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Speaker 1: new dating trend known as spider webbing. So, according to

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Speaker 1: dating experts, spider webbing involves being trapped in unstable romances

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Speaker 1: love bombing and gas lighting, spider webbing also has elements

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Speaker 1: of breadcrumbing. That's a lot going, love bombing gas lights?

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Speaker 1: What's love bombing? You just tell someone you love them

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Speaker 2: It's like at the beginning, you're really hot and heavy,

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Speaker 3: You pull back.

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Speaker 2: It's like the first two weeks you're like like planning

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Speaker 4: Out of that.

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Speaker 1: But what if you really are compelled. I mean maybe

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Speaker 3: On, much like love bombing is too much.

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Speaker 2: Even if you're compelling, you would never be like I

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Speaker 4: When are you allowed to say that?

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Speaker 3: You mean it?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, love bombing you don't mean it. You're just saying

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Speaker 1: So you just throw You're just trying to get them

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Speaker 3: You want from them in leaf.

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Speaker 4: Oh wow, that's terrible.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah kidding, I don't know what should do them?

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Speaker 4: Gas Lighting? Oh yeah, how would you find gas lighting?

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Speaker 2: Gaslighting is when somebody does an action and then they

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Speaker 6: Okay, and spider webbing, which I never knew a gaslight animal.

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Speaker 6: Oh I'm good. Yeah, people use it all the time.

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Speaker 6: I'm like, I don't know, y, yeah, it is.

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Speaker 2: It's kind of annoying, but it's like making someone feel

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Speaker 3: You're not blaming yourself for what you did.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, I know that one. Kidneys not liver.

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Speaker 1: By the way, the anti freeze it crystallizes your kidneys.

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Speaker 1: A medical student just texted us. You know, that was

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Speaker 1: a very valuable text.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 6: Christane's new show is called Takedown.

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Speaker 3: Spin off, Like what do they do when they go home?

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Speaker 1: You know, it's like, I don't know, the the SWAT

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Speaker 7: Then the thing is I went to IMDb to find

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Speaker 7: it and it lists like the Predators. It's like Predators

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Speaker 6: I'm like, whoa, no, Chris Hansen, and then Predators.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, yo, so I guess.

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Speaker 1: Along with love bombing and gas letting, spider webbing also

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Speaker 1: has elements of bread crumbing, which is when one person

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Speaker 1: therapy baiting. These a lot of a lot of terms,

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Speaker 2: So if your girls, like you know, my therapists to

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Speaker 1: Spider Webbing also involves using therapy speak. They may blame

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Speaker 8: what happens in an intervention if you say, hey, you

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Speaker 4: It's so interesting.

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Speaker 8: It's not a good tactic. But sometimes it gets to

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Speaker 8: you're in danger, girl, You know you want to tell like, right,

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Speaker 9: So I was definitely channeling my big tim Rufio energy

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Speaker 3: It's the people who eat online and other people's.

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Speaker 10: Yes, I'll make love to you. Oh yeah, this classic

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Speaker 1: If that song comes on, I'm switching into something else.

439
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Speaker 1: If I'm in the act of yours, I'll make love

440
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Speaker 1: to you.

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Speaker 5: No.

442
00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:27,800
Speaker 1: Write for John right for John b Honest to God,

443
00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:30,760
Speaker 1: here's a fun fact for you. I don't know that

444
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Speaker 1: I've ever made love.

445
00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:32,280
Speaker 10: I don't know.

446
00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:33,800
Speaker 4: I'm serious.

447
00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:34,760
Speaker 3: That is sad.

448
00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:37,160
Speaker 1: What we got.

449
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Speaker 3: You got to make love?

450
00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:43,720
Speaker 4: Just follow the directions right there.

451
00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:44,680
Speaker 1: It's that easy.

452
00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:54,760
Speaker 3: It's just slow. It's too much time.

453
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Speaker 4: I don't the wine you gotta make.

454
00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:15,720
Speaker 1: Look, I wouldn't that. Yeah, let me add that. You know, yes, Kiki,

455
00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:17,640
Speaker 1: thank you. I look forward to that day.

456
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Speaker 6: Throw your clothes on the floor.

457
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Speaker 3: Clothes. They missed that part in the song.

458
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Speaker 4: I mean it does all those things separately. It's not

459
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Speaker 4: only once.

460
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Speaker 10: You know what I mean.

461
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:28,520
Speaker 4: Anyway, make loast.

462
00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,440
Speaker 3: Don't you think I know that somebody make love?

463
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Speaker 1: Honestly? You a lion, a s a p if you would. Okay, Abby,

464
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Speaker 1: So I'm sorry about that little sidetrack. So you didn't

465
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Speaker 1: get that point. But the next song, in honor of

466
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Speaker 1: the day and in honor of the seasons changing, what

467
00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:57,199
Speaker 1: all I want for Christmas is you.

468
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Speaker 4: Carry you. You think Kiki will get this right or wrong?

469
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Speaker 3: I think she will.

470
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 4: I mean, Abby, all I want for Christmas is yes, girl,

471
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:11,040
Speaker 4: I mean guys, when you like it or not, it's

472
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Speaker 4: the time year. Yeah, Christmas, get a girl.

473
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 3: It's just one thing.

474
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Speaker 8: I need.

475
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Speaker 6: I don't care for.

476
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Speaker 4: Coming out there.

477
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Speaker 3: That you whatever, No, make my wish come true. Oh, Marianna.

478
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Speaker 4: Christmas, that's.

479
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Speaker 1: We're gonna give you your She should have put that

480
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Speaker 1: in there, although I should get a nice.

481
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Speaker 5: Jobs contry which on Christmas?

482
00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:02,800
Speaker 3: Trees up?

483
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:03,520
Speaker 5: It's time.

484
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Speaker 10: You re.

485
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Speaker 8: You?

486
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Speaker 1: But what a key.

487
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:22,360
Speaker 4: Nobody needs to pump.

488
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Speaker 10: Up to.

489
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Speaker 3: Christmas. There is just one thing, honey, present prices tree.

490
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Speaker 5: I can't always had about a part.

491
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to like the fris where it is Jesus.

492
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 3: And we had kynchronized and.

493
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:56,400
Speaker 2: Make it cry.

494
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Speaker 4: Well, you need to make love, fred, I mean I've

495
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 4: never made a lot.

496
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 1: And then and then her and her response is her

497
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,239
Speaker 1: suggestion is, well, then you should go make love now?

498
00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 4: Well, thank you? Do you think I don't know that?

499
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:16,120
Speaker 3: Did you bring Condle?

500
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Speaker 5: Now?

501
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:21,720
Speaker 4: I know? An emergency session?

502
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 3: Oh my god?

503
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:25,920
Speaker 1: Alright? And then finally an artist that you love so much?

504
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:30,080
Speaker 1: Oh yes, please and a current song on the radio station.

505
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 1: I got three for three Miley Cyrus used to be young.

506
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:41,640
Speaker 1: Oh you know, do you think she'll get this right

507
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 1: or wrong?

508
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 4: Abby?

509
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 8: Judging by her response, think no, But I'm gonna say yes.

510
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:51,320
Speaker 3: I want her to be three for three.

511
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 4: Okay, I mean that's that's very supportive. We have to

512
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Speaker 4: hear this for a minute.

513
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Speaker 3: Come up, know where we're going.

514
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 4: Chi ran out after Halloween whatever he used to go

515
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 4: to the stores. Friend should fall in love. Ridiculous.

516
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:17,399
Speaker 6: You gotta make love this bullet, Bruce. Okay, it's not

517
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:18,159
Speaker 6: fooling you.

518
00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 3: I don't just the same, okay, Okay.

519
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 6: And Jason I was yesterday, have gone off separately.

520
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 1: All yes, all right.

521
00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:31,680
Speaker 5: I went to the stove yesterday and I got me

522
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 5: chicken nuggets and I was in the car next to

523
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Speaker 5: Jason and he was banging that make to the stove,

524
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Speaker 5: open the door. Fred wasn't that when.

525
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Speaker 3: A lady, but he said he could and make love.

526
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:57,840
Speaker 5: We gotta fix that problem, somebody called up here.

527
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:03,640
Speaker 3: We gotta get my guy to make some love this year,

528
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:09,880
Speaker 3: to ye give to this year.

529
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Speaker 1: You're telling me to make love. Kiking is like you

530
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 1: saying you should get a million dollars. You should just

531
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:20,880
Speaker 1: get in great that easy. You should make love, Fred,

532
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 1: you you should, you should. You should go dig up

533
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Speaker 1: oil right now.

534
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 3: Got thirty days to make it. And I'm gonna care.

535
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,320
Speaker 3: I'm gonna pig I'm gonna figure it out when it happens.

536
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 1: I have a one hundred percent certainty of that not happening,

537
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 1: so I can. I would bet against that any day.

538
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 1: But you need to make love. Yeah, you need to

539
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:42,440
Speaker 1: retire a millionaire.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Thanks you the excellent advice. Appreciate that. Really helpful. Abby.

542
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Speaker 4: Hang on a second, you win, nobody loses. You win. Okay,

543
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:52,200
Speaker 4: you stay right there.

544
00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: What I am saying, put it on, close your eyes

545
00:26:59,320 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 2: and make a way.

546
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna light the fire girls. Yeah, I'm gonna go

547
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:07,640
Speaker 1: get a fireplace first.

548
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:13,880
Speaker 3: Brandon Abbey thirty days thirty.

549
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 4: Giving me anxiety? Right, and I just really can't.

550
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 1: I love you so much. I can't possibly communicate the

551
00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:26,360
Speaker 1: love I have for you. You should don't make love?

552
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 3: Yes, okay, it's put the end of the year.

553
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm all over there, don't worry. All over at

554
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Speaker 1: the Entertainer of Coort fun fact, trending stories all Next.

555
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Speaker 1: Fred Show, You've.

556
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Speaker 3: Got to wait, Breads Show is on, Wait, Money showing.

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Speaker 1: Way, Good morning everybody. It's Wednesday, November first. The Fred

558
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Speaker 1: Show is on. Hello There, Kaylin, Hello there, hither Jason Brown, Hi, Hi, Rufio, Hello, Hi, Paulina.

559
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Speaker 6: Hiki good Morningbi.

560
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 4: Shelley's here in turn bent mean not Benjamin.

561
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:05,199
Speaker 1: Oh, shout out to our friend Lisa Brookfield Zoo by

562
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:11,719
Speaker 1: the way, Chicago or Brookfield. Technically, I'm making dreams come

563
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 1: true for some friends of mine. They want to meet penguins.

564
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:18,800
Speaker 1: They got penguins there, and I guess you can meet them,

565
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: or I can meet I don't know who gets to

566
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 1: meet them. People can meet the penguins. They listened to

567
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:25,920
Speaker 1: us on the iHeart app. I don't know the penguins,

568
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 1: I guess I actually I actually just made that part up.

569
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:32,440
Speaker 1: But they should if they don't, they put their tuxedos

570
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 1: on and they But anyway, Brookfield Zoo. Everyone shout out Lisa,

571
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Speaker 1: very generous person, but ask offering forever. So this is

572
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Speaker 1: from my friends. But then we've been invited also to

573
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Speaker 1: go as a team for a private penguin experience.

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Speaker 7: Oh.

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Speaker 1: I realized that this has been on the table for

576
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Speaker 1: a while, and you know how impossible it is to

577
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Speaker 1: get this group of people to do anything.

578
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 4: Maybe if penguins are involved.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, because I guess ching gonna say no talent fee, dude.

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Speaker 4: I love Brookfield Zoo. I was just there for Boo

581
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 4: with a zoo. No talent fee for that, bro.

582
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 1: And you can't you we can't even get you to

583
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Speaker 1: commit to me chopping up stuff at uh talking about

584
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 1: we're waiting on you, but no, no, that is we

585
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 1: are never waiting on me. When's the last time we

586
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 1: brought that up?

587
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 4: Like we were waiting to.

588
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 1: Say, we brought it up, came one, gave fourteen thousand dates,

589
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: these dates already I.

590
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Speaker 3: Thought we did. Man, where's your magic lesson?

591
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Speaker 1: And it's just there's a lot's scheduling this group of

592
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 1: people to do stuff is very difficult, I will say that.

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Speaker 1: But we're gonna make it Happen're gonna meet the penguins,

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Speaker 1: a Brickdfield Zo, We're gonna meet Lisa. Yes, but yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was a I have to be honest, that was

596
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Speaker 1: a pretty big flex. When I was like somebody was

597
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Speaker 1: like my friend, oh, my parents are gonna be town.

598
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 1: They love she loves penguins. I'm like, well, I know

599
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Speaker 1: some and I think they may make time for you.

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Speaker 6: And I was able to do that, so, you know,

601
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Speaker 6: says the potential make love to somebody. But I mean, look,

602
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Speaker 6: I got my picture of the Portillo's. I mean, if

603
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Speaker 6: that wasn't a big enough honor. Got my picture of

604
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Speaker 6: a lascarola. That wasn't a big enough Let me just

605
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Speaker 6: flex for a minute.

606
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Speaker 4: It's Harry Carrey's.

607
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Speaker 6: You're up at Harry Carrey's.

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Speaker 4: He is yep.

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Speaker 6: I think over the year and old Harry carry No. No,

610
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Speaker 6: I saw it on my wedding day when we ate

611
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Speaker 6: there before the wedding.

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Speaker 1: I will tell you thirteen years ago when I when

613
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Speaker 1: they put that up. When I left, I was in

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Speaker 1: the front hallway when I left the restaurant, I was

615
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Speaker 1: next to Harry Carrey.

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Speaker 4: Stant you. I've been moved since then. You're in the bar.

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Speaker 4: It was further away.

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Speaker 6: It was in the bar seven ye, Jason, I just

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Speaker 6: did we see it?

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Speaker 3: I didn't see you.

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Speaker 4: No, you can pet the penguins. Yeah, you go in

622
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Speaker 4: the room.

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Speaker 7: You go in the room, and the funny thing is

624
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Speaker 7: like everyone else gets to watch while you're in this room.

625
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 6: Like really, so you're in the special room and people

626
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Speaker 6: are watching pet penguins.

627
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Speaker 4: The greatest thing you met a penguin was his name.

628
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Speaker 3: I don't remember his name.

629
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Speaker 2: But my sister was really into happy feet, so we

630
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Speaker 2: took her to meet a penguin and they were very nice.

631
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Speaker 3: You know, someone proposed that way and I thought it

632
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Speaker 3: was he was saying.

633
00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 2: After when they had the penguin break the ring, what okay,

634
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 2: rights to.

635
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Speaker 3: Make love stuff?

636
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, that is to make love stuff.

637
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:08,520
Speaker 3: It's time.

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00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 8: Right.

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00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,959
Speaker 4: Well, they wanted to make the thirty Day Make Love Challenge.

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00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 4: Good luck me,