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Start your comeback at Purdueglobal dot edu. 11 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:33,360 Speaker 2: Hi, this is Joel and Victoria. Thanks for listening to 12 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 2: our podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. If you 13 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:39,239 Speaker 2: enjoy today's message, why don't you be a blessing and 14 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:41,960 Speaker 2: share it with a friend. We appreciate you and pray 15 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 2: for God's very best in your life. Well, God bless you. 16 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 2: It's always a joy to come into your home. And 17 00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 2: if you're ever in our area, stop buying be a 18 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 2: part of one of our services. I promise you we'll 19 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 2: make you feel right at home. These are the finest 20 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 2: people in all of Houston, Texas, right here at Lakewood 21 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 2: so come be apart. Thanks for tuning in, and thank 22 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:16,559 Speaker 2: you again for coming out. And I like to start 23 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:20,200 Speaker 2: with something funny and heard about this minister. He parked 24 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:23,679 Speaker 2: in a no parking zone downtown in a large city, 25 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 2: and he left a note on the windshield said, Officer, 26 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 2: I've circled this block ten times. If I don't park here, 27 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 2: I'm going to miss my appointment. Big letters, he wrote, 28 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 2: forgive us our trespasses. Returned to his car and he 29 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:40,839 Speaker 2: found he had a ticket. Officer had written him a note. 30 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 2: It said, sir, I've circled this block. 31 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 3: For ten years. 32 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 2: If I don't give you a ticket, I could lose 33 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 2: my job, big letters, he wrote. Lead us not into temptations. 34 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 2: Hold up your Bible. Say it like you mean it. 35 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 2: This is my Bible. I am what it says I am. 36 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 2: I have what it says I have. I can do 37 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 2: what it says I can do. Today I will be 38 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 2: taught the word of God. I boldly confess. My mind 39 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 2: is alert, my heart is receptive. I will never be 40 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:14,799 Speaker 2: the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want 41 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:18,240 Speaker 2: to talk to you today about not giving away your joy. 42 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 2: We have opportunities every day to get upset to go around, frustrated, 43 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 2: can't find the car keys, traffic is backed up, or 44 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 2: maybe somebody was rude to us, or what should have 45 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 2: taken an hour ended up taking four hours. There will 46 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 2: always be something that can sour our day. If we're 47 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:41,640 Speaker 2: going to live in victory, we have to have the 48 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 2: right approach to life. I've heard it said life is 49 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 2: ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how 50 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 2: you respond. Some people are frustrated because they're trying to 51 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 2: control the ten percent. They're not going to be happy 52 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 2: unless everything goes their way, everybody treats them right, all 53 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 2: their plans work out. That's the wrong approach. You can't 54 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 2: control the traffic, what your neighbor does, or how your 55 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 2: boss treats you. All you can control is your own response. 56 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:17,840 Speaker 2: That's where the power lies, not in trying to control 57 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 2: everybody and everything. I hear people say, I'd be happy 58 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 2: if my spouse treated me better. I'd be happy if 59 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 2: my boss would move to another planet. I'd be happy 60 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 2: if I didn't have to sit. 61 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 3: In traffic every day. 62 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 2: Joel, No, you're allowing what you can't control to sour 63 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 2: your life. 64 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 3: You have to change your approach. 65 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 2: The first part of the day, before we get out 66 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 2: of bed, we need to make a decision that no 67 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 2: matter what comes our way, we are not going to 68 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 2: get upset. No matter what somebody says, We're not going. 69 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:52,960 Speaker 3: To be offended. 70 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 2: No matter what interruption or delay, we're not going to 71 00:03:56,800 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 2: be sour. The key is to decide ahead of time. 72 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 2: Then when life happens, traffic is worse than normal, your 73 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 2: children forget their homework at school, your wife is in 74 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:13,480 Speaker 2: one of those moods. Somebody said, PMS means pretty mean, sister. 75 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 2: When your plans don't work out, it's no big deal. 76 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 2: You've already decided this is the day the Lord has made. 77 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 2: You're going to live it happy. But you can't wait 78 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:26,360 Speaker 2: till you're in the heat of the battle. It's too late. 79 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 2: You've got to decide ahead of time. Then when things 80 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:33,159 Speaker 2: come against you, you're prepared. Your mind is already made up. 81 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 2: But too often we think, God, if you just change 82 00:04:36,440 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 2: these people, change these circumstances, then I could be happy. 83 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 2: But the fact is, you could take someone with the 84 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 2: right approach and put them in your same situation. They 85 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 2: wouldn't be upset, they wouldn't be stressed, they'd be at peace, 86 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,719 Speaker 2: enjoy in life. Why they know God is in control, 87 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 2: that he's directing their steps, that all things are going 88 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 2: to work together for their good. They've already made this 89 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 2: decision that no matter what comes their way, they're going 90 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 2: to live their life happy. And if you just make 91 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 2: this simple adjustment, then what's upsetting you now doesn't have 92 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 2: to upset you any longer. You have the power to 93 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:20,160 Speaker 2: be happy right where you are. That's what Jesus said 94 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:21,680 Speaker 2: in John sixteen twenty two. 95 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 3: No man can take your joy. 96 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 2: That means other people cannot make you be unhappy. No 97 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 2: circumstance can force you to get upset. Nothing can take 98 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 2: your joy. You have to give it away. You're in 99 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 2: complete control of your happiness. Somebody is rude to you, 100 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:43,720 Speaker 2: what they're really saying is. 101 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:44,839 Speaker 3: Give me your joy. 102 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 2: Somebody cuts you off in traffic, Let me have your joy. 103 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 2: Somebody ignores you, leaves you out of a meeting. They're 104 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 2: asking for your joy. You have a choice. You can 105 00:05:56,200 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 2: give it to them, go around upset, frustrated, offended, or 106 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 2: you can make a much better decision and say no, thanks, 107 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 2: I need my joy. Not going to get upset because 108 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 2: you were rude. I'm not going to be offended because 109 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:13,520 Speaker 2: you didn't speak to me. I'm going to be frustrated 110 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:16,600 Speaker 2: because you cut me off in traffic. I've already made 111 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:19,040 Speaker 2: up my mind. I'm going to live this day happy. 112 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,840 Speaker 2: I'll give you mercy. I'll give you an understanding. I'll 113 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 2: give you the. 114 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 3: Benefit of the doubt. 115 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 2: But one thing I will not give you is my joy. 116 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:31,719 Speaker 2: While back, I was in a parking lot, driving around 117 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 2: and around looking for a parking spot. Finally, this couple 118 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 2: came out of the store and headed toward their car. 119 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 2: I had to guess which i'll I thought they were 120 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 2: going to be on, and just so happened, I turned 121 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:46,200 Speaker 2: down the right one. They were parked at the very 122 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 2: first spot, closest to the store. Of course, I thought, 123 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 2: thank you Lord for your favor. I was waiting there, 124 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:55,039 Speaker 2: But when they backed out, a car came from the 125 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 2: main road and pulled in going the wrong direction and 126 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:02,560 Speaker 2: got that spot I've been waiting the whole time. My 127 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:07,039 Speaker 2: first inclination was to haunt my horn, give them a 128 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 2: piece of my mind. Then I remembered I'm a pastor 129 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 2: of a church. I had to do what I'm asking 130 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 2: you to do, I thought, No, I've already made up 131 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 2: my mind. I'm not going to get upset today. I'll 132 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 2: give them the parking spot, but. 133 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 3: I'm not going to give them my joy. 134 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 2: When you're tempted to be upset, somebody does you wrong. 135 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 2: You need to ask yourself, is this worth me giving 136 00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 2: up my joy over they've already done me wrong? 137 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 3: Am I going to make it worse. 138 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:39,840 Speaker 2: By letting them sour my whole day? And some people 139 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 2: wonder why they're not happy, It's because they gave away 140 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:47,600 Speaker 2: joy when they couldn't find their car keys, gave away 141 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:50,120 Speaker 2: joy when they heard they had to work late, gave 142 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 2: away more joy when they found out somebody was. 143 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 3: Talking about them. 144 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 2: It's not their circumstances that are keeping them from being happy. 145 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 3: It's the fact that they keep giving away their joy. 146 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 2: And friend's life is way too short to let these 147 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:09,720 Speaker 2: interruptions and irritations to keep us from being happy. We're 148 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 2: never going to get away from them. You can't just 149 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 2: pray them away. It's a part of life, and it's 150 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 2: very freeing when you learn this principle. 151 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 3: I don't have to give away my joy. 152 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 2: There's nothing people can say, nothing they can do, no 153 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 2: circumstance can keep me from living this day happy. Now, 154 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 2: take inventory of your life. What are you allowing to 155 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 2: upset you, what's causing you to be stressed, Identify what 156 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 2: it is, and then make the decision to change your approach. 157 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 2: A lot of times it's a small thing that we're 158 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:46,679 Speaker 2: making a big deal out of. 159 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 3: Keep the right perspective. 160 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:52,200 Speaker 2: Is it really worth losing your joy because you couldn't 161 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 2: find the remote control to the television, or your spouse 162 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 2: didn't pick up his clothes like you ask him to 163 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 2: your child for God is lunch, you had to run 164 00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 2: back to the school. You're going to be inconvenience for 165 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:07,080 Speaker 2: fifteen minutes. That's a small thing. 166 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 3: Don't give up your joy over that. I love this story. 167 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 2: My brother Paul told he and his wife Jennifer have 168 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:17,079 Speaker 2: four beautiful children, and a few years back they were 169 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 2: all under the age of seven. If you have small children, 170 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 2: you know how hectic and stressful that can be. 171 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 1: It. 172 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 2: One of Paul's pet peeves is he always likes to. 173 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 3: Be on time. He does not want to be late. 174 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 2: One day, they had this important event to go to. 175 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:37,960 Speaker 2: Paul started way early an hour before, helping to get. 176 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:39,640 Speaker 3: The kids dressed and ready to go. 177 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:42,959 Speaker 2: But when it came time to leave, everything that could 178 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 2: go wrong. Did one of the children spilled something on 179 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,840 Speaker 2: their dress. They had to turn around, go back and change. 180 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:51,840 Speaker 2: Then the dog got out, he had to chase him down, 181 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 2: He got a phone call, had to deal with something else. 182 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 2: He could feel his blood pressure rising higher and higher, 183 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:01,319 Speaker 2: just before he lost his that's cool. You went in 184 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 2: the den, sat on the couch and said to himself, 185 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:07,760 Speaker 2: you know, it's not really that big a deal to 186 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 2: be five minutes late to chuck e cheese. Don't make 187 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 2: a big deal out of something that's not a big deal. 188 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 2: And that's not the only dumb thing he's done either. 189 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 3: But I wonder how many you're not going to listen now, 190 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 3: are you. 191 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 2: I wonder how many things last week we let upset 192 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 2: us that were small things? How many times did we 193 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:37,439 Speaker 2: get stressed over something. 194 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 3: That, in the big picture, didn't really matter. 195 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 2: You didn't get news that you have a major illness. 196 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,080 Speaker 2: You just found out you had to work late one night, 197 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:49,200 Speaker 2: or your ballgame was canceled, or there was a detour 198 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:51,680 Speaker 2: and you had to take the long way home. There 199 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:55,320 Speaker 2: are enough big issues in life to deal with. Make 200 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 2: sure you're not giving away your joy over something small. 201 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 3: Says in Verbs. 202 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 2: A relaxed attitude will lengthen your life. But when we're 203 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:07,880 Speaker 2: up tight, everything's got to be perfect. Got to go 204 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:09,920 Speaker 2: our way on our schedule. If not, we're going to 205 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:13,319 Speaker 2: get all stressed out. That not only sours our day, 206 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:17,800 Speaker 2: but it could be shortening our life. Learn to relax, 207 00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 2: go with the flow, Know that God. 208 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 3: Is directing your steps. 209 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 2: Don't fight against everything that doesn't go your way. One time, 210 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 2: Victoria and I were at Disneyland with our children and 211 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:31,880 Speaker 2: was ten o'clock at night. We'd been at the park 212 00:11:31,960 --> 00:11:35,680 Speaker 2: all day long, and as we were leaving, Victoria wanted 213 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 2: to go into the gift shop with our son Jonathan 214 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:43,080 Speaker 2: and pick up a few souvenirs. I was carrying our daughter, Alexander, 215 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 2: she was two years old, and she was asleep on 216 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:48,959 Speaker 2: my shoulder, and I was hot, tired, been walking around 217 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 2: all day. I said, Victoria, no, I don't want to 218 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 2: stop at this gift shop. She said, come on, George, 219 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 2: it's going to take me a minute. Said all right, 220 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 2: and I went out sat on the bench at the 221 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:00,280 Speaker 2: entry way to Disneyland. 222 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 3: Just so happened there was a big clock up in 223 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 3: front of me. 224 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 2: I waited five minutes, ten minutes, fifteen minutes, twenty minutes. 225 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 2: You know how when you're waiting, things seem to take 226 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 2: a lot longer than it really is. And the longer 227 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 2: I waited, the more frustrated I got. I not only 228 00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:21,520 Speaker 2: gave away my joy, I gave away my peace, my strength, 229 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 2: everything I had. I was hot, and Alexander was making 230 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 2: me more hot as I was holding her. And what 231 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 2: was my big problem? Had a major accident, lost my job? No, 232 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:33,079 Speaker 2: I just had to wait. 233 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 3: An extra half hour. 234 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:37,520 Speaker 2: At Disneyland, I got up, went in the gift shop, 235 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:39,960 Speaker 2: said Victoria, that's it. I've had it. I'm going to 236 00:12:40,040 --> 00:12:40,440 Speaker 2: the car. 237 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 3: Just meet me there. 238 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 2: She said, no, No, Joe, wait, we're just about to 239 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 2: check out. I said, no, no, I've tired, Victoria. 240 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:46,960 Speaker 3: I'm going to go to the car. 241 00:12:47,559 --> 00:12:49,760 Speaker 2: I knew I should have waited for but I just 242 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:54,439 Speaker 2: too irritated. When we're upset, stress, frustrated, we don't make 243 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 2: good decisions. 244 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:56,079 Speaker 3: Now. 245 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 2: I got on the tram, still carrying Alexandra, took the 246 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:01,640 Speaker 2: fifteen minute ride to the parking lot. 247 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 3: The only problem was I couldn't remember. 248 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 2: Where we had parked. We were driving a white rental car. 249 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 2: Do you know how many white rental cars there are 250 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:17,120 Speaker 2: at Disneyland in the summer. I bet there's ten thousand. 251 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:21,800 Speaker 2: I went up and down all after all, after oh 252 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 2: so tired, totally sweating. Finally I had to do what 253 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:29,120 Speaker 2: no grown man likes to do. I had to go 254 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:31,800 Speaker 2: to the tram station and say I can't find my car. 255 00:13:32,960 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 2: Might as well said I'm a loser. There was an 256 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:37,720 Speaker 2: older man there and he was very friendly. 257 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:39,120 Speaker 3: He said, don't worry about it, I'll help you. 258 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 2: Did you park in the Mickey and Friends parking lot 259 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 2: or did you park in. 260 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:46,320 Speaker 3: The Lion King parking lot? 261 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:49,160 Speaker 2: He said, I have no idea. He said, well, did 262 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 2: you see Mickey Mouse when you drove in? Or did 263 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 2: you see Simba? I said, I don't know who Simba is? 264 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:02,680 Speaker 2: He said, do you know who Donald Duck is? Long 265 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:06,359 Speaker 2: story short, I part on the other side of Disneyland. 266 00:14:06,880 --> 00:14:09,080 Speaker 2: I had to get back on the tram, go back 267 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:12,840 Speaker 2: to where I started catch another tram. Hour later, I 268 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:15,640 Speaker 2: showed up at the car. Little Jonathan was about five. 269 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 2: He came running out, Daddy, Daddy, where have you been? 270 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 2: I thought, I'll never tell I learned my lesson. 271 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:26,000 Speaker 3: Number one, be patient. 272 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 2: Number two, let Victoria shop as much as she wants 273 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:35,280 Speaker 2: to shop. Number three, don't give away your joy, Jesus 274 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:39,680 Speaker 2: said John fourteen twenty seven. Stop allowing yourself to be 275 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 2: upset and agitated. Notice it's a choice. He didn't say, 276 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:47,960 Speaker 2: I'll take away everything that will cause stress and frustration. 277 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 3: Now, he said, it'll still be there. But if you 278 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 3: have the. 279 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 2: Right approach, it doesn't have to upset you. We all 280 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 2: have to deal with not only delays inconveniences, but we 281 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:01,280 Speaker 2: have to deal with people that are hard to get 282 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 2: along with, people that are rude. 283 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 3: In consider it annoying. 284 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 2: Sometimes it's not a stranger, somebody that's closer to you. 285 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 2: One lady told how one of her husband's relatives was 286 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 2: very opinionated. He was always making these sarcastic, demeaning remarks 287 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 2: toward her. And this couple had just been married for 288 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:24,760 Speaker 2: a little while, and every time they went to a 289 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 2: family get together, invariably he would say something that offended her. 290 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:32,960 Speaker 2: It would get her upset and end up ruining the 291 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:36,640 Speaker 2: whole trip. And this happened like clockwork again and again 292 00:15:37,240 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 2: got to where she dreaded going to these family events. 293 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 3: Finally, she said. 294 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:44,560 Speaker 2: To her husband, you've got to do something about this man. 295 00:15:45,040 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 2: He's your relative. And she expected her husband say something like, 296 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 2: your right, honey, nobody should talk to you like that. 297 00:15:51,800 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 2: I'm going to go in there and straighten him out. 298 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:57,480 Speaker 2: But he did just the opposite. He said, Honey, I 299 00:15:57,600 --> 00:16:01,520 Speaker 2: love you, but I can't control this man. He has 300 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 2: every right to have his opinion, he can say what 301 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:07,680 Speaker 2: he wants to, but you have every right to not 302 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:11,320 Speaker 2: let it offend you. She couldn't understand why her husband 303 00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:13,720 Speaker 2: wouldn't get in there and straighten it out. This happened 304 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 2: time and time again. She kept getting upset. Every time 305 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 2: he'd walk into one room, this man, she would walk 306 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 2: into another. If this man came inside, she'd make sure 307 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 2: she went outside. Her whole focus was centered on avoiding 308 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:30,840 Speaker 2: this man. One day, it was like a light turned on. 309 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:35,560 Speaker 2: She realized she was giving away her joy. She was 310 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 2: letting this one person who has issues of his own 311 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 2: to keep her from being who she was meant to be. Now, 312 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:46,240 Speaker 2: you may have somebody in your life like this, and 313 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 2: if you don't make this adjustment, you'll go the next 314 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:53,640 Speaker 2: twenty years allowing them to upset you change your approach. 315 00:16:54,480 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 2: Every time you let them irritate you, all that's doing 316 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 2: is empowering them the next time they do something that 317 00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:05,520 Speaker 2: would normally get on your nerves. Don't give away your 318 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:09,359 Speaker 2: joy when they're rude. Keep a smile on your face. 319 00:17:10,080 --> 00:17:12,879 Speaker 2: If they ignore you, leave you out. Don't call all 320 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:16,000 Speaker 2: your friends and talk about it. Now. When you stay 321 00:17:16,040 --> 00:17:19,359 Speaker 2: on the high road, keep your joy, keep your peace. 322 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:23,679 Speaker 2: You're not fueling it anymore. In other words, you're taking 323 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:27,080 Speaker 2: away their power. But as long as they know they 324 00:17:27,080 --> 00:17:30,399 Speaker 2: can push this button and you'll get upset this button, 325 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:31,880 Speaker 2: it'll ruin the rest of your day. 326 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:34,080 Speaker 3: They'll continue to do it. 327 00:17:34,119 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 2: Says in Psalms, God has given us the power to 328 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:43,600 Speaker 2: remain calm in times of adversity. That's saying the people 329 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 2: may not change, the circumstances may not change, but you 330 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:50,879 Speaker 2: have the power to stay calm. You don't have to 331 00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:54,400 Speaker 2: give away your joy. I called to order a pizza 332 00:17:54,440 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 2: one time. The first thing they always asked for is 333 00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 2: your phone number. Young lady answered the phone, and I 334 00:18:01,119 --> 00:18:04,200 Speaker 2: said very politely, hello, and I went on to give 335 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 2: her my phone number. You would have thought I just 336 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 2: committed a major crime. She practically screamed in my ear, Sir, 337 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 2: I am not ready for your phone number, and when 338 00:18:16,480 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 2: I am ready, I will ask you for your phone number. 339 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 2: I thought, lady, I'll give you my phone number. Whenever 340 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 2: I feel like giving you my phone number. I thought, 341 00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 2: I'll call you two o'clock in the morning, give you 342 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 2: my phone number. Forty seven different times I could feel 343 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 2: myself tempted to be aggravated, upset, irritated. I had to 344 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:41,880 Speaker 2: ask myself, am I going to give her my joy? 345 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:44,080 Speaker 2: Was I going to let this young lady that I'd 346 00:18:44,119 --> 00:18:48,679 Speaker 2: never seen, never met, didn't want to me cause me 347 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:52,720 Speaker 2: to get sour ruined the rest of my evening? Or 348 00:18:52,840 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 2: was I going to say no, thanks, I need my joy. 349 00:18:56,280 --> 00:18:59,080 Speaker 2: I've already decided I'm not going to get upset. I 350 00:18:59,160 --> 00:19:02,399 Speaker 2: know I have the power to stay calm in a 351 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 2: time of adversity. I kept my joy. I saw it 352 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:09,520 Speaker 2: as a challenge. As mean and rude as she was 353 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:13,480 Speaker 2: to me, I was going to be that kind and friendly. 354 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:13,640 Speaker 3: Back to her. 355 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:19,359 Speaker 2: The scripture says we overcome evil with good. When somebody's 356 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:23,200 Speaker 2: rude inconsiderate, too often we sink down to their level. 357 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 2: We're rude, inconsiderate, back to them. But the way to 358 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:30,200 Speaker 2: really overcome is to do just the opposite. You've heard 359 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:34,200 Speaker 2: the phrase kill them with kindness. That's what I tried 360 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:37,679 Speaker 2: to do. I thought of anything that I could possibly 361 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 2: compliment her on, and I had to use my imagination. 362 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 2: I said, I sure appreciate you entering the phone so 363 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:48,959 Speaker 2: quickly and taking my order being so efficient. And you 364 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:51,639 Speaker 2: guys make the best pizzays. You're always on time. On 365 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 2: and on I went. By the time I was done, 366 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:56,840 Speaker 2: she is my best friend. She was throwing in hot 367 00:19:56,880 --> 00:20:02,160 Speaker 2: wings and Dr Pepper's and give away your joy, Paul 368 00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:07,640 Speaker 2: told Timothy in the scripture, Stay calm, cool and steady. 369 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:09,879 Speaker 2: Some of you are letting things up set you way 370 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 2: too easily. Traffic weather, grumpy salesperson, inconsiderate receptionist, family member 371 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:20,000 Speaker 2: that talks down to you. Draw the line in the 372 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,920 Speaker 2: sand and say that's it. This is a new day. 373 00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:27,000 Speaker 2: I'm not giving away my joy anymore. I almost stay calm, 374 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:31,280 Speaker 2: cool and steady. A friend of mine is a man 375 00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:34,320 Speaker 2: named David Polly. It's written a book called the Law 376 00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:38,040 Speaker 2: of the Garbage Truck. He told how he was in 377 00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,919 Speaker 2: New York City in a taxi cab headed toward a 378 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:44,000 Speaker 2: meeting when a car pulled out in front of them. 379 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:47,720 Speaker 2: The taxi driver had to slam on his brakes swerve 380 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:50,640 Speaker 2: to the left, missed the other car only by inches. 381 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:52,880 Speaker 3: The driver of the other car. 382 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:55,000 Speaker 2: It was his fault, but he put his head out 383 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:58,919 Speaker 2: the window and started screaming, yelling, had his fist in 384 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 2: the air, so angry, so upset, frustrated this taxi cab driver. 385 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:07,359 Speaker 2: He just smiled, waved at him real big, and drove on. 386 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:10,760 Speaker 2: Didn't give it the time of day. David, sitting in 387 00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:14,440 Speaker 2: the back seat, was so impressed. He said, Wow, that 388 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:18,399 Speaker 2: man almost totaled your car, sent us both to the hospital. 389 00:21:18,920 --> 00:21:21,680 Speaker 2: I can't believe you didn't yell back at him. How 390 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:25,399 Speaker 2: could you stay so calm? The taxi driver had a 391 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:30,360 Speaker 2: very insightful answer. He said, I found most people are 392 00:21:30,440 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 2: like garbage trucks. They go around full of frustration, full 393 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 2: of resentment, full of anger. As their garbage piles up, 394 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:44,639 Speaker 2: they need someplace to dump it. Sometimes they'll dump it 395 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:48,399 Speaker 2: on you. You can't take it personally, doesn't have anything to 396 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:51,800 Speaker 2: do with you. Just smile, wave and wish them well. 397 00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 3: Here's the key. 398 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:59,440 Speaker 2: Successful people don't let garbage trucks ruin their day. Somebody 399 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,720 Speaker 2: dumps a lot on you. Don't get upset if you 400 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 2: make that mistake, you'll take their garbage and most likely 401 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:11,920 Speaker 2: dumping on somebody else. Now keep your lid on. These 402 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:13,760 Speaker 2: days we need to have a steel lid. 403 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:15,440 Speaker 3: A lot of people. 404 00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:20,119 Speaker 2: Dumping poison, anger, resentment, criticism. We can't stop them from 405 00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:23,080 Speaker 2: dumping it. But if we'll keep our lid on tight, 406 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:26,879 Speaker 2: it doesn't have to affect us. Years ago, I was 407 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:30,000 Speaker 2: at an electronics store to buy some parts for our 408 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,280 Speaker 2: television cameras. The parts were in the back and the 409 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:35,800 Speaker 2: staff members had to go get them for you. I 410 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,520 Speaker 2: was standing at the counter. There was a man behind 411 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:42,200 Speaker 2: it on the telephone. Nobody else was there to wait 412 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:43,919 Speaker 2: on me, so I just stood there. 413 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:45,360 Speaker 3: And waited and waited. 414 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:48,400 Speaker 2: This man could see that I needed help, but he 415 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:53,080 Speaker 2: wasn't the least bit interested in hurrying. After about fifteen minutes, 416 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:55,280 Speaker 2: he hung up the phone. I was standing right in 417 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:58,160 Speaker 2: front of him, not three feet away, but he never 418 00:22:58,200 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 2: looked up. 419 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 3: He started reading something. 420 00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:05,480 Speaker 2: I waited patiently another four, five, six minutes. Finally I said, 421 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:09,399 Speaker 2: very politely, excuse me, sir, would you mind getting this 422 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 2: part for me. He looked up like I had totally 423 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,119 Speaker 2: offended him. I gave him the piece of paper with 424 00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:18,119 Speaker 2: the part number on it, and he looked at it 425 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:22,160 Speaker 2: for maybe three seconds and basically threw it back at me, said, 426 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:25,199 Speaker 2: as rude as can be, we don't even carry that 427 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:29,040 Speaker 2: part here. Well, I'd bought that part there many times before. 428 00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,879 Speaker 2: And again, I said, very kindly, sir, I believe I 429 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 2: purchased it here before. Would you mind at least taking 430 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:39,119 Speaker 2: a look. His face got real red, looked like he 431 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 2: was about to explode. He used several curse words. He says, son, 432 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:45,480 Speaker 2: I'm telling you we don't sell it here. Now, don't 433 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:49,000 Speaker 2: ever ask me for it again. I smiled and said, 434 00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:50,160 Speaker 2: have a nice day. 435 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:51,600 Speaker 3: Didn't mean it, but. 436 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:55,439 Speaker 2: At least I said it. He dumped his garbage, but 437 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,880 Speaker 2: I thought, I'm not gonna let that ruin my day. 438 00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:01,359 Speaker 2: I know the secret. I've got my lid on, not 439 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,479 Speaker 2: gonna let it affect me. I've already decided I'm not 440 00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 2: going to get upset. You have to be aware of 441 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:11,760 Speaker 2: the garbage trucks in life. When somebody dumps a load 442 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:15,240 Speaker 2: on you, don't take it personally. It's not about you. 443 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 2: It's about all the trash they've accumulated, all the issues 444 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:21,760 Speaker 2: they're not dealing with. You just happen to be the 445 00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 2: one they dump it on the key. Keep your lid 446 00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:28,199 Speaker 2: on tight, don't let it bother you. Jesus put it 447 00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:32,399 Speaker 2: this way. Happy are the meek, they will inherit the 448 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,440 Speaker 2: kingdom of God. We hear that word meek, and a 449 00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 2: lot of times we think it means weak. We're supposed 450 00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:42,639 Speaker 2: to let people run all over us, insecure, timid. No, 451 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:48,879 Speaker 2: meekness is not weakness. It's strength under control. It's like 452 00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:52,639 Speaker 2: a wild horse that's been tamed. The horse is just 453 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:56,359 Speaker 2: as strong, just as powerful. He can run just as fast. 454 00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,359 Speaker 2: The only difference is now you can go up and 455 00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:01,560 Speaker 2: pet him, you can ride him. 456 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:03,480 Speaker 3: His strength is under control. 457 00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 2: When you're a meek person, you don't try to argue 458 00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:11,440 Speaker 2: with people. Prove to them who you are. If somebody 459 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:14,320 Speaker 2: is rude to you, sure you could be rude back 460 00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:18,120 Speaker 2: to them, but your strength is under control. I could 461 00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:20,919 Speaker 2: have told that man what I thought of him, what 462 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:24,960 Speaker 2: he should do, and where he should go. But you're 463 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,680 Speaker 2: not going to be happy if you're trying to straighten 464 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 2: everybody out. Paying back an insult with another insult thinking, 465 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 2: I'm not going to let you get. 466 00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:33,960 Speaker 3: The best of me. 467 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 2: No, when you're meek, you don't let things bother you. 468 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,760 Speaker 2: You don't respond to every critic, you don't get drawn 469 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:45,600 Speaker 2: into battles that don't matter. You have the power, the ability, 470 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:48,440 Speaker 2: You could easily show them what you're made of, but 471 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,920 Speaker 2: your strength is under control. When you live like that, 472 00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:55,439 Speaker 2: God says you'll be happy. It's like this man I 473 00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:59,159 Speaker 2: heard about. He was at a small country diner eating 474 00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:04,960 Speaker 2: a hamburger. This motorcycle gang walked in. These guys were big, tough, mean. 475 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 2: One of the bikers, just to show who was in charge, 476 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:12,399 Speaker 2: walked over and knocked the man's hamburger on the ground, 477 00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 2: picked up his water, poured it on top of the 478 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 2: man's head, said very sarcastically, I'm so sorry. 479 00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:20,440 Speaker 3: It was just an accident. 480 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:24,480 Speaker 2: The man calmly picked up his napkin, wiped the water 481 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:28,040 Speaker 2: off of his face, walked out of the restaurant. The 482 00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:31,119 Speaker 2: biker looked at the waiter, shook his head, said not 483 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:34,520 Speaker 2: much of a man, izzy. The waiter said no, and 484 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:37,120 Speaker 2: he's not much of a driver either. He just ran 485 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,160 Speaker 2: over a dozen choppers. 486 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 3: Driving out of here. 487 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 2: That strength under control. But throughout life there will always 488 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:50,320 Speaker 2: be something that will try to take our joy. If 489 00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:54,680 Speaker 2: it's not a grumpy salesperson, it's a family member aggravating you. 490 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:58,520 Speaker 2: Traffic's backed up, your flight got delayed, your spouse is 491 00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:02,000 Speaker 2: taken too long. I won't go the next twenty years 492 00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:06,640 Speaker 2: allowing the same people and same circumstances to frustrate you. 493 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 3: Change your approach. 494 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:12,000 Speaker 2: What's upsetting you now doesn't have to upset you anymore. 495 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:16,680 Speaker 2: Keep your lid on, stay calm, cool and steady. A 496 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:20,240 Speaker 2: relaxed attitude is going to lengthen your life. And the 497 00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:23,879 Speaker 2: next time you're tempted to be upset, ask yourself, is 498 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:26,640 Speaker 2: this really worth me giving up my joy over? 499 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:29,359 Speaker 3: If you'll make this decision. 500 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:32,400 Speaker 2: To not give away your joy to live each day happy, 501 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:37,480 Speaker 2: God promises you'll be strong, you'll have better relationships, you'll 502 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,720 Speaker 2: accomplish more. I believe and declare you will enjoy the 503 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,919 Speaker 2: abundant life God has in story. Amen, do you receive 504 00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 2: it today? Well? We never like to close our broadcast 505 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:52,280 Speaker 2: without giving you an opportunity to make Jesus the lord 506 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:55,320 Speaker 2: of your life. Would you pray with me? Just say 507 00:27:55,359 --> 00:28:01,240 Speaker 2: Lord Jesus, I'll repent of my sins. Come into my heart. 508 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:03,800 Speaker 3: I make you my Lord and save you. 509 00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 2: Friends, if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you 510 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,440 Speaker 2: got born again. Get in a good Bible based church. 511 00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:11,960 Speaker 2: Keep God first place. 512 00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 3: He's going to take you places that you've never dreamed of. 513 00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:18,960 Speaker 2: Thank you for listening to the Joel Loustine podcast. 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