WEBVTT - GECKMAIL: “MY DAD CAN’T STOP MARRYING WOMEN FROM THE INTERNET” 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.239 Hey, what's up. How's it going. My name is Lyle 0:00:03.920 --> 0:00:08.119 a Gecko sometimes and this is gek Mail. I made 0:00:08.160 --> 0:00:14.680 an Instagram story where I asked people to send me mail, 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:21.400 not like literal male, but email with stuff with words. 0:00:22.079 --> 0:00:24.320 You know. It's kind of will be like the regular podcast, 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:28.320 except it's just me. You know how. Normally there's a 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:30.600 lot of podcasts out there where it's two people having 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:33.800 a conversation, and that's what a lot of my podcast 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:36.120 is normally. But today my podcast is going to just 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:42.519 be me ranting a lot while looking at things that 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:46.440 other people have said. It's gonna be like a monologue podcast, 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:54.280 but I will be reading viewer mail. It's almost like 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:58.640 like like reading those Reddit stories, except instead of posting 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:03.600 them to Reddit, people email them to me. That's what 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:05.679 people used, That's what people used to do before they 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:09.360 could post their stories on Reddit. They just said them. 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:11.679 They didn't they emailed them to people, or they just 0:01:11.720 --> 0:01:15.080 said them. I'm off one right now, I'm gonna go 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:18.320 on a rant today. I'm not holding it. I've decided 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:22.280 this this episode of gek Mail, I'm not holding anything back, 0:01:22.400 --> 0:01:26.000 all right. I'm gonna give my true opinions on things. Normally, 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:27.959 I'm scared. Normally, I'm like, I don't want to give 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:30.960 my opinions because not even because I'm afraid of people 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:33.440 getting mad at me. Serious, seriously, not even because I'm 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:35.120 afraid of people getting mad at me, but more so 0:01:36.080 --> 0:01:39.080 because I think as time has gone on, I just 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:45.360 developed this like deep agnosticism towards fucking everything, you know, 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:51.560 towards everything. There's some things that that agnosticism hasn't touched, 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.680 but it's touched a lot of stuff. The older I get, 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:58.320 the more I learn through my own personal experience, the 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:00.440 less I feel like I fucking know about it anything. 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:06.080 That's the main reason why I don't give a lot 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:08.800 of strong opinions, or at least try out to give 0:02:08.840 --> 0:02:11.880 a lot of strong opinions. But I'm not gonna do 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:17.239 that today. I'm gonna not be agnostic today. I think 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:20.280 the world needs a little bit more agnosticism in a 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:24.120 sense is but that's an opinion in and of itself. 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:27.160 All right, Fuck this this is That was that was 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:29.760 too long of an intro. Thanks for listening to this podcast. 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:31.560 This is gonna be like an hour and a half 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:35.359 of me rambling, and I think it's gonna be fun. 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:37.760 I think we're gonna have a good time. I drank 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:41.040 a cup of coffee, and we have some good emails 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:45.160 that we're gonna listen to. So let's do a gek mail. Okay, 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:49.519 This first one is called this is from soup Corn 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:54.160 and the subject line is I don't like my home 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:58.400 country of Japan. Hello Therapy Gecko. I met you one 0:02:58.480 --> 0:03:01.920 time in Shibuya a show. It was a fun experience, 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:04.200 so thank you for coming. Yes, I did a show 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:07.640 a couple times in Shibuya, Tokyo. That was fucking fun. 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:10.280 All right. Anyway, this is just a dump about what 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:12.600 I thought about today. I don't know what I should 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:15.720 do with my life. I'm an architecture student from Japan 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:18.960 and I am on study abroad. I don't like Japan 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:21.960 in terms of the work culture, the people who are 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:24.680 too shy to talk to each other, having to play 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:28.960 the mind games, read the room, who's greater and better 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:33.520 every single minute? Yeah, in I've talked about Japan. I 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:37.120 feel like a bunch on the show. Japan has a 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:42.960 crazy work culture and it also has ah fuck, there's 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:45.920 a name for this, dude. Hold on, there's a name 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:52.040 for this I'm gonna google this Japanese term for outword 0:03:53.280 --> 0:04:03.880 verse in word expression. There's a word for this, Okay, 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:08.080 here it is, I think. I think it's called tatame 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:11.880 the public facade what you say and do outwardly to 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:17.640 maintain social harmony and expectations. And then honey, which is 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:20.800 like your true inner feelings. And so I think, like, yeah, 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:24.919 in Japanese, uh uh, like work culture from what I understand, 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:27.200 I mean, I'm a fucking white American guy, but from 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:34.000 what I understand is that there's a very strong culture 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:38.719 of like, do not say what you feel and keep 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:42.000 it inside to maintain social harmony. So there's a lot 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:44.640 of I think what this emailer is talking about is, yeah, 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.640 having to play those mind games and having to like 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:51.520 and also like social hierarchy and order, like there's this 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:53.480 is more important over there. Like there's this thing when 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:57.839 you go out to drinks with your boss, Like it's 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:01.839 expected that you go out to drinks with like your 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.640 coworkers and the people you work with, even after work hours. 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:07.440 And there's a weird thing where like when you clink 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:10.719 your glass you're superior. You have to make sure that 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:14.680 if your boss's glass is like above yours like you 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:21.360 have a lot of respect for hierarchy and whatnot. Okay, 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:24.000 So I don't like the work culture. I don't like 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:27.320 having to play these mind games. But I love the designs, 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:31.920 some music, fashion, and the architecture that the Japanese produce. 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:37.400 They're so funny, diverse, elegant, chaotic yet orderly. I want 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:41.120 to get out of Japan, but I like Japan. I 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:44.240 want to live doing design, but I also want money, 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:47.440 and being an architect isn't the best choice if you 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.960 want to be rich. Is that true? I thought architects 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:57.520 make a lot of money. Is that not true? Okay, 0:05:57.760 --> 0:06:01.920 I'm gonna guess this person is it's true. Okay. I 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:04.839 just want to live my life reading books, watching movies, 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:09.280 going to museums, travel sometimes, learn new things, and design stuff. 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:13.080 Maybe it's just the work life, the adult life that 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:18.800 I'm scared of. Not Japan necessarily interesting. Interesting, that could 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:21.520 be true. I guess that I tend to compare myself 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:24.360 with other people, especially people from high school. I get 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:27.200 anxious when I'm talking to the people who went full business. 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:31.120 I feel their ideology is fit for society. They have 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:36.160 a clear goal, a motive, and already starting up the ladder. Interesting. Okay, 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:39.480 so this person gets anxious when they talk to people 0:06:40.040 --> 0:06:45.600 who kind of went straight up, you know, they were like, 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:47.680 all right, I'm gonna go to school, I'm gonna get 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:51.280 the job, I'm gonna respect my elders. I'm gonna, you know, 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:57.640 fit into the way that society is wants me to conform. 0:06:58.240 --> 0:07:01.240 I'm still deciding on which ladder to take. I might 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:04.920 be too scared or too greedy to decide what to do. 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:07.680 The study abroad is hard, but so fun for me. 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:10.200 I am having a great experience in the city I 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:13.480 am studying at the moment. The people are usually helpful 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:16.040 and easier to talk to than in Japan. But I'm 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:19.320 different here as a guest. Wait, ah, this person. I 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:24.040 don't think this person put where they are studying. I'm 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:27.480 gonna get where. I'm gonna guess they're studying in America. 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:29.000 I mean, I don't know, maybe they could be studying 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:33.840 in Europe or Australia or Canada or whatever. That's just 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:37.960 me being fucking America bias. It's like, yeah, they're studying abroad. 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:40.080 Of course, if you're what, you're gonna go to another country. 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:45.720 You're gonna go some place it's not America. Okay. The 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:48.360 people are usually helpful, easier to talk to than in Japan. 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:51.120 But I'm here as a guest. My chances to get 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:55.000 a job here after study abroad are very, very low. 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:57.600 I have not heard about it. I think being a 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:01.720 guest and being I think being a guest versus being 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:05.000 a resident gives you different lenses. Or maybe I am 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:08.400 in that period where you can oversee someone's flaws because 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:11.400 they are your crush or something. Okay, this seems more 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:18.840 American now, yes, this seems now more American. That's that is, 0:08:18.880 --> 0:08:20.760 I guess a little bit of America as you kind 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:24.800 of fall in love with it. I guess why did 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:26.640 I say that? You fall in love with it. You 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:28.360 go over and you're like, oh, there's a lot of 0:08:28.360 --> 0:08:31.000 cool stuff here, but it is a honeymoon phase. And 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.760 then you're like, oh, wait, there's actually a lot of flaws. 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:36.000 But it's like that way everywhere. I mean, shit, for me, 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:39.200 it was like that with Japan, you know. I mean 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:41.360 you go to Japan and it's like, Wow, everything's cleaner, 0:08:41.360 --> 0:08:46.600 everything's nicer, everything's fucking sick, And then you're like, wait, 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:50.520 why is it like that? And then you start to 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:54.480 start to learn about all this kind of like societal 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:57.200 conditioning and whatnot. Okay, or maybe I am in that 0:08:57.240 --> 0:09:00.120 period where you can oversee someone's flaws because they're or 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:04.840 crush or something. Nah, Japan is still kind of shit. Okay, 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:09.640 that's the whole email from Soupcorn. I don't know. They 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:11.839 bring up a lot of interesting things. There's a lot 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:15.640 of information that's missing from this email that I'm that 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:19.280 is would be important to ponder it, like where did 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:25.439 they go? But you know what I'll say this Soupcorn, 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:31.280 is that the first of all, you're not alone. You're 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:33.640 not alone at all, and everyone everyone knows you're not 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:39.559 alone in the desire to do like you're not alone 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:43.840 in the sense that you see this path ahead of 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:46.800 you that all your like classmates are taking and friends 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:50.800 are taking, and you see what's up right, especially in 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:55.920 a culture like Japan, and you see this traditional route 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:58.520 and you look at it and you're like, oh, man, 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:01.760 is this is this? It is this what I gotta do? 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:05.200 And you're like, is there anything else? And you're and 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:08.120 it's not only that, right, It's not only that. It's 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:12.800 that you see other people, not not that you see 0:10:12.840 --> 0:10:17.880 other people who feel the same way as you but 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:22.000 submit to it. You fucking see other people who don't 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:25.280 question it and don't think about it and are fine 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:27.840 with it. And that is I think what makes you 0:10:27.920 --> 0:10:33.400 anxious is you're like, fuck, you know, I'm I'm Why 0:10:33.440 --> 0:10:37.800 am I? Why am I cursed with wanting something more? 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:45.719 And my friends are totally down to just like you know, uh, 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:50.040 suck up to a boss and and take to take 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:52.319 the traditional route. And let me tell you something, it's 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:55.760 a it's a blessing and a curse. And you know, 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:59.079 I've I've never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever ever in 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:02.880 my life, you know, from I mean from like fucking 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:08.960 elementary school man like thought that I was gonna get 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:13.200 go into science or or medicine or law or like 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:18.120 anything traditional. I'm a I'm This is a hard one 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.640 to draw from my personal experience because I just feel 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:23.360 like I got I feel like I got really uh 0:11:23.520 --> 0:11:26.679 lucky with a lot of ways that my life turned 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:30.560 out in this kind of regard. But also if I 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:32.960 hadn't gotten lucky, I would have I probably would have 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:38.480 just kept trying different shit until I got lucky. But 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:40.800 it's tough. There's lots and lots and lots of times 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:42.760 in my life and I'm not even and you know, 0:11:42.840 --> 0:11:45.040 I mean take career out of it, right, you know, 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:49.360 I mean look at like life in general, there's a 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:52.400 certain kind of brain that just is like, I want 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:56.640 more out of this. Although this person, they said they 0:11:56.720 --> 0:11:58.880 just want to read books, watch movies, go to museums, 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:01.960 travel sometimes, learn new things and design stuff. Can you 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:06.920 not find just like some job. I I don't know 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:12.480 what is available in Japan. Maybe you would have to 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:15.480 leave Japan. And also, this person's probably young. This person's 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:23.719 probably like nineteen twenty twenty one. Try going somewhere. I 0:12:23.720 --> 0:12:28.240 don't know where you can go. I don't know where 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:33.160 you can go, but you could go somewhere America. I 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:35.800 know America is what sucks and it's hard to get 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:39.199 into and is expensive. But like, I don't know what's 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:43.800 up in Canada? Do they let people go to Canada? 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.079 I feel like I'm not being helpful to this person 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:48.679 at all, but I have a lot of thoughts about it. 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:57.880 If all you want to do is read books, watch movies, 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:00.760 go to museums, travel sometimes, learn new things and design stuff. 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:07.079 As you said, you can totally totally be like okay, 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:11.040 Like it's like, sit down, do some googling, do some research, 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:16.000 and just be like, what fucking job can I do 0:13:16.920 --> 0:13:19.400 that makes the most amount of money with the least 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:22.960 amount of work, Like how many? There's gotta be some 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:28.920 bullshit jobs out there that you can just like do 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:31.840 your bullshit thing for money and then live your life. 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:34.160 That's a that's a big thing is that you don't 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:36.840 have The thing you do for money doesn't have to 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:47.199 be your fucking life and your how you define yourself. 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:49.360 So you probably have a lot of friends who are 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:52.280 like I, I it's really important to me to climb 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:55.440 the corporate ladder and to succeed and to do a 0:13:55.480 --> 0:14:00.320 good job. And that doesn't have to be you. It 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:04.160 doesn't have to be you. You can just you can. 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:09.120 You can work at some fucking coffee shop for as 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:15.400 little hours as you need to to pay some humble amount, 0:14:15.480 --> 0:14:20.800 some humble lifestyle. You live with roommates, you know, live cheap, 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.280 and just fucking live your life. Man, if that's what 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:26.920 you want to do, If that's what you want to do, okay, 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:28.440 I don't know, if any I don't know if that 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:33.600 was helpful at all. Let's keep going. Oh, this is 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:38.160 from the same person. Okay, this person sent me multiply. 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:39.720 All right, this is from the same person, but it's 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.720 kind of interesting. Okay, this is also from soup Corn. 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:48.840 I told my Muslim friend her favorite cake has alcohol. Hi, 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:51.920 So my friend decided to buy some cake and said 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.640 I can have some. I take some and went home. 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:57.280 Later that day, I had a bite and realized it 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:02.360 had an alcoholic flavor. So I thought this was her 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:05.040 first time eating it. Maybe she doesn't know about this. 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:07.880 So I call her, telling her that there is some 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:12.920 alcohol zero point nine percent wine. But the thing is, 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:15.760 she already had a bite. In fact, it was her 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:19.800 favorite cake to buy at the supermarket. She didn't know 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:23.080 there was alcohol in it before, but now that she knows, 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:27.240 she probably feels guilty religiously she can't eat her favorite 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:31.240 cake anymore. I feel so bad. Should I have not 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:34.240 told her about this? Or was this the right thing 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:36.440 to do? What can I do to make it up? 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:39.240 Is this? Okay? So this is the same guy who 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:45.520 from Japan who was talking about wanting to leave. I 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:49.280 feel bad for this person because this guy's soupcorn is 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:53.280 the name of this emailer. This guy's mind is so 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:58.520 I feel bad. This is this guy's brain. If this 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:02.200 is a guy, I'm gonna just say it is. This 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:10.440 guy's brain is so anxious that he thinks that it's 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:16.640 that it's somehow his fault that this cake has alcohol 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:20.720 in it's that this his friend bought like he it's 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:24.360 almost like like he like he's acting as if he 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:29.960 fucking like gave her the cake without knowing she bought him. 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:35.160 He's acting like he gifted her cake and that had 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:38.400 alcohol in it and he fucked her up. But he's 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:42.640 just informing her as a friend that the cake has 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:46.320 alcohol in it, and now he feels bad about informing 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:52.680 her of reality. That is helpful for her. Soup corn. 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:54.680 If you're listening to this podcast, you got I think 0:16:54.760 --> 0:17:00.120 you need a strong internal mindset shift because you're if 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:01.880 you're doing this with cake, you're probably doing this with 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:07.920 the rest of your life of just believing that you're 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:12.480 somehow guilty of all everything, which is you can't live 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:18.399 life like that. It's gonna fuck you up. Yeah, you have. 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:20.520 There's no reason all to feel bad about this. You're 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:23.080 in You're helping your friend by informing her that this 0:17:23.280 --> 0:17:25.040 cake has. I mean, it's a bummer for her, but 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:26.840 it's not your It's a bummer for her, but it's 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:29.480 not your fault. It's like it's like it's like if 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:31.840 you told your friend that it was going to rain 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:35.840 today and then you felt bad that it was going 0:17:35.920 --> 0:17:40.040 to rise, if you fucking made it rain. Can't be 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:43.439 so hard on yourself, supercorn. All right. This one is 0:17:43.520 --> 0:17:49.439 from Gabby, subject line my dad can't stop marrying women 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:54.160 he meets off the internet. Hi, gek, my name is Gabby. 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:58.239 I am twenty one and uh my father is on 0:17:58.359 --> 0:18:03.159 marriage number four since twenty twenty two. For some context, 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:06.640 his first wife was an arranged marriage and he ended 0:18:06.720 --> 0:18:10.800 up leaving her and their daughter three years in for 0:18:10.920 --> 0:18:14.200 my mom. Him and my mom met through the internet 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:16.919 in two thousand and three. Wow, that's pretty early for 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:19.680 meeting on the internet. My dad was disowned from his 0:18:19.760 --> 0:18:23.399 family because of the divorce and moved from India to 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:26.919 the US to be with my mom. They were together 0:18:27.040 --> 0:18:30.359 for seventeen years, but he cheated on her a lot 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:33.840 and they got divorced like three times throughout my childhood. 0:18:34.920 --> 0:18:38.560 My mom unfortunately passed away in twenty twenty and the 0:18:38.640 --> 0:18:42.800 dating started immediately with no concern for his grieving children. 0:18:43.400 --> 0:18:45.639 He is a pattern of finding women that do not 0:18:45.760 --> 0:18:49.359 live close to where he's living at all, talking to 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:52.640 them for weeks to a month, and flying us all 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:56.800 out to meet them for the first time. That's crazy. 0:18:58.760 --> 0:19:03.560 I mean, I guess you get hopefully, hopefully these women 0:19:03.800 --> 0:19:07.200 live in cool places that you get to go to, 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:13.159 bringing them expensive gifts, buying them cars, apartments, paying for 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:17.840 their children's college, and then proposing to them, only to 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:22.280 get heartbroken. Months after, the most notable wife he had 0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:26.480 lived in Chicago, he flew out to meet her for 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:29.439 the first time by himself after two weeks of talking 0:19:29.480 --> 0:19:32.200 to her, and that weekend he was there, he got 0:19:32.240 --> 0:19:37.240 her an apartment in downtown Chicago. Jesus Christ, And as 0:19:37.280 --> 0:19:39.840 soon as he got back he told us she was 0:19:39.920 --> 0:19:43.040 moving in with us the following week. Wait, he got 0:19:43.080 --> 0:19:45.920 her an apartment and then fucking but if you got 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:47.679 her an apartment where First of all, what does your 0:19:47.760 --> 0:19:53.200 dad do for a living? Dude? Your dad is anyway, 0:19:54.960 --> 0:19:57.119 as soon he's got has he moving in with you? Guys? 0:19:57.119 --> 0:20:00.520 If he got her an apartment in Chicago and I'm 0:20:00.520 --> 0:20:02.760 going to speed run the rest of the story, but basically, 0:20:03.040 --> 0:20:05.679 this woman and her daughter moved in did not speak 0:20:05.720 --> 0:20:07.760 to any of us, unless if it was to ask 0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:11.080 about our dad's dating history. Two weeks in, they both 0:20:11.119 --> 0:20:14.320 went to Chicago for the weekend and came back engaged 0:20:14.760 --> 0:20:17.360 without any of our knowledge, and then they eloped at 0:20:17.359 --> 0:20:21.720 the courthouse the same week. Anyway, I really don't like her, 0:20:21.760 --> 0:20:24.560 and my dad was forcing us to be extra nice 0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:27.600 to her and her daughter and give them special treatment 0:20:28.160 --> 0:20:30.440 and just kind of would go do things without us 0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:33.879 to make them feel more welcome. And then the fighting 0:20:33.960 --> 0:20:37.080 started and they started a divorce. Like three months in, 0:20:37.920 --> 0:20:40.679 she moved back to Chicago to an apartment he was 0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:44.760 paying for with her car. Okay, I'm gonna just keep going. 0:20:44.800 --> 0:20:49.320 I'm gonna skip a lot of this. He was tracking 0:20:49.400 --> 0:20:52.240 her in her car and got a second apartment in 0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:55.680 Chicago to be close to her, and it was awful. 0:20:56.000 --> 0:20:59.119 He was heartbroken and a mess for months. I can't 0:20:59.119 --> 0:21:01.800 be He would say things like, I can't be a 0:21:01.840 --> 0:21:05.240 good dad to you guys if I'm not happy. He 0:21:05.280 --> 0:21:08.280 would leave my siblings alone in the house for weeks 0:21:08.320 --> 0:21:12.040 and tell them to just door dash. I was living 0:21:12.040 --> 0:21:13.600 on my own at that point because I could not 0:21:13.640 --> 0:21:17.280 take it anymore and had no knowledge of him leaving 0:21:17.280 --> 0:21:20.560 them anyway. His other marriages don't go so great either. 0:21:21.800 --> 0:21:26.520 But yeah, hope this helps, love you gek, hope this 0:21:26.680 --> 0:21:32.040 helps you? What helps? This helps? Well, I don't know 0:21:32.040 --> 0:21:35.640 what you mean by I hope this helps, but okay, 0:21:35.720 --> 0:21:44.880 Yeah that's a loaded thing. That's yeah, your dad, God, 0:21:44.920 --> 0:21:48.080 I hope that's I really hope this isn't me when 0:21:48.080 --> 0:21:50.560 I'm fifty. I really hope it's not me when I'm fifty. 0:21:51.600 --> 0:21:53.520 It might be It might be me when I'm fifty. 0:21:53.600 --> 0:21:56.760 This might just be me when I'm fifty years old. 0:21:57.160 --> 0:22:05.199 Is like just you know, being like being being like now, 0:22:05.240 --> 0:22:07.359 I don't think I would abandon my kids, but if 0:22:07.359 --> 0:22:09.959 I had, like if I was like fifty, if I 0:22:10.000 --> 0:22:11.760 was like if I was like in my sixties and 0:22:11.760 --> 0:22:14.320 I had like grown kids that were on their own 0:22:14.359 --> 0:22:18.680 and I had a dead wife, I'd probably I would 0:22:18.680 --> 0:22:22.879 also probably just start meeting marrying women from the internet 0:22:23.000 --> 0:22:31.440 randomly at sixty when you get to lose it's sixty anyway, Yeah, 0:22:31.440 --> 0:22:34.840 that's crazy. Your dad sounds like, I mean, that's crazy, right, 0:22:34.840 --> 0:22:40.359 because if your dad's bear like twenty one. Your dad's 0:22:40.359 --> 0:22:43.560 probably in his like fifties sixties. Can you fix your 0:22:43.600 --> 0:22:47.640 life that? Your dad's probably been that guy forever. That's 0:22:47.680 --> 0:22:49.439 the weird thing about getting older. That's a weird thing 0:22:49.440 --> 0:22:51.359 When you meet people who are like in their fifties 0:22:51.359 --> 0:22:58.840 and sixties, you know, they just like that. They're they 0:22:58.880 --> 0:23:01.080 They have been that way for most of their life 0:23:01.080 --> 0:23:04.359 and will probably continue to be that way forever. But 0:23:04.480 --> 0:23:06.240 I'm glad you're out of the house at least and 0:23:06.320 --> 0:23:09.760 you're not like dealing with all this bullshit. I feel 0:23:09.760 --> 0:23:14.600 bad for your siblings. I don't I don't have advice 0:23:14.640 --> 0:23:17.719 on any of this, but it was interesting to read. Okay, 0:23:17.760 --> 0:23:22.680 this is from Doug. Subject line baloney and cake. Hey, Gek, 0:23:22.760 --> 0:23:25.239 I just ate an entire ice cream cake and now 0:23:25.240 --> 0:23:27.040 I'm feeling sick, but I kind of want to do 0:23:27.119 --> 0:23:31.280 it again. I also just smoked and fried. I also 0:23:31.359 --> 0:23:34.119 just made a smoked and fried baloney sandwich and it 0:23:34.160 --> 0:23:37.480 smells great. Also, I saw you in Dallas last year. 0:23:38.480 --> 0:23:42.840 That's the whole email. It sounds awful, Actually, it sounds awesome. 0:23:43.080 --> 0:23:45.000 That's the thing, man, That's what sucks about food is 0:23:45.040 --> 0:23:47.320 fucking great in the moment. And then afterwards it's like 0:23:47.400 --> 0:23:51.560 this was a horrible decision. Man ah God eating it 0:23:51.560 --> 0:23:53.240 into I that's the thing. I could do it. I 0:23:53.240 --> 0:23:55.680 could eat an entire ice cream cake easy. I could 0:23:55.680 --> 0:23:57.720 do it easily if you put an entire ice cream cake. 0:23:58.080 --> 0:23:59.280 If you put an ice cream cake in front of 0:23:59.320 --> 0:24:02.679 me right now, could eat the thing easily. You know, 0:24:02.760 --> 0:24:04.880 I could eat a whole pieces. I could just keep 0:24:04.920 --> 0:24:10.200 going until there would be no stop. That's the problem 0:24:10.240 --> 0:24:15.080 with food your bodies is. I think my body has 0:24:15.080 --> 0:24:17.000 evolved to a point where it's and it won't tell 0:24:17.000 --> 0:24:19.560 itself to stop. You have to manually stop. You have 0:24:19.600 --> 0:24:25.240 to use your higher human consciousness to stop. But I 0:24:25.240 --> 0:24:26.840 don't know. This guy seems like he's doing it pretty. 0:24:26.960 --> 0:24:34.000 He's he's taking it in the stride. Okay, let's see. 0:24:34.000 --> 0:24:46.040 This is from uh Subha Sebba. Subject line is so antsy. Hello, 0:24:46.080 --> 0:24:49.240 dearest Lyle. I'm feeling so antsy all the time, and 0:24:49.280 --> 0:24:51.240 I don't know what to do about it. I've always 0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:54.400 been pretty introverted and enjoyed my time alone, but now 0:24:54.400 --> 0:24:56.960 I can't do it anymore. I've met such cool people 0:24:57.000 --> 0:24:58.600 this summer, and now all I want to do is 0:24:58.640 --> 0:25:01.240 meet people, because isn't that the point of life to 0:25:01.320 --> 0:25:05.200 make connections. I mean, I'm still autistic and thus socially inept, 0:25:05.280 --> 0:25:07.720 but I do enjoy meeting people. But now when I'm 0:25:07.760 --> 0:25:09.720 alone in my room or alone in general, I get 0:25:09.760 --> 0:25:11.840 so lonely and feel the need to get a tattoo 0:25:12.000 --> 0:25:15.840 or piercing, or take a risky walk down a dark alleyway, 0:25:16.560 --> 0:25:19.320 or text someone I shouldn't text, just for some kind 0:25:19.359 --> 0:25:22.880