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Speaker 1: and wanting to stop my sister's pregnancy. That it's a statement.

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Speaker 1: It's a statement. It is I seventeen female have an

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Speaker 1: older sister, Beth, not her real name, twenty three female.

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Speaker 1: Two years ago, Beth gave birth to a baby boy, Leo.

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Speaker 1: She suffered from very intense postpartum depression to the extent

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Speaker 2: This man is not fit to be a father? Yeah, no, no,

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Speaker 1: At least at least bear man. And I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 1: you're going through something like, let's create a plan. You know,

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Speaker 1: you don't just kick you do not just kick them.

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Speaker 2: Out, like, especially not the baby, dude, especially not the baby. Ye, Like,

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Speaker 1: You kind of have to kumbaya with that. You don't

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Speaker 1: you got a kumbaya, little kumbaya. I can't go into

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Speaker 2: Wow, So the husband dumped all this responsibility on this

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Speaker 1: Essentially, like basically, the mom is like so depressed that

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Speaker 2: Now, dude, that's so tough. I didn't know. I didn't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I would just Opie says, I would describe this

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Speaker 2: Do you really trust that that boyfriend after everything he

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Speaker 1: Which it doesn't sound like OPI does trust him. But

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Speaker 2: But like there's not really many good options in this.

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Speaker 2: Where are the parents in all this?

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Speaker 1: They're busy working, right, Hello, come on. I wasn't happy

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Speaker 1: My sister was really angry, and my parents had diffused

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Speaker 1: Because it's not because from Opie's perspective, it is not

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Speaker 1: You know that's fine, but like it is absolutely it's not.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't her decision, therefore it is not her responsibility.

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