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Speaker 2: Not hashtag white people.

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Speaker 4: I'm reading the words, Yes, I shouldn't have to see this,

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Speaker 4: I work so hard. I got an education. Well, you

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Speaker 4: You know what's kind of shitty is that there's a

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Speaker 1: I would not want to work for this commando commandio.

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Speaker 4: You know who always slays Cookie Darlin Cookie, Taraji p Henson.

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Speaker 4: So what I love is that I've heard because I

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Speaker 4: helped astronaut John Glenn with his space mission during the

440
00:18:33,600 --> 00:18:34,679
Speaker 4: nineteen sixties.

441
00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:36,240
Speaker 3: Ohay, it's cool.

442
00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:39,560
Speaker 2: I've never I never heard of heard of that. And

443
00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:41,040
Speaker 2: I used to want to be an astronaut.

444
00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:45,560
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, like hardcore hardcore until I was about thirteen, No,

445
00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:48,320
Speaker 4: maybe sixteen, until I decided I really didn't like math

446
00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:52,800
Speaker 4: that much. But my hero is Sally Henson. And this

447
00:18:52,880 --> 00:18:55,480
Speaker 4: is a this is a this is huge. This is

448
00:18:55,480 --> 00:18:58,520
Speaker 4: something that you never see. Yeah, and it's not a maid.

449
00:18:58,960 --> 00:19:03,920
Speaker 2: Or a slave, yes, or hooker or stripper or an athlete.

450
00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:07,080
Speaker 4: It's a really or big mom. Yeah, it's gonna be

451
00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:08,639
Speaker 4: cool because how often do you see black women is

452
00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:11,240
Speaker 4: kind of wrong. Now, that's awesome math genius black women.

453
00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:12,800
Speaker 4: I don't have to see that.

454
00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:18,280
Speaker 2: So go ahead to ROGI.

455
00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:17,959
Speaker 3: What else were gonna talk about?

456
00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:18,320
Speaker 1: Oh?

457
00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:20,639
Speaker 4: One last thing I wanted to mention, so you know

458
00:19:20,680 --> 00:19:21,360
Speaker 4: many Pakia.

459
00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:24,160
Speaker 3: Yes, I heard about his tweets.

460
00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:25,040
Speaker 2: So he not just tweets.

461
00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:27,840
Speaker 4: So he he's like a politician in the Philippines really

462
00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:30,879
Speaker 4: and he's running for office, yeah, congressman. And he was

463
00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,120
Speaker 4: running for a seat in the Philippines Senate and he

464
00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:36,160
Speaker 4: described he puts his big old foot in his mouth.

465
00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:40,080
Speaker 4: Although he means it, he describes same sex marriage as

466
00:19:40,359 --> 00:19:43,720
Speaker 4: in his language, the translation is worse than animals, and

467
00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:46,600
Speaker 4: he was set it on video. The video went viral,

468
00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:48,760
Speaker 4: and then he went so far as to like back

469
00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:50,800
Speaker 4: it up on Instagram and basically say that he would

470
00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:54,080
Speaker 4: rather follow the Bible, what the Lord says than what

471
00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:56,639
Speaker 4: the flesh says, or something like that, which is you

472
00:19:56,640 --> 00:20:00,280
Speaker 4: know a lot of people's opinions when they try and

473
00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:08,240
Speaker 4: defend bigotrigue against LGBT couples. So Nike said, not today.

474
00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:08,919
Speaker 3: Not today.

475
00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:14,399
Speaker 4: They are yanking our sponsorship from Many Pacquiao, and I

476
00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:17,040
Speaker 4: thought that was really dope, Like Nike is a huge

477
00:20:17,160 --> 00:20:21,560
Speaker 4: the biggest sports brand in the world probably and Many

478
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,360
Speaker 4: Pacquiao probably just lost millions and millions and millions and millions.

479
00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:26,400
Speaker 3: Who's the other guy?

480
00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:29,439
Speaker 1: Who's the Floyd Mayweather was like, you won't be I

481
00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:31,480
Speaker 1: won't be losing that endorsement. He made sure to tweet

482
00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:33,760
Speaker 1: like I believe that people should do what they want,

483
00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:34,760
Speaker 1: and I am winful.

484
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:37,320
Speaker 4: He should not be talking though, because doesn't he beat people,

485
00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:39,760
Speaker 4: doesn't he beat women? And he hasn't lost his sponsorship.

486
00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:41,800
Speaker 4: So let's talk about how it's worse to you know,

487
00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:43,520
Speaker 4: I don't see how that's different. Like I feel like

488
00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:46,400
Speaker 4: you are, you know the same thing with Mike Tyson.

489
00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:52,399
Speaker 4: When you beat women, it's somehow okay, justifiable or like

490
00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:55,040
Speaker 4: okay to get over more so than if you, you know,

491
00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:58,320
Speaker 4: speak ill of other races or sexualities and such that

492
00:20:58,680 --> 00:20:59,320
Speaker 4: it's interesting.

493
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:17,600
Speaker 1: I would both get to the black girl, brown, break brown, break,

494
00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 1: what you gonna do?

495
00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:22,760
Speaker 3: What you're gonna do when we break on you. I

496
00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:24,199
Speaker 3: just want you to know that Mandy did like the

497
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,040
Speaker 3: most awesome like shoulders me, Oh did I? I didn't

498
00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:30,520
Speaker 3: even know. Yeah, I feel like we like that.

499
00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:32,639
Speaker 1: We're like the uh, I don't know, like one of

500
00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:36,920
Speaker 1: those like the something something sisters or like the uh.

501
00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:38,520
Speaker 2: The money sister. Right, do you know that?

502
00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:39,919
Speaker 4: So you know when you were a little kid and

503
00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:41,600
Speaker 4: you I don't know if you I used to be

504
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:43,879
Speaker 4: painfully shy about dancing in front of people. I go

505
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:45,920
Speaker 4: to all my little school dances and just like sit

506
00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:47,880
Speaker 4: on the wall. But I'd be dying to dance because

507
00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 4: like I love that. As soon as I hit I

508
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:52,240
Speaker 4: don't know what age it was, I just stopped caring

509
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 4: and now I just dance anywhere and I get yeah,

510
00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 4: and I I feel like maybe it's because I started

511
00:21:57,800 --> 00:21:59,639
Speaker 4: doing zoomba in college, so I just like feel the

512
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:03,520
Speaker 4: music whenever. I love doom but so much. But yeah,

513
00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 4: that was like the biggest uh. That was a big

514
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 4: hurdle for me to get over. It's like that fear

515
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 4: of dancing in front of people.

516
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,640
Speaker 3: I think most people are like afrazy dance in front

517
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:10,520
Speaker 3: of people when they're.

518
00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:12,400
Speaker 2: Younger, even Nigerian's don't you guys say.

519
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,760
Speaker 1: Well, especially me because I didn't think I had much

520
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:16,280
Speaker 1: rhythm and I realized.

521
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:17,240
Speaker 2: That, Oh I didn't say I was good.

522
00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:20,919
Speaker 1: I just you know, the thing is I have rhythm,

523
00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:23,399
Speaker 1: but I don't have technique. That's what's missing. Yeah, I

524
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:25,160
Speaker 1: don't have to and so they're like with Nigerian dancing,

525
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 1: there's like even though it's like just this natural dance,

526
00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:30,560
Speaker 1: but still there's a certain movement to the hips and

527
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:32,480
Speaker 1: that I don't quite have. But I mean, like I can,

528
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 1: I have rhythm, but just I can't do all that fancy.

529
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:37,399
Speaker 1: Like my sister Lisa, she is amazing. Every times she

530
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:40,720
Speaker 1: dances were just like fight, I'll sit down watching I.

531
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 2: Hate It's like you go to karaoke and someone gets

532
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 2: up and they really can.

533
00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:46,720
Speaker 3: Sing and like, I know right, You're like, so.

534
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:50,399
Speaker 4: Why am I here for my moment? Well, I I

535
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,399
Speaker 4: am really bad at salsa dancing, but I love it.

536
00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 4: I will step on everyone's whenever, I know, because I

537
00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:56,920
Speaker 4: look like I could dance salsae and I'm like really

538
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:57,800
Speaker 4: excited to be there.

539
00:22:58,640 --> 00:23:00,280
Speaker 2: So people always ask me to dance stuff.

540
00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:02,359
Speaker 4: One used to go out a lot and it was

541
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 4: I can see the cloud on their faces as soon

542
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:06,480
Speaker 4: as I started dancing.

543
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 2: Like, oh, it's going to be difficult.

544
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 3: They're like, she looks like she could be spitish. I

545
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 3: saw the shoulders shimmy, and she's.

546
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 2: Also advertising it is. But I love it.

547
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,879
Speaker 4: I love It's like ten percent talent ninety percent enthusiasm.

548
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,639
Speaker 2: That's what dancing is. It is I digress. This is

549
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:22,239
Speaker 2: brown break time.

550
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 3: Yes, it is brown break.

551
00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 2: Do you want to go first?

552
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 3: Sure?

553
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:26,800
Speaker 2: So I was walking here and said you were excited

554
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:27,840
Speaker 2: about your brown break.

555
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 3: Well, I was excited only because you told me you

556
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 3: have a solution, right. Yeah.

557
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 1: So I was walking here and I was walking here

558
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 1: and my pack underwear was riding up my behind as

559
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:37,160
Speaker 1: it always does.

560
00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:38,520
Speaker 3: And I was like, great, you know where and.

561
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:40,120
Speaker 2: I say it again, your pack underwear.

562
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:41,879
Speaker 3: So I call it pack underwear because you buy it

563
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 3: a pack some people. I'm like, people don't buy you

564
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 3: no Hanes.

565
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:47,360
Speaker 4: I didn't know people under the age of forty five

566
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:50,920
Speaker 4: bus underbar pack. It's like past the age of thirteen

567
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 4: and under the age of forty five, you should not

568
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:55,080
Speaker 4: be buying your underwear.

569
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 3: In a pack. I didn't know. So, like they never

570
00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 3: fait so one.

571
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,119
Speaker 1: You either have the grandma it it goes up to

572
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:04,000
Speaker 1: your navel and just like you know, it almost looks like,

573
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:05,639
Speaker 1: you know, like the sixties bathing suits that are like

574
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 1: really cute, highwaisted.

575
00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it looks like over the belly, yes, and

576
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 3: so it either looks like that or.

577
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:15,479
Speaker 1: Or you look like a six year old because they're like,

578
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:17,000
Speaker 1: you know, they actually have like designs and.

579
00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 3: Stuff on them or unicorns. Yes and so, and it

580
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:20,640
Speaker 3: just never fits my butt.

581
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,199
Speaker 1: So it's either way too big for my butt or

582
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:26,679
Speaker 1: it's literally like slicing my cheeks in half. And so

583
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:28,639
Speaker 1: I just never can find the white pack underwear. And

584
00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 1: then Annie told me that there's my problem right there.

585
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 2: Stop buying your underwear and a pack ladies.

586
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,480
Speaker 3: But I'm like, but what so what I don't want? Necessarily?

587
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 1: I feel like either I have pack underwear or I

588
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 1: have like my lacy numbers for what I want to

589
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 1: get sassy, you know, so what's in between?

590
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:44,479
Speaker 4: I go to department stores my favorite so I used

591
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 4: to work at Coals and I hold I hold a

592
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 4: tiny burning candle for Coals in my heart. I just

593
00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:50,919
Speaker 4: love it. They have such great deals. So I go

594
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:52,960
Speaker 4: to Coals and they have a great intimate section and

595
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 4: I get the Vera Wang. I love her simply, Vera.

596
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:58,119
Speaker 4: I love her line of underwear. She has like more

597
00:24:58,160 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 4: of like the sexy stuff, but she also has the

598
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:03,360
Speaker 4: right regular cotton underwear okay, and then made inform. It's

599
00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:05,400
Speaker 4: not a pack, but there's three on a hangar okay,

600
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 4: difference like the grown up pack.

601
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay.

602
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 4: So that's what I get in a full coverage because

603
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:11,399
Speaker 4: I feel like there was a point in my life

604
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:13,200
Speaker 4: when I was in high school and I don't know

605
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 4: why I was, but I would go to like RU

606
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 4: twenty one and I'd buy the dollar thongs and then

607
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:18,879
Speaker 4: they would just sit in my drawer. I used to

608
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 4: have this big wad I like tangled up, never worn maybe,

609
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 4: but once they had like little things dangling from them,

610
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 4: Like yes, I was a virgin until like how long

611
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 4: I did not need to be have dangling dollar signs

612
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 4: for my undermind, like thongs. Nobody wanted to see me

613
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 4: thought they always rode up the back. Yes, they made.

614
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,200
Speaker 2: Like a line in your ass you can see through

615
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 2: your jeans and your dress.

616
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:41,439
Speaker 1: Never because I'm like, I'm gonna pay underwear to ride up.

617
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 1: They're kind of but I have You're paying for a

618
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 1: wedgie basically. And so I had those same things because

619
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:48,600
Speaker 1: I would get it from Joyce Leslie. Did you worm

620
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 1: a Joyce Leslie? It's like rainbow?

621
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 3: Okay, well like that kind of I get it.

622
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 1: And so Joyce Leslie used to have, like for like

623
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:57,120
Speaker 1: a dollar, they would have like you know, like thongs,

624
00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 1: all this lace and like all this beating.

625
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:01,439
Speaker 3: So and it just seemed like a good idea at

626
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 3: the time until you put them on, You're like, but

627
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 3: why because it's cute. Yeah, But now I'm like I do.

628
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 1: I'm wanting like day to day underwear, So you know,

629
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: I have my sexy longerie kind of underwear, but I'm like, no,

630
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:13,880
Speaker 1: I want regular dated and I just thought they came

631
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 1: in a pack.

632
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,639
Speaker 3: But I'm seeing now that no department store is kind

633
00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:17,240
Speaker 3: of Macy's.

634
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:18,240
Speaker 2: I don't know what's near you.

635
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 4: The may the mall Am invitory secret is ridiculous and there,

636
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 4: and they're cotton underwear sort of like stretches out of it.

637
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 1: And it starts to like it starts the elastic goes

638
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 1: out of it quickly.

639
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I haven't been burned by coals. I would

640
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 4: say the lazy stuff like when you pull you pull

641
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:34,680
Speaker 4: your underwear up, so she got a booty to pull

642
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:36,919
Speaker 4: up over the lace can like rip. And that's my

643
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 4: big problem, like all my underwear that's super cute and

644
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 4: in the gap to anthropology urban maybe not urban. Don't

645
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 4: go to American Apparel. If you got a butt, just

646
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 4: don't go.

647
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 1: Don't go.

648
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:47,919
Speaker 2: I have any sort of womanly shape, don't shop at

649
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 2: American apparel.

650
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,440
Speaker 3: It's not before us.

651
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 2: It's not have you.

652
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 1: Ever gone to like where's that place? Is it Norde

653
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 1: Drums where they do the brofit? Where's that place that

654
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: everybody's I've never been fitted for a bra? Okay, I

655
00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 1: think it's.

656
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:00,680
Speaker 4: I know, Oprah said, I should right, did you watch that?

657
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 4: Do you remember the bra episode with Oprah?

658
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:04,439
Speaker 1: No? But I heard that, But like they're like sixty

659
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 1: percent of women are not wearing a bra that fits them.

660
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean like maybe more. But what was crazy

661
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:11,159
Speaker 4: is you would she would bring on someone with like

662
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:13,160
Speaker 4: normal sized boobs and they would think that they were

663
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 4: like a B or C, which I'm like a bee

664
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 4: or whatever, and they'd be a size.

665
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,640
Speaker 1: F yes, and I al don't understand with somebody, Oh

666
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 1: I know who, well, I won't say her name, but

667
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: it was a friend of mine who said that to me.

668
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:26,239
Speaker 1: She was like, I think she told me she went

669
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,199
Speaker 1: to Nord Drumps and she got like fitted and she

670
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 1: just assumed she's a D. And meanwhile, if you see her,

671
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,760
Speaker 1: her chest looks like like she's she's got like a

672
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:36,640
Speaker 1: nice frame, you know, she doesn't have a huge chest.

673
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 1: And they were like, you're like a She's like what,

674
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 1: But she was like, it's the best fitting bra. She

675
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 1: ended up getting a braw and she could not believe it, like, wow,

676
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: that my chest is bigger than like her cup size

677
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:48,920
Speaker 1: is way bigger than she thought.

678
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 2: I bet that she paid it pretty penny.

679
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 3: Yeah she did.

680
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:52,959
Speaker 1: She said, but then she also, you know, I'm going

681
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:54,160
Speaker 1: to find out what it is so we can share

682
00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: it next week. She actually told me where you can

683
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 1: find the same bra that she got there for literally

684
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 1: like half the price online and once you know your size,

685
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 1: you can kind of just go ahead and but I'm

686
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 1: gonna find it.

687
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 3: We'll share that because everybody needs a good bras.

688
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 4: I feel like you can be sixty five or forty

689
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 4: five or twenty five women. It's hard, it is. It's

690
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,360
Speaker 4: hard chopping for bras. It's never fun, and I haven't.

691
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 2: Done it in quite a while.

692
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 4: Yes, I'm wearing the same raggedy yes. I maybe you

693
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 4: know what I did earlier this year is I I

694
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 4: cleaned out my underwear drawer and I was like, listen,

695
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 4: be real, you bought this lazy thing. You're never gonna

696
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 4: wear it, you never have worn it. And I threw

697
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 4: out like four or five I donated like four or

698
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,120
Speaker 4: five lacey because that I've never worn.

699
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:30,800
Speaker 1: Because sometimes you're just like I mean, I honest see

700
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:32,199
Speaker 1: him just like a regular. I mean, I have some

701
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: lazy stuff just for the but like not to wear

702
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 1: because you're not gonna wear under a shirt where you

703
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 1: can see that you know, it doesn't make any sense.

704
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 1: And then I have like target bras that are like, honestly,

705
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: I'm always so embarrassed.

706
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 2: Whenever you get your pack under brow.

707
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:46,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, basically, so.

708
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 1: I always feel embarrassed, Like you know you have sometimes

709
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 1: you do like a TV segment and they have to

710
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 1: like unzip your dress and like clip like your oh

711
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 1: oh yeah, always like oh my god, I always forget that,

712
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 1: Like I want to tell the guy.

713
00:28:57,560 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 3: It's usually like some guy, some older white guy who's

714
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 3: like forty five.

715
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: He's probably looking at my raggedy bra like we're like

716
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 1: it's hanging out by like one one looper, and I'm like, so,

717
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: while you're back there, don't don't don't.

718
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 3: Take mention, make mention of my judge, Yeah, my raggedy bra.

719
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 1: So yeah, So I'm just I'm tired of raggedy underwear

720
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 1: and I'm ready to become an adult and have a

721
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 1: better experience because I remember and I won't say who

722
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 1: because you guys like she's kind of like semi well

723
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: known in the financial industry. Like we we roomed together

724
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,719
Speaker 1: at fenn Kind at the Financial Blockers conference, and we

725
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: were getting dressed and I was thoroughly ashamed. She had

726
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 1: like such a nice underwear. It wasn't like sexy underwear.

727
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 1: But I was like, hey, friends, she's a friend of mine.

728
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 1: What the hell is it how you look on the

729
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 1: day to day because it wasn't even a special day.

730
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 3: The I remember being like I actually went to the

731
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 3: bathroom to chain because I was like, you would not

732
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 3: see me her underwear was, so I was like, is

733
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 3: that how you normally look? Is this Are you going somewhere?

734
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 3: She was like now, And I was like, I'll be

735
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 3: right back. And I feel like you have.

736
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 4: To invest in the undergardments because they make you feel good.

737
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I am, so next time when I come, I'm

738
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be I'm gonna be like, hey, manny feeling

739
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 1: really good.

740
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 4: If I'm if my underwear don't fit, I'm having a

741
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 4: bad day. Like there was one day I'm not even kidding.

742
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 4: I bought underwear that were like a little too tight

743
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 4: in the thigh and then you sit down all day

744
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 4: and they got Yes, they cut like a dagger, and

745
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 4: I literally went to the bathroom and I ripped them, Yeah,

746
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 4: ripped them almost off.

747
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 3: I was like, I just can't do no. But you're

748
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 3: right though. Yeah, so yeah, no more granny panties for me.

749
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 2: Oh you're graduating.

750
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm a big girl now finally at thirty five

751
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 3: thirty six. Wow, old, you're.

752
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 4: Not that old, I know, but you're too old for

753
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:35,480
Speaker 4: pack under. What's your what I'll say, well, my brown break. Well,

754
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 4: there's kind of like two and one. One is procrastination. Okay,

755
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:42,400
Speaker 4: this is a personal like, uh, failing of my own

756
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 4: is that I procrastinate. I procrastinated it since I don't know,

757
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 4: I think I even came out of the womb late.

758
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 4: I and I feel like a lot of journalists procrastinating.

759
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 4: We're always on deadline, we always pushing to the last deadline.

760
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 4: But recently procrastinating has like been really just like making

761
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 4: my life so difficult. And I've been sleeping past my

762
00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:00,720
Speaker 4: alarm and I've been like and I'm doing it to myself,

763
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 4: and I'm like, God, why am I so behind?

764
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 3: God?

765
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,360
Speaker 4: I just hate being at work late all the time.

766
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 4: It's because I'm procrastinating. And I decided that this weekend,

767
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 4: on a weekend, and I haven't done this in a

768
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 4: long time, I'm actually gonna do work for the week

769
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 4: ahead on a Sunday and just like get my shit

770
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 4: together because going on vacation next Saturday. I'm so excited

771
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 4: about finally it's been almost a year and I just

772
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 4: want to feel a little bit better.

773
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 2: So I am making it my bit.

774
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 4: I'm gonna try and getting up, try and get up

775
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 4: an hour earlier this week to get ahead of things,

776
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 4: get to the office early. But the thing is, like

777
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 4: I do this maybe once every six months. I'm like,

778
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 4: I just got to get to work on time, and

779
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 4: I'm doing I do it for like maybe a month,

780
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 4: and I just continue back in.

781
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 2: My old ways.

782
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 4: So this is a struggle for me procrastination. I'm sure

783
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 4: you guys can really out there. And secondly is my taxes,

784
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 4: which kind of go hand in hand. I'm not really procrastinating.

785
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:54,800
Speaker 4: What I've been procrasting with my taxes is like getting

786
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 4: my life together and hiring a CPI hiring a tax person.

787
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 4: And this is a very first year. I found my tax.

788
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 2: Guy, Paul.

789
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 3: Did you what were you doing before.

790
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 2: I was doing Turbo tax or H and R block

791
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 2: or whatever it was.

792
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 3: Yah, h and R block. You guys would just leave

793
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 3: your fun there.

794
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 2: So I mean it was fine, Like I mean whatever,

795
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 2: it worked for me.

796
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 4: But this year I had things that are more complicated,

797
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 4: and last year, techn I had things that ever complicated.

798
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:20,959
Speaker 4: Last year too, I ended up owing a little bit,

799
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:22,760
Speaker 4: and I was like, I probably shouldn't have owed money

800
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 4: last year.

801
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 2: So I had my friend Paul. I mean, I hope

802
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 2: he's be my friend.

803
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 4: I'm going literally as soon as we wrap up here,

804
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 4: I'm going and taking all my little tax forms and

805
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 4: my expenses and going to the tax guy and hopefully

806
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 4: it'll be a good experience.

807
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 3: Yes, tax is honestly, let me tell you.

808
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 1: So when I first started, it was easy when I

809
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 1: was a teacher because I loved my tax guy, because

810
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 1: I came to him because I had touch great things

811
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 1: about him, and we had like so many mutual friends

812
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:47,720
Speaker 1: in common. And I came to him when I was

813
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 1: still teaching and he was like, you don't need me.

814
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 1: He was like, honestly, your return is so simple. So

815
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 1: and I liked that about him, So that, like was

816
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 1: one of the first reasons why I was like.

817
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 3: Oh, I like her.

818
00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 2: He was like, don't bore me.

819
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, So he told me used trouble tax. My dad

820
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 1: actually is a CPA and accountant. My dad's like I

821
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 1: told you but you know, you don't listen to that.

822
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 1: And so I was doing terrible tax and then Carlos

823
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 1: told me, when things get more complicated, then come see

824
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 1: me because I want you to you know, I want

825
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 1: to make sure that you maximize you know, what you

826
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 1: get back. And so when I started my business a budganista,

827
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.

828
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 3: I was the worst. For two years, I did not

829
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 3: do my taxes because I didn't even know I had.

830
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 3: I had no point of reference.

831
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 1: I had never you know, I had never had a

832
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 1: business before, so I not I had not collected what

833
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 1: I spent money on. I had not collected what I

834
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 1: even made. That was my biggest fear. I didn't even

835
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 1: know what I made. I'm like, well, how where we're

836
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 1: gonna pay taxes on? I had no record. And so

837
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:40,480
Speaker 1: Carlos is just the best. He's like he will like

838
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,720
Speaker 1: make home visits. So I was said, shopping at like

839
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 1: Shopwright and we live in like in the same neighborhood.

840
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 1: And two years he had been like calling me, like

841
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:48,160
Speaker 1: texting me, like come see me, come see me, and

842
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: I'd be like, noor, yes, he caught me at shop.

843
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 1: I was like, got you, yeah, and he told me.

844
00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: He said, Tippy, I did your taxes. I'm like, how

845
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 1: I've given you nothing, and he was like, no, that

846
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:05,480
Speaker 1: I didn't know this. But in July of like the

847
00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 1: tax year that you're working on. So in July of

848
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: twenty sixteen, he can go to and look and go

849
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 1: to the irs and say, hey, can you pull up

850
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: everything that Tiffany made, like because people were report, hey,

851
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:18,719
Speaker 1: I paid Tiffany, So he was able to pull up

852
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:19,040
Speaker 1: what I.

853
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 3: Made, oh, you know.

854
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,399
Speaker 1: And so that's how exactly I didn't know that because

855
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 1: I thought I was like, I don't have I don't

856
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 1: know what to show him because I didn't have anything.

857
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,879
Speaker 1: So he was able to do that. And I wasn't

858
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:29,800
Speaker 1: able to really make many deductions because I didn't have

859
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,359
Speaker 1: any proof of anything. But I had honestly not made much.

860
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:36,319
Speaker 1: So I think I owed like two thousand dollars each year,

861
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: so like four or five thousand dollars, So it wasn't

862
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,360
Speaker 1: so bad, you know. And then after that he was like,

863
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 1: you need to get a bookkeeper. And so that was

864
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 1: one of the biggest investments I made twenty fifteen. In January,

865
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:50,240
Speaker 1: I hired a bookkeeper and it was the best thing ever,

866
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 1: because I actually just saw Carlos on Friday and he

867
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,800
Speaker 1: was like, look at you. You're two years early according

868
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: to your schedule. But I'm not gonna lie because you worked.

869
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 1: Because I work for myself, I owe so much money

870
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 1: because I don't you know, you don't pay or I

871
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: wasn't paying ahead of time. But he told me that

872
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 1: that's the last year I can do that too, that

873
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: this year I have to start paying quarterly, he said,

874
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: because you're actually like once you make over a certain amount,

875
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 1: the government will start to find you by not paying regularly.

876
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 3: But I'm telling you, when I had to.

877
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: Write that check for my taxes, it literally what I

878
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 1: used to make a year as a teacher is what

879
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:20,880
Speaker 1: I paid in taxes.

880
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 2: And I was just saying, well, Sam, what bitch better

881
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 2: half his money?

882
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 3: What Uncle Sam is gangs? That's the real og.

883
00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 4: People are so afraid of taxes. It is they you know,

884
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 4: I deal with my dad every year. He's I don't know,

885
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:34,760
Speaker 4: I don't want to get in my dad's tax history,

886
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 4: but uh, there's like a lot of fear around it,

887
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 4: and you know they don't want to know the same

888
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 4: thing with checking like basic finances, people don't want to confront, like,

889
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:43,359
Speaker 4: if they haven't paid their taxes in a couple of years,

890
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:44,400
Speaker 4: filed in a couple of years.

891
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:44,680
Speaker 3: You're scary.

892
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 4: Sometimes you may have earned so little that you don't

893
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:50,760
Speaker 4: even have to file taxes. There's always different, but I'd

894
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 4: say so. The question I get a lot of times

895
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 4: is how do you find a tax person?

896
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 3: Yeah?

897
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:57,360
Speaker 2: I found mine like a really, I mean not the

898
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 2: best way. I didn't.

899
00:35:58,120 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 4: I don't have any friends who have a tax person.

900
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 4: The one friends, well, I have some who.

901
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 2: Have text people in other states.

902
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 4: I know I have you, but I wanted someone close by,

903
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 4: either near my office in Manhattan or in Queen's where

904
00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 4: I live. And I just went on Yelp and went

905
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 4: on Yelp, and I found a highly rated text guy,

906
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 4: and I went to his website. I checked all his credentials.

907
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:18,800
Speaker 4: I went, I did a walk by of his office

908
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 4: to make sure he had a storefront. And the reviews

909
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:24,839
Speaker 4: were fine, and I took a gamble, and I'll let

910
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:27,680
Speaker 4: you know next week if it works out. And one

911
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:29,840
Speaker 4: thing people ask too is how much do they charge?

912
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:32,359
Speaker 4: I think it depends on how complicated your taxes are.

913
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 4: I'm single, I just my income. It's a little complicated

914
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 4: this year because I have some investments and stuff, and

915
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 4: but for me, it's only two hundred dollars.

916
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, me too.

917
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,840
Speaker 4: All right, so now it's time for my favorite segment,

918
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 4: Tips Tips.

919
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 3: I don't know why I like to say that.

920
00:36:58,280 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: I like it. It's good.

921
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:03,920
Speaker 4: So today's question comes from Marquita. Thank you for emailing us. Marquita,

922
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 4: she says, Hey, ladies, first time. I love your podcast.

923
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:09,799
Speaker 4: Thank you very much. She's following Tiffany's Live Free, All

924
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 4: the Live Ritual challenge. She's too focused on saving to

925
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 4: get the name right. So she has the problem right

926
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 4: now with her husband. She is currently trying to purchase

927
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 4: their They're both currently trying to purchase their first home.

928
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 4: They have two children under.

929
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:29,440
Speaker 2: The age of four. Four. I can't speak today.

930
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 4: Let me start over, Marquita, She says. I'm going hard

931
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 4: and trying to stack up our money and cutting costs

932
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 4: and areas where it needs to be cut. My husband

933
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:40,959
Speaker 4: does not share the same ambition as I. Problem number

934
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:43,279
Speaker 4: one and he is not understanding that you have to

935
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:46,760
Speaker 4: sacrifice in order to obtain and maintain certain things in life.

936
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,120
Speaker 4: This is really putting a strain in our marriage because

937
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 4: it's because he is incapable of discussing money matters without

938
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 4: turning it into a big argument. I recently suggested we

939
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,760
Speaker 4: get rid of our digital cable and downgrade to basic

940
00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:01,319
Speaker 4: cable or looking to purchase sing a streaming stick like

941
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 4: Roku or Amazon Fire. This has caused a huge disagreement

942
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:06,720
Speaker 4: as he does not want to get rid of cable

943
00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 4: or even downgrade. I need help. How can I communicate

944
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 4: this information or trying to get him to understand that,

945
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 4: because of our income and other bills that we have

946
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:19,400
Speaker 4: to pay in all caps, that this is one step

947
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:23,799
Speaker 4: in reaching our homeowner goals. Thank you so first, Marquit.

948
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 1: Degre Yes, girl, you, me and Mandy have been here, right,

949
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 1: and sometimes we're still here.

950
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:29,800
Speaker 3: Yeah.

951
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 1: Right.

952
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 3: So we talked about this, like I think the first episode,

953
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 3: so right, We've.

954
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:36,840
Speaker 2: Talked about like what it's like to do couples and money.

955
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 1: So Mandy's recently engaged. But I'm sure you know because

956
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:42,959
Speaker 1: you listen and you know me and Superman we live together,

957
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 1: have been together two years. And I'm gonna say we're

958
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: recently engaged too, because I'm putting it out there.

959
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 3: You are now you shall say face.

960
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 1: I'm just saying next I always stop him, like, so

961
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 1: I can't wait for that ring, and he's liked, you know,

962
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: women ask men to get married too.

963
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, I don't know what they do.

964
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 2: It's coming, so Marquita, so to me.

965
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 1: So when I first started with drug because obviously I

966
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:09,360
Speaker 1: with Superman, I you know, I teach financial education.

967
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 3: I'm the budgetista. And it was.

968
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 1: Hard at first because he would always tell me everyone's

969
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 1: not a budgetnista. And he was probably similar to your husband,

970
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,280
Speaker 1: like downgrading cable rather die.

971
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:22,280
Speaker 3: And just was a big spender.

972
00:39:24,120 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 1: And so what I had to because in the beginning

973
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 1: I was just a big nag and that's probably what

974
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:32,799
Speaker 1: you sound like, you know. So what I learned was

975
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 1: to try to find some space in which he was

976
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 1: okay with saving. So for example, like I would travel

977
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 1: a lot, and he wanted to start coming, you know,

978
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:46,959
Speaker 1: and so I said, oh, you know, we should open

979
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 1: up a savings account online we use ally, so that

980
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:53,479
Speaker 1: way we can put like a little bit of money

981
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:55,319
Speaker 1: there every month, so next time we if you want

982
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 1: to go on vacation, we can just pay for that

983
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:57,800
Speaker 1: of the account.

984
00:39:58,360 --> 00:39:59,320
Speaker 3: He liked that idea.

985
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:01,319
Speaker 1: That was like the very first thing that he was

986
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 1: on board with and so we started putting like twenty

987
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,480
Speaker 1: five bucks a month apiece in that savings account, and

988
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: we opened a joint savings account, and then all of

989
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 1: a sudden, the savings account after us being together for

990
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 1: two years. He said the other day, like, you know what,

991
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:16,359
Speaker 1: that should be her home account. And that came from him.

992
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 1: So I had to learn to kind of like get

993
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 1: in where he felt comfortable and massaged my way through

994
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: right and Mandy, when you first started talking about money.

995
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 4: Well, I don't feel like it's fair for me to

996
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 4: compare myself to Marquita, because it's a whole different situation

997
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 4: for her. She's been married for five years and they

998
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 4: have two kids under the age of four, and it's

999
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 4: really it. I can't even imagine how tough it must

1000
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 4: be for you, Marquita, because your goals aren't in line.

1001
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:44,800
Speaker 4: You have a family with this person, but he doesn't

1002
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 4: want the same things you do financially. It sounds like

1003
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 4: you really really want a house and he maybe isn't

1004
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:53,439
Speaker 4: so into it. You sort of call that year goal,

1005
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,400
Speaker 4: and I feel like that's for this whole everything is

1006
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,880
Speaker 4: stemming from this disagreement you're fighting over the Amazon fires.

1007
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 4: Versus cable because your goals are out of line, and

1008
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 4: I think that's where you have to sit down together

1009
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 4: and talk about what are your goals. He may be

1010
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:12,359
Speaker 4: fine with how things are. You want more, and he's

1011
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 4: either going to be supportive of that or he's not

1012
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 4: going to be supportive.

1013
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:17,439
Speaker 3: I'd be curious to know does he want to own

1014
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:17,759
Speaker 3: a home?

1015
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:20,359
Speaker 2: I don't think it doesn't sound like he does.

1016
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 1: Well, that doesn't necessarily mean like when I first met Superman,

1017
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 1: I remember saying I wanted to buy a home, and

1018
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 1: he was like adverse to that, like, woll what for?

1019
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 1: And so to me, it's just about constantly talking. But

1020
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: I had, I honestly had to learn to stop to

1021
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 1: talk and listen to actually have a conversation. It was

1022
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: more like I was always preaching, you know, and I

1023
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 1: don't know that that's your issue more quita, But I

1024
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 1: was always preaching and he was always like on the

1025
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 1: other end, like here she goes again. So I had

1026
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:49,360
Speaker 1: to finally learn how to actually have a conversation. And

1027
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:53,239
Speaker 1: a conversation is I speak. When I stop speaking, I'm

1028
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 1: actually listening. I'm not just waiting to speak again, listening

1029
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: and ingesting adjusting, what I'm going to say based upon

1030
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 1: what you're actually saying and compromising. So in the beginning,

1031
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 1: it was fine, I'll safification. Then it was okay, you

1032
00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 1: know what, I want to put money? So he has

1033
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 1: a daughter, she's eight, and I want to put money

1034
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 1: in Supergirl's account.

1035
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:16,560
Speaker 3: So I was like, you know what, you should.

1036
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:19,759
Speaker 1: Go to your to your job and tell them to

1037
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: split your paycheck. Some of it is going to go

1038
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:24,319
Speaker 1: in Supergirls account. And you know the money that we

1039
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 1: said we're gonna put in our joint travel account, why

1040
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 1: don't you just split that in our paycheck too. So

1041
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 1: that was like, that was like a huge It took

1042
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 1: about a year in and that was huge, Like, Okay,

1043
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:36,440
Speaker 1: he gets paid, some of the money automatically goes into

1044
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 1: a Supergirl's account and some into our.

1045
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:39,319
Speaker 3: Account, and so that was huge.

1046
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: And we wrapped out like that for like six months,

1047
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:43,840
Speaker 1: and then we just began talking more and we started

1048
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 1: sitting down and writing down plans, and I started asking

1049
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:49,240
Speaker 1: him what do you want? I remember the biggest, biggest,

1050
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 1: like kind of like not fight, but he really wants

1051
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:55,440
Speaker 1: like he's really into cars, you know, and he wanted

1052
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,000
Speaker 1: to like lease and buy way Before I thought we

1053
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 1: could afford it, and so it was like it was

1054
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,239
Speaker 1: a battle because it does not make financial sense for

1055
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 1: us to get a car. How you know, you're just

1056
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 1: gonna get into more debt. You already have debt just

1057
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 1: to get a car. And so that was a battle.

1058
00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 1: And now this is the year, you know, we can

1059
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: afford to get a car. And I told him, because

1060
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 1: you know, he was patient. You know that he can

1061
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 1: pick like what that car is going to be, you know,

1062
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 1: And I don't know. It's not easy, and it doesn't

1063
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 1: mean that your marriage or whatever is not going to work.

1064
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 1: I just think that you have to find a common

1065
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: ground before you can start helping to shift him towards

1066
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 1: some other way. That really is critical of finding that

1067
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 1: one common point that you could both be on the

1068
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 1: same page with, you.

1069
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 4: Know, right, I think the turning point for us one

1070
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,239
Speaker 4: thing that we did so actually, for a story I

1071
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 4: was writing, I went to this seminar for couples, and

1072
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 4: of course I dragged him along because I wanted to

1073
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 4: try it out and then write about it.

1074
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 2: Wasn't helpful.

1075
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 4: It was a seminar put on by the Society of

1076
00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 4: Grown Ups, which is this society of grown ups they

1077
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 4: do a bunch of different It's based out of Boston,

1078
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 4: and they do a bunch of these like little dinner

1079
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 4: parties with young people and they talk about everything from

1080
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 4: how to travel on a budget to how to buy

1081
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:12,160
Speaker 4: your first home. And this particular dinner was about couples

1082
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 4: and finances and it was about maybe like eight couples

1083
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 4: including us, sitting around and having like a nice dinner

1084
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 4: and wine and they had drinks. But before we even

1085
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:24,359
Speaker 4: did this, you have to go on to Syday grown

1086
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 4: Ups dot Com and you you both as a couple,

1087
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:29,319
Speaker 4: fill out this like timeline thing where you put they

1088
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 4: had like a little icon for a house and for

1089
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 4: marriage and for kids or whatever, these goals, travel, retirement,

1090
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:35,960
Speaker 4: and then you put them in line with the year

1091
00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 4: that you expect to accomplish at or whatever whatever. And

1092
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 4: for him and I to sit next to each other,

1093
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 4: that was the first time I knew that he wanted

1094
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 4: to get married within the next year or two. And

1095
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:49,280
Speaker 4: I was like, you know, and I was the first

1096
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:51,279
Speaker 4: time we had I mean, we kind of had an

1097
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 4: idea we wanted to take that step. But for me

1098
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:56,800
Speaker 4: to see his timeline, it was eye opening to me

1099
00:44:57,440 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 4: good and it was because we used this tool. And

1100
00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 4: I mean you don't have to use the tool. It's

1101
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 4: if you want to. It's a scie Dave grown ups

1102
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 4: dot com. They probably still have it up there for couples.

1103
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:05,399
Speaker 2: And it's free.

1104
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 4: You don't have to like take their class, which is

1105
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 4: cheap by the way, But I would say you don't

1106
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 4: have to use this tool, but you can sit down

1107
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:16,279
Speaker 4: and one sort of goal at a time and and

1108
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 4: try not. I know, it's really hard when you know

1109
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 4: you're right and you know you got to cut back

1110
00:45:20,600 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 4: on that cable and you sit down, you're like, let's

1111
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:24,839
Speaker 4: talk about this. We got to buy a house. What

1112
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 4: are you going to do to help? Like, you have

1113
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:29,839
Speaker 4: to really try and be calm, ease him into it.

1114
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:34,279
Speaker 4: Do not be condescending or patronizing even though you know

1115
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 4: you're right, or.

1116
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,120
Speaker 3: Really strong arming, like men don't want to be strong.

1117
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 4: Armed, yeah, or don't don't don't threaten him, like if

1118
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 4: you don't, then I'm going to or you know, be

1119
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 4: make it a negative thing. Just find out when he

1120
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:48,239
Speaker 4: expects to buy a house, and then maybe it's a

1121
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:50,719
Speaker 4: point where maybe what would help you guys is once

1122
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:53,720
Speaker 4: you sort of get an idea of your goals, perhaps

1123
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 4: bringing in someone else like a financial advisor, or like

1124
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,799
Speaker 4: a one one time meeting with the financial expert. Who

1125
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:01,600
Speaker 4: can going to be the bad.

1126
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,799
Speaker 1: Guy or just I get in the and also too,

1127
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 1: like I think also I always say like find the

1128
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 1: find his not his weak link, but like find the

1129
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 1: one thing that moves him. You know, everybody always has

1130
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 1: something like like for Superman it was his daughter. Like

1131
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 1: if I was saying, hey, you should be saving money

1132
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: for your daughter, there was never any pushback for that

1133
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 1: because that's a find a button, yes, And so I

1134
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 1: was like, oh God, just hold your kids.

1135
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:26,680
Speaker 2: Up in front of him and be like these are

1136
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 2: your children, where.

1137
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:28,799
Speaker 3: Are they going to sleep right?

1138
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 1: Or like you know, or just whatever that is, and

1139
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 1: then use that as the entrance in. And then too,

1140
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,359
Speaker 1: I also learned because sometimes this is what I'll get

1141
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 1: from women. So I'm not saying this is what you're doing, Marquita,

1142
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 1: but I would teach a class. I remember it was

1143
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:41,759
Speaker 1: a young couple and they were kind of going through

1144
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 1: this talking about like.

1145
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:44,279
Speaker 3: What do we do? He doesn't want to save. I

1146
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:44,759
Speaker 3: want to save.

1147
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:47,319
Speaker 1: And as I dug a little deeper, I realized she

1148
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 1: was pushing too much so I said, you know, are

1149
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:50,720
Speaker 1: the bills paid?

1150
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 3: Yes?

1151
00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:54,279
Speaker 1: Has he set aside for a retirement, like, does he

1152
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 1: have money coming out? She said yes, and he's sitting

1153
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 1: there like yep. I'm like, you know, it's at least

1154
00:46:58,719 --> 00:47:01,359
Speaker 1: some money being a set aside for some savings, maybe

1155
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:03,400
Speaker 1: not as much as you like, she said yes, I

1156
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:03,719
Speaker 1: said it.

1157
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 3: So he has the three core components.

1158
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 1: So let's not act like he's not doing anything right, right, Yeah,

1159
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: you know, like acknowledge the fact that retirement bills, savings

1160
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 1: at least, even if it's small, those things are happening.

1161
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 3: And then from there, I was like, you know, let

1162
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 3: him rock.

1163
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 1: Out there, and then you can push in one direction

1164
00:47:20,719 --> 00:47:22,919
Speaker 1: like okay, so instead of twenty five bucks a month,

1165
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 1: let's do thirty five. Then, you know, a few months later,

1166
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:27,799
Speaker 1: let's do fifty. And I told her too, is that

1167
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 1: if he agrees to that fifty, let him live all

1168
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 1: the other cuttings and that no, no, why, like everybody's

1169
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 1: not you. I have to finally learn that from myself.

1170
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 1: Everyone is not a budgetize to everyone is not. If

1171
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 1: Superman is paying his bills, if he has money set

1172
00:47:42,640 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 1: aside for retirement, and he's in putting money in the

1173
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 1: savings accounts. Well day if he wants to. We have

1174
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:50,319
Speaker 1: full cable. I've never had a cable before where we

1175
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 1: have full When I say full cable everything, but you

1176
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 1: know what those other things are taken care of. So

1177
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, everybody can't live at your schedule and pace.

1178
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 1: As long as those core thinks they're being handled, then

1179
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 1: that's what I would focus on.

1180
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 3: All I do is when when win, no matter.

1181
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:20,400
Speaker 2: What, got money on my mind and I never give up.

1182
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 1: Yes, well you never came with the second line. I

1183
00:48:26,960 --> 00:48:28,000
Speaker 1: didn't even know the second line?

1184
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 3: Is that right?

1185
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:29,120
Speaker 2: Did I say it right?

1186
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1187
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:32,359
Speaker 1: I just don't even know, but it's right now. Many

1188
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 1: did Many did the Black Girl head roll just so

1189
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 1: you know.

1190
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:35,360
Speaker 3: She said.

1191
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, when win win, So I hope that you well,

1192
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:43,759
Speaker 1: I don't know. I won't say I hope, but I

1193
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 1: watched some of the Grammys and I.

1194
00:48:47,680 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 3: Was bored for those of it.

1195
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 1: But Kendrick Lamar, first of all, congratulations for winning, right

1196
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 1: because he won more than one when he won three,

1197
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 1: which is.

1198
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 3: Which is well deserved. Obviously.

1199
00:48:58,360 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 4: You know who else one just real quick to see

1200
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 4: McLaurin the woman I saw perform at from Valentine's Day.

1201
00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:06,360
Speaker 4: She wanted Grammy for Best Jazz Album. Okay, check it

1202
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 4: out for One to Love Okay.

1203
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 1: So, but his performance was just it just was so

1204
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:15,960
Speaker 1: in alignment with the Kendrick Lamar that you know we

1205
00:49:16,040 --> 00:49:19,240
Speaker 1: have come to I have come to love and admire,

1206
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 1: and it just spoke like volumes and it just was

1207
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 1: so well done.

1208
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:25,680
Speaker 3: And the imagery.

1209
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 2: Yea hand cuffs.

1210
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:28,359
Speaker 4: Then they brought out like the traditional what were they

1211
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 4: the African I think drummers and dancers and the fire burning.

1212
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:33,400
Speaker 1: Yes, and then at the end when it was like

1213
00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:36,200
Speaker 1: comptent on Africa and it just was win on win

1214
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:36,759
Speaker 1: on win on win.

1215
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:40,319
Speaker 4: I said, yes, yes, yes, I saw someone tweet or

1216
00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:43,839
Speaker 4: say on Facebook that this was peak Black History months. Yes,

1217
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:46,720
Speaker 4: from Kendrick to Beyonce to Black Lives Matter.

1218
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 1: Did you see like the people like the audience. Did

1219
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:50,720
Speaker 1: you see like some of there was like funny memes

1220
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:53,360
Speaker 1: of like people in the audience. Nine brown people in

1221
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:55,319
Speaker 1: the audience were like perplex like.

1222
00:49:56,080 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 3: Those were.

1223
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 1: Adele.

1224
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 2: Adele gave him a shout out at the end. Oh,

1225
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:02,720
Speaker 2: poor Adele.

1226
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 3: I know I heard about that. I didn't watch it.

1227
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:05,920
Speaker 2: I watched it.

1228
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:08,759
Speaker 4: It was horb No, it was the microphone fell on

1229
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 4: top of the piano during her singing and she froze.

1230
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 4: She could have like fixed it or stopped it, but

1231
00:50:14,760 --> 00:50:17,840
Speaker 4: she said she was just like she just froze on TV.

1232
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 4: So she just kept going and the pitch was all off.

1233
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:22,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then she just you know that again.

1234
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 2: She called out Kendrick. So I love you Kendrick lamar.

1235
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 1: Oh.

1236
00:50:26,200 --> 00:50:27,360
Speaker 3: But you know what I love about Adele.

1237
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 1: It's like, even if she was pitched off, let's be real,

1238
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 1: she can blow Like no one's gonna be like, I.

1239
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:32,239
Speaker 3: Don't know if a duck can sing.

1240
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:34,919
Speaker 1: Okay, it's not like Rihanna, who you're like, well, don't

1241
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 1: come back to me, Rihanna stands.

1242
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:38,880
Speaker 4: If Rihanna holds a pitch, then we are like impressed.

1243
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 1: Yes, but with Adll, Okay, you had it off day,

1244
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:43,200
Speaker 1: but we all know that you have an amazing voice.

1245
00:50:43,239 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 3: Though so much pressure on her, I know, but I

1246
00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:47,759
Speaker 3: just you know what, I just love about her. Her

1247
00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:50,800
Speaker 3: personality just seems so like regular and night, doesn't. She

1248
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 3: just seem so nice.

1249
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would definitely want to like have a cup

1250
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 2: of tea.

1251
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, for martini and whenever someone tries to like pit

1252
00:50:57,000 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 1: her again someone else, She's like, Beyonce, Yeah, she's actually

1253
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 1: I think she's amazing. She just I've never heard her

1254
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 1: just like be mean.

1255
00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:06,640
Speaker 2: She has no reason.

1256
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 4: I feel like when you're at her level, when people

1257
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 4: are at that level, there's no like, there's a reason

1258
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 4: why they're not talking about it when else they don't

1259
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:14,560
Speaker 4: have to, you know, to people who.

1260
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:15,400
Speaker 2: Are talking smack about it.

1261
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:19,840
Speaker 4: Even mister Kanye, who thinks that his doesn't singing, he

1262
00:51:19,920 --> 00:51:21,920
Speaker 4: spends a lot of time talking trash about other people

1263
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:22,600
Speaker 4: other people.

1264
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:24,720
Speaker 3: And meanwhile, I don't even know how this new album

1265
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 3: have you? Have you heard it?

1266
00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 2: I've heard it's really good, but I haven't listened yet.

1267
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:29,840
Speaker 2: I'm so dumb. I mean, I love his music.

1268
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:32,520
Speaker 3: I do, but at the same time that's a problem.

1269
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:34,759
Speaker 1: But you know what, though, a good friend of his,

1270
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:36,239
Speaker 1: who was his friend for a while said, actually that

1271
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:37,799
Speaker 1: Kanye really does need professional help.

1272
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:39,040
Speaker 3: But I'm like, I think we kind of knew that,

1273
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:40,759
Speaker 3: But no, his friend was like, no, not even in a.

1274
00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:43,640
Speaker 2: He's going maybe since his mother died, he's just like

1275
00:51:43,719 --> 00:51:44,439
Speaker 2: lost his mind.

1276
00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:46,279
Speaker 1: And you know what, though Kanye might have had an

1277
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:50,200
Speaker 1: undiagnosed mental illness that has only been aggravated by fame

1278
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:52,400
Speaker 1: and loss of yep and loss, and you know what

1279
00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:55,439
Speaker 1: I mean. And so because he does not seek Yeah,

1280
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:56,839
Speaker 1: I was gonna say that, but I didn't even want

1281
00:51:56,840 --> 00:51:57,359
Speaker 1: to give them that.

1282
00:51:57,440 --> 00:51:58,440
Speaker 2: I don't know who's crazier.

1283
00:51:58,480 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 3: Now.

1284
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 4: He makes Kim and the family look the same. The

1285
00:52:02,719 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 4: family is very like, they're very regularly tight knit. I'll

1286
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:08,239
Speaker 4: give them that, like they support each other, but like

1287
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:09,760
Speaker 4: he's making them look feel regular.

1288
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:12,800
Speaker 3: The fact that you can make the kardash look like

1289
00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:15,279
Speaker 3: regular people. Yeah, like you're the crazy one, Kane, Like

1290
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 3: I'm worried.

1291
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:18,719
Speaker 2: For North, Yes, for real, she's gonna be insane.

1292
00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:22,239
Speaker 4: No, I think Beyonce and just like make her big

1293
00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:24,279
Speaker 4: blue Ivy stepsister and just like adopt her.

1294
00:52:24,280 --> 00:52:26,359
Speaker 3: I was gonna run away from home like I'm here,

1295
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 3: I'm here in.

1296
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 4: The private jets. She's gonna take the jets leave. Oh God,

1297
00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:34,279
Speaker 4: So what's your win? My win for this week? It's

1298
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:37,280
Speaker 4: a it's a it's a book. Uh, it's a book

1299
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 4: recommendation and a win all tied together. I have been

1300
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 4: finding it really hard to find some time to read

1301
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:44,719
Speaker 4: books lately, and I've had this one on my desk.

1302
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:47,920
Speaker 4: It's called The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhymes, and

1303
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:50,320
Speaker 4: I've just kind of been putting it off for two reasons. One,

1304
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:52,160
Speaker 4: I felt like I knew it was. What it was

1305
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:53,399
Speaker 4: going to say is like.

1306
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:56,440
Speaker 2: Be open to opportunity, improve yourself. You know you can

1307
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:57,239
Speaker 2: always do better.

1308
00:52:58,040 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 4: And two it was just the fact that I hadn't

1309
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 4: had time I like sit down and actually read something

1310
00:53:01,680 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 4: that I wanted to read for a little while since Christmas.

1311
00:53:04,560 --> 00:53:06,799
Speaker 4: Really when I had time off and I finally said

1312
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 4: I want to read this, and I downloaded the audiobook

1313
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:13,319
Speaker 4: because I listened to podcasts, I listened to music on

1314
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:15,839
Speaker 4: my headphones. I was like, I'll download the audiobook and

1315
00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:18,960
Speaker 4: it's amazing. It is the best and it's about a

1316
00:53:18,960 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 4: seven hour long audiobook, and I'm I have an hour

1317
00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 4: or so left and I started on Monday.

1318
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:26,359
Speaker 2: She's the way that she writes. First of all, it's

1319
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 2: not the.

1320
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 4: Self help book like you would think it would be.

1321
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:31,480
Speaker 4: It's not like she is saying and on day one,

1322
00:53:31,560 --> 00:53:33,720
Speaker 4: here's what you're going to do. It's really her journey.

1323
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:36,680
Speaker 4: And she came from a place of owning Thursday night

1324
00:53:36,719 --> 00:53:40,319
Speaker 4: television being like the most all these accolades coming her

1325
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:43,360
Speaker 4: way for you know, revolutionizing quote unquote the way that

1326
00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:46,600
Speaker 4: people look on television and the characters that she creates

1327
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:49,120
Speaker 4: and writing these three shows, running these three shows at

1328
00:53:49,120 --> 00:53:51,600
Speaker 4: the pinnacle of success for her, and she says she

1329
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:54,200
Speaker 4: had never been more unhappy in her entire life. She

1330
00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:57,080
Speaker 4: was the heaviest she'd ever been in her weight. She

1331
00:53:57,160 --> 00:54:00,319
Speaker 4: had completely isolated herself from any and all social ati.

1332
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 4: She always had excuses not to go out, and it's

1333
00:54:03,520 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 4: really her her literal.

1334
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:06,320
Speaker 2: Year of yes.

1335
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:08,839
Speaker 4: She one day when she was at her sister's house

1336
00:54:08,880 --> 00:54:12,279
Speaker 4: for Thanksgiving, her sister, she has got her sister for Thanksgiving,

1337
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 4: and she's talking about all these invitations she's gotten, goays,

1338
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:17,000
Speaker 4: awards and these dinners and stuff, and her sister looks

1339
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:17,360
Speaker 4: at her and.

1340
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:19,279
Speaker 2: Says, you know what, you say no to everything.

1341
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 4: And you know how when people tell you stuff for

1342
00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:23,919
Speaker 4: a long time, but just like this, all of a sudden,

1343
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 4: the one time you really hear it. And so she

1344
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:30,360
Speaker 4: really heard it, and she realized that she had to change,

1345
00:54:30,360 --> 00:54:32,600
Speaker 4: and so she spent said the next year saying yes

1346
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 4: to everything.

1347
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 2: That freaked her out.

1348
00:54:34,520 --> 00:54:36,839
Speaker 4: So and it helped me realize all the because I've

1349
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 4: grown to love Seanda this year, because she's been out there.

1350
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 4: I've seen her and Jimmy Kimmel. I saw her give

1351
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:44,839
Speaker 4: that speech at the Human Rights Campaign. I saw her

1352
00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:48,880
Speaker 4: give the speech of the Women of Hollywood Hollywood Reporter Awards.

1353
00:54:48,920 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 4: I saw her with that amazing commencement speech she gave

1354
00:54:51,560 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 4: for the Duke or Sorry Dartmouth last Summer, All or

1355
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:57,319
Speaker 4: Not last Summer. This was two summers ago. Now, the

1356
00:54:57,400 --> 00:54:59,880
Speaker 4: year of Yes. All of that happened in the year

1357
00:54:59,880 --> 00:55:00,319
Speaker 4: of Yes.

1358
00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:01,960
Speaker 3: Oh, I want to I want to read her book now.

1359
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:05,240
Speaker 4: It's really good. And if you've ever been like Shells,

1360
00:55:05,360 --> 00:55:07,640
Speaker 4: she calls it the f O D. That's what she

1361
00:55:07,640 --> 00:55:11,560
Speaker 4: calls herself. It's called first Only stands for first only Different,

1362
00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:14,080
Speaker 4: And that's how she felt being, you know, one a

1363
00:55:14,080 --> 00:55:16,239
Speaker 4: few black one of like the only black kids in

1364
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 4: the school, one of the few women, let alone black

1365
00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:22,400
Speaker 4: women at the writer's table in Hollywood. First only Different,

1366
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:25,400
Speaker 4: like the characters on her show, Carrie Washington being the

1367
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:28,960
Speaker 4: first only black woman to really run to star on

1368
00:55:29,000 --> 00:55:33,520
Speaker 4: a show in like thirty years on network television. So

1369
00:55:33,560 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 4: the book and it's not just about you know, working

1370
00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 4: through and saying yes to all these sort of like

1371
00:55:37,760 --> 00:55:40,880
Speaker 4: promotional things, but she talks about being a little girl

1372
00:55:40,920 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 4: and growing up being like different. She would just play

1373
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 4: in the pantry and write stories and then you know,

1374
00:55:45,680 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 4: finding her tribe finally, like she had me in tears,

1375
00:55:48,600 --> 00:55:50,480
Speaker 4: you know, And I want to listen to it now.

1376
00:55:50,640 --> 00:55:52,279
Speaker 4: It's it's an amazing and I would really I would

1377
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:55,720
Speaker 4: recommend the audiobook because I just the way that she talks.

1378
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 4: She really talks in her real voice. You feel like

1379
00:55:57,600 --> 00:55:59,760
Speaker 4: she's sitting there, I want to just telling you her life.

1380
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:01,959
Speaker 3: You listen to the audio on like what your phone

1381
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:02,319
Speaker 3: or your.

1382
00:56:02,440 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 4: So I have an app called Audible, okay, and I

1383
00:56:04,560 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 4: mean if you go to audible dot com you can

1384
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 4: sign up for a free thirty day trial to give

1385
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 4: you a free download and then she has to cancel

1386
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 4: it afterwards.

1387
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 3: Audible needs to be a sponsor. No, it's sincerely because

1388
00:56:14,560 --> 00:56:15,319
Speaker 3: we have like our book.

1389
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:17,000
Speaker 2: Oh Audible they do they do U.

1390
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, they do Audible. So if anybody works at Audible

1391
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:21,840
Speaker 3: knows Audible. You know what. Actually I lived down the

1392
00:56:21,840 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 3: street from Audible.

1393
00:56:22,960 --> 00:56:25,920
Speaker 2: That's right, just stop on by.

1394
00:56:26,080 --> 00:56:28,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, hey, can I sit the CEO real quick? So

1395
00:56:28,680 --> 00:56:30,719
Speaker 3: we've got this little podcast. It's doing good.

1396
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:33,359
Speaker 1: I'd love to because we love reading over here. So

1397
00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:35,640
Speaker 1: we have to get back to our book suggestions we do.

1398
00:56:35,840 --> 00:56:39,000
Speaker 4: So here's my official book suggestion. You're Yes by Shonda Rhymes.

1399
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:40,440
Speaker 4: And it's short too, even if you don't want to

1400
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:43,240
Speaker 4: do the audiobook. It's maybe a few hundred pages. Okay,

1401
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:46,879
Speaker 4: excellent book, like and I haven't really cried it a book,

1402
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:49,279
Speaker 4: and I feel like I've become kind of cynical. That's

1403
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:50,440
Speaker 4: one of the reasons they didn't want to read the

1404
00:56:50,440 --> 00:56:52,919
Speaker 4: book in the first place. But she really she makes

1405
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 4: everything so real. At one point she's telling you how

1406
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:56,799
Speaker 4: bad as she is. The other time she's telling you

1407
00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:58,719
Speaker 4: how she's sitting on a bed eating a hole in

1408
00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 4: tirebox at thin mints and popcorn and wine and just

1409
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 4: like sobbing and watching Doctor Who.

1410
00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:05,319
Speaker 2: Like she's real.

1411
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:08,520
Speaker 4: It's a real, real, raw, raw, raw story. And I've

1412
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:11,160
Speaker 4: I've been that person so many times. And if you

1413
00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:13,080
Speaker 4: ever have, like, if you've ever had the dark twisty

1414
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:16,000
Speaker 4: time in your life, yes, you'll really it'll resonate with it.

1415
00:57:16,040 --> 00:57:18,640
Speaker 1: And sometimes it's dark twisty times come when on the

1416
00:57:18,680 --> 00:57:21,640
Speaker 1: outside it looks the best isn't that crazy. I can't

1417
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:22,880
Speaker 1: tell you how many times when people will be like,

1418
00:57:22,920 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 1: oh my god, I remember like this year was pretty

1419
00:57:26,480 --> 00:57:29,640
Speaker 1: was pretty good. But I remember before i'd met Superman

1420
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 1: or before we started dating, it was like New Year's

1421
00:57:32,560 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 1: and I was in my room like bawling because it

1422
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:37,280
Speaker 1: had been like the best year I had ever ever had.

1423
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:40,240
Speaker 3: Everything looked amazing from the outside, and I was.

1424
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:43,760
Speaker 1: In my room like my life sucks, yeah, And I

1425
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 1: just remember being like, what the hell I'm the loneliest.

1426
00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 1: I feel so isolated. I feel like nobody really cares

1427
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 1: about Tiffany, like not me personally, you know. I just

1428
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:55,480
Speaker 1: felt like, how can everything look so great on the outside,

1429
00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 1: all these accomplishments, and yet my life sucks. And I

1430
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:00,400
Speaker 1: just remember crying myself to sleep on New yeark being

1431
00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:01,720
Speaker 1: like I can't live another year like this.

1432
00:58:01,840 --> 00:58:03,280
Speaker 3: And then that was the next year that I was.

1433
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:05,840
Speaker 1: Like, I'm going to make a conscious effort not to

1434
00:58:05,880 --> 00:58:08,800
Speaker 1: be like I don't know, just like to live this

1435
00:58:08,880 --> 00:58:11,760
Speaker 1: like solitary life that's just about business.

1436
00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:12,320
Speaker 3: And will you.

1437
00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:13,760
Speaker 2: Said no to dark time?

1438
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 4: Yes, Seana is all about it's a choice coming out

1439
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:18,760
Speaker 4: of darkness. Some people have a really hard time depression.

1440
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:20,880
Speaker 2: It's real. It is real, and some people have they

1441
00:58:20,920 --> 00:58:21,560
Speaker 2: need help.

1442
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 4: They need a tribe. She calls out her people, her tribe.

1443
00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 4: They need someone to pull them out of that dark,

1444
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 4: twisted spot. Yeah, you know, kind of related. I watched

1445
00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:30,800
Speaker 4: the Amy Winehouse documentary.

1446
00:58:30,800 --> 00:58:31,919
Speaker 3: I want to watch it? Is that good?

1447
00:58:32,240 --> 00:58:33,360
Speaker 2: So it's on Amazon Prime.

1448
00:58:33,400 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 4: It's really good. You know what's incredible. It was so

1449
00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:39,000
Speaker 4: moving to me because they you hear a lot of

1450
00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:41,640
Speaker 4: people talking about Amy, but the entire movie, the entire

1451
00:58:41,680 --> 00:58:42,880
Speaker 4: documentary is pretty.

1452
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:43,920
Speaker 2: Much old footage of Amy.

1453
00:58:44,120 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 4: Love it so you're seeing her. They zoom it on

1454
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:48,200
Speaker 4: her face and her eyes. You really get to know

1455
00:58:48,280 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 4: the person. Like see there, because I will speak. You know,

1456
00:58:51,640 --> 00:58:53,880
Speaker 4: when Amy Winehouse was going through her crazy time, I

1457
00:58:54,000 --> 00:58:55,840
Speaker 4: was like everybody else laughing about it when they did

1458
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:58,480
Speaker 4: jokes about it on like SNL or on like the

1459
00:58:58,560 --> 00:59:00,919
Speaker 4: late night TV shows and all the gossip and looking

1460
00:59:00,920 --> 00:59:03,600
Speaker 4: at the terrible photos and like, wow, she's going crazy.

1461
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:06,120
Speaker 4: But I was a human woman. Yeah, she had all

1462
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:08,800
Speaker 4: these toxic people around her who weren't not helping her

1463
00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:11,120
Speaker 4: get the help she needed, preventing her even from getting

1464
00:59:11,120 --> 00:59:11,880
Speaker 4: the help she needed.

1465
00:59:13,040 --> 00:59:13,080
Speaker 1: It.

1466
00:59:13,680 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 4: It's good, did you ever watch the Michael Jackson I

1467
00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:17,880
Speaker 4: watched The Michael Jackson Good.

1468
00:59:18,000 --> 00:59:20,400
Speaker 1: Were you just like, first of all, we obviously you're

1469
00:59:20,400 --> 00:59:22,920
Speaker 1: already like Michael Jackson's amazing, and then you're like if

1470
00:59:22,960 --> 00:59:25,320
Speaker 1: I could not think he was more amazing as an artist,

1471
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:28,440
Speaker 1: it just makes you realize, like, what what a genius

1472
00:59:28,480 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 1: he was in this space.

1473
00:59:29,720 --> 00:59:31,919
Speaker 4: And how hard he worked from like the age of five.

1474
00:59:32,080 --> 00:59:35,360
Speaker 4: So that's the documentaries on Showtime, yes or HBO.

1475
00:59:35,440 --> 00:59:36,240
Speaker 3: I think it was Showtime.

1476
00:59:36,480 --> 00:59:39,680
Speaker 4: It's called Off the Wall and Spike Lee directed it,

1477
00:59:39,760 --> 00:59:42,240
Speaker 4: and it's so good, and it's the time period that

1478
00:59:42,280 --> 00:59:44,560
Speaker 4: I didn't see. I always knew Thriller and beyond Michael,

1479
00:59:45,160 --> 00:59:47,240
Speaker 4: and uh so I never really knew Off the Wall

1480
00:59:47,320 --> 00:59:50,600
Speaker 4: Michael or the Jackson five Michael, and uh yeah, my

1481
00:59:50,720 --> 00:59:53,840
Speaker 4: dad came from to show my dad he loves Michael. Afterward,

1482
00:59:53,880 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 4: I saw someone compare The Weekend to Michael Jackson, and

1483
00:59:56,840 --> 01:00:00,800
Speaker 4: I was like, several Statesiel Jackson has more talent and

1484
01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:04,280
Speaker 4: his left pinky finger than the Weekend. The Weekend I

1485
01:00:04,320 --> 01:00:05,160
Speaker 4: was gonna say, yeah.

1486
01:00:05,000 --> 01:00:07,000
Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna give the Weekend. But first of all,

1487
01:00:07,080 --> 01:00:09,080
Speaker 1: there's no dancing, there's no Michael.

1488
01:00:09,160 --> 01:00:11,400
Speaker 3: The sound of his voice, and that's literally it.

1489
01:00:11,440 --> 01:00:14,240
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, Michael Jackson was so much more

1490
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:17,120
Speaker 1: than just the voice it was. I mean, just watch

1491
01:00:17,200 --> 01:00:19,120
Speaker 1: after all, you just realize, like, first of all, he

1492
01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:21,680
Speaker 1: was like a genius at five when you hear Sammy

1493
01:00:21,760 --> 01:00:25,680
Speaker 1: Davis Junior, all of these like famous musicians.

1494
01:00:25,080 --> 01:00:27,320
Speaker 2: Including the Weekend he was interviewed can Be Bryant for

1495
01:00:27,360 --> 01:00:27,880
Speaker 2: some reason was.

1496
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:30,160
Speaker 3: Interviewed and a lot which I was like, why are

1497
01:00:30,160 --> 01:00:31,720
Speaker 3: you here? Are you lost her?

1498
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:36,640
Speaker 2: So I heard it was a camera about but it.

1499
01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:38,280
Speaker 1: Was just so good because you get to see that

1500
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 1: like his genius didn't just erupt when he was like nineteen,

1501
01:00:41,960 --> 01:00:44,560
Speaker 1: that it was something that was spotted when he was

1502
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:46,960
Speaker 1: really young, and how it manifested itself, and how he

1503
01:00:47,080 --> 01:00:50,600
Speaker 1: listened and how he asked questions and he was always curious.

1504
01:00:50,640 --> 01:00:51,600
Speaker 3: It's just such a good.

1505
01:00:51,480 --> 01:00:53,360
Speaker 4: That's all related, and that's why I think that's why

1506
01:00:53,440 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 4: I like Shawna's book so much, and that's why I

1507
01:00:55,280 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 4: like the Michael Jackson documentary so much, because I think

1508
01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:01,120
Speaker 4: it's really easy to look at successful people and say

1509
01:01:01,240 --> 01:01:03,880
Speaker 4: I could never be that, or kill yourself thinking that

1510
01:01:03,920 --> 01:01:05,520
Speaker 4: you should be that, and you don't really.

1511
01:01:05,400 --> 01:01:06,720
Speaker 2: See what work they put into it.

1512
01:01:07,400 --> 01:01:10,080
Speaker 4: Like it's no wonder that I'm not like Oprah or

1513
01:01:10,600 --> 01:01:13,400
Speaker 4: like Michael, Like, there's so much work and you don't

1514
01:01:13,400 --> 01:01:13,919
Speaker 4: see the work.

1515
01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:15,280
Speaker 2: So the off the wall shows the work.

1516
01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 4: Shonda Rhyme shows you the work that she has done

1517
01:01:18,560 --> 01:01:19,480
Speaker 4: to get to where she is.

1518
01:01:19,560 --> 01:01:21,200
Speaker 2: And uh so those are like.

1519
01:01:21,200 --> 01:01:22,720
Speaker 1: Wonder if I'm gonna become a Oprah, I'm gonna call

1520
01:01:22,760 --> 01:01:25,600
Speaker 1: a book the work the work. But that's only becoming

1521
01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:27,920
Speaker 1: Oprah status and I'm like, until that, I'll just call it.

1522
01:01:27,960 --> 01:01:29,400
Speaker 2: Like, see, there's only governa be one Oprah.

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Speaker 4: You just gotta be like Tiffany status. That's true, one

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Speaker 4: name Tiffany. There's no like I mean, there isn't like

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Speaker 4: a famous Tiffany right now.

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Speaker 3: You could be the Tiffany. Yes, I do want to

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Speaker 3: be the Tiffany. Tiffany. Well, that was we had a

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Speaker 3: long one. We did because we haven't seen so well.

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Speaker 3: We talked for like an hour before.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, guys, well as always email us, send us your

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Speaker 4: messages on Facebook, on Twitter, at the BA podcast, and

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Speaker 4: on email outs at Brand Ambition podcast at femail dot com.

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Speaker 2: I also a quick apology.

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Speaker 4: I realized that some of you guys had issues with

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Speaker 4: last week's episode on iTunes.

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Speaker 2: That is iTunes issue, and they're working it out. I'm

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Speaker 2: very sorry.

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Speaker 4: I hope it will be fixed and but if you're

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Speaker 4: still having problems, email us at broad Ambition podcast at

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Speaker 4: email dot com.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and have a great week, yeah,