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Speaker 1: how are you, Thrisa? How you doing? My friend? Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, I'm so blessed. It's been a long time, right,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be determined by a man's being

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Speaker 1: determined by me. And that's what I you know, I

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Speaker 1: when I open up, when you when I introduce you

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Speaker 1: said your your purpose is for women to discover their

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Speaker 1: true worth. And that's what this book is about. I

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Speaker 1: once was her. I'm talking to to to to reach

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Speaker 1: a Cardwell, it's a as a as a memoir about

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Speaker 1: her life before she was managing. Was kind of like

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Speaker 1: it slid into when she started when bile Wa became famous,

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Speaker 1: A little Bible became famous under that name, a little

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Speaker 1: by wall at the time. But it's really about the

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Speaker 1: beginning and how I shaped her as a businesswoman because

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Speaker 1: it was a tough life that she grew up on.

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Speaker 1: It kicked out of the house of fifteen, had a

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Speaker 1: baby to think sixteen and that another child which is

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Speaker 1: all by out today, and raised him. And and what

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Speaker 1: I loved about is that you didn't allow men to

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Speaker 1: negatively shape your son's vision because when he had a child,

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Speaker 1: speaking of Shad, you made sure that he understood his

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Speaker 1: role in that young girl's life. Talk about that. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I made sure that when Val had a daughter, because

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Speaker 1: of how hard it was for me, it was important

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Speaker 1: to me that I instilled in him that you have

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Speaker 1: to be a great father, not a good father, but

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Speaker 1: a great father because you have a daughter, you know,

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Speaker 1: and so and I told him, like, it is so

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Speaker 1: important because you will be the first man that she

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Speaker 1: will ever fall in love with. The way you teach

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Speaker 1: her and the way you treat her and the way

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Speaker 1: you raised her and the way you're in her life,

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Speaker 1: that's going to set the stand for when she gets older,

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Speaker 1: when she starts dating, the standards are gonna be so

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Speaker 1: high because she's gonna be like, you know, my father

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Speaker 1: treated me like this, my father this, my father that,

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Speaker 1: And I think that, you know, And I told him, like,

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Speaker 1: I told him that, like it's important. I mean, I know,

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Speaker 1: I'm probably got on his nerves talking about it all

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Speaker 1: the time. But I but the relationship that that he

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Speaker 1: has with his daughter is priceless. Now if you look

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Speaker 1: at their videos and stuff, you can tell that he

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Speaker 1: plays a big role in her life and it's all

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Speaker 1: about love. You can tell, yeah, it's important, it's important.

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Speaker 1: And then our relationship, like you know, like even with

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Speaker 1: with my with bal and I like our relationship. The

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Speaker 1: things that I talked about what we went through a

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Speaker 1: little bit. I touched on that a little bit in

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Speaker 1: the book, like how hard that was, you know, um,

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Speaker 1: you know, being a mom and being a manager and

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Speaker 1: you know, trying to step away to two. It did

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Speaker 1: put a strain in our in our relationship. We did

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Speaker 1: go through some things, you know, because we want was

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Speaker 1: best for our children. And then you know, like me,

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Speaker 1: like my fear was I never wanted my son to

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Speaker 1: be on drugs. That was a fear of mine, you know,

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Speaker 1: and being in the in the industry, like so much

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Speaker 1: can happening and drugs are like they give it to

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Speaker 1: him like and that was a big I feared that.

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Speaker 1: I tried to protect him. And you did a good

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Speaker 1: job because your little book you said I had to

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Speaker 1: want I had to take off my talent manager hand

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Speaker 1: and put back on my mama had because sometimes you

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Speaker 1: gotta let him know, Look, I brought you into this world.

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Speaker 1: I have a different level of passion that dude, well

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Speaker 1: he just wants ten percent. That dude just want to

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Speaker 1: start our tickets over there, your mama day one, this

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Speaker 1: day one, that day one, Mama right here, they want,

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Speaker 1: and we'll be here in the end when all this

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Speaker 1: is going on the way, I'm still going to be

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Speaker 1: there for you. And that's what you that's what you

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Speaker 1: stated in the book very clearly that yes, I I

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Speaker 1: did accept the role and the professional role as his

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Speaker 1: talent manager, but I never lost the mama hat, the

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Speaker 1: mom and that was really before we get out. I

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Speaker 1: want to I want to put on that entrepreneur hat

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Speaker 1: that that you have here Taste Online boutique, tell us

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Speaker 1: about that. Yes, so I have an online boutique. It's

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Speaker 1: Taste Online. Well it's shop taste online dot com. That

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Speaker 1: I've had that boutique forever. Like my passion is fashion

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Speaker 1: and I'm also an interior designer, so I people don't

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Speaker 1: know like that's where I came from. That world, Like

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Speaker 1: I've been an inserted designer for for years. So I'm

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Speaker 1: back into that full time now. They kind of brought

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Speaker 1: me out of retirement and I do a lot of

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Speaker 1: entertainers homes, like you know, a lot of athletes is

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Speaker 1: like my number one client, So I do a lot

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Speaker 1: of those homes in my store. Is you know, I

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Speaker 1: have a passion for fashion. I love to see my

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Speaker 1: girls feel good and look good in what they wear. Awesome.

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Speaker 1: The book. I won't recommend everybody to go out, and

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Speaker 1: world of darkness. No instructions on how to be a

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Speaker 1: No instructures on how to be a lady, No instructions

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