WEBVTT - Day Dates vs. Dinner Dates 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.000 Hello, Francis Dules say Sloan, come see me this weekend 0:00:03.080 --> 0:00:08.480 January and fourteen, for four shows at the Off Cabinot 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:14.640 Comedy Club in Beverly, Massachusetts. I don't know where that is, 0:00:14.680 --> 0:00:16.319 but I'm gonna find out. This is one of my 0:00:16.400 --> 0:00:20.800 first date in my new tour, New vo Reiche because 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:24.680 apparently your girl's new money, I mean in the words 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:34.320 of somebody, and we never had that old money. Ha ha, Josh, 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:37.360 are you gonna be out here in these streets? I am, indeed, 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:40.839 I'm gonna be a Tacoma Comedy Club January twelve to 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:43.840 the fourteen, for five shows. You can get your tickets 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:47.040 at Tacoma Comedy Club dot com or in the link 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:50.920 in the show notes. 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Hey, everybody, welcome, 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.520 How you doing. Hello, how's the day going? You know, 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:40.119 if you were using this to fall asleep, big mistake. Alright, 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:44.479 hold up, so wake up and enjoy some of these 0:01:44.520 --> 0:01:46.479 hot topics. We are coming to you with the most 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:50.400 important things to us, not the world, not your peers. You. 0:01:50.640 --> 0:01:52.960 This will not make you seem smart when you go 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:56.600 and hang out with your friends and y'all discussed podcast. Um, 0:01:56.760 --> 0:01:59.000 we're not talking about world events. We're not talking about 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:01.280 current events. We're talking about the things that are happening 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:05.000 in our lives that we are diametrically opposed on. Okay, 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:10.200 and so today we're talking with myself, one of your 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:12.880 co host, Josh Johnson. I'm a writer for The Daily Show. 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:16.160 When I am joined by don't say as loan, I'm 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:22.520 a correspondent on this here Dayly Show, and uh, I 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:25.320 am going to tell you what today's top recording should be. 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:30.280 Because I was in Arlington, Virginia over the weekend and 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:33.080 a very nice lady and a very gorgeous pink like 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:36.680 a light like a dusty peak coat. Pink peak coat 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:41.840 by the name of a Jesse gave me some topics 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:45.120 to discuss on this show, and one of those topics 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:48.880 is day dates versus dinner dates. When we tell you, 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:51.360 come tell us, come to our shows and tell us. 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:52.799 She said, she found out that I was going to 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:54.200 be at the Arlings and Draft hops because I was 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:57.280 listening to the show. We're always like, come see us, 0:02:57.360 --> 0:03:01.800 come talk to us. And she came. She came, and 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:04.960 she talked, and now we're doing her topic on the show. 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:09.040 So start off to Jesse and Arlington in Arlington, Virginia. 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:11.440 Thank you for coming to see me at the Alington Drafthouse. 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:16.200 And this is Jay dates versus dinner dates. Now, josh 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:21.120 you've been on dates before. Soon, we hope, mm hmm. 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:30.720 Now I think I have a feeling an inclination. Huh, 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:35.120 A little tickle in my ear about what I think 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:46.120 think m hm, you might pick but tell the people, Joshua, yeah, yeah, 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:53.400 what as a former trader Joe's employee, like, what is 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:57.200 that even I have to do with it? It was 0:03:57.240 --> 0:04:03.440 out here trying to date people out. What do you prefer? 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:10.720 Day dates or dinner dates? Okay, m while I believe 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:16.240 that both of these dates are important, I truly believe 0:04:16.240 --> 0:04:21.200 that they're both important. I think that for your peace 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:25.200 of mind, for your time, and for your overall day 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:30.200 as an individual, I'm gonna go with day dates. All right, 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:35.279 you said day dates. I can explain what I heard. 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:41.000 What I heard was I don't have any money. No no, 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:43.520 that's not what it is, I promise, no, no, no, no, 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:45.960 because the day date is done by the man who 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:49.480 only wants to get coffee because he doesn't want to 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:55.760 invest money into trying to see my virgine. No said 0:04:55.760 --> 0:05:00.640 he can spend at a Starbucks and then maybe your 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:04.320 dead or later. Not no, no, no, let's be very 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:08.320 clear here. Okay, I just said both dates were important. 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:12.200 I didn't say they weren't. I am saying that for 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:15.040 your day as the individual. I can't explain. I'm not 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:18.159 saying that no one that loves day dates isn't broke, 0:05:19.360 --> 0:05:22.000 all right, I'm not. I'm not gonna be out here 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:27.040 telling you that no one that loves day dates has 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:32.760 no money. That's not what I'm saying I'm saying functionally. Functionally, 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:36.840 I think that it's it's an easier and it's a 0:05:36.880 --> 0:05:41.640 better um impression. Tell us about your pripverty, go ahead, 0:05:42.480 --> 0:05:45.039 my poverty, like this this is my thing. I'm not 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:49.960 even Wow, Okay, so I'm not even cold. I'm just 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.719 trying to protect myself from all the things you're about 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:59.800 to say. Wow, this is like both calmly and like 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:04.160 and this is like maybe the most sideways you've ever 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:08.520 covered me, Like, like this is actually this is actually 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:12.039 wild because you're not like, you're not yell at or anything. 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:14.520 You not you know, be be a belligerent or anything. 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:18.920 You're very calmly coming truly for my neck. Like it's like, 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:23.760 and I don't, wow, where's all this coming from. I'll 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:29.440 tell you what. I'm gonna tell you why. Okay. I 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:33.040 believe that a lot of pressure is put on people, 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:36.719 and this is like everything that I'm describing right now 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:39.479 is going to be genderless. Okay, I'm talking about all 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:43.480 of dating. I'm talking about everybody who does date. All right, 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:46.960 there's an incredible amount of pressure and there's an incredible 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:52.240 amount of like anxiety around just dates in general, first 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:57.080 dates especially Okay, I think that rather when I look 0:06:57.120 --> 0:06:59.760 at myself as an individual and what it was like 0:06:59.760 --> 0:07:01.719 in how ago when I was dating and stuff like that, 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:07.880 I think that it is a much easier thing to 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:10.680 start your date because the benefit that I think that 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:14.080 day dates have that dinner dates don't night dates don't, 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:17.800 is that if we hang out long enough, it goes 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:20.640 into the night. You know, if you're having a good time, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:23.000 If you're having a good time and you and you 0:07:23.120 --> 0:07:27.440 enjoy my company, we're we're into the we're into the 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:30.240 night date. Now now we're gonna go get dinner, you know. 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:34.120 And I think that you also lessen the amount of 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:36.760 anxiety you have throughout the day, because when you do 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:39.960 have a night date, like a dinner date, you're worried 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.720 about that thing all day, especially if you really like 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:44.520 the person or you really want them to like you. 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:47.960 That's anxiety driving all day. So you nip some of 0:07:48.000 --> 0:07:51.080 that in the bud by starting the date, like you 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:53.320 woke up, you had your breakfast, maybe you worked out, 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:56.280 maybe you just you know, went to you know, work 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:58.240 or something. Especially if this if this day date is 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:00.680 on a weekend, you did a couple things and then 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:03.360 you met someone and you met up and you were able. 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:07.240 In my opinion, there are better activities to do during 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:11.560 the day then there are at night sometimes, So if 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:16.200 I want to take you on, uh like an event, 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:19.400 there's like there's there's concerts at night, there's comedy shows 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:21.640 at night, there's there's all this stuff. But you can 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:26.120 actually have an experience with a person in a day 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:29.480 date that I think in in dinner dates you're limited. 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:34.120 And also with with uh late night dates or nighttime dates, 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:37.600 you do start to have the pressures of like, okay, 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:39.480 where are we gonna end up? Where is this going? 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:42.920 Whereas I think in a day day you talked about 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:45.520 the broke dudes. I think in the day day you 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:48.360 you either have to really believe in yourself or you 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:50.480 have to be having the best date of all time 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:52.800 to think that you're gonna pull a bedroom out of 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:56.440 this date. If y'all met up at two pm, That's 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:59.480 That's all I'm saying, is that I think a nighttime day, 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:02.720 if we're eating up at ten, If if you're going 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:05.160 on a date with someone and y'all are meeting up 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:08.840 at nine to have dinner, right, see, No, it's almost 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:11.360 bad time to begin with No, you can't meet that 0:09:11.440 --> 0:09:13.559 late for dinner date. You can't meet that late. I'm 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:16.200 just but night is night to me, night is night. 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:20.960 Point we all know they're going to dinner at seven 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:26.240 and going to dinner at ten one, there's a whole 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:30.040 different class restaurant. Yeah, I got a restaurants closed at 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:32.960 ten if I'm even dinner at ten. I see what 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:38.000 you're saying now, Like I've gone to I've had daytime dates, 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:42.040 like had brunch, Um gone to the belt line here 0:09:42.640 --> 0:09:45.440 and walked around with some dude, got all my steps 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:49.360 in that day. I'll take that damn much. Um. But oh, 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:52.160 I will offer up one last thing because I don't. 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.800 I don't I apologize for interrupted, but I do want 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:57.120 to offer up one last thing. When you were on 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:03.040 a day date, the the ability to split with these 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:07.200 go sideways goes up exponentially because when you have a 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:11.079 nighttime date, yes you have a nighttime date, you know 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:13.839 and they know that y'all both planned to be here. 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:16.880 So then when you get the text of like oh, 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:20.079 your apartment's all fire or whatever, it's like it's blatantly 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:22.760 obvious you're just trying to leave like it like it 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:25.760 just is unless it was going wonderfully and y'are both 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:29.240 vibing and it's undeniable whatever people can tell that you're 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:31.800 trying to get out of there, whereas with a day date, 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:35.120 if it goes sideways at all, the whole rest of 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:36.680 the day is what you have to look forward to, 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:40.760 so you can be like, oh, hey, yeah, my dog 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:44.680 freaking out, so I gotta go see he just hit 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:48.160 me telepathically and yeah, my roommate told me, like you 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:50.199 don't have roommates. I'm like, it is what it is, bro, 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:54.920 I gotta go. I told guys on date, this isn't 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.520 gonna I'm gonna go. Yeah, Like, oh, do you have 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:04.560 something else to do? No? Yeah, yeah, I've been I've 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:07.760 been on a date before where I said in the 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:09.680 middle of and I didn't say it in a rude way, 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:12.400 and I wasn't like it wasn't like I was getting 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:15.400 some attitude. I was just like, Ah, this one's not 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:19.600 going well, is it? Like it was just the thing 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:21.760 where we both agreed. We were both like like we 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:24.520 started laughing. We were like, ah, yeah, I don't know 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:28.160 what it was. We both from both of the pictures 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:31.079 we thought we'd like each other and it's like, nah, 0:11:31.200 --> 0:11:33.760 I've had that. I had a date go bad to 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:36.319 the point and I had to drive for this date too, 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:39.880 Like I drove over thirty minutes. It was like Atlantis, 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.079 you drive thirty minutes all the time, but almost forty 0:11:42.080 --> 0:11:45.600 minutes for this date. It doesn't go well. And so 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:49.960 it's not going well to the point where he offers 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:53.920 to get food to go from my mom. It's just 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:56.920 a good Southern boy, yeah, yeah, just trying to be 0:11:57.280 --> 0:12:00.840 a gentleman in the face of a date that's not 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:04.000 it's fine, it's not going well, and I'm just like, yeah, 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:06.760 I think I'm gonna get two appetizers, bro. And then 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:13.000 and you know, like this isn't and he's like, he's 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:14.400 like this is at a certain point. He's like this 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:16.200 isn't going good. And he's like no, He's like, you 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:17.840 want to order something for your mom? I was like sure, 0:12:17.840 --> 0:12:19.480 And I called my mom. I'm like, hey, I'm anna 0:12:19.480 --> 0:12:22.200 applebee is what do you want? Um? And I got 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:25.560 her like entree and he goes, you can get a 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:28.960 dessert too, And just a nice white man in the 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:31.560 army taking me on a date, because you also know, 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:34.679 like that's the thing about when you're when you're when 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:39.280 it's going poorly unless someone is delusional to people can 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:42.960 feel it. Yeah, but you'd be surprised. A number of 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:46.720 times I've been on date with the guy really thought, Hey, 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:50.960 what I just say about delusional. I also don't understand, 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:54.280 like some of my friends really want you to give 0:12:54.360 --> 0:13:00.000 somebody a chance, like well wait wait wait wait wait 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:06.559 right wait wait wait wait wait wait. Okay, I'm sorry. 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:10.400 I'm sorry. So I was gonna go over to the stand. 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:13.679 This is a Halloween right, I'm gonna go understand anyway, 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:15.400 that's the thing of the day was at like seven, 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:18.280 we got pizza. The date started with a church hug 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:20.720 and anyway, the church hull and the thing was fun. Up. 0:13:20.720 --> 0:13:23.280 We've been talking about like for like three weeks, like texting. 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:25.360 I was like, we went on an app and we're 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:27.360 texting and stuff and been like we've been sitting each 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:30.080 other like playlists and stuff like that and all these 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:31.880 other things. We talked on the phone and then I 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:35.280 met him in person. I just went nope. As soon 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:37.679 as I saw him, I was like, I don't want 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:39.840 to put my mouth on him. And that's my gauge. 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:43.800 Now that's my gauge if I see a man. But 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:45.160 I was like, I don't want to put my mouth 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:49.840 on this man. M yeah, what was he talking for? 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:52.080 And so we're on the date. I don't remember the 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:53.559 fun he was talking about. The whole time. I was 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:57.560 like no, yeah, no, And then at the end he 0:13:57.559 --> 0:13:58.559 was asking I was gonna do. I was like I 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:03.000 was gonna hand over to the sand. He was like, okay, cool, 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:06.960 I can do that, and like I didn't. They had 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:09.560 a spot at the stand too, and so I was 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:13.240 like right, and I was like no. He's like, what, 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:14.840 You're going to a comedy club. I said, I'm going 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:19.480 to work, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, and he's like, I mean, 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:21.200 but it's not like the same. I said, do you 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:24.240 want me to sit next to you at a cubicle? Mhm, 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:28.360 because that's what the funk this is. I'm going to work, yeah, 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:30.800 after me, you having to go? No, He's like, well, 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:32.760 I can just come anyway. It's like it's a comedy club. 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:37.680 I can go if I want to, And I was like, really, yeah, 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:41.760 I would. It would very much be weird now because 0:14:41.760 --> 0:14:43.440 I just told you no, and now he just like, well, 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:44.680 it doesn't matter. I can go from once and I 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:50.680 was like, yeah, I'm gonna go mm hmm. Now, okay, 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:55.360 I want to get a sense from you of of 0:14:55.520 --> 0:15:02.080 why you so deeply disclike the the day dates outside 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:05.040 of the because I feel like i've I've acknowledged the 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:09.440 brokenness that some people exhibit, but I've also given what 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:12.480 I feel are very valid reasons to start with a 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.360 day date, because if you really like this person, it's 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:17.760 going into the night. So I feel like I get 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:23.680 the best of both worlds. I understand. This is the 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:28.960 thing with the day date. It's the day date feels 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:33.440 very much like the day date seems like something you 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:38.760 only do if you're not sure if you like somebody. Okay, like, 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:41.240 if you know that you like somebody, just do a 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:44.520 regular fucking date. But if it's hey, you want to 0:15:44.520 --> 0:15:46.600 hang out tomorrow, then it's a date. Then the day 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:50.680 date make because there are things you can do during 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:53.000 the day that you can't do at night. You're right, 0:15:53.680 --> 0:15:57.400 But I feel like the day date is very much, 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:00.480 very tentative, very tent to tent It's I don't know 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:15.040 how very tool is a real word. Um, it's you're 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:17.520 not sure about the person, so it's like I don't 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:21.480 want to spend my nighttime hours with someone I'm not sure. 0:16:22.840 --> 0:16:25.560 Let me go ahead and see you have a three 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:28.120 pm because like I like like a brunch situation, because 0:16:28.120 --> 0:16:30.000 like I've had like gotten dinner with the guy or 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.880 like gotten coffee with the guy and then it turned 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:37.400 into us getting dinner. I see, I see. This is 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:39.840 what I'll pitch you. And it's it's what I tell 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:42.880 all my friends when they're when they're dating, is that 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:47.400 I've found the best dates and the and this is 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:49.800 this is regardless of what you choose to do. And 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:52.360 once again this is for everybody. I find that the 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:55.560 best dates are things that you were going to do 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:58.240 anyway that you want to see if you enjoy someone 0:16:58.240 --> 0:17:03.600 else's company while doing which is why I um chose 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:07.160 the day dates because to me, it's like, Okay, I've 0:17:07.160 --> 0:17:09.719 always wanted to try this place, I've always wanted to 0:17:10.119 --> 0:17:13.680 try this thing. Let me both try this thing and 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:17.800 bring someone along that I think I might enjoy their company. 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:21.600 Because I also find that a lot of people, a 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:24.200 lot of people, a lot of my friends get flaked on, right, 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.240 and when you get flaked on, and it's like okay, 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:30.000 I was gonna get I was gonna get dinner at 0:17:30.000 --> 0:17:32.600 this nice restaurant with this person, and now they've canceled. 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:36.280 Is a very different feeling than like I've always wanted 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:38.679 to try, you know, just throwing it out there as 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:40.960 a general date idea. It's like, I've always wanted to 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:43.720 try acts throwing, so let me try acts throwing, and 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:45.480 let me do it with this person who I think 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.919 is cool. And then they flake out, and it's like, 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:50.320 all right, look, maybe I'm going to act throwing by 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:53.000 myself now, but I've always wanted to try acts throwing. 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:56.240 And it's a very different day now. And you also 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:58.840 have the rest of and you know, if I can, 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:02.360 if I can speak to confidence and psyche and all 0:18:02.400 --> 0:18:05.879 that stuff for a second, a day date gives the 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:08.600 rest of your day time to recover if the thing 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:10.600 does not go well and if you don't get the 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:13.919 desired result, Whereas a nighttime date it's like, now I 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:17.600 just gotta go to bed, upset, right, But if a 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:19.840 day date doesn't go well, then I still then it's 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:22.920 the whole rest of my fucking day. It's not like 0:18:23.240 --> 0:18:24.600 this didn't go to well, let me go to bed. 0:18:25.320 --> 0:18:28.760 It's oh, this date didn't go well and it's only 0:18:28.880 --> 0:18:32.280 four thirty. I see we're saying the same thing, but 0:18:32.320 --> 0:18:35.360 we disagree on how it makes us feel. That makes sense, Yeah, 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:38.720 like I understand, like you're going to go do something anyway, 0:18:38.760 --> 0:18:41.280 Like I've gone a day dates where we've gotten to 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:46.920 like an aquarium or a museum, or I've done archery 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:49.920 or I've done these different things where it's like like 0:18:50.000 --> 0:18:51.919 the whole going through the movies and going on a 0:18:52.000 --> 0:18:54.520 date thing, I think is one. I think one of 0:18:54.520 --> 0:18:56.440 my guy friends was saying to me, like, it doesn't 0:18:56.440 --> 0:18:59.720 mean he doesn't like to do it because you're sitting 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:02.120 with somebody for two hours in the dark, and you're 0:19:02.160 --> 0:19:03.880 not getting to know them at all. You're just sitting 0:19:03.880 --> 0:19:05.879 with them in the dark watching it thing. But I 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:08.280 just know they're able to be quiet, right, you know, 0:19:08.320 --> 0:19:11.000 there be quiet either than react to a movie. Um, 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:12.760 and then you have but then you have that didn't 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:16.240 have something to talk about at dinner because now we 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:18.040 can sit about and set up and talk about and 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:22.840 analyze the movie or film, because I think films and 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:27.760 movies are two totally different things and we can Hey, 0:19:27.800 --> 0:19:29.920 that's a different day, that's a different day. That's a 0:19:29.920 --> 0:19:31.840 different day. We both agree. We know what I'm saying. 0:19:32.000 --> 0:19:34.960 You know what I'm saying. Fast and Furious is not 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:37.600 a film. We can all relax. We can all relax. 0:19:38.160 --> 0:19:42.679 So like I said recently that like, if there's a 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:45.000 guy that you like, a person you really like, you know, 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:47.800 we're not the gender anybody, um, but especially if you're 0:19:47.800 --> 0:19:50.919 dealing with men, regardless of what your preference is, if 0:19:50.920 --> 0:19:53.879 you're dealing with men, I think a good first day, 0:19:54.040 --> 0:19:59.520 especially dealing with it's just heterosexual men. I think an 0:19:59.600 --> 0:20:05.720 escaped room is a great first date because I tell you, 0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:07.680 I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:14.480 tell you, I'm gonna tell you. One. Will he take 0:20:14.520 --> 0:20:19.800 directions from a woman because some men won't? Yeah? Two? 0:20:21.240 --> 0:20:25.560 Can he be collaborative? Can he be cooperative? Is he 0:20:25.960 --> 0:20:30.280 does he only? Is he a creative thinker? How does 0:20:30.320 --> 0:20:33.800 he work under pressure? Is he a leader? Is he 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:37.800 a follower? Is he motivating? Is he helpful? Is he 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:41.680 good at problem solving? Doing puzzles? Can he do math? 0:20:42.080 --> 0:20:44.520 What color? Is he color blind? Like? There are all 0:20:44.560 --> 0:20:46.720 these things because like we've don't escape from in Miami 0:20:47.320 --> 0:20:51.080 together and there's so many things that go on in 0:20:51.280 --> 0:20:53.600 escape room where you have to collect. Like it's this 0:20:53.800 --> 0:20:57.800 idea of being able to cooperate with people you know 0:20:57.920 --> 0:21:00.440 and stranger some people who don't know. Well, I think 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:02.520 it's a really good thing if you don't know somebody, 0:21:02.640 --> 0:21:04.480 because some people just get angry and just shut the 0:21:04.520 --> 0:21:08.119 funk down. I've seen that escaping for We're just like 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:10.760 I don't get this, and then they're just done. You're like, bro, 0:21:10.960 --> 0:21:15.320 we have fifties seven more minutes in here, stand up help. 0:21:20.400 --> 0:21:23.760 The reason I brought up the anxiety and the confidence 0:21:23.800 --> 0:21:25.960 and the nervousness and stuff like that for day dates 0:21:26.119 --> 0:21:33.399 versus like nighttime dates is that I think that there's 0:21:33.640 --> 0:21:38.000 there's a way that you can like free yourself up 0:21:39.280 --> 0:21:44.120 to your point about um, like not being sure about 0:21:44.119 --> 0:21:46.080 a person or not, I mean, like like to your 0:21:46.080 --> 0:21:49.560 point about that, I think though it's a double edged sword, 0:21:49.600 --> 0:21:52.439 because yes, that is that is how some people are 0:21:52.440 --> 0:21:54.240 gonna take it, and that's how some people are gonna 0:21:54.359 --> 0:21:57.359 use it. But I also think that you're able to 0:21:57.400 --> 0:22:01.360 see someone potentially in their best light when they are 0:22:02.000 --> 0:22:07.399 uh not under the pressure of of like what people 0:22:07.480 --> 0:22:10.040 make nighttime dates out to be in their mind. I 0:22:10.080 --> 0:22:12.000 understand what you're saying, But for me, a date is 0:22:12.000 --> 0:22:16.359 a date pressure Like it's always whether it's three pm 0:22:16.440 --> 0:22:20.320 or seven pm or nine pm, I'm nervous whether the 0:22:20.359 --> 0:22:22.760 sun is up or it is taking its you know, 0:22:22.880 --> 0:22:26.520 slum before the evening, it's still a fucking date. So 0:22:26.560 --> 0:22:30.560 I'm still going. You know what I mean, I understand. 0:22:30.600 --> 0:22:32.920 I understand what you mean that that makes sense at 0:22:33.000 --> 0:22:36.199 least for a nighttime date, because also there's stunts you 0:22:36.240 --> 0:22:38.480 can't put Like it's like you can't ask somebody to 0:22:38.480 --> 0:22:41.639 meet at seven pm for coffee. Yeah, there's something to 0:22:41.680 --> 0:22:44.480 happen in the evening. It's like, okay, I expect it's 0:22:44.520 --> 0:22:49.159 like dinner in this or dinner in that. But also 0:22:49.240 --> 0:22:53.360 I've realized that like just going to dinner with somebody 0:22:55.040 --> 0:23:01.800 doesn't give you enough info. M who doesn't give you anything. 0:23:01.840 --> 0:23:07.760 So I think like an activity in dinner is I 0:23:07.800 --> 0:23:11.720 think the way to go. So if you do something 0:23:11.760 --> 0:23:16.080 earlier in the day where it's like, let's mean at seven, 0:23:16.160 --> 0:23:18.920 go do this, and they get dinner after, because there's 0:23:18.960 --> 0:23:21.159 not so much stuff you want to do after dinner, 0:23:21.240 --> 0:23:24.840 you know what I mean exactly, And I think that 0:23:25.200 --> 0:23:27.199 this is also important that will offer up to the 0:23:27.280 --> 0:23:30.520 listeners just in case they are still coming at me 0:23:30.920 --> 0:23:32.880 the way you were coming at me at the beginning, 0:23:32.960 --> 0:23:35.679 if they still think that I'm broke or what. I 0:23:35.720 --> 0:23:38.560 also don't drink, and so I think that a lot 0:23:38.600 --> 0:23:41.800