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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Brent is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Lola.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 2: get him a second date if he still wants one.

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Speaker 2: But first, Brent, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Lola.

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Speaker 3: It's been five days since we went on the date.

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Speaker 2: Okay, And how many times do you try to reach

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Speaker 2: out to her in those five days.

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Speaker 4: The first time was the next morning, and then she

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Speaker 4: never responded, So two days later I followed up and

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Speaker 4: didn't get anything back from her than either, Okay, she's

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Speaker 4: definitely ghosting.

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Speaker 5: Did you text call email?

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Speaker 3: I texted her?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I texted her. The first text. I was just like,

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Speaker 4: you know, I had a great time and I'd love

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Speaker 4: to see you again. Let me know if you feel

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Speaker 4: the same. So I'm trying to be pretty straightforward.

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Speaker 5: Okay, tell us about the date.

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Speaker 3: The date was really fun. We went down to that

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Speaker 3: little theater. It was cool.

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Speaker 4: We saw this artsy movie that you know, I didn't

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Speaker 4: really understand, but she seemed into it, and uh, you know,

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Speaker 4: we were just we had a good time. She was

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Speaker 4: laughing at my jokes. She she brushed against my arm

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Speaker 4: a couple of times. I thought we reviving.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 4: I even brought her flowers, which I I don't really

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Speaker 4: do that for dates. But you know, she was really

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Speaker 4: She's really smart and hot and funny.

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Speaker 2: So did you guys do anything else other than go

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Speaker 2: to the movie.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely, we just walked around a little bit. Towards the end.

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Speaker 4: You know, I thought we were gonna kiss. We were

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Speaker 4: kind of headed both then to to do it, but

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Speaker 4: then we knocked heads and then she dropped her keys,

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Speaker 4: and then I've been down to help, but she just

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Speaker 4: kind of ran off. It was pretty quick. I was

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Speaker 4: kind of I didn't know something I'd come up or

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Speaker 4: if I did something.

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Speaker 5: You know, let's go through that.

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Speaker 2: So you knocked heads when you were about to kiss,

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Speaker 2: she dropped her keys and then just sprinted, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4: I went down to help the keys, and then yeah,

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Speaker 4: she just kind of got up there.

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Speaker 3: I gotta go.

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Speaker 5: So so she actually said.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so she was. I mean, it was

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Speaker 4: like so quick, but yeah, she was kind of Uh, yeah,

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Speaker 4: it was just a quick goodbye. I was, you know,

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Speaker 4: sitting around like what just happened?

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Speaker 5: That's not funny.

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Speaker 6: With the visual that I get from that looks very funny,

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Speaker 6: like her just taking off and sprinting away.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Worried I head better her a little too hard.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe she was just dazed and she didn't know

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Speaker 2: where she was.

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Speaker 3: Why do you think she would do that?

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Speaker 4: Well, I was thinking through it, and I was like,

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Speaker 4: maybe maybe it was because earlier I said something, you know,

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Speaker 4: I was like, I like thick girls, and which I

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Speaker 4: mean as a compliment, like she's pervy, gorgeous.

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Speaker 3: Okay, wait, but you thought that could be it?

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Speaker 5: When did you say that?

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Speaker 4: I was kind of just earlier along I hit him

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Speaker 4: in like she looked amazing, So I didn't mean it

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Speaker 4: in the wrong way at Also.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you didn't say it right before you head

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Speaker 2: buttered her would be very weird. I mean, yeah, that

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Speaker 2: could be taken the wrong way. But she stayed with

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Speaker 2: you on the date.

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Speaker 6: Though, Yeah, and he tried to kiss her and she

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Speaker 6: tried to kiss you, so that I don't know, I

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Speaker 6: don't think that's what it was.

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Speaker 2: But that also is like, I don't know, I know

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Speaker 2: a lot of girls would just stay on a date.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, just even if they decided an hour ago they

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Speaker 4: didn't like this person will just stay there.

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Speaker 2: Or even though go in for a kiss, just because

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Speaker 2: they feel like they just want to get it overwey,

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Speaker 2: let's move on.

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Speaker 5: Did her attitude change after you called her a thicky thick?

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Speaker 4: I mean it wasn't like that, but no, it was

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Speaker 4: like it was I think, you know, I think I'm

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Speaker 4: looking into it.

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Speaker 7: You know.

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Speaker 3: She didn't react to uh or anything like. Okay, so all.

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Speaker 5: Right, we'll see if we can figure it out for you.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song come back, and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you a second date if.

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Speaker 3: You still want one. Okay, awesome, thank you.

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll get your first day follow up right

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Speaker 2: after this. Right in the middle of your first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and if you're just joining us, Brent is

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Speaker 2: on the phone and Brent is getting ghosted by Lola.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us the reason she's ghosting him and maybe get

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Speaker 2: him a second date. But before we do that, Brent

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Speaker 2: catch us up on your situation again real quick.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So, five days ago we went on a nice date

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Speaker 4: to the theater and saw a movie.

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Speaker 3: I thought everything was going well, were reviving.

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Speaker 4: I brought her flowers, and then towards the end of

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Speaker 4: the day we went in to kiss.

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Speaker 3: We knocked heads a little bit. She dropped her keys

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Speaker 3: and just ran off.

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Speaker 4: I'm not sure if she left because of that, or

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Speaker 4: if it was because of a common I said earlier

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Speaker 4: than midst of that.

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Speaker 3: You know, I like thick girls.

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Speaker 5: You know she's so okay? You ready for us to

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Speaker 5: call her? Yes, okay, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Man? Hello, Hi, Man, I speak to Lola. Please speaking,

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Speaker 2: Hey Lola, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jebel Show. Hey, I'm Victoria, I'm a

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Speaker 2: producer brand, and I'm Jewbell.

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Speaker 5: How are you?

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Speaker 7: Oh my god, I listened to you guys.

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Speaker 5: Oh well, thank you appreciate that. How are you doing today?

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Speaker 7: I'm doing well? Did I win something?

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Speaker 2: Maybe if you listen to the show, then you've probably

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Speaker 2: heard a first day follow up before. Yes, okay, well,

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Speaker 2: we got an email about you from somebody that you're ghosting. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: any idea who email us?

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Speaker 3: I have a sense.

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Speaker 1: I don't go on too many days. So yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: guessing it might be Brent.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's Brent. Brent emailed us. He told us that

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Speaker 2: he really liked you. He thought the day was going great,

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Speaker 2: and he's confused. It's been about five days now and

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Speaker 2: you haven't answered his text or anything like that, so

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Speaker 2: long time.

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Speaker 5: Want us to call you and.

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Speaker 2: Ask if you could tell us why you're ghosting him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I I don't want to talk about it.

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Speaker 7: He was great.

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Speaker 1: It's it's not him, it's it's one hunder me.

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Speaker 7: So yeah, can you.

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Speaker 5: Give us kind of a hint if you don't want

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Speaker 5: to talk about it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, the day was actually going very well. I

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Speaker 1: was nervous, and you know, he was very sweet. So

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Speaker 1: I had like a plan.

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Speaker 7: I think a plan that you know, I I feel

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Speaker 7: like is not a foreign concept to a lot of women.

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Speaker 7: I am. You know, I wore a certain undergarments, certain

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Speaker 7: you know, protective UNDERGARMENTUS period undergarments.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, places, yeah, okay, so it was that time

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Speaker 2: for you. No.

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Speaker 1: I wore them as a like protective chastity belt.

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Speaker 2: Measure so that nothing would happen if it went Oh, Okay,

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Speaker 2: that's things appropriate.

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Speaker 5: Don't trust yourself to do it on your own. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: A little back up there.

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Speaker 1: It seems like he had potential, so I wanted to, like,

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Speaker 1: you know, to do things right.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: Anyway, they were like, you know, they're large, they're stained

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Speaker 7: and whatever.

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Speaker 1: At the end of the day, we were in the

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Speaker 1: parking lot and I and I dropped my keys and I,

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Speaker 1: you know, bent down to get my keys and my

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Speaker 1: pants that I was wearing my regular pants split ah

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Speaker 1: right where you don't want him to split the undergarments.

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Speaker 1: The stained large undergarments were visible in addition to me

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Speaker 1: ripping my pants.

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Speaker 7: Not a good look.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, it was I was absolutely mortifying, and I

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Speaker 7: So, yeah, it was discussing and.

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Speaker 1: Awful because your pants were it was horrifying. I didn't

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Speaker 1: think I was ghosting him so much as like doing

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Speaker 1: him a favor to like not subject him to like

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Speaker 1: the horrors of like my ripped pants and my like

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Speaker 1: stain underpayout.

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Speaker 2: So you're embarrassed, I mean, yeah, yeah, HeLa. I don't

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Speaker 2: know if you remember this or not since you've heard

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Speaker 2: these before, but Brent is on the phone and wants

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Speaker 2: to talk to you.

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Speaker 7: Why, like you know me?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Brent is here.

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Speaker 3: I would not have guessed that was the reason you

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Speaker 3: go to me. Ever, Hey, hey lolla, Hey Brent. By

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Speaker 3: the way, I didn't see anything when you ran I

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Speaker 3: had I had no idea. I thought you were mad

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Speaker 3: at me. So that's hilarious. Yeah, how could you not see?

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Speaker 7: You really didn't see?

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Speaker 4: No, I think I was just like in shock, but

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Speaker 4: a little bit about how quickly you're running off and

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Speaker 4: after kind of knocking your head.

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Speaker 3: I was just hoping you're okay.

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Speaker 6: To be honest, it's concussed and runs like the nearest.

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Speaker 7: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: So I've been in like imaginary shame for five days.

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Speaker 1: This is like the weirdest thing that has ever happened to.

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Speaker 3: Be on a date. I have to say, most ridiculous.

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Speaker 4: No, that's uh, that's you don't have to be embarrassed

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Speaker 4: about anything.

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Speaker 3: Uh, I like you stains and all. I think that's

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Speaker 3: happen to be embarrassing.

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Speaker 5: You'd like to go on another date with Brett? We'll

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Speaker 5: pay for it.

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Speaker 7: I would. I would love to, absolutely and I will.

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Speaker 1: I will wear a boost fitting skirt and you know,

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Speaker 1: proper proper attire at this time.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, let's make a me a different undergarment choice.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, you can wear whatever undergarments you want. I'm

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Speaker 3: just happy you said, but you can't.

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Speaker 5: Don't do that again.

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Speaker 4: You will.

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Speaker 5: First date fall up,