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Speaker 1: My mother in law insulted me, so I divorced my husband.

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Speaker 2: This is complicated.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if you're gonna that's the only way you

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Speaker 1: can divorce your mother in law, that's true or is it?

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Speaker 1: Let's find out I twenty six black female husband's uh

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Speaker 1: uh I okay. I am a twenty six black female

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Speaker 1: and my husband who's a twenty seven white male.

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Speaker 2: We have been together for five years. I see you.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, definite, I see you. My husband comes from

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Speaker 1: a family that lives comfortably, whereas I had to grind

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Speaker 1: for everything I have. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: user miserable cover forty or seventy four sixty on the

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Speaker 1: r slash Okay storytime subredit. So when we got married,

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Speaker 1: his family made me sign a prenup, which is fine.

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Speaker 1: I totally understand sometimes you have to protect yourself. I

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Speaker 1: had made him sign a preenup as well. I would

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Speaker 1: say maybe six months after getting married, he landed a

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Speaker 1: job in I In our area, people who work in

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Speaker 1: it make one hundred and thirty k plus a year,

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Speaker 1: and I was just starting out in my career as

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Speaker 1: a real leader, so I was making eighty four K year.

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Speaker 1: We keep our financials separate.

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Speaker 2: Let's go. Well you you're both doing pretty well.

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Speaker 1: My husband was laid off, whereas I was doing virtual

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Speaker 1: meetings and building up clients where I could start my

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Speaker 1: we could start meeting in person again pandemic. I was

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Speaker 1: selling in fixing houses left and right. So in terms,

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Speaker 1: I surpassed what my husband makes yearly by a lot.

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Speaker 1: I told my husband how much I was making, and

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Speaker 1: he said, we are rich now and I.

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Speaker 2: Don't have to work anymore. Ooh remember that prenup. Oh sir,

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Speaker 2: she did not win the lottery. She's good at her job. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: this doesn't give you the rights to, you know, become

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Speaker 2: a pursuing streamer. Yeah, you did not win the mega millions.

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Speaker 2: You have a wife who works hard.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what are you talking about. I looked at him

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Speaker 1: like he had two heads. I said, there is no

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Speaker 1: we only me. I am rich now, and I don't

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Speaker 1: know about you not working. Uh, you're still going to

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Speaker 2: Because he had a job in it and he probably

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Speaker 2: and he said.

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Speaker 1: Well I don't have to, and some of the money

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Speaker 1: can go towards my mother, since she's been wanting to

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Speaker 1: redo her house. I looked at him, confused and said,

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Speaker 1: made from being in it? He said, with a straight

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Speaker 1: face quote, I'm telling you, and my money is mine,

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Speaker 1: don't worry what I do with it. Plus I knew

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Speaker 1: how much you made. That's why I hadn't been looking

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, oh oh, what is this guy? I think

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Speaker 2: he is right. You know what's funny. If OPI didn't

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Speaker 2: start this conversation, she probably would have been like, Hey,

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Speaker 2: what's this invoice for like twenty four thousand dollars? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: for molder mediation for your mother's house. So he's like,

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Speaker 2: did we have a mold?

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Speaker 1: Probably He's like, nah, but my mom did have pretty

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Speaker 1: bad Thanks for fixing that, by the way.

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Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 1: I told him that I'm not doing a dang thing,

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Speaker 1: do it himself, and I left the conversation. I found

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Speaker 2: Money does crazy stuff, man, It really does. When you

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Speaker 2: don't work and expect money from others. Money, be doing

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Speaker 2: crazy things. You know what, if I'm in it my wife,

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Speaker 2: My beautiful wife is doing great as a I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: do whatever my power to make sure my it goes

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Speaker 2: money from her, yeah, I don't know, you know, like

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Speaker 2: SEO optimization, you know, videos, marketing, whatever, the.

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Speaker 1: The the I don't need to work anymore because you

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Speaker 2: That's insane, insane. Only reason I would be not working

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Speaker 2: and using my partner's money is if I am being

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Speaker 2: the stay at home dad. Only if we win like

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Speaker 2: we go. I have a conversation with my wife instead

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Speaker 1: Yeah we're yeah, at least that, at the very least

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Speaker 1: figure out why he switched up, because she said he's

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Speaker 1: never behaved like this. The next day, I got home

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Speaker 1: I got off, I walk into our home. I hear

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Speaker 1: my mother in law and my husband talking. My mother

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Speaker 1: in law said, quote, I don't don't know why I

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Speaker 1: that I called that beho racist, mom's the N word

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Speaker 1: and says that they are selfish.

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Speaker 2: Wow, wow, okay, hard one with the hard one.

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Speaker 1: Oh you're You've got an appointment with James Gandolfini's spirit

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Speaker 2: Come on. My husband said that some are selfish by

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Speaker 2: not all.

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Speaker 1: O God, this is your wife immediately said get out

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but not all of them?

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Speaker 1: Whoa yeah, yeah, why oh my so my husband said.

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Speaker 1: I walked towards my husband and said I wanted to divorce,

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Speaker 1: and then I went upstairs, packed most of my clothes

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Speaker 1: and left it perfect exactly.

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Speaker 2: One of her many properties she can go to. Yes,

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Speaker 2: this is my God.

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Speaker 1: Luckily I bought myself another property that I could stay

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Speaker 2: Oh, I would say.

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Speaker 1: He called me later saying that what I heard had

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's no explanation for that.

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Speaker 1: Now I get calls from his side of the family

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Speaker 1: saying that mother in law can justified why she said that, No,

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Speaker 1: she can't, and I'm being sensitive and asking for a

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Speaker 2: No, it's not so. Am I the a hole? No, No,

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Speaker 2: you're not, absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: You're not You're not my gosh, why would why what

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you didn't pay for our mold rooms fourteen. I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna say that. Yeah. Wow. Also the husband say no,

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Speaker 2: that's dude, that would be so heartbreaking. Nope.

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Speaker 1: If you're if your mom, if anyone in your family

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Speaker 2: Go you tell them go.

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Speaker 1: Get out. I can't believe you just said that. Get

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Speaker 2: You don't try to agree with that? Yeah? Yeah ah.

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Speaker 1: But for now, I'll lead ice cream cry and watch

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Speaker 1: my favorite anime ed at number two. Hello, ladies and

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Speaker 1: gentlemen and my non binary people. Thank you everyone for

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Speaker 2: I appreciate it. I got a call this morning from

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Speaker 2: my husband's father saying that he's very apologetic about what

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Speaker 2: his ex wife had said, and we'll get me in

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Speaker 1: Oh dude, w father in law. Well, I mean not anymore,

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Speaker 1: So he's gonna help me through this entire ordeal. I'll

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Speaker 2: Here comes the update. Here we go, guys, I have

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Speaker 1: I will make a separate post about it because it's

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Speaker 1: going to be a rant, so please have your popcorn

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Speaker 2: Bear with me. You guys, thank you so much for

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Speaker 2: your patience and blessings.

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Speaker 1: But seriously, get the popcorn and the tea, get the juice,

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Speaker 1: whatever you do in your spare time.

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Speaker 2: You guys aren't going to believe this. Oh okay, here

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Speaker 2: it is. This is what happens, Riley she I just

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Speaker 2: thought for a second. She leaves him, he creates a tantrum.

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Speaker 2: house together. That's a good one. Mine is there's a

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Speaker 1: Wow, secret Oh I didn't even think of the secret organization,

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Speaker 2: Father in lawd hits on her. Wow, yeah, father law

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Speaker 1: I don't even think the father in law's on this

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Speaker 1: First and foremost for all the support that was given

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So on Monday I met with the lawyer, and

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Speaker 2: I still wanted to work it out, to see it

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Speaker 1: And if you wanna, uh, and if you want to

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Speaker 2: Yep. Yeah, dude, Opie is winning. There's something else to say.

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Speaker 2: She executed this beautifully. Yeah, I mean, I don't think

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Speaker 2: Can I just what?

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Speaker 2: It's okay, what do you need? You need a phone friend?

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, don't do she ain't done.

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Speaker 3: When it was even petty, when I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: Now, not only am I buying your mom's house, I'm

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Speaker 1: At one point, Op accumulated so many houses that if

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Speaker 1: playing monopoly. Oh so it's just people in the chat

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Speaker 2: Yeah, whenever you have like a reality company like that,

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Speaker 2: runos YEA love you guys, the new soundtrack to My

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, you know, Tom's done, Yo nowhere. Anonymous,

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Speaker 2: thanks for the ten bucks. We see you. Where's Angie?

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Speaker 2: She will be coming soon on the way. She's on

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Speaker 2: you got it. And Josephine, wake up, wake up face,

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Speaker 2: Uh we got we got someone going to the restroom.

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Speaker 2: What if we let's let's say that three times and

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Speaker 2: josephen We do that like that.

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Speaker 1: Wake up Josephine, Wake up Josephine, Wake up, Josephine.

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Speaker 2: Okay, maybe she did. And if you did, wake up,

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Speaker 2: tell us we pin pin racer. Yay, literally setting up

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Speaker 2: so I can chat on this stream. Ah, let's go

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Speaker 2: now you can chat go racer? Uh yeah?

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Speaker 1: Is the racer in your profile picture? Also, Avery from

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Speaker 1: the Swamp says Dakota seems like the best kind of

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Speaker 2: I could sing it right now home and oh it

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Speaker 5: I'm six feet from the alt and no, thank you?

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Speaker 2: Six feet that's really it sounds so bad, racer. I

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Speaker 1: You are officially a night and I night thee with

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Speaker 2: Oh it's them in the profile. Pick Shaw, it's the profile.

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Speaker 2: Oh it's me. Oh, p racer, you're racing. Nice. That's cool.

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 2: I'm six waiting for now? Think it real quick?

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Speaker 3: Shall we just start it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? She can pop in. You want me to read it?

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Speaker 2: You want me to read it and then you can

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Speaker 2: just like sit over there and look cute. What you

443
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Speaker 2: want to hold on?

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Speaker 5: Be no, no down there, down hand on bound down

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Speaker 5: bound down hand them down on.

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Speaker 2: All right, stop, we're gonna get here. You read and no,

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Speaker 2: we won't. I was just ke, could you get this

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Speaker 2: camera set up for that? Uh? For three?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: When did copyright protect like renditions loose renditions? That's absolutely absurd, absurd.

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Speaker 2: None of those notes were even right. I didn't hit

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Speaker 2: any of those notes right. If we got, if we got,

453
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Speaker 2: if we get strug for that, I'm gonna write a

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Speaker 2: letter to my congressman.

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Speaker 3: Hold on, are you uh wait, just read it? You

456
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Speaker 3: just be reading while I'm fixing that. So just so

457
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Speaker 3: they just did the intro and then I'll fix it. Okay,

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Speaker 3: you're good. H my husband, I said, you're good in

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Speaker 3: them my way? Are you good?

460
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Speaker 2: Are we good? Are we? I don't know. I'm still raging.

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Speaker 1: I'm internally raging about copyright strikes now, and it's because.

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Speaker 2: Of the Hatch Act, I believe as well. All right,

463
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Speaker 2: you're getting the four is already on four four see four.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's do it. It's in my head now, Okay,

465
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Speaker 2: my husband never listens to me.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how long our marriage can last.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, would you say? I said, huh, what was that? God,

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Speaker 2: I can't hear you. That's that's a good one. That's good.

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Speaker 1: Huh read I twenty four female. I'm questioning whether my

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Speaker 1: marriage to my husband twenty four male can work.

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Speaker 2: Old man, that's my age. Oh, that's old. I am Uh.

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Speaker 1: We've been together since we were fifteen, but have only

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Speaker 1: been married for a year. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 1: Okay Storytime Starbred It's so that's a great it's always

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Speaker 1: sunny in Philadelphia reference. Anyway, I started questioning our relationship

477
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Speaker 1: before we even got married, oh, which is a you

478
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Speaker 1: maybe don't get married.

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Speaker 2: Then, particularly particularly.

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Speaker 1: When we started wedding planning, which probably should have been

481
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Speaker 1: my first sign. I have for a while felt like

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Speaker 1: I'm not heard or completely respected. We've had many discussions

483
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Speaker 1: and arguments about this and other problems that I've brought up,

484
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Speaker 1: and nothing seems to change. I for the past year

485
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Speaker 1: have been in therapy for my depression and anxiety. It

486
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Speaker 1: sounds sad to say, but I really just learned within

487
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Speaker 1: the past month that I'm allowed to not want to

488
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Speaker 1: deal with certain situations or feelings or behaviors. And it's

489
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Speaker 1: like a switch flipped in my brain and I woke

490
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Speaker 1: up one morning and all my patience is gone for

491
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Speaker 1: some of the things my husband does that I have

492
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Speaker 1: in the past been more empathetic or patient about or

493
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Speaker 1: just straight up tolerated. He has ADHD, and I understand

494
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Speaker 1: that makes him struggle with certain things. So I don't

495
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Speaker 1: know how valid I am. When we started trying to

496
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Speaker 1: plan our wedding date, we had decided on March of

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty three and let our parents know and to

498
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Speaker 1: let us know if the date would cause any problems,

499
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Speaker 1: as we wanted to make sure all family members and

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Speaker 1: important people could make it. My parents were fine by this,

501
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Speaker 1: but my at the time fiance's mom told him that

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Speaker 1: his sister would be studying abroad. What's her name?

503
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Speaker 2: Sorry, I told him, it's my favorite dumb joke.

504
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Speaker 1: I told him that we could change the date to

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Speaker 1: make sure she would be able to attend, but he

506
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Speaker 1: assured me that it would be fine and that his

507
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Speaker 1: family had no issues. However, later that night, his dad

508
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Speaker 1: had called him and was cursing him out, saying we

509
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Speaker 1: needed to change the date because his mom was crying

510
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Speaker 1: because we weren't being inclusive of his sister. So we

511
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Speaker 1: then changed the date. I also started having a lot

512
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Speaker 1: of recurring anxiety about making wedding decisions because I was

513
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:10,119
Speaker 1: worried about making a wrong choice and causing problems. We

514
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 1: had decided together that we didn't want a huge ceremony

515
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Speaker 1: or many guests. We had started our guest list about

516
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Speaker 1: a year and a half maybe two years before the

517
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Speaker 1: wedding was to take place. He had double checked with

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Speaker 1: his mom about all extended family and relatives that needed

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Speaker 1: to be invited. Our guest list had ended up being

520
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Speaker 1: about seventy five people. About a month before the ceremony,

521
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 1: his mom said that we were missing some of his

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Speaker 1: family members, his grandfather's two sisters and their partners, and

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Speaker 1: his grandmother's sister and her partner, all being on his

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Speaker 1: mom's side of the family.

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Speaker 2: So it just seems like they're being nitpicky with who

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Speaker 2: is invited the wedding, like, oh, we can't do this

527
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Speaker 2: wedding because this person isn't invited yet. Yeah, It's like,

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Speaker 2: I don't know, it's shit.

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Speaker 1: Does the maybe the great or I guess it's not great,

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Speaker 1: but like the grand aunt and their partner who I

531
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Speaker 1: don't know, they really need to be either, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I agree. So and all this was on.

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Speaker 1: Uh we're doing technical thing, Okay. All of this was

534
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Speaker 1: on his mom's side of the family, which is probably important.

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Speaker 1: That's the mom pulling all of these levers. I was

536
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Speaker 1: upset as we were a month out and even though

537
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Speaker 1: we had a set guest list for the past year,

538
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Speaker 1: which we had decided not to add anyone else to,

539
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,679
Speaker 1: we had to add these family members. I had asked

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Speaker 1: that we not add them, as it was too soon

541
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Speaker 1: and if they were that important, they should have been included.

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Speaker 1: When he and his mom talked about the guest list

543
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Speaker 1: a year ago, she got upset because.

544
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Speaker 2: They were important and they were.

545
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Speaker 1: Family, and that they were and that they go to

546
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Speaker 1: every holiday and they need to go to the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Mind you, we had been dating since we were fifteen.

548
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Speaker 1: I've been to several Thanksgivings and Christmas is beginning to

549
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Speaker 1: end and I've only I've ever seen one great aunt

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Speaker 1: and uncle at Thanksgiving once.

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Speaker 2: But they're being very like they have to make it

552
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Speaker 2: or yeah, we can't have the wedding. It's like these

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Speaker 2: are like extended extended extended family. It's like, what are

554
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Speaker 2: we talking about. We've already got seventy five people going

555
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Speaker 2: to the wedding. Yeah, how many is not? That's a

556
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Speaker 2: lot of people. Yeah, how many people you got going

557
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Speaker 2: to yours?

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Speaker 4: Going to my wedding?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Going to what wedding?

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Speaker 3: Right?

562
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Speaker 2: I just said your wedding, if you ever had one.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't know how much family I have.

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Speaker 4: I have to count immediate, but probably not that much.

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Speaker 2: Seventy five.

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Speaker 4: I haven't seen like my extended family and quite some time.

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Speaker 2: Because I got fifty family, just family, not even friends.

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Speaker 2: Fifty Are you doing elopement?

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Speaker 4: That's fine, Yeah, we'll just be we'll be rich by then.

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Speaker 4: It's oh, we will I was just saying mine, but

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Speaker 4: I guess, oh, well, I mean I'll be rich so

572
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Speaker 4: I won't have a problem.

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Speaker 2: Up or turned up. All right, we'll see, she said,

574
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Speaker 2: she said, yes, who who did? Okay?

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Speaker 1: So, however, I agreed to add these estranged people to

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Speaker 1: the guest list, as I had been slack at sending

577
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Speaker 1: out invitations anyway, and because they were family members, so

578
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Speaker 1: I try to make the situation better and to probably

579
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Speaker 1: just appease me.

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Speaker 2: Both he and his mom said that these relatives wouldn't

581
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Speaker 2: even come, so why are you inviting them? What? So

582
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Speaker 2: you can imagine how angry I was that they came anyway?

583
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Speaker 2: God annoying.

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Speaker 1: We had another argument about the guest list about two

585
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Speaker 1: weeks from the wedding as well, again from his mother.

586
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Speaker 1: One of the great aunts and their partners couldn't make it,

587
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Speaker 1: so his mother wanted to invite two other family members

588
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Speaker 1: in their place. At this point, our guest list was

589
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Speaker 1: at eighty people.

590
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Speaker 2: Who's paid for this? Who's paid for this? What are

591
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 2: we talking about? I want to gimme who's paying for

592
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Speaker 2: this and then you can call the shots. But if

593
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Speaker 2: we ain't paid for it, why are we calling the shots?

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Speaker 1: Your great aunt Belinda can't come her ulcers flaring up.

595
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 1: But I got your great aunt Veronica, who never has

596
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Speaker 1: ever met you, who is also gonna come.

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Speaker 2: Now she has to come to the wedding. Yeah, what

598
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Speaker 2: I'm all about? Like, if you know, I haven't seen

599
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Speaker 2: a family member, an extended family member, more than a year,

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Speaker 2: and I'm like, have I seen them in less than

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Speaker 2: a year? No? If they come to the wedding, will

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Speaker 2: they make it better? No, they're not coming. Here we

603
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Speaker 2: go Riley's golden rules right there.

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Speaker 4: I have heard the rules sometimes of like if they

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Speaker 4: don't say happy birthday to you, then they're not invited.

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Speaker 4: Not necessarily. I think that's more with friends, but it's

607
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Speaker 4: like it shows how close you guys are.

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Speaker 2: I guess I'm no, I'm just kidding. I went to

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Speaker 2: your birthday dinner. I was about to say, well, I

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Speaker 2: guess I don't have.

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Speaker 1: As a joke, as a joke as why as just

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Speaker 1: a joke joking around.

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Speaker 2: I was just going heat was farming for farming for pity.

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Speaker 2: I got mac arden tools out.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to plant those pity seeds. Okay, anyway, there's

616
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Speaker 1: so many jokes that I to the chat.

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Speaker 3: Just put hearts in the chat for Dakota because he

618
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Speaker 3: wants pity.

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Speaker 2: Why don't that was the joke. It was joke.

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Speaker 1: Now it's I can I don't you like a book?

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Speaker 2: I don't, I don't. Why do I don't need any

622
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Speaker 2: pity right now? I'm up, I'm up. I'm on the upswing, y'all.

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Speaker 1: I needed pity like five months ago, though, okay anyway

624
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 1: at this point. At this point, our guest list was

625
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Speaker 1: at eighty people, which was more than we wanted attending

626
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Speaker 1: in the first place, and we had told our caterer

627
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Speaker 1: and venue that we would only have seventy to seventy

628
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Speaker 1: five guests. I got upset, had a small anxiety attack,

629
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Speaker 1: and asked that we please not invite them, as it

630
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: felt like the guest list was getting out of hand.

631
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Speaker 2: The event was in two weeks.

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Speaker 1: I had already sent out invitations, and one of the

633
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Speaker 1: first things we had said about the wedding was that

634
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Speaker 1: we wanted it to be small, and it felt like

635
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: it was getting bigger and bigger and bigger.

636
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 2: We had only wanted.

637
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 1: Like fifty guests to begin with. His mom started crying

638
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 1: and kept crying until he told her just to invite

639
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 1: the relatives. We argued and argued for hours, with me

640
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Speaker 1: trying to explain how I felt unheard and upset that

641
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Speaker 1: we weren't allowed to make our own choices, and I

642
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 1: had thought he had my back and would support me.

643
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Speaker 1: His parents had paid for our catering, which I realized

644
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:36,360
Speaker 1: was very kind of them, but after we got engaged,

645
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Speaker 1: his mom asked NonStop if she could help with planning,

646
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Speaker 1: or if she could help pay for anything. My mom

647
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 1: had asked if she and his dad wanted to help

648
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Speaker 1: pay for catering, and they agreed. His parents said that

649
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Speaker 1: since they paid for the catering after they asked over

650
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Speaker 1: and over to help do something for the wedding, they

651
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 1: should be allowed to invite whoever they want to the wedding,

652
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Speaker 1: which further upset me.

653
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Speaker 2: And at that point, you know what I'm doing.

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Speaker 1: At that point, I'm refunding the caterer. I'm changing the

655
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Speaker 1: wedding date. Everyone's uninvited, especially all the people you invited. Yeah,

656
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Speaker 1: especially great aunt landa shit ef in coming, great aunt Linda,

657
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 1: who's who's I don't know who, I don't know.

658
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 2: She's gonna talk to me about her bowel movements. She's

659
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:27,800
Speaker 2: not common. And your caterer canceled. Sorry, yep, you're not gonna.

660
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 1: Hold that over me like it's some sort of ship

661
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: that you can play in a game that is weird.

662
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, blackmail. I mean, if you pay for the catering,

663
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 2: how many people do you get to move around or

664
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 2: request for the w's what? Zero? Zero? None?

665
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 4: I mean I could see requesting someone, but that means

666
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,920
Speaker 4: that the answer could be no, okay exactly.

667
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 2: I was saying, like, they could have like two or

668
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 2: three people that like get into the wedding because they

669
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 2: paid for that part. Well, yeah, but you ask right.

670
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 2: That was like, it's different.

671
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 1: You have no right to be like and we're expanding

672
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:01,359
Speaker 1: your guest list by thirty people and you can't tell

673
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 1: me we're not because I paid for the chicken parmesan.

674
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 2: It's like, what are you talking about for the barbecue?

675
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:11,160
Speaker 1: Yes, So anyway, getting back to the story, I just

676
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 1: totally that was what I would do.

677
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 2: Let's see what they do.

678
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 1: My fiance agreed with that reasoning uh, and they event

679
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:22,479
Speaker 1: and then eventually told me that he cared more about

680
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 1: his mother's feelings than mine.

681
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:25,800
Speaker 2: Yikes.

682
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 1: That hurt me for a long time and still does

683
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: if I think about it too long. I reminded my

684
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 1: fiance for weeks leading up to the wedding date that

685
00:35:33,960 --> 00:35:36,400
Speaker 1: he and his mom needed to find a song for

686
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: their dance. By the time the week of our wedding

687
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: had come, they still didn't know. He wanted me to

688
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: choose a song, but I refused, as it was for

689
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 1: their moment, not mine, and it should be about them

690
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:50,919
Speaker 1: and be a song that they choose together. And even

691
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:52,840
Speaker 1: if they if she did pick it, they'd probably be like,

692
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:53,919
Speaker 1: why'd you pick this song?

693
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:54,919
Speaker 2: It's the rog song.

694
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

695
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:58,839
Speaker 4: Sorry, let me get this straight. They're trying to pick

696
00:35:58,920 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 4: the first dance song.

697
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, the pick for the no no for

698
00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:05,320
Speaker 1: the no, not the first dance song, just for the

699
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 1: the mother son dance. Oh, and they're saying you picked

700
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: the song op and is like, no, y'all should pick

701
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:16,280
Speaker 1: the song to your dance. It's weird, weird, It's very weird.

702
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: I also didn't want to be accused of not letting

703
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 1: his mom.

704
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:29,440
Speaker 2: Somebody clipped that clip that screenshot.

705
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:33,840
Speaker 3: Oh.

706
00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 2: I also didn't want to be accused of not of not.

707
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 1: What heart like that because I had a burpie indigestion.

708
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:46,880
Speaker 2: His heart.

709
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: Okay, so yeah, I didn't want to be accused of

710
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 1: not letting his mom pick a song or being accused

711
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 1: that I was being controlling. So they picked a song

712
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 1: on the Wednesday before at the wedding. We're getting married

713
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: on Saturday. I cried right before my rehearsal dinner on

714
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: Friday started because my fiance and his mother decided that

715
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:09,919
Speaker 1: night the night literally before our wedding that they wanted

716
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 1: to change the song for their dance the night before

717
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 1: the wedding, which, honestly, I don't is that a big Is.

718
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:18,919
Speaker 2: That a big deal? Is that? Yeah? It's their dancer.

719
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:22,319
Speaker 2: It's like, hey, DJ, could you change the song? That

720
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:23,399
Speaker 2: should be like a yeah, okay.

721
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:24,720
Speaker 3: It's like a you can do that.

722
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:27,319
Speaker 2: That's like a five second okay type of thing.

723
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 3: Also, there's like a huge like dance and like a

724
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,359
Speaker 3: recital for the dance, and it's all based around the song.

725
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 2: I get that song, but it's like, you know, it's

726
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:36,840
Speaker 2: just their song. It's just there's these two people that

727
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 2: the cool with it.

728
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 4: I think that's fine.

729
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 2: But it is a bride about to get married and

730
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:44,280
Speaker 2: things are happening and she's going to change.

731
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 1: Your wedding DJ might be like, oh yeah, that's a

732
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:49,280
Speaker 1: five hundred dollars fee to change.

733
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 2: His song the night before. That'd be crazy. It's like

734
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:52,240
Speaker 2: who knows.

735
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 3: If it's a live band, maybe, but like if it's

736
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:55,800
Speaker 3: just like yeah.

737
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 2: Click strand up comedians for your wedding.

738
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 4: So you want yes, okay for the part.

739
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:08,000
Speaker 2: Where people are taking pictures and Angie's like no, you

740
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 2: just get married. You're taking pictures. What is everyone else

741
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,760
Speaker 2: that's waiting to do? They're watching a stand up comedian

742
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 2: with popcorn. That's a terrible wedding vibe. I'm not gonna lie.

743
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 2: Stand up comedy at the wedding is not the vibe. Well,

744
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 2: not like they're like, everyone's taking pictures. Yeah, your vibe.

745
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: No, unless you gotta hire me for the stand up

746
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,319
Speaker 1: and then you can be the list.

747
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:31,799
Speaker 2: This guy loves peeing outside.

748
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:38,400
Speaker 1: See I'm already crushing. I just crushed dude. Okay, Okay,

749
00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 1: So anyway, that's the one joke.

750
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 2: NA, We're moving on. Okay.

751
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 1: So those events were kind of the tip of the

752
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 1: iceberg for me. Our marriage had a very rocky start,

753
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 1: and I felt, oh, you just went okay, they got married.

754
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 2: Wow. Shoot. Our marriage had a very.

755
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 1: Rocky start, and I felt like I couldn't trust that

756
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 1: my husband and I were on.

757
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 2: The same team.

758
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: We eventually got to a point where we were we

759
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: were doing okay. But lately, within the past two months,

760
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 1: I've been questioning our relationship again. I used to be

761
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:16,319
Speaker 1: excited at the idea of building a life together and

762
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: having a forever with my person, but I don't feel

763
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 1: excited anymore.

764
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:21,720
Speaker 2: I just feel tired.

765
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 3: Aw.

766
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 1: He is straight up addicted to his computer. He cannot

767
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 1: go a single day without being on it. He has

768
00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:32,759
Speaker 1: many online friends that he will game with and talk

769
00:39:32,800 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 1: to just about constantly. He works from his home in

770
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 1: IT support, and when he's working on tickets, he'll join

771
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: a discord a discord call and talk while he's working.

772
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:44,759
Speaker 1: And when he has slow moments in his day, he

773
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:47,319
Speaker 1: plays games while he works with his friends. What a

774
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 1: cool guy using discord. You can use discord to get

775
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 1: into our discord. That's crazy. Ye did you know that

776
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 1: Okay Storytime has a Discord.

777
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 4: And it's so fun and it's great to be on

778
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 4: your computer all the time. If you're on our discord.

779
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:02,440
Speaker 2: We're watching ou it's true storytime clips. We got Okay

780
00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 2: storytomp comps. We got Okay Storytime clips on Facebook. We

781
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 2: got our own channel, we got lives, we got Discord.

782
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 2: That's right, that's right. Be addicted to us. Mm hmm.

783
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 1: It'll save your marria. Maybe not like that, but it'll

784
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 1: save your marriage. Marriage will save your marriage.

785
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 2: You will get stronger as a person. Also, we have

786
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 2: more things coming out online, so you can get addicted

787
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 2: to those. We've got a lot of things in the

788
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:26,280
Speaker 2: pipeline right now. That's really exciting. Okay, back to the story. Sorry, everybody.

789
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:29,719
Speaker 1: When I get home, we usually will watch maybe an

790
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 1: hour or two of a show we like while we

791
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:33,359
Speaker 1: eat dinner, and then he goes right back to his.

792
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 2: Call and games. That is very unhealthy.

793
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,320
Speaker 1: When I'm at work, he doesn't really message me that often.

794
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 1: Sometimes he does, but sometimes he just forgets or it

795
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:43,399
Speaker 1: doesn't check that I've messaged.

796
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:46,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, because he's talking to his Wayfu online animate girl.

797
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 1: He's talking to his AI chatbot girlfriend. I do use

798
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: Discord to message him. I stopped texting him years ago

799
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:55,839
Speaker 1: and just switched to Discord because I thought maybe if

800
00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 1: I switch to something he uses more often, maybe he

801
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,759
Speaker 1: talked to me more. But it hasn't really helped. He

802
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 1: has always struggled with texting, taking hours to respond. I

803
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: tried bringing this up for years, and it doesn't make

804
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 1: sense to me that he'll sit in calls and talk

805
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: to his friends all day long but not answer me back.

806
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:14,840
Speaker 1: His games seem to take priority over a lot, despite

807
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: him telling me they don't. I have to wait for

808
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 1: him to finish games that he's in to go to

809
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 1: places to eat dinner sometimes for him to do things

810
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: around the house. He'll stay up until two, three or

811
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 1: four in the morning, depending on the day of the week,

812
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 1: playing games, which.

813
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:30,799
Speaker 2: I think a lot of us have been there.

814
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:32,480
Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's like, that's not you

815
00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:33,959
Speaker 1: can't be doing that if you're trying to like start

816
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 1: a family and have a wife.

817
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:36,920
Speaker 2: Tell me about it.

818
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 4: Angel, You know me always up playing games all night long.

819
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 1: That's me, And it's like Minecraft, not like one night,

820
00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:48,319
Speaker 1: like maybe one night is okay with friends, one night,

821
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 1: one late night.

822
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:51,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, catching up with the bros for the homies.

823
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: Just like every day though. Nah, he can't be doing that.

824
00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:57,840
Speaker 1: Can't be doing that with our wife.

825
00:41:58,040 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 2: I remember when my brother we didn't have internet growing up,

826
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 2: so I remember whatever he got internet and could game

827
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,320
Speaker 2: every day until like two or three in the morning.

828
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 2: Drove me crazy. Bro, if you start banging on his

829
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 2: desk yelling in his room, Oh, we can't be doing

830
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 2: that when we have we can't be doing that. Yeah,

831
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:18,879
Speaker 2: over a mo goose, Okay, let's try it. Okay, I'm

832
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 2: gonna try to finish this up before everyone yells at me.

833
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 1: By not okay, So if we have plans to go

834
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 1: somewhere or meet someone.

835
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 2: It's a struggle.

836
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 1: I'll ask him the night before if he will get

837
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: up to help me, and he says he will. I'll

838
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: get up, get myself ready, take our two dogs outside,

839
00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 1: and make treat filled toys for them before we have

840
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 1: to go. I'll ask him to please get up all

841
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 1: throughout me getting ready, and he'll get up with ten

842
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:44,319
Speaker 1: minutes before we have to leave, and we end up

843
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 1: being late. I would like help with getting everything ready

844
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 1: with the dogs, where maybe he would take them out

845
00:42:49,640 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 1: while I prep toys, or I take them out and

846
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 1: he preps the toys.

847
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 2: Just something to help me out.

848
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:56,800
Speaker 1: It makes me frustrated and I feel like I'm dealing

849
00:42:56,840 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: with a child rather than a man that I'm married to. Well,

850
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 1: it's because you married a man child.

851
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like that sucks. Like you get into a marriage

852
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:09,520
Speaker 2: and then they just don't help out around the house. Yeah,

853
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 2: it's like fall fall apart.

854
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:13,200
Speaker 1: You gotta you gotta be able to do things without

855
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 1: being asked. You have to be able to do things

856
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: without being told. You have eyes, you have ears, see in.

857
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 2: Do monkeys see monkey do?

858
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 1: I don't know why, I I just had to say that,

859
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 1: and I said, to see and do I had to

860
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:27,360
Speaker 1: put the monkeys on the front. Yeah, I don't blame you,

861
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 1: you just got to put the monkeys in front. I

862
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 1: have lost the patience and empathy and tolerance that I've

863
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:38,440
Speaker 1: had for years.

864
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 2: Yeah.

865
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:42,239
Speaker 1: Also, they've been together since they were fifteen. It's been

866
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 1: ninety years, so he's probably stupidly comfortable and things.

867
00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 2: Hey she's not going anywhere, dude. Oh my gosh. I

868
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 2: hate I've seen couples like this where they're just comfortable

869
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 2: and they stay together just at a convenience.

870
00:43:57,040 --> 00:43:57,279
Speaker 5: Yeah.

871
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:00,319
Speaker 2: No, there tanks my heart. There's nothing convenient about this more.

872
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 2: That's for sure. It's for him.

873
00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely not for heart. So I just don't

874
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: want to deal with this anymore. I feel frustrated so often,

875
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:12,320
Speaker 1: and I don't know if I should stay or start

876
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 1: trying to go. I used to want kids with him

877
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:18,800
Speaker 1: and was excited at the possibility of building a family

878
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:20,920
Speaker 1: with him, but now I don't think I want to.

879
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:23,239
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm alone, and I feel like I'm

880
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: competing with a computer and his friends for attention. No

881
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 1: matter how much I've tried to talk about it, and

882
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 1: I don't want to bring kids up like that, and

883
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 1: maybe he'll be different with kids, which kids never are

884
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 1: a solution to problems like this. But what evidence do

885
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:39,360
Speaker 1: I have. I know that he loves and cares for me,

886
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 1: and I don't think he's a bad person, but I

887
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:44,279
Speaker 1: don't know if I love him anymore, or if I

888
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 1: want to keep dealing with things, or whether or not

889
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 1: I'm just being dramatic. Would I be the a hole

890
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 1: to leave him?

891
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 2: No, And we got a freaking update. We do have

892
00:44:56,080 --> 00:45:02,279
Speaker 2: enough fe we do, dude, we already know. Oh yeah,

893
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 2: he would make an amazing partner. I don't know. Maybe,

894
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 2: so I will say whenever I first met you, you

895
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 2: were with someone and you came for a game night,

896
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 2: and I thought you were like one of the coolest

897
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 2: people there. Really, Oh that is true, I mean, and

898
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:24,200
Speaker 2: then I met you again, I take it later, and

899
00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 2: I was like, this guy, I don't know if he's

900
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:26,839
Speaker 2: gonna hang on.

901
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: When I was basically like in the half of a

902
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 1: manic episode, being like yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, and this

903
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:34,479
Speaker 1: and that and this, and he's just like I want

904
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:38,839
Speaker 1: to go away from this, and I was like having

905
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 1: epiphanies on the drive over, like Oh my god, I

906
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:42,760
Speaker 1: can't believe I just thought and I'm just like unloading

907
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:45,359
Speaker 1: it all on Riley and he's like, yeah, a guy

908
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 1: I met once.

909
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:53,040
Speaker 2: About this, please keep telling me all about which I'm so.

910
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 1: Glad you said that because it confirms that when I

911
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 1: felt after that conversation, I was like, did I just

912
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 1: do that? And I I really did think that after

913
00:46:01,080 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 1: we after you walked out, I was like, I think

914
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:06,720
Speaker 1: I just did that, didn't I. Anyway, here's the update,

915
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: uh update to address some comments. Not trying to make excuses,

916
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:12,959
Speaker 1: just provide explanations, and we've got bullet points.

917
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 2: Riley's favorite.

918
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 1: We've had discussions to try and address his behavior, and

919
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 1: each time I was.

920
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:20,280
Speaker 2: Assured that it wouldn't be an issue.

921
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:22,759
Speaker 1: These discussions have also ended with him getting mad at

922
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:24,839
Speaker 1: me for things I've done wrong, and we just end

923
00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 1: up going in circles. Uh yeah, you can have you

924
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 1: can talk to our talk and if the actions never changed,

925
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 1: then it's it's useless. He doesn't refuse, refuse to take

926
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 1: care of the dogs. I'm supposed to take care take

927
00:46:36,120 --> 00:46:37,920
Speaker 1: them out in the morning, which I often do. He

928
00:46:37,960 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 1: will take them out at night and feed them. If

929
00:46:40,040 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 1: I haven't already. It's just in situations where that schedule

930
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:44,359
Speaker 1: is different, like if we need to leave the house

931
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:47,279
Speaker 1: or get up early to do something, which is not

932
00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:49,839
Speaker 1: an excuse because just being like, well, it's in.

933
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 2: The schedule that you're supposed to be up there in

934
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:51,800
Speaker 2: the morning.

935
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 1: It's like if you if your girlfriend just or your

936
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 1: wife just asks like, hey, can you please take the

937
00:46:56,840 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 1: dogs out this morning, and be like all right, yeah,

938
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 1: not like actually in the contract you take care of

939
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 1: the dogs in the am. It's like no, And you

940
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 1: know what, I want to take care of all my

941
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:09,480
Speaker 1: dogs right now in the chat because if you like

942
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:11,360
Speaker 1: stories like this one, I just want to let y'all

943
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 1: know you can get way more of them, like an

944
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 1: almost limitless supply of them by looking up Okay story

945
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 1: Time on your favorite podcast platform, whether it's Spotify, whether

946
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:30,320
Speaker 1: it's Google podcast podcasts are, whether it's podcast or iHeart

947
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:33,440
Speaker 1: Video or all over the place, and of course we're

948
00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 1: on YouTube and Facebook.

949
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 2: Just look up Okay storytime and you are in for

950
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 2: a treat.

951
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:42,440
Speaker 1: So before we finish this, like when like we're breaking up, dude,

952
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:44,920
Speaker 1: when like when would you have broken up? Because clearly

953
00:47:44,960 --> 00:47:46,759
Speaker 1: they need to break up but like when would have

954
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 1: been the moment that you had like been like, all right,

955
00:47:49,160 --> 00:47:49,880
Speaker 1: this can't happen.

956
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 2: I honestly would have checked. I don't know. It seems

957
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 2: like he hasn't had much independence before this, so like

958
00:47:56,920 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 2: he probably just lived with his parents and like, oh,

959
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 2: the parents are found. I probab would have like saw

960
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 2: that as the red flag.

961
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:04,720
Speaker 4: First we weren't they together since they were like fifteen.

962
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, y and they're twenty forty four.

963
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's Those are some important years that you

964
00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 4: gotta You gotta learn a lot about yourself, learn a

965
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:16,480
Speaker 4: lot about being an adult, being independent, and if they

966
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 4: kind of missed that, then yeah, like what you were saying.

967
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, they now become your child.

968
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

969
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 1: It's just like a codependent thing where it's like, well

970
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 1: we've been together for so long, she's never gonna leave,

971
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 1: yeah you know, and so we're married, and now I

972
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:32,440
Speaker 1: can just be like, yeah, I'll change, but then I

973
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:33,040
Speaker 1: never will.

974
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 2: And I'll just play video games and talk to mynline.

975
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 2: I don't know.

976
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:37,799
Speaker 1: I think the biggest I think it would have been

977
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 1: for me it would be like if at the wedding

978
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:42,440
Speaker 1: planning it's being like yeah, I think I just care

979
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:43,840
Speaker 1: about how my mom feels about.

980
00:48:43,640 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 2: This more than you. I'd be like, that's crazy, because

981
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 2: are you getting married to your mom?

982
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 4: Right?

983
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:48,200
Speaker 2: Right?

984
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 1: That's wild. You care more about how your mom feels

985
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 1: about our weddings.

986
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is true, dude, because he didn't step up

987
00:48:55,120 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 2: to his moment at all. That would have also been

988
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 2: my secrament flag. He's like, yeah, the mom's doing pulling

989
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:01,320
Speaker 2: all this crazy stuff and he's not saying anything.

990
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 4: Well, I mean that's probably because he's a child still

991
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 4: and he's like, you know, not used to having that independence.

992
00:49:08,080 --> 00:49:08,800
Speaker 2: Like you talked about it.

993
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: It's like a mother mother may I type syndrome. Yeah,

994
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:13,440
Speaker 1: where it's like everything needs to like I need my

995
00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:14,399
Speaker 1: permission from mom.

996
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:16,959
Speaker 2: It's like you're twenty four, Actually you don't.

997
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 1: You don't need your mom's permission to do your wedding

998
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:20,359
Speaker 1: how you want to do it.

999
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:22,759
Speaker 2: My mom said I need to change the dance. So

1000
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 2: we're gonna change the dance. It's we're literally getting married tomorrow.

1001
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 2: Like he's pulling that crap.

1002
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 4: Got you gotta grow up?

1003
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, So let's let's finish this off. Has some more

1004
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:32,840
Speaker 2: bullet points.

1005
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 1: So we had a discussion about a week ago where

1006
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,719
Speaker 1: I said that I didn't want to be in this

1007
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 1: relationship anymore if he did not revise his behavior, which

1008
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 1: I didn't even talk about this, but like, yeah, I

1009
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 1: was gonna ask is there even a way to salvage

1010
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 1: this with his conversation? And I think we're gonna find

1011
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: out that there's not. So she said that, and he

1012
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: owned up to his behaviors and said that he would

1013
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:56,400
Speaker 1: work on them because he does want to be with

1014
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:59,320
Speaker 1: me and to be married to me. I've noticed some effort,

1015
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:01,319
Speaker 1: but I personally don't feel the same way about him

1016
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:04,440
Speaker 1: that I did before. And that and that is the

1017
00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:05,280
Speaker 1: end of that story.

1018
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:08,479
Speaker 2: Oh nothing else? Wow?

1019
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:11,319
Speaker 1: Just is there any update? Is there an update to that?

1020
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 1: Or is it just a cliffhanger?

1021
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 3: Wow?

1022
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:15,719
Speaker 2: Who I would say that?

1023
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:16,000
Speaker 3: Like?

1024
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,799
Speaker 1: So that okay, to go back to the conversation, right,

1025
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 1: you guys have had this exact discussion before, where you go, hey,

1026
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:25,920
Speaker 1: you need to change the way that you're behaving and

1027
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:27,880
Speaker 1: he goes, I will, I will, I will change for

1028
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:29,400
Speaker 1: you because I love you, I want to be with you,

1029
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 1: and then he just doesn't. And you've done that so

1030
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:35,960
Speaker 1: many times now that he's learned, whether he even realizes

1031
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 1: it or not, that he just needs to say that

1032
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:39,360
Speaker 1: he wants to be with you and stay with you,

1033
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:41,080
Speaker 1: and then he can just go back to doing the

1034
00:50:41,160 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 1: exact same things that he was doing before. I would

1035
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:48,720
Speaker 1: bet you, I would bet you a hundred smackerronies that

1036
00:50:48,719 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 1: that's exactly what would happen here as well.

1037
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:54,399
Speaker 2: One thing Angie said to me one time in our

1038
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 2: relationship which really stuck out to me was she was like, Hey,

1039
00:50:58,640 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 2: I really appreciate he you are and even though you

1040
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:04,280
Speaker 2: say nice things, you do a lot in your actions

1041
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 2: though it like I appreciate you that. Did I say that? Right?

1042
00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:08,200
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1043
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:08,799
Speaker 2: I was thinking.

1044
00:51:08,800 --> 00:51:12,720
Speaker 4: I was kind of thinking about that one time. My

1045
00:51:12,719 --> 00:51:15,319
Speaker 4: my therapist told me, like I to repeat the thing

1046
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 4: to yourself, Like, I don't trust I observe, So even

1047
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:20,360
Speaker 4: if someone tells you that they're gonna be this and

1048
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:22,680
Speaker 4: this and this, you have to actually like, you know, okay, cool,

1049
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 4: thank you for promising that, but you have to actually

1050
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:28,120
Speaker 4: wait and see if their actions line up. And yeah,

1051
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:31,040
Speaker 4: yours have is that. Yeah, that's probably what you're thinking of.

1052
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 2: So that I think that's like a huge thing that

1053
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:36,280
Speaker 2: you know if your partner doesn't, if you're not observing

1054
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:39,240
Speaker 2: their change. They can say whatever. It doesn't mean anything.

1055
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, really does exactly.

1056
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:42,759
Speaker 1: It's like you've only got like a couple of chances before.

1057
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 1: It's like then you learned, all right, so you're just

1058
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 1: gonna say whatever you want. Then nothing's gonna happen.

1059
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, I understand, like.

1060
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 1: Maybe once, maybe twice, especially if you've been together for

1061
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 1: nine years, they're young.

1062
00:51:50,360 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 2: Whatever. Yeah, at this point, it's done. So he's shown

1063
00:51:56,560 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 2: how he is.

1064
00:51:57,480 --> 00:51:58,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, I got news for y'all.

1065
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 2: There's no no up you say.

1066
00:52:02,480 --> 00:52:05,800
Speaker 1: The update is they got divorced, and honestly and in

1067
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:07,239
Speaker 1: Op's life is just better.

1068
00:52:07,280 --> 00:52:08,160
Speaker 2: She's with a better man.

1069
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 3: This was posted about eighteen days ago. Oh wow, and

1070
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 3: so everything is deleted. Oh eighteen days ago, everything is gone.

1071
00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:26,359
Speaker 3: I wonder why people deleted, like row raggy Wow. Yeah, wait,

1072
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 3: everything's deleted. Oh no, does that mean that they stayed together?

1073
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:32,880
Speaker 2: They probably don't. They probably did, because I've read the story.

1074
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 2: I had to delete it because anymore. Yeah, he found

1075
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:39,239
Speaker 2: or maybe he found out.

1076
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:42,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's my guess is that he found out. And

1077
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 4: then this was the whole problem that she even wrote

1078
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:46,359
Speaker 4: all this. I don't know.

1079
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 1: Man, Well, he is like a guy who's online all

1080
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 1: the time, so he probably read this that.

1081
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:51,480
Speaker 2: Sounds like me.

1082
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 1: I mean, imagine a wake up call I would take.

1083
00:52:55,120 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 1: You're just browsing Reddit and you read this story and

1084
00:52:57,239 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 1: you're like, is this my girlfriend writing?

1085
00:52:59,120 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 2: This is my wife?

1086
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:03,040
Speaker 1: See That's why it's crazy to me that his behavior

1087
00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 1: is so childish, Like my brain just goes, oh, that's

1088
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: their just boyfriend and girlfriend. It's like, you know, they

1089
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: got married, that's like a husband and wife. Like he's

1090
00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 1: behaving like he's seventeen.

1091
00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:16,239
Speaker 2: Like, well, guys, why that is the end of the

1092
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:19,320
Speaker 2: stream and the story.

1093
00:53:17,400 --> 00:53:22,160
Speaker 4: But we have we have a stellar dono at the

1094
00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 4: top from from from boob Charred, who don't ate it

1095
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:32,080
Speaker 4: five dollars Thanks boob Charred. It says Angie is hot and.

1096
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:36,759
Speaker 1: You're you're so right about that because it's all cats.

1097
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:44,439
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, sorry, sorry, Angie is what you say.

1098
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:49,279
Speaker 2: We already know, shame. Angie is beautiful, smart, intelligent and

1099
00:53:49,920 --> 00:53:51,839
Speaker 2: probably the best person I've ever met.

1100
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 4: Thanks, but I think that was proud.

1101
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:59,200
Speaker 1: But you screamed that she's hot, hot, hot, like like

1102
00:53:59,880 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 1: like I go anywhere I go, I know, I got

1103
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 1: the best looking gal by my side, That little one

1104
00:54:04,960 --> 00:54:06,080
Speaker 1: thanks for five bucks.

1105
00:54:06,120 --> 00:54:09,080
Speaker 2: Please tell my her husband Jared that he is the

1106
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:11,880
Speaker 2: courseman ever and these stories make me so grateful I

1107
00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 2: married him. Love you guys, and hope you have a

1108
00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 2: wonderful night. Jared, keep up the good word. Looks like

1109
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 2: you made a happy lady and you're amazing.

1110
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,279
Speaker 1: I've never seen Jared's built with an Oh my brain

1111
00:54:20,320 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 1: wants to say Gerard, but it could be.

1112
00:54:22,600 --> 00:54:26,239
Speaker 2: Jared, all right, and the Ambers just so, thanks for

1113
00:54:26,239 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 2: becoming a night Amber Lamps, Amber Lamps. What is Angie's emoji?

1114
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:35,880
Speaker 2: I vote that we make it a angel with a halo,

1115
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:40,680
Speaker 2: because angelina means h angel. Yeah.

1116
00:54:40,840 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like messenger of God or some of that.

1117
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 2: Angels. They need to be pants because you made that this.

1118
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 2: What do you want? You speak for yourself? I vote

1119
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 2: cool pants.

1120
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:57,439
Speaker 4: I don't know, man, it could angel, It could be

1121
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:00,640
Speaker 4: cake no key on.

1122
00:55:00,760 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 2: Sorry, I don't know.

1123
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:05,960
Speaker 4: It could be like, you know, the spool of thread

1124
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:15,960
Speaker 4: or something like that. You know, Okay, you can't. You

1125
00:55:16,000 --> 00:55:18,600
Speaker 4: can't sum me up and in one emoji.

1126
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 2: Sorry, all right, you guys?

1127
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:27,440
Speaker 4: Can you guys decided?

1128
00:55:27,680 --> 00:55:31,920
Speaker 2: Angel? That's figure it out, that's my angel wins on

1129
00:55:31,920 --> 00:55:33,680
Speaker 2: that one. Let's get out of here guys, all right,

1130
00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:37,600
Speaker 2: So it's should we should we all say the exact

1131
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:42,200
Speaker 2: same time, So if you love us, make sure to

1132
00:55:42,320 --> 00:55:52,839
Speaker 2: subscribe we love you and see it all right,