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Speaker 1: Buck it up and hold on tight. We got it

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Speaker 1: for you here. It is the strawberry lettuce subject the

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Speaker 1: minister wants more than my todds. All right, Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I am a twenty nine year old single female and

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Speaker 1: my dad is a well known pastor. I moved back

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Speaker 1: youth ministry and I get along well with the youth minister.

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Speaker 1: He is five years older than me and he's married.

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Speaker 1: The youth minister and I always had great faith based

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Speaker 1: to talk about sex and salvation, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: say what. I reminded him that I was abstinate and

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Speaker 1: did not want to talk about sex at all. He

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Speaker 1: said he needed to confide in me because he is

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Speaker 1: a natural born freak and he's ready to leave his

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Speaker 1: Then he said there is nothing wrong with having sex

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Speaker 1: before marriage, that God created sex for men and women

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Speaker 1: to use, not abuse. He told me that every man

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Speaker 1: in the church talks about how I am a brick

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Speaker 1: show me how to use this gift to my advantage.

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Speaker 1: He said, being sexually active is a natural thing if

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Speaker 1: show me all of this mess that he said goes

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Speaker 1: against everything that I've been taught. I know I may

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Speaker 1: sound slow, but could he be right? And I'm saving

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Speaker 1: myself for nothing. I am somewhat attracted to him, and

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Speaker 1: the thought of him teaching me about my body and

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Speaker 1: sex is enticing. But he's married. What do you think

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Speaker 1: is it worth the weight? Or should I go ahead

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Speaker 1: and get a little experience from someone that's willing to

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Speaker 1: help me? Wow? Wow, this guy is a minister. Huh, well,

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Speaker 1: he should know better. He really should know better. And

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Speaker 1: he's a youth minister on top of that, so he's

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Speaker 1: leading our youth. What he's doing is tempting you, and

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Speaker 1: I got to ask you, please, don't take the bait.

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Speaker 1: Don't listen to him talking about how he's a natural

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Speaker 1: can't satisfy him sexually. What does that have to do

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Speaker 1: with youth ministry? And he's married on top of that.

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Speaker 1: You know, this is why they say, and this is

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Speaker 1: why you have to please know God for yourself and

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Speaker 1: don't let anyone tell you their version or their interpretation

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Speaker 1: he can, and he can tell you these things, but

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Speaker 1: you have to read in there what it says. If

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Speaker 1: want to lead by example. I mean, you know, yeah,

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Speaker 1: sex is natural and all of that stuff, but we

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Speaker 1: also have a thing called self control. Now I'm speaking

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Speaker 1: youth with what he's talking about. He's trying to have

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Speaker 1: sex with you and he's married. Okay, all of that's wrong. No,

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Speaker 1: you should not let him give you this experience and

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Speaker 1: all of that he is wrong. He's got a wife

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Speaker 1: at home. If I were you, I would tell my

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Speaker 1: path as well, Steve. Oh oh, I'm not going along

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Speaker 1: with this total naive conversation. She never says she says

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Speaker 1: that a little bit different. Twenty nine female, Fine, come

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Speaker 1: And you y'all always had great faith based talks. You know,

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Speaker 1: know that's like saying the boogeyman ain't really that's scary.

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Speaker 1: venture to say, come on him now that this young

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Speaker 1: but where he wants to go. Yeah, because how in

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Speaker 1: of a sudden the subject or sex and salvation pop up.

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Speaker 1: It didn't come out of nowhere. She had been devising

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Speaker 1: a natural bone freak. Yes, that's from the NBL Foundation.

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Speaker 1: What's that? What's that mean? Right now? There is the

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Speaker 1: natural born freaks of a male. I mean no, I

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Speaker 1: but it's actually us that can't satisfied them. No, we

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Speaker 1: than you're gonna want us to get. Can't see man

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Speaker 1: man again, he won't huh. He walked up to her

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Speaker 1: discuss six in salvation. Yes, let's talk about it. I

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Speaker 1: want to talk about freedom and slavery. What you know,

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Speaker 1: since we're talking about stuff that don't go you want

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Speaker 1: to talk about six and salvation? Right? Well, ain't that

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Speaker 1: about nothing? Let's you and I get into this. Get in.

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Speaker 1: He told me that he needed my attention because his

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Speaker 1: Sexual wilder? Wild sexual wilder because he is a natural

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Speaker 1: Now you know that ain't technically right. You know that,

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Speaker 1: no doubt right now, and said that old ain't nothing

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Speaker 1: leave all others, but you hadn't Still he helping your

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Speaker 1: he said that being sexually active is a natural thing.

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Speaker 1: It just come out natural. Sometimes you're just sitting there

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Speaker 1: What do you think is it worth the weight? Or

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Speaker 1: someone that's willing to help me? Girl? First of all,

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Speaker 1: letting me help you understand something you don't need no help.

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Speaker 1: Come on, pastor, uh, I'll say that again. You don't

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Speaker 1: He's not gonna let you live without him, So hold on.

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Speaker 1: Stay away from this married man. That's a dangerous trap.

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Speaker 1: He's not leaving his wife. He's lying about that. He

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Speaker 1: you in a no win situation, young lady. There's nothing

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Speaker 1: Tell him to take your behind, put it in the box,

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Speaker 1: kiss it and don't miss a cooner. Tell him that

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Speaker 1: hell is awaiting him. Tell the past Tell your daddy

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Speaker 1: the fastest. That's what I said, Tell you daddy. That's

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Speaker 1: really all I have to say about this. Well, thank you, pastor.

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Speaker 1: Do we want her to send a picture though the time?

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Speaker 1: It's tips two thousand and three at y'allhood dot coms.

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Speaker 1: We can just see this brick house. Do you get

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Speaker 1: am stupid? No that last statement. No, No, that's not

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Speaker 1: the last thing you are. Thank you, uncle Steve. You're

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Speaker 1: gonna stop saying last thing I am as stupid. That's

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Speaker 1: the very first thing. Well that was a good answer, Steve. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know that's all I need to look like that lady.

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Speaker 1: You got to be crazy. Yeah, she's twenty nine. Come on,

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Speaker 1: the path to bring you down. Speak about sex and salvation,

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Speaker 1: all right, like you said, say that, Let's talk about

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Speaker 1: freedom and slavery. You know, come on, they don't go together.

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Speaker 1: Stop sex and salvation. Yeah, she's said the lettigo against

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Speaker 1: everything she's been taught. That's because it is. Yeah about

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