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Speaker 1: Hey, what's up. How's it going. My name is Lyle

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Speaker 1: a Gecko sometimes and this is gek Mail. I made

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Speaker 1: an Instagram story where I asked people to send me mail,

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Speaker 1: not like literal male, but email with stuff with words.

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Speaker 1: You know. It's kind of will be like the regular podcast,

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Speaker 1: except it's just me. You know how. Normally there's a

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Speaker 1: lot of podcasts out there where it's two people having

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Speaker 1: a conversation, and that's what a lot of my podcast

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Speaker 1: is normally. But today my podcast is going to just

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Speaker 1: be me ranting a lot while looking at things that

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Speaker 1: other people have said. It's gonna be like a monologue podcast,

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Speaker 1: but I will be reading viewer mail. It's almost like

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Speaker 1: like like reading those Reddit stories, except instead of posting

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Speaker 1: them to Reddit, people email them to me. That's what

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Speaker 1: people used, That's what people used to do before they

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Speaker 1: could post their stories on Reddit. They just said them.

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Speaker 1: They didn't they emailed them to people, or they just

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Speaker 1: said them. I'm off one right now, I'm gonna go

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Speaker 1: on a rant today. I'm not holding it. I've decided

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Speaker 1: this this episode of gek Mail, I'm not holding anything back,

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Speaker 1: all right. I'm gonna give my true opinions on things. Normally,

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Speaker 1: I'm scared. Normally, I'm like, I don't want to give

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Speaker 1: my opinions because not even because I'm afraid of people

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Speaker 1: getting mad at me. Serious, seriously, not even because I'm

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Speaker 1: because I think as time has gone on, I just

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Speaker 1: developed this like deep agnosticism towards fucking everything, you know,

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Speaker 1: towards everything. There's some things that that agnosticism hasn't touched,

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Speaker 1: but it's touched a lot of stuff. The older I get,

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Speaker 1: less I feel like I fucking know about it anything.

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Speaker 1: That's the main reason why I don't give a lot

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Speaker 1: that today. I'm gonna not be agnostic today. I think

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Speaker 1: the world needs a little bit more agnosticism in a

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Speaker 1: sense is but that's an opinion in and of itself.

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Speaker 1: All right, Fuck this this is That was that was

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Speaker 1: too long of an intro. Thanks for listening to this podcast.

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Speaker 1: This is gonna be like an hour and a half

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Speaker 1: I think we're gonna have a good time. I drank

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Speaker 1: a cup of coffee, and we have some good emails

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Speaker 1: that we're gonna listen to. So let's do a gek mail. Okay,

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Speaker 1: This first one is called this is from soup Corn

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Speaker 1: and the subject line is I don't like my home

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Speaker 1: country of Japan. Hello Therapy Gecko. I met you one

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Speaker 1: time in Shibuya a show. It was a fun experience,

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Speaker 1: so thank you for coming. Yes, I did a show

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Speaker 1: a couple times in Shibuya, Tokyo. That was fucking fun.

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Speaker 1: All right. Anyway, this is just a dump about what

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Speaker 1: I thought about today. I don't know what I should

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Speaker 1: do with my life. I'm an architecture student from Japan

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Speaker 1: and I am on study abroad. I don't like Japan

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Speaker 1: in terms of the work culture, the people who are

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Speaker 1: too shy to talk to each other, having to play

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Speaker 1: the mind games, read the room, who's greater and better

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Speaker 1: every single minute? Yeah, in I've talked about Japan. I

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Speaker 1: crazy work culture and it also has ah fuck, there's

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Speaker 1: for this I'm gonna google this Japanese term for outword

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Speaker 1: verse in word expression. There's a word for this, Okay,

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Speaker 1: here it is, I think. I think it's called tatame

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Speaker 1: the public facade what you say and do outwardly to

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Speaker 1: maintain social harmony and expectations. And then honey, which is

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Speaker 1: like your true inner feelings. And so I think, like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: of I think what this emailer is talking about is, yeah,

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Speaker 1: having to play those mind games and having to like

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Speaker 1: So I don't like the work culture. I don't like

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Speaker 1: want to be rich. Is that true? I thought architects

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Speaker 1: The study abroad is hard, but so fun for me.

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Speaker 1: me being fucking America bias. It's like, yeah, they're studying abroad.

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Speaker 1: that's the whole email from Soupcorn. I don't know. They

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm not being helpful to this person

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Speaker 1: at all, but I have a lot of thoughts about it.

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Speaker 1: Like it's like, sit down, do some googling, do some research,

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Speaker 1: is one of This is one of the main lessons

426
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Speaker 1: I've learned and I and I need to apply this

427
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 1: in my life more often. This is key is that

428
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:56,440
Speaker 1: life doesn't reward you for making the right choices, because

429
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 1: there's no such thing as the right choices. But life

430
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 1: for war ords you every time for doing stuff. It doesn't.

431
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 1: It's you don't need you don't need to do the

432
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 1: right stuff. You just have to do stuff. If you

433
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: sit at home alone and and jerk off and do nothing,

434
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: you will there will be no rewards to you. But

435
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:22,719
Speaker 1: if you do anything, you don't have to do the

436
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:24,679
Speaker 1: right thing. You don't have to meet the right people,

437
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 1: but you don't have to make the right If you

438
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 1: just fucking do anything you get, you'll just get rewarded.

439
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 1: So you have to just do something. I don't know

440
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 1: where you live or where you are, but there's probably

441
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 1: other people there, So just think of something you can do,

442
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 1: Like I mean, you know, we've talked about this a

443
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 1: bunch on here, Like go to a fucking event. I

444
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 1: would avoid the dark alleyways. I don't know, you said,

445
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 1: I'm gonna guess that you're like a alt kind of

446
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:58,919
Speaker 1: a lady. You know what about going to go to

447
00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: go to show, go to the fucking dark carnival or whatever,

448
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 1: go to the d V and art to meet up,

449
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 1: whatever it is, go to something, go to something. There's

450
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:17,959
Speaker 1: plenty of, like AULTI autistic young people in wherever city

451
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: that you are, that you can meet up with and

452
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:24,879
Speaker 1: hang out with. But you just got you gotta go

453
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 1: to where they are, and you got to find that out,

454
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: and you gotta do the the truly minimal amount of

455
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:35,199
Speaker 1: work that is required to figure out where those places are.

456
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 1: The real work is in the hole, is in the

457
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:39,239
Speaker 1: you know, put them on clothes and getting outside and

458
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 1: going doing the thing. But the more you put yourself

459
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 1: out there, the less time you spend in your room,

460
00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 1: and the more time you spend out in the fucking universe,

461
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 1: you'll just get rewarded naturally. Naturally, you don't even have

462
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 1: to worry about, like doing the right shit, So you

463
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 1: don't have to worry about you don't have to worry

464
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 1: about saying the right things. Even when talking to people,

465
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: you don't have to worry about saying the right things.

466
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: You have to worry about the fact that you're trying

467
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 1: to say anything at all to anyone. You know, That's

468
00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:17,720
Speaker 1: how I feel about relationships and friendships and dates and whatnot.

469
00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: You have to you just have to keep throwing yourself

470
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 1: out there and eventually you'll get rewarded. So I mean,

471
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 1: that's my that's my advice, man, is just to leave

472
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: your house. You know, don't it's good that you're uncomfortable

473
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 1: being alone. You should be, right, The point of life

474
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 1: is you want to make connections, and you want to

475
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Speaker 1: live a life that you're proud of and happy with,

476
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 1: and you know, you don't want to look at the

477
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: highlight reel of your life that you're sitting around not

478
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: doing anything, So just leave the house. There's so many

479
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,560
Speaker 1: opportunities to leave the house. Get out of the get

480
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Speaker 1: out of the house. Man. Okay, let's see here. This

481
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Speaker 1: is from Francesco. Subject line words dear Gecko. I am

482
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Speaker 1: a listener whenever my podcast backlog gives me some time

483
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 1: to listen to the other listeners ramblings. I really appreciate it,

484
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 1: even if sometimes I wish the episodes were a little

485
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 1: bit shorter, so that they could be around the ballpark

486
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:32,480
Speaker 1: of thirty to forty minutes per episode. I people, you

487
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: make the episodes short, and people want them long. You

488
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: make them long, people want them short. Folks, I'm telling you,

489
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: do whatever you want with your fucking life. People will,

490
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 1: people will complain about whatever you do. There's no right an.

491
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 1: That's why that's literally to add on to what I

492
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: just said, just do something because people are always there's

493
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: always there's no right thing to do. That's why you

494
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 1: can never ask your That's why you can't ask your

495
00:30:57,640 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 1: audience what kind of episodes they want to listen to

496
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 1: or what kind of content they want, because this is

497
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 1: always gonna be do. You always have to just do

498
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: whatever it is that you want to do anyway, that's

499
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 1: I'm rambling. Okay, anyway whatever, I'm gonna skip this. My

500
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: life is a mess. I guess I'll thok Okay, my

501
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 1: life is a mess. I guess I lost my dream

502
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 1: as I was going, and then I somehow got back

503
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 1: on track. But it's not the same thing, and I

504
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 1: can't seem to be able to let go of the past.

505
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 1: Every time I feel down, I tend to do these things,

506
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 1: boil and remorse for previous bad life choices, work mindlessly

507
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 1: to forget my problems, and then, at the peak of

508
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: stress and self loathing, I treat others poorly. The effect

509
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,680
Speaker 1: is that every day I sink deeper in mud and

510
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 1: then regret how poorly I behaved to others, repeatedly, every

511
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 1: day for months on end, blaming myself for everything and

512
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 1: fearing the consequences of my actions, sometimes even after I

513
00:31:56,440 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 1: said I'm sorry, and I truly am, Because broken things

514
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 1: can never be fixed to their original state. Now, you

515
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 1: might be saying, if you are aware of this, why

516
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: don't you just stop? Apparently it's not something that I

517
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 1: can control entirely. If you have any advice for me,

518
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: it will be welcome, and I thank you in advance

519
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: for it. Have a great day and good luck for

520
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 1: the future of your project. Keep up the good work.

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00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 1: Thank you, Francesco. Okay, hold on, I'm gonna try to

522
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:29,280
Speaker 1: digest this real quick because this is very vague. My

523
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 1: life is a mess. I lost my dream as I

524
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 1: was going and got back on track. I can't seem

525
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: to be able to let go of the past. Okay,

526
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 1: so we got remorse for bad life choices, forgetting problems. Okay,

527
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 1: I mean there's a lot of stuff here, right. What

528
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:56,479
Speaker 1: are you doing when you mean you're poorly behave poorly

529
00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 1: to others? I'm curious what you're doing. And we've all

530
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: had that happen, like you. You your emotional state drives

531
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:15,520
Speaker 1: your actions and you're like, oh fuck, I was just

532
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 1: being a dick, you know, And then you and then

533
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 1: you work harder on controlling your emotions and controlling your

534
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 1: fucking you know, to the best of your ability, and

535
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 1: you you try to you kind of try to wrangle

536
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:39,040
Speaker 1: it all in, right, But yeah, you can't. You can't

537
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:45,080
Speaker 1: boil in remorse. You can't do that. You can't do that, Francisco.

538
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 1: You you there's so much opportunity in the world. For again,

539
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make this the theme of the episode. Just

540
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 1: do things. Life rewards you for just doing things. And

541
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 1: there will always, forever, no matter what previous bad choices

542
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 1: you made in your life, there will always be an

543
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 1: infinite amount of things to do. There will always be

544
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:14,399
Speaker 1: an infinite amount of things to fucking dwell on from

545
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 1: the past. So Francesca, I mean, just you can't dwell

546
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:22,880
Speaker 1: on the past. You can't. You just can't dwell in

547
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:26,760
Speaker 1: the past. Also, nobody ever does Nobody ever does everything perfectly.

548
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:34,479
Speaker 1: Nobody ever does anything perfectly. Nobody, nobody ever fucking did

549
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 1: everything perfectly. And by the way, a few people and

550
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 1: here's the thing, actually that's not true. A few people did.

551
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 1: A few people have been perfect and amazing. There's a

552
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: few ned flanders Is out there who just they were

553
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:54,320
Speaker 1: awesome the entire time, and they made all the right choices,

554
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:58,320
Speaker 1: and they're rich and amazing, and they've never done anything.

555
00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:00,840
Speaker 1: They never said anything bad to anyone or done anything

556
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 1: bad to anyone, and they made all their perfect life choices,

557
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 1: and they sleep well at night, and they never all

558
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 1: their thought The quality of their thoughts is amazing. Those

559
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 1: people totally exist, but that's they're good. Good for fucking them.

560
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: It's not the majority, it's really not the majority. The

561
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:25,280
Speaker 1: majority of people probably live with some regret or remorse

562
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 1: over actions in the past, over whether over how they

563
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 1: hurt other people or how they hurt themselves, or like

564
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 1: people are reminiscent about what life could have been, or

565
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 1: they live life. Lives are quiet desperation. It's part of

566
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 1: the human experience. You're not alone in this, right, So

567
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 1: what you're experiencing is life. This is do You're not

568
00:35:56,400 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 1: You were never gonna do everything perfectly. That's not that's

569
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 1: not within you. That's that's that's like, I mean, that's

570
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:07,319
Speaker 1: that's why people love Jesus is because he apparently was

571
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 1: amazing and did it was awesome and he uh turned

572
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,840
Speaker 1: water into wine and shit and fucking was everyone everyone

573
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 1: liked him. But that's not you. You're not Jesus. None

574
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:22,239
Speaker 1: of us are Jesus, and we were never going to

575
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 1: be We were all gonna be fickle, weird, imperfect people

576
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 1: in a fickle, weird, imperfect, complicated world. And you have

577
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 1: to accept that none of your choices were ever gonna

578
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: be the perfect ones. You knew you did what you

579
00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 1: could with the knowledge you had at the time. So like.

580
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: Fucking just just stop bathing and like masturbating in the

581
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,200
Speaker 2: shame and the fear and the guilt and the just

582
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Speaker 2: stop stop.

583
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:05,880
Speaker 1: You're like showering in it every day for no reason.

584
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 1: It helps no one, It doesn't help. It doesn't help

585
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 1: you become a better person for yourself or for the

586
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 1: other people around you. And it's just like why, like

587
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:22,760
Speaker 1: why why, By the way, I totally bathe in shame

588
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:25,520
Speaker 1: and guilt and self loathing all the time. That's why

589
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 1: I'm able to go on this rant to you. I

590
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:32,280
Speaker 1: feel really good in this moment, and in general, I'm

591
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 1: I'm pretty good at I think like moving on and

592
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: you know, for like just you know whatever, if I

593
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 1: was like, ah, fuck, I should have done differently in

594
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 1: that situation, or I should have done differently in that situation.

595
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,839
Speaker 1: I've gotten over the years, I've gotten pretty good at

596
00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 1: not dwelling too hard on things, because as life goes on,

597
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 1: I realize that you only have the information that you have,

598
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 1: and you got to you gotta be quick to forgive

599
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:16,759
Speaker 1: yourself for bad life choices. I mean, don't be too

600
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,320
Speaker 1: quick that you don't learn your lesson. You want to

601
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 1: learn your lesson and you want to not do you know,

602
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:31,399
Speaker 1: repeat ship that to keep harming yourself. I do that too,

603
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 1: I've I have plenty of lessons that I refuse to learn.

604
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:40,399
Speaker 1: I guess but every but every year of my life,

605
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Speaker 1: I I I it's it's it's like a stock. It

606
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 1: like goes up and down and up and down up,

607
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 1: but it trends upwards as I get, as I get

608
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Speaker 1: older and live and do more things that I noticed

609
00:38:50,280 --> 00:39:01,440
Speaker 1: that I'm I'm better at what what? What is the

610
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 1: term for this error correction? Life is error correction? And

611
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 1: as I get older and as I do more things,

612
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: I get better at the error correction. So life is

613
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 1: error correction, meaning you do things and then you see

614
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Speaker 1: how the things that you do affect you and affect

615
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 1: other people. And as you do things, you you err.

616
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:29,360
Speaker 1: To err is human and then you correct those errors.

617
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:31,319
Speaker 1: So you have to allow you have to understand that

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00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 1: these errors that you made are not bugs. They're part

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Speaker 1: of the process of being a human being. Is you?

620
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:44,759
Speaker 1: You you you error and then you correct and you

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Speaker 1: learn and sometimes you get If you're someone who you

622
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:55,960
Speaker 1: let your emotions really fucking take hold of you. You

623
00:39:56,080 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: forget all of your error correction, and you admit to

624
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 1: the desires of the emotion that is currently possessing your

625
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 1: body like a demon. And that's something to wrangle if

626
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:15,840
Speaker 1: you're if you're someone that lets emotions possess your body

627
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 1: like a fucking demon. But life, life is just error correction.

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Speaker 1: So when you look back at your life, Francesco, at

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Speaker 1: the errors, just just flip the mindset because right now

630
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 1: you're looking back at the errors and you go, oh,

631
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 1: I committed all these errors. I fucked up. I made

632
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:44,479
Speaker 1: all these bad choices, and I fucked up, which means

633
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Speaker 1: that I'm I'm I'm done, and I was never gonna

634
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Speaker 1: be anything. And I because you know, because the best

635
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:59,359
Speaker 1: version of me would have never made those errors. And

636
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Speaker 1: so you do well, and you dwell, and you dwell

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00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:04,840
Speaker 1: and you dwell, and you the error because the errors

638
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Speaker 1: were inevitable, because you're a human being doing things. The

639
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: errors were inevitable. Okay, so understand that they were inevitable.

640
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 1: But then now what's in your UH agency is to

641
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: is to correct them and learn from them and also

642
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 1: understand that they're gonna keep happening. They're gonna make bad

643
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 1: choices until you die. You're gonna make bad choices until

644
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:39,800
Speaker 1: you die. Probably you'll get better at making at you

645
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 1: at having them be less bad and probably less frequent.

646
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 1: But you'll never be perfect. You'll never be James Bond.

647
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:53,439
Speaker 1: You'll never have the right. You know what I hate?

648
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 1: I saw this movie. I'm gonna go on such I'm

649
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:58,359
Speaker 1: on such a rant whatever, I don't care. I hope

650
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 1: people are enjoying listening to this. I saw this movie,

651
00:42:01,239 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 1: the F one movie. I wasn't gonna see it, but

652
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 1: there's some people go and I went, and I hated

653
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 1: it so much. Has anyone has anyone seen the F

654
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 1: one movie? I fucking hated that fucking movie so much.

655
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 1: I promise is related. It's by that guy Jerry. I

656
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 1: think Jerry Bruckheimer, right, Jerry Bruckheimer. He made Top Gun Maverick,

657
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 1: Did he make the did he make the original Top Gun? Too?

658
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:35,399
Speaker 1: I never saw the original Top Gun, but I saw

659
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 1: Top Gun Maverick, and I saw F one, and I

660
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 1: and and but before I know that the point is

661
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 1: that the movies are supposed to not be realistic. But

662
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 1: I fucking hate those movies because in those movies because

663
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:53,319
Speaker 1: I hate those movies because they're perfect. I know that's

664
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 1: the point. I know that's the point. I'm gonna spoil

665
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 1: the F one movie. If you were gonna watch the

666
00:42:57,400 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 1: F one movie, then you can skip ahead. But I'm

667
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:04,319
Speaker 1: gonna spoil it because who care? Okay? In the F

668
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 1: one movie, everyone just has the perfect thing to say.

669
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 1: You know, every character enters the room at the perfect time.

670
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 1: Everyone has there's no awkward there's no like, you know,

671
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 1: someone mumbles and they said what and then someone goes, oh, sorry,

672
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 1: I didn't hear you. Do you think should we No,

673
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:33,320
Speaker 1: everything's perfect. Everything's written so that it was a perfect

674
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 1: thing that is said, and you know what happens. Here's

675
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:37,879
Speaker 1: the thing I'm here's the spoiler. They win the race,

676
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:42,439
Speaker 1: because of course they win the race. There's this part

677
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 1: of the F one movie where the Brad Pitt's character

678
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 1: is like talking to the love interest and he's like, man,

679
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 1: I don't even care if I win this race anymore.

680
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 1: You know.

681
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:52,719
Speaker 3: I used to be so obsessed with the trophies. I

682
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 3: used to be so obsessed with, you know, getting the

683
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:59,440
Speaker 3: accolades and the money. But then I realized all it

684
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,319
Speaker 3: was about is the racing. It doesn't even matter if

685
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:04,320
Speaker 3: I win, which.

686
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 1: Would have been great. You know, if it weren't the

687
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: fact that he wins the fucking race at the end

688
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 1: of that have him not win the race then anyway, Okay,

689
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 1: I knew that this was really okay. This is why

690
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 1: this is related because life is not a Jerry Brockheimer movie.

691
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: That's why I talked about this. Life is not a

692
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 1: Jerry Brockhimer movie where everything is perfect and you always

693
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 1: say the fucking right thing and you always win the race.

694
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 1: Life is weird and gross and awkward and uncomfortable, especially

695
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:43,839
Speaker 1: if you're a person who thinks and feels in some

696
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:50,360
Speaker 1: deep sense, and that's a blessing and a curse. He

697
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 1: embrace it. So embrace the u the uncomfortability of your errors.

698
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:02,280
Speaker 1: You don't want want to be Brad Pitt. That's soulless.

699
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 1: You don't want your life to be the F one movie.

700
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 1: That's a shitty movie. We all know people whose life

701
00:45:09,920 --> 00:45:12,360
Speaker 1: is like the F one movie. And maybe this is not.

702
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:15,439
Speaker 1: You know, the the F one movie. It looked good,

703
00:45:15,719 --> 00:45:22,520
Speaker 1: it had good cinematography, and you know, Brad Pitt, that's cool.

704
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:24,359
Speaker 1: I guess that's a cool life. But you don't want

705
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:25,879
Speaker 1: your life to be the F one movie. You want

706
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,439
Speaker 1: you want, you want something deeper than that. You want

707
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 1: something that people will that will be remembered. You know,

708
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 1: I people will forget about the F one movie. So

709
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:45,320
Speaker 1: so in feel honored to live in imperfect human existence

710
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 1: and embrace it and try your best. That's my rant, Francisco. Okay,

711
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 1: that was a lot? How long was it? How long

712
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: was I ranted for? That? Was? I?

713
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:55,719
Speaker 2: Was?

714
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 1: I rant? Was it? Did I spend forty five minutes

715
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:03,760
Speaker 1: on that? One can email? This is from Keith, subject

716
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 1: line feeling weird. Hey, Lyle, hope you're well. I just

717
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: wanted to email you to talk about how weird life is,

718
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 1: or at least I've been feeling weird about it recently.

719
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 1: So many people that I feel I have put a

720
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 1: lot of time and effort into a friendship or some

721
00:46:18,600 --> 00:46:22,359
Speaker 1: sort of relationship with have been disintegrating lately as I'm

722
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 1: twenty three and everyone seems to be moving on and

723
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:27,880
Speaker 1: creating new lives that I am no longer a part of.

724
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 1: I still live with my parents, only have a part

725
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 1: time job, even though I've graduated college six months ago.

726
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 1: Now I have no motivation to do anything other than

727
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 1: hang out with old friends like I did in the past.

728
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 1: But none of them have time, it seems. I don't know.

729
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 1: I guess this is kind of a whole lot of nothing. No,

730
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:44,600
Speaker 1: it wasn't. It makes a lot of sense. Hopefully it

731
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 1: makes you ponder. Okay, yeah, I feel like I recently

732
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:51,480
Speaker 1: talked about this on the show. But it's something I've

733
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 1: been thinking about a lot. Is like, as you get older,

734
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 1: your friends and your family all like start to have

735
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 1: their own lives. I'm twenty seven. My my I used

736
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:18,359
Speaker 1: to live in a house when I was a boy

737
00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:22,720
Speaker 1: with my mom, my mom, my dad, and my sister.

738
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 1: We all used to live in a house together for

739
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:30,879
Speaker 1: like fucking seven years something like that. Maybe the longer eight,

740
00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:32,400
Speaker 1: I don't know. But for a long time we all

741
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 1: lived in a house together and we all had we

742
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 1: all meet meet. Those the four of us, my mom,

743
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 1: my dad, and my sister. We all lived and we

744
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 1: all had a life together. And you know, then my

745
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:51,840
Speaker 1: parents got divorced, they got remarried. I grew up, my

746
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 1: sister grew up. Now, me, my mom, my dad, and

747
00:47:56,280 --> 00:47:58,839
Speaker 1: my sister all live in different states and we all

748
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 1: have our own lives and we used to have you

749
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,239
Speaker 1: know this, we were all we were all in each

750
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 1: other's lives and we check in on each other and

751
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 1: I call them and we talk and I you know,

752
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 1: I love them and they love me, and but you know,

753
00:48:08,920 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 1: we're I don't see them every day. They're not in

754
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 1: my They're not a part of my daily, daily, true

755
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:20,879
Speaker 1: daily life. You know, my high school friends. I talk

756
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 1: to them in a group chat every day, which is awesome,

757
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 1: but you know, I don't. It's not like I was

758
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 1: in high school where I saw them like all the

759
00:48:27,280 --> 00:48:29,440
Speaker 1: time in class. And you show up to class and

760
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 1: you have your friends and everyone's like a You're like,

761
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 1: you have people in your life, right, Like That's kind

762
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 1: of how this ship goes. Is as you get older,

763
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 1: everyone starts to develop their own lives and you less.

764
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:50,360
Speaker 1: You find yourself less and less. Uh you have people

765
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 1: kind of like, you know, you have friends and you

766
00:48:54,520 --> 00:49:02,920
Speaker 1: have family, but the less people like in your life.

767
00:49:03,239 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: It's and a lot of people are lucky, you know,

768
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:07,880
Speaker 1: they have really nice they have really great relationships like

769
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 1: spouses and families and people they work whether you know,

770
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 1: some people are lucky enough that they have people in

771
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:20,239
Speaker 1: their life like in in their life. You know, I'm

772
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 1: not talking about like having friends. I'm not talking about

773
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,400
Speaker 1: having family. I'm not I'm talking about like you know,

774
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Whoever wrote this email, you

775
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:34,360
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So you're twenty three, which is

776
00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:41,520
Speaker 1: a pivotal age because you graduated college and you're seeing

777
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 1: your friends move on and they are creating their lives

778
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 1: that you're not a part of. But that's that's again,

779
00:49:47,480 --> 00:49:53,360
Speaker 1: that's natural. It's to be accepted. But the good news

780
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 1: for you, Keith, is that because you're only twenty three,

781
00:49:58,160 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 1: you have a lot of time to create your own

782
00:50:04,920 --> 00:50:10,960
Speaker 1: life that can have people in it. How do you

783
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:16,000
Speaker 1: create a life that has people in it? Well, it's

784
00:50:16,280 --> 00:50:19,680
Speaker 1: kind of the running theme of the episode a little bit.

785
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 1: You just do things, you know, you do things that

786
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 1: get you around other people. Develop yourself as a person

787
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:32,799
Speaker 1: so that you know someone will want to be in

788
00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 1: a relationship with you. That person can be in your life.

789
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 1: Do pro social things, you have hobbies, leave your house,

790
00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 1: create shit that other people want to be a part of.

791
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:56,880
Speaker 1: You know, there's there's there's ways in which you can

792
00:50:57,320 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 1: if you feel a lack of people in your life,

793
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 1: there's ways in which I think you can be creative

794
00:51:07,920 --> 00:51:14,840
Speaker 1: and throw yourself into the universe two again, attract people

795
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 1: into your life. So for you, specifically, I would say, uh,

796
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 1: go ahead and more, you know, take your time to

797
00:51:23,640 --> 00:51:29,239
Speaker 1: mourn a little bit. This is this is a bit

798
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:31,800
Speaker 1: of a grief to getting older, but there's also a

799
00:51:34,080 --> 00:51:36,080
Speaker 1: it's also there's a bit of there's a bit of

800
00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 1: a grief to getting older, but it's also I think

801
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 1: it's a perspective thing, and I deal with a lot

802
00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 1: of this stuff myself. I think it's a perspective thing

803
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:48,920
Speaker 1: because if you there's inherent grief to it, but if

804
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 1: you look at it as like like people I hate

805
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:54,919
Speaker 1: when people say getting older sucks. It's like things only

806
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:58,279
Speaker 1: suck if you decide that they do. So, Uh, look

807
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:02,160
Speaker 1: at this as a challenge, as opportunity and take it

808
00:52:02,239 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 1: and take it on with with some excitedness. Like you

809
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:14,680
Speaker 1: you're you're challenged now to create your own life. It's

810
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 1: fucking insanely fucking hard. And we all know that we

811
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:20,759
Speaker 1: live in a crazy world. We all know we live

812
00:52:20,760 --> 00:52:24,160
Speaker 1: in a crazy economy. We all know we live in weird,

813
00:52:24,280 --> 00:52:30,800
Speaker 1: uncertain times. We've kind of always lived in uncertain times

814
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:34,840
Speaker 1: in a way, because you know, when the fuck was

815
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:40,640
Speaker 1: anything ever certain but you. But these if you have

816
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:43,839
Speaker 1: to just embrace it, embrace this challenge that you have

817
00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: now two build your own life. Keith, you graduated college

818
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 1: six months ago. What for? What? What do you do?

819
00:53:00,960 --> 00:53:03,400
Speaker 1: Figure out a way to throw yourself into the universe

820
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 1: and get other people around you. It's doable. There's a

821
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:12,799
Speaker 1: lot of opportunity. Man. I've been on a lot of

822
00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:17,320
Speaker 1: emotion I've been on a lot of motivational rants today.

823
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 1: But I'm into it. I like it. I like thinking

824
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:26,799
Speaker 1: about life, and I think it's something that a lot

825
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 1: of people are struggling with. It's the like loneliness and

826
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 1: feel like they don't have other people like in their life.

827
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: But uh, this is so much opportunity, you know, if

828
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:46,600
Speaker 1: if we truly live in a world where so many

829
00:53:46,640 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 1: people are struggling with this, and there should be so

830
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 1: much opportunity for you to figure out how to get

831
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:57,600
Speaker 1: those people together. Okay, this is from THEO subject line

832
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:03,840
Speaker 1: cracking girlfriend. Hi. I love to crack my girlfriend's fingers

833
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:07,880
Speaker 1: all ten a couple times each. I also love to

834
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 1: crack her back, and I often do it even after

835
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:16,720
Speaker 1: finishing or during sexual intercourse. She had never done this before,

836
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:19,520
Speaker 1: and she doesn't do it alone. I wants to ask

837
00:54:19,600 --> 00:54:22,719
Speaker 1: her if she lets me do it because she likes

838
00:54:22,760 --> 00:54:26,760
Speaker 1: it or just to please me. She answered the second one,

839
00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:29,920
Speaker 1: and it made me very pleased, but also made me

840
00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 1: doubt my sanity. Sometimes it can hurt, and I'm seriously

841
00:54:34,239 --> 00:54:36,759
Speaker 1: sorry when it happens, but every time we laugh at it,

842
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 1: and then she lets me continue. We have been together

843
00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 1: for almost three years, and I stop myself from asking

844
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:45,759
Speaker 1: too many questions, and I enjoy the luck I have

845
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 1: in finding a person who lets me do such strange

846
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 1: things to her body. Greetings from Italy. THEO, they are

847
00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:59,080
Speaker 1: really doing some weird shit over there in Europe. They

848
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 1: are really testing the limits of the human experience. Yeah,

849
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:13,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. I cracked my own fingers a lot.

850
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:16,719
Speaker 1: I've had a time. I've had a time or two

851
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:21,560
Speaker 1: I was holding hands with someone and did a little

852
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 1: bit of a crack, you know, because it does. It

853
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:28,600
Speaker 1: feels good. If it feels good to crack your it

854
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 1: feels good, like because when you do it to yourself

855
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 1: right like that feels good, like the cracking, but also

856
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:36,800
Speaker 1: like because you when you do it to yourself. You

857
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: experience both sides. You do the cracking and you get

858
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:45,640
Speaker 1: the cracked. But just doing the cracking satisfying too. What

859
00:55:45,760 --> 00:55:48,319
Speaker 1: is your girlfriend? Let you gotta you gotta let your

860
00:55:48,360 --> 00:55:51,840
Speaker 1: girlfriend do something weird to you, though I don't know what.

861
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:55,680
Speaker 1: Maybe she can Yeah, maybe that's what I would do

862
00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 1: if I was in the situation. I was like, all right,

863
00:55:57,239 --> 00:55:59,920
Speaker 1: thanks for letting me crack your fingers because I'm weird.

864
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 1: What can I What can I do for you? Do

865
00:56:02,800 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 1: you wanna? Do you want ten dollars? Do you want?

866
00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:15,680
Speaker 1: You can lick my I can't think of a single

867
00:56:15,719 --> 00:56:20,279
Speaker 1: thing that would be a good trade for this. Just

868
00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 1: be nice, Just be very very nice to this lady.

869
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:27,240
Speaker 1: Just be just be extremely nice to this lady forever

870
00:56:28,440 --> 00:56:33,240
Speaker 1: and do whatever she tells you. Okay, this is from Brody.

871
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 1: Subject line read mine please you got it? Hello, Lyle.

872
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:41,560
Speaker 1: Love the podcasts. I always listen to them while I'm

873
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:44,759
Speaker 1: at work. I do refrigeration and heating and air and

874
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:46,920
Speaker 1: while I'm doing a job, I have your podcast in

875
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: my ear. It's really entertaining. But that one guy that

876
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 1: had an obsession with Reese's cups, he don't know real game.

877
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:56,279
Speaker 1: I know exactly. I remember exactly the caller that you're

878
00:56:56,280 --> 00:57:02,360
Speaker 1: talking about. I know what you're talking about. He doesn't

879
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:05,800
Speaker 1: know the real game about eating them while they're still dressed.

880
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:08,799
Speaker 1: I'm talking peel that skirt back a little bit and

881
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:12,000
Speaker 1: take a few nibbles. Now that's real game. I don't

882
00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:15,760
Speaker 1: do that. I just rip the whole thing off. Also,

883
00:57:15,760 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 1: what's your thoughts on mastering a craft? Okay, that's a

884
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:23,120
Speaker 1: subject change so far. I'm in I'm a year in

885
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:27,200
Speaker 1: my current job, which is refrigeration heating air, and I'm

886
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 1: nineteen years of age. Male. This person writes interestingly, do

887
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 1: you think it would be best for me to stick

888
00:57:34,040 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 1: with it and try to make a company? Or stick

889
00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: with it for a few years and try to learn

890
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:43,680
Speaker 1: a new skill? Wait, so both options are to stick

891
00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:46,760
Speaker 1: with it. I'd love to make a lot of money

892
00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: and buy nice materialistic things and all that, but I

893
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:51,880
Speaker 1: wouldn't want to get myself tied down trying to operate

894
00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 1: a company and not be able to live my life again.

895
00:57:55,360 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 1: Love the podcast. I hope to hear myself on here

896
00:57:57,440 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 1: while at work. I well, okay, I'm trying to understand

897
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 1: with this person is asking, so I think they're saying,

898
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:04,520
Speaker 1: do you think it would be best for me to

899
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 1: stick with it and make a company or what? Brodie,

900
00:58:10,040 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 1: I have no idea what the fuck you're saying in

901
00:58:11,560 --> 00:58:14,320
Speaker 1: this email. I have no fucking idea what you're saying

902
00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:16,919
Speaker 1: in this email. Man, I don't know what you're saying

903
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 1: in this email, but I, for some reason reading it,

904
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:24,440
Speaker 1: I just think you're going to be fine. Don't buy

905
00:58:25,080 --> 00:58:29,080
Speaker 1: a bunch of crap that ties you down to your job.

906
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:32,320
Speaker 1: I'll say that. I'll say, you're nineteen, like, buy fucking

907
00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:35,720
Speaker 1: stocks or some shit. Don't buy dumb bullshit. That's all

908
00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:38,880
Speaker 1: I'll say to you, Brody, honestly, honest, honestly, Brodie, I

909
00:58:38,880 --> 00:58:40,560
Speaker 1: don't think you're gonna listen to a single thing I

910
00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:44,560
Speaker 1: would say anyway. I'm sorry. I'm sorry because I know

911
00:58:44,600 --> 00:58:49,960
Speaker 1: you're actually going to listen to this. Yeah, yeah, you

912
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 1: know what. Yeah, stick with heating refrigeration air. I do

913
00:58:54,720 --> 00:58:59,760
Speaker 1: feel like in the AI universe that's one of the

914
00:58:59,800 --> 00:59:07,000
Speaker 1: most like real real shit, like real blue collar shit

915
00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:12,440
Speaker 1: is what will make most money. So yeah, keep doing that,

916
00:59:13,120 --> 00:59:15,840
Speaker 1: Keep doing that, and try not to get yourself killed.

917
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:19,040
Speaker 1: I feel like you're gonna like get into a like

918
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:23,360
Speaker 1: motorcycle accident or something. Don't do that. Just don't do

919
00:59:23,400 --> 00:59:27,840
Speaker 1: anything stupid. Brody, You're gonna be okay. Just don't don't

920
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 1: do anything stupid. I don't know why I'm worried about

921
00:59:29,840 --> 00:59:33,240
Speaker 1: this guy. Something about it, something about this email. There's

922
00:59:33,240 --> 00:59:36,360
Speaker 1: nothing blatantly concerning about this email, but something about the

923
00:59:36,400 --> 00:59:43,200
Speaker 1: way it's written concerns me. You'll be okay, Brody, You'll

924
00:59:43,240 --> 00:59:49,440
Speaker 1: be okay. All right. This is from buzzsaw Kill. Subject

925
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:54,160
Speaker 1: line in all caps desperation. Hello, therapy, get go. I

926
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:56,600
Speaker 1: know you're a therapist. I'm not a therapist. Do people

927
00:59:56,680 --> 00:59:59,080
Speaker 1: really think I'm a therapist? Hey, therapy, get goo. I

928
00:59:59,080 --> 01:00:01,840
Speaker 1: know you're a therapist, So I'm assuming that means you

929
01:00:01,960 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 1: know how I can get hella bitches, which I am

930
01:00:05,160 --> 01:00:09,960
Speaker 1: in desperate need for. Here is my situation. I love primus.

931
01:00:10,560 --> 01:00:16,400
Speaker 1: I'm all caps fat, I'm a ginger. How am I

932
01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:19,560
Speaker 1: supposed to pick up women like this? And then they

933
01:00:19,720 --> 01:00:23,640
Speaker 1: put four question marks? How? And then they put six

934
01:00:23,720 --> 01:00:27,160
Speaker 1: question marks. First of all, if they get past the fatness,

935
01:00:27,680 --> 01:00:29,920
Speaker 1: then they look up a little and see the orange

936
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:33,200
Speaker 1: disdain on my head, which is a turn off for

937
01:00:33,360 --> 01:00:36,840
Speaker 1: some right, and even if they can look past all

938
01:00:36,920 --> 01:00:40,360
Speaker 1: of that. I play them something like John the Fishermen,

939
01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:44,840
Speaker 1: which is an entry level primus song, and I can

940
01:00:44,880 --> 01:00:47,960
Speaker 1: see in their faces they're getting drier than a raisin

941
01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:52,120
Speaker 1: in the Sahara. I mean, really, people tell me I

942
01:00:52,200 --> 01:00:54,680
Speaker 1: just got to find the right woman, but it seems

943
01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:58,240
Speaker 1: like nobody around me is the right woman. Like I'm

944
01:00:58,280 --> 01:01:01,840
Speaker 1: a clam in a sea of muscle. My favorite shark

945
01:01:02,040 --> 01:01:05,200
Speaker 1: is the hammerhead shark. Now you might read this and

946
01:01:05,280 --> 01:01:10,400
Speaker 1: think it's a personality problem. Okay, wait, you just put

947
01:01:12,920 --> 01:01:15,520
Speaker 1: this is the most ADHD email of No, it's definitely

948
01:01:15,520 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 1: not the most DDHD email. But it's just funny to

949
01:01:17,360 --> 01:01:20,120
Speaker 1: me that you put. It's just funny to me that

950
01:01:21,240 --> 01:01:24,000
Speaker 1: in the middle of this email, I'm like kind of

951
01:01:24,040 --> 01:01:26,000
Speaker 1: glancing over the rest of it. I'll read the rest

952
01:01:26,000 --> 01:01:28,440
Speaker 1: of it, but just in the middle of this email

953
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:34,439
Speaker 1: you just randomly put what your favorite shark is. Keep

954
01:01:34,440 --> 01:01:39,600
Speaker 1: being you buzzsaw kill. Okay, I'm glad you put that

955
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:41,600
Speaker 1: in there. It's good. I'm glad I know that about you. Now,

956
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:44,520
Speaker 1: now you might read this and think it's a personality problem,

957
01:01:44,560 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 1: but it all caps totally isn't. I am friends with

958
01:01:48,240 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 1: a lot of women, and they love me, but like

959
01:01:52,320 --> 01:01:55,600
Speaker 1: as a friend obviously, you know. And I've been told

960
01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:58,000
Speaker 1: that I'm a little weird, but like, I'm not weird

961
01:01:58,000 --> 01:02:01,400
Speaker 1: to the point where I'm repulsing women, you know. I mean,

962
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:04,400
Speaker 1: maybe I say a weird thing here or there, but

963
01:02:04,480 --> 01:02:08,880
Speaker 1: it's not creepy weird. I'm not saying your tits look

964
01:02:08,960 --> 01:02:13,200
Speaker 1: real squeezable, honey. I'm saying something like, do you ever

965
01:02:13,360 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 1: think if eating come is vegan? Okay, you know what

966
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:21,760
Speaker 1: I mean. That's a bit of a bad example for

967
01:02:21,880 --> 01:02:24,240
Speaker 1: things I say, but that's just off the dome. It's

968
01:02:24,280 --> 01:02:26,800
Speaker 1: actually a perfect example of a thing that you say

969
01:02:26,840 --> 01:02:30,640
Speaker 1: because you just said it. If you can, please give

970
01:02:30,680 --> 01:02:32,680
Speaker 1: a word or two, or maybe even three, if you're

971
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:36,720
Speaker 1: feeling serendipitous for this Primus fan, I would appreciate it. Thanks, Okay,

972
01:02:36,760 --> 01:02:39,080
Speaker 1: I have a lot of thoughts. I gotta get him together.

973
01:02:39,120 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 1: First of all, shout out Primus. They did the south

974
01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:47,840
Speaker 1: Park theme song. There's an epic this is fucking sick

975
01:02:49,080 --> 01:02:51,840
Speaker 1: concert video. I think the whole thing's on YouTube. It's

976
01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:56,520
Speaker 1: Matt Stone and Trey Parker doing songs from South Park

977
01:02:56,960 --> 01:03:00,400
Speaker 1: with Ween and Primus and it's at fuck in Red

978
01:03:00,480 --> 01:03:03,160
Speaker 1: Rocks and then Ween and Primus also do some songs.

979
01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:04,960
Speaker 1: It's so fucking sick. You gotta check it out if

980
01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:11,280
Speaker 1: you're a fan of South Park or Ween of Primus anyway,

981
01:03:11,480 --> 01:03:14,640
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna call you a buzz because that that's

982
01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:20,200
Speaker 1: your thing. Listen, buzz. Here's the thing I'm a. I'm

983
01:03:20,480 --> 01:03:27,040
Speaker 1: The idea of be yourself is one that is tricky

984
01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:31,720
Speaker 1: because you want to you want to be you don't

985
01:03:31,720 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 1: wanna You don't want to dilute your essence such that

986
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:44,080
Speaker 1: you are palatable for others. Right, you know that's not

987
01:03:44,200 --> 01:03:49,080
Speaker 1: a good thing, but you can't. But some part, but

988
01:03:49,080 --> 01:03:54,400
Speaker 1: but but maybe some parts of your essence could be

989
01:03:56,600 --> 01:03:59,120
Speaker 1: formed a little bit, right, Like like like you take

990
01:03:59,160 --> 01:04:02,520
Speaker 1: a big thing, a marble, and you carve it to

991
01:04:02,560 --> 01:04:07,840
Speaker 1: make a statue. Right, you shaved away a lot of

992
01:04:07,880 --> 01:04:12,160
Speaker 1: stuff and you refined it and you made something that's

993
01:04:12,240 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 1: beautiful and was better than when the marble was just

994
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:19,840
Speaker 1: a brick. But it's still the marble, right, the essence

995
01:04:19,880 --> 01:04:25,640
Speaker 1: is still there. So, uh, if I were you, I

996
01:04:25,640 --> 01:04:30,200
Speaker 1: don't think you should dilute who you are to be

997
01:04:30,280 --> 01:04:37,320
Speaker 1: palatable to other people. But you should probably learn how to, like,

998
01:04:38,640 --> 01:04:43,680
Speaker 1: you know, take it down a notch, you know, because

999
01:04:43,720 --> 01:04:46,280
Speaker 1: here's the other thing that's also Here's like the subject

1000
01:04:46,360 --> 01:04:51,480
Speaker 1: line of the email is desperation in all caps. And

1001
01:04:51,560 --> 01:04:53,600
Speaker 1: let me tell you, if you are going into this

1002
01:04:54,120 --> 01:04:58,840
Speaker 1: with desperation, it doesn't and I'm not I'm telling this

1003
01:04:58,880 --> 01:05:02,200
Speaker 1: from experience. If if you go into the dating universe

1004
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:08,280
Speaker 1: with desperation, I don't care how slick you think you're being,

1005
01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:16,720
Speaker 1: they know, they know, they know. It doesn't matter how

1006
01:05:16,880 --> 01:05:22,600
Speaker 1: slick you think you're being. If you're desperate, it comes off.

1007
01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 1: You can't you cannot prevent your subconscious feelings from coming

1008
01:05:37,200 --> 01:05:43,600
Speaker 1: out in your behavior. So if subconsciously you're desperate, it'll

1009
01:05:43,640 --> 01:05:45,880
Speaker 1: come out in your behavior, no matter how fucking slick

1010
01:05:45,920 --> 01:05:49,240
Speaker 1: you think you're being. So you have to kind of

1011
01:05:49,280 --> 01:05:52,280
Speaker 1: rid yourself of the desperation, which is hard. It's hard

1012
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:54,480
Speaker 1: to it's you know, it's hard to not want things

1013
01:05:54,480 --> 01:06:00,880
Speaker 1: that you want. But just know that it comes how

1014
01:06:00,920 --> 01:06:04,040
Speaker 1: you feel about yourself, how you feel about the world,

1015
01:06:04,480 --> 01:06:07,240
Speaker 1: how you feel about your situations. They all come out

1016
01:06:07,280 --> 01:06:10,120
Speaker 1: in your words and actions, whether you want them to

1017
01:06:10,240 --> 01:06:17,200
Speaker 1: or not. They just do. They just bleed out naturally. Also,

1018
01:06:17,240 --> 01:06:21,320
Speaker 1: you seem to be upset about being fat. I get

1019
01:06:21,400 --> 01:06:27,720
Speaker 1: upset about being fat myself. You can always lose weight

1020
01:06:28,800 --> 01:06:32,760
Speaker 1: that's within your control. You know, start going to the gym,

1021
01:06:33,320 --> 01:06:36,640
Speaker 1: Start you know, doing do a little bit. I'm not

1022
01:06:36,640 --> 01:06:38,880
Speaker 1: gonna go Hubermen on this because I'm the last guy

1023
01:06:38,920 --> 01:06:42,080
Speaker 1: to give any of this kind of advice, but you know,

1024
01:06:42,160 --> 01:06:44,160
Speaker 1: do a little bit of fasting, do a little bit

1025
01:06:44,160 --> 01:06:48,600
Speaker 1: more walking. Don't do it to get attention from women,

1026
01:06:48,640 --> 01:06:52,919
Speaker 1: but do it because you clearly don't like the way

1027
01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:57,360
Speaker 1: that you look and feel in your body. And that

1028
01:06:57,480 --> 01:07:02,400
Speaker 1: comes off right, So do it for yourself. So a that.

1029
01:07:03,600 --> 01:07:08,640
Speaker 1: And then here's actually here's an here's another thing I'm

1030
01:07:08,640 --> 01:07:19,400
Speaker 1: gonna throw throw at you. Buzz. This email is very

1031
01:07:19,520 --> 01:07:24,240
Speaker 1: you focused, right, Like when you say things like do

1032
01:07:24,280 --> 01:07:27,640
Speaker 1: you ever think eating cum is vegan? And you start

1033
01:07:27,720 --> 01:07:33,480
Speaker 1: playing a Primus song. Right, Here's the thing when you

1034
01:07:33,840 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 1: if you're hanging out with a lady and you just

1035
01:07:35,240 --> 01:07:38,360
Speaker 1: start being like, hey, check out this fucking YouTube video.

1036
01:07:38,400 --> 01:07:41,120
Speaker 1: Hey check out this thing, and you're just taking yourself

1037
01:07:42,040 --> 01:07:46,480
Speaker 1: and you're like throwing it at them. You're not really

1038
01:07:46,520 --> 01:07:50,440
Speaker 1: gonna connect, you say, I'm just gonna make this observation

1039
01:07:50,600 --> 01:07:55,240
Speaker 1: but it seems like when you're meeting these women that

1040
01:07:55,400 --> 01:08:02,200
Speaker 1: you're throwing yourself at them instead of trying to connect

1041
01:08:02,240 --> 01:08:06,440
Speaker 1: with them by showing interest in them and their lives. Like,

1042
01:08:06,720 --> 01:08:10,040
Speaker 1: here's the thing you like Primus, that's cool, but that

1043
01:08:10,360 --> 01:08:13,040
Speaker 1: and your favorite shark is the hammha tried shark. That's great,

1044
01:08:13,400 --> 01:08:16,160
Speaker 1: But who gives the shit? Right, if you're on a

1045
01:08:16,240 --> 01:08:18,599
Speaker 1: date with someone, If you're meeting someone, you gotta you

1046
01:08:18,680 --> 01:08:22,759
Speaker 1: wanna get to know them. You gotta ask them questions

1047
01:08:22,760 --> 01:08:26,760
Speaker 1: about themselves. You got. Connecting with someone means you learn

1048
01:08:26,800 --> 01:08:30,439
Speaker 1: about them and their content, the context in which they live,

1049
01:08:30,560 --> 01:08:33,000
Speaker 1: the things that they like, who they are as a person,

1050
01:08:33,479 --> 01:08:37,800
Speaker 1: and you interact with that. Because if a girl goes

1051
01:08:37,840 --> 01:08:40,400
Speaker 1: to hang out with you and you're just you're just

1052
01:08:40,479 --> 01:08:43,360
Speaker 1: a brick wall of yourself and you're putting on this

1053
01:08:43,520 --> 01:08:46,800
Speaker 1: Primus song and you're talking about sharks and you're talking

1054
01:08:46,800 --> 01:08:52,120
Speaker 1: about come and like, there's no connection this. This this

1055
01:08:52,160 --> 01:08:53,920
Speaker 1: woman is gonna be like I might as well have

1056
01:08:55,240 --> 01:08:58,280
Speaker 1: gone on a on a date with a with a

1057
01:08:58,360 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 1: you know, a TV that is just one side. This

1058
01:09:01,520 --> 01:09:05,120
Speaker 1: is a one sided thing, right, it seems I'm just

1059
01:09:05,160 --> 01:09:06,920
Speaker 1: gathering from your email that you might be having a

1060
01:09:06,960 --> 01:09:10,920
Speaker 1: lot of one sided interactions. And so if I were you,

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01:09:11,040 --> 01:09:15,639
Speaker 1: I would just I would take all of the ego

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01:09:15,680 --> 01:09:18,559
Speaker 1: out of this process. I would take all of the

1063
01:09:18,680 --> 01:09:22,120
Speaker 1: I you start. Here's you say in this email you

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01:09:22,160 --> 01:09:24,080
Speaker 1: have it. This is how the email is formatted. It says,

1065
01:09:24,080 --> 01:09:26,400
Speaker 1: here's my situation. And then you wrote you wrote this

1066
01:09:26,479 --> 01:09:31,080
Speaker 1: in like numerical list. You wrote one, I love Primus, two,

1067
01:09:31,320 --> 01:09:35,320
Speaker 1: I'm fat, three I'm a ginger. It's the the format

1068
01:09:35,400 --> 01:09:39,920
Speaker 1: of the email is like, there's a lot of ego

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01:09:40,000 --> 01:09:41,679
Speaker 1: in it, and I'm and I'm I don't. I don't

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01:09:41,680 --> 01:09:44,680
Speaker 1: mean ego in the way of like egotistical. I mean

1071
01:09:44,720 --> 01:09:48,000
Speaker 1: ego in the way of like the self Like this

1072
01:09:48,120 --> 01:09:51,040
Speaker 1: is like it's just it's about it's like me, I'm fat,

1073
01:09:51,120 --> 01:09:54,240
Speaker 1: I'm ginger, I love Primus, I like, I'm I'm this,

1074
01:09:54,439 --> 01:09:58,160
Speaker 1: I'm that, I'm the other thing. And it's not there's

1075
01:09:58,200 --> 01:10:02,599
Speaker 1: no you gotta you gotta drop all of the ego

1076
01:10:02,640 --> 01:10:05,320
Speaker 1: you got, drop all of the understanding of yourself and

1077
01:10:05,400 --> 01:10:09,760
Speaker 1: go into these things completely flip it, like why are

1078
01:10:09,800 --> 01:10:14,280
Speaker 1: you like, why are you pulling out your phone to

1079
01:10:14,360 --> 01:10:20,920
Speaker 1: play John the Fisherman? Why are you doing that you

1080
01:10:21,160 --> 01:10:24,559
Speaker 1: don't be don't do that. Not because you could play

1081
01:10:24,680 --> 01:10:27,280
Speaker 1: you could play the cool you could play the coolest

1082
01:10:27,479 --> 01:10:31,559
Speaker 1: music or whatever that, but like you, it's it's a

1083
01:10:31,600 --> 01:10:34,479
Speaker 1: signal to me that you're not actually engaging with these

1084
01:10:34,479 --> 01:10:39,040
Speaker 1: people that you're meeting, and you're just throwing the ego

1085
01:10:39,120 --> 01:10:43,120
Speaker 1: of yourself at them, and people hate that, and people

1086
01:10:43,120 --> 01:10:47,759
Speaker 1: and that leads to no connection. So you could be fat,

1087
01:10:47,800 --> 01:10:49,840
Speaker 1: and you could be ginger, and you could love primus,

1088
01:10:50,160 --> 01:10:53,479
Speaker 1: and you could wonder if eating cum is vegan, and

1089
01:10:54,120 --> 01:10:56,960
Speaker 1: you know, look, if you're those are all things within

1090
01:10:57,000 --> 01:11:02,320
Speaker 1: you that aren't necessarily gonna repel other people from you.

1091
01:11:02,960 --> 01:11:05,800
Speaker 1: But if you're lead, and and and but if you

1092
01:11:05,960 --> 01:11:10,200
Speaker 1: lead with all of that, and that's like your fucking

1093
01:11:12,400 --> 01:11:15,639
Speaker 1: north star or whatever, you're not connecting. So next time

1094
01:11:15,680 --> 01:11:17,639
Speaker 1: you go on a date with someone or you meet someone,

1095
01:11:18,640 --> 01:11:22,280
Speaker 1: take don'ty, don't mention primus, don't think, don't even think

1096
01:11:22,280 --> 01:11:25,280
Speaker 1: about yourself, take like literally, strip the ego from it,

1097
01:11:25,800 --> 01:11:29,120
Speaker 1: strip the self from it, and focus one hundred percent

1098
01:11:29,160 --> 01:11:33,040
Speaker 1: on the person you're attempting to connect to, and attempt

1099
01:11:33,120 --> 01:11:36,519
Speaker 1: to connect with them by showing genuine interest in who

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01:11:36,560 --> 01:11:43,880
Speaker 1: they are. Right and if in the process of doing that,

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01:11:44,720 --> 01:11:49,120
Speaker 1: you can find connection through things like the music you

1102
01:11:49,280 --> 01:11:55,920
Speaker 1: like and your life experiences, and you know your your

1103
01:11:56,040 --> 01:12:01,559
Speaker 1: curiosity about come then bring them out. But first and foremost,

1104
01:12:01,640 --> 01:12:03,720
Speaker 1: you want to go in there with the idea of

1105
01:12:03,760 --> 01:12:09,400
Speaker 1: seeing if you can connect with this person, not about like. Also,

1106
01:12:09,560 --> 01:12:11,479
Speaker 1: dates are not about trying to get people to like you.

1107
01:12:12,439 --> 01:12:17,800
Speaker 1: They're about seeing if you connect with people naturally. They're

1108
01:12:17,840 --> 01:12:24,320
Speaker 1: not They're not things that you win or lose. So

1109
01:12:26,120 --> 01:12:29,479
Speaker 1: go into these So I've i've I've been repeating myself,

1110
01:12:29,520 --> 01:12:33,719
Speaker 1: but go into these seeing if you connect with people,

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01:12:33,800 --> 01:12:35,760
Speaker 1: and not see and not being like. And now, because

1112
01:12:35,760 --> 01:12:37,599
Speaker 1: you're going onto all this shit with this mindset of like,

1113
01:12:37,640 --> 01:12:40,839
Speaker 1: I'm a weird, fat ginger guy who loves this weird music.

1114
01:12:41,360 --> 01:12:43,920
Speaker 1: No one's gonna like that shit, where it's like that's

1115
01:12:43,960 --> 01:12:47,000
Speaker 1: all that's left field, that's not You're so far away

1116
01:12:47,400 --> 01:12:49,320
Speaker 1: from the mindset that you want to be going into

1117
01:12:49,320 --> 01:12:51,439
Speaker 1: this with. You want to be going into this with

1118
01:12:51,479 --> 01:12:53,840
Speaker 1: an egoless mindset that has nothing to do with you,

1119
01:12:54,120 --> 01:12:57,559
Speaker 1: that goes like, Huh, I'm gonna see if I like

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01:12:57,640 --> 01:12:59,559
Speaker 1: this person, see if I find them interesting, see if

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01:12:59,560 --> 01:13:03,120
Speaker 1: I can connect to them and then you know, try

1122
01:13:03,160 --> 01:13:05,680
Speaker 1: to lose weight if that's what you want, if you

1123
01:13:05,680 --> 01:13:10,960
Speaker 1: want to feel better about yourself. And uh yeah, primus

1124
01:13:11,040 --> 01:13:13,200
Speaker 1: is cool. You should. You should check out check out

1125
01:13:13,200 --> 01:13:16,360
Speaker 1: that fucking Red Rocks concert with the South Park guys.

1126
01:13:16,400 --> 01:13:20,559
Speaker 1: It's so sick. All right, let's see what else i'll read.

1127
01:13:22,160 --> 01:13:27,439
Speaker 1: I'll read another one. This is from Rambunctious Rampage, subject

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01:13:27,479 --> 01:13:32,559
Speaker 1: line airplanes and growing up. Hello, mister gecko. I've been

1129
01:13:32,600 --> 01:13:35,040
Speaker 1: listening since twenty twenty two when I started going to

1130
01:13:35,080 --> 01:13:39,200
Speaker 1: trade school to work on airplanes. Three years later, now

1131
01:13:39,280 --> 01:13:42,400
Speaker 1: I am a full time mechanic working on executive jets.

1132
01:13:43,000 --> 01:13:44,760
Speaker 1: I always thought you would think my line of work

1133
01:13:44,800 --> 01:13:47,719
Speaker 1: is pretty cool, and honestly, I enjoy bragging about it

1134
01:13:47,840 --> 01:13:50,440
Speaker 1: because how many people have you met that'll work on airplanes?

1135
01:13:52,880 --> 01:13:57,920
Speaker 1: Sure it's cool. Sorry, I'm sorry, sorry, No, it's cool.

1136
01:13:57,920 --> 01:14:04,640
Speaker 1: It's cool to work on airplanes. I like being in airplanes.

1137
01:14:04,680 --> 01:14:07,680
Speaker 1: I use airplanes to get places. It's good someone has

1138
01:14:07,720 --> 01:14:10,759
Speaker 1: to work on them. If they don't, then they don't exist.

1139
01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:13,719
Speaker 1: When I graduated school, I got engaged to my fiance

1140
01:14:13,880 --> 01:14:18,000
Speaker 1: of seven years. We moved four hundred miles away together

1141
01:14:18,000 --> 01:14:20,240
Speaker 1: for work. I landed my dream job right out of

1142
01:14:20,240 --> 01:14:24,559
Speaker 1: school and was promptly fired three months later after the works.

1143
01:14:24,720 --> 01:14:27,120
Speaker 1: After the worst two weeks of my life applying to

1144
01:14:27,240 --> 01:14:30,559
Speaker 1: jobs and playing Fallout New Vegas, I got my current job,

1145
01:14:30,600 --> 01:14:32,640
Speaker 1: which is going better than I ever could have expected.

1146
01:14:33,000 --> 01:14:35,040
Speaker 1: We have two cats and have been thriving in our

1147
01:14:35,120 --> 01:14:38,960
Speaker 1: big apartment twelve hundred square feet. This guy really likes

1148
01:14:38,960 --> 01:14:42,360
Speaker 1: to brag. I built a gaming PC in March, and

1149
01:14:42,400 --> 01:14:45,040
Speaker 1: we each have a bookshelf full of our own books.

1150
01:14:45,360 --> 01:14:48,519
Speaker 1: You should try reading. Okay, now, fuck you, Thanks for

1151
01:14:48,560 --> 01:14:53,120
Speaker 1: your time, sir. Sorry you Actually you seem like a

1152
01:14:53,120 --> 01:14:55,760
Speaker 1: cool guy. Rambooks just rampage. I'm jealous. I'm not going

1153
01:14:55,800 --> 01:15:00,800
Speaker 1: to try reading. I'm happy before I really am. I'm

1154
01:15:00,800 --> 01:15:02,240
Speaker 1: happy for you. That's why I was being a dick,

1155
01:15:02,320 --> 01:15:06,240
Speaker 1: is because I'm actually I'm jealous because you seem happy

1156
01:15:06,280 --> 01:15:08,920
Speaker 1: about life, which is nice, and I'm happy for you.

1157
01:15:08,960 --> 01:15:10,680
Speaker 1: I'm happy for you that you got You went from

1158
01:15:10,680 --> 01:15:16,920
Speaker 1: the worst two weeks of your life too to live

1159
01:15:16,920 --> 01:15:23,160
Speaker 1: in to enjoying life. It's good, man, it's good. I

1160
01:15:23,240 --> 01:15:24,680
Speaker 1: like it. I like it. You know what we get

1161
01:15:24,680 --> 01:15:26,800
Speaker 1: a lot of I think it's good. It's good to

1162
01:15:26,840 --> 01:15:31,240
Speaker 1: know that I feel like a lot of you know,

1163
01:15:31,280 --> 01:15:35,519
Speaker 1: there's a lot of fucked up shit going on in

1164
01:15:35,560 --> 01:15:38,519
Speaker 1: the world. So anytime I read an email of someone

1165
01:15:38,560 --> 01:15:41,840
Speaker 1: being like, oh, I actually enjoy life and things are

1166
01:15:41,840 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 1: going good and I'm happy, especially, I love it. I

1167
01:15:44,400 --> 01:15:48,080
Speaker 1: love a good story. I love this. I love a

1168
01:15:48,120 --> 01:15:53,280
Speaker 1: good comeback story. Worst two weeks of your life? Now

1169
01:15:53,280 --> 01:15:57,960
Speaker 1: you got books. I've read a couple of times. I

1170
01:15:58,000 --> 01:16:01,439
Speaker 1: tried reading, but I I I don't have the I

1171
01:16:01,439 --> 01:16:05,080
Speaker 1: don't have the patience for it. I like I like

1172
01:16:05,120 --> 01:16:07,320
Speaker 1: playing video games, though I'm not a fall out New

1173
01:16:07,400 --> 01:16:09,960
Speaker 1: Vegas guy. I don't like games that are too complicated

1174
01:16:10,040 --> 01:16:14,519
Speaker 1: or like feel like work. You know. I feel like

1175
01:16:14,520 --> 01:16:18,800
Speaker 1: I was a dick to this guy, but uh, you know,

1176
01:16:20,640 --> 01:16:27,920
Speaker 1: he told me to try reading the nerve the nerve. No,

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01:16:28,040 --> 01:16:30,160
Speaker 1: thank you for sharing a re extrous rampage. I appreciate you.

1178
01:16:30,200 --> 01:16:32,439
Speaker 1: Thanks for making airplanes? Who do you what? What you work on?

1179
01:16:32,479 --> 01:16:36,760
Speaker 1: Executive jets? Like for like, like do you make like Bezos'

1180
01:16:37,000 --> 01:16:40,960
Speaker 1: rocket ship? And ship? That is pretty cool? Or I

1181
01:16:40,960 --> 01:16:47,280
Speaker 1: guess it's cool. Have you ever seen the movie Airplane?

1182
01:16:49,400 --> 01:16:54,080
Speaker 1: She watched the movie Airplane. Remolxirous Rampage. Okay, let's read

1183
01:16:54,080 --> 01:16:57,679
Speaker 1: another email, all right, This is from Skip subject line

1184
01:16:57,720 --> 01:17:01,519
Speaker 1: I hiked across Spain. Hey, Lyle, love the show. You're

1185
01:17:01,520 --> 01:17:04,000
Speaker 1: a real g Thank you Skip. In twenty twenty three,

1186
01:17:04,080 --> 01:17:06,160
Speaker 1: I hiked from the bottom of France all the way

1187
01:17:06,720 --> 01:17:11,080
Speaker 1: across the top half of Spain on the Camino de Santiago.

1188
01:17:11,120 --> 01:17:14,240
Speaker 1: I've always wanted to do that. Shit, that's cool. Then

1189
01:17:14,280 --> 01:17:17,519
Speaker 1: I went to and spent weeks recovering on the beach

1190
01:17:17,680 --> 01:17:21,080
Speaker 1: in Lagos, Portugal. I hiked the Camino because I was

1191
01:17:21,120 --> 01:17:25,160
Speaker 1: feeling dead for years, no purpose, had gone through a

1192
01:17:25,160 --> 01:17:28,479
Speaker 1: breakup and a pill addiction, and had no aim in life.

1193
01:17:28,960 --> 01:17:31,160
Speaker 1: So I found out about the Camino from a friend

1194
01:17:31,320 --> 01:17:34,200
Speaker 1: and spent two years bartending to save up to do it.

1195
01:17:34,680 --> 01:17:36,920
Speaker 1: When I had the money, I quit my job, bought

1196
01:17:36,920 --> 01:17:39,240
Speaker 1: the plane ticket, packed my shit, and off I went.

1197
01:17:39,760 --> 01:17:43,000
Speaker 1: I ended up meeting six other hikers, all Europeans who

1198
01:17:43,000 --> 01:17:46,160
Speaker 1: became my close, close friends. It's been two years since

1199
01:17:46,160 --> 01:17:48,200
Speaker 1: that trip and we all still talk in our WhatsApp

1200
01:17:48,240 --> 01:17:52,200
Speaker 1: group almost daily. Spain and those people made me feel

1201
01:17:52,240 --> 01:17:55,720
Speaker 1: life again. Magic is real. It's out there, you just

1202
01:17:55,760 --> 01:18:00,360
Speaker 1: have to find it. Skip. Ooh, what a great email

1203
01:18:00,439 --> 01:18:02,360
Speaker 1: to end on. Thank you for sending this skip. I

1204
01:18:02,400 --> 01:18:08,360
Speaker 1: love this, this so so so. This the theme of

1205
01:18:08,400 --> 01:18:12,200
Speaker 1: the episode today, The motherfucking theme of the episode today

1206
01:18:12,400 --> 01:18:16,360
Speaker 1: that life rewards you for just doing shit. And look

1207
01:18:16,400 --> 01:18:20,479
Speaker 1: at this guy, right, this guy fucking he he he

1208
01:18:20,520 --> 01:18:24,040
Speaker 1: didn't have any money, he spent two years, Barty saved

1209
01:18:24,120 --> 01:18:27,320
Speaker 1: up for it, and then he fucking went and he

1210
01:18:27,360 --> 01:18:29,600
Speaker 1: did it and he got rewarded. Life just rewards you

1211
01:18:29,640 --> 01:18:34,800
Speaker 1: for doing shit. He doesn't. I gotta, I gotta, I gotta,

1212
01:18:35,000 --> 01:18:37,720
Speaker 1: I gotta apply this more to my own life. You know,

1213
01:18:38,080 --> 01:18:40,000
Speaker 1: life just rewards you for doing shit. It really does.

1214
01:18:41,040 --> 01:18:43,679
Speaker 1: It's not a it's a less and less and less

1215
01:18:43,720 --> 01:18:48,040
Speaker 1: feel like you gotta make any sort of like right

1216
01:18:48,160 --> 01:18:51,040
Speaker 1: decisions or whatnot. But it just rewards you for doing shit.

1217
01:18:51,120 --> 01:18:55,759
Speaker 1: I mean, this is a perfect example. This guy fucking breakup,

1218
01:18:55,800 --> 01:19:03,360
Speaker 1: pill addiction, no aim in life recovery, just fucking you know.

1219
01:19:04,320 --> 01:19:09,760
Speaker 1: That's the thing. I believe heavily in serendipity, Like this,

1220
01:19:09,880 --> 01:19:12,040
Speaker 1: fucking shit just finds you. This is why I first

1221
01:19:12,040 --> 01:19:16,480
Speaker 1: started like doing my solo travel shit when I was, uh,

1222
01:19:17,600 --> 01:19:21,320
Speaker 1: you know, in my early twenties. I was solo traveling

1223
01:19:21,360 --> 01:19:25,840
Speaker 1: because the more you go and do things and put

1224
01:19:25,840 --> 01:19:27,519
Speaker 1: yourself out there and try to talk. Just life just

1225
01:19:27,520 --> 01:19:32,160
Speaker 1: rewards you for doing shit. I love it. I love it. SKIP.

1226
01:19:32,200 --> 01:19:34,360
Speaker 1: Thanks for this was a great email to end on

1227
01:19:35,280 --> 01:19:38,000
Speaker 1: this guy's friends now, because yeah, we had a bunch

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01:19:38,000 --> 01:19:39,720
Speaker 1: of other emailers who were like, I don't know how

1229
01:19:39,720 --> 01:19:44,400
Speaker 1: to make friends. I don't know what to do. Do

1230
01:19:44,400 --> 01:19:48,040
Speaker 1: do something crazy, you know you're gonna die, should do

1231
01:19:48,120 --> 01:19:52,680
Speaker 1: something anyway? Well, okay, I kind of I feel like

1232
01:19:52,720 --> 01:19:54,640
Speaker 1: I black out when I do these, and I'm like,

1233
01:19:56,120 --> 01:19:59,240
Speaker 1: now I'm and I'm like, I don't even know what

1234
01:19:59,280 --> 01:20:00,920
Speaker 1: the hell I just record, and I'm gonna put on

1235
01:20:00,960 --> 01:20:02,639
Speaker 1: I don't know what I just recorded, and I'm going

1236
01:20:02,680 --> 01:20:04,840
Speaker 1: to put on the internet, but I it's too late.

1237
01:20:05,120 --> 01:20:08,759
Speaker 1: So that was gek mail. Thank you guys for listening.

1238
01:20:10,400 --> 01:20:13,000
Speaker 1: I'm about to go. I'm actually I'm in a half hour.

1239
01:20:13,080 --> 01:20:15,720
Speaker 1: I'm going to the airport because I'm going to the

1240
01:20:15,800 --> 01:20:22,320
Speaker 1: gathering of the Juggalos to do some interviews, do my

1241
01:20:22,400 --> 01:20:24,720
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do a Gecko i RL episode there, and

1242
01:20:24,760 --> 01:20:27,760
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna try to make another I made

1243
01:20:27,840 --> 01:20:30,240
Speaker 1: I made. I made that Japan video, I made my

1244
01:20:30,240 --> 01:20:35,160
Speaker 1: Tijuana video. I'm working on another video and then I'm

1245
01:20:35,200 --> 01:20:39,599
Speaker 1: gonna shoot something at the gathering that I'm excited for

1246
01:20:39,760 --> 01:20:44,280
Speaker 1: that'll be awesome. See, I'm That's what I'm trying to do.

1247
01:20:44,320 --> 01:20:45,840
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to do shit. I'm just trying to

1248
01:20:45,880 --> 01:20:49,439
Speaker 1: if I just keep doing ship and making I'll tell

1249
01:20:49,479 --> 01:20:53,559
Speaker 1: you guys something. My all my like Gecko views or

1250
01:20:53,560 --> 01:20:58,800
Speaker 1: whatever are like down, which is like, and it's been

1251
01:20:58,880 --> 01:21:01,360
Speaker 1: five years. It's not like the craziest thing in the world.

1252
01:21:01,400 --> 01:21:05,479
Speaker 1: But so I'm like, okay, you know, what do I

1253
01:21:05,520 --> 01:21:08,200
Speaker 1: What do I do now? I want to keep doing shit?

1254
01:21:08,880 --> 01:21:11,559
Speaker 1: So I swimming. I'm just gonna keep doing shit. I'm

1255
01:21:11,560 --> 01:21:13,439
Speaker 1: gonna go to the gathering of the Juggalos, I'm gonna

1256
01:21:13,439 --> 01:21:15,679
Speaker 1: go to Kenya, I'm gonna go to Alaska. Just do shit.

1257
01:21:16,520 --> 01:21:19,599
Speaker 1: Interview people, just make videos, put them on the internet,

1258
01:21:20,320 --> 01:21:22,080
Speaker 1: you know. I mean when I made that, I made

1259
01:21:22,120 --> 01:21:24,840
Speaker 1: this like video about having an existential crisis in Japan,

1260
01:21:25,000 --> 01:21:27,439
Speaker 1: I didn't think people would resonate with it. I thought

1261
01:21:27,439 --> 01:21:30,200
Speaker 1: it was just gonna kind of, you know, be me

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Speaker 1: whining for a bit and die. And then I posted

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Speaker 1: it and a bunch of people were really into it.

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Speaker 1: So and I would have never known and It was

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Speaker 1: the first video I posted in a while that was

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Speaker 1: not Geko related. It was just me and there was

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Speaker 1: I didn't have a strategy behind it, and it was

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Speaker 1: just just doing things.

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Speaker 3: You just do.

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Speaker 1: Shit in the Universe awards too. So anyway, thank you

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Speaker 1: guys for listening. I hope you enjoyed this. I hope

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Speaker 1: you like. Uh. I hope. I hope you're doing all right.

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Speaker 1: I hope, I hope. I hope this was beneficial to

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Speaker 1: listen to. If you want to be on the next

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Speaker 1: get mail, send me an email at therapy geckomail at

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Speaker 1: gmail dot com. And if you sent me an email

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Speaker 1: and I didn't read it in this episode, I just

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Speaker 1: have a backlog of emails, so I might get to

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Speaker 1: your email, I might read an I might read your

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Speaker 1: email in seven months if you send it right now.

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Speaker 1: But I you know, I try to read read all

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Speaker 1: of them. So Therapy Gecko mail at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: I'm a gecko. I'll be back. What let's see if

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Speaker 1: this gets posted on Sunday, the next episode will be

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Speaker 1: an I r L. Yeah, that's it. I'm a gecko

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Speaker 1: or or a person or a thing. Thanks for listening. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna shut up. Bye, thank you, thanks for listening.

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Speaker 1: And it goes on the line taking your phone calls

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Speaker 1: every nine, everything, and goes to just teaching your line

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Speaker 1: an expert