Speaker 1: Second, every guy has been there before. You sit down
Speaker 1: at a restaurant and you're hanging out, and then the
Speaker 1: waitress walks up and says hello, and you instantly realize
Speaker 1: that she initiated a conversation with you, so she must
Speaker 1: think you're attractive. So you throw her some smooth lines
Speaker 1: like yeah, I'll take an electric lemonade, and you keep
Speaker 1: those coming, and there's a big tip in your future.
Speaker 1: Just let them know that you're a power player. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then when you sign the bill, you leave like
Speaker 1: a twenty six percent tip to let her know you
Speaker 1: are making the big dough. Yeah, And you write your
Speaker 1: phone number on the receipt so she can call you
Speaker 1: later and you two can go out for a romantic evening. Exactly.
Speaker 1: And that's exactly what happened to Mary Ellen, who's on
Speaker 1: the phone right now. She was serving a table and
Speaker 1: some dude hit her up, and now he's not calling
Speaker 1: her back, and she's wondering why you actually you actually
Speaker 1: fell for that. I usually don't, but it seems different.
Speaker 1: Was he as smooth as I described or was it
Speaker 1: even better? He was a little less smooth than that,
Speaker 1: a little less smooth. Yeah, he didn't drop the electric
Speaker 1: lemonade thing. Did he definitely not? That gets the servers
Speaker 1: every single time. Man, you stop your sugary drink. So
Speaker 1: your email said that this guy was actually somebody who
Speaker 1: you waited on. How did that go down? How do
Speaker 1: you get your number? So he was super cool and
Speaker 1: definitely different than all the other creepy dudes that hit
Speaker 1: on me at the bar. What's his name, by the way, Tommy, Tommy,
Speaker 1: And you're at a bar, Well, this is happening. Yes,
Speaker 1: I cocktail atris at a bar, and he was at
Speaker 1: one of my bar tables where I was serving food
Speaker 1: and drink. Awesome. So did he actually ask you for
Speaker 1: your phone number or did he tried the thing of
Speaker 1: like leaving it on the receive. No, he actually did
Speaker 1: ask me at the end, and he did it really respectfully,
Speaker 1: and this was the only time that I ever actually
Speaker 1: went for it. What did he say specifically? He said,
Speaker 1: I'm sure this happens to you all the time, but
Speaker 1: you seem like a really cool girl. You've done such
Speaker 1: a good job of taking care of me, and I
Speaker 1: would love to take you out at a date. If
Speaker 1: I could give you my number and you could, you know,
Speaker 1: you can call me if you decide to do that
Speaker 1: nettle pressure. That all sounds nice except for that you've
Speaker 1: done a really good job taking care of me part.
Speaker 1: That kind of creeped me out a little bit. I
Speaker 1: gotta be honest, No, it wasn't. It wasn't like I thought.
Speaker 1: It wasn't creepy. Yeah, it was like, you know, it
Speaker 1: was his turn to take care of her for a night,
Speaker 1: is the way I read it. Plus, he like dropped
Speaker 1: in that nice compliment in the beginning about how this
Speaker 1: must happen to you all the time because they're so sexy.
Speaker 1: Absolutely all right, And what did you guys do for
Speaker 1: your date? I love to go dancing and one of
Speaker 1: my favorite DJs was in, so we decided we'd go
Speaker 1: to his show. Oh yeah, which was I was really
Speaker 1: excited about. And on my way there to meet him,
Speaker 1: he texts me and says that he needs to reschedule.
Speaker 1: That sucks. While you were on your way to the club. Wow, yeah,
Speaker 1: he said it was for an emergency. Do you do
Speaker 1: you think because as soon as you said dancing, I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: let's kind of risky with a guy, Like either guys
Speaker 1: are into it or they're very adamantly against dancing. I
Speaker 1: know that I really thought about, guys, And when we
Speaker 1: were trying to decide what we were going to do,
Speaker 1: he let me choose, and they said, well I really
Speaker 1: liked to dance. Is about something you liked? He said,
Speaker 1: he loves to dance, so he said he actually liked it.
Speaker 1: But then he canceled on you right before you got there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm surprised you even want to do a second date
Speaker 1: update with him. Well, I've even told you the worst part.
Speaker 1: You guys, we set out the second date and he
Speaker 1: canceled what he canceled on you twice? And you still
Speaker 1: want to call him? I just I don't know. There
Speaker 1: was something about him. There was something different the day
Speaker 1: that I served him, and then the next time we
Speaker 1: spoke over the phone. It was just a really good
Speaker 1: conversation and he just didn't seem like other guys. Is hot,
Speaker 1: isn't he He's really hot? Okay? But I mean, are
Speaker 1: you the only one in this conversation right now that
Speaker 1: believes that maybe he actually had two emergencies? You know,
Speaker 1: I thought about that. That dawned on me. I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe he's got a girlfriend or a wife like I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'd like to get to the bottom of it.
Speaker 1: I'd like to know. And I don't understand why he
Speaker 1: wouldn't just say something or you know, not pursue me.
Speaker 1: You just want to find out why he's blowing you
Speaker 1: off twice? Yeah, okay, and rude. How did you respond
Speaker 1: to him after he ditched you the second time? The
Speaker 1: second time he canceled on me, he did give me
Speaker 1: a day in advanced notice, so oh that's nice. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you want to call him. I was annoyed, but at
Speaker 1: least I wasn't on my way there and haven't wasted
Speaker 1: my time. And you haven't heard from him since he
Speaker 1: canceled that second time. We've texted back and forth a
Speaker 1: couple of times, just like really short words, and I
Speaker 1: just want to get to the bottom of this. I
Speaker 1: want to know if there's another woman in the picture
Speaker 1: or what his deal is. Okay, well, we'll play a song,
Speaker 1: come back, call him and get your second day update.
Speaker 1: All right, great, thank you, that's what I'm going to
Speaker 1: cancel on you right before we do it, just hang on, okay,
Speaker 1: brooking jubil in the morning, I'm about to use some
Speaker 1: very strong language, so be prepared. Okay, I am baffled.
Speaker 1: Stop it. Yeah, no, be fuddled. Yeah, tell me to
Speaker 1: close my ears. Thank you. Sorry, I just had to
Speaker 1: say it. Very confused about why the girl for the
Speaker 1: second day update today is not getting a call back.
Speaker 1: Her name is Mary Ellen. She's actually on the phone
Speaker 1: in Mary Ellen. I'm sorry you had to hear that day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I just don't get it if you're just tuning in.
Speaker 1: Mary Helen works at a bar. She gets hit on
Speaker 1: all the time by dudes, which happens yeah, and normally
Speaker 1: she turns them down. But she actually said yes to
Speaker 1: a guy named Tommy and they've been texting back and
Speaker 1: forth to go out on a date, but twice he's
Speaker 1: blown her off. One when she was on the way
Speaker 1: to the date she wanted to go dancing. Some DJ
Speaker 1: that she really likes was in town and he texted
Speaker 1: her right before saying I'm not gonna make it. And
Speaker 1: the other time was they scheduled a make update and
Speaker 1: he canceled the day before. So she's wondering why he
Speaker 1: would cancel on her, and I'm wondering the same thing.
Speaker 1: How does a cute waitress get blown off twice and
Speaker 1: then still want to do a second date. Update that
Speaker 1: probably makes her feel better, jubile. That's what's confusing me
Speaker 1: so much, Mary Ellen. Yeah, me too, I'm confused. I
Speaker 1: just want to get to the bottom of it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you sound pretty pessimistic, like you were saying maybe
Speaker 1: he's married. I mean, what if he actually has a legit?
Speaker 1: Excuse you do want to go out with him, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I do want to go out with him, as long
Speaker 1: as he doesn't cancel on me a third time. Well
Speaker 1: that is a good point, all right. Well, if you
Speaker 1: guys agreed to a second date after this whole thing,
Speaker 1: we'll make sure it happens right now. We won't let
Speaker 1: him off the phone until you two are taking in
Speaker 1: the same space. Okay, Yeah, that sounds like a good plan. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: here I go. I'm gonna Dallas phone number right now. Okay, Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: can I speak to Tommy? Yeah, speaking, Hey Tommy, how
Speaker 1: are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in
Speaker 1: the Morning. I'm just say it one more times. Hello,
Speaker 1: Hey Tommy, this is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in
Speaker 1: the Morning. You're there, yea? What's going on? Tommy? Can
Speaker 1: you hear me? Tommy? I can hear you, but I
Speaker 1: just don't know who you are. Oh, okay, good, I
Speaker 1: was worried you couldn't hear me. Tommy. This is Jewbil
Speaker 1: from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Are you familiar?
Speaker 1: Am I? What are you familiar? Do you have you
Speaker 1: heard of Brook and Jewel in the Morning before? No? Oh? Okay, good,
Speaker 1: it's a radio show. Great, awesome. Yeah. We're calling you
Speaker 1: today because one of our listeners emailed us about you. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: are you curious to know who would email us? Uh? Huh.
Speaker 1: I still feel like Tommy has no idea what's going on.
Speaker 1: And so, Tommy, you recently met a girl named Mary Ellen? Right, Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: well I know that because Mary Ellen emailed us to
Speaker 1: see if we could get a hold of you, because
Speaker 1: apparently you've scheduled a date with her twice now and
Speaker 1: blown her off each time. Okay, is that what she said?
Speaker 1: That's what she said. Yeah, And so we're getting you
Speaker 1: on the phone to find out why you keep blowing
Speaker 1: her off. To be honest with you, I've just been
Speaker 1: really conflicted about it. And why is that? She thinks
Speaker 1: Just so you know that you're probably either married or
Speaker 1: have a girlfriend no. Is that a nervous laugh because
Speaker 1: you're lying to or is that a nervous laugh because
Speaker 1: you're surprised she thinks that. No, I swear to God,
Speaker 1: I definitely don't have a girlfriend or a wife. Okay, start,
Speaker 1: we got that out of the way. Why won't you
Speaker 1: go out on a date with her? Then? Why do
Speaker 1: you keep scheduling and then bailing? You know, it's it's
Speaker 1: my own insecurity to be honest withy um. I just
Speaker 1: I just didn't feel comfortable with it when I thought
Speaker 1: about it. Male pattern baldness is that it is. Women
Speaker 1: are okay with that. No, I'm not balding. Okay, you
Speaker 1: said insecure, and that's instantly where I went. I was like,
Speaker 1: he's got to be balding. What No, No, that is
Speaker 1: not the case. How can you be insecure? You're the
Speaker 1: guy that walks into a bar asks a hot bartender
Speaker 1: out and she actually says yes to you out of
Speaker 1: the thousands of guys that hit on her all the time.
Speaker 1: To tell you to Ruth, I'm not usually that impulsive,
Speaker 1: and I only did that because I really was drawn
Speaker 1: to her. Marilyn is really interesting, She's really lovely, and
Speaker 1: you know, I thought she was great. Great, sounds like
Speaker 1: the kind of girl that you want to blow off
Speaker 1: while she's on the way to a club to meet you.
Speaker 1: Usually when you describe somebody like that, you're like, I
Speaker 1: can't wait until they just get right to the door
Speaker 1: of where rise's have a date and then tell him
Speaker 1: I'm not showing up. You know, listen in all cincinaty.
Speaker 1: I know that in the end she probably wouldn't be
Speaker 1: happy with this. Why what is wrong with you? Uh?
Speaker 1: All right, so you want you want to hear the
Speaker 1: whole truth, then, yeah, that'd be great. I'm assuming she
Speaker 1: probably does too. Um. We talked on the phone for
Speaker 1: quite a while the night that we met, and it
Speaker 1: was great. It's a really wonderful conversation. And after I
Speaker 1: got off the phone with her, UM, I looked her
Speaker 1: up on social media and I thought she was a
Speaker 1: lot older than she actually is. Okay, Um, she's twenty three, Okay,
Speaker 1: what's wrong with that? Tiny young? How old are you?
Speaker 1: I'm forty two and I'm divorced, you know a couple
Speaker 1: of years. Um, okay, so you're almost twenty years older
Speaker 1: than her. Yeah, and that bothers you? Yeah, jack pot
Speaker 1: it's not me, it's for her. I don't I don't
Speaker 1: want to do that to her, if that makes any sense.
Speaker 1: You don't want her to date a geriatric yank? Ye?
Speaker 1: But come on, I mean, should you leave that up
Speaker 1: to her? She's gonna have to explain this to, you know,
Speaker 1: her friends that we go out with, and her family,
Speaker 1: like meeting her parents. Like, I never for a million
Speaker 1: years thought that I would ever be that guy. You know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can see what you mean. They're a little bit
Speaker 1: It would be awkward to be twenty years older than
Speaker 1: the girl that you're dating and be like, Okay, I've
Speaker 1: officially become like midlife crisis man. But if you guys
Speaker 1: have a real connection and you think that she's sophisticated
Speaker 1: and intelligent, then why not? I think that's kind of
Speaker 1: a simple way of looking at it, And it is
Speaker 1: really a lot more complicated than Matt, especially on my end.
Speaker 1: You know, Okay, wouldn't wouldn't you be curious to find
Speaker 1: out what she thinks? Not? Really, I'm not exactly proud
Speaker 1: to be in this situation. I think she's just kind
Speaker 1: of going to mock and ridicule me. Can you guys,
Speaker 1: just guys, just tell her. Okay, well, how about I
Speaker 1: just tell you that you actually kind of told her
Speaker 1: because she's on the other line listening and wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. What. Yeah, Mary ellen him. I thought
Speaker 1: this was I thought she said an email. I didn't
Speaker 1: know that this was a phone thing. I thought this
Speaker 1: she wrote a letter. She did, and then we got
Speaker 1: her on the phone and told her to hang on
Speaker 1: while we talk to you to see if we get
Speaker 1: the answer. And now it's time for her to talk
Speaker 1: to you. Yeah, one way to sum it up. I'm
Speaker 1: not really sure how to take this. Oh man, um,
Speaker 1: you know, I uh, did you hear the whole thing?
Speaker 1: Did you hear everything? Yeah? You don't look forty two
Speaker 1: kind of you know, you don't look twenty three. Wait
Speaker 1: a minute, I don't know how to take that. I
Speaker 1: mean you said I look a lot older older. No,
Speaker 1: I didn't mean like you look old. I just I
Speaker 1: mean you you look like a like a like a woman.
Speaker 1: Oh whoa, you look like you've been experienced. Okay, I
Speaker 1: just mean you look more mature, you know not, and
Speaker 1: you sound more mature. I didn't mean to think that, you,
Speaker 1: you know, look like some old broad. That's not saying
Speaker 1: at all. No, you're amazing and you're beautiful actually, and
Speaker 1: you're when I was twenty three, you you, you were,
Speaker 1: would be the one I would jumped about. I tell
Speaker 1: you what, Mary Ellen, if I were twenty years younger,
Speaker 1: the things we do. But does it bother you that
Speaker 1: he's forty two. I mean, I'm just surprised that he
Speaker 1: wouldn't have told me that ahead of time. I didn't
Speaker 1: think I had to, Like, I had no idea. I'm like,
Speaker 1: when you looked me up on social media and you
Speaker 1: found that out, you could have texted me or said
Speaker 1: something like, given me the respect at least to say
Speaker 1: something so that I'm not sitting here wondering and trying
Speaker 1: to figure out what's going on. I'm sorry, I just
Speaker 1: I've never been in this situation, and I honestly was
Speaker 1: really desperate to avoid having this conversation. But wasn't it
Speaker 1: kind of a clue? And she said her favorite DJ
Speaker 1: was in town and she wanted to go dancing. That
Speaker 1: she wasn't thirty five, all right, So now you know
Speaker 1: why I wanted to cancel, all right, So you're like,
Speaker 1: who's this tiesto guy? I knew if I was going
Speaker 1: to go there that night, that I was just going
Speaker 1: to embarrass myself. Hey, that just doesn't sound like Jimmy
Speaker 1: Buffett at all. This is terrible. I'm not battled, Tommy.
Speaker 1: You're not a parent head, grateful, dead guy. I just
Speaker 1: wish that you would have given me the option and
Speaker 1: the choice of whether or not I wanted to go
Speaker 1: out on a date with you because of your age. Well,
Speaker 1: tell me how about this? Would you like to go
Speaker 1: out on a second date with Mary Ellen? We will
Speaker 1: pay for it. What could it hurt? You know what?
Speaker 1: She can't really make this decision and don't And I
Speaker 1: don't mean this to say in any contest anyway, but
Speaker 1: you don't know what I know, Like I know what
Speaker 1: you're going to discover. You can discover that I go
Speaker 1: to bed really early. You kind of discover the highlight
Speaker 1: going to bed at nine o'clock at night. Canect here
Speaker 1: for a second drink? Go ahead? Sorry to interrupt you, Um,
Speaker 1: I honestly I don't know if I want to go
Speaker 1: on a second date anymore. Really, Yeah, after listening to
Speaker 1: all this, like you can't make the decision for me,
Speaker 1: and you you think you've got it all figured out
Speaker 1: and If that's the case, I don't want to deal
Speaker 1: with that anyways. It kind of sounds like we're listening
Speaker 1: to her daughter and her dad. Are you you don't
Speaker 1: know how I feel? I know everything? Do you think
Speaker 1: you know? Everything? Is just kids getting better in the morning?
Speaker 1: Text in at seven, eight, five to nine too. This
Speaker 1: guy's an idiot. I'm forty six and not old. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's an idiot to forty two year olds. Yeah, talking
Speaker 1: about Today's a second date update if you missed it.
Speaker 1: Mary Ellen wanted to call a guy named Tommy. She
Speaker 1: was actually waiting on him, and he asked for her
Speaker 1: phone number. She gave it to him. They went out
Speaker 1: on a date. The reason he wasn't calling back was
Speaker 1: because on the date he found out that she was
Speaker 1: actually twenty three. He thought she was older and he's
Speaker 1: in his forties, so he felt like she was too
Speaker 1: young to date him. Wow. Yeah, which is strange because
Speaker 1: normally it goes the other way, Like a forty something
Speaker 1: year old dude gets to go out with a twenty
Speaker 1: three year old and they're like, yeah, I'm man. Oh,
Speaker 1: it's so gross when they act that way. Yeah. He
Speaker 1: was really condescending to her though, like you don't know
Speaker 1: what you were. Yeah, he really was. At the end,
Speaker 1: I know she was an intelligent woman, like she could
Speaker 1: make her own decisions. Yeah. She sounded like she was
Speaker 1: put together her and understand and was like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't mind dating a forty something year old. Until until
Speaker 1: the end of it. After he said that, like, look,
Speaker 1: I can't make the decision for you, but I've got
Speaker 1: to tell you you don't know what you want, She's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: screw you. Remember if you want to do a second
Speaker 1: y up, they all have to do his email the show,
Speaker 1: and we will call the person who didn't call you
Speaker 1: back to