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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, it's Bill Courtney and Sophia with an army

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Speaker 1: of normal folks, and we continue now a part two

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Speaker 1: of our conversations with Jamie Hurd. Sophia ring the bell?

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Speaker 1: Why are you guys so weak? Sophia? Do you want

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Speaker 1: to ring the bell again? Show you dad what you

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Speaker 1: be right back with you. But Sophia is going to

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Speaker 2: Right after these brief messages from our generous.

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Speaker 1: Sponsors, good job, Sophia. Well wow, I mean tell us

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Speaker 1: a lot. You're on the phone with your dad and

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Speaker 1: And I've read I don't want to screw the words up,

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Speaker 1: but basically that's kind of You're in your thirties and

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Speaker 1: And so life continues, what does life look like after.

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Speaker 3: We have a really close group of friends, and so

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Speaker 3: And so as we're walking through these deep valleys, then

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Speaker 3: read this book Through the Eyes of a Lion. Have

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Speaker 3: And so I had read this book and I was like, okay,

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Speaker 3: And I think the enemy would love for that to

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Speaker 3: It just it. Parenting those that next year was really hard, which.

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Speaker 3: percent of the time, it is a friend submitting for someone.

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Speaker 3: We love it when people submit for themselves. We always

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Speaker 3: encourage that. I think you know, just as people you

437
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Speaker 3: always think someone has it worse than you. Asking for help,

438
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Speaker 3: asking for prayer is just there is, there is And

439
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Speaker 3: so eighty percent of the time it's you know, you

440
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Speaker 3: getting on there and saying your neighbor has breast cancer.

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Speaker 3: So when you submit that, someone on our team, our

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Speaker 3: outreach coordinator, gets that form and she is responding to you.

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Speaker 3: She's emailing you back, and every you you the.

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Speaker 1: Person that's submitted, not you're the person you're submitted.

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Speaker 3: About, correct, okay, And so she's writing you back, finding

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Speaker 3: out a little bit more any you know, anything, if

447
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Speaker 3: you know of a specific need that they have or what.

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Speaker 3: But every prayer request that comes in receives a care

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Speaker 3: package from us. So all of those prayer requests that

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Speaker 3: come in in our office are prayed for by name.

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Speaker 3: So all of this now is done by volunteers. So

452
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Speaker 3: we have three hundred volunteers where we are constantly trying

453
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Speaker 3: to get more things that volunteers can do. So volunteers

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Speaker 3: locally can come in our office and they'll get a

455
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Speaker 3: slip of paper it might say Jamie loss of child,

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Speaker 3: Heather a cancer diagnosis, and then they are it's almost

457
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Speaker 3: like a store we have set up, and they're coming in.

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Speaker 3: They're writing a handwritten note for that person, praying for

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Speaker 3: that person by name, and curating an individualized care package.

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Speaker 3: So we have a store set up with comfort items,

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Speaker 3: with books devotions.

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Speaker 1: So you're calling the person that emailed you or reached

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Speaker 1: out to you about the person and saying tell us

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Speaker 1: about her and what she likes and what she needs,

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Speaker 1: and then you're literally pulling from a stockshelf of care

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Speaker 1: and comfort items, things specifically that you know that this

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Speaker 1: person will want.

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Speaker 3: And sometimes people submit the prayer request and Kelly writes

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Speaker 3: them back and it's they're not giving much information a

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Speaker 3: lot of those details, and we have seen it time

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Speaker 3: and time again, like the Lord is in those details.

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Speaker 3: Like I got a call the other day that was

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Speaker 3: like her, I think grandmother passed away. I wasn't even

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Speaker 3: She's like, I don't even know how you knew that

475
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Speaker 3: my grandmother liked hummingbirds and she received a hummingbird teatowel

476
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Speaker 3: from us or something in our care package. And I

477
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Speaker 3: was like, I didn't even submit your prayer request and

478
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Speaker 3: I definitely wasn't the one making the care package. And

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Speaker 3: so there's a lot of those details in timing we

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Speaker 3: hear time and time again in of the timing of

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Speaker 3: our care packages. Is just the Lord has all of

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Speaker 3: those details and we trust him with that. So when

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Speaker 3: we say do you need when we say to cater

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Speaker 3: that need back, outside of you know, someone might say

485
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Speaker 3: they like this or they like that, but more often

486
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Speaker 3: those care packages are curated from that volunteer of like

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Speaker 3: what they think that person might like. But then on

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Speaker 3: top of that, you know, if you were to say,

489
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Speaker 3: you know, they're really struggling, they lost a child, something happened,

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Speaker 3: and we might say we do we have sent couples

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Speaker 3: away for like a weekend just for like a little respite,

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Speaker 3: so we'll send a couple away for a weekend just

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Speaker 3: to kind of have some time by themselves, grieve whatever

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Speaker 3: they need to do. Counseling grants will do one thousand

495
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Speaker 3: dollars counseling grants. You fill out an application, we'll do

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Speaker 3: a thousand dollars counseling grants. We've paid widows mortgages, we've

497
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Speaker 3: paid ACU puncture, We've truly outside. Everyone gets a care package.

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Speaker 3: But on top of that, if there are bigger needs,

499
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Speaker 3: now with our size, we're able to have bigger needs met.

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Speaker 1: We'll be right back. Okay, this is crazy, but I'm

501
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Speaker 1: going to do this quickly. Care packages including gift cards, books,

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Speaker 1: barefoot Dreams are standing on the word, socks, pamper kits,

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Speaker 1: jewelry and handwritten notes, gas and food. Gift cards for

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Speaker 1: those facing an illness day outings for grieving mothers. Day

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Speaker 1: outings for families affected by a loss. First holiday after

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Speaker 1: a loss, single mom, Christmas packages, Mother's Day packages, Father's

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Speaker 1: Day packages. Illness packages provide rent or mortgage assistants. Provide

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Speaker 1: all expense paid trips for grieving moms. Provide counseling assistants

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Speaker 1: all expense paid respites. Fifteen thousand dollars. Adoption grants to

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Speaker 1: a grieving mother, provide all expense paid respites for women counseling,

511
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Speaker 1: National Assistance for headstones, school tuition, the National Assistance for

512
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Speaker 1: mom and daughter who tend to retreat on the first

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Speaker 1: anniversary of the husband father's death. Furniture to furnish a

514
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Speaker 1: new house after woman lost her spouse, spouse respites people

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Speaker 1: like teachers, military wives, foster moms, mending hearts, residents, female

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Speaker 1: police officers, adopted moms on college patients, and nurses at

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Speaker 1: oncology Williams Medical Center. Nurses. Holy crap, This is from

518
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Speaker 1: three chicks who had a bunch of loss that decide

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Speaker 1: they're going to send some people some notes.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm telling you. When we said yes, we're like, okay, Lord,

521
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 3: we didn't know anything about a nonprofit. None of us

522
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Speaker 3: had said on board we had donated that is the

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Speaker 3: knowledge of nonprofits like I'd given to nonprofits. We didn't

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Speaker 3: know anything about nonprofits. And when we said yes, the

525
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Speaker 3: Lord's like, I've got you. I've got you. Just do

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Speaker 3: the next thing. And so we have tried to stay

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Speaker 3: spirit led in everything we've done. And I'll tell you

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Speaker 3: the biggest gift has been our growth has been incredible,

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Speaker 3: but the Lord has matched that growth, like the number

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Speaker 3: of prayer requests we're getting, you know, just we're what

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Speaker 3: the eighteenth of March, halfway through the month, we've already

532
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Speaker 3: received sixty five individual prayer requests, So now we're averaging

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Speaker 3: like one hundred a month. So that's one hundred individual

534
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Speaker 3: women's stories that we're serving. And I'm glad that you

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Speaker 3: brought up kind of Mother's Day packages and stuff, because

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Speaker 3: I think what's unique also and impressive about us is

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Speaker 3: we're not a one and done. So you send in

538
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Speaker 3: your aunt that just lost a child with laws specifically,

539
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 3: we are ongoing care has a process, so say that

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Speaker 3: happened last month, we'll wait a couple months send something

541
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Speaker 3: because there's a lot of support in the beginning. We

542
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Speaker 3: kind of wait until everything has done, very intentionally because

543
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 3: we're able to know those things because of what we

544
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Speaker 3: walk through. So our stories are a gift that have

545
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 3: allowed us to serve in a way that provides meaningful support. Also,

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Speaker 3: one thing I didn't mention, I don't know if it

547
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 3: needs to, but with faithful Restored, outside of the individual

548
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 3: prayer request, we do community packages. So like for Mother's Day,

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Speaker 3: we'll do four hundred and fifty care packages, So every

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Speaker 3: mom or caretaker that has a child at Vanderbilt Children's

551
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Speaker 3: will get a care package from us on Mother's Day.

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Speaker 1: Are you kidding? That's cool? Every single mother as a

553
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Speaker 1: kid at Vanderbilt schupp.

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Speaker 3: Four hundred and fifty and it's been really neat to like.

555
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Speaker 1: Look you up with Saint Jude. Yeah, these are these

556
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 1: are now moms from all over the world here with

557
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:15,440
Speaker 1: children fighting cancer, some cancers of which don't even have names.

558
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 1: They don't even know what kind of cancer.

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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, it's it's one of my favorite projects basically

560
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 3: kind of because my passion for Vanderbilt and that's where

561
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:28,480
Speaker 3: we were and we were well cared for. But that

562
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 3: selfthing community packages, walking alongside Covenant where the school shooting was,

563
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 3: that has been something. You know, our continued support of

564
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Speaker 3: those teachers and staff and I mean we just did

565
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Speaker 3: in December a coffee cart for their staff just to

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Speaker 3: our whole goal is just cantu Yeah, it doesn't matter

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Speaker 3: if it's a year and a half later, but.

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Speaker 1: This is not cheap.

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Speaker 3: And the cool thing so with that loss, you're your aunt,

570
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Speaker 3: that lost a child, she would get an initial care package,

571
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Speaker 3: and then Mother's Day we'll have three hundred care packages

572
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Speaker 3: go out. And because she'll be experiencing her first Mother's

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Speaker 3: Day without her child, so she's prayed for by name

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Speaker 3: in sent a specific care package in November. In November,

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Speaker 3: before her first set of holidays without her child, she'll

576
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Speaker 3: be prayed for by name and sent something. And so

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Speaker 3: I think the cool thing about us some is one

578
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Speaker 3: and done. You know, your husband has surgery that you're

579
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:34,040
Speaker 3: walking through, we might get a prayer request for that,

580
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 3: will send you something, and then it's not really well,

581
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,239
Speaker 3: we may follow up with a note or something. But

582
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Speaker 3: with loss, it's that continued care. And then even though

583
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Speaker 3: it'll be ten years in December, I'm on the November list.

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Speaker 3: So with loss of child, you stay on that list.

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Speaker 3: And so every November, as I'm anticipating that anniversary in December,

586
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Speaker 3: I'm prayed for by name and volunteer specifically come in

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Speaker 3: and make anniversary of care packag.

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Speaker 1: So does some woman sitting in Albuquerque who's thirty eight and

589
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:11,840
Speaker 1: lost her husband to cancer and has two children. That

590
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Speaker 1: happens I picked Albuquerque. Her sister send you an email

591
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 1: and tells you about this, she has no idea, and

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Speaker 1: then just anonymously, one day, a care package shows up

593
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Speaker 1: with a handwritten letter and some things in it, and

594
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Speaker 1: it says, You're not alone. Other people have experienced it.

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Speaker 1: I'd love you, we love you. And then periodically throughout

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Speaker 1: the ensuing years, you stay in touch with her through

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Speaker 1: this outreach, so that she has reinforced that there are

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Speaker 1: people praying for her, loving her, and she's not alone.

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Speaker 3: And we have seen generational impact because of those simple

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00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 3: things we're doing. What like I mean, she's thirty eight,

601
00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 3: trying to raise two kids and feeling alone. Like the

602
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:05,360
Speaker 3: way the Lord is able to use us to help

603
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:09,319
Speaker 3: remind her that she's not alone. Maybe exactly what she

604
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 3: needed on the day where she was thinking about taking

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Speaker 3: her own life, or she was thinking about, you know,

606
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Speaker 3: doing something, or you know, then before she's thinking about

607
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 3: the anniversary, like she is seen again and then she's able,

608
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Speaker 3: like I can do this. This in just that encouragement,

609
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,880
Speaker 3: able to be a better mom because of it, able

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Speaker 3: to you know, someone struggling with mental health. We had

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Speaker 3: her actually record a video. We just she had never

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Speaker 3: really been told that she was loved struggled with mental health,

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Speaker 3: and we just kept on encouraging her and encouraging her.

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Speaker 3: And you know, when you see people and love on

615
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 3: people that don't have people telling them that they're loved

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00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 3: and that they're worth anything, that can those simple words

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00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 3: and acts of you know, showing up can change their

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00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 3: life life. And so we have seen that happen. And also,

619
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Speaker 3: so you said it's expensive, we've we launched in twenty

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Speaker 3: nineteen and we finished that year with twenty eight thousand

621
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Speaker 3: dollars from our event. Ten was from one person, you know,

622
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Speaker 3: So we finished with twenty eight thousand dollars. Last year

623
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Speaker 3: twenty twenty four, we finished with eight hundred and sixteen

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00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 3: thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: Where the heck does that come.

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Speaker 3: From individual donors people like you? Really, honestly, we are

627
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 3: not affiliated with churches. We don't have church backing, we

628
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 3: don't do federal grants, we don't do any we don't

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Speaker 3: even have anyone on our staff, which I'm not against,

630
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 3: but our staff is so we have six part time employees,

631
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Speaker 3: and our staff is so small and it has been

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00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 3: so mission minded. We just haven't really you know, done

633
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 3: a deep dive into grants. So it is individual donors.

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00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:58,120
Speaker 3: So that's part. We don't even have anyone on staff

635
00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 3: that does development, but it's just our team and a

636
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 3: lot you know, and that's making relationships and sharing our

637
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:10,840
Speaker 3: stories and we just have people that want to be

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00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 3: a part of it. And you talked about you know,

639
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:16,439
Speaker 3: we do time, treasure, talent, whatever it is. I love

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00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:19,920
Speaker 3: meeting with people. And it's like, what is it that

641
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 3: the Lord has for you? With faithful restored? And so

642
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:24,880
Speaker 3: it might be that you have you're an empty nester

643
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 3: and you've got a bunch of time on your hands.

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00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 3: You might want to volunteer with us, or you might

645
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 3: need serve. I meet a lot of women and like

646
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 3: they just need served by us right now. Like there

647
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 3: might be a time that they come around and our

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Speaker 3: donors and volunteer whatever, but like right now, like we

649
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: just want to love on you. And then you have

650
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 3: those people that sit in your office that have a

651
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 3: lot of money or don't even have a lot of money,

652
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 3: but I have both. But you might have someone that

653
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 3: has a lot of money and they just want a

654
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 3: place that they feel good about giving to. And so

655
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Speaker 3: as much as our donors are an answered prayer for us,

656
00:38:57,239 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 3: we've seen so often that we're an answer prayer for them.

657
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Speaker 1: Back to what you talked about the depth of satisfaction

658
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Speaker 1: people can get from serving by donating to people like

659
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Speaker 1: you who are doing this work. Two thousand, eight hundred

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00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 1: and thirty nine of when this was written, so that

661
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: maybe that's the number is probably bigger, But to date,

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00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 1: two hundred and two eight thirty nine women have been

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Speaker 1: served through prayer and requests, submissions ranging from child loss

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Speaker 1: to widows, cancer, illness, depression, anxiety, disability, financial heartsops, adoption

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Speaker 1: and fertility stress, and more. Twenty five hundred and seventy

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Speaker 1: five that's a lot of care packages have been sent

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Speaker 1: through our special projects initiatives. Anniversaries and holidays can carry

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00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 1: heavy weight, and so you are sure to remember them.

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Speaker 1: Two of the people who have reached out I've said this,

670
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Speaker 1: thank you, dear friends in Christ, for reminding me three

671
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Speaker 1: times throughout the year that God has not forgotten me.

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Speaker 1: The thoughtfulness put into each package, personal notes, and most importantly,

673
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:15,440
Speaker 1: the knowledge that you are lifting me up in prayer

674
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 1: helps me to focus on the blessings rather than my

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Speaker 1: early loss. The impact you've made on my life is immeasurable.

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Speaker 1: Another says, I received the most unexpected package in the

677
00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 1: mal today from your beautiful organization, and my heart is

678
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:34,440
Speaker 1: overflowing with things. This week has been hard, but I

679
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 1: believe God showed up through you. Thank you for the

680
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 1: reminder that I'm not alone in this broken world. Thank

681
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 1: you for praying and thinking of someone like me. What

682
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 1: goes through your heart and mind when you hear that.

683
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 3: Is so honoring to get to do the work that

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Speaker 3: we get to do. I had people I could have

685
00:40:56,440 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 3: written multiple message is just like that about people that

686
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 3: showed up for me, and so I know what that

687
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 3: feels like to get something in the mail on a

688
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 3: really hard day when you feel like the world's gone

689
00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:13,799
Speaker 3: on and you're still grieving your child. And so it's

690
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,440
Speaker 3: just it's like a dream that this is now my

691
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 3: job that I get to love on women and remind

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Speaker 3: them that they're not alone. It's incredible and it's been

693
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Speaker 3: amazing to have a front row seat to what the

694
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Speaker 3: Lord's done through Faithful Restored. And those numbers keep getting higher,

695
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Speaker 3: and it's just it's amazing.

696
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Speaker 1: We'll be right back.

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Speaker 3: We just keep doing what we're doing. I mean, someone

698
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 3: asked me. We just celebrated five years.

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Speaker 1: And which is stupid and only five years that you've

700
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Speaker 1: done all this. It's ridiculous.

701
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Speaker 3: It is It is ridiculous because those are ending.

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Speaker 1: Daniel can rest easy. You got yourself a job good?

703
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Speaker 3: I did, Yes, I did. Okay, this is this is brief.

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Speaker 3: But when we launched in twenty nineteen, you know, he

705
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 3: had just told me that about the job situation. And

706
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:26,839
Speaker 3: we launched and I had someone had didn't know any

707
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 3: of us, that came that night and she called me

708
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:30,880
Speaker 3: and she said, I'd like to do an end of

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Speaker 3: the year donation. I was like, great, sure, and so

710
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 3: she donated and we're like, we should ask her to

711
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 3: be on our board. And so I meet with her

712
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Speaker 3: in December of twenty nineteen, me and someone else, and

713
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:47,320
Speaker 3: she said, so, this is what four months after I

714
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Speaker 3: quit my job, and she said, my husband and I

715
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 3: feel called to pay your salary for you to be

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Speaker 3: employed by Faithful Restored. What So when I tell you

717
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 3: I wasn't praying bold enough prayers. And when I tell you,

718
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 3: the Lord was like, I have got you. He has

719
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:09,239
Speaker 3: he did you know these people I had never met.

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Speaker 3: That was the first time I'd met her, first time

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Speaker 3: i'd ever met her.

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Speaker 1: Did you have did y'all's organization serve her?

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Speaker 3: Oh? She had. She went to our launch event and

724
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:22,719
Speaker 3: then went home and talked to her husband and they

725
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 3: listened to a podcast that I'd done with Daniel telling

726
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 3: our story, and they just said, we feel called.

727
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:31,439
Speaker 1: And the Power podcasts. I know, I know.

728
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 3: Who's to say what will happen? There's a listener out

729
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 3: there that wants to give us a million dollars right now,

730
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 3: right now. We don't know, so I always you never know,

731
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:45,200
Speaker 3: but I always share that because the Lord's been so

732
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Speaker 3: faithful in ways that are just like not like I

733
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Speaker 3: think he sees us. I think we're I think this

734
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Speaker 3: is it, but like no, I have got you. I'm

735
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 3: going to provide someone that is gonna and they will

736
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 3: tell you. I'm still very very close with them, and

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00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 3: they will tell you what an answer, prayer, faithful, restored

738
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Speaker 3: has been for them.

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Speaker 1: To them to them. So two questions. Someone listening to

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Speaker 1: us right now says, someone in deep despair from any

741
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: of these types of losses or dealing with these things,

742
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:24,400
Speaker 1: how do they get to you, guys, to get a

743
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:27,719
Speaker 1: package to the person they're concerned about. Tell our listeners

744
00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 1: right now and I'm going to tell you something. I

745
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 1: don't know if this is answered prayer or not, but

746
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 1: your your bank account is probably going to go down

747
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:37,320
Speaker 1: after you do this because there's a lot of people

748
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:39,759
Speaker 1: that listen to this show that's okay, and you're going

749
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 1: to get a whole bunch of requests after this thing

750
00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 1: goes live. So I'm just fair warning. How do they

751
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 1: do it?

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00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 3: They go to faithfully Restored women dot com. Say it again,

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00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 3: faithfully Restored women dot com.

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Speaker 1: Okay, faithfully Restored women dot.

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00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 3: Com on our home page says prayer request And so

756
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 3: you just click that button and it'll explained to you

757
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 3: the process. But you just click that. There's a form, but.

758
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 1: It's more than a prayer cross, it's the whole thing.

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00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 3: It's yeah, yeah, But they so say if they have

760
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 3: someone in mind, they would go there, click and it's

761
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 3: just an easy form that they fill out. They can

762
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,359
Speaker 3: go as much or as little as in depth of

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00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 3: the story. And then we love when people do it

764
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 3: for themselves because you have to understand, we're only we

765
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:27,000
Speaker 3: only know as much as that person is saying, and

766
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 3: we're on it's hard to pay. You pay someone's mortgage

767
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:34,120
Speaker 3: whenever you know you're dealing with their friend that doesn't

768
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 3: know exactly what they need or whatever.

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Speaker 1: And do you vet this stuff to make sure that

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Speaker 1: you're not being you.

771
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 3: Dap local people if we can, you.

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00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 1: Have a responsibility to do.

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00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 3: Right right and we don't pay everyone's rent or anything. Obviously,

774
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 3: we can only do a couple big projects a month

775
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:54,280
Speaker 3: and stuff, so we're but you've got it. Yeah, local

776
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 3: people we meet with if they're out of state or something,

777
00:45:57,200 --> 00:45:59,600
Speaker 3: we vet them with a phone call or something. But

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00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 3: they go there, they submit the form, our outreach coordinator

779
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 3: will email them back and so you're talking. Her name's Kelly,

780
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:10,399
Speaker 3: she's fantastic, and they're talking with her.

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Speaker 1: The beauty of this is it's based in Brentwood and

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00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 1: Nashville area, but you're reaching the country. So there's really

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Speaker 1: not a call to put this anywhere else in somebody's neighborhood.

784
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: There's just a call to continue to support and blow

785
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,200
Speaker 1: up this because you can serve the country and your

786
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 1: capacity in one place, so.

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Speaker 4: People around the country could be interested in starting their

788
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:37,880
Speaker 4: own physical location so that they could do the packages.

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00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 4: So someone we were talking about before you got here,

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00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,359
Speaker 4: or somebody in Dallas who's doing it, and I don't

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00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:44,280
Speaker 4: know your openness, Jamie.

792
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,440
Speaker 1: Maybe there's unhelpful what I'm saying, but people doing it.

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00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:48,279
Speaker 3: No, it's okay in other locations.

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00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 4: But obviously, like you know, imagine there's a group of

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00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 4: you know, ten women in Memphis who want to get

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Speaker 4: together and you know, physically put together the packages and

797
00:46:57,360 --> 00:46:59,399
Speaker 4: are you open to that.

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00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 3: It's something that is on our radar. We have it's

799
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 3: just managing it, so it has to be right. So

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00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 3: he's right. We have. We have a donor in Dallas

801
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 3: that was like, I will support you guys financially and stuff.

802
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 3: I'd love a hands on way to do this, and

803
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 3: so we went down there and kind of worked it

804
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:28,080
Speaker 3: out and so they her and her couple friends meet

805
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:31,600
Speaker 3: once a month at her house. Her assistant manages it all.

806
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 3: So that that's really what makes it work is no

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00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:37,799
Speaker 3: one on our staff is having to manage it all.

808
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 3: But they have a store setup just like we do,

809
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:44,560
Speaker 3: super nice and they get together once a month. We

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00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 3: give them fifteen names that come in from our system,

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00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 3: and so they're basically volunteering remotely. But the only reason

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00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:57,440
Speaker 3: that works is because they are invested and have someone

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00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 3: they're managing that. So she sends out the care packages,

814
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:04,400
Speaker 3: she ships it all, she reports back to us everything

815
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 3: that was sent when it's sent.

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Speaker 1: Under that, guys, other people could reach out to you

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00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 1: if they wanted to go to that effort to do it. Yeah, satellites, Yes,

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00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:18,280
Speaker 1: that that person that's going to give you the million dollars.

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00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:22,920
Speaker 3: Well, I would be open to them doing a satellite Okay.

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00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 1: I'm certain.

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 1: My question is how do they reach you.

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00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 3: They can donate on our website, same place yep, same

824
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 3: place forward yep, click donate and if they're going to.

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00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: Give a million, they should just they can call me.

826
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, they can cut my numbers on the website. They

827
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 3: can call me.

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00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:39,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's good.

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00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, they can call me. We do a lot of

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00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 3: family foundations definitely, like donor advise funds, all of that,

831
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 3: and then also listeners. I love at events talking about

832
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 3: our hope builders. So we have monthly donors. We've but

833
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 3: one hundred and seventy some monthly donors bring in one

834
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 3: hundred and thirty thousand dollars a year for us and

835
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Speaker 3: that and those.

836
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Speaker 1: Are probably the ten and twenty dollars.

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Speaker 3: We have anywhere from ten to five hundred dollars a month.

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Speaker 1: Really, it's fabulous.

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Speaker 3: And it's amazing because we have someone on our staff, Morgan,

840
00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:12,759
Speaker 3: she's incredible who manages our Hope Builders, and so it's

841
00:49:12,800 --> 00:49:14,960
Speaker 3: a good way to stay engaged because you're getting a

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00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 3: monthly email. You're getting you know, I mean one of

843
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:21,560
Speaker 3: our Hope Builders lost her dad here recently. I saw,

844
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 3: so I like made sure Morgan knew that. And so

845
00:49:23,719 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 3: we really care for our hope Builders too because they're

846
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 3: so invested. So any type of donor, my goal is

847
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 3: to bring them closer to Christ. And I know someone

848
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:38,280
Speaker 3: listening to this that's like, I don't even know Jesus

849
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:41,480
Speaker 3: might feel like this is kind of she's she's like

850
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:44,960
Speaker 3: a little Jesus freak or something. I don't know. There's

851
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 3: a lot of faith aspect of it, but but you know,

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00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:50,799
Speaker 3: they might be like I don't even like, you know,

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00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 3: if you didn't grow up in church and grow up

854
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 3: with a faith and don't know Jesus, you might be like,

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00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 3: I don't even know. And so we someone asked me,

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00:49:58,280 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 3: you know, do you only serve believers or and it's

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Speaker 3: like no, I mean, we're of course not. We don't

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Speaker 3: even know what they look like, or we know their address,

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00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 3: so we do know where they're from. But it doesn't matter,

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Speaker 3: like I wouldn't. I don't care anything your political view.

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00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:16,319
Speaker 3: I don't care anything about you. That's the cool thing

862
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 3: about what we do. It doesn't even matter how much

863
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 3: you could be super wealthy, and we serve you. So

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Speaker 3: that's what I love about Faithful Restored is none of

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Speaker 3: that matters, doesn't matter if you're a believer, doesn't matter

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Speaker 3: what side of the aisle you're on, Like, we're here

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Speaker 3: to love you. We love you because of our hope

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Speaker 3: in Jesus. But if you don't believe in Jesus, that's

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Speaker 3: okay too, Like we're gonna we're gonna love you like

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Speaker 3: He loves you.

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Speaker 1: So one of the thing I.

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Speaker 4: Want to say is even for listeners who aren't Christian,

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Speaker 4: they don't have to serve in the way that you've served.

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Speaker 4: But your example of being present for people is something

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Speaker 4: that everybody can learn from you if they do it.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, there's no doubt. There's an example here of the

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Speaker 1: importance of just being the I don A piece of

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Speaker 1: redemption I think is does your mom not work with you?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 1: So crazy?

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Speaker 3: Oh it is so sweet. Yeah, it is really sweet.

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Speaker 3: She actually now comes in the office once a week

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Speaker 3: people about receipts and turning and all this stuff and donors.

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Speaker 3: it is really sweet. She's super proud, and it's just

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Speaker 3: a very.

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Speaker 1: How ironic the product you are looking for from your

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Speaker 1: father ends up coming from your mother, who you thought abandoned.

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Speaker 3: Right, Absolutely, just a true story of redemption.

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Speaker 1: It is Jamie. Wow, what an amazing legacy that your

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Speaker 1: father and William allowed you to. I think that I

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Speaker 1: think that you were well prepared and conditioned the struggles

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Speaker 1: in your life to do exactly what you're doing now.

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Speaker 1: I think your father and your son's legacy, ironically, one

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Speaker 1: generation on either side of you, lives on through your work.

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Speaker 1: Little blessing.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for giving me the opportunity to share.

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Speaker 1: It's been my honor and I have a safe trip

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Speaker 1: going home. And Daniel, if you're listening, dude, you got

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Speaker 1: a job. It's all good, bro. Thanks for being here.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much, and thank you for joining us

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Speaker 3: this week.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Sophia, thank you for joining me this week. If

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Speaker 1: Jamie Hurd has inspired you, in general, or better yet,

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Speaker 1: to take action by volunteering with or donating to Faithfully Restored,

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Speaker 1: submitting a prayer request to them, doing something like it

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Speaker 1: in your community, or something else entirely. Please let me

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Speaker 1: and Sophia know we'd love to hear about it. You

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Speaker 1: can write me anytime at Bill at normal folks dot us,

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Speaker 1: and I promise you I'll will respond. If you enjoyed

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Speaker 1: this episode, Sophia has some suggestions for you.

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Speaker 2: Come here, Sophia tell them if you enjoyed this episode,

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Speaker 2: share it with friends and on social subscribe to the podcast,

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Speaker 2: rate and review it. Join the armory at normal folks

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Speaker 2: these things that will help grow an army of normal folks.

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Speaker 2: I'm Sylvia Cortez. Until next time, do what you.

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Speaker 1: Can, Yeah, do what you can. Ring the bell, Sophia.

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Speaker 1: We'll see y'all next week.