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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for outshining the bride? How

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Speaker 1: do you outshine the bride?

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Speaker 2: Being prettier?

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Speaker 3: Being prettier?

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Speaker 2: How do you outshine the bride?

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Speaker 3: How do you out shine to the bride?

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Speaker 1: You wear a ball gown with swan feathers trailing behind

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Speaker 1: you and you ride in on a white horse.

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Speaker 2: That would definitely do that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so okay, History seven one four says, so, I

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Speaker 1: twenty seven female, am a black African woman. I'm living

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Speaker 1: and working in Germany for a fixed period on secondment.

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Speaker 2: With secondment, we shall find out. Let's look that up.

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Speaker 2: Sigrament Any guesses, any guess?

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Speaker 3: Any guesses in the chat and guess.

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Speaker 2: Sigrament refers to the temporary transfer of employees from the

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Speaker 2: regular role within their current organization to a different role.

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Speaker 3: So it's like a temporry.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess they're like transitioning. It looks like they're

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Speaker 2: like in a transfer area. M hm, So like they're moving.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, got it, Thank you for explaining. Okay.

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Speaker 1: While here, I became quite friendly with the colleague sixty female,

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Speaker 1: and she invited me to her daughter's wedding. I was

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Speaker 1: excited as I'd never been to a white wedding. I

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Speaker 1: asked if there was a dress code slash color scheme

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Speaker 1: to adhere to, since it wasn't specified on the invite.

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Speaker 1: I was told the code is dressed to impress.

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Speaker 3: Bet.

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Speaker 2: Wait she said bet, She said, bet, that's crazy.

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Speaker 3: Uh oh.

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Speaker 1: Day of the wedding, I understood the assignment. I wear

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Speaker 1: my traditional wear, which is really beautiful and obviously not German.

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Speaker 1: The garment is green, so no problem there, or so

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Speaker 1: I thought. I get a lot of questions and compliments

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Speaker 1: at the wedding, which I genuinely downplay because it's not

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Speaker 1: my day. My colleague seems colder than usual, but I

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Speaker 1: pay it no mind since she's the mother of the

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Speaker 1: bride and could be preoccupied. The bride is downright rude

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Speaker 1: to me, but again I give her grace. I congratulate

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Speaker 1: her and thank her for concluding me, and I get

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Speaker 1: a tight This is the face.

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Speaker 2: It's like the contempt face for the audio.

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Speaker 1: Listen, like the face the emoji where their face is

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Speaker 1: just like a line. In response, I keep to the

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Speaker 1: vibe and I'm just observing how European weddings work. I

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Speaker 1: leave around eight after five hours and go home before

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Speaker 1: the wedding finishes. Monday, I walked into whispers in the office,

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Speaker 1: people acting strangely and more reserved than usual. An office

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Speaker 1: friend pulls me aside and fills me in. Bride's mother

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Speaker 1: is fuming. My outfit was too extravagant and inappropriate. I

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Speaker 1: drew attention from the bride and commandeered the room. I

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Speaker 1: I approach mother of the bride and asked to speak,

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Speaker 1: but she says she has nothing to say to me.

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Speaker 1: I ask her why she said what?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Why she has something to say to everyone else about

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Speaker 1: me but not to me, and she calls me an

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Speaker 1: insolent child. She's being the insolent child. I explained to

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Speaker 1: anyone who scolds me that this was my first white

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Speaker 1: people wedding. I specifically asked what to do and wear

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Speaker 1: and followed the guidelines. Where I'm from, there is no

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Speaker 1: such thing as outshining the bride. Weddings are a fashion

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Speaker 1: show and chance to wear your best and bride is clothes.

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Speaker 4: Oh I see no, Yeah, I've.

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Speaker 1: Heard this before, like in a lot of other cultures,

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Speaker 1: that like, the bride is going to be the best

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Speaker 1: dress there and you cannot out shine her if you

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Speaker 1: tried hard. Yeah, this is the this is not the bride.

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Speaker 1: They told me this is in Africa, which was racially coded.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that is so that's so bad.

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Speaker 1: And people here have manners. My god, that's That's not

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Speaker 1: even a microaggression. That's a full out macro aggression. Macro,

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Speaker 1: that's a macro aggression. Jesus what who told her this?

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Speaker 1: That's an HR complaint. Oh my god, Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: No, this wasn't at the wedding. This was at the office.

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Speaker 1: Oh, someone at the office said this is in Africa.

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Speaker 1: People have manners.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I laughed and told the person to go to hell.

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Speaker 1: She's telling people I lack from morse.

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Speaker 3: For my behavior.

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Speaker 1: Maybe she just doesn't ope, he doesn't want to hear

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Speaker 2: Yeah, everything about that, everything about that, I bet you haven't.

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Speaker 1: I'm wondering if I really am the a hole though.

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Speaker 1: Edit the dress inspo I showed to my tailor is

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Speaker 1: now in my profile to help you and edit too.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for the feedback. I'm guessing not the a hole,

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Speaker 1: but could have inquired further done research fair. Some of

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Speaker 1: y'all are so oppressed about the WP wedding.

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Speaker 3: Oh about the white people wedding.

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Speaker 1: It literally means it's the first wedding I've been to

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, that's that's a pretty dress.

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Speaker 1: But I wouldn't say that's like if I saw someone

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, there is gold beautiful dress.

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Speaker 1: But like I would not throw a hissy fit about that. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, dang, girl, look at you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be like, that's such a pretty dress, and

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Speaker 1: then we focus on the bride.

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Speaker 2: If the bride didn't look as good as this concerning.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like what are you wearing?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: This is so Yeah, this definitely feels.

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Speaker 2: It's not your fault.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: I just can't believe they would invite her to a

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Speaker 2: I mean, the dress isn't even crazy.

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Speaker 3: Not crazy, it's not crazy.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand whether it's just going it's like a

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Speaker 3: It's blue. For the audio listeners, it's blue and has

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Speaker 3: gold on it. It's just sparkly with it.

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Speaker 1: Like maybe the only thing they're saying is attention grabbing

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean this is good tension grabbing. Yeah, but like,

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Speaker 4: And this is her first one too?

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Speaker 1: The only rule I know of is don't wear white.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's all I know. Not to look better than

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Speaker 1: No, this is not her, not her fault at all.

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Speaker 1: You're fine, These are fake, friend, don't hang out with

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Speaker 2: That would have been awkward.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, my own parents disowned my children, and now I'm

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Speaker 4: What did the children do? I'm like, know what is

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Speaker 5: You know, you spilt your juice on Grandma's special chair,

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Speaker 4: It was a special chair.

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Speaker 5: It was eighteen, it was in the family was Grandma generations.

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Speaker 5: You dropped one of my vintage plates. I don't even

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Speaker 4: I think the kids stop listening to Andrew Tait and

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Speaker 4: Grandma is a big Tait taint.

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Speaker 5: WHOA that is a plot twist, plot twist, that's the

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Speaker 5: right a story I would read. I thirty two female,

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Speaker 5: have been with my wife, Ava thirty four female for

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Speaker 5: eight years now, but we've been married for five. She

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Speaker 5: was a single mom of three kids when we started dating.

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Speaker 5: son now sixteen. Okay, now I've watched these kids grow up.

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Speaker 5: I read them bedtime stories, do bathtime, first day of school,

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Speaker 5: pta meetings, all of it. But is she doing bedtime

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Speaker 5: think if you don't do the voices, you basically not

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Speaker 5: reading the story. You're not and you're basically not family.

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Speaker 5: You're not family grounds for something. So it's in the contract,

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Speaker 5: the family contract. Now, I very much consider them to

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Speaker 4: It's a long time now, My brother, I you know,

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Speaker 4: when when the when the girl you're dating calls you

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Speaker 4: I jump though, if if you if you're yeah, you

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Speaker 5: Need need to be marked as it dependent on my texes.

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Speaker 5: My brother Ivan twenty eight male, just had a baby

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Speaker 5: have been the only grandchildren of the family since Ave

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Speaker 5: But maybe not, Maybe they want to sacrifice them like

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Speaker 4: Are you strong enough? Or like the Aztecs, I want

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Speaker 5: That was another great impression of the session, the heartbeat.

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Speaker 5: I never would have predicted that. One the kids and

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Speaker 5: I were over at my brother's house just hanging out,

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Speaker 4: That they were gonna end up spoiling her. Rotten.

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Speaker 5: My mom said, since my niece was their first grandchild,

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Speaker 4: They would spoil her.

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Speaker 5: Curious, right, you're you're debating yet, I mean just the

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Speaker 5: But it's like, would you say it, like like if

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Speaker 5: these kids I've been in the family for six years, basically.

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Speaker 4: Like, yeah, I guess it's weird. I don't know. Sam

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Speaker 4: is pro grandparents on this one. I'm not like, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 4: we'll see how it goes down.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, My kids and I were sitting in the living room,

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Speaker 5: when she realized what my mom had said. My son

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Speaker 5: first grandbaby. Oh you mean first grandbaby, not first grandchild.

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Speaker 5: But then my dad shook his head and replied that

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Speaker 5: Also also with them in the room too, Yeah, that's

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Speaker 4: Know about you, but yeah, it's a blood baby, blood baby.

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Speaker 5: I didn't want my kids to listen to any more

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Speaker 5: When they were gone, I asked my parents why the

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Speaker 5: hell they said my kids were not their grandchildren. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: good question, good question. And my mom replied that they

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Speaker 4: Would you say that about an adopted kid?

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Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying, Like, if someone is adopted, it's like, oh,

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Speaker 4: If I I'm human, are they a dido p adopt

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Speaker 4: the kids? I believe, Oh that's a good question.

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Speaker 5: I don't know a hundred percent if they're officially like

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Speaker 4: Been calling her mom for six years.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So, I mean, that's that's pretty that's pretty good.

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Speaker 5: My wife and I were going to be hosting Thanksgiving

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Speaker 5: if I told my parents if they didn't view my

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Speaker 5: a holiday with them. Yo, damn ultimatum. Yeah, gotta get

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Speaker 5: stuff like this turkey, Granny. That came out the wrong way.

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Speaker 5: I realized that as I was speaking.

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Speaker 4: It Thanksgiving more like I'm gonna be giving it to

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Speaker 5: Where do I put all of this hot, steamy gravy. Ooh,

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Speaker 5: I'll drizzle it on you that that coochie.

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Speaker 4: Here we go, Granny. You know Granny needs it. Granny

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Speaker 4: needs all the lubrications you can get. Her vagina is dry.

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Speaker 4: I left Ahara the Sahara.

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Speaker 5: I left before they could say anything else to me

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Speaker 4: Where are they coming from? They're coming from assholary. Well, hey, hey,

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Speaker 4: come on, you were in their corner first. It's easy.

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Speaker 4: I'm okay with them saying oh, it's our first, like yo, grandchild,

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Speaker 4: yeah yeah, or or you know, or or grand baby

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Speaker 4: or whatever. Right, But like when the kid says, oh,

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Speaker 4: we meant. That's what you say. You don't double down

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Speaker 4: and be like, you're not our kid. Yeah, yeah, you're

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Speaker 5: You're just a I understand, like the slip of the

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Speaker 5: up to my house. You have you have flesh, bones, air,

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Speaker 4: Is related to me? Yeah yeah, why would I treat

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Speaker 4: what's it? What's what's the uh? Uh oh, what's the thing?

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Speaker 4: You should be not inconvenient truth? You should be modest proposed?

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Speaker 4: What is that proposal? I don't A modest proposal was

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Speaker 4: Jonathan Swift. It was an essay and basically he was like, Yo,

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Speaker 4: I know there's a lot of economic problems right now.

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Speaker 4: I have a simple solution. Let's just eat all the babies.

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Speaker 4: And it was like it was sad, its satirical, but

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Speaker 4: and then some people were like, oh, like it kind

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Speaker 4: of makes sense. Bro.

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Speaker 5: Back in the day, like the the Orville with the UFOs,

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, bro read a book, read a book.

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Speaker 5: My mom texted me saying that she and my dad

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Speaker 5: love the kids, but they still aren't their grandchildren, and

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Speaker 5: she hopes that we could come to understand because she

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Speaker 4: Bro, are they keep? They just keep?

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 4: All she would say is like, I love them, you know,

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Speaker 4: their family. It's such an easy like that ptalsy, But

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Speaker 4: they just keep they just keep doing it.

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Speaker 5: I've replied back, I meant what I said, but I'm

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Speaker 4: Am I the a hole? No? I don't. I don't

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Speaker 4: think ops a hole? Yeah, I think I like honest

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Speaker 4: mistake with like oh, our first grandchild. But the double

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Speaker 4: down and the quadruple down, yeah, it does not make it.

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Speaker 4: Keep doing it, which is like the crazy part. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I think I just like, but it's an easy acknowledge,

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Speaker 4: like just like like what what's it to them? Literally

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Speaker 4: like what? Yeah, I don't know why they should do

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Speaker 4: it is they want to like, they want to include.

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Speaker 4: They should want to include these other kids in the

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Speaker 4: family dynamic because effectively they are They're there. See this

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Speaker 4: is making sound sick, is literally just dying. Oh my god,