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Speaker 1: Or if you're someone like me who likes to listen

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Speaker 1: watching videos. He's a little Mike. Your your head is

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Speaker 1: it was like a cool thing to show up to

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00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,040
Speaker 1: the gig in. But I've never worn it since then.

426
00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:10,199
Speaker 1: And today I was, you know, low on activewear pants

427
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:13,879
Speaker 1: and I've gained some lbs, and so, um, I decided

428
00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:16,359
Speaker 1: to put on this thing because it's like a sweat pant.

429
00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:18,760
Speaker 1: But god damn it, it's tight. I mean, it is

430
00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:21,480
Speaker 1: not an attractive look on the bottom. It's not a

431
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,760
Speaker 1: good but the suit is so cute and Juicy is

432
00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:28,800
Speaker 1: back by the way, so two thousand's it's um not great,

433
00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 1: to be honest, it's it's like kind of um it's

434
00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:36,360
Speaker 1: a vlore. No, it's not vlor It's I can't describe it.

435
00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:40,720
Speaker 1: It's like plastic e sweatshirt that makes sense, Like it's

436
00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 1: like coded sweatshirt. It looks not what it looks like

437
00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 1: like I look, Oh my god, yes it's shiny. I

438
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:53,159
Speaker 1: look like a fruit roll up. God, damn it. I

439
00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 1: just went to I went out like this. I went

440
00:21:56,800 --> 00:21:59,440
Speaker 1: to Starbucks in the night, stopped at a store, you know,

441
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:01,439
Speaker 1: that little gift shop around the corner from us. Did

442
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:03,480
Speaker 1: anyone go I want to eat your fruit by the

443
00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:08,720
Speaker 1: foot or your foot by the fruit? Is my feet

444
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:13,679
Speaker 1: or gross? I've got I've got a four at a

445
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:16,439
Speaker 1: ten on Wiki feet. I keep saying, have a nine

446
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:19,920
Speaker 1: point five on wiki feet. But that's just my size?

447
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 1: Is that with? Oh dude, my some please you guys

448
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 1: go log into wiki feet and get my score up.

449
00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 1: Like it's just not fair. I am being you know,

450
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:36,400
Speaker 1: discriminated against because of my bunnies. Um So, I went

451
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,360
Speaker 1: to this gift store, but you know that cute little

452
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:41,800
Speaker 1: one around the corner, right, Yeah, yeah, it looks like

453
00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:44,960
Speaker 1: a New York like Christmas ee like gift shop, right,

454
00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 1: And I went in there and they had great tunes.

455
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:49,840
Speaker 1: This guy was just playing. Um I went in because

456
00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:53,760
Speaker 1: the they were blasting like cool Nick Low. I didn't

457
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 1: even know who nick I mean, I know him from

458
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 1: like I think he sings that Pink Moon song, but

459
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,880
Speaker 1: he maybe not. But Nicolo, I've never heard of him,

460
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 1: or I've heard of him, but I've never listened to

461
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 1: his music. And I was like, who is this? I

462
00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 1: felt like I was in um high fidelity. I was like, God,

463
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 1: I'm so cool being like what's this record man? Because

464
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 1: he was at a record player and it was this

465
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 1: awesome song called um fuck get into it. It's Nicolo

466
00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 1: and it's called I Forget It Now. I put it

467
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:23,000
Speaker 1: on my Instagram story. But it's so good anyway, Um,

468
00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 1: this guy took so long wrapping up all the gifts.

469
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 1: I literally put all the stuff. He was taking so

470
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:30,560
Speaker 1: long that I go, I'm gonna go grab my Starbucks

471
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 1: and be right back. I came back and he still

472
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:36,199
Speaker 1: he was helping another customer and and chatting them up.

473
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 1: And I'm standing there watching and I'm just like, I

474
00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:40,719
Speaker 1: have to be back to the podcast because I had

475
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:43,040
Speaker 1: to do this. I'm just like, I cannot believe how

476
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 1: long this is taking. And then I leave the store

477
00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:47,640
Speaker 1: and one of the main items that he wrapped up.

478
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 1: That was a hundred and something dollar tray I bought.

479
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 1: He didn't even put in the bag, and so I

480
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:56,119
Speaker 1: have to go back there. He did give Luisgi three treats,

481
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 1: but man, people are slow and just take their time.

482
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 1: And yeah, it's like eating and just because you left

483
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 1: doesn't mean he gets to stop. Like just I thought

484
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 1: I gave him like, hey, I thought it was a way.

485
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to be passive aggressive. I was really like,

486
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,400
Speaker 1: take your time, like I'm gonna go. But I thought

487
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 1: he might read that as like, oh, she's she's on

488
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 1: the she's gotta go. Um. But people just don't pick

489
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:23,359
Speaker 1: up on things, and that's fine. They're not anxious attached.

490
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:27,560
Speaker 1: I'm very h aware. He's very avoidant. Yeah, how was

491
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:33,560
Speaker 1: your car ride with two avoidance? Uh? It was so funny.

492
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,160
Speaker 1: We were like, you know what, it's a eight hour

493
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,160
Speaker 1: car ride. Oh yeah, you guys thought you were gonna

494
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 1: do it in one one trip. Yeah, well we thought

495
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 1: that too, And then I had until like five, I

496
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:46,160
Speaker 1: had a full on panic attack. She had to drive

497
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 1: most of the way at the first leg. I had

498
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:53,120
Speaker 1: like it was It's the worst I've had it made

499
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 1: me like swallow another off to being like okay, maybe

500
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:59,439
Speaker 1: it's not best to do to get off one and

501
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:03,159
Speaker 1: just whatever. Like Yeah, there was a lot of reasons

502
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:05,400
Speaker 1: why it happened, but it was to the point where

503
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:08,240
Speaker 1: like I felt very detached and I was like looking

504
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 1: at her and I couldn't like connect with her, Like

505
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:13,880
Speaker 1: she didn't even seem like a human being to me.

506
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 1: It was fucking I was I was going through, Yeah,

507
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 1: it's just been so long and like but then that

508
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 1: thing of someone doesn't look like a human being. I

509
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 1: look like a human It's hard to explain, Like you

510
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: just don't feel like like present with them, like you

511
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 1: can't stop your brain. And then like I would look

512
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:36,440
Speaker 1: at Barnes in the distance like different like like objects

513
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 1: and they were so like color, like so sharp, Like

514
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 1: it was so hard to explain. It's hard to explain.

515
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 1: But everything, everything, when did it start out? At it? Uh?

516
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 1: Because I just think people relate so much and I'm

517
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 1: always very curious about these and with no judgment, I'm

518
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: asking like what brought it on? Like what did it

519
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:59,359
Speaker 1: feel like? What what was going on? Um? You know,

520
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:05,400
Speaker 1: I I really I think there's I think it's Uh,

521
00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: the idea of meeting her family is probably a little

522
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:13,679
Speaker 1: bit in there. Summer think driving eight hours is in

523
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 1: there somewhere. I think. Uh, I spent all day cleaning

524
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 1: out that back room closet, which is a fucking goddamn disaster,

525
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 1: and I didn't really sleep that well the night before.

526
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:27,880
Speaker 1: I mean there's a lot of different you know, I'm

527
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 1: weaning off Zoloft, I'm getting on well Buchre, and I

528
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:34,159
Speaker 1: just got the booster shot like a day and a

529
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:38,399
Speaker 1: half ago. I think that was maybe so like so

530
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 1: many things and so, but how did they come on?

531
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 1: Did you feel it like, oh wait, this is familiar

532
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 1: or were you in denial of it because it's been

533
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: so long, Like how did that work? Well? My first

534
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 1: thought was like I can't get off zolof Like what

535
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:53,360
Speaker 1: am I thinking? I gotta get in touch with my doctor.

536
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 1: It's because the well future, Well what is the thing

537
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 1: that made you feel that thought? Like your heart start

538
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 1: beating or like you started panicking about a paint, like

539
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:05,680
Speaker 1: how did it come on? Like it just comes on? Like, uh,

540
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 1: you could feel it a little bit. And then what

541
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 1: happens is is like for me at least my d

542
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: when it happened. Yeah, I was driving, so like the

543
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:17,360
Speaker 1: more you drive, the more to musics on, the more

544
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 1: sometimes you feel like you could like drive it away

545
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 1: in a weird way. And then were you guys not

546
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 1: getting along either? Was it like that kind of like

547
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: getting out of town like stressful vibe in the car judgment,

548
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 1: but that's how everything is. She was there was definitely that,

549
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,960
Speaker 1: but it was also like she was very like supportive

550
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 1: of me once I said I was anxious and like yeah,

551
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 1: and then she ended up driving like two or you know,

552
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 1: or maybe three of the four hours and then I

553
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: drove all day to day but like yeah, which you know,

554
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:51,199
Speaker 1: was very nice of her, and like I could have

555
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,920
Speaker 1: drove after the first leg and she just wanted to

556
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: keep driving. But like what did you um, how did

557
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 1: it get to the point where you're like, I gotta

558
00:27:58,440 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 1: did you get pull over for gas and then you

559
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:01,720
Speaker 1: decide that or was it like I gotta pull over?

560
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:04,240
Speaker 1: Like this is freaking me? Like were you verbalizing it?

561
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: Was it just I felt way better? You know what

562
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: happens is my eyes, you can't when you're having a

563
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 1: panic attack or anxiety attack, you can't like you know,

564
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: sometimes you could calm your eyes, if that makes sense,

565
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 1: Like like you're on the road and you're just like

566
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 1: looking at the road, but it's not like you can heah,

567
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 1: you don't just strain. Yeah you're not. But I like

568
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 1: this the whole time. Just strain just and you can't

569
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 1: you can't go like this. You can't like you can't

570
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,200
Speaker 1: feel like, Yeah, I don't know, it's so fucking weird, man,

571
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: that makes sense. I the I think, yeah, that checks out.

572
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 1: Did you know then? What how did you call him down?

573
00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: Like after she was driving? When did it feel like

574
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: back to normal? And how did you get there? I think, honestly,

575
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:50,040
Speaker 1: I think some of it had to do because we

576
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 1: ate a late lunch, we ate in the car. I

577
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 1: think once my blood sugar level. I think that also

578
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 1: had something to do with it, if I had to guess.

579
00:28:56,360 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 1: I also drink a very large diet coke right what ever?

580
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 1: You know it's a caffeine, no food, lack of sleep, stress,

581
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:14,480
Speaker 1: I mean, booster shot it HCT. I can't believe you're alive. Yeah,

582
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: I was talking about on the top of the show.

583
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 1: When you're able to say, oh, this is why this

584
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: is happening, it like makes it go away, Like when

585
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 1: you understand that I was talking about the Back Pain book.

586
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:28,400
Speaker 1: When you know that your back pain is caused by

587
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 1: mental anguish, it makes it go away just by knowing it.

588
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 1: So knowing it's the stress of the parents, it's the road,

589
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: like all the things, Suddenly it's like, oh, this isn't

590
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 1: my fault, this isn't something else. You just it frees

591
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 1: you do you do you? Does that resonate with you? Yeah?

592
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 1: For sure? Like yeah, I just like being able to

593
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 1: name it a thousand percent and be able to say

594
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: it out loud, like trusting that Brenna wouldn't judge me

595
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 1: for essentially looking like a woods that I couldn't drive anymore,

596
00:29:57,440 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, but a lot of

597
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 1: people don't have run us, and that's why I mean,

598
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 1: they're sponsor of the show, but I'm serious, Like this

599
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 1: holiday season, it's fucking lonely out there and we're not

600
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 1: gonna be around on the podcast. I know a lot

601
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 1: of you look towards us for a company better help

602
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 1: you can get. You can find a therapist in like

603
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:15,760
Speaker 1: less than forty eight hours. They're not paying me to

604
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,240
Speaker 1: say this, I'm just saying it's a resource. For people

605
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:20,479
Speaker 1: who you can get ten percent off if you go

606
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 1: like what it was, it you just I think, I

607
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 1: don't know if you can get ten percent off but

608
00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 1: your first month. But you can find someone in forty

609
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 1: hours and it's someone that doesn't that will not judge you,

610
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: and you can say all of this ship and just

611
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 1: getting it out or gern and burn. That's the cheapest way.

612
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 1: Kirsten always does that. You journal all these things and

613
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 1: then you burn it and no onalcy or you journal

614
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 1: it in such a way that it's such scratchy that

615
00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 1: no one could see in it. And it helps. But um,

616
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: I'm glad you had someone to talk you through it.

617
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: It's better help dot com slash Nikki Glazer. There you go,

618
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:56,000
Speaker 1: give that gift to yourself. It was interesting, seriously, You're

619
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 1: talking about the back thing and we're on a flight

620
00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 1: to Phoenix, and I sat next to his couple and

621
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: the guy started talking to me and he's saying that

622
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 1: his wife, who has had five back surgeries, was going

623
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,720
Speaker 1: to Phoenix to get like a non FDA approved stem

624
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 1: cell transplant, and I was like yeah, I was like,

625
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 1: you know, I was like, I wonder how much of

626
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 1: it's mental and stuff like just having a conversation and

627
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 1: his wife is sitting next to him. Oh, and I

628
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: didn't never told you that. She pulls up um her

629
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 1: X ray of the plates in her back and she

630
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 1: goes tell him it's not mental. And I'll go, oh wait,

631
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 1: let me bring up my friend from twelve. It's not

632
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: I would have said, honey, it's it's not mental. It's

633
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 1: metal in your back. But also that metal doesn't have

634
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 1: to hurt that bad. You can literally your arm could

635
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 1: be chopped off. And if you can have enough equanimity

636
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 1: as meditatively that you can handle any kind of pain.

637
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 1: Now that's a different type of thing. Like that's where

638
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 1: if you're you have chronic pain, the waking Up app

639
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 1: is like so clutch and you can get it for

640
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 1: free if you write into sam hairs dot org and

641
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 1: say you can't afford it. But they have that meditation

642
00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 1: called Working with Pain, and in it he talks about,

643
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 1: you know, you can meditate through pain. That's why you

644
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: know those monks who would self emmoly, wh would set

645
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 1: themselves on fire and just sit still, they truly were

646
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 1: in a state where they weren't feeling pain. Because you

647
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 1: can handle any it doesn't. Just because it's mental doesn't

648
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 1: mean that it's not real. No one's saying that you're crazy.

649
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: Some people might and that sucks, but you don't have

650
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: to prove your pain to anyone. Your pain is your pain,

651
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 1: and by admitting that it's in your head does not

652
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,200
Speaker 1: mean that we shouldn't feel sorry for you, or help

653
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 1: you with your bags, or think you're doing you're not

654
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: doing it yourself. Who would want to be in pain?

655
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess some people want to be sick

656
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: so they get attention, but that but that's a sickness

657
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: is and of itself where I feel sorry for you too,

658
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: if you if that's how you gotta get love. I mean,

659
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 1: I think people just really fear not um. They either

660
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 1: fear getting pity or they fear that they're not going

661
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 1: to get pity and that they're gonna be blamed for it.

662
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 1: And psychosomatic is such a bad connotation also, Um. I

663
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: was in therapy the other day and I was talking

664
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 1: about emotional incest, where you know, you have a parent

665
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 1: who treats you like a spouse in terms of like

666
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 1: the things they talked to you about, not really having boundaries,

667
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 1: just they treat you like a friend and it's called

668
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 1: emotional incest, and she had some other kind of uh

669
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 1: they spouse ify you, And I was like, that's a

670
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 1: better word than emotional incest. Uh. Sexual incest is ruined.

671
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 1: The word incests incest doesn't have to mean sex with

672
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 1: your uncle or brother. But like when someone told me like, oh,

673
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 1: you know that sounds like emotional incest, I'm like, no, wait, no,

674
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna identify as that. That's horrifying. Um. But

675
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: just giving the names of things trigger people so much.

676
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 1: And psychosomatic, when you say it's psychosomatic, it's in your head.

677
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 1: People freak out, but it doesn't me It's not a

678
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: bad thing, so we just have to talk about it

679
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 1: in a different way. It's funny, like incests triggered you.

680
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:08,720
Speaker 1: And then when you say psychosomatic, I think of psychosomatic

681
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:19,359
Speaker 1: agency that song from like Prodigy, Prodigy, oh that mac

682
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 1: my bit joke. So every time I hear that word,

683
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 1: I just want to go agency. But yeah, the last one,

684
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 1: I was cleaning up for the housekeeper Andrew, and I

685
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 1: was just putting because I knew that closet was clean,

686
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, I'm gonna put some of

687
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:34,359
Speaker 1: my music equipment in there out of the living room,

688
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: and I'm doing a photo shoot in the living room

689
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 1: too for Instagram because I have to, you know, shout

690
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 1: out the people that gave me free furniture. Um and uh,

691
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 1: I left your door open for a second and then

692
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:49,000
Speaker 1: I closed it right away behind me. But then I

693
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 1: couldn't find Luigi, like I was getting ready for you know.

694
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:54,359
Speaker 1: It was I was in my room and I thought

695
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,160
Speaker 1: he was just being stubborn and in the podcast to you,

696
00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 1: because sometimes he just comes in here to be like

697
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 1: I'm mad at you. You didn't walk me enough today

698
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,360
Speaker 1: or whatever the hell is pouting about. And then I

699
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, did I leave him in

700
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:08,720
Speaker 1: the hall hall? And so I go out there he's nowhere,

701
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: and I'm I'm like Luigi, and I'm like, he's going

702
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 1: something like when he got really sick when I first

703
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 1: got him. He got like deathly sick. He got something

704
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 1: and he went off to die. Dogs do that, They

705
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 1: just slink off to go die. And uh. Which brings

706
00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 1: me back to the thing that I was going to

707
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 1: stay at the top of the show about dogs, like

708
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:28,399
Speaker 1: I was watching videos last night of dogs who are

709
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 1: abused that learned to love and those are the things

710
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,479
Speaker 1: that make me cry. Okay, so I've finished that thought.

711
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:34,360
Speaker 1: But anyway, I thought he went off to die. I'm like,

712
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 1: oh my god, he's sick and dying. And then I

713
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 1: was like, I shut Andrew's room right behind me, like

714
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 1: there's no wait, but he slinked in there. When I

715
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: was putting the equipment in your closet. He got in

716
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:47,799
Speaker 1: and he got like curled up in the corner and

717
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 1: I went and I go. Luigi was the last spot

718
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,319
Speaker 1: I could look. I looked everywhere, it's not topic of

719
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 1: an apartment, and he was in. He came trotting out

720
00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 1: just like he was just in there, and like, so

721
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:01,360
Speaker 1: I think he felt sad because I he seemed like

722
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:03,360
Speaker 1: because I shut the door, and he's like, she just

723
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:05,120
Speaker 1: left me in this dark room alone. So I think

724
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: it was kind of mad at me. But he also

725
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 1: looks kind of cozy and he comes in there way

726
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:14,720
Speaker 1: more now. Like talk about like a dog that's abuse

727
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 1: that like it takes a while to warm up to

728
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:20,359
Speaker 1: you and then gives you the most love possible. You know,

729
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 1: I know this dog. Last night I was watching on

730
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 1: the the Dodo account, you know, sometimes on Instagram, they

731
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 1: show up on the subread make me Cry. And there

732
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 1: was this dog that like, just look. It reminded me

733
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 1: so much of Marion and Luigi. And the woman is

734
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:35,759
Speaker 1: an expert with abused dogs and she's like, this dog,

735
00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 1: no human has ever been kind to this dog, and

736
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:41,359
Speaker 1: it's you know, generally people hit dogs with open hands

737
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 1: or kick them. So she was doing this thing where

738
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:45,359
Speaker 1: she was putting her fist out because she didn't want

739
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 1: if the dog bit, it's much easier for them to

740
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 1: bite fingers than a fist, so you just put your

741
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 1: fist out. Looked like she was like going to punch it,

742
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:52,840
Speaker 1: and she was like, I know this looks threatening, but

743
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 1: dogs don't associate this. Dogs don't really get punched. They

744
00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 1: get slapped or kicked. And so this dog was just

745
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: like like just shaking and cowering and looked so much

746
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:05,920
Speaker 1: like Luigi and Marian and it made me realize, like

747
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:08,360
Speaker 1: this woman was like, this dog has been severely abused.

748
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:11,280
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my god, that's what happened

749
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 1: to my dogs. For sure, someone some human beat the

750
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 1: funk out of it. Just was terrorized them. And to

751
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 1: see that shift where they you know after a couple

752
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 1: of days. This dog is like kind of reluctant, you know,

753
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 1: when you go to pick up Marian Andrew and she

754
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,239
Speaker 1: kind of just goes like that. She just kind of

755
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 1: plays dead and starts like she's her tail is wagging,

756
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,640
Speaker 1: but she's also shaking in fear. And sometimes to go

757
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 1: she'll start screaming. If you go to pet her, she'll

758
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: start shrieking, and it's like my dad, last night, I go,

759
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,919
Speaker 1: she goes to why does she do that when you're

760
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 1: just trying to give her love and she's wagging her tail.

761
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 1: She comes up to greet you, and then you go

762
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 1: to pick her up, and she starts shrieking at the

763
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 1: touch of your fingers on her for And it's because

764
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:53,560
Speaker 1: she has an involuntary response of I don't think she

765
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: cognitively she thinks that she's about to be beat, but

766
00:37:56,680 --> 00:38:00,839
Speaker 1: her body remembers that this means I'm gonna get hurt,

767
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: and it just starts shrieking. It alarms us. She's been

768
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: through a lot. He weighs like, how could you six pounds?

769
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 1: So her tail is bent in a right angle. So

770
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:12,879
Speaker 1: it was definitely shut in the show by a dog

771
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: left in four months ago, like, yeah, she's been through

772
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:18,759
Speaker 1: a lot. How could you be mean to that little dog?

773
00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 1: How could you? For people who abuse animals, they must

774
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:26,439
Speaker 1: be so abused themselves. It's just God. We just got

775
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:29,440
Speaker 1: to stop the cycle. Get help people, better help dot

776
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 1: com slash Nicki Lazer. Let's take a break and we're

777
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 1: gonna come back with an all fan tracks the rest

778
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:40,760
Speaker 1: of the episode. Alright, we're back, let's do fan tracks

779
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 1: all right, guys, we love hearing from you. We hear

780
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: from you so often. I get so many messages d

781
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 1: M S. I got one last night. I just want

782
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,279
Speaker 1: to read to like start us off. It was the

783
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 1: fucking sweetest thing you guys. You all top each other

784
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 1: with sweetness. It gets it's insane. So last night I

785
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 1: went live with my dad on Nikki Glazer pod and

786
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: I went over to his house because I was he

787
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:12,919
Speaker 1: was trimming the tree. My mom was going to see

788
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 1: a concert with her friend, and I go, I'll go

789
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:16,920
Speaker 1: hang out with my dad. I'll miss times like this

790
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: when I either move or he's dead or I'm dead.

791
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: So um, she said, this is from cat Hi. I'm

792
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:25,279
Speaker 1: too awkward to leave a voice memo, but I'm a

793
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 1: fan from day one of m g P and start

794
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 1: each day listening to the pod. I tune into the

795
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 1: Instagram lives frequently and play a game with myself to

796
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 1: see how many of my comments Nikki slash Andrew will

797
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 1: respond to. So far, I'm four out of four and proud.

798
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 1: Tonight's live with Nikki's Dad was so pure. I thought

799
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 1: it needed to be recorded because if we find it,

800
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 1: because if we find it so special, then I know

801
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 1: you will in the future too. That is a fucking bestie.

802
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:50,840
Speaker 1: Thanks for being so open and vulnerable with us. It

803
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 1: truly does feel like we are bestie's because of how

804
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:54,520
Speaker 1: well we know you. I hope I get to come

805
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: to see a show soon, but in the meantime, the

806
00:39:56,600 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: lives the lives Instagram lives really feel like private performances

807
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 1: that we love anyway, don't be Cat and Jackalope. Um,

808
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: thank you so much, Kat, and the video you sent

809
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:10,840
Speaker 1: me of me and my dad truly is like I

810
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,360
Speaker 1: posted on my Instagram personal story, I will cherish it

811
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:16,359
Speaker 1: forever and you were the only one to send me one,

812
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,680
Speaker 1: and I was secretly hoping someone would, but I thought,

813
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 1: you know what, let me just live in the moment

814
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 1: and not have to ask people. So the fact that

815
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: you captured it means it's like the greatest gift. And

816
00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:29,719
Speaker 1: someday when he has past, like, I know that I'm

817
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 1: going to look back at this video and it's going

818
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 1: to be one of the most special things in my

819
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,799
Speaker 1: life because it really was a special, like Christmas moment

820
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,759
Speaker 1: where my dad and I were playing guitar and he

821
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:40,960
Speaker 1: was so proud of me. Everyone kept saying Ted looks

822
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 1: so proud, and I'm like, why do I interpret his

823
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:46,479
Speaker 1: pride as he's judging me like I obviously am doing.

824
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,719
Speaker 1: It was really sweet, though. All the best he's made

825
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 1: me so proud of him because they're just like, he's

826
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 1: so cool, he's so talented, he's so hot. Everyone's saying,

827
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:57,839
Speaker 1: my dad's a daddy. Um. But truly, thank you so much,

828
00:40:57,920 --> 00:41:00,719
Speaker 1: Cat for that gift of that video. It meant so

829
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:02,959
Speaker 1: much to me. And um yeah, thank you to everyone

830
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:04,840
Speaker 1: who was watching last night or who watches any of

831
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 1: our lives. Um. All right, so what's next? Okay, I'm

832
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:13,280
Speaker 1: gonna start with this voicemail since it's about yesterday's show.

833
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 1: Hey guys, um, I just got done listening to Wednesday's podcast,

834
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 1: The st Bernard that solid food, and I think you

835
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 1: guys should do like once a week. It's all no news, no,

836
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:37,800
Speaker 1: why do I care anything like that, just like self

837
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:42,839
Speaker 1: help therapy day or something like that. Oh my god,

838
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 1: that was amazing. Um. I literally just got like, had

839
00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:50,600
Speaker 1: a whole day with my mom yesterday, UM, and had

840
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:55,760
Speaker 1: experienced what you guys talked about, like, oh my gosh,

841
00:41:56,719 --> 00:42:01,160
Speaker 1: you should do it. You should, yes, if you don't. Um,

842
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 1: this episode was still amazing and I'm probably gonna go

843
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,840
Speaker 1: listen to it over and over again. UM, thank you

844
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 1: guys for everything you do. Love you, love you jack Pot.

845
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 1: Wait who was that? She didn't leave her name? Anonymous?

846
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 1: Oh anonymous, sweet girl, that's driving and I heard your

847
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 1: turn signal. Um, yeah, let's do it, like, let's let's devote.

848
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:28,800
Speaker 1: I love that the show has a format and segments

849
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,760
Speaker 1: you can trust, and but I love that it also

850
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 1: can be an accordion of where we can just shorten

851
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 1: certain things and not do them and in in you know,

852
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 1: in honoring places that we just want to go. And

853
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:45,799
Speaker 1: yesterday was fucking good for me. Like, I felt so

854
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 1: good after that. I was able to go over to

855
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:52,400
Speaker 1: my parents and like, and I had some triggering moments

856
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 1: with my dad where I like snapped at him and

857
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 1: he wanted me to play twelve string guitar and I'm like, Dad,

858
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 1: I don't even know how to play a six string

859
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 1: stop And then he's like, try this song and it's

860
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,319
Speaker 1: like and I'm like, Dad, can we just play a

861
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:08,720
Speaker 1: song that has a G C D F Like let's

862
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 1: I just want to have a good time. I don't

863
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 1: want to And I was being I was being a

864
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: bit about it at times. But what did that talk

865
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:19,759
Speaker 1: yesterday got me over there in the first place? And

866
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: it got me even though it wasn't perfect and I

867
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:26,880
Speaker 1: was not a perfect child and and loving of my father. Um,

868
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 1: I was able to talk to him about that attached book,

869
00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 1: which does mean a lot to me. And I talked

870
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 1: to him about my feelings and he was able to

871
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:35,320
Speaker 1: hear them. And he asked me about the podcast yesterday,

872
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: which was weird. I was like, it was actually really good.

873
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:38,239
Speaker 1: I was like, didn't he hear it? I was like,

874
00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 1: it didn't come out yet, Um, but it it. You

875
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:44,359
Speaker 1: know what, even if he didn't hear it, something about

876
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:46,840
Speaker 1: my approach yesterday, he didn't need to hear all that stuff.

877
00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:49,439
Speaker 1: I was able to present my feelings in a way

878
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:51,759
Speaker 1: that he was able to receive them even though they

879
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 1: weren't met perfectly. And I ended the top of the

880
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 1: show by saying, fuck you Dad. Um, we're closer now

881
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:59,720
Speaker 1: because he knows my feelings. And it was because of yesterday, Andrew,

882
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 1: did you feel good after yesterday? I had a full

883
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,839
Speaker 1: panic attack. Dr Yeah, that's right. Oh, okay, maybe maybe

884
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: it triggered that. Honestly it could have no, but that's fine.

885
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:12,799
Speaker 1: Therapy does do that sometimes. Yeah. I don't look at

886
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:14,399
Speaker 1: that as a negative. I look at it like, oh,

887
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:17,239
Speaker 1: maybe I uncoveraged something and got it out and my

888
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:21,319
Speaker 1: body was just like, okay, now I'm good tomorrow, you know. Yeah,

889
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:23,880
Speaker 1: I went to couples therapy the other day and I

890
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 1: have not talked to the person that I'm goin to

891
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:30,319
Speaker 1: couples counseling with because of how much it brought up.

892
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 1: And my mom was like, that's not good, and I'm like, no, no, no,

893
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 1: that is not a knock against therapy. We are getting

894
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:40,560
Speaker 1: to a place that is uncomfortable that we Yeah, we

895
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 1: didn't have enough time to finish it up and tied

896
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,400
Speaker 1: in a bow, but that thing was going to be

897
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 1: there all along, and it was gonna find its way

898
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 1: out maybe twenty years from now, but thank god it

899
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: came out now. And sometimes you just need you know,

900
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 1: when you do a skin treatment and you like started

901
00:44:56,080 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 1: accutane or something, your body like purges all this. You

902
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 1: explode with acne first and then it goes away like

903
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:07,439
Speaker 1: it's going to get messy before it gets good. So um, yeah,

904
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,320
Speaker 1: we should do trigger warnings. I guess there, like a vaccine,

905
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, it's like the booster. You might feel

906
00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 1: sick for a couple of days, but in the long run,

907
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:22,279
Speaker 1: you're not gonna end up dead. Next one, Next one.

908
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 1: Next one is about a controversial topic, but we discussed

909
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 1: on the show and some feedback on it. Hi, Nikki,

910
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 1: Andrew and Noah. I'm listening to the episode several monsters,

911
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:42,200
Speaker 1: and I had to pause right away and give you

912
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:49,240
Speaker 1: a shout. Um regarding floating several minutes and driving several miles, Okay, okay,

913
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 1: agree with Niki for floating several minutes. It's definitely less

914
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 1: than time. I would say like four or five six. However,

915
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 1: so my Andrew, when you say several miles, I would

916
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:12,919
Speaker 1: think several miles is like a significant difference. I think

917
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 1: it really just depends on the situation. Maybe there's some

918
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 1: other topics we could explore where that might be true. Anyways,

919
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 1: I love the podcast. Listen to you every morning on

920
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 1: my way to work, and when I picked my eleven

921
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:31,040
Speaker 1: months year old done up from daycare, we listened to

922
00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:34,600
Speaker 1: it on the drive home. And let me tell you,

923
00:46:34,840 --> 00:46:47,239
Speaker 1: he is cultured. Love you what was her name? She's

924
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: really she's departing from them. I love that. Listen you

925
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 1: guys just gotta get the j a part right for

926
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:56,839
Speaker 1: all I care. Um, I didn't have to leave a name,

927
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 1: by the way, Okay, Well, mother of a new eleven

928
00:46:59,560 --> 00:47:04,319
Speaker 1: month old, congratulations, Um, you sound great, and you know

929
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 1: it's okay to be wrong. Um about the several miles,

930
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 1: but you know you're right. It's note. I think we

931
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 1: looked it up in the dictionary and it is more

932
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:25,720
Speaker 1: than a few less than a lot, so I guess

933
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 1: you know it is up to interpretation. Um. The other

934
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:31,800
Speaker 1: day I was driving with Carlyle and just like Noah,

935
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:35,440
Speaker 1: Carlile as someone who does not know distances like you

936
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 1: can't doesn't know what miles are or like fractions of miles,

937
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 1: which is mind boggling to me. But guess what, I'm

938
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:45,560
Speaker 1: I don't know things that they know, you know, that

939
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 1: are like truly just can't grasp simple things that they go,

940
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 1: how could you not get that? And um, you're one

941
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 1: of those people when it comes to several you know,

942
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 1: like there's certain things. Um no with she God, we

943
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 1: were it said it said point eight miles ahead and

944
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:07,439
Speaker 1: she started breaking and going Nikki, you know, she just goes,

945
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 1: you know, I'm bad at with us, and instead of

946
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 1: me going, how could you not? Like I wanted to

947
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 1: do that so bad, but I just go, you know what,

948
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 1: who the funk cares? She doesn't know this. I used

949
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: to get so mad at my friend Huffy and say

950
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 1: something real quick. If you my mom's calling. One second,

951
00:48:24,000 --> 00:48:28,719
Speaker 1: hold on my mom's calling. We gotta get this. Hi mom, Hi,

952
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:34,680
Speaker 1: you're not on a podcast right now? You are? Oh

953
00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:39,320
Speaker 1: my god, I am. Yeah. Hey, I'm so excited about

954
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 1: about we are going to get a vegan Christmas dinner. Okay, yes,

955
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 1: thank you? Oh because I brought all that ground meat

956
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: over look around me, go look in the freezer, bitch.

957
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:58,839
Speaker 1: So for meatless farms. They're the ones that I did

958
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 1: the ad campaign for and they get me a ton

959
00:49:00,560 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 1: of um ground vegan meat. Yeah, go check the freezer.

960
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: I gotta go back to the podcast. I thought you

961
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,320
Speaker 1: might say something funny, and you did. You're always funny.

962
00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 1: We're vegan. I'm so excited about all this, Mom, I

963
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 1: gotta say, the post you posted on Instagram last night

964
00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: is the worst picture I've ever seen. Have you seen it?

965
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 1: It's so blurry. I know you definitely had some a

966
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 1: little couple of drinks when you posted it, but it is.

967
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:29,800
Speaker 1: It looks like the last photo shot of a woman

968
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 1: who died later that night. No, no, no, don't take

969
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 1: it down. It's cute. No, your captain is cute. I

970
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 1: love that you post when you drank. That's something that

971
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:42,280
Speaker 1: you know everyone relates to. Yes they do, Mom, People

972
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 1: people post when they drink. Believe me. Um, it's a

973
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:47,800
Speaker 1: picture of your friend Elaine. What does it say, Andrew

974
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 1: does my friend Elaine? Sean Kanan Voodoo says my friend Eline,

975
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 1: Shawn Cannon Voodoo. We is some lucky girls. We is

976
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:02,000
Speaker 1: some lucky girls. I love that you gave it a

977
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 1: little Um, we is some lucky girls. Did you have

978
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 1: fun last night? Yeah? I know you missed a concert

979
00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 1: Dad and I had. Everyone was asking where you were

980
00:50:14,200 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 1: on the Instagram live all the best He's wanted to

981
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 1: know I heard last night. I'm so glad. Yeah, but

982
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:23,760
Speaker 1: the besties were wondering where where's Julie. So I'm glad

983
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 1: we got to hear from you today. We are going

984
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:28,240
Speaker 1: to get back to fan t Rex. Gotta go Merry Christmas,

985
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 1: love you alright, Sorry about that. Let's get back to uh,

986
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:35,279
Speaker 1: several more fan t Rex. What did Andrew have to

987
00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 1: say though? Oh? Yeah, so if you if you said

988
00:50:38,880 --> 00:50:44,160
Speaker 1: to Carlile, point, we're point eight miles away, right, and

989
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:50,120
Speaker 1: then you go, oh, we're several tens of a mile away,

990
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:52,480
Speaker 1: would you use it there? I think that was five

991
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:56,520
Speaker 1: to seven tense. I just don't even think you'd use

992
00:50:56,600 --> 00:50:59,800
Speaker 1: a word there. No, you wouldn't. Who says tense of

993
00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:04,319
Speaker 1: a several tents? Yeah, it's a bad example. Um, let's

994
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 1: get back to Vantrax. Okay, we do look so sad.

995
00:51:08,160 --> 00:51:13,839
Speaker 1: Here's here's a Story's great. By the way, we have

996
00:51:13,960 --> 00:51:15,759
Speaker 1: so many I just want to say thanks to all

997
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:20,280
Speaker 1: the besties. I'm just blown away. Okay, yeah, noah, here's

998
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 1: all of them. So yeah, no any any anything to

999
00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:26,319
Speaker 1: say to them besides thank you. Just based on what

1000
00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:29,440
Speaker 1: you hear, I'm well, I'm really impressed with how on

1001
00:51:29,640 --> 00:51:33,440
Speaker 1: point all the messages are. And you know, everyone just

1002
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:37,359
Speaker 1: gets through them and tells their story concisely or has

1003
00:51:37,400 --> 00:51:40,360
Speaker 1: a question or message. And I don't think if I

1004
00:51:40,400 --> 00:51:42,520
Speaker 1: ever called into like a talk show, I would be

1005
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 1: that collected. So thank I think about that all the time.

1006
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:50,880
Speaker 1: I really do. And I'm I speak for a living.

1007
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:54,920
Speaker 1: I truly when I leave messages, they are so rambly

1008
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:57,359
Speaker 1: and terrible. I'm always so impressed. And by the way,

1009
00:51:57,400 --> 00:52:00,319
Speaker 1: you're allowed to read leave a rambly terrible yeah, but fine,

1010
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 1: we will it is. It is very impressive. Whenever people

1011
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 1: call radio stations, I'm always like, how is this caller

1012
00:52:05,640 --> 00:52:08,480
Speaker 1: so cool and composed? Like I would be so nervous,

1013
00:52:08,560 --> 00:52:11,399
Speaker 1: so um And it's okay if you are, and and

1014
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 1: if your message sucks, we still love you. But thanks

1015
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:16,280
Speaker 1: for nailing it most of the time, according to Noah,

1016
00:52:16,360 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 1: and from what I hear, they're all great. So let's

1017
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 1: let's not okay. Here's here's a fun little story. Hi know,

1018
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:27,399
Speaker 1: Drew Gi I had to let Nikki know that I

1019
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 1: quoted her in the bedroom last night, UM, I partook

1020
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:39,120
Speaker 1: in some as play, but with my boyfriend, UM being

1021
00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:47,719
Speaker 1: the receiver. M. I have never done this before, so I, uh,

1022
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:51,680
Speaker 1: you know, licked a little bit down there and use

1023
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:56,720
Speaker 1: some toys down there. Looked up and I quoted Nikki

1024
00:52:56,800 --> 00:52:59,439
Speaker 1: and said, you know, like Nikki Glazer because he's like, wow,

1025
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 1: you're used a lot. And I was like, you know,

1026
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:04,360
Speaker 1: like Nicky Glazer says all the lube in the list,

1027
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 1: and it just made me happy to reference you in

1028
00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:13,719
Speaker 1: the bedroom. But I don't know anyways. UM, that's all

1029
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:16,400
Speaker 1: I have to say. But I love that so much.

1030
00:53:16,520 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 1: You really make my days so much brighter. And uh,

1031
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 1: I hope you all have a wonderful holiday. I love you.

1032
00:53:26,480 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. UM, thanks for sharing that normalizing it.

1033
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:33,719
Speaker 1: You didn't even go into detail about what happened or

1034
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:37,279
Speaker 1: how he received it, like it doesn't matter, like we

1035
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 1: need to talk about anal stuff as the same way

1036
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 1: we talked about any other stuff. So I love that.

1037
00:53:42,680 --> 00:53:45,080
Speaker 1: It wasn't like I did this thing and it was

1038
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:49,320
Speaker 1: this like, yeah, you let your boyfriend's asshole and fucking

1039
00:53:49,360 --> 00:53:51,480
Speaker 1: that's the end of the story. And it's great and

1040
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:57,200
Speaker 1: good in a relationship. And y, and congrats to your

1041
00:53:57,239 --> 00:53:59,359
Speaker 1: boyfriend for being man enough to know that like that

1042
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:04,040
Speaker 1: doesn't make him anything but a guy who is open

1043
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:07,160
Speaker 1: to different kinds of pleasure that might be awaiting him

1044
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:10,759
Speaker 1: through his asshole. And um and I love that you

1045
00:54:10,760 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 1: reference me in but I always, you know, even in

1046
00:54:12,920 --> 00:54:14,440
Speaker 1: my stand up BacT I say, you know, I know

1047
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 1: this is a weird thing. Just say this comedian I

1048
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:19,520
Speaker 1: watched told me to do it. Blame it on me,

1049
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 1: and you can be like this podcast I listened to

1050
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 1: suggested it. I thought it sounded weird. This is her fault.

1051
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:27,600
Speaker 1: If it's weird, bring me up, please, you know, bring

1052
00:54:27,640 --> 00:54:29,800
Speaker 1: me in like a third party. I'll be your little

1053
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 1: you know, fantasy unicorn. Um, I love I'm you know

1054
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 1: I love sex, So bring me in your bedroom. I'd

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00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:39,920
Speaker 1: love it. Thank you for that. That's a cool call. Okay,

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00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 1: speaking of which, I think we may have landed on

1057
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 1: the biggest cust story of the year. Oh my god. Okay,

1058
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:53,480
Speaker 1: so tell me what you think. I think it's from MICHAELA, Nicki, Noah,

1059
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:59,319
Speaker 1: and Andrew. I'm calling in to Sherrick from today. So

1060
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:03,880
Speaker 1: I was at a tattoo shop getting um a tattoo

1061
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:06,239
Speaker 1: touched up and I was with an artist, like I

1062
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 1: know whatever, hanging out in the shop, and this other

1063
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:12,680
Speaker 1: artist walks by and he has a tattoo on his

1064
00:55:12,880 --> 00:55:15,839
Speaker 1: forearm of a QR code, and so I'm like, oh

1065
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 1: my god, like does that actually go to something whatever?

1066
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:23,439
Speaker 1: And the tattoo artist without knowing it, because like he's

1067
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 1: not a bustie, he's not been on the joke, and

1068
00:55:25,680 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, he's so kill it's to feed his ego.

1069
00:55:30,440 --> 00:55:34,960
Speaker 1: And so turns out that the QR code is to

1070
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:37,239
Speaker 1: this man's Instagram, so that I guess he can like

1071
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:40,120
Speaker 1: roll up his sleeve and you can follow his Instagram account.

1072
00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:44,160
Speaker 1: So definitely very c and my um made me think

1073
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:46,319
Speaker 1: of you. I thought it was really funny, and so

1074
00:55:46,360 --> 00:55:49,759
Speaker 1: I just wanted to share with all the besties. Um,

1075
00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 1: Jack Colonio, We're going to count that. But I don't

1076
00:55:56,000 --> 00:56:00,680
Speaker 1: even know what she said. That was awesome, Um, you

1077
00:56:00,680 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 1: know what. I almost wanted to deposit to guess what

1078
00:56:02,840 --> 00:56:05,839
Speaker 1: it would go to. I was like thinking a a

1079
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:10,320
Speaker 1: menu at a Thaie restaurant because that's only cure coats.

1080
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 1: But that is so stupid, And I mean tattoos tattoo

1081
00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 1: shops are a bastion of I can that's so cool

1082
00:56:20,160 --> 00:56:25,640
Speaker 1: though in a way that actually is cool. I kind

1083
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 1: of think it's cool too. I don't want to be

1084
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:29,000
Speaker 1: a dick either. I think it's kind of cool. What

1085
00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:32,200
Speaker 1: I don't what I I think that anyone. I think

1086
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:34,719
Speaker 1: within that Instagram account you would find a lot of

1087
00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:39,560
Speaker 1: activity though, like like post like Andrew you did yesterday,

1088
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:44,640
Speaker 1: you nailed nailed it that that that. Go look at

1089
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:46,879
Speaker 1: Andrew's Instagram and look at the picture he took next

1090
00:56:46,880 --> 00:56:52,840
Speaker 1: to his Corolla of It's It's not the caption definitely, uh,

1091
00:56:53,120 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 1: let you know what the joke is. But the picture

1092
00:56:55,680 --> 00:56:59,440
Speaker 1: itself is so spot on, with this casual looking at

1093
00:56:59,480 --> 00:57:02,359
Speaker 1: the ground like I'm kind of hot but I'm not

1094
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:06,920
Speaker 1: trying to be. But I am like you are? You were?

1095
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:10,399
Speaker 1: You deserve an oscar for that? Um did you see

1096
00:57:10,400 --> 00:57:13,920
Speaker 1: I tagged Garrett and Casey from f Boy comment. If

1097
00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:16,640
Speaker 1: you go to Giohnny Polo, the guy from the start

1098
00:57:16,760 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: the Power Show I told you about, you might have

1099
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 1: talked him a couple of times. He does it everything

1100
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:25,480
Speaker 1: I I scream in his comments. Look at the fucking camera,

1101
00:57:26,400 --> 00:57:29,080
Speaker 1: look at it. It's so lame to be like, oh,

1102
00:57:29,920 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 1: just looking at the ground like it's so good, and um,

1103
00:57:35,640 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 1: what was your captain? You were like that Corolla life.

1104
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:43,439
Speaker 1: Oh you said I'm sleep or even as I live.

1105
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:48,120
Speaker 1: It's so funny. By the way, you should get their Starbucks.

1106
00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:51,880
Speaker 1: That my Starbucks order on my arm would be pretty cool.

1107
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:53,480
Speaker 1: But I just don't believe that QR codes are gonna

1108
00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:55,680
Speaker 1: stick around. There's gonna be something else soon. We lost

1109
00:57:55,720 --> 00:57:58,640
Speaker 1: you again. That's for the best. We'll wait for him

1110
00:57:58,680 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 1: to get back on um what I wanted to say

1111
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:02,440
Speaker 1: real quick while we wait for Andrew to return. There's

1112
00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:05,320
Speaker 1: a podcast called dead Eyes that is about a guy

1113
00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 1: that got fired from UH Tom Hanks's Band of Brothers

1114
00:58:10,080 --> 00:58:13,480
Speaker 1: UH mini series back you know in the early thoughts,

1115
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 1: and he got fired because Tom Hanks said he had

1116
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:18,520
Speaker 1: dead eyes and it was just a one line role

1117
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:20,680
Speaker 1: and he said, you know that guy's dead eyes. And

1118
00:58:20,680 --> 00:58:23,240
Speaker 1: the casting director told the guy he's firing you because

1119
00:58:23,280 --> 00:58:25,560
Speaker 1: you have dead eyes, which Tom Hanks did not intend

1120
00:58:25,600 --> 00:58:27,520
Speaker 1: for this guy to find out about. So this guy

1121
00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:30,120
Speaker 1: does a whole podcast investigation about what that means and

1122
00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 1: why he got fired, and like, and he did the

1123
00:58:32,520 --> 00:58:35,560
Speaker 1: whole podcast hears. It's awesome. It's so well done. And

1124
00:58:35,600 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 1: I was talking about it on a podcast called The

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00:58:37,520 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 1: Daily Zeitgeist, which is a great daily podcast if you

1126
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:43,600
Speaker 1: haven't checked it out, um, and they heard me talk

1127
00:58:43,640 --> 00:58:46,640
Speaker 1: about the show and the guy Connor Ratcliffe, who is

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00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: the actor from Dead Eyes. He he writes me on

1129
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:52,280
Speaker 1: my d M s and it's like, hey, will you

1130
00:58:52,880 --> 00:58:54,960
Speaker 1: be on my podcast? And I was like sure, I

1131
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:57,120
Speaker 1: didn't even ask any questions. I get to it and

1132
00:58:57,160 --> 00:58:59,479
Speaker 1: he confronts me with the clip of me talking about

1133
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 1: him saying he actually does have dead eyes. I looked

1134
00:59:02,440 --> 00:59:06,280
Speaker 1: and there's a podcast today, so listen to the least

1135
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:09,040
Speaker 1: recent episode of Dead Eyes and it kind of takes

1136
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:10,680
Speaker 1: you through everything. You can kind of just jump ahead

1137
00:59:10,680 --> 00:59:12,600
Speaker 1: to mind but then go back and listen to the others,

1138
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 1: but if you want to hear it. He confronts me

1139
00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 1: about saying he had dead eyes and then we investigate

1140
00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 1: like what that means, and he said that I was

1141
00:59:20,000 --> 00:59:21,360
Speaker 1: the only one that was going to be honest with

1142
00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:24,200
Speaker 1: him because he just plays John Hamm like all these

1143
00:59:24,240 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 1: different comedians that he goes through that are like you

1144
00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:28,720
Speaker 1: don't have you have the kindest eyes. Connor, that is

1145
00:59:28,760 --> 00:59:31,320
Speaker 1: not true, and I'm like, yeah, they're kind of scary

1146
00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 1: and lifeless and it's so funny. But um, yes, dead eyes.

1147
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:39,040
Speaker 1: Oh wait is it rat Liff? Yeah, Connor rat Liff,

1148
00:59:39,240 --> 00:59:45,440
Speaker 1: Yeah they're dead Yeah right, okay, it's really I was

1149
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:47,160
Speaker 1: listening to it and laughing because it's so funny. He

1150
00:59:47,200 --> 00:59:48,720
Speaker 1: confronts me and I'm like, I didn't know that you

1151
00:59:48,760 --> 00:59:51,240
Speaker 1: would ever hear that. I'm busted. He's like, no, you're

1152
00:59:51,280 --> 00:59:54,320
Speaker 1: allowed to say that. Like, let's let's talk about it.

1153
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:56,720
Speaker 1: So anyway, Um, let's get back to father Rex. I

1154
00:59:56,720 --> 00:59:59,200
Speaker 1: wonder if that proves that Tom Hanks is actually not

1155
00:59:59,240 --> 01:00:05,200
Speaker 1: a nice person. Let's go to a story from Anna. Okay, Anna, Hi, Nikki,

1156
01:00:05,280 --> 01:00:08,320
Speaker 1: Andrew and Noah, this is Anna. I just listened to

1157
01:00:08,360 --> 01:00:12,720
Speaker 1: the episode where Nikki correctly pronounced catalytic converter um, and

1158
01:00:12,720 --> 01:00:15,960
Speaker 1: it brought me back to the time earlier this year. Um,

1159
01:00:16,080 --> 01:00:19,600
Speaker 1: when my friend took me to the wine Country. Um,

1160
01:00:19,960 --> 01:00:21,800
Speaker 1: we came back and my car was parked at her

1161
01:00:21,840 --> 01:00:25,560
Speaker 1: apartment and over the weekend, Uh, somebody crawled under my

1162
01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:28,680
Speaker 1: car and cut out my catalytic converter um. So when

1163
01:00:28,680 --> 01:00:32,640
Speaker 1: I turned my car on, it made this horrible roaring sound. UM,

1164
01:00:32,720 --> 01:00:34,800
Speaker 1: and I thought it was drivable, so I tried to

1165
01:00:35,600 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 1: uh drive down the street and apparently they also chopped

1166
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:42,160
Speaker 1: some other things out all the while. UM, I am

1167
01:00:42,240 --> 01:00:45,880
Speaker 1: just thinking the entire time that other people think I

1168
01:00:45,880 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 1: am so good my car is making this knock falling

1169
01:00:51,520 --> 01:00:54,600
Speaker 1: down the street. UM. I ended up being so embarrassed

1170
01:00:54,680 --> 01:00:57,480
Speaker 1: that I called Triple A and they came out and

1171
01:00:57,640 --> 01:01:00,120
Speaker 1: uh helped me tow my car so I didn't have

1172
01:01:00,320 --> 01:01:06,480
Speaker 1: to live with the embarrassment of making such a Clouds sucks. UM.

1173
01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:10,320
Speaker 1: Just thought I would share I Love your Guys podcast. UM,

1174
01:01:10,360 --> 01:01:15,600
Speaker 1: so thanks, thank you. I love that she hit on

1175
01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:21,560
Speaker 1: two things there, Cadilla converter and Cadilla concoca. Um. Yeah,

1176
01:01:21,720 --> 01:01:24,880
Speaker 1: unintentionally could like when you you think your EarPods are

1177
01:01:24,880 --> 01:01:29,920
Speaker 1: connected and you're blaring your music, you're accidentally ki Like

1178
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:32,479
Speaker 1: just those moments where you're like, no, no, no, I

1179
01:01:32,520 --> 01:01:35,440
Speaker 1: did not intend to be kid here, and I'm so

1180
01:01:35,440 --> 01:01:37,960
Speaker 1: sorry I was. UM. I'm just gonna read a quick

1181
01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:40,080
Speaker 1: note that I got um from someone on the road.

1182
01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 1: This is from Aaron Moffatt. She got me a Taylor

1183
01:01:44,440 --> 01:01:46,880
Speaker 1: Swift card that says Sagittarius it's like a birthday card

1184
01:01:46,880 --> 01:01:49,520
Speaker 1: for a sagittarius. But she said, I know it's not

1185
01:01:49,560 --> 01:01:51,200
Speaker 1: your birthday, but this is the only tailor Swift card

1186
01:01:51,200 --> 01:01:52,640
Speaker 1: that I could find in all of Calgary. I just

1187
01:01:52,720 --> 01:01:55,160
Speaker 1: wanted to say that as an absolute bustie, I truly

1188
01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:57,560
Speaker 1: appreciate how open you are with your fans slash busties.

1189
01:01:57,560 --> 01:01:59,680
Speaker 1: You inspire me to be a better vegan, be more mindful,

1190
01:02:00,120 --> 01:02:02,160
Speaker 1: and remind me to always be truthful. Your comedy has

1191
01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:04,919
Speaker 1: allowed me to not be ashamed of my hastily packed vagina,

1192
01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 1: and rather I can laugh at it and laugh at

1193
01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:09,520
Speaker 1: other quirky sexual things that happened. Finally, thank you for

1194
01:02:09,560 --> 01:02:14,360
Speaker 1: putting out so much of yourself, uh recently, oh, of yourself.

1195
01:02:14,400 --> 01:02:17,000
Speaker 1: I recently moved to Calgary and I've never felt alone

1196
01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:19,920
Speaker 1: thanks to you, Noah and Andrew. I can't wait to

1197
01:02:19,960 --> 01:02:21,920
Speaker 1: see your new special and tell all my friends about it.

1198
01:02:22,440 --> 01:02:24,440
Speaker 1: X O x O. Always a bestie, always a swifty

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01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 1: Aaron Moffatt, Thank you so much, Aaron. And if you

1200
01:02:28,120 --> 01:02:30,760
Speaker 1: live in Calgary and are a bestie and you want

1201
01:02:30,840 --> 01:02:33,160
Speaker 1: a bestie friend, which anyone who listens to the show,

1202
01:02:33,200 --> 01:02:35,960
Speaker 1: you're gonna get along with other people contact Aaron Moffatt

1203
01:02:36,000 --> 01:02:38,600
Speaker 1: E R I N M O F F A T

1204
01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:41,360
Speaker 1: T thirteen, Aaron Moffatt thirteen and UM get together and

1205
01:02:41,360 --> 01:02:45,200
Speaker 1: talk about the show over coffee. Become friends. UM one more.

1206
01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:47,360
Speaker 1: This was a really funny card that I got. It's

1207
01:02:47,400 --> 01:02:50,880
Speaker 1: a guy uh with walking and on a leash. He

1208
01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:53,400
Speaker 1: has a gigantic rooster on a leash, and it says

1209
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:55,080
Speaker 1: he was going to be a lot more specific with

1210
01:02:55,120 --> 01:02:57,200
Speaker 1: his wishes next time because he asked for a big cock.

1211
01:02:57,240 --> 01:02:59,520
Speaker 1: You know, Nikki, I wanted to let you know how

1212
01:02:59,600 --> 01:03:01,200
Speaker 1: much your guests help me in the early days of

1213
01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:03,760
Speaker 1: the pandemic. While things are better, I still have some struggles,

1214
01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:06,120
Speaker 1: but listening to your banter with Andrew and Noah's soothing

1215
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 1: interjections is a bomb to my soul. Keep doing what

1216
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:11,760
Speaker 1: you do, making people laugh. Merry Christmas, your bestie forever, Cassandra.

1217
01:03:12,000 --> 01:03:14,760
Speaker 1: No pressure, but I can't wait for your book. So nice.

1218
01:03:14,920 --> 01:03:17,320
Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much those they I met those

1219
01:03:17,680 --> 01:03:21,960
Speaker 1: two shows. And then I want to shout out to Rachel. Um.

1220
01:03:22,000 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 1: I believe it was Rachel. Is this the card she

1221
01:03:24,640 --> 01:03:29,840
Speaker 1: gave me? Um? Maybe it's Brianna. I forget who gave

1222
01:03:29,880 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 1: me it was either Nicole or Brianna who in Calgary

1223
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:35,000
Speaker 1: gave me a necklace. No, I think I don't think

1224
01:03:35,040 --> 01:03:36,440
Speaker 1: Rachel was one of the names. NICKI. I love you

1225
01:03:36,480 --> 01:03:38,120
Speaker 1: so so much. You helped me cope with so much.

1226
01:03:38,160 --> 01:03:40,000
Speaker 1: I listened to your podcast every day. Call or text

1227
01:03:40,080 --> 01:03:43,400
Speaker 1: me Brie. She left her number. Um, and one of

1228
01:03:43,440 --> 01:03:47,480
Speaker 1: these people gave me a necklace that they have. They

1229
01:03:47,480 --> 01:03:48,680
Speaker 1: have one, and I have one, and I want to

1230
01:03:48,720 --> 01:03:50,600
Speaker 1: put it on now officially and let you know that

1231
01:03:50,640 --> 01:03:52,680
Speaker 1: I will be wearing this around my neck until it

1232
01:03:52,760 --> 01:03:56,120
Speaker 1: falls off because I don't take off necklaces. So I

1233
01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:58,520
Speaker 1: love it. Thank you so much. You guys never have

1234
01:03:58,560 --> 01:04:01,320
Speaker 1: to you know. I love what is on there. It's

1235
01:04:01,320 --> 01:04:05,400
Speaker 1: a little um it's like a little diamond, just a

1236
01:04:05,480 --> 01:04:08,280
Speaker 1: perfectly simple diamond. I fucking love it. It's so cute.

1237
01:04:08,320 --> 01:04:10,840
Speaker 1: I feel so stylish, and I love that someone else

1238
01:04:10,880 --> 01:04:13,080
Speaker 1: is wearing the other one. That's one of my besties.

1239
01:04:13,920 --> 01:04:23,160
Speaker 1: Al right, Next fran Tax Okay, next one is from Leo. Mhm, Hey, Nikki. Um.

1240
01:04:23,200 --> 01:04:26,120
Speaker 1: I was just thinking about your podcast and how much

1241
01:04:26,120 --> 01:04:28,880
Speaker 1: I love it, and I was kind of like why,

1242
01:04:29,280 --> 01:04:33,160
Speaker 1: and uh, I was thinking that you don't really talk

1243
01:04:33,200 --> 01:04:37,600
Speaker 1: about politics that much. And um, I think you mentioned

1244
01:04:37,640 --> 01:04:39,920
Speaker 1: at some point that you don't claim to know that

1245
01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:43,760
Speaker 1: much about politics. It's not exactly like your forte or anything.

1246
01:04:43,800 --> 01:04:48,760
Speaker 1: And uh, if or when people tell you that you

1247
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:51,760
Speaker 1: should know more about politics, I say no, like, thank

1248
01:04:51,800 --> 01:04:57,280
Speaker 1: you so much for what you've done. Um, if it's

1249
01:04:57,720 --> 01:05:01,440
Speaker 1: I have an escape from the can instant barrage of

1250
01:05:01,480 --> 01:05:07,040
Speaker 1: like political information, and this is an escape and it's amazing,

1251
01:05:07,120 --> 01:05:09,560
Speaker 1: and keep doing what you're doing. Don't look into it,

1252
01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:12,760
Speaker 1: don't let it be part of your podcast. Oh my god,

1253
01:05:12,800 --> 01:05:17,280
Speaker 1: I appreciate it's so much. It really helps me anyway.

1254
01:05:17,600 --> 01:05:21,360
Speaker 1: I hope everybody's having a good day. Thank you. Wait,

1255
01:05:21,600 --> 01:05:26,320
Speaker 1: what's his name? Leo? Leo? Fucking thank you. That is

1256
01:05:26,520 --> 01:05:29,920
Speaker 1: what I needed to hear, not just about my you know,

1257
01:05:29,920 --> 01:05:32,960
Speaker 1: insecurities about not knowing about politics, but like anything you know,

1258
01:05:33,040 --> 01:05:36,120
Speaker 1: like just stop worrying about what you don't like or

1259
01:05:36,160 --> 01:05:38,280
Speaker 1: what you're not good at, like, just focus on what

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01:05:38,320 --> 01:05:39,680
Speaker 1: you are good at and what you want to be

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01:05:39,720 --> 01:05:41,920
Speaker 1: good at. And if I wanted to be good at politics,

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01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:45,479
Speaker 1: I would figure it out, you know. Um. Thank you, Leo.

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01:05:45,800 --> 01:05:49,160
Speaker 1: And your voice sounds like Dan Savage. Um, and Dan

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01:05:49,200 --> 01:05:52,520
Speaker 1: Savage is one of my favorite voices, and it just

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01:05:52,600 --> 01:05:54,560
Speaker 1: sounds so I just feel like Dan Savage. Listen to

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01:05:54,640 --> 01:05:56,760
Speaker 1: my podcast, and I just got so fucking fluttered. And

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01:05:56,800 --> 01:06:00,440
Speaker 1: you sound so smart too, like Dan Savages so um,

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01:06:00,480 --> 01:06:02,560
Speaker 1: and you're obviously someone who knows a lot about politics

1269
01:06:02,560 --> 01:06:04,640
Speaker 1: and probably reads a lot about it, and so I'm

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01:06:04,640 --> 01:06:07,280
Speaker 1: just like appreciative that someone like I'm already putting you

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01:06:07,320 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 1: out of pedestal because you do know about politics, and

1272
01:06:09,480 --> 01:06:11,480
Speaker 1: which means I'm not on that pedestal with you. But

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01:06:11,520 --> 01:06:14,520
Speaker 1: you told me not to do that, so thankfully, Nikki.

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01:06:14,640 --> 01:06:16,840
Speaker 1: You know, I just love how like your podcast dum

1275
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:20,080
Speaker 1: you are, how dumb and stupid like you guys are,

1276
01:06:20,160 --> 01:06:22,200
Speaker 1: and like how you can't think of anything smart but

1277
01:06:22,280 --> 01:06:27,720
Speaker 1: don't try. Don't know. No, he doesn't make you smart.

1278
01:06:29,440 --> 01:06:30,880
Speaker 1: I know I did not take it that way, and

1279
01:06:31,120 --> 01:06:35,840
Speaker 1: we know you. Yeah, but there was that's wrong, that's funny. No,

1280
01:06:35,960 --> 01:06:38,080
Speaker 1: he's not wrong, And I guess what it's it's good

1281
01:06:38,120 --> 01:06:40,760
Speaker 1: to be to keep it simple, because honestly, I have

1282
01:06:40,800 --> 01:06:44,480
Speaker 1: no control over politics, and when I do read about them,

1283
01:06:44,520 --> 01:06:46,920
Speaker 1: I feel so angry. And I think a lot of

1284
01:06:46,920 --> 01:06:51,960
Speaker 1: people constantly consume news and they they feel like they

1285
01:06:51,960 --> 01:06:53,960
Speaker 1: can do something about it. And unless you know, you

1286
01:06:53,960 --> 01:06:59,000
Speaker 1: can vote and volunteer and you know, make calls and

1287
01:06:59,000 --> 01:07:01,360
Speaker 1: stuff like that, but you aren't going to do that stuff.

1288
01:07:01,440 --> 01:07:03,440
Speaker 1: Stop if you know in your heart like that's not

1289
01:07:03,440 --> 01:07:05,520
Speaker 1: where your energy is gonna go. Stop reading the news.

1290
01:07:05,600 --> 01:07:09,000
Speaker 1: You can't control it. So just fucking just there is

1291
01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:12,520
Speaker 1: something about like when you see like an insane like

1292
01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:18,080
Speaker 1: political person like online, it it's like somehow negates it

1293
01:07:18,160 --> 01:07:20,880
Speaker 1: and it's like normal. But if you see like a

1294
01:07:20,960 --> 01:07:27,160
Speaker 1: crazy political person in person, they have three newspapers and

1295
01:07:27,280 --> 01:07:30,240
Speaker 1: old stained like coffee cups that they got through Starbucks

1296
01:07:30,240 --> 01:07:32,880
Speaker 1: three days ago, but they're using it and getting refills,

1297
01:07:33,200 --> 01:07:36,360
Speaker 1: and they have crazy hair, and they always like have

1298
01:07:36,480 --> 01:07:40,520
Speaker 1: newspapers under their arm and they're walking like this, and

1299
01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:43,760
Speaker 1: they have like a too many layers of clothes on,

1300
01:07:44,000 --> 01:07:47,439
Speaker 1: and they just seem angry and bedraggled, and they're talking

1301
01:07:47,440 --> 01:07:51,680
Speaker 1: about like the Wig Party. I don't know about that,

1302
01:07:51,720 --> 01:07:54,320
Speaker 1: but um, did you see LOUI You you watch Louis

1303
01:07:54,320 --> 01:07:57,480
Speaker 1: News Special? Right? I did. I watched it and I thought,

1304
01:07:57,560 --> 01:08:01,560
Speaker 1: you know, I laughed a lot, but I wasn't like, Wow,

1305
01:08:01,600 --> 01:08:03,640
Speaker 1: this is going to change my perception about things. But dude,

1306
01:08:03,640 --> 01:08:06,600
Speaker 1: I've already been referencing things he laid out in there,

1307
01:08:07,240 --> 01:08:09,080
Speaker 1: like it's already changing the way I think about things,

1308
01:08:09,080 --> 01:08:11,520
Speaker 1: Like when my dog, I'm like, my dog like just

1309
01:08:11,600 --> 01:08:18,280
Speaker 1: hears and atensive that, Like that was so funny. And

1310
01:08:18,280 --> 01:08:21,080
Speaker 1: then also last night my friend Saralene, his grandma died

1311
01:08:21,400 --> 01:08:24,519
Speaker 1: and she told our group chat about it, and I

1312
01:08:24,560 --> 01:08:26,559
Speaker 1: was like saying, like, I'm so sorry she died. And

1313
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:30,439
Speaker 1: then I was like, actually, like death, Thank God for death,

1314
01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:32,800
Speaker 1: Like we have to realize, like people can't live forever.

1315
01:08:32,920 --> 01:08:35,000
Speaker 1: And Louis makes a point, He's like, can you imagine

1316
01:08:35,040 --> 01:08:38,360
Speaker 1: if people never died? Like we have people from the

1317
01:08:38,400 --> 01:08:41,719
Speaker 1: eleven hundreds being like, how do you work this QR code?

1318
01:08:41,720 --> 01:08:44,120
Speaker 1: Like we we can't even dolerate people in their sixties.

1319
01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:47,280
Speaker 1: Were like, just hap it, mom, like just scan it,

1320
01:08:47,400 --> 01:08:49,320
Speaker 1: Like we get so frustrated. Can you imagine we're like

1321
01:08:49,560 --> 01:08:53,960
Speaker 1: dealing with ponscious pilot and like, uh, you know the

1322
01:08:54,000 --> 01:08:59,720
Speaker 1: settlers of fucking Roanoke and we're like, just dad, the

1323
01:09:00,160 --> 01:09:02,640
Speaker 1: you just zoom in with your thong, Like it's just

1324
01:09:02,760 --> 01:09:06,080
Speaker 1: so funny to think about old people, Like that's the

1325
01:09:06,080 --> 01:09:08,000
Speaker 1: way to look at that he made a way for

1326
01:09:08,160 --> 01:09:11,960
Speaker 1: me to look at death and help my friend laugh

1327
01:09:11,960 --> 01:09:14,479
Speaker 1: about the fact that like, yeah, it's inevitable and it's

1328
01:09:14,520 --> 01:09:17,160
Speaker 1: just something you have to accept. And the opposite, if

1329
01:09:17,160 --> 01:09:19,200
Speaker 1: there were no death, that's not a world I want

1330
01:09:19,200 --> 01:09:20,680
Speaker 1: to live in either. And I just thought that was

1331
01:09:20,760 --> 01:09:27,000
Speaker 1: kind of powerful. Final thought. Yeah, I thought his elephant, like,

1332
01:09:27,439 --> 01:09:29,639
Speaker 1: we're giving an elephant an m r I, Like we're

1333
01:09:29,680 --> 01:09:33,559
Speaker 1: doing that to them, like they just they just they

1334
01:09:33,640 --> 01:09:36,360
Speaker 1: just But we also give them the cancer that they

1335
01:09:36,439 --> 01:09:39,920
Speaker 1: get by feeding them food and didn't putting them in

1336
01:09:40,040 --> 01:09:42,920
Speaker 1: captivity and causing them stress. So I think we owe

1337
01:09:42,960 --> 01:09:45,000
Speaker 1: it to them too. I had an argument against that,

1338
01:09:45,640 --> 01:09:47,880
Speaker 1: and I thought that whole thing about like, you know,

1339
01:09:47,920 --> 01:09:50,600
Speaker 1: if you're six hundred pounds, you have to go to

1340
01:09:50,680 --> 01:09:52,960
Speaker 1: the zoo to get an m r I because they

1341
01:09:52,960 --> 01:09:55,879
Speaker 1: don't have them at the hospitals. And yet we we

1342
01:09:55,880 --> 01:09:58,760
Speaker 1: we've you know, fall over ourselves to make bathrooms for

1343
01:09:58,840 --> 01:10:02,439
Speaker 1: trans people, but yet you know, fat people were just like,

1344
01:10:02,439 --> 01:10:04,000
Speaker 1: go to the fucking zoo to get an m r I.

1345
01:10:04,080 --> 01:10:07,400
Speaker 1: But the thing is, a bathroom takes no money to

1346
01:10:07,920 --> 01:10:11,720
Speaker 1: like just say hey, this is all genders. We it's nothing.

1347
01:10:11,720 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 1: Whereas building an m R I to fit someone that's

1348
01:10:14,840 --> 01:10:19,320
Speaker 1: six underground is expensive. And that's that's why it's not

1349
01:10:19,400 --> 01:10:21,840
Speaker 1: because we And that doesn't mean we shouldn't do it.

1350
01:10:21,960 --> 01:10:25,320
Speaker 1: But I hate when people make points and then they

1351
01:10:25,360 --> 01:10:29,160
Speaker 1: throw trans people under the bus to prove their point,

1352
01:10:29,240 --> 01:10:34,479
Speaker 1: like like even Chappelle, it's like, just we could still

1353
01:10:34,520 --> 01:10:38,760
Speaker 1: need to work on racism without saying that trans don't

1354
01:10:38,800 --> 01:10:42,640
Speaker 1: deserve things. Trans people don't deserve things, and that's we

1355
01:10:42,640 --> 01:10:45,479
Speaker 1: can both can be true. You can still want to

1356
01:10:45,520 --> 01:10:50,400
Speaker 1: make transfer people feel good and acknowledge their persecution and

1357
01:10:50,400 --> 01:10:54,679
Speaker 1: and also say we haven't fixed the race issue both.

1358
01:10:54,800 --> 01:10:57,360
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be either. Or when you throw

1359
01:10:57,400 --> 01:10:59,360
Speaker 1: trans people under the bus to prove your point, I'm

1360
01:10:59,400 --> 01:11:01,200
Speaker 1: not really a out of that, and I think it

1361
01:11:01,240 --> 01:11:05,120
Speaker 1: doesn't invalidate your point. It just doesn't for me help anything.

1362
01:11:05,200 --> 01:11:08,920
Speaker 1: And it's making punching someone so that you can build

1363
01:11:08,920 --> 01:11:11,360
Speaker 1: someone else up does It's the it's argument we said

1364
01:11:11,360 --> 01:11:13,640
Speaker 1: the other day about when you get confronted and you go,

1365
01:11:13,680 --> 01:11:16,200
Speaker 1: will you do this? It's like, but that doesn't it

1366
01:11:16,240 --> 01:11:18,960
Speaker 1: doesn't have to factor in. It can just stand alone

1367
01:11:19,000 --> 01:11:22,200
Speaker 1: that you're that you did this thing that upsets someone.

1368
01:11:22,240 --> 01:11:25,559
Speaker 1: You don't have to it because it doesn't. You can

1369
01:11:25,560 --> 01:11:27,840
Speaker 1: acknowledge on on a separate issue, but it doesn't have

1370
01:11:27,920 --> 01:11:30,280
Speaker 1: to be brought into that argument to validate something more.

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01:11:33,560 --> 01:11:38,880
Speaker 1: And the fucking trans thing, you know, Leo knows I

1372
01:11:38,880 --> 01:11:44,240
Speaker 1: don't get political, but that just be nice to them

1373
01:11:44,280 --> 01:11:47,479
Speaker 1: if it doesn't. How often do you have to go

1374
01:11:47,560 --> 01:11:50,559
Speaker 1: through your day and encounter trans people and and figure

1375
01:11:50,560 --> 01:11:53,400
Speaker 1: out what's pronoun to use? And it's it's so much?

1376
01:11:53,680 --> 01:11:55,760
Speaker 1: How often does that happen to you? Oh? Maybe you

1377
01:11:56,120 --> 01:11:58,559
Speaker 1: know the barista is trans where at the place you work,

1378
01:11:58,760 --> 01:12:00,639
Speaker 1: and you get a little bit gared that you might

1379
01:12:00,680 --> 01:12:03,840
Speaker 1: blurt out thanks, dude, like, oh that's is that the

1380
01:12:03,880 --> 01:12:06,160
Speaker 1: inconvenience because you get a little bit nervous about using

1381
01:12:06,200 --> 01:12:09,479
Speaker 1: the wrong pronom deal with it. They have to educate

1382
01:12:09,520 --> 01:12:11,200
Speaker 1: everyone about their pronom They have to live in a

1383
01:12:11,439 --> 01:12:12,720
Speaker 1: they have to be born in a body they don't

1384
01:12:12,760 --> 01:12:15,880
Speaker 1: feel comfortable in. I know you don't understand that because

1385
01:12:15,880 --> 01:12:17,719
Speaker 1: you were lucky enough to be born in the body

1386
01:12:17,800 --> 01:12:21,200
Speaker 1: that uh presents the way you feel inside, but they weren't.

1387
01:12:21,479 --> 01:12:23,920
Speaker 1: So fucking shut up and just take your coffee and

1388
01:12:23,920 --> 01:12:27,080
Speaker 1: stop bitching about it. And yeah, I have a right

1389
01:12:27,120 --> 01:12:29,400
Speaker 1: to bitch about you because you're the problem, not trans people.

1390
01:12:30,200 --> 01:12:35,120
Speaker 1: Final statement just gets so fucking mad. I like the

1391
01:12:35,160 --> 01:12:39,599
Speaker 1: banana bit too. That was so good. I mean, there

1392
01:12:39,640 --> 01:12:44,439
Speaker 1: were so many the analogy with his pants at his

1393
01:12:44,479 --> 01:12:48,240
Speaker 1: ankles taken all the way down. Yeah, you guys gotta

1394
01:12:48,360 --> 01:12:51,360
Speaker 1: I mean any regardless of how you feel about louis

1395
01:12:51,479 --> 01:12:55,639
Speaker 1: like the bits again, let's take the all that stuff

1396
01:12:55,640 --> 01:12:59,599
Speaker 1: out of it. No matter what he is, you can't

1397
01:12:59,640 --> 01:13:03,200
Speaker 1: help say that that's funny. Like, guess what now, I'm

1398
01:13:03,240 --> 01:13:05,599
Speaker 1: not comparing him to Michael Jackson, but I'm still gonna

1399
01:13:05,680 --> 01:13:08,280
Speaker 1: dance to Thriller. Even though I believe in my heart

1400
01:13:08,280 --> 01:13:12,200
Speaker 1: of hearts that Michael Jackson penetrated little boys and sucked

1401
01:13:12,240 --> 01:13:14,599
Speaker 1: them up for lives for the lift, I still think

1402
01:13:14,680 --> 01:13:18,320
Speaker 1: Thriller is good. I had this thought the other day

1403
01:13:18,400 --> 01:13:21,720
Speaker 1: in the shower about Morgan Wallen, right, who said the

1404
01:13:21,840 --> 01:13:25,560
Speaker 1: N word, and to think like extremely he said it

1405
01:13:25,600 --> 01:13:28,280
Speaker 1: to his white friends. Right, he said to his friends

1406
01:13:28,520 --> 01:13:30,880
Speaker 1: when he say good night when he was dropped. Yes,

1407
01:13:31,320 --> 01:13:34,880
Speaker 1: there's context there, but you should never say whatever. My

1408
01:13:34,960 --> 01:13:37,680
Speaker 1: point is is that liberals thought you were going to

1409
01:13:37,800 --> 01:13:41,320
Speaker 1: cancel a white country artist with a Mullet for saying

1410
01:13:41,360 --> 01:13:43,880
Speaker 1: the N word, right, which is crazy to think that

1411
01:13:43,880 --> 01:13:45,760
Speaker 1: that would That's why people said about the N word

1412
01:13:45,760 --> 01:13:47,800
Speaker 1: tapes about Trump if they come out that he said

1413
01:13:47,800 --> 01:13:51,439
Speaker 1: the N word him more, what are you kidding me?

1414
01:13:51,800 --> 01:13:56,360
Speaker 1: And then the people, the extreme people that love Morgan

1415
01:13:56,400 --> 01:14:03,840
Speaker 1: Wallen more because because start trying to get you cut

1416
01:14:03,880 --> 01:14:07,280
Speaker 1: out again, you're cut out. We can't hear you. We

1417
01:14:07,320 --> 01:14:10,200
Speaker 1: can't hear you. We can't hear you. What if I

1418
01:14:10,240 --> 01:14:12,519
Speaker 1: just canceled him because he's going off about Moana. We

1419
01:14:12,520 --> 01:14:14,080
Speaker 1: gotta finish out the show anyway. So this is a

1420
01:14:14,080 --> 01:14:18,400
Speaker 1: great place to end with Andrew being sorry Andrew, we

1421
01:14:18,479 --> 01:14:21,320
Speaker 1: gotta go, guys, I'm sorry, Um, and no one's got

1422
01:14:21,360 --> 01:14:23,040
Speaker 1: to get to therapy, right no, uh yeah, have my

1423
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:26,479
Speaker 1: therapy today. Yeah. Um, I'm so jealous. I would love

1424
01:14:26,520 --> 01:14:30,800
Speaker 1: to go. Yeah you will, Okay, what finish your thought

1425
01:14:30,840 --> 01:14:34,880
Speaker 1: and then we gotta go. My point is you don't

1426
01:14:34,880 --> 01:14:37,479
Speaker 1: have to buy twenty more albums to prove your fanship

1427
01:14:37,520 --> 01:14:40,320
Speaker 1: for Morgan. You can still listen to Whiskey Glasses every

1428
01:14:40,360 --> 01:14:41,680
Speaker 1: once in a while, but you don't need to get

1429
01:14:41,720 --> 01:14:44,479
Speaker 1: a tattooed on your asshole, right, like you don't need

1430
01:14:44,520 --> 01:14:47,320
Speaker 1: to go the other way. Like, but to me, Um,

1431
01:14:47,360 --> 01:14:51,320
Speaker 1: if I care enough about trans rights, I can do

1432
01:14:51,479 --> 01:14:53,320
Speaker 1: that can be part of my identity. And if if

1433
01:14:53,360 --> 01:14:57,240
Speaker 1: Morgan supporting Morgan Wallen is you're But that's the thing.

1434
01:14:57,240 --> 01:15:01,000
Speaker 1: It's like when Dave Chappelle said, Hey, you don't need

1435
01:15:01,040 --> 01:15:03,120
Speaker 1: to name this theater after me if more people who

1436
01:15:03,200 --> 01:15:07,520
Speaker 1: don't want it donate more money than me. Um, that

1437
01:15:07,520 --> 01:15:09,960
Speaker 1: that's I don't know what what do you feel about that?

1438
01:15:10,040 --> 01:15:13,639
Speaker 1: Do you feel like he's do you feel that way

1439
01:15:13,640 --> 01:15:15,880
Speaker 1: about that where he's asking like, Okay, people don'tate money

1440
01:15:15,880 --> 01:15:20,920
Speaker 1: if you like me pretty much? Um, I mean, I

1441
01:15:20,920 --> 01:15:23,519
Speaker 1: guess it's to a cause and not just his bank account,

1442
01:15:23,760 --> 01:15:28,639
Speaker 1: so maybe the greater good is better in that circumstance. Yes,

1443
01:15:29,400 --> 01:15:32,880
Speaker 1: all right, Well this has been a great episode. We're

1444
01:15:32,880 --> 01:15:35,719
Speaker 1: taking next week off. Stay tuned to Nikki Glazer Pod

1445
01:15:35,760 --> 01:15:38,120
Speaker 1: for Lives. We'll go live. Put the little alert on

1446
01:15:38,200 --> 01:15:40,479
Speaker 1: so you find out if we are going live. Andrew, Um,

1447
01:15:40,560 --> 01:15:42,120
Speaker 1: I hope to see you on there at some point.

1448
01:15:42,240 --> 01:15:45,360
Speaker 1: Have so much fun in Michigan. Oh yeah, thank you?

1449
01:15:45,400 --> 01:15:47,960
Speaker 1: And you have fun being a fruit roll up today

1450
01:15:48,280 --> 01:15:50,200
Speaker 1: and it was fun um living with you. We didn't

1451
01:15:50,240 --> 01:15:54,840
Speaker 1: we we don't live together anymore. Wait what I guess. Yeah,

1452
01:15:54,880 --> 01:15:58,160
Speaker 1: because I'm leaving the seven and you're out by the

1453
01:15:58,160 --> 01:16:03,920
Speaker 1: time I get back. Well that's a bombshell. Um, the

1454
01:16:04,280 --> 01:16:07,599
Speaker 1: I get back on here, yeah, maybe the second, as

1455
01:16:07,600 --> 01:16:10,559
Speaker 1: early as the second, as late as you know, I'll

1456
01:16:10,560 --> 01:16:13,040
Speaker 1: be moving my stuff. But yeah, I won't be staying

1457
01:16:13,080 --> 01:16:15,880
Speaker 1: another night while you're staying another night. Yeah, moving doesn't

1458
01:16:15,920 --> 01:16:18,000
Speaker 1: count as like living there when you're just like moving. Yeah,

1459
01:16:18,000 --> 01:16:19,960
Speaker 1: you can still come by. You're going to change the locks.

1460
01:16:20,080 --> 01:16:22,439
Speaker 1: It was a hell of a year, so fun this

1461
01:16:22,520 --> 01:16:25,840
Speaker 1: came of it. So happy new Year to everyone. Um,

1462
01:16:26,520 --> 01:16:30,120
Speaker 1: I love you so much. I can't believe a year

1463
01:16:30,160 --> 01:16:32,280
Speaker 1: ago you guys weren't in my lives in the way

1464
01:16:32,320 --> 01:16:35,320
Speaker 1: that you are. And it's just I'm so grateful for

1465
01:16:35,360 --> 01:16:37,600
Speaker 1: every one of you, and Noah and Andrew. Thank you

1466
01:16:37,640 --> 01:16:41,240
Speaker 1: so much. Um. Yeah, we've learned a lot this year.

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Speaker 1: We've been through a lot. Um. I hope you all

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Speaker 1: have a great holiday and that you stay grounded and

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Speaker 1: you be nice to yourselves and you indulge in the

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Speaker 1: things that feel good and don't beat yourself up about indulging.

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Speaker 1: Just be good to yourself. That's my wish for you.

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Speaker 1: Um yeah, have fun, don't beat yourself up. Indulge like

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Speaker 1: celebrate working hard all year or maybe not working hard,

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Speaker 1: being a lazy piece of ship. And celebrate like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I was lazy this year because I needed to be

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Speaker 1: celebrate whatever it is at the end of the year.

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Speaker 1: It's the only time we really get to indulged in that.

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Speaker 1: So make sure you feel it. Do it. I'm demanding

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Speaker 1: that you do it. And if someone goes what or

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Speaker 1: two working today, well, I was told by Nikki that

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Speaker 1: I had to do something nice for myself, which is

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Speaker 1: laying bat all day on, going TikTok. Do it. Whatever

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Speaker 1: makes you feel good, It's the time to do it.

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Speaker 1: Andrew any final words, final word? All right, thanks guys, Noah,

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Speaker 1: love you. Happy holidays, um, happy New Year, and we'll

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Speaker 1: see you in the new year. Guys, uh, don't be

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Speaker 1: care and do