Speaker 1: Episode two thirty eight, What diet culture is costing You.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Frugal Friends podcast, where you'll learn to
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Speaker 1: Here your host Jen and Jill. Mmmmmmmm, Welcome to the
Speaker 1: Frugal Friends podcast. My name is Jen, my name is Jill,
Speaker 1: and today we are talking about diet culture and it's
Speaker 1: cost on our overall finances. And I think we can
Speaker 1: relate so much of what we say about budgeting can
Speaker 1: make more sense. When I've heard this, someone was like, oh,
Speaker 1: when you related the budgeting back to like yo yo
Speaker 1: diets and stuff, it made so much sense. And that
Speaker 1: what that got me thinking, what is what are these
Speaker 1: yo yo diets costing us? We are they are so
Speaker 1: ingrained in our heads. What is the actual cost? And
Speaker 1: so that's what we're looking at today. The in the
Speaker 1: short term and long term. It's quite striking and I
Speaker 1: think important to look at. I think our various generations
Speaker 1: approach dieting in some different ways. It's all repackaged differently,
Speaker 1: but make no mistake, there's diet culture is alive and well,
Speaker 1: whether or not you realize how deep into diet culture
Speaker 1: we really are and relating this back to like you're saying, Jen,
Speaker 1: how this can impact our mindset around finances, but also
Speaker 1: just what this aspect of our lifestyle can cost us.
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of different angles. We're looking at
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Speaker 1: love those normal days alright, So diet culture, this one
Speaker 1: hits very close to home for me because I grew
Speaker 1: up in a house where we were always being like
Speaker 1: we were always giving into the lie that we needed
Speaker 1: to lose weight all the time for whatever reason. And
Speaker 1: nobody in my house was like obese, but still because
Speaker 1: of just growing up in the nineties early two thousands
Speaker 1: of my parents like in the seventies and eighties, like
Speaker 1: thin was healthy, and so like, we have these mindsets
Speaker 1: about health and wellness that have been ingrained in our
Speaker 1: heads for decades and enforced by our parents and our insecurities,
Speaker 1: and so much of it transfers into budgeting. So I
Speaker 1: really am excited to look into this because even with
Speaker 1: the rise and body positivity, which is amazing, Like I'm
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that the next generation is growing up
Speaker 1: with this, the diet industry is still a seventy two
Speaker 1: billion dollar and grow wing industry. It is still growing,
Speaker 1: and that's the that's the weight loss specific part of it.
Speaker 1: And so while the trend to body positivity is great, like,
Speaker 1: we really need to identify and reprogram our mindsets around
Speaker 1: health and wellness so that we can opt out of
Speaker 1: the unnecessary part that just praise on our ever present
Speaker 1: insecurities and prioritize the life giving parts of actual wellness
Speaker 1: that are worth spending money on Yeah, there's I think
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, it's going to be
Speaker 1: no shock to people that we land in the radical
Speaker 1: middle on this, But the extremes go so far in
Speaker 1: so many directions. I wouldn't even say that it's a
Speaker 1: linear spectrum. It's almost this cube spectrum of where people
Speaker 1: can fall in the midst of this. And that's fine.
Speaker 1: We're we're all on a journey and hope fully finding
Speaker 1: the things that are going to point us as individuals
Speaker 1: towards well being and and an acceptance and and a
Speaker 1: care and value for ourselves as we care and value
Speaker 1: others around us. I think the thing that I see
Speaker 1: in our generation and maybe the younger generation, it's it's
Speaker 1: not as much the counting calories get super thin, which
Speaker 1: is fantastic, but it's not as if, oh, now we've
Speaker 1: landed on the exact right thing. There's also this whole
Speaker 1: how healthy can you get and be? And there's still
Speaker 1: some shame wrapped up in that too, like if you're
Speaker 1: not doing the latest whatever it is that helps you
Speaker 1: identify health, whether it's oh, you're you're doing smoothies instead
Speaker 1: of juice or you're yeah, I definitely think it's a
Speaker 1: goal is to combat the extremism of anything, because that's
Speaker 1: what gets you spending more money. So like whenever anyone
Speaker 1: anyone's like, how do I eat healthy on a budget?
Speaker 1: I kind of laugh because it is not expensive to
Speaker 1: eat healthy, but it is expensive to be on a diet,
Speaker 1: to follow a to follow the food on a diet plan,
Speaker 1: for sure. And so it when we reject the extremism
Speaker 1: of diet culture and we can find our own radical middle,
Speaker 1: our own balance, then we can not just I mean
Speaker 1: not just save money, but just overall feel like a
Speaker 1: lot better about ourselves and about people, and we can
Speaker 1: focus that energy that we focus on. And I'm when
Speaker 1: I say we are you like I am directly talking
Speaker 1: to me like I should probably have a mirror in
Speaker 1: for I could I could just look at myself in
Speaker 1: the in the zoom screen and say, like, if you
Speaker 1: spend as much energy like thinking about other things as
Speaker 1: you do about like walking by the mirror and twice
Speaker 1: a day, one time saying like, oh wow, I look
Speaker 1: great and the other time saying like dang, if I
Speaker 1: could just like get that last ten fifteen pounds of
Speaker 1: baby weight off, then it would be perfect um. And
Speaker 1: even before I had Kai and I was still saying,
Speaker 1: if I could just get like ten more pounds off,
Speaker 1: Like if you spent as much energy building your income study,
Speaker 1: like learning how to invest in all that as as
Speaker 1: you did on worrying about being the perfect size, then
Speaker 1: you could get so you could reach financial freedom. Probably
Speaker 1: a year too faster. I won't say it's like decades,
Speaker 1: but a year or two. Yeah, yeah, just well being
Speaker 1: in in a version of kindness to ourselves rather than
Speaker 1: shame and yeah, putting ourselves down constantly. Of course, there
Speaker 1: are so many caveats to be mentioning, and we're gonna
Speaker 1: we're not gonna get them all. And so here we are,
Speaker 1: we're talking to ourselves and and anticipating that the general
Speaker 1: population is listening to us. So, of course there's a
Speaker 1: ton of ways that the term diet can be used.
Speaker 1: We are using it and primarily in reference to a
Speaker 1: choice that we make for like the main goal of
Speaker 1: losing weight. Of course, there's a way to use the
Speaker 1: term diet that talks about just the type of food
Speaker 1: that you need to eat because you know it's best
Speaker 1: for your body. Like we're not discounting if you need
Speaker 1: to be gluten free, dairy free, whatever, free because of
Speaker 1: an actual medical concern, or you just know yourself at
Speaker 1: this point in adulthood that that's not the best thing
Speaker 1: for you. That's not what we're talking about here. And
Speaker 1: of course, where there are even greater levels of concern,
Speaker 1: where we know that body dysmorphia and food difficulty ease
Speaker 1: and eating disorders are a very real reality for a
Speaker 1: good portion of the population, and we are also not
Speaker 1: talking to those more acute needs and concerns. That's more
Speaker 1: where the mental health clinical, clinician, therapist, counselor support system
Speaker 1: community is going to be helpful. We're talking general diet
Speaker 1: fads and what it's costing the general population. So there's
Speaker 1: my caveat. As much as I can make it, I
Speaker 1: know that I'm missing something in there. So please have
Speaker 1: grace on us in this conversation about food, because it's
Speaker 1: very layered. Yeah, and we are not nutritionists, we are
Speaker 1: not personal trainers, so we're not This isn't a alternative,
Speaker 1: This isn't a health episode. This is how can we
Speaker 1: rewire some of the mindsets that might be unhealthy and
Speaker 1: be affecting us financially, and which will naturally bleed over
Speaker 1: into to some other things, but we are focusing on
Speaker 1: the financial aspect. So this first article UM that we've
Speaker 1: got is called do or Diet. It's for money Guru
Speaker 1: and it's um the true cost of diet culture. And
Speaker 1: this is money Guru is a a UK site, so
Speaker 1: everything's in euros. But after some research, I saw that
Speaker 1: the numbers that they're using are almost identical, um, if
Speaker 1: you just switch out that little euro sign for a
Speaker 1: dollar sign. So yeah, what did you think about this one, Jill?
Speaker 1: This was really shocking and I loved how it began
Speaker 1: because it does feel so congruent with what I see
Speaker 1: on social media. I mean, I blow right past ads.
Speaker 1: I actually did a little bit of a research project
Speaker 1: yesterday where I'm like, what are the ads that they're
Speaker 1: trying to target me with? Because I can't honestly remember
Speaker 1: any of the ads, which is a problem. But also
Speaker 1: I never purchased anything, so it's obviously not working. But
Speaker 1: I have seen this where they're like, this new and
Speaker 1: effective way to get the body that you want. This
Speaker 1: is the absolute last method that you're ever going to
Speaker 1: engage in, because we promise long term results and if
Speaker 1: you're doing this, it's wrong. And if you're doing this,
Speaker 1: it's wrong. Like all these like tried and true methods
Speaker 1: that you've heard for decades, all of a sudden someone's like,
Speaker 1: that's out the window, and you're going to discover that
Speaker 1: the problem is really you. And it's just like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, this is the messaging, like they nailed it.
Speaker 1: And for that reason it it can draw us into
Speaker 1: whatever it is that the person is promising us, whether
Speaker 1: it's a product or a method or a gym membership
Speaker 1: or whatever, just a lifestyle that we want to engage in.
Speaker 1: And how over the years this this can cost money.
Speaker 1: And I appreciate how they pointed out not just the
Speaker 1: cost of joining something like a weight watchers, but what
Speaker 1: it can also cost us in the rest of our
Speaker 1: lifestyle and long term effects related to whether or not
Speaker 1: it was actually good for us, Like they talk about
Speaker 1: there being a reality to some of these fads not
Speaker 1: actually being good for all parts of us and leading
Speaker 1: to various medical issues that can also cost money. So
Speaker 1: there's almost this element of we may never know the
Speaker 1: true cost of this, yo yo, this pendulum swinging, this
Speaker 1: chasing after like the next thing, but at least at
Speaker 1: the lowest level. Even if we're just okay buying this product,
Speaker 1: buying that method, buying that membership, there's a cost to
Speaker 1: that long term that's massive. Yeah, So in this one
Speaker 1: and I did, I did verify some of this, like
Speaker 1: just to compare to the U S. So so first, um,
Speaker 1: he looks at these actual like like members ships, So
Speaker 1: he uses weight Watchers and Slimming World. So I didn't
Speaker 1: look at Slimming World because that's not in the US,
Speaker 1: but weight Watchers is. Uh. And so if you're doing
Speaker 1: face to face meetings, you're going to spend about two
Speaker 1: dollars for a six month like membership and thirty one
Speaker 1: if you're doing just digital and so they they work
Speaker 1: that out. Plus if you're getting a gym membership every month, um,
Speaker 1: which is about average of forty a month in the UK.
Speaker 1: For the US it's about thirty seven, so close enough.
Speaker 1: And they said if the average person works from eighteen
Speaker 1: to sixty, so we're looking at the average working life,
Speaker 1: then if you're doing every month of gym membership and
Speaker 1: wait Watchers, which doesn't include the food, then you could
Speaker 1: be spending over thirty thousand dollars on this stuff over
Speaker 1: your working life, which is crazy, and typically nobody's going
Speaker 1: to be in weight Watchers from eighteen to sixty. But
Speaker 1: this doesn't count um like cookbooks or like food and magazines,
Speaker 1: So like if you did something like Jenny Craig, then
Speaker 1: then you're buying food from that place. Or they even
Speaker 1: say weekly raffle tickets. I don't know what that means,
Speaker 1: but like there are extras, and so no, you're probably
Speaker 1: not going to be part of this for decades at
Speaker 1: a time, but take a few, like take some years
Speaker 1: off and then add the extras that you would also
Speaker 1: pay on a monthly basis, and it's not crazy to
Speaker 1: think that this is about the number that somebody could
Speaker 1: be spending, right, Yeah, in a variety of things. I
Speaker 1: know we're using weight Watchers or Jenny Craig as examples,
Speaker 1: and I recognized that that may not be the case
Speaker 1: for for those in like the millennial or the gen
Speaker 1: Z population, those maybe aren't the brands that they're going for.
Speaker 1: They are Jill. I Now, since doing this research, I
Speaker 1: have gotten so many Instagram ads from not weight watchers,
Speaker 1: but it's Instagram influencers and they're promoting weight watchers. So
Speaker 1: weight Watchers putting money behind it, and they've like rebranded
Speaker 1: to like WW and and there are people like it
Speaker 1: is still common, like it is not just our mother's right. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean I'm not, and maybe it is that exact brand,
Speaker 1: but I'm also saying there's other options out there too
Speaker 1: for this type of engagement in diet culture. And the
Speaker 1: research is showing that more than half the population would
Speaker 1: consider themselves to be on a diet for some of
Speaker 1: those reasons, like you know, losing weight and wanting to
Speaker 1: look a certain way is like the primary reason in
Speaker 1: that regard, again not just using the diet and like
Speaker 1: the oh I'm cutting out sugar kind of way. And again, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think we can get caught up in the trap
Speaker 1: of well, if I'm not on one of those other
Speaker 1: big brands, then this doesn't apply to me. But yeah,
Speaker 1: if you're like doing the juicing thing, or you purchase
Speaker 1: something to do a thirty day cleanse and you're buying
Speaker 1: the books, and you're like, that's part of what we're
Speaker 1: talking about here, And I'm again I'm down with the
Speaker 1: journey for understanding what your body needs and health, but
Speaker 1: also keeping a pulse on how far does it go?
Speaker 1: And how much money are we actually putting into this
Speaker 1: and does it work? Because this article is also talking
Speaker 1: about how long term these things don't actually give us
Speaker 1: the results that we want, which is mind boggling. And
Speaker 1: some of that has to do with what the articles
Speaker 1: all so pointing out that our weight does not equate
Speaker 1: to how healthy we are. Just the measurement of b
Speaker 1: m I doesn't actually dictate whether or not in many
Speaker 1: cases we are quote unquote healthy. And then again that's
Speaker 1: part of the societal messaging of here's what the body
Speaker 1: needs to look like, and we really we're coming to realize, thankfully,
Speaker 1: that there's so many different body types that can be
Speaker 1: healthy and look different, and so for that reason, we
Speaker 1: need to be able to engage in a lifestyle that
Speaker 1: works for us, because it's not a one size fits all. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and they're saying, uh so the some of the negative
Speaker 1: effects from these fat diets, Like, so I will I
Speaker 1: will start with this and say, like I've been listening
Speaker 1: to this podcast called fed Up about this woman who
Speaker 1: has a fat diet which is like all fiber and
Speaker 1: how people are wrecking their digestive systems because they are
Speaker 1: are in taking too much fiber and that's gonna have
Speaker 1: long term negative effects. And so the typically these fat
Speaker 1: diets will just latch onto one really healthy nutrient, whether
Speaker 1: it's protein or fats or fiber, and really emphasize that
Speaker 1: as the cure. All this is what you've been looking for,
Speaker 1: This is what's going to help you lose weight. And yes,
Speaker 1: it will because you're cutting out foods that have typically
Speaker 1: carps us. But yeah, but they will inherently have long
Speaker 1: term like effects if you do it long term. Thankfully,
Speaker 1: like not a lot of people stick with these things
Speaker 1: long term, but if you go hard and heavy or
Speaker 1: you know, do it for a long time, they can
Speaker 1: have negative effects. And so some of the negative effects
Speaker 1: that they're saying that these diets have is it can
Speaker 1: weaken your immune to stem um. It can cause dehydration,
Speaker 1: especially with the that's the one that got me thinking
Speaker 1: with the fiber one, because if you're just excreting everything
Speaker 1: all the time, you are gonna it doesn't matter how
Speaker 1: much water you're drinking, you're going to get dehydrated. It
Speaker 1: can damage hair and skin, it can disturb your bowel
Speaker 1: habits um, and it can make you grumpy and irritable.
Speaker 1: That should probably be number one. Number one reason not
Speaker 1: to number one reason. I am always grumpy and irritable
Speaker 1: if I don't get carbs, So that's a man. I
Speaker 1: wish they just had a carb carb lifestyle, which they
Speaker 1: had a carb Life style magazine. It would be And
Speaker 1: I think, what what's being highlighted here is just some
Speaker 1: red flags, like some water marks of fads that would
Speaker 1: indicate it's a fad and maybe not for me if
Speaker 1: it is just focused on one thing, like we found
Speaker 1: the magic trick and it's fiber. We found the magic
Speaker 1: trick and it's protein. We found the magic trick and
Speaker 1: it's magnesium, like whatever it is, it's probably not just
Speaker 1: one thing, because our bodies and our lifestyles need more
Speaker 1: than just one thing. So there you go. Red flag
Speaker 1: number one. Number two is if it requires a lot
Speaker 1: of will power. I know when it comes to dieting
Speaker 1: and exercise, a lot of times willpower gets thrown around
Speaker 1: like this morality term like oh I didn't have the
Speaker 1: will power. You need to have the willpower to do this,
Speaker 1: and this is very pull yourself up by the bootstraps,
Speaker 1: and in reality, willpower can only go so long. Willpower
Speaker 1: is something that yes, we can harness, but for a
Speaker 1: very short period of time. There's not much longevity to it.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't mean that there's something wrong with us
Speaker 1: if we can't stick to something really extreme for a
Speaker 1: really long time. So if it's requiring that, there you go,
Speaker 1: there's another red flag that you know what, maybe this
Speaker 1: isn't for me. Maybe there's a way that I can
Speaker 1: care for myself and value myself that doesn't require extremes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I will leave one last thing that I wanted to
Speaker 1: highlight from this episode, and it doesn't It doesn't cover
Speaker 1: the long term medical effects on like the costs of
Speaker 1: these long term effects because it could be different for everyone,
Speaker 1: But I love that it's it's mostly focused on like
Speaker 1: kind of the immediate costs. And so this one says
Speaker 1: almost half of all new gym members stop going to
Speaker 1: the gym after six months, wasting about two forty dollars
Speaker 1: a year um. And it says that of pent of
Speaker 1: gym members are actively going, are going like four times
Speaker 1: a month, so they have low usage and then drop
Speaker 1: out complete and so annually they've it's been proven annual
Speaker 1: plans won't motivate you to go to the gym. So
Speaker 1: this is one of those if you if you do
Speaker 1: want to start a gym membership, which is great, like
Speaker 1: we fully support I fully support gym memberships. I go
Speaker 1: to cross Fit. I pay much more than forty dollars
Speaker 1: a month for CrossFit UM, but I love it. I
Speaker 1: use I go four times a week. Don't choose an
Speaker 1: annual plan unless you have proven that you will go
Speaker 1: for six months or more. Pay more for the monthly
Speaker 1: plan and prove to yourself, Okay, yes I will go,
Speaker 1: I will continue. This is something I love and enjoy
Speaker 1: and want to do. Then sign up for the annual
Speaker 1: plan because and this is honestly with a lot of
Speaker 1: things that have annual plans, it is worth the money
Speaker 1: to pay extra per month to do the monthly plan
Speaker 1: so you can figure out if you like it and
Speaker 1: you'll stick to it because most of the time you
Speaker 1: don't get that unused money back. So yeah, Jim. Memberships
Speaker 1: too can be the hardest thing to cancel because if
Speaker 1: you're realizing I'm not utilizing yet, to cancel it means
Speaker 1: to almost relinquish the fantasy of self that someday I'll
Speaker 1: get into it. So yeah, starting off small is helpful.
Speaker 1: Making sure that you're going to go and utilize it,
Speaker 1: but then also giving yourself grace if you're realizing, you
Speaker 1: know what, this this isn't the style or method that's
Speaker 1: working for me. It's not a failure. I've just learned
Speaker 1: more about myself and I am going to cancel regardless
Speaker 1: of like whatever meaning I may attach to that. If
Speaker 1: if I'm not going, then it is wasted money. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I think this article really emphasizes that the diet portion. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it can be expensive if you're doing like a diet,
Speaker 1: if you're just trying to you know, eat, then you
Speaker 1: can get like an unprocessed food for similar prices as
Speaker 1: a processed food, and like especially if you're looking at
Speaker 1: frozen and stuff like that does take a smidge more work.
Speaker 1: I understand that. But there are ways to eat healthy
Speaker 1: for not a lot of money, but not if you're
Speaker 1: following like a very specific, rigid diet. If the definition
Speaker 1: of healthy eating to you is um, no carbs or
Speaker 1: no this or no that, and you have to get
Speaker 1: specialty stuff, that is going to be more expensive. Now
Speaker 1: I will say caveat to that. Our meats obviously, if
Speaker 1: you choose to go you know, the organic, free range
Speaker 1: that sort of thing, then that is quite more expensive.
Speaker 1: But even if you're choosing to do organic produce and
Speaker 1: doing just the dirty dozen, then it still can be affordable,
Speaker 1: especially if you're choosing more like vegetarian. But chances are
Speaker 1: if you are someone who is operating under a more
Speaker 1: strict diet cutting out certain things prioritizing you know, organic
Speaker 1: grass fed meats, then it's probably a high value and
Speaker 1: values based spending. There is room and permission for that.
Speaker 1: Depending on what your income looks like, it might mean
Speaker 1: cutting other things, but if it's something you want to afford,
Speaker 1: then we can look to find ways to be able
Speaker 1: to do that. Yeah, that's such a great point because
Speaker 1: if you're if you highly value that really um high
Speaker 1: quality meat and produce, and you're asking how do I
Speaker 1: save money on groceries I only want to get like
Speaker 1: free range, grass fed organic wag, you like, that's not
Speaker 1: where you should be asking, because you've already decided I
Speaker 1: did what you want. You've already decided what you value,
Speaker 1: and the question is how do I cut other things
Speaker 1: out that I care less about to afford more of
Speaker 1: what I want in this area? So you just I mean,
Speaker 1: there's a place for everyone to eat healthy, and and
Speaker 1: eating healthy isn't one type of grocery list. It can
Speaker 1: look there can be hundreds of different grocery lists and
Speaker 1: they can all be healthy. And I think that's what
Speaker 1: we really want to get through. That's the radical middle
Speaker 1: of of health. When it comes to to being healthy
Speaker 1: with food and then also getting active, you can there's
Speaker 1: is an array of things to move your body. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's there's not one type of workout that is better
Speaker 1: than another, or that will you know, solve all your
Speaker 1: problems where another I see I see all the time,
Speaker 1: like these these YouTube ads scream at me like cardio,
Speaker 1: stop doing cardio to lose weight right now right, I'm like, okay, um,
Speaker 1: I get their marketing. I understand where they're basing it
Speaker 1: off of. But I was like, that's not the whole picture.
Speaker 1: But of course you're not going to say the whole
Speaker 1: picture because you want to be like revolutionary and extreme.
Speaker 1: So yeah, like it's about what you're gonna do and
Speaker 1: extremes sell. So even I mean, I know we mentioned
Speaker 1: a couple of episodes to go back to, but even
Speaker 1: also going back into our archives to the marketing episodes,
Speaker 1: recognizing that we are being marketed to. People aren't necessarily
Speaker 1: just looking out for our best interests in what's going
Speaker 1: to be most healthy for our bodies. Like they are
Speaker 1: trying to sell something extreme, sometimes not caring about how
Speaker 1: much it's gonna mess with our bowel movements, but what's
Speaker 1: going to make the most money, because it's just an ad.
Speaker 1: They're they're just they're selling a product. They know they
Speaker 1: can prey on insecurities, and they're doing it and and
Speaker 1: that's why we spend money every year at an increased rate.
Speaker 1: Like the weight loss industry is a growing industry, and
Speaker 1: now some subsets of that have decreased, like boutique weight
Speaker 1: loss like centers, you know, those are getting less popular.
Speaker 1: But it's just the rise of like internet, like online
Speaker 1: courses for different fat diets are increasing, So you're just
Speaker 1: seeing like different um the money is just going to
Speaker 1: different places. So let's just get off of the bandwagon.
Speaker 1: Let's just leave. Let's leave. Yeah, and there are but
Speaker 1: but when you say just leave, it's like where do
Speaker 1: you go? Like where? How what do you do? Because
Speaker 1: we've got decades of programming to say finn is healthy,
Speaker 1: um or extreme diets are healthy. So this is just
Speaker 1: like one option that we're going to like throw out here. Um.
Speaker 1: And this is an article from Healthline and it's called
Speaker 1: a Quick Guide to Intuitive Eating um. And people call
Speaker 1: intuitive eating the anti diet. And I think, I mean,
Speaker 1: I thought, because we're very on board with intuitive spending,
Speaker 1: kind of like values based spending and intuitive spending, that
Speaker 1: this might be a good thing to go through to
Speaker 1: start to at least start to get in I don't know,
Speaker 1: not in control, but just like mindful about what you're
Speaker 1: eating and how you're eating. Because for so many years
Speaker 1: of counting calories, counting macros, we've been relying on other
Speaker 1: people to tell us what to eat and how to eat,
Speaker 1: that we have not developed the skills needed to identify hunger,
Speaker 1: to identify fullness, um, to identify food that make us
Speaker 1: feel good and ones that don't. Like I think, you know, yes,
Speaker 1: this is one method, but I feel so much like
Speaker 1: this isn't just another fad. Of course, put whatever word
Speaker 1: you want on it, but to me, that strikes me
Speaker 1: as back to the basics. If we were to throw
Speaker 1: off all the trappings of societal messaging and marketing and
Speaker 1: extremes and what we as women feel we need to
Speaker 1: be looking like, acting like sounding like then then this
Speaker 1: is it. What does healthy relationship with our behaviors and
Speaker 1: the things that we engage in and how we nourish
Speaker 1: our body look like? How do we pay attention to
Speaker 1: ourselves and our needs as we move through the world.
Speaker 1: So this doesn't this isn't like, oh here's the next
Speaker 1: news ing. This is just how have we done it
Speaker 1: in the past? Like what how do we eat again? Like,
Speaker 1: how do we get back to the basics of just
Speaker 1: like not making this super complicated. That's how this article
Speaker 1: is striking me. Yeah, it's like, how do I find
Speaker 1: what's right for me because I don't know what's right
Speaker 1: for me because I've been listening to other people tell
Speaker 1: me what's right for me, which sounds like the same
Speaker 1: thing that we say about spending. Even this first part
Speaker 1: where it's like, first you need to distinguish between physical
Speaker 1: and emotional hunger, So the biological urge telling you need
Speaker 1: to replenish nutrients versus hunger driven by emotional needs, and
Speaker 1: the same thing. It's like, we need to figure out
Speaker 1: like needs and true values versus emotional spending and listen
Speaker 1: just like spending, just like money, just like budgeting. This
Speaker 1: is calling us to the deeper messaging, the deeper idea's
Speaker 1: mentality that it's not just about the behaviors. It's not
Speaker 1: just about what exercise regiment you engage in, what food
Speaker 1: you eat, but your association with those things, the relationship
Speaker 1: that you have with yourself and with your ideas about food,
Speaker 1: with your ideas about body movement. And so this idea
Speaker 1: of intuitive eating, it's promoting a healthy attitude towards food,
Speaker 1: towards body image. It's getting at some of those deeper things,
Speaker 1: and for some of us maybe relearning how to trust ourselves,
Speaker 1: how to be in tune with with our body, with
Speaker 1: how the various stimuli around us again, whether exercise or
Speaker 1: food or otherwise is impacting us, and how then we
Speaker 1: want to respond and engage with that thing. But it's
Speaker 1: it's before the behavior learning these things. And so they
Speaker 1: go through ten key principles, which I think are fantastic.
Speaker 1: I think it's worth us going through all ten. Yeah
Speaker 1: they're very short, yeah, yeah, exactly, there's not paragraphs attached
Speaker 1: to it. And so the first one is this need
Speaker 1: to reject a diet mentality, that that extremist thinking that
Speaker 1: we've been talking about that it's not necessarily a diet
Speaker 1: that's going to work for us, and diets don't have
Speaker 1: long term sustainability. Maybe it's like a quick fix, but
Speaker 1: we want a mentality that is for a lifetime sustainable rhythmic.
Speaker 1: So that's we talk a lot about mindset that's going
Speaker 1: to be part of that that we're not on a diet,
Speaker 1: we are just engaging in in our life in the
Speaker 1: world around us. Yeah, part I mean it sounds like
Speaker 1: I don't know, honestly, part of me doesn't want to
Speaker 1: give up the diet mentality because I feel like I
Speaker 1: can be part of the five percent that can succeed,
Speaker 1: like a hundred percent of people will feel like they
Speaker 1: can be part of the five percent that actually like
Speaker 1: succeeds with a diet, which is so funny and that
Speaker 1: statistic made me laugh because that's me. Uh And but
Speaker 1: it is in order to have like to be fully
Speaker 1: okay with your body that you have to give up
Speaker 1: the diet mentality, Like they don't they cannot coexist. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I hear you in that gen But then is
Speaker 1: it for the diet or is it for you? I
Speaker 1: think sometimes we have to look at how much of this.
Speaker 1: Do I want to do this just for achievement or
Speaker 1: to say that I did this or to or is
Speaker 1: it actually to aim at health and well being? It's
Speaker 1: not to aim at health and well being for sure,
Speaker 1: absolutely not, I can tell you that. So that's just
Speaker 1: starting off with the first one is going to be
Speaker 1: very hard. Um too, is to honor your hunger. Hunger
Speaker 1: is not your enemy, so respond to your early signs
Speaker 1: of hunger by feeding your body. Um. If you let
Speaker 1: yourself get excessively hungry, then you are likely to overeat. Yes,
Speaker 1: and this is this comes with preparation, same with how
Speaker 1: we approach impulse spending, having some of those foods prepared already,
Speaker 1: that you know you're gonna enjoy, that you feel good
Speaker 1: about eating and and eat when you're hungry. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: it'll It can also help you, like save you from
Speaker 1: take out because if you eat when you're hungry, then
Speaker 1: you don't let it bottle up all day so that
Speaker 1: you just like get so hungry you you want to
Speaker 1: get take out instead of eat the food you have
Speaker 1: at home. The third one is make peace with food.
Speaker 1: I love how they just say call a truce in
Speaker 1: the war war with food. Um, getting rid of ideas
Speaker 1: about what you should or shouldn't eat again. Oh gosh,
Speaker 1: there's so many correlations and parallels to money, like thinking
Speaker 1: money is good or bad, or debt is good or bad.
Speaker 1: It's neutral, How do you want to engage with it?
Speaker 1: Food is neutral? How do you want to engage with it?
Speaker 1: I loved this Instagram post that I read and it's
Speaker 1: from I think it was from kids Eating color but
Speaker 1: it's one of the toddler like eating profiles and it
Speaker 1: was like how to explain foods to your kids, and
Speaker 1: it's it's like a series. And I think this one
Speaker 1: was for like cupcakes or something or dessert um, And
Speaker 1: it's like, the foods are neutral, but some foods give
Speaker 1: us more energy and longer energy than others. Cupcakes give
Speaker 1: us energy for a short amount of time, but we
Speaker 1: also need to eat foods that give us energy for
Speaker 1: a longer amount of time. So all the foods are neutral.
Speaker 1: It's just let's let's make sure we're getting enough energy.
Speaker 1: We're getting enough of the right energy. Yes, I love
Speaker 1: that not labeling food is good or bad. That's like
Speaker 1: not the best version of messaging for ourselves or our children. Yeah,
Speaker 1: for is to challenge the food police again. Yeah, food
Speaker 1: is not good or bad, and you are not. You
Speaker 1: are not good or bad for what you eat or
Speaker 1: don't eat that because you are the food police. You
Speaker 1: are the food police in your head, and you are
Speaker 1: not good or bad for what you eat or don't eat.
Speaker 1: So challenge the thoughts that tell you otherwise. This is
Speaker 1: I feel like this. You're speaking directly to me, particularly
Speaker 1: how I my police, my loved ones, sorry Eric, mostly
Speaker 1: my husband. He does want to eat so many French
Speaker 1: fries though, and I support that. But you know, like
Speaker 1: anything in excess is excessive, but you know what, you
Speaker 1: pull back too much of it? Yeah, it's too much
Speaker 1: of anything is no longer a special thing. Watch I'll
Speaker 1: find out that, like according to his body composition, like
Speaker 1: he needed so many potatoes and salt, like it's what
Speaker 1: he actually look at him. He is tall and thin,
Speaker 1: and I assure you he probably needs more French fries
Speaker 1: than you think he does. Alright, alright, one for you, Yeah,
Speaker 1: there you go, work, I'll stop being your food police.
Speaker 1: Number five is respect your fullness, And this is going
Speaker 1: to come back to a more mindful approach and connection
Speaker 1: with our whole selves and our our personhood and learning
Speaker 1: to trust our body. I know some of that might
Speaker 1: sound like a little out there, but I think we
Speaker 1: we are connected. These things don't exist in a vacuum.
Speaker 1: And so learning what it feels like to be full,
Speaker 1: slowing down, enjoying the food that we're choosing to put
Speaker 1: into our bodies, and then noticing, Okay, I think that's enough.
Speaker 1: That's going to be helpful, versus blowing past all of
Speaker 1: those natural boundaries and warning signs can so many correlations
Speaker 1: to other parts of life. We just aren't paying attention,
Speaker 1: and we blow past ourselves and end up potentially hurting ourselves.
Speaker 1: So slow down, be mindful, pay attention, and honor your fullness. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you do this so well, Travis and I do not,
Speaker 1: and Travis especially he will. So everyone was taught like
Speaker 1: clean your plate, like everyone had to finish everything on
Speaker 1: their plate growing up, and he lives by that. Now.
Speaker 1: He can't just finish his plate he made. He has
Speaker 1: to make sure all the plates are clean. And like
Speaker 1: I know there have been times where I have made
Speaker 1: enough for us to eat meals and then have leftovers
Speaker 1: for each of us the next day, and I'll go
Speaker 1: to package and there's only one meal worth of leftovers.
Speaker 1: And that's like, I mean, that means one of us
Speaker 1: has is buying lunch the next day. So it's like
Speaker 1: a financial thing to like when you are in tune
Speaker 1: with your fullness and you can identify I'm full, I
Speaker 1: don't have to finish what's on my plate. I can
Speaker 1: package it up and eat it tomorrow. That's like another
Speaker 1: way to save money. And obviously eat until full, but
Speaker 1: I know so more often, like nine times out of ten,
Speaker 1: the problem isn't not eating enough, it's eating too much.
Speaker 1: Well that's the thing that I'm Yeah, I think it's
Speaker 1: tied into number six, to the satisfaction factor. I don't
Speaker 1: even know if it's eating to fullness. I think it's
Speaker 1: eating to satisfaction. Like I don't eat until I wait
Speaker 1: until I feel stuffed. Like I eat what I believe
Speaker 1: is it a reasonable amount of food for me? And
Speaker 1: I don't keep going until it's like oh yeah, like
Speaker 1: roll me out of here. And I think that's a
Speaker 1: mentality thing too, that I mean I've I've developed over years,
Speaker 1: but I think it's connected to this concept of like
Speaker 1: learning what what we need, what's enough? Golly, we got
Speaker 1: to learn that with our money what's enough, and be
Speaker 1: satisfied in in those things, learned degrees of contentment while
Speaker 1: learning yourself. But yeah, and we're not going to know
Speaker 1: that that we're full or we're satisfied until we've given
Speaker 1: ourselves time to like sit with it versus like shoveling
Speaker 1: shoveling food in. But that so that the satisfaction factor too,
Speaker 1: I want to talk a little bit about that, not
Speaker 1: just eating until like yeah, fullness and just what's satisfying,
Speaker 1: but also engaging in an enjoyable experience with food, like
Speaker 1: making sure that what we're eating we can enjoy. And
Speaker 1: even if it's just veggies, there are sample some fantastic
Speaker 1: ways to make veggies taste really good. One of the
Speaker 1: things that's also helped me in this satisfaction factors if
Speaker 1: I'm craving something, honoring that craving, recognizing like I can
Speaker 1: have that thing, even if it's labeled by society as
Speaker 1: bad or not good for you or something to avoid.
Speaker 1: I can have it, but have it just for the
Speaker 1: purpose of the satisfying flavor, not that I need to
Speaker 1: have the whole thing. So a lot of times this
Speaker 1: is like dessert for me, that I I personally don't
Speaker 1: have like a big sweet tooth, but like catch me
Speaker 1: with some bread and butter, and that's gonna be where
Speaker 1: I struggle. But sometimes I'll want something, but it doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that like I need a whole big handful of cake.
Speaker 1: I just want to bite of it. It doesn't mean
Speaker 1: I need a whole chocolate bar. I just want a
Speaker 1: bite of it. And I'm not saying that that's going
Speaker 1: to work for everybody, but that's how the satisfaction factor
Speaker 1: has looked for me, is just a little taste of
Speaker 1: the thing that I want and being satisfied with that
Speaker 1: while also eating all the other nutrients that I need.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that I'm starting and paying attention to
Speaker 1: how you feel after you eat and when you wake
Speaker 1: up in the morning, Like I think a big problem.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to throw Travis under the bus,
Speaker 1: but he he has I mean, he eats a lot
Speaker 1: of unhealthy food that doesn't make him feel great, makes
Speaker 1: him feel tired, but he doesn't want to admit that
Speaker 1: that that's why he's tired, and that's why he's flemy
Speaker 1: and stuff. So he has like total capability of changing
Speaker 1: and stopping food and he will eat healthy like when
Speaker 1: I cook for him, but it's it's all the other
Speaker 1: it's when he's out in the wild, you mean work,
Speaker 1: So like I mean, also pay attention to how the
Speaker 1: body feels after eating something, because if you feel yucky,
Speaker 1: that's not satisfying. And I think that's what's going to
Speaker 1: move us more in the direction of healthier food, especially
Speaker 1: for somebody with a UM. I think mindfulness and intention
Speaker 1: about that UM observation is what can steer us in
Speaker 1: the direction of foods that have longer lasting energy sources.
Speaker 1: So seven is to also honor your feelings without using food.
Speaker 1: This one will save you money too when you use
Speaker 1: free ways to honor your feelings. So whether it's like
Speaker 1: a negative feeling or positive feeling, so taking a walk, meditating, journaling,
Speaker 1: and calling a friend versus eating. Then you can also
Speaker 1: become more like become aware of the times when a
Speaker 1: feeling that you might call hunger is actually emotion based.
Speaker 1: And this helps with that too. And it's just identifying
Speaker 1: so that we don't because out of emotion, we're never
Speaker 1: going for the foods with more energy. We're always going
Speaker 1: for the short energy foods. So I think this is
Speaker 1: a really good one. Yeah, we can spend, we can
Speaker 1: eat unnecessarily, There's so many things we can do when
Speaker 1: we're sad, but finding the coping strategies that are going
Speaker 1: to work, and then respecting our body rather than criticizing
Speaker 1: ourselves for how we look or perceiving it as wrong.
Speaker 1: This is a mentality shift of gratitude for what is
Speaker 1: your body capable of? What are the parts that you
Speaker 1: like about how you're formed and the uniquenesses of who
Speaker 1: you are? And as we can be grateful for our
Speaker 1: abilities and respect ourselves, then we are likely to move
Speaker 1: into better relationships with food and be and body movement
Speaker 1: behaviors and all that kind of thing. But again, it's
Speaker 1: going to start with our minds and the story and
Speaker 1: the narrative that we're telling ourselves. There was a recent
Speaker 1: podcast where the book where we talked about books book Club,
Speaker 1: and I was talking about children's books. So I remembered
Speaker 1: another one that I almost mentioned on that podcast. But
Speaker 1: here you go. Here's another children's book that I love
Speaker 1: that breaks down this concept. It's called I Like Me
Speaker 1: by Nancy Carlson. I was just at my mom's house
Speaker 1: recently going through like old childhood books and this was
Speaker 1: one of my favorites as a kid, and she read
Speaker 1: it to me often, and maybe it's a part of why,
Speaker 1: like a small part. There's probably a lot of layers,
Speaker 1: Like I do feel like I've got a good relationship
Speaker 1: with with food and myself, and like, thank you mom
Speaker 1: for reading books like this to me as a young kid.
Speaker 1: It's like this little piglet who is just like she
Speaker 1: likes herself, and it's all the things that she lists
Speaker 1: off that she likes about herself. Of you know, we
Speaker 1: could go to extremes with that of like oh man,
Speaker 1: you're thinking so highly of yourself, But I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think it just promotes such a positive outlook and
Speaker 1: a and a tempered approach. So there you go. If
Speaker 1: you want a message for yourself or for your kids,
Speaker 1: it's a really cute little book. I agree. It's much
Speaker 1: better than my dad like every month saying we all
Speaker 1: need to get on a diet. That was what I
Speaker 1: grew up with during childhood. I'm gonna I'm gonna come over.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read you that book, Jim. Oh, thank you. Um.
Speaker 1: Respecting your body can also save you money on clothes,
Speaker 1: because I know, we're all holding onto clothes that we
Speaker 1: want to fit into that we used to. We're all
Speaker 1: holding onto this like you know, former self, I don't know,
Speaker 1: or buying gold pants, which is something I did as
Speaker 1: a teen, Like I would buy something that was a
Speaker 1: little too tight and be like, oh, I'll work and
Speaker 1: I'll fit into them, and I never did because I
Speaker 1: was a growing human. Um. So this and and just
Speaker 1: buying things that look good at other people, but and
Speaker 1: you want them to look good on you because you
Speaker 1: want to look like other people. But your body isn't
Speaker 1: like their's. So respect your body and dress it how
Speaker 1: you feel good about, not what society is telling you
Speaker 1: to look like or what you know you have an
Speaker 1: idea of of how you should dress and look like.
Speaker 1: Ninth is to exercise. Move your body. This is like
Speaker 1: very very important. And not to move your body for
Speaker 1: the sake of burning calories, but to move it because
Speaker 1: of all, because you want to move it in a
Speaker 1: way that you want to. Whether it's you know, whether
Speaker 1: it's the running that's gonna you know, burn a bunch
Speaker 1: of calories, or maybe just some light yoga like consistency
Speaker 1: is key, So move your body in a way that
Speaker 1: you enjoy and that you will stick with sustainably. So
Speaker 1: it may that the season you are in life may
Speaker 1: determine how you're moving your body. Um, but just just
Speaker 1: do something that you like and can actually fit into
Speaker 1: your schedule. With my counseling clients, I called I've called
Speaker 1: exercise body movement. At this point, I think we have
Speaker 1: such a poor association with the term exercise when really
Speaker 1: it's learning ways to move our body that we enjoy.
Speaker 1: There will be no sustainability in it unless we enjoy it.
Speaker 1: So if you like playing soccer or playing tennis or swimming,
Speaker 1: or if you like running great, if you like the
Speaker 1: quick spurts like hit whatever it is, biking walking, find
Speaker 1: something that you enjoy and move your body and call
Speaker 1: it that if that helps, get get rid of the
Speaker 1: vernacular if it's becoming a hindrance. And then finally number ten,
Speaker 1: honor your health. And I love this term j and
Speaker 1: tool nutrition. This speaks such kindness. Finding the foods that
Speaker 1: tastes good to you, make you feel good, recognizing that
Speaker 1: one meal, one snack isn't going to make or break
Speaker 1: your overall health. Just be kind to yourself. And you
Speaker 1: know what else is kind something that allows me to
Speaker 1: move my body and gives me so much joy and fulfillment.
Speaker 1: The bill of the week. That's right, it's time for
Speaker 1: the best minute of your entire week. Maybe a baby
Speaker 1: was born and his name is William. Maybe you paid
Speaker 1: off your mortgage, maybe your car died, and you're happy
Speaker 1: to not have to pay that bill anymore. That bill
Speaker 1: Buffalo bills, Bill Clinton, this is the bill of the week,
Speaker 1: Adi have I got a bill of a week for you.
Speaker 1: I recently left my job, which was very toxicly but
Speaker 1: did provide a free cellphone and I just you know,
Speaker 1: working there was not worth a free cellphone bill. So
Speaker 1: I just left that job and got a new one.
Speaker 1: And my bill of the week is that I had
Speaker 1: a cellphone bill look at and you know what I
Speaker 1: signed out with me and it's just twenty five dollars
Speaker 1: a month. I have to deal with those people, and
Speaker 1: it was a great bill. And I'm not happy to
Speaker 1: have a cellphone bill, but I'm happy to have a
Speaker 1: cellphone bill if it means also I double will come
Speaker 1: in the last year, just simply because I left positions
Speaker 1: that we're not good bit and I was not afraid
Speaker 1: to make the switch and did not feel more so, um,
Speaker 1: that might make me selfish or I don't know something,
Speaker 1: but it worked out so that I am celebrating with you.
Speaker 1: This is so exciting. I think when people find the
Speaker 1: freedom and the flexibility to leave a work environment that
Speaker 1: is not good, not sustainable, not going to be helpful
Speaker 1: long term, and recognize like the things that are keeping
Speaker 1: you there, and eventually it was just like a twenty
Speaker 1: dollar a month reason to stay. Yeah, staying for a
Speaker 1: paid cell phone bill if it is ruining you mentally, physically, emotionally,
Speaker 1: it's not worth it. And I am so thrilled and
Speaker 1: celebrating with you. And it sounds like you've found yourself
Speaker 1: in an even better environment, doubling your income now paying
Speaker 1: for a bill, but finding a great provider. Thanks men,
Speaker 1: twenty dollars a month. That's fantastic. Improved work environment, improved
Speaker 1: mental health and pay in that cell phone bill but
Speaker 1: love and every minute. Congratulations. Yeah. I think a lot
Speaker 1: of people overestimate some of the benefits offered by employers,
Speaker 1: and it's always a good idea to actually list out
Speaker 1: the benefits you're using the cost per month that they
Speaker 1: are on their own. Uh, and then using that as
Speaker 1: a template to go out find a higher paying job.
Speaker 1: Compare benefits to benefits to see what else you could
Speaker 1: get by not just improving your work life, but like
Speaker 1: you could get improved benefits and improved pay. But sometimes
Speaker 1: people will hold on to a job that they hate
Speaker 1: for you know, a free laptop, which is you know, dollars.
Speaker 1: If you could get a two thousand dollar a year raise,
Speaker 1: you've gotten a new laptop, and then every year beyond
Speaker 1: that the extra two thousand dollars like or a car
Speaker 1: or a cell phone. So sometimes they are worth it,
Speaker 1: but you really have to write down the whole picture
Speaker 1: to get an idea of you know, where to go
Speaker 1: and how to proceed. So I am I'm glad you
Speaker 1: did it. I don't think it's selfish at all. If
Speaker 1: you all listening have a similar story. If you've got
Speaker 1: a bill you don't mind paying, or a bill that
Speaker 1: you're not paying anymore, you you know, sky's the limit.
Speaker 1: Submit your bill of the week at Frugal Friends podcast
Speaker 1: dot com slash bill. We are ready for it, and
Speaker 1: now it's time for uh. So I like I like
Speaker 1: this one. If you could only eat one thing for
Speaker 1: a year, what would it be. Are we assuming that
Speaker 1: like it's giving us all the nutrition, that all the nutrients,
Speaker 1: or so I like maybe this version better. If you
Speaker 1: could have an unlimited supply of one food, what would
Speaker 1: it be? Don't say gum, you cannot consume them's not
Speaker 1: your answer, thank you. I really believe that I could
Speaker 1: subsist off of bread and wine, like bread, bread butter,
Speaker 1: bread and salted butter and wine. That would be if that,
Speaker 1: if that provided, like I didn't need anything else and
Speaker 1: it was like all that my body needed. Godly, I
Speaker 1: love bread alright, Jesus. So for me just taking communion
Speaker 1: every day, you are you are really someone to be
Speaker 1: looked up to. Uh, mine is not as biblical. Mine
Speaker 1: is the tear messiou from public the and people who
Speaker 1: only people with publics will know, and only a certain
Speaker 1: number of people with access to publix will know. But
Speaker 1: if you know, you know, the tiramissy from publics is
Speaker 1: tops like it is sometimes better than actual tiramiss. It's
Speaker 1: not like authentic Italian like if you're looking for authentic
Speaker 1: Italian tramissy, it's not this, but it is so good
Speaker 1: it sometimes like better than that. Okay, but like are
Speaker 1: you understanding the question, like, could you unlimited apply all
Speaker 1: day every day if you only ever could if you
Speaker 1: could only eat that for a year, Like I get
Speaker 1: it that it might be your favorite dessert, but like,
Speaker 1: could you eat it all day every day? Yes? Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel more bread is like enough that you know,
Speaker 1: there's it's just bland enough, but just flavorful enough that like,
Speaker 1: I don't think I could ever get tired of it,
Speaker 1: But you don't think you could ever get tired of tiramissou.
Speaker 1: I won't say that, but I will say if I
Speaker 1: think of all the foods out there, it would be
Speaker 1: the last one for me to get tired of. That's amazing. Wow, Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't think I realized how deep this one for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's good to know it's deep. And if you're ever
Speaker 1: at a Publix, go to the bakery refrigerated section, just
Speaker 1: a little tiramisou with little chocolate corners. It's in the
Speaker 1: bakery section at Publix. Yeah, and in like, yeah, so
Speaker 1: that's my place. Publish doesn't pay me to say that,
Speaker 1: but if they want to, apparently they could. They could
Speaker 1: give Jenny and then just like keep sending bad gets
Speaker 1: my way. Yes, all right, thanks so much for listening.
Speaker 1: I really hope that this episode, if you are more
Speaker 1: acquainted with diet culture than you are with budget culture,
Speaker 1: that some of the synergy kind of opened your eyes
Speaker 1: to how the two mentalities and mindsets live together and
Speaker 1: hopefully will help you in both your eating movement and
Speaker 1: spending to have a more radical middle like view and
Speaker 1: to be kinder to yourself. Uh. So many of you
Speaker 1: know we have a private community where we talk all
Speaker 1: about this stuff. We do money challenges, offer accountability groups,
Speaker 1: and so we want to congratulate one of our members
Speaker 1: for a big win. This one's from Corey. It's titled principle.
Speaker 1: She says deciding what is enough to help save on money, time,
Speaker 1: and energy. Never thought of it this way, and I
Speaker 1: had a scarcity mindset of need it now because you
Speaker 1: never know, and need more because you never know. I
Speaker 1: can look at each section of my life and put
Speaker 1: a tag on what is enough, so I don't overdo
Speaker 1: it for no good reason. For example, when I grew up,
Speaker 1: we always had extra of the necessities, mainly kitchen and
Speaker 1: bathroom things. Right now we have plenty of toilet paper
Speaker 1: and She posted a picture of all of her toilet paper,
Speaker 1: and then she says, I'd say that's more than enough.
Speaker 1: Simple things like this will make a bigger impact for
Speaker 1: my future. So yeah, definitely, I think Hi. I saw
Speaker 1: an article title the other day it's like ten reasons
Speaker 1: you need to stockpile Now. I didn't want to click
Speaker 1: on it because I didn't want to get into that algorithm.
Speaker 1: But it's Uh, it's definitely a mentality like decide what's
Speaker 1: enough and you will save not just money, but also
Speaker 1: time and energy. Stockpiling's the last thing we need. We
Speaker 1: saw what happens when we stockpile. But Corey, congratulations on
Speaker 1: recognizing this mindset and then moving to shift it. That
Speaker 1: is incredible growth. Again, thanks for listening. If you want
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Speaker 1: is produced by Eric Sirianna well Jen. There's a variety
Speaker 1: of ways that we could go with this conversation. I
Speaker 1: feel like I was just talking to me the whole time.
Speaker 1: Some episodes you do for the people. In some episodes
Speaker 1: you do for yourself. Um, I feel like this one.
Speaker 1: In the COOKEE Boh episode last week, I was just
Speaker 1: having a time when I scheduled these What are you
Speaker 1: going to do as a result of engaging in this content? Well,
Speaker 1: I'm just going to try and love my body more.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna love all the parts of it because I
Speaker 1: do move my body and I do eat, you know,
Speaker 1: relatively well. And I always try to do these like
Speaker 1: fad things quick fixes is really what it is, and
Speaker 1: I'm just never motivated enough to stick with them, and
Speaker 1: that is guilt inducing for me, the same way as
Speaker 1: you know when you can't stick to a budget and
Speaker 1: you feel like, oh, I'm just like not good at budgeting,
Speaker 1: Like I can't stick to a diet, so I'm just
Speaker 1: like not good at this healthy thing. And then it
Speaker 1: but I am healthy, So it gives me this like
Speaker 1: false sense of who I am. It's like, I mean,
Speaker 1: it can be tough with any aspect of life to
Speaker 1: hold the tension of contentment and acceptance but also desirous
Speaker 1: of growth and having goals. So like, I'm I'm happy
Speaker 1: with myself. I'm I'm pleased with where I've come to
Speaker 1: at this point in life. But I want to be
Speaker 1: stronger and so like I want I want to be
Speaker 1: after having seen what my body is capable of, I
Speaker 1: do have these growing goals of oh, I want to
Speaker 1: be able to do more push ups or a pull up,
Speaker 1: or I'm curious how long I can sustain some of
Speaker 1: this cardio activity without feeling so winded. So but that
Speaker 1: can be tough too. Then also maintain content, like it's
Speaker 1: this tension that we're constantly holding. I think it's okay.
Speaker 1: I think tension can be a good thing, but making
Speaker 1: sure there's tension and not just so far off the
Speaker 1: deep end with either like lack of contentment or over content,
Speaker 1: and there are no goals like it's it's this ever
Speaker 1: evolving morphing, like, okay, how do we do this well?
Speaker 1: I think we're always prioritizing something you know to to
Speaker 1: focus on. It's easier focusing and prioritizing is much easier
Speaker 1: than balance. And so I think right now I just
Speaker 1: need to focus and prioritize loving my body and and
Speaker 1: going from and also learning how to identify my hunger
Speaker 1: and my fullness triggers. I think that that's big. So
Speaker 1: that's where I'm going from here. I support you, and
Speaker 1: then I'm going to read you that I like me book.
Speaker 1: Please do it, Okay,