1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space. 2 00:00:05,080 --> 00:00:11,160 Speaker 2: I remembered how the gemstones have this vibration and how 3 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 2: I'm learning about chakras and how they are associated, and 4 00:00:14,800 --> 00:00:17,880 Speaker 2: then it started to come together for me, like, Okay, 5 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:20,239 Speaker 2: all of these things can be a part of my 6 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 2: healing journey. So journaling my way of meditation, wearing gemstones, 7 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 2: and setting intentions, those things were able to put me 8 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:36,239 Speaker 2: on a path that felt restorative and healing for me. 9 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 3: Thank you. 10 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:41,960 Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration, 11 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: or a fresh perspective. If you have any AHA moments 12 00:00:46,280 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 1: or appreciate anything from this episode, please leave us a 13 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: review to let us know we're on the right track. Also, 14 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 1: we release episodes every Friday, so be sure to subscribe 15 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: on iTunes and visit cultivating her Space dot com to 16 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: access our exclusive after show and other bonus content from 17 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 1: the Patreon tab. 18 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 4: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting. 19 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:16,560 Speaker 2: Women like you. We're your hosts. 20 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 4: Doctor Dominique Broussard, a college professor and psychologist. 21 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:23,959 Speaker 5: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a 22 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 5: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood. Please 23 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 5: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from 24 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:36,960 Speaker 5: five rooids to fake friends, and create a safe space 25 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,399 Speaker 5: where black women can just be. 26 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 4: Hey, lady, is doctor dom here from the Cultivating her 27 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 4: Space podcast? Are you currently a resident of the state 28 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 4: of California in contemplating starting your therapy journey? 29 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:54,920 Speaker 3: Well? 30 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 4: If so, please reach out to me at doctor Dominique 31 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 4: Brussard dot com. That's d R D O M I 32 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 4: N I q U E b R O U ssar 33 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 4: D dot com to schedule a free fifteen minute consultation. 34 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 4: I look forward to hearing from you. 35 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 3: Thank you so, lady. Today we have a very special 36 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 3: guest in Cultivating her Space. Ashley maclamore is an inclusion 37 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 3: expert who studied race and gender for over ten years. 38 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 3: She's guided employees impacted by bias and the damaging effects 39 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 3: of career burnout through private coaching and advisement. In addition 40 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 3: to her lived experience as a black queer woman, she 41 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 3: holds a master's degree in health education, concentrating on race, gender, 42 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 3: and sexuality. In her coaching, she utilizes the healing vibrations 43 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 3: of gemstone bracelets and incorporates color therapy and dance whenever 44 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 3: she can. Ashley also facilitates transformative conversations in safer spaces 45 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 3: as an advisor to wellness and creative brands, with the 46 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 3: vision of a liberated world where assimilation and code switching 47 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:17,240 Speaker 3: doesn't exist at work or anywhere else. I love that 48 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 3: kind of world. Okay, Ashley, welcome to Cultivating her Space. 49 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 6: Girl. 50 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me. 51 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 6: We are so excited for this conversation, and so we 52 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 6: are going to jump right in with our code of 53 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 6: to day. Liz, Ashley will sound familiar to you because 54 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:40,520 Speaker 6: these are your words. So we're going to keep this 55 00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 6: Code of the days short and sweet, but right to 56 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 6: the point. Ashley McLamore says, put your healing in your hands, 57 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 6: and I'm gonna say that one more time for the 58 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 6: people in the back in case I said it too 59 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 6: fast and you didn't catch it. Put your healing in 60 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 6: your hands now, Ashley. Today we are talking about the 61 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 6: healing power of the gemstones and incorporating that into the 62 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 6: work that you do. And so when you hear your 63 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 6: words in our Gold of the Day, what inspired those words? 64 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,040 Speaker 2: Well, when I first hear it, I think Wow, someone's 65 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 2: quoted me. That's cool. But secondly, really, I think that 66 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 2: a lot of people believe that they need to ask 67 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 2: for permission from someone or get this answer outside of themselves. 68 00:04:37,520 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 2: But they really have the healing that they need within them, 69 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:44,279 Speaker 2: in their hands, within themselves. 70 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 3: That is so beautiful and I am so intrigued. I 71 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 3: cannot wait to hear more about how you use this 72 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 3: healing power of gemstones. But first, actually, let's dive into 73 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 3: your origin story. What personal and professional experiences led to 74 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 3: where you are today. 75 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 2: So many and I will not list them all, but 76 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:10,560 Speaker 2: I spent a good portion almost ten years working in 77 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 2: the fashion and retail industry. So my bachelor's degree is 78 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:19,599 Speaker 2: in Fashion Merchandising and Marketing, and that is actually where 79 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 2: I started studying race and gender. And during that time 80 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:29,720 Speaker 2: I was just intrigued to learn more about people that 81 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 2: look like me and trying to understand why things were 82 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:38,600 Speaker 2: the way that they were. So I took college writing 83 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 2: with a concentration on African American literature. Then I took 84 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 2: Pan African Studies and just continue to evolve my learning there. 85 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 2: But went into the fashion industry and worked for these 86 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,479 Speaker 2: private showrooms and the new York Fashion Week and I 87 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 2: got tired of that after burning out a couple times. 88 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:02,839 Speaker 2: We might talk about that at some point, and decided 89 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 2: to use my gifts for helping people beyond styling them 90 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 2: or beyond their jewelry. And in some way, I'm still 91 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 2: doing some jewelry in there, which is funny. But I 92 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 2: decided to get into public health and that's when I 93 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 2: went and started to learn more about coaching, motivational interviewing, 94 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:30,560 Speaker 2: research studies, and just all of these public health strategies 95 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 2: that are used to improve and change behavior. And that's 96 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:40,239 Speaker 2: when the more of the service, more of the coaching 97 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:42,039 Speaker 2: components came into place. 98 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:48,480 Speaker 6: I appreciate the diversity within your background because I think 99 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 6: what your background demonstrates to us is that there is 100 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 6: not a linear path to any career, right that we 101 00:06:57,760 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 6: don't have to follow the full playbook to getting into 102 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 6: the career that we're meant to be getting into the 103 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 6: spaces that were meant to be in. And so, Ashley, 104 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 6: can you share with us how did working in some 105 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 6: of these high end and luxury spaces inform the work 106 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:23,559 Speaker 6: that you do, specifically with black women. 107 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I would say a lot of the really 108 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 2: the luxury and the privilege that I witnessed from wealthy 109 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 2: people of all races, but mostly white races and ethnicity. 110 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:46,679 Speaker 2: They were care free and you know, would spend eighty 111 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 2: one hundred dollars on a candle. In Bergdorf Goodman, I 112 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 2: was in charge of all the jewelry over one hundred 113 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:57,920 Speaker 2: and fifty thousand dollars a piece, not the whole stock, 114 00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 2: one item, so millions and millions of dollars. And I 115 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:11,200 Speaker 2: observed how people would people, whether with money or they 116 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:14,360 Speaker 2: just spent the money, I don't really know, but they 117 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 2: would indulge and enjoy expensive things, but nice things, luxurious things, 118 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 2: and what That was a totally different world than where 119 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 2: I grew up, what I experienced growing up, and how 120 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 2: I saw the use of money. And so, for example, 121 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:39,400 Speaker 2: my very first massage experience was working, was a Christmas gift. 122 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:42,560 Speaker 2: They gave all the sales associates or in my case 123 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:45,560 Speaker 2: I was doing inventory, a two hundred and fifty dollars 124 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:50,320 Speaker 2: gift card for a massage at this luxury spa resort 125 00:08:50,720 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 2: in I want to say it was off of either 126 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:55,319 Speaker 2: Park or Fifth Avenue. So if you know anything about 127 00:08:55,360 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 2: New York, you know that was fantasy, okay, And I was, 128 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 2: I don't know, early twenties and I walk into this place. 129 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 2: They give you your own robe, your own shoes, They 130 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 2: have food and tea laid out everywhere. Excuse me, what 131 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:17,680 Speaker 2: is this? And I found out a lot of the 132 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 2: staff were actually giving these away or selling them to 133 00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 2: people because they didn't want it. But I was like, 134 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 2: I need to know what this experience is. And that 135 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 2: is what I took from that world is black people 136 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 2: and black women can have luxurious things. And maybe that 137 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 2: means you might save a couple checks or a percentage 138 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:49,479 Speaker 2: of a couple checks to have that whatever luxurious experience 139 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 2: that you want to have, but it is well worth it. 140 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:59,120 Speaker 2: And we as black women are worth at two hundred 141 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 2: and fifty dollars acile or whatever that luxurious thing may be. 142 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 2: And so that is one thing that I really have 143 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 2: taken away from being around people with or just spending money. 144 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:16,160 Speaker 6: Wow, you know, I think that that is what I 145 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:23,079 Speaker 6: appreciate about that is that when we get into spaces 146 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:29,560 Speaker 6: that we haven't necessarily been welcomed in, we learn so much, right, 147 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 6: and so what are some of the in addition to 148 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 6: this lesson of we deserve right as black women, we deserve. 149 00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 6: What are some of the other lessons that you learn 150 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 6: from working in some of these high end spaces or 151 00:10:50,679 --> 00:10:54,079 Speaker 6: these spaces in general that where you don't see a 152 00:10:54,160 --> 00:11:00,079 Speaker 6: lot of us. I would say that I also just 153 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:05,679 Speaker 6: really watching how people operate and move. And one of 154 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 6: another job at a private jeweler that I worked for, 155 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 6: the one of the manager's owners was would just yell, 156 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:20,560 Speaker 6: scream it was. It was very much a toxic workplace, 157 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:24,679 Speaker 6: and I was newer to the team. I was an 158 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:28,199 Speaker 6: only black woman, and it's a small company, so maybe 159 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:33,319 Speaker 6: five or six people, and one of the managers somehow 160 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:39,080 Speaker 6: she knew how to handle it. And I told her 161 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 6: one day, I said I need to learn that. I 162 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:44,839 Speaker 6: now understand I don't need to learn that, But at 163 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 6: the time I thought that this this I recognized her 164 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 6: ability to stay calm in the face of someone literally 165 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 6: yelling at you as a skill to not resort back 166 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 6: to what I've known when someone yells at you is 167 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 6: to respond and react and defend yourself, whether verbally or otherwise. Right, So, 168 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:12,680 Speaker 6: as I'm observing this other person not responding in kind 169 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 6: to this person yelling at them, I thought, oh, this 170 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 6: is a superpower. I need to figure out how you're 171 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 6: able to do that. 172 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:24,200 Speaker 2: And I think part of it is definitely useful in 173 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 2: what do they say, fight your battles, learn which battles 174 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:30,960 Speaker 2: to fighter, something along those lines. That's definitely part of 175 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 2: what I learned from that experience. And then the other 176 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 2: part is recognizing when is time to go. People yelling 177 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:41,079 Speaker 2: and throwing stuff around the office. That's not the move, 178 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 2: that's not it. It's also time to go. It's not 179 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 2: time to learn a different coping strategy or a different 180 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:56,160 Speaker 2: tactic to continue to participate with someone who's not all 181 00:12:56,200 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 2: the way, who's not able to communicate effectively. 182 00:13:01,880 --> 00:13:04,400 Speaker 3: I'm so glad you pointed that out, because I do 183 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 3: think that in certain spaces and our journey, someone you 184 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,080 Speaker 3: may have been like, you know what, let me go 185 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:14,599 Speaker 3: ahead and hope and figure out how to respond to 186 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 3: this person. I know I've been in situations like that 187 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 3: in the past, but when you get to a certain 188 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 3: space in your journey or in your career, it's like, fine, 189 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:24,720 Speaker 3: what the fuck? Shit Like, we're not playing those games right. 190 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:26,840 Speaker 3: So I'm glad that you pointed out the fact that 191 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:30,360 Speaker 3: I learned that I didn't actually have to adapt to 192 00:13:30,400 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 3: that environment. But god damn, I can't imagine that working 193 00:13:32,600 --> 00:13:35,360 Speaker 3: in an environment like that. That sounds like it's anxiety 194 00:13:35,360 --> 00:13:37,120 Speaker 3: inducing because I grew up in that type of environment. 195 00:13:37,160 --> 00:13:39,560 Speaker 3: So I'm just like kind of thinking about what you 196 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,960 Speaker 3: went through being there. Oh my gosh. Okay, So next 197 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 3: question for you actually is, aside from wearing jewelry, how 198 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:49,440 Speaker 3: can people incorporate gemstones into their daily healing lives and 199 00:13:49,880 --> 00:13:52,200 Speaker 3: just tell us more about gemstones and jim balling along 200 00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:52,760 Speaker 3: about it. 201 00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:58,640 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, So where do I begin? So gemstones? What 202 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 2: I It was the one science class that I took 203 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 2: in my fashion degree, like talk about chismic and divinity 204 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 2: and all the things. I had to take one science 205 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 2: class as a fashion major, and it was earths science, 206 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 2: and so I learned about all the things that happens 207 00:14:17,160 --> 00:14:23,200 Speaker 2: below us, right, and gemstones are really amazing and that 208 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 2: they used to power our watches, like that's how powerful 209 00:14:27,680 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 2: courts specifically, it literally can vibrate to the point of 210 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 2: powering our watches. So when people say, oh, it's not 211 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 2: real or whatever the whatever they say, there is actual 212 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:46,640 Speaker 2: science behind it. And so that's one aside. The other 213 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:49,160 Speaker 2: really cool thing that I like about it is that 214 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:52,960 Speaker 2: when I learned about color therapy in my fashion degree, 215 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:57,040 Speaker 2: again it was for marketing and branding and what colors 216 00:14:57,080 --> 00:15:02,760 Speaker 2: to use, right, And the colors associated with the chakras 217 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 2: are similar to those that are associated in color therapy. 218 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:12,760 Speaker 2: So using a light blue color, for example, for calming energy. 219 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 2: The light bluestones are used for that for communication to 220 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 2: some extent depending on the stone, and those are the same. 221 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:27,480 Speaker 2: It's associated with the throat chakra, which is blue. And 222 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:33,120 Speaker 2: so there's all of this symmetry along chakras and color 223 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:38,120 Speaker 2: therapy and the types of gemstones that are used to 224 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 2: activate or sometimes calm down like an overactive chakra. For example, 225 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 2: I specifically created an assortment of gemstone bracelets that I've 226 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 2: created to associate with specific work related challenges or experiences. 227 00:15:57,560 --> 00:16:02,600 Speaker 2: So one bracelet, it is a truth and communication bracelet. 228 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:07,960 Speaker 2: It's a blue satellite stone. It looks to me like denim. 229 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:10,680 Speaker 2: That's what I think of when I see the picture. 230 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 2: And I wanted it to represent when you wear it, 231 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:17,960 Speaker 2: when you have it in your hands, you're healing in 232 00:16:17,960 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 2: your hands. I wanted it to represent speaking the truth 233 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:25,040 Speaker 2: in those meetings, to speak the truth and communicate clearly 234 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 2: and calmly to that supervisor that you always get into 235 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 2: it with, or to that coworker that definitely needs to 236 00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:37,560 Speaker 2: pick up their side of the project, or whatever the 237 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 2: case may be. So thinking about the different circumstances and 238 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:47,600 Speaker 2: situations that happened happen in careers and companies and creating 239 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 2: gemstones for those specific moments. 240 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:53,960 Speaker 3: Okay, real quick, this is a safe space. Let me 241 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:58,280 Speaker 3: just say, y'all, no judgment, but I've used gemstones in 242 00:16:58,320 --> 00:17:03,360 Speaker 3: my life. However, I always I'm so glad you touched 243 00:17:03,360 --> 00:17:05,520 Speaker 3: on the non believers because I always thought it was 244 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:07,959 Speaker 3: just the power of my belief and I'm sure that 245 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:10,080 Speaker 3: has something to do with the DIO. Always thought like, oh, 246 00:17:10,320 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 3: I have this rose court, I'm going to use the 247 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:15,080 Speaker 3: power of my mind to just power my gymstone. But 248 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:18,120 Speaker 3: I didn't realize they were there's actually science behind it 249 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:21,879 Speaker 3: and it vibrates and Okay, so talk to us about 250 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 3: thank you for schooling us on that. Can you talk 251 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 3: to us about like a ritual of what you can 252 00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:31,520 Speaker 3: do to charge your gymstones and also give us the 253 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:33,399 Speaker 3: tea on the gymstone for wealth because we're trying to 254 00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:37,600 Speaker 3: manifest these multimillions, So let what's the tea on the Yeah, 255 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:38,400 Speaker 3: come on, come on. 256 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:43,199 Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely, now multimillions. I'm still working. So you know, 257 00:17:43,240 --> 00:17:45,320 Speaker 2: you can only get somebody to the point that you've 258 00:17:45,359 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 2: already been. But you know I will, I will share 259 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:53,399 Speaker 2: what I have. So as far as as far as rituals, 260 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:56,480 Speaker 2: I like to like thinking about how you can create 261 00:17:56,720 --> 00:18:00,639 Speaker 2: work life harmony. I like to encourage a couple of 262 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:03,199 Speaker 2: different things to set the tone for your day in 263 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:07,520 Speaker 2: addition to the wearing bracelets or you utilizing gemstones in 264 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 2: your day, So really starting your day with gratitude. Now, 265 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 2: when someone told me this in twenty nineteen, I kid 266 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 2: you not. I was like, I'm too stressed out for gratitude. 267 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:20,320 Speaker 2: I don't have it. I'm not grateful for nothing. I 268 00:18:20,359 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 2: don't know what you're talking about. And that was my 269 00:18:22,840 --> 00:18:27,800 Speaker 2: real response. And then I had to think about it 270 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 2: on a very as minute and small and minuscule as 271 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:36,840 Speaker 2: possible level. What can I be grateful or thankful for? 272 00:18:37,359 --> 00:18:41,960 Speaker 2: And sometimes one it was just my eyes open, Sometimes 273 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:45,320 Speaker 2: it was because I have a bunch of allergy things. 274 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:49,200 Speaker 2: And sometimes it was oh, I actually can speak today 275 00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:52,680 Speaker 2: or drink hot tea when on some days I couldn't, 276 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:57,480 Speaker 2: and so really getting as teeny tiny, teeny tiny with 277 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:03,159 Speaker 2: my gratitude as possible every morning, every single morning, and 278 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:07,400 Speaker 2: then stretching and reflecting. So while I'm doing my stretching, 279 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,560 Speaker 2: before I even get out of the bed, I learned 280 00:19:10,560 --> 00:19:14,119 Speaker 2: this from a chiropractor over fifteen years ago. He said, 281 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:17,199 Speaker 2: before you get out of the bed, move your body. 282 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 2: Your eyes are awake, your brain is awake, but your 283 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:22,360 Speaker 2: body is still sleeping. You've been at rest for ideally 284 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:26,760 Speaker 2: eight plus hours, so you need to allow your body 285 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 2: the time to wake up. So don't jump up and 286 00:19:29,119 --> 00:19:32,160 Speaker 2: turn off the alarm or go to the restroom. Move 287 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 2: your body a little bit, stretch a little bit, thank 288 00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:38,080 Speaker 2: your body, right, if that's all you got is your 289 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:41,520 Speaker 2: gratitude is being like, oh, thank you shoulders for carrying 290 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:46,560 Speaker 2: whatever this weight is or neck or whatever. Great. And 291 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:50,280 Speaker 2: then setting an intention for your day. So I usually 292 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:54,159 Speaker 2: do that after the shower and I'm getting dressed and 293 00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:56,520 Speaker 2: I'm thinking about what gemstones I'm going to put on, 294 00:19:57,359 --> 00:20:00,479 Speaker 2: and I set my intention for how I want to feel, 295 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:04,199 Speaker 2: not my to do list, not how many things I 296 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:07,440 Speaker 2: got to do that day, not what I'm going to prioritize, 297 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:10,800 Speaker 2: but how I want to feel in my day. Oftentimes 298 00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 2: we are on autopilot, which is great. Our brains need that, right, 299 00:20:17,440 --> 00:20:21,119 Speaker 2: So autopilot is okay. And also how can we be 300 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:28,760 Speaker 2: more intentionable intention n about how we want to feel? Right? 301 00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 2: So I want to feel grounded and centered and less anxious. 302 00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:38,360 Speaker 2: So I'm going to put on a grounding stone, which 303 00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:42,600 Speaker 2: is anything black or red? Quick cheat sheet? Right, I'm 304 00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 2: going to put on a grounding stone or put a 305 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:48,639 Speaker 2: gemstone in my pocket or in my brawl. Some people 306 00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 2: do that, and I'm going to carry that along with 307 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:55,000 Speaker 2: me on my day. I personally like the bracelets because 308 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:57,240 Speaker 2: I get to see it. I get to look down 309 00:20:57,280 --> 00:20:59,760 Speaker 2: and see that it's on my wrist. You might, I 310 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:02,480 Speaker 2: mean people lose things in they brawls. Okay, I don't 311 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:07,480 Speaker 2: because you know small, but people can lose things in there. Okay, 312 00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:11,840 Speaker 2: So think about how you want to feel, what are 313 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 2: your intentions for the day. And then I didn't know 314 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:21,840 Speaker 2: how important this was until I got maybe over thirty, 315 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 2: actually having a night routine. So all the people with children, 316 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 2: y'all kids got routines. You need a routine too, and 317 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,879 Speaker 2: it cannot and should not be watching Netflix until you 318 00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:39,440 Speaker 2: fall asleep. That shouldn't be it. You can watch Netflix 319 00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 2: and then take ten to fifteen minutes to not have 320 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 2: a screen in front of your face. Make that a 321 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:49,119 Speaker 2: part of your routine because it allows your brain to 322 00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:51,560 Speaker 2: calm down and get ready forbid. 323 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 3: Butt it go ahead. I love that. I cannot wait 324 00:21:56,600 --> 00:22:01,119 Speaker 3: to listen back to this episode and start implementing some 325 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,520 Speaker 3: of those so thank you so much for that. But 326 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:08,359 Speaker 3: I do want to say, speaking to stretching, we're going 327 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 3: to shift up the energy a little bit in this conversation. 328 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 3: All right, So Ashley, you're so funny. Can we can 329 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:18,640 Speaker 3: we can we say what you said before the interview? 330 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:20,400 Speaker 2: Absolutely. 331 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,800 Speaker 3: Ashley was like, I'm a little nervous about this segment here, 332 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:27,920 Speaker 3: but it's all good. We got you. We got you 333 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:32,240 Speaker 3: so Actually, because we recognize, appreciate, and celebrate the multifaceted woman, 334 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,280 Speaker 3: and we believe that it's okay to be bougie and 335 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 3: glassy and ratchet, you can still be elegant at dance 336 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:44,400 Speaker 3: to strip club music. Okay, we already know we want 337 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:47,879 Speaker 3: to invite you to the oh U Blatchett segment, So 338 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:49,639 Speaker 3: do you take on the challenge? 339 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 2: I accept the challenge. 340 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:58,639 Speaker 3: The challenge is beginning now, all right. So now that 341 00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 3: you've agreed, we're going to tell you what you suspect. 342 00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 3: So we're gonna ask you three questions. We're gonna share 343 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,720 Speaker 3: three sentence completions, and we have three photos of you 344 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:09,960 Speaker 3: pulled up on the screen and we'll show them to 345 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:11,520 Speaker 3: you in my moment. But we need you to choose 346 00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:13,679 Speaker 3: a number out of one and three for that. And 347 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,080 Speaker 3: that's pretty much. That's pretty much that. Oh you're bletch 348 00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,920 Speaker 3: your segment. We want you to provide some context about 349 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:21,200 Speaker 3: the photos, so let me say that. So we're gonna 350 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,639 Speaker 3: show you the photo, provide some context that we would 351 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:27,280 Speaker 3: not know just by viewing the photo. And that's it. 352 00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 3: So it's not gonna be two up here. We got you, girl. 353 00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,160 Speaker 3: So the first question we're gonna eat. We're gonna ease 354 00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:35,399 Speaker 3: it on in. The first question is what's the best 355 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:38,199 Speaker 3: piece of wisdom or advice you've ever received? 356 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 2: Control the controllables. It sounds a little wonky, but you 357 00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:51,239 Speaker 2: cannot control everything, and all you can do, truly, no 358 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:55,040 Speaker 2: matter how savvy you believe that you are, is control you. 359 00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:04,919 Speaker 6: Yes that far amen? Okay, So our next question I 360 00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:07,840 Speaker 6: have four words for I feel like I know what 361 00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:11,000 Speaker 6: the answer is going to be, because you know what 362 00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:17,120 Speaker 6: it's work or two steps? 363 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:17,840 Speaker 2: Body roll? 364 00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:25,120 Speaker 6: Oh okay, so it's just goy Okay, it's. 365 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 2: This cool little movement. You're rolling the body, you're rolling 366 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 2: the hips, maybe a little booty movement, right, So it's 367 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:34,560 Speaker 2: it's a good sensual combination. 368 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 3: I would say, you can't go wrong with a body roll. 369 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:41,800 Speaker 3: We love that. We love it. So, Ashley, what is 370 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:46,840 Speaker 3: the sexiest item you own? Don't be shy. 371 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:56,719 Speaker 2: The sexiest item that I own are probably the sheer 372 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:03,280 Speaker 2: cut out underwear from Savage. So she did a whole 373 00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:08,480 Speaker 2: line of crotchless underwear and I got a few pair actually, 374 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,720 Speaker 2: so it's probably that I like that. 375 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 3: I don't have to google that crosh I need some 376 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:16,200 Speaker 3: of those. I thought you were going to say some 377 00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:18,359 Speaker 3: on G string. That's what I was waiting for. I 378 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:20,959 Speaker 3: was just like, Oh, that has a little ring to it. Okay, 379 00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 3: I love it. 380 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:21,919 Speaker 6: I love that. 381 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:22,879 Speaker 3: Intwo though. 382 00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:28,080 Speaker 6: That that sounds like a product right there, Like actually, 383 00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 6: we okay, going ahead get that together and sell it. 384 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:36,440 Speaker 6: I think we I think that's you. So now we're 385 00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:43,399 Speaker 6: on to our sentence completion. One question or topic I 386 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,920 Speaker 6: wish people asked me about more often is. 387 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:51,080 Speaker 2: Growing up in Ohio. 388 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:53,240 Speaker 6: One. 389 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:56,640 Speaker 2: Not many people know that I'm originally from Ohio, so 390 00:25:56,720 --> 00:26:00,480 Speaker 2: that might be the reason I've lived all over. I 391 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:03,680 Speaker 2: met y'all in the Bay and I'm in Atlanta now. 392 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:10,359 Speaker 2: So I think Ohio is where it crafted me. It 393 00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:16,080 Speaker 2: put a lot of the beliefs that I have, the 394 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 2: ones that I still keep, and you know, created the 395 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,720 Speaker 2: person that I am. So I would love for people 396 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,480 Speaker 2: to ask more questions about what it was like growing 397 00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:26,200 Speaker 2: up in Ohio. 398 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:33,280 Speaker 3: That's so funny because next sentus completion happens to be 399 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,639 Speaker 3: what I would love to tell people about growing up 400 00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:38,320 Speaker 3: in Ohio is. 401 00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:41,800 Speaker 2: That was not the real thing. 402 00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:48,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're the first person that's like, girl, stop playing, 403 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,400 Speaker 3: but no, we want to know what would you tell 404 00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 3: people about growing up in Ohio. 405 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:58,000 Speaker 2: Lots of people say, if they realize that I'm from Ohio, 406 00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 2: they say, there's black people there. Yes, I grew up 407 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 2: in Akron, Ohio, city of Lebron James. There's plenty of 408 00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:10,879 Speaker 2: black people there. And also there was a lot of 409 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:16,320 Speaker 2: dynamics that set up racial dynamics. Specifically, Again, I wanted 410 00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:18,480 Speaker 2: to study race and gender. I wanted to learn more 411 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 2: about me, and growing up in Ohio set a lot 412 00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:27,159 Speaker 2: of the stage for that interest from middle school really 413 00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:33,879 Speaker 2: onward in trying to understand why I was often treated differently. 414 00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:38,679 Speaker 2: Either I was one of two black girls in an 415 00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:43,360 Speaker 2: all white group, or I was the nerdy black girl 416 00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:49,200 Speaker 2: and the all black group, and just the different dynamics 417 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:52,840 Speaker 2: in the different ways that I was perceived or received 418 00:27:52,880 --> 00:28:01,919 Speaker 2: by others, the many racists and out anti black comments 419 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:07,960 Speaker 2: that I received. One in particular, this white man, younger 420 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:12,359 Speaker 2: man attempted thought really, I truly believe he thought he 421 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:15,119 Speaker 2: was giving me a compliment. He said, you're so pretty 422 00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:20,439 Speaker 2: for mixed girl. And I said, first of all, I 423 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:21,440 Speaker 2: am all black. 424 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 7: Now we know historically I might not be, but for 425 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 7: this SA for this moment, sir, sir, this is all 426 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:38,080 Speaker 7: African heritage here, and that's what you like. 427 00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,120 Speaker 2: So you go figure out what you got going on 428 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:45,440 Speaker 2: with that, because no, and it wasn't until so I 429 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:51,760 Speaker 2: always knew I was black always. So now doing the 430 00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,240 Speaker 2: work that I do is interesting to meet people that 431 00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,800 Speaker 2: say that they didn't know that they were black until 432 00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 2: I don't know, high school or college. Some times and 433 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:07,880 Speaker 2: when I moved to New York, I realized colorism because 434 00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:13,440 Speaker 2: I really noticed what colorism was because I used to 435 00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:18,840 Speaker 2: wear bone straight sewins and people would think I was Dominican. 436 00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:23,160 Speaker 2: People would think I would and I didn't. I didn't 437 00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 2: even know Dominicans could be as dark as me. And frankly, 438 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:28,960 Speaker 2: I'm you know whatever, So I didn't know. I was 439 00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 2: just like, Oh, you think I speak Spanish? Why would 440 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,040 Speaker 2: you think that? Oh you think I'm Dominican? Got it? 441 00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:39,040 Speaker 2: Or having I would say Jamaicans, but they could have 442 00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:42,200 Speaker 2: been from another island. When I lived in Crown Heights, 443 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:49,800 Speaker 2: calling me royalty because lighter skin is considered royalty, It's 444 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:55,360 Speaker 2: considered better than And I was like, I'm just I'm black, 445 00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,600 Speaker 2: I'm from Ohio. What are y'all talking about? And so 446 00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,680 Speaker 2: just having that experience and then living in these other 447 00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:08,840 Speaker 2: cities really shaped began to shape my perspective and how 448 00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:10,960 Speaker 2: people may perceive me as a black woman. 449 00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:15,479 Speaker 6: Wow, thank you for sharing that and what you're sharing 450 00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:17,720 Speaker 6: with us, what you wanted to know, wanted us to 451 00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:21,200 Speaker 6: know about you. Coming from a client, and so we 452 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,520 Speaker 6: have our final sentence completion. I have, based on your 453 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:27,760 Speaker 6: last answer, I have a couple of guesses of how 454 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 6: you might answer this one, but I'm gonna put it 455 00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:34,080 Speaker 6: out there anyway for you to answer for yourself. What 456 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 6: I love most about myself is my authenticity. Oftentimes people say, oh, well, 457 00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:46,280 Speaker 6: what you shared was so deep, we're so personal, and 458 00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:49,240 Speaker 6: it just really rolls like I don't feel. 459 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:56,480 Speaker 2: It just is easy. It's it comes, and I really 460 00:30:56,520 --> 00:31:00,080 Speaker 2: think that it's my gift to encourage other people to 461 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:04,240 Speaker 2: be vulnerable, to be authentic, to say the thing that's 462 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:08,000 Speaker 2: on their mind. And I think it helps me be 463 00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:12,560 Speaker 2: a better coach and advisor when talking about extremely sensitive 464 00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:14,800 Speaker 2: subjects like race in America. 465 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:21,959 Speaker 3: Beautiful, beautiful, we appreciate that about you, Ashley. And now 466 00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:27,200 Speaker 3: we're going to transition to the most exciting I guess 467 00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:30,320 Speaker 3: part of Oh you blatch it. We have these photos 468 00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:32,720 Speaker 3: pulled up. These are we'd be choosing some good photos. 469 00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,040 Speaker 3: These are some badass photos, okay, but we're only going 470 00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:36,760 Speaker 3: to choose one. So what we want you to do 471 00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:41,760 Speaker 3: is choose a number out of one and three, and 472 00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:48,160 Speaker 3: then we'll reveal the photo. Two two, Okay, cool, So 473 00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:50,080 Speaker 3: we're gonna go ahead and pull up number two. Oh 474 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:53,760 Speaker 3: this is cue Okay, So really quick. Actually let people 475 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:57,080 Speaker 3: know what the picture like. Describe the picture for folks 476 00:31:57,120 --> 00:32:00,800 Speaker 3: that are only tuned into the audio, and then give 477 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:02,920 Speaker 3: us the context behind the photo that we wouldn't know 478 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,000 Speaker 3: by looking at a business cut. You were showing out 479 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:06,760 Speaker 3: into Loom. I saw a lot of photos and all that. 480 00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:08,080 Speaker 3: These are hard to choose from. 481 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:13,040 Speaker 2: Okay, come on, y'all, I am serving all kinds of 482 00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 2: sexy looks in a teal long sleeve. It's actually a 483 00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:23,440 Speaker 2: top and a skirt, and I'm kind of looking down 484 00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:26,960 Speaker 2: at the camera in this very like Dominatrix kind of way, 485 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:31,320 Speaker 2: like what you say to me. Okay, So I don't 486 00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,600 Speaker 2: know what was I doing. I was in Tulun, having 487 00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:37,520 Speaker 2: a good time with my homegirls. It was one of 488 00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:42,840 Speaker 2: their birthdays. And I don't even remember what the caption was, 489 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:48,040 Speaker 2: but I was just filling myself a little bit. You know. 490 00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 2: It was my first second time actually in Mexico, first 491 00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:56,600 Speaker 2: time in tou Loom, and oh I was talking about liberation. 492 00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:02,560 Speaker 2: So yeah, I was feeling like, get into all of 493 00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:09,800 Speaker 2: this goodness and enjoy the view. That's that was the 494 00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:11,360 Speaker 2: energy period. 495 00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:19,480 Speaker 3: Enjoy the view. I love it. Come on, show out then, Okay, 496 00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:21,240 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, so I don't want to make you blushed, 497 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,880 Speaker 3: but we are so excited that you participated in this 498 00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:27,080 Speaker 3: with us. We're gonna dive back into some of these questions, 499 00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 3: but before we jump into like another question, well, I 500 00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:32,600 Speaker 3: guess I have another random question for you. Can you 501 00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:37,080 Speaker 3: talk a bit about your journey and exploring the multi 502 00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,520 Speaker 3: like the multifaceted you, because I know we domin I 503 00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 3: talked about this and me personally like being a professional 504 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 3: woman but also embracing the blatchet side in me and 505 00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,040 Speaker 3: also wanting to share more of that with the world. 506 00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:53,120 Speaker 3: It can be tricky, and I know we met at 507 00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:56,800 Speaker 3: twerk church right at free the cheeks, tworking, busting the 508 00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,200 Speaker 3: wide open. But we're also like professional women, So talk 509 00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:01,640 Speaker 3: to us about your journey of like exploring those sides 510 00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:02,200 Speaker 3: of yourself. 511 00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:09,240 Speaker 2: Absolutely. My grandmother, who is now eighty, was very much 512 00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:15,040 Speaker 2: a you should calmb your afro down and right. Afros 513 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,640 Speaker 2: don't go down. Okay, that's why they're afros, and she 514 00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:22,720 Speaker 2: knew that. But anyway, you know, always be polite. You should, 515 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:27,640 Speaker 2: you know, be a lady wear lipstick. She literally told 516 00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,879 Speaker 2: me one time, oh, you're going to get an oil 517 00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:34,200 Speaker 2: change put on some lipstick, and that was the woman 518 00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:39,400 Speaker 2: that you know, again she's eighty. That was a requirement 519 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:45,080 Speaker 2: to not only live but survive in that time when 520 00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:49,120 Speaker 2: she was developing, right, And that's that's usually what we remember, 521 00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:53,440 Speaker 2: right that pre development really frankly pre twenty four. Whatever 522 00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:56,000 Speaker 2: you're doing, unless you change it, that is the same. 523 00:34:56,560 --> 00:35:00,080 Speaker 2: And so my grandmother thought she was telling me, you know, 524 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:02,479 Speaker 2: how to survive in this world, and it's a totally 525 00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:06,400 Speaker 2: different world. And I think that some of that stayed 526 00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:08,799 Speaker 2: in me. And so for a while I was like 527 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:17,320 Speaker 2: twerking absolutely not trap music, rap music, absolutely not casually 528 00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:22,880 Speaker 2: using the N word, absolutely not right, calling my friends 529 00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:30,839 Speaker 2: a bee and no fast forward, and realizing for myself 530 00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:38,160 Speaker 2: that two things can coexist. I can respect myself, my body, 531 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:44,360 Speaker 2: my friends, and also blurt out a bee or twerk 532 00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:49,800 Speaker 2: a little bit or et cetera, et cetera. Right, whatever 533 00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:53,879 Speaker 2: folks may deem as ratchet or other words that they 534 00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:58,040 Speaker 2: may use for that, it is not. It does not 535 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,720 Speaker 2: take away from my intellect, It is not take away 536 00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:05,160 Speaker 2: from my degrees. It does not take away from the 537 00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:08,879 Speaker 2: transformation that I'm able to give my clients. None of 538 00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:14,319 Speaker 2: those things. And it took a very long time to 539 00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:18,759 Speaker 2: get to a space to be able to hold two 540 00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:23,919 Speaker 2: things and knowing that one doesn't delete the other. And 541 00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:27,680 Speaker 2: I would say a part of that, really, a part 542 00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:33,200 Speaker 2: of what helped me see me without the expectations of 543 00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:37,280 Speaker 2: society or the expectations of gender roles, was being queer. 544 00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:42,200 Speaker 2: So I came out as a lesbian in twenty ten, 545 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:48,640 Speaker 2: and at that time I didn't have really any queer 546 00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:51,680 Speaker 2: or gay friends. I was just like, oh, no, I'm 547 00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:54,000 Speaker 2: pretty sure this is it. I'm pretty sure. I'm pretty 548 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:56,880 Speaker 2: sure I'm a lesbian. It's kind of how it happened. 549 00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:02,880 Speaker 2: And there are some very traditional gender roles still even 550 00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:08,200 Speaker 2: within the LGBTQIA plus community. Is very true. And also 551 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:12,120 Speaker 2: for me, the people that I was around, they encouraged 552 00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:15,759 Speaker 2: to wear my hair in an afro, and not have 553 00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:17,799 Speaker 2: makeup on, and not have lips to go on or 554 00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,799 Speaker 2: not always have on high heels or address and so 555 00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:26,319 Speaker 2: these gender roles and expressions of femininity that I was 556 00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:33,160 Speaker 2: taught by my family and or society, I learned and 557 00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:36,359 Speaker 2: witnessed and then got to experience that they weren't necessary. 558 00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:43,439 Speaker 2: And doing that and being in a community of people 559 00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 2: that encouraged that was vital to helping me realize that 560 00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:53,880 Speaker 2: I could have all of these experiences and still be 561 00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:56,480 Speaker 2: a worthy, valuable, deserving human. 562 00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,759 Speaker 3: Now that was I really appreciate you sharing, and thank 563 00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,000 Speaker 3: you for being so trained. Again, here you go. Thank 564 00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:05,879 Speaker 3: you for being so authentic. That's just who you are, 565 00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,560 Speaker 3: that's what you love about yourself. But I do appreciate that, 566 00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,640 Speaker 3: and I don't want to be presumptuous, but I'm assuming 567 00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:13,520 Speaker 3: that your grandmother was religious or you grew up in 568 00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:16,160 Speaker 3: a religious environment or household. 569 00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:22,759 Speaker 2: So I did not my grandmother. My grandmother raised my mother, 570 00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:27,120 Speaker 2: and she raised her very religious. But my mom was like, Nah, 571 00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:29,319 Speaker 2: you ain't got to go to church. You don't got 572 00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:29,680 Speaker 2: to do that. 573 00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:30,080 Speaker 4: Wow. 574 00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:31,800 Speaker 3: So she changed it up. She was like, I was 575 00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:34,600 Speaker 3: raised this way, you don't have to do this exactly. 576 00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:39,319 Speaker 2: So it was very much enjoyed, Like, if you don't 577 00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,120 Speaker 2: want to go to church on Sunday, you don't have to. 578 00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:45,520 Speaker 2: And she didn't. So the reli religious piece wasn't actually 579 00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,360 Speaker 2: a part of my wasn't a part of my journey 580 00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:52,640 Speaker 2: that I had to really switch off or shift in 581 00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:58,040 Speaker 2: any way. It was more the internalized messaging that I 582 00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:03,160 Speaker 2: received from others that I needed that I got to 583 00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:07,239 Speaker 2: re examine and figure out is this belief mine or 584 00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:09,440 Speaker 2: someone else's? And do I still want it? 585 00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:15,879 Speaker 6: That's so powerful and important, right that this recognition that 586 00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:20,200 Speaker 6: the messaging is the messaging that you're receiving from others 587 00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:24,200 Speaker 6: is about them, not about you, right, And then having 588 00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:31,000 Speaker 6: to do your own inner work right. And so I'm wondering, 589 00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:37,680 Speaker 6: as you were doing your own growth and healing, what 590 00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:42,800 Speaker 6: role did the gemstones and meditation and what other forms 591 00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:49,880 Speaker 6: of healing did you bring in to like just considering 592 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:53,680 Speaker 6: your background, considering like considering all of those things, what 593 00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:59,520 Speaker 6: role did gemstones play in your healing? Yeah, I would 594 00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 6: say Gemstones came into play after I read The Alchemists 595 00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:09,960 Speaker 6: and after I read the Four Agreements. So those were 596 00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:13,560 Speaker 6: two books that I want to say I read for 597 00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:17,680 Speaker 6: the first time in twenty thirteen. This was after two burnouts, 598 00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,560 Speaker 6: after I literally stressed myself out to the point of 599 00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:27,520 Speaker 6: shingles before twenty five. Yes, so when I tell people burnout, 600 00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:30,640 Speaker 6: I understand it on a very deep level. 601 00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:37,400 Speaker 2: It's real. And I didn't. I didn't go to Gemstones initially, 602 00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:41,719 Speaker 2: is what I'm getting to. I definitely went to journaling. 603 00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:43,960 Speaker 2: I journaled. I always had a diary as a kid, 604 00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:46,120 Speaker 2: so that was my go to. I was like, let 605 00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:51,600 Speaker 2: me write these bars down, and then after that it 606 00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:55,719 Speaker 2: was like, okay, meditation was hard. Similar to my thought 607 00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,759 Speaker 2: process around gratitude, I was like, what is this? Uh uh, 608 00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:03,080 Speaker 2: this ain't going this isn't it. But music and dance 609 00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:09,479 Speaker 2: have always been a part of me, so realizing that 610 00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:13,960 Speaker 2: meditation may not look like what it looked like for 611 00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:19,000 Speaker 2: a monk. It may look like whatever allows you to 612 00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:24,640 Speaker 2: I want to say, go deep, but also like almost 613 00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:29,320 Speaker 2: turn your brain off to allow stillness of the mind 614 00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:31,759 Speaker 2: so your body can still be moving. So for me, 615 00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:37,359 Speaker 2: I love listening to music and just freestyle movements and 616 00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:40,799 Speaker 2: moving my body figuring out like oh I do have 617 00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:44,360 Speaker 2: this pain in my back, and just really moving through 618 00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:48,440 Speaker 2: because the body keeps the score. You read that book, 619 00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:53,080 Speaker 2: that's another one. And I had to figure out what 620 00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:59,320 Speaker 2: was meditation for me essentially. So Gemstones came about around 621 00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:03,839 Speaker 2: twenty fourteen, and initially it was just a hobby. I 622 00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:07,279 Speaker 2: was just making bracelets because it was fun, and then 623 00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:15,520 Speaker 2: I remembered that recall. I remembered how the gemstones have 624 00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:18,960 Speaker 2: this vibration and how I'm learning about chakras and how 625 00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:22,760 Speaker 2: they are associated, and then it started to come together 626 00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:25,600 Speaker 2: for me like, Okay, all of these things can be 627 00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:29,680 Speaker 2: a part of my healing journey. So journaling, my way 628 00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:35,879 Speaker 2: of meditation, wearing gemstones, and setting intentions, those things were 629 00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:40,719 Speaker 2: able to put me on a path that felt restorative 630 00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:42,360 Speaker 2: and healing for me. 631 00:42:44,040 --> 00:42:47,440 Speaker 3: That is so amazing And I'm definitely going to purchase 632 00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:50,400 Speaker 3: Wait a second, we have to mention this. I'm definitely 633 00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:55,080 Speaker 3: going to purchase my bracelets. Tell people this is not 634 00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:56,560 Speaker 3: the end of the interview, but tell people where they 635 00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:58,399 Speaker 3: can find them, and tell us about the discount code 636 00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:01,879 Speaker 3: for listeners because I want order mine. But then also 637 00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:05,520 Speaker 3: I wanted to know what other testimonials or success stories 638 00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:08,160 Speaker 3: have folks told you about? Seriously, but like Ashley, this 639 00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:11,000 Speaker 3: has been really helpful for XYZ, Like, tell us about 640 00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:11,640 Speaker 3: those stories. 641 00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:16,240 Speaker 2: Absolutely, So begin collection dot com is where you can 642 00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:20,400 Speaker 2: find the bracelets and the coaching packages, and then the 643 00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:24,440 Speaker 2: promo code for all the listeners here is her space, 644 00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:30,520 Speaker 2: all caps, and you'll get twenty percent off. So I 645 00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:32,600 Speaker 2: don't I don't do that often. Y'all go on and 646 00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:38,400 Speaker 2: gonna check them out, but I would say, heang I'm like, 647 00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:43,720 Speaker 2: what's the best success story or testimonial. Often I've made 648 00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:48,920 Speaker 2: the spoke bracelets or custom bracelets for people, and it 649 00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:54,320 Speaker 2: usually comes from a place of frankly pain or grief. 650 00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:59,960 Speaker 2: And when I started doing that, I recognize a pattern 651 00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:03,640 Speaker 2: and then that led me to my coaching services. But 652 00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:08,360 Speaker 2: so one person actually had a family member passed away 653 00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:13,640 Speaker 2: and she was like, this is she almost couldn't even 654 00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:18,640 Speaker 2: get through the twenty minute consultation, right, And so I'm 655 00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:20,799 Speaker 2: kind of picking up on what she's put in down, 656 00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:25,000 Speaker 2: but it's very sparse and sporadic, and so I got green, 657 00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:30,560 Speaker 2: I got some grounding energy, and that was really it. 658 00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,880 Speaker 2: That was the call. And so typically I asked a 659 00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:36,439 Speaker 2: lot more questions, but the specific person which is still 660 00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:39,719 Speaker 2: in their grief, so the next step is for me 661 00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:43,680 Speaker 2: to send them gemstones to shoes from, and then prototypes 662 00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:47,640 Speaker 2: so that they actually it's a co creative process. They 663 00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:49,799 Speaker 2: can say yay or nay to any parts of it. 664 00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:56,600 Speaker 2: And when I sent her the prototypes, she reflected back, 665 00:44:56,640 --> 00:45:00,480 Speaker 2: how did you know to include the And it's like 666 00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:04,959 Speaker 2: it was a dark green stone. It was moss agate specifically, 667 00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:10,359 Speaker 2: and this areas in which it's good for green in 668 00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:15,640 Speaker 2: general is money and the heart chakra, and so I 669 00:45:15,719 --> 00:45:19,560 Speaker 2: wanted to make a connection between her heart chakra in 670 00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:24,000 Speaker 2: the grief that she was experiencing as well as grounding stone. 671 00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:26,520 Speaker 2: So I put some black in there. It was black 672 00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:31,000 Speaker 2: lava actually, and she was just like she was in tears. 673 00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:33,240 Speaker 2: She was like, this is so amazing. I can't believe 674 00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:38,000 Speaker 2: that you, in this like choppy consultation that we had, 675 00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:41,000 Speaker 2: that you were able to pick up all of these things. 676 00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:45,600 Speaker 2: And so that was one of my most recent bespoke bracelets. 677 00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:51,120 Speaker 2: And then also people really they're reminders, right, and so 678 00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:53,120 Speaker 2: I've had a lot of people come to me and say, 679 00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:56,440 Speaker 2: I wore my bracelet and I remember to set my 680 00:45:56,520 --> 00:46:01,239 Speaker 2: boundary with my boyfriend. I wore the brace and it 681 00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:04,880 Speaker 2: helped me to be more centered in my day because 682 00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:09,600 Speaker 2: of X, Y and Z and those. That's what I 683 00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:10,239 Speaker 2: do it for. 684 00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:10,960 Speaker 6: You know. 685 00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:16,120 Speaker 2: The bracelets are definitely like an entry port. I say, 686 00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:19,839 Speaker 2: to begin your healing journey, and by no means the 687 00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:24,440 Speaker 2: only thing that you can do. But I hope that 688 00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:29,240 Speaker 2: people wear them with the intention of starting a healing 689 00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:33,440 Speaker 2: journey and knowing that it's just the beginning. 690 00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:37,319 Speaker 3: So I see I'm on a website right now. I'm 691 00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:39,120 Speaker 3: about to order my bracelet. So I'm going to get 692 00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:44,080 Speaker 3: the Harmony and Prosperity green bracelet obviously, and then I'm 693 00:46:44,080 --> 00:46:46,880 Speaker 3: going to get the Clear Mind and Discernment purple and 694 00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:50,600 Speaker 3: green bracelet. And my question is it says size and 695 00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:52,680 Speaker 3: then I have a small risk. But it says size 696 00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,120 Speaker 3: six and a half six and I sty seven. Tell 697 00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:57,319 Speaker 3: us about the sizes so folks can know, like what 698 00:46:57,480 --> 00:46:59,240 Speaker 3: to select for themselves. 699 00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:06,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, So in my attempt to not make jewelry gendered, 700 00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:13,400 Speaker 2: I don't have men small whatever. So think about your 701 00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:17,160 Speaker 2: watch size. You can measure there's actually a measurement tool 702 00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:21,280 Speaker 2: on most iPhones, so you can measure your watch band 703 00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:25,600 Speaker 2: if you lay it out flat. These are inches most 704 00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:28,879 Speaker 2: people see. And that's it. And then I get into 705 00:47:28,960 --> 00:47:32,120 Speaker 2: fat phobia things, right, and I'm like, no, it's not 706 00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:37,480 Speaker 2: most people, right, So everybody's body is different. So for me, 707 00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,080 Speaker 2: I wear five and a half terry. You know how 708 00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:47,319 Speaker 2: small and tiny I am? Right, So it varies if 709 00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:52,040 Speaker 2: you feel like you have a small risk or I 710 00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:55,320 Speaker 2: will also say if you know your ring size, there's 711 00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:58,600 Speaker 2: sometimes an association between your ring size and your wrist 712 00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:02,600 Speaker 2: if there's no swelling or other things that might be 713 00:48:02,640 --> 00:48:07,000 Speaker 2: going on. Right, So my ring size for my pointer 714 00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:10,200 Speaker 2: finger on my dominant hand, which is usually a little 715 00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:13,600 Speaker 2: bit larger than your other hand, right you're less dominant hand, 716 00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:18,480 Speaker 2: is a five, and so there's usually an association between 717 00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:24,520 Speaker 2: the pointer finger ring size and the wrist. I hope 718 00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:27,160 Speaker 2: that helps, and then if not, y'all can DM me 719 00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:29,480 Speaker 2: or add a note at checkout. 720 00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:35,240 Speaker 6: Thank you for that, Ashley. I think folks are looking 721 00:48:35,280 --> 00:48:39,680 Speaker 6: are going to be on there and buying up all 722 00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:43,480 Speaker 6: your all of your bracelets because I think that the 723 00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:51,800 Speaker 6: when I'm listening to you and hearing the importance of 724 00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:55,719 Speaker 6: being in touch with the things that you're healing and 725 00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:59,919 Speaker 6: finding ways to carry it with you on a daily basis, right, 726 00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:05,960 Speaker 6: having these reminders on your risk is important. And what 727 00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:10,840 Speaker 6: I appreciate is that no matter someone's background or upbringing, 728 00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:14,759 Speaker 6: this is something that could really be helpful for them. 729 00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:19,479 Speaker 6: And so for folks who you know are coming from 730 00:49:19,520 --> 00:49:24,960 Speaker 6: maybe more conservative or more religious background, or maybe just 731 00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:33,640 Speaker 6: a little skeptical, right, give can you give them three 732 00:49:33,920 --> 00:49:40,959 Speaker 6: gems that might be an introduction. 733 00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:41,200 Speaker 3: For them. 734 00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:47,040 Speaker 6: Into this healing space or this. 735 00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:48,400 Speaker 3: Healing modality. 736 00:49:50,040 --> 00:49:54,160 Speaker 6: Three gemstones or three three gymstones sorry three let me yes, 737 00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:59,040 Speaker 6: let me be specific, three three gym ztones that might 738 00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:05,480 Speaker 6: help them get into a space where they feel more comfortable. 739 00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:14,240 Speaker 2: I would say to start with a grounding or root chakra, 740 00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:23,680 Speaker 2: so an onyx, obsidian or black lava. Those are negative 741 00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:29,440 Speaker 2: energy absorbers, they are negative energy blockers in some cases, 742 00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:33,880 Speaker 2: and I think everybody could use a little extra grounding 743 00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:38,200 Speaker 2: and protection in that way. So I think that those 744 00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:43,640 Speaker 2: three would be great starters, and I would I think 745 00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:46,000 Speaker 2: I'm going to actually leave it with those three in 746 00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:50,240 Speaker 2: the root chakra, because moving anywhere else starts to get 747 00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:55,799 Speaker 2: into a little bit more specifics and nuances, and if 748 00:50:55,840 --> 00:50:58,160 Speaker 2: you're not there yet, it might be too much. So 749 00:50:58,320 --> 00:51:03,839 Speaker 2: grounding and everyone. I'm not going to say everyone. Most 750 00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:08,360 Speaker 2: people believe in negative energy or negativity, and so I 751 00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:09,960 Speaker 2: think that's a good place to start. 752 00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:15,239 Speaker 3: Thank you for that, lady. If you're listening, this is 753 00:51:15,320 --> 00:51:18,440 Speaker 3: only going to be available this discount called her Space 754 00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:22,040 Speaker 3: for the next thirty days, but it's the thirty days 755 00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:25,200 Speaker 3: after this episode airs, so you got to look and 756 00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:28,040 Speaker 3: see what they airs, so you can get this discount. Okay, 757 00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:31,320 Speaker 3: we'll lead the link in the show notes and Ashley, 758 00:51:31,360 --> 00:51:32,879 Speaker 3: if you can let folks know where can they find 759 00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:35,319 Speaker 3: you on social media, let them know how they can 760 00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:37,400 Speaker 3: support you, how they can connect with you, all that 761 00:51:37,440 --> 00:51:37,960 Speaker 3: good stuff. 762 00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:42,919 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, so you can find me on Instagram 763 00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:47,480 Speaker 2: predominantly begin with Ashley. You can come to me and 764 00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:52,360 Speaker 2: my dms there. I'm also available on my website again, 765 00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:55,920 Speaker 2: collection dot com. And if you really want to get 766 00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:58,560 Speaker 2: professional or you want me to come into your business 767 00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:04,040 Speaker 2: and make your workplace more inclusive, do some advising, you 768 00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:07,520 Speaker 2: can find me on LinkedIn at Ashley as h l 769 00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:11,319 Speaker 2: E Y maclamore mc l E m O r. 770 00:52:11,400 --> 00:52:16,480 Speaker 3: E in our Instagram that is begin dot with Ashley. Okay, y'all, 771 00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:20,400 Speaker 3: so go ahead Ashley. Support black businesses, support black people, 772 00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:23,160 Speaker 3: black women, black, support everybody black. Okay, we willing for 773 00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:25,959 Speaker 3: everybody black. Thank you, Ashley. We appreciate you so much. 774 00:52:26,000 --> 00:52:29,920 Speaker 3: Thank you for just giving us more insight in topics 775 00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:33,879 Speaker 3: to research. So thank you so much. And until next time, 776 00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:37,680 Speaker 3: against thank. 777 00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:39,839 Speaker 2: You so much for having me. This was fantastic. 778 00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:44,920 Speaker 3: Hey lady, it's Terry here from the Cultivating her Space podcast. 779 00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:48,080 Speaker 3: I'm hosting a free podcasting masterclass where I'm going to 780 00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:51,719 Speaker 3: teach you how to create your impactful podcast and how 781 00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:54,800 Speaker 3: you can generate multiple streams of income. You can visit 782 00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:58,719 Speaker 3: podcast with Terry dot com to register for free. I 783 00:52:58,760 --> 00:52:59,600 Speaker 3: hope to see you there. 784 00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:05,760 Speaker 4: Thanks for joining us today. 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