WEBVTT - Second Cup: Your friends are my friends

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to mix and match friends when you are

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<v Speaker 1>planning something fun. If you like one person and you

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<v Speaker 1>like another person, the odds that the two of them

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<v Speaker 1>will get along are very high, so it is absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>fine to get together with both of them at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time. Your friends are my friends and my friends

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<v Speaker 1>are your friends. As the song goes, and the more

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<v Speaker 1>we get together, the happier will be. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>are like a lot of people, you are probably spending

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<v Speaker 1>some time actively rebuilding relationships with people you didn't see

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<v Speaker 1>as often in the last couple of years. Spending one

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<v Speaker 1>on one time with people is wonderful, but especially when

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<v Speaker 1>we are talking about people that we like but haven't

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<v Speaker 1>been best friends with for decades. This re establishment of

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<v Speaker 1>relationships doesn't have to be a one at a time endeavor. Instead,

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<v Speaker 1>why not get together with two or more people at once.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's say you have two friends who love Dalton Abbey

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<v Speaker 1>but who aren't in the same social circles. One's a neighbor,

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<v Speaker 1>one's a colleague. Why not invite both of them to

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<v Speaker 1>go see the new movie with you. You'll get to

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<v Speaker 1>catch up with both of them, and you'll all get

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<v Speaker 1>to watch a movie you want to see. They'll both

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<v Speaker 1>get to meet someone new with whom they have at

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<v Speaker 1>least one thing in common. Want to run a five

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<v Speaker 1>k benefiting a charity you volunteer for. Why not invite

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<v Speaker 1>your volunteer colleague and your running body to run it

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<v Speaker 1>with you. No worries if they only know each other

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<v Speaker 1>vaguely or even not at all. It's just a run

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<v Speaker 1>and they'll get to know each other better along the way.

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<v Speaker 1>Plus you will probably get to know the two of

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<v Speaker 1>them better, since the chemistry is different when we have

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<v Speaker 1>different people in the mix. I recently read an article

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<v Speaker 1>in The New York Times that captured what a thrill

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<v Speaker 1>it is as our world's broaden again to run into

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<v Speaker 1>people with whom we have weak ties. Your best friend's

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<v Speaker 1>work friend, your mom's neighbor, your gym buddy's sister, and

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<v Speaker 1>so forth. People you might see when you're at bigger

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<v Speaker 1>get togethers, or you happen to cross paths with, but

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<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't reach out to directly. Weak ties may help

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<v Speaker 1>us find jobs or partners, and these people may share

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<v Speaker 1>information with us that our strong ties can't simply because

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<v Speaker 1>our strong ties know the same things and people we do.

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<v Speaker 1>But even beyond all that, running into weak ties creates

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<v Speaker 1>more variety and delight in daily life. So consider inviting

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<v Speaker 1>more than one friend on the next outing you plan.

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<v Speaker 1>You can create novelty for your friends by mixing and

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<v Speaker 1>matching people for your get togethers, and you could see

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<v Speaker 1>more people you love without going out more than your

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<v Speaker 1>schedule or budget allows. Your friends are my friends. Even

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<v Speaker 1>on the off chance that something strange happens and there's

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<v Speaker 1>a little friction between two of your friends who hail

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<v Speaker 1>from different social circles, my guess is that if you

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<v Speaker 1>like both of them, they are both well behaved enough

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<v Speaker 1>to deal with it, it will be fine for a

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<v Speaker 1>few hours. There's very little downside and a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>upside if you take the chance. In the meantime, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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