mean, like, do married people just go around constantly asking, hey, 103 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:46,599 Speaker 2: evaluating publicly whether their husband's banging someone else? Or do 104 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 2: you just go by their behavior and trust them. What 105 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 2: I'm saying is, I think there's something else going on here, 106 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:54,280 Speaker 2: there's some other level of insecurity, because I would be 107 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 2: I would be really upset Zach, Like, can you imagine 108 00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 2: if you've been. 109 00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 1: With just thirteen years, almost sixteen years? 110 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:03,720 Speaker 2: Can you imagine if she just one day, for no reason, 111 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 2: just said I'm just gonna check up on my boy. 112 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 2: Just he's not doing anything, he's not hurting anybody, he's 113 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 2: not hurting me. I have no reason to believe he's cheating. 114 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 2: But yeah, let me just let me just throw him 115 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 2: up there so the whole world can see that. I 116 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 2: need validation, right, and anybody could say anything at that point, 117 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 2: and then now all of a sudden I have to 118 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 2: defend it to my wife or my serious girlfriend, And 119 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:30,479 Speaker 2: I mean, what if they did it to you? What 120 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 2: if what a big tim did that to you? And 121 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 2: then somebody from the past comes out and was like, oh, 122 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 2: well she did you know? His against your story And 123 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 2: now all of a sudden you're having an argument about 124 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 2: something that was completely irrelevant. 125 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 6: Well, you know, fred, I call this just a simple 126 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:44,479 Speaker 6: quality control check. 127 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:45,360 Speaker 1: Yes, and you. 128 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 6: Gotta do it every every so often, just a quality 129 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:49,839 Speaker 6: control check, just to make sure all the temperatures are 130 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:53,000 Speaker 6: right in the relationship. Everything is going called pathetic. So 131 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 6: I don't think there's anything wrong with this. If Zach 132 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 6: didn't have anything to hide, then Zach should not. 133 00:05:57,600 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: Have air, y'all. 134 00:05:58,480 --> 00:05:58,840 Speaker 7: That's it. 135 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 6: It's giving this I got something going on, or had 136 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:02,400 Speaker 6: something going on. 137 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: That he doesn't want her to know. 138 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 2: I could make the I just made the opposite argument, kick. 139 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:07,840 Speaker 2: The opposite argument is that maybe he's doing nothing right. 140 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 8: That's fine, and then nothing will be So what's the 141 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:13,479 Speaker 8: point of the get alone to check if this man 142 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 8: is being faithful to his girlfriend. 143 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:15,800 Speaker 1: He's not doing it. 144 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 2: We don't know he's faithful, but he has the right 145 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 2: now to be pissed when he didn't before. 146 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:22,680 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like, like her putting that 147 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 1: up there for no reason. 148 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 6: There's a reason. 149 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 1: But is there always Okay, all. 150 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 2: Right, well maybe there is, but if there's not, and 151 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 2: he's saying there's not very publicly he's saying that there's not. 152 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 2: Right now, all of a sudden, he's pissed because he's like, 153 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 2: wait a minute, you don't act you don't trust me. 154 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 2: I didn't know that, and this is how we're gonna 155 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:39,920 Speaker 2: find that out. 156 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 6: It doesn't mean she doesn't trust him, It just is 157 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 6: they're getting ready to move to the next level of 158 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 6: the relationship. He said, they're talking about marriage, You're discussing 159 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:49,799 Speaker 6: these things. So what she's doing is just a simple 160 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,279 Speaker 6: background check on the internet, so to make sure that 161 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 6: he everything he has presented ads up and in today's 162 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 6: climbing Baby, you gotta do it. 163 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 1: That's why you ask the person that you're with. You 164 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: ask your Man's like, hey. 165 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 6: That's like me asking you did you still have my wallet? 166 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: You sole out my wallet? So why would I ask you? 167 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:09,600 Speaker 1: Why would I ask Jason? So what's the public going 168 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 1: to do? They're gonna know that I saw you, Walt. 169 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 2: Well, that's another thing is there's a difference between doing 170 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 2: a Google search and going and going on this thing, 171 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 2: which again I think is a little bit I think 172 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 2: it was intended to be a public service, but it's 173 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 2: become a little bit gossipy either way. His friends, her 174 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 2: friends stand to see this and then be like, trouble 175 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 2: in paradise. Maybe there's not, Zach, what did you want 176 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 2: to say? 177 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 9: So the thing is like when she put the thing 178 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:41,760 Speaker 9: up of me, no one had anything bad to say 179 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 9: because I haven't done anything, like I've been completely fateful 180 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:47,840 Speaker 9: to her, and this isn't one. 181 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: Of those like I hope I don't get caught. 182 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 9: It's like like we're talking, it's really the principle of it, 183 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 9: Like we've been together for a long time. I've done 184 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 9: nothing but be one hundred percent faithful to you and 185 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 9: act like it and respect you. 186 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 10: And then and this is what I get that right, 187 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 10: Like I get I get I get you being sneaky, 188 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:13,000 Speaker 10: like I get you still not trusting me and like 189 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 10: looking looking stuff up like behind my back, Like. 190 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 9: If I can be I feel like this is really 191 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 9: gonna make people mad. I'm gonna really feel like it's 192 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 9: gonna make people mad. But if I can It's almost 193 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 9: like when when you find out that your girl's pregnant, 194 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 9: and then when she. 195 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 4: Has the baby, you want to do a DNA test. 196 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:34,480 Speaker 1: Oh my god, for my reason, for no reason. What's 197 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: it like? I just I just want to be How 198 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 1: offended would you be? I would be so offensed? Super yes. 199 00:08:39,840 --> 00:08:42,840 Speaker 2: And I know that's that's a drastic it is example, 200 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 2: but it's an it's an unnecessary check on your relationship 201 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 2: that's very public. And according to him, it doesn't come 202 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 2: from any place of necessity. It comes from an insecurity, 203 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 2: which means that she has a trust issue somebody. And 204 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 2: by the way, let me take some phone calls on 205 00:08:57,679 --> 00:08:59,319 Speaker 2: this sec and I appreciate you sharing the story. I 206 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:03,920 Speaker 2: have a great day, stay cased. Okay, thanks Zach, great suck. 207 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:07,719 Speaker 2: I need five three five. Somebody said Fredgie's maacause I 208 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:10,560 Speaker 2: call that. On the side, I'm not mad because I'm 209 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 2: a single man. I've been single for twenty years. I'm 210 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:18,079 Speaker 2: on dating apps. I'm also a public figure. People are 211 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,360 Speaker 2: going to say what they're gonna say. And it wouldn't 212 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:22,360 Speaker 2: matter if if I work somewhere else, nobody would say 213 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 2: anything because nobody would care. And the other thing is 214 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 2: just because you say it doesn't mean it's true. But 215 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 2: the problem is I'm a single guy, so I have 216 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 2: nothing to hide, you know what I mean. Like if 217 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 2: I were married and I show up on that site, 218 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 2: we got ourselves a little problem. 219 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 10: Oh yeah, you know. 220 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:36,679 Speaker 2: If I'm in a relationship, I show up on that site, 221 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 2: we got ourselves a problem. But that's another thing, is 222 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 2: somebody can just post a picture of me today, maybe 223 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:43,959 Speaker 2: I've been in a relationship for a year. Somebody can 224 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 2: bring something up from five years ago. Oh he went 225 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 2: on one day with me. Oh he asked me for 226 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 2: a nude. Oh he did this that everybody does. And 227 00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 2: now all of a sudden, I'm fighting with my new 228 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:55,559 Speaker 2: significant other about stuff that was on earth that had 229 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 2: nothing to do with that person. 230 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 6: You shouldn't fight about something from five years ago. But 231 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 6: you got to think of it like TSA. You know 232 00:10:01,200 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 6: what I'm saying, Like we all go through TSA. It's 233 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 6: just it's just a check you get. You don't have 234 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 6: anything you walk through just fine. If you got some 235 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 6: you get in search. It's the difference, you know, Like 236 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:14,719 Speaker 6: you just gotta go through checks in life. And I 237 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:16,720 Speaker 6: don't think if there's anything that you shouldn't. 238 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:16,720 Speaker 1: Be worried of it. 239 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:18,679 Speaker 10: So you'd be okay if he put her picture up 240 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 10: on whatever website, does she's cheating on him? 241 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 6: Yes, I would be fine with that, and you'd be okay. 242 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:25,080 Speaker 6: If Big Tim put your picture up, Yes, it would 243 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:26,080 Speaker 6: literally be crickets. 244 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 1: Somebody put anything I but. 245 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:36,040 Speaker 2: You're opening He's opening you up to exposure that is unnecessary. 246 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:38,680 Speaker 1: Anybody can say anything that's true. 247 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 5: People say nice stuff in the group all the time, 248 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 5: though I have to say, like he's great when on 249 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:44,199 Speaker 5: one date I work with him, he's awesome. 250 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 1: So it's not all bad stuff. Yeah, people said I 251 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:48,679 Speaker 1: was good at radio, which is nice. I love that. 252 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:49,680 Speaker 1: I didn't say anything bad. 253 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:52,559 Speaker 2: There wasn't anything. Somebody said I asked for a nude. 254 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 2: I don't know who that person was. Someone else did 255 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 2: I ask for a nude? 256 00:10:57,360 --> 00:10:58,840 Speaker 1: I think a lot. It's nice to ask. 257 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:00,199 Speaker 2: That was sent to me on solic I mean I 258 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:03,079 Speaker 2: don't know to right, you know what I mean? Like, 259 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 2: I don't erase anything. I just thought it was like weird. 260 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:08,319 Speaker 2: I was like, uh, I don't see where the nefarious 261 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 2: behavior is here. But thanks for the pr Yeah, I 262 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:15,960 Speaker 2: really appreciate it. Though, Again, I hard a search for 263 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:17,439 Speaker 2: the Friend Show. That is what I should have put 264 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:23,320 Speaker 2: in there. Yeah, I mean we're growing ups here. So hey, Ryan, Ryan, 265 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 2: what do you think stare go by the way, I 266 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 2: don't know. 267 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 3: I think basically, I think like a background check is 268 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 3: for people that you don't know, and then you're trying 269 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 3: to figure out what type of responsibility to trust to 270 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 3: give them based on the background check. But if she 271 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:45,840 Speaker 3: already knows them, that's kind of weird. But maybe he's. 272 00:11:45,400 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: In the red flag and like figured out. 273 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 3: If she has a tendency of snooking too much and 274 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:54,199 Speaker 3: if that's a problem by asking people that know her, 275 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 3: as you said, to like getting it from strange random 276 00:11:57,120 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 3: strangers on the internet. 277 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:01,720 Speaker 2: I agree with you, brother. I don't think it's so 278 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 2: much that she posted. I think it's her purpose for 279 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 2: doing it. I'm not as offended that she did it. 280 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:10,160 Speaker 2: I want to know why, especially if he's telling the 281 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:12,440 Speaker 2: truth and there's no reason to be suspicious and she's 282 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 2: never brought anything up. It makes me think she doesn't 283 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:17,760 Speaker 2: trust him. Why doesn't she trust him and why aren't 284 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:20,839 Speaker 2: they addressing that? Or is she looking for a way out? 285 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:21,280 Speaker 2: You know? 286 00:12:21,360 --> 00:12:22,319 Speaker 1: Is she in some ways? 287 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:25,520 Speaker 2: Is she subconsciously or even consciously hoping that somebody digs 288 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 2: up some dirt on this guy so she can get 289 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 2: out that way. 290 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: I don't know. 291 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 2: It's it's the reason why she's doing it that bothers me, 292 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 2: not the fact that she did it. Thank you, Ryan, 293 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 2: have a good day. I am passionate about this. This 294 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 2: is passionate, Bianca. Hi, Bianca, Hi, Hey, what do you think? 295 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 2: Good morning? 296 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:44,960 Speaker 10: Good Monny. 297 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 6: I think he should go. 298 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 8: I think it's so weird, and I agree with you, Frett, like, 299 00:12:50,280 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 8: I don't think I don't think that's right. 300 00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 11: If there's nothing that she needs to worry about, why 301 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 11: checked they should. 302 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 10: Be communicating and if she's in secure, she needs to 303 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:01,560 Speaker 10: talk to him about that, Yeah, and not just put 304 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:02,240 Speaker 10: it online. 305 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we're on the same page. Thank you, Bianca. 306 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:05,520 Speaker 2: Have a great day. 307 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:06,680 Speaker 4: Thank you. 308 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: Hi, Susan, Welcome, good morning, good morning. Hey. What do 309 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: you think I think that they should stay? 310 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:18,320 Speaker 8: I think his name is Zach. 311 00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 1: I believe that. 312 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:22,800 Speaker 8: I think that Kiki said it right, you know, like 313 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:25,080 Speaker 8: she's got to check her boxes and do what's right 314 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:28,560 Speaker 8: by herself, even if she's totally secure within their relationship. 315 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:32,440 Speaker 8: You have to do what's right for you and you know, 316 00:13:32,960 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 8: not all men, right, but then there's that you know, 317 00:13:36,200 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 8: small percentage, so she has to just make sure as 318 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:40,719 Speaker 8: best as she can. 319 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:45,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, fair enough, Thank you, Susan, thank you. I 320 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:46,800 Speaker 2: just I just I'll say the same thing again. I 321 00:13:46,840 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 2: just contend that if I found out that somebody was 322 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 2: doing those kind of checks on me and I wasn't 323 00:13:50,679 --> 00:13:53,120 Speaker 2: doing anything and we'd never talked about it, and there 324 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:56,720 Speaker 2: was no necessarily no reason for suspicion, then I just think, well, 325 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:58,679 Speaker 2: wait a minute, what else, Like what else is going 326 00:13:58,679 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 2: on in your head? 327 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:02,160 Speaker 1: Like what else do you think? Think you know? I? 328 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:04,959 Speaker 2: I mean, like, would you do this? You're about to 329 00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 2: get married Paulina in four days? Five days? Would you would? 330 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 2: I mean, can you see a reason just to just 331 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,600 Speaker 2: one more double check? Let me just throw my man's 332 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 2: image up there and see what happens. 333 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:16,880 Speaker 1: Make double check. I agree with it. 334 00:14:16,920 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 11: I feel like it's just I don't if it's a 335 00:14:18,080 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 11: girl thing or we just want to make sure that 336 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:21,640 Speaker 11: we're like in a good you know, a good space here. 337 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:23,840 Speaker 11: But I don't want to get my feelings hurt, So 338 00:14:23,920 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 11: I don't do stuff like that. And like I don't 339 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 11: know the streets also a good one, So let's just 340 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:28,560 Speaker 11: let's just keep it at that. 341 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, hey Veronica, Oh good morning guys. Hi Veronica, 342 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:35,400 Speaker 2: So you're in one of these groups. I know there 343 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:37,240 Speaker 2: is one main one and I think a bunch of others. 344 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:38,280 Speaker 2: But what's your take? 345 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 7: Oh? My take is that well with the groups that 346 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 7: I'm in, because I'm in probably about like twenty eight 347 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 7: of them. Point oh okay, yeah, okay, girl. So so 348 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:52,640 Speaker 7: what we do is, like one of the young ladies 349 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:55,160 Speaker 7: she had made a post about her ex and come 350 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 7: to find out what a lot of these gentlemen do. 351 00:14:57,520 --> 00:15:00,120 Speaker 7: They end up typically changing their names so something and 352 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,800 Speaker 7: totally different. So when you try to like look them 353 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 7: up years down the road, it's a totally different name. 354 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 7: So now you got to go through the course and 355 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 7: try to figure out what they change it to. And 356 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 7: like a lot of them are like sexual offenders or 357 00:15:11,640 --> 00:15:15,560 Speaker 7: abusers or like cheers, so they don't want their information 358 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 7: getting out of there. So, like I tell the young ladies, 359 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:20,400 Speaker 7: if you do find somebody, try to do like a 360 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:21,720 Speaker 7: deeper background check off. 361 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:25,840 Speaker 2: Mmmmmm okay, all right, well, thank you, Veronica, have a 362 00:15:25,840 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 2: good day. 363 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 3: You're welcome. 364 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:29,239 Speaker 1: Yeah, what it was John says. 365 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:33,120 Speaker 2: Go uh, Daphne, a lot of stays, a lot of stays. 366 00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:36,240 Speaker 1: But Paulleena, don't get any ideas. Okay, I'm already on 367 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:46,000 Speaker 1: it right now. You see, we're going to know it's happening.