WEBVTT - Mide-Week Mom Chat: Riding the Wave. 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:05.240 What up y'all this midweek mom chat? I am just 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:13.200 going to talk about worry and also why I'm like why, 0:00:13.240 --> 0:00:16.040 I'm like, oh worry, Like why ife worries a waste 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:21.040 of time? So I just didn't really cool. Today I 0:00:21.079 --> 0:00:25.799 was asked to speak at my old college school, my 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:30.720 old college campus, Belmont University. I went there and I 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:34.159 had a friend asked me to come talk to her class, 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:36.040 which is such a cool class, Like I didn't even 0:00:36.080 --> 0:00:39.479 know this was existing these days. There's this whole class 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:43.640 called Women and Entertainment in college, like you can like 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:46.360 register for that, and so she asked me to come speak, 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:51.680 and I was like, um, are you sure. I don't 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:55.040 I don't feel qualified to like speak to students, but 0:00:56.640 --> 0:01:00.960 I immediately said yes because I thought this is so cool. Um, 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:03.920 And I just remember when I was in college, I 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.679 had a lot of anxiety about not knowing what I 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:10.960 was supposed to do with my life and not knowing 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:15.360 like like I believed that I was worthy of great things, 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:19.959 but yet I also believe that I I hadn't accomplished anything, 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.880 and so I didn't I believed I was worthy of stuff, 0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:26.319 but then I also didn't feel worthy because I didn't 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.200 have anything to show for myself, and I'm like, how 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:30.199 am I ever going to have anything to show for myself? 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:33.280 I don't even know how to get started. And man, 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:37.160 I just had probably one of the best experiences today 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:40.520 that I've ever had getting to teach this class of students. 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:45.440 So everyone in this class is obviously creative or like, 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:48.280 has a desire and a dream and they want to 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:52.040 be in the entertainment industry. And it is just so 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:56.200 easy to get discouraged when you're first getting started and 0:01:56.280 --> 0:02:01.680 at any point in your journey, honestly, because when you 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:07.559 haven't got like this huge resume for yourself, and maybe 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:09.680 you already are dealing with a lot of self doubt 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:17.480 and overcoming obstacles, maybe family obstacles, maybe you're overcoming um. 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:23.000 I don't know anything in your life that has posed 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:26.640 itself as a hardship or has made you feel inferior, 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:30.359 or has made you feel um less than, or has 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:32.480 made you feel like you have to fight and be defensive, 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:34.680 or that you're not good enough or whatever. Like I mean, 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:37.360 that could be anything. I'm not even gonna try to 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:39.400 guess what it all could be, because there's such a 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:44.799 variety of options. Um. But man, I just felt like 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:48.040 I felt really lucky that I had the chance to 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:54.040 talk to these students today because I was that student. 0:02:54.080 --> 0:02:56.880 And I don't know what each one is thinking, obviously, 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:01.360 because everyone's their own individual person. But I sat in 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:04.160 those I went to Belmont. I wanted to be in 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:08.280 the music industry. I wanted to be a singer, to 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:12.160 be a songwriter, be a star. I thought I wanted 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:14.560 to matter, and I thought if I could become something important, 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:17.959 that I would matter, and you know I was looking 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:22.600 for I thought it was like I thought that like 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:24.560 stars that I looked up to, or people in the 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:26.400 music industry that I looked up to, I thought they 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:29.760 were more special. I thought they were more equipped. I 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:34.840 thought they had um. I thought that they had just 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:40.160 like they were gifted more than me, and that they 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:43.040 just had this like magic mojo that I would never have. 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:48.560 And through my journey, which I explained to the class, 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:54.800 I've realized that nobody hasn't figured out. Everybody is a 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:58.360 work in progress. We all come from situations that we 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:04.360 have insecurities from. We all I don't know how to 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:07.040 get started. We all hit moments where we feel like 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:09.640 we're a loser. We all hit spots in the journey 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:12.840 where we're like, I don't even know what I'm what 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:15.080 I want to do in my life at this point, 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:21.160 like just feeling lost, feeling stuck, feeling um completely alone. 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:25.640 And that was like a really cool moment for me 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:29.360 today to get to go and share my story and 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:38.120 to say you are totally on track, like you're exactly 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:41.680 where you're supposed to be. I know, it feels stressful 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:45.680 because you have all this pressure from the world, from 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:49.440 maybe from your family, maybe from maybe I mean just 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:51.520 like to make money. I mean, we have to make 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:53.799 a living. Hello, we have to survive in this world. 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:57.080 There's all this pressure coming at us that we've got 0:04:57.120 --> 0:04:59.760 to have our life so buttoned up and figured out 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:03.480 and ready to rock in this timeline, Like, man, did 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:05.520 I have a timeline? And I talked about this today, 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:07.640 Like I had a timeline. I was going to be 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:12.600 like and love and by the time of I was 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:15.840 gonna be married. By the time I'm like seven, You're 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.520 gonna have my first kid. Before thirty, I'm gonna be 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:21.039 in my dream job. All of the stuff. Oh my god, No, 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:24.560 Like my timeline, I was all over the place for 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:29.280 my timeline. My timeline got thrown up the window, and 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:34.000 I just it was really empowering for me today to 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:37.960 talk to all these students and be like, listen through 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:44.279 the timeline out the window, and I know that you 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:49.160 all have a dream and your dream. Your dream brought 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:52.880 you to Nashville. Your dream brought you to Belmont, Your 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:58.080 dream brought you to pursue whatever it is. Like, you 0:05:58.320 --> 0:06:01.880 came from wherever you're home town is, You traveled, and 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:05.080 you came to this school to be in this environment 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:08.359 and this music industry because you had a dream. And 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:13.520 I just sort of told them my philosophy and I 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:17.200 was like, I had a dream to be a singer, 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:23.240 and I moved to Nashville, and I I didn't know 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:25.760 what to do, and I started following my curiosity. And 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:27.800 that was my first step that I encouraged them to do. 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.560 When you don't know what to do, follow your curiosity 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:32.720 and just let that lead you and just taking that 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:34.800 next step. But I was like, pretend you're like in 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:37.680 an ocean and hold onto your boogie board. I was like, 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:39.280 I'm like a million years old and I'm saying hold 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:41.360 onto your boogie board, but like, hold onto your boogie 0:06:41.400 --> 0:06:44.240 board and all you have to do is hang on 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:47.360 tight to that board and step into the water. So 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:50.320 you step into the ocean, and then you know where 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:52.360 you want to go, Like you have an idea where 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:55.040 you want to go, but you have to let the 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:58.000 waves take you. And they're gonna not take you on 0:06:58.040 --> 0:07:00.280 a straight path at all. It's gonna like, all of 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:02.680 a sudden, you're thinking you're jumping in and going forward, 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:04.719 and then all of a sudden, you're turning to the 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:07.400 right and you're like going that way, and then you're 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:09.600 the waves are going to ride you back out in 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:11.760 a different direction, and you just have to hang on. 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:14.920 And that's what I tried to tell them. I was like, 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:17.239 everybody wants to know that they can have this clear 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:19.200 cut path and then it's all I'm just gonna work 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:22.200 out and that everything's gonna fall into place. And you 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:25.200 have this dream and you're trying to follow these steps 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:27.200 and you want to you want it to be this 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:31.120 like paint by number type situation, but that is just 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:36.680 not how life goes. And you just have to be 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:39.720 willing to ride the wave, and you have to have 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:42.840 some faith. You have to like give it up on 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:46.119 some level, we all want to have this like tight 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:49.560 grip and this deep control because if we feel like 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.560 we can get everything boxed up and like stay on 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:57.800 our timeline and get everything in order, then life is 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:00.480 gonna be perfect. But guess what I heard him Carrey 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:02.480 say this in an interview. I think he was like 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:08.240 giving him a speech to um his like alma mater 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:11.560 for college or something, and he was talking about his dad. 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:14.640 I'm fairly confident with Jim Carrey and his dad like 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:18.040 had this was like followed this really safe route and 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:21.840 really wanted like it was like worked hard, showed up 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:25.120 at the same job every day, like did his due diligence, 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:29.280 never took a sick day, like was safe, was calculated, 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:31.720 did what he was supposed to do, and he got 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:34.400 let go, like the company went under something and his 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:39.360 dad got let go. And Jim Carrey was like, my 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:41.600 dad showed up every single day, did what we supposed 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:44.240 to do, worked as hard as he can, followed all 0:08:44.280 --> 0:08:48.320 the rules, and he still got let go and his 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:55.200 life got turned upside down. So why would you go 0:08:55.520 --> 0:09:01.520 for a road that the safe road? We think if 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.079 we go for this like safe road and we get 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.839 everything all box in that like nothing can happen to us. 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:13.160 We think that we are escaping potential pain or potential 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:19.560 trauma happening, or potential like upset of our life happening. 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:22.960 But none of us are exempt. And you can play 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:25.440 it safe and you can go down this road and 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:32.200 you can try to avoid any kind of variable that's 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:37.720 going to mess up your stability, but you can never 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:40.800 plan for everything, and they're always unknowns that can happen 0:09:40.840 --> 0:09:42.840 that are bigger than us, and your life can still 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:45.160 get turned upside down. And you could have played it 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:47.280 as safe as you ever can and everything and still 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:51.280 fall on its face or it might work out, who knows. 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:57.319 But you can also follow your passion, chase your curiosity, 0:09:57.559 --> 0:09:59.360 have some side hustles, And that's what I told to 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:02.280 cost it down. Like you want to be a singer, 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:03.880 you want to be a manager, you want to be 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:07.000 an artist, you want to be um an event planner, 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:10.000 you want to all these students have such great dreams. 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:13.280 I made each student go around the room and say 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:18.280 why they moved to Nashville, what they loved, what they're 0:10:18.360 --> 0:10:21.120 drawn to, and why they think they're going to succeed. 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:23.240 Because I think it's so important to speak that out 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:25.680 out and it was so cool because there's probably thirty 0:10:25.760 --> 0:10:27.959 kids in the class, and every single one of the 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:31.439 kids had a different dream, very different dreams. Like one girl, 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:38.040 she loves writing music, but she loves doing like, like 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:43.200 um soundtracks to TV shows. So what she does is 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:46.840 she'll turn off the music and a TV show and 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:51.559 she'll turn on her Spotify and she will make music 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:55.840 for the scenes in the movie and the show. I 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:57.679 would never even think to do that. I'm like, that 0:10:57.760 --> 0:11:00.079 is such a unique gift and such a unique calling. 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:02.880 And so many of the kids, I'm calling them kids, 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:06.400 So many of these young adults had all of these 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.520 very specific dreams, Like one girl wanted to be a 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:12.840 I think coordinator on a Disney cruise ship because she 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:14.640 wants to make people happy and she wants to travel 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:17.000 the world and she thinks Disney is great. I mean, 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:19.240 I just saw it was blown away by these people's 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:27.160 dreams and there were such cool dreams. It just reminded 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:30.480 me that we have to go for it. And like 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:34.040 I was saying about that speech from Jim Carey and 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:38.640 talking about his dad playing it safe, Um, you can 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:40.920 play safe, and that's totally cool, like it really is, 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:43.319 Like I get it. There's all sorts of there's all 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:46.960 sorts of circumstances in everyone's life, and you have to 0:11:47.040 --> 0:11:49.960 do what feels right for you. You have to you 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:53.040 have to take care of yourself. You have to do 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:55.440 what feels right. But when I had the chance to 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:58.400 talk to these students who are wide open, who have 0:11:58.520 --> 0:12:03.960 all of this just beginning in front of them, like 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:09.839 they're so they are just a blank canvas, and they 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:11.720 all have these hopes and they all say they all 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:14.760 have these dreams, and I thought to myself, like I'm 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:18.360 really getting a chance to impact here, and like I 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:23.320 really took seriously what I was saying, and I said 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:26.880 to them this. I said, There's gonna be a lot 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:30.319 of stuff that comes your way that is going to 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:33.920 deter you from your dreams. You are going hang on 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:36.240 to your biggie board, jump into the ocean, ride the wave. 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:40.080 You're going to crash. You're going to crash. People are 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:43.240 gonna tell you you're stupid. People are gonna tell you 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:47.360 it's not smart what you're doing. But you know, And 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:50.360 like thirty of these kids went around the room and 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:53.080 said what they loved and what they were drawn to 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.560 and what they wanted to do, and every single one 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:59.760 of them was different. That is no mistake. They all 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:03.920 have this different desire and this different calling. That is 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:06.600 why they are here. And I was like, listen, it 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:08.680 is hard to chasee your dreams, which it's also hard 0:13:08.720 --> 0:13:11.440 not to chase your dreams. If you don't chase your dreams, 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:13.400 you sit around and you think about all day that 0:13:13.440 --> 0:13:16.040 you're not chasing your dreams and you're not fulfilled. If 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:18.200 you are chasing your dreams, you sit around thinking about 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:19.800 how hard it is and that you're trying to make 0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:22.480 your dreams happen and you're getting door slammed in your face. 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:25.160 It's hard no matter what. So you just have to 0:13:25.200 --> 0:13:27.560 decide what kind of road you want to go down, 0:13:28.120 --> 0:13:30.320 because they're both going to be hard. Whether you chase 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:32.920 your dreams and you try to pursue your calling or 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.959 you try to pursue a safe road, you're going to 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:38.520 run into hardship either way, So you just have to 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:40.439 de say which kind of hardship you want to run into. 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:44.920 And I told him, like, you're gonna get the door 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:47.880 slammed in your face. You are going to not know 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:50.319 what in the world you're supposed to do with your life. 0:13:50.400 --> 0:13:53.760 You're going to hit moments of feeling lost and feeling 0:13:53.760 --> 0:13:56.640 like you're a total loser and feeling like you don't 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:59.880 know what to do and that nobody understands you. You 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:03.520 are going to hit those moments, but just take a 0:14:03.600 --> 0:14:06.360 baby step forward if you can, just take a step 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:11.760 forward and just keep moving towards your joy. And that's 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:13.559 what I told him. If you don't know what you're 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:17.480 supposed to do in your life, start writing down what 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:21.840 makes you feel alive, Write down what makes you feel alive, 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:24.440 and start noticing people in the world that are doing 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:27.560 jobs that you would love to have, and take note 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:31.160 of this and journal about it, and like really start 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:36.400 trying to pinpoint where in the world people are doing 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:38.080 something that you would love to do. And if you're 0:14:38.120 --> 0:14:39.840 in a situation and all of a sudden you're feeling 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:43.600 alive and inspired, take notice of that and start seeing 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:46.680 if that could be a job, because there's always a 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:49.960 job for every passion that is out there, there is 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:52.360 a job that goes with it. Because at the end 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.440 of the day, we are all humans and we're all 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:59.120 fueled by passion, and so there are careers out there 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:01.840 that are very passionate. You just have to start getting 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:07.280 creative and paying attention and start realizing how things that 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:09.840 you love could turn into a job. And sometimes it 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:11.920 starts as a side hustle. Like one girl was like, well, 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:15.840 I want to be a singer, but she was struggling 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:19.240 with she wants to just only be a singer, and 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:21.360 I'm like, I get that, but sometimes you have to 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.600 have a side hustle first before you can just become 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:28.320 a singer. Like, yes, that will be your ultimate goal 0:15:28.480 --> 0:15:31.760 to sing and make music and have that be your living. 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.600 But if you can't make that be your living right away, 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:37.760 then do it as much as you can. Play writers 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:43.320 round right, songwrite with friends, songwrite with other songwriters anytime 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:44.840 you get the chance. But you might have to work 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:47.080 a waitress drop. I mean, you might have to keep 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:50.200 a side side hustle going until you start making enough 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:55.000 money and it becomes a big enough force in your 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:57.080 life that you can drop your hustle, your side hustle. 0:15:57.120 --> 0:16:03.160 And so I was just encouraging this class to realize that. Okay, 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:05.560 so say you need say you want to be a singer, 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:06.800 and you want to be a side hustle. It's like, 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:08.400 and you you want to be a singer, but you 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:10.360 need a side hustle. It's like, what if you get 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:13.920 the job to babysit for a hit songwriter? Like what 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:16.920 if they need a nanny and you are great with kids. 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:19.600 You want to be a songwriter, but here's this hit 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:22.960 songwriter that needs a nanny. You start nanny for them. 0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:26.120 You're still writing. Over time, you build a relationship, You 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:28.520 get to play them some of your songs. They hear you, 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:30.760 they realize that you're talented. They want to help you. 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:33.520 They start bringing out to like maybe a number one 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:35.360 event every now if they wrote a hit song, they 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.200 invite you to the number one party. They introduce you 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:40.840 to people. That stuff leads to stuff. As long as 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:43.960 you are moving in the right direction and you are 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.240 moving forward. You don't have to end up in your 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:51.520 perfect dream job right away, but just taking steps forward, 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:55.200 just taking opportunities. When you get an opportunity, you have 0:16:55.280 --> 0:16:58.080 to be willing to jump and to go for it, 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:00.080 and like, you can't always know where it's all going 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:03.320 to end up and have everything perfectly planned and have 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:06.119 it all boxed up, because that's just not how it works. 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:16.760 And I just felt really, um, I'm not blessed. It's 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:19.480 the word that I mean that the word can be overdone. 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:22.560 Someone's like, I feel so blessed, but I really did. 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:25.920 I felt like I had such an opportunity to get 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:30.040 to talk to all these these students who are so 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:35.439 fresh and so ready to attack their dreams, and I 0:17:35.560 --> 0:17:38.960 was like, Wow, this is a privilege that I'm getting 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:43.560 right now to inspire them in a way that I'm 0:17:43.600 --> 0:17:45.320 not trying to say you have to have all these 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:50.639 boxes checked off, but it's more like, do not lose 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:54.520 that spark in you and I don't bury it. And 0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:57.240 listen to your body. And if your body is giving 0:17:57.280 --> 0:18:00.040 your resistance, and if your body is telling you, know what, 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:01.960 this is not the right path. And if your body 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:06.119 is saying I feel gross about this or this feels wrong, 0:18:06.359 --> 0:18:08.800 or like this isn't right for me, you have to 0:18:08.880 --> 0:18:12.040 listen to that. And if your body is saying I 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:14.480 love this, and I feel alive, and this feels good 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:17.399 and I feel easy. It feels easy, and this feels free, 0:18:17.880 --> 0:18:21.360 you have to listen to that. And it's a lot 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:24.879 simpler than we make it because we we put all 0:18:24.880 --> 0:18:27.560 these rules on ourselves, and we put all this this 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:32.840 like pressure on ourselves, but really our soul, on our 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:36.400 body and our heart and our mind. It knows what 0:18:36.440 --> 0:18:39.520 we're drawn to. It knows what we love, and it 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:42.440 knows when we're feeling good and when we're feeling bad. 0:18:42.520 --> 0:18:44.400 And it's pretty much as simple as that. If you're 0:18:44.440 --> 0:18:49.560 feeling bad, you got to reevaluate. If you're feeling sick, 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:52.520 if you're feeling bad, if you're feeling dread, if you're 0:18:52.560 --> 0:18:56.399 feeling hopeless, you got to reevaluate. And I was telling 0:18:56.440 --> 0:18:59.080 them it's okay to be lost. I've been lost so 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:02.080 many times in my life. But every time you're lost, 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:05.560 take a moment and to start thinking about what you love, 0:19:06.240 --> 0:19:10.440 and start noticing what you love, and start moving towards 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:14.000 what you love, and it will open opportunities. It will 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:18.320 things will move around, and stuff will shift and you 0:19:18.359 --> 0:19:21.520 will get opportunities presented to you. You will start seeing 0:19:21.560 --> 0:19:26.480 things in a different light if you just start focusing 0:19:26.480 --> 0:19:29.359 on what you love and committing to that and not 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:31.760 thinking you're crazy for wanting to do something that you 0:19:31.840 --> 0:19:34.160 love or live a life that you love. You're not 0:19:34.200 --> 0:19:38.119 crazy for wanting to love your life. We have one life. 0:19:39.280 --> 0:19:42.080 You're not crazy for wanting to love it. I'm not 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:45.560 saying we can make it exactly how we want it 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:50.600 to be. We're not god like, but we can really 0:19:51.040 --> 0:19:58.359 reframe our mind into seeing the blessings that are already 0:19:58.359 --> 0:20:02.680 in our life and then and paying attention to where 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:05.680 we feel drawn to move instead of just letting life 0:20:05.720 --> 0:20:10.320 happen to us, instead of just letting life like feel 0:20:10.320 --> 0:20:11.960 like we're under the eight ball and that we were 0:20:12.000 --> 0:20:15.000 behind and we can't We're like, you know, it's like 0:20:15.080 --> 0:20:17.840 heavy and we're stuck. Instead of just getting stuck on 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:21.480 those feelings, we have the opportunity to open our eyes 0:20:21.520 --> 0:20:23.840 and be like, Okay, I know I meant to live 0:20:23.880 --> 0:20:25.520 a life that I love. I know I'm here on 0:20:25.520 --> 0:20:27.760 this earth for a very short time. I know it's 0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:31.400 a miracle that I'm here. I have a purpose. I'm 0:20:31.400 --> 0:20:33.679 going to start diving into what I love. I'm going 0:20:33.720 --> 0:20:36.360 to start paying attention to that. Maybe I'm gonna point 0:20:36.359 --> 0:20:39.680 in my life where I cannot fully pursue what I love, 0:20:39.800 --> 0:20:41.520 but I am definitely at a point in my life 0:20:41.920 --> 0:20:45.639 where I can pursue starting to learn more about what 0:20:45.720 --> 0:20:48.520 I love. I can pursue making it even a side hustle. 0:20:48.920 --> 0:20:53.680 I can pursue following my curiosity. I can I can 0:20:53.680 --> 0:20:57.600 pursue showing up for myself. I can sue being intentional. 0:20:57.720 --> 0:21:01.639 I can pursue chet king out of my phone, checking 0:21:01.640 --> 0:21:05.280 off of the TV, and like showing up in conversations 0:21:05.320 --> 0:21:08.720 and like finding people that inspire me and asking them 0:21:09.000 --> 0:21:11.600 to go to coffee and picking their brain about how 0:21:11.640 --> 0:21:14.680 they got to where they were. And I can pursue 0:21:14.720 --> 0:21:20.800 being positive and choosing to we have gratitude for the 0:21:20.840 --> 0:21:24.080 things that are that I know I love in my life. 0:21:24.119 --> 0:21:25.639 And I might not be exactly where I want to be, 0:21:25.720 --> 0:21:28.159 but I can choose to have gratitude for things that 0:21:28.200 --> 0:21:30.080 I do love in my life, and like focus on 0:21:30.119 --> 0:21:32.919 what I do love. I can make those choices, and 0:21:32.960 --> 0:21:36.840 I can keep making those choices every day, and slowly 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:39.320 but surely I can inch my way into this life 0:21:39.320 --> 0:21:41.760 that I love, some more or less. That's what I 0:21:41.800 --> 0:21:45.440 was talking about today, and I just basically wanted to 0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:47.440 let them know that, Like, I'm thirty six years old 0:21:47.480 --> 0:21:49.639 and I've been on a ton of journeys and I 0:21:49.720 --> 0:21:52.960 still don't know what I'm doing. I'm still figuring it out, 0:21:53.400 --> 0:21:56.720 but I've never been scared to jump. I've always listened 0:21:56.760 --> 0:21:59.880 to my gut. If I get a feeling of non 0:22:00.000 --> 0:22:03.880 don't know, resistance, resistance, resistance, I stop and I take 0:22:03.920 --> 0:22:05.920 a new turn, and I analyze, and I figure out 0:22:05.920 --> 0:22:08.680 where I need to go next. And sometimes I don't 0:22:08.720 --> 0:22:10.560 know where I needed to go next, but I know 0:22:10.840 --> 0:22:14.160 if I like, I know if I'm on the wrong road, 0:22:14.200 --> 0:22:17.679 because it feels terrible. And if I get that feeling, 0:22:19.200 --> 0:22:23.240 I stop, I reevaluate, and then I'll just wait for clarity, 0:22:23.400 --> 0:22:25.760 and I'll take a break. And I'm okay with having 0:22:25.760 --> 0:22:29.440 a season of waiting. And waiting sucks, and none of 0:22:29.520 --> 0:22:31.280 us like to wait, but sometimes we have to wait. 0:22:31.840 --> 0:22:34.720 It's better to wait than to make a hasty decision 0:22:35.080 --> 0:22:37.920 out of fear. And I have learned that because I've 0:22:37.960 --> 0:22:41.320 made plenty of hasty decisions out of fear. But really, 0:22:41.520 --> 0:22:46.880 if you're if you wait for clarity and you keep 0:22:46.920 --> 0:22:50.960 pursuing your curiosity, and if you feel resistance, you take 0:22:50.960 --> 0:22:54.040 a beat, you take a break, You evaluate why you 0:22:54.040 --> 0:22:57.760