WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: Age Is Just A Bummer

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<v Speaker 1>Second, every guy has been there before. You sit down

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<v Speaker 1>at a restaurant and you're hanging out, and then the

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<v Speaker 1>waitress walks up and says hello, and you instantly realize

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<v Speaker 1>that she initiated a conversation with you, so she must

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<v Speaker 1>think you're attractive. So you throw her some smooth lines

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<v Speaker 1>like yeah, I'll take an electric lemonade, and you keep

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<v Speaker 1>those coming, and there's a big tip in your future.

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<v Speaker 1>Just let them know that you're a power player. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And then when you sign the bill, you leave like

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<v Speaker 1>a twenty six percent tip to let her know you

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<v Speaker 1>are making the big dough. Yeah, And you write your

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<v Speaker 1>phone number on the receipt so she can call you

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<v Speaker 1>later and you two can go out for a romantic evening. Exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's exactly what happened to Mary Ellen, who's on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone right now. She was serving a table and

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<v Speaker 1>some dude hit her up, and now he's not calling

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<v Speaker 1>her back, and she's wondering why you actually you actually

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<v Speaker 1>fell for that. I usually don't, but it seems different.

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<v Speaker 1>Was he as smooth as I described or was it

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<v Speaker 1>even better? He was a little less smooth than that,

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<v Speaker 1>a little less smooth. Yeah, he didn't drop the electric

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<v Speaker 1>lemonade thing. Did he definitely not? That gets the servers

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<v Speaker 1>every single time. Man, you stop your sugary drink. So

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<v Speaker 1>your email said that this guy was actually somebody who

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<v Speaker 1>you waited on. How did that go down? How do

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<v Speaker 1>you get your number? So he was super cool and

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<v Speaker 1>definitely different than all the other creepy dudes that hit

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<v Speaker 1>on me at the bar. What's his name, by the way, Tommy, Tommy,

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<v Speaker 1>And you're at a bar, Well, this is happening. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I cocktail atris at a bar, and he was at

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<v Speaker 1>one of my bar tables where I was serving food

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<v Speaker 1>and drink. Awesome. So did he actually ask you for

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<v Speaker 1>your phone number or did he tried the thing of

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<v Speaker 1>like leaving it on the receive. No, he actually did

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<v Speaker 1>ask me at the end, and he did it really respectfully,

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<v Speaker 1>and this was the only time that I ever actually

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<v Speaker 1>went for it. What did he say specifically? He said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure this happens to you all the time, but

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<v Speaker 1>you seem like a really cool girl. You've done such

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<v Speaker 1>a good job of taking care of me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>would love to take you out at a date. If

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<v Speaker 1>I could give you my number and you could, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you can call me if you decide to do that

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<v Speaker 1>nettle pressure. That all sounds nice except for that you've

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<v Speaker 1>done a really good job taking care of me part.

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<v Speaker 1>That kind of creeped me out a little bit. I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta be honest, No, it wasn't. It wasn't like I thought.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't creepy. Yeah, it was like, you know, it

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<v Speaker 1>was his turn to take care of her for a night,

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<v Speaker 1>is the way I read it. Plus, he like dropped

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<v Speaker 1>in that nice compliment in the beginning about how this

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<v Speaker 1>must happen to you all the time because they're so sexy.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely all right, And what did you guys do for

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<v Speaker 1>your date? I love to go dancing and one of

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<v Speaker 1>my favorite DJs was in, so we decided we'd go

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<v Speaker 1>to his show. Oh yeah, which was I was really

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<v Speaker 1>excited about. And on my way there to meet him,

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<v Speaker 1>he texts me and says that he needs to reschedule.

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<v Speaker 1>That sucks. While you were on your way to the club. Wow, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he said it was for an emergency. Do you do

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<v Speaker 1>you think because as soon as you said dancing, I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's kind of risky with a guy, Like either guys

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<v Speaker 1>are into it or they're very adamantly against dancing. I

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<v Speaker 1>know that I really thought about, guys, And when we

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<v Speaker 1>were trying to decide what we were going to do,

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<v Speaker 1>he let me choose, and they said, well I really

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<v Speaker 1>liked to dance. Is about something you liked? He said,

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<v Speaker 1>he loves to dance, so he said he actually liked it.

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<v Speaker 1>But then he canceled on you right before you got there. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm surprised you even want to do a second date

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<v Speaker 1>update with him. Well, I've even told you the worst part.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys, we set out the second date and he

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<v Speaker 1>canceled what he canceled on you twice? And you still

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<v Speaker 1>want to call him? I just I don't know. There

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<v Speaker 1>was something about him. There was something different the day

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<v Speaker 1>that I served him, and then the next time we

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<v Speaker 1>spoke over the phone. It was just a really good

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<v Speaker 1>conversation and he just didn't seem like other guys. Is hot,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't he He's really hot? Okay? But I mean, are

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<v Speaker 1>you the only one in this conversation right now that

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<v Speaker 1>believes that maybe he actually had two emergencies? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought about that. That dawned on me. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe he's got a girlfriend or a wife like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I'd like to get to the bottom of it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd like to know. And I don't understand why he

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't just say something or you know, not pursue me.

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<v Speaker 1>You just want to find out why he's blowing you

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<v Speaker 1>off twice? Yeah, okay, and rude. How did you respond

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<v Speaker 1>to him after he ditched you the second time? The

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<v Speaker 1>second time he canceled on me, he did give me

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<v Speaker 1>a day in advanced notice, so oh that's nice. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to call him. I was annoyed, but at

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<v Speaker 1>least I wasn't on my way there and haven't wasted

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<v Speaker 1>my time. And you haven't heard from him since he

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<v Speaker 1>canceled that second time. We've texted back and forth a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of times, just like really short words, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to get to the bottom of this. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to know if there's another woman in the picture

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<v Speaker 1>or what his deal is. Okay, well, we'll play a song,

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<v Speaker 1>come back, call him and get your second day update.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, great, thank you, that's what I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>cancel on you right before we do it, just hang on, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>brooking jubil in the morning, I'm about to use some

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<v Speaker 1>very strong language, so be prepared. Okay, I am baffled.

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<v Speaker 1>Stop it. Yeah, no, be fuddled. Yeah, tell me to

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<v Speaker 1>close my ears. Thank you. Sorry, I just had to

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<v Speaker 1>say it. Very confused about why the girl for the

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<v Speaker 1>second day update today is not getting a call back.

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<v Speaker 1>Her name is Mary Ellen. She's actually on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>in Mary Ellen. I'm sorry you had to hear that day. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just don't get it if you're just tuning in.

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<v Speaker 1>Mary Helen works at a bar. She gets hit on

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<v Speaker 1>all the time by dudes, which happens yeah, and normally

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<v Speaker 1>she turns them down. But she actually said yes to

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<v Speaker 1>a guy named Tommy and they've been texting back and

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<v Speaker 1>forth to go out on a date, but twice he's

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<v Speaker 1>blown her off. One when she was on the way

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<v Speaker 1>to the date she wanted to go dancing. Some DJ

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<v Speaker 1>that she really likes was in town and he texted

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<v Speaker 1>her right before saying I'm not gonna make it. And

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<v Speaker 1>the other time was they scheduled a make update and

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<v Speaker 1>he canceled the day before. So she's wondering why he

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<v Speaker 1>would cancel on her, and I'm wondering the same thing.

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<v Speaker 1>How does a cute waitress get blown off twice and

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<v Speaker 1>then still want to do a second date. Update that

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<v Speaker 1>probably makes her feel better, jubile. That's what's confusing me

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<v Speaker 1>so much, Mary Ellen. Yeah, me too, I'm confused. I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to get to the bottom of it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and you sound pretty pessimistic, like you were saying maybe

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<v Speaker 1>he's married. I mean, what if he actually has a legit?

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse you do want to go out with him, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to go out with him, as long

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<v Speaker 1>as he doesn't cancel on me a third time. Well

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<v Speaker 1>that is a good point, all right. Well, if you

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<v Speaker 1>guys agreed to a second date after this whole thing,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll make sure it happens right now. We won't let

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<v Speaker 1>him off the phone until you two are taking in

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<v Speaker 1>the same space. Okay, Yeah, that sounds like a good plan. Okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>here I go. I'm gonna Dallas phone number right now. Okay, Hello, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>can I speak to Tommy? Yeah, speaking, Hey Tommy, how

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<v Speaker 1>are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in

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<v Speaker 1>the Morning. I'm just say it one more times. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Tommy, this is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in

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<v Speaker 1>the Morning. You're there, yea? What's going on? Tommy? Can

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<v Speaker 1>you hear me? Tommy? I can hear you, but I

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<v Speaker 1>just don't know who you are. Oh, okay, good, I

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<v Speaker 1>was worried you couldn't hear me. Tommy. This is Jewbil

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<v Speaker 1>from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Are you familiar?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I? What are you familiar? Do you have you

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<v Speaker 1>heard of Brook and Jewel in the Morning before? No? Oh? Okay, good,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a radio show. Great, awesome. Yeah. We're calling you

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<v Speaker 1>today because one of our listeners emailed us about you. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>are you curious to know who would email us? Uh? Huh.

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<v Speaker 1>I still feel like Tommy has no idea what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>And so, Tommy, you recently met a girl named Mary Ellen? Right, Yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>well I know that because Mary Ellen emailed us to

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<v Speaker 1>see if we could get a hold of you, because

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<v Speaker 1>apparently you've scheduled a date with her twice now and

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<v Speaker 1>blown her off each time. Okay, is that what she said?

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<v Speaker 1>That's what she said. Yeah, And so we're getting you

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone to find out why you keep blowing

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<v Speaker 1>her off. To be honest with you, I've just been

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<v Speaker 1>really conflicted about it. And why is that? She thinks

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<v Speaker 1>Just so you know that you're probably either married or

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<v Speaker 1>have a girlfriend no. Is that a nervous laugh because

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<v Speaker 1>you're lying to or is that a nervous laugh because

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<v Speaker 1>you're surprised she thinks that. No, I swear to God,

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely don't have a girlfriend or a wife. Okay, start,

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<v Speaker 1>we got that out of the way. Why won't you

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<v Speaker 1>go out on a date with her? Then? Why do

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<v Speaker 1>you keep scheduling and then bailing? You know, it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>my own insecurity to be honest withy um. I just

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<v Speaker 1>I just didn't feel comfortable with it when I thought

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<v Speaker 1>about it. Male pattern baldness is that it is. Women

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<v Speaker 1>are okay with that. No, I'm not balding. Okay, you

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<v Speaker 1>said insecure, and that's instantly where I went. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>he's got to be balding. What No, No, that is

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<v Speaker 1>not the case. How can you be insecure? You're the

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<v Speaker 1>guy that walks into a bar asks a hot bartender

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<v Speaker 1>out and she actually says yes to you out of

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<v Speaker 1>the thousands of guys that hit on her all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>To tell you to Ruth, I'm not usually that impulsive,

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<v Speaker 1>and I only did that because I really was drawn

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<v Speaker 1>to her. Marilyn is really interesting, She's really lovely, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I thought she was great. Great, sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of girl that you want to blow off

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<v Speaker 1>while she's on the way to a club to meet you.

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<v Speaker 1>Usually when you describe somebody like that, you're like, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't wait until they just get right to the door

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<v Speaker 1>of where rise's have a date and then tell him

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not showing up. You know, listen in all cincinaty.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that in the end she probably wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 1>happy with this. Why what is wrong with you? Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, so you want you want to hear the

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<v Speaker 1>whole truth, then, yeah, that'd be great. I'm assuming she

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<v Speaker 1>probably does too. Um. We talked on the phone for

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<v Speaker 1>quite a while the night that we met, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was great. It's a really wonderful conversation. And after I

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<v Speaker 1>got off the phone with her, UM, I looked her

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<v Speaker 1>up on social media and I thought she was a

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<v Speaker 1>lot older than she actually is. Okay, Um, she's twenty three, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what's wrong with that? Tiny young? How old are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm forty two and I'm divorced, you know a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of years. Um, okay, so you're almost twenty years older

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<v Speaker 1>than her. Yeah, and that bothers you? Yeah, jack pot

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<v Speaker 1>it's not me, it's for her. I don't I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do that to her, if that makes any sense.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want her to date a geriatric yank? Ye?

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<v Speaker 1>But come on, I mean, should you leave that up

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<v Speaker 1>to her? She's gonna have to explain this to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>her friends that we go out with, and her family,

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<v Speaker 1>like meeting her parents. Like, I never for a million

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<v Speaker 1>years thought that I would ever be that guy. You know, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I can see what you mean. They're a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>It would be awkward to be twenty years older than

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<v Speaker 1>the girl that you're dating and be like, Okay, I've

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<v Speaker 1>officially become like midlife crisis man. But if you guys

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<v Speaker 1>have a real connection and you think that she's sophisticated

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<v Speaker 1>and intelligent, then why not? I think that's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>a simple way of looking at it, And it is

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<v Speaker 1>really a lot more complicated than Matt, especially on my end.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Okay, wouldn't wouldn't you be curious to find

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<v Speaker 1>out what she thinks? Not? Really, I'm not exactly proud

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<v Speaker 1>to be in this situation. I think she's just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of going to mock and ridicule me. Can you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>just guys, just tell her. Okay, well, how about I

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<v Speaker 1>just tell you that you actually kind of told her

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<v Speaker 1>because she's on the other line listening and wants to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to you. What. Yeah, Mary ellen him. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>this was I thought she said an email. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know that this was a phone thing. I thought this

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<v Speaker 1>she wrote a letter. She did, and then we got

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<v Speaker 1>her on the phone and told her to hang on

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<v Speaker 1>while we talk to you to see if we get

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<v Speaker 1>the answer. And now it's time for her to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to you. Yeah, one way to sum it up. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not really sure how to take this. Oh man, um,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I uh, did you hear the whole thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you hear everything? Yeah? You don't look forty two

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<v Speaker 1>kind of you know, you don't look twenty three. Wait

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<v Speaker 1>a minute, I don't know how to take that. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean you said I look a lot older older. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mean like you look old. I just I

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<v Speaker 1>mean you you look like a like a like a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh whoa, you look like you've been experienced. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>just mean you look more mature, you know not, and

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<v Speaker 1>you sound more mature. I didn't mean to think that, you,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, look like some old broad. That's not saying

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<v Speaker 1>at all. No, you're amazing and you're beautiful actually, and

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<v Speaker 1>you're when I was twenty three, you you, you were,

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<v Speaker 1>would be the one I would jumped about. I tell

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<v Speaker 1>you what, Mary Ellen, if I were twenty years younger,

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<v Speaker 1>the things we do. But does it bother you that

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<v Speaker 1>he's forty two. I mean, I'm just surprised that he

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't have told me that ahead of time. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>think I had to, Like, I had no idea. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>when you looked me up on social media and you

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<v Speaker 1>found that out, you could have texted me or said

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<v Speaker 1>something like, given me the respect at least to say

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<v Speaker 1>something so that I'm not sitting here wondering and trying

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out what's going on. I'm sorry, I just

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<v Speaker 1>I've never been in this situation, and I honestly was

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<v Speaker 1>really desperate to avoid having this conversation. But wasn't it

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<v Speaker 1>kind of a clue? And she said her favorite DJ

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<v Speaker 1>was in town and she wanted to go dancing. That

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<v Speaker 1>she wasn't thirty five, all right, So now you know

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<v Speaker 1>why I wanted to cancel, all right, So you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>who's this tiesto guy? I knew if I was going

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<v Speaker 1>to go there that night, that I was just going

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<v Speaker 1>to embarrass myself. Hey, that just doesn't sound like Jimmy

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<v Speaker 1>Buffett at all. This is terrible. I'm not battled, Tommy.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not a parent head, grateful, dead guy. I just

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<v Speaker 1>wish that you would have given me the option and

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<v Speaker 1>the choice of whether or not I wanted to go

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<v Speaker 1>out on a date with you because of your age. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>tell me how about this? Would you like to go

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<v Speaker 1>out on a second date with Mary Ellen? We will

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<v Speaker 1>pay for it. What could it hurt? You know what?

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<v Speaker 1>She can't really make this decision and don't And I

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<v Speaker 1>don't mean this to say in any contest anyway, but

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know what I know, Like I know what

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to discover. You can discover that I go

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<v Speaker 1>to bed really early. You kind of discover the highlight

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<v Speaker 1>going to bed at nine o'clock at night. Canect here

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<v Speaker 1>for a second drink? Go ahead? Sorry to interrupt you, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly I don't know if I want to go

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<v Speaker 1>on a second date anymore. Really, Yeah, after listening to

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<v Speaker 1>all this, like you can't make the decision for me,

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<v Speaker 1>and you you think you've got it all figured out

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<v Speaker 1>and If that's the case, I don't want to deal

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<v Speaker 1>with that anyways. It kind of sounds like we're listening

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<v Speaker 1>to her daughter and her dad. Are you you don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how I feel? I know everything? Do you think

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<v Speaker 1>you know? Everything? Is just kids getting better in the morning?

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<v Speaker 1>Text in at seven, eight, five to nine too. This

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<v Speaker 1>guy's an idiot. I'm forty six and not old. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he's an idiot to forty two year olds. Yeah, talking

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<v Speaker 1>about Today's a second date update if you missed it.

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<v Speaker 1>Mary Ellen wanted to call a guy named Tommy. She

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<v Speaker 1>was actually waiting on him, and he asked for her

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<v Speaker 1>phone number. She gave it to him. They went out

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<v Speaker 1>on a date. The reason he wasn't calling back was

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<v Speaker 1>because on the date he found out that she was

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<v Speaker 1>actually twenty three. He thought she was older and he's

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<v Speaker 1>in his forties, so he felt like she was too

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<v Speaker 1>young to date him. Wow. Yeah, which is strange because

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<v Speaker 1>normally it goes the other way, Like a forty something

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<v Speaker 1>year old dude gets to go out with a twenty

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<v Speaker 1>three year old and they're like, yeah, I'm man. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's so gross when they act that way. Yeah. He

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<v Speaker 1>was really condescending to her though, like you don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what you were. Yeah, he really was. At the end,

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<v Speaker 1>I know she was an intelligent woman, like she could

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<v Speaker 1>make her own decisions. Yeah. She sounded like she was

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<v Speaker 1>put together her and understand and was like, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't mind dating a forty something year old. Until until

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<v Speaker 1>the end of it. After he said that, like, look,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't make the decision for you, but I've got

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you you don't know what you want, She's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>screw you. Remember if you want to do a second

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<v Speaker 1>y up, they all have to do his email the show,

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<v Speaker 1>and we will call the person who didn't call you

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<v Speaker 1>back to