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Speaker 1: Hobby's podcast called Get Real with Caroline Hobby. Heck, you

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Speaker 1: She sits down and talks to a lot of the

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Speaker 1: having honest talk. On this episode, talks to Kristen Brust,

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Speaker 1: the wife of Preston from Low Cash. They talk about marriage,

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Speaker 1: the episode now. Carol Leon, she's a queen and she's

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Speaker 1: getting so just let the flu. No one can do

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Speaker 1: with Carol leone, this sounds Carol. So I am here

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Speaker 1: with my dear friends. Kristen Brush. You've actually been on

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Speaker 1: a podcast twice before one. When I first was launching,

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Speaker 1: we did like a Mother's Day special with two of

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Speaker 1: my other friends, Audrey and Mary Catherine and y'all had

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Speaker 1: just had new babies and it was all about being

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Speaker 1: a new mom. Then you came back on with one

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Speaker 1: of our mutual best friends, Landy Crowder, and we had

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Speaker 1: such a great conversation. And now I'm getting you all

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Speaker 1: to myself, just you alone. Kristen Brust. Hello, I'm a

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Speaker 1: three time raining champ. Hey does that have I have?

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Speaker 1: I've been on the most. You're you're maybe I mean

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Speaker 1: are definitely. There's a very small handful that's been always

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Speaker 1: many of you as much as you, if not any So,

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Speaker 1: I mean I love it. Welcome back, do my whole

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Speaker 1: feel good that we just do a lot of life

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Speaker 1: together here on your podcast. That's fine. I'll come back

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Speaker 1: tomorrow if you want me. To. I mean, it's futs

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Speaker 1: to stew all the conversations. So we met right when

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Speaker 1: I one of the first people that you met on

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Speaker 1: your national journey. You are the first person. And I

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Speaker 1: didn't even live in Nashville yet. See, we were destined. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was working for Big Machine and I had a

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Speaker 1: is this soul in front of me? She is stunning.

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Speaker 1: You had the biggest mile on your face, and I

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Speaker 1: was like, this amazing human being. You're like, hey, I'm Caroline.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, she's for sure gonna hate me.

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Speaker 1: You know when you think that pretty girls are always

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Speaker 1: those days for me where I was like, oh, she's

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Speaker 1: you're like so pretty. Definitely definitely lacking on that these

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Speaker 1: like instant love. You were just my person and we

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Speaker 1: moment watching Love be born, and you were just like

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Speaker 1: why that is for you. Well, I think so I've

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Speaker 1: everywhere you can find podcast in Kristin wee Brust, and

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Speaker 1: we'll get into that, we'll talk about what your podcast

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Speaker 1: So in my brain, I always make God made the universe,

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Speaker 1: I try to hold the tight grip because I think

429
00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 1: that's just a humanness kind of thing to do. I

430
00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 1: feel anxious or tired or you know, overwhelmed and like defeated.

431
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:57,119
Speaker 1: We can feel defeated. I'm not happening, yes, sad, you

432
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 1: just get like and every single time I'm like, okay, objectively,

433
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:04,879
Speaker 1: am I holding on extra tight right now? The answer

434
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 1: is always yes, And so I can just loosen the

435
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:12,960
Speaker 1: grip and allow. I have this phrase that I have

436
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,320
Speaker 1: shared a lot of times, but this is where I

437
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 1: go when I get anxious and overwhelmed. And so I

438
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:21,160
Speaker 1: kind of just feel like, once you adopt a model,

439
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,240
Speaker 1: you can have this one if you like, It's totally available,

440
00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 1: but just find something that you can ground yourself in

441
00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 1: that brings you right back to the center and is

442
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 1: exactly what you need to hear. So like, no matter what,

443
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 1: my phrase is always I am loved and I am protected.

444
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 1: And so when things get overwhelming or you know, or

445
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 1: I feel sad, or I just feel like, you know,

446
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:47,359
Speaker 1: lonely or unseen or whatever, all human things, no one's fault.

447
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 1: It's just like I have to remind myself I am

448
00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 1: loved and protected, and all of a sudden, it's like

449
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 1: I am just right back and in alignment. And sometimes

450
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:56,879
Speaker 1: I have to say it four or five times, and

451
00:23:56,960 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 1: sometimes I have to say it out loud. But whatever

452
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,879
Speaker 1: you're like gravity phrases, I think that's important too, because

453
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:04,840
Speaker 1: you have to have a way to snap yourself out

454
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,720
Speaker 1: of it and get yourself back to a place of

455
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 1: feeling secure and less overwhelmed. I love that change the energy.

456
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 1: Change the energy, man, And there's a lot of energy

457
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 1: that it takes to be alive, to run a family,

458
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 1: to do the laundry. And even like if you aren't

459
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:29,480
Speaker 1: married or don't have kids, or you're looking for your

460
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:32,240
Speaker 1: one like, or you're looking for your career, or you're

461
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:34,760
Speaker 1: feeling lost. I mean, you and I both have been

462
00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:36,919
Speaker 1: on the spectrum. Like yes, we both are married with

463
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 1: kids and have families that we love so much, but

464
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: like I have also been on the spectrum where feeling

465
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 1: so lost. Is am I ever gonna have love? Am

466
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 1: I ever gonna end up in a career that feels

467
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,640
Speaker 1: like what I'm craving in my heart? That's fulfeeling? Am

468
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:53,560
Speaker 1: I don't? I don't know if you felt this one,

469
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: but I felt so many times like am I just

470
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 1: like a waste of space? Am I a loser? Is

471
00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:59,199
Speaker 1: this ever going to pan out for me? And then

472
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: people look at you like when you get your shit

473
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:03,960
Speaker 1: together on some level it appears and they're like, oh

474
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 1: my god, how did they ever get there? Like how

475
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 1: I'll never be able to get that? So it's like

476
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 1: I truly have felt the full spectrum of it all,

477
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 1: and you just sort of like you said, have to

478
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 1: trust and let go and just keep moving forward because

479
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 1: we're all gonna hit all the different railroad stops along

480
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,199
Speaker 1: the way. Sometimes we're gonna be like I am freaking

481
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:24,800
Speaker 1: killing it, like life is awesome, and then other times

482
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:28,119
Speaker 1: you're gonna be like, what in the world I feel that, Like,

483
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:30,119
Speaker 1: let's go back to like two thousand one year was

484
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 1: really killing it because it's been a while I'm like,

485
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 1: oh yeah, killing it when what were those days like?

486
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: But also it's perspective, because I feel like you are

487
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 1: killing it, like to an out someone outsider perspective. You

488
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 1: have a marriage to a country music star, like he

489
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 1: just had another number one, Preston Bruss, he's in low cash.

490
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,919
Speaker 1: You have a podcast that you just launched. If it

491
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:56,199
Speaker 1: has it been a year yet, you're actually getting the

492
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:59,959
Speaker 1: logo for our birthday almost a year. You've been dreaming

493
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 1: of launching this for so long and then you did

494
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 1: it and Kristen we brust and you're having amazing episodes

495
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:09,360
Speaker 1: and it's fulfilling your soul. I mean, you have great friends,

496
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,720
Speaker 1: You've built a great mom squad, you have two precious children,

497
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 1: you have a beautiful home. You know, it's like, if

498
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:17,679
Speaker 1: you look at it from an outsider's perspective, you have

499
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 1: so much going on that's amazing. I do think though,

500
00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 1: like it's crazy. I mean, I feel like when I

501
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 1: finally get you know, when I get out of all

502
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 1: my feelings, and once a month those feelings get really intense.

503
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: But I feel like it's the comparison is the FIFA

504
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: joy thing is massive. I think social media is really

505
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:45,879
Speaker 1: really hard on everyone, and I feel a little blessed

506
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,440
Speaker 1: in the fact that like my real social media launch,

507
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 1: if you will, like my real like all of a

508
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: sudden started gaining followers, came out of such a vulnerable

509
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 1: space when I talked about the loss of our second baby,

510
00:26:56,480 --> 00:27:01,280
Speaker 1: that like I've been so real that my followers are

511
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:05,480
Speaker 1: the freaking best, like just genuine good people. And really,

512
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:09,160
Speaker 1: I don't know, I think like enjoy the real rawness

513
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 1: of it. Like that's why like I always love I mean,

514
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 1: I love you period. I again want to curl up

515
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 1: in your lap. But like we're all just like there's

516
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: this group of us kind of like changing the tone

517
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,760
Speaker 1: too of social media, that it is just a little

518
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 1: more raw, a little more real, so that you can

519
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:25,119
Speaker 1: not feel like you have to nail it, you know,

520
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 1: Like I was doing Live from the half bath when

521
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,439
Speaker 1: we were potty training love, and I was like, hey,

522
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 1: here I am again on the bathroom and we are

523
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 1: not nailing it, Like we cannot figure this out. I

524
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:36,400
Speaker 1: mean I have like what I would like to think

525
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 1: is like this very intuitive, gifted, wonderful, beautiful child, don't

526
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 1: we all? And it's like she just doesn't seem to

527
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 1: be able to figure out when to go pee on

528
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 1: the potty. So what am I missing here? You know?

529
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: But I think, like when you said, even when you're

530
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: having the bad days and stuff, it's like we've all

531
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:58,399
Speaker 1: been defeated. And so I call them valley pullers. But

532
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 1: it's like some days were the mountaintop. Sometimes we're in

533
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: the valley. But if you're on the mountaintop, like to

534
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 1: an extent, where you can lend your energy, like going

535
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 1: into the valley and pulling someone up is probably one

536
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 1: of the most important things because that's how we just

537
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 1: keep each other moving. Like I'll get moms that write

538
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 1: and they're just like, I feel like I suck. I

539
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: feel like you, you know, like I just wanted to

540
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: say thank you today for saying that, you know, Legend

541
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: wrote on your wall or whatever. I mean. The kid

542
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 1: is all fairl so like something. The guy needs an

543
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,639
Speaker 1: indoor helmet. It's really a little bit. Actually, you should

544
00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: put it a helmet on him, Like you should just

545
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 1: have him wear one all the time. It's really intense.

546
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 1: He has these two year old ideas, so like a

547
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 1: pretty toddler babyish ideas, but then he has this like

548
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: massive body that can execute them seamlessly or not so seamlessly.

549
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 1: So it's just like one big I'm just saving himself.

550
00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 1: I literally save him from himself all day until he

551
00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 1: goes to bed. That's my only job. You know. Like

552
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 1: when you just say I'm not doing well or I

553
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 1: feel sad or i feel anxious, like people are so

554
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 1: ready for that. Everyone. That's why we were created to

555
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 1: do life together, humanness, you know, like listen, I love

556
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 1: Jessica Simpson, Dave Ramsey, Dave Chappelle. I mean I watch

557
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 1: these people and think, okay, sometimes like they just got

558
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 1: it all together or what's it like or you know,

559
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 1: But then I think there's people that think, like I

560
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 1: have full time nannies. Yeah, oh girl, we're only a

561
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: little bit fancy. Like it's called low cash for a reason,

562
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 1: you know, Like what do you like maybe we've manifested

563
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: in our own demise when it comes to that. But

564
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 1: it's like, once you just realize everyone's just doing the

565
00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 1: best they can and no one's nailing it, life just

566
00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,720
Speaker 1: doesn't seem so competitive and it just seems a little

567
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: bit easier. And you know, when I can reach out

568
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: to you and just say, hey, I feel really sad

569
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 1: today and I just need you, and you're like, Okay,

570
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 1: what's going on? You know, it's like ears to hear

571
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 1: we were gifted to be able to support each other

572
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 1: and keep each other afloat in this life. And I

573
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: love that that you said that about the social media

574
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 1: real and I do agree that there are there are

575
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:18,560
Speaker 1: a lot of us who we have gotten some little

576
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 1: bit of influence and some followers who are amazing. But

577
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: it's like I feel a responsibility to Yes, I do

578
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 1: have moments where am I glammed up and rocking it

579
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 1: and feeling like a million bucks? Sure? But then other times,

580
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 1: like most of the time, am I literally covered from

581
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 1: head to toe and cheese puffs and milk and chasing

582
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 1: sunning around and feeling exhausted and feeling like for me,

583
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 1: I struggle with like food, I'm a terrible cook, so like,

584
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: am I giving her enough nutrients? All these other moms

585
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: are doing gourmet stuff, Like you know, it's just like

586
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: all these things you can compare your journey to, and

587
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 1: it's like at the end of the day, you've got

588
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 1: to share where you're struggling or like lately, like I've

589
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 1: been really struggling with the people pleasing because I felt

590
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 1: like I was just letting friends down by not being

591
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: a good enough friend, or like talking about one person

592
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 1: that I loved what they did with their business and

593
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: then realizing that by talking about one and supporting one,

594
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 1: I maybe wasn't supporting another. You know, just like trying

595
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: to do it all and do it all well and

596
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 1: then accidentally dropping the ball in places. And it's like

597
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 1: those can be moments that are really hard to deal with,

598
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: but it's like you got to share the ugly parts,

599
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 1: or like you're just having a bad day, or like

600
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,160
Speaker 1: you said, you got in a fights and over the DMV.

601
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: I mean, it's like you got to share that kind

602
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:42,400
Speaker 1: of stuff because otherwise social media, I feel like, can

603
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: be a wonderful tool, but it is so toxic, and

604
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:49,040
Speaker 1: so I think it's our responsibility to show the real

605
00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 1: side also, And I well, I do think we owe

606
00:31:56,400 --> 00:32:00,080
Speaker 1: it to ourselves to be well whole human beings and

607
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 1: take care of ourselves. And I think when our self care,

608
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:08,960
Speaker 1: oxygen mask on ourself before assisting others becomes less important.

609
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: We all of a sudden, social media gets magnified in

610
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 1: our brain. So like there's times where I've just had

611
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 1: to take myself off, like not being invited to something

612
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 1: or you know, it's it does hurt. And I always

613
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 1: think of our younger, like younger sweet little babies, like

614
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: these teenagers that like, you know, if you were invited

615
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: to something, you may be found out through the rumor mill,

616
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 1: but like now it's just so blasted in your face,

617
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:37,200
Speaker 1: and so I think, like just really goes back to

618
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 1: being still with yourself. It goes back to trusting yourself,

619
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 1: like goes back to knowing like I know, like I know,

620
00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 1: like I know, I act out of integrity and love,

621
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 1: like I operate out of those two things. I am.

622
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 1: I am so intentional that if I make a mistake

623
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: and hurt someone's feelings, which is bound to happen at

624
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 1: some point and has happened, I just have to go,

625
00:32:57,200 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. And I would never intentionally do that, And

626
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 1: I have to hope that the person I'm talking to

627
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: knows enough about me to go she would never intentionally

628
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 1: do that, and if I don't, probably not your people.

629
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 1: I hate to say it as bluntly as that, but

630
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 1: it's like anyone that's been in a season of chaos

631
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 1: or defeat or just living life can typically a healthy

632
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 1: person can find the grace and that and be able

633
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: to meet you with the grace and mercy that you

634
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:26,200
Speaker 1: need to be able to kind of like go, let's

635
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 1: get back, let's get this back on track. And we

636
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 1: have to give each other grace because, like you said,

637
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 1: we all have so many balls spinning in the air.

638
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 1: We're all trying as best we can do just stay

639
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 1: afloat and stay present and the best we can in

640
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 1: our own little ecosystem. And we want to be great

641
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 1: friends and we want to be great to everyone. But

642
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 1: like we're gonna drop the ball. It's going to happen.

643
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 1: And you pray that the people that you accidentally hurt

644
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 1: their feelings know that you did not mean it, like

645
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 1: it was not. Like the last thing I want to

646
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: do is stirrups from drama in my life. I do

647
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: not want any of that. Oh my god, where's the

648
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 1: time to pee alone. I don't have time to support

649
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 1: out drama like me either. Stunny's with me every single

650
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 1: time I pee on my lap with self animals. Yeah,

651
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 1: and I just it's like I really do think it's

652
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 1: just super important too to just take good care of yourself.

653
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:23,760
Speaker 1: And and really, I said I've been in a self

654
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 1: care mode. But it's like, and by self care, I

655
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:28,359
Speaker 1: mean I put my kids in a two day week

656
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:30,479
Speaker 1: program so that I could just breathe in a house

657
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 1: with some quiet. But we've just got to trust ourselves

658
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:36,360
Speaker 1: enough to know that we were wanting to be better

659
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: humans and we're trying our best. And and you've said

660
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: something else a minute ago that I was like, oh,

661
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:45,959
Speaker 1: I have to mention that because you were like to me,

662
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 1: you have it like you're stunning, You've got it together,

663
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 1: like you and Michael have this great marriage. You know,

664
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 1: it's like it's everyone's outside. I also don't think it's

665
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 1: such a bad thing. It gets kind of a negative

666
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 1: connotation sometimes, but it's like sometimes it's okay for us

667
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 1: to like just think the best of those people because

668
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,799
Speaker 1: they probably need us to. Everyone needs someone that thinks

669
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,319
Speaker 1: they're nailing it, you know, Like I'm not sure who

670
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: that is my life other than you, But I'm not

671
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 1: nailing it. I am. I'm far from nailing it. I

672
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 1: mean I literally Caroline texted me this morning was like, Hey,

673
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:22,319
Speaker 1: are we still good for today? And I was like, yeah,

674
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 1: just wrap it up a fight with my husband, be

675
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:28,440
Speaker 1: there in fifteen, Like it's just like that's just real life.

676
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:34,360
Speaker 1: And I don't know. I wish that the world gave grace,

677
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 1: but I think we just have to start, one single

678
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:39,719
Speaker 1: person at a time. I'm trying to remind people and

679
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 1: myself more lately that like, let us not forget, folks,

680
00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 1: that we are living in a pandemic. So golly gee,

681
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 1: I mean living. I love Michael more than anything in

682
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 1: the world. We've been together for ten years. But like

683
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 1: when you were with someone all the time, it is

684
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: like being with by the way, Like I mean, our

685
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 1: husbands were gone on the road constantly. You have you

686
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 1: since you've been married to Preston, y'all haven't had this

687
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 1: much time together. Ever, how are you navigating that? I mean,

688
00:36:10,400 --> 00:36:13,240
Speaker 1: I will I try to remind everyone right now and like, listen,

689
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 1: we're living through history. We do not have to thrive

690
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 1: through history, like you just need to live through it.

691
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 1: Make some pressure off yourself. Yes, there's things are changing,

692
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: a lot of things are shifting for the good. We

693
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: needed that to happen. But like, also, maybe this isn't

694
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 1: the time to do a deep dive into couples therapy.

695
00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:34,360
Speaker 1: Like maybe right now it's just like let's stay surface

696
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,840
Speaker 1: level and working as a team, you know, instead of like,

697
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,839
Speaker 1: that's about every single problem we've ever had for all

698
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,680
Speaker 1: my life. The spare time could just be to like

699
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,319
Speaker 1: organize the closet. Doesn't have to be necessarily to like

700
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,919
Speaker 1: go back and do some intensive couple's work. But okay, man,

701
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 1: like just right now, we need to just focus. I

702
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 1: will say, like he's usually on the road. I mean

703
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:58,320
Speaker 1: the first year our daughter was born January fifth and

704
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 1: January eleventh, he took off. And his song that year

705
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 1: also took off. That was his first big hit, and

706
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:08,439
Speaker 1: he was gone like over two hundred and sixty days

707
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,960
Speaker 1: that year, and the song was I Love this Life,

708
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 1: which is so fitting. Yeah, so please download and send

709
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: our kids to college. Shameless plugs all over this place.

710
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:20,320
Speaker 1: We're just trying to make it. But it's crazy because

711
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 1: we've literally like I don't do life. Like the first week,

712
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,399
Speaker 1: I don't do life with him. So the first week

713
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:30,360
Speaker 1: I was like, here, this is where we keep the spoons.

714
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 1: My name's Kristen, and welcome to orientation. You know. YEA

715
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 1: also got married really quickly, too, married quickly and pregnant quickly.

716
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:42,799
Speaker 1: We've done everything quickly. Like, I don't. It's crazy. So

717
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 1: it is weird to like live with each other and

718
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 1: be doing like parenting with each other. And I'm so

719
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: I'm fiercely independent, and so I've had to like really

720
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: do some work on myself during the last like eight months.

721
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 1: And okay, you know, I would just take the trash

722
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: down and he would be like, well, I could take

723
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 1: the trash to the curb. And I was like, I know,

724
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:07,759
Speaker 1: but I can too, and he's like, but I'm home

725
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 1: and I can do that. And so I've had to

726
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 1: like go, Okay, it's a weird shift from having to

727
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 1: be like the husband and the wife and the mom

728
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:15,040
Speaker 1: and the dad all the time to just like I

729
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 1: can just be a wife and a mom for a minute,

730
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:21,279
Speaker 1: you know. But we're still married. I mean, I gotta

731
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,839
Speaker 1: tell you. For a while, the country music industry looked

732
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:25,759
Speaker 1: like we were all dropping like flies. I was like,

733
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 1: you read a headline next day, another headline, and I

734
00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 1: was like, it's crazy when you're used and designed a

735
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:37,399
Speaker 1: whole life around not really being with each other, you know,

736
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 1: like it takes. It's so strong in some areas because

737
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 1: it takes a massive amount of trust, a different kind

738
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:47,799
Speaker 1: of level of communication to sustain these marriages. But what

739
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 1: it doesn't take is cleaning toilets up after everyone and

740
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 1: getting no help and watching people drink hot coffee while

741
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 1: you chase two kids around him. Just speaking hypothetically here.

742
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 1: So we're like really learning how to do life together.

743
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 1: But I think we I think the world is learning

744
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 1: how to do life together right now for the first time,

745
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: we've all had to slow down. Yeah, like as a

746
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: as a world, we're finally seeing each other and acknowledging

747
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:20,839
Speaker 1: struggles and acknowledging like some broken systems. I mean that

748
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:23,319
Speaker 1: is like global and then all the way down to

749
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 1: inside our four walls, you know, I know, it's a lot.

750
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 1: It's a lot. The world is really shaking it up.

751
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, it can't be just business as usual everyone,

752
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:40,759
Speaker 1: things have got to change. I'm shutting the world down down. Yeah,

753
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: I was crowded. We all got grounded. God send us

754
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 1: to our houses and was like you go to your

755
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,839
Speaker 1: room and you figure some stuff out, and it's hard

756
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:50,200
Speaker 1: to like, you know, then you just think of even

757
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:53,200
Speaker 1: like one level, it's like if you have your health,

758
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 1: you have everything. But then you think about just the

759
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 1: fact that financially, Like I know y'all have felt this too,

760
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 1: Like we are a primar early touring income house. So

761
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 1: take that away from us. And I mean we were

762
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: on the phone with a realtor month one, like do

763
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 1: we need to set like tell us where we need

764
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 1: to start figuring some things out because it gets really

765
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 1: overwhelming really fast. And it's just crazy how much we

766
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: all had and took. I mean, I don't think I

767
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 1: don't think specifically us took for granted because I think

768
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:28,240
Speaker 1: you and I've always been grateful. But man, it's another

769
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,120
Speaker 1: prime example of loosening your grip because I remember even

770
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 1: saying to you at one point, we did not have

771
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,440
Speaker 1: time as a family, like it is not sustainable to

772
00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 1: live like this. The four of us are never together,

773
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 1: like I mean, it would be weeks and countdowns and

774
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 1: he's in Australia and I'm making some countdown on the

775
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:45,839
Speaker 1: fridge and we're putting a sticker every morning and how

776
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 1: many more sleeps And it's like that some of that

777
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:53,120
Speaker 1: is just the business, but then there's just somewhere I'm like,

778
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: we need time. Well I would have never shut down

779
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:59,240
Speaker 1: the whole world, but God moved to some things so

780
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 1: we've gotten months together We've never had I mean, before March,

781
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:08,839
Speaker 1: our longest run together at home was two weeks. We've

782
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 1: never so how Love and Legend responded to this, They're obsessed.

783
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 1: We have a really honestly, I'll say this, we do

784
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 1: have a pretty fun household. Like Preston and I kind

785
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 1: of sometimes are like, it's kind of like we keep

786
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 1: waiting for our parents to come home, like kind of

787
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 1: feel like we're just doing like you know, it's like

788
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 1: movie night and sleepovers and all this. It's kind of

789
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: probably I don't know that they get fine. It's perfect.

790
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: It's love. It's so love, and it's you know, he

791
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 1: came from this amazing house of He had a preacher

792
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 1: dad and a homemaker mom and she's so creative aria Yah,

793
00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 1: she's a good one. So he's just got this next

794
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: level creativity and like yolo about life. I bring some

795
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 1: rules to the table because I just think structure is

796
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 1: probably okay for them. But like they have just loved,

797
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 1: you know, the first two weeks he was off the road,

798
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 1: she would say every single day when she would wake up,

799
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: are you leaving today? Do you leave in the dark tonight?

800
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 1: It's the bus leaving tonight, Like she just checked every

801
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 1: single day. And then after two weeks she just kind

802
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 1: of was like Dad as home and he had to

803
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 1: do a couple of things last week and he was gone,

804
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 1: and it was like, how many sleeps will be he

805
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 1: be gone? I said, just one sleep? She got up

806
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:26,759
Speaker 1: that next morning she was like, good morning, Mama. Do

807
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 1: you know what today? As Dad as coming home? Why

808
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 1: does this We just want to cry because it's that's

809
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,719
Speaker 1: a blessing, Like the careers are such a blessing. And

810
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 1: everybody has their blessings and their struggles within their lives,

811
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: but that is the blessing and the struggle of this

812
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 1: industry is you get to witness your spouses do amazing

813
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 1: things and like fulfilled dreams. But then it is a

814
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:50,879
Speaker 1: sacrifice of time being gone. And I know a lot

815
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 1: of people and other industries deal with that too, and

816
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 1: it's it's a hard it's a hard payoff sometimes. But

817
00:42:57,320 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 1: I can't imagine we talk about military all the time here.

818
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 1: I just I have such a deep gratitude for I mean, listen,

819
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 1: I've even said I've even said this to you. There's

820
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:10,560
Speaker 1: times where I'm like I wish he was doing something

821
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 1: that felt a little more credible, like saving my country

822
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 1: because I send him off to be surrounded in crop

823
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 1: tops and booty shorts and I'm like, wait, so what

824
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 1: are you doing again? But I want to say music

825
00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:23,320
Speaker 1: does heal? And I think music is so important. It

826
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: just is. And I think we've seen how vital it

827
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:30,360
Speaker 1: is to all of us, Like it makes me emotional.

828
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 1: But it's like this year we have missed all of that.

829
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 1: I know people need outlets to go, let go and

830
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: to get lost in music. I'd an outlet out of here.

831
00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm listening to the Secret and doing laundry.

832
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 1: Does anyone want to throw me a bone? I'm like,

833
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 1: really honest, it's crazy, But that's how it feels with music.

834
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 1: Is like it might have felt like it was something

835
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:55,799
Speaker 1: that was just like extra, but like when you get

836
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: locked down, we've all been grounded, Like we all, all

837
00:43:58,040 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: of us, how much do we just need to go

838
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 1: and a lot our hair it out and dance and

839
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:05,760
Speaker 1: feel alive to music and get reset and to forget

840
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 1: about all the struggles and the hardships and to have

841
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 1: some like music that connects our soul and reminds us

842
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 1: while we're alive. And reminds us who we are, and

843
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:16,800
Speaker 1: it's like you gotta have that, like it's so important

844
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:19,280
Speaker 1: and it feels like it's not necessary sometimes or it's

845
00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 1: like I said extra, but it's not. It's you know,

846
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 1: like honestly, I'm sitting talking to you in a house

847
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 1: that music built, which is incredible to me. And Preston

848
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 1: and I met because of music. Like I had a

849
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 1: love for country music and I can't sing at all,

850
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 1: so literally like I was on the label side or

851
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:40,080
Speaker 1: the radio side, but it's all for music. And it's

852
00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 1: crazy even in this house to watch, like we have

853
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 1: a music room and it's got like some expensive equipment

854
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 1: in it, and we just the kids, I mean legends

855
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:51,920
Speaker 1: walking around with a microphone. I don't even know how

856
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 1: much it costs, but it's intense. But he just always

857
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 1: walks around and Preston never says a thing because he's

858
00:44:57,680 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 1: just like they need to feel that, they need to

859
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:01,360
Speaker 1: know that when we have I'll be honest. When we

860
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 1: have tough days here, like the dance party is what

861
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 1: breaks it up for us. We just get I just

862
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:10,440
Speaker 1: bluetooth in and I'm like, okay, we got work to do,

863
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 1: and we just shake it or dance or whatever, and

864
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 1: it's like music is everything. It just is in all

865
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 1: of us so innately that it's so cool to me

866
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 1: to watch how it brings us all back together. And

867
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:27,720
Speaker 1: I think we miss I know, Preston misses the road

868
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:30,399
Speaker 1: because I'm sure he misses sleeping in and you know

869
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: a lot of other things. And there's got to be

870
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:37,400
Speaker 1: some validation there that is good for him, because I

871
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:40,239
Speaker 1: mean I asked him. I'm actually on month too. I said,

872
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 1: would you like to stand on the counter and like sing?

873
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 1: And I can stand down here with a crop top

874
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 1: on and just you make out eyes like are you

875
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 1: missing that? Do you need? Like? What can I do

876
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:53,399
Speaker 1: to help you? But I do really think like the

877
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 1: world is so we just are better together. I know

878
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 1: they keep saying that now it's become like this hashtag,

879
00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 1: but it's like, gosh, when we were that's how you

880
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 1: and I met, you know, it didn't even make sense

881
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 1: Now we live like twenty minutes away. I mean, you're

882
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 1: freaking in the delivery room. But it started in Indie

883
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:12,400
Speaker 1: from me flying in from Kansas City, you from Nashville,

884
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 1: like all because of music, I know, So tell me

885
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,680
Speaker 1: about your podcast and Kristen we Bruss, and tell me

886
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 1: what is the central theme of it, because you share

887
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 1: a lot of, like you said, the real real, like

888
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:27,240
Speaker 1: how you like to be vulnerable and share your truth

889
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 1: on Instagram. You do that also on your podcast, so

890
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:32,759
Speaker 1: talk to me about it. So I've always been a writer,

891
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 1: and I really love writing, but I've realized there's some

892
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 1: comedic timing that gets lost when you can't say things

893
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 1: writing them. So essentially what started it is just realizing

894
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: that not everyone is as lucky as we are to

895
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 1: have such a good girlfriend group. And when I really started,

896
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:57,239
Speaker 1: like I have true love confessions about my people on Instagram,

897
00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:00,399
Speaker 1: so it's like social media just you know, selib each

898
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: other's victories. And I feel so lucky because I feel

899
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 1: like I've always had a sense of that and not

900
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 1: everybody does. So I designed what I call the Girlfriend's

901
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,799
Speaker 1: Girlfriend's Podcast, and it is just like nothing is off

902
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 1: the table to talk about there's a place for everyone.

903
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:20,120
Speaker 1: Everybody has a seat at our table and no one

904
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:23,200
Speaker 1: left behind is basically the idea. So we've talked like

905
00:47:23,680 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 1: I had a three part Mean Girls series where I

906
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 1: brought my friend Amy on, who's a therapist, and we

907
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 1: talked through like you know, the Regina George complex and

908
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 1: what that is and why people are that way and

909
00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:35,600
Speaker 1: recovering mean girls. It's just like we it's just been

910
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 1: really it's been really good for me, and it's been

911
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 1: especially I guess it's been healing to feel like you

912
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 1: get to a certain point in life where you're like,

913
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 1: why have I gone through so many things? Or why

914
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 1: what's you know, like you just get kind of tired,

915
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 1: and when you when I created in Kristin Webruss, it

916
00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 1: feels like there's finally a reason for all the things,

917
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:04,239
Speaker 1: for all the heartache, for all the loss, for you know,

918
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:06,319
Speaker 1: for the way I grew up, just to be able

919
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:08,799
Speaker 1: to share and grab somebody's hand and be like we've

920
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 1: got this, We're in it together. We is a powerful word,

921
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:15,880
Speaker 1: and I think when I made it, I just had like,

922
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:19,279
Speaker 1: it's interesting that it's in Kristin Weebrush because it's just

923
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 1: kind of like whatever, it's just a plan on words

924
00:48:20,960 --> 00:48:23,239
Speaker 1: because you know, I'm corny like that, but like it

925
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 1: matters to me because it just means no one feels alone.

926
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:29,359
Speaker 1: So that's the whole goal. We talk about it all.

927
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:32,840
Speaker 1: This month is like or October will be. It's just

928
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 1: centered all around, like infant loss, miscarriage, you know, infertility

929
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:43,280
Speaker 1: really anchoring there because of how many people I've gotten

930
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: from losing a baby, you know, And you're really honest

931
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 1: that with that part, that chapter of your life. And

932
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:52,480
Speaker 1: I mean I also share that with you and like

933
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:57,200
Speaker 1: miscarrying and tell me how that has changed you. Oh well,

934
00:48:57,239 --> 00:49:04,800
Speaker 1: this is the instant tears. I usually always tears. It's okay,

935
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 1: I'm gonna cry to man's It's so crazy. It's like

936
00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:13,120
Speaker 1: I tell people all of the time, how it's incredible

937
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 1: how someone you never met changes your entire life. It

938
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 1: just was really, it was just hard. I mean, we

939
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:26,920
Speaker 1: we lost it twelve weeks and we you know, I

940
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:29,399
Speaker 1: just held I think my body held on a lot

941
00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 1: longer than it should have, just because my mind, the

942
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:35,840
Speaker 1: mind is such a powerful thing, and I had convinced

943
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:39,560
Speaker 1: myself that I, you know, that it just was gonna

944
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:41,720
Speaker 1: be we were just going to defy all the odds

945
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:43,760
Speaker 1: and that we were just going to prove everyone wrong.

946
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 1: And like, I just adore medical professionals so much. But

947
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:50,200
Speaker 1: sometimes I just love it when God just comes in

948
00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:53,720
Speaker 1: in trumps and just shows people, you know. But again

949
00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 1: not my plan, and so we it's it's just changed

950
00:50:00,239 --> 00:50:04,359
Speaker 1: everything for me. I think I got like I think

951
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:07,280
Speaker 1: I got like seventeen of the twenty one thousand followers

952
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 1: or something from sharing. I lost a baby. It sucked

953
00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 1: and I'm still not okay with it. And it was

954
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 1: like they came out of the woodwork, like no one

955
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:21,879
Speaker 1: talks about this, and you know, I feel alone or

956
00:50:21,920 --> 00:50:24,120
Speaker 1: I you know, I think I hate my husband or

957
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:26,560
Speaker 1: I think I hate my mother in law because they

958
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:29,839
Speaker 1: weren't there for me. It's just like it's crazy, this

959
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 1: one little person who I've never met has just changed everything,

960
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: my whole direction. And it's not lost to me either.

961
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:44,359
Speaker 1: Love is a Capricorn, legend is a Leo. And then

962
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 1: our little middle one, baby Lyon, as we referred to

963
00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: our middle one. We didn't find out if it was

964
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:53,319
Speaker 1: bore a girl was due to be a Leo but

965
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 1: went to heaven a Capricorn. So it's like I have

966
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 1: these three little souls that I've mothered in some way

967
00:50:58,600 --> 00:51:02,440
Speaker 1: or another, and they all are just kind of like

968
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 1: it's this sweet little package of Leo lionheartedness and Capricorn tinacity.

969
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:20,000
Speaker 1: You know, parenthood is hard and Yeah, it's just I

970
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 1: never understood. I never understood like the pain of miscarrying

971
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:28,239
Speaker 1: until I actually like went through it. Also because I

972
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 1: was just thought, well, I don't know why, I just

973
00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I just hadn't thought about it. I guess

974
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 1: you didn't think it was so emotional as it is.

975
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 1: I would have never known. I mean, I remember Jama

976
00:51:40,280 --> 00:51:43,760
Speaker 1: when I found out, they were like the first visit,

977
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:47,879
Speaker 1: they were like you could just tell, you know, they

978
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 1: questioned the conception date, and I'm pretty a type, so

979
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 1: I knew everything and you could just tell like the doubt.

980
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 1: And then my doctor like gently kind of preparing me

981
00:52:01,840 --> 00:52:04,359
Speaker 1: for like the idea of a miscarriage in the first visit,

982
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 1: which I was like, it was like weird to me

983
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 1: that she I don't I remember just feeling like why

984
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:11,759
Speaker 1: is she even saying this? Like this is off? It

985
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:14,600
Speaker 1: didn't feel sturdy. Yeah, I was like, why why would

986
00:52:14,600 --> 00:52:16,480
Speaker 1: you even mention that? Like we're busy, we're gonna this

987
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:20,000
Speaker 1: baby's gonna be fine, you know. And then you just

988
00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:25,960
Speaker 1: like the second visit, there's there's no heartbeat and you're

989
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 1: and so that's just it, you know. And I remember

990
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:32,440
Speaker 1: like getting in the car, it was almost like a blackout,

991
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:35,200
Speaker 1: Like I just wanted to be alone, Like I just

992
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 1: kept remembering wanting to get to my car. I just

993
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 1: wanted to be alone and just cry. And I just

994
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:46,279
Speaker 1: like we had brought love in with us because we

995
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:48,799
Speaker 1: were like this is when you see a heartbeat, you know,

996
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:51,239
Speaker 1: Like I just all of it was too much and

997
00:52:51,280 --> 00:52:53,839
Speaker 1: it was like I just wanted to get to my car.

998
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 1: I wanted to be alone, and I just wanted to cry.

999
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 1: And I ended up calling Janna. It was a friend

1000
00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:02,359
Speaker 1: of ours, Janne Kramer, and I said she has also

1001
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 1: been open about suffering miscarriages and loss. Yeah. I just

1002
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:09,360
Speaker 1: was like I don't know what to do. I remember

1003
00:53:09,360 --> 00:53:11,440
Speaker 1: one of the visits was the visit where we decide

1004
00:53:11,480 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 1: then how I will lose the baby, which was like,

1005
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:18,399
Speaker 1: oh I wish. Oh, I mean, just do I wait

1006
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 1: to have it for it to happen naturally, which is

1007
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:23,000
Speaker 1: essentially your body's just a time bomb. It can happen

1008
00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:26,240
Speaker 1: at any time, and you can't care for your kids.

1009
00:53:27,120 --> 00:53:31,279
Speaker 1: And I had one toddler, or I could schedule a

1010
00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:36,400
Speaker 1: DNC and just do it that way. And I just

1011
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 1: called her and I was just bawling and I was like,

1012
00:53:38,920 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 1: how do I pick how to lose my baby? And

1013
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:46,319
Speaker 1: she was like, you know, I mean she just was

1014
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 1: such a good friend. But like I think about that

1015
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:53,600
Speaker 1: even like God, I would do anything to meet that person.

1016
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:58,080
Speaker 1: Like the strength of friendship and love that I have

1017
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 1: because I didn't get to meet that person is insane.

1018
00:54:01,960 --> 00:54:04,640
Speaker 1: Like Jama and I had always been friends, but it

1019
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:07,600
Speaker 1: was like in that moment where it just went like

1020
00:54:08,080 --> 00:54:14,320
Speaker 1: deep and yeah, you know, you just it's crazy. I

1021
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:17,920
Speaker 1: always just try to think, like your baby, my baby,

1022
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:21,959
Speaker 1: A millions of other babies that didn't get to live

1023
00:54:22,040 --> 00:54:24,920
Speaker 1: here like are all together and for some reason that

1024
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 1: just makes me feel so good. And when I met

1025
00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 1: Legend being a rainbow baby, there was a lot of

1026
00:54:31,120 --> 00:54:35,839
Speaker 1: anxiety around that, around carrying him, and because we are

1027
00:54:35,880 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 1: in the public eye, we had to do ACMs, and

1028
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:40,880
Speaker 1: so I had to announce because it didn't look like

1029
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:43,080
Speaker 1: a party girl body anymore. It looked like a baby,

1030
00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:46,480
Speaker 1: and we were about to walk the carpet, so we

1031
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 1: had to announce. And that's just the amount of anxiety

1032
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 1: that came with that, because you just don't feel like

1033
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 1: you ever get to keep a baby after you lose,

1034
00:54:55,040 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 1: you know, And so I don't. I was able to

1035
00:54:58,320 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 1: go through it without the public the first time, you know,

1036
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:09,960
Speaker 1: no one really knew. So it's it's intense because now

1037
00:55:11,040 --> 00:55:16,040
Speaker 1: having legend, I remember when I was delivering him. I

1038
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:18,800
Speaker 1: couldn't wait to just see his eyes. I kept saying

1039
00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:20,839
Speaker 1: to Preston, I just need to see this baby's eyes.

1040
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:22,040
Speaker 1: And we didn't know if he was a boy or

1041
00:55:22,040 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 1: a girl, but I remember knowing that I was going

1042
00:55:26,280 --> 00:55:29,080
Speaker 1: to see eyes that knew what baby lying looked like

1043
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 1: and knew what Jesus looked like, and I it was

1044
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 1: going to be the only person that I would get

1045
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:36,440
Speaker 1: to see on this side that already had seen that side.

1046
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 1: And I was like waiting for his eyes, like my

1047
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 1: little ring of baby. And the minute he came out,

1048
00:55:44,120 --> 00:55:48,360
Speaker 1: they laid him on me and like it was surreal,

1049
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:51,520
Speaker 1: Like I'm probably too emotional for this today, but it wasn't.

1050
00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:55,880
Speaker 1: It was intense. I feel like he delivered his message,

1051
00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:59,000
Speaker 1: then he closed his eyes, then he cried, and then

1052
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:04,920
Speaker 1: he started life like oh no, special, Parenthood is a

1053
00:56:05,040 --> 00:56:09,359
Speaker 1: shit show, an amazing and just so many things, but

1054
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:15,279
Speaker 1: it is you. Forever. I relate to you so much

1055
00:56:15,280 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 1: with feeling like you'll never get to like actually carry

1056
00:56:17,600 --> 00:56:20,080
Speaker 1: a baby once you've lost Like that's I had so

1057
00:56:20,160 --> 00:56:24,560
Speaker 1: much anxiety with Sunny. It's really so much anxiety. Like

1058
00:56:24,640 --> 00:56:28,319
Speaker 1: I stopped exercising. I barely like I barely moved like

1059
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 1: I could. I just was so afraid. I mean I

1060
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:33,000
Speaker 1: wouldn't walking and stuff. I didn't barely move, but like

1061
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:35,719
Speaker 1: I just I was so afraid, like if a dog

1062
00:56:35,800 --> 00:56:38,680
Speaker 1: jumped on me that like it was gonna like kill her,

1063
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:41,279
Speaker 1: or you know, if I laid wrong, or if she

1064
00:56:41,480 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 1: couldn't feel her. Just the whole time, I was just

1065
00:56:43,719 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 1: like plagued by anxiety. You're like, oh my gosh, I'm yeah,

1066
00:56:49,719 --> 00:56:51,560
Speaker 1: if you'd be telling me even if you've hated it,

1067
00:56:51,600 --> 00:56:54,359
Speaker 1: like they hate it long enough, Like I know it's

1068
00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:59,759
Speaker 1: it's intense, but it's interesting because it's like it never ends.

1069
00:57:00,040 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, the worry. I have always been a

1070
00:57:03,000 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 1: warrior by nature. But just like it's I think to

1071
00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 1: me again, like to circle it back is like you

1072
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:15,239
Speaker 1: have to have faith in something bigger than you. You

1073
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:19,640
Speaker 1: have to feel like life, the universe, air, energy, loved

1074
00:57:19,640 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 1: ones are all moving on your behalf. Like you have

1075
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:25,680
Speaker 1: to get into some safe place of like real knowing

1076
00:57:25,800 --> 00:57:31,680
Speaker 1: and feeling in your soul because it is there's so

1077
00:57:31,720 --> 00:57:34,520
Speaker 1: many variables, especially once you become a parent, that are

1078
00:57:34,520 --> 00:57:37,800
Speaker 1: just so not in your control that it's like you

1079
00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 1: have to have a grounding place I am loved and protected.

1080
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 1: You have to have whatever that is for you to

1081
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 1: go back to and just remind yourself. It's also weird

1082
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 1: because you feel like, all of a sudden you have

1083
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:53,440
Speaker 1: to be like really good at it right, and like, honestly,

1084
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:56,400
Speaker 1: the first six months to now, I feel like I

1085
00:57:56,440 --> 00:57:58,000
Speaker 1: have the hang of it with Sunny because now we're

1086
00:57:58,040 --> 00:58:00,400
Speaker 1: like we're you know, she's a little humanist, but like

1087
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:02,560
Speaker 1: not the hang of it, like I understand it now.

1088
00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:06,360
Speaker 1: The first six months I felt like I needed Emmanuel.

1089
00:58:06,400 --> 00:58:08,320
Speaker 1: I needed so much help. I needed someone to tell

1090
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:10,560
Speaker 1: me how to do everything from eating to sleeping to

1091
00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 1: how do your breastfeed? Like when do they need a nap?

1092
00:58:13,480 --> 00:58:16,600
Speaker 1: Like what in the world am I good? What I do?

1093
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:19,360
Speaker 1: Like I don't feel like anyone knows how to do it. Now.

1094
00:58:19,400 --> 00:58:24,080
Speaker 1: I call it the foreign exchange student space where you

1095
00:58:24,360 --> 00:58:26,320
Speaker 1: kind of all feel like you might speak this, like

1096
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:28,240
Speaker 1: you could kind of gain the language, but you're not

1097
00:58:28,280 --> 00:58:31,760
Speaker 1: really sure and no one's really communicating, it's just really overwhelming,

1098
00:58:31,920 --> 00:58:35,960
Speaker 1: and it's not any less overwhelming the second time. It's

1099
00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:41,680
Speaker 1: because you just worry in different ways. But the one

1100
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 1: piece of parentine advice I give every single person, and

1101
00:58:44,440 --> 00:58:47,000
Speaker 1: you know, no one likes tarentine advice is literally that

1102
00:58:47,680 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 1: you were given this person because you, as you are,

1103
00:58:50,640 --> 00:58:53,720
Speaker 1: your gut instinct, your intuition, everything is more than enough

1104
00:58:53,760 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 1: for the human you've been gifted. So all you have

1105
00:58:56,240 --> 00:58:59,200
Speaker 1: to do is trust your gut. Like if something feels off,

1106
00:59:00,080 --> 00:59:03,840
Speaker 1: it feels off. And this has been my parenting advice,

1107
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:06,919
Speaker 1: the only thing I will say to someone for five

1108
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:10,520
Speaker 1: years now, because I really feel like instinctually you know

1109
00:59:10,600 --> 00:59:13,720
Speaker 1: and you're connected and if it feels wrong, it is

1110
00:59:13,800 --> 00:59:16,960
Speaker 1: wrong and it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.

1111
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:19,760
Speaker 1: But we pulled Love out of a school. We tried

1112
00:59:19,760 --> 00:59:22,680
Speaker 1: her in a preschool. There was an incident. I just

1113
00:59:22,720 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 1: did not no matter what they did to like rectify

1114
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 1: the situation and not feel good, and she was out.

1115
00:59:27,120 --> 00:59:30,040
Speaker 1: And it's like you don't have to explain it or

1116
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:33,120
Speaker 1: apologize for your gut instinct. It's one of the most

1117
00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:37,600
Speaker 1: empowering things. You know, Like you like to think you're

1118
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 1: nailing it, but like really in life, and that's why

1119
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:43,000
Speaker 1: you're like able to become a parent or you know,

1120
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:46,200
Speaker 1: can take on the responsibility. But like I've learned more

1121
00:59:46,240 --> 00:59:50,520
Speaker 1: about myself and healed more parts of myself being a

1122
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:52,880
Speaker 1: parent than I ever knew could even be possible. Like

1123
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 1: the empowerment and the feeling like you speak on behalf

1124
00:59:57,160 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 1: and are responsible for people is so it's such a

1125
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:03,960
Speaker 1: powerful thing, Like I don't care what anyone thinks. If

1126
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:05,760
Speaker 1: it's not good for my babies, we are not doing it.

1127
01:00:05,880 --> 01:00:09,640
Speaker 1: Next Like it's I've never been that assertive in something

1128
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:11,880
Speaker 1: or that, And it's because I actually was talking to

1129
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:16,320
Speaker 1: my sister about this the other day. It is like

1130
01:00:16,680 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 1: she's of us. It is like you you have to

1131
01:00:20,440 --> 01:00:23,920
Speaker 1: find it in yourself to be assertive and to step up,

1132
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:27,520
Speaker 1: because if you actually don't step up when you have

1133
01:00:27,560 --> 01:00:30,320
Speaker 1: a gut instinct that says no, that could be a

1134
01:00:30,320 --> 01:00:33,960
Speaker 1: moment that impacts your child negatively for the rest of

1135
01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:36,360
Speaker 1: their life. And if you knew it in your gut.

1136
01:00:36,520 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying things aren't gonna happen, that we

1137
01:00:38,720 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 1: can't control it all, like stuff is out of our control.

1138
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:43,200
Speaker 1: But if you have a gut instinct that says no,

1139
01:00:43,920 --> 01:00:47,280
Speaker 1: and you ignore it and something happens. You knew it,

1140
01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:49,480
Speaker 1: you knew it that it was a no, and you

1141
01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 1: ignored it because whatever factors involved in the world that

1142
01:00:53,120 --> 01:00:56,560
Speaker 1: you're letting override your gut instinct, like you have to

1143
01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:59,400
Speaker 1: step up for your kids, you have to. And I

1144
01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:01,160
Speaker 1: feel that same way because I am not that kind

1145
01:01:01,200 --> 01:01:03,000
Speaker 1: of person. I might go with the flow. I kind

1146
01:01:03,040 --> 01:01:04,880
Speaker 1: of want everyone else to like make the decisions, like

1147
01:01:04,920 --> 01:01:06,800
Speaker 1: I want to people please all day long, but it's

1148
01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 1: like no, I have to say no if I feel

1149
01:01:10,520 --> 01:01:12,200
Speaker 1: it in my gut for Sonny, even if it makes

1150
01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 1: me so uncomfortable, you have to do it. It's crazy, though,

1151
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:21,040
Speaker 1: like how it's all so well designed, like universally, you know,

1152
01:01:21,120 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 1: like just people like you and I wouldn't normally say

1153
01:01:26,280 --> 01:01:28,520
Speaker 1: we would just go okay and like kind of go

1154
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:32,000
Speaker 1: with it, or you know, if it's like like big injustices.

1155
01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:36,080
Speaker 1: We obviously never have. We've been pretty about no. There's

1156
01:01:36,080 --> 01:01:38,479
Speaker 1: been a couple and we're both like, actually I don't

1157
01:01:38,520 --> 01:01:40,880
Speaker 1: like that and you're like yeah, you or you know,

1158
01:01:40,960 --> 01:01:42,920
Speaker 1: like we kind of like I feel like we're good

1159
01:01:42,960 --> 01:01:49,040
Speaker 1: about that stuff. But it's a really beautiful, divinely invented

1160
01:01:49,120 --> 01:01:53,040
Speaker 1: process that you actually become more whole of yourself when

1161
01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:58,959
Speaker 1: you're responsible for someone else. Yeah, it's like, gosh, characteristics

1162
01:01:58,960 --> 01:02:02,000
Speaker 1: I wish I would have had ten years ago. I

1163
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:06,800
Speaker 1: love you know and like and and now to say like, actually,

1164
01:02:06,800 --> 01:02:08,120
Speaker 1: we're not going to do that, or we're not going

1165
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:10,240
Speaker 1: to be involved in this friendship anymore. We're going to

1166
01:02:10,280 --> 01:02:12,200
Speaker 1: put some boundaries up because we need to do what's

1167
01:02:12,200 --> 01:02:14,840
Speaker 1: best for our family is one of the most powerful

1168
01:02:15,400 --> 01:02:19,200
Speaker 1: enlightening things I've ever done for myself. I couldn't agree more.

1169
01:02:19,520 --> 01:02:23,200
Speaker 1: And it's made me such a such a stronger version

1170
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:26,360
Speaker 1: of myself, that's for sure, Like because where I used

1171
01:02:26,400 --> 01:02:28,960
Speaker 1: to doubt myself and I still do doubt myself, but

1172
01:02:29,120 --> 01:02:31,320
Speaker 1: it's really had It's made me have to shape up

1173
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:34,720
Speaker 1: because I gotta I gotta know who, what I stand for,

1174
01:02:34,800 --> 01:02:37,280
Speaker 1: what I stand for, a sunny who, what I'm going

1175
01:02:37,320 --> 01:02:39,480
Speaker 1: for in this life. Like I can't be wishy washy

1176
01:02:39,560 --> 01:02:42,840
Speaker 1: because it really matters. And these little children are looking

1177
01:02:42,840 --> 01:02:45,240
Speaker 1: to us as their guides, as you said, And it's

1178
01:02:45,280 --> 01:02:50,400
Speaker 1: like it's my responsibility to have a sense of knowing

1179
01:02:50,600 --> 01:02:53,280
Speaker 1: and if I know something in my gut. I have

1180
01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 1: to just act out on that, and it's it's made

1181
01:02:56,040 --> 01:02:57,480
Speaker 1: me have to step up for sure, and so I

1182
01:02:57,560 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 1: agree with you. So I want to talk to you. Okay, yeah,

1183
01:03:01,440 --> 01:03:02,680
Speaker 1: wrap it up, wrap that up, and I want to

1184
01:03:02,680 --> 01:03:04,120
Speaker 1: talk to you all day long, but I'm gonna have

1185
01:03:04,120 --> 01:03:06,160
Speaker 1: to wrap up a podcast sadly, even though we could

1186
01:03:06,200 --> 01:03:09,400
Speaker 1: literally talk all day. I was just gonna say that

1187
01:03:09,480 --> 01:03:13,360
Speaker 1: part of that podcast for me was leaving something for

1188
01:03:13,520 --> 01:03:16,680
Speaker 1: love because I feel like my kids can listen to

1189
01:03:16,720 --> 01:03:19,360
Speaker 1: their dad saying and do his talent for the rest

1190
01:03:19,400 --> 01:03:24,640
Speaker 1: of their lives somehow, some way, and they when you said,

1191
01:03:24,720 --> 01:03:27,120
Speaker 1: like I have to kind of like know where I'm

1192
01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 1: going or what I'm doing. I felt that so strongly,

1193
01:03:32,080 --> 01:03:34,040
Speaker 1: especially when you just said it, because it's been like,

1194
01:03:34,360 --> 01:03:36,240
Speaker 1: you know, as a mom, you really always struggle with

1195
01:03:36,320 --> 01:03:39,600
Speaker 1: like should I take time away from them to do something,

1196
01:03:39,720 --> 01:03:41,680
Speaker 1: or you know, like am I being selfish? Like mom

1197
01:03:41,720 --> 01:03:43,720
Speaker 1: Gil It's just such a real thing, and it's like

1198
01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:47,480
Speaker 1: I just got to a point where I'm like, I

1199
01:03:47,520 --> 01:03:50,200
Speaker 1: want her to see me doing what I love because

1200
01:03:50,240 --> 01:03:53,360
Speaker 1: I think there's nothing greater and more powerful in the

1201
01:03:53,520 --> 01:03:57,080
Speaker 1: entire world than a woman doing what she knows she

1202
01:03:57,240 --> 01:04:00,240
Speaker 1: was made to do preach it, And I feel that

1203
01:04:00,480 --> 01:04:04,120
Speaker 1: same way. You and I are both raising little girls.

1204
01:04:04,240 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 1: And I know you feel this way for love because

1205
01:04:06,840 --> 01:04:08,400
Speaker 1: you just said this, But I feel the same way

1206
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:11,760
Speaker 1: for Sonny. Like she I can already tell Sonny has

1207
01:04:11,800 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 1: big ideas, She's got massive dreams. She is like curious

1208
01:04:15,240 --> 01:04:19,120
Speaker 1: and determined and like wanting to do stuff. Like what

1209
01:04:19,200 --> 01:04:20,840
Speaker 1: am I going to tell her? You grow up and

1210
01:04:21,280 --> 01:04:24,480
Speaker 1: you throw all those dreams away? No, you keep your

1211
01:04:24,520 --> 01:04:27,240
Speaker 1: dreams going and you can figure it all out. You

1212
01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:29,919
Speaker 1: can figure out how to do all that's in your heart,

1213
01:04:30,000 --> 01:04:33,080
Speaker 1: Like you don't have to sacrifice, and you can find

1214
01:04:33,120 --> 01:04:36,240
Speaker 1: the way to have your dreams come true also, and

1215
01:04:37,080 --> 01:04:39,360
Speaker 1: you have to And I think you being that example

1216
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:41,760
Speaker 1: is so important, and I feel like I feel the

1217
01:04:41,800 --> 01:04:43,880
Speaker 1: same way, Like I want Sonny to see that, like

1218
01:04:44,400 --> 01:04:46,600
Speaker 1: I am her mom and I love her more than anything,

1219
01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:48,760
Speaker 1: and she is my number one over everything. But I

1220
01:04:48,840 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 1: still I still have my dreams and I'm still I'm

1221
01:04:52,560 --> 01:04:56,160
Speaker 1: still pursuing what's what I feel my talents are and

1222
01:04:56,240 --> 01:04:59,000
Speaker 1: what my purpose is and I'm finding the way to

1223
01:04:59,120 --> 01:05:01,720
Speaker 1: do it. We're it works for my life. And I

1224
01:05:01,800 --> 01:05:05,600
Speaker 1: love that you said that I couldn't agree with you more.

1225
01:05:05,600 --> 01:05:10,600
Speaker 1: We make generation by generation the knowing and the trusting

1226
01:05:10,880 --> 01:05:14,480
Speaker 1: of ourselves in our daughters, in our sons. I mean,

1227
01:05:14,520 --> 01:05:17,040
Speaker 1: the world needs a lot more good men, that's for

1228
01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:20,120
Speaker 1: sure too. So I don't take that responsibility lately at all,

1229
01:05:20,560 --> 01:05:24,800
Speaker 1: but especially when it comes to love, because I can

1230
01:05:24,920 --> 01:05:26,720
Speaker 1: relate to her. It's probably why I feel like it's

1231
01:05:26,760 --> 01:05:30,200
Speaker 1: such an important thing. It's like if sunnies, if the

1232
01:05:30,400 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 1: sunnies and the loves and the birdies and the you

1233
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:38,960
Speaker 1: know of the world can all learn a better trusting

1234
01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:42,440
Speaker 1: of themselves than generationally. We are pushing this race in

1235
01:05:42,520 --> 01:05:46,040
Speaker 1: a way better the human race, I mean, in a

1236
01:05:46,080 --> 01:05:50,400
Speaker 1: way better direction, and creating a way more compassionate world.

1237
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:55,000
Speaker 1: And we're showing that women are so capable because like

1238
01:05:55,040 --> 01:05:58,760
Speaker 1: our generation, like even our mother's generation, they were beginning

1239
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 1: to like have their pursuits and their dreams and like,

1240
01:06:02,720 --> 01:06:05,040
Speaker 1: but it was still a fight to get there. Like

1241
01:06:05,080 --> 01:06:08,320
Speaker 1: our generation. Yes, women can have their dreams and we

1242
01:06:08,360 --> 01:06:11,240
Speaker 1: are absolutely given all sorts of opportunities, but it's still

1243
01:06:11,600 --> 01:06:14,720
Speaker 1: such a struggle. Like I feel we are trying to

1244
01:06:15,280 --> 01:06:18,080
Speaker 1: pave the way for like our kids, that it's not

1245
01:06:18,120 --> 01:06:21,400
Speaker 1: going to be like this huge Oh my god, I

1246
01:06:22,360 --> 01:06:24,720
Speaker 1: have to like be a mom or have a job,

1247
01:06:24,840 --> 01:06:26,720
Speaker 1: or I don't know how to mesh them both together.

1248
01:06:26,800 --> 01:06:29,520
Speaker 1: Like women and our generation are even paving the way.

1249
01:06:29,560 --> 01:06:32,680
Speaker 1: Like April Tom and I just interviewed her. She's created.

1250
01:06:33,400 --> 01:06:36,400
Speaker 1: She's an all women She's an interior designer who's amazing.

1251
01:06:36,440 --> 01:06:39,560
Speaker 1: She's an all woman workforce who works for her. All

1252
01:06:39,600 --> 01:06:42,000
Speaker 1: of them, a lot of them are moms. She gives

1253
01:06:42,000 --> 01:06:44,880
Speaker 1: them like personal hours so that they can She can

1254
01:06:45,120 --> 01:06:46,880
Speaker 1: you can be a mom and yet if you need

1255
01:06:46,880 --> 01:06:48,200
Speaker 1: to go to your child's game, or if you need

1256
01:06:48,280 --> 01:06:50,040
Speaker 1: to go get a hair appointment, to have self care

1257
01:06:50,120 --> 01:06:52,320
Speaker 1: or whatever, you don't have to explain it or feel

1258
01:06:52,320 --> 01:06:55,080
Speaker 1: guilty or feel like you have to sacrifice being a

1259
01:06:55,080 --> 01:06:57,400
Speaker 1: mom to be a great worker. Like you can do

1260
01:06:57,440 --> 01:06:59,120
Speaker 1: it both. And I feel like that's what we're trying

1261
01:06:59,160 --> 01:07:02,720
Speaker 1: to do, at least in my mind, this wave of women.

1262
01:07:02,760 --> 01:07:05,000
Speaker 1: It's like we all have these towns with all these gifts.

1263
01:07:05,040 --> 01:07:08,320
Speaker 1: We want to work, we want to pursue them, but yeah,

1264
01:07:08,320 --> 01:07:09,680
Speaker 1: we also want to be a great mom. So like,

1265
01:07:09,800 --> 01:07:11,680
Speaker 1: why do we have to pick either or why can't

1266
01:07:11,680 --> 01:07:13,160
Speaker 1: we work them all together? Why do you have to

1267
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:15,680
Speaker 1: have a nine to five work hour schedule. Why can't

1268
01:07:15,680 --> 01:07:18,480
Speaker 1: it be a fluid work schedule where when the kids

1269
01:07:18,480 --> 01:07:19,960
Speaker 1: go to bed, you just to work at night. Like,

1270
01:07:20,000 --> 01:07:22,800
Speaker 1: why does it have to be this set old schedule.

1271
01:07:22,880 --> 01:07:25,400
Speaker 1: We can come up with something new where you can

1272
01:07:25,520 --> 01:07:27,000
Speaker 1: do it all. You don't have to feel like you're

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Speaker 1: sacrificing or guilty. I mean, of course that's always going

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01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:31,720
Speaker 1: to come and play when you have a lot on

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01:07:31,760 --> 01:07:34,800
Speaker 1: your plate. But it just doesn't have to be the

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Speaker 1: way it was, you know. We can come up with

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Speaker 1: new ways and be more effective, Yeah, and just live

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01:07:40,480 --> 01:07:42,960
Speaker 1: a more purposeful life. Like I tell Preston all the time.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, if Adam was enough, like God wouldn't have

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Speaker 1: dropped even there. And by the way, if it wasn't

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Speaker 1: for Eve, Adam would just be naked and hungry in

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Speaker 1: the garden. Like it's a mess, Like you know, like

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01:07:54,600 --> 01:07:57,400
Speaker 1: we need each other and I don't. It's it's very

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Speaker 1: much in our household, Like it's not man hater or nation.

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Speaker 1: And you know, I do take the responsibility of growing

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Speaker 1: a man for this world so intense because it's it's

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Speaker 1: a huge responsibility. To legend. I don't like his wife

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Speaker 1: already and he's only two, so that's going to be

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Speaker 1: hard for me, but I do feel like I can

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Speaker 1: shape him and understand like feelings are okay, And it's

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01:08:21,320 --> 01:08:25,360
Speaker 1: we have such a responsibility to raise these babies in

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01:08:25,400 --> 01:08:27,880
Speaker 1: a way that they can just see a more whole

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01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:34,200
Speaker 1: view with less crazy lenses. And I mean we, I

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01:08:34,240 --> 01:08:35,920
Speaker 1: mean I believe children are a future. I mean, do

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01:08:35,920 --> 01:08:37,519
Speaker 1: you want to put that song in here, But it's

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Speaker 1: really a It doesn't have to be that we gave

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Speaker 1: up all of ourselves to push a generation forward. We

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Speaker 1: learning to be whole ourselves, I think helps show them.

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Speaker 1: I grew up with a lot of do as I say,

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01:08:53,479 --> 01:08:57,280
Speaker 1: not as I do, and so in my house, in

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Speaker 1: our house, my slogan is just like to keep operating

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01:09:00,920 --> 01:09:02,960
Speaker 1: in a way where like actions and words are always

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01:09:03,000 --> 01:09:05,120
Speaker 1: matching so that it can just build a real strong

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01:09:05,160 --> 01:09:08,920
Speaker 1: foundation and you don't have to wonder what you're to

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01:09:09,000 --> 01:09:11,840
Speaker 1: do next, Like you know it because you've seen it

1306
01:09:11,880 --> 01:09:13,920
Speaker 1: and it's what your example has been and it's how

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01:09:13,960 --> 01:09:18,080
Speaker 1: you've been raised. If you feel sad, you cry, and

1308
01:09:18,120 --> 01:09:20,080
Speaker 1: that's okay, and we'll just make space for you to cry.

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Speaker 1: If you feel angry, you're not going to hit your sister,

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Speaker 1: but we're figuring out ways where we're like trying to

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Speaker 1: move him, you know, Like I think talk it through,

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01:09:28,840 --> 01:09:30,960
Speaker 1: like let's get to the core root of why you're angry,

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01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:34,360
Speaker 1: and let's like express your feelings and you don't have

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Speaker 1: to do it through violence, but instead not that like

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Speaker 1: kid hitting. I mean, they're not trying to be violent,

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Speaker 1: they just don't know how to express themselves. But it's

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01:09:40,800 --> 01:09:43,800
Speaker 1: like you can express your feelings, like let's actually talk

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Speaker 1: about it, not just like ground you you know, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I do. I mean, I just think I need

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Speaker 1: that for myself, Like I need to say I feel

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Speaker 1: sad and it's okay to cry. I mean there's times

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Speaker 1: where I don't even allow myself to feel something because

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Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, come on, Kristin, be a little tougher,

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Speaker 1: you know whatever. It's just like if everyone just be

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01:10:00,120 --> 01:10:02,800
Speaker 1: a little more gentle with everyone, I think we would

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Speaker 1: be in a way better position. But women are magical, empowering,

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Speaker 1: great creatures that are absolutely essential for existence and all

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Speaker 1: the ways logistically, But there's something that we have that's

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Speaker 1: a superpower and I just never want us to lose it.

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Speaker 1: So that's why I try to raise good babies. That's

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Speaker 1: why I'm trying to raise good podcast content. That's why

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01:10:24,600 --> 01:10:26,760
Speaker 1: I'm obsessed with you. Like it all comes down to

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01:10:26,920 --> 01:10:29,479
Speaker 1: kind of that for me. Well, I also just was

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Speaker 1: on my friend it's her handle is so Stara Ane,

1335
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Speaker 1: and she just launched a podcast called Amen Sister Fred.

1336
01:10:37,040 --> 01:10:39,080
Speaker 1: And she said like she's been wanting to launch this

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Speaker 1: podcast for a long time, but then she like, you know,

1338
01:10:41,439 --> 01:10:43,400
Speaker 1: like the imposter syndrome crept in, and it's like, who

1339
01:10:43,439 --> 01:10:45,040
Speaker 1: am I to do this? Like why should I do this?

1340
01:10:45,120 --> 01:10:47,680
Speaker 1: Like because she's all inspiring and trying to give you

1341
01:10:47,720 --> 01:10:50,519
Speaker 1: like inspo for your week, and everyone should check that

1342
01:10:50,520 --> 01:10:52,599
Speaker 1: podcast out to you by Am and Sister Fred. It's

1343
01:10:52,640 --> 01:10:55,519
Speaker 1: so good. But it's like I told her and the

1344
01:10:55,520 --> 01:10:56,800
Speaker 1: same thing I'm telling you, and the same thing I

1345
01:10:56,880 --> 01:10:58,800
Speaker 1: tell myself, and the same thing I'm telling all my friends,

1346
01:10:58,800 --> 01:11:01,000
Speaker 1: like our friend Laney Crowd are launch something life in

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01:11:01,040 --> 01:11:02,960
Speaker 1: the weak field, which you're you and her have the

1348
01:11:03,000 --> 01:11:06,120
Speaker 1: same vision, which kind of helped her grow into this

1349
01:11:06,120 --> 01:11:08,800
Speaker 1: this amazing Bible study she's doing virtually, so y'all should

1350
01:11:08,800 --> 01:11:12,240
Speaker 1: follow that too. But I'm like anyone who is putting

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01:11:12,960 --> 01:11:16,280
Speaker 1: goodness out there who is spreading light, who is trying

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01:11:16,320 --> 01:11:20,200
Speaker 1: to help others feel not alone, especially in the social

1353
01:11:20,200 --> 01:11:24,640
Speaker 1: media platform that is overruled by comparison, feeling like we

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01:11:24,720 --> 01:11:27,200
Speaker 1: don't look good enough, like our lives aren't good enough,

1355
01:11:27,280 --> 01:11:31,720
Speaker 1: like everything isn't comparing. If you are creating a space

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01:11:32,200 --> 01:11:35,920
Speaker 1: to spread light and love and the feeling of we

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01:11:36,000 --> 01:11:39,599
Speaker 1: are all in this together, then shine on, like we

1358
01:11:39,720 --> 01:11:42,719
Speaker 1: have got to support each other to do that because

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01:11:42,760 --> 01:11:46,040
Speaker 1: it is needed, and we need more light workers to

1360
01:11:46,160 --> 01:11:49,679
Speaker 1: be flooding these platforms so people don't just get lost

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Speaker 1: in this abyss of like depression because they can never

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Speaker 1: match up and they can never compare. It's like we

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01:11:55,600 --> 01:11:58,720
Speaker 1: got to just like shine that light bright to try

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01:11:58,760 --> 01:12:03,280
Speaker 1: to keep the are light. You know, it's important make

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01:12:03,320 --> 01:12:05,880
Speaker 1: your own rules, don't be afraid to pave a way,

1366
01:12:06,080 --> 01:12:09,639
Speaker 1: don't be afraid to follow your gut and trust yourself.

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Speaker 1: Like gosh, we were given intuition as such an amazing guest,

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01:12:13,680 --> 01:12:17,000
Speaker 1: and every single person has it. Sometimes we've just gotten

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Speaker 1: lost in the noise that we've collected from the world

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Speaker 1: and we forget how to listen to it. But that

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Speaker 1: intuition is a direct connect. So I love that you're

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Speaker 1: a special breed of people. Women do, but women, I agree, Okay,

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Speaker 1: so I always wrap up and leave your light. And

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Speaker 1: obviously this has been one heck of an inspoke conversation.

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Speaker 1: So everything has been very light oriented here. But what

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Speaker 1: do you want people to know they're not alone? I

1377
01:12:46,880 --> 01:12:51,280
Speaker 1: think loneliness does things to people, and it makes walls

1378
01:12:51,360 --> 01:12:55,439
Speaker 1: get tighter, and spaces get less air and more dark

1379
01:12:55,479 --> 01:13:01,120
Speaker 1: and just whatever it is, there's just no There is

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01:13:01,160 --> 01:13:03,760
Speaker 1: just nothing that can separate you from what you were

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01:13:03,760 --> 01:13:06,920
Speaker 1: meant to have. There is nothing. So there's nothing too dark,

1382
01:13:06,960 --> 01:13:10,080
Speaker 1: there's nothing too deep, there's nothing too sad. You're just

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01:13:10,200 --> 01:13:13,840
Speaker 1: not alone. I think once you feel less alone, once

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01:13:13,840 --> 01:13:15,960
Speaker 1: you put the Wii in life, it just starts to

1385
01:13:16,000 --> 01:13:18,880
Speaker 1: feel like we weren't meant to do this alone, guys,

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01:13:18,960 --> 01:13:21,559
Speaker 1: we were not meant to do life alone. So I agree.

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Speaker 1: And once you feel all isolated and that no one

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01:13:23,680 --> 01:13:25,599
Speaker 1: gets you, and that no one understands, and that what

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01:13:25,640 --> 01:13:27,839
Speaker 1: you've done or what's happened to you is so awful

1390
01:13:27,880 --> 01:13:30,679
Speaker 1: it'll never be able to recover. But once you realize

1391
01:13:30,680 --> 01:13:33,400
Speaker 1: there's a whole army of people out there who have

1392
01:13:33,520 --> 01:13:35,880
Speaker 1: gone through the same things or who maybe haven't but

1393
01:13:35,920 --> 01:13:37,800
Speaker 1: want to hold your hand and comfort you and help

1394
01:13:37,800 --> 01:13:41,759
Speaker 1: you heal. Man, all the power of that darkness is gone.

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01:13:42,400 --> 01:13:45,840
Speaker 1: It's gone, like you just can't. It's even like you

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Speaker 1: and I, I mean, you have been there in the

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Speaker 1: thick of it with me, the thick of it, and

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Speaker 1: I just think back to the times where I'd be like,

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Speaker 1: gosh if I didn't have one person to call, you know. So,

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Speaker 1: I think until you find your people, it's important, Like

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01:14:01,160 --> 01:14:05,000
Speaker 1: I think podcast social media, this platform has so many

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01:14:05,040 --> 01:14:08,120
Speaker 1: little treasures in it where people just wanting to say, like,

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01:14:08,600 --> 01:14:12,160
Speaker 1: let's feel connected until you can get really connected. I

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01:14:12,240 --> 01:14:14,920
Speaker 1: love that exactly. Like if you feel alone, like you

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01:14:14,960 --> 01:14:16,640
Speaker 1: haven't gotten your crew, or like you are in a

1406
01:14:16,680 --> 01:14:19,720
Speaker 1: situation where you don't have interactions with people who are

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01:14:20,120 --> 01:14:22,200
Speaker 1: like minded or like going for the same things or

1408
01:14:22,240 --> 01:14:24,559
Speaker 1: wanting to like heal in the ways that you are

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01:14:25,000 --> 01:14:27,960
Speaker 1: find it online. That's where online is great. That's where

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01:14:28,000 --> 01:14:31,240
Speaker 1: plyt like, oh hey man, that's where it can be great.

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01:14:31,280 --> 01:14:33,040
Speaker 1: And I think that we should all start trying to

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01:14:33,120 --> 01:14:36,200
Speaker 1: use social media in that way and not like keep

1413
01:14:36,240 --> 01:14:38,800
Speaker 1: going down the rabbit hole feeling less than but like

1414
01:14:39,240 --> 01:14:42,639
Speaker 1: find all the follow people who make you feel not alone.

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01:14:42,760 --> 01:14:45,599
Speaker 1: Listen to podcasts who give you inspiration, Like use it

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01:14:45,640 --> 01:14:47,600
Speaker 1: in that way, use it to help yourself, use it

1417
01:14:47,640 --> 01:14:50,799
Speaker 1: to fuel yourself, don't use it to like keep making

1418
01:14:50,800 --> 01:14:54,360
Speaker 1: you feel worse about yourself. If you ever feel like

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01:14:54,360 --> 01:14:56,360
Speaker 1: you're not nailing it, I have a perfect hone for you.

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01:14:56,400 --> 01:15:00,120
Speaker 1: It's like Christus, we're just talking about how we're I'm

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01:15:00,120 --> 01:15:05,639
Speaker 1: not nailing it all the time. But my goal at

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Speaker 1: the end of every episode, I do something called bard Hope,

1423
01:15:07,520 --> 01:15:09,720
Speaker 1: and it's just like like a homework or something to

1424
01:15:09,760 --> 01:15:13,120
Speaker 1: think about until the next time. And it's mostly just

1425
01:15:13,160 --> 01:15:15,080
Speaker 1: so that we can leave with like an action item,

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01:15:15,080 --> 01:15:18,040
Speaker 1: because I just feel like my capricorn a typeness, loves

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01:15:18,040 --> 01:15:20,559
Speaker 1: a good plan, and I think when you feel like

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01:15:20,560 --> 01:15:23,479
Speaker 1: people are also moving together making a plan, you just

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01:15:23,680 --> 01:15:27,000
Speaker 1: feel like some momentum, And most of the time, loneliness

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01:15:27,000 --> 01:15:30,519
Speaker 1: just comes from a lack of momentum. I love that, man.

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01:15:30,600 --> 01:15:34,800
Speaker 1: I love this conversation. I'm so glad. I'm so glad

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01:15:34,800 --> 01:15:36,240
Speaker 1: I didn't cancel because I got in a fight with

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01:15:36,280 --> 01:15:38,200
Speaker 1: my husband. See, folks, that's what would happen if you

1434
01:15:38,280 --> 01:15:42,280
Speaker 1: let all the I was like, I'm really a good

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01:15:42,320 --> 01:15:44,439
Speaker 1: person to talk to today. Actually, you might want to

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01:15:44,439 --> 01:15:48,240
Speaker 1: reschedule me. Nope, it's perfect. This is such an amazing conversation.

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01:15:48,280 --> 01:15:50,160
Speaker 1: I love you so much and thank you so much

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01:15:50,160 --> 01:15:52,880
Speaker 1: for sharing all your heart and soul. Everybody go follow

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01:15:52,960 --> 01:15:56,160
Speaker 1: a little. Your Instagram handle is a little bit fancy,

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01:15:56,840 --> 01:16:00,639
Speaker 1: and I like, yeah, L I T T l E

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Speaker 1: B I T fancy. And then your podcast is in

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01:16:04,680 --> 01:16:07,479
Speaker 1: Kristen we brust b r U s T. That's your

1443
01:16:07,560 --> 01:16:11,800
Speaker 1: last name. So everyone check it out and stay connected

1444
01:16:11,960 --> 01:16:14,479
Speaker 1: with Kristen and all of her goodness she's sharing with

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01:16:14,520 --> 01:16:16,200
Speaker 1: the world. I love you so much, thank you for

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Speaker 1: coming on. I love you, Eggy egg Kite