WEBVTT - Turkeys!!!

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, hello, welcome to We Knows Parenting. I'm Peter. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>about the new one, and we're recording in the morning. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you got us bright eyed and bushy tailed. Um. We

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<v Speaker 1>I passed out at a thirty last night, and but

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<v Speaker 1>I just couldn't. I couldn't stop it from happening. I

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<v Speaker 1>walked in here and I saw you asleep, and I thought, hmmm,

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<v Speaker 1>do I wake up my wife record a podcast? I

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<v Speaker 1>just yeah, I could. I just I was like, I'll try.

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<v Speaker 1>And then it was like, you know when sleep is

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<v Speaker 1>so seductive, come here. I was really I was jealous.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I thought about, like, I guess I'll record

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<v Speaker 1>it by myself. And then I remembered. So we never

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<v Speaker 1>record during the day because we're working. You know, if

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<v Speaker 1>our kids are around, it's impossible because we live in

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<v Speaker 1>a small two bedroom co op. But now we're so

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<v Speaker 1>we're away, we're in a house. We're in a house

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<v Speaker 1>with my sister, and we're recorded right now. Our kids

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<v Speaker 1>are just in the other room. Yeah. I mean they

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<v Speaker 1>will probably disrupt this before the end, but that's okay. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>So if you if you listen right when this comes out.

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<v Speaker 1>We recorded this like a couple of hours ago. This

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<v Speaker 1>is fresh baby, hot off the presses for hearing fresh content. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was trying to think about what to say

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<v Speaker 1>about this week, and I like, days have become so

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<v Speaker 1>blurred together. It's hard for me to remember details of

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<v Speaker 1>like what we did with our kids? But who are we?

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<v Speaker 1>Who are we? What? Literally this metaphorically existentially who are we?

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<v Speaker 1>We had? So this week we had really rainy days

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<v Speaker 1>for like a few days in a row, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was just like it was such I don't know, it

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<v Speaker 1>was just sort of overwhelming, get coupled with the news

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<v Speaker 1>and everything, and I was I kept telling myself, like,

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<v Speaker 1>on the other side of this rain is springtime. It's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be springtime soon. Just like cozy up and

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<v Speaker 1>survived this rainy thing. So we uh, thank god yesterday

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<v Speaker 1>had some real sunshine and it was the temperature hit

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<v Speaker 1>above sixty and we got the kids outside. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>total game changer. But I think that's also why I

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<v Speaker 1>was so exhausted, because I went for a run and

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<v Speaker 1>then I was inspired to copy my sister and I

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<v Speaker 1>was doing like push ups and stuff. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>spent the afternoon outside with the kids while you guys

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<v Speaker 1>went on your massive grocery store run it and I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, I think it being outside was so

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<v Speaker 1>exhausting in a weird way. Yeah, it's just like Sunshine

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<v Speaker 1>actually can't record a podcast, need to sleep well. I

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of like the sort spiritual podcasts and Instagram

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<v Speaker 1>accounts I follow. I've been talking about how like grief

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<v Speaker 1>is very exhausting on your system, and like we're we're

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<v Speaker 1>all kind of in like a prolonged state of grief

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<v Speaker 1>right now between like we've were like a lot of people,

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<v Speaker 1>depending on your situation, we're all kind of like grieving

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<v Speaker 1>our previous lives and like what we thought was going

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<v Speaker 1>to happen in our life right now, and then some

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<v Speaker 1>people are grieving actual people or you know, like there's

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<v Speaker 1>just like a lot going on collectively. The world is

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<v Speaker 1>full of emotions. Yeah, we're all processing a lot right now,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think it does take like a real toll

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<v Speaker 1>on you your energy, and it's just I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I checked in with my cousin who lives um where

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<v Speaker 1>we actually live, who's still there. He's an air traffic

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<v Speaker 1>controller and so he's still working. But you know, there's

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<v Speaker 1>like twenty globally there's like four percent of all flights

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<v Speaker 1>are actually happening, and he's like, on those flights, there's

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<v Speaker 1>like three or four people on them. Um, So he

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<v Speaker 1>he has a bizarre existence. But he's always telling me

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<v Speaker 1>our local, our local grocery store, which is sort of

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<v Speaker 1>a tight space and it's always a lot of traffic.

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<v Speaker 1>When you go there, they're letting like three people in

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<v Speaker 1>at a time. And so he's like, waiting in line

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<v Speaker 1>to the grocery store is a massive undertaking. Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 1>that well, it's like emotional, like like I was saying

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<v Speaker 1>last week or the week before, Like I think the

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<v Speaker 1>kids sort of pick up on this like uncertainty in

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<v Speaker 1>the air because well, it's here. She has to go potty.

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<v Speaker 1>You go ahead, Ali can help you. Okay. Why don't

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<v Speaker 1>you go right here in this bathroom, okay, and be

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<v Speaker 1>quiet because we don't want to hear you peeing on

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<v Speaker 1>a podcast. Those jammies are way too big. Those jammies

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<v Speaker 1>are five year old jam My favorite, because the butt

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<v Speaker 1>falls down. She's always grabbing. Likes to wear them and

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<v Speaker 1>just let her butt hang out. And if she's holding

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<v Speaker 1>like a cup or plate and she's walking, they just

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<v Speaker 1>fall all the way to the ground. She's always holding

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<v Speaker 1>one side with one hand like in like an old

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<v Speaker 1>is this turkey? We gotta go? We're gonna pause. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>we're back and we're back. That was exciting. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of turkeys out there, and one of them had

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<v Speaker 1>like a very blue head. For the record, literally, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure that might have been chaotic. Beth sister screamed, turkeys.

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<v Speaker 1>There's turkeys and we someone says, turkeys around here. We

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<v Speaker 1>come running, we running. Look there was a big that

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<v Speaker 1>was a big male. Is that the blue head? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. Well, I guess we need to do some

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<v Speaker 1>research on turkeys. You know what the thing and hanging

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<v Speaker 1>below it's gin is called. I know that you say

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<v Speaker 1>it a lot, but I don't remember. It's a snood

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah remember that game, Yes I do. I have a

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<v Speaker 1>strong desire to play Snoode. Now, anyway, you were saying, so,

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<v Speaker 1>I was saying like I think the so I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think like you guys were in the grocery store. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think I was super anxious about it, like I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>For for whatever reason, germs are not my anxiety. But

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<v Speaker 1>there as you guys are walking out the door, there's

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<v Speaker 1>always going to be a slight sense of like, is

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<v Speaker 1>this the grocery store trip where we contract coronavirus? Like

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's how everyone feels. So like you

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<v Speaker 1>guys were leaving, it's just like low key anxiety. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>we're recording get out um and then sounded angry. I

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<v Speaker 1>had a smile on my face and smile so it

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<v Speaker 1>was fun. He's laughing, Okay, so seriously, maybe get out.

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<v Speaker 1>She had to copy him. They think it's very funny.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think Brin was like just like picking up

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<v Speaker 1>on the slight anxiety of the situation. And so you

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<v Speaker 1>guys left, and he was like Daddy and Alie and

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<v Speaker 1>he was doing sort of like fake half real half

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<v Speaker 1>fake crying thing and he was like, this is just

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<v Speaker 1>like what I was just here with Daddy and David.

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<v Speaker 1>Accept it to you and it was very funny. But

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<v Speaker 1>he also did that to me when I went out

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<v Speaker 1>for a walk and he started crying the other day

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<v Speaker 1>like he's just, oh, what can we talk about? So

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<v Speaker 1>you guys were running around the house playing this I

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<v Speaker 1>guess you know Tag and he's like, oh, they're screaming,

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<v Speaker 1>they're having the time of their lives and you're running around,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you turned the corner, and then they come

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<v Speaker 1>in there looking around, and we go, she went that way,

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<v Speaker 1>and then it went around again, and then you came around,

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<v Speaker 1>and then we saw you slip out of the house.

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<v Speaker 1>This is at night, and you're clearly, like literally just

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get away from them, and you go for

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<v Speaker 1>all an extended walk. And so my life right now

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<v Speaker 1>is everyone's always seeking me out day and night. And

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<v Speaker 1>and we go shoot it that way, and we just

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<v Speaker 1>kept sending them in circles, were like, that's funny because

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<v Speaker 1>she's not here. And then we forgot about him and

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<v Speaker 1>I were just talking and then he finally comes back

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<v Speaker 1>in and he goes, I can't find her, and he

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<v Speaker 1>was genuinely scared, like you were lost in the house

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<v Speaker 1>in some sort of Narnia situation for all time. And

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<v Speaker 1>then I was like, oh, she's here, and then we

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<v Speaker 1>saw that it was getting bad. He was sad. He goes, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>she went outside. She just played a little trick on you.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you saw him like trying to piece that

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<v Speaker 1>together and then just the hurt on his face realizing

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<v Speaker 1>that you had abandoned him. He's so dramatic, though, like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't always trust his reactions, like, and he also like,

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<v Speaker 1>but as another dramatic person, I could just say the

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<v Speaker 1>core of it is always true. It's just in a

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<v Speaker 1>very flowery package. Yeah, yeah, I know. I me and

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<v Speaker 1>my sister are trying to figure out some ways to

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<v Speaker 1>toughen him up a little bit because he's just like

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<v Speaker 1>always bouncing on us like he's just a little lion.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we finally got outside yesterday, which is good.

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<v Speaker 1>I think he needs to like now that we have

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<v Speaker 1>been getting outside going on walks, but now we can

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<v Speaker 1>finally be outside in the yard for a stain sustained

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<v Speaker 1>amount of time without like constant movement. It's so nice.

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<v Speaker 1>And so he was doing this thing where he would

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<v Speaker 1>literally like he would stand like feet away from me

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<v Speaker 1>and then he would come sprinting directly at me and

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<v Speaker 1>then just jump on me. So then I was trying

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<v Speaker 1>to change the game where I was like, right when

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<v Speaker 1>you get to me, you should dart away like it's

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<v Speaker 1>a trick, and so he's doing that. But then like

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<v Speaker 1>neighbors were walking by because it was finally so nice

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<v Speaker 1>that everyone's walking by and they're just seeing this kid

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<v Speaker 1>run at me and like pounce on me, um, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, he really is like kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>a baby cub where I feel like he needs to

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<v Speaker 1>pounce and like roll around and he needs you to

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<v Speaker 1>like wrestle him for a certain amount of time, like

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<v Speaker 1>he wants to be like roughed up still with my brothers,

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<v Speaker 1>very earnestly. But it's just like exhausting when you're not

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<v Speaker 1>expecting it. It's like the middle of your day and

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<v Speaker 1>you're like holding a cup of coffee and then someone's

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<v Speaker 1>like running at you. He's like, here's my knees in

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<v Speaker 1>your face. Yeah, it's like but um, so I think

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<v Speaker 1>we need to schedule that into the day or or

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<v Speaker 1>just maybe now that we get him outside. Yeah. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>My new favorite exercise is it's called anti tag, where

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<v Speaker 1>the person who's it is doesn't tag people everyone. Everyone

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<v Speaker 1>has to tag the person who's it, and that person

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<v Speaker 1>is me. It's a brandon may even doing their best

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<v Speaker 1>to try to tag me, and instead of running away

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<v Speaker 1>from them, my objective is to get as close to

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<v Speaker 1>them as I can and then jump out of the way,

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<v Speaker 1>sort of like a bullfighter. Uh like oh a, and

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<v Speaker 1>I jump out of the way, and it is exhausting,

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<v Speaker 1>like they can't catch me if I'm trying really hard,

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<v Speaker 1>but they love it because they get so close. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, this is legitimately exercise, which I haven't gotten

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<v Speaker 1>any of. Since we've been here, and I've gained fourteen pounds.

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<v Speaker 1>We've all gained some pounds, a number which will not

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<v Speaker 1>be confirmed, we'll never know. We don't have a scale here.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank god almost brought the scale. Thank God you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>bring the scale. If I go back to our house

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<v Speaker 1>for ever, I'm bringing the scale. I have like two

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<v Speaker 1>pairs of real jeans here, and it's like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if I'm going to put them on again like

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<v Speaker 1>the last couple, Like I need to. I need to

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<v Speaker 1>make some dietary changes before I attempt those jeans again,

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<v Speaker 1>because like last week, I broke a belt loop trying

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<v Speaker 1>to pull one pair on and then the other ones.

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<v Speaker 1>They just feel tight and like itchy, like as just

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<v Speaker 1>like I can't like I can't speak to the itchy. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>have you ever gained weight quickly in a short period

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<v Speaker 1>of time? Exactly in the middle of that, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>the you know, like the skin is stretching, it's was itchy.

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<v Speaker 1>Last night, I had a terrible night's sleep one. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, no tino shade, but you were snoring all

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<v Speaker 1>night and too well, I'm still pretty allergic to the

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<v Speaker 1>it's a I just really earnestly said, no tino shade,

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<v Speaker 1>but there's plenty of tea. You've become I didn't need. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>we're also my arms keep falling asleep. I think I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what's this pillow And like the way my

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<v Speaker 1>shoulders fall back. I wake up, my whole arms are

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<v Speaker 1>as leep. That sounds like a nutrient deficiency. Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't happen normally. I need to run. I need

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<v Speaker 1>to go for a run. Anyway, I want to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about canceling my flight. So we were supposed to take

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<v Speaker 1>do we want to hear about this? Is this a

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<v Speaker 1>fun story? This is a fun story. How one we

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<v Speaker 1>bought last minute planeting parenting podcast. I know, but we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to take our kids on a spring break, and

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<v Speaker 1>so we bought planet we weren't going to And then

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<v Speaker 1>when the coronavirus first was like proving to be theory,

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<v Speaker 1>we didn't know it was that serious. And I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll be really cheap flights right now, and and you

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<v Speaker 1>were like can I book this flights? These flights And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, are you sure this is a good idea?

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<v Speaker 1>As coronavirus is ramping up? Are you prepared to lose

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<v Speaker 1>the money on these flights? And I said, yeah, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>buy in cancelation insurance on them. Anyway, I got the

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<v Speaker 1>cheapest tickets in the world, and then Jet Blue canceled

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<v Speaker 1>them as they thought they might. And now you've spent

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<v Speaker 1>an entire day on hold trying to get your money back.

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<v Speaker 1>I spent forty two minutes on hold. But the point

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<v Speaker 1>of the story is this poor woman that I spoke to.

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<v Speaker 1>I knew that she was having a rough day, um

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<v Speaker 1>and I called her and I was very nice to her,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was shocked, and she was like, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>believe how nice you're being. And I could just hear

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<v Speaker 1>the days of people being terrible to her, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>read these articles that are like airlines are trying to

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<v Speaker 1>not give you your money back because they're, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>going bankrupt. So they tried to give me a credit

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<v Speaker 1>that like expires in a year, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to take this trip probably I want

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<v Speaker 1>to refund. And so these articles tell you like they're

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<v Speaker 1>going to try to take your money, like tell them

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<v Speaker 1>they legally can't. So I think so many people are

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<v Speaker 1>calling there like listen up Jet. I've heard similar stories

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<v Speaker 1>of people who work at grocery stores and stuff like that,

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<v Speaker 1>they're they're getting kind of traumatized because so many people

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<v Speaker 1>are being so rude to them. Because people are stressed out, understandably,

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<v Speaker 1>but like people take it out on other people. It's like,

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<v Speaker 1>be nice to people. This is what my dad is

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<v Speaker 1>very good at, is being authoritative and warm. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>She's just like, Hi, I booked this flight, you canceled it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm unable to take this trip, so I'd like

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<v Speaker 1>refund please, And then she's like like we cancel her

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<v Speaker 1>you cancel it. You can tell she's like shell shocked.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, well you cancel my god, she can't

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<v Speaker 1>find it, and she's like and then she's had done.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, can I just say you're being so patient

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<v Speaker 1>and so kind, thank you so much. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I bet your job has been easier before this. We've

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<v Speaker 1>like we're we've been weirdly primed to delays and disappointment lately.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, because I feel like like My whole career

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<v Speaker 1>is just like things that almost happen and then don't

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<v Speaker 1>actually happen. That's like how the entertainment industry works. But

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<v Speaker 1>then like in the last few months, we've been trying

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<v Speaker 1>to buy a house and like figure out renovations on

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<v Speaker 1>that house and like just constant delays and our seller

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't actually want to give us the house, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>really primed us for this current situation where it's just like, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>you just have to sit back and be patient and

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<v Speaker 1>they're out of control. Yeah, we can't control any of this,

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<v Speaker 1>and uh, we're as prepared as we can be. We're

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<v Speaker 1>going to be positive all. Like all my anxiety goes

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<v Speaker 1>towards food. I like to think about food all day.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what are we going to make? What do

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<v Speaker 1>we need to buy on our next trip to have

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<v Speaker 1>the perfect food experience? Like we think about it differently.

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<v Speaker 1>I just well, I'm like I'm always like, how it's

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<v Speaker 1>a meal that's going to be like hardy and delicious

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<v Speaker 1>but also sort of healthy and nutritious and last for

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<v Speaker 1>two days, And like this is just all I think

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<v Speaker 1>about all day. That's not all I think about is

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<v Speaker 1>I hate food and I don't want it to be

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<v Speaker 1>around me. I have no control around it is. I

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<v Speaker 1>try to I try to not I try to pretend

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't exist. This is why it's hard for me

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<v Speaker 1>to have you be the one who goes with store

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<v Speaker 1>and buys things. I understand. So glad my sister is

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<v Speaker 1>with you, because I was trying to coach you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, because we don't know if the

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<v Speaker 1>things on our lists are going to be there, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know that you need to make some impulse purchases.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're only going grocery store shopping like every ten days,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to bulk up and have options that will

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<v Speaker 1>last a long time. And I was like, when you

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<v Speaker 1>get to the snacks, go a little crazy, Go a

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<v Speaker 1>little crazy, I will say. I now I no longer

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<v Speaker 1>shop with my own brain. I shop with your brain

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<v Speaker 1>in these times. I need you to get on board

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<v Speaker 1>at any the whole point of the I got a

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<v Speaker 1>refund on our plane tickets and then went to the

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<v Speaker 1>grocery store and spent almost all of it on groceries,

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<v Speaker 1>so we are good for at least a couple of weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. It's like it's hard to be calm about

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<v Speaker 1>the cost of groceries when it's so high, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>also like probably less money than we're spending before, but

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<v Speaker 1>every lunch you have in this city. And also, like,

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<v Speaker 1>my sister lives with us now, so we are now

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<v Speaker 1>have an extra adult in our household. Yeah, we're all

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<v Speaker 1>just chomping all day long. And she can she can

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<v Speaker 1>buy groceries every fifth time. Yeah, okay, I'll tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>So we the first trip out we've made with masks on,

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<v Speaker 1>and there's a real you know, there's a dumb, self

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<v Speaker 1>conscious part of your like, am I gonna be the

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<v Speaker 1>only one wearing a mask? Grocery store, almost everybody had

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<v Speaker 1>masks on, and it really the people without masks, you

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<v Speaker 1>could feel they were all ashamed. Ah, which is good.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good kind of shame, the public health shame.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we stopped at the liquor store in the

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<v Speaker 1>way back because you know, essential needs. And I'll tell

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<v Speaker 1>you what, not a single person at the local liquor

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<v Speaker 1>store it's wearing a mask like that tracks. Yeah. The

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<v Speaker 1>next segment is called we Knows what They're watching. We

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<v Speaker 1>have some special guests here to discuss the Sonic the

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<v Speaker 1>Hedgehog movie, which we purchased on iTunes this week, say hello,

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<v Speaker 1>brand Okay and Sonic the Hedge chug to someone named

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<v Speaker 1>doctor and robot Nick and something, and in a funny

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<v Speaker 1>part he was like, hello the way your makeup? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we have one scene in the movie we keep quoting

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<v Speaker 1>where the actor Jim Carrey portraying the actor known as

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<v Speaker 1>Jim Carrey portraying Dr robot Nick has a very funny

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<v Speaker 1>line where he's dancing and his assistant comes up to

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<v Speaker 1>give him some latte, surprises him and he says, what

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<v Speaker 1>do I look like an imbecile? Of course I want

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<v Speaker 1>a latte. I like the way of Macum. We've we've

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<v Speaker 1>been screaming at each other all week as we make

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<v Speaker 1>things or ask for things we want to be made

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<v Speaker 1>for us. So, Brian, you've been watching a lot of TV. Right? Wait, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't watched any TV today, Well not today, but

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<v Speaker 1>since you've been here in this house, so you're watching

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<v Speaker 1>more TV than normal, Like the no TV on school

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<v Speaker 1>day rule has gone out the window. Right, So tell

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<v Speaker 1>me what have you been watching? What's your favorite thing

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<v Speaker 1>you've seen recently? Let's say pepper Pig. Why do you

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<v Speaker 1>like pepper Pig? Well, bec as well. I don't really know.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it funny? No, no, it doesn't have any funny,

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't daddy pig funny? Something goes Daddy's big tummy? Oh yeah, yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>All right? What's what else? What show do you watch

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<v Speaker 1>the daddy does not like it that you watch? Well? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>could it be one that I don't really that I

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<v Speaker 1>can even watch today? Or here? Yeah? Yeah, and just

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<v Speaker 1>in general, I don't really know. Maybe YouTube, Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like YouTube. Do you know? Why? Why? Why do

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<v Speaker 1>you think? I don't know? You know? Actually I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even really know. Okay, Maven, what shows do you like

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<v Speaker 1>to watch? What's your favorite TV shows? I think she

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't know. Yeah, she's having a little trouble answering that,

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<v Speaker 1>all right. Brand you also saw the Goonies the other night.

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<v Speaker 1>It was scary, It was scary? What was scary about it?

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<v Speaker 1>Lactually it was creepy. What's the difference between scary and creepy?

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<v Speaker 1>Scary is like, um, scary like things that that aren't

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<v Speaker 1>really could happen and what scares you? And what's creepy

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<v Speaker 1>like like skeletons and eyeballs. So creepy is more like um,

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<v Speaker 1>So did you was it scary going to bed after

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<v Speaker 1>you watch the Booties? M hm? I think I hadn't. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what was your namemare about? Um? There was love on

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<v Speaker 1>you fell into her, Mommy and Maven and Ali and Daisy,

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<v Speaker 1>But the only one that that didn't fall in with me?

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<v Speaker 1>So everyone fell in the lava except for you. That

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like bad news. Alright, Brent, what do you think? Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think there's such a thing as too much TV? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>You've never watched so much TV that you feel a

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<v Speaker 1>little crazy? All right? What movie do you think we

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<v Speaker 1>should watch tonight? Mm hmm, let's say Soundic the Head Chad.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, now I want you to we watched a

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<v Speaker 1>few other movies. I'm gonna ask you about them, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you're gonna give me your review. You know what

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<v Speaker 1>that means. That means you're gonna say whether it's a

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<v Speaker 1>good movie or a bad movie? And why? Okay, we

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<v Speaker 1>saw the movie onward? What do you think of that movie?

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<v Speaker 1>The best? Why? Because I've because they get to see

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<v Speaker 1>their dad. Oh wow, that's the best answer I've ever

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<v Speaker 1>You don't think it's because of those legs walking around

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<v Speaker 1>all funny? Oh? Yeah, that was so fun My favorite

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<v Speaker 1>and the funniest part was he was but he was

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<v Speaker 1>just legs, just legs dancing. I think he felt the

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<v Speaker 1>music or just heard it. We can't hear if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have ears, but you can feel it like this,

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<v Speaker 1>Do do Do Do Do Do do do? Can we

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<v Speaker 1>talk about some music that you guys have been listening to? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Music review times, there's a new song that you guys like, right,

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<v Speaker 1>it's called hooked on a Feeling. And what's the part

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<v Speaker 1>that you like to sing? Brian? I don't really I

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<v Speaker 1>think you Your favorite part is the part yes, yes, yes, yes, Okay, mommy,

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<v Speaker 1>you can go like that part. I'll do the course

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<v Speaker 1>and you do the uga chaka man? Can you do?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to do any of You're getting embarrass

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<v Speaker 1>now you're hiding behind the microphone. But yesterday when you

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<v Speaker 1>were out in the yard, you were singing to yourself, Right,

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<v Speaker 1>do you do? You like singing sometimes when there's no

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<v Speaker 1>one listening. Why do you think that is? Because I

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<v Speaker 1>don't really think they're gonna be real strong Oh you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't think they're gonna be real songs, So you

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<v Speaker 1>don't want people to hear you think you're gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>it wrong. You don't like getting things wrong? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>like when I have you try to write words and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know how to spell them and I won't

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<v Speaker 1>help you. That makes you really mad, doesn't it? You

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<v Speaker 1>really hate that. But that's how you learn is by trying.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I already know everything. Oh well, then you don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to ask me. Well soon totally. Now, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>let's ask they've been's asking what's inside the microphone? Um,

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<v Speaker 1>let's say wires and electricity? There's some electricity in there?

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<v Speaker 1>What in this scraper? Ah? Yeah? What? Al right? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>before we let you go, um, anything you want all

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<v Speaker 1>our listeners to know about your lives or your parents?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think of us? Brandon? Mommy? Well, I

0:25:32.080 --> 0:25:37.760
<v Speaker 1>love Mommy and Daggy? Yeah? All right, this has been

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<v Speaker 1>he knows what they're watching with Brendan Maven Say goodbye,

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<v Speaker 1>Say goodbye Maven. This next segment is called listeners want

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<v Speaker 1>to Know. So that's where we take question in the

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<v Speaker 1>comments from you guys. All alright, even oh, I will

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<v Speaker 1>say I have to say, great performance from Jim Carrey

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<v Speaker 1>in that role, back to his roots, very fun. We

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<v Speaker 1>laughed a lot of that movie, and I mean he's

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<v Speaker 1>the only he's the only good part of it, and

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<v Speaker 1>he's great. It's it is one of the rare movies

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<v Speaker 1>for kids where I think parents will actually enjoy certain moments. Um. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I like the way I may come. Uh. This podcast

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<v Speaker 1>got my wife pregnant. Subject line Good morning, Beth and Peter.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been listening to your Sweet Humorists and Real podcast

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<v Speaker 1>since your first episode, and I've loved every minute of it.

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<v Speaker 1>I began listening before kids, and now we're expecting our

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<v Speaker 1>first and September yeehaw. I pre ordered Beth's book to

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<v Speaker 1>help prepare my wife. Carly and I read it allowed

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<v Speaker 1>to each other and read it aloud to each other

0:26:58.160 --> 0:27:01.960
<v Speaker 1>and laugh out loud. Carly especially appreciate appreciates this book.

0:27:02.280 --> 0:27:05.240
<v Speaker 1>I can hear her laughing randomly while she reads it alone.

0:27:05.600 --> 0:27:09.400
<v Speaker 1>We just read the section about setting boundaries. Quote Mike,

0:27:09.520 --> 0:27:12.959
<v Speaker 1>drop and exit the moving vehicle if necessary was an

0:27:13.040 --> 0:27:16.359
<v Speaker 1>especially delightful phrase. We repeat to each other often during

0:27:16.440 --> 0:27:20.119
<v Speaker 1>quarantine life for a much needed laugh. She's in a

0:27:20.200 --> 0:27:25.080
<v Speaker 1>demanding graduate program Physicians assistant in Your podcast and book

0:27:25.119 --> 0:27:28.920
<v Speaker 1>have brought us many laughs as she juggles stress from

0:27:28.920 --> 0:27:34.320
<v Speaker 1>that her pregnancy, COVID and an earthquake. Come on, you're

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:37.359
<v Speaker 1>a dick and you better get your mind right soon.

0:27:38.359 --> 0:27:41.359
<v Speaker 1>I remember the early We Knows episodes which I which

0:27:41.359 --> 0:27:46.440
<v Speaker 1>had more, shall we say, displays of aggression. I'm curious

0:27:46.480 --> 0:27:49.719
<v Speaker 1>if this period in your lives was a result of

0:27:49.760 --> 0:27:52.960
<v Speaker 1>the double kiddo stress. If so, did you ever use

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<v Speaker 1>or think about using counseling to deal with the demands

0:27:56.400 --> 0:27:59.600
<v Speaker 1>of being working parents while raising kids, or did you

0:27:59.640 --> 0:28:02.320
<v Speaker 1>find you were able to deal with issues and work

0:28:02.400 --> 0:28:05.480
<v Speaker 1>through things yourselves? I asked me, because my wife is

0:28:05.520 --> 0:28:08.679
<v Speaker 1>a direct person who communicates her feelings and thoughts, and

0:28:08.760 --> 0:28:11.520
<v Speaker 1>she has a good she has good role models for communication.

0:28:12.040 --> 0:28:14.720
<v Speaker 1>I am practicing those skills as I wasn't raised in

0:28:14.760 --> 0:28:18.560
<v Speaker 1>a home where communication was a priority. Based on those

0:28:18.560 --> 0:28:23.399
<v Speaker 1>early episodes, you both seem able to handle difficult conversations. Well.

0:28:23.880 --> 0:28:26.160
<v Speaker 1>Was that a result of kids or were you able

0:28:26.160 --> 0:28:29.520
<v Speaker 1>to handle these situations before kiddos as well. We've been

0:28:29.560 --> 0:28:31.560
<v Speaker 1>together for eleven years, so I think we have a

0:28:31.560 --> 0:28:34.200
<v Speaker 1>solid foundation of how to work through things. I occasionally

0:28:34.200 --> 0:28:36.880
<v Speaker 1>still struggle with communication, and when I do, my default

0:28:36.880 --> 0:28:39.320
<v Speaker 1>mode is to shut down. I do think about how

0:28:39.360 --> 0:28:41.920
<v Speaker 1>our relationship will change with a little one. Has your

0:28:41.920 --> 0:28:44.720
<v Speaker 1>relationship change and if so? How I know? There are

0:28:44.760 --> 0:28:47.160
<v Speaker 1>thirty questions in there. If you decide to use this

0:28:47.200 --> 0:28:49.360
<v Speaker 1>email for episode, I know will not be disappointed if

0:28:49.400 --> 0:28:54.280
<v Speaker 1>you pick and choose. Uh um, it's not much of

0:28:54.320 --> 0:28:56.480
<v Speaker 1>a pick. But I did attach the only image we

0:28:56.520 --> 0:28:59.960
<v Speaker 1>have of our little one at this point U ultrasound

0:29:00.040 --> 0:29:05.040
<v Speaker 1>from eight weeks. Carly is sixteen weeks on Friday. Uh.

0:29:05.120 --> 0:29:07.600
<v Speaker 1>We we call it a cricket right now, and we

0:29:07.600 --> 0:29:09.880
<v Speaker 1>aren't finding out the sex. I thought I better explain

0:29:09.960 --> 0:29:14.400
<v Speaker 1>the name of the attachment. Oh it said cricket. Um. Great,

0:29:14.440 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 1>Thank you for the work you do and making my

0:29:17.120 --> 0:29:20.760
<v Speaker 1>and many others tuesdays delightful with gratitude. Matt and Carly,

0:29:21.680 --> 0:29:25.600
<v Speaker 1>thank you what a nice email. Um, and congratulations on

0:29:26.520 --> 0:29:31.080
<v Speaker 1>all that little cricket. Look at that cricket. That's that's

0:29:31.080 --> 0:29:33.960
<v Speaker 1>so exciting for you guys. Eleven years does sound like

0:29:34.000 --> 0:29:38.440
<v Speaker 1>a very solid foundation for parenting together. So I feel

0:29:38.480 --> 0:29:42.840
<v Speaker 1>like you guys are probably ahead of the curve. Um,

0:29:42.960 --> 0:29:49.560
<v Speaker 1>we got we had our first baby at around eleven now,

0:29:49.560 --> 0:29:55.560
<v Speaker 1>I guess eight years something. Yeah, we've yeah, Um anyway,

0:29:55.640 --> 0:29:59.680
<v Speaker 1>we I we have not gone to counseling. We've talked

0:29:59.680 --> 0:30:01.920
<v Speaker 1>about it at certain points, and we've just never made

0:30:01.920 --> 0:30:04.960
<v Speaker 1>it happen for various reasons. But we do consider this

0:30:05.040 --> 0:30:09.720
<v Speaker 1>podcast our counseling session in a certain way because you,

0:30:09.840 --> 0:30:12.440
<v Speaker 1>the listeners, forced us to speak to one another a

0:30:12.520 --> 0:30:16.880
<v Speaker 1>somewhat respectful way. That though sometimes we stretch that a

0:30:16.920 --> 0:30:19.960
<v Speaker 1>little bit, but we're able to discuss things without like

0:30:20.240 --> 0:30:22.760
<v Speaker 1>insulting each other as much as we might in the

0:30:22.840 --> 0:30:27.040
<v Speaker 1>heated arguments we would have behind closed doors. Yeah, I

0:30:27.040 --> 0:30:30.320
<v Speaker 1>mean there's some tough episodes to listen to early on

0:30:30.440 --> 0:30:33.760
<v Speaker 1>is if you notice, yeah, we've gotten better. I think, oh,

0:30:33.920 --> 0:30:36.000
<v Speaker 1>way better. But I think it is a combination of

0:30:36.000 --> 0:30:39.880
<v Speaker 1>a couple of things. One for me, at least, I've

0:30:39.880 --> 0:30:42.720
<v Speaker 1>had to go back and re listen to those episodes

0:30:43.280 --> 0:30:46.720
<v Speaker 1>and actually have been forced to hear what I actually

0:30:46.960 --> 0:30:51.960
<v Speaker 1>actually have said. Has been helpful. But also I think

0:30:52.000 --> 0:30:55.280
<v Speaker 1>if there weren't people listening, those conversations would have been

0:30:55.480 --> 0:31:00.600
<v Speaker 1>would have shut down between you and me, yeah, instead

0:31:00.640 --> 0:31:04.760
<v Speaker 1>of moving forward. Yeah, So I think we can both

0:31:04.840 --> 0:31:10.560
<v Speaker 1>see the conflict coming sooner because the big problem is

0:31:10.640 --> 0:31:16.040
<v Speaker 1>usually something that happened before the fight, which is something yeah, well,

0:31:16.080 --> 0:31:18.880
<v Speaker 1>I've learned. I would say, like nine out of ten

0:31:19.760 --> 0:31:24.560
<v Speaker 1>arguments start with you doing something that I find problematic,

0:31:25.240 --> 0:31:29.200
<v Speaker 1>and then where it goes wrong on my part is

0:31:29.560 --> 0:31:33.560
<v Speaker 1>I criticize in a very negative tone. Sometimes I can

0:31:33.640 --> 0:31:36.160
<v Speaker 1>be calmer and say please don't do this again, or

0:31:36.200 --> 0:31:38.680
<v Speaker 1>can you please agree not to do this or blah

0:31:38.680 --> 0:31:43.080
<v Speaker 1>blah blah, but uh, not always successful, depending on my

0:31:43.120 --> 0:31:48.760
<v Speaker 1>mood or the state of the country. Um, and you

0:31:48.960 --> 0:31:54.760
<v Speaker 1>are your go to mistake is to dig in your

0:31:54.800 --> 0:31:57.640
<v Speaker 1>heels and say that that was not a problem and

0:31:57.680 --> 0:32:02.560
<v Speaker 1>that my feelings are not reflective of reality and to

0:32:02.760 --> 0:32:05.840
<v Speaker 1>just like, I think that's where you derail it. You're

0:32:05.880 --> 0:32:07.560
<v Speaker 1>like put your foot down, and it's just like I

0:32:07.600 --> 0:32:11.080
<v Speaker 1>would just like an ounce of owning the fact that

0:32:11.320 --> 0:32:14.920
<v Speaker 1>something you did concern me so that we can move

0:32:14.920 --> 0:32:18.680
<v Speaker 1>on it. I mean, you're of course absolutely right, because

0:32:19.440 --> 0:32:22.560
<v Speaker 1>when somebody does something the way you wouldn't do it,

0:32:22.720 --> 0:32:25.120
<v Speaker 1>you at your worst and you are so much better

0:32:25.160 --> 0:32:29.760
<v Speaker 1>now because he's instantly very mean. Well, sometimes we're literally

0:32:29.760 --> 0:32:32.640
<v Speaker 1>in a global pandemic and someone I live with is

0:32:32.800 --> 0:32:37.120
<v Speaker 1>like going on impulsive trips to the post office or whatever,

0:32:37.360 --> 0:32:40.360
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, could you think about when you might

0:32:40.400 --> 0:32:44.760
<v Speaker 1>be infecting your family with coronavirus. So we've learned a

0:32:44.760 --> 0:32:48.280
<v Speaker 1>lot Beth has learned. I think. I think the biggest

0:32:48.320 --> 0:32:52.880
<v Speaker 1>lessons is you have learned a lot about The biggest

0:32:52.960 --> 0:32:55.800
<v Speaker 1>lesson is I have learned I'm giving us both a

0:32:55.800 --> 0:33:00.480
<v Speaker 1>big thing and a big compliment. Uh. You You've learned

0:33:00.520 --> 0:33:06.400
<v Speaker 1>a lot about tone, which sounds so petty, and I

0:33:06.440 --> 0:33:11.160
<v Speaker 1>have learned a lot about before I say something, shut

0:33:11.280 --> 0:33:14.680
<v Speaker 1>up and think about what's happened for the last four hours. Well,

0:33:14.760 --> 0:33:18.760
<v Speaker 1>your tone we have. I mean I think every couple

0:33:18.840 --> 0:33:22.240
<v Speaker 1>does this. You're so dramatic, so you're like, I like,

0:33:22.400 --> 0:33:25.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm critical of you, and then all of a sudden,

0:33:26.160 --> 0:33:29.400
<v Speaker 1>granted we've been under a lot of stress lately, but

0:33:29.520 --> 0:33:32.640
<v Speaker 1>you just say like the most outlandish thing, which sometimes

0:33:32.680 --> 0:33:35.240
<v Speaker 1>it is like a blessing in disguise because the insults

0:33:35.320 --> 0:33:40.240
<v Speaker 1>are so outsized for the situation that I'm just like, well,

0:33:40.400 --> 0:33:43.720
<v Speaker 1>I know that's not true, Like it's just like so

0:33:43.880 --> 0:33:51.000
<v Speaker 1>out of left field, like ah um. But I think

0:33:51.080 --> 0:33:55.640
<v Speaker 1>one yes, this has been our therapy. I totally recommend

0:33:56.920 --> 0:33:59.880
<v Speaker 1>therapy to people, even though it's something we haven't done,

0:34:00.240 --> 0:34:04.880
<v Speaker 1>because I think especially for parents, like especially new parents,

0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:07.800
<v Speaker 1>because I don't like everyone is experiencing a lot of change,

0:34:07.840 --> 0:34:09.440
<v Speaker 1>and I do think this is kind of what's happening

0:34:10.120 --> 0:34:14.279
<v Speaker 1>with coronavirus. Is like everyone in the household is experiencing

0:34:14.320 --> 0:34:17.719
<v Speaker 1>stress in different ways, and there's a lot of new information,

0:34:18.600 --> 0:34:20.879
<v Speaker 1>and it's hard not to take it out on each other.

0:34:20.920 --> 0:34:23.200
<v Speaker 1>And I feel like that's what happens with new parents,

0:34:23.440 --> 0:34:26.640
<v Speaker 1>is they're exhausted and stressed and trying to navigate all

0:34:26.640 --> 0:34:30.080
<v Speaker 1>these new things. It's almost impossible not to lash at

0:34:30.239 --> 0:34:34.000
<v Speaker 1>one another. Yeah, But I think the benefits of therapy

0:34:34.120 --> 0:34:37.399
<v Speaker 1>and why this is our therapy, is as soon as

0:34:37.400 --> 0:34:43.040
<v Speaker 1>you have somebody else listening it, immediately you put yourself

0:34:43.080 --> 0:34:46.560
<v Speaker 1>in another person's shoes and you're able to hear yourself

0:34:47.080 --> 0:34:50.080
<v Speaker 1>through another lens. Do you know what I mean? Like,

0:34:50.200 --> 0:34:52.200
<v Speaker 1>as soon as I know you're all listening to us,

0:34:52.680 --> 0:34:55.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm thinking about how I'm coming across to you, because

0:34:55.360 --> 0:34:59.440
<v Speaker 1>we're all such innately as social creatures, and it forces

0:34:59.480 --> 0:35:03.160
<v Speaker 1>you to sell reflect just to have a witness. Um.

0:35:03.200 --> 0:35:08.239
<v Speaker 1>I would imagine the other part of it is I

0:35:08.280 --> 0:35:10.799
<v Speaker 1>think the time in the podcast when we were the

0:35:10.840 --> 0:35:15.960
<v Speaker 1>most at each other's throats corresponded to our kids being

0:35:16.000 --> 0:35:21.719
<v Speaker 1>the most difficult age and you having health issues. Yeah,

0:35:21.840 --> 0:35:24.839
<v Speaker 1>there's a lot going on, but that's how everyone's life is.

0:35:25.080 --> 0:35:28.720
<v Speaker 1>Everyone has a lot going on. I'm really am feeling

0:35:28.760 --> 0:35:32.200
<v Speaker 1>for people who like have a baby and a toddler

0:35:32.280 --> 0:35:37.040
<v Speaker 1>during coronavirus, or like are pregnant with a toddler during coronavirus.

0:35:37.800 --> 0:35:41.319
<v Speaker 1>My friend from college had a baby like four days ago. Yeah,

0:35:42.080 --> 0:35:47.040
<v Speaker 1>we had we know someone whose wife just had a baby,

0:35:47.080 --> 0:35:49.480
<v Speaker 1>and they were talking about not like there's some people

0:35:49.520 --> 0:35:53.920
<v Speaker 1>who are women who are delivering alone because they're not

0:35:54.000 --> 0:35:57.960
<v Speaker 1>letting partners into the hospital, which is very scary, and

0:35:58.000 --> 0:36:00.520
<v Speaker 1>they're watching on like an iPad. I think they might

0:36:00.520 --> 0:36:02.840
<v Speaker 1>have changed that. In New York. There was like a

0:36:03.000 --> 0:36:08.879
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, but um, very scary. Um, but we're

0:36:08.880 --> 0:36:12.279
<v Speaker 1>all going to get through this. Um um. The last

0:36:12.280 --> 0:36:14.319
<v Speaker 1>thing I'll say with the email, it really feels like

0:36:15.400 --> 0:36:18.879
<v Speaker 1>Matt is the you and Carly is the me. Yeah,

0:36:19.000 --> 0:36:21.319
<v Speaker 1>when he was saying he tends to want to shut

0:36:21.360 --> 0:36:25.680
<v Speaker 1>down communication, I was like, yeah, that's like that's my

0:36:25.760 --> 0:36:30.359
<v Speaker 1>flight response, just like and this is another thing we've

0:36:30.360 --> 0:36:34.280
<v Speaker 1>both gotten better at. Are old fights. You would always

0:36:34.320 --> 0:36:36.880
<v Speaker 1>say the most incendiary thing that you were going to

0:36:37.000 --> 0:36:40.759
<v Speaker 1>say and then and then leave, and you do that too,

0:36:40.800 --> 0:36:45.320
<v Speaker 1>though well everyone does that, I know, but but nobody

0:36:45.480 --> 0:36:49.640
<v Speaker 1>leaves like you do. Well if I'm just like, this

0:36:49.680 --> 0:36:52.399
<v Speaker 1>is what I'm talking about, is like when you when

0:36:52.440 --> 0:36:56.879
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to discuss like an issue, like hey, let's

0:36:56.920 --> 0:37:01.480
<v Speaker 1>not make you know, extra trip two stores. We need

0:37:01.520 --> 0:37:03.160
<v Speaker 1>to plan ahead and try to do as few trips

0:37:03.200 --> 0:37:06.960
<v Speaker 1>as possible, and then suddenly you try to switch the

0:37:06.960 --> 0:37:11.120
<v Speaker 1>conversation to be about something else, insult my character, and

0:37:11.320 --> 0:37:14.319
<v Speaker 1>like you're just attacking me. It's like, can we go

0:37:14.520 --> 0:37:16.640
<v Speaker 1>If we're not going to be on the topic of

0:37:16.719 --> 0:37:19.759
<v Speaker 1>conversation that started this discussion, I'm not going to continue

0:37:19.760 --> 0:37:23.080
<v Speaker 1>this the way you're like when I'm like, hey, can

0:37:23.080 --> 0:37:24.960
<v Speaker 1>we please not go to the store, I'm like, oh,

0:37:25.200 --> 0:37:28.120
<v Speaker 1>that's not how that was said, Okay, but still your

0:37:28.440 --> 0:37:31.279
<v Speaker 1>instinct is to like try to come up with things

0:37:31.520 --> 0:37:34.400
<v Speaker 1>I've done wrong and not discuss the issue at hand,

0:37:34.520 --> 0:37:37.040
<v Speaker 1>and then it's like not a productive conversation if we're

0:37:37.040 --> 0:37:41.560
<v Speaker 1>all like just listing mistakes. My point was to talk

0:37:41.560 --> 0:37:46.160
<v Speaker 1>about some things we have adjusted over time. And boy,

0:37:46.239 --> 0:37:50.960
<v Speaker 1>you don't do the storm away thing anymore because you know,

0:37:51.000 --> 0:37:53.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to cut. But what my point was sometimes

0:37:53.760 --> 0:37:58.920
<v Speaker 1>leaving an argument is a healthy decision, and if it's

0:37:58.960 --> 0:38:02.560
<v Speaker 1>not a productive discussion, you should not just keep screaming

0:38:02.600 --> 0:38:05.120
<v Speaker 1>at each other. Right. So, I think the big two

0:38:05.120 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 1>big things we both have learned is one I have

0:38:08.040 --> 0:38:11.600
<v Speaker 1>learned to not chase after you and to just chill

0:38:11.640 --> 0:38:13.799
<v Speaker 1>out and go for a leave myself and to go

0:38:13.880 --> 0:38:17.879
<v Speaker 1>for a walk. And you have learned to leave on

0:38:18.200 --> 0:38:22.879
<v Speaker 1>a a softer note. And I think that has done

0:38:23.920 --> 0:38:29.120
<v Speaker 1>one wonders. Softer note. Yeah, when my husband says, this

0:38:29.160 --> 0:38:32.840
<v Speaker 1>is what's wrong with you, let's make you to exit.

0:38:33.840 --> 0:38:38.839
<v Speaker 1>Uh yeah, when I get really really mad, it's all

0:38:38.840 --> 0:38:42.440
<v Speaker 1>those things, those complaints I've had in my head that

0:38:42.520 --> 0:38:45.319
<v Speaker 1>I've thought about that I couldn't say to you, and

0:38:45.360 --> 0:38:48.719
<v Speaker 1>then they come out in like the most intense distilled

0:38:48.760 --> 0:38:52.400
<v Speaker 1>way in a context that's not applicable to the like,

0:38:52.520 --> 0:38:55.680
<v Speaker 1>I like the way you may coming. That's what next

0:38:55.719 --> 0:38:58.719
<v Speaker 1>time we're in a big fight, we're just saying, Oh,

0:38:59.120 --> 0:39:05.080
<v Speaker 1>I like the way you love you. One more email.

0:39:05.239 --> 0:39:09.080
<v Speaker 1>This comes to us from Caitlin Giant baby picks, birth stories,

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<v Speaker 1>questions and praise. I like most of those things. Hey, Beth,

0:39:14.200 --> 0:39:17.960
<v Speaker 1>and Peter. To say I love your pod is an understatement.

0:39:18.160 --> 0:39:21.520
<v Speaker 1>Your podcast was a shining beacon during the horrendous for

0:39:21.719 --> 0:39:25.920
<v Speaker 1>six months my son's life. I had PTSD and postpartum

0:39:26.040 --> 0:39:28.799
<v Speaker 1>depression with a healthy dose of anxiety and rage. Thank

0:39:28.840 --> 0:39:31.120
<v Speaker 1>you so very much for helping me feel less alone

0:39:31.120 --> 0:39:33.000
<v Speaker 1>as I made my way to the other side of

0:39:33.040 --> 0:39:37.000
<v Speaker 1>traumatic birth and postpartum period. I have given your book, Beth,

0:39:37.040 --> 0:39:39.560
<v Speaker 1>to every woman I know who is pregnant. I recommend

0:39:39.560 --> 0:39:42.480
<v Speaker 1>your pod to everyone. First up, I'll share my birth

0:39:42.520 --> 0:39:45.000
<v Speaker 1>story for Beth. Peter. I guess you can read to

0:39:45.480 --> 0:39:47.840
<v Speaker 1>this long, so feel free to skip it. We won't.

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<v Speaker 1>I love a good birth story. Blackland is my first baby,

0:39:51.360 --> 0:39:55.440
<v Speaker 1>born in a June. I am a bigger woman, so

0:39:55.520 --> 0:39:59.560
<v Speaker 1>my first doctor told me I would get guests, uh guests,

0:40:01.000 --> 0:40:04.600
<v Speaker 1>gestational diabetes, and I would have to have a c section.

0:40:05.120 --> 0:40:07.560
<v Speaker 1>I found a new doctor, thankfully, and she was much

0:40:07.560 --> 0:40:10.440
<v Speaker 1>more supportive. I gained a total of seventeen pounds with

0:40:10.480 --> 0:40:13.880
<v Speaker 1>my pregnancy and was really healthy throughout, no complications, baby

0:40:13.920 --> 0:40:16.759
<v Speaker 1>be measured normal, all good. I really wanted to prove

0:40:16.800 --> 0:40:21.880
<v Speaker 1>the crap first doctor wrong and have a natural, unmedicated birth. Luckily,

0:40:22.080 --> 0:40:24.719
<v Speaker 1>I had my babe in an incredibly UH in an

0:40:24.760 --> 0:40:28.120
<v Speaker 1>incredibly woman positive hospital with low intervention and the lowest

0:40:28.160 --> 0:40:30.960
<v Speaker 1>C section rate in the state, so I felt pretty confident.

0:40:31.719 --> 0:40:35.000
<v Speaker 1>My waters broke on their own full gush. I looked

0:40:35.000 --> 0:40:37.200
<v Speaker 1>like my husband. I said, either up my water broke

0:40:37.280 --> 0:40:39.319
<v Speaker 1>er I just beat my pants, and honestly, I'm not

0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:43.200
<v Speaker 1>sure which. Friday, June seven, at two thirty p M

0:40:43.480 --> 0:40:46.560
<v Speaker 1>called the hospital, told them the situation that I was

0:40:46.600 --> 0:40:49.399
<v Speaker 1>only having very mild contractions. They told me to take

0:40:49.440 --> 0:40:51.840
<v Speaker 1>my time coming in, so my husband and I watched

0:40:51.840 --> 0:40:54.960
<v Speaker 1>a movie, took showers, and generally took our time. Checked

0:40:54.960 --> 0:40:57.799
<v Speaker 1>in at the hospital at six PM. They confirmed that

0:40:57.840 --> 0:41:00.320
<v Speaker 1>my water did indeed break, and then I was ushered

0:41:00.400 --> 0:41:03.440
<v Speaker 1>up to the very nice birthing suite. Didn't make much

0:41:03.520 --> 0:41:06.480
<v Speaker 1>progress on my own by six thirty am, so we

0:41:06.520 --> 0:41:15.720
<v Speaker 1>added UH mr a pro Mr Mr Mr Prostal. Yeah.

0:41:16.280 --> 0:41:21.600
<v Speaker 1>That got things kickstarted and contractions started coming fast and strong. Unfortunately,

0:41:21.640 --> 0:41:24.879
<v Speaker 1>at two PM, almost twenty four hours after my water broke,

0:41:25.000 --> 0:41:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I stalled. I talked things through with my nurse midwife.

0:41:28.200 --> 0:41:31.200
<v Speaker 1>She was incredible, as we're all the staff, and we

0:41:31.239 --> 0:41:35.160
<v Speaker 1>finally decided to do UH potosa. I sobbed because I

0:41:35.200 --> 0:41:37.959
<v Speaker 1>really didn't want to because, as you know, Beth, you're

0:41:38.000 --> 0:41:40.600
<v Speaker 1>really supposed to deliver within twenty four hours after the

0:41:40.600 --> 0:41:44.319
<v Speaker 1>water breaks to avoid infection. Potosa made my contractions never

0:41:44.440 --> 0:41:47.759
<v Speaker 1>ending and almost unbearable. At two am, almost thirty six

0:41:47.800 --> 0:41:51.400
<v Speaker 1>hours of labor, I begged for that epidural. Unfortunately it

0:41:51.560 --> 0:41:54.880
<v Speaker 1>kept failing and I ended up getting three different epidurals.

0:41:55.160 --> 0:41:57.560
<v Speaker 1>I started pushing at four am, and three and a

0:41:57.600 --> 0:42:01.480
<v Speaker 1>half hours later still no baby. Baby was in distress,

0:42:01.560 --> 0:42:05.040
<v Speaker 1>I had a raging fever, and midwives were so supportive,

0:42:05.280 --> 0:42:08.319
<v Speaker 1>but ultimately we decided that the forty one mark it

0:42:08.440 --> 0:42:11.120
<v Speaker 1>was time to get this baby out. We went into

0:42:11.120 --> 0:42:14.600
<v Speaker 1>the operating room. Only doctor in the whole process was

0:42:14.640 --> 0:42:17.239
<v Speaker 1>the OBI who performed the surgery, and due to all

0:42:17.280 --> 0:42:21.360
<v Speaker 1>the epidurals that just didn't quite work, they had a

0:42:21.440 --> 0:42:25.120
<v Speaker 1>really hard time getting me numb, so I felt everything.

0:42:25.320 --> 0:42:28.840
<v Speaker 1>Oh God, it was horrific, But after a certain point

0:42:29.040 --> 0:42:33.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't remember much other than a giant baby flying by.

0:42:33.800 --> 0:42:36.880
<v Speaker 1>There's really well placed all caps sections if you couldn't

0:42:36.880 --> 0:42:40.799
<v Speaker 1>tell performing. My husband did skin to skin and once

0:42:40.880 --> 0:42:45.200
<v Speaker 1>I stepped I was stapled back together. They helped him

0:42:45.239 --> 0:42:51.879
<v Speaker 1>get uh latched in recovery. UM, no wonder. We could

0:42:51.880 --> 0:42:55.200
<v Speaker 1>not get this baby out twenty two point five inches

0:42:55.239 --> 0:42:59.920
<v Speaker 1>and ten pounds O. It was a whopper. We stayed

0:43:00.000 --> 0:43:03.080
<v Speaker 1>the hospital for five days because we were both so sick,

0:43:03.280 --> 0:43:06.719
<v Speaker 1>but we made it out okay. Lachlan was really hard

0:43:06.800 --> 0:43:11.200
<v Speaker 1>baby those first six months, on top of the postpartum

0:43:11.239 --> 0:43:19.040
<v Speaker 1>depression uh pp D, a R anxiety rage. It was

0:43:19.080 --> 0:43:22.120
<v Speaker 1>a whole lot. But now, at almost ten months, this

0:43:22.360 --> 0:43:26.000
<v Speaker 1>sweet babe is less of a potato and more of

0:43:26.040 --> 0:43:29.879
<v Speaker 1>a joy every day. He's still insanely tall, thirty two

0:43:30.239 --> 0:43:35.200
<v Speaker 1>at nine months, always at least percentile for height. That

0:43:35.320 --> 0:43:38.200
<v Speaker 1>is the story. Quick question, how are you dealing with

0:43:38.400 --> 0:43:42.680
<v Speaker 1>different levels of concern during COVID nineteen. My husband is

0:43:42.760 --> 0:43:45.439
<v Speaker 1>much less concerned and wants to socialize and spend time

0:43:45.480 --> 0:43:47.960
<v Speaker 1>with a close group of friends for friends, this is

0:43:47.960 --> 0:43:51.880
<v Speaker 1>stressing me out. Help. I've also attached so many good picks,

0:43:51.880 --> 0:43:54.680
<v Speaker 1>including my giant pregnant self with thirty six weeks when

0:43:54.719 --> 0:43:57.680
<v Speaker 1>he moved to San Francisco to Sandeo. Crazy kids right

0:43:57.719 --> 0:44:01.560
<v Speaker 1>after the baby was born, uh in a hospital with daddy.

0:44:01.680 --> 0:44:04.560
<v Speaker 1>And then there's a bunch of I think I won't describe,

0:44:04.920 --> 0:44:07.279
<v Speaker 1>but there's a lot to unpack here. Thank you for

0:44:07.400 --> 0:44:09.000
<v Speaker 1>the botto from the bottom of my heart and showing

0:44:09.000 --> 0:44:11.800
<v Speaker 1>a functional marriage with children even when it's not perfect.

0:44:12.040 --> 0:44:16.240
<v Speaker 1>What do you mean, not perfect? Just kidding? Love love, love, Caitlin,

0:44:16.719 --> 0:44:25.640
<v Speaker 1>but everyone calls me motor boat really buried bot nickname. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, Caitlin, congratulations on the baby. Great work.

0:44:29.560 --> 0:44:31.960
<v Speaker 1>It sounds like you really did your best through was

0:44:32.080 --> 0:44:35.640
<v Speaker 1>a pretty horrible labor, but you got through it. Um,

0:44:35.719 --> 0:44:39.840
<v Speaker 1>and you got to look at that adorable baby with dad.

0:44:40.239 --> 0:44:44.319
<v Speaker 1>He's so sweet. He has a little uh poe hawk.

0:44:45.280 --> 0:44:52.160
<v Speaker 1>I love it. Um so cute. Um yeah, I mean, god,

0:44:52.400 --> 0:44:56.040
<v Speaker 1>the it. That kind of labor and the PPD and everything,

0:44:56.080 --> 0:44:57.719
<v Speaker 1>I think is much more common than a lot of

0:44:57.719 --> 0:45:00.840
<v Speaker 1>people realize because we're like, hey, a new moms, just

0:45:00.920 --> 0:45:02.560
<v Speaker 1>smile for the cameras. We don't want to hear about

0:45:02.600 --> 0:45:05.319
<v Speaker 1>your vagina and everything. Um, I don't want to hear

0:45:05.360 --> 0:45:11.040
<v Speaker 1>that you got ripped open over two days anyway. Um.

0:45:11.080 --> 0:45:14.080
<v Speaker 1>Her question was how do you deal with defferring levels

0:45:14.120 --> 0:45:18.440
<v Speaker 1>of concern with coronavirus. Uh, we've already touched on obviously,

0:45:18.560 --> 0:45:22.719
<v Speaker 1>we haven't done with it, dealt with it perfectly. I

0:45:22.800 --> 0:45:24.720
<v Speaker 1>just I'm not I'm not trying to hang out with people.

0:45:25.000 --> 0:45:29.040
<v Speaker 1>I just went to the store too frequently. Early on

0:45:29.080 --> 0:45:32.560
<v Speaker 1>the same page now, But I do think like that

0:45:32.719 --> 0:45:35.480
<v Speaker 1>I have heard I feel like a number of stories

0:45:35.520 --> 0:45:38.360
<v Speaker 1>that is, like people who are like, well, I just

0:45:38.400 --> 0:45:40.480
<v Speaker 1>want to have like one last drink with friends, or

0:45:40.560 --> 0:45:42.200
<v Speaker 1>I just want to like I'm just gonna hang out

0:45:42.200 --> 0:45:44.520
<v Speaker 1>with this little group of friends or just go golfing,

0:45:44.600 --> 0:45:48.480
<v Speaker 1>and then it's like suddenly all those dudes are infected

0:45:48.560 --> 0:45:51.520
<v Speaker 1>and infecting their families. Like it's not like this is

0:45:51.560 --> 0:45:56.160
<v Speaker 1>not an unreal threat, Like, um, yeah, Also, I'll be

0:45:56.160 --> 0:45:59.200
<v Speaker 1>curious because this email was written, you know, at least

0:45:59.239 --> 0:46:02.160
<v Speaker 1>like a week ago, and the entire world has changed. Yeah.

0:46:02.360 --> 0:46:04.279
<v Speaker 1>That's the thing about this coronavirus nes is like the

0:46:04.320 --> 0:46:07.800
<v Speaker 1>news is changing so rapidly, and I do think depending

0:46:07.800 --> 0:46:10.239
<v Speaker 1>on how often people consume news or what part of

0:46:10.239 --> 0:46:12.000
<v Speaker 1>the country they're in, I think it is setting it

0:46:12.040 --> 0:46:14.799
<v Speaker 1>a little slower. So I think it is important, I

0:46:14.800 --> 0:46:17.120
<v Speaker 1>think to be like a little bit patient with people

0:46:17.160 --> 0:46:19.000
<v Speaker 1>and not like scream at them when they don't have

0:46:19.040 --> 0:46:23.000
<v Speaker 1>the exact same information as you. Day today, honestly, it

0:46:23.040 --> 0:46:26.120
<v Speaker 1>also is a different thing to like go to a

0:46:26.200 --> 0:46:31.680
<v Speaker 1>concert or go to you know, like these like a church. Yeah,

0:46:31.719 --> 0:46:34.360
<v Speaker 1>I think where you're going to be around a hundred people,

0:46:34.680 --> 0:46:36.880
<v Speaker 1>that's much more dangerous for everybody than if you're going

0:46:36.880 --> 0:46:38.359
<v Speaker 1>to go to your friend's house and Drake, I mean,

0:46:38.400 --> 0:46:40.399
<v Speaker 1>I say, don't do either. But I also think there's

0:46:40.400 --> 0:46:44.480
<v Speaker 1>a little bit of gray area. Like we are we're

0:46:44.960 --> 0:46:47.560
<v Speaker 1>quarantining with my sister, so we have an extra person

0:46:47.640 --> 0:46:50.200
<v Speaker 1>with us, and she's just become part of our family unit.

0:46:50.680 --> 0:46:53.680
<v Speaker 1>And I think there are people if you're like a

0:46:53.760 --> 0:46:57.120
<v Speaker 1>single mom or your next her neighbors, you're like a close,

0:46:57.239 --> 0:47:00.000
<v Speaker 1>tight knit group with them. I don't think there's necessary

0:47:00.000 --> 0:47:04.600
<v Speaker 1>really a ton of harm. And like combining into a

0:47:04.680 --> 0:47:08.640
<v Speaker 1>family unit with somebody, if it's like a very small

0:47:08.680 --> 0:47:12.319
<v Speaker 1>group of people and everyone is truly quarantining and you're

0:47:12.320 --> 0:47:15.640
<v Speaker 1>going to help, you're able to support each other. Yeah,

0:47:15.760 --> 0:47:18.280
<v Speaker 1>Because I do think, like what I think it gets

0:47:18.320 --> 0:47:21.080
<v Speaker 1>lost in this discussion a little bit is that human

0:47:21.160 --> 0:47:26.480
<v Speaker 1>contact is very necessary to mental health, like people do.

0:47:26.920 --> 0:47:29.040
<v Speaker 1>Like if I was a single mom and I was

0:47:29.160 --> 0:47:31.080
<v Speaker 1>just like alone at home with kids through all this,

0:47:31.160 --> 0:47:33.880
<v Speaker 1>and then I had to do, like a stressful grocery

0:47:33.880 --> 0:47:35.839
<v Speaker 1>store trip with like where are my kids? I take

0:47:35.840 --> 0:47:37.319
<v Speaker 1>them into the grocery store, I leave in the car,

0:47:37.440 --> 0:47:39.640
<v Speaker 1>like you need some people are going to need support

0:47:39.680 --> 0:47:44.840
<v Speaker 1>systems through this. Um, so yeah, I think there are

0:47:44.920 --> 0:47:47.120
<v Speaker 1>certain gray areas with stuff like that, and like you know,

0:47:47.280 --> 0:47:49.360
<v Speaker 1>some of us are working more than others. Some of

0:47:49.440 --> 0:47:51.879
<v Speaker 1>us are our essential workers and have to leave the house.

0:47:51.920 --> 0:47:54.399
<v Speaker 1>It's all. This is just not gonna be a one

0:47:54.400 --> 0:47:58.280
<v Speaker 1>size fits all solution. But in terms of her question

0:47:58.600 --> 0:48:05.080
<v Speaker 1>about how do you navig thought, I think, uh what

0:48:06.320 --> 0:48:12.480
<v Speaker 1>I think, like, hey, idiot, um this is something you know,

0:48:12.560 --> 0:48:14.960
<v Speaker 1>I think we're all working on, and I think, like

0:48:15.400 --> 0:48:19.960
<v Speaker 1>there is I don't know. It's a hard This is

0:48:20.000 --> 0:48:22.640
<v Speaker 1>a hard one because I want to say like this.

0:48:22.840 --> 0:48:25.040
<v Speaker 1>I think that's why I was struggling to navigate. This

0:48:25.160 --> 0:48:27.680
<v Speaker 1>is like in other like situations, you could try to

0:48:27.760 --> 0:48:30.279
<v Speaker 1>draw like clear boundaries with people and be like if

0:48:30.320 --> 0:48:33.040
<v Speaker 1>you do this, I'll do this. But it's hard. If

0:48:33.080 --> 0:48:36.239
<v Speaker 1>you live with someone and they're your lifeline through all this,

0:48:36.320 --> 0:48:39.719
<v Speaker 1>you can't be like I'm not going to allow you

0:48:39.760 --> 0:48:41.439
<v Speaker 1>into the house like you you know what I mean,

0:48:41.480 --> 0:48:45.920
<v Speaker 1>Like you need like it's very difficult. It's like and

0:48:46.000 --> 0:48:49.520
<v Speaker 1>everyone is persuaded differently. But I imagine, you know, if

0:48:49.520 --> 0:48:53.759
<v Speaker 1>it was me, you know, I and I can I

0:48:53.800 --> 0:48:56.319
<v Speaker 1>can be quick to get defensive and like you said,

0:48:56.360 --> 0:48:59.439
<v Speaker 1>and immediately go like, well, here's why it's not a problem.

0:48:59.480 --> 0:49:03.040
<v Speaker 1>If I'm fronted with something, I think it is like

0:49:03.960 --> 0:49:06.120
<v Speaker 1>trying to say as calm as possible. And this is

0:49:06.239 --> 0:49:08.879
<v Speaker 1>like something I struggle with with Brian too, when he's

0:49:08.920 --> 0:49:11.279
<v Speaker 1>like punching and stuff, is like, I feel like I

0:49:11.440 --> 0:49:14.920
<v Speaker 1>need I really when you do this, it makes me

0:49:14.960 --> 0:49:17.440
<v Speaker 1>feel this way, even though you're like raging on the inside,

0:49:17.480 --> 0:49:20.040
<v Speaker 1>you have to like calmly be like this makes me

0:49:20.080 --> 0:49:24.239
<v Speaker 1>feel scared for our safety. Here are the factual reasons why. Yeah,

0:49:24.600 --> 0:49:26.640
<v Speaker 1>I would imagine this is not actually an issue for

0:49:26.640 --> 0:49:29.120
<v Speaker 1>her anymore, because, like you said, the news has progressed

0:49:29.200 --> 0:49:33.800
<v Speaker 1>pretty quickly. But yeah, or or it's uh storytelling, paint

0:49:33.800 --> 0:49:37.920
<v Speaker 1>a picture. I'm worried about this scenario in which I

0:49:38.000 --> 0:49:40.759
<v Speaker 1>get sick and one of us has to go to

0:49:40.800 --> 0:49:43.160
<v Speaker 1>the hospital and we have a baby here and there's

0:49:43.160 --> 0:49:45.279
<v Speaker 1>no one to take care of this baby, which is

0:49:45.320 --> 0:49:47.439
<v Speaker 1>a very real concern. I think a lot of people

0:49:47.480 --> 0:49:50.200
<v Speaker 1>are having. Yeah, I mean that's something you started talking

0:49:50.239 --> 0:49:52.680
<v Speaker 1>about that like the three of us, Like what happens

0:49:53.800 --> 0:49:55.600
<v Speaker 1>was Brandon had to start making his own meals if

0:49:55.640 --> 0:49:57.640
<v Speaker 1>we're here sick, and I was like, oh, that's just

0:49:57.640 --> 0:50:00.000
<v Speaker 1>not real. Well, and that's why we're trying to set

0:50:00.000 --> 0:50:02.239
<v Speaker 1>and like only one or two of us to the

0:50:02.239 --> 0:50:08.560
<v Speaker 1>grocery store and then hopefully we ideally, well, the plan

0:50:09.000 --> 0:50:11.960
<v Speaker 1>right now kind of actually is that like my sister,

0:50:12.239 --> 0:50:14.160
<v Speaker 1>we make her the most likely to get sick, and

0:50:14.239 --> 0:50:16.200
<v Speaker 1>she's the easiest one for the rest of us to

0:50:16.280 --> 0:50:20.720
<v Speaker 1>isolate from. Um, she knew what she was getting into.

0:50:20.880 --> 0:50:23.120
<v Speaker 1>She did. It makes it makes me sound very selfish,

0:50:23.120 --> 0:50:25.320
<v Speaker 1>but I have decided that I have the weakest immune

0:50:25.320 --> 0:50:29.200
<v Speaker 1>system of anyone here, given my health problems over the

0:50:29.239 --> 0:50:31.720
<v Speaker 1>last few years and like all the trials that birthing

0:50:31.800 --> 0:50:36.680
<v Speaker 1>children has put my body through. Um, so yeah, I'm

0:50:36.719 --> 0:50:40.800
<v Speaker 1>not a strong person. Um, but like we have decided,

0:50:40.800 --> 0:50:43.240
<v Speaker 1>like if anyone is showing signs of sickness, will isolate

0:50:43.280 --> 0:50:47.920
<v Speaker 1>them in my sister's room here, which has its own bathroom. Um.

0:50:47.960 --> 0:50:49.799
<v Speaker 1>I've heard that my sister listened to I think it

0:50:49.840 --> 0:50:52.800
<v Speaker 1>was like the Daily or something on this woman whose

0:50:53.280 --> 0:50:55.280
<v Speaker 1>husband got sick, and they did sort of a similar

0:50:55.320 --> 0:50:58.160
<v Speaker 1>thing where they were like keeping him quarantined and then

0:50:58.200 --> 0:51:00.880
<v Speaker 1>like they unfortunately they had to share a bathroom with him,

0:51:00.920 --> 0:51:02.239
<v Speaker 1>so every time he went in there, they had to

0:51:02.280 --> 0:51:04.880
<v Speaker 1>like wipe down all the services and disinfects where they

0:51:04.880 --> 0:51:08.359
<v Speaker 1>could take a shower. Um, so hopefully it doesn't come

0:51:08.360 --> 0:51:11.080
<v Speaker 1>to that and we don't get sick, but um what,

0:51:11.200 --> 0:51:13.680
<v Speaker 1>we're going to be prepared because we're being careful and

0:51:13.719 --> 0:51:17.480
<v Speaker 1>we're staying positive and we're wearing masks, and we we

0:51:17.680 --> 0:51:21.560
<v Speaker 1>stretched our groceries out so long. I'm so proud. We

0:51:21.640 --> 0:51:25.040
<v Speaker 1>did ten days without a grocery store trip and yesterday

0:51:25.239 --> 0:51:28.920
<v Speaker 1>our fridge was like almost completely bare and now it

0:51:29.080 --> 0:51:32.040
<v Speaker 1>is completely full. Yeah, but we managed to eke out

0:51:32.040 --> 0:51:36.080
<v Speaker 1>like a couple of last meals that were like surprisingly decent,

0:51:36.520 --> 0:51:40.720
<v Speaker 1>Like we really did some good planning. Well, that's gonna

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