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Speaker 1: a second date update Today met the guy that she
Speaker 1: wants to call at the grocery store. I never think
Speaker 1: that that actually happened. Oh, it happens. I actually got
Speaker 1: a phone umber at the grocery store not that long ago,
Speaker 1: and I didn't even have to talk to the girl.
Speaker 1: I was behind her in line at the checkout counter
Speaker 1: and the checker asked her for her rewards card number,
Speaker 1: And as she gave her rewards card number to the checker,
Speaker 1: I took it down in my phone behind her. So creepy,
Speaker 1: but it's effective and it worked. I did try to
Speaker 1: text her later and got nothing in response, which I
Speaker 1: thought was very rude. But apparently Yeah, some guy came
Speaker 1: up to Chelsea in the grocery store and asked her
Speaker 1: for her number. Hey, Chelsea, how are you? Hey? I'm good.
Speaker 1: How are you guys good? So? Are you disappointed that
Speaker 1: he didn't do it like I did? Yeah, that would
Speaker 1: have been surprisingly romantic. Yeah, I think that, Steven. More
Speaker 1: shocking about a guy asking you about on the grocery
Speaker 1: store is that you actually found him attractive. Well I know, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was kind of amazing. Why is that? Are all
Speaker 1: guys at grocery stores ugly or so? Just like the
Speaker 1: likelihood of you getting nasked out of the grocery store
Speaker 1: is going to be by like some fifty year old
Speaker 1: divorced dad. That's kind of creepy, Like that is actually something?
Speaker 1: What do you shop? Because I see like single dudes
Speaker 1: in the grocery store all the time. Well yeah, but anytime.
Speaker 1: I mean, I get him on in the grocery store
Speaker 1: all the time. But chances are it's just not going
Speaker 1: to be someone I'm interested in. Yeah, like a creep
Speaker 1: who's coming up to you talking about how to test
Speaker 1: melons or something like, well you know how these melons
Speaker 1: are ripe? Not unlike the conversation that me and this
Speaker 1: guy had, what really melon? Lyne on you? It wasn't
Speaker 1: about melon. He brought up avocados and how he was
Speaker 1: having them, completely friend than what I was saying. You're right,
Speaker 1: he was like riding the struggle bus about avocados. He
Speaker 1: was standing there with like two avocados in his hands,
Speaker 1: like looking back and forth and like not knowing how
Speaker 1: to tell if they were ripe and like, and I
Speaker 1: helped him with it. Okay, So he didn't approach you, going, hey,
Speaker 1: you know how to squeeze these things properly. You actually
Speaker 1: saw him having trouble and helped him out. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: that's nice. And when did you guys actually exchange numbers
Speaker 1: and stuff. Well, I sort of helping with avocados, and
Speaker 1: we laughed a little bit, and then I went away
Speaker 1: and kept grocery shopping. And then we ran into each
Speaker 1: other in a different part of the store and he
Speaker 1: said to them really like I still don't know about avocados.
Speaker 1: Like he was horribly done, but very endearing because it
Speaker 1: was clear he just wanted to talk more. So I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I could help you with that any time.
Speaker 1: I don't know why this is turning me on, but
Speaker 1: it is. You're welcome. Thank you. So you had it
Speaker 1: just sounds like an awkward exchange that you guys had.
Speaker 1: It was like charmingly awkward. It was it was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: we're obviously attracted to each other, but don't know each
Speaker 1: other well enough to say anything. Yeah, so we'll talk
Speaker 1: about avocados. Did he ask for your number? Then he did?
Speaker 1: So tell us about your date when you guys actually
Speaker 1: went out or was the whole date at the grocery store? No,
Speaker 1: we just went on a coffee date. It was nice.
Speaker 1: He took me to this little, like independent place I
Speaker 1: hadn't been before, and I thought it went really well.
Speaker 1: We had a lot of like easy flowing conversation. We
Speaker 1: both have like a few different weird jobs. He works
Speaker 1: as a professional dog walker. Those guys are impressive. And
Speaker 1: I work as a clown. That's awesome. Currently work as
Speaker 1: a clown. Yeah, I currently worked as a clown. I
Speaker 1: mean that like currently, like this morning, I'm not dressed
Speaker 1: in clown clothes right now. I've never met a clown before.
Speaker 1: Did he think that was really cool? Yeah? He thought
Speaker 1: it was fun. I told him some like funny stories
Speaker 1: about things that the kids say, and he's told me
Speaker 1: like silly things that his dogs have done. And yeah,
Speaker 1: I wish I could have been there for your conversation. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was great. So you guys bonded over your jobs, yeah,
Speaker 1: or weird jobs? Okay, it was nice. It was really nice,
Speaker 1: and he was just like a good guy. If everything
Speaker 1: went really well, why do you think he's not calling
Speaker 1: you back? I'm not really sure. The only thing that
Speaker 1: I could really think of was that I said that
Speaker 1: I wasn't necessarily interested in getting married anytime soon, and
Speaker 1: I wonder if maybe he was like, that's like what
Speaker 1: he's on his mind. So we're just in different places.
Speaker 1: How did you say it though? Did you harp on?
Speaker 1: It was the whole thing, like, oh God, and I'm
Speaker 1: not interested in getting married ever? No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I wasn't like my parents do any jobs and left
Speaker 1: because they all love me. I wasn't like weird the
Speaker 1: reason I don't want to give married had a bad
Speaker 1: example of love growing up. Yeah, Like, I wasn't like
Speaker 1: a crazy person. I was just like, I have a
Speaker 1: lot of things I want to do in my life
Speaker 1: before I settled down and get married. Did he seem
Speaker 1: awkward after you said it? At the time, I didn't
Speaker 1: think of him as being awkward, But looking back on it,
Speaker 1: I'm like, hah, I said that, and then I don't
Speaker 1: know how he feels about it. Is that because he
Speaker 1: quickly changed the subject or something, and I'm just not
Speaker 1: really exactly I don't quite have a handle on it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it doesn't sound like it's too bad. You might be
Speaker 1: overthinking that a bit. How many times have you try
Speaker 1: to get a hold of him? Twice? I texted him
Speaker 1: the day after our date and he texted me back
Speaker 1: and was just like, oh, I'm really busy this weekend.
Speaker 1: And then I texted him the next week and he
Speaker 1: didn't text me back at all. Okay, so you haven't
Speaker 1: heard anything from since that second text. M all right,
Speaker 1: well we'll play a song, come back, call him and
Speaker 1: get your second date update. All right, Okay, thank you,
Speaker 1: as anyone else broken jubile in the morning. Second date
Speaker 1: update Cool now to win a one thousand dollar cash
Speaker 1: Create one eight sixty six Moving ninety two five. Chelsea
Speaker 1: is on the phone with us and today she wants
Speaker 1: to call a guy named Greg. They met at the
Speaker 1: grocery store, bonded over some avocados, ended up going out
Speaker 1: for coffee, and now he's not calling her back and
Speaker 1: she has no idea why. Chelsea, I have a really
Speaker 1: good idea for you. Actually, what is it? I say?
Speaker 1: You don't do the second date update Okay. I think
Speaker 1: a better idea is to go back to that grocery
Speaker 1: store every single day and wait by the avocados, just like,
Speaker 1: pull up a chair next to the avocados until he
Speaker 1: comes up to buy some, and ask him to explain
Speaker 1: himself in person. That's a good idea, holding two avocados
Speaker 1: and weeping over them. Exactly everybody going to the store.
Speaker 1: There's a sad avocado lady. Again, imagine his surprise when
Speaker 1: he walks up and sees you camped out by the avocados.
Speaker 1: Love that. He'll definitely go on another date with you. Then.
Speaker 1: All right, well, never mind, I'll see you guys later.
Speaker 1: All right, I'm about to dial the phone of her
Speaker 1: right now. Any last thoughts before we get him on
Speaker 1: the phone. No, I don't think so. I'm ready. All right,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dill the phone of her right now. See
Speaker 1: if we get your second date update. Hello, Hi, can
Speaker 1: I speak to Greg? Please speaking? Hey Greg? How are you?
Speaker 1: This is Jewbil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning.
Speaker 1: Sorry with that. This is Jebil from Brook and Jewil
Speaker 1: in the Morning, the radio show. How are you? I'm okay?
Speaker 1: What's this about? It's a segment we do on our
Speaker 1: show called the Second Date Update. Basically, if somebody goes
Speaker 1: out on a date and they get blown off, they
Speaker 1: email us and ask if we can get the other
Speaker 1: person on the phone to find out why. The girl
Speaker 1: that you went out with her name is Chelsea. Okay.
Speaker 1: She told us a little bit about how you guys
Speaker 1: first met at the grocery store. She helped you with avocados,
Speaker 1: and then you asked for number, and you guys went
Speaker 1: to coffee. Yeah. That uh, definitely happened. Okay, Um, did
Speaker 1: you not like her? Because it sounds like, from the
Speaker 1: tone of your voice right now, it sounds like you
Speaker 1: didn't really like Chelsea very much. No, no, no, it's
Speaker 1: not that I don't I didn't like her, just a
Speaker 1: weird phone call to talk about a date. Yeah, for sure,
Speaker 1: I get that. Um, can you tell us a little
Speaker 1: bit about it? Though? She really wants to know why
Speaker 1: you're not calling her back. Um, I guess I couldn't
Speaker 1: tell you guys about it. Thank you, man, I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: So she told us about your date and said that
Speaker 1: in her opinion, everything went great, but she hasn't heard
Speaker 1: from you. Can you explain the date to me? A
Speaker 1: little bit in your words. And yeah, she was really
Speaker 1: nice and the date was going really great until she
Speaker 1: basically just got a little weird. She said something I
Speaker 1: just I couldn't really shake it, and um, I feel bad,
Speaker 1: but yeah, it was just a little weird. Was it
Speaker 1: about not wanting to get married any time soon? Because
Speaker 1: she felt like that might be the issue. Really, that's
Speaker 1: that's why she thought I didn't want to call her back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she thought maybe you were a guy that was like,
Speaker 1: look him to find a wife right away or something,
Speaker 1: and that scared you off. Oh my gosh, Um no,
Speaker 1: that was not what scared me away. Um. I don't
Speaker 1: really even know how to say this. We were talking
Speaker 1: about our jobs and things that make us interesting, and
Speaker 1: I told her that I was a professional dog walker,
Speaker 1: and then she started saying things that made her interesting
Speaker 1: and like I worked part time as a clown, I
Speaker 1: worked in the medical industry part time, I'm a swinger,
Speaker 1: and I do calligraphy, and back up a little bit exactly.
Speaker 1: That was my exact reaction. I was just so taken
Speaker 1: her back, and so I asked her. I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: you you're talking about like swing dancing, right, and she said, no,
Speaker 1: you are thinking about the right thing, and I and
Speaker 1: then she just tried to keep going and I could
Speaker 1: not drop it, like completely change. Oh my god, that's
Speaker 1: not something that you usually casually drop in a conversation,
Speaker 1: like yeah, I walked dogs, and then I have sex
Speaker 1: with lots of people, and then also she loved it
Speaker 1: with Calligah. For God's sake, I couldn't even I couldn't
Speaker 1: change the way I looked at her after that the
Speaker 1: rest of the date. So you're not into dating swingers? No,
Speaker 1: I mean it's not something that I actively seek. I
Speaker 1: definitely looking for a long term monogamous relationship. And I
Speaker 1: mean she just said it so casually it didn't seem
Speaker 1: like a big deal to her. I couldn't stop thinking about.
Speaker 1: I was like, what if I take her home to
Speaker 1: my parents and she wants to sleep with my dad.
Speaker 1: I guess I've never thought about that before. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I guess if you're dating a swinger, you bring her home,
Speaker 1: some fun things, interesting things could happen. It weirded me out,
Speaker 1: and she's a sweet girl, and I feel bad, but
Speaker 1: I just couldn't brop that after that. That's understandable. Greg Greg,
Speaker 1: I also need to tell you something. What's that? Chelsea
Speaker 1: is actually on the other line listening right now. What Yeah, Chelsea,
Speaker 1: are you there? Yep? How's it going, Chelsea? Ah? I
Speaker 1: guess I'm just like, why didn't you say anything? You
Speaker 1: could have? We could have talked about it. You could
Speaker 1: have asked me questions. I would have been like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not a psychopath who's going to try and sleep
Speaker 1: with your father. I didn't know what private questions to
Speaker 1: ask you about that. You've just said it so causually
Speaker 1: a nonchalant like I've never met a swinger before, and
Speaker 1: it totally shocked me. Okay, first of all, you've definitely
Speaker 1: met one before. They just didn't tell you about it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And second of all, never having met someone doesn't mean
Speaker 1: that they're bad. You know, there's I didn't think of
Speaker 1: it as bad. I don't think you're a bad person.
Speaker 1: I just just honestly not the lifestyle that I'm into.
Speaker 1: And I'm sorry I wasn't up problem with you about
Speaker 1: pat appabate? Chelsea? Do you always bring it up in
Speaker 1: that manner on first dates? Not necessarily, but at the
Speaker 1: same time, I think it's better than like bringing it
Speaker 1: on somebody after going out for a while where they
Speaker 1: have all these assumptions. Yeah, like you guys are out
Speaker 1: of the way in the beginning and be honest, and
Speaker 1: then that way if they do freak out, then I
Speaker 1: haven't gotten like, yeah, that's a good way to do
Speaker 1: it until you guys are like a couple of months
Speaker 1: and you're like, Okay, it's finally time to meet my friends.
Speaker 1: Oh and by the way, you're gonna have to have
Speaker 1: sex with all my friends, right, But again, you wouldn't
Speaker 1: ask you Well, it's just ignorance. I don't think any
Speaker 1: of us really understand the swinging lifestyle. I've never been
Speaker 1: a part of it. It's always interested me. I think
Speaker 1: it's really cool. Yeah you're willing to do that, but
Speaker 1: I don't know anything about it, so that's just what
Speaker 1: I assume. I think what's surprising to me is that
Speaker 1: it didn't cross your mind that that could be a
Speaker 1: potential reason why he's not calling you back. Well, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I guess it didn't because he didn't really have a
Speaker 1: reaction to it. Like I told him all that stuff
Speaker 1: and he was like, oh, a clown ah, Like yeah,
Speaker 1: I just didn't want to focus on that because it
Speaker 1: made me totally uncomfortable. I didn't I didn't know what
Speaker 1: to say about it. I guess I appreciate the fact
Speaker 1: that you've said it on the first date, and yeah,
Speaker 1: but I couldn't let it go. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: that the thing is that it's more about options than
Speaker 1: anything else. It's about the fact that you're not like,
Speaker 1: we have to do this and you have to sleep
Speaker 1: with these people. But you're like, Okay, well do we
Speaker 1: want to meet an augamist right now? Sure? Do we
Speaker 1: want to swing right now? Sure? Do you want to
Speaker 1: go on a date with someone else right now? Sure?
Speaker 1: Like twenty years from now, when you're bored with the
Speaker 1: sex with your current partner. That doesn't mean you have
Speaker 1: to break up. It means you have other options. Greg,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask you a question, and I'm gonna beg
Speaker 1: you to say yes to this. Okay, would you like
Speaker 1: to go on a second date with Chelsea? I will
Speaker 1: pay for it? Yeah? Um, you know you know what, honestly,
Speaker 1: you like, maybe I could be a little more open
Speaker 1: minded and I would like to go on a second date.
Speaker 1: I would awesome, really actually very surprised if you just
Speaker 1: said that. Yeah, Chelsea, are you cool with going out
Speaker 1: on another date with Greg? Maybe tell him a little
Speaker 1: bit more about your lifestyle so we can understand it more. Sure,
Speaker 1: it's only to help spread the gospel of consensual non monogamy,
Speaker 1: essential non monogamy. Like that, it does? All right, well, awesome,
Speaker 1: let's send you guys out again. All right, it's great.
Speaker 1: I got this great restaurant you go to. You put
Speaker 1: your keys at the door in a bowl broken jupil
Speaker 1: in the morning. Maybe