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<v Speaker 1>second d update the girl on the phone to do

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<v Speaker 1>a second date update Today met the guy that she

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<v Speaker 1>wants to call at the grocery store. I never think

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<v Speaker 1>that that actually happened. Oh, it happens. I actually got

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<v Speaker 1>a phone umber at the grocery store not that long ago,

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<v Speaker 1>and I didn't even have to talk to the girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I was behind her in line at the checkout counter

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<v Speaker 1>and the checker asked her for her rewards card number,

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<v Speaker 1>And as she gave her rewards card number to the checker,

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<v Speaker 1>I took it down in my phone behind her. So creepy,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's effective and it worked. I did try to

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<v Speaker 1>text her later and got nothing in response, which I

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<v Speaker 1>thought was very rude. But apparently Yeah, some guy came

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<v Speaker 1>up to Chelsea in the grocery store and asked her

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<v Speaker 1>for her number. Hey, Chelsea, how are you? Hey? I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you guys good? So? Are you disappointed that

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't do it like I did? Yeah, that would

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<v Speaker 1>have been surprisingly romantic. Yeah, I think that, Steven. More

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<v Speaker 1>shocking about a guy asking you about on the grocery

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<v Speaker 1>store is that you actually found him attractive. Well I know, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was kind of amazing. Why is that? Are all

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<v Speaker 1>guys at grocery stores ugly or so? Just like the

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<v Speaker 1>likelihood of you getting nasked out of the grocery store

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<v Speaker 1>is going to be by like some fifty year old

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<v Speaker 1>divorced dad. That's kind of creepy, Like that is actually something?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you shop? Because I see like single dudes

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<v Speaker 1>in the grocery store all the time. Well yeah, but anytime.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I get him on in the grocery store

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. But chances are it's just not going

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<v Speaker 1>to be someone I'm interested in. Yeah, like a creep

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<v Speaker 1>who's coming up to you talking about how to test

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<v Speaker 1>melons or something like, well you know how these melons

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<v Speaker 1>are ripe? Not unlike the conversation that me and this

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<v Speaker 1>guy had, what really melon? Lyne on you? It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>about melon. He brought up avocados and how he was

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<v Speaker 1>having them, completely friend than what I was saying. You're right,

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<v Speaker 1>he was like riding the struggle bus about avocados. He

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<v Speaker 1>was standing there with like two avocados in his hands,

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<v Speaker 1>like looking back and forth and like not knowing how

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<v Speaker 1>to tell if they were ripe and like, and I

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<v Speaker 1>helped him with it. Okay, So he didn't approach you, going, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you know how to squeeze these things properly. You actually

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<v Speaker 1>saw him having trouble and helped him out. Yes, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's nice. And when did you guys actually exchange numbers

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff. Well, I sort of helping with avocados, and

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<v Speaker 1>we laughed a little bit, and then I went away

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<v Speaker 1>and kept grocery shopping. And then we ran into each

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<v Speaker 1>other in a different part of the store and he

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<v Speaker 1>said to them really like I still don't know about avocados.

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<v Speaker 1>Like he was horribly done, but very endearing because it

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<v Speaker 1>was clear he just wanted to talk more. So I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, I could help you with that any time.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why this is turning me on, but

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<v Speaker 1>it is. You're welcome. Thank you. So you had it

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<v Speaker 1>just sounds like an awkward exchange that you guys had.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like charmingly awkward. It was it was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>we're obviously attracted to each other, but don't know each

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<v Speaker 1>other well enough to say anything. Yeah, so we'll talk

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<v Speaker 1>about avocados. Did he ask for your number? Then he did?

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<v Speaker 1>So tell us about your date when you guys actually

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<v Speaker 1>went out or was the whole date at the grocery store? No,

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<v Speaker 1>we just went on a coffee date. It was nice.

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<v Speaker 1>He took me to this little, like independent place I

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't been before, and I thought it went really well.

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<v Speaker 1>We had a lot of like easy flowing conversation. We

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<v Speaker 1>both have like a few different weird jobs. He works

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<v Speaker 1>as a professional dog walker. Those guys are impressive. And

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<v Speaker 1>I work as a clown. That's awesome. Currently work as

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<v Speaker 1>a clown. Yeah, I currently worked as a clown. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean that like currently, like this morning, I'm not dressed

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<v Speaker 1>in clown clothes right now. I've never met a clown before.

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<v Speaker 1>Did he think that was really cool? Yeah? He thought

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<v Speaker 1>it was fun. I told him some like funny stories

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<v Speaker 1>about things that the kids say, and he's told me

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<v Speaker 1>like silly things that his dogs have done. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I wish I could have been there for your conversation. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was great. So you guys bonded over your jobs, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>or weird jobs? Okay, it was nice. It was really nice,

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<v Speaker 1>and he was just like a good guy. If everything

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<v Speaker 1>went really well, why do you think he's not calling

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<v Speaker 1>you back? I'm not really sure. The only thing that

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<v Speaker 1>I could really think of was that I said that

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't necessarily interested in getting married anytime soon, and

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder if maybe he was like, that's like what

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<v Speaker 1>he's on his mind. So we're just in different places.

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<v Speaker 1>How did you say it though? Did you harp on?

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<v Speaker 1>It was the whole thing, like, oh God, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not interested in getting married ever? No, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't like my parents do any jobs and left

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<v Speaker 1>because they all love me. I wasn't like weird the

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<v Speaker 1>reason I don't want to give married had a bad

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<v Speaker 1>example of love growing up. Yeah, Like, I wasn't like

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<v Speaker 1>a crazy person. I was just like, I have a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of things I want to do in my life

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<v Speaker 1>before I settled down and get married. Did he seem

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<v Speaker 1>awkward after you said it? At the time, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>think of him as being awkward, But looking back on it,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, hah, I said that, and then I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how he feels about it. Is that because he

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<v Speaker 1>quickly changed the subject or something, and I'm just not

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<v Speaker 1>really exactly I don't quite have a handle on it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't sound like it's too bad. You might be

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<v Speaker 1>overthinking that a bit. How many times have you try

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<v Speaker 1>to get a hold of him? Twice? I texted him

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<v Speaker 1>the day after our date and he texted me back

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<v Speaker 1>and was just like, oh, I'm really busy this weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I texted him the next week and he

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<v Speaker 1>didn't text me back at all. Okay, so you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>heard anything from since that second text. M all right,

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<v Speaker 1>well we'll play a song, come back, call him and

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<v Speaker 1>get your second date update. All right, Okay, thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>as anyone else broken jubile in the morning. Second date

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<v Speaker 1>update Cool now to win a one thousand dollar cash

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<v Speaker 1>Create one eight sixty six Moving ninety two five. Chelsea

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<v Speaker 1>is on the phone with us and today she wants

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<v Speaker 1>to call a guy named Greg. They met at the

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<v Speaker 1>grocery store, bonded over some avocados, ended up going out

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<v Speaker 1>for coffee, and now he's not calling her back and

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<v Speaker 1>she has no idea why. Chelsea, I have a really

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<v Speaker 1>good idea for you. Actually, what is it? I say?

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<v Speaker 1>You don't do the second date update Okay. I think

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<v Speaker 1>a better idea is to go back to that grocery

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<v Speaker 1>store every single day and wait by the avocados, just like,

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<v Speaker 1>pull up a chair next to the avocados until he

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<v Speaker 1>comes up to buy some, and ask him to explain

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<v Speaker 1>himself in person. That's a good idea, holding two avocados

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<v Speaker 1>and weeping over them. Exactly everybody going to the store.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a sad avocado lady. Again, imagine his surprise when

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<v Speaker 1>he walks up and sees you camped out by the avocados.

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<v Speaker 1>Love that. He'll definitely go on another date with you. Then.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, well, never mind, I'll see you guys later.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, I'm about to dial the phone of her

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<v Speaker 1>right now. Any last thoughts before we get him on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone. No, I don't think so. I'm ready. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna dill the phone of her right now. See

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<v Speaker 1>if we get your second date update. Hello, Hi, can

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<v Speaker 1>I speak to Greg? Please speaking? Hey Greg? How are you?

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<v Speaker 1>This is Jewbil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry with that. This is Jebil from Brook and Jewil

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<v Speaker 1>in the Morning, the radio show. How are you? I'm okay?

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<v Speaker 1>What's this about? It's a segment we do on our

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<v Speaker 1>show called the Second Date Update. Basically, if somebody goes

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<v Speaker 1>out on a date and they get blown off, they

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<v Speaker 1>email us and ask if we can get the other

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<v Speaker 1>person on the phone to find out why. The girl

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<v Speaker 1>that you went out with her name is Chelsea. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>She told us a little bit about how you guys

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<v Speaker 1>first met at the grocery store. She helped you with avocados,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you asked for number, and you guys went

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<v Speaker 1>to coffee. Yeah. That uh, definitely happened. Okay, Um, did

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<v Speaker 1>you not like her? Because it sounds like, from the

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<v Speaker 1>tone of your voice right now, it sounds like you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't really like Chelsea very much. No, no, no, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not that I don't I didn't like her, just a

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<v Speaker 1>weird phone call to talk about a date. Yeah, for sure,

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<v Speaker 1>I get that. Um, can you tell us a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit about it? Though? She really wants to know why

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<v Speaker 1>you're not calling her back. Um, I guess I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>tell you guys about it. Thank you, man, I appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>So she told us about your date and said that

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<v Speaker 1>in her opinion, everything went great, but she hasn't heard

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<v Speaker 1>from you. Can you explain the date to me? A

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<v Speaker 1>little bit in your words. And yeah, she was really

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<v Speaker 1>nice and the date was going really great until she

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<v Speaker 1>basically just got a little weird. She said something I

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<v Speaker 1>just I couldn't really shake it, and um, I feel bad,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, it was just a little weird. Was it

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<v Speaker 1>about not wanting to get married any time soon? Because

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<v Speaker 1>she felt like that might be the issue. Really, that's

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<v Speaker 1>that's why she thought I didn't want to call her back. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she thought maybe you were a guy that was like,

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<v Speaker 1>look him to find a wife right away or something,

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<v Speaker 1>and that scared you off. Oh my gosh, Um no,

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<v Speaker 1>that was not what scared me away. Um. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really even know how to say this. We were talking

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<v Speaker 1>about our jobs and things that make us interesting, and

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<v Speaker 1>I told her that I was a professional dog walker,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she started saying things that made her interesting

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<v Speaker 1>and like I worked part time as a clown, I

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<v Speaker 1>worked in the medical industry part time, I'm a swinger,

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<v Speaker 1>and I do calligraphy, and back up a little bit exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>That was my exact reaction. I was just so taken

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<v Speaker 1>her back, and so I asked her. I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>you you're talking about like swing dancing, right, and she said, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you are thinking about the right thing, and I and

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<v Speaker 1>then she just tried to keep going and I could

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<v Speaker 1>not drop it, like completely change. Oh my god, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not something that you usually casually drop in a conversation,

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<v Speaker 1>like yeah, I walked dogs, and then I have sex

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<v Speaker 1>with lots of people, and then also she loved it

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<v Speaker 1>with Calligah. For God's sake, I couldn't even I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>change the way I looked at her after that the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of the date. So you're not into dating swingers? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's not something that I actively seek. I

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<v Speaker 1>definitely looking for a long term monogamous relationship. And I

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<v Speaker 1>mean she just said it so casually it didn't seem

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<v Speaker 1>like a big deal to her. I couldn't stop thinking about.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what if I take her home to

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<v Speaker 1>my parents and she wants to sleep with my dad.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I've never thought about that before. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>I guess if you're dating a swinger, you bring her home,

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<v Speaker 1>some fun things, interesting things could happen. It weirded me out,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's a sweet girl, and I feel bad, but

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<v Speaker 1>I just couldn't brop that after that. That's understandable. Greg Greg,

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<v Speaker 1>I also need to tell you something. What's that? Chelsea

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<v Speaker 1>is actually on the other line listening right now. What Yeah, Chelsea,

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<v Speaker 1>are you there? Yep? How's it going, Chelsea? Ah? I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I'm just like, why didn't you say anything? You

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<v Speaker 1>could have? We could have talked about it. You could

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<v Speaker 1>have asked me questions. I would have been like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a psychopath who's going to try and sleep

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<v Speaker 1>with your father. I didn't know what private questions to

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<v Speaker 1>ask you about that. You've just said it so causually

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<v Speaker 1>a nonchalant like I've never met a swinger before, and

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<v Speaker 1>it totally shocked me. Okay, first of all, you've definitely

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<v Speaker 1>met one before. They just didn't tell you about it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And second of all, never having met someone doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 1>that they're bad. You know, there's I didn't think of

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<v Speaker 1>it as bad. I don't think you're a bad person.

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<v Speaker 1>I just just honestly not the lifestyle that I'm into.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm sorry I wasn't up problem with you about

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<v Speaker 1>pat appabate? Chelsea? Do you always bring it up in

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<v Speaker 1>that manner on first dates? Not necessarily, but at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time, I think it's better than like bringing it

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<v Speaker 1>on somebody after going out for a while where they

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<v Speaker 1>have all these assumptions. Yeah, like you guys are out

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<v Speaker 1>of the way in the beginning and be honest, and

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<v Speaker 1>then that way if they do freak out, then I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't gotten like, yeah, that's a good way to do

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<v Speaker 1>it until you guys are like a couple of months

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, Okay, it's finally time to meet my friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh and by the way, you're gonna have to have

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<v Speaker 1>sex with all my friends, right, But again, you wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>ask you Well, it's just ignorance. I don't think any

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<v Speaker 1>of us really understand the swinging lifestyle. I've never been

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<v Speaker 1>a part of it. It's always interested me. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's really cool. Yeah you're willing to do that, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know anything about it, so that's just what

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<v Speaker 1>I assume. I think what's surprising to me is that

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't cross your mind that that could be a

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<v Speaker 1>potential reason why he's not calling you back. Well, yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it didn't because he didn't really have a

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<v Speaker 1>reaction to it. Like I told him all that stuff

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<v Speaker 1>and he was like, oh, a clown ah, Like yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I just didn't want to focus on that because it

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<v Speaker 1>made me totally uncomfortable. I didn't I didn't know what

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<v Speaker 1>to say about it. I guess I appreciate the fact

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<v Speaker 1>that you've said it on the first date, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I couldn't let it go. I mean, I think

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<v Speaker 1>that the thing is that it's more about options than

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<v Speaker 1>anything else. It's about the fact that you're not like,

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<v Speaker 1>we have to do this and you have to sleep

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<v Speaker 1>with these people. But you're like, Okay, well do we

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<v Speaker 1>want to meet an augamist right now? Sure? Do we

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<v Speaker 1>want to swing right now? Sure? Do you want to

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<v Speaker 1>go on a date with someone else right now? Sure?

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<v Speaker 1>Like twenty years from now, when you're bored with the

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<v Speaker 1>sex with your current partner. That doesn't mean you have

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<v Speaker 1>to break up. It means you have other options. Greg,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna ask you a question, and I'm gonna beg

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<v Speaker 1>you to say yes to this. Okay, would you like

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<v Speaker 1>to go on a second date with Chelsea? I will

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<v Speaker 1>pay for it? Yeah? Um, you know you know what, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>you like, maybe I could be a little more open

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<v Speaker 1>minded and I would like to go on a second date.

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<v Speaker 1>I would awesome, really actually very surprised if you just

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<v Speaker 1>said that. Yeah, Chelsea, are you cool with going out

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<v Speaker 1>on another date with Greg? Maybe tell him a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more about your lifestyle so we can understand it more. Sure,

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<v Speaker 1>it's only to help spread the gospel of consensual non monogamy,

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<v Speaker 1>essential non monogamy. Like that, it does? All right, well, awesome,

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<v Speaker 1>let's send you guys out again. All right, it's great.

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<v Speaker 1>I got this great restaurant you go to. You put

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<v Speaker 1>your keys at the door in a bowl broken jupil

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning. Maybe