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Speaker 2: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: All right, nephew, thank you. Subject is his girlfriend still

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Speaker 1: mad because he left Dear Stephen Shirley. When my fiance

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Speaker 1: and I met, he was living with a woman, so

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Speaker 1: we decided to be friends until he worked out that situation.

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Speaker 1: She had some health problems so he couldn't leave her.

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Speaker 1: That didn't bother me since he was being transparent. I

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Speaker 1: still went out with him as his friend and nothing else,

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Speaker 1: no kissing, hugging or anything. Four months later, he told

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Speaker 1: me he was moving out and I was falling for him,

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Speaker 1: so I offered him my guest room. He moved in

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Speaker 1: my expenses, and he did all of the manly things

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Speaker 1: around the house. Then we crossed the line and started

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Speaker 1: having sex. On July twelfth, he got on one knee

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Speaker 1: his wife when he met me. When we met, and

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Speaker 1: he asked me to marry him. It was a one

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Speaker 1: year anniversary of when we met. The next day, I

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Speaker 1: joined his church and he introduced me to the pastor.

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Speaker 1: That's when the pooh pooh hit the fan. The pastor

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Speaker 1: was cool, but his wife wasn't. She grabbed my arm

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Speaker 1: really hard and pulled me away to talk. She told

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Speaker 1: me that my man was engaged to her younger sister

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Speaker 1: and moved out after she got sick. I told her

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Speaker 1: that he told me all about that, and she said

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Speaker 1: he didn't tell me everything. She claims that my man

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Speaker 1: stole money from his ex and cheated on her the

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Speaker 1: entire time they were together. I told her that people

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Speaker 1: can share and I would pray for her sister. Days later,

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Speaker 1: my fiance told me that his ex came to my

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Speaker 1: on social media and said that my man is a whore.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know why my fiance would take me to

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Speaker 1: that church if he was beefing with the pastor's family.

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Speaker 1: At any rate, I'm standing by him. Is his ex

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Speaker 1: girlfriend mad because he left? Should I go talk to her? No?

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Speaker 1: Do not do that. And I really think you're confusing

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Speaker 1: what you think is transparency with this man's lives. I mean,

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Speaker 1: he told you what he needed to tell you to

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Speaker 1: get you. He moved out of the house with one

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Speaker 1: woman and moved straight in with you. Why didn't he

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Speaker 1: get his own house? These are red flags to me,

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Speaker 1: not transparency. All the stuff the first lady of the

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Speaker 1: church told you about your man, those were red flags.

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Speaker 1: She said he was engaged to her younger sister, he

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Speaker 1: left her while she was six, to old money from her,

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Speaker 1: and cheated on her throughout the relationship. Please know that

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Speaker 1: this is a choice you're making to be with him

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Speaker 1: after all this, and you should at least make the

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Speaker 1: effort to see if the pastor's wife is telling the

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Speaker 1: truth about your man. Don't just stand by him blindly.

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Speaker 1: His ex came to your house. How did she know

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Speaker 1: where you lived? Did your man tell her? That would

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Speaker 1: mean they're keeping in touch? Is his ex mad? You asked, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's mad because he walked out on her. Should you

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Speaker 1: go talk to her. No, I thought she was sick.

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Speaker 1: What is really going on here, Steve.

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Speaker 3: Well, prepare you to help because I have a whole

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Speaker 3: other letter because the subject is is his girl feel

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Speaker 3: still mad because he left? I think the subject could

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Speaker 3: has let all to be. I think I'm at the

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Speaker 3: wrong church. That's what I think this letter ought to be. Then,

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Speaker 3: Stephen Shirley, when me and my fiance met, Now this

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Speaker 3: is a letter.

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Speaker 2: This is a woman writing this letter.

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Speaker 3: He was living with a woman, so we decided to

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Speaker 3: be friends until he worked out that situation. Wow, that

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Speaker 3: was mighty generous of you. She has some health problems

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Speaker 3: so he couldn't leave her. I'm curious to know what

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Speaker 2: That didn't bother me since he was being transparent.

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Speaker 3: You know, I live with a woman and I can't

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Speaker 3: leave her because she's sick as hell.

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Speaker 2: That's what he said.

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Speaker 3: I said, I'm with a woman, but I can't leave

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Speaker 3: her because she's sick as hell. Oh, thank you for

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Speaker 3: being honest. But you lived there, Uh huh stay with him? Yeah, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's what she did. That didn't bother me since he

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Speaker 3: nothing else, no kiss his hug and anything. Four months later,

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Speaker 3: he told me he was moving out, and I was

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Speaker 3: falling for him. Now this happens rather quick, so I

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Speaker 3: offered him my guess room. I don't understand when he

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Speaker 3: told you he was moving out. He didn't say to where,

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Speaker 3: he didn't say he was getting his own place.

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Speaker 2: He said he was just moving out.

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Speaker 3: So you offered him his guest room because you was

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Speaker 2: Okay, you stupid.

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Speaker 3: He moved in with me, and he gave me cash

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Speaker 2: Then we crossed the line and started having six.

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Speaker 3: Duh, Wait a minute, he's staying with the sick lady.

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Speaker 3: He moved out, moved straight into your guest room, start

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Speaker 3: giving you money for expenses, and did all the manly

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Speaker 3: things around the house. Okay, and then y'all crossed the

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Speaker 3: line and started having six. I don't even understand why

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Speaker 3: you say y'all crossed the line. You moved him in

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Speaker 3: to half sex. Yeah, that's what that spare room was for.

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Speaker 1: All right, Hang on, Steve, I'm confused. We'll have part

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Speaker 1: two of your response coming up to today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is, is his girlfriend's still mad because he left?

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Hardy Morning Show. Hey, it's your girl, Shirley Strawberry. You know,

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Speaker 1: mornings just aren't complete without a McDonald's breakfast. Have you

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Speaker 1: heard about the new spicy sausage McMuffin with egg It's

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Speaker 1: got a creamy red pepper heat.

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Speaker 3: Hmm.

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Speaker 1: I've got to try that. I'm thinking it would hit

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Speaker 1: just right with my morning coffee. And there's nothing like

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Speaker 1: that rush of making it to McDonald's in time for breakfast.

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Speaker 1: Swing by and make your mourning at McDonald's morning Bada

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Speaker 1: Da Da da at participating restaurants for a limited time only.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is is his girlfriend still mad because he left?

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Speaker 1: But you changed the subject?

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Speaker 2: What did you change? Had another?

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Speaker 3: The subject of this letter ought to be I think

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Speaker 3: I'm at the wrong church.

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Speaker 2: All right, we don't get into that.

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Speaker 3: Here's this lady wrote this letter, got this fiance who

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Speaker 3: was living with a woman, so they decided to be

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Speaker 3: friends until he worked out that situation. That was mighty

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Speaker 3: generous offer. She has some health problem. He couldn't leave her.

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Speaker 3: That's really interesting. I live with a woman, but I

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Speaker 3: can't leave her because she's sick as hell. Right now, Okay,

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Speaker 3: that didn't bother me since he was being transparent. How

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Speaker 3: what did he say that was so transparent? I went

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Speaker 3: out with him as friends, nothing else, no kissing, hugging.

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Speaker 3: Four months later he told me he was moving out

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Speaker 3: and I was falling for him, so I offered him

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Speaker 2: Whoo, you stupid. He had to put a woo with that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't want to find out, Like when he

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Speaker 3: said he was moving out of the woman that he

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Speaker 3: was living with who was sick. You didn't like bother

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Speaker 3: to say, well where you moving out to? You know,

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Speaker 3: what's your plans? You just offered him your guest room.

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Speaker 3: He moved in, gave you cash every month for your expenses,

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Speaker 3: did all the manly things.

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Speaker 2: Around the house. She said.

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Speaker 3: Then we crossed the line and started having sick duh,

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Speaker 3: there you're talking about months later, lady, bye, yeah, lady,

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Speaker 3: come on now. On July twelfth, he got on one

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Speaker 3: knee in the kitchen, said he knew I was his

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Speaker 3: wife when he first met me asked me to marry him.

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Speaker 3: It was a one year anniversary of when we met.

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Speaker 3: The next day, I joined his church. He introduced me

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Speaker 3: to the pastor. Now we're getting into why I say

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Speaker 3: the name of this letter should not be what's the

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Speaker 3: name of the letter? It's his girlfriend still mad because

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Speaker 3: he left the tyler. This letter should be I think

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Speaker 3: I'm at the wrong church. He joined the church, introduced

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Speaker 3: you to the pastor, and then that's when the pool

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Speaker 3: pool hit the fan. The pastor was cool, but his

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Speaker 3: wife wasn't. She grabbed my arm really hard. She got snatched.

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Speaker 3: That's when No, that's when the pastor wife, first lady

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Speaker 3: really hard and pulled me up away to talk. She

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Speaker 3: told told me that my man was engaged to her

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Speaker 3: younger sister and moved out after she got sick. I

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Speaker 2: She claims that my man stole.

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Speaker 3: Money from his ex and cheated on her the entire

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Speaker 3: time they were together. Wow, all this at the church.

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Speaker 3: Now this is the first lady, little sister. Now now

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Speaker 3: remember now she's sick. You gotta remember that she's sick.

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Speaker 3: The lady is sick. Okay.

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Speaker 2: I told her that people can change, and I would pray.

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Speaker 3: For her sister. This is a good church. Listen to me.

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Speaker 3: Let's go over this church right here. Soon as she proposed,

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Speaker 3: you took you in there the next day to meet

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Speaker 3: first lady snatched you come here and told you that

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Speaker 3: the member you had just agreed to marry was living

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Speaker 3: with her younger sister, cheated on her, stole money from her,

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Speaker 3: and then moved.

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Speaker 2: Out after she got sick. What a church? What a church?

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Speaker 2: What a church?

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Speaker 3: I told her people could change, and then here she

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Speaker 2: I would pray for her, sister.

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Speaker 3: Wow, that the Lord heals her body and gives her

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Speaker 3: peace of mind. Days later, my fiance told me that

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Speaker 3: his ex came to my house while I was at work.

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Speaker 3: Look how prayer change his thing. You, Look at how

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Speaker 3: prayer changes thing. She was sick, invalid, laying at the back.

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Speaker 3: Can't leave a house. He can't leave her.

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Speaker 2: She's sick. You told the first lady, you would pray

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Speaker 2: for herself. Stuff. Days later that she was healed through prayer.

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Speaker 3: Came to your fiance's house while you was at work.

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Speaker 3: Then she contacted you on social media. I know it

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Speaker 3: was to thank you for them prayers. Contacted you on

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Speaker 3: social media and said that my man is a whore.

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Speaker 2: Wow, now she really healed. Now.

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Speaker 3: See once you start calling people whoes, you have completely

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Speaker 3: healed now, because the minutego you sick as hell.

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Speaker 2: Now you out here knowing who hoes and all this hell.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Why my fiance would take me to that church if

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Speaker 3: he's beefing with the pastor his family, because it's that

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Speaker 3: kind of church.

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Speaker 2: At any rate, I'm standing by him. There you go,

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Speaker 2: here you go, Wow.

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Speaker 3: His ex girlfriend. It's his ex girlfrey man because he left.

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Speaker 3: Should I go talk to her?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't go talk to her cause see, you done

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Speaker 3: drove to your house. Now you're gonna go talk to her.

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Speaker 3: She calling people whose Now you're gonna go talk to her.

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Speaker 3: You fit to find out how good a prayer you prayed,

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Speaker 3: cause she might be he enough, Just enough of whoop

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