Speaker 1: Then this is your girl from Exactly a Mana, a
Speaker 1: production of My Heart Radio, and today's topic is building
Speaker 1: a life with your significant other before marriage? Okay, um,
Speaker 1: how does that work? Going on? Basically, what is it
Speaker 1: that you're supposed to know about your significant other before
Speaker 1: you guys moving like or don't even just move in,
Speaker 1: but before you guys decide to get married? What steps
Speaker 1: should you take? What you do you know? What are
Speaker 1: the habits? Do you not live together? Should you live together?
Speaker 1: Who pays the bills? Who doesn't pay the bills? Who? Man?
Speaker 1: Who do you like buying new furniture, leaving the furniture?
Speaker 1: Do you move into her house or do you move
Speaker 1: into his house? Like? Who splits? What? All those details
Speaker 1: that that's what we want to know today. Stevie. First
Speaker 1: of all, Stevie my amazing co host. Okay, I love
Speaker 1: him so much because he always keeps it real and
Speaker 1: he says exactly on his mind. And I now he's
Speaker 1: lived in the past through some of this bullshit, so
Speaker 1: very great. Thank you for asking. I do put the
Speaker 1: exactly in Exactly a Mada. Now what do you do
Speaker 1: before marriage? Um? So I have a very interesting story
Speaker 1: that we will get into definitely. Um, I was taught
Speaker 1: that you shouldn't live together before marriage, but I do
Speaker 1: find that there are some roads when it comes to that,
Speaker 1: because like when you find out that he definitely doesn't
Speaker 1: put the seat down in the toilet, Um, he definitely
Speaker 1: does his underwear everywhere, or she leaves her banties everywhere
Speaker 1: or absolutely so there is a lot. I did you
Speaker 1: know I am married? For those that don't know, surprise, surprise,
Speaker 1: I am married. And before marriage, um I was. We
Speaker 1: met in church, so it's interesting we couldn't shock and
Speaker 1: live together before marriage and we kind of sacrifice that shocking.
Speaker 1: One would say it was because I wasn't attracted to
Speaker 1: a woman. That's why it was easy for me. That's
Speaker 1: so Um, it's absolutely positive. It was a great thing
Speaker 1: for me. I got blessed when I got married. But
Speaker 1: we will get more into that topic. Let's go right.
Speaker 1: We always some interesting topics and look, I'm not even
Speaker 1: telling you too much, but I'm gonna give a little
Speaker 1: teaser and then I'm gonna break it down because I've
Speaker 1: been there. Like part of the conversations that we want
Speaker 1: to know today is who moves in first? Do you
Speaker 1: move into his house. Do you move into her house?
Speaker 1: How does this work? All I'm gonna say is, ladies,
Speaker 1: listen to me and let me be your friend and
Speaker 1: let me give you a tip. Okay, if you like
Speaker 1: a guy and you know you guys are thinking of
Speaker 1: moving forward in your relationship or whatever, unless he tells you, baby,
Speaker 1: I want you to move in with me. Stop being
Speaker 1: that girl that takes a little lugge and the headica.
Speaker 1: You left the truth brush and the headicake, and you
Speaker 1: left a pair of you without him asking you to
Speaker 1: do that because or pampang, get the funk up out
Speaker 1: of my house. And don't say where you're gonna be stuck,
Speaker 1: and don't say, as a lady, been there, done that nobody.
Speaker 1: If you guys, if you want to move in, we
Speaker 1: can buy something together. We can rent a department a K.
Speaker 1: I personally am not in renting spaces anymore. We're gonna buy,
Speaker 1: We're gonna save, and we're gonna buy, even if it's
Speaker 1: a little tiny as department any We're gonna buy something
Speaker 1: together and we're gonna moving together. But also think don't
Speaker 1: need to get my little log into my little mille.
Speaker 1: I think we're not doing that you move in with me. Anyways,
Speaker 1: let's get to it. So one of those some of
Speaker 1: the size that your significant other is taking over your
Speaker 1: living space, Buena, I think it starts with um when
Speaker 1: you don't take your ass home. I know, listen, I
Speaker 1: know that if you like some and you may want
Speaker 1: to sleep over, that's cool. But I think it has
Speaker 1: to be a mutual agreement. It has to be a like, oh, baby,
Speaker 1: you know that. Listen. If you want, if you want,
Speaker 1: you can have if you want. If you want, I
Speaker 1: can stay over tonight, you know, or if you want, baby,
Speaker 1: you can stay over, you know, at my place. And
Speaker 1: if you want, don't be staying over your man's house
Speaker 1: unless he asked you to, because out of courtesy, he's
Speaker 1: gonna tell you to stay, but he may not even
Speaker 1: want you to stay. And I think that that's how
Speaker 1: it starts. The invasion of privacy. Uh the I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna leave one luggage here, I'm just liveing Burtko here.
Speaker 1: Next thing, you know, you moved in your whole apartment,
Speaker 1: your whole house, your whole closet into my house. I
Speaker 1: think that communication is key. Stevie, how soon is it
Speaker 1: too soon to start living and moving in with your
Speaker 1: significant other? How soon is it too soon to move
Speaker 1: in with your significant another? I don't know, Stevie. Whenn't
Speaker 1: you move in with your wife? No? Well absolutely, I
Speaker 1: do feel that in a lot of relationships, um, people
Speaker 1: become very attached and they want to move in so soon.
Speaker 1: They're not even man married, they don't even know each other.
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel moving with each other can damage
Speaker 1: your relationship. If you move into soon too soon could
Speaker 1: damage your relationship because I didn't I don't know who
Speaker 1: you are and who I am at home is definitely
Speaker 1: different from who I am outside. Um, when I when
Speaker 1: I But you didn't say it. Okay, So you just
Speaker 1: said that you don't think you think the moving in
Speaker 1: too soon can damnage a relationship? Okay? Cool? So when
Speaker 1: should you move in? I think you gotta get when
Speaker 1: you're married, when you're committed, or a little you move
Speaker 1: in when you're married. Well, let me let me just say,
Speaker 1: let me just say in a perfect world, but I
Speaker 1: do believe that maybe and you know, do you agree
Speaker 1: going to exactly a matta and definitely leave us comments
Speaker 1: and d m us. I agree that maybe you should
Speaker 1: before you're married, get to know each other a little bit,
Speaker 1: and how you guys live together, because then if you're
Speaker 1: married and you didn't really know, how would be when
Speaker 1: you guys are together under the same roof, under one roof,
Speaker 1: then maybe I, you know, that's not the way Stevie
Speaker 1: did it, because I did say I was gonna tell
Speaker 1: you the story I didn't get I didn't get into
Speaker 1: a place with my wife until I got married. The
Speaker 1: night of the wedding, that's beautiful. The night of the
Speaker 1: wedding is when we moved into our apartment. Thank you lord.
Speaker 1: It was good. I thought that was good. Everything was okay.
Speaker 1: But how how long were you guys dating? How long
Speaker 1: were you guys dating before you got married? We were
Speaker 1: three years? Okay, three years? So for three years she
Speaker 1: slept in her house and you stepped in your house,
Speaker 1: and we want to married. You guys decided to moving right,
Speaker 1: we had just you know, and in our culture, we're
Speaker 1: kind of pressured to kind of get married at an
Speaker 1: early age, especially if you're religious whatever, Catonico, whatever you are.
Speaker 1: They try to push it on you. And um, you
Speaker 1: know that is better to marry than to burn, right,
Speaker 1: That's what you hear a lot of in the churches,
Speaker 1: and um, luckily we got to grow and love each other.
Speaker 1: Remember my situation at hand. I also didn't just a
Speaker 1: love woman. I love men as well. So I'm so
Speaker 1: happy that my wife kind of turned into she man because, um,
Speaker 1: she kind of does some great things that we learned
Speaker 1: each other. You learn each other and you learn to
Speaker 1: love each other, and that takes time. So I do
Speaker 1: believe that if you do want to go into an
Speaker 1: apartment together a little bit prior to your wedding a
Speaker 1: mom for two before your wedding, that's a month before
Speaker 1: your wedding, there is no fucking wedding if we don't
Speaker 1: move in together. I don't care what you're telling me.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. Here we go. I want
Speaker 1: to know if you leave the toilet seat up. I
Speaker 1: want to know if you know how to cook. I
Speaker 1: want to know if I'm sick, are you gonna hold
Speaker 1: me down? No thing? Okay, I'm in my house and
Speaker 1: urine no, no. I want to know all your bad habits.
Speaker 1: I want to know your temper. I want to know
Speaker 1: what I want to know that was a commercial break anyways,
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. I want to know all
Speaker 1: those details. And I think that there's two things. There's
Speaker 1: a magical feeling of waiting to marriage, to live with
Speaker 1: that significant other. One there is two. I think that
Speaker 1: once you get married to someone, you've officially committed to
Speaker 1: spending the rest of your life with this person, and
Speaker 1: we don't see that too once in these generations. I
Speaker 1: feel that people have this this stigma, this brainwash mentality,
Speaker 1: this Disney mindset that you know, when you get married,
Speaker 1: it's supposed to be like, you know, happily. Ever after,
Speaker 1: no Mamo, You're gonna struggle, You're gonna cry, he's probably
Speaker 1: gonna cheat or she's gonna cheat. You're gonna feel insecure.
Speaker 1: Y'all's gonna fight, y'all's gonna love each other. You're gonna
Speaker 1: go through ups and down and you don't still have
Speaker 1: to hold each other down. That's how those long marriages
Speaker 1: used to work back in the days. These days, we
Speaker 1: don't want to commit. We are stressed out, and the
Speaker 1: first thing we want to do we're getting a divorce.
Speaker 1: That's it is over. I'm gonna go on to in there,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go on a dating apple, I'm gonna find
Speaker 1: somebody else. I'm gonna go on Instagram and no, you're
Speaker 1: supposed to stay. We're gonna fight. We decided, out of
Speaker 1: the seven billion human beings on this planet, you and
Speaker 1: I are gonna thug this out together. So we don't
Speaker 1: see that anymore. And those says I would say, I
Speaker 1: want to live with you first. I want to know
Speaker 1: all your bad habits. I want to know because we're
Speaker 1: not gonna say and you over here. And everything changes
Speaker 1: once you, guys moving together, that's really when you start
Speaker 1: to get to know who you're with, Like the living situation.
Speaker 1: So if we can't get along living together, how are
Speaker 1: we gonna get married? And those of the kid later
Speaker 1: and we're gonna get well, it's possible. That's how they
Speaker 1: used to do it back in the days. I don't
Speaker 1: know if between one thing and the other. These topics
Speaker 1: could go on and on and by the way, guys,
Speaker 1: let us know how you feel about all these topics
Speaker 1: that we're talking about today on exactly a mad on
Speaker 1: Instagram and Twitter. Let me know, have you ever been
Speaker 1: struggling or going through a situation like this? Here's another one.
Speaker 1: Do you meet the family before moving in with someone
Speaker 1: with that person or or like, how does this work
Speaker 1: the family, because let me tell you, families can ruin relationships.
Speaker 1: And honestly, I think God that I got along with
Speaker 1: my father in law. But the day that I said
Speaker 1: I do, it kind of change things up with us,
Speaker 1: you know. But it becomes real. It becomes real. So
Speaker 1: you don't want to go into a marriage without knowing
Speaker 1: who the family or what you're getting into. That's why
Speaker 1: it is very important that you know. Even the old
Speaker 1: saying of going to be the lilamano, you know, it's
Speaker 1: very important. If you're a man, people don't do that anymore.
Speaker 1: If you're a man, you should. I always say keeping class.
Speaker 1: You've got to show some type of class because one,
Speaker 1: you know, impression is everything. And if you you know,
Speaker 1: if you're looking like you're well put together, the family
Speaker 1: is gonna love you. The family is going to accept you.
Speaker 1: But if you're coming in like yeo, yeah yo, I
Speaker 1: want your daughter? Whatou dope? Like that? You know, I understand,
Speaker 1: And it's very true. And the family doesn't work with you,
Speaker 1: and the family doesn't buy with you. It depends the
Speaker 1: family relationship, but it will it will, you know, destroy
Speaker 1: the relationship a little bit. For example, my mom is
Speaker 1: one of those and I'm open about it and I've
Speaker 1: been honest my mom. I don't want to say she's destroyed,
Speaker 1: but my mom has definitely been a big factor of
Speaker 1: a lot of my relationships that haven't worked out because
Speaker 1: she's going to make sure every day to be like
Speaker 1: you see, I told you he's trash and even if
Speaker 1: your mind is not there, they start to kind of
Speaker 1: brainwash you. So I would definitely say, um, definitely meet
Speaker 1: the family. Try to have the best relationship you can
Speaker 1: have with the family. At the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you also need to understand you guys chose to be
Speaker 1: with each other. Yes, the family is part of that
Speaker 1: significant other, but you guys have to make your own destiny.
Speaker 1: Do we live for a family or do we live
Speaker 1: for each other? This is a very interesting topic because
Speaker 1: it's a red flag when a man is not trying
Speaker 1: to meet your family. You know, it's a red flag,
Speaker 1: and that could become a domestic later down the road. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: because why wouldn't you want to be a part I
Speaker 1: would love to be a part of my significant others families.
Speaker 1: See how their mother are, their father are that's you know,
Speaker 1: and really, like you said, it depends on the dynamic
Speaker 1: of the family. But really vibing out is very important
Speaker 1: when you bring a man to your family, make sure
Speaker 1: that he he kind of fits in a little bit,
Speaker 1: you know, and it or that he's trying at least,
Speaker 1: because that shows, that shows within a couple of minutes.
Speaker 1: So I honestly believe to help you out a little bit,
Speaker 1: I believe that you should have someone that could vibe,
Speaker 1: because it would be nice family parties. They vibe I
Speaker 1: mean in the Dominican culture and Puerto Rican culture and
Speaker 1: you know, I know they you know that dances with
Speaker 1: the mother and nice. I know, it's so beautiful to see,
Speaker 1: you know, your boyfriend, your girlfriend like taking out your
Speaker 1: mother in law, your father in law to dance, come out,
Speaker 1: listen and there's a connection. So find what you can
Speaker 1: bring to the table to the family as well, and
Speaker 1: you know, and most importantly loved. I think that's very
Speaker 1: important that would help you in a relationship. You have
Speaker 1: to remember me that things have If you feel that
Speaker 1: you have it hard these days, listen, people back in
Speaker 1: the days had to give a cow and achieved and sacrifice.
Speaker 1: I say it, you have it easy. But I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say one last thing, before I moved to the next
Speaker 1: the next topic that ever you want to hear, because
Speaker 1: I have ad like this is a very interesting conversation
Speaker 1: to me, but an older guy was gonna say, is
Speaker 1: going back to the family. Also, make sure that's been
Speaker 1: my mistake number a thousand, because my mom is my
Speaker 1: best friend and my circle is so small, and I
Speaker 1: barely talked to anybody, honestly, Yes, shout out to mommy Anna. Um,
Speaker 1: whenever you have any inconvenience problems, whatever issues you may
Speaker 1: have with your significant other, don't go sharing it to
Speaker 1: your sister, straight to your brother, to your cousin, to
Speaker 1: your mama, to your daddy. Yes that you should. Don't
Speaker 1: be that social media bitch that every time you have
Speaker 1: an issue with your man or you guys quote and
Speaker 1: they're gonna start de leading pictures. And now everybody knows
Speaker 1: because I didn't say nothing. Yeah, you didn't have to.
Speaker 1: You posted a whole bunch of quotes you deleted on
Speaker 1: my pictures, and now everybody knows that you and I
Speaker 1: are going through it, so that to three days later
Speaker 1: we're back together. So going back to the family, if
Speaker 1: you share a lot of your personal issues with your
Speaker 1: closest family members don't feel upset it. Later on they
Speaker 1: started to look at your significant other with an attitude
Speaker 1: or have an issue because that has to be between y'all,
Speaker 1: Like stop sharing that ship if you if you share
Speaker 1: that then you can be upset. And later on your
Speaker 1: family doesn't want to accept that person because it could
Speaker 1: have been the smallest little thing you were piste off.
Speaker 1: You turn it into a big deal. Now your whole
Speaker 1: family doesn't want to know about him or her, And
Speaker 1: now you guys love each other, want to be with
Speaker 1: each other. So anyways, we will be right back with
Speaker 1: more of exactly a mata. And we're back with more
Speaker 1: of exactly a matta. No, that is a great that's
Speaker 1: a great time. That is a great point because and
Speaker 1: the little thing and then your mom is like you
Speaker 1: already put a bad taste in her mouth. And speaking
Speaker 1: of once you move in, how do you decide who
Speaker 1: pays what bills? I? I can you pay my bills?
Speaker 1: Can you pay him a telephone bill? Um? Who pays
Speaker 1: the bills? Meta? Back in the days, man used to
Speaker 1: pay the bills. We used to take care of the children.
Speaker 1: Make sure that that the dinner is on the table,
Speaker 1: and the total is good every night. However, things have changed.
Speaker 1: Women were independent, were all equality, la la what or whatever?
Speaker 1: Now we both work. A lot of women make more
Speaker 1: money than men. A lot of men make more well, yeah,
Speaker 1: they've always made more money than women. But anyways, the
Speaker 1: point is that, um, I think that you need to
Speaker 1: have a conversation and I'm gonna say, I'm gonna say why.
Speaker 1: Usually the answer would be men have to pay and
Speaker 1: we pay less. Battom. I do understand how these days
Speaker 1: there's a lot of women that are financially more stable
Speaker 1: than men. And I don't think that you should just
Speaker 1: marry for money. That's just me because I've known a
Speaker 1: lot of women that have married rich men. And rich
Speaker 1: men comes along, pandemic, comes, an accident, comes, health issue, comes,
Speaker 1: anything can come. The money has gone. What happens now,
Speaker 1: so that you really love this person and you were
Speaker 1: willing to rock with them for for a long time
Speaker 1: or forever, or you were just there for the money,
Speaker 1: and then you put in jeopardy your children's your your
Speaker 1: children's stability. I hope your own mental health is just
Speaker 1: too much. I feel that if you're with someone and
Speaker 1: you make more money than they do whoever it may be,
Speaker 1: whether it's her or him, you both need to sit
Speaker 1: down and have a discussion. Met that baby, I make danto,
Speaker 1: You make danto. The rent, that this, that, this, that
Speaker 1: comes out to dollars a month like my bills, damn um.
Speaker 1: And I'll do it all by myself. It comes to dollars.
Speaker 1: And don't say because I make more, I'm gonna pay
Speaker 1: by man. See I'm gonna paid twelve. Now you gotta
Speaker 1: figure out the other part, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I feel like you can. You can talk it out
Speaker 1: and figure out a way that you both are kind
Speaker 1: of you know, even if you're looking for a partner. Now,
Speaker 1: if you're looking for a sugar mom or sugar that
Speaker 1: into you don't pay nothing. You know you don't, you
Speaker 1: don't do nothing. I don't think that's fair. If your look,
Speaker 1: if you're in love, if you're looking to build with
Speaker 1: someone and you really funk with them and really rocking
Speaker 1: with them, I don't think it should all be one sided.
Speaker 1: I I personally don't beat old Babby if you want
Speaker 1: to pay all my bills and yeah you're not not
Speaker 1: don't get that key. Yeah, I haven't even leave it.
Speaker 1: Let it be what it is. I'm not gonna be mad.
Speaker 1: If you want to pay it, I'm not gonna You'll
Speaker 1: start buying and replay seeing furniture to better your living conditions.
Speaker 1: What it depends who's moving. It depends who's moving into
Speaker 1: whose house, or who's moving into what You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. If your furniture looks a little raggedy, boy,
Speaker 1: the heyn blow and we want together And your spot
Speaker 1: looks a little raggedy, and I know I could hook
Speaker 1: it up a little bit. We'll modify some things now.
Speaker 1: If we are really committed, committed to being together, I
Speaker 1: wanta tell you something that I would definitely want to do.
Speaker 1: And it's gonna sound little crunchy. Don't judge me. We're
Speaker 1: gonna change his damn mattress. Mete out. Anyways, Here goes
Speaker 1: another good question. Here goes another another good question. How
Speaker 1: does the how does the other person having children affect
Speaker 1: the process of like having a sleepover or if you
Speaker 1: guys want to move in together, whatever? If that person
Speaker 1: already has kids better and you you guys want to
Speaker 1: move in together, how does that work? I for you?
Speaker 1: You know the bad them? First of all, I pound
Speaker 1: being married with my husband, and when we get married,
Speaker 1: that's it. Like there's no divorces. I don't care if
Speaker 1: you can't stand me. If I can't stand you, were
Speaker 1: gonna live in the same house in separate rooms, and
Speaker 1: we're stuck with each other. However, if I already have
Speaker 1: to have already have children, my children need to like
Speaker 1: you first. I need to have a conversation with my
Speaker 1: children first, because I believe that you have to be
Speaker 1: a mother first and woman secondly. So first, if you're
Speaker 1: gonna bring a stranger into your home, we're gonna have
Speaker 1: a conversation. Listen, Mommy is in love with this person
Speaker 1: or meeting someone new, I would like for you to
Speaker 1: get to know them first. We're gonna hang out a
Speaker 1: couple of times. Let me know the vibe, let me
Speaker 1: know what you like, what you don't like. How do
Speaker 1: you feel? Do you feel comfortable with you? Does he
Speaker 1: look at too funny, especially if you have little girls
Speaker 1: or little boys? Does he look at you funny? Does
Speaker 1: he make you feel you know? On look? I said,
Speaker 1: I talked to me. Let me know, and if so
Speaker 1: and my children agree, then yes, you can move into
Speaker 1: our household or whatever. But I would never put my
Speaker 1: children in a space where they're uncomfortable because I want
Speaker 1: to you know, they can satisfy myself. No, don't. They
Speaker 1: are children. Okay, so I could just I want to
Speaker 1: play Devil's advocate for just one second, hold on, hold
Speaker 1: on holding, But not if you are a kid that
Speaker 1: is not even giving your mother's a new significant other
Speaker 1: a chance. See, there's some kids that don't even want
Speaker 1: to give them a chance. Now, if I see that
Speaker 1: you're not that you're giving them a chance. Fine, if
Speaker 1: I see that you're not giving them a chance, then
Speaker 1: it's kind of wrong, especially if the guy is nice.
Speaker 1: But we definitely should stay here for a little bit
Speaker 1: because let me just say, I feel that when kids
Speaker 1: grow up and then they have their significant others, they
Speaker 1: kick their parents to the curve. So see now, and
Speaker 1: no happening this because you know that kids once they're
Speaker 1: thirteen fourteen, they want to lock themselves in the rooms.
Speaker 1: They don't even want to hang out with their parents.
Speaker 1: So it's not fair that the parent doesn't get to
Speaker 1: live their life. Now, you make sure that you help
Speaker 1: raise this kid. You know, if if you don't like
Speaker 1: the baby mother, then maybe you can be a better stepmother.
Speaker 1: But I mean you don't like criticizing it. Let me
Speaker 1: say something that's very important too, before we continue with
Speaker 1: this topic, because I know y'all is loving this conversation,
Speaker 1: because y'all get relate, I know you can battle. Here's
Speaker 1: something else too. Yes, kids can sometimes be a brat. Yes,
Speaker 1: you definitely have to listen to your kids when they
Speaker 1: tell you that they feel uncomfortable. Yes, you do. I
Speaker 1: do feel like you don't have to be forceful, and
Speaker 1: that's why some things take time. If you're ready to
Speaker 1: move in with your significant other and you have kids
Speaker 1: and your kids still don't feel comfortable, chill the hell out.
Speaker 1: Y'all is still working with each other. Y'all is still rocking,
Speaker 1: so chill give your kids an opportunity. Like, first of all,
Speaker 1: they don't have their dad, or let's say, or they
Speaker 1: wish that they had their dad. You're sticking a complete
Speaker 1: stranger now that you are forcing them to accept because
Speaker 1: you accepted them given give them some time. You know,
Speaker 1: kids sometimes need to see I need to feel comfortable,
Speaker 1: So I think the time is a very important factor.
Speaker 1: And I also want to stay for for you know,
Speaker 1: for a period in my life. My stepfather was my father,
Speaker 1: you know, That's who I saw as my father. To
Speaker 1: this day, I call my I call my father by
Speaker 1: his name. There's a lot of there's a lot of
Speaker 1: stepfathers and a lot of stepmothers that are better parents
Speaker 1: than the actual parents. Like, there's a lot of parents
Speaker 1: out there that they may not biologically be yours, but
Speaker 1: are better parents and anybody. So just give them an opportunity.
Speaker 1: So I think that that's very important. And that's why,
Speaker 1: you know, from there, it's like, what are some of
Speaker 1: the boundaries that you're supposed to set once you start
Speaker 1: living together your father, father, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Besides the kids. Right, let's say that this person doesn't
Speaker 1: have any kids. You're single, you're single? Hand blow, I'm sitting. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm not going no more. Um, oh you're not, I'm
Speaker 1: not single no more. Well, congratulations on your relationships, very nice. Well, yes,
Speaker 1: you're invited to the wedding. You're setting it up anyway.
Speaker 1: So let me tell you, Um, we don't live together, right,
Speaker 1: we don't live together at this moment, but the day
Speaker 1: that we just said to move in together, I definitely
Speaker 1: want to put in some boundaries because one thing is
Speaker 1: when you're accustomed to living by yourself, and another one
Speaker 1: is when you start living with someone else, you want
Speaker 1: them to feel comfortable, like, yes, feel comfortable, but I
Speaker 1: want to espress to you the things that I don't like.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to do this. I don't want
Speaker 1: you to do that. And tell me as well, what
Speaker 1: are what do you think that my boundaries should be?
Speaker 1: Like what you know? I think that that's important so
Speaker 1: that you guys can feel comfortable with each other. And
Speaker 1: here it goes another important point. It's not the same
Speaker 1: when you've been from one relationship to the other, to
Speaker 1: the other, to the other to the other. Then when
Speaker 1: you've been single for a very long time and you
Speaker 1: and you're older, or and you have accustomed yourself to
Speaker 1: a certain lifestyle and you like to live a certain
Speaker 1: type of way, a lot of people don't ever get
Speaker 1: comfortable again living with someone else. So I don't know,
Speaker 1: I just feel that boundaries are important. For example, some
Speaker 1: boundaries for me would be like, no, we're not doing that.
Speaker 1: I'm not your mama, I'm not gonna be picking up
Speaker 1: all your dirty clothes from the floor pick it up.
Speaker 1: Or I'm just gonna let it stack up so you
Speaker 1: can't walk no more. Um boundaries is now, I don't
Speaker 1: know who you're inviting, because I can tell me who
Speaker 1: you're inviting. You know, you come to my house midday,
Speaker 1: you might just see how I came into this world.
Speaker 1: It's how I'm going to be looking because you know,
Speaker 1: and I said, we like to walk around a certain
Speaker 1: way and do and whatnot. And you have to let
Speaker 1: me know who's coming over, who's our guests, not just
Speaker 1: you just walk up in this. And that's another thing.
Speaker 1: Those are boundaries right there. Let me know when your
Speaker 1: parents are coming over, because sometimes you gotta set that
Speaker 1: school child battle boarding or boundaries. Because if you're just
Speaker 1: knocking and walking into my house because this is your
Speaker 1: daughter's house or your son's house, and you could just
Speaker 1: walk up in here and do whatever I want and
Speaker 1: then rearrange my furniture because you don't like how I
Speaker 1: do it, go and clean the dishes. I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't mind the help, but please let me know because
Speaker 1: you know a lot of times and laws come in
Speaker 1: and they're like and it's like we're learning together, and
Speaker 1: if you want to teach me, come over my shoulder
Speaker 1: and teach me but sometimes even Michael management could get
Speaker 1: a little out of hand. But yes, after you know
Speaker 1: when you're coming, who's coming to visit? Thank you, I'll
Speaker 1: tell you. I'll tell you another quick one. Yes, definitely.
Speaker 1: Who's coming over, whether's friends, family, no sleepovers. We're not
Speaker 1: doing sleepovers. I don't know. I'm not a fan of that. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, unless it's your parents. They came out of
Speaker 1: town or whatever. Cool, you can say one or two days.
Speaker 1: But if they can get you, you step over. They Oh,
Speaker 1: my friends struggling and I'm just gonna let them stay
Speaker 1: at the house for like a month. No, my friends,
Speaker 1: you guys to go. We're not doing that. That's no.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Money wise, money, don't stick your hand
Speaker 1: in my purse. Don't stick your hand in my purse. Oh,
Speaker 1: they gat I need a couple of dollars. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: Rea say, we don't do that. Don't stick your hand
Speaker 1: in purse. Don't borrow any money without me knowing. If
Speaker 1: we have an account together, which I'm going to go
Speaker 1: into that because that's an important question. If we decide
Speaker 1: to have a bank account together, don't withdraw any money
Speaker 1: without consulting it with me. If it's a joint account,
Speaker 1: which I actually want to ask you, you know, should
Speaker 1: you have a joint account with your significant other? And
Speaker 1: if so, when do you do that? But anyways, don't
Speaker 1: take no money out without talking to me, because half
Speaker 1: of the money in there is mind as well. Don't
Speaker 1: think it. I'm gonna take it out and then I'm
Speaker 1: gonna put it back in. No, if I don't agree
Speaker 1: with that, we need to figure this out. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think that that's fair, you know. But anyways,
Speaker 1: with more of exactly a mata, yes, and we're back
Speaker 1: with exactly a vada. When do you have a joint account?
Speaker 1: Should you have never done this? That is a great point.
Speaker 1: And upon moving in because of bills, you know, they
Speaker 1: are sometimes when you do become you do start a
Speaker 1: join account because you do start to set the payment schedules,
Speaker 1: which is you know, reasonable. But don't you dare grab
Speaker 1: anything from that arrangement because bills are priority. Like I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go buy some lubatons and then I'll put the
Speaker 1: money back. Oh no, that is much dot org And
Speaker 1: I'm promoting, but honestly, I am just stating that there
Speaker 1: are boundaries and there should be boundaries, and there's definitely
Speaker 1: boundaries is everything because I'm telling you that people will
Speaker 1: come into your house and act as because they are
Speaker 1: a relative of a family member and act like they
Speaker 1: could come in say whatever they want. You have to
Speaker 1: protect the piece in your house. Ladies and gentlemen, you
Speaker 1: just don't let anything into your house because what people
Speaker 1: do is they have a baggage, they drop their baggage,
Speaker 1: they dropped their stuff, and then they go on their
Speaker 1: all happy way. And now you have all types of
Speaker 1: spirits in your house and it's like, why are we
Speaker 1: arguing while because you're in laws came in and they
Speaker 1: were arguing, and now that spirit jumped on us. Now
Speaker 1: you have to set boundaries, say exactly, and honestly, it
Speaker 1: is important. You need to know who's coming to your house.
Speaker 1: That's why I feel so honored when you invite me
Speaker 1: over to your house because I love it, because I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm a great for that. But honestly, you
Speaker 1: do have to set boundaries. And on the day that
Speaker 1: you get married on out of then you know, maybe
Speaker 1: me and g O won't just pop up at your
Speaker 1: house anymore. You know, we're probably we probably hurt, but
Speaker 1: we we got to get to know your significant other
Speaker 1: so that you know he could feel comfortable with us.
Speaker 1: We gotta be very open to that as well. So
Speaker 1: that is a very great thing. And I am so
Speaker 1: happy that we spoke about boundaries because those should be set.
Speaker 1: But financial boundaries, though financial boundaries, like, Okay, I have
Speaker 1: never done it. I've never done a joint account with
Speaker 1: anybody because I'm very panicky. I always feel like, if
Speaker 1: we break up tomorrow, are you gonna take my money?
Speaker 1: What is going to happen? That I have trust issues.
Speaker 1: I've been screwed over so many times in my life
Speaker 1: that you may not have any ill intentions, but I'm scary.
Speaker 1: So I know that you can't be like that because
Speaker 1: then you're never gonna be happy. But if we do
Speaker 1: a joint account, I'm afraid that I may deposit more
Speaker 1: money than you do and then we both have access
Speaker 1: to this and I'm gonna feel like damn. Which just
Speaker 1: shouldn't feel like that, because if this is your partner
Speaker 1: in life, you should be willing to give them everything
Speaker 1: that you have. Well, I'm not sure, because oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm not sure, but am talking about and I know
Speaker 1: that this is not one of our points. But I
Speaker 1: just thought about it, thinking about financial boundaries when you
Speaker 1: move in with someone, when you start a relationship with someone,
Speaker 1: or when you decide to get married, does that also
Speaker 1: go for prenups? Because you know that I'm doing a prenup,
Speaker 1: you have to I'm doing it. I love you, I
Speaker 1: love you, you love me. We're a happy family, Barney,
Speaker 1: but you worked hard for your mother battle. I love you,
Speaker 1: but I feel that we need to do a prenup
Speaker 1: because God forbid anything goes wrong. You are not going
Speaker 1: to leave with half of everything I've worked for my
Speaker 1: whole life. We're not doing that. However, I know that
Speaker 1: there's certain clause you can add what they hay and blow. Um. Fine,
Speaker 1: we got married, you know we we have a prenup,
Speaker 1: and if we stayed together for over ten years, then
Speaker 1: you may have, let's say, of whatever the hell it
Speaker 1: is or whatever you come up with something. That's why
Speaker 1: you attorneys are there. I think that's an important part
Speaker 1: about also financial boundaries with you when you're with someone.
Speaker 1: A lot of people fall in love me. No doctor
Speaker 1: dre like that. There's so many people that you fall
Speaker 1: in love with someone giving you the good though they're
Speaker 1: giving you the good daggling they and then you're like,
Speaker 1: because of love, we're gonna get married or love love
Speaker 1: is over? What happens? They sack you clean. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel funky about that. What do you think about prenups?
Speaker 1: Did you get pup? I think I think that prenups
Speaker 1: are very important, And yes, and you should especially you
Speaker 1: have everything that Yes, everything that you have done in
Speaker 1: the past, you have to secure it because I putting up.
Speaker 1: No one should get offended by that, because honestly, I'm
Speaker 1: out of yourself. You're very amazing intelligent. You work your
Speaker 1: assholef prior to this relationship. All of that is what
Speaker 1: you worked for, not for someone else to just come
Speaker 1: in and just say, hey, now, if we worked it together,
Speaker 1: if we've worked together, it's like, okay, Now everything I
Speaker 1: have before we got married is mind and my children's okay,
Speaker 1: everything that I have after we get married is still mine.
Speaker 1: Unless we did it together, and we did it together,
Speaker 1: we both worked for it, we both went fifty, or
Speaker 1: we both decided that we want to share with you
Speaker 1: work for because working this can this can be funking.
Speaker 1: For example, Let's just say I'm gonna give you an example.
Speaker 1: I have a husband. My husband is a hard worker.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stay at home wife. Just because he's out
Speaker 1: there making the negotiations doesn't mean that I'm not being
Speaker 1: a supportive wife. I'm the one more debating you, inspiring you.
Speaker 1: I may be setting up certain things for you. I
Speaker 1: may be the one obviously keeping you stress free when
Speaker 1: you come home. All those things are still considered part
Speaker 1: of a partnership. I still feel that I deserve something,
Speaker 1: not all a bit, not half of it. Perhaps I
Speaker 1: deserve something for being there for you, for being your wife,
Speaker 1: or being at that moment. I don't know. I think
Speaker 1: that it can get tricky and it can also mess
Speaker 1: up relationships. But I definitely do think that financial boundaries
Speaker 1: is something that you should think about when you decide
Speaker 1: to officially be committed in a relationship. That's why being
Speaker 1: evenly yoked is very important. Let's talk about that. If
Speaker 1: you come into a setting and now we're under one room,
Speaker 1: being evenly yoked. Now, being a different tax bracket is
Speaker 1: kind of hard to when it comes to that, because
Speaker 1: it's like now the person is entitled to what you
Speaker 1: worked for. It's really hard. I mean listen, we would
Speaker 1: say finances is not everything, but you do not want
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship with a quote unquote broke
Speaker 1: person when you know you just don't want that because
Speaker 1: in the long run, that's gonna really bite you in
Speaker 1: the ass. So you never know, Stevie, you never know.
Speaker 1: Right now. You could be here right and let's say
Speaker 1: tomorrow out of nowhere or not out of nowhere. But
Speaker 1: your wife or something does this business deal whatever, and
Speaker 1: now her money tripled. So it's like, yes, I know
Speaker 1: that you want to be in the same tax bracket
Speaker 1: with your significant other or be close by. But all
Speaker 1: it takes is one opportunity, one business idea, one business venture,
Speaker 1: one something, the lottery, anything for your significant other to
Speaker 1: have double, twice, triple the amount of income that you make.
Speaker 1: So what does that mean? You know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: it's an incredible point. That's why I feel me that
Speaker 1: I get criticized all the time. You mean, oh my god,
Speaker 1: let's talk about mommy. Mommy is you know, I think
Speaker 1: parents always want their kids to get, you know, married,
Speaker 1: or be with someone who's financially stable. I'm a little
Speaker 1: crunchy because I have a NBA players hitting me up.
Speaker 1: I have politicians, I have rapper. If I were to
Speaker 1: show you all the people that slide up in my
Speaker 1: d M or the people that I've dated in my
Speaker 1: past on the low because I keep my personal life
Speaker 1: really discreet. That's why you don't know anything about my
Speaker 1: personal life now, because I'm not doing it. It's just
Speaker 1: that I don't like to be in achieved me, like
Speaker 1: nobody needs to know what's happening with my toy. However,
Speaker 1: I personally like to find someone that has a lot
Speaker 1: of potential, there's ambitious that we get along, that were
Speaker 1: good whatever, and that we can build together. I know
Speaker 1: that I'm not at the building stages because I'm already
Speaker 1: grown and I'm already stable, but I'd like to be
Speaker 1: able to build together because sometimes when you get people
Speaker 1: so leo hand, people start making plans with other people's money. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna marry this person because they got money. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna mary this girl because they got money. But that's
Speaker 1: their money going you know, that's not your money. I
Speaker 1: know a lot of people that are rich and are
Speaker 1: stingy as hell, and their baby mama's over here asking
Speaker 1: for child support or whatever. The case may be, stop
Speaker 1: getting all hyped up on other people's income is not yours.
Speaker 1: You create your own absolutely because or find someone that
Speaker 1: wants to build with you, like all the time with Sugar,
Speaker 1: I'm financially here with you. We're here, we're like in
Speaker 1: the same level, mahmo. But we want to grow together
Speaker 1: to build and we're gonna work and stop trying to
Speaker 1: just acy with someone who got it, like I'm just
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, he got it or she
Speaker 1: got it. I'm just gonna be here. And then when
Speaker 1: they don't want to be there no more, what happens
Speaker 1: to you all the time wasting and your energy and everything?
Speaker 1: I know right, absolutely I have to agree with that.
Speaker 1: You do want to make your own money and be
Speaker 1: your own boss. I mean, I know a friends that
Speaker 1: you know got with men because they have money, but
Speaker 1: then they were very presents money. They never took that
Speaker 1: money and invested it. And then when the guy you know,
Speaker 1: that was it, that was the end of their story,
Speaker 1: you know. And that's why you have to live a
Speaker 1: purposeful life. Now, if we're gonna move together in the
Speaker 1: same room, we definitely need to know our boundaries. Now,
Speaker 1: who do you think, who do you think moves most
Speaker 1: of their stuff? And I wanted to talk about this
Speaker 1: because the clutter, because I have an issue with clutter. Now,
Speaker 1: if we're gonna move together, where do you storage your stuff?
Speaker 1: Are you gonna get an outside storge? You're gonna bring
Speaker 1: all your stuff? Because a storage? You know some people
Speaker 1: a storage. Some people are hoarders and they bring all
Speaker 1: that stuff and you know I mean not for yes, Bobby,
Speaker 1: that's part of commitment. If you're committing with someone, you're
Speaker 1: committing to all the bullshit that they want to drag
Speaker 1: into your house too. Unfortunately, that's why it's important to
Speaker 1: get to know someone. Where will you put? Okay, so
Speaker 1: if your man was to move in with you tomorrow, Mata,
Speaker 1: where will you place all their stuff? Because you're my
Speaker 1: significant other and my significant other is a hoarder, Bobby,
Speaker 1: we need to figure this out because we're gon we're
Speaker 1: gonna be very selective. We're gonna do a garage cell. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're gonna do a garage style. We're gonna offer up,
Speaker 1: but we're gonna craigslist it. We're gonna figure it out.
Speaker 1: Even I haven't that have and we're gonna pick what
Speaker 1: makes sense for us to move forward together? All, if
Speaker 1: I have a couch and you have a couch, we
Speaker 1: gotta pick who has a better couch, nor not unless
Speaker 1: we live in a very big house, like thankfully gave
Speaker 1: me the blessing of living in a you know, a
Speaker 1: big house where I can afford to put as many
Speaker 1: couches as I want. That doesn't happen in every case,
Speaker 1: so I feel that you have to Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you something fun fact. So my ex um,
Speaker 1: you know, he had his own situation. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: put you know, all the details out there out of respect,
Speaker 1: which that's another thing if you're with someone or you
Speaker 1: break up, stop sharing all the extra ship that people
Speaker 1: don't need to know. Anyways, the point was that he
Speaker 1: had a couch and I already had a couch, So
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, um, either we sell it or
Speaker 1: we figure it out. And he actually moved in his
Speaker 1: couch and when we broke up, he left without the couch,
Speaker 1: which I felt that that was the right thing. If
Speaker 1: we break it, we break up, what are you taking?
Speaker 1: Why are you taking it? You have to start again
Speaker 1: unless it was very meaningful, but you're not taking the couch.
Speaker 1: I already got comfortable with the couch. No no, no,
Speaker 1: no no no, and all that energy and all that
Speaker 1: and everything that they did. Who pays me that? No,
Speaker 1: the couch stays, the play stays that Some, especially with you,
Speaker 1: have kind of a theme. Imagine a man brings in
Speaker 1: a lime green couch. It says, this is my favorite
Speaker 1: thank you for coming. Merry Christmas. Hallelujah. Dally. We broke
Speaker 1: up where I'm still your friend and I love you
Speaker 1: very much, bybody, you have to start it over again.
Speaker 1: No no no, no, no, you can't take that. You can't
Speaker 1: take nothing. You can take your clothes. I have to
Speaker 1: get to this next question because this one right here.
Speaker 1: Are there more couples living to other now unmarried then
Speaker 1: there is married? I agree, I think there's more. I
Speaker 1: think that there's more couples living together that are not married,
Speaker 1: and we need to start normalizing marriages. But people, they
Speaker 1: just don't want to get marriage. Marriage is a business,
Speaker 1: it's not the commitment. Is that marriage is a business
Speaker 1: under God? See what I want is under God. Because
Speaker 1: you can't be making promises under God and think that
Speaker 1: one day you're not gonna be held accountable for that. See,
Speaker 1: And that's what everybody's losing, that part because a lot
Speaker 1: of people say, oh, it's just a paper. No, it's commitment.
Speaker 1: Because whereas when you're not married, you could just walk
Speaker 1: out the door today and not have to deal with no. No.
Speaker 1: But your your marriage, your marriage is legal. If you're
Speaker 1: just gonna get married at the church, EO. Yeah, for
Speaker 1: you to get married at the church, you need to
Speaker 1: legally be married. This is a business transaction. If it's
Speaker 1: a spiritual thing like they do in other parts of
Speaker 1: the world, that's a different situation. We can get married
Speaker 1: under God, I'm gonna I'm gonna create the bowels. You
Speaker 1: sign it, I sign it. This is us. But no
Speaker 1: marriage now is a legal transaction. It's as a business.
Speaker 1: So that yes, because it's like it's for taxes, it's
Speaker 1: for legal rights, it's for many other things. It's not
Speaker 1: about it's not about health care. It's it's about you
Speaker 1: know a lot of things. It's not about love getting
Speaker 1: married on paper. To me, it's not just the love part.
Speaker 1: It's a legal thing. You know. We can get married
Speaker 1: at the church, we can find someone, can gossip and
Speaker 1: we beat together and beat the mode Famila and everything.
Speaker 1: Everything is good, but once you make it legal, you
Speaker 1: have to be prepared with living with you for thirteen
Speaker 1: years and won't even give you a ring. And then
Speaker 1: those are the ones that you find out have a
Speaker 1: whole another family in another country because not necessarily, not necessarily,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of people have been together for a
Speaker 1: very long time. They're happy twenty years later and never
Speaker 1: gotten married, and the moment that they get married, they
Speaker 1: get the bours a year later. Like not everybody has
Speaker 1: a six Guy's books. A second, I don't think that
Speaker 1: there's a guidebook onto how to live or have a relationship.
Speaker 1: You know, every every relationship works differently for people. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, I want to get married now. Am I
Speaker 1: afraid of sending that document? Yes? Can that? Because a
Speaker 1: lot of times when people sign that paper, it makes
Speaker 1: them feel entitled, empowered. Every woman's almost every woman's dream
Speaker 1: to have just like to have a wedding. And then like,
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, there are some women that don't give
Speaker 1: a crap, but there is a majority of them. And
Speaker 1: then you see your sister getting married. You see everybody
Speaker 1: getting married and they've been in a relationship a lot less. Um,
Speaker 1: I want to get married. I'm just scared. Then you're
Speaker 1: sitting there on the side wearing you have already war
Speaker 1: fifty brides made dresses. They're all sitting on your everyding
Speaker 1: is so sacred. So everything seefn't me not. Everything is different.
Speaker 1: Everything is different because once you have money me that
Speaker 1: money is a blessing and it's a curse. Once you
Speaker 1: have money, money can change everything. And it's like, if
Speaker 1: you don't have nothing to lose, get married a thousand times,
Speaker 1: who's gonna take what from you? What? Not? Okay, but
Speaker 1: if you have something to lose, marriage, it's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 1: I want it. But does it make me feel little
Speaker 1: bit fearful even if I have a prenup? Yes, because
Speaker 1: you never know people's intentions because you never know what's
Speaker 1: gonna happen, because you never really know I want you goalside,
Speaker 1: they go into it, so I feel that you know,
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's it's a very scary place to be. Definitely,
Speaker 1: you don't want to be with someone for a thirteen
Speaker 1: year who doesn't want to commit with you, like I
Speaker 1: don't want to commit to you know, you need to
Speaker 1: commit with me now. If you don't want to sign
Speaker 1: the legal paper. I get that part, but I don't know, Stevie,
Speaker 1: this is hard. What do you guys think? Let us
Speaker 1: know at exactly a matter on Twitter and on Instagram?
Speaker 1: You know, um, should you send a prenup? Who gets like?
Speaker 1: Who moves in with? Who? If you get married? Um?
Speaker 1: Oh my god? Wait talking about marriage? Is it weird
Speaker 1: if a girl proposes? People are super open minded talking
Speaker 1: about marriage and just being modern. When I see a
Speaker 1: woman proposed, is like a woman said all right, yes
Speaker 1: or no? Because I've been with you for all this,
Speaker 1: for this long and this period of time, yes or no?
Speaker 1: Just let me know now, because probably people will move on.
Speaker 1: They just want to know if they have to move on. ND.
Speaker 1: I don't know how you say it this market fellow,
Speaker 1: and I don't know. I know it's what a man
Speaker 1: wants a woman and he is afraid of losing her.
Speaker 1: He will commit by all means necessary. And if you
Speaker 1: have to beg for a man to want to commit
Speaker 1: to you, you can let him know. Look, I've been
Speaker 1: here this long and I'm gonna give you do they
Speaker 1: for you to decide what it is that you want
Speaker 1: to do in this relationship. You can do that. But
Speaker 1: if you have to continuously be Ba, be with me
Speaker 1: and get married. And if you have to do all
Speaker 1: of that, mom, see yourself out the door came out,
Speaker 1: you're wasting time and energy that you can't get back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: when a man wants something, he will make sure nothing.
Speaker 1: So you don't have to You don't have to be
Speaker 1: You don't have to be the one that has to
Speaker 1: get on your knee. Now, if you choose to be
Speaker 1: the one that wants to go by the ring, get
Speaker 1: on your knees, look up, they say it will you'll
Speaker 1: marry me after you've been with him for a thousand
Speaker 1: years and he hasn't even talked about it, hasn't told
Speaker 1: you he wants to marry What is he gonna tell you? Know,
Speaker 1: he's gonna say yes that a courtesy. Yes, if he
Speaker 1: wanted to, he would have done it already. I think
Speaker 1: I don't mean that. Absolutely great points, you have so
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