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Speaker 1: Thank you for you're coming back. Part two is underway.

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Speaker 1: I want to ask you this. Do you communicate with

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Speaker 1: your parents in Chinese.

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Speaker 2: Or Chanchinese mostly?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and your parents are here, right, Yeah, so you

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Speaker 1: don't never really talk to them in English. You talk

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Speaker 1: to them in your native language.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, which I find sometimes difficult, like to bring my

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Speaker 2: friends to my house, right, because then how do I

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Speaker 2: co switch because I.

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Speaker 1: Feel you have a conversation that they have no idea

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Speaker 1: what you're talking about.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: That's why I think sometimes a lot of immigrants are

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Speaker 2: really funny because we can make fun of people in

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Speaker 2: the restaurant right next to us in our language. Right,

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Speaker 2: It's like you learn of roast people. But then when

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Speaker 2: I bring my friends to dinner with my parents, sometimes

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Speaker 2: I have trouble because I feel bad speaking forcing my

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Speaker 2: parents to speak English. But at the same time, I

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Speaker 2: don't want to be speaking Chinese the whole time. Then

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Speaker 2: my friends don't feel include correct, especially also in relationships. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: also it becomes very hard, you know, like say dating

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Speaker 2: American girls somebody that don't speak Chinese, right, and then

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Speaker 2: it becomes like an awkward interaction with my parents and

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Speaker 2: my parents, you know, they don't care who I date,

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Speaker 1: But they don't want you to. They would they you

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Speaker 1: think they would prefer you to today.

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Speaker 2: I think they will prefer yeah, yeah, yeah, and and

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Speaker 2: they can communicate better. But you know, my mom's always

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Speaker 2: has been always very kind to any girl I've brought home.

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Speaker 2: So well, my dad's a little more judgmental. He's like,

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Speaker 2: she didn't call me uncle, like, which is not in

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Speaker 2: American culture to call a strength. But you call any

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Speaker 2: elder uncle and auntie really respect.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, oh I didn't know that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, but but I mean Black communities do

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Speaker 2: that too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: You call somebody miss something right, yes, miss right or sir.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Uncle is the term of endearments someone that's older and

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Speaker 1: you let hey, hey, what's going on a auntie?

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Speaker 3: What do you do?

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Speaker 2: There's a sense of respect, yes, absolutely, language, yes, and

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Speaker 2: that's very important to the older generations.

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Speaker 3: My dad.

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Speaker 2: So when I bring like a very westernized girl that

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Speaker 2: don't call him uncle or like, don't try to pull

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Speaker 3: Really yeah. The Asian you guys are big on respect.

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Speaker 2: That's it. That is huge, huge, huge.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think if if one thing that is the big

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Speaker 1: that is the foundation of the Asian community is respect

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Speaker 1: above all things else.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think it's so important, you know, and

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Speaker 2: you have a responsibility to take care of the elders,

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Speaker 2: be nice, respectful to your teachers, to elders. This is

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Speaker 2: all early teaching in our school. And I think a

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Speaker 2: lot America lacks that. Yes, you know, even even at

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Speaker 2: the highest level. I'm not trying to get into politics

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Speaker 2: or anything, but our president is one of the most

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: Uh, And then there's just no sense of respecting the

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Speaker 1: But you know what a lot of because a lot

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Speaker 3: They generally would would move in, would you guys?

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Speaker 1: And it is you feel like if is that is

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Speaker 1: that the male's responsibility, the son they take on the

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Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, in the old school, like old school Shanghai,

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Speaker 2: how my family grew up. They all grew up within

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Speaker 2: and I think that's pretty cool. But then modern day,

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Speaker 2: I think, you know, some some could be very westernized,

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Speaker 2: they go live on their own, but by and large,

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Speaker 2: I think just like Europe. Also, you as a young

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Speaker 1: Okay, but really yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, so you might

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Speaker 2: I mean, some of it is socioeconomics. You just housing

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Speaker 2: like it's almost unfathomable to put your parents in like

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Speaker 2: I always joke that we're all born with a financial

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Speaker 3: Right. Have you? Have you guys had your siblings?

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Speaker 1: Have you guys had a conversation if if when my

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Speaker 1: when mom and dad get older, who steps up to

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Speaker 2: I got them. No, they're still very like they're in

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Speaker 2: Uh so we haven't thought about that, but yeah, I

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Speaker 2: I mean one of the one of the goals I have.

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Speaker 2: I set goals like every year, and it's always been

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Speaker 2: like financial career goals. But now as I get older,

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Speaker 2: you know, it's now personal goals. Yes, you know, I

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Speaker 2: want to you know, be closer to the family. I

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Speaker 2: want to you know, I took them to Macaw, I

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Speaker 2: took them to Hong Kong, right, I want to take

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Speaker 2: more family vacations and like that. And and my brother

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Speaker 2: he's doing great, you know, and he really sometimes he'll

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Speaker 2: call him about it. You know, Like he's very nice

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Speaker 1: Coming to what is what do you think the biggest

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Speaker 1: you think the biggest difference is in between American culture

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, so so many? Like where do I even start.

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Speaker 2: you know, you can freely have a house, a pet

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Speaker 2: point man. And culturally, I think we we really reward

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Speaker 2: they rank you every year. I remember, like number one

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Speaker 2: I also fine dating to be very different. Really I

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Speaker 2: I just get married, you know, probably just sleep with one,

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Speaker 2: when I came to America, I was bombarded with MTV

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Speaker 2: the average age for American teenagers to lose their virginity sixteen.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm seventeen. I'm a loser. You know, I

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Speaker 2: So I was trying to overcompensate. I'm like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: so important in American culture. I don't think so. I mean,

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Speaker 2: there is more of a slow courtship. Dating is less

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Speaker 3: Do you meet?

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Speaker 1: Like if you if you're like in Asia, do you

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Speaker 1: Because people ain't trying to let you meet their parents early.

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Speaker 2: Man, I you might have to meet the parents first

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Speaker 2: Different people also have different paces, you know. I'm sure

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Speaker 2: to get laid stands whatever. I'm sure that exists. That exists,

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Speaker 2: But I think buying large dating culture is a little

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Speaker 2: less chaotic. You date someone you you know, you talk

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Speaker 2: am new to that culture, like coming back as an adult,

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Speaker 1: The dating You're like, okay, I got a slow start.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm looking at you know, how it is

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Speaker 1: you know, you see these statistics and where how soon

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Speaker 1: You probably grew up in an Asian community, but did

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Speaker 1: you like, okay, this American culture. Did you find like okay,

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Speaker 1: I hadn't seen a whole lot of white girls, and

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Speaker 1: now I see a lot of them in that you

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Speaker 1: know what, and you mentioned your parents probably want you

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Speaker 1: to if you were to get mad, your parents gonna

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Speaker 1: want you to probably marry in Asia.

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Speaker 2: I think they would prefer that.

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Speaker 3: But there's no pressure, right, yeah, do you so you

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Speaker 3: don't feel pressure, you like?

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Speaker 1: Because but I noticed this about in your community. You

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Speaker 1: guys really don't want to upset your parents.

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Speaker 1: I think the thing is is that, if I remember correctly,

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Speaker 2: If you're funny, you're funny. You came up together, do

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Speaker 3: That ain't nothing like that? Yeah, they like that?

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Speaker 3: Well, you'll put it in your next issue.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because I think the thing is is that when

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Speaker 1: My grandfather, my dad, died at thirty nine. My grandfather,

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Speaker 1: I've only had one uncle on my mom's side, reached

436
00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:50,679
Speaker 1: the age of seventy, had an aunt died forty seven.

437
00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,639
Speaker 1: My dad, brothers died in their late forties early fifties.

438
00:20:55,160 --> 00:21:01,560
Speaker 1: So seeing death around me, I mean, I've outlived my grandfather.

439
00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:04,440
Speaker 1: I've outlived you know, two of my uncles I lived

440
00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:07,480
Speaker 1: out I lived three. I live my dad and and

441
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:10,200
Speaker 1: two of its brothers. I've outlived them and I'm fifty eight.

442
00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:11,240
Speaker 2: Oh wow.

443
00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:14,200
Speaker 1: So you know you don't you don't think about it.

444
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 1: But as as you got as you get older, Jimmy

445
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:21,200
Speaker 1: and you start to have kids, you start to we

446
00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 1: were able. I think the thing that helped me is

447
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:24,960
Speaker 1: that I played a professional sport, and I say, did

448
00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:26,679
Speaker 1: good with my money, and I was able to have

449
00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:31,359
Speaker 1: health insurance because back then, your family wouldn't burn you.

450
00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:34,920
Speaker 1: So if they had an illness, they just died because

451
00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:35,439
Speaker 1: they didn't want to.

452
00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:38,760
Speaker 3: Put you in debt. Oh my god, yeah they're not.

453
00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:40,200
Speaker 3: They're not putting you in debt like that.

454
00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:44,600
Speaker 2: Wow. I mean, if you think growing up that you're

455
00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:48,879
Speaker 2: gonna lift till forty or thirty nine or whatever, I

456
00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:52,399
Speaker 2: would live my life very differently. You know, I'll go

457
00:21:52,440 --> 00:21:56,160
Speaker 2: buy ten cars and I wouldn't be able to pay

458
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:59,359
Speaker 2: my mortgage. Like I get it. But you know, I

459
00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 2: think there is a happy middle ground. Yes, you know,

460
00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:05,719
Speaker 2: of living every day like the last. But also that

461
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 2: doesn't mean you have to, you know, not think about

462
00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:09,120
Speaker 2: the future.

463
00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 1: You mentioned that your friend in Detroit had to worry

464
00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:13,360
Speaker 1: about a lot of different things. He had to worry

465
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:17,439
Speaker 1: about crime, and there are situations. Was crime ever a

466
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:19,359
Speaker 1: problem in China or Hong Kong? Not at all.

467
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 2: It's so safe. You can walk down You're gonna be

468
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 2: a woman walking down a dark alley and night. You're

469
00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 2: totally fun.

470
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, because they don't play over there, you do something

471
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:29,120
Speaker 3: over there to eat some bad well.

472
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:32,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, but also it's just a culture thing. You know,

473
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:37,920
Speaker 2: people don't really commit crimes, you know, because I don't

474
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:42,919
Speaker 2: know what that is. Maybe it's school teaching, families staying together.

475
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:47,760
Speaker 2: I have no idea, but it's generally incredibly safe, right. Yeah.

476
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 3: How are your parents as far as love? I mean,

477
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:52,679
Speaker 3: did they hug you? Did they say with Jimmy, we

478
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 3: love you? Did they? I mean, so how was that?

479
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,880
Speaker 3: That's not an Asian at all? Yeah?

480
00:22:57,960 --> 00:22:59,919
Speaker 2: We never say I love you. They never there's no

481
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 2: physical touchness. I never seen my parents kiss each other.

482
00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:07,399
Speaker 2: Yeah really, yeah, because I think that's not you know,

483
00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 2: with the love language. Yeah, I just don't think that's

484
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 2: how they express right. But they always there for each other,

485
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 2: like now there in the seventies. They might argue, but

486
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,159
Speaker 2: my mom's always there to pick up my dad, you know,

487
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,440
Speaker 2: from the airport. They always there for each other when

488
00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:20,920
Speaker 2: they need something. They cook for each other every night.

489
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:22,719
Speaker 2: So I think it's more like an act of service

490
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,919
Speaker 2: type culture. Okay, And I find that difficult too. You know,

491
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 2: in my dating life when people I love you part

492
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:31,520
Speaker 2: very hard for me to say. Not that I don't

493
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:34,320
Speaker 2: love anyone and I have, That's not what people are

494
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 2: saying that. You know, I would rather make a meal

495
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:39,359
Speaker 2: for you, That's how I show my love, or like

496
00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:42,240
Speaker 2: I would rather, you know, give you a ride, or

497
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:43,680
Speaker 2: like help you out with something, to help you building

498
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 2: piece furniture. I don't know. So yeah, that part is

499
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:50,879
Speaker 2: very different how people show their love and affection in

500
00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 2: Asian here.

501
00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 1: It's funny that you say that, now that you mentioned it.

502
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever seen my grandparents kiss.

503
00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 3: Uh.

504
00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,919
Speaker 1: I mean the love is that you got food on

505
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,239
Speaker 1: your table, you got clothes on your back, you got

506
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 1: a roof over your head.

507
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:05,199
Speaker 2: That's I love you, that's it.

508
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:06,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's love.

509
00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm taking care of you, not to say that

510
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 1: I love you or not to give you a hug

511
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 1: or anything like that. And because like you said, I

512
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:17,200
Speaker 1: knew my grandparents loved me. I had food. I knew

513
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,400
Speaker 1: I had the best that they could afford to give me. Yeah,

514
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 1: but this I love you, I love you, and come

515
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:25,280
Speaker 1: here and give your grandpa hug.

516
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 3: Ort. That ain't how That ain't how I was raised.

517
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 2: It's like old school. Also, it's a generational yes. And

518
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:36,960
Speaker 2: also I do think that that's one thing, like like

519
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 2: the mental health of it all, Like it doesn't it

520
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 2: doesn't hurt to say I love you. I'll give your

521
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 2: kids some credit. And I think Asian people can do

522
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 2: a better job of that because man, I remember when

523
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:51,399
Speaker 2: I first got on TV, you know, like just two

524
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 2: lines here and there. My dad never said good job anything,

525
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 2: you know, And I was just waiting for that. And

526
00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 2: it was when I first got on our Singing Hall.

527
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:02,160
Speaker 2: It was my first talk show.

528
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

529
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:07,679
Speaker 2: And then my friend Julian his mother, who's a school

530
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 2: teacher shout out to Melinda Weatherspeed, left me a voicemail saying,

531
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 2: I saw you on this talk show and you were

532
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:16,879
Speaker 2: so eloquent. You did a great job.

533
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:17,400
Speaker 3: Wow.

534
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 2: And it was like a fifty second voice message that

535
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 2: I still have on my phone and it makes me

536
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:28,160
Speaker 2: emotional because nobody's ever said that to me, you know, weirdly.

537
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 2: And it was my friend's mother, who's a school teacher

538
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:35,399
Speaker 2: I met twice, left me that voice message and I

539
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 2: still save it on my phone and it's important.

540
00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:43,880
Speaker 3: Do you think you received your dad's approval?

541
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 2: I think so. Yeah, I think so. And they just

542
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 2: they don't say it, they don't show it, but sometimes

543
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 2: it is.

544
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:53,920
Speaker 3: But you know he's proud of you. Yeah, you want

545
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 3: to hear it, you like, dad, Yeah, your boy did

546
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:58,399
Speaker 3: your boy did good? Didn't it? Yeah?

547
00:25:58,440 --> 00:25:59,200
Speaker 2: True? True?

548
00:25:59,480 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 3: I do.

549
00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 2: I think maybe Asian parents can do a better job

550
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 2: of there is unconditional love, Yes, there is. They love

551
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 2: me a lot, but they can do better with unconditional love.

552
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 2: Even if your kid doesn't make money or like doesn't

553
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 2: have a great career, you know, just be a little

554
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 2: more encouraging instead of only uh measuring you know.

555
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:23,640
Speaker 3: By success.

556
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 1: Because everybody's not going to be Jamie Dow gonna be

557
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 1: the CEO Goldman Sachs right, and JP Morgan. Everybody's not

558
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: going to have of something that you know your parents

559
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: because your parents.

560
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 3: I think the thing is parents like the glow look

561
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 3: up my son.

562
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:41,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, And so everybody's not everybody child is

563
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 1: not going to have something that you can be proud

564
00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 1: of him.

565
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:46,160
Speaker 3: Oh, he or she is successful.

566
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:50,359
Speaker 1: But I think sometimes we put so much pressure because

567
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 1: if you're not a CEO, you're not a professional athlete,

568
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 1: you're not X, Y and Z like, well, well.

569
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,080
Speaker 3: No he's not in He or she is not in trouble.

570
00:26:58,119 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 3: They got a good paying job.

571
00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 2: Be a great human.

572
00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:03,159
Speaker 1: Yes, everybody meant to make five hundred million dollars, you know,

573
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: and make a be a billion.

574
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 3: Everybody meant musk or this.

575
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:09,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think it can be just a little

576
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 2: more encouraging. I think every Asian kid is dying for

577
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,440
Speaker 2: a hug. Every Asian kid is dying for that voice

578
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 2: message that I got from Milithera.

579
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,919
Speaker 1: When you have kids, I think you're gonna have to

580
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 1: break a cycle and you're gonna have to start a

581
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 1: tradition that wasn't passed down to you because probably your

582
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:29,520
Speaker 1: parents didn't get hugs or pats on the back or

583
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,399
Speaker 1: words of encouragemental affirmation. So you're gonna have to be

584
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:36,080
Speaker 1: the first one in order to start that when you

585
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: have a family, and then pass that along and then

586
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:40,720
Speaker 1: your kids pass along in X, Y and.

587
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:43,199
Speaker 2: Z, and that's how you wash away the generational trauma

588
00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:45,320
Speaker 2: and get from it. And I think, to me, because

589
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 2: I wanted that so bad, you know, I'll be particularly

590
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 2: sensitive today. I'll probably over hug my kids yea, and

591
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 2: over encouraging, and then they're probably gonna do drugs and becoming

592
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 2: that baby.

593
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 1: You know, did you ever tell you did you ever

594
00:27:59,080 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 1: tell your dad?

595
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 3: Did you ever ask your dad? Dad? Why you never

596
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,240
Speaker 3: told me you loved me? Dad? Why you don't give

597
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 3: me hugs? I know you're proud of.

598
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:10,439
Speaker 1: Me, but just telling me that that you're proud of

599
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 1: me and to give me a hug and to say, Jimmy,

600
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 1: you've done a great job.

601
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:15,879
Speaker 3: Have you ever asked your dad that?

602
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 2: I don't know if I've asked him, but I think

603
00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 2: through my comedy I was talking to him, right, you know,

604
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 2: because I make fun of him, I make fun of

605
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,640
Speaker 2: the trauma whatever. But really I'm trying to say that

606
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 2: to him sometimes, you know, in a way that's funny. Yeah,

607
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:31,719
Speaker 2: I think he yeah, and I think he gets it now.

608
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 2: I think my mom even talks to him like, you know,

609
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 2: and now they do say it. Now they do give

610
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 2: it up. You know, they love you. I don't know

611
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 2: if it's in so many.

612
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 4: Words, let's not get carried away.

613
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they are like, hey, that was a great show.

614
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 2: That was awesome.

615
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 3: Okay, it's a start.

616
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 2: That was amazing, And I think my dad's over compensating.

617
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 2: Now it's like, oh my god, you're such a good actor.

618
00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 2: I just wanted to watch this movie that guy sucks.

619
00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:58,800
Speaker 2: You're way better actor than that guy, you know. Like

620
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 2: so so that feels pretty good. That feels all right.

621
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, what type of student were you in school?

622
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 2: I was he was a good I was a B

623
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 2: student in Hong Kong. But then when I came to America,

624
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 2: I was like, this is a layup. This is so easy.

625
00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 2: Oh you turned into an eighth student, super a student,

626
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 2: honor roll four point something GPA. You know it was

627
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 2: because like math here is a joke. Okay, Like I

628
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 2: wasn't in any genius classes. Like people are like Asian

629
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 2: people are good at maths. No, Americans are just horrible

630
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 2: mass all right, Because I was in Asia, when I

631
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 2: was in when I was in Hong Kong twelve thirteen

632
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 2: years old. I was already geometry, algebra. I learned all

633
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:43,479
Speaker 2: of that stuff already. And then when I came here

634
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 2: in eighth grade, they were still learning basic maths, yeah

635
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 2: and whatever. And then my dad had talked to principal

636
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 2: and was like, hey, man, he learned all this, can

637
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 2: you put him in whatever the top magnet classes?

638
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 3: Right?

639
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 2: And then the principle was like, okay, our best class

640
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 2: was algebra. Have you learned that? And I kind of

641
00:29:57,960 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 2: lied to him. I'm like, no, I never learned it.

642
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 2: But I learned it two years ago and I was

643
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 2: just acing it. I mean it was so easy.

644
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 3: It's just come on around.

645
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 1: You almost lost your Asian card after getting a two

646
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 1: point seven.

647
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 2: Oh that's a joke. I became a really bad student

648
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 2: in college. That's actually not a joke. In college, I

649
00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 2: did have a two point seven GPA. Because I want

650
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 2: to do music. I was making beats, right, So I

651
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 2: started taking minor classes and music. I took some minor

652
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:30,560
Speaker 2: classes a theater. Like I think, I was so blocked.

653
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 2: I was like, being a creative is not possible because

654
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 2: of my upbringing, right, you know, but I am such

655
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Speaker 2: a creative. I would be at dinner and like mess

656
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 2: with my chopsticks and built like a little tower, like

657
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 2: mess with my food and like make something. And I

658
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 2: think what got me going was like making beats, creating something,

659
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 2: and then creating a joke later on. But I never

660
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,360
Speaker 2: allowed myself to believe that. That's why I was just

661
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 2: like here and they're taking some minor classes. Those are

662
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 2: the classes that got as in right, But then all

663
00:30:56,160 --> 00:31:00,719
Speaker 2: my classes in economics class, you know, engineering class, I

664
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 2: never even won the class. I was not interested. And

665
00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 2: I would just show up. I'll cram, you know, right

666
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 2: before the midterm, right before the finals. Yeah, and I'll

667
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 2: show up. I'll get a c right, you know, and

668
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 2: get by and graduate. But I literally I got a

669
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 2: two point seven gpa, and you see steal. It was

670
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 2: terrible just because I wasn't interested.

671
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 3: Were you hyper as a kid.

672
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 1: Did your parents ever say, Jimmy, calm down, because it

673
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 1: seemed like you're at the gener table and you're building

674
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: tower with chopsticks, and you seem like you have a

675
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 1: very creative mind, and it's hard and sometimes when you

676
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: have a creative mind, parents don't understand that. Parents want

677
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 1: you to sit there just like I mean you're talking

678
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: to You're asking a five year old or eight year

679
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 1: old or ten year old to just sit there and

680
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: have the same demeanor as someone that's in their twenties

681
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 1: and thirties. You were a child that's mine is just

682
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 1: racing you. You just like I can do this. I

683
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:50,840
Speaker 1: want to do all of this. And your parents are like, babe,

684
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:51,720
Speaker 1: where did we go wrong?

685
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 2: Now, they were fairly encouraging. My mom will be like,

686
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 2: don't be so messy when you eat. But I was,

687
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 2: you know, I was in art classes. I was in

688
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 2: violin classes well in Hong Kong, but that's more like

689
00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 2: academic art, like right, yeah, and I didn't love it,

690
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 2: but I excelled at it, you know, and my dad

691
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 2: was always very proud. I scored a very high score

692
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 2: in his violent text. But it's like violence shouldn't be

693
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 2: measured in a score. Art should be measured by a score.

694
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 2: But you know, I think it's it's not them. I

695
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 2: think for Asian parents, they were fairly encouraging. I think

696
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 2: it's the culture of it growing up in Hong Kong. Yeah,

697
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 2: making the arts is probably unlikely, you know, it's probably

698
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 2: a bad idea. You probably wouldn't be able to afford housing,

699
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 2: like you know, so don't I don't blame them, but

700
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 2: I think for creative people, like I can excel at

701
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 2: something and I really can put so much energy and

702
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 2: time into something if I'm interested, Well, once I'm disinterested,

703
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 2: I will be an f student.

704
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 3: Yeah.

705
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, Jimmy is your American name? What is your Chinese name?

706
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 2: Man shing mind sing? That means ten thousand success.

707
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 3: Wow, they gave you the right name, ten thousand success?

708
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 2: Yeah?

709
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 3: How did you come up with Jimmy?

710
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 2: They just it's Jimmy because everybody in Hong Kong you need,

711
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 2: you need an English name. Oh, they just name it anything,

712
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 2: you know. Like my brother was Roger. I think he

713
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 2: was named after Roger Moore, the James Bonds. Yeah, and

714
00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 2: he was like, this sounds like an old white guy.

715
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 2: So he changed his own name to Roy, So now

716
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 2: he sounds like an old black dude. They just Roy Rogers,

717
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 2: you know. And then my dad is Richard. I was like,

718
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 2: why did you name yourself Richard? He's like, because I

719
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 2: want to be rich. So it's like sometimes as simple

720
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 2: as that. Or there's Asian people named Jackson. Really they

721
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 2: love Michael Jackson. A lot of people in Hong Kong,

722
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 2: their first names are American people's last names. Like I

723
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:58,280
Speaker 2: know a lot of Johnson's their first name Johnson Lee,

724
00:33:58,880 --> 00:33:59,240
Speaker 2: you know.

725
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 3: Really so. And in Asia you have two names.

726
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: You have it, you have a Chinese mannerin or Cantonese

727
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: or name, and then you have an American name.

728
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then American name is more like a nickname.

729
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 3: Yeah.

730
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 2: Jimmy wasn't on any of my IDs or anything, right

731
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 2: until I came to America and I put it as

732
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 2: my middle name.

733
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

734
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 2: But I was just like, yeah, just call me Jimmy.

735
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 2: So when the teachers called role in uh in America, yeah,

736
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 2: you know, they're like, man, they always messed up your

737
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 2: name and you're sawing man sing oh, and I'm like,

738
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,240
Speaker 2: just call me Jimmy.

739
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 3: Jimmy here. Yeah.

740
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:33,359
Speaker 2: Uh.

741
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 1: When did you know you were funny? When did you

742
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: when did you get your voice in comedy?

743
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 2: I think I was always kind of funny. My dad

744
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:45,920
Speaker 2: was very funny, always loud, fun at the dinner table.

745
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,360
Speaker 2: And I would say I wouldn't say I was like

746
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 2: the class clown, but I was always, you know, funny

747
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 2: amongst my friends. Yes, But then when I came to America.

748
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 2: I really had to be funny. I was such a

749
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 2: small kid, nerdy Asian kid. I would have totally gotten bullied.

750
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 2: But I can talk, you know, right when I learned

751
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:02,880
Speaker 2: a little bit of English, I can talk, and I

752
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 2: was kind of funny, and I think people appreciated that,

753
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 2: and I avoided bullying because of that. So I think

754
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:15,239
Speaker 2: funny was part of how I assimilated, you know, and

755
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 2: how I fought for myself was when my voice.

756
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,600
Speaker 1: That happens a lot because a lot of times that,

757
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 1: like when you're funny people are trying to make fun

758
00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 1: of you, is that you start making fun of somebody else,

759
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 1: or you make people laugh, they forget that. They're like,

760
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 1: oh we were we were just talking about him, but

761
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 1: we laughing. We don't forget, we don't forgot all about him,

762
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 1: and we just laughing at what you said. So that

763
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 1: was your way of in ingratiating yourself and keep from

764
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,359
Speaker 1: getting picked on it and keep getting made fun at.

765
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:41,439
Speaker 1: Is that to make other people laugh and they forget

766
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: they were supposed to be talking about me.

767
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 2: That's right, wow, yeah yeah. And you build up these

768
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:49,160
Speaker 2: defense mechanisms, and I think that was one of them.

769
00:35:49,239 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 2: And for how small it was. I was fairly athletic.

770
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 2: People were like, couldn't believe I like jumped up to

771
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 2: catch football. You know, I didn't know what football was

772
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 2: until I was thirteen. I didn't know what never heard

773
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:02,400
Speaker 2: of Super Bowl, you know. And then you know, I

774
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 2: try to be good at sports. I try to you know,

775
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 2: be good at humor. Yeah, because getting good grades, he's

776
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,480
Speaker 2: still gonna get bullied, you know. Yea be good at sports.

777
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 3: Because everybody get good grades in Asia for the most part. Yeah.

778
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, because in that culture, grades or everything. It's like

779
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 1: sometimes in America if you good at sports, but there

780
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:24,840
Speaker 1: is the opposite.

781
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 3: They want you to get outstanding grades.

782
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 2: Which I don't think is the ideal thing for a kid.

783
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 2: You get graded on everything and everything comes down to

784
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:36,239
Speaker 2: a score, right. I think it's it's more important to

785
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,399
Speaker 2: be more well rounded, Like, you know, even getting into

786
00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 2: colleges here, the good colleges, they don't just look at

787
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:42,880
Speaker 2: your grades. No, they look at the extracurricular they look

788
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 2: at the sports. Do community sunity yep?

789
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 3: Yeah? Absolutely.

790
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,720
Speaker 2: It was funny though. I remember senior year of high school,

791
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 2: I wasn't on any sports team or anything like that,

792
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 2: and then they're like, you have to do community service.

793
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, why, I'm just forcing myself to do community

794
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,239
Speaker 2: service just so I'm can getting to college. It's like

795
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:01,560
Speaker 2: tricking someone. It's a very weird concept.

796
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 1: The Arsenio Hall show How did you? How did how

797
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: did you get? How did you get?

798
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 3: On the Arsenio Hall Show?

799
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 2: Man. I think somebody dropped out and they needed a

800
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:13,840
Speaker 2: comedian last minute, and then they called me, They're like,

801
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:15,759
Speaker 2: can you do Arsenio on a Thursday? And it was

802
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 2: a Wednesday, and I was like, absolutely, let's do it.

803
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 2: And I've been grinding on like open mic Springer shows,

804
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 2: just different shows and San Diego for years. I was

805
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 2: ready and I did. I was so nervous.

806
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 3: I did.

807
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 2: I think You're only supposed to do like seven minutes,

808
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 2: and I did like twelve minutes and I got a

809
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 2: standing ovation R And it was my very first ever

810
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 2: standing ovation. It was on TV and Arceenia was so nice.

811
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: I mean, he's one of my heroes, and backstage she

812
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 2: was like, this is the last time you're ever gonna

813
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 2: talk to me. You're gonna You're gonna be great after this,

814
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 2: and that was a really really nice moment. And I'm like, no,

815
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 2: come on, Arsenial I'll come back on the show anytime, Like,

816
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 2: thank you for giving me this opportunity. And then the

817
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 2: next Monday he got canceled.

818
00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:01,799
Speaker 3: Really yeah, I guess damn you missed the Man show up.

819
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 2: Man, I don't know, I screwed him up, man, Yeah

820
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 2: you got canceled.

821
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 3: Yeah it was I mean, everybody wanted to be on

822
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 3: an Arsenio Hall show. You were in the Excuse Me?

823
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 1: You were in the movie at Patriots Day with Mark Wahlberg,

824
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,040
Speaker 1: Mean Time with Kevin Hart, Opening at with said Dann

825
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:23,320
Speaker 1: Ottainer very different obviously, uh keV and said our comedians.

826
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: Mark Wahlberg started his career as a as a rapper model.

827
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:33,359
Speaker 1: What's I mean, what was it like? What was it

828
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:34,800
Speaker 1: like being on the set with those guys.

829
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 2: It's awesome, Like I'm still I pinched myself.

830
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 3: You know.

831
00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 2: It's in Space Force with Steve Corn John Malkovich. You

832
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:42,359
Speaker 2: know sometimes when they're doing a scene, I'm just like,

833
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 2: oh shit, I'm actually in this with them, Like, you know,

834
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 2: it's unbelievable. And I think that's the coolest part seeing you.

835
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 2: This is unbelievable. This is really awesome. I'm a huge fan,

836
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 2: but then like we get to chat and I get

837
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:55,600
Speaker 2: to be on this show, So you know, I I

838
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 2: don't ever want that to go away. You know, I

839
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 2: still want to be fans of people. Yes, so that

840
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,439
Speaker 2: that's really cool. And I think for me, what gets

841
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 2: me excited is I get to do different things. When

842
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:07,520
Speaker 2: I was doing stand up, I want to act. When

843
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 2: I'm acting in comedy, I want to do more dramas.

844
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 2: And then once that's done, I want to do my

845
00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:14,280
Speaker 2: stand up show where I pop up on stage. Nobody's

846
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:16,319
Speaker 2: ever done that. And instead of just going to easier

847
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 2: whut I put it on Netflix, I want to put

848
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 2: in the movie theater. Yeah, I always want to do

849
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,759
Speaker 2: something different. That's what gets me excited. You know, I'm

850
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 2: sure I can make more money if I just keep

851
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 2: doing the same thing, but it's not exciting for me.

852
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 2: You know, I might as well go work in finance.

853
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 3: Then you know, what role haven't you done that you'd

854
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 3: like to do?

855
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 2: Huh, that's a good question. I want to die in

856
00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:44,440
Speaker 2: something without people laughing, like I want to like I

857
00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 2: want to die and more like a shot or like

858
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:49,840
Speaker 2: like in a fight, or like fall off a building.

859
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:52,400
Speaker 4: But it's not funny, right, you know, I look like

860
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 4: with Damn that did land long Jimmy, well, don't do

861
00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 4: a horrible because you know, Asians and black go at first.

862
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:05,400
Speaker 3: Open the damn Jimmy.

863
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 2: God, I wouldn't. I wouldn't love to do like, you know,

864
00:40:08,640 --> 00:40:11,839
Speaker 2: like a real film like Scorsese, like a like a

865
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 2: Tarantino like gangster film.

866
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, wow. Is there any roles that you

867
00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 1: turned down?

868
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:23,400
Speaker 3: You like, damn Probably should have Probably should have went

869
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:23,919
Speaker 3: with that one.

870
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 2: Mm man, there's some indies and stuff I think I

871
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 2: would have like, oh okay.

872
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 3: But.

873
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:40,719
Speaker 2: I wish I would have been less obsessed about being

874
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 2: an actor and focus on comedy more because I think

875
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 2: there was always a thought of, oh, stand up, the

876
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:49,839
Speaker 2: next step, you know, the Annie Murphy route, right.

877
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 3: Ye ye y y yah yea yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

878
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:55,360
Speaker 2: Yeah Williams, you know, and I was obsessed with that.

879
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:57,800
Speaker 2: But now I can actually be very honest with myself.

880
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 2: I'm a stand up. Stand up is so much more fun.

881
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,319
Speaker 2: It speaks to me. It's live, it's beautiful, it's a

882
00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 2: sprint every day and if you're not good today, be

883
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 2: better than tomorrow.

884
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

885
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 2: Where it's acting, it's a marathon, and it's such a

886
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:15,800
Speaker 2: different muscle. It's almost masochistic, it's almost self torturous times,

887
00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:17,879
Speaker 2: and it takes six months and then you don't even

888
00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:21,880
Speaker 2: get the audience reaction. So partly was like my ego

889
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 2: and like I want to do something different. I want

890
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 2: to act, but now it would take a very special

891
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 2: project for me to accept, or working with friends or

892
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 2: stuff like that. But I am very proud to have

893
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:36,839
Speaker 2: reached this, finally reached this thing where like I'm like,

894
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:39,400
Speaker 2: I'm a very good stand up comedian and I want

895
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 2: to keep doing that.

896
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:40,399
Speaker 3: Yeah.

897
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 1: I think the thing is that you mentioned something very important,

898
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 1: you say, the instant crowd reaction.

899
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 3: That's what you get a stand up in the movies.

900
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 3: You don't know you like this line.

901
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 1: I think this line is gonna be good, but you

902
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:54,359
Speaker 1: don't know because it's not instant. You have to go

903
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 1: to the movies like Man, I saw you and never Man,

904
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 1: that's such and such was really really funny.

905
00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:00,000
Speaker 2: I used to get so stressed, man, when I first

906
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 2: started acting. I mean I didn't have that much experience, right,

907
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,439
Speaker 2: so I was just really worried. I remember I shot

908
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:07,920
Speaker 2: of that episode Always Sonny in Philadelphia, I'm a big

909
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 2: fan Danny to beat on all the guys right and

910
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 2: and Caitlin. And I was just so nervous and I

911
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 2: stressed out. I lost sleep after that because I'm like,

912
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:19,319
Speaker 2: did I do well? They told me I did well?

913
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 3: Right?

914
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 2: How do I know?

915
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:20,920
Speaker 5: Yes?

916
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 2: And I have to wait like six to nine months

917
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 2: for the show to come out, and I lost a

918
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 2: lot of sleep in that six to nine months. It's

919
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 2: a weird it's a weird art to operate.

920
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 1: It because then the movie is what's so so so

921
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:35,319
Speaker 1: hectic about it is that you.

922
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 3: Hurry up and wait, uh huh.

923
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 2: Yeah.

924
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, get to to State at five your

925
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:42,279
Speaker 1: first scene is not to your team?

926
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 3: Could you not? Could you? Could you let me get

927
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:46,040
Speaker 3: here at eight thirty nine o'clock?

928
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:49,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's it's so long, Like the days alone,

929
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 2: oh my god, Like twelve hour days are like normal.

930
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 3: Yeah.

931
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:56,759
Speaker 2: Oh, if you work in Asia, in China, it's like

932
00:42:57,280 --> 00:43:00,479
Speaker 2: twenty hour days. You know, they don't have like sag

933
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:05,319
Speaker 2: union rules necessarily, So it's a grind everywhere, like in

934
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 2: acting around the world. That's why I think a lot

935
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 2: of true actors they still prefer theater. Yes, And I

936
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 2: think stand up is my theater. Yes, you know, because

937
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 2: I do think shooting movie, TV show is an incredibly exhausting,

938
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 2: arduous and an efficient process. I would say on Patriots

939
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 2: Day Peter Burke kind of cracked the code. He needs

940
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 2: to be an actors. There's a very actor friendly director,

941
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 2: awesome director, and he would just have camera guys. He

942
00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 2: whouldn't mess with the lighting, shoots practical shoulder cameras, just

943
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 2: like shoot it and then you just act it out.

944
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 2: He wouldn't give you any marks or anything, and shoots

945
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 2: fast and it was very exciting to do that.

946
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:43,400
Speaker 3: You like it? Like, yeah in love heard you catfish

947
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 3: a woman?

948
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 1: Have you ever been catfish in real life?

949
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 2: I guess lightly, you know, not like full on right calffish,

950
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 2: but you know the goods don't match the picture and

951
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:57,280
Speaker 2: I just leave. I mean I don't leave. I still

952
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 2: would sit down, have dinner, right, I guess you do.

953
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 3: As Are you a dating app?

954
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,359
Speaker 2: I have? I have a dating app. I have done

955
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 2: dating apps, but I find that very It's something.

956
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: It's something about meeting that person in person and at

957
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 1: the gym or at Starbucks or wherever the case may be.

958
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 3: There's something organic and who listen. Yes.

959
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 2: And also when you're on a dating app, you out

960
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 2: with a person that you met on dating app, you know,

961
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:26,560
Speaker 2: you got ten more matches at home. Yeah, she got

962
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 2: ten more matches. So any little crack, any little thing

963
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 2: that doesn't work options, Yeah, Like you want to meet

964
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 2: someone that like it's fate, right, Yes, I want to

965
00:44:38,320 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 2: meet a girl that is so disgusted by men but

966
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:45,840
Speaker 2: somehow puts up with me. Oh you know what I mean. Yeah,

967
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:49,800
Speaker 2: they don't even got like ten roster options or like whatever.

968
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 2: But like we met somewhere at a restaurant and now

969
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 2: we're talking.

970
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 1: Yes, I like that, Yes, because I think that and

971
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 1: maybe that's the problem. That's what's happened. That's what social

972
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:01,320
Speaker 1: media has done. It's a lot to have too many options.

973
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:05,200
Speaker 1: You remember when you, you know you nineteen twenty, there

974
00:45:05,239 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: was no social media and you didn't know what the

975
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 1: girls looked like in California unless you lived in California.

976
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 3: You don't know. Now you just screw.

977
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 1: You, like damn Miami, got it going on, Minnesota, New York, Houston.

978
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:23,959
Speaker 2: Down, damn Right. It's such a blessing aim overseas. Yes,

979
00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 2: and a curse because it's never enough no, like, now

980
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 2: we're famous, We're like, maybe if I DM this girl,

981
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:32,560
Speaker 2: she will reply by, yes, this is the hottest girl

982
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 2: I've ever seen. Yes, And then it's hard to then

983
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 2: settle down. But then at some point you got to

984
00:45:36,880 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 2: be like, this is not real. And then also you

985
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 2: meet enough for these people that you think is super hot,

986
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 2: they might also be super hot in real life. But

987
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:48,359
Speaker 2: there's it's odd, it's not right yet.

988
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 1: It's kind of like a buffet. It's just too much.

989
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 1: It's just too much, and you just like this, let

990
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: me go to the restaurant. Let me just order one

991
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:58,719
Speaker 1: or two things and I'll be satisfied. But when you

992
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 1: got an option for fifty.

993
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:01,720
Speaker 2: You can't like be like Costco.

994
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 3: They give you two options.

995
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:05,319
Speaker 2: That's why they do so much business. Yes, and then

996
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 2: you get decision paralysis and people don't know how to

997
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 2: settle down.

998
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:11,480
Speaker 1: Unless you got hopefully you got a family of fifteen,

999
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 1: because when you get ten pounds of mayonnaise, ketchup and

1000
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: mustard with one hundred hot dogs.

1001
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:20,479
Speaker 2: And also that if you only have one hot dog,

1002
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:23,440
Speaker 2: yes a year, that how dog's gonna taste pretty good? Yes,

1003
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 2: if you have an option of hot dogs every day, yeah,

1004
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 2: I don't know why we're using hot dogs, you know,

1005
00:46:29,560 --> 00:46:33,279
Speaker 2: but you know, it's too much and I think we

1006
00:46:33,360 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 2: all got to pull back a little bit. And I

1007
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:39,239
Speaker 2: don't know. Like for me and the dating thing, it's

1008
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:42,479
Speaker 2: important for me to know what I want myself, because

1009
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 2: if you don't know.

1010
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:44,600
Speaker 3: So you know exactly what you're looking for.

1011
00:46:44,680 --> 00:46:47,239
Speaker 2: I'm getting better at that, you know, I have a

1012
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 2: list of stuff. But then also sometimes it's fate. You know,

1013
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 2: you can have a whole list of like this is

1014
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,279
Speaker 2: what you want and a wife, and somebody checks all that,

1015
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:56,799
Speaker 2: but then you don't really have fun with that person,

1016
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 2: yeah you know, or you have fun with someone that

1017
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 2: like brings out the inner child than you, but she

1018
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 2: don't check ouny of the boxes.

1019
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 3: Yes, so then what do you do?

1020
00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 2: That's why I'm not That's what I'm saying.

1021
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:11,799
Speaker 3: What do you do? Yeah?

1022
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 1: Right, you're absolutely right, Jimmy. Would you date someone taller

1023
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 1: than you?

1024
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:21,400
Speaker 2: Of course? Yeah, everyone's taller than me. My options to

1025
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:22,040
Speaker 2: be really living.

1026
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:25,440
Speaker 1: So I don't have a dating app. I've never been

1027
00:47:25,440 --> 00:47:26,920
Speaker 1: on a dating app. So what do you You set up

1028
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 1: a profile? Okay, you use.

1029
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:30,280
Speaker 3: Your real name.

1030
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:34,279
Speaker 2: Somehow, don't believe that no.

1031
00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:36,480
Speaker 3: So you have so okay, you use your real name,

1032
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 3: you Jimmy.

1033
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:40,719
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, sure, okay, you're you're five this and you

1034
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. You got this kind of do and

1035
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:46,400
Speaker 1: you your match. You want someone between the heights of

1036
00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 1: say five seven and five five five and five eight.

1037
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 2: I think they have apps like that way you're put

1038
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 2: in details. Yeah, I don't think.

1039
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:54,120
Speaker 3: You don't put it.

1040
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 2: You don't put it, Okay, I don't care. I mean,

1041
00:47:56,560 --> 00:48:00,239
Speaker 2: you know, a person's a person, right, You've attracted, you attractor? Yeah, fine, you.

1042
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,120
Speaker 1: Put down the education. I love want somebody to have

1043
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 1: at least a bachelor's degree. You know, masters wouldn't be disappointed. Doctors. Okay,

1044
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 1: you're really appealing to me.

1045
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:11,799
Speaker 2: I don't think that way, but I do. I just

1046
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 2: want to have a good conversation. You're gonna be a

1047
00:48:13,960 --> 00:48:16,200
Speaker 2: college dropout and never graduated at high school and be

1048
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:18,840
Speaker 2: one of the smartest people, right, and we have great conversation.

1049
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 2: But I do find that very important. If it's someone

1050
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 2: you know, I can't have a conversation right, then it's done.

1051
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:27,400
Speaker 1: You know what, Jimmy would I've never I don't think

1052
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:31,040
Speaker 1: I've ever seen and you you can I mean, this

1053
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:35,879
Speaker 1: is your this is in your background. Asian men date

1054
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 1: women with kids.

1055
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 2: Oh huh interesting? Yeah, you might be right.

1056
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 1: I don't think i've I don't like I said, I mean,

1057
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know if I've ever I

1058
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:52,799
Speaker 1: don't know if I've ever heard of it. I'm not

1059
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 1: saying it doesn't happen. I'm sure it's happened somewhere.

1060
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 2: There's yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, or maybe unless like

1061
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 2: the guy also has kids their second marriage or something

1062
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 2: like that. But yeah, I mean may I mean, this

1063
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 2: is just speaking for myself, Yes, I would like I

1064
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,919
Speaker 2: think maybe we really care about you know, our name

1065
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 2: and our blood being passed down, right, So to me,

1066
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:18,359
Speaker 2: I always thought it's really awesome when people adopt kids

1067
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 2: and take care of other people's kids and things like that.

1068
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 2: But for me, I think I want my own kids.

1069
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 3: To you want to you want your own blood last?

1070
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:28,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think maybe that's a very old school

1071
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:29,240
Speaker 2: Asian thing.

1072
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:33,640
Speaker 1: Maybe, But yeah, when you dated, did you ever bring like,

1073
00:49:33,680 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 1: when you dated someone outside of your race, did you

1074
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 1: ever bring them home to meet your parents?

1075
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:41,840
Speaker 2: I'm not precious about meeting my parents, right, I almost

1076
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 2: want my mom to give me some opinions, you know.

1077
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 3: Damn, Jimmy, I mean off the rip. You gotta let

1078
00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 3: the way you got to build up. That's not a

1079
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:50,040
Speaker 3: thing that you you're right, you're right.

1080
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:53,439
Speaker 2: But sometimes it's like my parents are picking up something

1081
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:54,600
Speaker 2: in my house and the girls there.

1082
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 3: Oh Jimmy, you can't let that happen.

1083
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 2: Really no, man, Okay, got my mom.

1084
00:49:59,880 --> 00:50:01,879
Speaker 3: My parents are coming over. You gotta leave.

1085
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 2: See, I'm really bad at you because now she thinks

1086
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:05,080
Speaker 2: she's special.

1087
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 3: She's meeting your mom and dad.

1088
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 2: Oh is that right?

1089
00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 1: Yes, everybody don't get to meet mom and dad.

1090
00:50:13,719 --> 00:50:13,839
Speaker 3: Right.

1091
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 1: Then they come back like, Jimmy, where's the nice young

1092
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:18,319
Speaker 1: lady that we met last week?

1093
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:18,879
Speaker 3: Oh? Mom?

1094
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:25,879
Speaker 2: She my mom stopped asking. You know, but you're right,

1095
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:28,240
Speaker 2: huh because it was sending the wrong section.

1096
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 1: Yes, serious, you're really serious. When you meet someone's parents,

1097
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:36,839
Speaker 1: you're serious. They're serious about you, and you're serious about them.

1098
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:39,439
Speaker 2: Man, I'm giving people like false hope.

1099
00:50:39,880 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, Jimmy, yeah, yeah, you are right.

1100
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:44,239
Speaker 2: You're right because sometimes I want my dad on my

1101
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:46,759
Speaker 2: mom's opinion, and sometimes you don't know, like you've been

1102
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:49,120
Speaker 2: hanging out with this girl, you want her to meet

1103
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:51,919
Speaker 2: your friends, first, yes, what if your friends are like, yo,

1104
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:55,080
Speaker 2: you're blinded by this she sucks? Yeah, And then sometimes

1105
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:56,319
Speaker 2: I want my mom to tell me that too.

1106
00:50:57,080 --> 00:50:58,759
Speaker 1: What if you with your friends like, hey, Jimmy live

1107
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:01,239
Speaker 1: chicken man went out with her last week.

1108
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:05,759
Speaker 2: That hasn't happened, or maybe they haven't told me that,

1109
00:51:06,280 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 2: but it has happened. When they're like like, I was

1110
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:10,799
Speaker 2: super super into this girl, and then like, you know,

1111
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:13,000
Speaker 2: and then my friends like met her. I was like

1112
00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:15,879
Speaker 2: you sure about this one? Like I ain't none wrong,

1113
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 2: like I ain't none wrong with you, But I want

1114
00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:20,359
Speaker 2: my friends to tell me that right. Sometimes I'm mad,

1115
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:23,520
Speaker 2: I'm saying a bad relationship or something. I'm like and

1116
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 2: after a breakup, I'm like, why didn't you tell me

1117
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:28,520
Speaker 2: this earlier? Like I tried friends, you know that's true.

1118
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 1: Let me ask you this, because you are your family

1119
00:51:32,160 --> 00:51:36,920
Speaker 1: means so much to you. If your family didn't approve

1120
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:40,759
Speaker 1: of someone but you were madly in love with them,

1121
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:41,359
Speaker 1: what do you do.

1122
00:51:43,239 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 2: I would like to think my parents are so desperate

1123
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 2: for a grandkid. Anybody is okay at this point, you know,

1124
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:56,680
Speaker 2: they just want Like my mom, she's an old school

1125
00:51:56,719 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 2: seven year old Chinese woman. Yeah, She was like, you know,

1126
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:00,600
Speaker 2: you don't have to get married, just have some babies.

1127
00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:03,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, that is crazy, that's not that's not the

1128
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 1: Asian what.

1129
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:08,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, nah, no, no, but yeah, man, I think you

1130
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 2: just want grand kids.

1131
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 1: But you but you but you're you're you're you're planning

1132
00:52:12,000 --> 00:52:14,120
Speaker 1: your your you know path.

1133
00:52:14,760 --> 00:52:16,520
Speaker 3: I want to get married and I want to have kids.

1134
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm giving myself two years.

1135
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:19,760
Speaker 3: Two years.

1136
00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 2: I think he got assessed some kind of a time

1137
00:52:21,920 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 2: you do otherwise you know, you're get in trouble.

1138
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:30,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, what about what could you date? Is it is? It?

1139
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:33,560
Speaker 1: Is it common that in the Asian community that the

1140
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:36,360
Speaker 1: woman makes more than the man.

1141
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 2: I don't think it's common, but it could happen.

1142
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 3: I don't want you get your wife made more than

1143
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:43,960
Speaker 3: Let me retire.

1144
00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 2: Man, why work this hard? I'm okay gardening in my house,

1145
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:51,040
Speaker 2: raising some kids. It's fine. I work too hard.

1146
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:55,320
Speaker 3: Are you a private Do you date in private or

1147
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:56,200
Speaker 3: do you date in public?

1148
00:52:59,320 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 2: I think I d in private. I just don't think

1149
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,880
Speaker 2: people care about me enough to put me on blasting.

1150
00:53:04,239 --> 00:53:07,200
Speaker 2: I would say, I would say whenever I was in

1151
00:53:07,920 --> 00:53:12,239
Speaker 2: uh Hong Kong, if I go like, it's it's like

1152
00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 2: my team is like, don't don't go, like, don't be

1153
00:53:14,520 --> 00:53:16,960
Speaker 2: seen with like a lot of girls, right because now

1154
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:19,399
Speaker 2: in Hong Kong, I'm like Taylor Swift and Hong Kong

1155
00:53:19,680 --> 00:53:22,400
Speaker 2: and like there's paparazzis, right, you know, and like I

1156
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 2: will get snapped with a picture with even like a

1157
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:26,239
Speaker 2: friend of mine or something, and people are like, oh,

1158
00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 2: who's that?

1159
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah.

1160
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:30,160
Speaker 2: So but here in America, I don't think people are

1161
00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 2: as nosey about me.

1162
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 3: So I think I'm okay, So where are you on?

1163
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: Like okay, you with this person and y'all got all

1164
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:39,759
Speaker 1: these posts up on and you guys break up and

1165
00:53:39,760 --> 00:53:42,120
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, you don't say anything, but

1166
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, she's deleting posts and you're deleting posts,

1167
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 1: and then everybody's like, well what happened? Not everybody knows

1168
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:48,440
Speaker 1: your situation?

1169
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:52,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, you leave it up? Or do you like, no,

1170
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:53,800
Speaker 2: I delete my stuff?

1171
00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:56,160
Speaker 3: You do? Yeah? Why you put it up?

1172
00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:57,759
Speaker 2: Why did I put it up in the first one?

1173
00:53:57,840 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1174
00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:00,879
Speaker 2: Well, because I mean you it was gonna work out

1175
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:04,839
Speaker 2: maybe you know, or or sometimes it's like, uh, it's

1176
00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:07,319
Speaker 2: like a it's like a comfort thing, Yeah, comforts them

1177
00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:09,759
Speaker 2: to assures your partner.

1178
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:11,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, that you're not that you're not trying to hide her.

1179
00:54:12,080 --> 00:54:16,800
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly. Uh but yeah, I ever since my last

1180
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:20,480
Speaker 2: long term relationship, I've been more careful about that because

1181
00:54:20,520 --> 00:54:23,239
Speaker 2: even now sometimes like people like I talk to girls,

1182
00:54:23,239 --> 00:54:25,240
Speaker 2: They're like, I thought you were married. Are you're still married?

1183
00:54:25,480 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, I was never married. Yeah, I just never, like,

1184
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 2: you know, announced the breakup like whatever. I just deleted pictures.

1185
00:54:34,160 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 2: I thought people will get the hint. And then I'm like,

1186
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 2: maybe this this messed up my game. Man, Maybe I shouldn't.

1187
00:54:39,520 --> 00:54:42,200
Speaker 2: I shouldn't I should have had an announcement, you know.

1188
00:54:42,360 --> 00:54:44,279
Speaker 2: But then in my new stand also my last dand

1189
00:54:44,320 --> 00:54:46,480
Speaker 2: of specially I talked about the relationship in this new

1190
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:48,920
Speaker 2: standup special, I do say like, and that's how it

1191
00:54:48,920 --> 00:54:51,400
Speaker 2: became single, Like there's a thing about that. So I

1192
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:52,719
Speaker 2: think people will get it out.

1193
00:54:52,880 --> 00:54:54,680
Speaker 3: Do you party as friends or enemies?

1194
00:54:56,200 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 2: Uh? It depends. I wouldn't say anim. I would like

1195
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 2: to not think. I would like to part on good terms.

1196
00:55:04,320 --> 00:55:06,799
Speaker 1: Jimmy, don't ever call me again. You gross me out,

1197
00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 1: you make me sick. I hate you.

1198
00:55:08,680 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 2: Uh that's maybe happened once and and it sucks. I don't.

1199
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 2: I don't want that because a relationship, I find it

1200
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:19,720
Speaker 2: very weird. With friendship, you might fall out slowly, yes,

1201
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 2: but you still talk to each other and rarely do

1202
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:24,440
Speaker 2: you fall out in a friendship. Correct, family you talk

1203
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:26,799
Speaker 2: to forever, right, But in a relationship, you can be

1204
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:30,319
Speaker 2: talking to someone every single day for years and then

1205
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:34,600
Speaker 2: one day you guys become strangers. That's very heartbreaking to me,

1206
00:55:34,680 --> 00:55:36,440
Speaker 2: even just on a human level. I'm like, why don't

1207
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:38,600
Speaker 2: we at least state some kind of friends.

1208
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:40,120
Speaker 3: Because I think the thing is it is easy to

1209
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:41,360
Speaker 3: grow apart and grow together.

1210
00:55:42,400 --> 00:55:45,480
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, it's just so sudden, because this is literally

1211
00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:48,120
Speaker 2: you sleep with this person, you hang out this person

1212
00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 2: for years, this is your closest person, and then boom,

1213
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:54,520
Speaker 2: it's kind Yeah, that's that's tough.

1214
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 3: But you got to work to stay together, hear me.

1215
00:55:57,320 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: It's so easy now to just say effort because guess what.

1216
00:56:01,560 --> 00:56:03,800
Speaker 2: You got options that that's the thing.

1217
00:56:05,280 --> 00:56:07,879
Speaker 1: Back when they didn't have the option that they have now,

1218
00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:10,960
Speaker 1: and they're they're they're a part of the brain that's like,

1219
00:56:12,680 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 1: there's something better, that's the she looks better, she has

1220
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:18,360
Speaker 1: a better body, she has a better job. X Y

1221
00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:22,160
Speaker 1: and Z and then oh she said one thing that

1222
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:24,160
Speaker 1: you didn't like, and then all of a sudden is

1223
00:56:24,239 --> 00:56:24,960
Speaker 1: beyond repair.

1224
00:56:25,280 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 3: I know.

1225
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 2: That's the part that I think all men, you got

1226
00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:31,359
Speaker 2: to be better about because there's always always something better.

1227
00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:33,520
Speaker 2: And after you have a relationship for a year or two,

1228
00:56:33,960 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 2: of course, like the sex is not as exciting. You know,

1229
00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:43,400
Speaker 2: you're looking what but you know, like you start looking elsewhere,

1230
00:56:43,440 --> 00:56:46,120
Speaker 2: but then it becomes a cycle and you're never gonna

1231
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 2: You're never gonna be satisfied. So I don't know. Right now,

1232
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 2: I think I'm I'm gonna.

1233
00:56:50,800 --> 00:56:51,400
Speaker 3: In a good place.

1234
00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:53,960
Speaker 2: I'm in a good place, I think, you know. Uh,

1235
00:56:55,400 --> 00:56:58,520
Speaker 2: And I want to I want to take things slow,

1236
00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 2: maybe like the more the Asian way. Yeah, we're talking

1237
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 2: about yes, and that sets you up to get hurt,

1238
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:06,800
Speaker 2: you know. Also oh yeah, but at the same.

1239
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:08,640
Speaker 1: Time, you invested a lot of time, yeah, a lot

1240
00:57:08,680 --> 00:57:11,279
Speaker 1: of energy. You do it all because you're taking it

1241
00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:14,440
Speaker 1: step by step. You're doing it very very methodical. This

1242
00:57:14,560 --> 00:57:17,040
Speaker 1: is not a speed dating situation, right, Like, I'm taking

1243
00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 1: my time because I see a future with this and

1244
00:57:19,320 --> 00:57:20,840
Speaker 1: then and then when.

1245
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:24,800
Speaker 2: That doesn't work out, Man, your heart is not right.

1246
00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:28,959
Speaker 1: Dude, especially especially if you're not the one that wants

1247
00:57:28,960 --> 00:57:32,080
Speaker 1: to end it, it doesn't hurt as bad if you're

1248
00:57:32,120 --> 00:57:33,800
Speaker 1: the one that wants to end it.

1249
00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. True.

1250
00:57:35,720 --> 00:57:37,920
Speaker 1: But if somebody wants to end it and you're not

1251
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 1: ready for it to end.

1252
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, man, you know you know I would just I mean,

1253
00:57:43,240 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 2: now we're gaining deep like like I was just talking

1254
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:48,480
Speaker 2: to a therapist about this. I have always been the

1255
00:57:48,520 --> 00:57:52,040
Speaker 2: one breaking up with someone else, and I think there's

1256
00:57:52,080 --> 00:57:54,360
Speaker 2: some kind of avoidance or something yes with that.

1257
00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 3: Uh.

1258
00:57:55,800 --> 00:57:59,280
Speaker 2: And then my only real heartbreak that someone broke my

1259
00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:03,160
Speaker 2: heart is from things that didn't come to fruition, right,

1260
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:07,080
Speaker 2: that didn't happen. So maybe because I go after unavailable

1261
00:58:07,120 --> 00:58:09,600
Speaker 2: people or something right, So I'm trying to address all that,

1262
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 2: right and and uh, you know, find find like a

1263
00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:14,720
Speaker 2: real girl I can settle down with. I'm trying to

1264
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:17,959
Speaker 2: date seriously, but old habits die hard.

1265
00:58:19,200 --> 00:58:23,280
Speaker 3: Give me my rush more comedians Wow, wow for me.

1266
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 2: Yes see, I don't want nobody get offended.

1267
00:58:25,280 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 3: This is just opinion. This is for me, right.

1268
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:31,240
Speaker 2: Who are who influenced me the most? Who made me

1269
00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 2: laugh the most? Chappelle, uh kat yep, Chris Rock And

1270
00:58:38,000 --> 00:58:39,480
Speaker 2: I gotta put George Lopez in there.

1271
00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:42,480
Speaker 3: Okay, how was it when you met Chappelle?

1272
00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:47,680
Speaker 2: Oh? Wow, it was. I mean, I don't I don't

1273
00:58:48,040 --> 00:58:51,600
Speaker 2: think he understands how impactful that meeting was. I was

1274
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:54,000
Speaker 2: at the Netflix as a joke party. It's the greatest

1275
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 2: party a couple of years ago, right, Yeah for the

1276
00:58:56,560 --> 00:58:59,160
Speaker 2: stand up comedians. Because you go to Testarranda's house. Yeah,

1277
00:58:59,680 --> 00:59:01,840
Speaker 2: just as front Lawn can fit like a thousand people. Okay,

1278
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:04,800
Speaker 2: and and and and this is like the who's who

1279
00:59:05,040 --> 00:59:09,160
Speaker 2: of common Chappelle's there, rock, is there anybody you can

1280
00:59:09,200 --> 00:59:15,600
Speaker 2: think of? John Stewart, you know, is there? It's just insane, right.

1281
00:59:16,040 --> 00:59:18,560
Speaker 2: And I saw Chappelle there, but he's sow my hero.

1282
00:59:18,760 --> 00:59:21,560
Speaker 2: I have never talked to him, and I was really nervous,

1283
00:59:21,920 --> 00:59:24,000
Speaker 2: and I was chatting with John Stewart a little bit.

1284
00:59:24,040 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 2: And there the party started dying down. There was maybe

1285
00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:29,640
Speaker 2: four of us left. It was like Ted Sarando's Burg Kreischer,

1286
00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:32,840
Speaker 2: John Stewart and Chappelle. And I was just gonna say

1287
00:59:32,880 --> 00:59:36,680
Speaker 2: my goodbye. Stuart was sitting next to Chappelle. I was like,

1288
00:59:36,720 --> 00:59:39,200
Speaker 2: this is my chance. I'm gonna say bye to John

1289
00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 2: and then maybe I'll say hi. And by the Chappelle

1290
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:45,640
Speaker 2: you know, manage back expectations. And then I was like, hey, John,

1291
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:47,640
Speaker 2: great talking to you, man, I gotta go. And then

1292
00:59:47,880 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 2: Chappelle's there and I was like, okay, hey Dave, I

1293
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:54,000
Speaker 2: just want to say you're such like an inspiration, my hero,

1294
00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:56,000
Speaker 2: like you know, I didn't get all the words out,

1295
00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:57,960
Speaker 2: and he was like, yeah, I know who you are. Man. Yeah,

1296
00:59:58,000 --> 01:00:00,280
Speaker 2: I watched some of your stuff. You're doing great. And

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01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 2: then it just like malfunction. Yeah, and then I try

1298
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:07,560
Speaker 2: to act cool and like we were actually just like

1299
01:00:07,680 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 2: joking for like ten fifteen minutes. Wow. Yeah, it was

1300
01:00:11,160 --> 01:00:14,040
Speaker 2: so cool. And then I got my car and I

1301
01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:17,240
Speaker 2: drove and I started crying. I was like, I can't

1302
01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 2: believe Chappelle knows who I am. I couldn't believe it.

1303
01:00:20,480 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 2: This is my hero growing up.

1304
01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:25,320
Speaker 1: You did a you recently went back home to Hong Kong.

1305
01:00:25,360 --> 01:00:28,160
Speaker 1: We talked about this early and you called the special

1306
01:00:28,320 --> 01:00:29,160
Speaker 1: is Finally Home?

1307
01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was something I set off the cuff. In

1308
01:00:36,080 --> 01:00:38,360
Speaker 2: the special, I was like, I felt like I'm finally home.

1309
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 2: And I got quite emotional in that part, and it

1310
01:00:41,760 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 2: was a very this is very important special for me

1311
01:00:46,880 --> 01:00:48,440
Speaker 2: because it's shocked by the people in Hong Kong. I

1312
01:00:48,440 --> 01:00:50,800
Speaker 2: performed it in Hong Kong and it's ninety percent in

1313
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:52,800
Speaker 2: English with some Canthony's mixed. And at first I was

1314
01:00:52,840 --> 01:00:54,640
Speaker 2: going to make a long version of the Yeah ninety

1315
01:00:54,640 --> 01:00:57,320
Speaker 2: minutes with thirty minutes Canthony's whatever, and then a short

1316
01:00:57,400 --> 01:00:59,000
Speaker 2: version of the American audience. But then I'm like, no,

1317
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:02,320
Speaker 2: it's actually important to make just one version and let

1318
01:01:02,320 --> 01:01:05,480
Speaker 2: people can learn about, you know, Cantoneseng Kong, just like

1319
01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 2: I learned about Spanish culture from George Lopez.

1320
01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:08,360
Speaker 3: Correct.

1321
01:01:09,600 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 2: And I just want to make it a very special

1322
01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:15,760
Speaker 2: special because so many specials on special anymore, it's just

1323
01:01:16,120 --> 01:01:18,640
Speaker 2: a dude built another hour and he's talking about the

1324
01:01:18,640 --> 01:01:21,320
Speaker 2: same shit. And I wanted this to be so different.

1325
01:01:21,400 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 2: This is kind of like a rock and roll film,

1326
01:01:23,160 --> 01:01:25,720
Speaker 2: you know, and there's so many elements and it's just

1327
01:01:25,880 --> 01:01:28,320
Speaker 2: really meaningful for me, hopefully for the people of Hong

1328
01:01:28,400 --> 01:01:32,040
Speaker 2: Kong and just globally. And at the end of the day,

1329
01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:34,680
Speaker 2: it's not just for Asian people, not just for people

1330
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:38,160
Speaker 2: in Hong Kong, because the themes are very universal. It's

1331
01:01:38,200 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 2: about going home, it's about you know, family, and it's

1332
01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:46,080
Speaker 2: about meeting and heroes things like that, So I just

1333
01:01:46,120 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 2: wanted to like, of course it's still funny, but I

1334
01:01:48,880 --> 01:01:51,640
Speaker 2: wanted to have a little more storytelling and a little

1335
01:01:53,680 --> 01:01:57,000
Speaker 2: solid emotional core. So I want people to see in

1336
01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:57,600
Speaker 2: the theaters.

1337
01:01:57,760 --> 01:01:59,880
Speaker 1: I read the tickets where a hundred times hardly get

1338
01:01:59,880 --> 01:02:02,040
Speaker 1: your tickets than it was Lady got Gods in Hong

1339
01:02:02,160 --> 01:02:05,040
Speaker 1: Kong and Scalpers was marking them up one hundred and

1340
01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:05,800
Speaker 1: forty percent.

1341
01:02:06,080 --> 01:02:11,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's true. I really didn't expect that reaction,

1342
01:02:12,120 --> 01:02:14,200
Speaker 2: and I was super happy. But at the same time,

1343
01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 2: it's a new level of stress I've never experienced because

1344
01:02:17,920 --> 01:02:19,720
Speaker 2: I want all my fans to be happy, right, and

1345
01:02:19,760 --> 01:02:21,880
Speaker 2: then when they can't get tickets or they're buying ten

1346
01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:25,240
Speaker 2: times more expensive tickets, then I don't know what to do.

1347
01:02:25,280 --> 01:02:27,439
Speaker 2: I get sad, you know. I want to serve them,

1348
01:02:27,880 --> 01:02:29,880
Speaker 2: and I even did this thing where it's like I'm

1349
01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:32,120
Speaker 2: adding a fifth show, but you guys can sign up

1350
01:02:32,120 --> 01:02:33,760
Speaker 2: my email list and then get a link, so make

1351
01:02:33,800 --> 01:02:36,040
Speaker 2: sure scalpers don't get it right, you know, And then

1352
01:02:36,080 --> 01:02:38,440
Speaker 2: we're trying to fight all the bots with the scalpers. Yeah,

1353
01:02:38,480 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 2: but it's it's a tough situation and it's it's a

1354
01:02:40,960 --> 01:02:43,800
Speaker 2: good problem. But at the end of the day, I

1355
01:02:43,880 --> 01:02:46,240
Speaker 2: never expected my comedy to be that big, you know,

1356
01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:50,320
Speaker 2: And and I want to give them a big show,

1357
01:02:50,400 --> 01:02:53,720
Speaker 2: but that comes with a certain amount of stress, for sure.

1358
01:02:54,200 --> 01:02:58,120
Speaker 2: And sometimes you know, Now, I do arenas in some markets,

1359
01:02:58,120 --> 01:03:02,479
Speaker 2: like ten thousand people of thousand people, but I do

1360
01:03:02,600 --> 01:03:05,560
Speaker 2: find stand up to be the most fun. The sweet

1361
01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:07,240
Speaker 2: spot is about a two thousand people.

1362
01:03:07,440 --> 01:03:09,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I was about to say that because I

1363
01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:13,440
Speaker 1: hear people say, Look, the arenas is fine. Stadiums are

1364
01:03:13,440 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 1: great because you have a low fan base. But but

1365
01:03:17,880 --> 01:03:21,280
Speaker 1: when you do arenas, then you do stadiums, the intimacy

1366
01:03:21,800 --> 01:03:22,520
Speaker 1: isn't there.

1367
01:03:22,840 --> 01:03:26,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you can still find it. It's a performance now, Yeah,

1368
01:03:26,720 --> 01:03:28,960
Speaker 2: it becomes a different thing. And that's why I got fireworks,

1369
01:03:28,960 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 2: That's why I pop up. I want to give them

1370
01:03:30,520 --> 01:03:34,919
Speaker 2: something special. Somebody drove to an arena to watch me, right,

1371
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:38,680
Speaker 2: But it's a more bigger scale thing. And of course

1372
01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:43,800
Speaker 2: there's still stand up comedy, but it's not as as

1373
01:03:44,000 --> 01:03:48,240
Speaker 2: as fun as intimate as a smaller theater venue.

1374
01:03:48,320 --> 01:03:51,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, after comedy specially, you said you're gonna done air

1375
01:03:51,320 --> 01:03:52,960
Speaker 1: in theater, You're gonna put it on YouTube.

1376
01:03:53,120 --> 01:03:57,280
Speaker 2: Why, I don't know yet. We'll see it's gonna come

1377
01:03:57,320 --> 01:03:59,120
Speaker 2: on theaters and then we'll see what I do with

1378
01:03:59,200 --> 01:04:01,760
Speaker 2: it after. The cool thing about this is I own

1379
01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:04,160
Speaker 2: one hundred percent of it. Yes, yeah, I shot it,

1380
01:04:04,320 --> 01:04:07,200
Speaker 2: you know, I edited it. I paid my producers, my editors,

1381
01:04:07,240 --> 01:04:10,600
Speaker 2: the licensed the music myself, and I think that's important.

1382
01:04:10,720 --> 01:04:13,400
Speaker 2: That's what's going to be really important, especially in the

1383
01:04:13,520 --> 01:04:18,480
Speaker 2: upcoming years with how technology is coming through entertainment. So

1384
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:21,080
Speaker 2: we'll see what I do with it. Well, how the

1385
01:04:21,120 --> 01:04:23,480
Speaker 2: reception is in the theater. So far, so good. It's

1386
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:26,640
Speaker 2: coming out March twentieth in Hong Kong, March twenty seventh

1387
01:04:26,680 --> 01:04:29,640
Speaker 2: in US and Canada, and we have the same distributor

1388
01:04:29,760 --> 01:04:31,280
Speaker 2: as Taylor Swift's movie.

1389
01:04:31,320 --> 01:04:31,880
Speaker 3: Wow. Yeah.

1390
01:04:31,920 --> 01:04:34,560
Speaker 2: So it's pretty cool man. I just I never thought

1391
01:04:34,560 --> 01:04:37,560
Speaker 2: and I'm the first Asian comedian to have a movie

1392
01:04:37,560 --> 01:04:38,200
Speaker 2: in the theaters.

1393
01:04:38,520 --> 01:04:39,680
Speaker 3: Wow yeah.

1394
01:04:39,720 --> 01:04:42,280
Speaker 1: Did you think about releasing them on Amazon or YouTube?

1395
01:04:42,320 --> 01:04:44,160
Speaker 1: Or it was always okay, we're going to release this

1396
01:04:44,200 --> 01:04:44,800
Speaker 1: in theaters.

1397
01:04:44,880 --> 01:04:48,160
Speaker 2: So my first two special I did with Amazon great partners,

1398
01:04:48,400 --> 01:04:51,720
Speaker 2: and then this one. Actually, as I was editing the special,

1399
01:04:52,600 --> 01:04:57,720
Speaker 2: we got a deal from Netflix. But I think they

1400
01:04:57,840 --> 01:05:00,640
Speaker 2: want me to like shoot another one in a different

1401
01:05:00,680 --> 01:05:04,400
Speaker 2: city in that Netflix spec right, and I love Netflix.

1402
01:05:04,920 --> 01:05:06,920
Speaker 2: But then I'm like, this is too special and too

1403
01:05:06,920 --> 01:05:09,400
Speaker 2: close to my heart. I'll need to see this. There's

1404
01:05:09,400 --> 01:05:11,840
Speaker 2: just so many elements in this special I cannot recreate

1405
01:05:12,040 --> 01:05:14,440
Speaker 2: anywhere else. I don't care if it's Radio City, I

1406
01:05:14,520 --> 01:05:15,480
Speaker 2: just cannot recreate.

1407
01:05:15,560 --> 01:05:15,880
Speaker 3: Correct.

1408
01:05:15,960 --> 01:05:21,840
Speaker 2: There's something emotional about this, you know. So I think

1409
01:05:21,880 --> 01:05:25,479
Speaker 2: my next one, I'll deal with Netflix, will revisit that deal.

1410
01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 2: And he's got to be right, you know, ted Ted,

1411
01:05:29,080 --> 01:05:30,000
Speaker 2: the money's gonna be now.

1412
01:05:30,600 --> 01:05:30,800
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1413
01:05:30,840 --> 01:05:32,880
Speaker 2: So I think the next one, you know, hopefully I'll

1414
01:05:32,920 --> 01:05:36,240
Speaker 2: deal with Netflix, and this one, I just want to

1415
01:05:36,240 --> 01:05:36,880
Speaker 2: do something different.

1416
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:39,560
Speaker 3: Representation.

1417
01:05:40,240 --> 01:05:47,000
Speaker 1: It's you spoke to this earlier, is that you don't

1418
01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:52,320
Speaker 1: feel in some situation there's enough representation in the film industry.

1419
01:05:53,720 --> 01:05:57,720
Speaker 1: How do we go about and to have representation?

1420
01:05:58,320 --> 01:06:01,400
Speaker 2: M M. I think talking of it is important, But

1421
01:06:01,440 --> 01:06:03,840
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, it can't be forced, right.

1422
01:06:03,920 --> 01:06:05,520
Speaker 2: I think it has to come from talent, and it

1423
01:06:05,520 --> 01:06:09,400
Speaker 2: has to come from enough Asian kids thinking this is possible, right,

1424
01:06:09,680 --> 01:06:12,840
Speaker 2: And that's by me or anyone showing them that it

1425
01:06:12,880 --> 01:06:17,400
Speaker 2: is possible doing crazy rich Asians. That movie being actually successful.

1426
01:06:17,760 --> 01:06:19,760
Speaker 2: The product has to be good. Yes, you have to

1427
01:06:19,800 --> 01:06:23,600
Speaker 2: make money. Yes, you know, whatever show you write, whatever

1428
01:06:23,640 --> 01:06:25,400
Speaker 2: stand up special, it has to be good.

1429
01:06:25,560 --> 01:06:25,760
Speaker 3: Right.

1430
01:06:25,920 --> 01:06:30,480
Speaker 2: People ain't gonna fight for representation for representation's sake. People's

1431
01:06:30,480 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 2: going to fight for representation when there's box office numbers,

1432
01:06:33,560 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 2: when the Netflix show is getting viewership, when K pop

1433
01:06:36,120 --> 01:06:41,160
Speaker 2: demon Hunters winning everything, that's when representation matters. But it really,

1434
01:06:41,160 --> 01:06:43,520
Speaker 2: it's just like any thing in the arts, it has

1435
01:06:43,600 --> 01:06:44,200
Speaker 2: to be good, right.

1436
01:06:44,440 --> 01:06:44,800
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1437
01:06:44,840 --> 01:06:48,040
Speaker 1: Are there any Asian stereotypes that just irks you? Is like,

1438
01:06:48,680 --> 01:06:51,880
Speaker 1: We're nothing like that. That is so outlanded. I'm just

1439
01:06:51,920 --> 01:06:52,880
Speaker 1: so over you guys.

1440
01:06:53,120 --> 01:06:58,439
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, the small dick one I hate, first of all,

1441
01:06:58,640 --> 01:07:02,960
Speaker 2: not true. I did this joke in my first special,

1442
01:07:03,320 --> 01:07:06,880
Speaker 2: like I find it insulting, Like, uh, say I hook

1443
01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:08,720
Speaker 2: up with a girl. He was like, oh my god,

1444
01:07:09,080 --> 01:07:11,680
Speaker 2: the stereotype is not true. You don't have a small penis.

1445
01:07:11,880 --> 01:07:14,120
Speaker 2: And then I was like, thank you, but you just

1446
01:07:14,160 --> 01:07:17,480
Speaker 2: insulted my entire race of people. Yeah, but thank you. Yeah,

1447
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:19,360
Speaker 2: and also like like what do you want? You want

1448
01:07:19,360 --> 01:07:21,280
Speaker 2: a fortune cookie or something? You know what I mean,

1449
01:07:21,320 --> 01:07:24,040
Speaker 2: like kind of you know, but not true.

1450
01:07:24,440 --> 01:07:29,320
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, Rush Hour what are your thoughts in Rush

1451
01:07:29,360 --> 01:07:33,120
Speaker 1: our movie coming out with the content exclaimer? Do you

1452
01:07:33,160 --> 01:07:34,920
Speaker 1: have a content disclaimer on your comedy?

1453
01:07:35,080 --> 01:07:37,520
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't think so. Yeah, maybe I should

1454
01:07:37,520 --> 01:07:42,440
Speaker 2: think about one content Oh yeah, I saw it on TV,

1455
01:07:42,560 --> 01:07:44,600
Speaker 2: on like a TV thing, and then they're like, this

1456
01:07:44,680 --> 01:07:49,840
Speaker 2: is now old stereotypes? Yeah yeah, yes, yeah, I mean

1457
01:07:49,880 --> 01:07:51,480
Speaker 2: it's neither here. I thought it was funny.

1458
01:07:51,600 --> 01:07:54,920
Speaker 1: But like when you watch a movie and and then

1459
01:07:55,040 --> 01:07:57,240
Speaker 1: I think people are trying to get away from that now,

1460
01:07:57,360 --> 01:08:01,360
Speaker 1: I mean movie studio and direct and producers and direct

1461
01:08:01,400 --> 01:08:03,760
Speaker 1: all those are trying to get away from that. But

1462
01:08:03,840 --> 01:08:05,480
Speaker 1: when you go back and you look at it, and

1463
01:08:05,520 --> 01:08:07,440
Speaker 1: there used to be a lot like in seventies and

1464
01:08:07,440 --> 01:08:10,120
Speaker 1: eighty movie not there are a lot of stereosc Yeah, yeah,

1465
01:08:10,200 --> 01:08:14,640
Speaker 1: yeah when you look at old movies, like, I think

1466
01:08:14,680 --> 01:08:18,160
Speaker 1: this movie would have still been just as funny had

1467
01:08:18,200 --> 01:08:21,360
Speaker 1: we not had the stereotypes. Or do you think sometimes

1468
01:08:21,439 --> 01:08:24,160
Speaker 1: like because I go back and look at old sitcoms

1469
01:08:24,400 --> 01:08:26,920
Speaker 1: like Archie Bonker and the things they would say, ain't

1470
01:08:26,920 --> 01:08:29,240
Speaker 1: no way in hell you could say that now, right.

1471
01:08:29,240 --> 01:08:33,160
Speaker 2: Right right, But I think comedy evolves, yes, and comedy

1472
01:08:33,640 --> 01:08:36,439
Speaker 2: lives in that time and you got to watch that for.

1473
01:08:36,360 --> 01:08:38,160
Speaker 3: What it is, right, Okay, Rush Hour.

1474
01:08:38,400 --> 01:08:40,559
Speaker 2: If those jokes came out today, it just might not

1475
01:08:40,720 --> 01:08:43,479
Speaker 2: resonate with people, but at that time it resonated. Yes,

1476
01:08:43,520 --> 01:08:46,040
Speaker 2: when I was watching Comic View. Those jokes might not

1477
01:08:46,160 --> 01:08:51,120
Speaker 2: work now, you know, but it evolves and whatever new jokes,

1478
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:55,680
Speaker 2: new funny stuff is built upon those jokes. So I

1479
01:08:55,680 --> 01:08:57,960
Speaker 2: don't think we should like delete it, forget it. You know.

1480
01:08:58,080 --> 01:08:59,960
Speaker 2: I think there's a place and time for everything.

1481
01:09:01,840 --> 01:09:07,680
Speaker 1: Where are you on when non Asians play Asians in

1482
01:09:07,720 --> 01:09:08,280
Speaker 1: your culture?

1483
01:09:09,400 --> 01:09:12,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, that kind of sucks, right because we already don't

1484
01:09:12,280 --> 01:09:14,600
Speaker 2: have a lot of roles, and then you know, you.

1485
01:09:14,600 --> 01:09:15,599
Speaker 3: Couldn't find one Asian?

1486
01:09:15,680 --> 01:09:18,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, come on, man, they play, you could play.

1487
01:09:18,320 --> 01:09:21,400
Speaker 1: You could find to find one famous and you can

1488
01:09:21,479 --> 01:09:22,479
Speaker 1: find one asient.

1489
01:09:22,640 --> 01:09:25,559
Speaker 2: Like back in the day, they had a Swedish dude

1490
01:09:25,560 --> 01:09:28,559
Speaker 2: like tape up his eyes, you know, like shit like that,

1491
01:09:28,640 --> 01:09:30,519
Speaker 2: like Charlie Chan. I think he was like he was

1492
01:09:30,520 --> 01:09:33,120
Speaker 2: a white dude, just taped up his eyes, you know.

1493
01:09:33,320 --> 01:09:36,360
Speaker 2: So I think at least I think studios are aware

1494
01:09:36,360 --> 01:09:38,640
Speaker 2: of that, right, they don't do that, hopefully.

1495
01:09:39,240 --> 01:09:44,280
Speaker 1: The last couple of questions, have you asked your parents Mom, Dad,

1496
01:09:45,080 --> 01:09:47,320
Speaker 1: why do you think you guys have been married so long?

1497
01:09:51,640 --> 01:09:55,800
Speaker 2: Yeah? I don't think I've asked him, but I've observed it.

1498
01:09:56,960 --> 01:09:59,240
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't like, like I said, it's not

1499
01:09:59,320 --> 01:10:02,320
Speaker 2: like kiss each other every day. They argue all the time.

1500
01:10:03,880 --> 01:10:06,679
Speaker 2: That might be the key, Yeah, but it works because

1501
01:10:07,439 --> 01:10:10,240
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter how bad the argument is. They're not

1502
01:10:10,320 --> 01:10:14,519
Speaker 2: leaving each other. No, just that in itself is super important. Yes,

1503
01:10:14,760 --> 01:10:17,479
Speaker 2: just knowing there's safety in this relationship. It doesn't matter

1504
01:10:17,520 --> 01:10:21,559
Speaker 2: how bad this fight gets. Where each other's person. We

1505
01:10:21,640 --> 01:10:25,040
Speaker 2: built the family together and maybe it's not overt love.

1506
01:10:25,720 --> 01:10:28,000
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's love in there, but it's a care

1507
01:10:28,160 --> 01:10:31,559
Speaker 2: and this is my family that I built with this person. Yes,

1508
01:10:32,680 --> 01:10:34,840
Speaker 2: and that's important and options. You know, I'm sure my

1509
01:10:34,920 --> 01:10:36,880
Speaker 2: dad's not on Instagram dming chicks.

1510
01:10:37,720 --> 01:10:38,320
Speaker 3: Maybe he is.

1511
01:10:40,720 --> 01:10:42,680
Speaker 1: If you were to ask your dad, dad, what do

1512
01:10:42,680 --> 01:10:44,799
Speaker 1: you love most about mom? Hmmm?

1513
01:10:45,160 --> 01:10:46,439
Speaker 2: Wow, maybe I should ask him?

1514
01:10:46,479 --> 01:10:47,280
Speaker 3: What do you think you'd say?

1515
01:10:50,920 --> 01:10:54,800
Speaker 2: Man? I don't know. I think.

1516
01:10:56,080 --> 01:10:58,680
Speaker 3: Your probably Mommy and Day had probably been married forty years.

1517
01:10:58,600 --> 01:11:02,599
Speaker 2: Yeah, something like that. Yeah, probably. I mean my dad

1518
01:11:02,600 --> 01:11:06,160
Speaker 2: definitely scored like my mom was and still is, like

1519
01:11:06,400 --> 01:11:07,840
Speaker 2: very pretty, she looks very young.

1520
01:11:08,040 --> 01:11:09,000
Speaker 3: He punted his coverage.

1521
01:11:09,080 --> 01:11:14,479
Speaker 2: Huh yeah, he ya kicked this coverage for sure. But

1522
01:11:14,600 --> 01:11:18,080
Speaker 2: I think you know, my dad's My dad's a funny guy,

1523
01:11:18,120 --> 01:11:20,519
Speaker 2: but he could also be difficult the time, right, And

1524
01:11:20,920 --> 01:11:23,000
Speaker 2: women like money. Yeah, my mom puts up with it,

1525
01:11:23,120 --> 01:11:26,040
Speaker 2: you know. And and at this point I do see

1526
01:11:26,200 --> 01:11:29,759
Speaker 2: more a little overt show of affection in their acts,

1527
01:11:30,240 --> 01:11:32,320
Speaker 2: like they really try to take care of each other,

1528
01:11:32,720 --> 01:11:35,559
Speaker 2: which I think is really nice. And I do think

1529
01:11:36,080 --> 01:11:38,120
Speaker 2: when one of them traveling the other one doesn't, they

1530
01:11:38,520 --> 01:11:41,840
Speaker 2: miss each other. So it's it's cute to see and

1531
01:11:41,880 --> 01:11:43,080
Speaker 2: they're quite happy together.

1532
01:11:44,040 --> 01:11:46,840
Speaker 1: Man, Jimmy, thanks for coming on club. If anything you

1533
01:11:46,880 --> 01:11:48,640
Speaker 1: want to promote, you've got anything going on? Telling them

1534
01:11:48,640 --> 01:11:49,720
Speaker 1: about the specialis.

1535
01:11:49,360 --> 01:11:51,760
Speaker 2: Coming, yeah do. Comedy special is going to be a

1536
01:11:51,800 --> 01:11:54,960
Speaker 2: movie theaters only. It's called Finally Home in Hong Kong

1537
01:11:55,000 --> 01:11:57,839
Speaker 2: March twentieth and in America March twenty seventh.

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01:11:58,240 --> 01:12:01,479
Speaker 3: Make sure you go check it out. Jimmy Yang, I'm

1539
01:12:01,479 --> 01:12:02,920
Speaker 3: gonna tell you about thank you so much.

1540
01:12:04,000 --> 01:12:08,200
Speaker 5: All my life, grinding all my life, sacrifice, hustle, pay

1541
01:12:08,240 --> 01:12:11,760
Speaker 5: the price, wanta slice, got to brow the dice? Why

1542
01:12:12,040 --> 01:12:14,240
Speaker 5: all my life I've been grinding all my life yeah,

1543
01:12:14,680 --> 01:12:18,639
Speaker 5: all my life and grinning all my life, sacrifice, hustle,

1544
01:12:18,680 --> 01:12:20,679
Speaker 5: pay the price, and want a slice.

1545
01:12:21,000 --> 01:12:22,120
Speaker 3: Got to brow the dice this.

1546
01:12:22,200 --> 01:12:27,080
Speaker 5: Way all my life. I've been grinding all my life.

1547
01:12:25,560 --> 01:12:25,600
Speaker 5: M