1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:03,160 Speaker 1: Need Lasik. Trust the experienced team at the Leasic Center 2 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 1: at Evergreen Eye Center, no glasses, no contacts, no limits. 3 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 1: What will you do Lasik at Evergreen dot com Rooking Jewels. 4 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:18,040 Speaker 1: Second Date. You know when we do these second date updates, 5 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:19,800 Speaker 1: we always have dudes on the phone that are like, 6 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: I got the perfect technique for how to meet ladies. Yeah, 7 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: And the guy on the phone today his name is Sean, 8 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: and all his email said was that he uses a 9 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 1: technique called the Ben Franklin effect. Don't really know what 10 00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: that is, but I'm guessing that's you go to a 11 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: retirement home and convince all the ladies there that you're 12 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: the one who invented by vocals, and then they're super 13 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:41,200 Speaker 1: excited to meet you because now they can read things. 14 00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: I'm yeah, wow, you invented that. Hey, what's up, Sean? 15 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,320 Speaker 1: How are you? Hey? Guys? How's it going pretty good? 16 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: I'm interested to find out what the Ben Franklin effect 17 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 1: is unless I got it right? Did I get it right? No? No, 18 00:00:55,120 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: it's not quite like that. It's actually a kite in 19 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: a lightning story? Is that what it? No? No, no 20 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 1: good quotes. You convince a woman that you are Ben 21 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: Franklin's ghost and that they must sleep with you in 22 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:12,960 Speaker 1: order for you to finally be put to rest. Say, 23 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 1: I would buy I would take that. This is a 24 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:19,040 Speaker 1: real technique. I've been I learned it from this blog, 25 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 1: but it's really legit. Thing. Wait, this is the first 26 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:25,400 Speaker 1: time you tried the Ben Franklin technique. Yeah, I mean 27 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: other people have tried it before. I didn't invent it, 28 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: but yeah, okay, Well we'll get to what that is 29 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:31,400 Speaker 1: exactly in a second. First, let's find out about the 30 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: girl you want to call today. What's her name? Her 31 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: name is Erica? Erica, and how did you meet Erica? 32 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:38,400 Speaker 1: We're actually in the same class together. I go to 33 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: the night school, to the community college. She sits next 34 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: to me a lot of time, and she's just beautiful 35 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:45,840 Speaker 1: and really smart, and oh my god, you get so 36 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: excited when she actually sits next to you in classics. 37 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:54,559 Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, of course I do. Of course 38 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 1: I do. And that's why I thought I could try 39 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: out the Ben Franklin effect on her, because I read 40 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: about it and I maybe this would work. Okay, So basically, 41 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: you ask a girl to do something for you, and 42 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:09,919 Speaker 1: she does it, and subconsciously, she then likes you more, 43 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: and she's more open to you, she's receptive you. And 44 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 1: Ben Franklin apparently used this with his rival inventors or 45 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:18,839 Speaker 1: something to get them to like him more. So he'd 46 00:02:18,840 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: be like, hey, can you pick up that paper I dropped? 47 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 1: And then they would do it, and all of a sudden, 48 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: subconsciously they like him more because they did something for him. Yeah, exactly, 49 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 1: that's it. So what did you ask her to do 50 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,079 Speaker 1: for you? I sort of planned this out after, But 51 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: the first thing I did was I dropped a pencil 52 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 1: in class and I said, hey, Erica, would you mind 53 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:40,080 Speaker 1: picking that up? And she did, she picked up the pencil. Okay, 54 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: I'll go and according to plan, And then you went 55 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:43,280 Speaker 1: and you're like, now you want to sleep with it? 56 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 1: I mean, it wasn't that effective. Okay, pencil isn't a 57 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 1: good analogy there? Well, I had to stick with it, right. 58 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 1: So then the next week I said something like, hey, Erica, 59 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:56,959 Speaker 1: would you mind if I borrow some paper? She's like sure, 60 00:02:57,000 --> 00:02:58,799 Speaker 1: and she ripped out a paper from her notebook and 61 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 1: she gave it to me. Okay, okay. The next week 62 00:03:02,280 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: I said, hey, okay, if you happen to be at 63 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: the drug store this week? Would you mind picking up 64 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 1: some posting notes for me? Now you're grab you some 65 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:14,960 Speaker 1: post it notes from the store. Did you give her 66 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:18,079 Speaker 1: your grocery list the following week? No? No, no, I 67 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: mean I actually needed some post it notes. But she 68 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: looked at me really funny. But I said no, no no, no, 69 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:24,920 Speaker 1: I'll pay you back. And my schedules has been crazy, 70 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,640 Speaker 1: but I'll pay you back. And she did it. She 71 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 1: got me the post it notes that she brought them 72 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 1: the next week. But don't you think I don't know 73 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 1: that she likes you more? Doesn't it say that she 74 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 1: liked you to begin with if she's willing to go 75 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: think of you and pick up post it notes? Well maybe, 76 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 1: but I'm trying out the technique. Okay, okay, rightique, So 77 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: it appears to be working at this point. I mean 78 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: she's doing the things that you're asking. Well. Yeah, after 79 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 1: the posting notes, I realized like, okay, I can start 80 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 1: of just sit down and talk to her now, so hey, 81 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: you know, we should hang out some time. And then 82 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 1: she was like, yeah, but my schedule is pretty busy 83 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: picking up things from the store for you. We'll have 84 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 1: time to go out with you. Well, she said, yeah, 85 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: so you know, I thought it was working. Okay, would 86 00:04:06,640 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: you guys do? So I had this idea. I thought 87 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: it was a pretty creative idea because I don't have 88 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 1: a lot of money. I'm taking these classes, so I 89 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:17,919 Speaker 1: figured we would go to seven to eleven and do 90 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: sort of like a cheap wine tasting. Dude, that's awesome. 91 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: I give you lots of points for that, thank you, 92 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 1: thank you. I thought it was kind of clever. So 93 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,719 Speaker 1: we bought all these like five dollars wines and then 94 00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:33,280 Speaker 1: we took them to the park sort of nearby, and 95 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 1: we tried out these wines and we were laughing and 96 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:39,599 Speaker 1: we were talking about True Crime podcast to both listen 97 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: to them, and we're sort of really connecting. And then 98 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:45,360 Speaker 1: you're like this Carlo Rossi and Boone's farm. I mean, 99 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: the notes are really amazing, very okay, would you look 100 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 1: a bad dog? Yeah? Yeah, you know, we're not wine experts, 101 00:04:52,400 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: but that was sort of the fun. Yeah, totally. And 102 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 1: then she said she had to get going, and so 103 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 1: I walked into the bus and give her a hug, 104 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 1: and you know, that was it. But thought, okay, then 105 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 1: pretty well, okay, all right, and if you guys talked 106 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: much after that. We're texting for a while and she 107 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: sort of stopped responding me, but she said like, hey, 108 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: you know, I'm going through a difficult time, which I 109 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: wasn't really sure with that men. And then it started 110 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 1: happening that I was in class and she would stop 111 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: sitting near me. You know, maybe she thinks, who was 112 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 1: this guy taking me up to seven eleven? This guy 113 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: clearly isn't going places, you know. I don't think that's 114 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:31,359 Speaker 1: what she meant by a difficult time. I mean, yeah, 115 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 1: it sounds like she's going through some stuff and just 116 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 1: maybe doesn't need a relationship right now. I mean maybe, 117 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: but it sounded kind of like an excuse because like 118 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 1: if we actually did connect, then I don't know why 119 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: she would shape farther away from me. Yeah, it doesn't 120 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 1: really explain why she would not want to even be 121 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 1: around you, if that's what it looks like. Yeah, and 122 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 1: I can take her on a real day, but I 123 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 1: need your help to sort of figure this out. I'm 124 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 1: really hoping to get a second day because I really 125 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:59,000 Speaker 1: liked her. Okay, cool, Well we'll play a song and 126 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 1: then come back and get your second date update. Okay, 127 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: all right, cool, all right, man, hang on brooking jubil 128 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 1: in the morning. Second date update. You know, when we 129 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:12,719 Speaker 1: do these second date updates, we always have dudes on 130 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 1: the phone that are like, I got the perfect technique 131 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:17,640 Speaker 1: for how to meet ladies. Yeah, And the guy on 132 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 1: the phone today his name is Sean, and all his 133 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:22,479 Speaker 1: email said was that he uses a technique called the 134 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: Ben Franklin effect. Don't really know what that is, but 135 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: I'm guessing that you go to a retirement home and 136 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,160 Speaker 1: convince all the ladies there that you're the one who 137 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:33,600 Speaker 1: invented bifofos, and then they're super excited to meet you 138 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 1: because now they can read things. Yeah, wow, you invented that. Hey, 139 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: what's up, Sean? How are you? Hey? Guys? How's it 140 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: going pretty good? I'm interested to find out what the 141 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:46,800 Speaker 1: Ben Franklin effect is unless I got it right? Did 142 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: I get it right? No? No, it's not going like that. 143 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 1: It's actually a kite in a lightning story. Is that 144 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:58,640 Speaker 1: it is? No, no, no, You convince a woman that 145 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:03,479 Speaker 1: you are Ben Franklin ghost and that they must sleep 146 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: with you in order for you to finally be put 147 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:08,159 Speaker 1: to rest. I say, I would buy. I would take 148 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: that this is a real technique. I had been I 149 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 1: learned it from this blog, but it's really legit thing. Wait, 150 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: this is the first time you tried the Ben Franklin technique. Yeah, 151 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 1: I mean other people have tried it before. I didn't 152 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 1: invent it. But yeah, okay, Well we'll get to what 153 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 1: that is exactly in a second. First, let's find out 154 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 1: about the girl you want to call today. What's her name? 155 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:30,120 Speaker 1: Her name is Erica? Erica, and how did you meet Erica? 156 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 1: We're actually in the same class together. I go to 157 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: the night school of the community college. She sits next 158 00:07:34,480 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: to me a lot of time, and she's beautiful and 159 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: really smart, and oh my god, you get so excited 160 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: when she actually sits next to you in classics. I 161 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, of course I do. Of course I do. 162 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 1: And that's why I thought I could try out the 163 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: Ben Franklin effect on her, because I read about it 164 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: and I maybe this would work. Okay, So basically, you 165 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 1: ask a girl to do something for you and she 166 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:03,680 Speaker 1: does it, and subconsciously she then likes you more and 167 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 1: she's more open to you. She's receptive to you, and 168 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 1: Ben Franklin apparently used this with his rival inventors or 169 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 1: something to get them to like him more. So he'd 170 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 1: be like, hey, can you pick up that paper I dropped? 171 00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: And then they would do it, and all of a sudden, 172 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: subconsciously they like him more because they did something for him. Yeah, exactly, 173 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: that's it. So what did you ask her to do 174 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:25,760 Speaker 1: for you? I sort of planned this out after, but 175 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 1: the first thing I did was I dropped a pencil 176 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:30,880 Speaker 1: in class and I said, hey, Erica, would you mind 177 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 1: picking that up? And she did. She picked up the pencil. Okay, 178 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:35,559 Speaker 1: I'll go and according to plan, and then you went there. 179 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:38,839 Speaker 1: You're like, now you want to sleep with I mean, 180 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:44,439 Speaker 1: it wasn't that effective. Okay, pencil isn't a good analogy there? Well, 181 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 1: I had to stick with it, right, So then the 182 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 1: next week I said something like, hey, Erica, would you 183 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 1: mind if I borrow some paper? She's like sure, and 184 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:52,559 Speaker 1: she ripped out a paper from her notebook and she 185 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: gave it to me. Okay, okay. The next week I said, hey, Eric, okay, 186 00:08:57,840 --> 00:08:59,560 Speaker 1: if you happen to be at the drug store this week, 187 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 1: would you mind picking up some posting notes for me? Now, 188 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:08,120 Speaker 1: grab you some post it notes from the store. Did 189 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 1: you give her your grocery list the following week? No? No, no, 190 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 1: I mean I actually needed some post it notes. But 191 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 1: she looked at me really funny. But I said, no, no no, no, 192 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:18,600 Speaker 1: I'll pay you back and my schedules has been crazy, 193 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 1: but I'll pay you back. And she did it. She 194 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: got me the post it notes and she brought them 195 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: the next week. But don't you think I don't know 196 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 1: that she likes you more? Doesn't it say that she 197 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 1: liked you to begin with if she's willing to go 198 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 1: think of you and pick up post it notes? Well maybe, 199 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:35,640 Speaker 1: but I'm trying out the technique. Okay, okay, rue, So 200 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:37,439 Speaker 1: it appears to be working at this point. I mean 201 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 1: she's doing the things that you're asking. Well yeah, And 202 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:42,480 Speaker 1: after the posting notes, I realized like, okay, I can 203 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: start of just sit down and talk to her now. So, hey, 204 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:49,200 Speaker 1: you know we should hang out some time. And then 205 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: she was like, yeah, but my schedule is pretty busy 206 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 1: picking up things from the store for you. We'll have 207 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:57,680 Speaker 1: time to go out with you. Well, she said, yeah, 208 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:00,400 Speaker 1: So you know I thought it was working, would you 209 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 1: guys do? So I had this idea I thought it 210 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: was a pretty creative idea because I don't have a 211 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 1: lot of money I'm taking these classes, so I figured 212 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:11,920 Speaker 1: we would go to seven to eleven and do sort 213 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: of like a cheap wine tasting. Dude, that's awesome. I 214 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:19,600 Speaker 1: give you lots of points for that. Thank you, thank you. 215 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: I thought it was kind of clever. So we bought 216 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:25,040 Speaker 1: all these like five dollar wines and then we took 217 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:27,720 Speaker 1: them to the park sort of nearby, and we tried 218 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 1: out these wines and we were laughing and we were 219 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: talking about True Crime podcast to both listen to them, 220 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:36,680 Speaker 1: and we're sort of really connecting. And then you're like 221 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 1: this Carlo Rossi and Boone's farm. I mean, the notes 222 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: are really amazing. Very okay, would you look a bad dog? Yeah? Yeah, 223 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:46,560 Speaker 1: you know, we're not wine experts, but that was sort 224 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 1: of the fun. Yeah, totally. And then she said she 225 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 1: had to get going, and so I walked into the 226 00:10:50,760 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 1: bus and give her a hug, and you know, that 227 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 1: was it. But I thought, okay, then, pretty well, okay, 228 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: all right, and if you guys talked much after that. 229 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 1: We are texting for a while out and she sort 230 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 1: of stopped responding me, but she said like, hey, you know, 231 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:09,199 Speaker 1: I'm going through a difficult time, which I wasn't really 232 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:11,840 Speaker 1: sure with that men. And then it started happening that 233 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: I was in class and she would stop sitting near me. 234 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 1: You know, maybe she thinks it was this guy taking 235 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 1: me up to seven eleven. This guy clearly isn't going places. 236 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 1: You know. I don't think that's what she meant by 237 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:26,000 Speaker 1: a difficult time. I mean, yeah, it sounds like she's 238 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:28,880 Speaker 1: going through some stuff and just maybe doesn't need a 239 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,679 Speaker 1: relationship right now. I mean maybe, but it sounded kind 240 00:11:31,679 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 1: of like an excuse because like if we actually did connect, 241 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:36,800 Speaker 1: then I don't know why she would shave farther away 242 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: from me. Yeah, it doesn't really explain why she would 243 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:41,000 Speaker 1: not want to even be around you. If that's what 244 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: it looks like. Yeah, and I can take her on 245 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: a real date, but I need your help to sort 246 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: of figure this out. I'm really hoping to get a 247 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 1: second day because I really liked her. Okay, cool, Well 248 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 1: we'll play a song and then come back and call 249 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: her and get your second day up date. Okay, all right, cool, 250 00:11:56,000 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 1: all right, man, hang on looking jubil in the morning. 251 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: Second date update. If you're just joining us for today's 252 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:09,080 Speaker 1: second date update. Sean is on the phone and he 253 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 1: wants to call a girl named Erica. They actually are 254 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:14,280 Speaker 1: in class together, and they went out on a date 255 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: to seven to eleven. They just bought a bunch of stuff, 256 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:18,600 Speaker 1: went to a park, and drank some really crappy alcohol. 257 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:20,960 Speaker 1: But he says it was a great time, and then 258 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 1: she left gave him a hug. But since then, apparently 259 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: she said she's been going through something and she won't 260 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:28,439 Speaker 1: even sit next to him in class, so he's confused 261 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:32,319 Speaker 1: why she doesn't want to hang out with him again. Hey, Sean, 262 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: since you guys are like in class together, have you 263 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:36,679 Speaker 1: tried maybe you know, pulling out with the chair for 264 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: her and then pulling it all the way out when 265 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 1: she sit down she falls down, or maybe like going 266 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 1: out getting on the teeter totter and you know, getting 267 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: on one side and then just getting off so that 268 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:45,000 Speaker 1: she slams out on the ground. You know, it seems 269 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:47,920 Speaker 1: like a good effective way to do that in that situation, 270 00:12:48,679 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: you know, show where you like her. Yeah, you know, 271 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:51,640 Speaker 1: maybe throw some paper at the back of her head 272 00:12:51,679 --> 00:12:53,560 Speaker 1: when you're in class, you know, something like that cut 273 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 1: her ponytail. Off like that, hiding a little too old 274 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:01,319 Speaker 1: for that. Give it a shot, man. All right, I'm 275 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:02,840 Speaker 1: gonna be about to dial her phone number right now. 276 00:13:02,880 --> 00:13:05,440 Speaker 1: Are you ready? Yeah, I'm ready? All right, Well, here 277 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:17,680 Speaker 1: we go. Hello. Hi is this Erica? Yeah? Hey Erica? 278 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 1: How are you? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel 279 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:25,920 Speaker 1: in the Morning. It's a radio show. Oh okay, how 280 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:31,120 Speaker 1: are you? I'm fine? How are you? I'm not too bad? 281 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 1: Thank you for asking. You're wondering why a radio station 282 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 1: is calling you right now? Yeah, I figured you might be. 283 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 1: I'm calling you today because we got an email from 284 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:45,400 Speaker 1: one of our listeners about you. Oh his name is Sean. 285 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 1: Oh okay. Have you ever heard of a second date 286 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:54,200 Speaker 1: up day before? I mean I've heard of it, but 287 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:56,560 Speaker 1: I don't know about it. So you guys are the 288 00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:58,560 Speaker 1: ones you do that? Yeah, we do do that on 289 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:00,280 Speaker 1: the show. What it is is where you go out 290 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:01,560 Speaker 1: on a date with somebody and then end up not 291 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 1: wanting to see them again after they can email us 292 00:14:04,160 --> 00:14:06,079 Speaker 1: and we'll get you on the phone and ask why. 293 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:09,680 Speaker 1: So Sean emailed us because he's confused. He says that 294 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:12,360 Speaker 1: you guys had a great time together, but now you're 295 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:14,080 Speaker 1: not really talking to him, and you also don't even 296 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 1: sit in the same area as him anymore in your class. Yeah. Okay, 297 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:21,400 Speaker 1: And Sean is wondering if he did something wrong on 298 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 1: his date. No, he didn't do anything wrong on the date. 299 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 1: The date was really fun. We're both students right now, 300 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 1: obviously funds are short. So he had this idea. He's like, 301 00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 1: we're going to do a wine tasting. Yeah, he told 302 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:38,040 Speaker 1: us all about your date, and it sounded like kind 303 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:39,120 Speaker 1: of like a fun thing to do, even if you 304 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 1: weren't broke. It just kind of sounded fun and quirky, 305 00:14:41,440 --> 00:14:43,600 Speaker 1: but wine, and I even want to do it like 306 00:14:43,600 --> 00:14:45,600 Speaker 1: that actually sounds like a great idea. But I will 307 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 1: be doing this Saturday night. Did he do something. No, No, 308 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 1: he didn't do anything. I'm going through a really difficult 309 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 1: time with something in my life right now, and I 310 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 1: just I have some drama going on and I needed 311 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 1: time to not date or like have someone texting me 312 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 1: every single day. I told him, he told us that 313 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:06,600 Speaker 1: you texted him and you're going through a difficult time. 314 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:09,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, give the woman some space. Yeah, and 315 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: like he's very sweet, but he just kept persisting and 316 00:15:12,880 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 1: kept on bugging, and it's like, I just I have 317 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: some drama going on with my girlfriend and he like 318 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:20,880 Speaker 1: wouldn't back off, and so that kind of turns me off. 319 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 1: It's like, can you just listen and respect my wishes? 320 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:31,240 Speaker 1: So probably us calling you for him is even sexier. Yeah, 321 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:33,280 Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like you have something serious going on. 322 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:35,680 Speaker 1: I don't remember really, Like keep prying about that because 323 00:15:35,680 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 1: I don't want you to treat us just like you 324 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:39,560 Speaker 1: did him and stop talking to us. But would you 325 00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:42,800 Speaker 1: mind at least like maybe telling him that this is 326 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 1: the reason you're not talking to him is because you're 327 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 1: dealing with something right now. But she already told him that. Yeah, 328 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:49,480 Speaker 1: I guess you know, when I see him in class, 329 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 1: I could just tell him then, you know, yeah, or 330 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:53,200 Speaker 1: you could do it now because he's actually on the 331 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:55,120 Speaker 1: other line listening and wants to talk to you. What 332 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:59,160 Speaker 1: do you think about that? Wait? What? Yeah? Yeah, Sean 333 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:05,720 Speaker 1: is on the other line listening. Are you serious? Not, Erica? Hi, 334 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:12,200 Speaker 1: you just don't give her up? Yeah? Yeah, I'm sorry. 335 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 1: I don't mean to be weird or anything, but I 336 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,000 Speaker 1: just I want to know what's going on in your life. 337 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:18,600 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I care for you, Eric, and 338 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 1: I'm actually I'm worried about you. Well, thanks, I appreciate that, 339 00:16:23,280 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 1: but you know, I'm just dealing with enough from my 340 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 1: friend and my mother. Yeah, I get that. It's just 341 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:30,680 Speaker 1: that I haven't heard from you in a while, and 342 00:16:30,720 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 1: I really do care for you, Erica, and I want 343 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 1: to be here for you, you you know what I mean. 344 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:37,400 Speaker 1: I want to know what's going on with Erica? Are 345 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:40,040 Speaker 1: you Are you annoyed by this or do you think 346 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:43,720 Speaker 1: it's sweet? Where do you stand right now? I understand 347 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:47,080 Speaker 1: that his intentions are pure, but I'm going through the 348 00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 1: worst thing ever right now. So well, it's like, don't 349 00:16:50,960 --> 00:16:54,600 Speaker 1: you want to respect her boundaries like she's obviously set them? Yeah, 350 00:16:54,680 --> 00:16:56,200 Speaker 1: of course, the last thing I wanted for you to 351 00:16:56,200 --> 00:16:59,280 Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable, Erica. I just I'm a really good listener. 352 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:02,000 Speaker 1: So if you ever do want to talk about it, 353 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: I'm here. I just want to let you know that. 354 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:06,680 Speaker 1: I mean, he's a really good listener who doesn't understand 355 00:17:06,680 --> 00:17:08,640 Speaker 1: that you already told him that you had something going 356 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 1: on in text message that you weren't both for a relationship. 357 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,719 Speaker 1: Can you sell America like a death in the family, 358 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:19,080 Speaker 1: because I can totally I understand what that like, No, no, 359 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:22,600 Speaker 1: it's not that good. Okay, I'm glad that no one 360 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:27,880 Speaker 1: died or anything. Um, is it like your parents got divorced, Sean. 361 00:17:27,960 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 1: I think the point is she doesn't want you to 362 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:33,720 Speaker 1: like pressor into talking about it, just going down the 363 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:38,680 Speaker 1: list of possible scenarios. Look, okay, fine, it's just my 364 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:42,440 Speaker 1: best friend, who I've known since I was two years old, 365 00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:47,000 Speaker 1: is getting married. Okay, And I'm also very close with 366 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:50,159 Speaker 1: my mother, and my best friend has been close to 367 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:54,400 Speaker 1: my family for years, like family vacations together and everything. 368 00:17:54,600 --> 00:18:00,159 Speaker 1: And she didn't invite my mom to her wedding. She 369 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:04,000 Speaker 1: invited our other friend's mom, who she's only known for 370 00:18:04,160 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 1: like five years, to the wedding. What, oh, that's what 371 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:11,919 Speaker 1: you're going through. But your mom didn't get an invite 372 00:18:11,920 --> 00:18:14,440 Speaker 1: to your best friend's wedding. I mean, I'm not trying 373 00:18:14,440 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 1: to tell play your problems, but that's the big thing 374 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: that you're dealing with. Yeah, do you know, like how 375 00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:27,440 Speaker 1: insulting that is my mother, Like she's been a part 376 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 1: of the family for years, and then she didn't invite 377 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:32,840 Speaker 1: my mom to the wedding, but she invited our other 378 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 1: friend's mom. So they're so now you know, now you 379 00:18:36,359 --> 00:18:38,360 Speaker 1: know you've been personally about and hope you feel good 380 00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:41,879 Speaker 1: about yourself. Wait wait, wait, wait wait, you told me 381 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:43,800 Speaker 1: that you were going through a difficult time in your life, 382 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 1: like like really difficult. Yeah, this is difficult. It's a 383 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:52,520 Speaker 1: very difficult time. But you want to get this straight. 384 00:18:52,560 --> 00:18:56,640 Speaker 1: Your mom wasn't invited to a wedding. Like how we're 385 00:18:56,640 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 1: all repeating it? I know, Hey, you gotta be fair, though, 386 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:04,119 Speaker 1: I mean, everybody deals with things differently, and this is 387 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:06,919 Speaker 1: hard on Erica. Okay, No, I totally get that, and 388 00:19:06,960 --> 00:19:09,600 Speaker 1: I'm I understand and I just want to be here 389 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 1: for you. But that's kind of silly, right, I mean, 390 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:15,840 Speaker 1: that's kind of what excuse me? It is not silly. 391 00:19:15,960 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 1: Imagine that you were going to go to like your 392 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:19,919 Speaker 1: best friend's wedding and then your dad wasn't invited. You know, 393 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:23,360 Speaker 1: like you probably be upset about it. Well yeah, yeah, 394 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:26,320 Speaker 1: maybe for like in two minutes. But I mean, I'm 395 00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 1: you know, I was expecting something a lot more devastating 396 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 1: than that. Well I'm sorry that my version of devastation 397 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: that's gonna be nor standards, Okay, but I'm actually going 398 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 1: through something really difficult right now. And this is exactly 399 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:44,760 Speaker 1: why I didn't tell you. It's because I knew that 400 00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:48,520 Speaker 1: you wouldn't understand, and now here you are like giving 401 00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:52,080 Speaker 1: me about it on the radio. Okay, who does that anyways? Okay, 402 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:53,840 Speaker 1: I get it. I get it. I'm sorry I can't 403 00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:56,720 Speaker 1: get it. I get it. I get it. Oh my god. 404 00:19:56,760 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: You Okay, But you know what lucky for you, Erica, 405 00:19:59,359 --> 00:20:01,239 Speaker 1: that this is the worst thing you're dealing with. You 406 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:04,400 Speaker 1: live a very charmed life. What's that supposed to mean? 407 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 1: I just I think it's supposed to mean that. You know, 408 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:12,679 Speaker 1: that's like a big thing. Why is everyone treating you 409 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:14,600 Speaker 1: like this isn't a big issue, Like this isn't a 410 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:17,960 Speaker 1: big deal or something it is? I agree with Erica, 411 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:19,680 Speaker 1: this is the worst thing happening in the world right now. 412 00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:25,239 Speaker 1: I can't believe it. Yeah, oh my god, you're all 413 00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:28,120 Speaker 1: sitting there laughing, and you're not even thinking about my 414 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:31,680 Speaker 1: poor mother who's sitting at home all by herself, crying 415 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:34,639 Speaker 1: every night wondering what she did. I feel you. I 416 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: feel you. There's like a Saturday out there where your 417 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 1: mom doesn't have plans and other people do. I feel 418 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:46,120 Speaker 1: you feel bad. I am feel bad? Oh my god, 419 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,760 Speaker 1: Erica's just perspective, That's all we're saying. Get some perspective here, 420 00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:56,359 Speaker 1: here's some perspective. You guys are all awful. Okay, fine, No, 421 00:20:57,600 --> 00:20:59,600 Speaker 1: did she hang up? I think yeah, she's gone. I 422 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:03,000 Speaker 1: think she's gone. Hey, Sean, I didn't even get to ask, 423 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 1: but I'll just do it now since she's not here. 424 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 1: Would you like to go out with Sean on a 425 00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:11,560 Speaker 1: second date? Erica, We'll pay for it. She's not answering. 426 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:15,400 Speaker 1: I think that's a no, Sean. Oh Sean, Wow, how 427 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:19,240 Speaker 1: you feeling right now about that? I'm having a difficult 428 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:22,480 Speaker 1: time deciding this now. It's kind of weird, it is. 429 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:24,680 Speaker 1: I agree, it is weird that her friend wouldn't invite 430 00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:27,880 Speaker 1: her mom to her wedding. I know that horrible Sean 431 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:30,919 Speaker 1: grew up together. Yeah, I feel like maybe she's a 432 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,640 Speaker 1: little too dramatic for me. I'm not gonna lie. What 433 00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:35,320 Speaker 1: did you hear what she said? Sean?