WEBVTT - Let's Red Table That: Introducing Cara & Tracy Your Hosts

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<v Speaker 1>Hey y'all, Hey, what's up? And welcome to Let's Red

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<v Speaker 1>Table that the official Red Table Talk fan rewatch podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to dive deep on all that can't believe

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<v Speaker 1>in moments from the famous Red Table and make it

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<v Speaker 1>a party. I'm Tracy T. Brow and um Karral Pressley,

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<v Speaker 1>and you will know us. You are getting to know us.

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<v Speaker 1>We are your Red Table Talk. O gez. Let's kick

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<v Speaker 1>it off. How have we been, my fellow? O G.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing just great, but this has been amazing. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just claiming springtime exactly. Yeah, I'm spring. I'm super ready

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<v Speaker 1>for spring. You know. I'm ready for the beginning, in

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<v Speaker 1>the beginnings for the season, the beginnings for the flowers

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<v Speaker 1>and the trees and for us. So I'm super excited

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<v Speaker 1>to just be everybody's favorite. O G. Right, we are

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<v Speaker 1>on and Tracy, I'm just excited. Do you guys hear

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<v Speaker 1>my dog barking? I'm sorry, can you guys hear that

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<v Speaker 1>at all? She's outside? I could go get her. Let

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<v Speaker 1>me just go get her. I think she's going to

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<v Speaker 1>continue to bring cold on just a second. Dolla is

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<v Speaker 1>real life Benji. So yesterday she got caught in the

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<v Speaker 1>creek like she just my neighbors ring her back. They're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we saw her up that thing. But I think she

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't an owner. I think she stays over there since

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<v Speaker 1>it does not make sense she will not come back.

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<v Speaker 1>And then at like seven o'clock in the morning, she's

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<v Speaker 1>like Earth like, let me in, and I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>let me get up because because you run my life.

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<v Speaker 1>So now I have to know you told us, we

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<v Speaker 1>know about our sweet fellers, your beloved baby and my

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<v Speaker 1>Mary J. Blige. I got a question for you, so

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to tell us all about yourself. I

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<v Speaker 1>am car Sleep, I am from Richmond, Virginia. I am successful,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a mom, I'm a daughter, I'm auntie, I'm cousin,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a niece, I'm a friend, and I am a

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<v Speaker 1>R T T O G. I have one of the

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<v Speaker 1>biggest red table talk communities on Facebook. So that is

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<v Speaker 1>who I am. Girl. Shout out to my friend Dr

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<v Speaker 1>Chantel cham Bliss, who is the executive director Address for Success.

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<v Speaker 1>She is supportive of any woman doing women things in Richmond, Virginia.

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<v Speaker 1>She was my second member and then after the first

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<v Speaker 1>week or so, we had like three hundred people and

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<v Speaker 1>then after that we grew to like thirty thousand people

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<v Speaker 1>and like two months, and it might have been a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit longer than that, but he was still like

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<v Speaker 1>within ninety days. And after we got up to I

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<v Speaker 1>want to stay close to the forty thousand people. That's

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<v Speaker 1>when Jada reached out to us, like Jada Willow and

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<v Speaker 1>gam did a video and they were like, thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>just supporting us, and we want to support you. And

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<v Speaker 1>from thirty fifty sixty past a hundred thousand also we're

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<v Speaker 1>up to a hundred thousand plus and still growing, consistently

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<v Speaker 1>growing millions of views a month. The group like expands

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<v Speaker 1>beyond like Canada, all fifty states like It's it's a

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<v Speaker 1>vibe and we are one of the biggest red Table

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<v Speaker 1>Talk groups. But just because we're big in numbers doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean the other groups aren't as well. To shout out

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<v Speaker 1>to the other r T T O G s because

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<v Speaker 1>we are a full own family, especially Yo Memphis group

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<v Speaker 1>Memphis Sister Friends to exist, give it up from Memphis.

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<v Speaker 1>The nine oh one is definitely being represented here. I

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<v Speaker 1>am nine o one. I am on Facebook all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>and when I saw that there was a show coming

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<v Speaker 1>out on Facebook Watch. That included Jada Pinkett Smith Willow,

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<v Speaker 1>who I already adored, and then Gammy, who I had

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<v Speaker 1>known about but had never really known about. I was hooked.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't wait for the premiere. So episode one, season one,

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<v Speaker 1>I was glued. My eyeballs were on that screen. And

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to know that they have kept me in.

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<v Speaker 1>I have been locked in and addicted and one connected.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm called a super duper fan. I'm calling

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<v Speaker 1>myself a super duper fan. That's how I started watching

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<v Speaker 1>them was because I, you know, love Jada Pinkett Smith

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<v Speaker 1>number one, and I just wanted to connect with her

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<v Speaker 1>and see how she truly has her you know, perspective

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<v Speaker 1>and take on life. Our group was formed, interestingly enough,

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<v Speaker 1>after the model we used the model. There were three

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<v Speaker 1>of us that got together and had in a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>about an article that was written about black a black

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<v Speaker 1>mother and her daughter. It was the daughter and she

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<v Speaker 1>had written it as in a pseudonym because she was

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<v Speaker 1>talking about her mom. And you know, if I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about a mama, now you got to be careful. And

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<v Speaker 1>the community was just right. Did you see birtha daughter

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it? Right, we don't. We don't five on that,

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<v Speaker 1>and so she didn't use her real name, but her

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<v Speaker 1>story was real, and the article was was heartfelt and sincere,

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<v Speaker 1>and we connected and said, we're using the platform that

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<v Speaker 1>the Red Table platform is based on with truth and

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<v Speaker 1>talking about hard topics and being able to just share

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<v Speaker 1>and and talking about your mom is a taboo topic

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<v Speaker 1>for us. And so we had a just phenomenal engagement

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<v Speaker 1>where people were able to unburden themselves and the community

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<v Speaker 1>was really developed from the people that we intentionally invited

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<v Speaker 1>because we wanted there to be people that were from

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<v Speaker 1>each of our pasts, and so we were really excited

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<v Speaker 1>about having that conversation. And that was how the Memphisister

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<v Speaker 1>Friends started. I can tell you for me, I started

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<v Speaker 1>watching like you. I started watching Red Table Talk at

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<v Speaker 1>the very beginning, first episode, episode one, season one. I

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<v Speaker 1>was there in eyeballs, loud to the screen. I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to see what they were talking about because it was

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<v Speaker 1>just never done. You never saw women of color and

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<v Speaker 1>three generations having real conversations with each other, and especially

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<v Speaker 1>not in public, not in public form, and and with

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<v Speaker 1>a certain stature that we all have, just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like they're putting themselves in a line, very sacrificial. I

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<v Speaker 1>loved it and so transparent, and I just I was

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<v Speaker 1>hooked from the first episode. I was hooked. I loved it.

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<v Speaker 1>We used the platform to have the conversations and have

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<v Speaker 1>the transparency. The group was small, intentional so that we

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<v Speaker 1>could maintain the integrity of that circle of trust and

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<v Speaker 1>established a covenant. I also have to tell you from

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<v Speaker 1>a personal perspective, it's it's really wonderful to be in

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<v Speaker 1>a position where you can see people living their authentic

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<v Speaker 1>truths and they say, and I can tell you it

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<v Speaker 1>took me years, literal years to be able to stand

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<v Speaker 1>firm and say here is who I am as a woman,

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<v Speaker 1>as a black woman, as a um short woman, and

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<v Speaker 1>as a gay woman. And for years I was everything

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<v Speaker 1>that people wanted me to be and happy about it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I wasn't ever really open about being with my wife,

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<v Speaker 1>and so it was difficult and so I had to

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<v Speaker 1>take ownership of that. I'm grateful that being able to

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<v Speaker 1>see people live in their authentic truth, whether it was

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<v Speaker 1>something that was difficult or easy, is what they did.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm grateful for that. The people in the community

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<v Speaker 1>with Red Table Talk connect at least once per week

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<v Speaker 1>for an episode. Learn something, they share, something, they grow,

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<v Speaker 1>and hopefully what's happening is that they're giving that information

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<v Speaker 1>so that other people have the opportunity to learn and

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<v Speaker 1>grow and share being super transparent. I lost my brother

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<v Speaker 1>in March to cancer and it was super fast. We

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<v Speaker 1>had just gotten through the pandemic and my job was

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<v Speaker 1>doing something I ain't like, and I was like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we had to fork in the road and I'm either

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<v Speaker 1>gonna choose me and do this for me for another

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<v Speaker 1>twenty years or I am going to fight it out

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<v Speaker 1>at the job. And I decided to fight for myself.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, the week I retired from twenty years

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<v Speaker 1>of government service, we went to Jad Pecktsmith's house, so

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<v Speaker 1>we were at the first annual R T T cookout

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<v Speaker 1>and from there, man, we had such a great time

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<v Speaker 1>and won an Emmy and we just had such a

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<v Speaker 1>vibe meeting R O G S R R T T

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<v Speaker 1>O G. Having said all that, as the career cheerleader,

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<v Speaker 1>red table talking has been a part of that because

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<v Speaker 1>it helped me realize how much more I was of

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<v Speaker 1>a woman. So I was I was able to should

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<v Speaker 1>show and be engulfed and and found my place because

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<v Speaker 1>these were more just like me. Jada Pinkett was a

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<v Speaker 1>stony from set it off, like, who does it? Love

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<v Speaker 1>what Jade is doing. She's a woman, seen her acting,

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<v Speaker 1>We've seen her be a mom, like okay, so she

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<v Speaker 1>has another part of her life. Like I just felt

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<v Speaker 1>like she was trying to show the world. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>like you guys were out here having conversations trying to

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<v Speaker 1>figure things out. So I started watching and tried to engage,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I'm gonna be able to community

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<v Speaker 1>with women in my city because like I want to

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<v Speaker 1>go to brunch, I want to go have drinks, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to go talk with other women like myself in

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<v Speaker 1>the same city and do those things and talk about

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<v Speaker 1>this show or have our own show or own conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>So it really gave me the launch pad to really

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<v Speaker 1>fully stand in the woman that I am today. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it did like the same for you because

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<v Speaker 1>you were one of the first groups that Red Table

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<v Speaker 1>Talk visited and and came out to see. So just

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<v Speaker 1>just for one one heartbeat, um, the community is one

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<v Speaker 1>that we align ourselves with what the topics are, which

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. So if the topic is about, you know, gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>pick one because we've had so many great, great episodes,

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<v Speaker 1>we like mental health was one. We then have a

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<v Speaker 1>conversation about mental health. We talk about the things that

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<v Speaker 1>we're on there so we can have some insight and

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<v Speaker 1>just dig a little deeper into them, which I love

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<v Speaker 1>that we have so many different things in our community

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<v Speaker 1>that are unspoken and that are unheard and that need

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<v Speaker 1>to be shared. I'm so excited about hosting less red

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<v Speaker 1>table that because it's going to bring life to all

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<v Speaker 1>of the conversations we were already having. Anyway, I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's something that's exciting because we've already been doing this.

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<v Speaker 1>We've we've thought these things, we felt these feelings. We

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<v Speaker 1>know what love is like, we know what heartbreak is like.

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<v Speaker 1>We all have anxiety since the pandemic. We are trying

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<v Speaker 1>to heal. You're trying to figure it out, and instead

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<v Speaker 1>of thinking you're by yourself, you get to figure it

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<v Speaker 1>out with other people who look like you, feel like you,

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<v Speaker 1>and have gone through the exact same situation. So that's

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<v Speaker 1>why I always love red table talk. That's why I'll

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<v Speaker 1>continue to come back, and that's why I'm glad we

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<v Speaker 1>can continue to build community from a podcast standpoint, So

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<v Speaker 1>this is gonna be exciting. I love that on every

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<v Speaker 1>episode of Let's Red Table That, we are going to

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<v Speaker 1>be sharing messages from all of you. We want to

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<v Speaker 1>know how you're feeling about this new season of Red

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<v Speaker 1>Table Talk, What makes you happy, what are you connecting

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<v Speaker 1>with We want to hear all about it. We are

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<v Speaker 1>open to talk about any and everything with you, So

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