WEBVTT - The Sell-Out 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:06.559 From Hollywood. Thank you for listening to us with a 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:13.720 Ryan Seacrest. I literally woke up at three thirty a week. Yeah, 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:15.720 and that's a bad time to be awake, because it's 0:00:15.760 --> 0:00:18.280 like a no person's land. What do you do at 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:21.079 three thirty? Do you go back to sleep? I tried 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:22.639 and laid there. I laid there and that it was 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:26.720 almost four, and so I got up and that was 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:30.040 you know when you don't sleep quiet enough and you 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:34.680 feel your eyes in your forehead or already tired. Yeah, 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:38.440 So I made my coffee, I had it, read the news. 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:41.680 I read some things, and I was like, you know what, 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.400 you should go back to bed for a few minutes. Well, 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:50.760 it was too late. Then the morning started going really fast. Yeah, 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:56.000 and so it's practically lunchtime for me. Okay, right, you 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:58.920 have to deal with it. So you're tired today, is 0:00:58.920 --> 0:01:00.600 what you're trying to tell us. I didn't say anything 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.840 about being tired. Just tell me how many hours into 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:07.440 the game. I am already? No, But what do you 0:01:07.480 --> 0:01:09.960 do when you wake up? I certainly do not get 0:01:10.040 --> 0:01:12.240 up in like if I can't fall asleep. You know, 0:01:12.280 --> 0:01:13.960 some people wake up, they go to sleep and they 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:18.200 wake up midnight and they walk around a snack or 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:20.760 they read like not for me, I forced myself to 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:23.040 lay there, try and fall asleep. But when it's almost 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:25.880 your morning time and it's a little before, what do 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:27.679 you do? Do you extend that morning time to get 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:32.119 more done? Do you not? It's a real pickle. So 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:36.800 I actually read some studies on this because, um, apparently, 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:38.800 if your body just wakes up, let's say it's a 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:40.600 half an hour before your alarm is going to go off, 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.319 it's better just to get up and start your day, 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:45.319 because if you try to go back to sleep and 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:46.840 your body does go back to sleep and then it's 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:50.000 alarmed again really quickly, it's actually worse and it makes 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:57.600 you more tired. You're welcome, Okay, thank you for that 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:01.840 stage wisdom. Uh yeah, well anyway, that's just what happened. 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:03.680 But here we are, we made, We're ready to go. 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.040 I got a fun show for you today of a 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:08.880 second date update coming up later. Another crisis in the 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:11.200 world of dating in South in California is not a 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:16.640 silver Lake one. At two seven at Kiss FM, here's 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:21.680 Mallory Malorie. Good morning, Good morning, Ryan. How are you doing. 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:24.520 I'm good, how are you I'm doing what you're calling 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:30.000 about something with your boyfriend. Yeah, all right, our expertise, 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:33.000 let's bring it into the land a boyfriend. What do 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:39.880 you got? So I have a book recommendation question for Tanya. Okay, 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:43.239 my boyfriend and I are really just trying to grow 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:49.240 in our relationship and communication. And um, I have actually 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.280 my friend and I have gone through a book that 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.440 Tony recommended before, and I thought this was kind of 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:56.000 right down for Ali. So we're just looking for a 0:02:56.040 --> 0:02:58.600 book to read together that will help us to continue 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:01.320 to grow as a couple. Our faith is very important 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:03.840 to us. And so I just I was wondering if 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:08.840 you and Red Star has done anything like this. Who, Um, 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:12.480 my boyfriend, what do you call him? Red Star? That's 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:14.920 what I call him on the podcast. How many names 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:17.799 does this guy have? Your confused? Can we pick a 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:24.480 lane for him and just call him Robbie on air? Right? 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:31.160 He's Socrates here, He's read Fouling over there, He's Robbie. 0:03:31.360 --> 0:03:34.079 His name is Robbie. And finally we have the h 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:37.720 some sort of governing bodies approval to talk about his 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:42.680 name Robbie. He will always be read Star to Red Star. 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:48.280 You know, we actually haven't done any books or practices together. 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:50.880 And this is something that I really want to do 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:54.280 with him as well. Um, because I love the idea 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:58.080 of doing something together, having a common goal, growing as 0:03:58.280 --> 0:04:03.880 a you know, a team. Uh, And I love that idea. 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:07.760 I'm gonna think on this and get back to you. 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:11.560 I love it all right, So you and your both 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:14.840 and you're trying to grow in your relationship. What are 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:18.080 what what are ways to do that? Let's see. I 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:22.320 think one are the things that I like to do 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:26.320 is I like to have a we a WE notebook 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:28.640 and at the start of the day, at the end 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:30.520 of the day, you write down things that you guys 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:32.880 like together, want to do together, like about each other, 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:34.320 just sort of write it down. I like to have 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:39.719 a purple cover on that book because it's happiness, you know, 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:44.680 just little things like just keep a record on it. Yeah, 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:48.920 I love that. On Sunday, we've started doing something similar. 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.040 We time. We sit down every Sunday, no devices and 0:04:51.200 --> 0:04:55.839 just kept up and talk about that. Yeah. And I 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:57.840 don't even know if it's rehashing the week. What about 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:00.880 looking forward? Looking back to be a dry I might 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:03.760 want to focus on looking forward. That's actually not a 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:07.479 bad idea, but I think maybe like the pick peek 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:12.000 and pit of the week. Oh yeah, well, why why 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:15.559 the pit? Like just peek and peak, like peek from past, 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.359 peak from future. I'm done with the pits? Are we 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:22.200 don't talk about the pitts? Looks on negativity? Have you 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:26.479 not heard your podcast? Nineteen episodes of it? It's not 0:05:26.480 --> 0:05:30.480 about pits, about peaks looking forward vision boards. But life 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:36.000 is peaks and valleys, man ups and downs. Hey, thank 0:05:36.040 --> 0:05:38.320 you for listening. Mary, good luck. We're gonna get back 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:43.000 to you. Tiny's got yourself awesome, all right, I'm gonna 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:44.920 get some suggestions for sure. I think that's a really 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:48.320 great idea, sharing with all of us. A lot of 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:50.800 people have these in the bathrooms. I think I've had 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:53.520 mine forever, and for some reason, I think that little 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:56.080 case I put it in, sanitize it and cleans it 0:05:56.160 --> 0:06:00.160 like a car wash. It's your toilet brush. You rid 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:03.080 of it. A used toilet brush sitting out is full 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:06.400 of bacteria. It can grow and cause illnesses that you 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:09.040 don't want to hear. On the radio, they recommend rubber 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:12.239 gloves and cleaning up by hand that thing. For some reason, 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:14.560 I think, oh, everybody has one of these. I'll just 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:16.200 put it in its garage and it will get a 0:06:16.200 --> 0:06:17.920 car wash and be fine the next time I use 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:22.719 it the same, same exact thought. It is not getting 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:27.000 cleaned in there. That is gross. It's gross, and that's 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.039 why I need you to know today's quote. If you 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:31.920 watch another person's plate for too long, your food will 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:39.480 get cold air with rygres. We're nineteen days away from Halloween. 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:43.560 On this Tuesday morning, Siony is out sunshine and we'll 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:45.440 get more of the weather in just a second from Tony, 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:47.719 who's in for sist L. A U s D extended 0:06:47.760 --> 0:06:50.520 the deadline for all workers to be fully immunized for 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:54.320 COVID nineteen. The prior deadline of this Friday has been 0:06:54.360 --> 0:06:58.080 moved to November, when employees must be fully vaccinated or 0:06:58.200 --> 0:07:02.360 risk termination. California will soon ban the sale of new 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:06.360 gas powered leaf blowers and lawnmowers, attempting to curb emissions 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:09.160 from the small engines that produce more pollution each year 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:13.920 than passenger vehicles. The autopsy results of Gabby Petito are 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:16.720 expected to be announced at a press conference this afternoon, 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:20.160 nearly one month after her body was found in Wyoming 0:07:20.680 --> 0:07:23.000 and the Dodgers loss to the Giants one to nothing 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.680 in Game three of the n LDS on a cold, 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:29.000 wendy night at Dodgers Stadium. Game four is tonight, and 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:31.320 if the Dodgers win, Game five would be in San 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:38.840 Francisco on Thursday on air with Ryan Seacrest, Good Morning 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:42.200 Seacrest with you, Hey, you know a couple of things. 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:44.040 But parents and I were just talking on the phone 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:46.280 the other night and my sister about Christmas. But where 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:49.840 we're gonna have Christmas, and with my baby niece, she's 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:53.640 not so portable, so we've got to figure out a 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:57.400 spot that's it's neutral so that she can do what 0:07:57.480 --> 0:07:58.920 she needs to do. So I think we're gonna go 0:07:59.000 --> 0:08:02.240 to my sister place. But they got me thinking about 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:04.920 the holidays are going to be here fast. You've got 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:07.720 Thanksgiving and then uh, well, Hannaka's early, and then you're 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:10.720 right into the Christmas season. And then I started looking 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:13.480 back at all of the articles in the last handful 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:18.480 of months about the supply chain and by of fact, 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:23.440 my windows broken on my SUV and the back windows broken. 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:26.440 It's been broken for a long time, and I keep 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:28.680 calling the dealership like well, can I bring it in 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:30.080 to fix it? And they're like no, because we don't 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:31.920 have the part. Well, where's the parts on a ship 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:34.840 in the Suez Canal? So that's what we're looking at. 0:08:35.080 --> 0:08:37.559 I think with toys this year when it comes to 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:39.439 your kids and toys. Nicole Lapping is here from my 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:42.560 out rates money rehab Nicole, how are you doing great? 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.320 You know I love this supply chain talk. I do too. 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:49.280 I really am fascinated by ships and containers and the 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.880 loading and unloading process and then what everybody's doing out 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:54.319 at sea for so long, plus where they're stacking them 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:56.040 up at our ports. It's I don't know why I 0:08:56.080 --> 0:09:00.000 find it oddly fascinating, but what is going to be available? 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:02.760 Should we just think that all products are going to 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:04.920 be on this big delay? Have you been to the 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:09.800 port of long Beage. It's fascinating and shoreman take me 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:11.320 around and see, I want to know what's in all 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:14.880 those containers? Given me both, but not a lot of 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:19.199 toys in those containers. The supply chain issues are affecting 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:22.160 a ton of different things. You know, furniture delays. If 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:25.000 you've been moving lately, you know that it's sixteen to 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:28.720 eighteen weeks compared to eight to twelve weeks normally, and 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:33.239 then chip shortages to having an effect on computers and appliances. 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:37.160 So basically, go holiday shopping right now because it's not 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:39.559 gonna get What do you do? So, because I'll hear 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:41.960 you say that. In that fact, let me be even 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:45.200 more deliberate. I'm having you on this show saying that, 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:47.920 and I'll still wait, I'll still forget that you said that, 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.080 and I'll still wait. What will we be up against 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:53.600 if we're in December trying to find something for our niece. 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.800 I think that you know what, you can go and 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:04.720 wrap up an apple potentially a lot. By the way, 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:08.840 have you guys noticed you're not imagining, but snacks are 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:11.920 the same price right now, but they're smaller. So this 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:15.760 is a thing called shrink flation that's happening. It's when 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.480 a bunch of companies, you know, the cost of goods 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:21.000 is more expensive, but to try to offset that, they 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:23.160 don't raise the prices because you're sensitive to that. But 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:25.840 you're not going all like Nancy Drew or Columbo. I'm 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:29.120 an old lady um inspecting how many ounces are in something. 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:31.720 So if you're giving pringles which you might have to 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:35.640 resort to, they're a lot smaller. Well, I have noticed 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:38.280 this in my chip bags that I'll like all of 0:10:38.280 --> 0:10:40.280 a sudden of eating an entire bag of chips and 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:43.559 thought I didn't eat that many chips and the bags empty. 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:49.400 You're not imagining this. It's cheerios, it's Lucky Charms, it's 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:54.080 cinnamon toast crunch, it's diapers, it's Reese's pieces. And what 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:56.199 do we do about that? What can we do about that? 0:10:56.520 --> 0:10:58.760 I mean, if you really want to inspect how much 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:00.719 bang you're getting for your but you can check out 0:11:00.720 --> 0:11:03.120 ounces and stuff like that. But companies are sneaky, you know. 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:06.320 They take a few sheets off a toilet paper roll, 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:10.640 or they made ice cream cartons smaller without folks actually noticing. 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:14.320 And I thought I was eating an entire bag of chips, 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:16.920 and I was beating myself up over it all. Right, 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:20.120 before you go, I want to ask you something a 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:22.000 little specific here, and it has to do if you 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:23.160 if you know now you want to come back to 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:24.959 you so on it. We have a lot of people 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:28.240 call in that are in a job and they because 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:29.800 of all the things we've been through, they need to 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:31.880 make more doing what they've been doing, and they want 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:34.559 to ask for a raise, but it's just it's a difficult, 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:38.960 it's a heart beating, uncomfortable, sweaty pump conversation. I know, 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:41.280 even when I have to have serious conversations about the 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:44.480 business of our business, like I don't like it, and 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:48.520 the rooms quiet, and I small talk before and just 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:51.240 don't and I say things like, what that's a dumb 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:54.719 thing to say, Why do you even respond? What are 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:56.720 tips for people who really need to go in and 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:59.000 they just they need to make more for what they're doing. 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.320 So you can practice in the mirror, you can practice 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:04.720 with your dog. Just get it out there before you 0:12:04.760 --> 0:12:07.319 actually go in the room. And then have a couple 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:11.200 of different options. Have money only and then a perks option, 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:14.480 because sometimes getting an expense account or something else could 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:16.719 actually be really valuable for you and that could be 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:18.679 a tax right off for our company, so it's not 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:20.199 as much of a big deal as a base and 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:23.280 bump salary. And then have both option. So a little 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:25.240 bit of money and a little bit of perks. Now, 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:28.480 what if they say no, It could be just no 0:12:28.679 --> 0:12:30.680 for now, you know, the worst thing they can say 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:33.280 is no. But the answers. Always know if you don't ask, 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:36.280 I would love to do role playing with somebody who's 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:38.720 curious about this, or I can even get in their ear, 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:43.080 like in a little earpiece and coach them through it. Yeah, well, 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:44.840 I mean, let's think tubs. Are you looking for a 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:47.720 little extra because she'll be in your ear? Shall I 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:50.079 have be you right up to that race? Are you 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:52.120 can get to the engineering department? Hey, glad you feel 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:56.280 about the engineering department? Listen? Why not? The worst they 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:58.440 can say is no, this is a labor love. I'm 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:02.640 just here labor love. You only jiu jitsu matches. That's 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:07.199 why you're here. Put together like a list of what 0:13:07.320 --> 0:13:10.040 you've done. Right, This is a business in the end 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:12.080 of the day. It's not a charity. And so if 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:14.679 there's all these engineering things that Thom has done, like 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:19.200 put it together in a little dossier or a little presentation. Right, 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:21.720 Your boss has their own stuff to do. They're focused 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:26.080 on their job, not micromanaging to your agent. She's good 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.800 at this right, all right? Listen to cool. Thank you 0:13:28.840 --> 0:13:30.559 for coming on. Check out our podcast wherever you get 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:32.520 your podcast. I heart radios got it as well. Take care, 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:37.760 Thanks for being here. All right, bye, realize how me 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:40.319 not finishing college has impacted in my life when I 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:44.920 talk to people like that, no, unbuttoned up we sound 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:49.400 sometimes she's very buttoned up. She's buttoned up, but we 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:56.360 are unbuttoned up. Sometimes I'm just throwing out there. Yeah, Ryans, 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:04.280 it is time for second date update. Jeremy has reached 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:06.760 out to us, says, uh, did he ended up going 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:08.960 out with this girl after meeting or at a bar? 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:11.960 So it's a great night. They hooked up night one, 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:15.559 but he doesn't know what's going on. Now he's astro 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:20.280 out again and she's showing no signs of interest. So Jeremy, 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:23.920 that's fast. Where did you hook up at hers or yours? 0:14:25.040 --> 0:14:28.600 Uh no, we're in my place. And then did she 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:30.520 leave after you hooked up? Or did she stay over? 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:35.520 Uh no, she left like pretty. Um, I mean it 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:37.120 was in the morning, so, I mean, but it was early. 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:39.760 Did you offer a T shirt and give me some 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:44.240 specs on how it went down? T shirt? Right? It's 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:46.200 like if somebody doesn't have something to sleep in, here, 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:50.160 here's my sweats. Yeah right, here's my sweats. I'll sleep 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:56.520 in another room. Oh no, what what happened was when 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:58.320 we met at a bar. But basically to tell you 0:14:58.320 --> 0:14:59.560 at a little bit, we met at the bar, you know, 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:01.800 and we're just, um, you know, it was for a 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:05.800 friend's party, and uh, you know we yeah, I mean 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:07.800 we've met, hit it off, had drinks. It was like 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:11.400 really great, had really great conversation, um, and it's really 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:13.360 actually good connection with her. And then we went back 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:17.840 and yeah, I mean we she stayed over and I 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:20.200 mean we you know, it wasn't in separate rooms, right 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:22.760 we you know, I had a really good time and 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:25.960 she she seemed like she had a great time. And 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:28.360 you know, I mean I wouldn't you be bringing this up, 0:15:28.760 --> 0:15:31.080 you know if I thought it was like something like that, 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:34.800 like she that seemed like she really enjoyed herself, and 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:38.440 you know, but I just don't get what's happening, you 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.400 know what I mean. Well, I mean this is a 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:44.320 lot of your point of view. Yeah, I think I 0:15:44.520 --> 0:15:47.080 thought that before, and well guess what turns out they 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:53.320 didn't enjoy himself so much. You know. Yeah, but you're 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:58.400 you're definitely you got your You're good on your self esteem. 0:15:58.680 --> 0:16:02.280 You're good on your self esteem. So I thought it 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:11.400 was accurate. I mean sometimes sometimes people have pretended to 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:13.760 have a better time than they have, right right, I 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:18.440 think we all have sometimes it's just a the nature 0:16:18.440 --> 0:16:23.480 of the beast, Jeremy, the nature of the beast. So 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:26.840 let me put you on a hold here. Also, we 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:28.520 need to put a pin and come back to your 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:31.320 move the like I'll see in another another room, because 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:34.920 that is good stuff right there. Okay, it's not a move, 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:44.640 it's it is what it is good. Let's focus on Jeremy. Okay. 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:48.160 So Jeremy meets Harper at a bar, they go home 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:51.640 to his house, they hook up. He said everybody loved it. 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:55.720 She loved it, and she especially had a good time. 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:59.680 But did she or did she just convey that because 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.480 the next day she left and she hasn't really responded 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:05.560 him asking her out again. So maybe it was just 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:10.720 one of those nights, and he's entitled to have those nights. Jeremy. 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:13.879 We found Harper, so be very quiet. We have a 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:17.159 lot of questions for her. Okay, okay, you want to say, 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:18.560 let's see we can find it'll be very quiet what 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:22.680 we talked to her. All right, Okay, Hi Harper, thank 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:24.240 you for coming on the air with us. It's Ryan 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:28.160 and Tony and Patty, how are you doing. Yeah, I'm good, 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:31.920 good good. All right, we're gonna get to it. So 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:34.679 we have some information about a guy named Jeremy that 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:39.200 you met and went out with. Does that sound familiar? Yeah? 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:46.000 How mean night with him? It was fun. I mean 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:50.960 we had a great time. It was it was super 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:53.600 like casual I think. I mean we just met at 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:57.240 a bar and you know, we we we hit it 0:17:57.280 --> 0:18:00.840 off at the bar, decided to meet up, and I 0:18:00.960 --> 0:18:08.800 it was fun. Yeah, I mean it was. I mean 0:18:08.840 --> 0:18:10.600 I thought it you know, it was what it was 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:13.920 and I didn't think that, uh and what was it? 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:17.879 What was what it was? What is what was it 0:18:18.200 --> 0:18:21.520 that it was that it is? I mean yeah, we 0:18:21.560 --> 0:18:25.800 went back to his apartment and we we did what 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:28.879 a lot of people would normally happened, you know, after 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:31.920 you're out with drinks with someone, got to know each other. 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:39.080 But um, sure, yeah, I mean it was it was fine. 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:42.840 But honestly, like I don't really is he calling you, guys, 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:46.280 I mean I I yes, he is. Actually he's calling us, 0:18:46.359 --> 0:18:49.919 and he wants to know why, after a good time, 0:18:50.480 --> 0:18:52.040 why you don't want to go out again with him, 0:18:52.040 --> 0:18:54.080 because he says you're kind of being nonresponsive to that. 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:59.320 What's the answer, Well, I mean, to be completely honest, 0:18:59.440 --> 0:19:02.720 I didn't think that this was something that was like 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:06.680 we're dating or that I needed to like all of 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:10.080 a sudden now be responsible for texting him back and everything. 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:14.400 I mean, I'll just be really up front. I I've 0:19:14.480 --> 0:19:18.600 been having back and forth on and off again things 0:19:18.640 --> 0:19:23.760 going on with my ex, and I kind of was 0:19:23.840 --> 0:19:27.560 just looking at this is a way to like make 0:19:27.600 --> 0:19:30.679 him jealous. I mean, I don't know or even myself 0:19:30.680 --> 0:19:32.920 like figure it out myself, like if I go out 0:19:32.960 --> 0:19:35.440 with someone else, will I be thinking about him? And 0:19:35.720 --> 0:19:40.879 I mean are you thinking? Of course? Of course I 0:19:40.960 --> 0:19:44.119 posted a picture of like our two glasses of wine 0:19:44.160 --> 0:19:47.760 on my stories, knowing that my ex would see them. 0:19:48.119 --> 0:19:53.240 And did you respond to this yet? Yeah, I've seen 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:58.879 him since there are just like I mean, I thought 0:19:58.920 --> 0:20:02.159 that Jeremy and I we're just kind of having fun 0:20:02.400 --> 0:20:06.880 and I and I wasn't really looking at this as like, um, 0:20:06.920 --> 0:20:09.639 anything more than that. I mean, I feel bad. I 0:20:09.640 --> 0:20:13.359 feel like I'm I don't know, like I didn't I 0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:17.840 don't think that like we're dating or anything. So now 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:19.920 that you've gotten a reaction, out of your ex. Are 0:20:19.960 --> 0:20:27.520 you done with Jeremy, I mean for now? Yeah, I 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:32.200 guess that's why I I guess that's why I just 0:20:32.480 --> 0:20:36.720 didn't really respond, you know. I mean, listen, I really 0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:38.760 kind of just thought we were having a fun night 0:20:38.800 --> 0:20:40.760 and I thought we were both like on the same 0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:44.560 page with that. Um, I really did, And so maybe 0:20:44.560 --> 0:20:48.480 there wasn't miscommunication there, Like I wasn't looking for anything 0:20:49.119 --> 0:20:55.440 beyond that. Let me bring Jeremy in here to just respond. Jeremy, 0:20:55.480 --> 0:20:59.760 what are your thoughts as you hear this? So you 0:21:00.080 --> 0:21:03.440 literally used to me to make your honor get off 0:21:03.480 --> 0:21:11.760 again boyfriend jealous. Sorry, I don't want to say I 0:21:11.840 --> 0:21:14.439 was using you, like I really just I guess I 0:21:14.480 --> 0:21:16.400 just thought we were both on the same page here, 0:21:16.440 --> 0:21:20.520 that we were going to be just having fun, help 0:21:20.520 --> 0:21:24.000 each other out a little bit and catch my script. 0:21:24.160 --> 0:21:29.520 I mean, so, Jeremy, I'm gonna say something here about 0:21:29.560 --> 0:21:31.760 the only way I think one can handle this, and 0:21:31.800 --> 0:21:34.800 that is too tap into that party that has no 0:21:34.880 --> 0:21:40.120 emotion and tapping up party has all ego, and say, hey, 0:21:40.160 --> 0:21:43.280 at least I was there to make another guy jealous. 0:21:44.840 --> 0:21:49.400 You were, and I had a great The only way 0:21:49.800 --> 0:21:54.000 otherwise gonna make himself nuts. I'm telling you, like I 0:21:54.080 --> 0:21:56.040 want to three time, and I don't want you to. 0:21:56.200 --> 0:21:58.600 I don't want you to like beat yourself up or 0:21:58.640 --> 0:22:03.200 think that you were not great or did I myself 0:22:03.240 --> 0:22:06.120 like you you're great. She didn't have him done, sound 0:22:06.119 --> 0:22:08.240 like she was emotional, Harper, You didn't have that much emotion. 0:22:08.280 --> 0:22:11.920 You just were enjoying yourself, right, And and she did 0:22:11.920 --> 0:22:15.159 say she had fun the whole time. Yeah, he did, 0:22:15.640 --> 0:22:19.159 so I would just if you can build a wall 0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:22.520 by that other emotion and block it, that's gonna be 0:22:22.600 --> 0:22:24.760 the best way to get through it. But if you 0:22:24.880 --> 0:22:26.919 let that wall crumble and start getting into all your 0:22:26.960 --> 0:22:31.480 head about it, it's gonna be harder. I think, I'm 0:22:31.480 --> 0:22:33.639 really sorry, Like I don't want I didn't mean to 0:22:34.000 --> 0:22:36.840 sit you or hurt your feelings. And if I can 0:22:36.920 --> 0:22:40.440 work things out, and like I think I've pretty much 0:22:40.440 --> 0:22:42.480 even mentioned to you that I was in a weird, 0:22:43.119 --> 0:22:45.879 kind of tricky situation with my ex. Like I tried 0:22:45.920 --> 0:22:47.720 to be upfront with you about that, but maybe it 0:22:47.800 --> 0:22:51.320 just wasn't as clearer. I think, Well, we were drinking, 0:22:51.400 --> 0:22:53.880 and I don't know, I just didn't I didn't take 0:22:53.880 --> 0:22:58.000