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Speaker 1: What's up? Everybody?

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Speaker 2: Welcome to adulting. I'm Michelby Toe, that is Jordan Carlos.

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Speaker 2: I have a lot to share with you in the

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Speaker 2: caffeine is kicking in. Not like I'm going to do

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Speaker 2: a push up or a sit up. I'm not going

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Speaker 2: to do all that. But I do have feelings and

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Speaker 2: sometimes my mouth doesn't go as fast as my brain.

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Speaker 1: But here the fuck she is?

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Speaker 2: My husband, without asking me, bought a karaoke machine. Okay, Now,

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Speaker 2: did I almost bring it up a couple therapy?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: I thought it was a little too petty to bring

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Speaker 2: up a couple therapy because obviously there's like bigger issues

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Speaker 2: that everybody should explore and talk about, because it's like

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Speaker 2: someone giving your kid a drum set.

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Speaker 1: Why didn't you ask me? Why did you bring Why

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Speaker 1: did you.

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Speaker 2: Bring a puzzle that has eleven hundred pieces?

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Speaker 1: Why do you hate me so much? Karaoke machine? Why?

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Speaker 2: All I did was try to hide the microphones from

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Speaker 2: my kids, because I mean it was a lot. Okay,

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Speaker 2: but then we had a party and Jordan, Jordan, are

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Speaker 2: you there?

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Speaker 3: Butthole soapuckered? I thought that you liked.

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Speaker 4: The car give machine.

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Speaker 2: I didn't like the karaoke machine until we did it

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Speaker 2: with friends.

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Speaker 3: That was so fun. Though it was so fun.

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Speaker 2: One thing everyone should know about you, you were karaoke king.

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Speaker 5: Stop right now, Stop right now. Nobody needs to know

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Speaker 5: about my private life. Okay, we can talk about my

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Speaker 5: personal life, but not my private life.

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Speaker 3: Do you understand.

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you why.

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Speaker 2: If yes, If Jordan is Eminem, then his wife is

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Speaker 2: doctor Dre because she is the producing mastermind.

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Speaker 1: Of Jordan do this song next and then he does it.

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Speaker 5: That's actually a very good impression. I was like, what,

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Speaker 5: it's actually a really good oppression. Yes, my wife. My

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Speaker 5: wife chose the songs and then I sang them, and

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Speaker 5: one was Mary J. Blige's I Can Love You Better

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Speaker 5: Than She Can remix with featuring Little Kim, which was

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Speaker 5: so fun because you and I did a due at

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Speaker 5: in the Little Kim portion, yes, which will be burning

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Speaker 5: too my brain forever.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I posted it.

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Speaker 2: It's up on our adulting page, Like, yes, it's posted

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Speaker 2: because I you know, first of all, karaoke, there's a

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Speaker 2: lot of rules. Number one, don't do a queen song

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Speaker 2: unless we can all sing it, because no one's got

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Speaker 2: eleven minutes for you to live your like inner theater

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Speaker 2: school kid rejection.

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Speaker 1: No one's got time for that. That's like a one

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Speaker 1: person show. No One.

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Speaker 2: Number two. Pick a song that we've sung before. Yes,

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Speaker 2: at least look at the lyrics. You can look it

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Speaker 2: up lyrics dot com, because ooh baby, there's a lot

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Speaker 2: of lyrics that I didn't even know were in that song.

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Speaker 1: And I didn't know will kill. I was so angry.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I know she got spunk, but I was like,

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Speaker 1: who gonna love you?

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Speaker 3: Like I do what?

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Speaker 1: I was like, Oh my god, you you're gonna love me?

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 5: I just love that Mary Jay is appealing to the

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Speaker 5: man's heart. You know, she's so sweet about it. She's like,

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Speaker 5: no one can do that way, and the little kid's

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Speaker 5: like who cave? She's like, fuck all that. That's my

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Speaker 5: favorite part of the song.

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Speaker 1: I know we all have our love language.

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Speaker 3: Yes, truly, truly. Mine is definitely karaoke.

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Speaker 5: You got me so ripped on wine and rose that

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Speaker 5: I channeled David Bowie.

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Speaker 2: You did out of nowhere. Somebody put it on a

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Speaker 2: David Bowie song and then walked away. We're like, We're

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Speaker 2: all looking at each other, like, how do we skip this?

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Speaker 1: Song. We all love it, but who gotta do it?

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Speaker 3: It's a goudvil small.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I was just like.

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Speaker 1: It was so good.

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Speaker 2: And then yeah, your David Bowie impression was so good

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Speaker 2: that I was like, should you audition for SML. I

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Speaker 2: almost like took a video send it to Lauren Michaels

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Speaker 2: because we text all the time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all the time, all the time.

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Speaker 5: It did feel like a moment I switched to the

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Speaker 5: other phase where you're like not just having fun now okay,

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Speaker 5: now you're entertaining.

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Speaker 3: Yes, and now you need to take it down. Now

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Speaker 3: you need to take it down, clown, take it down.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I felt it. I was like he's going through

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Speaker 2: the little live rounds, you know. I was thinking, why

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Speaker 2: do you build me up? Buttercup or whatever? That was

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Speaker 2: so good, but you needed like an outfit change.

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Speaker 1: You needed one green eye and one blue.

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Speaker 2: Eye, like David Bowie. I don't remember what his eye.

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Speaker 2: I know he had two different eye colors, but I

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Speaker 2: don't remember he did. Yeah, that was wild, Like if

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Speaker 2: you can do it with karaoke, you just need the

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Speaker 2: one song.

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Speaker 1: The people that can keep going too.

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Speaker 5: Much, well, people kept like I don't know what it was.

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Speaker 5: It was like they would pick a song and then

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Speaker 5: not be in the room. They'd be like, fu, yeah,

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Speaker 5: that's also like a boss move. It's like, how well

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Speaker 5: I put a song in, but get back here.

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Speaker 3: You better complain this song.

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Speaker 2: And then it was so funny, like a three year

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Speaker 2: old kid requested Baby Shark and I was like, why

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Speaker 2: are we asking three year olds?

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Speaker 1: We don't even ask them what they want to eat?

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Speaker 1: And I was like, what are we doing?

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Speaker 2: But there's nothing sweeter than like eleven year old singing Yeah.

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Speaker 3: It's really cute.

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Speaker 1: I mean serving from the A to the Z.

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Speaker 3: Girl. My son got into Miss You by the Rolling Stones.

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Speaker 1: He show did.

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Speaker 3: I was like, what are you what are you missing?

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Speaker 3: What are you talking about?

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Speaker 2: Show did? We can't afford that song, Let's not do that.

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Speaker 2: We can't even do Happy Birthday?

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Speaker 1: What are you doing?

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Speaker 2: But what I do love is that my husband did

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Speaker 2: like a real I told you so? And I was like,

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Speaker 2: is this everyone loves Raymond? But he was like, I

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Speaker 2: told you and I said, I was like, I had

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Speaker 2: no idea that karaoke would bring everybody together and be

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Speaker 2: so entertaining because the only people that were really interested

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Speaker 2: in it when I told them, oh, my god, he

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Speaker 2: got a karaoke machine. Was my Chinese Jamaican family because

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Speaker 2: Asian people love karaokeing.

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, is this the individual koy movie?

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Speaker 2: And my drag queen friends who we are just like

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Speaker 2: bitch And I was like, okay, so I didn't know

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Speaker 2: that the Norman.

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Speaker 3: The Normy's like it. Yeah, the normis.

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Speaker 5: It's like it's a place to fly, it's a place

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Speaker 5: to have fun and let go.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know.

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Speaker 5: Oh that was a good time. Michelle, you are the

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Speaker 5: ultimate hostess.

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Speaker 3: We know this.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. You know what. I feel like.

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Speaker 2: My food was a little under salted, but that's okay.

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Speaker 2: When you start to make food for a lot of people,

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Speaker 2: you're like, it is what it is. Plus I don't

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Speaker 2: use a lot of salt because the double chin comes

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Speaker 2: in real quick than a venged So like, I like

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Speaker 2: to fuck around with other Why are you I'm waiting

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Speaker 2: for your eyes to roll back.

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Speaker 5: When you're done, Yes, when you're done. Michelle made the spread.

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Speaker 5: It was dust spread. I was like, finally I'm eating

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Speaker 5: like its like in my house, it's all you know,

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Speaker 5: it's like it's squirrel food. And so I go to

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Speaker 5: Michelle's and it's like shepherd's pie, lauzagna.

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Speaker 2: Shepherd's pie and a lasagna in a cast iron.

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Speaker 6: Yes, and deviled eggs and eggs and rice ball. Oh

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Speaker 6: my god, you're like, have a rice ball? Like they

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Speaker 6: were too big? They were really there were size of

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Speaker 6: like baseballs.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 5: Cause you said, I've been cooking all day. This is

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Speaker 5: what you're like. I've been cooking all day. And I

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Speaker 5: was like, did.

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Speaker 3: You make this?

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Speaker 5: I honestly thought you made those rice balls? But you

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Speaker 5: made everything else except for the rice balls. And everything

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Speaker 5: was exceptional and it didn't need salt, and it was

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Speaker 5: made with love and it was perfect. And as we

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Speaker 5: say down South, you put your foot in it. It

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Speaker 5: was so damn good. I loved it. I loved it.

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Speaker 1: No notes, Oh my goodness, thank you. So I will

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Speaker 1: take that.

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Speaker 2: I will take that and put it in my pocket

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Speaker 2: and forget about it and put it in the wash.

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Speaker 2: I realized I do miss cooking for friends. But here's

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Speaker 2: the little adulting hack that I feel like I've talked

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Speaker 2: about on the show, especially live shows quite a bit.

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Speaker 2: If you can afford it, book a cleaning person the

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Speaker 2: next day after a party, because then you're not as anxious,

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Speaker 2: that's all.

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Speaker 3: Do you remember.

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Speaker 5: I was like, how can I be because it was

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Speaker 5: like a broken down seats group. I was like, how

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Speaker 5: can I be of service in the kitchen to you?

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Speaker 5: And you're like, look at this trained man trying.

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Speaker 3: And then.

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Speaker 5: I saw the dishes. I was like, I'll do the dishes,

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Speaker 5: and you were just like, no, somebody's coming tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: They coming in a morning.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's fine, leath and dishes.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, what what.

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Speaker 2: Just get like the weird extra glasses all over the

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Speaker 2: house and then we put them all together in a

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Speaker 2: pile like that's fine. The best part about also hosting

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Speaker 2: is just like, I mean, you just gotta let go.

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Speaker 2: There's nothing worse than going to someone's house and feeling tense,

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Speaker 2: you know, like it's some sort of museum and it's

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Speaker 2: like don't don't sit there, don't can you just and

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Speaker 2: it's like, you know, our house is made to be

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Speaker 2: lived in, so just relax. And it's so fun that

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Speaker 2: the other kids can run around and go upstairs and

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Speaker 2: go in the basement.

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Speaker 1: Even the dogs had a great time. I love a

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Speaker 1: good ass party.

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Speaker 5: Whitney and Lola were running around the beach frolicking and

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Speaker 5: playing like tug of war with a stick.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was really cute, Like nobody was watching. I

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Speaker 3: was like, this is really sweet.

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Speaker 2: I love it when my kids get along and my

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Speaker 2: dogs get along. There's like it makes me sleep better

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Speaker 2: at night. Yeah, because everyone's had a good day.

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Speaker 3: It was.

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Speaker 5: It was good vibes. Yeah, good feels good vibes. Thank

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Speaker 5: you for having us be a part of that. We

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Speaker 5: really appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, are you gonna invite me to a party or

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Speaker 2: should I just throw it out your.

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Speaker 5: That we lived too far for you.

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Speaker 3: I couldn't turn around. I couldn't turn around.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, when look what you did?

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Speaker 3: You messed up?

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Speaker 5: You were coming to a birthday party. I think it

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Speaker 1: But I did show up.

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Speaker 5: I don't want to relitigate it. Listen, what happened? Happened?

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Speaker 5: I want you over for bagels. Do you like bagels?

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Speaker 5: You bagel person?

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Speaker 2: Look at this double chin bitch. Of course I love bagels.

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Speaker 1: Leave all that do in there. That's the fucking point.

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Speaker 2: There was one time that was supposed to meet up

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Speaker 1: Like a book shop.

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Speaker 3: Actually, yeah, we had to give up. Like New York

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Speaker 2: There's so many like dope black people in Holland that

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Speaker 2: I'm very excited to have our guests on.

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Speaker 1: Who's in a whole ass different time zone? Nicole bus.

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Speaker 3: There she is where.

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Speaker 2: I've just stuffed my face with some food of the thing.

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Speaker 7: How you go?

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Speaker 3: How what are you doing?

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Speaker 7: Darling?

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Speaker 1: I don't know, bitch, Hell look at New York.

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Speaker 7: Listen he I wish I could be where you guys are?

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Speaker 1: Me too?

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Speaker 7: So soon did you meet Jordan?

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Speaker 1: We did?

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Speaker 5: We did it? I said, Nicole. I've heard your music.

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Speaker 5: It is very beautiful. You have a beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Voice, gorgeous voice. Yeah, what a gift.

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Speaker 7: Thank you.

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Speaker 7: You're like pretty much you know how black parents they'll

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Speaker 7: you're gonna sing and you're gonna be in the choir.

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Speaker 2: Oh it's my mom's dream to play the pan on

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Speaker 2: the choir. I'm like, that's it, that's it. Nothing else

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Speaker 7: On now, I bet she's very proud of you, Michelle. Okay,

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Speaker 7: why why why is there silence?

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Speaker 3: She is proud? She Yeah, but today's not about mama,

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Speaker 3: It's not about Hi.

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Speaker 1: Everybody just kidding.

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Speaker 2: But listen, I'm so excited you could do this because,

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Speaker 2: first of all, I went to Amsterdam for the summer

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 2: And it's so funny because Tasha Smith, who plays Marlene

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Speaker 1: Come on, and so we just thought we were gonna

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Speaker 2: We were like in a Champagne VIP situation where it

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Speaker 1: This black spades armand what was it? Jay Z Champagne?

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Speaker 7: I still have the glasses?

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Speaker 1: Oh do you?

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Speaker 7: I took to New York's like, look at this Beyonce.

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Speaker 7: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: comedy special on Netflix. He thought Nicole was me, I said,

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Speaker 2: mister Knowles. I said, she's the after picture. I'm the

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Speaker 3: Oh come on now stop.

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Speaker 2: I know, but still I was like, that's so funny.

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Speaker 2: But that was such a good time. I'm so glad

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Speaker 2: we like met and connected. Like, first of all, let's

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Speaker 7: Would it be well, I'm Nicole. I'm a singer, songwriters,

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Speaker 1: Should be throwing down with the seasonings and such.

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Speaker 5: My gosh, now I did a little research about you.

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Speaker 5: Some of your family is from Curasaw as well.

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Speaker 7: Yes, yes, look at you. You did some research.

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Speaker 7: Let's talk Caribbean.

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Speaker 3: Do you know any dishes from Curasol When you say

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Speaker 7: Of course, don't you see this this color?

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Speaker 7: No, No, definitely. My mom is from Curasau and my

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Speaker 7: Probably did at one point, hey it did. So they

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Speaker 7: very funny story. So you guys have gumbo, right.

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Speaker 7: But we call it y bo, so it's the same name.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's in a bony m song. Yes, brown girl

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Speaker 2: yeah see the ABC.

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Speaker 5: See I love gumbo. So you use the oakral and

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Speaker 7: Yeah, So you guys don't call it gumbo with a

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Speaker 2: Happy Indigenous People Day. It really is funny how we

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Speaker 2: And so honestly, I don't think we really got into

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Speaker 7: It's a free education if you like it or not.

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Speaker 2: So it's funny too because when I first started going

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Speaker 1: Right, because I was like, I am, I'm just talking

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Speaker 2: I'm just talking about stuff I've seen in the news

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Speaker 7: They don't like it. They don't like to be confronted,

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Speaker 7: let's be really honest, most of the stuff they did

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how do you negotiate that in your art?

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Speaker 5: When you're creating your music? How does it express itself

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Speaker 5: I think it's more like the atmosphere of the country

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Speaker 7: I don't think you hear it back in my music, Yeah,

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00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:11,240
Speaker 7: especially the American So I did Dutch for a while

447
00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:14,280
Speaker 7: because I studied at the conservatory and the teacher was

448
00:19:14,359 --> 00:19:16,680
Speaker 7: challenging me, like to Dutch, and I was like, no,

449
00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:19,320
Speaker 7: I won't, and then she was like cry it And

450
00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:23,320
Speaker 7: I ended up signing a deal for Dutch music, which

451
00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:26,480
Speaker 7: was fun. But next to that, if you've never heard

452
00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:29,280
Speaker 7: any of my Dutch material. You will not. I don't

453
00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:32,000
Speaker 7: think you would hear I'm from the Netherlands. I'm not

454
00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:32,680
Speaker 7: taking it.

455
00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:35,639
Speaker 1: Wow, I rebuke it.

456
00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:39,119
Speaker 3: How is that possible? I was listening. I could not tell. Yeah,

457
00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:42,399
Speaker 3: did you just grow up listening to American music?

458
00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:44,120
Speaker 7: Yeah? Gospel music.

459
00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:45,840
Speaker 3: I mean it's so good.

460
00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:46,679
Speaker 7: Thank you.

461
00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:49,080
Speaker 2: I was going to ask you how it comes out

462
00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:53,119
Speaker 2: in your relationships, because when I'm in Holland, it feels

463
00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:55,240
Speaker 2: like I'm the loudest one in a restaurant.

464
00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:57,240
Speaker 1: I'm the only one wearing a bright colored shirt.

465
00:19:57,320 --> 00:19:59,520
Speaker 2: I'm the only one making eye contact at the street

466
00:19:59,560 --> 00:20:01,680
Speaker 2: sign the street like I'm a bike Hi?

467
00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:03,520
Speaker 1: How are you? Why aren't you talking to me? I

468
00:20:03,560 --> 00:20:04,640
Speaker 1: simply said, how are you?

469
00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:04,880
Speaker 7: Yeah?

470
00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:06,560
Speaker 1: Human being? I'm a human being.

471
00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:12,280
Speaker 2: So like to live in a place where like, I'm.

472
00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,040
Speaker 1: Not trying to sell anything or buy anything, I just

473
00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:13,520
Speaker 1: want to say hi.

474
00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:16,440
Speaker 2: So to live in a place where we don't talk

475
00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:20,879
Speaker 2: about Bruno, Like, how does that come out in your relationships?

476
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:24,600
Speaker 7: Oh? Man, Michelle, I don't feel like I have you

477
00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:28,240
Speaker 7: actually already answered it. I don't have a lot of

478
00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:30,240
Speaker 7: Dutch relationships.

479
00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:30,680
Speaker 1: Mmmm.

480
00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:33,600
Speaker 7: When it comes to friends and I'm not saying it

481
00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:36,199
Speaker 7: as oh, I'm said or don't know. Yeah, it's like

482
00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:41,080
Speaker 7: I consciously choose not to mingle too much with people

483
00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,919
Speaker 7: that are very locked within the Dutch culture. So I

484
00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 7: have my family, I maybe have my circle of three

485
00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:52,239
Speaker 7: maybe four ish, and that's it. And everything that I do,

486
00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:57,080
Speaker 7: the communication or you know, it's all with American colleagues

487
00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 7: and friends.

488
00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:01,040
Speaker 1: So yeah, wow, I get that. And this is like

489
00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:02,359
Speaker 1: a very wild question.

490
00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:04,639
Speaker 2: But here the fuck we is and I'm in a

491
00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:06,160
Speaker 2: plus sized printed shirt.

492
00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,840
Speaker 1: Let's go the music business, I mean, just.

493
00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:13,440
Speaker 2: In general culture in general, the needle has moved a lot,

494
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:18,520
Speaker 2: the toxic misogynistic behavior, particularly from men and then also

495
00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:21,359
Speaker 2: women who allow it to happen. How long have you

496
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 2: been in the music business and have people like tried

497
00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:28,040
Speaker 2: to disrespect you, Like, how do you figure.

498
00:21:27,680 --> 00:21:30,000
Speaker 3: Out how to how do you negotiate?

499
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, negotiate that shit, because you know you're talented and

500
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:33,919
Speaker 2: you do want the job. But I feel like so

501
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,639
Speaker 2: often women are like, this is what I have to do,

502
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:38,000
Speaker 2: and this is what I have to put up with

503
00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:40,280
Speaker 2: an order to be successful, or like.

504
00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:43,399
Speaker 1: Have the needle move. That was a very long winded question.

505
00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:46,880
Speaker 7: Oh but it's a good one. It's a good one,

506
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,359
Speaker 7: and you explained it well. I'm gonna try not to

507
00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 7: give you a long winded answer back.

508
00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:54,479
Speaker 3: No do Barbell.

509
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 7: Let me say this for me. I don't do concessions,

510
00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 7: which means that comes with a set of consequences. You

511
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,639
Speaker 7: can walk a road. In this case, we're talking about

512
00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 7: the music industry road, and there's a way to walk

513
00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 7: it really fast past with my bundle of talent. You

514
00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:18,119
Speaker 7: have two roads you can take, and I refuse to

515
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:21,880
Speaker 7: take the fast road because then I have to make concessions.

516
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,399
Speaker 7: Whereby I know that when I'm older, I won't be

517
00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:27,240
Speaker 7: happy with the results. While I look back, I want

518
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 7: to look myself in the mirror and be like, girl,

519
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 7: it took a long bang time, but you know, I'm

520
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:34,680
Speaker 7: proud of you.

521
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:36,120
Speaker 1: And thank God we age well.

522
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 7: Hey, hey, okay, thank God for God be praised.

523
00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:43,280
Speaker 3: Yeah.

524
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:47,000
Speaker 7: No, I'm telling you, thank God for Melanine. So did

525
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:52,040
Speaker 7: I experience situations like that? I think I've experienced situations

526
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 7: where I got very close. But again, I'm six feet

527
00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 7: as well, and I do think that when I come

528
00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 7: into those situations and when there are like women that

529
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 7: are shorter than me, I often overhear that they have

530
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 7: to fight a little bit more. But I do think

531
00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:09,680
Speaker 7: that I use my length a little bit, and then

532
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:13,320
Speaker 7: my personality is very fast, like we're not going that way,

533
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,240
Speaker 7: you know, but yeah.

534
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:17,640
Speaker 1: Wow, oh shit, I love it. That's when the Dutch

535
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 1: sat comes in.

536
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 2: It's just like nadakivell motherfuckers, fuck us, what's up?

537
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 1: Let me go find my bike?

538
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:24,920
Speaker 7: Right?

539
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 3: What is that?

540
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:27,440
Speaker 1: It's just no thank you?

541
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 3: Oh okay, yeah you have to.

542
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:36,320
Speaker 5: For those who don't understand, you know, I know, Guda cheese,

543
00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:41,200
Speaker 5: Oh my goodness, I know, street laff.

544
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,040
Speaker 7: Stop buffo.

545
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:46,720
Speaker 2: This is too much. That's like saying, I know, KFC,

546
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 2: what are we doing? Jordan's what the fuck are we doing?

547
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 1: Geordia.

548
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 2: Writing songs isn't like a burp, isn't like a like

549
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:57,680
Speaker 2: you just gotta get it out. Feelings for me are

550
00:23:57,720 --> 00:23:59,959
Speaker 2: just like gas. I'm like, I gotta get it out.

551
00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:00,680
Speaker 2: I feel better.

552
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 7: It depends some songs. They just you know, something happens,

553
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 7: you break up with your boyfriend or you know, and yeah,

554
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 7: and then it's like, oh shit, I hate the motherfucker.

555
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 7: You'd be like writing and then you know, you get

556
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 7: a resolve out.

557
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:18,680
Speaker 1: Of it was the last time we broke up with someone.

558
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 7: I don't want to conclude that within this this very

559
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 7: public conversation. But the person that knows knows.

560
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 5: Oh, the person that knows knows what the persons no, no,

561
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 5: don't know.

562
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 1: So we get questions from the audience all the time.

563
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 2: And this is one of the hardest things for people

564
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 2: is breaking up because they found themselves in this relationship,

565
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 2: this responsibility, this lifestyle that they don't know how to

566
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 2: break free from. And when people start noticing and start

567
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 2: telling you and the question literally, you'll be like everyone

568
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 2: tells me I shouldn't be with this person, should not

569
00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:56,200
Speaker 2: be with them. It's just like, why do you need

570
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,199
Speaker 2: us to tell you something you already know? You are

571
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 2: like one of the most people I do find Dutch

572
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 2: people thoughtful on a whole, but definitely you are very

573
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 2: like showed up with fresh bread right out the gate.

574
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 2: I said, come on, bitch, but how do you mindfully

575
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:15,920
Speaker 2: break up with somebody and then also keep your shit intact?

576
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 7: I think that I grew into a position that I

577
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 7: just say what I want to say in a very

578
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:25,639
Speaker 7: respectful manner, and I don't run away from confrontation anymore.

579
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 7: Once I came into my thirties, I was like, even

580
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,719
Speaker 7: though it hurt, so I like to do things in

581
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 7: person as well. You know, I had the conversation with him.

582
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 3: I was like, just.

583
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 7: Pointing everything out, and that can be very it might

584
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:43,479
Speaker 7: sounds Dutch again, very cold. We can be very like

585
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 7: wretchal that's the word, right it and be like, okay, well,

586
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 7: I know this is not going to benefit me in

587
00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 7: the future, even though I know what I can deliver

588
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 7: to the table. So I'm pulling myself out of the

589
00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:58,879
Speaker 7: situation respectfully. And that's what I did. But then, you know,

590
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,199
Speaker 7: you can be very regal and Dutch, but when you

591
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,120
Speaker 7: get home you cry like a little baby.

592
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,919
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, of course feelings are meant to be feunt.

593
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 5: Well, there's that all saying, never negotiate out of fear,

594
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 5: but also never fear to negotiate.

595
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:15,640
Speaker 1: Whoo, where's my tamperid? Honey?

596
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,680
Speaker 3: That was JFK. Thanks shout out to JEFFK.

597
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 1: I heard of him doing big things, that guy.

598
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 3: Big things.

599
00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:25,879
Speaker 5: I have to ask you a question, Yeah, is it

600
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 5: easier to get through so much good and bad through

601
00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:31,479
Speaker 5: the catharsis of art and creation?

602
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 1: Yes?

603
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 7: I think art is a gift that keeps on giving,

604
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:39,359
Speaker 7: especially in hard times. Something happens, I instantly like, pour

605
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 7: it within the art, and then I can separate myself

606
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 7: a little bit better than if I would not have

607
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 7: a medium to express myself with.

608
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 5: Is that when you know you need to write again

609
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 5: because I have so much that you're feeling that You're like,

610
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 5: I need to process these feelings.

611
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:54,719
Speaker 4: Yeah.

612
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 7: Last December, I don't know if it was the moon.

613
00:26:57,880 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 7: I heard there was a special moon in leslie St.

614
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:01,239
Speaker 7: I don't know what it was.

615
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 1: There was there was people.

616
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 7: That I never saw crying were crying. I was like,

617
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 7: what the Heck's going on? And I wrote so much poetry.

618
00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 7: I was like where did this come from? So now

619
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:15,479
Speaker 7: I have a poetry bundle that I'm a release somewhere

620
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 7: this year.

621
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 6: Yes.

622
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 3: Can I ask for singer songwriters? For songwriters?

623
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:20,479
Speaker 4: Yes?

624
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 5: Is it the melody first or is it the words first?

625
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,639
Speaker 5: What comes first? In your process?

626
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:30,879
Speaker 7: There is there is no one good answer, because sometimes

627
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 7: she could be sitting in the Metro and you hear

628
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:37,159
Speaker 7: someone screaming like all right, and just that that whole

629
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 7: emotion with the a's like, oh shit, I'm remembering the

630
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 7: conversation with my mom and there was a similar shout.

631
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 7: And then you start with a situation from the past

632
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:49,119
Speaker 7: and then you start writing. But it could also be

633
00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 7: like you're just behind a piano just jamming and then

634
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 7: just the melody that the combination of the notes just

635
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 7: resonate with the emotion and then you start writing from there.

636
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 7: So there is not one good answer because everything that

637
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 7: we do with music it's borrowed, right, like all the

638
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 7: ideas in this whole freaking matrix. It's just a gift.

639
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 7: It's like, what do you think about this? What would

640
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 7: you do with this? Like all these easter eggs and

641
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 7: you just pick them. So it could be music, could

642
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 7: be words, it could be a situation, present, past or future.

643
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 7: Sometimes imagination. I have a few sells. People are like,

644
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 7: who's this about them? Like, I don't know yet, right,

645
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 7: still got to meet the guy, you know. So yeah,

646
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 7: I really believe in creating your own reality. So yeah,

647
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 7: did I answer your question?

648
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 3: You answered it so well.

649
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:39,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

650
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 5: So in Holland, do you feel that the arts are

651
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:47,200
Speaker 5: actually supported in America? It's like a blood sport. We

652
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 5: have to be the best or there's no time for development.

653
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:51,520
Speaker 7: No, it's not really supported. Here.

654
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 4: Wow.

655
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 7: I even think that the more you shine, the more

656
00:28:55,720 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 7: you have to be very careful to protect yourself. I

657
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 7: feel I like the more I did in the United States,

658
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 7: the more quiet I became in my home country.

659
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 3: Wow.

660
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 7: I can walk the streets and nobody knows who I am. Like,

661
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 7: I'm trying not to be on television or too much

662
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 7: of this and too much of that. That's what I

663
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 7: said to Michelle. There's nothing here, baby, Yeah, come here

664
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 7: with retirement. Just live the soft life.

665
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 4: Yeah.

666
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's the comfort mentality. Just be calm and be

667
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 7: comfortable and don't want too much. That's the culture here.

668
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 2: It's a special spot, you know when people talk about

669
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 2: the Sandwich years, or the years where you're old enough

670
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 2: to take care of your parents and then also your kids.

671
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 1: Amsterdam for me, no shade to people.

672
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 2: In Europe, I love y'all, dubbitch, but it feels like

673
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 2: a Sandwich year. It's like a beautiful place to grow up,

674
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 2: and then you go away and you experience realized shit,

675
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 2: and then you go back and come back and have

676
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 2: your hairing every day and your hot capitee and all

677
00:29:58,640 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 2: that bullshit.

678
00:29:59,320 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

679
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:02,120
Speaker 1: That's what it kind of feels like.

680
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 2: A lot of people will ask Jordan and I, how

681
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:07,840
Speaker 2: do I become a comedian? How do I make money

682
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:09,800
Speaker 2: doing comedy? How do I become an actor? How to

683
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 2: different writer? There's really no one answer, Like you said,

684
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 2: you just have to do what you do, and also

685
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 2: like just trust your creativity and let it flow out

686
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 2: of you. And what I love about Nicle is that

687
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 2: I don't remember when or how or why. But at

688
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 2: one point You're like, if I wasn't a singer, I

689
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 2: would open a bakery.

690
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 1: Yes, I would just be bacon bread.

691
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 7: All day. Yeah.

692
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:32,960
Speaker 2: And I was like, fuck, yeah, bitch, because like that

693
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 2: is also the same thing, where you're creating something and

694
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 2: it's different every time. There is a formula, but then

695
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 2: you put your own twist on it. Yes, yes, you

696
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 2: just trust that it's hot enough and this and that

697
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 2: and the guidance, the salt and the yeast and the women.

698
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, yeah, I fucking get that.

699
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 7: Look at Michelle exposing my retirement plans over here. If

700
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 7: it's one thing a bitch is gonna do any investors

701
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 7: in listening, I'm interested.

702
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 2: It's the reboot a British break office that bake off

703
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:02,719
Speaker 2: It was so funny because when you did say that

704
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 2: it was actually hot in Holland because of climate change,

705
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 2: and I was like, I feel like I'm baking bread

706
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 2: in my pants, but nobody want to hear that the

707
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 2: whole ass buttery croissop between my legs that Paul Hollywood

708
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:16,480
Speaker 2: wanted nothing to do with. And I was like, it's

709
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 2: not bread weak, all right, Nicole, what a fucking mess.

710
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 2: So our audience members ask us questions about adulting, and

711
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 2: we try to answer them. I don't know why they

712
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 2: trust us, They just do. They have kind eyes, which

713
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 2: they can definitely tell through a podcast.

714
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 1: The first question is how long it's too long to

715
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 1: have your nails?

716
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 2: Oh oh baby, your own nails, your own nails, No.

717
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 7: Short it is, or you gotta be very clean.

718
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 2: If you can't wipe your ass, then they too long.

719
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 2: Agree if you can't do basic shit like how is

720
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 2: cardib out here changing diapers? She's got claws, Like, I

721
00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 2: don't understand.

722
00:31:58,720 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 7: She's paying someone.

723
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 3: Come on, Claws are hot. Clouds are hot. Though. I

724
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 3: like to see claws in the city.

725
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 1: That's the thing. They're like for the gaze of men.

726
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 2: Because I know a lot of lesbians who are like,

727
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 2: get that shit away from my couchie, Like nobody wants

728
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:14,280
Speaker 2: to perapst mean, I'm trying to hook up, do you

729
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 2: know what I mean? It's just like, how much like

730
00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 2: alcohol wipes do we really need? How long it's too

731
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:21,280
Speaker 2: long to have your nails?

732
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 1: Baby?

733
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 2: I don't know, Try some press ons and see how

734
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 2: your day goes.

735
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: Yes, if you can't type on your computer.

736
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 7: That's a no go. If you can't type, can go

737
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 7: to the bathroom without not feeling comfortable? Like, I think

738
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 7: everything on your body should be for your own comfort

739
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 7: first off.

740
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 1: Ooh baby.

741
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 7: And if it's not serving your comfortness in a sense,

742
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 7: don't get me wrong. I love femininity, I love makeup

743
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 7: and all that kind of stuff.

744
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, but if.

745
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 7: It's too long. I play guitar, so for me, it's

746
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 7: already a no go. Like, how do I play guitar

747
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 7: with ten inch nails? No?

748
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 1: Yeah?

749
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 2: Also, I feel like the only people that really like

750
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 2: long nails are like, you're doing it for man, It's like,

751
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 2: why am I putting heels on? Get the fuck out

752
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 2: with this bunion? Go fuck yourself. You put the heels on, bro,

753
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 2: I don't know. There's something asmr about the click clack

754
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 2: and a click clack clack clack clack on a phone.

755
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 3: Lady's got nails?

756
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 2: What like, I'm on the phone with Delta trying to

757
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 2: rebook my ticket.

758
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 1: I'm good. Even that clickity clack on.

759
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:20,960
Speaker 2: The phone gives me anxiety where I'm just like, am

760
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:23,040
Speaker 2: I gonna get the middle seat or the aisle seat?

761
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 1: Bitch? You don't know with all that click clacking one seat,

762
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna fuck have because my body's too big for

763
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 1: the middle seat. Bitch. Look, I'm gonna be breastfeeting everybody.

764
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 3: I guess I got the wrong answer.

765
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:37,240
Speaker 2: No, No, they're all the right answers. Yeah, just get

766
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 2: a really long nail for your middle finger. That's all

767
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 2: you fucking need.

768
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: Okay, Jordan, next question.

769
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 3: Okay, next question?

770
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 7: What's the question?

771
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 3: I'm doing it?

772
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 5: How do I tell my best friend she needs to

773
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 5: clean her bathroom more often? Oh shit, it makes me

774
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 5: not want to go over to her place?

775
00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 3: Exclamation point?

776
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, louck.

777
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 7: You know they say, like a bird of a feat

778
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:03,920
Speaker 7: of flock together.

779
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 3: How did you guys meet in a bathroom?

780
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 7: Like? All my friends are so clean? Like sometimes my

781
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 7: mom left up mad because she thinks I'm too clean.

782
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 7: I mean, I can have children and they can do

783
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 7: their stuff, but I love to have a clean area.

784
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:21,799
Speaker 7: And all my friends are like that. So let's start there.

785
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 2: Like, you know, I think there's different levels of like

786
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:28,040
Speaker 2: there's messy, there's like I've had a long week, and

787
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 2: then there's like, oh I never get the surface, like

788
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 2: there's tears of cleanliness. And so the bathroom is definitely

789
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,200
Speaker 2: like a very personal subject for everybody.

790
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:40,759
Speaker 7: But this is not personal anymore, Michelle, Yeah, this is

791
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 7: not Sorry the Caribbean getting out of me. It is

792
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 7: not personal anymore. If you don't want to go to

793
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 7: someone's house because of the toilet, are you freaking kidding me?

794
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 7: I know what are we talking about.

795
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 2: I've had friends like this where I'm like, have you

796
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 2: ever lifted your seat? It is Pandora's box of bacteria

797
00:34:57,520 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 2: under there?

798
00:34:58,080 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 7: Oh no, no, no, no, no.

799
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:02,200
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think it's two things.

800
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:05,359
Speaker 2: I think it's one the way someone was raised, and

801
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:09,239
Speaker 2: two depression. When you're depressed, you don't see stuff around you.

802
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 7: That's a whole different thing.

803
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, So how do I tell my best friend she

804
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 2: needs to clean her bathroom more often?

805
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 7: Maybe just start a conversation why it isn't clean at

806
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:23,280
Speaker 7: the first place, Like why does she feel the urged clean?

807
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: Like start?

808
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:28,320
Speaker 7: Maybe their soft talk shit, you know, like I'm maybe

809
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 7: too Dutch, I'm too direct. Maybe that is a Dutch answer.

810
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 1: If I like that Dutch answer.

811
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 6: You got the Dutch answers on this episode.

812
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 3: Enough of the American.

813
00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 5: Shit, Oh my god, why do you feel you're so disgusting?

814
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 2: I would make up a whole ass, like you know

815
00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 2: what I heard about an equal eye outbreak in people's

816
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:51,920
Speaker 2: bathrooms that they wasn't cleaning and stuff.

817
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 1: I would make some shit up, you know.

818
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 2: I think presenting like an article or something, it's sort

819
00:35:57,560 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 2: of like a way to like get over that.

820
00:35:59,000 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 1: Hum.

821
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 5: I think it's like I can't do your bathroom anymore.

822
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 5: I can't and putting that out there, you're just like

823
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 5: I can't do it. I love you, I can't do it.

824
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 3: And then they're like, oh my gosh.

825
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 7: And what if they would be like why what would

826
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 7: you say, Jordan?

827
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 5: I would just be like, you know what, your bathroom's

828
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:15,439
Speaker 5: it's cringe, it's giving ick.

829
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 3: I love you.

830
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

831
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 2: I have a beautiful friend. She has beautiful curly hair.

832
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 2: She's Puerto rican. She never cut her hair. Her mom

833
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 2: never cut her hair. She was like, you don't cut

834
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 2: your hair. She didn't want to straighten her hair. I'm like,

835
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,439
Speaker 2: do something different with it. And then so we went

836
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 2: on a trip. I think we went to Argentina. It

837
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:30,399
Speaker 2: was her thirtieth birthday. I'm like, this is what I'm

838
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 2: doing for you. I'm buying you a purse and I'm

839
00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: getting you a hair appointment. So they did a little

840
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 2: trim and they straightened her hair. And she would never

841
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 2: have done it for herself because she was always taught,

842
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 2: don't do it, don't spend money on it.

843
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:41,360
Speaker 1: DAA.

844
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 2: She just was a different person. Everything was different, the walk,

845
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,320
Speaker 2: the talk, the swagger. And then she made an appointment

846
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:50,839
Speaker 2: once a month every month to get her hair dumb

847
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 2: because she just loved that feeling right. And I think

848
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:56,840
Speaker 2: sometimes you just have to do it for people, force

849
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 2: them into that. And so I would probably hire a

850
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 2: cleaning crew just to be like, this was present for you.

851
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:04,919
Speaker 2: I know you're busy, you don't got time to touch

852
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 2: the surfaces. She probably would even see it and then

853
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:08,399
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, it's clean. You're like, oh fuck,

854
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 2: I don't even know it was like this cleans I've

855
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 2: been living like this.

856
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:11,760
Speaker 1: What you gonna say, Jordan.

857
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 5: It's so funny because we were renovating our house. We

858
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 5: had to live with my father in law. My my father

859
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 5: in law is the house that my wife grew up in,

860
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 5: and she will be the first to tell you that

861
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 5: it is.

862
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 3: It is so close to getting condemned. It's funny.

863
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 5: So like we're on the top floor and he's like, yeah,

864
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 5: you just used the bathroom, right, and you got a

865
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:30,839
Speaker 5: good bathroom. Here I go in the bathroom. It was

866
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:35,360
Speaker 5: like from saw oh god. I went on to whatever

867
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 5: it was Craigslist, hired a guy. He came up and

868
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 5: for one hundred and fifty dollars. For one hundred and

869
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 5: fifty dollars, all right, this is twenty fifteen dollars. This

870
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 5: man cleaned out the entire bathroom. He was soaking, sweating.

871
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,279
Speaker 5: He was a good man, a good man. And from

872
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:51,479
Speaker 5: that day on, after that, my father in law goes,

873
00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 5: you know what, we got to renovate this bathroom. He

874
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 5: renovated the whole floor. Do you understand nice? That can

875
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 5: start like a whole chain reaction.

876
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:02,280
Speaker 2: You planted that seed and it'll grow into something positive.

877
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:03,120
Speaker 1: So do that, bitch.

878
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 2: Next question, Yes, my boyfriend, I can't talk about bathroom shitting.

879
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 1: No, Mom, I'm itching my noses.

880
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:13,440
Speaker 3: I'm trying to get to a.

881
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 5: Bitch, Michelle, get the steering wheel.

882
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 1: Jesus, stop, but to stop, signed, Jesus. Okay, down, Jesus.

883
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 3: Make a last but just take the lawn down.

884
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 8: Jesus.

885
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:32,399
Speaker 1: Make a laugh, Jesus. Put on your seat, Jesus, Jesus Christ.

886
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:37,279
Speaker 7: Oh, hurts man, This no joke. Oh Jesus.

887
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 1: Sorry, last question, last question. We gotta wrap it up.

888
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 1: This is too much. Now my eye itches. Oh my god. Okay,

889
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 1: oh boy, question, I'm trying to bitch. Okay.

890
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 2: My boyfriend and I I am a twenty seven year

891
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:56,439
Speaker 2: old woman.

892
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 1: Thank you for the info.

893
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 2: Have been together for two years and it's the first intimate, loving,

894
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 2: truly healthy relationship I've been in. He wants me to

895
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:06,920
Speaker 2: eat him out his butthole, but the problem is it

896
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 2: is stanky.

897
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 1: Oh god, oh my god.

898
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,360
Speaker 3: We've been getting a flood of these kind of questions.

899
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:20,880
Speaker 2: Everybody's asking up for the new YEARY I want to

900
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 2: eat him out.

901
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: That's nice.

902
00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:25,680
Speaker 2: It sounds like fun exclamation point, but I don't know

903
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 2: how to sexily ask him to wipe his butt before

904
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:29,319
Speaker 2: I get in there.

905
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:30,400
Speaker 1: Any advice?

906
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 7: Oh my god, I'm not the right person to answer

907
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 7: that stuff because I'm into parasites and cleansing your call own.

908
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:41,240
Speaker 7: That's a no go area already. Like just the idea

909
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:41,879
Speaker 7: of the.

910
00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:44,320
Speaker 1: No booty play, the parasites.

911
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 7: Have you ever done a colonex or that you did

912
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 7: like klismas like we cly, I love.

913
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: That this is where we go.

914
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 2: We were literally asking for ass play and she's like,

915
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 2: let me just tell you how to clean the booty though,

916
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:55,439
Speaker 2: which is good.

917
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 7: Yes, So if you want to do it, Klisma, go ahead.

918
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:01,560
Speaker 7: Do some coffee Cliss, coffee.

919
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 5: Taste, Coffee clus by C's Coffee cleans.

920
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 3: For some reason, I'm getting targeted ads.

921
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: Where are we going?

922
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 5: I don't know if my wife is doing whatever, but

923
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 5: getting targeted ads about Loom and Loom is a deodorant

924
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,879
Speaker 5: for your butthole. They do not sponsor this show, Loom.

925
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 5: If you're listening, send it my way. Loom is definitely listening.

926
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 7: That might be the answer. Do coffee cluss mus baby

927
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 7: wipes and Loom.

928
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 1: Yes, So, okay, we have to answer this question seriously.

929
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 3: Well, I would get him a little thing a loom.

930
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:35,439
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, we get him a little thing a loom.

931
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:36,800
Speaker 1: Like, I didn't know that's what you were saying. I

932
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 1: thought you were just sharing. I didn't know.

933
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:42,280
Speaker 3: No, no, no, it's just going towards a purpose.

934
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 5: So like I would get the boyfriend either a costco

935
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 5: you know, version of this, just like get him a

936
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 5: six pack and be like, listen.

937
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 2: I think twenty seven is the perfect age to a

938
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 2: be in a decent relationship. Be start speaking up for

939
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 2: your voice, whether it is at work or in the

940
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:01,719
Speaker 2: bedroom or with your parents. This is like when I

941
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 2: really started to learn boundaries with my family. Like, I'm

942
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 2: not that girl anymore. Now I'm truly a young woman.

943
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:11,839
Speaker 2: I'm paying for my own way, and I'm talking about

944
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 2: what I want and how like I'm seeing my future.

945
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: Because some when you enter a new decade, you're like, no,

946
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 1: not this anymore. I want that.

947
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:19,919
Speaker 4: Yes.

948
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 2: And so if you are down to clown and you're

949
00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 2: not afraid of or worried about parasites, which y'all should

950
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,439
Speaker 2: be looking up, I think it's perfectly okay to say, look,

951
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:32,799
Speaker 2: I am down to do all that. But we need

952
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 2: to be clean, clean, clean, clean, right, like when I

953
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 2: used to have when I stands, I used to like

954
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 2: throw people in the shower. But I also love taking

955
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 2: showers with people because that's how you learn what kind

956
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:42,399
Speaker 2: of person they are. It's it's like are you giving

957
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 2: me more water? Are you soaping me up? Are you giving?

958
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 1: Orre you taking? Who gonna be?

959
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:47,320
Speaker 7: So?

960
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 2: I think this is a perfect time to call. And

961
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 2: also you can't have the six without the nine. Just

962
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:53,440
Speaker 2: get in there and make it up a fee for everybody.

963
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 3: Truly, I agree.

964
00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:58,439
Speaker 7: I think the shower id Michelle is perfect. Just take

965
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 7: a shower with the two of you. It's like romantic

966
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 7: four play stuff and just make sure you scrub with

967
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:07,760
Speaker 7: an extra Oh do you say clop taking my baby?

968
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:08,879
Speaker 7: Let me scrub your bag?

969
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, you get in there and wash it.

970
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 6: Yes.

971
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 5: I just want to say, like in this house, we

972
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,319
Speaker 5: believe you gotta get clean to get dirty. So when

973
00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:19,439
Speaker 5: we take a shower together, it's always like she leaves

974
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:21,319
Speaker 5: the shower a little bit prior to when I leave

975
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 5: the shower. I'm like, I'm right there, you know. And

976
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:28,360
Speaker 5: then that's when you really go to town scrub the garage.

977
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 5: You get it nice and you know, spiffy and a Jeff.

978
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 8: Great, you gotta clean out the garage, are you all?

979
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 4: Oh my god, Nicole.

980
00:42:53,680 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 5: We asked all our listeners, We ask all our at

981
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:05,359
Speaker 5: our listeners, our guests. That's all our guests. We that's

982
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:07,320
Speaker 5: all our guests at the end of the show. And

983
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 5: I'm sorry to say that this is the end of

984
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:09,279
Speaker 5: the show.

985
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:09,720
Speaker 3: Nicole.

986
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 5: You've been such an outstanding guest. If you have not

987
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:14,719
Speaker 5: listened to her music, please get it right away.

988
00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 1: Oh, she gets to the question, Jordan, I got a peek.

989
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 3: Is the question? What's the question of the day. What

990
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 3: do you want to do for yourself this year? Nicole?

991
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:25,320
Speaker 3: The most adult thing you want to do for yourself,

992
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 3: the most grown up thing you want to.

993
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 1: Do that you haven't had time to do. And it

994
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 1: could be anything.

995
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 2: It could be big, it could be small, it could

996
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 2: be medium sized, plus size.

997
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 1: We don't care. It doesn't matter. What's the most adult

998
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 1: thing you want to do for yourself.

999
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 7: I want so many things, but let me say just

1000
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:41,320
Speaker 7: one thing. I want to go and find myself a

1001
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 7: farm in the mountains of Italy. That's what I want

1002
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:48,279
Speaker 7: to do. Okay, Oh, that's it.

1003
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 3: I mean, all up in the Dolomites.

1004
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 1: What in the black rom com. That's amazing.

1005
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 2: Under the Tusco sun, well, bitch, you better put all

1006
00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:56,240
Speaker 2: sun blocks.

1007
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 1: Hey, thank you so much.

1008
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 3: You are the well.

1009
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:01,600
Speaker 7: Thank you for having me.

1010
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god, isn't she lovely?

1011
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 2: Also, like I didn't know so many people have so

1012
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 2: many questions about ask Yeah, like ask.

1013
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 1: Me a question.

1014
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, that should just be a segment on the show. Now,

1015
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 5: I gotta ask you a question. Ask the world terms

1016
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 5: my god.

1017
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 2: Wait, wait, don't ask no, No, it's already too much.

1018
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 2: It's already too much. It is so nice hanging out

1019
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:35,800
Speaker 2: with people from other countries.

1020
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm just saying other culture.

1021
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: Okay, Phoebe Robinson, please please.

1022
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, fat out, fat out to Phoebe Robinson.

1023
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:49,800
Speaker 1: What's happening? My brain is broke. Y'all officially broke me.

1024
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 2: My takeaways from this episode besides ask play and parasites is, uh,

1025
00:44:58,080 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 2: I'm listening. But I do love is when people are

1026
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 2: very mindful with their words and their intentions and even

1027
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 2: what they put in their body and who they hang

1028
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:11,080
Speaker 2: out with and where they go. And so she's constantly

1029
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 2: working on not only how to be a better person

1030
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 2: but a better artist. Yeah, and sort of figure out

1031
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 2: like her voice in the world, and so that like

1032
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 2: always inspires me to do the same because I don't

1033
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 2: think a lot before I say, I just say it,

1034
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:25,759
Speaker 2: yeah and hope for the best.

1035
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, when she's expressing herself, I felt a

1036
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:34,480
Speaker 5: certain kind of like circumspection another big word, but it

1037
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 5: just means.

1038
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:41,359
Speaker 3: She was deliberate in those words. Yeah, and and overall, Yeah,

1039
00:45:41,480 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 3: she was like the.

1040
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:46,839
Speaker 5: Resources that I have time, my words this moment, I'm

1041
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 5: going to take them pretty seriously, you know.

1042
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that, which I think we should all

1043
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 2: be a little bit more responsible with her shit.

1044
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:54,920
Speaker 1: Wouldn't the world be a better.

1045
00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:59,600
Speaker 5: Place, Oh, people took actual accountability and responsibility, Yeah, it

1046
00:45:59,640 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 5: would be.

1047
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 3: It would be different.

1048
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:04,319
Speaker 5: And I'm ready for that level of different because right

1049
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 5: now everybody, you know, they don't do it and they

1050
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 5: blame it on others.

1051
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 3: And that's what we're teaching our next generation.

1052
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:11,840
Speaker 1: Isn't that insane?

1053
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 2: It's great, But then we also were giving them the

1054
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 2: vocabulary to like never take responsibilities. So the amount of

1055
00:46:18,640 --> 00:46:21,800
Speaker 2: times I've heard gaslighting in the last month, I'm like,

1056
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:22,440
Speaker 2: do you.

1057
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 5: Know what it is?

1058
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 1: Do you know what it is?

1059
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:28,840
Speaker 5: Anyways, at this point, it's just so normalized, yeah, that

1060
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:31,719
Speaker 5: you really have to take a step back and like

1061
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 5: even if you are wrong, maybe in your estimation or

1062
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 5: from your ego's point of view, Yeah, maybe taking some

1063
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 5: accountability or saying like I played a.

1064
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 1: Part, oh, you know correctly. Is there something I want

1065
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 1: to don't want it? No, I'm just kidding.

1066
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 5: Is there something I want to tell you? I think

1067
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,440
Speaker 5: I can definitely do that more often. I need to

1068
00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:57,840
Speaker 5: do that more often. M hmm, Like stop letting my

1069
00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 5: ego control the rest and just like be like, dude,

1070
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:04,520
Speaker 5: I know it hurts, it burns in your blood right now,

1071
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:06,280
Speaker 5: but like, yeah, it'll.

1072
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: Be fine, and we don't have to fix things right away.

1073
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 2: We could just like say what bothers us and let

1074
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 2: it be, you know, circle back to it and figure

1075
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:15,840
Speaker 2: it out. We don't have to always fix it. And

1076
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 2: I think a lot of people, especially men, are like, well,

1077
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 2: let's fix it right now.

1078
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:20,879
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.

1079
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 2: Sometimes you can. Sometimes you just have to like sit

1080
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:24,399
Speaker 2: in it and then we figure out how to get

1081
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:24,800
Speaker 2: it together.

1082
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 3: The answer won't present itself right away, yeah, absolutely.

1083
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:30,479
Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of like not just women,

1084
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 2: but also just a lot of people I work with

1085
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 2: are like, well, I don't want to bring it up again,

1086
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 2: so I'll just do it and then they burn themselves

1087
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:37,440
Speaker 2: out and it's just like you gotta just.

1088
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:40,760
Speaker 1: Also brought it up, you know. Yeah, yeah, I always

1089
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:41,440
Speaker 1: do this tactic.

1090
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 5: It's a tactic on myself really, So if I have

1091
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:46,160
Speaker 5: to take accountability, I am doing it. But I'm kind

1092
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:48,960
Speaker 5: of like taking the piss, as they say in England,

1093
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 5: where it's like if wifey's right about something, yeah, when

1094
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:56,399
Speaker 5: does that happen? But when she is and I've been wrong,

1095
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 5: m I'll say I'm going to take a break from

1096
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 5: being right all the time and just I'm sorry, you know,

1097
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:02,440
Speaker 5: like or.

1098
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:03,879
Speaker 3: You're right boy.

1099
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 5: And it actually works, thank god, because it like first

1100
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 5: sues the little little monster in me. Yeah, and then

1101
00:48:12,400 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 5: like you know what, the moment passes and you did

1102
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 5: apologize or you were accountable for this that and the

1103
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 5: third Yeah, you know that's that's what it is.

1104
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, find your way, find your way, y'all.

1105
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:22,759
Speaker 7: Yeah.

1106
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:25,799
Speaker 2: I'm not into right and wrong. I'm not into doing

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Speaker 2: the right thing I'm doing. I'm into doing what feels

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Speaker 2: good for me.

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Speaker 3: Mm hmmm.

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Speaker 5: So like that's the place I come from, and you're

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Speaker 5: doing it well, Sis, thank you so much. You've got

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Speaker 5: to proven track record. You take care of yourself. You

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Speaker 5: are selfish in the best ways. Yeah, and that's a

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Speaker 5: good thing.

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Speaker 7: You know.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm gonna go have my caviar sandwich.

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Speaker 7: So oh uh?

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Speaker 3: Are you fucking serious?

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Speaker 1: You know I'm not.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not okay. Are we still eating caviar? Isn't

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Speaker 2: it just inhumane?

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Speaker 3: Do we call it? Rono? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It's like having pets or we still I actually have

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Speaker 1: to go. Okay, good for you. I'm glad you have

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Speaker 1: something to do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I got good news and I have to go.

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Speaker 3: I got a meeting and I gotta go.

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Speaker 1: Bye. It's good to see you. Congratulations, I love you,

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Speaker 1: Love you too. This has been an exactly right production.

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Speaker 1: Our senior producer is g Howley.

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Speaker 3: Art Associate producer is Christina Chamberlain.

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Speaker 1: This episode was mixed by John Bradley. Our guest booker

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Speaker 1: is Patrick Cotner. Additional production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton.

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Speaker 1: Theme song and live show DJing is by DJ don Will.

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Speaker 3: Artwork by Jamie.

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Speaker 1: Bechtel, Photography by Reis vander Most.

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Speaker 5: Executive produced by Karen kilgera Georgia Hartstark, and Daniel Kramer.

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Speaker 1: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod.

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Speaker 5: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 3: Mmm mm