1
00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:04,200
Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

2
00:00:04,320 --> 00:00:07,560
Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

3
00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:14,640
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

4
00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:17,400
Speaker 3: Yes we are.

5
00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:23,440
Speaker 2: She means business today she does. Oh, we have to

6
00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:27,240
Speaker 2: address something. What the videos from last week?

7
00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:31,040
Speaker 3: So we do need to address that because we apologize.

8
00:00:31,080 --> 00:00:32,800
Speaker 4: I apologize after eight.

9
00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:37,519
Speaker 3: Year established podcast. You should not have seen what you

10
00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:39,479
Speaker 3: saw what you saw videos.

11
00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:43,600
Speaker 2: The lighting looked as though the sun was on us.

12
00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:46,760
Speaker 1: I look like I had just jumped into a pool

13
00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:47,680
Speaker 1: of vasoline.

14
00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:51,360
Speaker 4: I looked. There's too many things to name.

15
00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,440
Speaker 2: When the it was so bad that when I was

16
00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:57,760
Speaker 2: innocently scrolling on social media.

17
00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:02,000
Speaker 4: And it was I literally was like, what is this?

18
00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:06,199
Speaker 3: Robbie goes You guys don't look so great?

19
00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:06,399
Speaker 2: And that.

20
00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:11,840
Speaker 3: My biggest cheerleader, you know what's bad? One of my

21
00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:12,800
Speaker 3: biggest cheerleaders.

22
00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:15,360
Speaker 2: Like, I mean, I always see the videos and I'm

23
00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:21,800
Speaker 2: never like wow, but I was just like, yikes, yike.

24
00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:24,600
Speaker 2: So just know that we are aware, We're not unaware

25
00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:25,800
Speaker 2: of the situation.

26
00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:29,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, and we'll do better. We will do better.

27
00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:33,559
Speaker 2: We have a Dear Bonnie episode today where we will

28
00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:36,280
Speaker 2: do our best to give advice on those who ask,

29
00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:38,440
Speaker 2: so shall we shall we begin?

30
00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,920
Speaker 5: We shall begin from mel Hi, I beca Tanya Mark

31
00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,560
Speaker 5: and everybody loves Eastern Wow, that's very nice. I'm about

32
00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:47,400
Speaker 5: two weeks away from my wedding and my fiance and

33
00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:51,200
Speaker 5: I are finalizing a prenup. We've been together three years.

34
00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:52,920
Speaker 5: I love his family. I understand that we're just trying

35
00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:55,200
Speaker 5: to protect themselves and their family, but since the prenup

36
00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:58,760
Speaker 5: was initiated by them, I can't help but feeling less

37
00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,160
Speaker 5: than since they come from money and I do not.

38
00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:03,920
Speaker 5: I'd be lying if I said this process has been

39
00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:06,880
Speaker 5: emotionally heavy for me. Meeting with a lawyer brought up

40
00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:09,079
Speaker 5: some tough feeling. It's hard to plan for what if

41
00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:11,720
Speaker 5: scenarios when I'm so focused on building a future with

42
00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:14,480
Speaker 5: the person I love. My fiance has been feeling uncomfortable

43
00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:16,880
Speaker 5: about it too, which makes me feel less alone in this.

44
00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:18,200
Speaker 5: But at the end of the day, I know he's

45
00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:20,600
Speaker 5: my person. I can't wait to marry him. This has

46
00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:22,960
Speaker 5: been weighing on me. I'd appreciate any advice or perspective

47
00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:24,520
Speaker 5: you might have as I work through it. Thank you,

48
00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:27,880
Speaker 5: Love you. Every week brightens my day. Loving scrubber, Mel.

49
00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:34,520
Speaker 2: Dang, the premum conversation is really I think it's very complicated.

50
00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:36,399
Speaker 2: My feelings on are very complicated.

51
00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:40,880
Speaker 1: I know because because I think my feelings would be

52
00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:45,600
Speaker 1: hurt if my husband fiance, let's say Robbie asked me

53
00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:48,600
Speaker 1: for a prenup. I think my feelings would be hurt.

54
00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:52,200
Speaker 1: So I understand Mel, why you're feeling this way. But

55
00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:56,240
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, it's also just a

56
00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:58,960
Speaker 1: legal document, Like there's contracts for we signed a contract

57
00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:00,640
Speaker 1: to sign a per a friaking net flo these days,

58
00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:02,240
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, there's just contracts in

59
00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:05,120
Speaker 1: place for everything. So I feel like if you just

60
00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:07,800
Speaker 1: take your emotional brain out and just put your rational

61
00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:11,760
Speaker 1: brain in, like if in this situation, in that if

62
00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:17,519
Speaker 1: that situation happens, it's gonna create so much less fighting

63
00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:19,960
Speaker 1: at the end of it, Like you're just gonna it's

64
00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:22,079
Speaker 1: gonna be done, And like why not hash that all

65
00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:25,560
Speaker 1: out now while things are good, then down the road

66
00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:28,400
Speaker 1: when it's contentious and it can get nasty.

67
00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,280
Speaker 2: That's a good perspective, Like you sign a contract for everything,

68
00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:35,880
Speaker 2: and getting married is a contract in and of itself,

69
00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:37,880
Speaker 2: Like you sign like a license, you know, and so

70
00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:38,840
Speaker 2: I think at.

71
00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:39,600
Speaker 4: The end of the day, I've.

72
00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:42,119
Speaker 2: Always thought of it as I agree, though, I think

73
00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:45,800
Speaker 2: especially if you're not the one with the financial.

74
00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,320
Speaker 4: Upper hand, upper hand. Yeah, I get where you would

75
00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:51,360
Speaker 4: feel like, oh wow, they.

76
00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:54,480
Speaker 2: Think I'm right gonna just take advantage of the situation,

77
00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:56,880
Speaker 2: like it feels like an attack on your character almost,

78
00:03:56,920 --> 00:04:00,680
Speaker 2: But I do agree, Like the emotional part makes sense.

79
00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,880
Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, you just never

80
00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:06,840
Speaker 2: know what's going to happen, Like you, life is so unpredictable.

81
00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:09,760
Speaker 2: No one gets married hoping that something bad is going

82
00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,240
Speaker 2: to happen, right, so, and.

83
00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:16,720
Speaker 1: You never know, like the prenup like fight for fight

84
00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:18,960
Speaker 1: for what you feel is right, you know, like you

85
00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:20,920
Speaker 1: never know. Maybe I don't want to even put that

86
00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:22,400
Speaker 1: energy out there, but like he could be the one

87
00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:24,839
Speaker 1: that like cheats and messes up and then you want

88
00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,320
Speaker 1: but then you want to you want the prenup and

89
00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:28,560
Speaker 1: you want to you want to be gone and you

90
00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:30,480
Speaker 1: want to be protected, and you don't want to deal

91
00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:32,040
Speaker 1: with all that after you know.

92
00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:34,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would just make sure that you feel safe

93
00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:37,440
Speaker 2: and seen and stick up for yourself while you're negotiating

94
00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:40,719
Speaker 2: the prenup. And and also I agree, like take the

95
00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,480
Speaker 2: emotional part out of it and see it as something

96
00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:47,080
Speaker 2: that in the case that something bad happens, it's settled

97
00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:51,120
Speaker 2: before you have to like get into the weeds of things.

98
00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:53,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, anyone else have an opinion on this.

99
00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:56,359
Speaker 5: I just think when his family comes from money, this

100
00:04:56,480 --> 00:05:00,000
Speaker 5: is standard, and I think they've probably been burned before

101
00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:02,840
Speaker 5: four and the generations of I'm assuming this is some

102
00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:05,440
Speaker 5: wealthy family through the generations. I don't know, but I

103
00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:07,120
Speaker 5: think it just kind of you just got to do it,

104
00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:09,680
Speaker 5: and it sucks, for sure, it sucks, but I think

105
00:05:09,680 --> 00:05:12,080
Speaker 5: it's just probably standard for their family. And I'm glad

106
00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:13,080
Speaker 5: that he's on your side in this.

107
00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:14,400
Speaker 3: Yeah that's nice.

108
00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:18,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I mean I agree.

109
00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:22,880
Speaker 6: Uh, the way I always thought about it was like,

110
00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:26,400
Speaker 6: it sucks to be talking about what if our marriage ends,

111
00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:29,440
Speaker 6: but the idea, but like, you know, if things go

112
00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:31,000
Speaker 6: the way they should, you won't have to deal with

113
00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:33,480
Speaker 6: this at all, you know, Like, so it just like

114
00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:36,200
Speaker 6: it doesn't matter if it exists or not, because you'll

115
00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:38,720
Speaker 6: be together, you'll die hand in hand with each other.

116
00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:40,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know.

117
00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:43,960
Speaker 6: I agree with you, Like it just makes things easier,

118
00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:44,719
Speaker 6: so why not.

119
00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:47,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just a rational girly.

120
00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:50,440
Speaker 4: You are the one of these things.

121
00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:54,960
Speaker 5: The seeds, the seeds, all right, next one, I'll just

122
00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:57,640
Speaker 5: summarize this real quick. She's in La. She's living in

123
00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:00,640
Speaker 5: West Hollywood with her boyfriend. They're to be moving back

124
00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:02,680
Speaker 5: to these coast in a couple of years. They're in

125
00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:04,320
Speaker 5: their young thirties. They work a lot, but they like

126
00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:06,080
Speaker 5: the West Hollywood vibe. Their friends are all there. But

127
00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:07,960
Speaker 5: she really wants to live by the beach. But that's

128
00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:10,039
Speaker 5: gonna be more expensive. They'd be farther from their friends,

129
00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:11,760
Speaker 5: and so she's trying to decide do I move to

130
00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:12,920
Speaker 5: the beach or not before we go back to the

131
00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:18,720
Speaker 5: East coast in a couple of years. No, no, no, Why.

132
00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:20,000
Speaker 3: You just said it's more expensive than they're far away

133
00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:20,640
Speaker 3: from their friends.

134
00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:23,000
Speaker 5: But I think her heart's desires to live by the beach.

135
00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:27,200
Speaker 3: Well, get a sound machine and get some beach sounds.

136
00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,520
Speaker 2: Here, I will say, Tanya's not. I don't find you

137
00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:31,760
Speaker 2: to be a huge beach person. So as someone who

138
00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:33,479
Speaker 2: loves the beach, use me.

139
00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:36,359
Speaker 1: I am a water sign, I belong I am a

140
00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:37,920
Speaker 1: crab that belongs in the water.

141
00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:42,800
Speaker 2: No, you're not a La beach person, correct, Okay, So

142
00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:46,080
Speaker 2: as someone who is a La Beach person, I say

143
00:06:46,120 --> 00:06:48,840
Speaker 2: do it because if not now.

144
00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:49,760
Speaker 3: When never?

145
00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:55,920
Speaker 1: If not, you so expensive getting across town is so annoying.

146
00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:58,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think if you make that decision, you have

147
00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:00,000
Speaker 2: to know the commute's going to be. It is annoyed

148
00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:02,159
Speaker 2: when you're stuck on the west Side, especially in rush

149
00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:05,560
Speaker 2: hour traffic. It is more expensive. But I think that

150
00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:09,360
Speaker 2: when I lived in Brentwood, I loved living in Brentwood.

151
00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:10,119
Speaker 4: Because I was close to the beach.

152
00:07:10,200 --> 00:07:12,080
Speaker 2: I loved the west Side, and I thought it was

153
00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:13,320
Speaker 2: worth all those things.

154
00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:16,080
Speaker 1: When I moved out of Brentwood, I was able to

155
00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:19,160
Speaker 1: live alone, not by the beach, and I loved it.

156
00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:23,560
Speaker 3: But she wants to be I don't think she does.

157
00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:26,520
Speaker 5: She also says, what La neighborhood experiences have you guys had,

158
00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:28,440
Speaker 5: and what if you loved or not loved so you

159
00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:29,360
Speaker 5: enjoyed Brentwood.

160
00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,520
Speaker 4: Loved Brentwood, I love the west Side.

161
00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:36,280
Speaker 1: I hate traffic, so I like being close to places

162
00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:36,800
Speaker 1: I need to be.

163
00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:38,800
Speaker 5: Well, her boyfriend wants to be near the four or

164
00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:40,760
Speaker 5: five because that's where his commute takes him.

165
00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:44,080
Speaker 3: Well, the four or five hits a lot of towns.

166
00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:45,280
Speaker 5: I'm just saying, as long as he's near the four

167
00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:47,080
Speaker 5: or five is commute is manageable. So any of those

168
00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:47,920
Speaker 5: towns he could do.

169
00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,440
Speaker 2: Why not try to find somewhere where you can get

170
00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:54,400
Speaker 2: like a six month lease, but maybe wait till next

171
00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:58,360
Speaker 2: summer whenever it's the beach is going to be at

172
00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,080
Speaker 2: the peak season because there are or the beach is not.

173
00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:03,880
Speaker 4: It's very dreary over there. Sometimes, how do.

174
00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:05,400
Speaker 5: You built Long Beach? Long Beach is one of the

175
00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:09,720
Speaker 5: cheaper of the beach communities that's even further from.

176
00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:10,480
Speaker 3: Their friends in West Hollywood.

177
00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:13,720
Speaker 5: I'm just saying, if she wants a beach experience, My

178
00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,080
Speaker 5: wife lived on Ocean Avenue when she first moved out here,

179
00:08:16,080 --> 00:08:17,559
Speaker 5: and it was really nice to be across the streets

180
00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:18,120
Speaker 5: from the Ocean.

181
00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:20,760
Speaker 4: I was looking at Brentwood. You're right next to the

182
00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:21,360
Speaker 4: four or five.

183
00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:24,960
Speaker 2: This is so funny if you're not from La listening

184
00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:27,800
Speaker 2: to this, But I would say, I would say do it,

185
00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:28,680
Speaker 2: because if you're going.

186
00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:31,800
Speaker 1: To by the four or five, it's probably cheaper than

187
00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:32,920
Speaker 1: Brentwood Hermosa.

188
00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:33,160
Speaker 5: Yeah.

189
00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:37,480
Speaker 3: From I'm just trying, we're going to see your friends

190
00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:37,720
Speaker 3: the time.

191
00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:39,560
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of where she could live that's

192
00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:41,680
Speaker 2: close enough for their friends, but close to the beach.

193
00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:45,440
Speaker 2: Long Beach is crazy, But I support you doing this.

194
00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:47,400
Speaker 2: I think you should ask someone who loves the beach

195
00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:50,920
Speaker 2: and eventually would love to live near the beach. I

196
00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:53,120
Speaker 2: encourage you to do it because you're what are you

197
00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:55,319
Speaker 2: going to look back and be like, oh, we were

198
00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:57,640
Speaker 2: an extra, we had to drive an extra ten minutes

199
00:08:57,720 --> 00:08:58,320
Speaker 2: in traffic.

200
00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:01,680
Speaker 5: You'll never regret living by the beach, That's what I say.

201
00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:02,840
Speaker 3: I don't know about that.

202
00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:05,120
Speaker 5: Coming up.

203
00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:08,400
Speaker 3: We have a couple of space. You're not going to

204
00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:09,000
Speaker 3: get that by the beach.

205
00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:10,320
Speaker 5: They're going to get spaced on the East Coast when

206
00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,560
Speaker 5: they move back. No, they're not. Why not? You don't

207
00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:14,240
Speaker 5: know where they're going.

208
00:09:14,440 --> 00:09:15,040
Speaker 3: I don't know.

209
00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:19,600
Speaker 4: Where are you thinking they're moving?

210
00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:22,800
Speaker 3: The East coast is in town Manhattan?

211
00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:26,760
Speaker 5: Be tight.

212
00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:29,800
Speaker 2: I think they might have a little more space lands

213
00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:30,640
Speaker 2: North Carolina.

214
00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:31,960
Speaker 4: I have your little beach cottage.

215
00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:34,520
Speaker 5: Now, Okay, a couple of things coming up that I

216
00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:39,160
Speaker 5: want to tease because we're professionals. Uh, we have updates

217
00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:44,240
Speaker 5: from previous DearS and a question to debate as to

218
00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:46,240
Speaker 5: whether or not to upgrade on a plane. If you

219
00:09:46,240 --> 00:09:48,040
Speaker 5: have the opportunity to upgrade, even though it means your

220
00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:50,880
Speaker 5: partner would still be back in the coach. This conversation

221
00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:51,439
Speaker 5: coming up.

222
00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:12,280
Speaker 4: All right, we're back with some updates.

223
00:10:12,520 --> 00:10:14,199
Speaker 5: Se Yeah, let's do this one quick first. Or from

224
00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:16,840
Speaker 5: Holly to upgrade or not to upgrade? Sore? Her siner

225
00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:19,200
Speaker 5: boyfriend are flying to Hawaii, books to flight separately because

226
00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,240
Speaker 5: they each had points they wanted to use. She's a

227
00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:22,760
Speaker 5: freaking flyer. She has status.

228
00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:23,319
Speaker 1: He does not.

229
00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:26,760
Speaker 5: Well, she checked in she had gotten upgraded, he hadn't,

230
00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:29,360
Speaker 5: so she declined the upgrade so they could sit together.

231
00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:31,360
Speaker 5: But she's wondering our thoughts. When you're traveling with the

232
00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:33,640
Speaker 5: significant other and one gets upgraded, do you keep it

233
00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:36,560
Speaker 5: and split up or do you decline and sit next

234
00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:38,240
Speaker 5: to each other by the way on the way home.

235
00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:41,120
Speaker 5: I did get upgraded. I kept it. I told him

236
00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:44,120
Speaker 5: I'd send some snacks back his way. Ha ha, Curious.

237
00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:45,960
Speaker 5: I think you too have the opposite of opinion on this.

238
00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:53,040
Speaker 2: Okay, here's my thought on this, because when you get status,

239
00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:55,720
Speaker 2: that means that you have put in the work to

240
00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:58,760
Speaker 2: earn that upgrade, and I think that depending on the

241
00:10:58,840 --> 00:11:01,120
Speaker 2: length of the flight, like if you get if you

242
00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:02,920
Speaker 2: can get upgraded into a laydown seat.

243
00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:05,480
Speaker 4: I think you take Like, saying no to that.

244
00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:08,520
Speaker 3: Is crazy, crazy, I don't think so, yeah, it's crazy.

245
00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:11,360
Speaker 2: And so if Hale, like, let's say Hailey got upgraded

246
00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:13,120
Speaker 2: and I did it, I'd be like, take it. Hailey

247
00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:15,560
Speaker 2: would be more inclined because she'd rather just like sit

248
00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:17,880
Speaker 2: with me, but I would be like, either, if you

249
00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:19,200
Speaker 2: don't take it, I'm gonna take it.

250
00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:22,920
Speaker 5: So like I predict Tani will say that she would

251
00:11:23,040 --> 00:11:25,760
Speaker 5: rather sit in the back row of coach next to

252
00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:29,920
Speaker 5: the bathroom if she's with Robbie well rather as opposed

253
00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:33,640
Speaker 5: to being offered the greatest first class laid down massage

254
00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:34,640
Speaker 5: treatment imaginable.

255
00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:35,800
Speaker 3: Let me tell you what happened.

256
00:11:35,960 --> 00:11:38,520
Speaker 1: So I am the one my in my family that

257
00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:42,120
Speaker 1: has the status. I went on my trip to can

258
00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,959
Speaker 1: My work trip set me over the edge with Delta,

259
00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:47,080
Speaker 1: which is amazing because I didn't even pay for that flight.

260
00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:51,000
Speaker 1: So now I have this like amazing status. And when

261
00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:54,080
Speaker 1: we flew for that wedding, we flew to Mexico City.

262
00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:56,320
Speaker 1: We're flying on a Sunday morning at seven am, not

263
00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:59,440
Speaker 1: a very booked flight, right, We had seats in the

264
00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,319
Speaker 1: back by the backroom. But I have the status, so

265
00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:06,160
Speaker 1: we went up and because I have the status, I

266
00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:09,760
Speaker 1: was able to upgrade the both of us because because

267
00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:13,920
Speaker 1: we were on the same we were on the same ticket.

268
00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,840
Speaker 1: I would not first of all, and we were both upgraded.

269
00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:18,719
Speaker 1: They were not light down flats, but we still got

270
00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:20,800
Speaker 1: to like push our chairs back a lot.

271
00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:24,360
Speaker 2: Okay, what if only you got upgraded ticket you want it?

272
00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:25,880
Speaker 5: That's that's what I saw. I was right.

273
00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:28,000
Speaker 3: I wouldn't one for all.

274
00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:30,839
Speaker 5: All for one, like one of those overseas flights where

275
00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:33,640
Speaker 5: you have your own little cabin nook up there where

276
00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:35,360
Speaker 5: you can lay down and watch TV.

277
00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:38,679
Speaker 3: And he's not with me, what's the point.

278
00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:40,280
Speaker 4: If it's an overseas flight with a lay down.

279
00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:43,800
Speaker 2: My thing would be I'll take half of it and

280
00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:45,760
Speaker 2: then we'll switch and you can have the lay down.

281
00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:46,360
Speaker 4: For the other house.

282
00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:49,760
Speaker 2: That's smart, because I do think both of us should

283
00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:52,040
Speaker 2: get to enjoy that. I just think getting upgraded with

284
00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:55,160
Speaker 2: it that experience and not taking it is just like

285
00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:56,640
Speaker 2: what's the point of having status?

286
00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:02,079
Speaker 4: Like Hayley has what's it called TSA pre check. I

287
00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:04,760
Speaker 4: don't have it, which I know. I know it's.

288
00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:11,679
Speaker 5: Wires. The slightest effort is not you and put your

289
00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:13,440
Speaker 5: finger and you refuse.

290
00:13:14,120 --> 00:13:15,280
Speaker 3: There's a place right here.

291
00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:17,400
Speaker 6: You have to go to l a X you know,

292
00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:19,959
Speaker 6: go to the mall and he played an iPad.

293
00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:22,520
Speaker 5: Any Staples does this, No, I.

294
00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:24,640
Speaker 3: Went to like a store here in Burbank, somewhere right

295
00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:28,160
Speaker 3: around here. Anyways, I have clear so whatever, the same thing.

296
00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:29,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, half an hour.

297
00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:31,160
Speaker 4: I'll look into it.

298
00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:31,480
Speaker 5: Okay.

299
00:13:32,040 --> 00:13:33,640
Speaker 2: I did think you had to go to lax Well.

300
00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:35,880
Speaker 2: I think that's global entry, which I also need that.

301
00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:40,320
Speaker 2: Haley is both and every time she goes, I'm like, see,

302
00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:42,320
Speaker 2: I'll catch you on the other side a little bit later,

303
00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:44,960
Speaker 2: but you go. I never expect her to stay with me.

304
00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:50,880
Speaker 1: I would. I just would never, Like I just would never,

305
00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:53,800
Speaker 1: And if Roby did, that would be very offensive to you.

306
00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:55,760
Speaker 5: Never I'll catch you on the other side.

307
00:13:55,800 --> 00:14:00,480
Speaker 3: I would literally be like bye. Yeah, I'm like you,

308
00:14:00,480 --> 00:14:01,320
Speaker 3: you're not waiting for me.

309
00:14:01,480 --> 00:14:01,920
Speaker 5: You have it.

310
00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:05,559
Speaker 4: I don't. That's my on me, So go enjoy the perks.

311
00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:12,840
Speaker 3: I I just we did our global entry together.

312
00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:15,720
Speaker 1: We do our tsa pre make sure we're both like

313
00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:18,520
Speaker 1: up to date on our whatever you have to do now,

314
00:14:18,520 --> 00:14:19,920
Speaker 1: because I feel like once you get it, you just

315
00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:21,400
Speaker 1: have to pay right.

316
00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:22,400
Speaker 5: Just like renew it.

317
00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:23,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, renew it, listen.

318
00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:24,880
Speaker 4: I support both options.

319
00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:26,600
Speaker 2: If you're someone who's like, I'm not going to take

320
00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:28,400
Speaker 2: the upgrade because I want to be with my person,

321
00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:30,880
Speaker 2: I respect it. If you're like, hey, I have a

322
00:14:30,880 --> 00:14:33,280
Speaker 2: statis for a reason and want a more comfortable experience,

323
00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:34,640
Speaker 2: take it.

324
00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:37,000
Speaker 5: I would not take it.

325
00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:39,600
Speaker 2: I do like, oh wow, I do like what Holly

326
00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:41,440
Speaker 2: did because she didn't take it on the way there

327
00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:42,920
Speaker 2: and then on the way back she said, actually, you

328
00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:45,840
Speaker 2: know what, I'm going to take advantage of this and

329
00:14:45,840 --> 00:14:46,840
Speaker 2: I'll send you some snacks.

330
00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:51,280
Speaker 3: I don't want the snacks I want you.

331
00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:54,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, Robbie might life having like you not staring at

332
00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:55,320
Speaker 2: him the whole time.

333
00:14:55,440 --> 00:14:58,680
Speaker 3: He doesn't. He likes me right next, well you ask it.

334
00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:00,000
Speaker 4: No, I know what he's going to say.

335
00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:04,720
Speaker 2: He's too privy to your to our games games.

336
00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:05,840
Speaker 4: He would take it or not.

337
00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:09,760
Speaker 6: If I got it, I would not. If Allison got it,

338
00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:11,200
Speaker 6: I would insist she took.

339
00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:13,320
Speaker 5: That's what I was thinking the same thing. I think.

340
00:15:13,320 --> 00:15:15,560
Speaker 2: If Haley got it, I'd be like, you take it

341
00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:18,320
Speaker 2: if she had her feelings hurt about me taking it.

342
00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:20,400
Speaker 2: I would never like if if it was obvious that

343
00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,400
Speaker 2: she was upset that I was gonna take it. I

344
00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:24,600
Speaker 2: would never do it, yeah, but if she got it,

345
00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:27,280
Speaker 2: I'd be like, please go enjoy And she probably wouldn't,

346
00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:28,280
Speaker 2: but I would encourage her to.

347
00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:33,320
Speaker 5: All Right, we have an update Emory. Remember Emory. Back

348
00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:35,440
Speaker 5: in March, she wrote us saying she met a guy

349
00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:37,680
Speaker 5: that's a barista at her coffee shop that she felt

350
00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:40,720
Speaker 5: super connected to. After he told his mom about her,

351
00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:43,600
Speaker 5: his mom told him he wasn't ready for a serious relationship.

352
00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:46,280
Speaker 5: It cruffed her, but she didn't think things were done

353
00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:47,840
Speaker 5: with them. She has an update for us. Do you

354
00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:48,960
Speaker 5: guys remember this? Yeah?

355
00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:49,560
Speaker 4: I do remember this.

356
00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:53,680
Speaker 3: Hiat challenging time for me.

357
00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:56,320
Speaker 5: Life update from the Youre Like Really Pretty episode back

358
00:15:56,360 --> 00:15:58,400
Speaker 5: in March about the barista, Well, the barista listened to

359
00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:02,080
Speaker 5: the episode admitted he was just scared his mom was

360
00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:04,640
Speaker 5: a scapegoat. Fast forward now we've been dating six months

361
00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:06,920
Speaker 5: and I have been the most secure partnership I've ever

362
00:16:06,960 --> 00:16:09,960
Speaker 5: been in. Thank you all for the tough love, because

363
00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:11,480
Speaker 5: I don't think we would be where we are without

364
00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:14,720
Speaker 5: the podcast. Wow to all the scrubbers out there waiting

365
00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:16,480
Speaker 5: on your person. God has a plan and it may

366
00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:18,680
Speaker 5: not look like what you had thought out for yourself,

367
00:16:18,720 --> 00:16:20,160
Speaker 5: but everything works out in the end.

368
00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:24,760
Speaker 2: Wow, you know what, after eight years, we had some

369
00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:26,000
Speaker 2: good news.

370
00:16:26,800 --> 00:16:29,760
Speaker 4: Congrats Emery is is exciting. I love that.

371
00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:32,000
Speaker 3: You know what I heard from that email. It was

372
00:16:32,160 --> 00:16:36,880
Speaker 3: to the podcast that we helped this relationship survive. That's

373
00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:37,720
Speaker 3: all I needed to hear.

374
00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:41,440
Speaker 5: Another update back in May, say, I remember this one.

375
00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:44,680
Speaker 5: Tanya a WLW scrubber with a dream and almost a ring,

376
00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:46,680
Speaker 5: wrote in saying she and her girlfriend had been together

377
00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:49,560
Speaker 5: two years, looked at rings and planned to secretly order

378
00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:51,720
Speaker 5: each other's. She usually takes the lead and thought it'd

379
00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:54,240
Speaker 5: be specially for girlfriend proposed first, and then she'd lose

380
00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:56,360
Speaker 5: the chance to surprise her. She also worried about her

381
00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:59,320
Speaker 5: girlfriend's religious family, thinking she was rushing things she had

382
00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:01,000
Speaker 5: that she should wait or go ahead and plan her

383
00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:02,480
Speaker 5: own proposal. Do you remember this one?

384
00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:02,760
Speaker 3: Yes?

385
00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:06,280
Speaker 5: Okay? She read it with an update her girlfriend beat

386
00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:09,320
Speaker 5: her to it. Little did I know? She says her

387
00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:12,080
Speaker 5: clock was ticking and I plan on proposing to her

388
00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:15,960
Speaker 5: this weekend per Mark's advice. Oh that's nice. Just wanted

389
00:17:15,960 --> 00:17:17,159
Speaker 5: to come back and let you know how much your

390
00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:19,560
Speaker 5: advice meant to me. Any insecurities I had were relieved,

391
00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:21,680
Speaker 5: since I also didn't want to tell anyone about the proposal.

392
00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:24,040
Speaker 5: I played the clip of the pod for her afterwards

393
00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:27,240
Speaker 5: and she was screaming, is this about us? She was like,

394
00:17:27,280 --> 00:17:28,919
Speaker 5: how on earth did you not tell me this? You

395
00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:31,639
Speaker 5: must have been freaking out. Ha ha ha, Becca, I

396
00:17:31,720 --> 00:17:33,919
Speaker 5: met you at Haley's concert in Dallas and told you

397
00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:35,840
Speaker 5: I was looking for the Haley to my Becca. Well,

398
00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:38,359
Speaker 5: I found her and now we're both engaged and the

399
00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:41,120
Speaker 5: same time as Taylor. The girls are really.

400
00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:47,000
Speaker 1: God And she sends a really cute photo.

401
00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:48,919
Speaker 4: That's a cute photo that.

402
00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:50,080
Speaker 5: Looks like AI.

403
00:17:50,160 --> 00:17:52,680
Speaker 3: That photo is so cute, literally literally AI.

404
00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:58,080
Speaker 2: That's a good engagement like photo posts to show the ring.

405
00:17:58,240 --> 00:18:01,760
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, are you thinking about your next engagement?

406
00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:04,359
Speaker 2: Well yeah, well we have talked about doing engage like

407
00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:09,040
Speaker 2: engagement photos here in LA with a photographer, So I

408
00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:12,480
Speaker 2: was just I like looking at up for photos because

409
00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:14,879
Speaker 2: when we were in my Orca trying to think about

410
00:18:14,880 --> 00:18:15,960
Speaker 2: a pose, it was.

411
00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:19,160
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, it's not easy.

412
00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:22,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, a really good job making it look easy. Yeah.

413
00:18:24,840 --> 00:18:27,159
Speaker 2: Also, thank y'all always for writing into us if you

414
00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:30,480
Speaker 2: ever need advice. As you can see we sometimes give.

415
00:18:30,520 --> 00:18:34,200
Speaker 3: Great apparently, I think a lot of the time.

416
00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:37,120
Speaker 4: Well, this is like confirmation we'd.

417
00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,560
Speaker 3: Always we should just put this like on our resume.

418
00:18:39,720 --> 00:18:43,560
Speaker 2: Resume d MS on Instagram at scrubbing in pod or

419
00:18:43,600 --> 00:18:45,960
Speaker 2: email us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.

420
00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:49,680
Speaker 4: We love doing these so we love you so much

421
00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:54,399
Speaker 4: about next week. We will be back on Wednesday.

422
00:18:55,520 --> 00:19:00,600
Speaker 5: I'll be going on so little late, little late, but

423
00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:01,320
Speaker 5: a lot great.

424
00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:04,080
Speaker 4: A little late, but a lot great. We'll see you

425
00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:06,320
Speaker 4: next week. Love you some, love you Bye,