WEBVTT - A Divorce Must-Have You Likely Overlooked 0:00:18.400 --> 0:00:19.560 I do Part two. 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:23.200 It's your celebrity mentor Kelly ben Simone, And today I 0:00:23.239 --> 0:00:25.760 get to talk to a woman who co founded an 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:31.520 incredible business, Divorce Registries. Have you ever heard of something 0:00:31.640 --> 0:00:35.040 so cool? And she's also the host of the Divorce 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:39.800 Happens podcast. Fresh Start Registry has been featured on The 0:00:39.800 --> 0:00:43.839 Today Show, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, and more. I 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:45.720 can't wait to learn all about this. 0:00:45.920 --> 0:00:47.919 Please welcome my. 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:54.360 New guest, Olivia Howell. Hello, Hi, how are you, Kelly? 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:54.920 How are you? 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.200 Oh? My god, Olivia is so nice to meet him, 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.480 So excited to talk to you today. So you started 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:07.319 this amazing opportunity for divorced men and women to have 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:11.280 not only a network, but access to all these different 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:13.880 products and things that they're going to need. First of all, 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:17.720 I love this whole idea. It's so fantastic. It resonates 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:20.120 with me because I was supposed to get married and 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.560 then I called off my wedding and everything was in 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:24.679 storage and there was everything was all over the place, 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:27.360 and you know what we were using what I wanted 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:28.920 to use, and I just felt. 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:31.560 Very very like totally like unsettled. 0:01:32.480 --> 0:01:34.640 And so I really really appreciate this. Also it's such 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:35.479 a cool business model. 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:36.800 You're doing every I mean all you have to do is. 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:39.720 Go to Amazon and like you have an entire, you know, 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:42.759 section of like every single thing that you need, from 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:46.039 the blanket, from the utensils, from the sheets, I mean everything. 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:46.760 I love that. 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:50.840 It's so brilliant. So now let's so you and your 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:54.400 sister you start a business. Yeah, what are the roles 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:55.680 and how does that work? 0:01:56.360 --> 0:01:57.320 This is a great question. 0:01:57.440 --> 0:01:59.440 So my sister is two and a half years younger 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:04.000 than me, and we had kind of opposite parallel stories. 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.280 So I had a very traditional got married in my 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:08.639 twenties to a guy I met on match dot com, 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:11.560 had two little boys, had the white picket fence, and 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:12.760 then he decides he's leaving. 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:13.040 Right. 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.360 It was a very toxic marriage, so it ended up 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:18.799 being the best for everybody. And my sister had kind 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:21.320 of the opposite. She was with her partner for ten years. 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:24.400 They finally got engaged. They were supposed to have the 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:26.880 big wedding. She's the middle child, so this was like 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:30.760 her big moment to shine, and then COVID happened and 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:33.240 they pushed the wedding off so many times. He told 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:37.400 her he didn't love her anymore, so her engagement was over. 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:40.200 So I stayed in the marital residence and had to 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:43.720 really learn to heal in that environment. She left her 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:47.320 apartment in Queen's with nothing, and so we had these 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:48.400 different experiences. 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:50.000 And so when my ex. 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:53.200 Moved out, I was very uncomfortable in the house. It 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:55.959 was all of the things we picked out together, and 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:59.600 he is a musician. He left, you know, guitar hangers 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:01.480 on the wall, and it was like a ghost town. 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:04.639 And so I thought to myself, you know, I had 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:08.000 two baby registries, I had a wedding registry. I really 0:03:08.040 --> 0:03:11.000 need to replace these items. And I didn't have the money. 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:13.680 I worked for myself and I was paying for a divorce. 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:16.720 I literally was like, there's got to be a divorce 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.480 registry out there, and I googled it and there was not. 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:22.000 And so I called my sister and at the time 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:25.680 we were not working together. This was back in twenty nineteen, 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:28.240 and I said, I think we should start the world's 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:29.480 first divorce registry. 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:32.880 And she's like, I love you, but like, we don't 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:33.560 know how to do that. 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:33.840 Now. 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:35.240 I started my own business. 0:03:35.480 --> 0:03:37.800 I had had my own agency, marketing agency for a 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:40.800 long time, but started a startup of registry. We had 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:43.160 no idea what we were doing, and it wasn't until 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.800 she had her experience and she was in an apartment 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:48.880 by herself with nothing, and she called me and said, 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:51.600 remember that idea that you had, and so we built 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:54.960 everything and so we are the world's first divorce registry. 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:56.760 And like you said, Kelly, you know you can go. 0:03:56.800 --> 0:03:58.480 It's always free to make a registry. 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:00.000 So one of the. 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:03.720 Things that was really important to us is we're not lawyers. 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:05.800 We are just two girls. We grew up in a 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:06.720 family of divorce. 0:04:06.960 --> 0:04:09.640 All of our grandparents are divorced, our parents are divorced. 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:13.320 It was you know, you know, it was normal for us, Kelly. 0:04:13.360 --> 0:04:16.080 It was like, okay, like this is just like However, 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:21.160 I thought my divorce would be easy because I had experience, right, 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:23.680 And I was like, I have family support, I have 0:04:23.760 --> 0:04:26.880 financial support, what And it wasn't right. It was I 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:29.440 was depressed, just like everybody else. I had to heal 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:32.880 for years, just like everybody else. And so I thought, well, 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:35.479 if that was hard for me to go through, then 0:04:36.120 --> 0:04:38.520 how the hell is everybody else getting through this? 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:43.320 Right? Turns out they're not. That's there's the answer exactly. 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:44.080 Yeah. 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:46.680 So we built this business model where we said, let's 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:48.919 let's build you know, help people build the registries for 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:53.320 free and educate for free. And then we were like, well, uh, 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:56.000 we have to make money somehow on this, and so 0:04:56.720 --> 0:05:00.520 we knew we wanted to have an expert platform because 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:03.080 people don't know this, but you actually, well you know, 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:05.599 but you use about seven experts when you go through 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:08.840 any big life change and you think about it, even 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:10.840 like buying a house, right you have the appraiser and 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:11.760 the mortgage person. 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:12.640 It just adds up. 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:15.640 I wanted a one stop shop for everybody to come 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:18.520 and say, I know that these professionals at Fresh Starts 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:21.360 are vetted and they're safe, and I can use any 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:24.400 of them. So what we did is we figured out banks. 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:27.159 We figured out, well, my background is marketing and PR, 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.920 my sister's backgrounds in tech and business development. Let's offer 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:33.760 that to experts and we can give them a membership. 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:36.960 And so we did that. So we are very transparent. 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:38.120 We're bootstrapped. 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:40.719 We make our money the way we've always made our money, 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:43.120 which is marketing and PR, and we provide that to 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:46.360 our experts and they pay either twenty five dollars or 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:49.840 fifty five dollars a month, very affordable, and we are 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:53.320 now the premier divorce support network of experts. And the 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:56.400 thing that I'm most proud of, Kelly, is that when 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:58.479 you sign on to be a Fresh Starts expert, you 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:02.160 have to sign our ethos that says you are shame free, 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:05.360 judgment free, and inclusive, because that's really important to us. 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:07.320 I love that. 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:09.960 Oh my god, that is such a First of all, 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:12.600 I'm so sorry there was all this divorce in family, 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:14.880 but out of something bad came something so good. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:28.320 Yeah, fresh Start, Yeah, you and your sister, I mean 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:31.240 talk about backgrounds that are like built for business. 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:34.800 I mean that's literally fantastic and just. 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:38.440 The genesis of like why you guys started. This is 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:42.800 just so real and transparent. And yeah, people do need, 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.120 you know, tools in their tool belt, and I just 0:06:45.160 --> 0:06:50.320 think this is so fantastic. So let's talk about the 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:56.040 three things that you need every person needs with kids, 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:57.440 and then we're gonna ask with that, but let's talk 0:06:57.480 --> 0:06:58.360 about with first. 0:06:59.200 --> 0:07:01.520 I love this question, and Kelly, you know so many 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:03.960 women and we are for men and women, but we 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:06.760 primarily get a lot of women. Women are culturally more 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:10.120 conditioned to ask for help a little bit. And so 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:14.680 for women, for moms, they always think about the kids 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:16.200 right before anything else. 0:07:16.280 --> 0:07:17.920 You know what that's like, right, And so. 0:07:18.320 --> 0:07:20.840 A lot of women have to downsize or they have 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:24.640 to move really quickly out of a place. And so 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:27.240 it was really important for me, who I was left 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:30.520 a single mom with two little kids, to be able to, 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:32.920 you know, put together a bundle of items you could 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:34.680 add to your registry that. 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:37.000 Were easy for single moms to build. 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:39.240 Right, you only have two hands, so you're not going 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:41.800 to be able to build like a huge shelf by yourself. 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:46.320 So for moms who are building a registry, I would say, 0:07:46.440 --> 0:07:49.680 and this is so silly, but like new dishes, right, 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:52.400 because you're starting a new family. This is a new 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:56.240 iteration of your family. And you know, I always say, 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:59.840 like divorce is like splitting the atom, right, So you 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:03.720 just kind of changing the dynamic of the family. And 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:07.160 it is those little things like dishes that you're not 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:09.560 going to use your wedding dishes anymore anything for your 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:12.480 wedding registry, maybe you and your kids can pick out 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:14.200 new dishes to put on your registry. 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:16.120 So that's number one. 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:19.400 New dishes, right, even if you just put pizza, frozen 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:25.080 pizza on there, totally fine. And then along with that utensils, right, 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:28.960 new utensils. I'm a small fork and spoon person. I 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:32.000 have very small hands. I do not want to reach 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:34.240 into a utensil drawer and pull out a big spoon 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:38.120 or fork, and so for me, it was really important. 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:38.839 To have new utensils. 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:42.760 And I always recommend you know, overall, the general theme 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:46.400 here is things that maybe your ex touched is great 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:49.960 to replace, right, Like I'm big into energy, and you 0:08:49.960 --> 0:08:52.199 know you don't want to have those things necessarily in 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.680 the house. Of course, donate the things that you're not 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:57.240 going to use anymore, because somebody can definitely use them, 0:08:57.480 --> 0:09:02.760 but you are worthy of that upgrade. So so utensils, plates, 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:06.280 And the last thing is a new blanket. Right, you 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.320 and your kiddos are going to snuggle under the blanket 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:11.240 and watch movies. Get yourself something beautiful and bold and 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:13.800 colorful and super soft. 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:14.839 I love that. 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:17.800 But now, what about if it's just a single person 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:21.000 man or woman who gets divorced and they have nothing, 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:22.760 what do they go away with? 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:23.920 What three items did they ease? 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:26.319 Yeah, so this is the thing that always kind of 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.760 blows people's minds. But new underwear, get yourself new underwear, 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:31.720 and it's totally okay to put it on your registrate. 0:09:31.880 --> 0:09:35.040 I'm giving everybody permission to do that right now. You 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.199 do not want to keep putting on underwear that your 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:39.880 ex saw. It's not going to help you feel sexy. 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:41.960 It's not going to help you heal, right, and this 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:45.160 is all about healing. So get yourself some new underwear. 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:46.600 And you know what, your girls are going to want 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:48.160 to buy your new underwear, So put it on the 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:52.640 registrate because you deserve that. And then sheets, right, you 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:54.800 do not want to sleep in that same bed that 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:57.800 you slept in with your ex again, Like I remember, 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:00.640 even one of the energy healers I work during my 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:03.040 divorce was like, you gotta get rid of all his cells. 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:06.120 No cells in the house, right, like nothing. 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:06.400 In the house. 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:11.959 So new sheets, new underwear, and then new wine glasses. 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:14.600 Get yourself something really you know whatever you drink, right, 0:10:14.600 --> 0:10:17.280 what maybe it's just diet coke and ice, that's cool too, 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:21.040 Get yourself something that you really love. I remember, like 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:24.280 along these lines, right before my ex moved out, we 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:27.199 had cohabitated because most people do when they have kids 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:30.640 before they leave. And I went to Target and I 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:34.040 got myself these plastic glasses because I had kids at 0:10:34.040 --> 0:10:36.480 the time. I still do, but they were smaller and 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:40.120 they were like vintage looking plastic glasses. And I didn't 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.400 take them out until he left, and it was so 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:47.280 special to see those in my cabinet. So yeah, and 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:50.160 you know, the whole thing is like you're allowed to 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:52.600 start fresh, and this is your time to pick out 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:56.280 items that bring you joy. You know, Gray divorce, which 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.360 is divorce over fifty is on the rise majorly. It's 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:02.800 about triple in the last twenty years. And a lot 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:06.000 of these women have literally Kelly, never picked anything out 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:06.679 for themselves. 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:08.520 And you know, so. 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:11.160 Imagine like you get to go on, you know, pick 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:14.360 out your registrate of things for you. And we do 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.319 see some trends, which is interesting. The color pink. 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:18.079 All over the place. 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:23.000 Women love everybody after divorce after divorce, and so you 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:25.120 get your pink back that way, which is really nice. 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:26.840 I love that. 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:30.040 So let's get to like some of your hot items, 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:32.080 like what are people asking for? 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:34.800 What are like, you know, some of the big items 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:35.880 that everyone's like, I need. 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:38.680 These, Yeah, I love that question. So you know a 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:40.640 couple of things, so we do. We can see you know. 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:42.680 The way that it works is you can actually submit 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:45.520 your registrate to our website and we have what we 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.640 call our registry Fairies, which are just anybody can be 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:51.840 a registry fairy. You can sign up and we send 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:55.240 the registries from women and men going through divorce to 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:57.960 our registry fairies, and you can buy somebody an item 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:01.440 from the registry. Because Amazon protects you, which is why 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.400 we used Amazon. You can also do it on my 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:06.480 registrate if you're not a fan of Amazon. And so 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:09.040 we always say submit your registry to us because you 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:11.360 never know you might get stuff, and we do have people. 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:15.120 We actually just had two of our somebody two companies 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:18.560 sponsored and hire registries recently for people, which is amazing, 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:20.959 and so we do get to see what people are 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.920 asking for. So some of my favorite items are disco balls. 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:28.640 People ask for disco balls, which I love. And somebody 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:31.280 asked her a pirate flag. Kelly, I was like, I 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:33.840 love this, I want a pirate flag. But you know 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.720 what I really love is like bathrobes and things that 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:40.559 people really ask for for themselves, right, and like we 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:42.600 love to see, you know, even simple things like a 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:45.880 butter dish somebody asked for. And then she emailed us 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:48.160 and she was like, I cried opening my butter dish. 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:51.000 And it's like those those little things they mean so 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:53.760 much to people, you know. And we had a a 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:56.880 somebody we know who registered for a new utensil holder, 0:12:57.320 --> 0:12:59.320 and she emailed us a picture and she said, I 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:02.520 had the same tensilholder my whole marriage, and every time 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:04.440 I looked at it, I thought about the abuse that 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:06.520 I was, you know, I had gone through. And now 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:09.120 with this new utensil holder, I get to see my 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:12.320 life like happen in a beautiful way. And it's it's 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.520 because those little things do represent right, there's symbolic. We 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:19.080 always say that the items from a registry are items. 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:20.160 We don't call them gifts. 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:23.960 There's support items, and they're the physical manifestation of the 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:26.520 support that you can offer somebody. You know, there's a 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:29.240 lot of freeways to support your friends and family also 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.600 going through a divorce, which we are always a fan of. 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.400 But also you can buy a friend or a family member, 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:37.200 you know, a five dollars mug from their registry and 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:38.439 it's going to mean the world to them. 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:39.400 I just love that. 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:43.880 I mean, you're you're totally debunking the stigma of divorce. 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:47.880 And like, there's bridal registries, you know, there's wedding registries. 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:51.120 You know, there's registries for like baby registry you no baby. 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:54.880 There's literally a registry for everything, except for the thing 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:58.360 that you really really really need is starting over. So 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:02.120 how do we So how does someone even go about 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:04.560 sharing a registry? I mean, you've talked about Amazon, you 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:07.040 talked about my registry. How does that actually work? 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:10.960 So you go to Fresh startsregistry dot com and on 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:13.440 the website there there's a button for build your Registry, 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:15.880 create your registry, and you can go in and so 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:18.560 the way that we've organized it is our whole mission 0:14:18.600 --> 0:14:21.520 is to eliminate the overwhelm out of starting over. You know, 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:24.120 when you're at the intersection of heartbreak and legal and 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:27.280 all that bs stuff, you cannot handle picking out new 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:31.120 stuff for yourself and so reading reviews. So we have 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:34.520 bundles of items based on different things. We have you know, 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:38.880 by price point ninety nine dollars upwards. We have by esthetic, right, 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:41.280 so you can do like all different room aesthetics and 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:43.680 then simply by rooms, right, so you could go pick 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:46.840 you know, click on the bathrooms, and we've read the reviews. 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:49.000 We put the items there. So you can just add 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:51.400 all of that to your registry and then you can 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:53.480 go in and add anything else that you want. You 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:57.040 can also just add a thing to get money, you know, 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:59.000 to Amazon, so that you can also like get the 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:02.600 bigger items if you that also, but we always recommend, 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:05.360 you know, adding things that are different price points, and 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:08.080 you are allowed to like be wild, you know, get 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:09.760 the rainbow colored spoons and forks. 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:13.960 Why not, right, like live live boldly, and so you 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:14.360 do that. 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:17.440 And we actually do provide scripts for people because they say, well, 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:18.080 how do I ask? 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:19.120 Right, this is really weird. 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:20.280 Nobody's going to ask that. 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:22.600 Yeah, so we do have scripts on the website. 0:15:22.640 --> 0:15:24.760 You can click copy and paste it into a text 0:15:24.840 --> 0:15:28.280 and we are all about scripts and helping people, and 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:30.080 so you can send it to your friends and family 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:32.760 and say, look, you've asked how you can help me. 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:34.640 This is how you can help me. I don't have 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:38.040 you know, dishes or cereal bowls. We've gotten a lot 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:41.800 of negative feedback over the years, not shockingly from people 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:44.400 who have said, well, I won't get somebody an item 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:46.160 from the registry, but I will buy you a bottle 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:48.160 of wine, which is lovely. 0:15:48.680 --> 0:15:52.200 But would why would they be negative about helping someone 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:53.600 be better? 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:57.000 That's a great question, Kelly, because people are still really 0:15:57.240 --> 0:16:00.680 stigmatizing divorce. Divorce is still morally a really bad thing 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:03.920 for people, and that's what we're here to and you know, 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:06.880 completely reshift the narrative, you know, a small thing to 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:09.520 try to do, like a historical narrative, but you know, 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:12.400 we're trying to say, like, yes, it's great that you're 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:15.160 saying I'm here for you, but sometimes people really just 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:17.680 need the basics to begin again. 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:20.760 And that's okay. And you know, we've had a lot. 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:23.560 Of people also thank us from the other side as 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:26.600 the friend or the sister of somebody going through divorce 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:29.600 and say thank you for providing this platform because I 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:32.440 didn't know how to help, and now I know how 0:16:32.480 --> 0:16:36.160 to help. So and we also do provide I provide 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:39.360 one on one free calls for anybody who's interested, you know, 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:43.360 considering divorce or going through divorce, or or post divorce. 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:45.840 This was something we started just a few years ago, 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:48.360 and I talk to women now all day every day, 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:52.440 totally free, no obligation. It's very difficult for people to 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:55.200 understand that, but I'm it's completely. 0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:56.440 Free, and we're there for them. 0:16:56.520 --> 0:17:00.320 I am there for them because I made a vow that, Yeah, 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:02.520 I didn't want anybody to go through this alone ever again, 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:03.560 and so we mean that. 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:06.480 You know, it's interesting you were talking about the stigma 0:17:06.640 --> 0:17:11.160 of getting divorced and there's all these you know, divorce rings. 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:13.439 I mean, I'm a victim of that I made. I 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:16.240 made a divorce ring from my ring. This is back 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:18.800 in like literally like two thousand and nine. 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:20.600 I made a divorce ring. 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:23.920 And then people having these divorce parties, they're going to Vegas, they're. 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:27.240 Having all these things. Why is it that women. 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:31.560 Feel like they have to celebrate that moment? Do you 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:37.960 feel like they're trying to not feel so bad? I mean, 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:42.600 it's it's just the stigma of divorce is real. Oh yeah, 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:45.840 it's hurt and that harm is real. So why are 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:46.600 we celebrating? 0:17:47.520 --> 0:17:48.520 Why are we celebrating? 0:17:48.640 --> 0:17:50.119 Celebrate? What am I doing? 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:51.119 You know why, Kelly? 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:54.560 Because you survived. You survived, and not every woman gets 0:17:54.600 --> 0:17:55.480 out of marriage alive. 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:57.240 And that's the true meaning. 0:17:57.920 --> 0:18:00.760 And you survived, and we are allowed to celebrate our 0:18:00.800 --> 0:18:05.560 survival and divorce I think is still really hard for 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:09.080 people to understand. And you know, it touches every single 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:11.280 part of your life and your family and your future 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:15.320 and your past and you come out a completely different person. 0:18:15.760 --> 0:18:18.240 So your celebration, your divorce ring, which I love that 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:20.520 you were on the vanguard of that, you know, is 0:18:20.560 --> 0:18:24.560 about celebrating you as a person, choosing you. It is 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:27.160 not easy, like you said, to be a brave woman 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:28.200 and choose divorce. 0:18:28.640 --> 0:18:30.760 The world does not like single moms. 0:18:30.800 --> 0:18:34.280 The world hates divorced women, right, and so to choose 0:18:34.280 --> 0:18:37.639 that is really brave. And that's what we're celebrating, is 0:18:37.680 --> 0:18:40.680 the bravery that you, you know, you move forward with. 0:18:41.280 --> 0:18:43.600 It's interesting what you say, and I really appreciate you 0:18:43.640 --> 0:18:46.400 using the word bravery because when I was on Housewives 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:48.160 at the very beginning in the ice age in two 0:18:48.160 --> 0:18:51.040 thousand and nine, and I was divorced and my children 0:18:51.040 --> 0:18:54.479 are very young, and the fan base was like, oh, 0:18:54.560 --> 0:18:57.600 there must be something wrong with you. I'm like, no, 0:18:57.680 --> 0:19:00.119 I actually made a good decision for our family as 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:03.399 a whole, for my girls, for their future, and for 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:06.280 my ex husband, Like I'm the one that made that decision, 0:19:06.600 --> 0:19:09.720 and it was not any easy decision to be on 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:11.480 my own raising children alone. 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:14.080