WEBVTT - Dear Chiquis: Help: I’m Getting Divorced, How Can I Boost My Social Media Following and Tips on Increasing My Libido

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<v Speaker 1>M m mmm. Hello everyone, it's your girl, Cheekies, and

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<v Speaker 1>you've reached the voice smail box for dear Cheekies, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>here to give you advice on anything and everything you

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<v Speaker 1>need help with. Maybe you're going through a breakup, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you're having issues with your family, or maybe you need

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<v Speaker 1>help figuring out how to balance your checkbook or how

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<v Speaker 1>to start a business. Whatever the cases, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts and opinions,

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<v Speaker 1>and if you're suffering from an issue or hardship, you

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<v Speaker 1>should seek help from a qualified professional. All right, Now

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<v Speaker 1>go ahead and leave your question at the sound of

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<v Speaker 1>the beach, Hi, Chickies, I was just listening to some

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<v Speaker 1>of your podcasts, just started listening to them like a

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<v Speaker 1>week ago, and I think they're so interesting, so heartwarming.

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<v Speaker 1>There eye openers to me. I know that everybody thinks

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<v Speaker 1>about you as being Chandvada's daughter, but to be honest,

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<v Speaker 1>I just relate with you in many many ways. I

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<v Speaker 1>admire that you became the mother of your brother sisters,

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<v Speaker 1>and that you supported your mom, that you've been a

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<v Speaker 1>strong Latina girl representing in I was just wondering if

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<v Speaker 1>you would know of any place where I could reach

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<v Speaker 1>out for help with my divorce. I'm having a very

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<v Speaker 1>difficult time getting divorce and I really want to get

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<v Speaker 1>this done. I went to the court and things are

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<v Speaker 1>so so bad. It's expensive. I can't do it alone

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<v Speaker 1>and I have to get an attorney. It's over four

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<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars and I can't afford because I'm a single mother.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in college trying to manage my degree. Oh my goodness,

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<v Speaker 1>Marcy Will welcome to the Chickens and Chill Family. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so happy to hear that you're loving my podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>That makes me so happy. And I'm so sorry to

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<v Speaker 1>hear that you are going through divorce worse. I know

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<v Speaker 1>how difficult and emotionally draining that can be and mentally

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<v Speaker 1>draining um. And yes, everything is taking so much longer.

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<v Speaker 1>It took me, wow, about a year and a half

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<v Speaker 1>to get divorced, so the courts are very backed up,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's not just your situation, and it could be expensive,

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<v Speaker 1>So I totally get that. One thing I do want

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<v Speaker 1>to say is I'm very proud of you. You're going

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<v Speaker 1>to college. That's awesome. You should be very proud of yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know you're probably in a rush to get divorced.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. Like for me, it was like I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to be detached and just cut that string

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<v Speaker 1>and close that chapter of my life. So I get that.

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<v Speaker 1>Just try to just be patient and let the court

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<v Speaker 1>do and take its course. I don't know if I

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<v Speaker 1>have to be honest anywhere that I can recommend for

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<v Speaker 1>you to help or speed up the process or anything

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<v Speaker 1>like that. That's just honestly, it's just gonna take time,

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<v Speaker 1>and you just have to know that and just breathe

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<v Speaker 1>through it and pray your way through it. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I did. And there were times where I cried and

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<v Speaker 1>I was mad, and then I would there were times

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm like, Okay, it's gonna be fine. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>a rollercoaster of emotions. Just know that happened to me.

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<v Speaker 1>And if anything, hopefully you can get some type of

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<v Speaker 1>therapy or life coaching or something that can help you

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<v Speaker 1>through this process. That's something that I highly recommend. It

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<v Speaker 1>helped me out so much. Someone that you could just

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<v Speaker 1>talk to, even a pastor going to church. Just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>be patient more than anything. And when we ask for

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<v Speaker 1>patients sometimes I feel like we're tested more. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>praying for you, Marcy, and I'm so sorry because honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>there's not a place that I can recommend, but those

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<v Speaker 1>are my recommendations. So hopefully do help and ASO and

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that you know that there's a miracle and

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<v Speaker 1>it happens a lot sooner than the court is saying. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>then thank you again for being a part of our family.

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<v Speaker 1>We love you, okay. Our next question comes from Claudia.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Cheeks, I have literally followed you, but obsessed with you,

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<v Speaker 1>not in a creepy way for years, I mean ever

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<v Speaker 1>since Y's TV show came out, like Jenny was everything

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<v Speaker 1>to me in Las Pelas, whether I'm hurt, whether and

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<v Speaker 1>though Horno like I sing at the top of my

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<v Speaker 1>LUNs um and now with your songs like I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you have shown everybody that you can and

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<v Speaker 1>you will, and I think that's so bad ass. My

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<v Speaker 1>question for you is I'm trying to build my own

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<v Speaker 1>business in the health and beauty industry and I have

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<v Speaker 1>very little followers. I'm Instagram based, I don't do Facebook

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<v Speaker 1>m I try to do some work on Snapchat, but

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<v Speaker 1>like to like grow my followers, like I've been taking

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<v Speaker 1>an Instagram university class, but I feel like there's I'm

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<v Speaker 1>missing something that I don't know what, Like, what have

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<v Speaker 1>you say that works more for you to connect with

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<v Speaker 1>people and to grow your followers? Hi, Claudia, ky so, Claudia, Claudia, Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much for all those beautiful things that

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<v Speaker 1>you said and for loving my mommy and believe me,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also a huge fan. But okay, in regards to

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<v Speaker 1>your question, look, I think that you're missing a huge

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<v Speaker 1>audience by not doing Facebook. I think that for sure,

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<v Speaker 1>Facebook is a great place to market and promote your business.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people, a lot of people more than

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<v Speaker 1>you know, use and are on Facebook all day long,

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<v Speaker 1>even more so than Instagram, I feel. And you can

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<v Speaker 1>buy ads there and you can boost your posts. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's one. TikTok is huge. TikTok is like I think,

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<v Speaker 1>the number one right now. So I would definitely invest

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<v Speaker 1>in making TikTok's. It's time consuming, it's a job in

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<v Speaker 1>itself creating TikTok's, but if you manage your time correctly

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, Okay, on Tuesdays, I'm gonna do nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>but TikTok's for my business or set a day aside

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<v Speaker 1>in time for that. That way you have some that

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<v Speaker 1>are saved and then you can post them throughout the week.

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<v Speaker 1>And the more consistent you are on TikTok, the high

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<v Speaker 1>that TikTok puts you on the algorithm, you know. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's one Instagram is good. Obviously, doing lives that's another thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing lives on your Instagram. And even though you may

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<v Speaker 1>not have a lot of followers right now, the more

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<v Speaker 1>lives you do the better. And just posting I think

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<v Speaker 1>more than anything consistently on TikTok. And original content that's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing, original content. Use the app on TikTok because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, TikTok likes that. So anyways, as far as

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<v Speaker 1>like marketing, you said you were in health and beauty,

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<v Speaker 1>which is good. All women love that. So make sure

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<v Speaker 1>you are reaching out to the demographic which are women

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<v Speaker 1>and the age range as well. So doing all those

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<v Speaker 1>studies is very very important. So um yeah, I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's it. I mean, hopefully that hopes. I wish you

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<v Speaker 1>all the best in this business and this venture. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>don't don't give up, That's all I can tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>Just right when you feel like you want to be

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<v Speaker 1>done is when something great is about to happen. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so let's hear from Miriam. Let's get this a lottle wyoming.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the fellow krea up. It's the supposed to kids

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<v Speaker 1>say it's the is some of it, but that's really

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<v Speaker 1>says it's your thing, or have its for loyal So

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<v Speaker 1>so my hole sagment. Okay, obviously, okay, memories its normal.

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<v Speaker 1>No no amor amen, think yourself. I'm not for them.

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<v Speaker 1>It's on him very sie, so better okay, I sco

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<v Speaker 1>claro in a jacket. It was I'm medium the amo

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<v Speaker 1>the ammakay okay, so quickly. What Miriam was asking was

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<v Speaker 1>that she's been married and she loves her husband and

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<v Speaker 1>they're very happy for many years, and she just has

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<v Speaker 1>realized that she doesn't like him to touch her like

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<v Speaker 1>what it's time to have sex. She's just not in

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<v Speaker 1>the mood. A lot of women we ignore our hormones

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<v Speaker 1>and we don't understand how with age, with the air,

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<v Speaker 1>with the things that we eat, with the things that

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<v Speaker 1>we drink on a daily basis, our bodies change, our

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<v Speaker 1>hormone levels change, and which doesn't allow us to lose weight,

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<v Speaker 1>we lose hair and our sex drive. And that's as

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<v Speaker 1>we get older and more mature. Should I say, get

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<v Speaker 1>that checked out. Also, maybe go to an adult store,

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<v Speaker 1>to a sex shop, get some lubrican, a vibrator. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. You have to find ways to spice up

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<v Speaker 1>your sex life if something's going on, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>it happens in every relationship. Is just knowing this is happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's find a way. And the good thing is she's asking,

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<v Speaker 1>so that means and tells me you love him and

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<v Speaker 1>you want to make this work. So get a little vibrator.

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<v Speaker 1>Hopefully it's okay with it. It's the mirado salgo ok

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<v Speaker 1>executas to ermonazmucho premier paso to porque no lo sombres

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<v Speaker 1>vanni usc perote'm in thank you so much for submitting

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<v Speaker 1>your questions and asking me for advice. When I'm answering

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<v Speaker 1>these questions you guys, I am really speaking to you

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<v Speaker 1>guys from the bottom of my heart. So I hope

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<v Speaker 1>I help you make the right decision or at least

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<v Speaker 1>point you in the right direction. If you need help

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<v Speaker 1>working through a tough situation, or if you want to

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