Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is about how to decide whether to make a
Speaker 1: change from your current situation. If you weren't already in
Speaker 1: this situation, would you say yes to it now? The
Speaker 1: answer can provide some insight into what you should do
Speaker 1: moving forward. Today's tip, like another this week, comes from
Speaker 1: Nell Wolfhart, who is a decision coach. She helps people
Speaker 1: make better and swifter decisions. She shared some of her
Speaker 1: favorite decision making tips with me so I could share
Speaker 1: them with Before Breakfast listeners. You can learn more about
Speaker 1: Nell and how she works at her website Decide and
Speaker 1: move Forward dot com. As a decision coach, Nell knows
Speaker 1: that change is hard. We often wind up sticking with
Speaker 1: things for a long time just because the effort required
Speaker 1: to start something different seems intimidating. If we're wise, we
Speaker 1: know that nothing new will be perfect either, so sometimes
Speaker 1: it seems better to stick with the devil you know,
Speaker 1: and maybe it is, but Nell suggests thinking about it
Speaker 1: this way. If you're trying to decide whether or not
Speaker 1: to leave a situation, a job, a city, relationship, she says,
Speaker 1: ask yourself, if someone offered me this exact same situation
Speaker 1: right now, would I take it? If the answer is
Speaker 1: no time to make a change. I think for many
Speaker 1: situations this question is why it helps peel back some
Speaker 1: of that inertia. Let's say you've recently learned that you
Speaker 1: are paid significantly less than some of your peers at
Speaker 1: a different employer. Changing jobs is obviously stressful, so you
Speaker 1: could frame the question this way. Would you take your
Speaker 1: current job with your current employer knowing that you are
Speaker 1: paid less than you might be elsewhere? And maybe you
Speaker 1: would because you can point to your company's top notch
Speaker 1: benefits or flexible schedules, or maybe that your company is
Speaker 1: more socially conscious than a lot of others in your field.
Speaker 1: But if you can't point to extenuating factors that you value,
Speaker 1: the truth remains that you would be doing a very
Speaker 1: similar job for less money, and you probably wouldn't jump
Speaker 1: on that opportunity. So that can be a nudge to
Speaker 1: start brushing up that LinkedIn profile. Or maybe you're deciding
Speaker 1: whether to renew your lease. Moving is definitely painful. On
Speaker 1: the other hand, there are some great new buildings in
Speaker 1: your area, with some deals that might reduce moving costs.
Speaker 1: As you look at your current apartment, you can ask,
Speaker 1: would I pay this amount to move in here, knowing
Speaker 1: about the occasionally leaky bathroom and a landlord who doesn't
Speaker 1: come quickly when called. Maybe you would. Maybe you are
Speaker 1: right by the stop for that express bus that takes
Speaker 1: you straight to your office, and your apartment has a
Speaker 1: great view. But if you wouldn't pick this listing out
Speaker 1: from others, you can recognize that a few days after
Speaker 1: moving you will be mostly unpacked in your new place
Speaker 1: and it will be okay. As for relationships, I would
Speaker 1: separate out a marriage commitment from these other considerations. Whether
Speaker 1: you would pick your spouse now or not you did
Speaker 1: and untying that is a far away toier matter. But
Speaker 1: with someone you are dating, or a client or a
Speaker 1: business partnership, this question is more germane. Would I decide
Speaker 1: to work with this client now, knowing that they call
Speaker 1: me at nine pm with questions that aren't really urgent.
Speaker 1: Maybe they pay enough that you would, or maybe they
Speaker 1: don't and you haven't moved on out of misplaced loyalty.
Speaker 1: Time to rethink that. There's an interesting phenomenon in psychology
Speaker 1: where we tend to imbue things that we have with
Speaker 1: more value simply because they are ours. You get a
Speaker 1: cheap mug for free, but if someone wants to take
Speaker 1: it from you, you assign a steep price to it.
Speaker 1: But would you have paid that price for that mug
Speaker 1: if you saw it on the shelf at a store.
Speaker 1: Perhaps not. Get around this psychological trap. You just have
Speaker 1: to ask if you would take your current deal if
Speaker 1: it were offered to you now, if you were free
Speaker 1: and unencumbered, how would you feel about the trade offs.
Speaker 1: If they seem to make sense, then you're all good.
Speaker 1: If not, well, then perhaps not. In the meantime, this
Speaker 1: is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the
Speaker 1: most of our time. Hey everybody, I'd love to hear
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