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Speaker 1: I bought my dream car with my daughter's college fund.

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Speaker 1: Uh oh, So how to begin with this? I realize

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Speaker 1: that on paper, I'm totally the ahole, but when you

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Speaker 1: a gray area than anything else, and maybe I did

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Speaker 1: the right thing. By the way, this comes from my

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Speaker 1: nineteen seventy two pony on the Best of Redditor updates.

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Speaker 1: When I was a teenager, my dad bought me a

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Speaker 1: classic nineteen seventy two Ford Bronco. It was my true

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Speaker 1: passion and I don't recall a memory from high school

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Speaker 1: that someone doesn't involve that truck. Plus, my dad and

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Speaker 1: I would spend hours and hours working on it together,

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Speaker 1: and we went through that especially father and son rough

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Speaker 1: Patch when I was a teenager. It was always that

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Speaker 1: Bruca that brought us back together. I made a huge

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Speaker 1: mistake and sold the truck when I turned nineteen, and

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Speaker 1: my dad died of a heart attack two months later.

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Speaker 1: So while not logically, I've always filled a karmic connection

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Speaker 1: with the two events.

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Speaker 2: WHOA, So he feels like he his dad and murdered

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Speaker 2: my dad by selling our.

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Speaker 1: That is pretty tough. We had a baby in early February.

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Speaker 1: She was our first and the light of my life.

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Speaker 1: My wife is doing well, but she went back at

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Speaker 1: work and she realized that she hates all the daycares

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Speaker 1: we've tried and really wants to be a stay at

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Speaker 1: and is angry a lot. I guess I need to

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Speaker 1: say this getting that off your chest there. Two weeks ago,

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Speaker 1: I was driving through our town's warehouse district and I

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Speaker 1: saw a bronco that was pretty beat up but resembled mine.

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Speaker 1: I stopped for nostalgic stake, and the owner came out

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Speaker 1: and let me take a look inside. My dad and

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Speaker 1: I glued a wheat penny under the dash as a

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Speaker 1: sort of security measure, so I sort of checked and

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Speaker 1: GD if it wasn't my bronco it was. I think

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Speaker 1: it was the wheat pity was under there.

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Speaker 2: Crazy. He had to make him an offer he couldn't refuse.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm assuming he's gonna have a next.

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Speaker 1: I asked him if he'd consider selling it. He said

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Speaker 1: someone was actually on I twenty five as we spoke

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Speaker 1: I freaked out and asked him if I could buy

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Speaker 1: it right then and there for twenty three thousand. He said,

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Speaker 1: if I came up with the cash, yes. I had

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Speaker 1: been procrastinating and setting up a five twenty nine, so

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Speaker 1: I had twelve thousand dollars in my savings account that

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Speaker 1: my wife's parents have given us. I mixed out my

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Speaker 1: credit card to Venmo, and my mom brought down a

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Speaker 1: check for four thousand, and I Effen drove away in

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Speaker 1: my old car.

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Speaker 2: Wow. He scrapped together the cash to buy this car,

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Speaker 2: including the money that his wife's parents gave him for

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Speaker 2: the kid. I would assume.

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Speaker 1: Twelve k for nostalgic reasons.

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Speaker 2: So that he could not feel guilty about his dad.

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Speaker 2: That is what it is, honestly, somewhat probably dang, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: sir is not going to bring him back. He's gone.

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Speaker 2: I guess it would be good to like be driving

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Speaker 2: around knowing that, like oh, me and my dad, they

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Speaker 2: sort of put work into this car. But it could

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Speaker 2: also be kind of haunting.

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Speaker 1: It is haunting because in a way, you're bringing your

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Speaker 1: own childhood back. But what about your daughters?

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Speaker 2: Maybe he can work on it with her. She's just

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Speaker 2: a baby though, right, so it seems like they's got

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Speaker 2: a lot of time to get that money back.

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Speaker 1: She had twelve K as a baby, ready to go

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Speaker 1: to cook for like eighteen years.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, that will become literally two hundred thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: That is a college one. It was like your dream

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Speaker 1: come true, like a literal dream come true. It needs

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Speaker 1: a lot of work. I can't afford it right now,

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Speaker 1: but it's mine, like in my driveway. Mine again, I

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Speaker 1: can't describe what is your way.

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Speaker 3: It is.

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Speaker 1: My wife and her parents are furious with me. They

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Speaker 1: have sacrificed anything and everything so my wife could go

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Speaker 1: aside that they gave me the money for a college fund.

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Speaker 1: My point is my daughter is only six months old

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Speaker 1: and we have eighteen years to set up a college

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Speaker 1: and if I wouldn't have acted on it would have

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Speaker 1: with me and my kids. To me, it's the literal

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Speaker 2: He's like, we got eighteen years set up this college fund.

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Speaker 2: He knows where the Bronco's going, Like he saw the Bronco,

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Speaker 2: checked the penny thing, knew it was his, knew that

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Speaker 2: a person was gonna come to buy it. All he

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Speaker 2: a Bronco fund and it might be more down the

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Speaker 2: road if he can't fix it up. Now what's the point,

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Speaker 2: Like have the owner do all the work and then

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Speaker 2: in however many years, when it's even worse, then you

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Speaker 2: buy it for like fifteen thousand, you know, yeah, exactly,

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Speaker 2: keep tabs on the car. You know why you pay

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Speaker 2: for your daughter.

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Speaker 1: But he's bringing his back back to life, bring back

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Speaker 1: that connection. Like I said, on paper, a whole whole story,

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Speaker 1: gray area. How do you guys see it? EDIT had

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Speaker 1: no idea this would go so one way. I guess

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Speaker 1: I messed up. I talked with my mom and she's

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Speaker 1: basically going to buy the Bronco from me in order

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Speaker 1: to refill the college debt and pay off the credit card.

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Speaker 1: The four k will be a gift and she is

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Speaker 1: going to give me whatever I need to restore it.

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Speaker 1: She's always been awesome to me, and she's rather the

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Speaker 1: money be spent now that wait for me and my

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Speaker 1: sister's inheritance. So sorry to get everyone so mad at me.

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Speaker 1: I was thinking with my emotions and acted badly. Edit too,

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Speaker 1: are you the mommy belled you out? Comments? Really necessary?

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Speaker 1: I found a solution. It's coming from me and my

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Speaker 1: sister's inheritance, so it's basically like I'm not paying for

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Speaker 1: it on my own eventually. So he has a solve.

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Speaker 1: I don't see any problem with that if the mom's

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Speaker 1: willing to put that up. If you could have done

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Speaker 1: that from the start, yeah, but it was like so

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Speaker 1: quick he needed to do it. First move a hole.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, first move a hole. He got lucky.

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Speaker 1: He so got lucky.

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Speaker 2: I think it's hard to regain the respect from his

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Speaker 1: Edit three. My inbox is so buried. I have no

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Speaker 1: Does anyone know what those are? Edit four, I'm getting

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Speaker 1: a four oh three where whenever I try to respond,

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure what that means. But I'm still reading

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Speaker 1: because honestly, I'm afraid to go home even with the

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Speaker 1: upset for one reason or another. This guy's freaking out

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Speaker 1: Edit five. Does anyone know what four h three ever means?

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Speaker 1: I message moderators edit in the morning. I couldn't figure

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Speaker 1: out why I was getting so many private messages, but

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Speaker 1: I guess this must be locked now. I did tell

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Speaker 1: my wife, though my mom bailed me out and lied

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Speaker 1: and said I found a buyer for the bronco.

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Speaker 2: That's so dumb.

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Speaker 1: I'll figure out how to cross that bridge when I

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Speaker 1: get there. But my wife was so relieved when I

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Speaker 1: had come to my senses, and I don't want to

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Speaker 1: disappoint here. It's going to take all my line skills

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Speaker 1: to put this one off for the next few years.

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Speaker 1: We have some relevant comments here.

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Speaker 2: Okay, dude, this guy is he's just liel Like, Oh,

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Speaker 2: she was so happy when I told her what she

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Speaker 2: wanted to hear, so why would I break You know,

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Speaker 2: it's like, you're just gonna hide this bronco under a

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Speaker 2: tarp at your mom's house, Like what the heck? What

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Speaker 2: the heck? Like you already messed up, You're only making

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Speaker 2: it worse. Like what's he gonna do? Buy it? Later, like,

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Speaker 2: what's his game plan?

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Speaker 1: I feel like the mom and hearing this thing was perfect.

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Speaker 1: The mom has a great view at this.

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Speaker 2: You messed up her, and you continue to mess up,

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Speaker 2: and you're making bad decisions left and right.

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Speaker 1: Relevant comments Jesus dude, Yes, you're the a hole who

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Speaker 1: spends twenty kight thousand without so much as speaking to

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Speaker 1: their spouse first. Oh a holes, dude, Madison Pregers says, Wow,

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Speaker 1: I've had an almost seven month old and your post

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Speaker 1: literally ruined my day. You're the a hole For this line.

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Speaker 1: She's still very hormonal from delivery, lack of sleep, and breastwarding,

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Speaker 1: so she's having a rough time and is angry a lot. Really,

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Speaker 1: she's not angry because her husband is the type of

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Speaker 1: person who blew a effing college fund on a junked

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Speaker 1: out car. While this one really affects me, I'm going

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Speaker 1: it because I'm heartbroken for you, your wife, and daw Lizard Justice.

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Speaker 1: You're the a whole. Backstory doesn't make any last of

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Speaker 1: an a hole. It just explains why you acted like

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Speaker 1: an a hole. That's a good point. I was about

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Speaker 1: I think the backstory makes him more of an a hole. Interesting,

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Speaker 1: it was a connection between your dad, your dad dad

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Speaker 1: I don't think that's the reason. I think it's sweet. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: you made a mistake. You did the worst thing ever.

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Speaker 1: Your mom helped you out.

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Speaker 2: Just admit it and just move forward, or actually sell

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Speaker 2: the car because like, what's gonna happen in three years,

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Speaker 2: he's gonna like buy the car. Oh, I've found the

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Speaker 2: owner and I bought it again. Like, eventually, you're gonna

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Speaker 2: have the car. Right, the end goal is to have

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Speaker 2: the car. And what was this response? All I have

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Speaker 2: to work on my lion skills for the next few years. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: to pull that off. Yeah, that's a great thing to say.

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Speaker 1: I hope your wife and daughter, when she's able to read,

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Speaker 1: finds this. I hope I'm braying, but that is the

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Speaker 2: I'm leaving my husband golf. He cares more about it

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Speaker 2: posting on here. I made this post earlier today and

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Speaker 2: I've never shared anything like this publicly before. Sorry that

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Speaker 2: I've read a thirty eight female met my now husband

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Speaker 2: forty mail ten years ago and we've been together for

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Speaker 2: eight years and married for five. We both come from big,

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Speaker 2: and had two kids in my early twenties. After becoming

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Speaker 2: My kids and I have been through a lot, but

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Speaker 2: we still have an amazing close bond. When I met

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Speaker 2: turning six. He had a background that included a long

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Speaker 2: He ended things with me at first, saying he didn't

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Speaker 1: Oh, no, no golf.

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Speaker 1: Dude, that's also another thing. If they don't know how

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like he's not a contributor, but it

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Speaker 2: He knows that his excessive golfing nearly led to divorce,

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Speaker 2: He goes to the driving ranges after work daily. It's constant.

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Speaker 2: He's bailed last minute on family trips that were playing

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Speaker 1: You got a divorce. He does not respect you, but

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Speaker 2: This is his new addiction. It's really unfortunate, but this

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Speaker 2: He takes care of himself, basically does his own laundry,

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Speaker 2: I'm not perfect, but I provide and care for this household,

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Speaker 2: My husband's brothers both have small kids, and my in

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Speaker 2: is so much resentment building over this. At this point,

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Speaker 2: I thought it was fate when we found each other again.

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Speaker 2: We found each other again in this life. We love

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Speaker 2: I'm sure he's not cheating. His location is always at

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Speaker 2: not a cheater. He doesn't have the stomach for it.

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Speaker 2: He would never cheat orstray. I don't want to be

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Speaker 2: married to him forever. But now I'm not sure I

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Speaker 2: I've begged him to choose me, our marriage, our family,

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Speaker 2: But thanks in advance for any encouragement or advice.

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Speaker 1: Got him out, Get him out of there. He certainly

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Speaker 1: does not respect you.

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Speaker 2: There's got to be a boundary ultimatum. If you golf

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Speaker 2: more than this amount of time a week, it's over.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and she hasn't talked to him about this,

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Speaker 1: has she op? I think she has, But he has

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Speaker 1: a meltdown every time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, they almost got divorced. Then she pulled herself

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Speaker 1: I say, just get rid of him. If he has

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Speaker 1: a meltdown every time you talk about this, Yeah, they's

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Speaker 2: I do everything around here. I watch my clubs, I

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Speaker 1: I buy new outfits. You know how long it takes

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you got your tan khakis, you got your your

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Speaker 1: They always got sales on Facebook Marketplace for the right stuff.

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Speaker 2: So get rid of him, but give him an ultimatum first,

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Speaker 2: give him one last chance.

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Speaker 5: My husband won't stop celebrating my pregnancy, but I'm not pregnant.

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Speaker 1: Huh.

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Speaker 5: Interesting. I'm truly at a loss here. This situation has

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Speaker 5: I have no idea why, because I'm not. We haven't

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Speaker 1: Are you gaining a couple of pounds?

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Speaker 1: Oh, so he thinks it's like a surprise. You can

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Speaker 5: Not all the time, but it has come up multiple

436
00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:26,400
Speaker 5: times a day. I told him I'm not. I even

437
00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:29,320
Speaker 5: took a test because even I started wondering and he

438
00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:33,360
Speaker 5: was undoubtedly negative. I showed him and he just got annoyed,

439
00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:36,199
Speaker 5: said tests can be wrong. He didn't speak to me

440
00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:37,440
Speaker 5: for the rest of the evening.

441
00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:41,800
Speaker 1: What this is weird. I'm very confused.

442
00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:45,120
Speaker 5: The next morning, he acted as if nothing happened. When

443
00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 5: I tell him I'm not, he just kind of shuts

444
00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:49,560
Speaker 5: me out. I lost my shit yesterday when we were

445
00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:52,120
Speaker 5: in bed and he put his hand on my stomach.

446
00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:55,560
Speaker 5: Told him he's acting crazy. I'm not pregnant and his

447
00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:57,960
Speaker 5: behavior is scaring me. He went to sleep in the

448
00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:00,399
Speaker 5: guest room after that and left for work early in

449
00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:03,720
Speaker 5: the morning. I haven't seen him or spoken to him today.

450
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,800
Speaker 5: That's so weird. I'm just at a loss. I don't

451
00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:09,520
Speaker 5: know where this obsession is coming from. I even asked

452
00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:12,240
Speaker 5: him if I gained weight, if that's what has gotten

453
00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:15,639
Speaker 5: him confused. He assured me I didn't. I'm thinking of

454
00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:19,479
Speaker 5: contacting his parents or maybe a therapist or something. I

455
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:22,880
Speaker 5: honestly don't understand what's happening, and I'm worried about my husband.

456
00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:25,160
Speaker 1: I do not like this at all.

457
00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:28,439
Speaker 5: Edit next day, thank you for all the replies. I

458
00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:31,880
Speaker 5: didn't expect all this. It's been overwhelming, and I'm incredibly grateful.

459
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,240
Speaker 5: He's asleep next to me right now, and I keep

460
00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:36,680
Speaker 5: going through the comments. My husband is one of the

461
00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:39,359
Speaker 5: kindest people I've ever met. I promise you all that

462
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:42,160
Speaker 5: he's not trying to manipulate me or would do anything

463
00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:44,640
Speaker 5: to harm me. He just thinks I'm pregnant and won't

464
00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 5: talk to me if I'm not. But that does make

465
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:50,760
Speaker 5: me believe something is really wrong. I'll contact my and

466
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,280
Speaker 5: his parents in the morning once he's left for work,

467
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,960
Speaker 5: maybe go stay with my mom for a bit, though

468
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,359
Speaker 5: I hate the idea of leaving him like this. I

469
00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 5: will also make an appointment with my docter for a

470
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:04,399
Speaker 5: blood test. Thank you all for the advice. This is

471
00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,160
Speaker 5: to a longer comment addressing the fact that this could

472
00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:11,360
Speaker 5: be a delusion, and delusions can become violent. That's kind

473
00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:14,400
Speaker 5: of scary. Ooof this reply hit me hard. I appreciate

474
00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,040
Speaker 5: it a lot. I'm very torn. I love my husband

475
00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 5: very much and am worried about him right now, but

476
00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:23,760
Speaker 5: I feel increasingly uncomfortable at home as well. A commentator

477
00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 5: said the whole phantom pregnancy thing usually only affects women

478
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:32,640
Speaker 5: but one supposes a guy could have it too. Obviously,

479
00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:35,199
Speaker 5: as time goes on and you don't produce a bumper baby,

480
00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 5: he'll recognize that you're not pregnant. But this probably isn't

481
00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 5: some profound mental illness on his part, just the fervid

482
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 5: wish that you could both start working on becoming parents soon.

483
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 5: Maybe talk to him about your timeline at thirty two.

484
00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 5: He's probably just more in the ready to be a

485
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 5: dad phase of life than you are in the ready

486
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 5: to be mom phase at twenty six, So remind him

487
00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:00,480
Speaker 5: that you've still got time, So just for contact. This

488
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:04,160
Speaker 5: like phantom pregnancy is a thing like women can have

489
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,159
Speaker 5: and it has a crazy name too that I like

490
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:07,120
Speaker 5: can't remember right now off.

491
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,399
Speaker 1: The top of my head, but very unprofessional of you.

492
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:13,720
Speaker 5: But women will like have this delusion that they're pregnant

493
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,439
Speaker 5: and they'll be like super convinced and like go to

494
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:18,880
Speaker 5: doctors and every like all tests will be negative.

495
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:22,679
Speaker 1: I've read stories about this. This one lady try to

496
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Speaker 1: take her sister's baby because they thought it was her

497
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 1: kid and it wasn't and she couldn't get pregnant. Does

498
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 1: it happen with women that mainly can't get pregnant.

499
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 5: Anyone can get it. But yeah, it's really like interesting

500
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 5: and bizarre. So like these women are genuinely convinced that

501
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 5: they're pregnant but they're not. Yeah, and so this, you know,

502
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 5: they're saying like, oh, maybe like this guy is having it,

503
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 5: but it doesn't seem that way because yeah, I don't know.

504
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,480
Speaker 1: This is very weird expecting a child going.

505
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:48,679
Speaker 5: Through that, Opie said, I'll try to do that. It

506
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 5: just feels like such a weird response to wanting a child,

507
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 5: agreed comment. He replying to OPI, this is not an

508
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 5: urgent enough response to what seems like a pretty serious delusion.

509
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:04,200
Speaker 5: This behavior isn't normal or explicable in reasonable terms, Ohpi

510
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:07,360
Speaker 5: said fair it is very unlike him. I might call

511
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 5: my mom ask her if I can stay with them

512
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 5: for a bit, if only to get all of this sorted.

513
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 5: I just wanted him to snap out of it. I

514
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:15,120
Speaker 5: missed my husband as I know him.

515
00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 1: That's smart. I like that step.

516
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 5: Mentor would he harm you if he thought you got

517
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 5: in a bin, because that's a possibility. He may accuse

518
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,879
Speaker 5: you of having an open if you get medical confirmation

519
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:28,040
Speaker 5: that you're not pregnant. After he's decided that you are.

520
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 5: This is like jumping to conclusions a little bit, though.

521
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:32,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.

522
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,880
Speaker 5: It could be something, and OPI said, I hadn't even

523
00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:39,040
Speaker 5: thought of that. Sorry, thanks for your reply commentary. The

524
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 5: first time I got pregnant, my husband knew before I did.

525
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 5: He had a feeling. Home tests said negative, but a

526
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 5: blood test showed positive. OPI said, Oh my, that's wild.

527
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 5: Either way, I'll meet with my guy no, if only

528
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:53,720
Speaker 5: to have some conclusive proof that I'm not. She did

529
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 5: have an update mini update next day after edit. Things

530
00:24:57,480 --> 00:25:00,760
Speaker 5: escalated yesterday, but I'm with my mom and his parents

531
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 5: are at our place.

532
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 1: Oh no, it may have gotten a little violent.

533
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 5: That's scary. Okay, this is weird. Update again two days later.

534
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 5: Hi everyone, I hope it's okay I post this update.

535
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,680
Speaker 5: I really appreciate everyone asking if I'm safe, and I am.

536
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 5: I wish I could give clear answers, but I can't.

537
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,679
Speaker 5: Things escalated when I tried to speak to him. Keeping

538
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 5: some of y'all's advice in mind, I sat him down

539
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:27,480
Speaker 5: and explained to him that I'd love to have kids

540
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,960
Speaker 5: with him in the future, but that I'm not pregnant

541
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:33,639
Speaker 5: right now, and that his insistence worries and scares me.

542
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 5: I told him we could go to the doctor together

543
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:38,159
Speaker 5: if that would put his mind at ease, or I

544
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:40,639
Speaker 5: could take another test in front of him. I was

545
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 5: just hoping to snap him out of it. Somehow. He

546
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 5: got very agitated, said many hurtful things and accuse me

547
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,879
Speaker 5: of being a liar many times, that I'm trying to

548
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 5: keep our baby away from him, and so on. Nothing

549
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 5: made sense, and I wasn't feeling safe anymore. I knew

550
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 5: my husband would never harm me in any way, but

551
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:02,640
Speaker 5: that wasn't my husband. Things got worse. He did hurt

552
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 5: me no what This girl is still defending him, but

553
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 5: nothing permanent or even emergency care worthy. There is no excusing.

554
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 5: I also know that he if he was in his

555
00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:17,040
Speaker 5: right mind, he never would have done anything like this.

556
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 5: Maybe he's having a true like psychotic break. That's what

557
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 5: sounds like, because this is just like getting way too weird.

558
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: This is getting really weird.

559
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 5: I called mine and his parents, and I'm now staying

560
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,879
Speaker 5: with my mom. He did seem to calm down a

561
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 5: bit when his parents arrived. I haven't seen or spoken

562
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:37,639
Speaker 5: to him since then. His mother, she's an angel, is

563
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 5: keeping me posted about everything. We all agree something is

564
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,679
Speaker 5: very off about him and we don't know what it is.

565
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 5: But he hasn't agreed to getting himself checked out in

566
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 5: any way. I don't know how they'll go about it,

567
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 5: but they say, and I painfully have to agree that

568
00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 5: it's best to keep my distance for a bit, as

569
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 5: most of it is aimed at me. What the heck?

570
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 1: Why the parents are saying that?

571
00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:00,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, the parents are saying to distance.

572
00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 1: Because she it's her fault basically.

573
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 5: No, No, they're saying because like he's not well, Like

574
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 5: he's basically like targeting her, so they're trying to protect her.

575
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 1: Gotcha, that's good, Okay, okay, good parents.

576
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 5: I'm safe. So is he? I miss him so much

577
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 5: and I just want an answer as to why he's

578
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 5: being like this. I keep trying to figure out if

579
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,160
Speaker 5: there were signs before or what I did wrong. Thank

580
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 5: you for all the replies. They were a great help.

581
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 5: It's so kind you cared to ask if I'm safe.

582
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 5: This is so weird.

583
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:32,400
Speaker 1: So it's a psychotic break and with whatever the name

584
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 1: of the delusions, what did he do to her?

585
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:37,880
Speaker 5: I mean, she doesn't specify, but she says she hurt him,

586
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 5: They technically could admit him unwillingly since he put somebody

587
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 5: else in physical danger.

588
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: I think that might be the best step until you

589
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 1: figure out what's actually happening. You gotta know what's going

590
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 1: on up there.

591
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know, honestly, weird situation. I'm just trying

592
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:52,239
Speaker 5: to imagine, like, what would happen if I saw this

593
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,959
Speaker 5: guy like in a psyche are We might discharge him

594
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,600
Speaker 5: if he's just like YadA YadA YadA, But then hearing

595
00:27:57,640 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 5: that he hurt someone, then we'd be like, Okay, no,

596
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 5: you're staying with us. There's just more comments and another update. Okay,

597
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 5: this is lots of comment. Okay, relevant comment. Let's pray

598
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 5: it's not us since he refuses to get checked out.

599
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,640
Speaker 5: I'm so sorry, Op. I hope everything gets better soon.

600
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 5: I don't know if going back to him is a

601
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:18,800
Speaker 5: good idea though he physically hurt you, OP said, I

602
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:20,879
Speaker 5: do think that whatever is causing this is the reason

603
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 5: he hurt. We've been together for some years now and

604
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 5: he's never even raised his voice at me up until this.

605
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 5: I do think this is like something not his baseline.

606
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:31,920
Speaker 5: So yeah, I don't know. I feel like we don't

607
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 5: have enough context for this mini update too. He has

608
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 5: apparently agreed to get himself checked out, but I haven't

609
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 5: heard anything else. He's in the hospital. Many people were

610
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 5: right about it being a medical issue. I'll get more

611
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 5: into it at some point, maybe, but first need to

612
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 5: see what's going to happen with him. I've seen him

613
00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 5: a couple of times. Sometimes he's his normal self. Sometimes

614
00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 5: he can't stand the side of me. We're managing somehow.

615
00:28:56,160 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 5: Update two eleven days from og post. I don't know

616
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 5: if anything will see this here, but you've been all

617
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 5: kind and keep asking whether or not we're okay. I

618
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 5: hope i'll reach you like this. I'm going to keep

619
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 5: this short. My husband has a brain tumor.

620
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 1: I knew it. I freaking knew it. I called that.

621
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 1: I called that from way back. I knew it.

622
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 5: A lot of people commented this, and I feel an

623
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 5: immense amount of guilt that I hadn't considered it till

624
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 5: then all the headaches. In hindsight, I had previously dismissed

625
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 5: the symptoms because of his stressful work situation and so on.

626
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 5: I'm beating myself up that I hadn't seen it before. Yeah,

627
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 5: so that makes a lot more sense. Yeah, because I'm like,

628
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 5: this guy's too young for dementia, because like, this can

629
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 5: happen with dementia too. This makes a lot more sense.

630
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 5: A wonderful team of neurosurgeons, oncologists and other physicians is

631
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 5: figuring out the best approach here. If there is one,

632
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 5: we'll hear more in the next days. Well, don't divorce him.

633
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 5: He's got a brain tumor. I've spent more time with

634
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 5: my husband. Some moments he's his amazing self. Others he's

635
00:29:57,520 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 5: filled with anger. It's difficult, but we're managing. I wouldn't

636
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 5: have been able to do without the support of our

637
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 5: friends and family. I love my husband. This situation is terrifying.

638
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 5: In moments of clarity, he's trying to make me laugh,

639
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 5: so I don't worry. That's who he is. Thank you

640
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 5: everyone for pushing me to get him checked out.

641
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: Nice?

642
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 5: All right?

643
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: All right? Is that it? There's more? I like this step.

644
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 1: This is a saga. Great step. Don't beat yourself up

645
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 1: too much because you don't know. I know, because I

646
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 1: read so many of these freaking stories. I can about

647
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:29,360
Speaker 1: call anything.

648
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 5: Okay, there's more comments and more updates.

649
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 1: All right, let's do it.

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Speaker 5: This is three weeks later from the original post title.

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Speaker 5: I'm irrationally angry at my husband for having a brain tumor.

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Speaker 5: I can't say these feelings out loud, not to the

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Speaker 5: people around me, so I hope it's okay. I do

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Speaker 5: it here.

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Speaker 1: So she's just venting.

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Speaker 5: She's venting, and you know what, I respect that. This

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Speaker 5: is a very frustrating thing to get.

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Speaker 1: Maybe do it in your notes app keep it there.

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Speaker 1: I don't know about putting it online, but okay.

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Speaker 5: But I'm furious with my husband for getting sick. I

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Speaker 5: know he's not blame, I know he's suffering, Yet I'm

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Speaker 5: still furious with him. I can't explain it. He's the

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Speaker 5: love of my life. How dare he get sick? How

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Speaker 5: dare he change anything about the wonderful life we have planned?

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Speaker 5: How dare you leave me so much sooner than when

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Speaker 5: we were old in senile two months ago? Our life

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Speaker 5: was perfect? How could everything get so horrible so fast?

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Speaker 5: I love him so much it hurts, and because of that,

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Speaker 5: I'm so angry with him right now. I feel like

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Speaker 5: a horrible person.

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Speaker 1: I think we should replace him with brain tumor. That's

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Speaker 1: what it sounds like.

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Speaker 5: This also is just kind of like the stages of grief.

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Speaker 5: It's like denial, anger, acceptance eventually, but that sucks. She

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Speaker 5: has another update. This is uh the last one. Also,

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Speaker 5: I'm like kind of concerned because like some brain tumors

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Speaker 5: are fatal, but not all of them, and it seems

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Speaker 5: like we don't really know what stage this is at.

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Speaker 5: So that's a lot. Update post three six weeks since

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Speaker 5: og post. It's two AI. I'm here so I apologize

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Speaker 5: if this is not ve coherent. I'm going to step

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Speaker 5: away from all social media, and I wanted to leave

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Speaker 5: you all with a brutally honest update. It's silly, but

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Speaker 5: y'all support has meant a lot to me. Don't get

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Speaker 5: me wrong. I have wonderful family and friends, but in

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Speaker 5: a way I have to comfort them too, and I

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Speaker 5: can't deal with it right now. My husband is dying.

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Speaker 1: No, so was that a bad stage.

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Speaker 5: In the five weeks since this diagnosis, he's gotten worse quickly. Today,

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Speaker 5: the decision has been made not to continue treatment or

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Speaker 5: even properly start it. He's not strong enough. He has

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Speaker 5: a month maybe if we're lucky. That's crazy. He's thirty two.

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Speaker 5: I'm furious at the world right now, and I'm furious

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Speaker 5: at him, which makes me an enormous bitch because what

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Speaker 5: kind of person is angry at their husband for being ill?

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Speaker 5: I love him so much and I hate him for it.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry this isn't a better update. Wish you all

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Speaker 5: the best.

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Speaker 1: Does it sound like you're actually angry at him. It's

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Speaker 1: just the brain tumor.

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Speaker 5: You're just frustrated at the world, and I would be too.

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Speaker 1: Ah, that is tough.

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Speaker 5: That's really sad.

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Speaker 1: Moral of the story. If someone's acting.

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Speaker 5: Crazy, don't rule out a brain tumor. That's really scary though.

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Speaker 5: And yeah, brain tumors are not common. I feel like

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Speaker 5: some people like overfreak out, so don't overfreak out if

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Speaker 5: things happen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: By the way, you can join us live on YouTube

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Speaker 5: every weekday at three pm PST. Just tap our profile.

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Speaker 1: That's so sad. I hate that for Ope, I hope

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Speaker 1: things turn out well for you.

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Speaker 5: I'm praying for you.

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Speaker 1: Op the moments that you do have with your husband,

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Speaker 1: I hope that you can enjoy them and the brain

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Speaker 1: tumor doesn't like mess all that stuff up.

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Speaker 5: And also like, take care of yourself because that's that's

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Speaker 5: a lot.

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Speaker 1: That's the end of that.

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Speaker 4: I exposed my friend for cheating with a married man.

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Speaker 1: Now her wedding's off.

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Speaker 3: Bye Bye, Dunzel gone.

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Speaker 4: I thirty five female and my friend are thirty one female.

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Speaker 4: We'll call her Rachel. Have been close for about four years.

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Speaker 4: I'm married and she's engaged. Rachel enjoys Spanish music and

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Speaker 4: my husband is a well known salsa dancer in his scene.

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Speaker 3: Spicy We Spicy Spicy.

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Speaker 4: We've taken her dancing a couple times, and the three

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Speaker 4: of us have become pretty close by the way. This

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Speaker 4: comes from user tomatio Oka forty six thirty three on

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Speaker 4: the r slash Okay storytime stubreddit. Recently, we all went

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Speaker 4: to a salsa bar for my husband's friend's birthday party.

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Speaker 4: Rachel's fiance couldn't make it as he was working during

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Speaker 4: the night. Rachel drank a whole jug of cocktails by

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Speaker 4: herself and got pretty tipsy. This is where things got tricky.

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Speaker 4: While I was on the dance floor with some girlfriends,

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Speaker 4: my husband stood by our table. Rachel approached him, placed

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Speaker 4: her hand on his chest and started running it down

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Speaker 4: while shaking her hips. I'm on tonight did a shakira.

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Speaker 4: She did it real quick.

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Speaker 3: Shakira shakira, shakira, shakira.

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Speaker 4: My husband was visibly taken aback and took a small

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Speaker 4: step backwards, left, and then walked away.

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Speaker 1: I saw this happen as.

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Speaker 4: In a few others, but I didn't think too much

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Speaker 4: of it at first, since Rachel had also been dancing

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Speaker 4: a bit provocatively with other men, including one of the

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Speaker 4: band members, despite being engaged. After that incident, my husband

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Speaker 4: felt uncomfortable and decided to leave the party early. He

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Speaker 4: later told me how uneasy the situation made him, especially

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Speaker 4: because he's known to be a conservative dancer who strictly

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Speaker 4: follows social dance etiquette, meaning no inappropriate touching. We agree

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Speaker 4: that I should have a conversation with Rachel to address

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Speaker 4: the issue. When I reached out to her to meet

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Speaker 4: in person, she kept postpony, so we eventually had a

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Speaker 4: video call. During the conversation, I explained my husband's boundaries

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Speaker 4: and reassured her that we knew she didn't mean any harm.

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Speaker 4: We laughed it off, and she even offered to apologize,

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Speaker 4: but I told her it wasn't necessary. We just wanted

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Speaker 4: to set boundaries for future interactions. We ended the call

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Speaker 4: on what I thought was a good note. However, two

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Speaker 4: days later, she texted me saying she was hurt that

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Speaker 4: I would think she had other intentions. Then she dropped

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Speaker 4: a bombshell. She uninvited both me and my husband from

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Speaker 4: her wedding. Sounds like you don't want people who know

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Speaker 4: about you your habits to be at your wedding.

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Speaker 3: That's what I was gonna say. She doesn't want her

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Speaker 3: friends and fiance to find.

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Speaker 4: Out nobody with the inside scoop is allowed at the wedding.

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Speaker 3: Even though so many people witnessed it.

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Speaker 1: We were shocked.

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Speaker 4: My husband and I have been there for Rachel and

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Speaker 4: her fiance in many ways, from helping with the proposal,

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Speaker 4: to designing her wedding invites for free, and even vouching

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Speaker 4: for her fiance's character in church so they could have

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Speaker 4: a Catholic wedding. I tried calling Rachel to explain, but

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Speaker 4: she ignored me and her fiance followed suit. Since we

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Speaker 4: have mutual friends, some of whom I'm closer to, I

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Speaker 4: had no choice but to let them know I was uninvited.

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Speaker 4: A few of them have now decided not to attend

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Speaker 4: the wedding in solidarity.

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Speaker 1: Here's where it gets more complicated.

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Speaker 4: After our conversation, Rachel started hanging out at a bar

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Speaker 4: with my husband's friends. Initially, we decided not to tell

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Speaker 4: anyone about what happened because we thought she might just

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Speaker 4: be stressed out due to the wedding. However, I always

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Speaker 4: love a good However, she started telling them that I

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Speaker 4: was very sensitive and insecure, which is why she decided

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Speaker 4: not to have me at the wedding. She conveniently left

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Speaker 4: out the part where she inappropriately touched my husband. Now

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Speaker 4: I feel guilty that she's losing friends at her wedding. However,

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Speaker 4: I felt I had no other option but to explain

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Speaker 4: why I was uninvited since she wouldn't communicate with me.

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Speaker 4: Am I the a hole here. I'm gonna say no no.

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Speaker 4: Initial impression is no, no no. But we have more story.

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Speaker 4: I have an update. I had to tell one of

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Speaker 4: my good friends, let's call her Freya. I told Freya

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Speaker 4: what happened, as she was invited to the wedding as well.

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Speaker 4: She said she's not surprised by this behavior, as Rachel

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Speaker 4: has tried to be a little funny with her husband.

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Speaker 4: Rachel and Freya's husband met at a birthday party and

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Speaker 4: she started teasing him in a playful manner. Her husband

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Speaker 4: is a little quiet. She then added him on Instagram

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Speaker 4: and tried chatting it up with him. He blocked her.

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Speaker 4: She didn't want to let us all know because Rachel

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Speaker 4: is someone who's very friendly and a social butterfly, so

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Speaker 4: she felt maybe she was being a little conservative, but

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Speaker 4: she said she didn't have a good gut feeling about Rachel.

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Speaker 4: She and her husband rarely attend any events with Freya

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Speaker 4: in it, and if she does, her husband refuses to

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Speaker 4: be there To avoid any sort of drama. They have

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Speaker 4: chose not to attend the wedding as well. And another update,

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Speaker 4: So looks like the momentum is starting to swing.

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Speaker 3: It looks like Rachel is just she does want to

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Speaker 3: get married.

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Speaker 1: Update. The tea just keeps spilling.

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Speaker 6: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

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Speaker 6: not on this page, search Okay Storytime clips on Facebook

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Speaker 6: for more.

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Speaker 1: Okay, back to the story.

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Speaker 4: Firstly, I do want to thank everyone who left comments

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Speaker 4: and advice. Gave me some pretty good ideas that I

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Speaker 4: almost executed, but your words gave me some peace and

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Speaker 4: reassurance as I really felt like a horrible person when

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Speaker 4: people started to boycott her wedding, so thank you for

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Speaker 4: the kind words. There is an update. It's a little long,

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Speaker 4: but bear with me. So I posted my story about

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Speaker 4: a week ago, but to give you a timeline, that

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Speaker 4: drama actually kicked off about a month ago. Fast forward

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Speaker 4: to just a few days ago, and I get a

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Speaker 4: text from Rachel's fiance at one in the morning. Uh

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Speaker 4: oh uh, oh, yes, you read that right, one in

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Speaker 4: the morning. He's asking if my husband and I are

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Speaker 4: awake because he has an emergency. Next thing I know,

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Speaker 4: we're on a call. He starts asking us about a guy,

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Speaker 4: let's call him d who's a band member who frequently

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Speaker 4: plays at the bar, and ask us for his number.

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Speaker 4: My husband knows of him and has a mutual friend

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Speaker 4: with d. But here's where it gets juicy. Turns out

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Speaker 4: Rachel's fiance caught her lying about where she was one night.

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Speaker 1: She'd been hanging.

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Speaker 4: Out at Dee's house, of all places, and lied about

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Speaker 4: being there and that was her excuse. Oh, she was

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Speaker 4: just dropping off one of my husband's friends. Rachel doesn't

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Speaker 4: have a car and doesn't even drive, but she said

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Speaker 4: she was just being a good friend because my husband's

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Speaker 4: friend was wasted. But here's the kicker. Their friend lives

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Speaker 4: a good forty minutes away from D's place. You do

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Speaker 4: the bath. Basically, she lied and said my husband's friend

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Speaker 4: lives there. It was actually D's house. Apparently she was

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Speaker 4: with D until four am for drinks at his house alone.

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Speaker 1: Did I mention D is married with two kids.

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Speaker 3: I want to say something about D's.

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Speaker 4: About D's nuts. His wife and children were conveniently out

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Speaker 4: of town, which is classy. Right, yeah, easy, But wait,

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Speaker 4: there's more. The lies don't stop there. Rachel's own bridesmaid

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Speaker 4: caught her dancing inappropriately with D at the bar and

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Speaker 4: saw them kiss. The bride'smaid and groomsmen were close friends

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Speaker 4: of both Rachel and her fiance, and has since been

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Speaker 4: collecting receipts evidence that Rachel has been emotionally cheating and

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Speaker 4: lying to her fiance talking about I mean physically as well.

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Speaker 4: I mean they were kissed, this all kiss. Rachel eventually

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Speaker 4: admitted to everything except sleeping with D, of course, because

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Speaker 4: they didn't go that far, right, Yeah, that's believable. Her

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Speaker 4: fiance wanted D's number to talk to him to confirm

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Speaker 4: if what Rachel said is true, we didn't give his

868
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 4: number because we don't have it, but he found it anyway,

869
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Speaker 4: Her fiance is done with her. He can't trust her anymore.

870
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 4: He's even gone as far as talking to her parents

871
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:41,400
Speaker 4: and calling off the wedding.

872
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 3: As you should.

873
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 1: This isn't the first time she cheated.

874
00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 4: She was engaged before and cheated on her previous fiance as.

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Speaker 3: Well, Rachel.

876
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 4: Some people just don't change. Back to Rachel's current fiance.

877
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 4: Despite everything, he's been graceful enough to tell people that

878
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,080
Speaker 4: the split was mutual, trying to spare her from any

879
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 4: public shame. And how does Rachel repay him for this

880
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 4: kindness by texting everyone she knows claiming she called off

881
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 4: the wedding because her ex fiance is emotionally abusive and

882
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:14,799
Speaker 4: didn't trust her.

883
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:15,920
Speaker 3: Oh so she's cuckoo.

884
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,840
Speaker 4: I think now it's time for the fiance to reveal

885
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,320
Speaker 4: the truth. Oh yeah, If she's going to go on

886
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 4: the war path, the truth needs to be revealed.

887
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 3: She can't handle the truth.

888
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:28,399
Speaker 4: I guess that's easier than admitting you've been sneaking out

889
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 4: until four am at another guy's house. Right at this point,

890
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:35,160
Speaker 4: my husband and I decided to tell his friends the

891
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 4: truth because of course Rachel dragged their names into it too.

892
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 4: And now that friend is angry because she was never

893
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 4: that wasted and has never asked Rachel for help, nor

894
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 4: did Rachel send her home at any point in time.

895
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 4: She is ready to confront Rachel for using her as

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Speaker 4: an alibi. And by the way, if you ever need

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Speaker 1: The truth needs to be revealed.

903
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 3: The truth definitely needs to be revealed. Rachel is a

904
00:43:13,040 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 3: compulsive liar, a compulsive cheater, and just a compulsive terrible person.

905
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:22,080
Speaker 3: So I think everyone just leave her b Yeah.

906
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 1: Rachel, let her go.

907
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,720
Speaker 4: Rachel's very clearly the a hole of this story.

908
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 3: She loves throwing people under the bus. Like anyone who

909
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 3: she can throw unto the bus, she'll throw under the bus. Well,

910
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 3: you cheat one field the under that's the first thing

911
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 3: you cheat on another fiance. You keep cheating on your fiance,

912
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:39,319
Speaker 3: you'll probably cheat on your next fiance. But I think

913
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:42,120
Speaker 3: in terms of op being worried about like having the

914
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 3: truth be out there and being like the ones kind

915
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 3: of responsible for it. It's like, if anyone gets mad,

916
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:48,800
Speaker 3: if they're directing anger at you, they should be directing

917
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 3: it it. Rachel, Oh, one hundred percent no, and you

918
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 3: want to clear your name. You don't want to seem bad.

919
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 4: I think, well clear, they're clearing their name and the fiancee.

920
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 3: No, I was gonna say the fiance deserves to not

921
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 3: have any of this tar because he tried to go.

922
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:03,759
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, you know what, this sucks, wedding's off.

923
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 3: Let's just be you know, friendly. No, she wants she

924
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:08,359
Speaker 3: wants war, She's gonna get war.

925
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:11,879
Speaker 4: Let's finish the story. Honestly, I've had enough. I've been

926
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:14,880
Speaker 4: telling people what actually happened after the call, because, let's

927
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 4: face it, Rachel doesn't deserve protection when all she does

928
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 4: is throw everyone under the bus. Hey, go to your shot,

929
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:23,840
Speaker 4: high five boop.

930
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 3: It's like I call it. I called this as I

931
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 3: sees it.

932
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:29,480
Speaker 4: Her ex fiance tried to spare her some dignity, but

933
00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 4: she chose deflection over reflection. I love that if her

934
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 4: shady behavior is out in the open. Now that's on her,

935
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 4: and there you have it. I didn't have to lift

936
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 4: a finger. Wedding canceled, her brides and groomsmen have all unfriended,

937
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 4: her friends, lost, and all because she couldn't keep her

938
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 4: lies straight. Karma did the heavy lifting this time, and

939
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Speaker 4: that is the end of that story. Good good job.

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00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:55,320
Speaker 4: So glad that Rachel is gone.

941
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Speaker 3: We'll see you in the next one.

942
00:44:57,040 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 4: My maid of honor was blazed during my wedding, so

943
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Speaker 4: I'm cutting her off.

944
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Speaker 3: Another victim of the Devil's let us.

945
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Speaker 1: YEA hate to see it.

946
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Speaker 4: I'm a twenty three year old woman who married my husband,

947
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Speaker 4: a twenty seven year old man, in November of twenty

948
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Speaker 4: twenty four. We got engaged Christmas twenty twenty three and

949
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Speaker 4: immediately started planning. We chose our wedding date to coincide

950
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Speaker 4: with my late grandparents anniversary, and both of our families

951
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 4: were ecstatic.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this.

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Speaker 4: Comes from user beautiful U eighty eight thirty eight on

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Speaker 4: the r slash Okay storytime subredding. So, when it came

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Speaker 4: to selecting my bridal party, I initially asked a friend

956
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Speaker 4: to be in it, but she was undergoing nursing school

957
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:39,360
Speaker 4: and felt she couldn't fully commit. She politely declined, but

958
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 4: agreed to be a bridesmaid. This leads me to my

959
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 4: maid of honor, who i'll call Abby. Abby is my

960
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:50,560
Speaker 4: new brother in law's wife and was previously married, which

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Speaker 4: will be relevant later. On. Less than two months before

962
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Speaker 4: the wedding, Abby informed me that she wouldn't be ordering

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00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 4: the dress I had requested. Keep in mind that I

964
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Speaker 4: was covering all hair and makeup costs, providing accommodations for

965
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Speaker 4: the night, and even offered to pay for her dress,

966
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Speaker 4: which she refused, saying she would never wear it again.

967
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Speaker 1: This was frustrating, especially since she had been.

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00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 4: Telling me for months that she had picked out a

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00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:19,919
Speaker 4: dress and even sent me photos of it. I made

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Speaker 4: it clear to my bridal party that they could choose

971
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Speaker 4: their dress styles, but the dresses needed to be the

972
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Speaker 4: color I provided long and ordered from a specific website

973
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Speaker 4: since that's where I was ordering the groomsman's ties. Everyone complied,

974
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Speaker 4: except for my maid of honor. When I asked Abby

975
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Speaker 4: if she wanted to participate in the wedding, she confirmed

976
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Speaker 4: that she did.

977
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Speaker 1: We came to a.

978
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 4: Mutual agreement she would walk down the aisle, but sit

979
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 4: on the front row with the parents. She seemed happy

980
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 4: with this arrangement, and so was I. Due to the circumstances,

981
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Speaker 4: I had to choose a new maidive honor with less

982
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 4: than two months to go. I asked a friend, alcohol Tia,

983
00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 4: who agreed to take on the even though she was

984
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 4: dating Abby's ex husband. Oo's that's a little spicy, complicated

985
00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 4: layer right there. We discussed this for weeks, and Tia

986
00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:12,680
Speaker 4: had been eager to be my maid of honor when

987
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:15,840
Speaker 4: she learned that Abby would not fulfill her duties. Although

988
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 4: I expected Abby to be responsible for planning my bachelorette party,

989
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,880
Speaker 4: I didn't have one despite it being planned, and I

990
00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 4: was expecting to cover the entire cost. This brings me

991
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 4: to the day of my wedding. Everything was going smoothly,

992
00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 4: despite a little drama at the rehearsal between Tia and

993
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,600
Speaker 4: my husband's best man, who didn't want to walk together.

994
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:38,919
Speaker 4: We managed to settle that. Then Tia decided she didn't

995
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:41,800
Speaker 4: want her makeup done, and a few other bridesmaids chose

996
00:47:41,840 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 4: to do their own.

997
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:44,160
Speaker 1: I took it in stride.

998
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:46,759
Speaker 4: Everyone in the bridal party kept saying it was my

999
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 4: husband's and my day, and that everyone needed to do

1000
00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 4: what we wanted. All I wanted was for the day

1001
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 4: to be perfect, so I let things slide.

1002
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:58,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, what have we all? Isn't that just a simple request?

1003
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 1: One perfect day for my wedding?

1004
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:06,320
Speaker 3: That's that simple again, what's the saying my wedding, my rules.

1005
00:48:06,560 --> 00:48:09,440
Speaker 4: Once hair and makeup were done, we all headed back

1006
00:48:09,480 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 4: to the cabin. That's when Tia started acting strange. And

1007
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 4: I don't just be nervous. When she agreed to be

1008
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 4: my maid of honor, she had mentioned wanting to smoke

1009
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:21,400
Speaker 4: a little bit of the devil lettuce to take the

1010
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:26,320
Speaker 4: edge off. Having consumed with her multiple times, I knew

1011
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:28,319
Speaker 4: she could handle it, so I was fine with it,

1012
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:31,280
Speaker 4: and even joked that I might as well. At the cabin,

1013
00:48:31,400 --> 00:48:33,879
Speaker 4: she kept fumbling with things and looked a bit off.

1014
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 4: She became unusually quiet, which isn't like her, but I

1015
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:38,800
Speaker 4: tried to brush it off as nerves.

1016
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:40,800
Speaker 1: Oh boy, was I wrong.

1017
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 4: After taking some pictures, we arrived at the venue and

1018
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:46,120
Speaker 4: I was ushered into a back room so no one

1019
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:49,720
Speaker 4: would see me in my dress. I started to feel nervous.

1020
00:48:50,160 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 4: I should have mentioned earlier that I have some mental

1021
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 4: health issues, including severe anxiety. I began to cry and

1022
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 4: have an anxiety attack, but I was able to calm

1023
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 4: down a little. If you're gonna get anxious on your wedding,

1024
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:04,400
Speaker 4: it's yeah, that makes sense. If you have anxiety, I

1025
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:05,759
Speaker 4: bet you'd be anxious on your wedding.

1026
00:49:05,800 --> 00:49:06,960
Speaker 3: It's one of your biggest days.

1027
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 4: That's when Tia came in and said she was going

1028
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 4: to touch up my eyeliner. I thought nothing of it

1029
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 4: at first, but then she started rummaging through my makeup bag,

1030
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Speaker 4: claiming she couldn't find it. I tried to assist her,

1031
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 4: but from my bridesmaid's perspective, it looked like helping a

1032
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:25,600
Speaker 4: wasted five year old. I eventually told her not to

1033
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 4: worry about it, as eyeliner wasn't my main concern. I

1034
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:30,839
Speaker 4: was wearing glasses anyway, so it's not a big deal.

1035
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:34,160
Speaker 4: The ceremony came and went, and although there were some

1036
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 4: bumps in the road, overall it was absolutely beautiful and

1037
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 4: at the end.

1038
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:41,440
Speaker 1: Of the day we were Marrieday.

1039
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 4: The reception started and my husband and I went back

1040
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 4: down to the pond at the venue to take pictures

1041
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:50,359
Speaker 4: while everyone ate, so we could stay on schedule. We

1042
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:53,960
Speaker 4: took amazing pictures and were so happy until I returned

1043
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:56,640
Speaker 4: to the reception and two of my bridesmaids told me

1044
00:49:56,680 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 4: that Tia was freaking out. She was dragging her dress

1045
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:02,920
Speaker 4: sleeve through her food, picking it up with her hands,

1046
00:50:03,160 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 4: and making uncomfortable comments to others in the bridal party.

1047
00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:10,360
Speaker 4: I was frustrated because she had never acted like this before.

1048
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:15,040
Speaker 4: And when she arrived, oh my god, she was at

1049
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:19,359
Speaker 4: a higher elevation than the moon, and honestly, I wasn't

1050
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 4: convinced it was just from the devil's lettuce. Her eyes

1051
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 4: weren't red, but her pupils were enormous, and she could

1052
00:50:26,160 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 4: barely form a coherent sentence. At that moment, I knew

1053
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:33,040
Speaker 4: it was going to be a disaster. Yeah, sounds like

1054
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 4: she's done a little something on top of whatever.

1055
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:38,239
Speaker 3: She's literally higher than Cloud nine.

1056
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Speaker 6: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

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Speaker 1: On Facebook for more. Okay, back to the story.

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Speaker 4: To make matters worse, I realized that our venue owner,

1060
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:50,879
Speaker 4: who was also our coordinator, had just entered the room.

1061
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Speaker 4: This venue had a strict no booze, no substance policy,

1062
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:58,280
Speaker 4: and we had been warned that we would be kicked

1063
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:02,000
Speaker 4: out if any were found. I know it was stupid

1064
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 4: of me to tell Tia that she could consume a

1065
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 4: little devil's lettuce before she came. When the coordinator asked

1066
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 4: if everything was okay, we all said yes, but we

1067
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:13,800
Speaker 4: noted that Tia wasn't going to do her speech because

1068
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 4: she was anxious. She had no problem with this and

1069
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 4: immediately suggested an alternative.

1070
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Speaker 1: We could have an.

1071
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:22,279
Speaker 4: Open floor for anyone who wanted to speak during the

1072
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Speaker 4: Sparkler exit. This sounded amazing to me, and for about

1073
00:51:25,719 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 4: five minutes everything seemed to be back on track. We

1074
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 4: were informed that group pictures were coming up. One of

1075
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Speaker 4: my bridesmaids took Tia outside to babysit her, while another

1076
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:37,600
Speaker 4: helped me go to the bathroom. For anyone who has

1077
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Speaker 4: worn a white puffy ball gown dress, you understand the struggle.

1078
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Speaker 4: I can't relate, but I can.

1079
00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:43,760
Speaker 3: I know the struggle.

1080
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 4: I can sympathize.

1081
00:51:44,719 --> 00:51:45,520
Speaker 3: It's a big struggle.

1082
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 4: When we were done, we all went outside. My husband,

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00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 4: my bridesmaid and I sat down outside waiting for the

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00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:53,919
Speaker 4: family to get ready for pictures and for our photographer

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00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:56,759
Speaker 4: to prepare as well. This is when Tia came over

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00:51:56,920 --> 00:52:00,799
Speaker 4: and started trying to use my dress as a blanket, Yes.

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00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:02,000
Speaker 1: A blanket.

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00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:03,439
Speaker 3: What did she take?

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00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:04,840
Speaker 4: I have a feeling I know what it is, but

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00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna say.

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00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:06,240
Speaker 3: Okay.

1092
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 4: I seriously couldn't make this up even if I tried.

1093
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 4: I asked her not to use my dress in that way,

1094
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 4: A no brainer, I thought, and she responded with.

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00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:16,880
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, ha.

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00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:18,799
Speaker 4: And then sat so close to me that she might

1097
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:21,279
Speaker 4: as well have been in my lap. I believe this

1098
00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:23,840
Speaker 4: person has consumed a fungus of some kind.

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00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 3: Ah.

1100
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 4: As you can probably tell, I had reached my limit

1101
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:29,560
Speaker 4: with her behavior, and I won't lie. I was being

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00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:30,399
Speaker 4: a bit of an a hole.

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00:52:30,400 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 3: At this point.

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00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:32,040
Speaker 1: Pictures came and went, and.

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00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 4: My husband asked if I wanted to take a breather

1106
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 4: because he could see the anger and stress on my face.

1107
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 4: I agreed, and he and his best man went to

1108
00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 4: get his overnight bag out of his car and put

1109
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:44,879
Speaker 4: it into mine. At that moment, two of my bridesmaids

1110
00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 4: came outside along with Tia. One of the bride'smaids asked

1111
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,239
Speaker 4: if she could run to the cabin and get her

1112
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:53,440
Speaker 4: stuff and I say yes. Then Tia looked at me

1113
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:56,160
Speaker 4: and said, I'm not really sure what's going on, and

1114
00:52:56,200 --> 00:52:58,400
Speaker 4: I'm sorry I didn't give a speech, but after this,

1115
00:52:58,800 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 4: I don't think we should be friends anymore. Definitely on fungus, Definitely,

1116
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 4: way too much fungus. Don't do fungus at a wedding

1117
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:08,520
Speaker 4: where you're the maid of honor.

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00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:10,160
Speaker 1: Dumb, dumb, what are you doing?

1119
00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:11,800
Speaker 3: Don't do it at all.

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00:53:12,000 --> 00:53:13,800
Speaker 1: There's a time in a place.

1121
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:18,920
Speaker 4: After hearing that with the coldest tone and look, I replied,

1122
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 4: that's probably for the best. You should get your stuff

1123
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:26,880
Speaker 4: and leave. Obviously I had enough. My husband, family, the

1124
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:30,160
Speaker 4: entire bridal party, and friends who heard it said I

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00:53:30,239 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 4: was one hundred percent in the right. This brought me

1126
00:53:32,600 --> 00:53:36,239
Speaker 4: to a point where I was completely done and crying

1127
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:39,560
Speaker 4: from anger. We ended up not doing a first dance

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00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:42,360
Speaker 4: and instead did a mock send off so the lighting

1129
00:53:42,400 --> 00:53:45,600
Speaker 4: would be right. We took some fake first dance pictures,

1130
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 4: but it just wasn't the same. We left maybe thirty

1131
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:51,840
Speaker 4: minutes after everything happened, even though we had events planned

1132
00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:54,880
Speaker 4: for two more hours. But you know what event we

1133
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:58,800
Speaker 4: have planned for you every day, every single weekday three

1134
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 4: pmpst every weekday we go live on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok,

1135
00:54:04,040 --> 00:54:06,880
Speaker 4: and Instagram. All you have to do is tap our

1136
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:10,520
Speaker 4: profile on any one of those respective platforms and you're

1137
00:54:10,560 --> 00:54:14,399
Speaker 4: in OP. I think made a perfectly fine call.

1138
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:16,799
Speaker 3: I don't blame OP for any of that, and I

1139
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:18,720
Speaker 3: signed with OPU being super angry.

1140
00:54:19,040 --> 00:54:22,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would be too. Like if if if I

1141
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:25,399
Speaker 4: was depending on somebody and they did that the one

1142
00:54:25,480 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 4: day that I was depending on them, I'd be like,

1143
00:54:28,320 --> 00:54:31,080
Speaker 4: I can't. I can't trust you with a single thing.

1144
00:54:31,120 --> 00:54:31,319
Speaker 2: Now.

1145
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:35,799
Speaker 3: Now, if it was again an accident because accidents had happened,

1146
00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 3: This is a terrible day to have an accident, but

1147
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:39,959
Speaker 3: accidents do happen, then I would converse. But it doesn't

1148
00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:41,600
Speaker 3: seem like this was I doubt it. There's no way

1149
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:43,680
Speaker 3: that was an accident because it was like the limit

1150
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 3: what you're doing with the Devil's let us.

1151
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 4: It sounds like somebody is not able to participate responsibly

1152
00:54:48,239 --> 00:54:51,359
Speaker 4: in these kind of activities. Let's finish this story. Now

1153
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,080
Speaker 4: that I've received some of our photos back, I realized

1154
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:57,239
Speaker 4: just how messed up Tia looks in them, And to

1155
00:54:57,280 --> 00:55:00,160
Speaker 4: be honest, the pictures are quite bad. Not do to

1156
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:03,200
Speaker 4: our photographer. She was amazing. It's just the pictures with

1157
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:06,360
Speaker 4: Tia in them. She ended up calling me on our honeymoon,

1158
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:08,839
Speaker 4: saying she had no idea what she had done, but

1159
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 4: that everyone was telling her how she messed everything up

1160
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:13,719
Speaker 4: and ruined the entire night. She asked if we could

1161
00:55:13,719 --> 00:55:16,160
Speaker 4: have a sit down conversation when we returned, But I

1162
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:18,960
Speaker 4: don't think that's a good idea. I'm not really sure

1163
00:55:18,960 --> 00:55:21,400
Speaker 4: what to do, but I don't believe it's my responsibility

1164
00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 4: to make her feel better about what she did or

1165
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 4: to give her a pass. Honestly, after what happened, I

1166
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 4: don't want anything to do with her. So am I

1167
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:32,279
Speaker 4: the a hole? I think you should maybe try to

1168
00:55:32,320 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 4: hear her out and what happened to her if she's

1169
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:38,759
Speaker 4: really like I don't even remember what happened, because that

1170
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:41,880
Speaker 4: could be a more serious situation where you have somebody

1171
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:45,840
Speaker 4: in that group was potentially doing something very illegal.

1172
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:49,319
Speaker 3: Could have been an accident, It could have been an

1173
00:55:49,320 --> 00:55:51,279
Speaker 3: accident of like oh what, So.

1174
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:53,879
Speaker 4: I think hear her out on that you can still

1175
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 4: be perfectly fine and being like, hey, you know, I

1176
00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:58,759
Speaker 4: don't want to have any contact with you.

1177
00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:00,879
Speaker 3: I think you ruined my wedding. I'm kind of done

1178
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:03,920
Speaker 3: with you or low contact, no contact, it's up to you.

1179
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:07,439
Speaker 3: But I still what I believe in is here out.

1180
00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:10,839
Speaker 4: I hope this isn't condescending, but I feel like this,

1181
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:13,399
Speaker 4: like over time will go away on its own.

1182
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:13,879
Speaker 3: It will.

1183
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 4: It doesn't seem like a thing that's a permanent cutting

1184
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 4: them off out of my life for good. Yeah, but

1185
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 4: definitely like you'd have to reassess the level of your

1186
00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:29,360
Speaker 4: your friendship for sure. My friend is never happy for me,

1187
00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:31,839
Speaker 4: and I'm sick of it.

1188
00:56:32,360 --> 00:56:35,239
Speaker 3: I'm happy for you, op, I'll be happy for you.

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00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:35,760
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1190
00:56:35,800 --> 00:56:37,000
Speaker 3: And YouTube dakode.

1191
00:56:36,880 --> 00:56:38,200
Speaker 1: Yeppy for you happy.

1192
00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 4: We got enough happiness to go around over I'll share

1193
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:43,359
Speaker 4: some happiness with you. I'm twenty two female and I've

1194
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:46,600
Speaker 4: had a friend twenty two female Jess that I met

1195
00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:50,480
Speaker 4: almost five years ago, and since year one we've been close,

1196
00:56:51,160 --> 00:56:53,880
Speaker 4: or so I thought. By the way, this comes from

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00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:57,400
Speaker 4: user Cheshire sixty seven on the r slash Okay storytime

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00:56:57,400 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 4: subprett it. So everything began this summer when we went

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Speaker 4: together to a summer internship to another country. We lived

1200
00:57:04,920 --> 00:57:08,480
Speaker 4: together and everything, and she met someone twenty four male

1201
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:13,000
Speaker 4: Frank from a different country also visiting on a group

1202
00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 4: chat before we got there. They talked a lot, and

1203
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:18,880
Speaker 4: when they met in person, they started going out a lot.

1204
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 4: I was happy for her, she broke up with someone

1205
00:57:21,560 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 4: not too long ago before that, but I was also

1206
00:57:23,800 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 4: worried because she hates long distance relationships, and even though

1207
00:57:27,400 --> 00:57:29,560
Speaker 4: she always said they weren't going to be a thing,

1208
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 4: they ended up being a thing.

1209
00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 3: We're not gonna be a thing. It's not gonna happen.

1210
00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:37,240
Speaker 4: Famous last words of people who become things.

1211
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:37,960
Speaker 3: We're a thing.

1212
00:57:38,320 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 4: A few weeks later, I started talking with someone. We

1213
00:57:40,840 --> 00:57:44,919
Speaker 4: met their twenty six mail Jason, and we clicked during

1214
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:48,280
Speaker 4: our first conversation and compared to them, we made it

1215
00:57:48,360 --> 00:57:50,800
Speaker 4: official and had it clear that we wanted to keep

1216
00:57:50,880 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 4: dating even as a long distance couple. And look at

1217
00:57:54,320 --> 00:57:58,720
Speaker 4: that clear communication unheard of. During the last two weeks there,

1218
00:57:59,000 --> 00:58:01,640
Speaker 4: Jess had a few dis dis agreements with Frank, disagreements

1219
00:58:01,680 --> 00:58:04,880
Speaker 4: and discussions that even from the beginning had existed but

1220
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:08,440
Speaker 4: had been dismissed. This got to a point that he

1221
00:58:08,560 --> 00:58:11,720
Speaker 4: started calling her names and making her cry more times

1222
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:14,600
Speaker 4: than I actually knew, which I discovered later, and our

1223
00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 4: last week there they broke up. He was the kind

1224
00:58:18,200 --> 00:58:20,360
Speaker 4: of person who will make you cry and then try

1225
00:58:20,400 --> 00:58:23,320
Speaker 4: to fix everything with a gift. We told her, me

1226
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,800
Speaker 4: and our other friends that it wasn't a good thing

1227
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 4: to stay with this guy, but she didn't care, and

1228
00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:33,920
Speaker 4: even after their breakup, they kept talking. One day she

1229
00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:36,800
Speaker 4: asked my opinion, and I told her the truth that

1230
00:58:36,960 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 4: I didn't even like him, so she should worry about

1231
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 4: herself and not let him treat her like that. She

1232
00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:44,840
Speaker 4: got mad at me and left the room.

1233
00:58:44,960 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 3: She could fix them. Don't worry, she's like I put

1234
00:58:46,720 --> 00:58:47,160
Speaker 3: to fix them.

1235
00:58:47,200 --> 00:58:48,160
Speaker 1: I could fix him.

1236
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:51,520
Speaker 4: I kept going out with my boyfriend before leaving the country,

1237
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 4: and she would make comments telling me to do stuff

1238
00:58:54,720 --> 00:58:57,200
Speaker 4: with her so that I wouldn't go out, and at

1239
00:58:57,240 --> 00:58:59,960
Speaker 4: the end of the day she didn't even do that,

1240
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:04,360
Speaker 4: just me. Right before leaving, she told me not to

1241
00:59:04,400 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 4: tell my family or someone else at home about my relationship.

1242
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:10,360
Speaker 4: After all, I should wait to see if we were

1243
00:59:10,360 --> 00:59:14,640
Speaker 4: gonna last, which we might not. Anyway, I got so

1244
00:59:14,720 --> 00:59:18,000
Speaker 4: sad and mad. What kind of friend tells you that

1245
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:21,600
Speaker 4: she doesn't think your relationship's gonna work. At the end,

1246
00:59:21,760 --> 00:59:23,920
Speaker 4: I told my parents and they were okay with it,

1247
00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:27,080
Speaker 4: and we are still together, congrats. We didn't see each

1248
00:59:27,080 --> 00:59:29,919
Speaker 4: other much after the summer, but one of our conversations

1249
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:33,160
Speaker 4: when we came back was her not happy that I

1250
00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:36,240
Speaker 4: told people about it, and when I talk about how

1251
00:59:36,240 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 4: my family accepted him, she didn't say anything bad, but

1252
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:43,360
Speaker 4: I could feel something was wrong. Weeks later, I was

1253
00:59:43,400 --> 00:59:46,440
Speaker 4: talking with a friend, the kind that's always there for

1254
00:59:46,480 --> 00:59:49,520
Speaker 4: you in supporting, so I told him my doubts that

1255
00:59:49,680 --> 00:59:52,200
Speaker 4: I felt like she wasn't happy about it and the

1256
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:55,560
Speaker 4: things that she did when we were visiting that other country,

1257
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 4: and his answer surprised me and made me sad. He said, quote,

1258
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:02,760
Speaker 4: I'm glad you're not with her so much now. She

1259
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:05,400
Speaker 4: has always been like that to you, but you just

1260
01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:09,120
Speaker 4: never noticed. He told me how she used to say

1261
01:00:09,240 --> 01:00:13,320
Speaker 4: how I wasn't smart, but I'm actually dumb. Ironically I

1262
01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:16,200
Speaker 4: have better grades than her. How after an exam she

1263
01:00:16,320 --> 01:00:19,520
Speaker 4: tried to dismiss my note and how I was just lucky.

1264
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:22,520
Speaker 4: And she even used to tell people that I liked

1265
01:00:22,560 --> 01:00:25,080
Speaker 4: her ex boyfriend back when they were dating, which is

1266
01:00:25,120 --> 01:00:27,960
Speaker 4: something she even told me once, but didn't say that

1267
01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 4: she told everyone, just that she was sure of it,

1268
01:00:32,320 --> 01:00:33,080
Speaker 4: and that was a lie.

1269
01:00:33,120 --> 01:00:35,640
Speaker 1: By the way, I never liked him. I just tolerated

1270
01:00:35,720 --> 01:00:36,479
Speaker 1: him because of her.

1271
01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 4: But she never believed me, so that kind of hurt

1272
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 4: me more that she wanted so hard to believe that

1273
01:00:42,400 --> 01:00:45,720
Speaker 4: I was jealous of her and wanted her ex When

1274
01:00:45,720 --> 01:00:48,280
Speaker 4: your friend's trying to spread their jelly all over the place,

1275
01:00:48,280 --> 01:00:49,520
Speaker 4: you want to get out of there because that's a

1276
01:00:49,560 --> 01:00:54,440
Speaker 4: sticky situation. More weeks later, we met in person again

1277
01:00:54,560 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 4: because of a school event, and she just talked about

1278
01:00:57,680 --> 01:01:00,320
Speaker 4: her something I realized she used to do a lot,

1279
01:01:00,680 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 4: but I ignored it before. And when someone mentioned going

1280
01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 4: to the same country we went to and meeting someone

1281
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:09,560
Speaker 4: there like me, she laughed and said not to and

1282
01:01:09,560 --> 01:01:12,000
Speaker 4: that she should look in another country with better people

1283
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:15,240
Speaker 4: than the ones that we met. No one laughed with her,

1284
01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:18,240
Speaker 4: and I was kind of offended. Yes, seeing as you're

1285
01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:21,040
Speaker 4: dating one of those guys, what was the point of

1286
01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:23,680
Speaker 4: remarking that when I was right next to her, she's

1287
01:01:23,840 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 4: jealous jelly. By the way, if you want to see

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Speaker 1: Facebook for more. Okay, back to the story.

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Speaker 4: During these months, my birthday came, but I didn't do anything.

1291
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:37,040
Speaker 4: I just went out with my family to eat a

1292
01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:39,280
Speaker 4: day before it, and on my actual birthday, I was

1293
01:01:39,320 --> 01:01:41,840
Speaker 4: home playing video games with my boyfriend. But she got

1294
01:01:41,840 --> 01:01:45,640
Speaker 4: offended because I didn't invite her to do something that

1295
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 4: never existed. And now I discovered she's organizing a party

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Speaker 4: and doing it low key so I wouldn't figure it out.

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Speaker 4: Breaking news I did, And by the way, breaking news

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Speaker 4: for you. We go live every weekday at three PMPs

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Speaker 4: two on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch. All you gotta

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Speaker 4: do is tap on our profile and you're in. I'm

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Speaker 4: gonna go ahead and say, this person's probably not someone

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Speaker 4: you want to keep around for a long time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm done. Yeah, just like the jealous type, the

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Speaker 3: jealous archetype where it's like me me, me, me me

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Speaker 3: and it.

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Speaker 4: And I feel like this is right at not that

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Speaker 4: this is like something that people can't do when they're

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Speaker 4: like teenagers or younger, but I feel like twenty two

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Speaker 4: twenty three, like that's the age where you start to

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Speaker 4: like who you want to be with, Like oh, like

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Speaker 4: my like like her friends said that when they talked,

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Speaker 4: like yeah, she actually always did this, you just didn't

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Speaker 4: ever realize it. Now she's seeing like, yeah, this person

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Speaker 4: has intense negative behavior.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Also, you just don't want to be even if

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Speaker 3: it wasn't jealousy, it's just negative all the time, and like, ooh,

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Speaker 3: you don't want that around you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, negative people can be a real drain.

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Speaker 3: Because I guess what, It'll just bring more negativity around

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Speaker 3: you and more negative people into the picture, like the

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Speaker 3: boyfriend that she was on and off again with or

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Speaker 3: still talking to. Yeah, you don't want that.

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Speaker 4: Now. I'm conflicted because I felt like she never really

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Speaker 4: cared about our friendship. I saw her trying hard with

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Speaker 4: people who treated her horribly, trying to talk to them,

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Speaker 4: but then coming back and playing victim because they didn't care.

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Speaker 4: And now she's tried to not talk to me, but

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Speaker 4: telling our mutual friends how I won't talk to her,

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Speaker 4: even though I tried to tell her stuff and start

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Speaker 4: a conversation, but she just gave me general responses like

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Speaker 4: you get in a standard corporate email.

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Speaker 3: You've got mail.

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Speaker 4: I'm terrible dealing with emotional stuff. But am I the

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Speaker 4: a hole for not really wanting to try and talk

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Speaker 4: to her after everything I discovered? Or am I exaggerating?

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Speaker 4: And we do have some relevant comments. Sacred Active sixty

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Speaker 4: one to forty four said she's no friend. Listen to

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Speaker 4: what people are saying to you. She's jealous of you,

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Speaker 4: she's sly in a backbier, toxic, no loss here opiever's response,

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Speaker 4: thank you. I wanted to see if someone else sees

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Speaker 4: it like that or if I was the problem, even

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Speaker 4: though it is weird after discovering that all those years

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Speaker 4: together weren't what I thought. And then Adrianne new on

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Speaker 4: the Bun says, not the a hole. It sounds like

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Speaker 4: she's a fair weather friend, someone who wants to be

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Speaker 4: around when it suits her, but not when she needs

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Speaker 4: to show up for other people. You don't need that

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Speaker 4: in your life. Some relationships and friendships are for a reason,

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Speaker 4: and some are for a season. And her season is up.

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Speaker 4: Move on without any guilt. You deserve better.

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Speaker 3: I like that.

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Speaker 4: That's funny one I've.

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Speaker 3: Never heard though.

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Speaker 4: Some have a reason, some have a season. Some aren't seasoned.

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Speaker 3: If they're they're just salty.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, some of them are over seasoned.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Sacred Active has another comment. Some people are like that,

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Speaker 4: they're pretenders. But you can see how now you'll be okay.

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Speaker 4: I doubt she can form true friendships with anyone, and

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Speaker 4: that is the end of that story. Like we said,

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Speaker 4: we said the angel the sort of angel baby move

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Speaker 4: is maybe having a conversation to get her to see

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Speaker 4: her ways, but judging by the sound of it, she

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Speaker 4: probably won't even take that well anyway.

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Speaker 3: She'll she'll flip the words and like, oh, she's coming

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Speaker 3: at me and she's attacking me. But you're good. You

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Speaker 3: don't need to do it, you don't need to stress out,

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Speaker 3: you can move on. Yeah, twenty two years old friendships.

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Speaker 3: I think this is the age where you find out

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Speaker 3: friendships don't need to be friendships and you I don't

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Speaker 3: need that person anymore.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, some people just will be in your life and

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Speaker 4: then not.

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Speaker 3: That's literally that's that's the age where it's like twenty

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Speaker 3: one to twenty five. He's like, oh, I'm growing apart,

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Speaker 3: Like I don't need this person in my life. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think the best advice I could give if I

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Speaker 4: right before we end the episode here, I think a

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Speaker 4: big thing for making friends is just being open to

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Speaker 4: making friends, but also in the same way, like open

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Speaker 4: to being like, Okay, I don't need this person to

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Speaker 4: like me. I don't need this person to be my friend.

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Speaker 4: If you can if you're not seeing any positives. I

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Speaker 4: was coming out of that friendship.

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Speaker 3: I was just saying, friendships should never be forced. That's

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Speaker 3: and it seems like you're forcing you yourself.

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Speaker 4: To I mean, but yeah, that's that's right.

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Speaker 3: I feel like this.

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Speaker 4: But friendships do take effort. It's very It's very seldom

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Speaker 4: where you have a friendship where you can like not

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Speaker 4: really talk to somebody for years or months and then

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Speaker 4: pick up right back.

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Speaker 3: Where you felt like it was yesterday, Like, oh catching up. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's natural. It should feel natural.

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Speaker 4: It takes maintenance to keep a friendship going.

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Speaker 3: It's a bond. You got to work on it. But

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Speaker 3: you try to trust your gut too, and trust what

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Speaker 3: other people say. If people have views and they're not

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Speaker 3: where you are, they'll know better. You get to decide

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Speaker 3: who's worth the maintenance and who's not. Yeah, honestly, that's

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Speaker 3: kind of it. It might sound kind of callous, but like,

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Speaker 3: at the end of the day, that's really.

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Speaker 1: What it is like.

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Speaker 4: But anyway, that's the end of that story and the

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Speaker 4: end of this episode.