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Speaker 1: it gets really bad. My friend just confided in me

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Speaker 1: so I am ready to tell him what's going on

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Speaker 1: I know you're you're very concerned. They're both your friends,

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Speaker 1: it is none of your business. This guy seems to

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Speaker 1: Thank god she didn't get pregnant again by him. She

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Speaker 1: she's doing way too much, way too much in this letter,

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Speaker 1: and she's not gonna tell her husband. She's gonna wait

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Speaker 1: you what you gave him? Asked you? You can ask

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Speaker 1: to car his VD with him. Oh, Steve, no real m. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's old, dude. You need to know that because STI

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Speaker 1: through me, STI sound like a government organization like the FBI. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't give it. They they don't know when they don't.

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Speaker 1: Times are changing. It never changed from my daddy, damn VD.

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Speaker 1: Now the STD now is STI Why I adn't get

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Speaker 1: nowhere in this letter she's talking about breaking up with

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Speaker 1: Now the side dude don't want you when you get pregnant. Letter.

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Speaker 1: reach back, baby. Well, no slave owners on either side?

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Speaker 1: What was hatting it? This is crazy? This really is

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Speaker 1: talk to her because you're gonna mess for a ruined

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