WEBVTT - Age Gap

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 2>Talk Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with

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<v Speaker 1>What's up?

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for tuning in for a new episode that

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<v Speaker 1>We Talk Back. That show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up? Tam Bam Oh, it's your co host, AJ Holling.

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<v Speaker 2>You had to think about it. You know who you

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to dedicate it to.

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<v Speaker 1>Today we dedicated to all the baby mama's, baby Mama's mamas.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, y'all, I love y'all. It's tam Man. I love you. AJ.

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<v Speaker 2>How you doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Love it to a girl I'm doing?

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<v Speaker 2>How was she trying to relax? How was your weekend?

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<v Speaker 1>The moving, moving and moving and moving? Still trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get organized? Y'all? Be so glad when I am situated

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<v Speaker 1>so I can think clearly you still got any house?

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<v Speaker 1>No bitch, I have me a very plushed with. First

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<v Speaker 1>of all, like betting is very important to Linen's s Fair, Peacock,

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<v Speaker 1>those are my favorite betting brands. And I got me

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<v Speaker 1>a good ass Stern and Foster. Okay, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what that is multiple level. It's a mattress se Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I got me a good bag, or I got to

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<v Speaker 1>sleep good. And that's one thing. I'm about to make

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<v Speaker 1>these T shirts that say I love to lay down.

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<v Speaker 1>That's one of my favorite things to do on your back,

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<v Speaker 1>shit back. I definitely love it from the side, because

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<v Speaker 1>nobody got to do a whole lot of work from

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<v Speaker 1>the side. Listen, choked me a little bit from the side.

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<v Speaker 2>What did I do this weekend? Oh, it was one

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<v Speaker 2>of my friends, Lexi. She was on the show recently.

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<v Speaker 2>It was her thirtieth birthday, so we had a death

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<v Speaker 2>to her twenties celebration and everybody came dressed in black.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a good time. We went on the rooftop.

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<v Speaker 2>They had it catered. It was a really good time.

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<v Speaker 2>We had fun at night. That's all I really did,

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<v Speaker 2>and then went to work.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I saw her content for her birthday. Yeah, birthday, Lexi.

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<v Speaker 2>Heavy birthday, Lexi. We love you. All right, let's get

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<v Speaker 2>it to the sins.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember when I was thirty, but yeah, it was just.

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<v Speaker 2>A couple of years ago from me. All right, so

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<v Speaker 2>let's get into it. Christina mack Baby, Christina Mackie was

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<v Speaker 2>so in love just a couple of weeks ago with

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<v Speaker 2>Rick Ross, and now it seems they broke up, and

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<v Speaker 2>it was video of Rick Ross in the club with

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<v Speaker 2>another Redbone chick. And I just feel like when you

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<v Speaker 2>start with a guy, you don't need to be publicly

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<v Speaker 2>too too loud and proud, honestly, especially with them types

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<v Speaker 2>of men, because your videos don't age well oftentimes, like

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<v Speaker 2>you all loud and proud and strong and wrong and

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<v Speaker 2>now he off with the next battie and it's embarrassing.

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<v Speaker 2>So Christina McKie, I guess that was a life lesson

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<v Speaker 2>for you. Keep your ship, keep your relationships private and

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<v Speaker 2>to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>What's she here for? For a good time not a

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<v Speaker 1>long time? Okay? So she got a pair of teeth

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<v Speaker 1>out the deal, she got some some internet cloud me

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<v Speaker 1>be good or bad. She still has a whatever she

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<v Speaker 1>thinks she's got out the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>She got like some type of business and she's selling

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<v Speaker 2>something and she set herselves went up. So I mean

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<v Speaker 2>that's good. Yeah, that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a plus. But I just still can't let a

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<v Speaker 1>nigga like Rick Ross do me like that publicly, like

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<v Speaker 1>what you mean an like okay, do y'all listen, do

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<v Speaker 1>y'all follow to your MP Rick Ross baby Baba like

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<v Speaker 1>she always be putting the camera on her feet and

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<v Speaker 1>she'd be standing like Penny proud like. And I realized

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<v Speaker 1>she does that be because that's how Rick rossby. That's

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<v Speaker 1>his stamp.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, he do got a bad bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not really a bad bitch stance. It's like a

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<v Speaker 1>pigeonholed bull leg stance.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you know that last minute I see with his

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<v Speaker 2>shirt off where he had them feet cocked to the side.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, Amn, Okay, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Just couldn't, man, I just couldn't. Y'all aim for the stars,

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<v Speaker 1>because then you can understand why a nigga playing with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I like, I just don't understand. I'm a fan of

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<v Speaker 2>Rick Ross. He seemed like he got a good personality

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<v Speaker 2>in the sense of humor.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure he's fun He's very funny when not

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<v Speaker 1>even trying to be funny. But no, not, no, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't get to play with me publicly like that, So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>keep your dumb bitch shit to yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, don't nobody get to play with me publicly. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't post, I don't say who I don't know, like

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<v Speaker 2>when I when it's over, don't nobody even know it started? Honestly,

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't never told nobody shit, I ain't had a

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<v Speaker 2>nigga since Tupac died, so public publicly publicly.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just be quiet. So next on the roster is

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<v Speaker 1>Drey and Michaels. Okay, she just revealed that she is

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<v Speaker 1>pregnant for her twenty two year old boyfriend I've believed

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship of Jalen Green, and they're overjoyed. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so she's thirty nine, allegedly because I could have sworn

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<v Speaker 1>Drea was older than us.

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<v Speaker 2>But okay, yeah, I'm just trying to figure out how

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<v Speaker 2>bitches is getting closer and closer in age to me.

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<v Speaker 2>That was grooner than me when we was young. So

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So I mean, to each of their own, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not fucking with a twenty two old nigga. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>pick up dick and drop it off and I'll pack

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<v Speaker 1>bag lunches even though he has a check. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit manipulative to me for a woman that

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<v Speaker 1>season to be on someone's twenty two year old son.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I mean, men already age slower than women mentally

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<v Speaker 1>like the maturity, right, so what's the conversations? Like, what

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<v Speaker 1>are y'all talking about?

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<v Speaker 2>TikTok there? Tiktoking. I remember when I had my young

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<v Speaker 2>nigga and we was this is a while ago, and

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<v Speaker 2>I think this is like right when TikTok came out.

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<v Speaker 2>We was making a TikTok together, and I was like

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<v Speaker 2>trying to pick a song. This nigga gonna say, it

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<v Speaker 2>ain't gonna be no luther on there, so just.

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<v Speaker 1>Hurry up, boy, fuck you. I wasn't looking for the Luther.

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<v Speaker 1>I was looking for Anita Baker.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't see nothing wrong with fucking with I like

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<v Speaker 2>my I like younger niggas. I don't like twenty two.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a baby. That's too acne.

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<v Speaker 2>He's stole, no facial hair.

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<v Speaker 1>Jump, it's a kid.

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<v Speaker 2>He could run and jump on my bed. Like that's

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<v Speaker 2>a problem.

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<v Speaker 1>I do that, so they ain't a problem. I am

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<v Speaker 1>a kid, I'm childish as fuck.

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<v Speaker 2>But don't jump on my bed.

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<v Speaker 1>Grow your ass, no shoes on, but just yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>like jumping on a bed.

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<v Speaker 2>What you need to grow up?

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<v Speaker 1>She says, So she says, and actually she said they're

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<v Speaker 1>having a girl. Okay, doing May of this year. Drea says,

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<v Speaker 1>as a woman, we navigate through so much, often leading

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<v Speaker 1>us to question what is my purpose? She wrote in

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<v Speaker 1>a lengthy Instagram post an International Woman's Day For me,

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<v Speaker 1>the magic lies in motherhood and the awe inspiring ability

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<v Speaker 1>to bring life into the world over a span of

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<v Speaker 1>two decades. It's my superpower And if anyone excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>and if anything can surpass the wonder of being a

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<v Speaker 1>woman is the privilege of bringing another woman into existence. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you wanted another child. Do you think that it's possible

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<v Speaker 1>that she's like washed up with grown men that she's

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<v Speaker 1>now like on the playground.

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<v Speaker 2>No, she's still fine as hell.

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<v Speaker 1>She is fine as hell, But is her track work

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<v Speaker 1>a bad? Like with older men, Like, we know who

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<v Speaker 1>you are, so this is why you're on the playground

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get the kids.

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<v Speaker 2>These old men is still trying to knock Drea down.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't get it twisted.

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<v Speaker 1>But are they keeping her? That's what I'm saying. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, but yeah, you can get a man to

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<v Speaker 1>fuck all day long. Like when women be thinking it's

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<v Speaker 1>a flex, I'm sure it's still they want me, But

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<v Speaker 1>do are they keeping you? It's a difference.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure she could keep a grown man, and she

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to. There's so many of them out there, right,

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<v Speaker 2>and she I don't know, she just wanted that young nigga.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know how it happened. Maybe he was playing

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<v Speaker 2>video games with her son and she walked by and

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<v Speaker 2>saw his little braid hanging down and was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>You saw Bernice Burgoho's daughter. She was on lip service,

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<v Speaker 1>on Angelie's lip Service, and she said, how her mama

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<v Speaker 1>like young guys too, Like, so whenever a guy toops

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<v Speaker 1>in her DM, she has to go see if he's

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<v Speaker 1>been in her mama DM first before she responds back

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<v Speaker 1>to Bernie's virgos. Yeah, her daughter though, the daughter.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn, I ain't trying to compete with my mama for niggas.

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<v Speaker 2>That's sucks them.

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<v Speaker 1>Some fine moments, yeah them, some fine ass moments.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of fine ass moments, how about this damn nigga

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<v Speaker 1>rx Hector, this rapper who just got out of prison

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<v Speaker 1>recently had a birthday party for his mom. She beat cancer,

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<v Speaker 1>she's alive, all the good shit. She got a fatty,

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<v Speaker 1>he got a fatty. She got a super fatty okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And he's on video smacking that fatty and then she

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<v Speaker 1>starts making that fatty clap clap for him, for her son,

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<v Speaker 1>or for whoever's watching.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't think there was a sexual I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think there's a sexual relationship between him and his mama.

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<v Speaker 2>But I just think that the boundaries that needed to

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<v Speaker 2>be there aren't there, because why is you patting your

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<v Speaker 2>mama on the ass like that?

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<v Speaker 1>But it was if it was a daughter doing it,

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<v Speaker 1>we wouldn't be looking at it crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, But that's my mama. Ask that's because we can

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<v Speaker 2>walk around in the like past each other naked in

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<v Speaker 2>the house as women, and that's normal. But you can't

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<v Speaker 2>just be walking past your son naked as a mom right.

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<v Speaker 1>When some people probably do. I can say if I

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<v Speaker 1>have a kid like a son, like maybe it depends

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<v Speaker 1>on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, once they get like a little like a big boy.

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<v Speaker 1>M because I like to be naked my whole family.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm a naked one too. I love to be naked.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like having on clothes that much. But if

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<v Speaker 2>I had a son, it's a time when it's no

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<v Speaker 2>longer Okay, for you to have your body parts around him.

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<v Speaker 2>So him slapping, I like that him and his mom

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<v Speaker 2>is cool and they can have fun together and stuff

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<v Speaker 2>like that. I appreciate that relationship as adults. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>some people don't talk to or see their mama, But

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<v Speaker 2>slapping on her on the ass, like yeah, my mom

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<v Speaker 2>got a fat ass.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy. I feel like he grabbed it a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit too. Am I tripping? I feel like he like smack,

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<v Speaker 1>like you would think he was at the strip club.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't think it was like he proud that

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<v Speaker 2>his mama. Fine, I don't think it was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I tap that. If that was my mama, I fucked

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<v Speaker 2>the shit out of you. Like nah, I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>it was that energy. It's just inappropriate.

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<v Speaker 1>She's at a birthday party. Where is her man at

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<v Speaker 1>this birthday party? Y'all think I'd be tripping when I say,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't fuck with niggas with mamas. If you have

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<v Speaker 1>a mama, if you have a mama, she has to

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<v Speaker 1>be in a healthy relationship with a man. If you

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<v Speaker 1>got a sister, she has to be in a healthy

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with a man. If you have adult daughters, they

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<v Speaker 1>have to be in healthy relationships with a man because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not competing right with these women that you're related

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<v Speaker 1>to for your relationship. Yeah, I'm not competing with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I can almost imagine like if he's financing her whole

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<v Speaker 1>life in a way, because a lot of boys they

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<v Speaker 1>can't wait to get older so they can take care

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<v Speaker 1>of their mom because they never saw a man do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you get a woman, and you got to compete

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<v Speaker 1>with the mom. H I can that's the type of relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>And I can tell that she's really young, she's not

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<v Speaker 1>an old mom. Also, I don't know how old the

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<v Speaker 1>son is, but it could be a situation where you

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<v Speaker 1>fourteen having a baby, Like y'all literally grew up together,

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<v Speaker 1>you're and your child, so y'all have a different relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>Like y'all are friends more than more so than daughter,

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<v Speaker 1>and I mean son and mom. That's what I'm seeing.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think is anything sexual with them. But some women,

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<v Speaker 1>particularly black women, right, they think they own their adult sons.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's a problem when that adult son gets a

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<v Speaker 1>woman in their life. Was first of all, Momy, you

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<v Speaker 1>ain't sucking this dick, right. That's why I.

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<v Speaker 2>Never feel like I'm in competition because I can do

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<v Speaker 2>something that you're just not gonna do. So I don't

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<v Speaker 2>never feel.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you remember that. Listen. No, I'm not sucking my son, dick,

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<v Speaker 1>but listen, it's a girl who had a threesome with

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<v Speaker 1>a and son and she was saying how the mom

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<v Speaker 1>was Gowking three thousand the son girl?

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<v Speaker 2>You black girl.

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<v Speaker 1>You didn't see that. She's been on multiple podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>It happened. And listen, yesterday I started googling that makes

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<v Speaker 1>my stomach turn mother son relationships and it's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people.

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<v Speaker 2>Not these are not black people.

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<v Speaker 1>But this was a black girl on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It was the people that she was sleeping with. Were

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<v Speaker 2>they black?

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<v Speaker 1>I saw a Hispanic couple doing it. Well, not a

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<v Speaker 1>couple because it's a mom and son. But do you

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<v Speaker 1>remember last year six this boy randomly appeared at the

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<v Speaker 1>doorsteps of a church, all disheveled in a blanket, and

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<v Speaker 1>it was a guy, a boy that they had been

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<v Speaker 1>looking for since he was sixteen seventeen years old. Come

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<v Speaker 1>to find out, his mom had him hostage basically all

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<v Speaker 1>these years in the house and had people thinking that

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<v Speaker 1>was her husband, but it was her son the whole

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<v Speaker 1>time that was supposed missing hispanic.

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<v Speaker 2>That's insane.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I think sometimes it could be reversed. But some

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<v Speaker 1>mothers may have an affinity for their sons and it

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<v Speaker 1>could be if.

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<v Speaker 2>You are doing it with your son, they need to

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<v Speaker 2>take you out back and put you down because you

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<v Speaker 2>don't need to be you don't need to be allowed

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<v Speaker 2>to make any more children. You got the game fucked

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<v Speaker 2>up and that's disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl. We and Babylon this is about right for where

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<v Speaker 1>we're at. There's a lot of shit that go on

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<v Speaker 1>that don't make sense that normal people but are Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>we might not be the normal people the Czy.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't give a fuck. I just won't be normal

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<v Speaker 2>then because ain't nothing. I ain't doing none of that

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<v Speaker 2>motherfucker shit.

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<v Speaker 1>All right. So last on the docas so Monye's slaughters

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<v Speaker 1>open up about her decision to terminate her pregnancy in

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty two, after she was accused of lying about

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<v Speaker 1>being with child. So the Love and Hip Hop Hollywood

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<v Speaker 1>veteran tearfully shared via Instagram live on Monday, March eleventh

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<v Speaker 1>that she he was forced to end a pregnancy due

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<v Speaker 1>to a heart condition at twenty nine weeks long. In

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<v Speaker 1>the emotional video, she is seen wiping her tears as

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<v Speaker 1>she says, for everybody that's calling me a liar about

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<v Speaker 1>my pregnancy, if you were there for me, I love you.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate you. You saw the medical papers and the ultrasounds,

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<v Speaker 1>and you were there for me on the day of

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<v Speaker 1>my DNC. I gratefully excuse me. I'm grateful. I am

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<v Speaker 1>tired calling out those who didn't believe her about being

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<v Speaker 1>pregnant or her marriage. The outspoken star continue to say

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<v Speaker 1>that if you can't believe that I was married to

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<v Speaker 1>my husband because you think I lied about the pregnancy,

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<v Speaker 1>a pregnancy I bled out three times for da da

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<v Speaker 1>da da. I think people initially thought that she was

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<v Speaker 1>just saying she just randomly had an abortion at twenty

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<v Speaker 1>nine weeks. I don't understand that it was her or

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<v Speaker 1>the baby that had a heart condition. But this isn't abnormal,

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe people don't call it an abortion when it's

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<v Speaker 1>a medical procedure when you have to terminate a pregnancy.

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<v Speaker 1>But she ultimately either her or the baby had a

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<v Speaker 1>problem and they had to end of pregnancy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's a very that's a very very sad thing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a very very sad topic. And it's crazy to

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<v Speaker 2>even if she is lying, which I think she isn't,

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<v Speaker 2>But it's crazy to even accuse her of that. Let

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<v Speaker 2>her have it, you know, let her have it. If

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<v Speaker 2>she's saying, you know, she was pregnant, people, why are

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<v Speaker 2>people calling her? Her own mom is saying she's lying though,

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<v Speaker 2>that's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>And twenty nine weeks is like seven months, so she

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<v Speaker 1>would have been showing. So is it possible that she

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't showing? Is this you know, maybe the baby.

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<v Speaker 2>I see her pregnant, but maybe the baby wasn't growing

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<v Speaker 2>properly inside her like it could have been all kinds

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<v Speaker 2>of reasons. Why, you know, my heart goes out to her,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, if this really happened to her, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>That shit sucks, it does.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Child, These actors and actresses be kind

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<v Speaker 1>of wild.

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<v Speaker 2>Well is she really? She's a reality star, so she's

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<v Speaker 2>not even like an actor? Is she? They show up?

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<v Speaker 1>I think so A lot of that stuff be bullshit.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of that stuff be scripted reality TV. Masika

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<v Speaker 1>came out and said that she was acting basically.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of that is acting. Okay, Well, that's fair. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I hope she's not acting about this, because that's that's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>No. She came out and said she was acting about

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<v Speaker 1>being pregnant, not like Academy Award winner.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm talking about my knees. I hope that what

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<v Speaker 2>she's saying is not an act, because that's bad carme

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<v Speaker 2>Coin's baby if it is. But she said she got

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<v Speaker 2>her tube side after all of this, so she's not

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<v Speaker 2>trying to be a mom anymore naturally anywhere. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>hold on, I just want to revert back to something.

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<v Speaker 2>I know we talked about, Drea, but they're saying that

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<v Speaker 2>Drake might be dating Lotto's little sister who's a twenty

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<v Speaker 2>one year old. And that's, like I said, sixteen year

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<v Speaker 2>of difference. And I don't think, how do you feel

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<v Speaker 2>about that? Is it okay for him to do it

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<v Speaker 2>and not dream?

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<v Speaker 1>No? It's you know, people always like so the women

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<v Speaker 1>in the comments are always like, when men do it,

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<v Speaker 1>men do it? Listen, we are better than men. The

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<v Speaker 1>sooner y'all realize that, the sooner the world actually gets

0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:18.520
<v Speaker 1>we can't do the shit men do. Okay, we're just better. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>This is why anytime something happen. They always blaming, blaming

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<v Speaker 1>women because we God, and you always blame God when

0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:28.520
<v Speaker 1>some bad shit happen. Anyway, I feel like it's bad

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<v Speaker 1>either way. Grown ass men, you know men are We

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<v Speaker 1>would like to say men are more visual. No, men

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<v Speaker 1>like easy prey. They like easy prey. A twenty one

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<v Speaker 1>year old is easy prey like grown women need a

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<v Speaker 1>lot more shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's easier. They pussy's tirer. She's twenty one cutchie,

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<v Speaker 2>real tight.

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<v Speaker 1>That's who, okay, because what I've heard about.

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<v Speaker 2>Me girl tooper tight.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a lot of loose ass twenty one year olds

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<v Speaker 1>out here, got way more bodies than us.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I agree, But I feel like my ship is

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<v Speaker 2>still good too. I ain't pushing no baby out. Yeah

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still good.

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<v Speaker 1>But right, I don't even got no gray hair, but

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<v Speaker 1>be very.

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<v Speaker 2>Clear, Oh no, I can't. I can't attest to that

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<v Speaker 2>this thing got some wisdom on it.

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<v Speaker 1>I got one gray hair that keep popping out my

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<v Speaker 1>middle finger. That's it on your finger, that's it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's crazy, and I bite that ship out every time.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you to get rid of gray hair.

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<v Speaker 1>If y'all got granny pussy around here, y'all gotta take

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<v Speaker 1>nice and it's like B B three vitamins that gets

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<v Speaker 1>your black hair growing back.

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<v Speaker 2>Interesting. I don't listen. I don't have no hair down there,

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<v Speaker 2>so I don't know what it looked like. It's bad.

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<v Speaker 1>When the hair growing, it's gonna be Granny the girl.

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<v Speaker 3>Fuck you all right, y'all, So today we want to

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<v Speaker 3>talk about because I haven't seen some stuff online, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I like to say we talk back as

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<v Speaker 3>dedicated to young women.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys can live vicuriously through all dumbit shit, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know, how do you catch How do you not

0:20:05.720 --> 0:20:10.159
<v Speaker 1>catch feelings when dealing with men? When when dating? Is

0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:19.000
<v Speaker 1>it possible to not catch feelings? So? I mean, you know, women,

0:20:19.240 --> 0:20:22.719
<v Speaker 1>we are emotional beings, That's what niggas be saying. But

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like men are actually way more emotional than us.

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<v Speaker 1>But sometimes we might hallucinate a little bit. Sometimes we

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<v Speaker 1>may get things misconscrewed when engaging with the oppositieve sec.

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<v Speaker 1>So how do you have We've already had an episode

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<v Speaker 1>on dating and like the different levels of dating, but

0:20:44.960 --> 0:20:50.360
<v Speaker 1>how do you actually date without catching feelings for someone?

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<v Speaker 2>But let me ask you this, why are we dating

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<v Speaker 2>and not trying to catch feelings. That's what I don't understand, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>my whole goal is to always catch feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes women catch feelings with everybody that they're dating. Though,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the problem if you're not dating multiple people at

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<v Speaker 1>one time. I'm saying, like, if you're honing in on

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<v Speaker 1>this one person and you're catching feelings and they aren't,

0:21:17.760 --> 0:21:21.720
<v Speaker 1>it's a problem, is it not.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you don't want to be the only one in

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<v Speaker 2>your feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So I think a lot of times we may

0:21:28.400 --> 0:21:33.320
<v Speaker 1>go into relationships or situations for different reasons, right. I

0:21:33.320 --> 0:21:36.359
<v Speaker 1>think most women probably date with intent, Right. We're not

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<v Speaker 1>just out here entertaining men without the hopes of the

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<v Speaker 1>of the situation going to the next level. Right. But

0:21:42.920 --> 0:21:47.840
<v Speaker 1>men oftentimes are dating to have sex, that's it. They

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<v Speaker 1>might have five dates this week and instead of dating

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<v Speaker 1>one person that they really like, who they know is

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<v Speaker 1>going to give them some cucci, they're just dating five

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<v Speaker 1>people to see how many they can get kucci from

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<v Speaker 1>for the week.

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<v Speaker 2>But I know it's women who date five people to

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<v Speaker 2>have dinner all week.

0:22:12.640 --> 0:22:15.359
<v Speaker 1>Call those dinner wars. And that's fine too, But at

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<v Speaker 1>least one of those dudes she actually likes and is

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<v Speaker 1>probably not trying to play with like that. Yeah, I agree,

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<v Speaker 1>But so how do you avoid catching feelings for someone?

0:22:24.960 --> 0:22:28.920
<v Speaker 1>Isn't always entirely within your control, but here are some

0:22:29.000 --> 0:22:34.720
<v Speaker 1>strategies to help minimize the chances. And this is and

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<v Speaker 1>this could be if you're dating multiple people and you're

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<v Speaker 1>really trying to I feel like sometimes black women have

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<v Speaker 1>attachment issues. It could be all women, but I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>saying for us, we're not used to dating. Right to me,

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<v Speaker 1>you get I think from childhood, we're told to go

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<v Speaker 1>to school, get money. We're not like dating how white

0:22:58.680 --> 0:23:03.040
<v Speaker 1>girls get to date at a young age. So once

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<v Speaker 1>we get like people, we be holding on to them

0:23:06.000 --> 0:23:09.000
<v Speaker 1>or really like we stay in situations relationships too long,

0:23:09.080 --> 0:23:11.359
<v Speaker 1>let them go and move on to the next person.

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<v Speaker 1>So you can you know, as you're doing this, you're

0:23:14.440 --> 0:23:16.199
<v Speaker 1>you're seeing what it is that you want, what you

0:23:16.200 --> 0:23:18.360
<v Speaker 1>don't want. You're not staying in a bad situation too

0:23:18.400 --> 0:23:20.480
<v Speaker 1>fucking long and missing blessings and all the good shit,

0:23:21.080 --> 0:23:23.359
<v Speaker 1>missing the person you're actually supposed to be.

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<v Speaker 2>He never took them on a date, and that's crazy.

0:23:27.720 --> 0:23:31.080
<v Speaker 1>And you're hallucinating like now you're now you have feelings

0:23:31.080 --> 0:23:35.280
<v Speaker 1>with somebody who has done nothing for you, nothing emotionally,

0:23:35.400 --> 0:23:37.440
<v Speaker 1>nothing financially, nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>Just dicking you down.

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<v Speaker 1>That's it.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you hear this and you know that, stupid

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<v Speaker 2>you better leader you want to before the get here.

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<v Speaker 1>But even getting dicked down, like, how do you avoid

0:23:48.160 --> 0:23:52.320
<v Speaker 1>emotions when getting dicked down? Like I don't hallucinate even

0:23:52.359 --> 0:23:54.560
<v Speaker 1>when I'm getting good dick from somebody. I at the

0:23:54.640 --> 0:23:57.320
<v Speaker 1>minute I see some shit I don't fucking like like nowadays,

0:23:57.320 --> 0:23:58.840
<v Speaker 1>and it's it's a place I had to get to.

0:23:59.160 --> 0:24:03.040
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't happen. You just turn your emotions off like

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<v Speaker 1>that overnight.

0:24:04.359 --> 0:24:05.879
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, that doesn't work for me. That's why I

0:24:05.880 --> 0:24:07.919
<v Speaker 2>have to be very selective about who I give my

0:24:07.960 --> 0:24:10.680
<v Speaker 2>pussy to, because as soon as he hit it, I'd.

0:24:10.480 --> 0:24:11.679
<v Speaker 1>Be like, we love.

0:24:12.000 --> 0:24:12.719
<v Speaker 2>I'm a marial.

0:24:15.280 --> 0:24:16.920
<v Speaker 1>I can be like that one day and the next

0:24:17.000 --> 0:24:20.080
<v Speaker 1>day I'm not. So maybe it's some Gemini shit. I

0:24:20.080 --> 0:24:23.200
<v Speaker 1>don't know. No, I got a high tolerance for some bush.

0:24:23.320 --> 0:24:25.240
<v Speaker 1>And then I'll wake and be like I don't want

0:24:25.240 --> 0:24:29.800
<v Speaker 1>this anymore, see and I'm out cold turkey and nigga

0:24:29.880 --> 0:24:30.359
<v Speaker 1>real quick.

0:24:30.480 --> 0:24:34.119
<v Speaker 2>It takes me a long time to uh, really really

0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:36.120
<v Speaker 2>really be locked in. But once I'm locked in, it's

0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:40.320
<v Speaker 2>hard to get me away. Like, oh, we go together, nigga,

0:24:40.320 --> 0:24:41.400
<v Speaker 2>where you thought you was going?

0:24:42.520 --> 0:24:45.040
<v Speaker 1>It depends on how we had sex. If we use

0:24:45.080 --> 0:24:48.880
<v Speaker 1>the condom, I'm not studying your ass. Real you start

0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:51.560
<v Speaker 1>hitting that pussy ride you're my husband? Where are you

0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:53.119
<v Speaker 1>like what you thought this was?

0:24:53.200 --> 0:24:54.600
<v Speaker 2>No, it don't make no difference for me.

0:24:55.400 --> 0:24:57.840
<v Speaker 1>Nah, it make it like I'm not studying no condom, Dick.

0:24:58.960 --> 0:24:59.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like.

0:24:59.560 --> 0:25:00.800
<v Speaker 1>I lost anything.

0:25:01.000 --> 0:25:04.399
<v Speaker 2>It don't count if we use the condom. It's how you.

0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:06.720
<v Speaker 1>No, I'm not saying it doesn't count, but as far

0:25:06.760 --> 0:25:09.080
<v Speaker 1>as like the dick is not that good with plastic

0:25:09.119 --> 0:25:11.320
<v Speaker 1>on it, Like I'm not falling in love with condom, Dick.

0:25:12.600 --> 0:25:15.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm not falling in love with condom, Dick. It's only

0:25:15.440 --> 0:25:20.600
<v Speaker 1>when like we haven't, like weeded sex with no condom,

0:25:20.800 --> 0:25:24.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm going nuts. Yeah, But even at that point, like

0:25:24.280 --> 0:25:27.280
<v Speaker 1>I know when to get the fuck on through and

0:25:27.359 --> 0:25:31.479
<v Speaker 1>I'm in dragged nothing lie, I'm done with it. But

0:25:32.000 --> 0:25:36.439
<v Speaker 1>the first thing, y'all set boundaries, right, and then I

0:25:36.480 --> 0:25:40.520
<v Speaker 1>think we all know this right. But applying these things sometimes,

0:25:40.680 --> 0:25:43.480
<v Speaker 1>Dick can Maybe you shouldn't have sex.

0:25:43.520 --> 0:25:46.600
<v Speaker 2>Don't let them come to your house and don't go

0:25:46.640 --> 0:25:48.639
<v Speaker 2>to their house when you first meet a niggas, stop

0:25:48.680 --> 0:25:51.800
<v Speaker 2>letting it be our first date. Yeah, come in to chill.

0:25:52.400 --> 0:25:53.840
<v Speaker 2>Stop letting niggas do that.

0:25:54.840 --> 0:25:57.159
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I don't go in closed settings with men. I

0:25:57.160 --> 0:25:59.480
<v Speaker 1>don't plan on having sex with. If I say I'm

0:25:59.520 --> 0:26:01.800
<v Speaker 1>coming to your house, you're coming to fuck, you better

0:26:01.880 --> 0:26:07.760
<v Speaker 1>be ready to fuck otherwise it's outside activity. Yeah, I agree,

0:26:08.040 --> 0:26:12.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, so set boundaries. Be clear with yourself. You

0:26:12.080 --> 0:26:15.040
<v Speaker 1>heard that. Be clear with yourself first about what you're

0:26:15.080 --> 0:26:18.600
<v Speaker 1>looking for and what you're not willing to tolerate in

0:26:18.600 --> 0:26:25.200
<v Speaker 1>a relationship. Stick to those boundaries. I think sometimes when

0:26:25.240 --> 0:26:28.280
<v Speaker 1>you add sex and for women it does because, like

0:26:28.320 --> 0:26:30.000
<v Speaker 1>I said, men they just they can have sex with

0:26:30.000 --> 0:26:32.160
<v Speaker 1>one hundred different women and they don't have feelings with anybody.

0:26:33.960 --> 0:26:37.479
<v Speaker 1>But women we get confused because unless you are a

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:42.800
<v Speaker 1>car hopper or a prostitute, you know, aka prostitute, like

0:26:42.840 --> 0:26:46.119
<v Speaker 1>your pussy literally runs straight to your heart. So the

0:26:46.160 --> 0:26:49.040
<v Speaker 1>minute you start having sex with somebody, unless you really really.

0:26:48.880 --> 0:26:51.160
<v Speaker 2>Just but I don't know, because these young girls kind

0:26:51.160 --> 0:26:54.399
<v Speaker 2>of different now, they're kind of different. Grown men, grown

0:26:54.520 --> 0:26:58.720
<v Speaker 2>asks men, how did you do that, teach me.

0:27:02.240 --> 0:27:08.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I can't, I can't, I can't neither.

0:27:09.320 --> 0:27:12.679
<v Speaker 1>Focusing on yourself, so have all the things you like

0:27:12.760 --> 0:27:15.200
<v Speaker 1>to do, keep doing those things. When you start dealing

0:27:15.200 --> 0:27:17.560
<v Speaker 1>with a man. You don't always have to be super

0:27:17.600 --> 0:27:23.240
<v Speaker 1>available for somebody you're just dating, So keep busy. Focus

0:27:23.280 --> 0:27:26.280
<v Speaker 1>on yourself. Invest time and energy into your own interest, hobbies,

0:27:26.320 --> 0:27:29.560
<v Speaker 1>and personal growth. The more fulfilled you are independently, the

0:27:29.680 --> 0:27:32.359
<v Speaker 1>less you might feel the need for emotional attachment to

0:27:32.400 --> 0:27:36.680
<v Speaker 1>someone else. Don't give up your hobbies, bitch.

0:27:36.680 --> 0:27:39.960
<v Speaker 2>Right and your friends they busy. A lot of girls

0:27:39.960 --> 0:27:41.800
<v Speaker 2>start seeing a nigga and then don't be friends with

0:27:41.840 --> 0:27:43.400
<v Speaker 2>their friends no more, Like I.

0:27:43.359 --> 0:27:46.040
<v Speaker 1>Don't like them type of bitches. I can't stand them,

0:27:46.119 --> 0:27:48.320
<v Speaker 1>like and I feel like they're usually capricorns.

0:27:50.280 --> 0:27:51.520
<v Speaker 2>All the caricorns offended.

0:27:51.600 --> 0:27:56.600
<v Speaker 1>Well, when capricorns get a man.

0:27:57.680 --> 0:28:01.040
<v Speaker 2>Don't even for them, just somebody dealing with Like, damn,

0:28:01.200 --> 0:28:02.480
<v Speaker 2>are we still friends? Bitch?

0:28:03.080 --> 0:28:05.960
<v Speaker 1>You're not gonna hear from them until that relationship start

0:28:06.040 --> 0:28:08.520
<v Speaker 1>going south and they need somebody to call and talk

0:28:08.560 --> 0:28:11.840
<v Speaker 1>shit with other than that, like if they're in bliss

0:28:12.040 --> 0:28:14.800
<v Speaker 1>whatever with whoever, Like they don't have any friends. They

0:28:14.800 --> 0:28:18.359
<v Speaker 1>fixate on whomever they're in a relationship with. That's a problem.

0:28:18.440 --> 0:28:20.320
<v Speaker 1>You gotta find balance. You gotta know how to balance

0:28:20.359 --> 0:28:23.600
<v Speaker 1>relationships and friendship, because, bitch, one of these days you

0:28:23.640 --> 0:28:25.239
<v Speaker 1>gonna call me and I ain't gonna answer for your

0:28:25.280 --> 0:28:28.639
<v Speaker 1>ass no more. You can't be treating me like that.

0:28:29.400 --> 0:28:31.919
<v Speaker 2>My uh, one of my friends got married, which I'm

0:28:31.960 --> 0:28:34.480
<v Speaker 2>happy for her marriage and all that, like I love them,

0:28:34.560 --> 0:28:38.360
<v Speaker 2>But now I can't FaceTime you had twelve o'clock no more.

0:28:38.720 --> 0:28:41.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm into bed with my husband Timmy bitch, you was

0:28:41.800 --> 0:28:45.360
<v Speaker 2>in the bed with your boyfriend before, and I used

0:28:45.400 --> 0:28:47.400
<v Speaker 2>to be able to FaceTime you down here your husband.

0:28:47.400 --> 0:28:49.320
<v Speaker 1>I can't face Tiba at night no more. You meant

0:28:49.320 --> 0:28:51.080
<v Speaker 1>by I had you meant by? I had a fucking

0:28:51.120 --> 0:28:56.200
<v Speaker 1>bad time, Yes, yeah, you yall. I used to have

0:28:56.240 --> 0:28:57.120
<v Speaker 1>a fucking curfew.

0:28:57.120 --> 0:28:59.800
<v Speaker 2>I couldn't even call her at night. Girl.

0:29:00.360 --> 0:29:01.880
<v Speaker 1>This bitch used to be like, girl, I gotta go

0:29:01.920 --> 0:29:06.080
<v Speaker 1>to bed. What you got it?

0:29:06.480 --> 0:29:07.160
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to.

0:29:07.360 --> 0:29:12.320
<v Speaker 1>But yes, it didn't even matter what the fuck I

0:29:12.400 --> 0:29:13.680
<v Speaker 1>was doing. I could have been in the middle of

0:29:13.680 --> 0:29:16.560
<v Speaker 1>writing my journal or something. Nigga turning light off on me, bitch,

0:29:16.680 --> 0:29:20.080
<v Speaker 1>like straight disrespect I'm time to go to sleep, and

0:29:20.160 --> 0:29:22.040
<v Speaker 1>I do have a problem sleeping at night. I feel

0:29:22.040 --> 0:29:24.280
<v Speaker 1>like this is just two different people. I don't think

0:29:24.320 --> 0:29:26.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm supposed to sleep at night. I like when the

0:29:26.880 --> 0:29:29.680
<v Speaker 1>rest of the world is you're not turning, I think, yeah,

0:29:29.720 --> 0:29:33.080
<v Speaker 1>I think better when everybody else is like like everybody

0:29:33.120 --> 0:29:35.800
<v Speaker 1>else as sleep, I'm up thinking of a master plan.

0:29:35.920 --> 0:29:38.680
<v Speaker 1>Like that's when I do my best work daytime. I'm

0:29:38.720 --> 0:29:39.520
<v Speaker 1>not a morning person.

0:29:39.600 --> 0:29:43.480
<v Speaker 2>Not that nigga. That nigga said it's nine o'clock, so bitch.

0:29:44.000 --> 0:29:45.760
<v Speaker 2>I used to be laid in the bed like just

0:29:45.800 --> 0:29:48.080
<v Speaker 2>couldn't sleep like a kid. She's like mad, you like

0:29:48.160 --> 0:29:49.840
<v Speaker 2>text me, I can't.

0:29:49.560 --> 0:29:58.160
<v Speaker 1>Talk shit day So keep keep your keep your hobbies, man,

0:29:58.240 --> 0:30:01.760
<v Speaker 1>stay busy. When dayton, you know, don't meet somebody and

0:30:01.800 --> 0:30:06.480
<v Speaker 1>then you automatically start fixating and working them into your

0:30:06.480 --> 0:30:09.760
<v Speaker 1>lives because men don't work that way. You know, men

0:30:09.840 --> 0:30:13.800
<v Speaker 1>are loyal to themselves first. That's the problem. A lot

0:30:13.840 --> 0:30:17.160
<v Speaker 1>of women we give up who we are for relationships.

0:30:17.240 --> 0:30:22.280
<v Speaker 1>Don't do that. Keep perspective. Remind yourself of the reasons

0:30:22.320 --> 0:30:24.800
<v Speaker 1>why catch your feelings might not be ideal for you

0:30:24.880 --> 0:30:28.520
<v Speaker 1>at the moment. Reflect on past experiences to understand patterns

0:30:28.560 --> 0:30:31.320
<v Speaker 1>and potential pitfalls. You got all these dumb bitch stories.

0:30:31.720 --> 0:30:34.120
<v Speaker 2>Listen, when I start cutting up, when I start getting

0:30:34.120 --> 0:30:36.440
<v Speaker 2>to in my head about a nigga that ain't my nigga,

0:30:36.480 --> 0:30:39.440
<v Speaker 2>I put on flow MILLI. That is not my nigga.

0:30:39.680 --> 0:30:41.920
<v Speaker 2>That's all I play that. I have to remind myself

0:30:44.040 --> 0:30:44.920
<v Speaker 2>it's not your nigga.

0:30:44.920 --> 0:30:47.200
<v Speaker 1>Heard that one I like flow Milly. I hadn't heard

0:30:47.240 --> 0:30:47.640
<v Speaker 1>that song.

0:30:48.000 --> 0:30:49.960
<v Speaker 2>Well, I won't send it to you because that's my

0:30:50.240 --> 0:30:51.480
<v Speaker 2>That's one of my gym songs.

0:30:52.360 --> 0:30:54.600
<v Speaker 1>So if you got to think about all the bad

0:30:54.640 --> 0:30:58.240
<v Speaker 1>shit that transpired in a previous relationship to help you,

0:30:58.400 --> 0:31:01.360
<v Speaker 1>like steady your mind in this current thing you're doing,

0:31:01.920 --> 0:31:02.480
<v Speaker 1>then do that.

0:31:02.560 --> 0:31:03.720
<v Speaker 2>Oh that's bad advice.

0:31:04.160 --> 0:31:06.320
<v Speaker 1>If you start seeing some path No, if you start

0:31:06.320 --> 0:31:10.400
<v Speaker 1>seeing patterns from a previous situation, Okay, I always go

0:31:10.480 --> 0:31:12.280
<v Speaker 1>into a new situation. I'd be ready to I like

0:31:12.320 --> 0:31:14.320
<v Speaker 1>first dates. I be ready to fall in love again.

0:31:14.480 --> 0:31:18.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm never scared. Okay, I don't ever let like previous shit.

0:31:19.520 --> 0:31:21.200
<v Speaker 2>But I don't think you should let the old shit

0:31:21.280 --> 0:31:22.360
<v Speaker 2>got the new shit though.

0:31:23.440 --> 0:31:25.920
<v Speaker 1>Just no, absolutely not. But still be on the lookout,

0:31:26.320 --> 0:31:29.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, go in with not with your fucking eyes

0:31:29.880 --> 0:31:32.560
<v Speaker 1>closed every time. Yeah, not saying that every man is

0:31:32.600 --> 0:31:35.800
<v Speaker 1>the same, Absolutely not, And sometimes we gotta change it.

0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:38.600
<v Speaker 1>Don't even be like you you're attracting the same thing

0:31:38.640 --> 0:31:42.400
<v Speaker 1>because you haven't changed yet, right, I agree there. Yeah,

0:31:42.440 --> 0:31:45.600
<v Speaker 1>So I'm not saying, like, just discard people because you

0:31:45.680 --> 0:31:47.960
<v Speaker 1>see some shit that I mean sometimes I don't know.

0:31:48.480 --> 0:31:52.120
<v Speaker 2>I mean, if you start seeing rag flags that are familiar,

0:31:52.240 --> 0:31:55.320
<v Speaker 2>definitely you know, exit stage left. But don't be taking

0:31:55.320 --> 0:31:59.480
<v Speaker 2>that old baggage in the new shit and then spasing

0:31:59.520 --> 0:32:01.480
<v Speaker 2>on a nigga because of something the nigga did before

0:32:01.960 --> 0:32:02.720
<v Speaker 2>I done did that.

0:32:02.640 --> 0:32:03.320
<v Speaker 1>So you don't do that.

0:32:03.320 --> 0:32:06.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm about to say I've done that, and I didn't

0:32:06.480 --> 0:32:08.640
<v Speaker 2>even realize I was doing it till it was already done.

0:32:08.680 --> 0:32:12.120
<v Speaker 2>I was like, damn, I overreacted, didn't I Then I

0:32:12.120 --> 0:32:25.360
<v Speaker 2>started did you apolog I started crying. I missed my grandma.

0:32:22.120 --> 0:32:28.320
<v Speaker 1>Shit manipulation boy, Grandma. Remember one time I was crying

0:32:28.320 --> 0:32:30.120
<v Speaker 1>buy some shit, like I know, I was dead ass

0:32:30.160 --> 0:32:32.320
<v Speaker 1>fucking ross. I bust out crying and was like shut

0:32:32.360 --> 0:32:39.240
<v Speaker 1>that fake ask right, caught with a whole nigga in

0:32:39.240 --> 0:32:40.680
<v Speaker 1>the phone, all type of weard shit.

0:32:40.760 --> 0:32:41.280
<v Speaker 2>I was doing.

0:32:41.360 --> 0:32:44.920
<v Speaker 1>Man, Look still, I just want grace because I seen

0:32:45.000 --> 0:32:46.640
<v Speaker 1>some shit on your fucking phone. I didn't bother you

0:32:46.720 --> 0:32:49.480
<v Speaker 1>about it. I mind, I goddamn business because I choose

0:32:49.520 --> 0:32:51.800
<v Speaker 1>to be happy every day. Why are you choosing violence?

0:32:51.840 --> 0:32:51.920
<v Speaker 2>Right?

0:32:53.080 --> 0:32:55.000
<v Speaker 1>We all got some shit going. I seen some shit

0:32:55.080 --> 0:32:57.800
<v Speaker 1>the other day in a nigga phone, and look, I

0:32:57.800 --> 0:32:59.880
<v Speaker 1>ain't gonna bring it up, so I do some shit.

0:33:04.640 --> 0:33:06.640
<v Speaker 1>I told that nigga. I was like, shit, I could

0:33:06.680 --> 0:33:08.640
<v Speaker 1>beast out on you right now, but I want to

0:33:08.680 --> 0:33:10.040
<v Speaker 1>be happy, right the fuck.

0:33:10.680 --> 0:33:11.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna let you have that.

0:33:13.360 --> 0:33:16.360
<v Speaker 1>Date others. Okay, this is the thing that men understand

0:33:16.360 --> 0:33:18.400
<v Speaker 1>and women don't. We don't know how to date, like

0:33:18.480 --> 0:33:21.320
<v Speaker 1>what dating actually is, Like, you don't just you're not

0:33:21.360 --> 0:33:23.840
<v Speaker 1>supposed to just be hanging out with one person. You're

0:33:23.840 --> 0:33:27.400
<v Speaker 1>supposed to have a roster unless until you're exclusively dating.

0:33:27.480 --> 0:33:30.880
<v Speaker 1>Then you're supposed to date multiple people. You should be yeah, yeah,

0:33:31.040 --> 0:33:33.600
<v Speaker 1>keep your options open, like stop getting this one dude

0:33:33.680 --> 0:33:35.080
<v Speaker 1>you like him, But Dayton, don't.

0:33:34.920 --> 0:33:35.959
<v Speaker 2>Mean fuck y'all.

0:33:37.200 --> 0:33:39.280
<v Speaker 1>That's where we be having shit fucked up.

0:33:39.440 --> 0:33:42.440
<v Speaker 2>And people just have sex so quick now, like two

0:33:42.520 --> 0:33:45.360
<v Speaker 2>three days and they already having sex. I ain't doing that.

0:33:45.360 --> 0:33:48.000
<v Speaker 1>If I if I've ever had sex quick with a man,

0:33:48.400 --> 0:33:50.800
<v Speaker 1>I really just wanted to fuck. Yeah, I already know

0:33:50.840 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 1>what time it is. I may not even be expected.

0:33:53.080 --> 0:33:55.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm not expecting nothing. I have no expectations if I

0:33:55.560 --> 0:33:57.800
<v Speaker 1>give that pussy up quick. But I think like that's

0:33:57.840 --> 0:33:58.840
<v Speaker 1>like almost a standard.

0:33:58.880 --> 0:33:59.000
<v Speaker 2>Now.

0:33:59.040 --> 0:34:00.960
<v Speaker 1>Niggas think they supposed to have sex with you by

0:34:00.960 --> 0:34:03.520
<v Speaker 1>the third day because another woman did.

0:34:03.600 --> 0:34:04.120
<v Speaker 2>That's crazy.

0:34:04.120 --> 0:34:06.120
<v Speaker 1>That's why we set the standards. We got it. We

0:34:06.240 --> 0:34:08.919
<v Speaker 1>never all want to be on one accord. But that's

0:34:08.920 --> 0:34:11.160
<v Speaker 1>why you have to let that man know what your

0:34:11.200 --> 0:34:11.960
<v Speaker 1>standard is. Deal.

0:34:12.160 --> 0:34:14.439
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, I haven't even used my passport yet,

0:34:14.440 --> 0:34:14.839
<v Speaker 2>what are.

0:34:14.719 --> 0:34:18.200
<v Speaker 1>You talking about? You ain't did nothing yet, you ain't

0:34:18.239 --> 0:34:19.720
<v Speaker 1>invested no money yet, nothing.

0:34:19.760 --> 0:34:21.520
<v Speaker 2>No, you ain't made me feel Always let niggas know.

0:34:21.600 --> 0:34:23.880
<v Speaker 2>I need to be made to feel special and that

0:34:24.040 --> 0:34:26.000
<v Speaker 2>and that's and that's what it's gonna take. You know,

0:34:26.080 --> 0:34:28.480
<v Speaker 2>it's not gonna be just some dinners. It needs to

0:34:28.520 --> 0:34:31.399
<v Speaker 2>be conversation communication. I need to know that you really

0:34:31.400 --> 0:34:33.920
<v Speaker 2>fuck with me before I do that with you. At

0:34:33.920 --> 0:34:36.359
<v Speaker 2>this stage in my life. Should have caught me in.

0:34:36.440 --> 0:34:38.040
<v Speaker 1>I need I need something.

0:34:38.080 --> 0:34:39.759
<v Speaker 2>You should have caught me a benedict. My boy, if

0:34:39.760 --> 0:34:45.000
<v Speaker 2>that's what you was trying to do, I'm grown. I

0:34:45.000 --> 0:34:47.200
<v Speaker 2>ain't with that. I'm not on that type of time.

0:34:49.800 --> 0:34:52.640
<v Speaker 2>Especially these roses then came out. They're then fuck the game.

0:34:52.480 --> 0:34:55.839
<v Speaker 1>Up for y'all for real. Once you come, you come

0:34:55.880 --> 0:34:56.680
<v Speaker 1>to your senses.

0:34:56.800 --> 0:34:58.280
<v Speaker 2>Man, two minutes I'll be sleep.

0:35:04.760 --> 0:35:08.680
<v Speaker 1>So date others. Keep your options open. Keeping your options

0:35:08.719 --> 0:35:11.680
<v Speaker 1>open can help prevent you from fixating on one person.

0:35:11.960 --> 0:35:15.120
<v Speaker 1>This doesn't mean leading anyone on, but rather exploring different

0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:20.200
<v Speaker 1>connections without getting too emotionally invested. Stay grounded, Be mindful

0:35:20.239 --> 0:35:25.120
<v Speaker 1>of idolizing the person or projecting unrealistic expectations onto them.

0:35:25.560 --> 0:35:28.520
<v Speaker 1>Try to see them as they are, flaws and all.

0:35:29.080 --> 0:35:31.600
<v Speaker 1>I think we always fall in love with the potential

0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:34.240
<v Speaker 1>of men and men men do the same thing with women,

0:35:34.520 --> 0:35:37.319
<v Speaker 1>right Because I'm not out here saying no fucked up women,

0:35:37.360 --> 0:35:37.839
<v Speaker 1>because there are.

0:35:38.040 --> 0:35:40.560
<v Speaker 2>Ooh, let me tell y'all the story. It was this

0:35:40.760 --> 0:35:45.280
<v Speaker 2>actor that I really liked his character on the movie

0:35:45.280 --> 0:35:51.160
<v Speaker 2>he was in, and I slid his DMS. We became friends,

0:35:51.320 --> 0:35:54.680
<v Speaker 2>we started hanging out, and.

0:35:55.000 --> 0:35:58.080
<v Speaker 1>He was not the same nigga as the character. I

0:35:58.120 --> 0:36:04.880
<v Speaker 1>was like, I like your care They're better EO you.

0:36:04.960 --> 0:36:08.440
<v Speaker 1>Most actors are lame. Most rappers are fucking lame when

0:36:08.480 --> 0:36:10.879
<v Speaker 1>you actually get to know them, like they schizophrenic.

0:36:10.960 --> 0:36:13.200
<v Speaker 2>My feelings was so hurt. I was like, damn, your

0:36:13.239 --> 0:36:18.000
<v Speaker 2>character way cooler than you are. So I was idolizing

0:36:18.080 --> 0:36:20.879
<v Speaker 2>this person who wasn't even that person, you know.

0:36:21.000 --> 0:36:23.240
<v Speaker 1>And yeah he was acting. But most men are acting

0:36:23.239 --> 0:36:25.640
<v Speaker 1>when you first meet them, you meeting their representatives.

0:36:25.640 --> 0:36:28.160
<v Speaker 2>Most people, though not just men, women do that shit too.

0:36:28.440 --> 0:36:30.840
<v Speaker 2>You don't meet they crazy, they insecure and all that

0:36:30.880 --> 0:36:31.640
<v Speaker 2>shit at first.

0:36:33.480 --> 0:36:35.279
<v Speaker 1>I try to put all that shit out when you

0:36:35.320 --> 0:36:35.960
<v Speaker 1>first meet.

0:36:35.800 --> 0:36:37.400
<v Speaker 2>Me, you're crazy, insecure?

0:36:37.520 --> 0:36:39.680
<v Speaker 1>Yes, So you can't say I changed.

0:36:39.480 --> 0:36:42.560
<v Speaker 2>Non They're gonna be like, I didn't even know this

0:36:42.760 --> 0:36:48.640
<v Speaker 2>was you. I don't. I mean, there's no reason to

0:36:48.719 --> 0:36:53.359
<v Speaker 2>present your crazy or insecure in the beginning, right What

0:36:53.400 --> 0:36:55.120
<v Speaker 2>would be the reason to have that shit, that shit

0:36:55.200 --> 0:36:55.880
<v Speaker 2>come out gradually?

0:36:55.920 --> 0:36:59.480
<v Speaker 1>Why? I know, people people do learn your insecurity like crazy,

0:36:59.560 --> 0:37:01.880
<v Speaker 1>Like my crazy could be different, My crazy could be fun.

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:05.319
<v Speaker 2>Yeah you know, yeah, yeah.

0:37:05.120 --> 0:37:09.160
<v Speaker 1>It's not like I don't have a reason to beast

0:37:09.160 --> 0:37:12.640
<v Speaker 1>out on you right now, crazy, but my regular crazy

0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:18.160
<v Speaker 1>is funy. I agree. I'm a little eccentric sometimes the.

0:37:18.080 --> 0:37:22.120
<v Speaker 2>Bitch walk around with a microphone, so, bitch, because you're

0:37:22.120 --> 0:37:26.320
<v Speaker 2>gonna hear it. How many bitches y'all know, got a

0:37:26.360 --> 0:37:31.520
<v Speaker 2>microphone in the purse, like a karaoke microphone, like with

0:37:31.600 --> 0:37:34.239
<v Speaker 2>a speaker built into that. Bitch, just walking around with

0:37:34.320 --> 0:37:35.439
<v Speaker 2>it in a person.

0:37:36.120 --> 0:37:40.400
<v Speaker 1>You're gonna hear me. Maintain distance, okay, limit the amount

0:37:40.440 --> 0:37:42.440
<v Speaker 1>of time you spend with the person you're trying not

0:37:42.520 --> 0:37:45.200
<v Speaker 1>to catch feelings for it. This might mean avoiding one

0:37:45.239 --> 0:37:51.000
<v Speaker 1>on one situations or setting boundaries around communication. Stop being available, bitch,

0:37:52.239 --> 0:37:55.120
<v Speaker 1>Let that phone ring a couple times, call him back.

0:37:56.360 --> 0:37:58.399
<v Speaker 1>You could just you know, you could be sitting there

0:37:58.400 --> 0:38:00.320
<v Speaker 1>looking at it, wanting to pick it up so bad.

0:38:01.120 --> 0:38:03.960
<v Speaker 1>You cannot let people think that. And I feel like

0:38:04.000 --> 0:38:06.320
<v Speaker 1>that's why women be falling in love with men oftentimes

0:38:06.360 --> 0:38:09.920
<v Speaker 1>because men they don't intentionally we have to intentionally not

0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:14.480
<v Speaker 1>be available, right. Men just naturally do them right. They

0:38:14.480 --> 0:38:17.839
<v Speaker 1>don't just intentionally not answer the phone. Like when when

0:38:17.840 --> 0:38:20.040
<v Speaker 1>a woman likes a guy like, were going to be available.

0:38:20.239 --> 0:38:22.520
<v Speaker 1>You don't want to play no games, but for men

0:38:22.640 --> 0:38:25.239
<v Speaker 1>to get there. To me, that's not how you get men.

0:38:25.400 --> 0:38:27.640
<v Speaker 1>I think making them spend money is how you actually

0:38:27.760 --> 0:38:31.560
<v Speaker 1>keep and get them, get them and keep. Men like investments.

0:38:31.680 --> 0:38:35.399
<v Speaker 1>Like we value our pussy, they value they pocket. So

0:38:35.960 --> 0:38:38.120
<v Speaker 1>if you want to keep a man, you got to

0:38:38.160 --> 0:38:42.960
<v Speaker 1>make them spend some fucking money.

0:38:43.360 --> 0:38:45.520
<v Speaker 2>Especially with men who got a lot of money, you

0:38:45.680 --> 0:38:48.000
<v Speaker 2>just another commodity at that point.

0:38:48.680 --> 0:38:51.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I think even with them, even with them, listen,

0:38:51.480 --> 0:38:53.399
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you gots some people who just be out

0:38:53.440 --> 0:38:56.040
<v Speaker 1>here just spending money. But I don't talking about regular men.

0:38:56.080 --> 0:38:59.200
<v Speaker 1>Everybody don't have access to ballers, So I'm just talking

0:38:59.239 --> 0:39:00.879
<v Speaker 1>about regular men. And it ain't how much they make

0:39:00.880 --> 0:39:03.719
<v Speaker 1>and how much they willing to spend on you. So

0:39:03.800 --> 0:39:06.200
<v Speaker 1>if you make a man invest in you, he's more

0:39:06.400 --> 0:39:09.160
<v Speaker 1>likely to stay, And if you want to get married,

0:39:09.239 --> 0:39:11.640
<v Speaker 1>he's more likely to stay with that investment. He's more

0:39:11.719 --> 0:39:14.920
<v Speaker 1>likely to engage with that investment because he's been paying

0:39:14.960 --> 0:39:24.720
<v Speaker 1>all your fucking bills for the last year. So stop putting.

0:39:24.840 --> 0:39:26.799
<v Speaker 1>I think I said this earlier. Don't put yourself in

0:39:26.880 --> 0:39:29.200
<v Speaker 1>closed settings with men unless you want to have sex

0:39:29.239 --> 0:39:31.840
<v Speaker 1>with them, Like it's not cool. I feel like that

0:39:31.960 --> 0:39:34.600
<v Speaker 1>might be teasing a little bit, because in a man's mind,

0:39:34.640 --> 0:39:37.160
<v Speaker 1>if you come to my house, if I fly you out,

0:39:37.200 --> 0:39:39.800
<v Speaker 1>somewhere you obviously having sex, right.

0:39:40.800 --> 0:39:42.879
<v Speaker 2>That's what they in their minds, right, that's what they think.

0:39:43.680 --> 0:39:47.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so you gotta let them know. But you don't.

0:39:47.440 --> 0:39:49.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't give a damn where he fly you. You don't

0:39:49.200 --> 0:39:51.239
<v Speaker 2>owe nobody your body, and if you ain't feeling it,

0:39:51.239 --> 0:39:55.880
<v Speaker 2>don't do it right. Absolutely, and always have your own money.

0:39:57.080 --> 0:39:58.120
<v Speaker 2>Don't fly nowhere.

0:39:57.880 --> 0:40:01.040
<v Speaker 1>To be flying out with no money m hm, putting

0:40:01.120 --> 0:40:02.959
<v Speaker 1>up goldfundmeans to get back home.

0:40:03.680 --> 0:40:07.239
<v Speaker 2>I remember I had to reach out to the Red

0:40:07.239 --> 0:40:09.759
<v Speaker 2>Cross for a bitch to get her home when we was.

0:40:13.160 --> 0:40:15.480
<v Speaker 1>Not reach out to the Red Cross, not Red Cross

0:40:15.480 --> 0:40:17.239
<v Speaker 1>giving money for flood out situations.

0:40:17.480 --> 0:40:19.680
<v Speaker 2>They did. They got her back. Shout out to the

0:40:19.719 --> 0:40:20.840
<v Speaker 2>Red Cross.

0:40:21.560 --> 0:40:25.800
<v Speaker 1>And that is not a real thing. I swear, I swear.

0:40:27.920 --> 0:40:31.880
<v Speaker 2>I don't like one of my homegirls went out with

0:40:32.000 --> 0:40:36.000
<v Speaker 2>some dude that wasn't right, and she got left somewhere

0:40:36.040 --> 0:40:38.799
<v Speaker 2>far away from South Carolina, and I called the Red

0:40:38.840 --> 0:40:42.120
<v Speaker 2>Cross for help and they got her. I think they

0:40:42.120 --> 0:40:46.600
<v Speaker 2>put her on the Greyhound home. They paid for it.

0:40:48.880 --> 0:40:51.240
<v Speaker 1>Don't get these bitches no bright ideas.

0:40:51.760 --> 0:40:54.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm just saying, if you ever get stuck Red Cross

0:40:54.120 --> 0:40:56.840
<v Speaker 2>with fuck with you. But don't do that. Just go

0:40:56.920 --> 0:40:58.960
<v Speaker 2>with your own money so you don't have to depend

0:40:59.040 --> 0:41:00.480
<v Speaker 2>on the charity of others.

0:41:01.719 --> 0:41:04.160
<v Speaker 1>How stupid some women are. They gonna be using Red

0:41:04.200 --> 0:41:07.040
<v Speaker 1>Cross to go to a nigga who ain't paid for nothing, right,

0:41:07.040 --> 0:41:11.080
<v Speaker 1>They're gonna start with the Red Cross, they gonna start.

0:41:13.040 --> 0:41:17.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh lord, hell, let somebody greyhound yokuci is wild? Right

0:41:17.160 --> 0:41:17.400
<v Speaker 1>to me?

0:41:18.280 --> 0:41:21.040
<v Speaker 2>No red Cross and Yokuchi across the country to give

0:41:21.080 --> 0:41:22.799
<v Speaker 2>it to a nigga who ain't doing nothing for you.

0:41:22.840 --> 0:41:23.800
<v Speaker 2>It's even crazier.

0:41:24.239 --> 0:41:30.960
<v Speaker 1>Ooh, Look, seek support is the last one. Talk to

0:41:31.080 --> 0:41:34.280
<v Speaker 1>friends or therapists, or we talk back about your feelings

0:41:34.280 --> 0:41:39.879
<v Speaker 1>and strategies for managing them. Sometimes external, external perspectives can

0:41:40.360 --> 0:41:43.320
<v Speaker 1>provide valuable insight and support.

0:41:43.800 --> 0:41:46.279
<v Speaker 2>Yes, always, people can see things much clearer from the

0:41:46.280 --> 0:41:47.760
<v Speaker 2>outside of your shit.

0:41:47.800 --> 0:41:51.359
<v Speaker 1>Right mm hmmm, Like if I'm not in a dumb

0:41:51.360 --> 0:41:53.200
<v Speaker 1>bitch mold like, I can help you with your dumb

0:41:53.239 --> 0:41:56.200
<v Speaker 1>bitch shit. Absolutely shit, even if I'm being a dumb

0:41:56.239 --> 0:41:58.920
<v Speaker 1>bitch right now. I always got good ad advice for people.

0:41:59.160 --> 0:42:01.719
<v Speaker 2>I might not take our own advice, but I gotta

0:42:01.719 --> 0:42:05.359
<v Speaker 2>say it for you. You know, when you in to think

0:42:05.400 --> 0:42:07.359
<v Speaker 2>of it, it'd be hard. You know when you want

0:42:07.360 --> 0:42:10.759
<v Speaker 2>to think of it. But mm hmm, but yeah, talk

0:42:10.760 --> 0:42:12.480
<v Speaker 2>to your friend, the level headed friend.

0:42:14.200 --> 0:42:16.680
<v Speaker 1>So that's an online list I found. But you know

0:42:16.800 --> 0:42:19.680
<v Speaker 1>some things I want to give to younger women when Dayton,

0:42:20.280 --> 0:42:23.839
<v Speaker 1>When a man starts talking about sex, immediately start talking

0:42:23.840 --> 0:42:31.040
<v Speaker 1>about money. Okay, everybody gotta be uncomfortable. Now you make

0:42:31.120 --> 0:42:35.399
<v Speaker 1>me uncomfortable, I'm gonna make you uncomfortable, so immediately, I mean,

0:42:35.560 --> 0:42:38.520
<v Speaker 1>like if he just start rubbing up on your leg,

0:42:38.840 --> 0:42:41.799
<v Speaker 1>like getting too close to whatever, like, yeah, start talking

0:42:41.800 --> 0:42:43.920
<v Speaker 1>about money immediately because either he gonna give it to

0:42:43.960 --> 0:42:45.920
<v Speaker 1>you or he ain't. And you freak clear what you're

0:42:45.960 --> 0:42:46.760
<v Speaker 1>pussy intack.

0:42:46.760 --> 0:42:51.080
<v Speaker 2>Or set you know, a boundary with him about what

0:42:51.160 --> 0:42:53.680
<v Speaker 2>you go for and what you require and don't necessarily

0:42:53.680 --> 0:42:53.960
<v Speaker 2>have to be.

0:42:54.200 --> 0:42:58.080
<v Speaker 1>Girl line steppers don't give a fuck about boundaries. Like

0:42:58.160 --> 0:42:59.719
<v Speaker 1>those are the main people who have a problem with

0:42:59.719 --> 0:43:03.439
<v Speaker 1>bound There's the people who want to cross them, cross them. Yeah,

0:43:03.480 --> 0:43:06.399
<v Speaker 1>Like they don't give a shit about your boundaries. So

0:43:06.520 --> 0:43:07.280
<v Speaker 1>if you're.

0:43:07.120 --> 0:43:10.800
<v Speaker 2>Gonna media, I'm start talking about money. It's just giving

0:43:10.920 --> 0:43:14.360
<v Speaker 2>prostitution a little bit right, how how okay?

0:43:14.400 --> 0:43:16.720
<v Speaker 1>But you can dig my goal, but I can't dig yours.

0:43:18.200 --> 0:43:22.160
<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's true, you can, but I mean, yeah, but

0:43:22.200 --> 0:43:25.600
<v Speaker 2>then it seemed like you're ready to play for pay.

0:43:25.640 --> 0:43:27.840
<v Speaker 1>But you may not. I may not have sex with

0:43:27.880 --> 0:43:30.560
<v Speaker 1>this person. I just want him to feel as uncomfortable

0:43:30.560 --> 0:43:33.160
<v Speaker 1>as I am, as as he's made me be. Like

0:43:33.200 --> 0:43:38.919
<v Speaker 1>I said, we value our kucci, they value their purse. Yeah,

0:43:39.280 --> 0:43:43.479
<v Speaker 1>I want you to feel as uncomfortable as you've made

0:43:43.480 --> 0:43:44.480
<v Speaker 1>me at this point.

0:43:45.040 --> 0:43:50.719
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, let's let's roll play Damn fine as fun them

0:43:50.760 --> 0:43:53.080
<v Speaker 2>Titty's sitting nice baby, what's up you're trying to what

0:43:53.120 --> 0:43:54.000
<v Speaker 2>you're trying to do after this?

0:43:54.160 --> 0:43:54.359
<v Speaker 3>Man?

0:43:55.400 --> 0:43:55.720
<v Speaker 2>Shit?

0:43:56.080 --> 0:44:02.960
<v Speaker 1>Man, I just lost these five thousand dollars airrings my

0:44:03.040 --> 0:44:07.640
<v Speaker 1>grandma gave me, Like yeah, I automatically got some extravagant

0:44:07.640 --> 0:44:12.560
<v Speaker 1>ass shit. I need some random ask twenty twenty five

0:44:12.640 --> 0:44:13.359
<v Speaker 1>hundred dollar bill.

0:44:13.760 --> 0:44:16.360
<v Speaker 2>So so with people like shit, ain't no problem.

0:44:16.560 --> 0:44:20.920
<v Speaker 1>I repluest the money first, though, and then you fucking

0:44:21.000 --> 0:44:25.200
<v Speaker 1>though no, I ain't fucking no, I'm still not fucking okay,

0:44:25.400 --> 0:44:27.200
<v Speaker 1>like you still have to make them do so.

0:44:27.080 --> 0:44:30.400
<v Speaker 2>So now he doesn't get that quick and you and

0:44:30.440 --> 0:44:33.240
<v Speaker 2>now he asked for some pussy.

0:44:33.400 --> 0:44:35.719
<v Speaker 1>I'd have fuck a nigga for nothing. Quicker why not?

0:44:42.520 --> 0:44:45.880
<v Speaker 1>Why not? What are we saying, like, let's stop acting

0:44:45.920 --> 0:44:48.160
<v Speaker 1>like men just be out here with abundance of money

0:44:48.200 --> 0:44:50.399
<v Speaker 1>like that. I don't even realize niggas have money till

0:44:50.560 --> 0:44:51.600
<v Speaker 1>like my late twenties.

0:44:52.120 --> 0:44:53.279
<v Speaker 2>The fuck I didn't know.

0:44:54.320 --> 0:44:56.440
<v Speaker 1>So we're not about to act like we just like

0:44:56.520 --> 0:44:58.520
<v Speaker 1>men just be out here spending all his money. But

0:44:59.360 --> 0:45:00.920
<v Speaker 1>at some point, you you gotta find out what he

0:45:00.960 --> 0:45:04.600
<v Speaker 1>got going on. Ask Men are not afraid to ask

0:45:04.600 --> 0:45:05.879
<v Speaker 1>for what they want, so why are you?

0:45:06.400 --> 0:45:11.440
<v Speaker 2>I agree, But don't be talking about money. And then

0:45:11.480 --> 0:45:13.239
<v Speaker 2>when he throw that money and you still ain't ready

0:45:13.239 --> 0:45:15.680
<v Speaker 2>to give up, no, kuchi, it might be a problem,

0:45:16.040 --> 0:45:20.000
<v Speaker 2>That's all I'm saying. Niggas might be ready to I

0:45:20.120 --> 0:45:24.799
<v Speaker 2>think you, Oh, seron owe me back like you owe

0:45:24.840 --> 0:45:25.480
<v Speaker 2>your text.

0:45:26.080 --> 0:45:28.440
<v Speaker 1>If he ain't trying to catch a charge, there's nothing

0:45:28.480 --> 0:45:30.759
<v Speaker 1>that's gonna happen. He's not going to do anything to you,

0:45:32.080 --> 0:45:34.759
<v Speaker 1>So what's the problem. And to me, it's easier to

0:45:34.800 --> 0:45:36.719
<v Speaker 1>ask a man to spend money than to marry you.

0:45:36.800 --> 0:45:39.000
<v Speaker 1>So if you actually like dating with intention and you're

0:45:39.000 --> 0:45:41.040
<v Speaker 1>trying to get married, you got to start there first

0:45:41.640 --> 0:45:43.279
<v Speaker 1>seeing if he's going to take care of you.

0:45:44.800 --> 0:45:49.839
<v Speaker 2>I agree, but y'all don't mess around it be all

0:45:49.880 --> 0:45:53.200
<v Speaker 2>fucked ubout selling pussy and you ain't. No, you was

0:45:53.280 --> 0:45:55.279
<v Speaker 2>doing that because you listen to talk.

0:45:55.440 --> 0:45:59.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm not selling pussy. That is not selling pussy. Asking

0:46:00.239 --> 0:46:01.880
<v Speaker 1>you're dating to do some shit for you is not

0:46:02.040 --> 0:46:04.160
<v Speaker 1>selling pussy.

0:46:03.280 --> 0:46:04.520
<v Speaker 2>Why not?

0:46:04.600 --> 0:46:07.720
<v Speaker 1>But I'm just saying, like, if you see, that's that's

0:46:07.760 --> 0:46:10.640
<v Speaker 1>what men want us to think that, Oh, they want

0:46:10.640 --> 0:46:12.640
<v Speaker 1>you to value yourself, but the minute you do, it's

0:46:12.680 --> 0:46:18.759
<v Speaker 1>a problem. If you value yourself monetarily. Yeah, yeah, that's

0:46:18.840 --> 0:46:22.360
<v Speaker 1>not selling pussy because I want the man that wants me.

0:46:22.680 --> 0:46:24.840
<v Speaker 2>But all right, so all right, let's say to do

0:46:24.960 --> 0:46:26.480
<v Speaker 2>nice things for me. If he gave you the five

0:46:26.480 --> 0:46:30.640
<v Speaker 2>thousand for the earrings that your grandma gave you and

0:46:30.680 --> 0:46:34.239
<v Speaker 2>you fucking after that, would you have before that?

0:46:34.320 --> 0:46:38.120
<v Speaker 1>Though? I probably would have. But even if you want

0:46:38.120 --> 0:46:39.840
<v Speaker 1>to have sex with this person, make them do some

0:46:39.880 --> 0:46:40.600
<v Speaker 1>shit for you for no.

0:46:40.600 --> 0:46:43.360
<v Speaker 2>I agree that. I agree, even if it's.

0:46:43.239 --> 0:46:46.959
<v Speaker 1>Not money, like get your car wash, do things nice

0:46:47.000 --> 0:46:50.279
<v Speaker 1>things for you. The more a man does for you physically,

0:46:51.800 --> 0:46:53.960
<v Speaker 1>he's more than likely willing to state.

0:46:54.040 --> 0:46:57.880
<v Speaker 2>I just said, make that man, require that man to

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<v Speaker 2>make you feel special, whatever that looks like for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, five thousand dollars earrings.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever that looks like for you, requires that and until

0:47:08.560 --> 0:47:11.600
<v Speaker 2>you don't, until you feel like that, don't share your body.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all. That's how I feel it. Don't put no

0:47:15.200 --> 0:47:16.399
<v Speaker 2>monetary amount on it.

0:47:18.360 --> 0:47:21.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but most women are already having sex, and most

0:47:21.400 --> 0:47:23.800
<v Speaker 1>women have already had sex with a man who didn't

0:47:23.800 --> 0:47:26.879
<v Speaker 1>do anything for them. So all I'm saying is try

0:47:26.920 --> 0:47:30.879
<v Speaker 1>to reverse that cycle with the next person you date

0:47:31.960 --> 0:47:34.480
<v Speaker 1>so you won't feel like you lost in the end.

0:47:36.120 --> 0:47:39.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's a cat mouse saying because these niggas is

0:47:39.239 --> 0:47:42.080
<v Speaker 2>out here like, don't body bitch and shit until they

0:47:42.160 --> 0:47:44.520
<v Speaker 2>fucking you. And then the girls is like, don't fuck

0:47:44.600 --> 0:47:47.759
<v Speaker 2>them until he do something for you. He buying you shit.

0:47:48.400 --> 0:47:51.319
<v Speaker 2>But people keep having babies. So somebody is fucking up

0:47:51.320 --> 0:47:52.239
<v Speaker 2>the rules. I don't know.

0:47:53.320 --> 0:47:57.759
<v Speaker 1>It's us. It's women fucking up the rules. It's not men.

0:47:57.920 --> 0:48:00.560
<v Speaker 1>It's us fucking up the rules because they're the sector

0:48:00.640 --> 0:48:05.440
<v Speaker 1>of women that's okay with bare minimum bullshit, you know

0:48:05.480 --> 0:48:07.640
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. So then when they come over here

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<v Speaker 1>until we talk back, Like I always say, it's inflation.

0:48:11.200 --> 0:48:15.160
<v Speaker 1>It costs a lot over here. It's a problem. Yeah,

0:48:15.440 --> 0:48:19.960
<v Speaker 1>but if every woman was on the same standard, all

0:48:20.080 --> 0:48:24.360
<v Speaker 1>men would know that there is there's certain things you

0:48:24.360 --> 0:48:27.880
<v Speaker 1>gotta come with before you approach a woman. But because

0:48:27.920 --> 0:48:30.080
<v Speaker 1>there's some bitch always willing to let a nigga sleep

0:48:30.120 --> 0:48:32.600
<v Speaker 1>on the couch, they're gonna come with a bare minimum

0:48:32.600 --> 0:48:35.400
<v Speaker 1>because the whole thing is pussy. Like that movie Shiraq,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand. I don't know if people didn't understand the premise,

0:48:39.239 --> 0:48:44.160
<v Speaker 1>but it was stupid. But the premise was like, if

0:48:44.200 --> 0:48:47.319
<v Speaker 1>women stop having sex, men would become better. But if

0:48:47.360 --> 0:48:50.280
<v Speaker 1>as long as they can still get that thing without

0:48:50.280 --> 0:48:55.640
<v Speaker 1>having to do anything, they like easy, right, they like easy,

0:48:56.080 --> 0:48:59.240
<v Speaker 1>So don't be easy. Make it hard for these niggas.

0:48:59.760 --> 0:49:03.520
<v Speaker 1>That's the last last. Make it hard for them.

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<v Speaker 2>Just be made to feel special. Whatever that look like

0:49:07.080 --> 0:49:11.319
<v Speaker 2>for you, sus, whatever that look like, and require it

0:49:11.640 --> 0:49:14.680
<v Speaker 2>and don't stick beside your your standards.

0:49:14.880 --> 0:49:17.560
<v Speaker 1>Some women give the pussy up just because somebody gives

0:49:17.600 --> 0:49:25.760
<v Speaker 1>them a just a small little words of appreciation, wards

0:49:25.760 --> 0:49:29.160
<v Speaker 1>of appreciation, but just like giving them a compliment, Women

0:49:29.239 --> 0:49:32.800
<v Speaker 1>get compliments and start giving a pussy up some words.

0:49:33.040 --> 0:49:35.719
<v Speaker 2>No that's not enough, sis, Yeah.

0:49:35.520 --> 0:49:38.600
<v Speaker 1>That's not enough, because you are not good within. So

0:49:38.719 --> 0:49:41.799
<v Speaker 1>any man that comes along and gives you compliments that

0:49:41.840 --> 0:49:46.120
<v Speaker 1>make you feel good, right, you automatically now fallen in love.

0:49:46.200 --> 0:49:49.480
<v Speaker 1>And all he's giving you was some fucking words. No,

0:49:49.680 --> 0:49:52.640
<v Speaker 1>they have to give you more. I agree, and it

0:49:52.719 --> 0:49:55.440
<v Speaker 1>may not for some it may not look financial, but

0:49:55.480 --> 0:49:56.520
<v Speaker 1>we all need things.

0:49:57.400 --> 0:50:02.200
<v Speaker 2>I agree, So for me, like what's your name?

0:50:02.239 --> 0:50:05.040
<v Speaker 1>Tamar Tomorrow was like, I'm old school. How do I

0:50:05.080 --> 0:50:06.600
<v Speaker 1>know you like me? If you don't give me.

0:50:06.560 --> 0:50:08.040
<v Speaker 2>Money, you're not buying me something.

0:50:08.560 --> 0:50:11.520
<v Speaker 1>If you're not buying me something, I'm confused because men,

0:50:11.880 --> 0:50:14.239
<v Speaker 1>and I said this before men. Some men they get

0:50:14.239 --> 0:50:16.680
<v Speaker 1>their ego fed through how many bitches they can run through,

0:50:16.920 --> 0:50:19.360
<v Speaker 1>and some get their ego fed by how many women

0:50:19.400 --> 0:50:21.960
<v Speaker 1>they can take care of, how many people they can

0:50:22.000 --> 0:50:25.399
<v Speaker 1>take care of. I like the latter to like generous men.

0:50:25.560 --> 0:50:29.000
<v Speaker 1>I like men who feel good. I like to do

0:50:29.040 --> 0:50:31.520
<v Speaker 1>stuff for people. I like metal gifts. I like it

0:50:31.560 --> 0:50:34.600
<v Speaker 1>made me feel good to surprise people with stuff sometimes too.

0:50:35.200 --> 0:50:37.080
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. If it's a quick cash app,

0:50:37.280 --> 0:50:38.719
<v Speaker 1>twenty dollars, send me.

0:50:38.640 --> 0:50:41.960
<v Speaker 2>Something, bitch, send me something now that you like. Now

0:50:41.960 --> 0:50:43.919
<v Speaker 2>that I know that you, it make you feel good

0:50:43.960 --> 0:50:47.120
<v Speaker 2>to surprise people with some shit, surprise me with some shit.

0:50:48.480 --> 0:50:48.959
<v Speaker 2>It's time.

0:50:49.000 --> 0:50:53.719
<v Speaker 1>It's time ten dollars for lunch. Look, I said. So.

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<v Speaker 1>The other day one of my guy friends, he sent

0:50:55.960 --> 0:50:58.720
<v Speaker 1>me a video. It was a girl talking shit about

0:50:58.719 --> 0:51:02.400
<v Speaker 1>how a guy sent her thirty for lunch, right, and

0:51:02.480 --> 0:51:03.839
<v Speaker 1>she was like, what the fuck I'm gonna do with third?

0:51:03.920 --> 0:51:06.960
<v Speaker 1>Like she was being very grateful in the video, But

0:51:07.960 --> 0:51:10.920
<v Speaker 1>that very morning I had sent my homegirl one hundred

0:51:10.920 --> 0:51:13.120
<v Speaker 1>dollars for lunch. She was going through some shit I

0:51:13.160 --> 0:51:15.560
<v Speaker 1>sent her, and it really wasn't for lunch, just whatever

0:51:15.600 --> 0:51:17.960
<v Speaker 1>she needed to do, but I sent for lunch, right.

0:51:20.160 --> 0:51:22.120
<v Speaker 1>So you we got to be the men for our

0:51:22.160 --> 0:51:25.439
<v Speaker 1>homegirls at this point, because I understood what the girl

0:51:25.480 --> 0:51:27.600
<v Speaker 1>was saying, and I also understand the other side of it.

0:51:27.600 --> 0:51:30.759
<v Speaker 1>It was a random dude on Instagram trying to do

0:51:30.800 --> 0:51:33.080
<v Speaker 1>a nice gesture for a random bitch on Instagram, and

0:51:33.160 --> 0:51:36.840
<v Speaker 1>she was complete nobody. Oh you shit though, no, absolutely not.

0:51:36.920 --> 0:51:40.160
<v Speaker 1>So somebody gives you anything and you can be appreciates, right.

0:51:40.160 --> 0:51:42.600
<v Speaker 2>And you can, I mean, you can eat with thirty dollars.

0:51:42.680 --> 0:51:46.200
<v Speaker 2>It may not be what you're accustomed to eating. Maybe

0:51:46.239 --> 0:51:49.480
<v Speaker 2>you eat one hundred dollar meals every day for lunch.

0:51:49.400 --> 0:51:53.440
<v Speaker 1>So me knowing my homegirl, like one hundred dollars was appropriate.

0:51:54.760 --> 0:51:56.520
<v Speaker 1>But so you can't send me no posts like this

0:51:56.600 --> 0:51:58.160
<v Speaker 1>when I just sent a bitch one hundred dollars.

0:51:58.680 --> 0:52:03.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the fuck. But I mean, I get it, I

0:52:03.560 --> 0:52:06.879
<v Speaker 2>get it, I get I don't get her perspective though,

0:52:06.880 --> 0:52:09.080
<v Speaker 2>because this wasn't even nobody. You knew this was a

0:52:09.160 --> 0:52:11.360
<v Speaker 2>random person since you saw so.

0:52:11.360 --> 0:52:12.920
<v Speaker 1>So in her mind she's like, if he wanted to

0:52:12.960 --> 0:52:15.040
<v Speaker 1>get to know me, he need to have sent more money.

0:52:15.280 --> 0:52:16.759
<v Speaker 2>Nah, No, he don't need to.

0:52:17.000 --> 0:52:19.839
<v Speaker 1>I think it's entitlement. It's the entitlement that some men

0:52:19.880 --> 0:52:23.640
<v Speaker 1>get disgusted with women. I understand. But the same way

0:52:23.680 --> 0:52:25.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm asking for something from a man, I come.

0:52:25.760 --> 0:52:27.080
<v Speaker 2>Through a shit exactly.

0:52:27.160 --> 0:52:28.959
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. I'm gonna make a business better.

0:52:29.000 --> 0:52:31.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm a business professional. Whatever you got going on, I'm

0:52:31.280 --> 0:52:33.440
<v Speaker 1>gonna help you with it. Like I come through with

0:52:33.640 --> 0:52:35.560
<v Speaker 1>right and intrinsic value.

0:52:36.160 --> 0:52:38.160
<v Speaker 2>And I don't typically ask for shit that I can't

0:52:38.200 --> 0:52:39.239
<v Speaker 2>provide for myself.

0:52:39.680 --> 0:52:44.799
<v Speaker 1>That part, that part, and I don't know, because I

0:52:44.880 --> 0:52:47.840
<v Speaker 1>do save my bags for a big thing that I

0:52:47.840 --> 0:52:50.560
<v Speaker 1>can't do for myself. Otherwise I'm just doing it for myself.

0:52:50.560 --> 0:52:52.520
<v Speaker 1>And if you come through with some shit, then thank you.

0:52:52.600 --> 0:52:56.600
<v Speaker 1>But at this stage I need some big shit. What

0:52:56.680 --> 0:52:59.080
<v Speaker 1>can't I do for my what can't you do for yourself?

0:52:59.120 --> 0:53:02.200
<v Speaker 1>At this stage, it's not about what I can do

0:53:02.480 --> 0:53:03.560
<v Speaker 1>what I don't want.

0:53:03.480 --> 0:53:05.400
<v Speaker 2>To do right now, I ain't saying this all stuff

0:53:05.440 --> 0:53:07.759
<v Speaker 2>that I want to do, but push come to shove.

0:53:07.880 --> 0:53:10.440
<v Speaker 2>If you're not gonna do it, guess who will me?

0:53:11.000 --> 0:53:17.000
<v Speaker 2>You know somebody me, I'll do it. I could do it,

0:53:17.080 --> 0:53:18.520
<v Speaker 2>so I know.

0:53:20.360 --> 0:53:25.719
<v Speaker 1>Somebody somebody gonna do it. Said I'm gonna do it too,

0:53:25.719 --> 0:53:27.399
<v Speaker 1>because I'm not about to act like I just had

0:53:27.480 --> 0:53:29.880
<v Speaker 1>niggas finance in my life, my entire life. It's just

0:53:29.920 --> 0:53:33.040
<v Speaker 1>not true. But I've never been in a relationship with

0:53:33.160 --> 0:53:35.400
<v Speaker 1>a man who didn't want to take care of me. Now,

0:53:35.440 --> 0:53:39.239
<v Speaker 1>they probably was doing all the other bullshit, but they

0:53:39.239 --> 0:53:40.800
<v Speaker 1>were taking care of the shit they're supposed to be

0:53:40.800 --> 0:53:43.040
<v Speaker 1>taking care of it when it comes. That's all it matters.

0:53:43.760 --> 0:53:49.400
<v Speaker 1>So don't don't settle, ladies. Don't settle anyway, y'all. Listen,

0:53:49.440 --> 0:53:52.000
<v Speaker 1>I already said the last last earlier. Just just keep

0:53:52.040 --> 0:53:54.200
<v Speaker 1>your keep your regrets to a minimum. That's why I

0:53:54.239 --> 0:53:57.279
<v Speaker 1>like to tell young girls, keep your regrets to a

0:53:57.440 --> 0:53:58.680
<v Speaker 1>minimum when you're out here.

0:53:59.000 --> 0:54:02.160
<v Speaker 2>Shit, everybody, not just young girls, all of us, keep

0:54:02.200 --> 0:54:06.840
<v Speaker 2>your regrets to a minimum and set boundaries for yourself

0:54:07.160 --> 0:54:11.479
<v Speaker 2>and stick beside them. That's my biggest thing for twenty

0:54:11.560 --> 0:54:16.000
<v Speaker 2>twenty four is not allowing my empathy for other people's

0:54:16.040 --> 0:54:19.680
<v Speaker 2>situations to flex my boundaries for myself. Ooh, I've been

0:54:19.840 --> 0:54:22.800
<v Speaker 2>I've known to do that. Like, well he's his grandmother

0:54:22.960 --> 0:54:26.480
<v Speaker 2>is sick. Well, well he took a L.

0:54:26.560 --> 0:54:29.279
<v Speaker 1>He takes benefit of a doubt. I stay giving him

0:54:29.280 --> 0:54:30.479
<v Speaker 1>motherfucker benefit of the doubt.

0:54:30.480 --> 0:54:32.480
<v Speaker 2>Oh he took an L. He took a huge L.

0:54:32.680 --> 0:54:35.360
<v Speaker 2>And then now here my boundaries are flexing. No, stop

0:54:35.400 --> 0:54:38.640
<v Speaker 2>building l Pray for them and wish them luck and

0:54:38.640 --> 0:54:41.160
<v Speaker 2>wish them well. But don't flex your own boundaries because

0:54:41.160 --> 0:54:44.040
<v Speaker 2>of other people. Shit. You mess around in your boundaries

0:54:44.120 --> 0:54:50.200
<v Speaker 2>laying down by the riverside, I know, trust me. That's

0:54:50.239 --> 0:54:51.320
<v Speaker 2>my last last.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all, Okay, if you enjoyed this episode, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>tune in every Thursday on the iHeart Radio app wherever

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck you get your podcast at. This is your

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<v Speaker 2>Kick a Tam, y'all, It's official Tam Bam on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all guess what. I'm down twenty one pounds. I'm so

0:55:11.520 --> 0:55:12.840
<v Speaker 2>proud of myself and.

0:55:13.080 --> 0:55:16.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh shit, bit ch'all got that type of flex. I

0:55:16.600 --> 0:55:19.120
<v Speaker 1>still look like a hamster and.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been doing herbal life and before I wanted to

0:55:22.200 --> 0:55:23.920
<v Speaker 2>introduce it to y'all, I had to try to make

0:55:23.920 --> 0:55:26.200
<v Speaker 2>sure it worked for me. And it has worked. So

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<v Speaker 2>if y'all interested, like, go to my page. The link

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<v Speaker 2>is in my bio. Y'all could join me. If you

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<v Speaker 2>decide to join me, DM me and I'll add you

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<v Speaker 2>to my close friends. We got about ninety days before summer. Come,

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<v Speaker 2>let's get this weight off and be fine for the summer.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, hit that link DM me. We're gonna be

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<v Speaker 2>home close friends now. Oh remember speak now.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess.

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