1 00:00:01,520 --> 00:00:05,520 Speaker 1: It is election day in Georgia. Get out and vote, people, 2 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:09,560 Speaker 1: Get out and vote. Please. We support Senator Rafael Warnock 3 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 1: on this show. Of course you know that already. Please 4 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: when you vote, vote for Senator Rafael Warnock, all right, 5 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:22,560 Speaker 1: day to day. Yeah, yeah, so we're hurrying up for you, Steve. 6 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:25,480 Speaker 1: Get out and vote today. It is time now as 7 00:00:25,520 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 1: we switch gears for today's Strawberry Letter. If you need 8 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please 9 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:35,919 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 10 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:39,560 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 11 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're gonna read this 12 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: one right here, right now. You never know it could 13 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:49,880 Speaker 1: be yours. You never knew. Now you your best of book, 14 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: Living in whose own tight is easy to deal this? Hell? This, 15 00:00:54,200 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: he'll be stroll beers. Get out of here, herschel loser newser. 16 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 1: We're a nuts run to hear from you, all right, 17 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and I own and operate 18 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:10,039 Speaker 1: a small business, and I still work full time. I 19 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: used to do the payroll in purchasing for the business, 20 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 1: but it got to be too much for me. My 21 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 1: husband and I discussed hiring an assistant in addition to 22 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 1: the three employees we have. A few days later, my 23 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 1: husband went to a trade show and he met a 24 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:28,040 Speaker 1: potential employee. We tried to do a FaceTime interview with her, 25 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: but I couldn't get a clear picture of her. She 26 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 1: appeared to be a thin and plain girl. She's twenty 27 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: seven years old, and she said she had accounting experience, 28 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:41,319 Speaker 1: so we hired her on the spot. The play girl 29 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 1: that interviewed with us was not the same girl that 30 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: came to work with us. This was a grown woman 31 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: with authoritative tone and big legs and long eyelashes. She 32 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: fit in at first and was good in accounting, but 33 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: after a month the staff told us she's too bossy. 34 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 1: My husband took up for her and said that is 35 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: exactly what's needed in the workplace. She even playfully told 36 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 1: him what to do, and he did it. I was 37 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 1: afraid to say anything to him because I knew what 38 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: he'd say. He thinks I have control issues and I 39 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: don't like the woman because she's a woman. I took 40 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:22,360 Speaker 1: a step back and thought about it. No, no, that's 41 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: not it at all. I began popping up and I 42 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: caught them eating lunch and laughing and talking one day, 43 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: and another day I saw him follow around the store, 44 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: follow her around the store with his eyes. He was 45 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 1: focused on her big legs. I asked her to give 46 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 1: me account of cups and lid so I could purchase more, 47 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:45,079 Speaker 1: and she told me that Curtis to sign the ordering 48 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: to her. Well, isn't she helpful? There's only so much 49 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:53,799 Speaker 1: that I can take. Am I too controlling? Or will 50 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,239 Speaker 1: she be a problem if I don't stop her right now? 51 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: Please advice? Yes, not only will she be a problem, 52 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: but he's already a problem obviously, because she's got you 53 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,800 Speaker 1: feeling some kind of way. But here's the issue. You 54 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 1: can do whatever you want to do. It is your 55 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:12,679 Speaker 1: business too. She had no right to be that flippant 56 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:15,360 Speaker 1: with you, period. I don't care what Curtis told her. 57 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:18,519 Speaker 1: She could have answered your question in a much more 58 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 1: respectful way. Not tell you what Curtis told her. She 59 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 1: was disrespectful and your husband should have checked her right 60 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: then and there. But instead he's taking up for her 61 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 1: all over the office. Even the other employees complain that, 62 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: you know she's too bossy, and doesn't he realize what 63 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: he's doing. I mean, he's the one that's causing division 64 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:44,840 Speaker 1: in the workplace and making two of them look very suspicious. 65 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: And did you say you were afraid to say anything 66 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: to him because he would say you didn't like her 67 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 1: because she's a woman. Well he might say that, or 68 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: he might say you have control issues. So what he 69 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:57,880 Speaker 1: might say that, but you still have a right to 70 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: say whatever you want to say. You don't have to 71 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 1: be fearful about it. The two of them now are 72 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: eating lunch together. His eyes are following her around the store, 73 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 1: he's checking out her big legs, and he's allowing her 74 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 1: to talk to you kind of crazy. Well, that's a 75 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: no no. This is a situation that needs to be 76 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:18,279 Speaker 1: handled like only a wife can and you need to 77 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:21,360 Speaker 1: talk to your husband, not her. Don't talk to her, 78 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: talk to him. Tell your husband he's out of order, 79 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: and to not let her to her talk to you 80 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:29,560 Speaker 1: that way, and to let her know that if you 81 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 1: ask her for something, to give it to you. You're 82 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 1: the wife, you're the business owner as well. I know 83 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:39,040 Speaker 1: you told her she was in charge of ordering. Now 84 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 1: he did that, but you are the missus and you're 85 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 1: in charge over everything. Okay, The whole business. I'll never 86 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 1: forget this time. I don't know if you guys saw 87 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: it on wilding out when Nick was just on their 88 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 1: kind of acting crazy Nick Cannon, and all of a 89 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: sudden he got this crazy look in his face. Mariah 90 00:04:56,839 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: walked from backstage and said, Nick, I will shut all 91 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: all this sugar honey iced tea down. I will shut 92 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 1: it all down. Well, that's what you need to do, 93 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 1: all right, Steve. I would first of all, I like 94 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:14,280 Speaker 1: to congratulate you, Shirley, because you've never used an outside 95 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: reference or story in any of your Strawberry Letter responses 96 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: in twenty two years. That threw you off. You told 97 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: that threw me way off. Doc. She told a Nick 98 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 1: Cannon analogy to use in her Strawberry letter. Bravo, Shelly, bravo. 99 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:32,280 Speaker 1: Way to do it, Darling, Way to try to bring 100 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 1: it on home. Now use examples. People often said, Steve, 101 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:39,359 Speaker 1: this letter ain't about you. You got to make it 102 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: about you. Shelly took the letter and made it about Nick. 103 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:47,760 Speaker 1: Kenny I thought was outstanding. Thank you so much. Here's 104 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 1: a letter, alright, here's a letter in the nutshell. At 105 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: the end of the letter, at the end of the letter. 106 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:59,279 Speaker 1: The question was asked, and my too controlling. This is 107 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 1: really not what this letter is about. You're not too controlling, 108 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 1: You're jealous. This letter is about jealous, envy, suspicion. That's 109 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 1: what this letter is about, and that's how I'm gonna 110 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 1: have to address it. Shelly did an admirable job about it. 111 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: The kudos to you, Shirley, for the use of the 112 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: Nick Cannon analogy. Twenty two years. You've never used an 113 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:33,599 Speaker 1: outside story in your answer. I felt just wonderful you're 114 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:39,120 Speaker 1: still making it about you. Okay, here we go, all right, 115 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: we'll be back. We'll be back with part two of 116 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:46,839 Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. 117 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry letter, subject my husband's assistant is very helpful. 118 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:54,040 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening 119 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's 120 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. The subject my husband's assistant is very helpful. Well, 121 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: my husband's sistant is very helpful. This is a disguise. 122 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:10,440 Speaker 1: The question in this letter is at the end, am 123 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:13,440 Speaker 1: I too controlling? Or will she be a problem if 124 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: I don't stop her right now? Please advise that's what 125 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 1: this letter is about. But the question should not be 126 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: am I too controlling? This is a letter about jealousy 127 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 1: and suspicion. Let me take you down the letter, show 128 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: you how meaningless some of this stuff is until we 129 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 1: get down to what she really wants. My husband and 130 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 1: I own and operate a small business, and I still 131 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:43,200 Speaker 1: work full time. Okay, that's shaky, because I think is 132 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 1: your husband. I'm not really sure. I used to do 133 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: prey roll in purchasing for the business, but it got 134 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 1: to be too much for me, which means she doesn't 135 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: do it anymore, so now her husband's running it. My 136 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: husband and I discuss hiring an assistant to go along 137 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: with the three employees that got a couple of days. 138 00:08:01,800 --> 00:08:04,960 Speaker 1: Lady huss at a trade show, met a potential employee. 139 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: Tried to do a FaceTime interview with her, but couldn't 140 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: get a clear pitch of it. She appeared to be 141 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 1: a thin and plain girl. Here we go. This is 142 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 1: where the jealousy starts to come in at she appeared 143 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 1: to be a thin and plain girl, which obviously would 144 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: have been okay, she's twenty seven years old. She said 145 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: she had an accounting experience, So we hide her on 146 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 1: the spot, did we Now? Okay, the plain girl that 147 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 1: interview with us was not the same girl that came 148 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: to work with us. She knew what she was doing. 149 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:42,439 Speaker 1: This was a grown woman. Most twenty seven year old 150 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 1: women are grown with an authoritative tone and big legs 151 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:51,320 Speaker 1: and long eyelashes. What do the big legs and the 152 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 1: long eyelashes got to do with anything? Well, I'll tell 153 00:08:57,240 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 1: you you don't wear a long eyelash and you ain't 154 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 1: got a big So now you are trying to figure 155 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: out what does she have that you don't? Just see 156 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 1: this letter has taking an ugly turn. Y'all, the plain 157 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,560 Speaker 1: girl that interviewed with us was not the same girl 158 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 1: that came to work. She fit in at first. She 159 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: was good in the county. She was good at that, 160 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: she said that. But after month the staff told us 161 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: she's too bossy. Now I don't like that line right there, 162 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:33,200 Speaker 1: because most authoritative women get accused as being bossy. If 163 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 1: me and authoritative, we just the boss, we'll get accused 164 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 1: of another B word. But you get called bossy when 165 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 1: you authoritative. So I think that's unfair. I think that's 166 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: very unfair. But now she was good at accounting. My 167 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: husband took up for her and said, that's exactly what's 168 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 1: needed in the workplace. True statement. She even playfully told 169 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 1: him what to do and he did it. Well, you 170 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: know you're bringing somebody in there that can help out. 171 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: She help it out. I was afraid to say anything 172 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: to him because I knew what he'd say. He thinks 173 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 1: I have control issues, and I don't like the woman 174 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 1: because she's a woman. And I think he's one correct. 175 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 1: I think you don't like her because she's a woman. 176 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:21,600 Speaker 1: I don't think you like it because she got big 177 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: legs and got a long out laugh. Oh am, I 178 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: being clear here, Well it's okay, team, I got you. 179 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: I was afraid to say anything because I knew what 180 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 1: he's saying. Uh huh, I think I he thinks I 181 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:37,320 Speaker 1: got controlled and I don't like the woman because she's 182 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: a woman. That's exactly here. I took a step back 183 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:43,840 Speaker 1: and thought about it. But no, it's not that at all. Right. 184 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:46,680 Speaker 1: I began popping up, but I called him eat lunch 185 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:50,280 Speaker 1: and laughing where you know, look, they got to eat. 186 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:55,880 Speaker 1: They you have to eat? Why he lunch? Whithoard is 187 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:59,840 Speaker 1: where the bus come in? Here? Yes, see dash where 188 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: start see you? You've been eating lunch, but now you 189 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 1: eating lunch with the big legs and the long eye lad, 190 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 1: And y'all ain't just eating, y'all laughing and talking? What 191 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:15,240 Speaker 1: the hell is y'all down there at that job? Talking? 192 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 1: For these jobs can be done in silence. Yeah, really 193 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:26,880 Speaker 1: really don't You don't see the jealousy coming in now? Yeah, 194 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 1: it's some jealousy gad coming in here now. Another day 195 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: I saw him follow her around the store with his eyes. 196 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: He was focused on her big legs. God, the wife 197 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:42,240 Speaker 1: ain't got because he looking over there? Why was he 198 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 1: looking over the following her around the stove and w 199 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:50,480 Speaker 1: with all y'all? But why is he busted? Looking where 200 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:56,319 Speaker 1: your glasses at? Stupid boy? Look look ahead of her 201 00:11:56,360 --> 00:11:59,559 Speaker 1: and let her walk into your eyeline. Then when she 202 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: get in your outline, turn your head the other way. 203 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: That's how you do it this plenty of each other. 204 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:08,319 Speaker 1: I asked her to h called to meet and luncheon, 205 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 1: following her around with his eyes focused on her big legs. 206 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 1: I asked her to give me a count on cups 207 00:12:14,360 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 1: and leads so I could purchase more. She told me 208 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:20,320 Speaker 1: Curtis a signed the order and to her, well, isn't 209 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 1: she helpful? That ain't really got nothing to do with it. 210 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:26,400 Speaker 1: Curtis here, Curtis told me to do it. There's only 211 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:29,560 Speaker 1: so much that I can take. Am I too controlling? 212 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 1: Or will she be a problem if I don't stop 213 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: her right now? Please advise you want her out the 214 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:37,480 Speaker 1: company because you're jealous of your husband with her right now? 215 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:40,719 Speaker 1: And you should Yeah, you should be jealous because you're 216 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:44,319 Speaker 1: a woman and that's your job. Quit talking about it. 217 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: Cast she boss, She got big legs. She can't have 218 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:52,600 Speaker 1: a little legs. Us your comments on today's Discobery Letter 219 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:58,800 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey on Instagram and Faithbook. Check out the Strawberry 220 00:12:58,880 --> 00:13:02,880 Speaker 1: Letter podcast on Man as well. It coming up in 221 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: forty six minutes after the hour. Junior is up with 222 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:09,560 Speaker 1: Sports Talk right now coming coming down with the Cup showdown. 223 00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 1: So you're listening to the Dame Harvey Morning Show.