WEBVTT - La La Anthony Interview 0:00:01.080 --> 0:00:08.440 Real people, real celebrity join the Breakfast morning. Everybody is 0:00:08.520 --> 0:00:11.399 DJ Envy Angela Ye, Charlomagne, the guy we all the 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:16.960 breakfast club special guest friend to the room family. Hey, 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:18.640 so am I the only one who comes in here 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:22.360 and it is not nervous to see Charlomagne. I'm trying 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:24.119 to think here's anybody else ever, but this is my 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:28.200 friend though. Listen, let's be let's be fare of being 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:31.800 Charlemagne's friend doesn't guarantee anything. Had a lot of friends 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:36.479 put me in the face. It's a little different out here. 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:39.960 So funny, but welcome, Lalla, welcome, thank you for having me. 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:41.919 I'm happy to be here. Did you enjoy fighting night? 0:00:41.960 --> 0:00:46.000 I said little fight party, A little fight party the 0:00:46.080 --> 0:00:49.920 tmzs talking outside your crib party. Yeah, it kind of was. 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:51.720 But we had a good time, you know it chill. 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:54.040 It's nice to be at home in that kind of 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:57.760 environment because it's just chilling. Everybody just has fun and 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:00.760 laughs and it's different than being out at your fight party. 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:07.880 It was Kim and Kanye. Are you She's humble, she 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:14.080 don't want to brag. It was myself and mel Kim 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:17.280 and Kanye and d Wade and Gap and then my 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:20.360 family and front Poe was there. You know, my family 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:21.800 and friend. What do you order for food? Do you'll 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:25.200 order Bougee? Stuff? Was just wing stuff. Um, we had 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:30.040 a chef cut. Why the people that can afford to 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:32.160 go to the fight, why didn't go? Well, the thing 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:34.199 is that, well, yeah, why didn't we go? The truth 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:36.479 is Mellow said he wasn't paying that much for those tickets. 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:38.319 He was like, I'm not paying that much. They gave 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:40.520 him a great deal, but still he was like, I'm 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:43.160 not paying that much. And Mellow is not a Vegas person, 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:45.240 Like I love Vegas. I could stay there for a 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:47.560 long time. He's not into it. So he's like he 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:49.600 wanted to fly in for the fight as soon it 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:51.760 was over. Fly right back. I was like, I'm not 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:53.840 going all that way for the Like we're not gonna 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:56.040 party and it's no point. So he's like, I just 0:01:56.160 --> 0:01:58.280 rather stay here, and Mellow would rather just work out 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:00.720 literally all day long. You feel I'm in Vegas too, 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:01.920 if I think, like a man said, you were there 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:05.040 que six weeks, We're there for six weeks. So honestly, 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:07.160 after watching them fight, I mean it was great. I 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:09.320 was so happy that Floyd one. But I was also 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:11.360 happy we didn't come out of our pocket for all 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:13.200 of that money. But yea, I got to host it 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:15.040 a couple of parties and made that right back. Of 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:17.720 course we could have we got we got some good offers, 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:19.639 but we just chilled out. It was nice. That's great. 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:21.320 You got multi millionaires who say I don't want to 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:28.399 pay for tickets? What the hell was y'all? Like, I'm 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:32.280 not always been cheating. I ain't doing that. I was 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:35.760 like doing that, released a picture in her undy. She 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:38.120 didn't take that picture in your crib. No, of course, 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:49.120 not a party with night. Now you got the Power 0:02:49.120 --> 0:02:51.840 Playbook out. Yeah, the Power Playbook comes out today, which 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:53.720 is like a really big deal. You know, I did 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:56.480 the Love Playbook first, and that one number one, which 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.639 was amazing. So now this is the Power Playbook. It's 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:03.360 the sequel to the Love plays for Independence, Money, and success. Okay, 0:03:03.639 --> 0:03:06.440 is it really rules the success? Is it one blueprint 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:08.840 that anybody can follow to be successful? Now? I don't 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:10.840 think it's one blueprint that anyone can follow, but I 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.280 think everyone has to figure out what their path is 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:15.280 and that's what the book talks about. Like we all 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:17.440 have the power to be great, but most of us 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:19.560 just don't know it and don't know how to access it. 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:21.760 And a lot of times with the people I talk to, 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:24.760 we let our circumstance, like how we grew up, our family, 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:27.679 the guys in our life, girls in our life, dictate 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:30.880 where our life goes, instead of like finding our own power. 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:34.080 So the book is really relatable and something that everybody 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:37.080 can get something from. So I'm excited for it. But 0:03:37.160 --> 0:03:39.120 what I really appreciated about it is that you do 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:41.840 show your own vulnerabilities because people look at Lila, she 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:44.280 has a perfect life. I don't have a perfect life. 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:46.520 But you go and the book you do go into 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:48.880 detail about different things you're doing that like, for instance, 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:52.120 taking on something like acting, setting those goals for yourself. 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:54.680 But right now, because that's not something you've been doing 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:57.400 your whole life, it is a lot of rejection. Yeah, 0:03:57.560 --> 0:03:59.600 and you talk about failure, So talk a little bit 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:01.720 about that right now, about what you consider failure and 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:04.080 what you can take from that. Well, in the acting world, 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:05.440 you know, I feel a lot because I go on 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:07.560 auditions and I don't get the job, but I work 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:09.600 so hard at What I found with acting is see 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:12.080 for a lot of people, acting comes naturally. For me. 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:14.400 I had to learn acting and learn how to be 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:17.120 good at it. It wasn't just a natural thing for me. 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:20.000 So auditioning not getting the job, Yeah, that's in a 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:21.960 sense of failure that you're going out there, You're putting 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.520 yourself out there, and then you get told no, you're 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:26.760 not right for whatever reason. You know, it's a letdown. 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:28.919 But I gotta keep pushing forward and trying. And I 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:31.360 work really hard. Last night, well everybody was chilling. I 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:34.400 was in an acting workshop from five pm until nine 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:38.280 thirty pm, like working, learning and people don't know that 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:40.240 that's what I'm doing in my spare time. Are you 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:43.159 trying to improve on roles you already have? I'm just 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.120 I'm just trying to continue to grow. Like you know, 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:48.240 I'm on the show Power on the Start network, Lakisha. 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:51.280 I'm on Power and that second season is premiering in June. 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:53.960 So Lakeisha has grown a lot for the second season. 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:55.960 I want to see her continue to grow. I just 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.320 wrapped a movie with Lorenz Tate and Lance Gross in 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:03.360 La about a week ago, Yeah, Deuces, So we did that. 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:05.600 So I'm just continuing to try to get great roles 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:08.080 and just continue to grow. Let's want a role you 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:09.560 tried it out for that you didn't get that. She 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:11.640 was like, damn, I wanted that one. Okay, something I 0:05:11.680 --> 0:05:14.720 tried it out for that I didn't get. Um. Yeah, 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:16.840 you know, I went up for Barbershop three, and I 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:19.279 really wanted that one because it felt like it could 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:22.000 have been a great movie. And I'm I love Malcolm Lee. 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:23.760 I always wanted to work with him. So when I 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:25.560 didn't get that, I got really close. So when I 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:28.320 didn't get that one, you're disappointed, you know, but you 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:30.760 wish everybody the best and you move on and you 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:33.280 have to believe, like what's for you, it's for you, like, 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:35.760 and what's for somebody Else's somebody gonna be a bobble? 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.320 I was. I was like doing weaves and stuff. Yeah, 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.359 but I liked it because she was like, I liked it. 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:43.200 I liked the role. But I'm sure the movie is 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.000 gonna be great, And you know, you just gotta keep 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:46.960 pushing on and what's good is it you? You also 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:48.840 talk about not only do you if you don't get 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:51.000 the role, it also might mean Okay, now I've sat 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:53.159 in front of these people they know who I am, 0:05:53.640 --> 0:05:56.120 and you know they might consider me for something. And 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:58.520 it's Joe because I mean, shout out to Malcolm Lee, 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.320 who's the director of Barbershop. He wrote me and was like, 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:04.080 you know, you did such an incredible job, like you 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:05.880 were amazing, and he didn't have to do that. So 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:08.320 it's great that now for the next movie he's doing, 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:10.400 he'll remember you know that I did a good job 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:12.880 and hopefully my dream of working with him will come 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.520 true later on. And it's not acting this acting. You 0:06:15.560 --> 0:06:17.320 said that I saw any post one time you said 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:20.200 you feel pressure when it comes to your looks, right, 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:22.400 which I don't understand even when you walked here. It's 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:26.600 now you're like, I feel fat. No, I don't care. 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:29.599 Said I started a new diet today. I mean, that's women. 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:31.120 And just she just told me, I said, she was like, 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:33.400 I haven't been able to work out, Like it's constant. 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:36.680 It's a constant struggle to try to keep everything together. 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:38.880 And I think all women go through that in a 0:06:38.960 --> 0:06:42.600 different different ways. And especially for you being who you 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:44.920 are and going on and put a picture on Instagram 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:46.920 or somebody posting a picture of you, right, you know, 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:48.520 a lot of people are a lot lots so beautiful, 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:51.440 but then there's always one person that's like, yeah, of course, yeah, 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:54.640 of course. I mean nobody's ever going to agree on anything. 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:57.080 So I just want to feel good about, you know, myself. 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:59.400 And I know when I'm falling off. I know when 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:01.640 I fellow, what do you fall off? I fell off 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:03.520 the bear wagon a little bit now, So I'm starting 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.640 a new program today to try to get back on. 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:07.240 What are you doing? Were you eating too much? Or 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:10.280 it is that damn chef? Is that? It's just I'm 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:14.240 a chocolate fanatic and I like cheap chocolate, like I 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:16.720 want pick Cat, and that's the crush I want to get. 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:22.720 Not everybody is fit like you are. Okay, I listen, 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:28.200 I work at it too. Okay, you about my looks? Wait? 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:39.440 Are you on diapells? You know I wasn't gonna bring 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:47.920 that up, but wait, okay, look where the make up? Okay, okay, 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:53.200 where whitening? But does anybody really lighten their skin? I 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:58.160 mean that's okay, because I'm like, is that a real thing? 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:01.160 You can actually? What happened? Why people say that about what? 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.880 I'm like? I started going to see a dermatologist even 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:06.800 my skin tone. I had the dark patches here and 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:08.840 everything else with the complexion. You see now, So wait, 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:12.560 you were getting peels, chemical peels? Okay, see what else? 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:18.160 I never got that. I got a chemical peel. Okay, 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:23.000 that's it. Have you ever had a chemical peel? Lot? No? No, 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:25.400 because I heard you can't like leave the house for 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:27.120 a few days, right, for a few days, like it's 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:31.960 a it'll peel crazy. Remember when his face was peeling, 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:35.240 it was all on his nose heels. Oh I didn't. 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:39.920 I thought he had a bugget for real chunks of 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:44.640 skin a snake like shedding. So why would someone do 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:46.760 that to get the tap layer of skin? Yeah, that's 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:54.080 all right. So do you like what you see? No, 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:59.640 I'm just saying yeah. I mean I like when other 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:01.719 people say, hey, your skin looks great. I think your 0:09:01.720 --> 0:09:04.920 skin looks great. But that's what I think. And then 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:06.280 like when people be like, yo, look like you were 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:08.679 in makeup, I'd be like, well, compliments to my dermatolity. 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:12.360 M let's think it. Of undergoing transformations. You've also commented 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:15.480 on Bruce Jenner, who is also undergoing a transformation and 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:17.920 showed your support just like we're showing support for Charlottagne. 0:09:22.640 --> 0:09:25.520 I'm gonna have a special with that as he sheds 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.880 his skin. But were you shot? Were you shocked to 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:30.599 hear about that, being that you are close with the 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:33.679 family and everything. Um, yeah, I wouldn't. I wouldn't say 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:35.560 it was shocked to hear about it. But you know, 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:38.040 I'm just I just grew up. My mom just always 0:09:38.080 --> 0:09:40.440 told me, you know, love and respect everyone. You don't 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:42.760 know what people are going through, what battles people are having, 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:44.840 And I just try to apply that in life, Like 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:48.640 I don't know what it's like to be in his shoes. 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:50.880 I don't know what that could be like. So I 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.520 just want to offer love and support because unless you 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:55.520 walk the mind somebody's shoes, how how do you know 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:57.760 what it feels like? Man, it's having a vagina all 0:09:57.880 --> 0:09:59.839 is cracked up to be. I think so because I 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:13.480 and his power. I mean, it's just unfortunate that most 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:17.000 women don't understand that and know how to use it 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:19.520 to there to get the power. Do you talk about 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.440 that in your talk about You start off the book 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:25.120 talking about power. Yeah, so what's your definition of power? 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:31.280 It got to be more than just I say that 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:34.520 that was my definition of power. I think power is 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:37.800 just finding something you love and going after it is powerful. 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:40.960 I don't think power money or status is power. Like 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:43.840 being happy within, getting up, doing something you love every 0:10:43.920 --> 0:10:46.640 day is powerful. Doing something for others is powerful. It's 0:10:46.640 --> 0:10:49.520 not necessarily about having the most money or the best cars. 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:53.440 I don't equate that with power always. Even you even 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:56.520 said that being an intern was powerful for you, and yeah, 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:59.480 very powerful myself and ludicrous. You know, we start as 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:02.360 interns and we worked for free and had to do 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:06.000 any and everything, and it just helped us be disciplined 0:11:06.040 --> 0:11:08.000 from where we're at now in life. So if you 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.839 look at me and Luda like we're always on time, 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:14.120 we're like because we learned that from being interns that 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:16.600 we apply now, you know, in our careers and stuff. 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:21.120 Was radio ever a real love of yours? Yeah? After Yeah, 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:22.960 and yeah, it did become a love of mine because 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:24.960 I just found it was easy for me to be 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:27.760 on the radio and talk and stuff. But then TV 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:30.760 became more of a love. When I started working at MTV, 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:33.840 that became more of a love of mine. When did 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.680 you realize when you start realizing you actually had power? 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:40.120 I started realizing I actually had power actually when I 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:42.360 was on the radio, because I realized back then it 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:45.520 was even a little different, Like I realized that artists 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.280 would literally be willing to do almost anything to get 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:51.079 you to co sign their song or play their record, 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:53.080 you know, and back then there was a lot of 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:56.160 under the table money and things going autie like that. 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:59.160 It was a lot of yeah, not with you, but 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:02.560 of course not with you. But still I was on 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:04.480 the radio. So if I'm if I'm on there every 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:06.719 day saying this song is hot, this song is hot, 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:08.880 then people are gonna believe the song is hot. So 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:11.000 I knew I had power them, but I never wanted 0:12:11.040 --> 0:12:13.960 to misuse it, you know. And I always just kept 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:16.760 it in perspective, like they wouldn't be on me like 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:18.560 this if I wasn't on the radio obviously, Like I 0:12:18.559 --> 0:12:21.320 always kept it in perspective. Did you ever have to 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:23.240 lie to Ludicris and telling his music was hot when 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:30.040 he first started? What it was in the beginning because 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.840 y'all the show, y'all together, like, yo, you can't see this. No, 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:35.160 it wasn't that in the beginning. It was more I 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:37.920 was more like, you're really gonna give this radio career 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:39.880 up there, we have to go be a rapper. It's 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:41.480 not that I didn't think his music was good, but 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:43.800 I was like, yo, you're gonna get a good Yeah, 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:45.760 we got a good thing on. And he was literally 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:48.040 said he was getting in his car and just selling 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:49.960 his CD out the trunk of his car, which he did, 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:52.720 and I was like, you really about to give this 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.320 job up to do that. That was more on my 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:57.240 discussion with him. I think he made the right I 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:01.000 think one thing you don't get enough credit for it, 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.200 like being an entrepreneur, you know, saying people would be like, oh, 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:07.360 she's successful just because she's Mellow's wife, been out here 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:10.080 right right, and yeah, Melow and I, you know, we 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:13.079 have a great relationship, but we keep our businesses separate, 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:14.960 you know. So I have my own businesses and he 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:17.120 has his. But you know, I have the makeup line, 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.959 the clothing line, the book, the acting, the producing. Like 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:22.840 I feel like I'm doing well, you know, independently on 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.480 my own and then it's great that we can come 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.880 together and be a force together. But I have my 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:29.120 own going on and people need to hit that. People 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:30.760 like the power playbook, what she know about being on 0:13:30.880 --> 0:13:33.559 but that's so crazy because my life didn't start like that. 0:13:33.679 --> 0:13:37.480 Like my life started from having nothing and just building 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:39.400 from there. I didn't come from a family with money. 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.240 I definitely didn't come from a family who was in 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:43.679 the entertainment business. Nobody knew. My mom was like, wait, 0:13:43.960 --> 0:13:46.280 you going to do what on the radio? Nobody knew 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:49.400 what that was? Like, I just continued and and I 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:50.960 worked my way up. So I think I have a 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:54.200 different respect for it now because I literally had to 0:13:54.240 --> 0:13:57.680 work radio than TV, than acting, like in each thing 0:13:57.760 --> 0:14:00.760 to become really great at it. I'm sure Mellow grow 0:14:00.800 --> 0:14:04.960 up watching you on TV. He did tell me that. Well, yeah, 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:07.800 because Clue was the one, you know, Clue introduced us 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:09.559 and he was the one who was like, Yo, my 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:11.839 man been watching you on TV and this and that, 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.079 and I was just like what And then he was 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:16.400 like yeah, Carmelo Anthony. And I was like, no, I'm 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:19.520 not gonna mess around with a basketball player. Why why? 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:25.840 Because I mean a girl wouldn't take a basketball play. 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:29.880 He went, he went a baseball player. Basketball players get 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:32.920 guarantee contract. That's fine, okay, But I just felt like 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:36.560 they just come with such a stigma, like I didn't want. 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:39.240 I didn't want that, but you made the right decision. 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:49.520 What's going on with the reality show now? So I'm 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:51.920 not doing reality show anymore, but I'm producing now. So 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.440 I'm working on a show with Dice, I'm working on 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:56.680 a show with Poe. So you know, I want them 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:59.520 to continue to grow and do great things. But reality 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:02.240 TV for me, it's not for me anymore. I mean, 0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:03.920 I loved it, I had a great run, and I 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:06.640 just decided that I didn't want to expose so much 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:09.560 of my personal life constantly. And I found that the 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:12.600 reality show was hurting me in acting, which is what 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:14.520 I'm really trying to do now. Like it was like 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:17.280 it hurts you in the acting they look at you 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:19.960 as a reality Yeah, they look at you like, oh, 0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:22.480 that's the reality girl, and then they don't take you seriously. 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:24.480 Or your audition has to be a hundred times better 0:15:24.480 --> 0:15:26.640 than anybody else to even be looked at. So I 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:28.800 had to kind of let that go to really now 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:31.320 dive in and be taken seriously. I've heard that, but 0:15:31.360 --> 0:15:33.600 I always wondered if it was like the girls, like 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:35.440 certain girls like from Loving Hip Hop, they'd be like 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:37.040 I went out the audition I'm like, yeah, that's because 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:40.400 you ratch it. I didn't. No, it's it's definitely the 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:43.200 same thing because they just have a stigma like reality show, 0:15:43.240 --> 0:15:45.480 so you're gonna hire a reality start to be in 0:15:45.520 --> 0:15:47.280 your movie, like it's that kind of thing. So I 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:50.240 had to let it go and it's been It was 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:52.160 good while I did it, and it's been good since 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:54.240 I haven't. Now you respond sometimes, so a lot of 0:15:54.240 --> 0:15:56.600 people on Instagram. I notice one time they basically said, 0:15:56.600 --> 0:16:00.400 you were raising a little blood when you're put up. 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:02.960 I don't have any kids because my son doesn't all 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:06.680 the time the three point you know when you sho 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:10.280 when kids shooting three and her son posted and he 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:13.240 was like, your son is stowing up gang signs. They 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:15.560 went in on that and I was just like, I mean, 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:18.000 you know, I just you gotta let people know sometimes, 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:20.440 like let me handle minds and you handle yours. And 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:22.240 I think with me, I don't know. So times I 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:25.440 think it's a misconception like people. I don't know if 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:27.360 people have the wrong idea, like like you said, like 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:30.320 I'm just so perfect, and so that's like I'm not. 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:34.440 I'll curse somebody out in two seconds. I don't care like, 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:37.080 And I don't know if people I'm a tomboy really like. 0:16:37.320 --> 0:16:39.680 So when I hear like, oh, she's so glamorous and stuff, 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:41.800 I'm like, it's so funny to me because I'm a 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:44.960 sneakerhead all day. Like I think, sometimes people get it 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:47.800 wrong and I like to remind them every once in 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:49.920 a while. How hard is it for a woman like 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:53.560 you to be submissive a powerful a woman. It is hard. 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:56.800 It is hard. But I had to like teach myself 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:59.160 that you have to do that sometimes. Do you talk 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:00.840 about that in the book, I do talk about that. 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:03.120 I talk about this. There is such thing as being 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:05.520 too independent, and I see it with a lot of 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:08.040 women that I'm around who are successful and have careers, 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:10.879 Like you want to wear the pants in a sense, 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:13.359 and you can't take that from your man or take 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:15.760 that from whoever you're dating. And I had to kind 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:18.560 of learn that should you be submissive to any man 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:21.800 or just uh, I think you should be sick? Well, No, 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:25.320 I think you should be submissive at times to any 0:17:25.320 --> 0:17:28.639 man that you respect. If you respect him, then you 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:30.719 have to let him be the man at different times. Now. 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:32.159 If you don't have respect for him, then that's a 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:34.160 whole You could sun him all day, that's a whole 0:17:34.200 --> 0:17:36.600 different thing. But if you respect him, then you gotta 0:17:36.680 --> 0:17:39.320 know one to kind of like fall back to feel 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:41.879 like they're needed something. Yeah. Absolutely a lot of times 0:17:42.000 --> 0:17:44.040 that a power playbook is out right now and you're 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:46.440 doing an in store tonight. Yeah. So tonight I'm doing 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:48.080 an in store which is going to be hosted by 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:52.080 Andrew Martinez, which I'm super excited about. Yeah. So that's 0:17:52.119 --> 0:17:55.840 tonight at m Barnes and Noble in Union Square at 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:58.920 seven pm. So everybody come out or hang out, buy 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:00.600 some books, give some books out, and we're gonna have 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:02.760 like a cool Q and A in the beginning, which 0:18:02.800 --> 0:18:05.280 is really fun just to see what people are thinking 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:07.879 and questions that they have. So it's tonight, seven pm 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:10.679 at Barnes and Noble in Union Square and it's myself 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:13.160 and Angie Martinez. So what's your greatest joy right now? 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:16.800 Acting being an author, wife of being a mother. Cayenne 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.880 is my greatest greatest joy being being a mom. Being 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:22.879 a wife is great. We've been together for eleven years. 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:25.679 It's like I'm married to my best friends. So we 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:27.960 have a good time at home. It's like friends, and 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:31.800 that's good. And then you know, acting definitely has stepped 0:18:31.880 --> 0:18:34.600 up and it's really starting to become a real career 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:37.040 for me. So I'm happy about that. And lastly, Sierra 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:40.200 stopped through the other Yeah, I know, and then how 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:43.240 are you not here? On that I got a life? 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:46.080 She was not happy that you weren't here. Sierra really 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:48.840 wanted to see She wanted to see you. I want 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:51.800 to see her to nice conversation, I hope. So, I 0:18:51.840 --> 0:18:53.959 hope you a new man? Have you met a new man? 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:58.600 Being that you're her only friend in the industry, her 0:18:58.720 --> 0:19:02.159 only friend the industry, in the industry, that's not what 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:08.239 she said, somebody here, but you got here, her only 0:19:08.280 --> 0:19:10.920 friend in the industry. That's sweet, that's sweet. I mean, 0:19:11.000 --> 0:19:13.200 she's one of my best friends in the world for many, 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:15.520 many years. I saw you putting the football emoji under 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:19.840 futures page. I did not I did not do that. 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:23.080