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Speaker 1: So explaining shit, today's episode is sure to provide you

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Cultivating in her Space, a podcast dedicated to

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Speaker 2: uplooking women like you. We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Brussard,

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Speaker 2: a college professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 1: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 4: All right, lady, Today we have a very special guest,

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Speaker 4: and my personal mantra for this episode is be normalitary

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Speaker 4: because I am a huge fan. Okay and Domina are

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Speaker 4: so excited about today's guests. Okay, today's guest is not

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Speaker 4: She's fine as fuck, she's extra as fuck, and by

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Speaker 4: So get ready, y'all. Get ready. Mentioned in Forbes as

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Speaker 4: Max show Sweet Life, Brittany Floyd Mayo, known as Trap

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Speaker 4: Yoga Bay, is bridging the gap between self care and

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Speaker 4: cultural relevance. Trap Yoga Bay introduces those who feel ostracized

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Speaker 4: care looks like you. Trap Yoga with trap Yoga Bay

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Speaker 4: In addition to touring, Brittany has increased her focus on

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Speaker 1: Hey, thank you so much for having me. Ladies, I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: Maybetna tell myself be normal? Be normal, because if you're

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Speaker 1: my friend in my head too, I will watch your

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Speaker 5: Oh yes, yes, the monster for this episode.

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Speaker 4: Be normal, all right.

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Speaker 5: So our quote of the day, Now, Brittany, this will

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Speaker 5: And lady, if you have not followed Brittany yet on

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Speaker 5: That was a word right there. So, Brittany, when you

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Speaker 1: Sure, So you know the thing about ratchet affirmations are

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Speaker 4: Talk about holding yourself accountable. I appreciate that so much.

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Speaker 4: We love that over here in Brittany. This conversation is

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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, blessing me. Okay, come on girl. Yeah, Now

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Speaker 4: We then have three center completions, and then we have

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Speaker 1: I'll be into so let's go.

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Speaker 4: Oh, yes you do. The first question is what's the

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Speaker 4: I would say, be willing to pay the consequence of

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I like that that energy a little bit.

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Speaker 4: What's this.

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Speaker 1: So no, right, right, right, all day? I could at

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Speaker 4: Now this next question, I'm very curious to see how

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Speaker 1: Mama mind? Yes, yes, that it can do.

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Speaker 1: Happiness. I never not want to talk about how to

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Speaker 4: Happiness that is so crazy. You're not going to believe this.

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Speaker 4: to tell people about happiness.

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00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 1: Is it's a choice. The human brain was never designed

437
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 1: to make you happy. It was created to help you survive,

438
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: and survival means always looking for threats. Happiness is a choice,

439
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: you will never find it. Get gon in tooth.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for k okay. I always do this, dumb.

441
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 4: I feel like I always interrupt a sense of completion

442
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 4: with a question. But I have to know, okay fur thing.

443
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 4: So the lady's listening to the episode and she's like, oh,

444
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 4: that's cute. I want you to be happy. But like,

445
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,199
Speaker 4: my predicament is all messed up. I'll wake up in

446
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,199
Speaker 4: the morning. I'm in a funky mood. What is the

447
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 4: path to happiness? Choosing happiness in that life?

448
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:48,399
Speaker 1: Like in that predicament, controlling what you can through discipline,

449
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:51,679
Speaker 1: pick tiny habits. There's a reason why I make my

450
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 1: bed first thing in the minute, because I need to

451
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 1: know that I am capable of accomplishing something and I

452
00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 1: can clean my shit up. You didn't fuck your life

453
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:01,439
Speaker 1: up in a day, You're not going to fix it

454
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,640
Speaker 1: in a day. That take your time. Get a fucking discipline.

455
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Speaker 5: Come on, coach, Yes, yes, all right, I see you.

456
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 5: All right, so our final sentence completion. What I love

457
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 5: most about myself.

458
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Speaker 1: Is my heart. I like people think that I'm like that.

459
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 1: I am like I don't give a fuck out of

460
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,639
Speaker 1: the fun. I actually care a lot. I care a

461
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 1: lot about humanity. I care deeply about black women, and

462
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 1: I dedicate my entire.

463
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Speaker 7: Life like it holds so much space for us because

464
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:45,920
Speaker 7: I'm just I think they're we're worthy, and I want

465
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 7: to be a shining rampule of what it looks like

466
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 7: to love myself and then love.

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Speaker 1: The world as the extension my heart. I'm a sweeting Ah.

468
00:27:57,320 --> 00:27:59,679
Speaker 4: Your face is lit up and the smile was so

469
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:02,119
Speaker 4: big when we asked that question, you had to answer,

470
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 4: I love it.

471
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, my fake hosts some ass, but you know.

472
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 4: It's all right. We must multi dimensional over here. But

473
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 4: speaking of MOSTI dimensional. So we got these fire ass

474
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:20,920
Speaker 4: photos pulled up. Good lord, I want to cover them all.

475
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 4: But we want you to choose the number. I was

476
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Speaker 4: one in three, and then we're going to reveal the picture.

477
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 4: And what we want you to do is provide some

478
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 4: context because some people are only going to be listening

479
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 4: to the episode, So tell them what we're looking at

480
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:36,119
Speaker 4: and then give us the context. So tough, Okay, So

481
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 4: between out of one in three, what's your number?

482
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Speaker 1: I'm choose number one because I'm a winner.

483
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 4: I'm so happy. Okay, get ready for this picture, y'all, okay,

484
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 4: I'm raising my son.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay. So in this picture that you're witnessing, I

486
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Speaker 1: know it's hard to tell because I was so good

487
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Speaker 1: at see all time and era. So she was actually

488
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Speaker 1: taking in twenty fifteen. It's a very old picture and

489
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Speaker 1: it was the first kind of photoshoot that I did.

490
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: I am in an Amazon bikini, but don't let the

491
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 1: Amazon for you. It is a rainbow one piece which

492
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:18,959
Speaker 1: straps all over the titties and the sides. I'm looking fires.

493
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 1: The wind is blowing through my hair, my legs are

494
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Speaker 1: crossing a muddy action of yoga ploes, and the beach

495
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 1: behind me is Mimi Beach, sunkissed skin. I don't have

496
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:36,239
Speaker 1: very many tattoos then, as I have full sleeves.

497
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Speaker 4: And all over now.

498
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Speaker 1: And in this particular photo, this was the first time

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Speaker 1: I was photographed. After the story I told you where

500
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Speaker 1: I left my ex husband, I had just gotten my

501
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 1: passport and had never left the country before, but India

502
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 1: was the first time. So this trip to Miami was

503
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Speaker 1: me trying to see if I could survive away from home,

504
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 1: away from my kids, by myself in a foreign city.

505
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 1: While I was on the beach, this man approached me

506
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Speaker 1: and said, I want to take pictures of you, and

507
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 1: I was like, I guess phenomenal guy took this picture.

508
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: When I saw myself and I saw the strength and

509
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:24,200
Speaker 1: the beauty in you, I broke down in bride. I

510
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Speaker 1: just I didn't know that I was that beautiful in

511
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Speaker 1: that strong, because so much had been taken from me

512
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Speaker 1: in my marriage. And the man told me, I'll give

513
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Speaker 1: you these photos, but you have to make a public Instagram.

514
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Speaker 1: I didn't even have an Instagram at the time, so

515
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Speaker 1: he gave me the photos. I created Instagram that day

516
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 1: and he and I are still really good friends to

517
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: this day. And that was probably the day I wouldn't

518
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Speaker 1: say trap Yoga Bay was born, but that was the

519
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Speaker 1: day that I woke up to myself a very very

520
00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 1: powerful picture.

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Speaker 4: That is so mind blowing. Was an incredible story. And

522
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:06,520
Speaker 4: if y'all have to go to her page and look

523
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Speaker 4: at the caption and just take a look at I mean,

524
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Speaker 4: this is just wipe through. While we're here, I just

525
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Speaker 4: want to show you the other pictures real quick. I

526
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 4: just want to show because you can see the growth

527
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 4: and the difference in the picture. So this is another

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Speaker 4: that was.

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Speaker 1: My thirtieth birthday in Antiqua, Okay, everybody, and I was

530
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 1: I was out out chill okay, and then this siture

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Speaker 1: right here, bad as boss.

532
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 4: Y'all gotta go on Instagram.

533
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 1: Look at those videos, you know, successions, and then I

534
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 1: was full blown time, full blown me in that picture. Wow,

535
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 1: got the red soon on, y'all go to her Instagram,

536
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 1: look at the pictures, look at the video. Life was good,

537
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 1: kitty getting that thing, all that good stuff. Okay, now

538
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 1: I done got distracted down for Let's get us back

539
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 1: on track here.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

541
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Speaker 5: I mean we could sit and talk for and so,

542
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 5: but we do have to finish the interview and we

543
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 5: do want to be respectful of your time. But for

544
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 5: those who are listening and they're like, yo, I want

545
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 5: to be a part of this, like your energy is

546
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 5: just it's magnetic, and we just we need to be

547
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 5: we need to be connected. For those who have not

548
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 5: had a chance to experience trap yoga, specifically from trap

549
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 5: Yoga Bay, what is it? How is it? And how

550
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 5: can they attend your next live in person event.

551
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: Yes, so, trap yoga is a vinyasa style yoga experience,

552
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 1: and if you don't know a vinyasa means don't trip,

553
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,440
Speaker 1: because when you're rocking with me, I'm gonna let you

554
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 1: know to do the hard way because we like it

555
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 1: like that. But in every class I go through flows.

556
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:05,360
Speaker 1: But the most beautiful thing is are the things that

557
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 1: make it different is every class has a life DJ,

558
00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: and the music is curated that flows are curated to

559
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 1: the song and the energy of the song. We include

560
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 1: those things those ratchet affirmation, grow world advice that sounds

561
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 1: like your favorite rat lyrics. And we take lots and

562
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: lots of work breaks so I will teach you how

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00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:28,600
Speaker 1: to as we said, hello circle. And there's just so

564
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: much levity to the class. I think yoga can be

565
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Speaker 1: very intimidating. I think we have this preconceived motion of

566
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Speaker 1: what yoga looks like and it doesn't look like us,

567
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 1: not our skin, not our bodies, none of those sort

568
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Speaker 1: of things. And so I take this two thousand year

569
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Speaker 1: old practice and I bring it to some cultural relevance

570
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:47,680
Speaker 1: and then like we have fun. So there's this thing,

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00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 1: you know, downward face and dog. I feel like everybody

572
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 1: knows that one yoga pose in my class, I call

573
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: it my favorite pose or a free code. And then

574
00:33:56,920 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 1: we have like open leg forward fold and that's child support, folks.

575
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,720
Speaker 1: So it's really making it so that you understand that

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Speaker 1: yoga is for you, the self care looks like you,

577
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: and creating that safe space. I think a lot of

578
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 1: times people who love yoga and love the practice, they're like, come,

579
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,320
Speaker 1: let's do this. No God, and everyeople like which please?

580
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:21,280
Speaker 1: Like that sounds so boring, like I'm gonna fall asleep

581
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:24,919
Speaker 1: or I'm gonna far. And it's because there's too much

582
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: of a gap between where we are now and what

583
00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 1: that is. Plus travel is super lit for women like

584
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 1: me who are over thirty, were like, maybe I'm done

585
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 1: with the club, but I do still want to turn up.

586
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: So it gives you the opportunity to sweat, turn up,

587
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:43,400
Speaker 1: be among your people, listen to your music, have that

588
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 1: safe space to move your body and express yourself while

589
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 1: still learning about boundaries and self care and self acceptance

590
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 1: and self love. And to find me at this point

591
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 1: where you got break me? I know you just got broken.

592
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 1: We have not been producing our own events since the pandemic,

593
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 1: and honestly is because I have a lot of big

594
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 1: name clients Google Meta, It's just them. If you pay

595
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 1: attention to my page. You'll see a lot of my

596
00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 1: celebrity clients when we're on their stage. I tour with

597
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 1: celebrities and I teach you over with them, you know,

598
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: in between shows, I help them learn how to meditate

599
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: a lot, a lot of fun things. But I'm still

600
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 1: for the people. I ain't cheap, but I'm for the people.

601
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Speaker 1: DM me Usen Julie. We can make it happen.

602
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 4: Yes, and when you're in the Bay, let us know,

603
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 4: we will pull up, comeupport you. Okay, you know that's

604
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Speaker 4: my hometown. Yes, we write in your hometown down the

605
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 4: little and what's so cal gots technically done, but you

606
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 4: can come on us. We can Yeah, we can make

607
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Speaker 4: it work.

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Speaker 2: Well.

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Speaker 4: One of the things that I know we're aware of

610
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 4: is that your Bay friends, you know, appreciate your honesty,

611
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 4: your confidence, the body shots, all that good stuff. But

612
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 4: I know the work police will sometimes, you know, come

613
00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 4: into the come into the Instagram. So can you talk

614
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 4: to us a little bit about why you believe the

615
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 4: world if you believe this doesn't like confident women, because

616
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 4: it sounds like there's like this agenda against free confident women.

617
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:14,800
Speaker 4: And then how can one fully start setting boundaries.

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Speaker 1: Simply put its shadow work. For a lot of times,

619
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Speaker 1: when others, specifically other women, are policing you, you're like,

620
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,360
Speaker 1: wait a second, it's not you holding up the patriarchy.

621
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:28,319
Speaker 4: Not you, because they.

622
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 1: Don't like you either. But a lot of times what

623
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 1: we don't like in other people is a version of

624
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: ourselves that we've disowned. And so it's not so much

625
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 1: that people are like, I hate you. What they're saying

626
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 1: is I hate that you express yourself in ways that

627
00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 1: I don't fersive, And so for me, it's a lot

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00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,279
Speaker 1: easier to not be upset with those women and to

629
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:56,440
Speaker 1: have compassion. Like then that's where in bothers you because

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00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 1: you wish you could to work, because if you had

631
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 1: to ask, you would do it. You got to ask

632
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:05,839
Speaker 1: what you can okay, because you're so afraid that society

633
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 1: wouldn't accept you as a free woman, that not only

634
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,840
Speaker 1: do you repress yourself, but you repress other people around.

635
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 1: Sometimes when you show up free and with joy no

636
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:20,839
Speaker 1: matter what you've been through, it challenges people, and in

637
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 1: their minds it invalidates their experience. They're like, I'm a

638
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:27,320
Speaker 1: divorce say, I'm a single mom, I can't be happy.

639
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:30,439
Speaker 1: And then I'm out here like I'm happy though. I'm

640
00:37:30,440 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: happy though, and they're like, damn that that does not

641
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 1: affirm what I believe to be true about the world.

642
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:42,879
Speaker 1: How fucking dare you challenge what I my self limiting beliefs.

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00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 1: So I think a lot of it is that. And again,

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00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 1: when you can think of it that way, or you

645
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 1: can look at it that way, I'm like, girl, you

646
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 1: hate you? Why would I hate you too? I'm a

647
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 1: block your ass though, well i'm blocking you gotta get

648
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:00,479
Speaker 1: from around her. But I'm sorry. I'm sorry you're lost.

649
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:01,720
Speaker 1: Loss of what? Loss of self?

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Speaker 4: That's powerful because boundaries like a motherfucker as you said, okay, And.

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Speaker 1: It depends on my mood. Sometimes I'm gonna move to

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Speaker 1: to play and they'll say things and I'll be like,

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Speaker 1: and I am like, no man will ever marry you.

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Speaker 1: I can assure you that it won't be you. What

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Speaker 1: are you gonna do?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: So it's it's it's them, It's the people can only

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Speaker 1: see what they see. Because my life is so good

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Speaker 1: and solt and so lovely, I don't notice anything anyone

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Speaker 1: else is doing unless it's something that brings me joy.

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Speaker 1: Like Terry's close friends I see all that al was

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Speaker 1: of it. I've been looking at my phone.

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Speaker 4: Like you can inspire some new posts.

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Speaker 1: Now, she'd be asked some good questions, I'd be like,

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Speaker 1: I'm a and I'm an answer. Meet king girl. We

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Speaker 1: can talk about it all day long.

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Speaker 4: You won't know. I love it. I love it so.

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Speaker 5: Personally.

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Speaker 8: You are.

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Speaker 5: Clearly exuding and embracing who you are, right right, And

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Speaker 5: like I said before, your energy is magnetic, and other

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Speaker 5: folks are. You know, we talked about those folks who

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Speaker 5: look at it and they're like, they're not there yet, right?

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Speaker 5: How do they get there? What is the work that

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Speaker 5: they need to do to embrace themselves?

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Speaker 1: You can't embrace yourself until you know who you are.

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Speaker 1: So there's this there's this idea of releasing the rules,

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Speaker 1: bullshit rules that society put on you to tell you

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Speaker 1: who you are, and started actually exploring that. You'd be

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Speaker 1: surprised how many people are are afraid of finding themselves,

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Speaker 1: afraid of figuring it out right, like going with the

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Speaker 1: levity and keeping up with clearly my obsession with serious

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Speaker 1: close friends. You know, every time, like every friend I

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Speaker 1: meet homegirl, potential romantic interest five seconds and I'm like, yo,

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Speaker 1: have you ever taken a media symptoms? I'm just curious,

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Speaker 1: what's your kid?

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Speaker 5: Are you?

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Speaker 1: Another Another one would be all I just want to know,

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Speaker 1: you know, And you'd be surprised how many times people

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Speaker 1: refuse to do that level of exploration because they're like,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to know. They'se say things like I

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Speaker 1: don't want to know if I like being choked or time.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, why wouldn't you want to know? Because we're

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Speaker 1: constantly judging our experiences, we're judging our thoughts, we're judging things,

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Speaker 1: and we're like and people are like, well, if i'm

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Speaker 1: this way, someone's not going to accept me. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no no, They'll never accept you because people only enjoy

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Speaker 1: it the real you, And until you find out who

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Speaker 1: the real you are is, you can't present that person.

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Speaker 1: And until you present that person, you will never be

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Speaker 1: affirmed that when you show up as yourself, people going

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Speaker 1: fuck with that. And so anytime I show up as

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Speaker 1: me and I accept me, and then I start to

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Speaker 1: notice that other people are gravitating towards that, that reminds

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Speaker 1: me and affirms me the importance of just showing up

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Speaker 1: as myself. Now, let me give you some courage for that,

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Speaker 1: because everybody wants to be super likable and you don't

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Speaker 1: want to be that. There are seven point nine eight

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Speaker 1: billion people in the world. If everyone liked you, you

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Speaker 1: would never get sleep, you would always be broke, you

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Speaker 1: would be torn and pulled in ten thousand different directions.

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Speaker 1: You don't need to be acceptable to everyone in the world.

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Speaker 1: You need to be honest about who you are so

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Speaker 1: that the right people will come. And that's what I

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Speaker 1: think about all the time when men are commenting and

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Speaker 1: they're like, no man will ever mirror you acting like that,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, that's crazy, because the man that I

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Speaker 1: have in mind that is going to love me is

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Speaker 1: going to make sure that my shoes match my pants,

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Speaker 1: is going to make sure that I got the best lighting.

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Speaker 1: It's going to keep my camera up, it's going to

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Speaker 1: be my hype man, is going to like the pictures,

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Speaker 1: it's going to share the pictures. I don't need every

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Speaker 1: man in the world to accept me. I need to

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Speaker 1: be authentic so I can find money. You don't need

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Speaker 1: every girl to be your friend. I got three type friends,

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Speaker 1: and I'll be overwhelmed when I'm trying to make a

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Speaker 1: mowing hell, I've been trying to get to y'all for

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Speaker 1: let's be honest, a year and a half because a

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Speaker 1: mitchbiat capacity and I am a highly polarized person. Either

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Speaker 1: you love me and you want to get to me,

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Speaker 1: or you're like, I can't wait for her to fall

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Speaker 1: off cliff notes, it ain't gonna happen. But you know,

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Speaker 1: so understand that is to do some self expiration. When

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Speaker 1: was the last time I felt like myself? So start

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Speaker 1: doing those activities. Start telling people what you want and

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Speaker 1: giving them the opportunity to tell you what they are,

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Speaker 1: holding space for someone else so they can There's nothing

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Speaker 1: more lonely than giving yourself away and being empty in

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Speaker 1: the woman.

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Speaker 4: So that's that's my recog girl, you preaching. It's just

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Speaker 4: so funny. I just want to say, really, put the

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Speaker 4: growing up in church and being you know, having so

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Speaker 4: much shame and not being comfortable with who I am.

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Speaker 4: I feel like, now you know, we're able to connect

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Speaker 4: with you. Like I think the old league was like

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Speaker 4: very fearful and would you know, shun confident women. It

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Speaker 4: would have been a trigger right to see someone that's

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Speaker 4: so bold and courageous and like wait because I'm not

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Speaker 4: doing that right, So I totally you're just so spot

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Speaker 4: on with everything you're saying I do. In closing, want

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Speaker 4: to ask you two questions that we have time. The

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Speaker 4: first one, can you talk about being an hr whole

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Speaker 4: and how you off board relationships? Because I heard that

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Speaker 4: in the interview and I said, oh, should be all

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Speaker 4: for you got to you gotta get people hit say.

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Speaker 1: Hr hold is a joke or kind of a name

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Speaker 1: that some of my friends have given me because you know,

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Speaker 1: you do three things and I'm like, for what I

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Speaker 1: know to be true about you, this relationship isn't working. However,

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Speaker 1: I would like to thank you for your efforts and

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Speaker 1: I wish you the best of theture endeavors. Today will

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Speaker 1: be the last day that you will speak to me.

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Speaker 1: I will not block you. You will welcome to continue to watch,

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Speaker 1: wishing you the best. Do not use me for efforts.

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Speaker 5: I'm selling that you need to sell that, you know,

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Speaker 5: I mean if people would benefit from being able to

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Speaker 5: word it exactly like that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 1: And when I'm when I'm witnessing and dating, like I

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Speaker 1: look for the threes, I'm not going to hold anything

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Speaker 1: against you. You got three opportunities. The first time, I'm

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Speaker 1: telling you call me. The second time, I'm reminding you

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Speaker 1: what I told you. The third time, if you get

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Speaker 1: in off for it, you want to just some person,

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Speaker 1: you want to do something, text okay, because I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: get my closure.

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Speaker 3: Ah.

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Speaker 4: We love that for you. We love that for you.

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Speaker 5: So those folks that are listening and they're like, I mean,

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Speaker 5: she's just dropping all the gyms right, And they're like,

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Speaker 5: all right, we got we got the yoga part down.

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Speaker 5: Mindset coaching, how do they And we know you're busy

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Speaker 5: and your time is valuable, So how can one connect

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Speaker 5: with you if they are like, yeah, I get I

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Speaker 5: need to get this confident mindset together.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So the beautiful thing and the interesting thing is

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Speaker 1: right now, I only coach through divine appointment. You guys

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Speaker 1: see my page and you see that I never advertise

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Speaker 1: my services.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I serve about one hundred and fifty women through my

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Speaker 1: coaching program every month. So it's really I don't know

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Speaker 1: how to say it. An you got to interact, engage.

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Speaker 1: You come to my page and I see you there,

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Speaker 1: and I see your appointments and things like that eventually

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Speaker 1: I will send you invitation and the first coaching call

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Speaker 1: is you want to get to know you. I am

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Speaker 1: really interested in other women in your stories. That literally

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Speaker 1: I will dedicate one hour, which is partly why I'm busy,

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Speaker 1: And in a one hour, I believe that you are aware,

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Speaker 1: you are ready. I will give you some free games

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Speaker 1: and coaching gyms like kind of what we dropped here,

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Speaker 1: maybe even tell them about a book and you can

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Speaker 1: go on and do it on your own. But if

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Speaker 1: their problem is something within my genius sown and something

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Speaker 1: that makes me excited to say it, to serve and support,

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Speaker 1: only then will I invite them into my world. And

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Speaker 1: in ninety days I will transform you. I say it.

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Speaker 1: I teach women how to become to starve their own show.

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Speaker 1: Too many of us keep playing sidewich and best supporting

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Speaker 1: actresses in our own movie. That's crazy. So I will

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Speaker 1: teach you how to be to starve your own show

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Speaker 1: through giving you all of the tools, accountability and support

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Speaker 1: to have UNU with you and so forth. So you

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Speaker 1: got to follow me and comment and from there be

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Speaker 1: patient and I'll get to there.

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Speaker 4: You haven't, ladies, That is so amazing. What a way

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Speaker 4: to build a brand and business doing what you absolutely

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Speaker 4: love to do and things that people probably wouldn't even

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Speaker 4: see the vision for, right, but you saw it, You're here,

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Speaker 4: you're doing it, and we appreciate too. So let's let

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Speaker 4: no please How they can I know you talked a

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Speaker 4: little bit about, you know, the services that you offer,

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Speaker 4: but where can they connect with you with your Instagram

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Speaker 4: handle all that good stuff so they can come and

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Speaker 4: support and divine me aligned for the session.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, so everywhere you can find me trap yoga Bay.

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Speaker 1: I have the trap yoga Bay app, which is my

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Speaker 1: online community where there were four thousand women. It's a

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Speaker 1: that's t r A P y O g A b

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Speaker 1: A E. You can also hit a website up track

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Speaker 1: yoga bay dot com. Like I always tell you, Google.

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Speaker 4: Baby, Google me boo Google. All right, Okay, thank you

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Speaker 4: so much, forty having me what be like?

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Speaker 1: Weekly after show and before we meet again, repete after me.

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Speaker 1: Just because I can do it all doesn't mean I

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Speaker 1: have to do it all