1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: My husband keeps telling me to come to Reddit about 2 00:00:03,080 --> 00:00:06,200 Speaker 1: our arguments. So here I am. Do all men feel 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:07,400 Speaker 1: how my husband feel? 4 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:10,400 Speaker 2: Everyone knows Reddit's the best place for advice. 5 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:11,240 Speaker 3: That's right. 6 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:15,120 Speaker 1: This comes from winter Shop eight twenty seven, who says, I, 7 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:18,320 Speaker 1: twenty two female have been with my partner twenty nine 8 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: mail for coming up on three years and. 9 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 3: Talk about it. Do you doing some math over there? 10 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:33,879 Speaker 4: Thirteen math yep twenty six, nineteen and twenty six like 11 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,599 Speaker 4: Sam dating nine freshprat in college. 12 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: That's a little rough, rough, a little rough, and our 13 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: daughter is four months old. 14 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, we got a kid in the equation two two 15 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:48,519 Speaker 3: twenty two. 16 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:49,160 Speaker 5: Wow. 17 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 3: He makes sure to let me know how lazy I am. 18 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: Hi, thanks money for making sure you did that, even 19 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:57,520 Speaker 1: though I'm the only one. 20 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 3: To care for our daughter and clean the house. I 21 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 3: smell stinky man. 22 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 2: Who could imagine the twenty nine year old man who 23 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 2: dated a nineteen year old pussy chair what? 24 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: He works a lot, and when he comes home, he 25 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: spends a couple hours on. 26 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:13,479 Speaker 3: The games, and and he. 27 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:15,679 Speaker 1: Might hold our dutter for a couple of minutes. He 28 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:18,119 Speaker 1: says that since I'm staying home caring for our infant, 29 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 1: a loan. I should have dinner made. The dogs and 30 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: pig should be fed. 31 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:23,639 Speaker 2: The equation now. 32 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: Anythings going on, watered obviously and walked. Oh, I guess 33 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,960 Speaker 1: the pets trash should be burned. 34 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 6: I know where they live, where they live talking over 35 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:39,640 Speaker 6: the mountains they live and the man that burned all 36 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 6: this trash. 37 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 5: Which makes sense. 38 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 2: Interesting, I feel like that's bad. 39 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 5: Well, I mean that's just what they do. 40 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: Does compact it, I guess. But anyways, dishes should be clean, 41 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: floor should be swept and mopped. His other kids room clean, 42 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: every surface, wipe down. 43 00:01:56,480 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 3: So what is this? 44 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: I think there are at least two other children from 45 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: a previous lord lady oh man. He also says that 46 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 1: there are capital are gender roles, and this is what 47 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: a woman should do to keep her man happy. 48 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:23,360 Speaker 2: Yoicks, that's the largest amount of red flags I've ever seen. 49 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:25,960 Speaker 2: I don't have my red flies that I'm waving is. 50 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 3: Not even hiding. 51 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:31,360 Speaker 1: He's just like, yes, women have gender roles. 52 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 2: I have it. 53 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 6: I have seen a recent gender role thing that I 54 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 6: want to talk about at the end of the story. 55 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 3: Hear this, Get ready, ladies and gentlemen. 56 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 2: Boy. 57 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:47,920 Speaker 1: According to him, I don't deserve to be loved on 58 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:51,920 Speaker 1: until I finished the chores and put the baby to 59 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:55,640 Speaker 1: sleep by myself and made sure that he feels loved 60 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: and cared for. So this man is just abusive. This 61 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:02,839 Speaker 1: guy is a literally a piece of human dookie. 62 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 2: He should be burned along with that. 63 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:08,839 Speaker 1: Our daughter won't take a bottle and he won't help 64 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: me with bottles, so I can't go back to work. 65 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 1: But I'm also not helping financially. He doesn't stay up 66 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 1: with our daughter. If I don't initiate doing the dirty deed, 67 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 1: then we don't do it. He straight up says he 68 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:27,639 Speaker 1: won't touch me in ways that please me, bro bro, 69 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:33,160 Speaker 1: because we're not in high school. I feel crazy. He 70 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: is obsessed with this concept of disrespect. Everything I do 71 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 1: is disrespectful. If the dishes aren't clean, if the floors 72 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 1: are not mopped, if I leave little trinkets around the house, 73 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: if I started projects that I don't get to finish 74 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 1: and forgot about when the baby woke up, or if 75 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: the baby has been a little fussy and I'm feeding 76 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 1: her when he gets home. I'm a fat, lazy waste 77 00:03:55,800 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: of space. And why didn't I get anything done today? 78 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 3: Sophia? 79 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 1: Can you can you chant with me real quick, yes, Steve, Steve, 80 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: this is sanity. 81 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 2: Oh my god, bro, this man is horrible. 82 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: He straight up doesn't care about you at all. Literally 83 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: just he's just like, you're my my mule of just 84 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 1: doing the things done that I want. 85 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:28,919 Speaker 2: And if you don't harasses her about it? God, and 86 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,920 Speaker 2: he thought that he thought that her coming to Reddit 87 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 2: the best idea for him. 88 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 1: Oh buddy, Oh my god, Oh buddy, I totally forgot. 89 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:41,479 Speaker 2: He was the one who told her to post this 90 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 2: on Reddit. 91 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 6: Wait, babe, no, no, no, no, our slash relationship r slash red 92 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 6: piop what are you doing? 93 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:49,799 Speaker 3: Babe's wrong? One slash tape fans. 94 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: Babe, I don't text him throughout the day telling him 95 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:58,040 Speaker 1: sweet little nothings, so I must not love him. 96 00:04:58,200 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 3: Oh bro, are you like? 97 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 2: Oh? It is like if you looked up the definition 98 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:06,440 Speaker 2: of gaslight, it's. 99 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:08,719 Speaker 3: That guyas lamp. This guy's face. 100 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, don't gas lamp us into thinking it's not gas lighting. 101 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 2: Round manip man, splain it is gas lamping. 102 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 5: I can explain this later. 103 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:21,320 Speaker 1: Well, I'm gonna keep reading this story, so you can't. 104 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: I'll never I can't choose between being a mom and 105 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 1: a partner, even though sometimes I have to because my 106 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:32,919 Speaker 1: daughter isn't capable of caring for herself. 107 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 3: She's a baby. 108 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's like he's. 109 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 3: Mad that I can't be his mother for him, right, 110 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:42,280 Speaker 3: So run it. What do y'all think? 111 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 1: Please be honest, he will absolutely be seeing every single word. 112 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:49,359 Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. 113 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 1: So I've never been more excited to get into some 114 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:55,359 Speaker 1: relevant comments. But first, yeah, Sophia, talk to me. 115 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 2: I feel so bad for this twenty two year old 116 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 2: who is literally stuck in a horrible marriage. And I'm 117 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 2: really hoping that one she has other family members that 118 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 2: she can turn to. Yeah, but also that like Reddick 119 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 2: kind of helps her snap out of this, because this 120 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 2: is a really awful switch. 121 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 1: It seems like she's maybe isn't fully there is maybe 122 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:20,720 Speaker 1: kind of leaning towards the side of like this is insane, 123 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,279 Speaker 1: totally off. And yeah, this to me seems like a 124 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:28,360 Speaker 1: scenario of this guy who like sees this nineteen year 125 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: old girl and he's like, oh, here's someone I can 126 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 1: get to like do all my bidding and like do 127 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 1: all this stuff and like basically make my personal maid. 128 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, and yeah, impressionable nineteen year old and this twenty 129 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 2: six year old comes a person who may or may 130 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 2: not have been still in college. 131 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 1: Yeah, and like, people, just do you do you not 132 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:54,160 Speaker 1: want to love and enjoy time with your partner? To me, 133 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: I'm like, uh, if we have, if we or someone 134 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:02,720 Speaker 1: have the means, let's like, I don't know, hire someone 135 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:04,359 Speaker 1: to clean so we can spend more time together. 136 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. 137 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 1: I would never want my partner to clean when I'm like, 138 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 1: I want to spend time with you. I would rather 139 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 1: do things to make sure we can hang out. 140 00:07:14,040 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, like get that done together so we can spinish and. 141 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:21,440 Speaker 3: There's maybe split the doors. 142 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: There's this crazy concept towards like both trying and respecting 143 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 1: each other in a relationship. 144 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 2: Crazy crazy say, yeah, maybe parenting your child as well. 145 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 5: Well. 146 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 3: Sophia Sophia, all right. 147 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 2: I know, I know that's a little bit progressive. 148 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 3: I'm a man, and I just can't understand. 149 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 2: I've never been able to understand that. Maybe if you. 150 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 3: Posted this on Reddit it could get through my thick noggin. 151 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: But we have speaking of which Sophia, we have these relevant. 152 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 2: Seeing of which Sophia. 153 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 3: Sophia's space is just like, what is about that? 154 00:07:58,240 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 2: The wink really threw me off. 155 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,440 Speaker 3: Oh, because I had something in my eye. 156 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 2: Speaking of which, Sophia. 157 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's so funny. Onto these relevant comments. 158 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: Here some additional info from op op Eta. 159 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 3: I keep my daughter. 160 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: I kept my daughter because I'm not supposed to be 161 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: able to have children. Okay, like she continued with the pregnancy, 162 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 1: I think is what you said. Yeah, I was twenty 163 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 1: when we got together. It's about to be three years. 164 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 1: It's like two and a half years. I turned twenty 165 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: one shortly after we got together, and he had just 166 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 1: turned like twenty seven or twenty eight. Question mark, I 167 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: should have been more cautious about that. I'm turning twenty 168 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 1: three soon. Two work Ago says he doesn't consider you 169 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 1: a partner. Clearly, he considers you an indentured servant. 170 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, you need to do everything and I and also 171 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,440 Speaker 2: love me the way that I specs and just demand 172 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 2: to be loved. 173 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 3: And only then will I will I give you love? Yeah? 174 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 2: Will I give you love? 175 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:08,320 Speaker 3: I will give you one token per per mopping. 176 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, you come at the end of the It's like 177 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 2: at a Damon Busters. You win all the points and 178 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:15,559 Speaker 2: then you have. 179 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 3: To go, except all the games are rigged. 180 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 1: You can't actually buy anything but a little gummy cheeseburger. 181 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:24,440 Speaker 2: Yes, exactly. 182 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:28,560 Speaker 1: That was not inspired by a real story from me. Okay, 183 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 1: bike fake news. Opie says, I say this all the 184 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: time about like her actually being an intendered servant, not 185 00:09:35,559 --> 00:09:38,360 Speaker 1: a partner, and he acts like it's crazy to say 186 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 1: local disaster. Gay says, when there is one partner staying 187 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: at home and one partner working, household responsibilities should be 188 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:51,560 Speaker 1: split so that you have approximately equal free time. That 189 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: is a great way of breaking I like the equal 190 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 1: free time exactly. Yes, it's I think it's like equity equity. Yeah, 191 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: he's got plenty of time for gaming and sleeping and 192 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 1: berating you. I bet you haven't even had an hour 193 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: to genuinely relax since the baby was born, if not before, 194 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:12,080 Speaker 1: I would bet that too. 195 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 3: I would put my money on that. 196 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, Opie says, I worked through my whole pregnancy. I 197 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:21,679 Speaker 1: worked a full eight hour shift three hours before I 198 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:26,440 Speaker 1: went into labor. Oh my god, bruh, oh my god, 199 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 1: that's what my god. 200 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:31,199 Speaker 2: Man is so horrible. 201 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:36,040 Speaker 1: I thought it was Braxton Hicks, so I muscle contractions. 202 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:37,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, contractions, thank you. 203 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 1: I was just about to look that up and the 204 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: one time I cried, he rolled over and asked me 205 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 1: to shut up. 206 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 2: Wow, please leave this man, Please leave this man. I 207 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 2: really really hope that Opie has any other family members. 208 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 1: You like, you think that this man and cannot get 209 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,400 Speaker 1: any better or worse. 210 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. 211 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 2: He definitely can't get any better. 212 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:08,440 Speaker 3: I definitely can't get any better. 213 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:10,680 Speaker 2: Actually, he certainly can get worse. 214 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 3: He can't. 215 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, he can get better because he is just the 216 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 1: scum of the earth, so low down that he has 217 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:21,560 Speaker 1: he's he's nowhere to dig. Yes, he's further. He's continuing 218 00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 1: to dig further and further down. Janna Banana sixty seven 219 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 1: says abstinence is the best form of birth control in 220 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:30,679 Speaker 1: the situation. Dear Heavens, why are you with a man 221 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: that doesn't seem to like you, let alone love you. 222 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 1: He will raise your daughter to think she deserves to 223 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:39,640 Speaker 1: be treated like dirt. Opie says. One fear right here, 224 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: And the biggest red flag is that when I expressed 225 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:45,400 Speaker 1: this to him, he doesn't want his daughter to treat 226 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 1: men like I do. 227 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 3: Like what I have a conversation, He's. 228 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 2: Like, I don't want my daughter to talk back. Yeah, 229 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 2: as in I don't want her to have any sort 230 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:58,440 Speaker 2: of opinions at all. 231 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 1: She should just sit there and then mop and then 232 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: sit again. Yeah, how it's supposed to be right. I 233 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: have an avoidant personality and a lot of childhood trauma. 234 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:11,120 Speaker 1: Sometimes I don't communicate well, and I'm also suffering in 235 00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: my postpartum. I haven't seen a doctor yet, so I 236 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: don't really know what's going on with me, if anything 237 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:21,080 Speaker 1: even is. But I'm taking my psychiatric meds, so I 238 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:24,680 Speaker 1: really don't know if I'm the problem or not. You 239 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 1: are not the problem, Opie, You are not the problem. 240 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:32,960 Speaker 1: OPI on her Reddit history and why she married her husband, OPI, 241 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 1: he is my baby daddy. He is also my husband. 242 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 1: I do still want to leave him. I didn't think 243 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 1: I could have kids, so I kept my daughter. I 244 00:12:46,160 --> 00:12:50,080 Speaker 1: used my Reddit mostly for bartending because I happen to 245 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 1: like bartending. Oh like her Reddit account or like looking 246 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:55,560 Speaker 1: at bartending and stuff. I didn't know this was how 247 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:59,559 Speaker 1: he was when we first got together. And then finally 248 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 1: OPI on her husband's background. He was a marine. 249 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 2: Yeah that makes sense. 250 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:10,560 Speaker 3: So what do we do here? 251 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:16,120 Speaker 2: Leave this? We believe because he has very outdated ideas 252 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 2: of gender roles and parenting. 253 00:13:19,280 --> 00:13:20,920 Speaker 3: I would believe in super child support. 254 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:25,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, you could definitely super child support. Yeah, yeah, because 255 00:13:25,320 --> 00:13:27,560 Speaker 2: I yeah, no, he's not trying, he's not doing anything. 256 00:13:28,080 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 2: I feel like, oh, he could get full custody, probably 257 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 2: because this man doesn't care about his children. 258 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:36,480 Speaker 3: That's another that's another great point. 259 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: And he again I was kind of picking up on 260 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:44,439 Speaker 1: the context clues, but the story said his his other kids, 261 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 1: So gives at least two? 262 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:49,760 Speaker 2: Are these other kids coming from? 263 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:51,239 Speaker 3: This is insane? 264 00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:55,240 Speaker 2: Like, yeah, there's no. But I'm also wondering the way 265 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 2: that when do we know when they got married or 266 00:13:58,880 --> 00:13:59,719 Speaker 2: if they're married. 267 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:05,800 Speaker 1: They are married, because she says, my husband, I don't know, Okay, so, uh, 268 00:14:05,840 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 1: it's been about I was twenty when it got together. 269 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 3: It's been it's about to be three years. It's like 270 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 3: two and a half right now. 271 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 1: I turned twenty one shortly after we got together, and 272 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 1: he just turned like twenty seven or twenty eight. And 273 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 1: they conceive the child a little over a year ago. 274 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, So it seems like the way that she's phrasing 275 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:25,680 Speaker 2: it is that they she found out she was pregnant 276 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:26,760 Speaker 2: and then they probably got married. 277 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 3: Yes, I'm I think that. 278 00:14:28,440 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, So maybe that's the contributing factor factor for why 279 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:34,000 Speaker 2: she stayed with him. 280 00:14:33,880 --> 00:14:35,440 Speaker 3: And she said he wasn't like this in the beginning. 281 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:39,520 Speaker 2: Yeah so, but definitely leave now, dude. 282 00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 3: Get yeah, oute. 283 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 2: Horrible, horrible man, and I feel very bad for this 284 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 2: poor poor woman. 285 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 3: I do as well. But there is more, No, there 286 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:51,280 Speaker 3: is more. 287 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 2: To the story. It could be okay, it could be okay. 288 00:14:55,560 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 1: There are some things that I didn't like, like being infantilized, 289 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: but ever, everyone is entitled to an opinion, and that's okay. 290 00:15:02,840 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: I tried to show him the post and he didn't 291 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 1: really want to look at it. 292 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 3: Make up your mind, buddy. 293 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:14,840 Speaker 1: You asked, hey, Sophia, could you uh, you're making some brownies? 294 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:15,720 Speaker 3: Could you make some for me? 295 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:19,240 Speaker 2: Of course? Yeah, Hey Sophia, Oh yeah, yeah, I'm just 296 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 2: making these brownies. 297 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:23,160 Speaker 3: Stop. I don't want any of these brownies. 298 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:24,880 Speaker 2: But you asked me to make the brownies? 299 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 3: Are you literally kidding me? Right now? Get these brownies 300 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:28,400 Speaker 3: out of my face? 301 00:15:28,680 --> 00:15:32,920 Speaker 1: An sensicle insane? 302 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 3: Okay, best podcasters in. 303 00:15:35,720 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 1: The case, Yes, analogies, someone's doing it like. 304 00:15:39,320 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 3: Us, that's right. 305 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 1: I tried to show him the post and he didn't 306 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:44,320 Speaker 1: really want to look at it, and he said my 307 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 1: question should have been should I get mad when he 308 00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 1: asks me to clean up after myself? 309 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 3: And that I just. 310 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 2: See the answer would have been the same. 311 00:15:55,400 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 1: Yes, and that I just spent the whole post probably 312 00:15:58,960 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: victimizing myself. 313 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:01,680 Speaker 3: YadA, YadA, YadA. 314 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 1: Oh lord, the only problem with what he's saying is 315 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:08,520 Speaker 1: that I do clean up after myself, just not on 316 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 1: his timetable. Like if I make dinner, I'm not cleaning 317 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:15,760 Speaker 1: the kitchen till the next morning. And I'm not sweeping 318 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:19,840 Speaker 1: and mopping more than once in the morning and once 319 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 1: a day, once a day. That's already like fourteen times 320 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 1: as much as we sleep. 321 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 2: And mop the only like for me, the dishes, I'd 322 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:33,000 Speaker 2: be like, well, I want them done at night. That's me. However, 323 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 2: if she's cooking dinner, then he. 324 00:16:34,560 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 4: Should be dishes exactly again, Alo, guess what what, you 325 00:16:40,560 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 4: don't have to worry about the dishes, Sofia, Why because 326 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 4: I already did them? 327 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:45,400 Speaker 2: What dishes? 328 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:49,920 Speaker 5: The ones downstairs? Those not my dishes, But you usually do. 329 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 3: All the dishes. 330 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 5: So I did all the dishes. Wow, I know, I'm 331 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 5: just hoping you up. 332 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 2: Oh my god, Riley, you did all the dishes that 333 00:16:59,000 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 2: were mine. 334 00:16:59,760 --> 00:17:02,960 Speaker 4: To Yeah, but because you usually do all the dishes yours. 335 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:04,199 Speaker 4: So I was like, appreciate it. 336 00:17:04,280 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 5: Right, it's the tresh out. So I was like, break. 337 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:12,480 Speaker 4: Today, that's good. Wow, Yeah, like you do around here, 338 00:17:12,480 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 4: and I appreciate it. 339 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 2: I appreciate that. 340 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 1: Right, likely story, likely story I did. Are you sure 341 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:24,920 Speaker 1: you didn't lock their dirty dishes in the dishwasher? 342 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:26,320 Speaker 2: Rama? 343 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:32,159 Speaker 1: I just I just feel so left out in the 344 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:34,159 Speaker 1: house beef that I had to insert myself in some 345 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: way for. 346 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:35,359 Speaker 3: Me to live here. 347 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:38,359 Speaker 6: So just what are you doing tonight? I have a 348 00:17:38,359 --> 00:17:42,240 Speaker 6: blow up mattress. We're blowing up your sleepover? 349 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:50,479 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, yeah, I ask guess in the comments how 350 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:52,919 Speaker 1: to sleepover with so we can respond after this is 351 00:17:52,960 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 1: live and. 352 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 3: We can tell you how we can go. Let's go. 353 00:17:55,800 --> 00:17:56,359 Speaker 5: Yeah. 354 00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: And I'm not sweeping and mopping more than once in 355 00:17:58,320 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 1: the morning as needed, because the puppy isn't all the 356 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:02,000 Speaker 1: way house training. 357 00:18:02,480 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 2: Oh I forgot they have a pig and a pig. 358 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 2: You forgot about that. 359 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 3: And she's twenty two years old. 360 00:18:10,600 --> 00:18:13,879 Speaker 2: She's twenty two taking care. What it sounds like is 361 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 2: she's twenty two taking care of two other kids that 362 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:20,440 Speaker 2: weren't hers originally. 363 00:18:20,359 --> 00:18:22,439 Speaker 3: A pig baby? 364 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:23,879 Speaker 5: Okay. You know what's also wild? 365 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:27,280 Speaker 6: What fifty years ago this wasn't a problem. 366 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 3: That is true. 367 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:31,440 Speaker 6: Crazy How times have changed. That is crazy for the better, 368 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 6: for the better, for the better right now, and you 369 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:40,680 Speaker 6: can't just get them pregnant. 370 00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:42,200 Speaker 3: Absolutely insane. 371 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:44,920 Speaker 5: It's just crazy that women put up with this back 372 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:45,360 Speaker 5: in the day. 373 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:46,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, it is. 374 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:47,679 Speaker 3: It is crazy. 375 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:52,320 Speaker 1: Also, Riley, you missed she was She worked an eight 376 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 1: hour shift before she went into labor. 377 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:57,880 Speaker 3: What the fuck? Yeah, yeah, dude, it's it's crazy. 378 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:01,200 Speaker 2: She was actively working. So it's not even like, yeah, 379 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:02,840 Speaker 2: it's not even like, oh, she was going to be 380 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:05,200 Speaker 2: a stay at home mom. No, she was actively working. 381 00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:08,880 Speaker 2: And then he is making it so that she cannot 382 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:12,400 Speaker 2: go back to work. Yeah, he's actively making it impossible 383 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 2: for her to go back to work. 384 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:15,400 Speaker 3: It's just control and manipulation. 385 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:17,679 Speaker 6: Like this guy, because the Marines do this to you, 386 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 6: doesn't mean you have to do this to your wife again. 387 00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:22,399 Speaker 2: Literally, he's trying to keep her on marine standards and 388 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 2: he's like, I am your commanding officer, and she's like, no, no, 389 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 2: you're not. You're my husband. 390 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:32,760 Speaker 1: Hey, buddy, how about you put the video game controller 391 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:34,880 Speaker 1: down and and do a pull up. 392 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:38,960 Speaker 2: Okay, if your commanding officer was there, what do you 393 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 2: think he'd think of you? 394 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:45,640 Speaker 3: Disgusting? Disquiston disgusting. I've been working on mine. 395 00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:47,200 Speaker 2: Yeah I know. I heard it the other day and 396 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:48,960 Speaker 2: I was like, what is going on over there? 397 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:49,879 Speaker 3: You? 398 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:54,560 Speaker 1: You are an influencer and you influenced me. Okay, I've 399 00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:55,880 Speaker 1: got Riley saying, oh. 400 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:56,600 Speaker 3: God in the mirror. 401 00:19:56,840 --> 00:19:59,560 Speaker 1: Wow, the puppy isn't all the way house trained yet, 402 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 1: and that's problem for him because of his O c D. 403 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:07,840 Speaker 1: I can only be so understanding when he is taking 404 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,480 Speaker 1: a toll on my self esteem. 405 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 3: Insanity. 406 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been telling him for the last few days 407 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 1: I want to leave him, but he just rationalizes and 408 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:19,679 Speaker 1: diffuses the situation enough to go right back to whatever 409 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 1: the f he was doing before. 410 00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 2: So she's like, I want to leave you, and he's like, actually. 411 00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:28,320 Speaker 4: You don't, like, like I don't want Let's let's sit down. 412 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:31,640 Speaker 1: Let's eat this delicious meal that you just made for us. 413 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:33,879 Speaker 1: Make sure to clean up right after. You have to 414 00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 1: do that later, you have to do that. Yeah, let's 415 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,720 Speaker 1: sit down. Me and the boys just running a new 416 00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:42,240 Speaker 1: campaign on the legends. You know it's about to go crazy. 417 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:43,679 Speaker 1: You know you don't want me to get away from 418 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:49,440 Speaker 1: the boys. 419 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:49,840 Speaker 2: And that happens every time she brings it up. 420 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:51,240 Speaker 3: This is your face. 421 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:56,360 Speaker 2: I slapped it, slapped it because you're stinky. 422 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:01,159 Speaker 1: He straight up asked me what was wrong when he 423 00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:05,159 Speaker 1: volunteered me to take two kids, an infant and a 424 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:08,000 Speaker 1: puppy to the park after we ate and it was 425 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 1: almost dark. And when I told him it's a lot, 426 00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 1: he just swept it under the rug and told me 427 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,800 Speaker 1: to basically get over it, and I should be lucky 428 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:21,439 Speaker 1: to spend time with my kids. Guess what, Yeah, puppy 429 00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:25,359 Speaker 1: I have. You are so right, I have the opportunity 430 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 1: of a lifetime to make you really lucky. You take 431 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 1: out all the kids and the puppy and everyone to 432 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:32,200 Speaker 1: the park right now. 433 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:33,680 Speaker 3: Congratulations. 434 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,360 Speaker 2: Whoa, that's a little too crazy. 435 00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:39,760 Speaker 3: No, you're so lucky. You're so lucky, right. 436 00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:41,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. 437 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:45,399 Speaker 1: He doesn't care about how overstimulated I get sometimes. I 438 00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:48,679 Speaker 1: spent Easter alone today and all I really did was 439 00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:54,959 Speaker 1: sleep and it felt nice. God, this is tragic. I 440 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 1: have been so exhausted with everything. But he didn't want 441 00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:00,320 Speaker 1: to read the post. 442 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,000 Speaker 2: My god, he commissioned this post. 443 00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, he literally asked for it. 444 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:09,600 Speaker 1: So we have some relevant updates, some relevant comments to 445 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:14,120 Speaker 1: close us out here. Yeah, but Sophia, Yeah, let's let's 446 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: let's get down to brass tacks here. 447 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:16,760 Speaker 3: We know she did, she's divorce. 448 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, we know that this is easy, but. 449 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 1: He keeps like every time she goes to say it, 450 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:26,440 Speaker 1: he keeps like diffusing the situation, like what what specifically, 451 00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:28,520 Speaker 1: what should we do? Getting down to brass tacks. 452 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:30,879 Speaker 2: Go to a lawyer if you can, if you have 453 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:34,640 Speaker 2: the funds, yeah, or if you don't, probably bo yeah, 454 00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:36,959 Speaker 2: pro bono lawyer if you don't. Also, you could go 455 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 2: to like any family or friends that you have, talk 456 00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:45,280 Speaker 2: to them, try and get those divorce papers. Just serve 457 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:46,200 Speaker 2: it to him. 458 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:46,919 Speaker 3: Yeah. 459 00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:48,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, and if you have any again, if you have 460 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:53,440 Speaker 2: any family or friends, lee, take the kids, go stay 461 00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:56,840 Speaker 2: with them again. That might be an issue because he 462 00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:59,240 Speaker 2: might be like, oh, she took the kids or something. 463 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:01,960 Speaker 1: But true, Yeah, I think, yeah, maybe talk to the 464 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 1: lawyer and see what because I think you one thousand 465 00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:10,720 Speaker 1: percent should get child support the maximum amount whatever is legal. 466 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 1: I don't I don't know, but like, get as much 467 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 1: child support as you can because you deserve it, and 468 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:19,000 Speaker 1: number two absolutely leave the situation. And it seems like 469 00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,040 Speaker 1: it hasn't been explicitly stated, but it seems like she 470 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,159 Speaker 1: would want full custody. I think I think so, so 471 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,000 Speaker 1: get that if you want that. Yeah, maybe maybe that 472 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,439 Speaker 1: takes more of sitting down and thinking, but yeah, at 473 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:34,000 Speaker 1: a bare minimum full child support. Yes, I would totally 474 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:37,879 Speaker 1: go to court easy. Yeah, and maybe even start like 475 00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 1: recording some of the interactions. 476 00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:42,040 Speaker 2: That's going on saying to you. 477 00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:45,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, like when she's like he's like, oh, go take 478 00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:46,840 Speaker 1: the kids of the park and then be like you 479 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:49,560 Speaker 1: do it and then he's like, no, yeah, that that 480 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:50,119 Speaker 1: kind of stuff. 481 00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:53,480 Speaker 3: It's easy. You'll you'll, you'll collect ten pieces of evidence 482 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:53,920 Speaker 3: in an hour. 483 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:57,119 Speaker 2: In an hour, he's giving it to you. 484 00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:02,600 Speaker 3: But Sophia, what we have some top comments? Ah, yes, 485 00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 3: that's right. 486 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:11,760 Speaker 1: Jasper John says he definitely wanted to read the other post. Yeah, 487 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,960 Speaker 1: he was the one suggesting you post here. Somehow he 488 00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,520 Speaker 1: changed his mind when he realized that all of the replies. 489 00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 1: My reply in the other post was your husband is horrible. 490 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: I stand by that. I feel terribly for you. You're 491 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:29,439 Speaker 1: treated like a slave and he does not care for 492 00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:33,000 Speaker 1: you at all. Even if he did read every reply 493 00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:36,080 Speaker 1: in the original post, he would just dismiss any that 494 00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:37,560 Speaker 1: differed from his worldview. 495 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:41,400 Speaker 3: Ugh, that would be all of them. Yeah, because he is. 496 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,160 Speaker 1: So convinced of his superiority and self righteousness. 497 00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:47,680 Speaker 3: I agree. 498 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:53,679 Speaker 1: Ned's stark. Raving Mad says, Ope, your update essentially states 499 00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:59,080 Speaker 1: that you're controlling, over bearing dad, husband, dad, husband, husband, 500 00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:00,760 Speaker 1: and father of your child. 501 00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:02,640 Speaker 3: Dad yes to you. 502 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:07,879 Speaker 1: Yes, No, that's not this story today, ladies, that's for 503 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:12,520 Speaker 1: another day. With the brother Uncles remains keept, trolling and overbearing, 504 00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,119 Speaker 1: even after you tried to talk to him again. I 505 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:18,600 Speaker 1: don't know how he can be any clear about not 506 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:22,399 Speaker 1: caring about you or your feelings, but only caring about what. 507 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:23,320 Speaker 3: You can do for him. 508 00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:27,600 Speaker 1: Please leave for your own good and just Rent says 509 00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:30,440 Speaker 1: he won't take you serious because you need to take 510 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,719 Speaker 1: actions and not just tell him you want to leave him. 511 00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:35,879 Speaker 1: But for that you need a lawyer and a plan 512 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 1: you can stick with. You got great answers in your 513 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:41,760 Speaker 1: last post, but now I think you need to make 514 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,840 Speaker 1: things happen. I don't think he will change for the better, 515 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:48,520 Speaker 1: and I think leaving him is the best option for 516 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:52,080 Speaker 1: you and your child's m. 517 00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:54,600 Speaker 2: I feel like we haven't got enough info about these 518 00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:55,320 Speaker 2: other two children. 519 00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 1: Literally it was mentioned so so briefly, so like I'm 520 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:03,160 Speaker 1: I'm a most unconfident in saying that they're actually there. 521 00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:06,280 Speaker 2: Because now I'm thinking maybe they don't exist at all. 522 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:09,159 Speaker 2: Maybe that was a typo. 523 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:11,480 Speaker 3: Maybe maybe it was a typo. 524 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:16,400 Speaker 1: Also possibly uh, the the mother of those children has 525 00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 1: custody most of the time, and she was talking about 526 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 1: the instances where they. 527 00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 3: Are when they're at the house of middle weekends or 528 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:23,120 Speaker 3: something like that. 529 00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: But before this, the matter at hand that Opie discussed, 530 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:33,320 Speaker 1: which is her getting away, as we said, leave, contact 531 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 1: a lawyer, serve the divorce papers. No, like I love 532 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,439 Speaker 1: that because there's no if if answer Buttet's no. 533 00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:42,119 Speaker 2: It's not like I want to be separated, but I 534 00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:43,959 Speaker 2: know it's just here, we're getting a devorce. 535 00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:49,240 Speaker 1: This, this is it. There is no further discussion. But Sophia, 536 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:54,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, I don't want to stop discussing 537 00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:57,040 Speaker 1: right now. Is there anything we can do. 538 00:26:57,119 --> 00:27:00,879 Speaker 2: To keep done? This? This is over, it's the it's done. 539 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,800 Speaker 3: There's nothing. Just kidding ya. 540 00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 2: I'm going to read you another story, whether you like 541 00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,560 Speaker 2: it or not quick though. 542 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:14,879 Speaker 5: I have a question for you guys. Yes, okay, so. 543 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:16,400 Speaker 2: How about gender roles? 544 00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:17,880 Speaker 5: Right? 545 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,439 Speaker 4: Okay, gender roles at the end of the day is 546 00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:24,200 Speaker 4: how you split up chors. It's all communication base. That's 547 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:29,640 Speaker 4: what I believe, you guys believe in. Uh, gender equality, right, 548 00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 4: gender equity equity? Yeah, okay, all right. So I was 549 00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:37,560 Speaker 4: on social media the other day and I saw that 550 00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,600 Speaker 4: this girl, she's in Texas, she was looking for a 551 00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:44,640 Speaker 4: part time boyfriend on social media. Party yes, to help 552 00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:48,760 Speaker 4: her clean the house and he will get rent for 553 00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,520 Speaker 4: free because she's a girl boss. She doesn't have time 554 00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:52,680 Speaker 4: to clean the house. How do you guys feel about that? 555 00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 2: She's just looking for a cleaner. 556 00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 5: You'd be my part time boyfriend. You live at my 557 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 5: house and you clean. 558 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:01,320 Speaker 3: Wait, it's weird, but. 559 00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:06,359 Speaker 2: We we we wait, But she wants the boyfriend duties 560 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:06,800 Speaker 2: as well. 561 00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:11,159 Speaker 5: She just says she's looking for a part time time boyfriend. 562 00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:11,320 Speaker 1: Me. 563 00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 5: That's that's just what she said. 564 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:15,480 Speaker 2: Are we sure this wasn't satire? 565 00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:21,120 Speaker 5: I can never would. 566 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:26,159 Speaker 2: Perhaps it seemed possibly like she was telling the truth. 567 00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:31,360 Speaker 4: But let's let's let's assume in the world this is real. 568 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:32,080 Speaker 5: This just happened. 569 00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,399 Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, it's Google for Coco pops. 570 00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,879 Speaker 5: Yeah, Google for cocos. 571 00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:41,120 Speaker 2: Crazy because she wants a guy to do the chores, 572 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:45,440 Speaker 2: but because she's online asking for a part time boyfriend, 573 00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 2: yeah yeah, and asking for asking someone who's specifically I 574 00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:54,480 Speaker 2: feel like she just needs to get a cleaner. 575 00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. 576 00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:57,560 Speaker 1: If you want to get into it, if there was 577 00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 1: a couple that lived together and the girlfriend was like 578 00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:06,200 Speaker 1: always like never cleaning and doing whatever, the guys like 579 00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:09,200 Speaker 1: cooking and doing all this stuff, and like it's kind 580 00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,960 Speaker 1: of like this scenario but kind of reversed, then yeah, 581 00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 1: the the uh, the girlfriend should totally they just sit 582 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,520 Speaker 1: to have a conversation like, Okay, how can we committedly 583 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 1: split these responsibilities so you get your time for rest 584 00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,080 Speaker 1: and you know, get some stuff done for the household. 585 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,440 Speaker 3: I get some time for rest. It's truly all about just. 586 00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,840 Speaker 2: Like communication, communicating. 587 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,440 Speaker 1: Figuring out a good setup, like like real world example, Okay, 588 00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 1: my girlfriend is not a fan of cleaning the bathrooms. 589 00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:41,800 Speaker 1: I I'm all about cleaning toilets, wow, because I used 590 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:45,120 Speaker 1: to clog them like crazy. I'm very comfortable with toilets, 591 00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,360 Speaker 1: so I will clean the toilet all day long. 592 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,000 Speaker 3: I just did a deep clean of the bathroom. 593 00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:52,240 Speaker 2: Nice whoa, And she gets a man. 594 00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:57,000 Speaker 1: That's a man right there, and she has been wanting 595 00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 1: to clean the fridge for a while, so we were like, hey, 596 00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:02,920 Speaker 1: all he cleaned the bathroom, Uh. 597 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 3: You do the fridge. 598 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:04,960 Speaker 1: And then when I finished it, came and I helped 599 00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:06,400 Speaker 1: her finish up the fridge because I finished. 600 00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,200 Speaker 3: A little early wowcation. 601 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:21,080 Speaker 2: Simple, the three c's of a relationship. Communication cuddlingitis wasn't 602 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,800 Speaker 2: expected now, but I'll stand by it. 603 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 3: All right, Sophia, what have you got for us? 604 00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:29,120 Speaker 2: I got a story. 605 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,560 Speaker 3: I got a story for you.