WEBVTT - Ep. 26 — No more raggedy underwear 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:21.040 Hey, hey, hey, we're back in person. I know it 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:22.880 feels nice to be in the same studio again. 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:23.600 So close together. 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:26.639 And that's a face I did, so I have to 0:00:26.680 --> 0:00:29.400 say this. So I was walking here and so it's winter, 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:33.440 but it's actually really nice outside. But I did see 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:36.760 a guy with a T shirt and shorts on, and 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:38.879 I posted on Facebook like, just a guy with T 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:41.159 shirt and shorts on. Although it's winter, it's nice out, 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:44.080 but it's still winter. And then I wrote, and the 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:47.960 answer to your second question is yes, so the brown enbition. 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:49.400 You know what I mean by the answer to your 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:51.760 second question. If you don't know what I mean, you probably. 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:52.960 Not hashtag white people. 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:53.239 Yes. 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:57.120 Yes, I was like, oh, like. 0:00:57.080 --> 0:00:59.160 You know, I thought, I so I have. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:01.800 I'm really close to my coworkers who happen to be white, 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:06.880 just like very cool ladies whatever. So I'm always thinking 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:08.640 in my head like white people, white people, but I 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:09.199 don't say. 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:09.480 It out loud. 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:11.000 But I just had to because like last week, they 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.360 were sharing this article and the New York Post about 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:16.280 how bulls are a thing now, how bowls are the 0:01:16.400 --> 0:01:20.840 new plate that's literally the headline, and within this article 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:25.560 they're interviewing like a yoga instructor from Brooklyn, the founder 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:28.760 of a modeling company online, and they're all talking about 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:33.440 with like sincerity, how bowls are better than plates because 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:36.880 they make food better to be photographed, they make it 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:40.720 easier to consume, they're beautiful. Bulls are the new plate 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.320 and they're orders like all disgusted by this, and I 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:45.000 was just like you, guys, I have to say it 0:01:45.120 --> 0:01:48.000 hashtag white girls, yeah, because like what and this is 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:48.880 the second article. 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:52.080 Plates are being done, like being replaced by bulls. 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:54.960 That's the trend now and this is what matters. Oh here, 0:01:55.040 --> 0:01:58.160 Oh the headline's even worse. Hot skinny people are ditching 0:01:58.200 --> 0:01:59.920 salads for power bowls. 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.000 Air quotes parable power bowls. 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:03.720 And she has like a carrot and some lettuce in 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:06.920 this bowl. Justine Parker twenty eight and Lily coon In 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:09.920 twenty seven have an exercise date at a trendy skyteing 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:13.640 yoga downtown, but afterwards they don't grab coffee tea your salad. Instead, 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:15.880 they go out for a bowl, a power bowl filled 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:17.480 with vegetables, whole grains and protein. 0:02:17.800 --> 0:02:18.760 Die, both of you. 0:02:19.000 --> 0:02:22.880 You're either going to have a restaurant called bowls probably yeah, yeah, wait. 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:25.320 People will go It'll be the new high trains. 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:25.760 In the sand trends. 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:27.840 I was talking to you about the whole Canada Goose 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:31.000 eight hundred dollars jacket. Yes, so I was noticing it 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:32.720 feels like high school in New York City and this 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:34.960 is a big city. So for me to notice that 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:38.560 almost maybe four people to five people on a train 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:40.800 car that at any given time, any given day this 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:43.760 winter have been wearing this puffy coat with the Canada 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:47.160 Goose label on it. Yes, And I'm like, what is happening? 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:49.040 Is this the ninth grade all over again? Everyone's got 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:50.040 to have thish jacket. 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:50.680 Yes, it is. 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:52.560 I've never noticed it before, and then I started looking 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:52.840 it up. 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:54.720 Nine hundred dollars. It's crazy. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:57.080 It's so crazy because I was introduced to Canada Goose 0:02:57.080 --> 0:03:00.160 about two no, about three or four years ago a 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:02.120 friend of mine. We were both saying, like, you know what, 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:04.200 I can't do another Jersey wintil. We have to get 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:07.280 a super warm coat. And it was summer, and so 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:08.160 he did his research. 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:08.679 I did mine. 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:12.079 I ended up getting a north Face like super discounted 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:14.720 because I feel like you have to have one big, 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:16.600 ignorant winter coat. Like the type of coat you wore 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:19.200 when you were five. Ignorant, Yes, ignorant, just just big 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:21.560 for no reason. Yeah, you know, no shape, no, just 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:25.120 on you. And so he ended up getting at Canada Goose. 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:26.720 He had never heard of it before, but it was 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:28.160 supposed to be really warm, and he was a big, 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:28.880 tall guy, so. 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:30.239 Like like a rent payment. 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:32.120 Yeah, but no, he didn't get it wasn't nine hundred 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:33.560 at the time. I think it was like three hundred 0:03:33.720 --> 0:03:35.760 or something like or three fifty something to that double. 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.160 I don't know, but I would also remember it was 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:40.440 also off season and this was about four years ago. 0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:42.640 So he got his coat and so that was the 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:44.280 first I'd ever heard of it, and I've never seen 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:46.640 it until this year again, so I'm like, wow, he 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:47.640 was a way of heead a trend. 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:48.440 That's to tell him. 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:49.440 Well, it wasn't just me. 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:51.240 I read on the same day I came in and 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:53.520 I was finally ready to explode because I had just 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:55.080 put my coat up at the office and there was 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:57.280 like three Canada Goose jackets and I'm like, why are 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:00.640 we being brainwashed? Like what's happening? There's an art online 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:03.560 on Business Insider and they had written like the history 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.720 of the Canada Goose jacket and how it became. This 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:09.000 is the jacket that people in Antarctica who are doing research. 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:11.600 This is that jacket. That's the jacket they used to 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:13.640 keep warm. It's a jacket that film crew where when 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:16.560 they're filming in like Arctic conditions and outside the elements. 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:20.960 It became popular because Hollywood. I think James Bond, Daniel 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:23.720 Craig wore one in one of his movies, and then 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:26.680 I think Claire Danes or some actress had been seen 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:30.240 wearing it, and then you know, like. 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:31.000 I'm like, shoot, he got it. I should have got it. 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:32.680 I could have sold it. For real. 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:34.360 I'm like, meanwhile, I got this north face and he 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:36.880 got the Canada goose, and you know, because I would 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:39.000 totally sell it and then get something else. 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:41.880 Business opportunity, I know, you know what. 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:45.200 I feel like, it's fine if you can afford it 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:46.880 to buy an eight hundred dollars code, you can say 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:48.839 it's an investment or whatever. But I feel like some 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:51.680 people buy these jackets and it's worth more than the 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:54.400 money in their bank account or like the their purse, 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:56.799 or like, you know, I just don't see why the jacket, 0:04:57.000 --> 0:04:58.200 like one thing has to cost. 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:01.160 And honestly, it's called in New York, but it's not Antarctica. 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.080 Listen, go to TJ Max, go to Marshall's exactly. I 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:06.480 got myself a seventy five dollars winter coat two years ago. 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:08.760 It is still just as perfect as it. 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:11.279 Was, And honestly, to me, you only need one ignorant 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.920 winter coat a lifetime unless you live like a Canada, 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:14.760 you know, like just. 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:17.560 One big like a bubble bubble jacket, and then if you. 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:19.400 Don't, like, you know, you're not rough with it, then 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:21.240 you can just keep that for a lifetime. Like I'm 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:24.000 never gonna get another like big coat like that again. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:26.080 I'm just gonna have my one little it's not little. 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:27.960 It's a huge north face. It goes to my knees, 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:30.279 and I'm like, I only take it out, you know, 0:05:30.360 --> 0:05:32.479 when New Jersey has decided to lose all of its 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:35.000 mind and you know it's just crazy outside. But I 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:36.960 don't wear it often, and I'm like, that's it for me. 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:38.160 People are nuts. 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:39.000 They are nuts. 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:44.279 Speaking of nutty people, I was just browsing Facebook yesterday 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:47.320 and I saw this story about this guy who wrote 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:52.200 an open letter to San Francisco's mayor. Oh boy, me, 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:53.320 let me pull up the article. 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:54.760 You know, it's bad when Mandy has to do the 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:55.560 deep side. 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:59.880 Okay, So it's from this guy. He owns a startup 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:03.080 in San Francisco. Of course he does. Because San Francisco, 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:06.679 if you haven't noticed, over the last you know, seven 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:10.840 to eight years, has become the epicenter of startup land. 0:06:10.839 --> 0:06:13.440 It's called Silicon Valley for a reason. People go there 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:17.960 to It's for Apple, Google, Pinterest, and every other startup 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:20.320 and app that you ever loved in your life has. 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:23.680 You know, even Yahoo has a headquarters there. So in 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:26.480 San Francisco there's this huge it's kind of. 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:26.840 Like New York. 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:28.679 There's this huge gap between the rich and the poor. 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:31.440 All these wealthy, wealthy tech people are coming in and 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:34.840 they're driving up, driving out people middle class people who 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:38.040 can't afford to live there anymore. And San Francisco has 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:42.080 always had a historic problem with homelessness. Yes, so this jackass, 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:44.159 if I can call him, that, he decides to write 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:46.320 an open letter. This is the letter. It's called open 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:48.920 letter to San Francisco Mayor Ed Lee and Greg Sir, 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:52.040 the police chief. And I'll just give you a brief excerpt. 0:06:52.640 --> 0:06:55.320 I'm writing today to voice my concern and outrage over 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.760 the increasing homeless and drug problem that the city is 0:06:57.839 --> 0:07:01.520 faced with. I've been living in SF over three years, 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:04.159 all of three years, and without a doubt, it is 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.800 the worst it has ever been since the three years 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:09.479 he moved here. Apparently every day on my work too 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.239 and from work, I on my way to and from work, 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:15.840 I see people sprawled across the sidewalk, tense cities, human feces, 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.920 and the faces of addiction. The city is becoming a shantytown. 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:22.800 Worst of all, it is unsafe. Oh so, here's the 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:25.360 part that really got to me later on. It's not 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:27.520 the longest letter, but here he says, what are you 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:30.560 doing to address this problem? The residents of this amazing 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:33.880 city no longer feel safe? Because he speaks for everyone exactly. 0:07:33.960 --> 0:07:36.680 I know people are frustrated about gentrification happening, but the 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:39.560 reality is we live in a free market society. The wealthy, 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:43.280 working people like himself have earned their right to live 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:45.640 in the city. They went out, got in education, worked hard, 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:48.600 and earned it. I shouldn't I shouldn't have to worry 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:51.760 about being accosted. I shouldn't I shouldn't have to see 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:54.200 the pain, struggle and despair of how most people. 0:07:54.280 --> 0:07:56.240 No, you do, Yes, he wrote this. 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:59.880 I'm reading the words, Yes, I shouldn't have to see this, 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:03.080 the pain, the struggle and despair of homeless people too. 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:06.160 And from my way to work every day. I want 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:08.280 my parents when they come visit to have a great. 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:13.120 Experience, special place. This guy's name is Justin. 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:16.040 Keller, justin mother f and kel. 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:18.640 You can go try and find him on Twitter. He 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:21.360 made his account private. You can also go try and 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:25.080 find the company that he owns. It's called Commando dot Io. 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:28.400 I would encourage anyone to go to this company's website 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:30.360 and send a letter to the editor or whatever they 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:32.559 have there. Don't know what the company does, but this 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:36.320 guy has just has just made it complete full of himself. 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:39.199 Because the thing is you can definitely, because definitely when 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:42.120 I walk through New York City sometimes I think to myself, Wow, 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:44.480 the homeless problem has gotten really bad. But from a 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:48.080 place of what can we do to help? Not what 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:50.199 can they do to help to get rid of these people, 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:51.679 but what can we do and help so that way 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:54.000 people are not falling into this trap? 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:56.000 Over and over and over like, because. 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:58.240 One thing I've learned from teaching financial education is that, 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:01.920 first of all, one everyone does not have the same 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:04.320 leg up, you know. So it's not that you just 0:09:04.480 --> 0:09:07.360 like to think to yourself that somehow you are in 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:09.160 this position because you're just so smart. 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:10.319 That's just not true. 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:12.760 I work so hard. I got an education. Well, you 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:16.120 know what, many people got in education and fell ill 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:18.720 or had mental illness or fell on hard times, not 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:21.280 because they were stupid or didn't work hard, just because 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:23.000 life didn't right for. 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:24.880 That exactly, you just didn't have the same opportunity. 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.200 I can't tell you how many super smart kids I 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:29.840 taught in Newark when I taught preschool, and they would 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:31.640 tell me, like all the way to school, oh yeah, 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:33.599 the dead body's still out there from last night. Or 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:36.040 one little girls refused to speak for nearly a year 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:39.080 because she had saw scene outside of her window a 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:41.720 man shot point blank in the head and die in 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:43.679 front of her. So she was so afraid to leave 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:45.320 her house because she thought when you left your house, 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:46.000 you died too. 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:47.559 So what do you say to a girl like that? 0:09:47.679 --> 0:09:49.520 Pull yourself together? Three year old? 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:50.560 High school? 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.040 Exactly like you better learn in school, because your. 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.880 School probably has different resources than a school that's probably 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:57.320 a majority white and different part of town. 0:09:57.480 --> 0:09:58.719 It's just, I mean, this guy grew up. 0:09:58.679 --> 0:09:59.760 In I just don't see. 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.800 And I get it because mister what's his name again, 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:05.600 Justin Keller. So I get it that Justin Keller cannot 0:10:05.640 --> 0:10:09.040 see past his own privilege and his own whiteness and 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:12.760 his own wealth to see. But at some point you 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:14.720 have to realize. And that's the way the world works. 0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:17.280 To me, that's the beauty of life is that one 0:10:17.320 --> 0:10:19.480 way you're gonna learn one way or the other. And 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:21.800 I had to learn even myself, like going and working 0:10:21.880 --> 0:10:24.120 where I worked in Newark, that you have to respect 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:25.840 the people around you. Because I think he right there 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:27.920 wrote somewhere that it's gonna be a revolution, and yes, 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:30.720 let's hope they come for you first, mister Justin Keller. 0:10:31.080 --> 0:10:32.760 You know when there is a revolution that. 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:35.680 Speaking remember the French revolution that didn't turn out so 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:37.600 hot for the aristocrale exactly. 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:40.640 The thing is, though, if you don't help in general, 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:44.200 if you don't help bring up the general mass, then 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:46.320 you can't continue to thrive. Do you think that people 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:49.000 are gonna stand idly by while you eat and they starve. 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:50.199 That's just not gonna happen. 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:52.839 No fact that he just moved there three years ago, right, 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:55.440 and he thinks this has been the worst it's ever 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.520 been in all three years of his experience. San Francisco 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:01.400 has been dealing with homelessness for decades, for decade decades, 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:03.520 and these homeless people have more of a right to 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:05.120 the city, I'd argue. 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:05.280 Than you do. 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:07.000 I guess it's just so frustrating. 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:09.640 Like, you know, people act as if like, oh, gentrification, 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:11.800 it's a good thing. Isn't the neighborhood better. It's not 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:14.040 about that. It's that the neighborhood is better for you 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.480 and no one else. That's what gentrification brings. Of course, 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:19.880 we want the neighborhood to be better, but it shouldn't 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:21.839 be better at the expense of like I can't live 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:23.800 here now, like oh, we're going to clean things up, 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:26.319 but hey, you who lived here forever, you can't benefit 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:29.880 from things being better. That's the problem. That's why, justin. 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:31.920 But you know what you know, I always say this, 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:34.200 You are allowed to say whatever you want. But guess what, 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.760 soa can other people. So I'm sure you're being dragged 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:38.640 as rightfully. So I'm sure there's lots of people who 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:40.520 agree with you because. 0:11:40.200 --> 0:11:42.560 The sick you know, this reminds me. And it's sick 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:45.400 because I know people who would agree with them. You know, 0:11:45.440 --> 0:11:49.080 I used to work for Business Insider, and I worked 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:49.600 for a great man. 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:50.960 His name was Henry Blodgett. 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:52.480 He was the editor in chief and I had a 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:55.840 really great experience there. But while I was there, Henry 0:11:55.880 --> 0:11:59.199 wrote a blog post about and he would sometimes just 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.480 write things. He thought he had gone to a fancy 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:03.800 restaurant downtown. I think it was Balthazar, which is this 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:06.720 like hot spot, hot for brunch or whatever, and he 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:09.120 wrote an entire article about how he thought that they 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:12.080 need to do away with bathroom attendants. Why do you 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:15.559 need bathroom attendants? It's awkward, makes me feel weird. Why 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:17.000 do I have to pay someone, you know, give a 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:19.360 tip or whatever? And he went on and on and on, 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:20.960 and you know, I'm sure he thought that he was 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.800 in his right you know, frame or whatever he had 0:12:23.840 --> 0:12:29.719 to write opinion, and it was highly offensive. I'm just 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:32.800 get personal. My father, for a long time has worked 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:36.600 as a bathroom attendant at a nice restaurant. This is 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:38.840 my dad and I wasn't always so proud of it, 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:40.640 but my dad has done this forever, and he's really 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:42.200 good at his job and he likes what he does. 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:46.120 And I felt like by writing this article at the time, 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:47.640 and by the way, I've told him this, so I 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:49.520 haven't I'm not saying anything to you guys that I 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.600 haven't said to Henry personally. I said that it really 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:55.200 made me feel, you know, as a daughter of someone 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:56.680 who's done that job and you feel like it's an 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:59.160 honest day's work, Like it made me really feel like 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:03.480 he was belittling someone, you know, if that's their way 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:06.000 of making income, providing for their family, it was belittling that. 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:09.360 And it was just you know, casting it all because 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:12.200 it was simply an inconvenience for me, exactly, him. 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:15.120 He who has privileged exactly. But there were a lot 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:15.520 of people. 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:17.080 For every person who was sort of like, you know, 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.559 writing on this article, there were many many others who 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:21.120 were like, oh my god, I know, I hate it. 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:22.319 Oh my god, it's so annoying. 0:13:22.760 --> 0:13:25.120 It's just so easy to like turn your nose up 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:28.560 when you have had the opportunity to have better, you know. 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:30.560 And so I mean one of to me one of 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:32.559 the greatest gifts, I mean, because I was pretty for 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:34.880 I mean, growing up, we were like broke, like you know, 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:36.920 we lived in like I don't know, we just lived 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:40.440 not well but well because my parents look after us. 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:41.760 But like, you know, we didn't have a lot. 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:45.200 But by the time I was really conscious of like 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:48.080 kind of how we lived. My parents had gone to school, 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:50.560 gotten their master's. You know, we lived in a nice neighborhood. 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:53.320 But to me, one of the greatest gifts was me 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:57.240 for me to then after school and graduating kind of 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:59.440 going back to a similar neighborhood that I had first 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:03.080 started with and working there for like ten years because 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:05.280 I got like such a better scope of the world. 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:07.840 It was like, okay, like I see the world of privilege. 0:14:07.880 --> 0:14:10.120 I had lived in the town. It was majority like 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:13.160 people of wealth. It was like very little people of color, 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:17.320 mostly Jewish, white town. You know, the best school systems. Honestly, 0:14:17.360 --> 0:14:19.560 everybody kind of went away to like the best schools. 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:21.320 College was one of those things that like we had 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:25.000 like ninety six percent college grade, you know, like entry rate. 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:29.360 And then going to Newark and teaching there and kind 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:33.120 of seeing like the difference and why not because these 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:37.360 kids were not smarter, but really seeing how where you're 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:39.960 born and the opportunities that you were born or not 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:41.680 born into, how they played such. 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:43.600 A pivotal role, and where you went and life because 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:45.160 those kids were so smart. 0:14:45.160 --> 0:14:48.240 And I've taught preschool and taught in other districts and 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:49.960 I'm like, yo, these kids are so smart. 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.960 Where's the disconnect zip code? Yeah? 0:14:53.160 --> 0:14:55.360 And then I then to see what they lived through. 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:57.240 I remember at twenty two when I first started, I 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:58.400 remember thinking Mandy. 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:01.520 Like, oh, how did they deal? It was too much 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:03.280 for me at twenty two. How does a three year 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:04.120 and four year old deal? 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:07.280 Like going just like I worked at the bottom of 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:10.280 a project building, like the day care centers at the 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.560 ground floor, and I would have to go upstairs to 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:15.560 like go get crayons. We had like a closet on 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:19.520 the third floor, and like walking just up the stairwell 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:22.280 and seeing people smoke a crack pipe in the stairwell, 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:24.000 and I'm thinking, I get to go home to my 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:26.880 regular neighborhood. These kids have to come up the stairwell 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:27.360 and see. 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:27.960 This every day. 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:30.720 Or hearing people curse people out all day long, or 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:33.760 mental illness being just so rampant and drugs on drugs 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:35.640 on drugs, and the dealers at the pimps and the 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:39.200 prostitutes all day. Actually, I had to finally step back 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:41.120 and say I can't do this anymore because it was 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:43.440 bringing my spirit down. My boyfriend at the time told me, 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:46.160 after a year, you're not the same Tiffany, like you 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:47.440 used to be so happy, go lucky. 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:48.200 What's going on? 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:51.600 And I thought, wow, for me at twenty two, imagine 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:53.680 a four year old and so it's just very and 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:55.240 it's just so gray and ugly. 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:59.200 Like I think, it's just this is important too. 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:02.640 I think that they're there's so much to be said 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:05.400 about people who know people from different walks of life 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:07.840 are different. I think it's really important when we have 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:09.640 kids to make sure that they have friends who are 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:11.440 wealthy and friends who are poor, and friends who are 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:13.720 different colors in them, and friends with a different circumstances, 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:17.760 because you not just to look at them and say, ooh, 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:19.640 look at that person and what they've been through, but 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:22.840 to learn from them and to that's where empathy comes from, exactly. 0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:24.840 And I think if this guy had ever met in 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:27.240 his life somebody who was worse off than him, and 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:29.120 knew them on a personal level. He would never have 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:31.840 written this, I think he would instead of complaining about it. 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:34.200 Maybe he should complain, you know, maybe we should. I 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:36.520 think he has a valid point. Yes, the San Francisco 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:38.880 needs to help these people, but they need to help 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:40.800 them for themselves, for the people's sake. 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:43.000 Exactly, not for the rich people that are coming in. 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:44.600