WEBVTT - Advice From Your Big Sister with Tinx 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.040 Okay, Well, hello Catherine, Hey Chelsea, you know what, why 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:07.520 don't we start with dates today? Because I know your 0:00:07.680 --> 0:00:10.400 Eugene Oregon show had to be rescheduled for March fourth 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:13.040 and Portland is on March five now, but what else 0:00:13.080 --> 0:00:14.880 do you have going on? Okay? So I have some 0:00:14.920 --> 0:00:19.040 announcements for my stand up. We've rescheduled Vancouver and Calgary 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:23.120 dates to August twelfth and thirteen, so they are no 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:26.319 longer on April three. Now. The Grammys are on April three, 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:27.920 and I have to go to the Grammys this year 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:32.519 because I'm nominated for a Grammy for Best Comedy Album. Okay, 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:36.720 so I had to reschedule my Vancouver and Calgary dates. 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:41.000 That's Canada, and all the other dates existing are staying 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:43.440 the same, so we have that to celebrate as well. 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:48.760 And yeah, what else, Catherine? You look very vivacious today, 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:50.920 I would say, is the word. My hair is doing 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:53.720 like a Kelly Kapowski thing, and I'm not mad about it. 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:57.040 It's just like different. I don't know who Kelly Kapowski is, 0:00:57.080 --> 0:00:58.840 but I like the way that that your hair looks. 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:06.880 It looks like you were freshly something recently, like something positive. Happened. Well, 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:09.920 I mean, I was gonna say several positive things happened 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:11.440 last night, but that's probably not something you can talk 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:14.160 about on the air. I don't see why. I don't 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:19.040 see why not. I mean, what's stopping you? Just sex stuff? Really? 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:21.959 But okay, well, I'm glad for you and I'm glad 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:24.480 for Brad. It seems like the two of you are thriving. 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:29.919 We're just we're truly are with your fiscal your fiscal sexuality. 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:34.000 That's your area of expertise, fiscal sexuality. That's right, that's right. 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:38.479 I'm always reading finance books, or especially books about how 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:42.400 finances make people feel like that to me is very interesting. 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:46.000 I know, I know I don't have a good handle 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:49.600 on that because I don't struggle with finances, and even 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:52.440 when I did, I was so broke for so long 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:54.680 that I just always knew I would have money, Like 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:57.640 I always assumed i'd be successful. I just knew it. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:02:01.120 I had like a dollar credit card debt when I 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:03.320 was a waitress because I would take everyone out all 0:02:03.320 --> 0:02:05.400 the time before I had money, and I just charge 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:07.280 it to credit cards. I was like, I'll get this later. 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:10.160 That was actually something that Colleen said she was like 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:12.000 even when she had no money, she was she would 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:16.040 always treat she was very generous. But my friends, like 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:18.240 three of them filed for bankruptcy when we were in 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.640 her twenties and they just got a clean slate, And 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:24.040 I was like, that is such fucking horseship rude. Yeah, 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:25.880 So I never did that. I was like, I'm paying 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.120 my money back. I'm never gonna steal, Like I mean, 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:31.480 I'll steal, but not from not for the that set up, Like, 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:33.480 you know, you make that kind of debt, you should 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:35.399 incur that kind of debt, you should pay it back. 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:38.359 So I did, Yeah, but I was never like, oh 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:40.440 sud I mean I was like, oh, yeah, thirty thousand 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:43.560 dollars in credit card fees. I mean, Bill's no problem 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:45.600 with this, and he guess what, it wasn't a problem. 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:48.639 So you have to believe. Do you feel like because 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:51.680 you just expected success to happen, that was part of 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:55.079 what helped it like manifest itself in the universe. Yeah. 0:02:55.120 --> 0:02:57.760 I think when you have one singular notion and you're 0:02:57.840 --> 0:03:01.000 only working towards that notion, like there's nothing that can 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:03.360 get in your way. When you're headstrong and you think 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:06.799 like this is your destiny and you believe that, then 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:08.720 that is what is going to happen. What else is 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:10.800 going to happen? You know, you're not putting your efforts 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.680 towards I certainly wasn't, but it wasn't putting my efforts 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:17.120 towards being a good waitress, which was what I was doing. 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:20.440 I wasn't like I was like, I gotta make this work, 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:23.200 and last I was like, oh okay, Like how do 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:27.160 I get the funk out of this job? I've always 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:30.600 been inherently lazy, even if I work a lot, my 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:33.400 my go to Like yesterday, I had a big thing 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:35.440 that was canceled at the last minute, so I had 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:38.920 the whole day off. I went over to the house. Yeah, hello, 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:41.760 I love that. I mean, I wasn't upset, and I 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:43.960 had been dieting for this thing, like I had been 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:47.640 really being the shoot. Yeah, and it got canceled. So 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:51.120 I ended up going to my girlfriend's house and we 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:54.080 smoked a duby at around ten thirty in the morning. 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:56.720 Then we went to launch at Javier's in Century City. 0:03:56.800 --> 0:04:00.400 I had to Margarita's. We came home, I went home, 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.800 got into bed, took it edible and watched oz Arcs 0:04:03.800 --> 0:04:09.200 for probably six hours, and yes I was I was like, 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:10.960 I'm gonna stay up. I'm gonna stay up, and then 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:12.640 I'm like, no, I'm not. As soon as it hit 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:14.640 nine thirty, I was out. And then Joe came home 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:18.520 at ten thirty from his trip and I was out cold, 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:20.960 and I was just like, what a beautiful day. Like 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:24.800 That's how I would like aside from working out, I 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:27.559 really just want to be in bed all day long. Yeah. 0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:30.719 My my one mentor, she's always called it a flow day, 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:32.560 which kind of sounds like a period thing, but it 0:04:32.560 --> 0:04:35.800 does not. She just says, like, have a day where 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:37.440 you just do the next thing you want to do. 0:04:38.000 --> 0:04:39.960 You wanted to get a margarita, and then you wanted 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:41.920 to lay in bed and watch os Ark, and then 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:44.280 you wanted to you know. It's just like, just just 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:46.320 have a day where you don't have any plans. You 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.320 just do the next thing whenever you want to do it. 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:52.039 I said to my dermatologist this morning. I was like, hey, 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:54.040 I was like, I told her what I did yesterday. 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:56.040 I could just feel the judgment coming from r because 0:04:56.040 --> 0:04:58.599 she has four children and she's just like, what you 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:01.640 sat in bed and watched O Talk all day. It's like, yeah, bitch, 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:04.920 that's exactly what I did. Some people could never do that. 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:08.839 People people that will never ever lie in bed all day. No, 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:11.119 or they can't because they have like nine kids running around, 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:13.719 or even like two kids running around. Like, people don't understand. 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:16.520 I'll be like, oh, yeah, like slept until ten. They're like, 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:19.360 what is your life? I'm like, that's kind of that's 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:22.680 not crazy if you don't have kids. Yeah, no, I know. 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:24.880 I That's the only thing that I'm not good at 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:27.400 is I don't sleep in anymore. I wake up early, 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:31.159 Like if I sleep till eight, that's late. Yeah, I'm 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:33.960 I'm getting worse about that. Like last weekend I was 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:37.200 able to sleep late into the morning, but it's been 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:39.839 months since I've slept on the weekend past, like even 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:43.960 like nine. I think. Yeah, I think that's an age thing. 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:47.400 As you get older, you stopped sleeping in. Yeah. Also 0:05:47.440 --> 0:05:49.800 getting just like excited for coffee in the morning. Do 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:54.880 you ever have that? I'm not excited for I'll wake 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:56.279 I'll go to sleep, and I'll be like, but in 0:05:56.320 --> 0:05:59.480 the morning, I could have coffee. I mean, I've been 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:02.800 taking these little Kiani boosters. He's caffeine like from my 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:05.520 one of my nutrition has sent them to me, and 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:08.159 it's like a mine sharpener and it just like wakes 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:10.680 you up and makes you alert. So I have that 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:13.760 in lieu of coffee a lot, and that really works. Well, 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:16.080 that's nice. Yeah, I know, it's like a shot and 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:18.080 you just wake up. Because I'm not that into coffee. 0:06:18.080 --> 0:06:20.000 I just drink it, you know, as like a you know, 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:23.120 if I'm strinking it socially, it's like alcohol for me. 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:28.200 Just if other people are around, you'll have it. Uh No, 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:31.279 it's like what alcohol is for other people. Coffee is 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:34.400 to me. So alcohol I could have alone or with 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:37.640 a friend. But coffee I usually have if someone's there 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:40.000 and they're having coffee. Like Joe loves coffee, so I'll 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:41.840 go with him and get a coffee. It's a problem 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:44.320 if you're drinking it alone. Well, I tried to have 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:47.839 one of his coffees, which is like a triple latte 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:50.800 with oat milk, and I'm like, uh, then I had 0:06:50.800 --> 0:06:53.400 diarrhea for the entire day. I'm like, get away from 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:55.359 me with these trips. I don't need a triple fucking 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:58.240 I needed to you, Joe, by the way, he's bouncing 0:06:58.279 --> 0:07:00.840 off the walls and then and he falls asleep. Yeah, 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:04.240 he has like so boundless energy, it seems so. I'm 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:05.760 sure more now that he's been working out with you 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:09.320 and Ben Bruno. Yeah, his body is really coming together. 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:13.680 His friends probably all think, either're like, oh fun he 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:16.679 started dating Chelsea and she fucking whipped his ass into shape. 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:19.400 You know that. Everyone's like, oh, she's got him skin. 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:27.680 He's in lost twenty pounds. Oh my god. I know. Well, 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.320 let's talk about our guest for today, shall we. Oh? Yeah, 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:34.080 our guests is Funny Okay, so I guess today. She 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:36.360 is kind of known as the big sister of TikTok. 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:38.960 She has a new podcast it's called It's Me Tanks, 0:07:39.000 --> 0:07:43.040 which will launch Monday, February one, and I'm excited to 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:45.280 welcome her to the show because I have been watching 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:49.559 her on TikTok for a long time. So please welcome Tanks. Tanks, 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.800 welcome to the show. Thank you. I'm so excited to 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:54.840 be here. Thank you. I'm excited to talk to you 0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:57.440 because we have so much in common, because you're kind 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:01.640 of like a self annoyed alcohol that I'm sorry, I 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:04.600 am an alcoholic. I just realized that it's CDC put 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:08.480 out a message about however many drinks is average for 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:11.600 a man, like eight to sixteen anything over that. You're 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:13.840 an alcoholic as a man, but for a woman it's 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:16.200 much less. And I'm like, you know what, this is 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:20.120 another sexist because like, fuck you, why are we supposed 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:21.720 to drink less than men? We're the ones who have 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:25.320 to deal with men, which causes us to drink even more. Exactly, 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:29.480 it's it's really the CDC is sexist and unclear. Frankly, 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:31.800 I don't trust them as far as I can throw them. 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:33.880 They can't count for ships, so who are they to 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.680 count my cocktails per week? That's a great point, tanks, 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:38.840 that's a great point. Anyway, I cut you off. What 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:41.000 else do we have in common place? You're like a 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:44.600 self anointed big sister of TikTok? Like I didn't. I 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:48.960 didn't realize that you are basically giving advice to the 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:53.280 masses and giving your opinions and advice to people who 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:57.160 are it's solicited and unsolicited, really, because sometimes it is solicited, 0:08:57.480 --> 0:09:00.040 But I fucking love that and that's how I operate it. 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:03.280 I'm constantly giving out information, whether people are asking for 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:05.679 it or not. Yeah, I just kind of run my mouth. 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:10.160 And I do believe in sharing information and passing on 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:12.600 what I know, because if I can save a girl 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:16.400 three weeks from like agonizing over a fun boy with 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:18.880 just like a little mind trick that I've used, then 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.440 that's a win. Right. I don't know everything, but I 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:23.720 might know a little bit more than than some people. 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:26.600 And I also love asking for advice, So I think 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:29.240 that that it goes both ways. Like I love learning things. 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:31.800 I love, you know, hearing like from my friends how 0:09:31.800 --> 0:09:34.880 did you do that? I love reading memoirs, especially from women, 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:37.560 and just learning like you know, how did you pay? 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:39.559 How did you do it? And then I pass it on. 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.760 So yeah, and sometimes it's unsolicited, but I think that 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:45.000 I'm always right, so people need to hear. Yeah, that's 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:47.880 exactly how I feel like my opinion is valuable. The 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:51.280 more the people I get to, the better for the world, exactly. 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:55.120 I also think it's important to recognize when you are 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:58.960 to share things with women, you know, because I have 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:02.160 so many friends in this industry who are very secretive 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:04.200 about the things and the little tricks that they do 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:07.200 to lose weight or look younger, or what they're doing 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:09.520 in your face or their body. So that's another area 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:12.720 where I feel very passionate about doing the opposite, because 0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:14.720 you should be letting other women in on the secret's, 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:17.520 not keeping them and hoarding them for yourself. I totally agree, 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:21.080 and I think whatever you do is your business and 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:23.880 that's fine, but you can't, like, because I'm now in 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:26.960 the public eye, so to speak, I feel a responsibility 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:29.080 to say what I've had done, so I'm not, you know, 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:31.760 setting unrealistic expectations for girls that are younger than me. 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:34.360 I love botox, and I say that, and I say 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:36.280 I get it all the time, and I use very 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:39.320 expensive skincare. But but I tell you know, I'm like, 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:41.040 this is what I do. I don't just like drink 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:42.960 a lot of water, any poach salmon, like as all 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.360 the celebrities lied in the nineties that that's all they did. 0:10:45.960 --> 0:10:47.839 You put alive oil on your face, jail or you're 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:50.640 you're lying, like, no, you will also poach salmon. You 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:52.400 can only have like for three days in a row 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:55.800 before you never forget want. So that's a lie right there. 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:58.240 So that's a lie. So it's like, yeah, I don't 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:01.800 believe in gate keeping. I I think that my whole 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:04.400 stick is like if there's a room full of women 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:06.720 and someone in there has a problem and someone else 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:08.839 in there has the answer, and it's all about sharing 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:10.720 the information, and if I can help play a small 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.280 part that then that's great. But yeah, I I honestly 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:15.920 won't shut the funk up about not only just advice, 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:17.599 but just like, well, this is what I'm doing this week, er, 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:19.280 this is what I'm trying here, because it's just like, 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:22.320 share the information. That's how we're gonna move. And also, yeah, 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:24.320 share the information good and bad. When you have a 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:28.160 bad experience with something, share that to help women understand 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:31.440 what the options are because I obviously, I mean I 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:34.800 do so much ship with facials, with treatments, with I 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:38.120 v S, with skin, with lasers, all this ship, and 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:41.160 it's like I'm totally willing to share all that stuff. 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:43.880 And you also have to recognize that it's also very 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:47.520 expensive stuff totally not everybody can afford, so you can 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:49.920 feel bad about sharing it, but it's it's just the truth, 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:51.960 so there's nothing to feel bad about. It's like you 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:54.640 just put that out there, like, yes, I understand this treatment. 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:57.440 So this is a little steep for most people. But 0:11:57.760 --> 0:11:59.600 this is what I'm getting done, right. And if you 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.360 have of you know, X amount of spared dollars to 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:05.000 spend on one thing, that I'd prefer to recommend the 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:07.840 best one, you know. So it's like I might as 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:10.400 well say the truth. If it's a great I cream 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:13.040 and you happen to have the extra money to buy it, 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:17.880 then get the good one. How old are you? Oh god, wow, 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:23.640 that's nice. Well no, no, I was, and a lot 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.360 of I creams, Yeah, thirty one. What do you got 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:29.839 for me? Oh god, I've got lots for you. I mean, 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.280 first of all, I didn't start drinking water until I 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:35.720 was like forty four, so I found I find water 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:38.880 to be the most boring, boring thing in the world. 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:42.000 Right now, my housekeeper has to doctor this up for me. 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:46.040 Every morning. There's like there's cucumber lemon water in my fridge. 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:50.080 Then there's plain water, and then there's BlackBerry and strawberry 0:12:50.280 --> 0:12:53.120 like spa water. So there's array so that I can 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:55.280 drink water. But I said to my friend, I go, okay, 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:57.600 I have a big photo shoot coming up, and I 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.679 have to be like it's for this athletic company, and 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:02.679 I'm lebra and underwear and doing stuff like not just 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:05.880 sitting moving and I was like, I don't know about 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:09.240 the moving part and the jiggle, and and my friends like, 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:12.120 just don't drink any sparkling water for like four days 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:14.600 leading up to the photos shoot. I'm like, fuck you. 0:13:15.280 --> 0:13:18.960 I'm like, no bubbles, Like I'm so addicted to carbonation. 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:21.880 The idea of no sparkling water. She's like, it's it's 0:13:21.920 --> 0:13:24.240 bad for cellult I refuse to believe it. I know 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:26.280 it blows you. And it's just like that's the bitch 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:29.800 of getting older. It's like you things just show up 0:13:29.960 --> 0:13:31.920 on your face and your body in a way like 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:34.679 they didn't used to. So it's like I always say, 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.640 after the age of twenty seven, if you eat a 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:40.200 big piece of cake the next day, you're gonna look 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:42.880 a little ugly. It'll shop. But I liked also what 0:13:42.920 --> 0:13:44.880 you said about it not being the end of the 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:47.880 world when you do gain ten Yeah, it's like, do 0:13:47.920 --> 0:13:49.960 you remember that era where it was like like when 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:51.880 I was like twenty five and I would gain ten 0:13:51.920 --> 0:13:54.480 pounds and I'd be like, the world is coming to 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:57.080 an end. Oh, I wouldn't even allow myself to gain 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:00.000 ten pounds because I would weigh myself six to seven 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:03.240 times throughout the day and if my number, oh yeah, oh, 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:06.760 I used to run, talk about anorexia nervosa or whatever 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:09.520 on my condition was. I don't like to diagnose things 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:12.240 in the past, only in the present, so I've never 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:14.320 really reflected on it. But I used to run like 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:17.560 six to eight miles every morning. I'd weigh myself before 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:19.480 I ran. Then i'd weigh myself after I ran to 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:21.680 see how much water weight I lost. Then I would 0:14:21.680 --> 0:14:24.560 never replenish with actual water. It was just like diet 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:28.200 soda or you know whatever, juice, diet juice and apple 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:30.880 like I was just so unhealthy. And then I would 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:33.880 weigh myself continually throughout the day to monitor my weight 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:37.040 because I thought with every meal it could just go haywire. 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:39.960 Like I once went to Africa without a scale, and 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:43.200 I came back and I had gained sixteen pounds, and 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:45.840 I thought, oh, oh, you can't be trusted on a 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:50.600 trip like your fucking lunatic sixteen pounds. Albeit I just 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:52.600 had a c L surgery, so I wasn't able to 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:55.320 be mobile and I wasn't able to walk around. So 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:59.080 after that I became even more ardently committed to traveling 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:02.640 with a scale so I can monitor the situation. Now 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:05.720 I've become a lot more relaxed about my weight because 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:09.360 it doesn't jump and bounce out and down so much. 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:11.760 And I'm not as obsessive as I used to be. 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:13.840 But I have to say, like I I don't know 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:16.200 anybody who was more obsessed with weighing themselves than I was. 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:18.800 It's a prison, it is. It's a total prison. I 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:20.960 was just talking to my followers about it this week. 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:24.840 It is a complete self made prison. And it's so 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:27.520 I hate how many messages I get about weight. I 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:29.600 hate how many d ms like how did you find 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:32.120 the freedom? How do you you know? How do you 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:33.920 allow yourself to have this? How? This and that? And 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:37.080 I'm like, it's kind of something that you have to 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:39.400 just get there yourself, Like you have to go through 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:41.680 it and find peace yourself. But if I could take 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:46.400 away all of those hours and and pain and stepping 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:48.560 on the scale for all the young women out there, 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:51.440 if I could go back and shake myself when I 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:55.000 was twenty five and be like, it doesn't matter nobody notices. 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:57.800 That's the that's the crazy things. It's literally only the 0:15:57.880 --> 0:15:59.720 two things that I really try to always tell them 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:03.040 is like number one, Literally nobody notices unless you gain 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:07.440 a hundred pounds. Truly, it's just you. Secondly, because a 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:09.240 lot of the questions that I get are like related 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:11.480 to dating, do you think breaks my heart? I always 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:13.360 get do you think I should wait to lose weight 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:16.440 to start dating? And I'm like, no, but you should. 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:19.600 You should love yourself and know your value before you 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:22.160 start dating. It's nothing to do with weight. But it's 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:24.960 like if you if your self worth is so tied 0:16:25.000 --> 0:16:27.080 to your weight, then you need to do some self 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.760 work before you start asking someone else to love you 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:31.800 because you're so much more than your weight. Your weight 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:34.120 has literally nothing to do with your worth. I used 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:36.320 to if I waited, if I went over one thirty, 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:39.040 I wasn't allowed to leave the house. And if I waited, 0:16:39.080 --> 0:16:40.600 like if I had planned with my girlfriend's to grout 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:42.400 on Friday night and I weighed myself and I weighed 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:45.240 even one thirty one, I would cancel my plants and 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:47.440 stay home. I acted like that for a good part 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:50.920 of my twenties. Obsessed obsessed with the way that I 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:53.520 looked like, oh this is oh yeah, I mean I 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:55.080 can't believe I didn't have to go to like a 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:58.880 hospital soon, sooner than I than when I started therapy, 0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:03.280 because I was obsessed with it. Just crazy what addicted 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:06.400 to water pills, anything that would just keep my weight down, 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:09.480 just constantly dehydrating myself. So the person who needs the 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:13.840 water the most, it's the most scared of it. Yeah, 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:16.119 Oh my god. I spent an hour crying to my 0:17:16.200 --> 0:17:18.399 therapist a couple of weeks ago about like what my 0:17:18.560 --> 0:17:21.520 nieces are going through, like just what you were saying, thanks, 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:23.760 I'm like, why do they have to go through this? 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:25.920 Why are they learning all this stuff at the same 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:31.320 pace I learned it, Like it's two body positivity is here, 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:35.840 yet it hasn't reached the masses. Yeah, And I just 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:38.400 I don't know. And we're so extreme as humans because 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:41.199 I sometimes worry that there's now this message which is 0:17:41.240 --> 0:17:44.560 like we're replacing one pressure with an equal but different 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:47.000 pressure where it's like just eat whatever you want and 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:48.920 you'll be fine, and like now you can't care about 0:17:48.920 --> 0:17:50.479 it at all, and it's like, no, you should just 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:53.600 feel like yourself and you should. We're trying to get 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:56.680 to a place where it's like you just you don't 0:17:56.720 --> 0:18:01.120 care about your physical appearance as much, Like that's the goal. 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:04.920 Not I don't know. It's it's a scary place for 0:18:04.920 --> 0:18:07.520 for young people right now, for young women, and it's 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:10.240 it saddens me that there's so much of our young 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:14.920 life is spent attaching worth to the external things. Speaking 0:18:14.920 --> 0:18:16.720 of external things, I saw that you went on a 0:18:16.800 --> 0:18:19.960 date with Diplo through Tinder. I also give it on 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:21.639 a date with him, but I wanted it to end 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:24.080 up that way. When I met Diplow, I film something 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:27.160 with him for one of my shows. I think, right, yeah, 0:18:27.200 --> 0:18:31.320 super fucking sexy, super hot and funny. He's so funny 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:34.280 and that's a sense of humor. Yeah. For me, I'm like, 0:18:34.320 --> 0:18:36.760 I couldn't give a shit about looks, and I really 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:38.960 really mean that. Like other girls are like, no, I 0:18:39.200 --> 0:18:41.320 don't care like and then they're dating some like six 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:45.359 four hottie. I'm like, no, I've dated like, I do 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:47.520 not care about looks at all. I don't care about 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:49.399 height at all. But you better be goofy and you 0:18:49.440 --> 0:18:51.520 better have a sense of humor. That's the that's the 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:55.399 hottest It's the hottest thing. Is it really really is? Anyway, 0:18:55.480 --> 0:18:58.359 diplow I wanted to funk. I was like, Okay, we 0:18:58.359 --> 0:18:59.840 were talking and then he was talking He's like, you know, 0:18:59.840 --> 0:19:01.560 I don't really do drugs, because he was talking about 0:19:01.600 --> 0:19:03.560 DJ and we were recording some song. He was trying 0:19:03.560 --> 0:19:05.520 to help me sing, and he's like, I don't really 0:19:05.520 --> 0:19:07.840 do drugs. And then he, like within thirty seconds, told 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:10.200 me a story about the last the previous weekend where 0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:12.119 he had been in Vegas and done a bunch of molly. 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:15.080 And I'm like, Diplo, you just said you don't do drugs. 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:18.040 He goes, well, I did this weekend, and I was like, Okay, 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:21.080