WEBVTT - 2nd Date Update PODCAST: Ben Franklin Effect 0:00:00.360 --> 0:00:03.160 Need Lasik. Trust the experienced team at the Leasic Center 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:06.600 at Evergreen Eye Center, no glasses, no contacts, no limits. 0:00:06.880 --> 0:00:13.960 What will you do Lasik at Evergreen dot com Rooking Jewels. 0:00:14.280 --> 0:00:18.040 Second Date. You know when we do these second date updates, 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:19.800 we always have dudes on the phone that are like, 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:23.360 I got the perfect technique for how to meet ladies. Yeah, 0:00:23.440 --> 0:00:25.200 And the guy on the phone today his name is Sean, 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:28.000 and all his email said was that he uses a 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:31.680 technique called the Ben Franklin effect. Don't really know what 0:00:31.720 --> 0:00:33.720 that is, but I'm guessing that's you go to a 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:36.040 retirement home and convince all the ladies there that you're 0:00:36.080 --> 0:00:39.040 the one who invented by vocals, and then they're super 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:41.200 excited to meet you because now they can read things. 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:46.120 I'm yeah, wow, you invented that. Hey, what's up, Sean? 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:49.320 How are you? Hey? Guys? How's it going pretty good? 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:52.040 I'm interested to find out what the Ben Franklin effect 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:55.080 is unless I got it right? Did I get it right? No? No, 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:58.080 it's not quite like that. It's actually a kite in 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:01.480 a lightning story? Is that what it? No? No, no 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:05.880 good quotes. You convince a woman that you are Ben 0:01:05.920 --> 0:01:10.200 Franklin's ghost and that they must sleep with you in 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:12.960 order for you to finally be put to rest. Say, 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:16.399 I would buy I would take that. This is a 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:19.040 real technique. I've been I learned it from this blog, 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:22.280 but it's really legit. Thing. Wait, this is the first 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:25.400 time you tried the Ben Franklin technique. Yeah, I mean 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:27.240 other people have tried it before. I didn't invent it, 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:29.560 but yeah, okay, Well we'll get to what that is 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:31.400 exactly in a second. First, let's find out about the 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.200 girl you want to call today. What's her name? Her 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:36.440 name is Erica? Erica, and how did you meet Erica? 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:38.400 We're actually in the same class together. I go to 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:40.800 the night school, to the community college. She sits next 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:42.880 to me a lot of time, and she's just beautiful 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:45.840 and really smart, and oh my god, you get so 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:48.800 excited when she actually sits next to you in classics. 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:54.559 I don't know. Yeah, of course I do. Of course 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:57.280 I do. And that's why I thought I could try 0:01:57.320 --> 0:01:59.560 out the Ben Franklin effect on her, because I read 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:03.400 about it and I maybe this would work. Okay, So basically, 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:05.520 you ask a girl to do something for you, and 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:09.919 she does it, and subconsciously, she then likes you more, 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:13.000 and she's more open to you, she's receptive you. And 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:16.720 Ben Franklin apparently used this with his rival inventors or 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:18.839 something to get them to like him more. So he'd 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:21.760 be like, hey, can you pick up that paper I dropped? 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:23.040 And then they would do it, and all of a sudden, 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.480 subconsciously they like him more because they did something for him. Yeah, exactly, 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:28.720 that's it. So what did you ask her to do 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:32.079 for you? I sort of planned this out after, But 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:34.600 the first thing I did was I dropped a pencil 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:37.240 in class and I said, hey, Erica, would you mind 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:40.080 picking that up? And she did, she picked up the pencil. Okay, 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:41.720 I'll go and according to plan, And then you went 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:43.280 and you're like, now you want to sleep with it? 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:48.960 I mean, it wasn't that effective. Okay, pencil isn't a 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:52.040 good analogy there? Well, I had to stick with it, right. 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:54.400 So then the next week I said something like, hey, Erica, 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:56.959 would you mind if I borrow some paper? She's like sure, 0:02:57.000 --> 0:02:58.799 and she ripped out a paper from her notebook and 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:02.040 she gave it to me. Okay, okay. The next week 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:04.840 I said, hey, okay, if you happen to be at 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:07.440 the drug store this week? Would you mind picking up 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:12.840 some posting notes for me? Now you're grab you some 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:14.960 post it notes from the store. Did you give her 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:18.079 your grocery list the following week? No? No, no, I 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:20.000 mean I actually needed some post it notes. But she 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:22.560 looked at me really funny. But I said no, no no, no, 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:24.920 I'll pay you back. And my schedules has been crazy, 0:03:24.960 --> 0:03:27.640 but I'll pay you back. And she did it. She 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:29.200 got me the post it notes that she brought them 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:31.360 the next week. But don't you think I don't know 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:33.520 that she likes you more? Doesn't it say that she 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:35.560 liked you to begin with if she's willing to go 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:38.360 think of you and pick up post it notes? Well maybe, 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:42.000 but I'm trying out the technique. Okay, okay, rightique, So 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:43.800 it appears to be working at this point. I mean 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:46.640 she's doing the things that you're asking. Well. Yeah, after 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:49.360 the posting notes, I realized like, okay, I can start 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:52.720 of just sit down and talk to her now, so hey, 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:55.560 you know, we should hang out some time. And then 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:57.480 she was like, yeah, but my schedule is pretty busy 0:03:57.480 --> 0:04:00.880 picking up things from the store for you. We'll have 0:04:00.920 --> 0:04:04.040 time to go out with you. Well, she said, yeah, 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:06.640 so you know, I thought it was working. Okay, would 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:09.920 you guys do? So I had this idea. I thought 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:11.560 it was a pretty creative idea because I don't have 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:15.320 a lot of money. I'm taking these classes, so I 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:17.919 figured we would go to seven to eleven and do 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:21.880 sort of like a cheap wine tasting. Dude, that's awesome. 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.400 I give you lots of points for that, thank you, 0:04:25.600 --> 0:04:27.520 thank you. I thought it was kind of clever. So 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:30.719 we bought all these like five dollars wines and then 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:33.280 we took them to the park sort of nearby, and 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:36.040 we tried out these wines and we were laughing and 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:39.599 we were talking about True Crime podcast to both listen 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:42.760 to them, and we're sort of really connecting. And then 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:45.360 you're like this Carlo Rossi and Boone's farm. I mean, 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.080 the notes are really amazing, very okay, would you look 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:52.360 a bad dog? Yeah? Yeah, you know, we're not wine experts, 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:54.680 but that was sort of the fun. Yeah, totally. And 0:04:54.720 --> 0:04:56.440 then she said she had to get going, and so 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:58.479 I walked into the bus and give her a hug, 0:04:58.480 --> 0:05:00.800 and you know, that was it. But thought, okay, then 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:03.520 pretty well, okay, all right, and if you guys talked 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:07.760 much after that. We're texting for a while and she 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:10.760 sort of stopped responding me, but she said like, hey, 0:05:11.000 --> 0:05:15.120 you know, I'm going through a difficult time, which I 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:17.760 wasn't really sure with that men. And then it started 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:20.640 happening that I was in class and she would stop 0:05:20.680 --> 0:05:23.760 sitting near me. You know, maybe she thinks, who was 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:25.440 this guy taking me up to seven eleven? This guy 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.400 clearly isn't going places, you know. I don't think that's 0:05:28.400 --> 0:05:31.359 what she meant by a difficult time. I mean, yeah, 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.800 it sounds like she's going through some stuff and just 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:37.160 maybe doesn't need a relationship right now. I mean maybe, 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:39.200 but it sounded kind of like an excuse because like 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:41.800 if we actually did connect, then I don't know why 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.440 she would shape farther away from me. Yeah, it doesn't 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:46.120 really explain why she would not want to even be 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:48.800 around you, if that's what it looks like. Yeah, and 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:51.040 I can take her on a real day, but I 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:54.719 need your help to sort of figure this out. I'm 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:56.360 really hoping to get a second day because I really 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:59.000 liked her. Okay, cool, Well we'll play a song and 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.560 then come back and get your second date update. Okay, 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:07.400 all right, cool, all right, man, hang on brooking jubil 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:10.520 in the morning. Second date update. You know, when we 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:12.719 do these second date updates, we always have dudes on 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:15.000 the phone that are like, I got the perfect technique 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.640 for how to meet ladies. Yeah, And the guy on 0:06:17.640 --> 0:06:19.880 the phone today his name is Sean, and all his 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:22.479 email said was that he uses a technique called the 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:25.760 Ben Franklin effect. Don't really know what that is, but 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:28.240 I'm guessing that you go to a retirement home and 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:30.160 convince all the ladies there that you're the one who 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:33.600 invented bifofos, and then they're super excited to meet you 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:39.040 because now they can read things. Yeah, wow, you invented that. Hey, 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:41.960 what's up, Sean? How are you? Hey? Guys? How's it 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.680 going pretty good? I'm interested to find out what the 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:46.800 Ben Franklin effect is unless I got it right? Did 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.640 I get it right? No? No, it's not going like that. 0:06:50.279 --> 0:06:53.320 It's actually a kite in a lightning story. Is that 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:58.640 it is? No, no, no, You convince a woman that 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:03.479 you are Ben Franklin ghost and that they must sleep 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.080 with you in order for you to finally be put 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:08.159 to rest. I say, I would buy. I would take 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:11.360 that this is a real technique. I had been I 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:15.280 learned it from this blog, but it's really legit thing. Wait, 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:18.840 this is the first time you tried the Ben Franklin technique. Yeah, 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:20.440 I mean other people have tried it before. I didn't 0:07:20.480 --> 0:07:22.880 invent it. But yeah, okay, Well we'll get to what 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:24.800 that is exactly in a second. First, let's find out 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:26.320 about the girl you want to call today. What's her name? 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:30.120 Her name is Erica? Erica, and how did you meet Erica? 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:32.040 We're actually in the same class together. I go to 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:34.480 the night school of the community college. She sits next 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:36.800 to me a lot of time, and she's beautiful and 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:39.880 really smart, and oh my god, you get so excited 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:44.200 when she actually sits next to you in classics. I 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:48.520 don't know. Yeah, of course I do. Of course I do. 0:07:49.080 --> 0:07:51.200 And that's why I thought I could try out the 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:53.680 Ben Franklin effect on her, because I read about it 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:57.120 and I maybe this would work. Okay, So basically, you 0:07:57.200 --> 0:07:59.360 ask a girl to do something for you and she 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:03.680 does it, and subconsciously she then likes you more and 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:06.640 she's more open to you. She's receptive to you, and 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:10.400 Ben Franklin apparently used this with his rival inventors or 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:12.480 something to get them to like him more. So he'd 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:15.400 be like, hey, can you pick up that paper I dropped? 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:16.680 And then they would do it, and all of a sudden, 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:20.160 subconsciously they like him more because they did something for him. Yeah, exactly, 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:22.360 that's it. So what did you ask her to do 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:25.760 for you? I sort of planned this out after, but 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:28.240 the first thing I did was I dropped a pencil 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:30.880 in class and I said, hey, Erica, would you mind 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.720 picking that up? And she did. She picked up the pencil. Okay, 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:35.559 I'll go and according to plan, and then you went there. 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:38.839 You're like, now you want to sleep with I mean, 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:44.439 it wasn't that effective. Okay, pencil isn't a good analogy there? Well, 0:08:44.600 --> 0:08:46.120 I had to stick with it, right, So then the 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:48.400 next week I said something like, hey, Erica, would you 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:50.720 mind if I borrow some paper? She's like sure, and 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:52.559 she ripped out a paper from her notebook and she 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:57.840 gave it to me. Okay, okay. The next week I said, hey, Eric, okay, 0:08:57.840 --> 0:08:59.560 if you happen to be at the drug store this week, 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:03.240 would you mind picking up some posting notes for me? Now, 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:08.120 grab you some post it notes from the store. Did 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:11.600 you give her your grocery list the following week? No? No, no, 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:13.480 I mean I actually needed some post it notes. But 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:16.240 she looked at me really funny. But I said, no, no no, no, 0:09:16.400 --> 0:09:18.600 I'll pay you back and my schedules has been crazy, 0:09:18.640 --> 0:09:21.280 but I'll pay you back. And she did it. She 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:22.840 got me the post it notes and she brought them 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:25.040 the next week. But don't you think I don't know 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:27.160 that she likes you more? Doesn't it say that she 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:29.200 liked you to begin with if she's willing to go 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:32.000 think of you and pick up post it notes? Well maybe, 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:35.640 but I'm trying out the technique. Okay, okay, rue, So 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:37.439 it appears to be working at this point. I mean 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:40.040 she's doing the things that you're asking. Well yeah, And 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:42.480 after the posting notes, I realized like, okay, I can 0:09:42.720 --> 0:09:46.360 start of just sit down and talk to her now. So, hey, 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:49.200 you know we should hang out some time. And then 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:51.160 she was like, yeah, but my schedule is pretty busy 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:54.520 picking up things from the store for you. We'll have 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:57.680 time to go out with you. Well, she said, yeah, 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:00.400 So you know I thought it was working, would you 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:03.640 guys do? So I had this idea I thought it 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:05.280 was a pretty creative idea because I don't have a 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:09.600 lot of money I'm taking these classes, so I figured 0:10:09.880 --> 0:10:11.920 we would go to seven to eleven and do sort 0:10:11.920 --> 0:10:16.360 of like a cheap wine tasting. Dude, that's awesome. I 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:19.600 give you lots of points for that. Thank you, thank you. 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:21.920 I thought it was kind of clever. So we bought 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:25.040 all these like five dollar wines and then we took 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.720 them to the park sort of nearby, and we tried 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:30.000 out these wines and we were laughing and we were 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:33.640 talking about True Crime podcast to both listen to them, 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:36.680 and we're sort of really connecting. And then you're like 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:40.400 this Carlo Rossi and Boone's farm. I mean, the notes 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:44.360 are really amazing. Very okay, would you look a bad dog? Yeah? Yeah, 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:46.560 you know, we're not wine experts, but that was sort 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:48.880 of the fun. Yeah, totally. And then she said she 0:10:48.920 --> 0:10:50.760 had to get going, and so I walked into the 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:53.160 bus and give her a hug, and you know, that 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:55.720 was it. But I thought, okay, then, pretty well, okay, 0:10:55.760 --> 0:10:57.800 all right, and if you guys talked much after that. 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:01.800 We are texting for a while out and she sort 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:04.840 of stopped responding me, but she said like, hey, you know, 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:09.199 I'm going through a difficult time, which I wasn't really 0:11:09.200 --> 0:11:11.840 sure with that men. And then it started happening that 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:15.000 I was in class and she would stop sitting near me. 0:11:15.920 --> 0:11:17.920 You know, maybe she thinks it was this guy taking 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:20.800 me up to seven eleven. This guy clearly isn't going places. 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:22.800 You know. I don't think that's what she meant by 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:26.000 a difficult time. I mean, yeah, it sounds like she's 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:28.880 going through some stuff and just maybe doesn't need a 0:11:28.920 --> 0:11:31.679 relationship right now. I mean maybe, but it sounded kind 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:34.319 of like an excuse because like if we actually did connect, 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:36.800 then I don't know why she would shave farther away 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:39.040 from me. Yeah, it doesn't really explain why she would 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:41.000 not want to even be around you. If that's what 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:43.120 it looks like. Yeah, and I can take her on 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:47.000 a real date, but I need your help to sort 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:49.120 of figure this out. I'm really hoping to get a 0:11:49.120 --> 0:11:51.320 second day because I really liked her. Okay, cool, Well 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:53.600 we'll play a song and then come back and call 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:56.000 her and get your second day up date. Okay, all right, cool, 0:11:56.000 --> 0:12:01.680 all right, man, hang on looking jubil in the morning. 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:06.800 Second date update. If you're just joining us for today's 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:09.080 second date update. Sean is on the phone and he 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:11.800 wants to call a girl named Erica. They actually are 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:14.280 in class together, and they went out on a date 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:16.000 to seven to eleven. They just bought a bunch of stuff, 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:18.600 went to a park, and drank some really crappy alcohol. 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:20.960 But he says it was a great time, and then 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:24.040 she left gave him a hug. But since then, apparently 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.280 she said she's been going through something and she won't 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:28.439 even sit next to him in class, so he's confused 0:12:28.920 --> 0:12:32.319 why she doesn't want to hang out with him again. Hey, Sean, 0:12:32.440 --> 0:12:34.360 since you guys are like in class together, have you 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:36.679 tried maybe you know, pulling out with the chair for 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:38.000 her and then pulling it all the way out when 0:12:38.000 --> 0:12:40.240 she sit down she falls down, or maybe like going 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:42.000 out getting on the teeter totter and you know, getting 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:43.400 on one side and then just getting off so that 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:45.000 she slams out on the ground. You know, it seems 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:47.920 like a good effective way to do that in that situation, 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:50.040 you know, show where you like her. Yeah, you know, 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:51.640 maybe throw some paper at the back of her head 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:53.560 when you're in class, you know, something like that cut 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:57.760 her ponytail. Off like that, hiding a little too old 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:01.319 for that. Give it a shot, man. All right, I'm 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:02.840 gonna be about to dial her phone number right now. 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:05.440 Are you ready? Yeah, I'm ready? All right, Well, here 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:17.680 we go. Hello. Hi is this Erica? Yeah? Hey Erica? 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:19.840 How are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel 0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:25.920 in the Morning. It's a radio show. Oh okay, how 0:13:25.960 --> 0:13:31.120 are you? I'm fine? How are you? I'm not too bad? 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:33.400 Thank you for asking. You're wondering why a radio station 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:37.520 is calling you right now? Yeah, I figured you might be. 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:40.960 I'm calling you today because we got an email from 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:45.400 one of our listeners about you. Oh his name is Sean. 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:51.880 Oh okay. Have you ever heard of a second date 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:54.200 up day before? I mean I've heard of it, but 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:56.560 I don't know about it. So you guys are the 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:58.560 ones you do that? Yeah, we do do that on 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.280 the show. What it is is where you go out 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:01.560 on a date with somebody and then end up not 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:04.040 wanting to see them again after they can email us 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:06.079 and we'll get you on the phone and ask why. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:09.680 So Sean emailed us because he's confused. He says that 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:12.360 you guys had a great time together, but now you're 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:14.080 not really talking to him, and you also don't even 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:19.240 sit in the same area as him anymore in your class. Yeah. Okay, 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:21.400 And Sean is wondering if he did something wrong on 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:26.160 his date. No, he didn't do anything wrong on the date. 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:29.080 The date was really fun. We're both students right now, 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:34.200 obviously funds are short. So he had this idea. He's like, 0:14:34.280 --> 0:14:36.360 we're going to do a wine tasting. Yeah, he told 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:38.040 us all about your date, and it sounded like kind 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:39.120 of like a fun thing to do, even if you 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:41.360 weren't broke. It just kind of sounded fun and quirky, 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:43.600 but wine, and I even want to do it like 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:45.600 that actually sounds like a great idea. But I will 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:49.120 be doing this Saturday night. Did he do something. No, No, 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:51.400 he didn't do anything. I'm going through a really difficult 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:53.920 time with something in my life right now, and I 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:56.960 just I have some drama going on and I needed 0:14:57.040 --> 0:15:01.960 time to not date or like have someone texting me 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:04.800 every single day. I told him, he told us that 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:06.600 you texted him and you're going through a difficult time. 0:15:06.600 --> 0:15:09.240 I'm like, dude, give the woman some space. Yeah, and 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:12.720 like he's very sweet, but he just kept persisting and 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:15.400 kept on bugging, and it's like, I just I have 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:18.080 some drama going on with my girlfriend and he like 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:20.880 wouldn't back off, and so that kind of turns me off. 0:15:20.960 --> 0:15:23.720 It's like, can you just listen and respect my wishes? 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:31.240 So probably us calling you for him is even sexier. Yeah, 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.280 I mean it sounds like you have something serious going on. 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:35.680 I don't remember really, Like keep prying about that because 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:37.080 I don't want you to treat us just like you 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:39.560 did him and stop talking to us. But would you 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:42.800 mind at least like maybe telling him that this is 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:44.280 the reason you're not talking to him is because you're 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.240 dealing with something right now. But she already told him that. Yeah, 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:49.480 I guess you know, when I see him in class, 0:15:49.520 --> 0:15:51.840 I could just tell him then, you know, yeah, or 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:53.200 you could do it now because he's actually on the 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:55.120 other line listening and wants to talk to you. What 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:59.160 do you think about that? Wait? What? Yeah? Yeah, Sean 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:05.720 is on the other line listening. Are you serious? Not, Erica? Hi, 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:12.200 you just don't give her up? Yeah? Yeah, I'm sorry. 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.040 I don't mean to be weird or anything, but I 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:16.000 just I want to know what's going on in your life. 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:18.600 I mean, you know, I care for you, Eric, and 0:16:18.640 --> 0:16:23.120 I'm actually I'm worried about you. Well, thanks, I appreciate that, 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:25.880 but you know, I'm just dealing with enough from my 0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:28.880 friend and my mother. Yeah, I get that. It's just 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:30.680 that I haven't heard from you in a while, and 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:33.640 I really do care for you, Erica, and I want 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:35.280 to be here for you, you you know what I mean. 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.400 I want to know what's going on with Erica? Are 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:40.040 you Are you annoyed by this or do you think 0:16:40.080 --> 0:16:43.720 it's sweet? Where do you stand right now? I understand 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:47.080 that his intentions are pure, but I'm going through the 0:16:47.080 --> 0:16:50.960 worst thing ever right now. So well, it's like, don't 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:54.600 you want to respect her boundaries like she's obviously set them? Yeah, 0:16:54.680 --> 0:16:56.200 of course, the last thing I wanted for you to 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:59.280 feel uncomfortable, Erica. I just I'm a really good listener. 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:02.000 So if you ever do want to talk about it, 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:03.880 I'm here. I just want to let you know that. 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:06.680 I mean, he's a really good listener who doesn't understand 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:08.640 that you already told him that you had something going 0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:12.040 on in text message that you weren't both for a relationship. 0:17:12.119 --> 0:17:14.719 Can you sell America like a death in the family, 0:17:14.880 --> 0:17:19.080 because I can totally I understand what that like, No, no, 0:17:19.160 --> 0:17:22.600 it's not that good. Okay, I'm glad that no one 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:27.880 died or anything. Um, is it like your parents got divorced, Sean. 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:29.480 I think the point is she doesn't want you to 0:17:30.200 --> 0:17:33.720 like pressor into talking about it, just going down the 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:38.680 list of possible scenarios. Look, okay, fine, it's just my 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:42.440 best friend, who I've known since I was two years old, 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:47.000 is getting married. Okay, And I'm also very close with 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:50.159 my mother, and my best friend has been close to 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:54.400 my family for years, like family vacations together and everything. 0:17:54.600 --> 0:18:00.159 And she didn't invite my mom to her wedding. She 0:18:00.240 --> 0:18:04.000 invited our other friend's mom, who she's only known for 0:18:04.160 --> 0:18:08.320 like five years, to the wedding. What, oh, that's what 0:18:08.440 --> 0:18:11.919 you're going through. But your mom didn't get an invite 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:14.440 to your best friend's wedding. I mean, I'm not trying 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:18.440 to tell play your problems, but that's the big thing 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:22.040 that you're dealing with. Yeah, do you know, like how 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:27.440 insulting that is my mother, Like she's been a part 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:30.000 of the family for years, and then she didn't invite 0:18:30.119 --> 0:18:32.840 my mom to the wedding, but she invited our other 0:18:32.920 --> 0:18:36.320 friend's mom. So they're so now you know, now you 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:38.360 know you've been personally about and hope you feel good 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:41.879 about yourself. Wait wait, wait, wait wait, you told me 0:18:41.880 --> 0:18:43.800 that you were going through a difficult time in your life, 0:18:44.480 --> 0:18:50.000 like like really difficult. Yeah, this is difficult. It's a 0:18:50.080 --> 0:18:52.520 very difficult time. But you want to get this straight. 0:18:52.560 --> 0:18:56.640 Your mom wasn't invited to a wedding. Like how we're 0:18:56.640 --> 0:19:01.160 all repeating it? I know, Hey, you gotta be fair, though, 0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:04.119 I mean, everybody deals with things differently, and this is 0:19:04.160 --> 0:19:06.919 hard on Erica. Okay, No, I totally get that, and 0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:09.600 I'm I understand and I just want to be here 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:11.200 for you. But that's kind of silly, right, I mean, 0:19:11.200 --> 0:19:15.840 that's kind of what excuse me? It is not silly. 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:17.520 Imagine that you were going to go to like your 0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:19.919 best friend's wedding and then your dad wasn't invited. You know, 0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:23.360 like you probably be upset about it. Well yeah, yeah, 0:19:23.400 --> 0:19:26.320 maybe for like in two minutes. But I mean, I'm 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:29.600 you know, I was expecting something a lot more devastating 0:19:29.600 --> 0:19:34.520 than that. Well I'm sorry that my version of devastation 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:38.320 that's gonna be nor standards, Okay, but I'm actually going 0:19:38.400 --> 0:19:42.000 through something really difficult right now. And this is exactly 0:19:42.040 --> 0:19:44.760 why I didn't tell you. It's because I knew that 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:48.520 you wouldn't understand, and now here you are like giving 0:19:48.560 --> 0:19:52.080