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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: Talk Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with

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Speaker 2: an opinion who talks.

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Speaker 1: What's up?

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Speaker 2: Y'all?

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Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode that

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Speaker 1: We Talk Back. That show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.

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Speaker 1: What's up? Tam Bam Oh, it's your co host, AJ Holling.

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Speaker 2: You had to think about it. You know who you

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Speaker 2: wanted to dedicate it to.

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Speaker 1: Today we dedicated to all the baby mama's, baby Mama's mamas.

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Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, I love y'all. It's tam Man. I love you. AJ.

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Speaker 2: How you doing?

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Speaker 1: Love it to a girl I'm doing?

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Speaker 2: How was she trying to relax? How was your weekend?

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Speaker 1: The moving, moving and moving and moving? Still trying to

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Speaker 1: get organized? Y'all? Be so glad when I am situated

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Speaker 1: so I can think clearly you still got any house?

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Speaker 1: No bitch, I have me a very plushed with. First

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Speaker 1: of all, like betting is very important to Linen's s Fair, Peacock,

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Speaker 1: those are my favorite betting brands. And I got me

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Speaker 1: a good ass Stern and Foster. Okay, I don't know

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Speaker 1: what that is multiple level. It's a mattress se Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I got me a good bag, or I got to

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Speaker 1: sleep good. And that's one thing. I'm about to make

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Speaker 1: these T shirts that say I love to lay down.

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Speaker 1: That's one of my favorite things to do on your back,

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Speaker 1: shit back. I definitely love it from the side, because

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Speaker 1: nobody got to do a whole lot of work from

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Speaker 1: the side. Listen, choked me a little bit from the side.

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Speaker 2: What did I do this weekend? Oh, it was one

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Speaker 2: of my friends, Lexi. She was on the show recently.

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Speaker 2: It was her thirtieth birthday, so we had a death

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Speaker 2: to her twenties celebration and everybody came dressed in black.

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Speaker 2: It was a good time. We went on the rooftop.

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Speaker 2: They had it catered. It was a really good time.

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Speaker 2: We had fun at night. That's all I really did,

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Speaker 2: and then went to work.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw her content for her birthday. Yeah, birthday, Lexi.

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Speaker 2: Heavy birthday, Lexi. We love you. All right, let's get

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Speaker 2: it to the sins.

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Speaker 1: I remember when I was thirty, but yeah, it was just.

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Speaker 2: A couple of years ago from me. All right, so

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Speaker 2: let's get into it. Christina mack Baby, Christina Mackie was

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Speaker 2: so in love just a couple of weeks ago with

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Speaker 2: Rick Ross, and now it seems they broke up, and

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Speaker 2: it was video of Rick Ross in the club with

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Speaker 2: another Redbone chick. And I just feel like when you

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Speaker 2: start with a guy, you don't need to be publicly

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Speaker 2: too too loud and proud, honestly, especially with them types

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Speaker 2: of men, because your videos don't age well oftentimes, like

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Speaker 2: you all loud and proud and strong and wrong and

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Speaker 2: now he off with the next battie and it's embarrassing.

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Speaker 2: So Christina McKie, I guess that was a life lesson

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Speaker 2: for you. Keep your ship, keep your relationships private and

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Speaker 2: to yourself.

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Speaker 1: What's she here for? For a good time not a

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Speaker 1: long time? Okay? So she got a pair of teeth

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Speaker 1: out the deal, she got some some internet cloud me

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Speaker 1: be good or bad. She still has a whatever she

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Speaker 1: thinks she's got out the relationship.

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Speaker 2: She got like some type of business and she's selling

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Speaker 2: something and she set herselves went up. So I mean

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Speaker 2: that's good. Yeah, that's good.

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Speaker 1: That's a plus. But I just still can't let a

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Speaker 1: nigga like Rick Ross do me like that publicly, like

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Speaker 1: what you mean an like okay, do y'all listen, do

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Speaker 1: y'all follow to your MP Rick Ross baby Baba like

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Speaker 1: she always be putting the camera on her feet and

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Speaker 1: she'd be standing like Penny proud like. And I realized

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Speaker 1: she does that be because that's how Rick rossby. That's

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Speaker 1: his stamp.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, he do got a bad bitch.

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Speaker 1: It's not really a bad bitch stance. It's like a

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Speaker 1: pigeonholed bull leg stance.

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Speaker 2: Like you know that last minute I see with his

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Speaker 2: shirt off where he had them feet cocked to the side.

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Speaker 2: I was like, Amn, Okay, I.

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Speaker 1: Just couldn't, man, I just couldn't. Y'all aim for the stars,

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Speaker 1: because then you can understand why a nigga playing with you.

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Speaker 2: I like, I just don't understand. I'm a fan of

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Speaker 2: Rick Ross. He seemed like he got a good personality

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Speaker 2: in the sense of humor.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure he's fun He's very funny when not

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Speaker 1: even trying to be funny. But no, not, no, you

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Speaker 1: don't get to play with me publicly like that, So yeah,

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Speaker 1: keep your dumb bitch shit to yourself.

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Speaker 2: Listen, don't nobody get to play with me publicly. I

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Speaker 2: don't post, I don't say who I don't know, like

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Speaker 2: when I when it's over, don't nobody even know it started? Honestly,

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Speaker 2: I ain't never told nobody shit, I ain't had a

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Speaker 2: nigga since Tupac died, so public publicly publicly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just be quiet. So next on the roster is

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Speaker 1: Drey and Michaels. Okay, she just revealed that she is

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Speaker 1: pregnant for her twenty two year old boyfriend I've believed

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Speaker 1: in a relationship of Jalen Green, and they're overjoyed. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so she's thirty nine, allegedly because I could have sworn

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Speaker 1: Drea was older than us.

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Speaker 2: But okay, yeah, I'm just trying to figure out how

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Speaker 2: bitches is getting closer and closer in age to me.

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Speaker 2: That was grooner than me when we was young. So

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Speaker 2: I don't know. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So I mean, to each of their own, I'm

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Speaker 1: not fucking with a twenty two old nigga. I don't

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Speaker 1: pick up dick and drop it off and I'll pack

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Speaker 1: bag lunches even though he has a check. It's just

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Speaker 1: a little bit manipulative to me for a woman that

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Speaker 1: season to be on someone's twenty two year old son.

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Speaker 1: Because I mean, men already age slower than women mentally

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Speaker 1: like the maturity, right, so what's the conversations? Like, what

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Speaker 1: are y'all talking about?

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Speaker 2: TikTok there? Tiktoking. I remember when I had my young

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Speaker 2: nigga and we was this is a while ago, and

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Speaker 2: I think this is like right when TikTok came out.

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Speaker 2: We was making a TikTok together, and I was like

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Speaker 2: trying to pick a song. This nigga gonna say, it

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Speaker 2: ain't gonna be no luther on there, so just.

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Speaker 1: Hurry up, boy, fuck you. I wasn't looking for the Luther.

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Speaker 1: I was looking for Anita Baker.

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Speaker 2: I don't see nothing wrong with fucking with I like

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Speaker 2: my I like younger niggas. I don't like twenty two.

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Speaker 1: That's a baby. That's too acne.

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Speaker 2: He's stole, no facial hair.

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Speaker 1: Jump, it's a kid.

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Speaker 2: He could run and jump on my bed. Like that's

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Speaker 2: a problem.

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Speaker 1: I do that, so they ain't a problem. I am

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Speaker 1: a kid, I'm childish as fuck.

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Speaker 2: But don't jump on my bed.

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Speaker 1: Grow your ass, no shoes on, but just yeah, I

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Speaker 1: like jumping on a bed.

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Speaker 2: What you need to grow up?

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Speaker 1: She says, So she says, and actually she said they're

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Speaker 1: having a girl. Okay, doing May of this year. Drea says,

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Speaker 1: as a woman, we navigate through so much, often leading

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Speaker 1: us to question what is my purpose? She wrote in

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Speaker 1: a lengthy Instagram post an International Woman's Day For me,

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Speaker 1: the magic lies in motherhood and the awe inspiring ability

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Speaker 1: to bring life into the world over a span of

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Speaker 1: two decades. It's my superpower And if anyone excuse me,

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Speaker 1: and if anything can surpass the wonder of being a

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Speaker 1: woman is the privilege of bringing another woman into existence. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you wanted another child. Do you think that it's possible

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Speaker 1: that she's like washed up with grown men that she's

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Speaker 1: now like on the playground.

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Speaker 2: No, she's still fine as hell.

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Speaker 1: She is fine as hell, But is her track work

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Speaker 1: a bad? Like with older men, Like, we know who

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Speaker 1: you are, so this is why you're on the playground

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Speaker 1: trying to get the kids.

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Speaker 2: These old men is still trying to knock Drea down.

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Speaker 2: Don't get it twisted.

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Speaker 1: But are they keeping her? That's what I'm saying. I

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Speaker 1: don't know, but yeah, you can get a man to

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Speaker 1: fuck all day long. Like when women be thinking it's

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Speaker 1: a flex, I'm sure it's still they want me, But

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Speaker 1: do are they keeping you? It's a difference.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure she could keep a grown man, and she

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Speaker 2: wanted to. There's so many of them out there, right,

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Speaker 2: and she I don't know, she just wanted that young nigga.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how it happened. Maybe he was playing

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Speaker 2: video games with her son and she walked by and

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Speaker 2: saw his little braid hanging down and was like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's it.

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Speaker 1: You saw Bernice Burgoho's daughter. She was on lip service,

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Speaker 1: on Angelie's lip Service, and she said, how her mama

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Speaker 1: like young guys too, Like, so whenever a guy toops

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Speaker 1: in her DM, she has to go see if he's

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Speaker 1: been in her mama DM first before she responds back

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Speaker 1: to Bernie's virgos. Yeah, her daughter though, the daughter.

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Speaker 2: Damn, I ain't trying to compete with my mama for niggas.

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Speaker 2: That's sucks them.

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Speaker 1: Some fine moments, yeah them, some fine ass moments.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Speaking of fine ass moments, how about this damn nigga

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Speaker 1: rx Hector, this rapper who just got out of prison

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Speaker 1: recently had a birthday party for his mom. She beat cancer,

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Speaker 1: she's alive, all the good shit. She got a fatty,

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Speaker 1: he got a fatty. She got a super fatty okay,

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Speaker 1: And he's on video smacking that fatty and then she

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Speaker 1: starts making that fatty clap clap for him, for her son,

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Speaker 1: or for whoever's watching.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think there was a sexual I don't

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Speaker 2: think there's a sexual relationship between him and his mama.

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Speaker 2: But I just think that the boundaries that needed to

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Speaker 2: be there aren't there, because why is you patting your

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Speaker 2: mama on the ass like that?

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Speaker 1: But it was if it was a daughter doing it,

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Speaker 1: we wouldn't be looking at it crazy.

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Speaker 2: Right, But that's my mama. Ask that's because we can

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Speaker 2: walk around in the like past each other naked in

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Speaker 2: the house as women, and that's normal. But you can't

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Speaker 2: just be walking past your son naked as a mom right.

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Speaker 1: When some people probably do. I can say if I

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Speaker 1: have a kid like a son, like maybe it depends

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Speaker 1: on it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, once they get like a little like a big boy.

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Speaker 1: M because I like to be naked my whole family.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a naked one too. I love to be naked.

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Speaker 2: I don't like having on clothes that much. But if

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Speaker 2: I had a son, it's a time when it's no

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Speaker 2: longer Okay, for you to have your body parts around him.

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Speaker 2: So him slapping, I like that him and his mom

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Speaker 2: is cool and they can have fun together and stuff

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Speaker 2: like that. I appreciate that relationship as adults. You know,

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Speaker 2: some people don't talk to or see their mama, But

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Speaker 2: slapping on her on the ass, like yeah, my mom

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Speaker 2: got a fat ass.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy. I feel like he grabbed it a little

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Speaker 1: bit too. Am I tripping? I feel like he like smack,

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Speaker 1: like you would think he was at the strip club.

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Speaker 2: But I don't think it was like he proud that

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Speaker 2: his mama. Fine, I don't think it was like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I tap that. If that was my mama, I fucked

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Speaker 2: the shit out of you. Like nah, I don't think

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Speaker 2: it was that energy. It's just inappropriate.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a very that's a very very sad thing.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Child, These actors and actresses be kind

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Speaker 2: Well is she really? She's a reality star, so she's

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Speaker 1: No. She came out and said she was acting about

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Speaker 1: This is why anytime something happen. They always blaming, blaming

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's easier. They pussy's tirer. She's twenty one cutchie,

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Speaker 1: It's a lot of loose ass twenty one year olds

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Speaker 1: If y'all got granny pussy around here, y'all gotta take

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Speaker 3: Fuck you all right, y'all, So today we want to

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Speaker 1: You guys can live vicuriously through all dumbit shit, but

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Speaker 1: So how do you have We've already had an episode

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Speaker 2: But let me ask you this, why are we dating

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Speaker 1: Sometimes women catch feelings with everybody that they're dating. Though,

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Speaker 1: that's the problem if you're not dating multiple people at

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Speaker 1: it's a problem, is it not.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want to be the only one in

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So I think a lot of times we may

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Speaker 1: men oftentimes are dating to have sex, that's it. They

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Speaker 1: going to give them some cucci, they're just dating five

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Speaker 2: But I know it's women who date five people to

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Speaker 1: But so how do you avoid catching feelings for someone?

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Speaker 1: strategies to help minimize the chances. And this is and

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00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 1: this could be if you're dating multiple people and you're

437
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,439
Speaker 1: really trying to I feel like sometimes black women have

438
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:43,240
Speaker 1: attachment issues. It could be all women, but I'm just

439
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 1: saying for us, we're not used to dating. Right to me,

440
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 1: you get I think from childhood, we're told to go

441
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:58,680
Speaker 1: to school, get money. We're not like dating how white

442
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:03,040
Speaker 1: girls get to date at a young age. So once

443
00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:05,879
Speaker 1: we get like people, we be holding on to them

444
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 1: or really like we stay in situations relationships too long,

445
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:11,359
Speaker 1: let them go and move on to the next person.

446
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,400
Speaker 1: So you can you know, as you're doing this, you're

447
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:16,199
Speaker 1: you're seeing what it is that you want, what you

448
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,360
Speaker 1: don't want. You're not staying in a bad situation too

449
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 1: fucking long and missing blessings and all the good shit,

450
00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:23,359
Speaker 1: missing the person you're actually supposed to be.

451
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 2: He never took them on a date, and that's crazy.

452
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 1: And you're hallucinating like now you're now you have feelings

453
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 1: with somebody who has done nothing for you, nothing emotionally,

454
00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:37,440
Speaker 1: nothing financially, nothing.

455
00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:38,520
Speaker 2: Just dicking you down.

456
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: That's it.

457
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:42,400
Speaker 2: And if you hear this and you know that, stupid

458
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 2: you better leader you want to before the get here.

459
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 1: But even getting dicked down, like, how do you avoid

460
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 1: emotions when getting dicked down? Like I don't hallucinate even

461
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 1: when I'm getting good dick from somebody. I at the

462
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 1: minute I see some shit I don't fucking like like nowadays,

463
00:23:57,320 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 1: and it's it's a place I had to get to.

464
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 1: It doesn't happen. You just turn your emotions off like

465
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 1: that overnight.

466
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:05,879
Speaker 2: Oh no, that doesn't work for me. That's why I

467
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:07,919
Speaker 2: have to be very selective about who I give my

468
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 2: pussy to, because as soon as he hit it, I'd.

469
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:11,679
Speaker 1: Be like, we love.

470
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:12,719
Speaker 2: I'm a marial.

471
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 1: I can be like that one day and the next

472
00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 1: day I'm not. So maybe it's some Gemini shit. I

473
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 1: don't know. No, I got a high tolerance for some bush.

474
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 1: And then I'll wake and be like I don't want

475
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: this anymore, see and I'm out cold turkey and nigga

476
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:30,359
Speaker 1: real quick.

477
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:34,119
Speaker 2: It takes me a long time to uh, really really

478
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,120
Speaker 2: really be locked in. But once I'm locked in, it's

479
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 2: hard to get me away. Like, oh, we go together, nigga,

480
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:41,400
Speaker 2: where you thought you was going?

481
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 1: It depends on how we had sex. If we use

482
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 1: the condom, I'm not studying your ass. Real you start

483
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 1: hitting that pussy ride you're my husband? Where are you

484
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:53,119
Speaker 1: like what you thought this was?

485
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 2: No, it don't make no difference for me.

486
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 1: Nah, it make it like I'm not studying no condom, Dick.

487
00:24:58,960 --> 00:24:59,640
Speaker 2: I don't feel like.

488
00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 1: I lost anything.

489
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 2: It don't count if we use the condom. It's how you.

490
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: No, I'm not saying it doesn't count, but as far

491
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 1: as like the dick is not that good with plastic

492
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:11,320
Speaker 1: on it, Like I'm not falling in love with condom, Dick.

493
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 1: I'm not falling in love with condom, Dick. It's only

494
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 1: when like we haven't, like weeded sex with no condom,

495
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 1: I'm going nuts. Yeah, But even at that point, like

496
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 1: I know when to get the fuck on through and

497
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:31,479
Speaker 1: I'm in dragged nothing lie, I'm done with it. But

498
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 1: the first thing, y'all set boundaries, right, and then I

499
00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 1: think we all know this right. But applying these things sometimes,

500
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 1: Dick can Maybe you shouldn't have sex.

501
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 2: Don't let them come to your house and don't go

502
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:48,639
Speaker 2: to their house when you first meet a niggas, stop

503
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 2: letting it be our first date. Yeah, come in to chill.

504
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 2: Stop letting niggas do that.

505
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:57,159
Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't go in closed settings with men. I

506
00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 1: don't plan on having sex with. If I say I'm

507
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 1: coming to your house, you're coming to fuck, you better

508
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:07,760
Speaker 1: be ready to fuck otherwise it's outside activity. Yeah, I agree,

509
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 1: you know, so set boundaries. Be clear with yourself. You

510
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 1: heard that. Be clear with yourself first about what you're

511
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 1: looking for and what you're not willing to tolerate in

512
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 1: a relationship. Stick to those boundaries. I think sometimes when

513
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 1: you add sex and for women it does because, like

514
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: I said, men they just they can have sex with

515
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,160
Speaker 1: one hundred different women and they don't have feelings with anybody.

516
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:37,479
Speaker 1: But women we get confused because unless you are a

517
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: car hopper or a prostitute, you know, aka prostitute, like

518
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:46,119
Speaker 1: your pussy literally runs straight to your heart. So the

519
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 1: minute you start having sex with somebody, unless you really really.

520
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:51,160
Speaker 2: Just but I don't know, because these young girls kind

521
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:54,399
Speaker 2: of different now, they're kind of different. Grown men, grown

522
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 2: asks men, how did you do that, teach me.

523
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 1: I don't know. I can't, I can't, I can't neither.

524
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:12,679
Speaker 1: Focusing on yourself, so have all the things you like

525
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:15,200
Speaker 1: to do, keep doing those things. When you start dealing

526
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 1: with a man. You don't always have to be super

527
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 1: available for somebody you're just dating, So keep busy. Focus

528
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: on yourself. Invest time and energy into your own interest, hobbies,

529
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 1: and personal growth. The more fulfilled you are independently, the

530
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 1: less you might feel the need for emotional attachment to

531
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 1: someone else. Don't give up your hobbies, bitch.

532
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 2: Right and your friends they busy. A lot of girls

533
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 2: start seeing a nigga and then don't be friends with

534
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 2: their friends no more, Like I.

535
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 1: Don't like them type of bitches. I can't stand them,

536
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 1: like and I feel like they're usually capricorns.

537
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 2: All the caricorns offended.

538
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: Well, when capricorns get a man.

539
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 2: Don't even for them, just somebody dealing with Like, damn,

540
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:02,480
Speaker 2: are we still friends? Bitch?

541
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 1: You're not gonna hear from them until that relationship start

542
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 1: going south and they need somebody to call and talk

543
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 1: shit with other than that, like if they're in bliss

544
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 1: whatever with whoever, Like they don't have any friends. They

545
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:18,359
Speaker 1: fixate on whomever they're in a relationship with. That's a problem.

546
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 1: You gotta find balance. You gotta know how to balance

547
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: relationships and friendship, because, bitch, one of these days you

548
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,239
Speaker 1: gonna call me and I ain't gonna answer for your

549
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 1: ass no more. You can't be treating me like that.

550
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,919
Speaker 2: My uh, one of my friends got married, which I'm

551
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 2: happy for her marriage and all that, like I love them,

552
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 2: But now I can't FaceTime you had twelve o'clock no more.

553
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:41,760
Speaker 2: I'm into bed with my husband Timmy bitch, you was

554
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 2: in the bed with your boyfriend before, and I used

555
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 2: to be able to FaceTime you down here your husband.

556
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 1: I can't face Tiba at night no more. You meant

557
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: by I had you meant by? I had a fucking

558
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 1: bad time, Yes, yeah, you yall. I used to have

559
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 1: a fucking curfew.

560
00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 2: I couldn't even call her at night. Girl.

561
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 1: This bitch used to be like, girl, I gotta go

562
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 1: to bed. What you got it?

563
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 2: I don't want to.

564
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 1: But yes, it didn't even matter what the fuck I

565
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 1: was doing. I could have been in the middle of

566
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: writing my journal or something. Nigga turning light off on me, bitch,

567
00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 1: like straight disrespect I'm time to go to sleep, and

568
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 1: I do have a problem sleeping at night. I feel

569
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 1: like this is just two different people. I don't think

570
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:26,880
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to sleep at night. I like when the

571
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 1: rest of the world is you're not turning, I think, yeah,

572
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 1: I think better when everybody else is like like everybody

573
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 1: else as sleep, I'm up thinking of a master plan.

574
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 1: Like that's when I do my best work daytime. I'm

575
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 1: not a morning person.

576
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 2: Not that nigga. That nigga said it's nine o'clock, so bitch.

577
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 2: I used to be laid in the bed like just

578
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 2: couldn't sleep like a kid. She's like mad, you like

579
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 2: text me, I can't.

580
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 1: Talk shit day So keep keep your keep your hobbies, man,

581
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 1: stay busy. When dayton, you know, don't meet somebody and

582
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:06,480
Speaker 1: then you automatically start fixating and working them into your

583
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 1: lives because men don't work that way. You know, men

584
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 1: are loyal to themselves first. That's the problem. A lot

585
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 1: of women we give up who we are for relationships.

586
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:22,280
Speaker 1: Don't do that. Keep perspective. Remind yourself of the reasons

587
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 1: why catch your feelings might not be ideal for you

588
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 1: at the moment. Reflect on past experiences to understand patterns

589
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 1: and potential pitfalls. You got all these dumb bitch stories.

590
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 2: Listen, when I start cutting up, when I start getting

591
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 2: to in my head about a nigga that ain't my nigga,

592
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 2: I put on flow MILLI. That is not my nigga.

593
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 2: That's all I play that. I have to remind myself

594
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: it's not your nigga.

595
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 1: Heard that one I like flow Milly. I hadn't heard

596
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: that song.

597
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 2: Well, I won't send it to you because that's my

598
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:51,480
Speaker 2: That's one of my gym songs.

599
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: So if you got to think about all the bad

600
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: shit that transpired in a previous relationship to help you,

601
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 1: like steady your mind in this current thing you're doing,

602
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 1: then do that.

603
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 2: Oh that's bad advice.

604
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,320
Speaker 1: If you start seeing some path No, if you start

605
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 1: seeing patterns from a previous situation, Okay, I always go

606
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 1: into a new situation. I'd be ready to I like

607
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: first dates. I be ready to fall in love again.

608
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 1: I'm never scared. Okay, I don't ever let like previous shit.

609
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 2: But I don't think you should let the old shit

610
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 2: got the new shit though.

611
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 1: Just no, absolutely not. But still be on the lookout,

612
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:29,840
Speaker 1: you know, go in with not with your fucking eyes

613
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: closed every time. Yeah, not saying that every man is

614
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: the same, Absolutely not, And sometimes we gotta change it.

615
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: Don't even be like you you're attracting the same thing

616
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:42,400
Speaker 1: because you haven't changed yet, right, I agree there. Yeah,

617
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 1: So I'm not saying, like, just discard people because you

618
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:47,960
Speaker 1: see some shit that I mean sometimes I don't know.

619
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 2: I mean, if you start seeing rag flags that are familiar,

620
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 2: definitely you know, exit stage left. But don't be taking

621
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:59,480
Speaker 2: that old baggage in the new shit and then spasing

622
00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 2: on a nigga because of something the nigga did before

623
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 2: I done did that.

624
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 1: So you don't do that.

625
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 2: I'm about to say I've done that, and I didn't

626
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 2: even realize I was doing it till it was already done.

627
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:12,120
Speaker 2: I was like, damn, I overreacted, didn't I Then I

628
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 2: started did you apolog I started crying. I missed my grandma.

629
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 1: Shit manipulation boy, Grandma. Remember one time I was crying

630
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 1: buy some shit, like I know, I was dead ass

631
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: fucking ross. I bust out crying and was like shut

632
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 1: that fake ask right, caught with a whole nigga in

633
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 1: the phone, all type of weard shit.

634
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 2: I was doing.

635
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 1: Man, Look still, I just want grace because I seen

636
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 1: some shit on your fucking phone. I didn't bother you

637
00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 1: about it. I mind, I goddamn business because I choose

638
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: to be happy every day. Why are you choosing violence?

639
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 2: Right?

640
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: We all got some shit going. I seen some shit

641
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 1: the other day in a nigga phone, and look, I

642
00:32:57,800 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 1: ain't gonna bring it up, so I do some shit.

643
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 1: I told that nigga. I was like, shit, I could

644
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 1: beast out on you right now, but I want to

645
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 1: be happy, right the fuck.

646
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you have that.

647
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 1: Date others. Okay, this is the thing that men understand

648
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 1: and women don't. We don't know how to date, like

649
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: what dating actually is, Like, you don't just you're not

650
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 1: supposed to just be hanging out with one person. You're

651
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 1: supposed to have a roster unless until you're exclusively dating.

652
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,880
Speaker 1: Then you're supposed to date multiple people. You should be yeah, yeah,

653
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 1: keep your options open, like stop getting this one dude

654
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: you like him, But Dayton, don't.

655
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:35,959
Speaker 2: Mean fuck y'all.

656
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 1: That's where we be having shit fucked up.

657
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 2: And people just have sex so quick now, like two

658
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 2: three days and they already having sex. I ain't doing that.

659
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: If I if I've ever had sex quick with a man,

660
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 1: I really just wanted to fuck. Yeah, I already know

661
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 1: what time it is. I may not even be expected.

662
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 1: I'm not expecting nothing. I have no expectations if I

663
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: give that pussy up quick. But I think like that's

664
00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: like almost a standard.

665
00:33:58,880 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 2: Now.

666
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 1: Niggas think they supposed to have sex with you by

667
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: the third day because another woman did.

668
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 2: That's crazy.

669
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: That's why we set the standards. We got it. We

670
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:08,919
Speaker 1: never all want to be on one accord. But that's

671
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 1: why you have to let that man know what your

672
00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 1: standard is. Deal.

673
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,439
Speaker 2: I'd be like, I haven't even used my passport yet,

674
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:14,839
Speaker 2: what are.

675
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 1: You talking about? You ain't did nothing yet, you ain't

676
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:19,720
Speaker 1: invested no money yet, nothing.

677
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 2: No, you ain't made me feel Always let niggas know.

678
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 2: I need to be made to feel special and that

679
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 2: and that's and that's what it's gonna take. You know,

680
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 2: it's not gonna be just some dinners. It needs to

681
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 2: be conversation communication. I need to know that you really

682
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 2: fuck with me before I do that with you. At

683
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,359
Speaker 2: this stage in my life. Should have caught me in.

684
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: I need I need something.

685
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 2: You should have caught me a benedict. My boy, if

686
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 2: that's what you was trying to do, I'm grown. I

687
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 2: ain't with that. I'm not on that type of time.

688
00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:52,640
Speaker 2: Especially these roses then came out. They're then fuck the game.

689
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:55,839
Speaker 1: Up for y'all for real. Once you come, you come

690
00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 1: to your senses.

691
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:58,280
Speaker 2: Man, two minutes I'll be sleep.

692
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 1: So date others. Keep your options open. Keeping your options

693
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 1: open can help prevent you from fixating on one person.

694
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 1: This doesn't mean leading anyone on, but rather exploring different

695
00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 1: connections without getting too emotionally invested. Stay grounded, Be mindful

696
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 1: of idolizing the person or projecting unrealistic expectations onto them.

697
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: Try to see them as they are, flaws and all.

698
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: I think we always fall in love with the potential

699
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:34,240
Speaker 1: of men and men men do the same thing with women,

700
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 1: right Because I'm not out here saying no fucked up women,

701
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:37,839
Speaker 1: because there are.

702
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 2: Ooh, let me tell y'all the story. It was this

703
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:45,280
Speaker 2: actor that I really liked his character on the movie

704
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 2: he was in, and I slid his DMS. We became friends,

705
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 2: we started hanging out, and.

706
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:58,080
Speaker 1: He was not the same nigga as the character. I

707
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:04,880
Speaker 1: was like, I like your care They're better EO you.

708
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 1: Most actors are lame. Most rappers are fucking lame when

709
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,879
Speaker 1: you actually get to know them, like they schizophrenic.

710
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 2: My feelings was so hurt. I was like, damn, your

711
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 2: character way cooler than you are. So I was idolizing

712
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:20,879
Speaker 2: this person who wasn't even that person, you know.

713
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:23,240
Speaker 1: And yeah he was acting. But most men are acting

714
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: when you first meet them, you meeting their representatives.

715
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,160
Speaker 2: Most people, though not just men, women do that shit too.

716
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 2: You don't meet they crazy, they insecure and all that

717
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 2: shit at first.

718
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,279
Speaker 1: I try to put all that shit out when you

719
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 1: first meet.

720
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 2: Me, you're crazy, insecure?

721
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 1: Yes, So you can't say I changed.

722
00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 2: Non They're gonna be like, I didn't even know this

723
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 2: was you. I don't. I mean, there's no reason to

724
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:53,359
Speaker 2: present your crazy or insecure in the beginning, right What

725
00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 2: would be the reason to have that shit, that shit

726
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 2: come out gradually?

727
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 1: Why? I know, people people do learn your insecurity like crazy,

728
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:01,880
Speaker 1: Like my crazy could be different, My crazy could be fun.

729
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:05,319
Speaker 2: Yeah you know, yeah, yeah.

730
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 1: It's not like I don't have a reason to beast

731
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 1: out on you right now, crazy, but my regular crazy

732
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: is funy. I agree. I'm a little eccentric sometimes the.

733
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 2: Bitch walk around with a microphone, so, bitch, because you're

734
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:26,320
Speaker 2: gonna hear it. How many bitches y'all know, got a

735
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 2: microphone in the purse, like a karaoke microphone, like with

736
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 2: a speaker built into that. Bitch, just walking around with

737
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:35,439
Speaker 2: it in a person.

738
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:40,400
Speaker 1: You're gonna hear me. Maintain distance, okay, limit the amount

739
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:42,440
Speaker 1: of time you spend with the person you're trying not

740
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 1: to catch feelings for it. This might mean avoiding one

741
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 1: on one situations or setting boundaries around communication. Stop being available, bitch,

742
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 1: Let that phone ring a couple times, call him back.

743
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,399
Speaker 1: You could just you know, you could be sitting there

744
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:00,320
Speaker 1: looking at it, wanting to pick it up so bad.

745
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 1: You cannot let people think that. And I feel like

746
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,320
Speaker 1: that's why women be falling in love with men oftentimes

747
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:09,920
Speaker 1: because men they don't intentionally we have to intentionally not

748
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 1: be available, right. Men just naturally do them right. They

749
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:17,839
Speaker 1: don't just intentionally not answer the phone. Like when when

750
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 1: a woman likes a guy like, were going to be available.

751
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 1: You don't want to play no games, but for men

752
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: to get there. To me, that's not how you get men.

753
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 1: I think making them spend money is how you actually

754
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 1: keep and get them, get them and keep. Men like investments.

755
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:35,399
Speaker 1: Like we value our pussy, they value they pocket. So

756
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:38,120
Speaker 1: if you want to keep a man, you got to

757
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: make them spend some fucking money.

758
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 2: Especially with men who got a lot of money, you

759
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 2: just another commodity at that point.

760
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think even with them, even with them, listen,

761
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:53,399
Speaker 1: I mean, you gots some people who just be out

762
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 1: here just spending money. But I don't talking about regular men.

763
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 1: Everybody don't have access to ballers, So I'm just talking

764
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:00,879
Speaker 1: about regular men. And it ain't how much they make

765
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:03,719
Speaker 1: and how much they willing to spend on you. So

766
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 1: if you make a man invest in you, he's more

767
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 1: likely to stay, And if you want to get married,

768
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 1: he's more likely to stay with that investment. He's more

769
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 1: likely to engage with that investment because he's been paying

770
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:24,720
Speaker 1: all your fucking bills for the last year. So stop putting.

771
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:26,799
Speaker 1: I think I said this earlier. Don't put yourself in

772
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 1: closed settings with men unless you want to have sex

773
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:31,840
Speaker 1: with them, Like it's not cool. I feel like that

774
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 1: might be teasing a little bit, because in a man's mind,

775
00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: if you come to my house, if I fly you out,

776
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,800
Speaker 1: somewhere you obviously having sex, right.

777
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:42,879
Speaker 2: That's what they in their minds, right, that's what they think.

778
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you gotta let them know. But you don't.

779
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 2: I don't give a damn where he fly you. You don't

780
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:51,239
Speaker 2: owe nobody your body, and if you ain't feeling it,

781
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 2: don't do it right. Absolutely, and always have your own money.

782
00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 2: Don't fly nowhere.

783
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 1: To be flying out with no money m hm, putting

784
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:02,959
Speaker 1: up goldfundmeans to get back home.

785
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:07,239
Speaker 2: I remember I had to reach out to the Red

786
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 2: Cross for a bitch to get her home when we was.

787
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:15,480
Speaker 1: Not reach out to the Red Cross, not Red Cross

788
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:17,239
Speaker 1: giving money for flood out situations.

789
00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:19,680
Speaker 2: They did. They got her back. Shout out to the

790
00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 2: Red Cross.

791
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:25,800
Speaker 1: And that is not a real thing. I swear, I swear.

792
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 2: I don't like one of my homegirls went out with

793
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 2: some dude that wasn't right, and she got left somewhere

794
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 2: far away from South Carolina, and I called the Red

795
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 2: Cross for help and they got her. I think they

796
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 2: put her on the Greyhound home. They paid for it.

797
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 1: Don't get these bitches no bright ideas.

798
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, if you ever get stuck Red Cross

799
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 2: with fuck with you. But don't do that. Just go

800
00:40:56,920 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 2: with your own money so you don't have to depend

801
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 2: on the charity of others.

802
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 1: How stupid some women are. They gonna be using Red

803
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 1: Cross to go to a nigga who ain't paid for nothing, right,

804
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:11,080
Speaker 1: They're gonna start with the Red Cross, they gonna start.

805
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 1: Oh lord, hell, let somebody greyhound yokuci is wild? Right

806
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 1: to me?

807
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:21,040
Speaker 2: No red Cross and Yokuchi across the country to give

808
00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:22,799
Speaker 2: it to a nigga who ain't doing nothing for you.

809
00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:23,800
Speaker 2: It's even crazier.

810
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 1: Ooh, Look, seek support is the last one. Talk to

811
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:34,280
Speaker 1: friends or therapists, or we talk back about your feelings

812
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:39,879
Speaker 1: and strategies for managing them. Sometimes external, external perspectives can

813
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 1: provide valuable insight and support.

814
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 2: Yes, always, people can see things much clearer from the

815
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:47,760
Speaker 2: outside of your shit.

816
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:51,359
Speaker 1: Right mm hmmm, Like if I'm not in a dumb

817
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 1: bitch mold like, I can help you with your dumb

818
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 1: bitch shit. Absolutely shit, even if I'm being a dumb

819
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 1: bitch right now. I always got good ad advice for people.

820
00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 2: I might not take our own advice, but I gotta

821
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 2: say it for you. You know, when you in to think

822
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 2: of it, it'd be hard. You know when you want

823
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:10,759
Speaker 2: to think of it. But mm hmm, but yeah, talk

824
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 2: to your friend, the level headed friend.

825
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: So that's an online list I found. But you know

826
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 1: some things I want to give to younger women when Dayton,

827
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:23,839
Speaker 1: When a man starts talking about sex, immediately start talking

828
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:31,040
Speaker 1: about money. Okay, everybody gotta be uncomfortable. Now you make

829
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:35,399
Speaker 1: me uncomfortable, I'm gonna make you uncomfortable, so immediately, I mean,

830
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: like if he just start rubbing up on your leg,

831
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:41,799
Speaker 1: like getting too close to whatever, like, yeah, start talking

832
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 1: about money immediately because either he gonna give it to

833
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 1: you or he ain't. And you freak clear what you're

834
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:46,760
Speaker 1: pussy intack.

835
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 2: Or set you know, a boundary with him about what

836
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 2: you go for and what you require and don't necessarily

837
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:53,960
Speaker 2: have to be.

838
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: Girl line steppers don't give a fuck about boundaries. Like

839
00:42:58,160 --> 00:42:59,719
Speaker 1: those are the main people who have a problem with

840
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:03,439
Speaker 1: bound There's the people who want to cross them, cross them. Yeah,

841
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:06,399
Speaker 1: Like they don't give a shit about your boundaries. So

842
00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:07,280
Speaker 1: if you're.

843
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:10,800
Speaker 2: Gonna media, I'm start talking about money. It's just giving

844
00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:14,360
Speaker 2: prostitution a little bit right, how how okay?

845
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:16,720
Speaker 1: But you can dig my goal, but I can't dig yours.

846
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 2: Okay, that's true, you can, but I mean, yeah, but

847
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:25,600
Speaker 2: then it seemed like you're ready to play for pay.

848
00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:27,840
Speaker 1: But you may not. I may not have sex with

849
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 1: this person. I just want him to feel as uncomfortable

850
00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: as I am, as as he's made me be. Like

851
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:38,919
Speaker 1: I said, we value our kucci, they value their purse. Yeah,

852
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:43,479
Speaker 1: I want you to feel as uncomfortable as you've made

853
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 1: me at this point.

854
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 2: Sorry, let's let's roll play Damn fine as fun them

855
00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 2: Titty's sitting nice baby, what's up you're trying to what

856
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 2: you're trying to do after this?

857
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 3: Man?

858
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:55,720
Speaker 2: Shit?

859
00:43:56,080 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 1: Man, I just lost these five thousand dollars airrings my

860
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:07,640
Speaker 1: grandma gave me, Like yeah, I automatically got some extravagant

861
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 1: ass shit. I need some random ask twenty twenty five

862
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:13,359
Speaker 1: hundred dollar bill.

863
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 2: So so with people like shit, ain't no problem.

864
00:44:16,560 --> 00:44:20,920
Speaker 1: I repluest the money first, though, and then you fucking

865
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 1: though no, I ain't fucking no, I'm still not fucking okay,

866
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 1: like you still have to make them do so.

867
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 2: So now he doesn't get that quick and you and

868
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:33,240
Speaker 2: now he asked for some pussy.

869
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: I'd have fuck a nigga for nothing. Quicker why not?

870
00:44:42,520 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 1: Why not? What are we saying, like, let's stop acting

871
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: like men just be out here with abundance of money

872
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:50,399
Speaker 1: like that. I don't even realize niggas have money till

873
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 1: like my late twenties.

874
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 2: The fuck I didn't know.

875
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 1: So we're not about to act like we just like

876
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 1: men just be out here spending all his money. But

877
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 1: at some point, you you gotta find out what he

878
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 1: got going on. Ask Men are not afraid to ask

879
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:05,879
Speaker 1: for what they want, so why are you?

880
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 2: I agree, But don't be talking about money. And then

881
00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:13,239
Speaker 2: when he throw that money and you still ain't ready

882
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 2: to give up, no, kuchi, it might be a problem,

883
00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 2: That's all I'm saying. Niggas might be ready to I

884
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 2: think you, Oh, seron owe me back like you owe

885
00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 2: your text.

886
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 1: If he ain't trying to catch a charge, there's nothing

887
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 1: that's gonna happen. He's not going to do anything to you,

888
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:34,759
Speaker 1: So what's the problem. And to me, it's easier to

889
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 1: ask a man to spend money than to marry you.

890
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 1: So if you actually like dating with intention and you're

891
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: trying to get married, you got to start there first

892
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:43,279
Speaker 1: seeing if he's going to take care of you.

893
00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:49,839
Speaker 2: I agree, but y'all don't mess around it be all

894
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 2: fucked ubout selling pussy and you ain't. No, you was

895
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 2: doing that because you listen to talk.

896
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:59,760
Speaker 1: I'm not selling pussy. That is not selling pussy. Asking

897
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 1: you're dating to do some shit for you is not

898
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: selling pussy.

899
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:04,520
Speaker 2: Why not?

900
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:07,720
Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, like, if you see, that's that's

901
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 1: what men want us to think that, Oh, they want

902
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:12,640
Speaker 1: you to value yourself, but the minute you do, it's

903
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:18,759
Speaker 1: a problem. If you value yourself monetarily. Yeah, yeah, that's

904
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 1: not selling pussy because I want the man that wants me.

905
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:24,840
Speaker 2: But all right, so all right, let's say to do

906
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:26,480
Speaker 2: nice things for me. If he gave you the five

907
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 2: thousand for the earrings that your grandma gave you and

908
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 2: you fucking after that, would you have before that?

909
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: Though? I probably would have. But even if you want

910
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:39,840
Speaker 1: to have sex with this person, make them do some

911
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: shit for you for no.

912
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,360
Speaker 2: I agree that. I agree, even if it's.

913
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:46,959
Speaker 1: Not money, like get your car wash, do things nice

914
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:50,279
Speaker 1: things for you. The more a man does for you physically,

915
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:53,960
Speaker 1: he's more than likely willing to state.

916
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 2: I just said, make that man, require that man to

917
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 2: make you feel special, whatever that looks like for you.

918
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, five thousand dollars earrings.

919
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 2: Whatever that looks like for you, requires that and until

920
00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 2: you don't, until you feel like that, don't share your body.

921
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 2: That's all. That's how I feel it. Don't put no

922
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:16,399
Speaker 2: monetary amount on it.

923
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:21,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, but most women are already having sex, and most

924
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,800
Speaker 1: women have already had sex with a man who didn't

925
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:26,879
Speaker 1: do anything for them. So all I'm saying is try

926
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:30,879
Speaker 1: to reverse that cycle with the next person you date

927
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 1: so you won't feel like you lost in the end.

928
00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a cat mouse saying because these niggas is

929
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 2: out here like, don't body bitch and shit until they

930
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 2: fucking you. And then the girls is like, don't fuck

931
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 2: them until he do something for you. He buying you shit.

932
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 2: But people keep having babies. So somebody is fucking up

933
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:52,239
Speaker 2: the rules. I don't know.

934
00:47:53,320 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 1: It's us. It's women fucking up the rules. It's not men.

935
00:47:57,920 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 1: It's us fucking up the rules because they're the sector

936
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 1: of women that's okay with bare minimum bullshit, you know

937
00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:07,640
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So then when they come over here

938
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,440
Speaker 1: until we talk back, Like I always say, it's inflation.

939
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: It costs a lot over here. It's a problem. Yeah,

940
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:19,960
Speaker 1: but if every woman was on the same standard, all

941
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:24,360
Speaker 1: men would know that there is there's certain things you

942
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:27,880
Speaker 1: gotta come with before you approach a woman. But because

943
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 1: there's some bitch always willing to let a nigga sleep

944
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 1: on the couch, they're gonna come with a bare minimum

945
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 1: because the whole thing is pussy. Like that movie Shiraq,

946
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 1: I understand. I don't know if people didn't understand the premise,

947
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:44,160
Speaker 1: but it was stupid. But the premise was like, if

948
00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 1: women stop having sex, men would become better. But if

949
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:50,280
Speaker 1: as long as they can still get that thing without

950
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 1: having to do anything, they like easy, right, they like easy,

951
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:59,240
Speaker 1: So don't be easy. Make it hard for these niggas.

952
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 1: That's the last last. Make it hard for them.

953
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 2: Just be made to feel special. Whatever that look like

954
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:11,319
Speaker 2: for you, sus, whatever that look like, and require it

955
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 2: and don't stick beside your your standards.

956
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 1: Some women give the pussy up just because somebody gives

957
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:25,760
Speaker 1: them a just a small little words of appreciation, wards

958
00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 1: of appreciation, but just like giving them a compliment, Women

959
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:32,800
Speaker 1: get compliments and start giving a pussy up some words.

960
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:35,719
Speaker 2: No that's not enough, sis, Yeah.

961
00:49:35,520 --> 00:49:38,600
Speaker 1: That's not enough, because you are not good within. So

962
00:49:38,719 --> 00:49:41,799
Speaker 1: any man that comes along and gives you compliments that

963
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 1: make you feel good, right, you automatically now fallen in love.

964
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 1: And all he's giving you was some fucking words. No,

965
00:49:49,680 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 1: they have to give you more. I agree, and it

966
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:55,440
Speaker 1: may not for some it may not look financial, but

967
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: we all need things.

968
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:02,200
Speaker 2: I agree, So for me, like what's your name?

969
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 1: Tamar Tomorrow was like, I'm old school. How do I

970
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 1: know you like me? If you don't give me.

971
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 2: Money, you're not buying me something.

972
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 1: If you're not buying me something, I'm confused because men,

973
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 1: and I said this before men. Some men they get

974
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 1: their ego fed through how many bitches they can run through,

975
00:50:16,920 --> 00:50:19,360
Speaker 1: and some get their ego fed by how many women

976
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 1: they can take care of, how many people they can

977
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:25,399
Speaker 1: take care of. I like the latter to like generous men.

978
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 1: I like men who feel good. I like to do

979
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:31,520
Speaker 1: stuff for people. I like metal gifts. I like it

980
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 1: made me feel good to surprise people with stuff sometimes too.

981
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. If it's a quick cash app,

982
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 1: twenty dollars, send me.

983
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 2: Something, bitch, send me something now that you like. Now

984
00:50:41,960 --> 00:50:43,919
Speaker 2: that I know that you, it make you feel good

985
00:50:43,960 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 2: to surprise people with some shit, surprise me with some shit.

986
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:48,959
Speaker 2: It's time.

987
00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 1: It's time ten dollars for lunch. Look, I said. So.

988
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:55,919
Speaker 1: The other day one of my guy friends, he sent

989
00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:58,720
Speaker 1: me a video. It was a girl talking shit about

990
00:50:58,719 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 1: how a guy sent her thirty for lunch, right, and

991
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:03,839
Speaker 1: she was like, what the fuck I'm gonna do with third?

992
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 1: Like she was being very grateful in the video, But

993
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 1: that very morning I had sent my homegirl one hundred

994
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 1: dollars for lunch. She was going through some shit I

995
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 1: sent her, and it really wasn't for lunch, just whatever

996
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 1: she needed to do, but I sent for lunch, right.

997
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: So you we got to be the men for our

998
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:25,439
Speaker 1: homegirls at this point, because I understood what the girl

999
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 1: was saying, and I also understand the other side of it.

1000
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: It was a random dude on Instagram trying to do

1001
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 1: a nice gesture for a random bitch on Instagram, and

1002
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:36,840
Speaker 1: she was complete nobody. Oh you shit though, no, absolutely not.

1003
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 1: So somebody gives you anything and you can be appreciates, right.

1004
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:42,600
Speaker 2: And you can, I mean, you can eat with thirty dollars.

1005
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 2: It may not be what you're accustomed to eating. Maybe

1006
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 2: you eat one hundred dollar meals every day for lunch.

1007
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 1: So me knowing my homegirl, like one hundred dollars was appropriate.

1008
00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:56,520
Speaker 1: But so you can't send me no posts like this

1009
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 1: when I just sent a bitch one hundred dollars.

1010
00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, the fuck. But I mean, I get it, I

1011
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:06,879
Speaker 2: get it, I get I don't get her perspective though,

1012
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:09,080
Speaker 2: because this wasn't even nobody. You knew this was a

1013
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 2: random person since you saw so.

1014
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:12,920
Speaker 1: So in her mind she's like, if he wanted to

1015
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 1: get to know me, he need to have sent more money.

1016
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:16,759
Speaker 2: Nah, No, he don't need to.

1017
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:19,839
Speaker 1: I think it's entitlement. It's the entitlement that some men

1018
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 1: get disgusted with women. I understand. But the same way

1019
00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:25,920
Speaker 1: I'm asking for something from a man, I come.

1020
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 2: Through a shit exactly.

1021
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:28,959
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I'm gonna make a business better.

1022
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:31,279
Speaker 1: I'm a business professional. Whatever you got going on, I'm

1023
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:33,440
Speaker 1: gonna help you with it. Like I come through with

1024
00:52:33,640 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 1: right and intrinsic value.

1025
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:38,160
Speaker 2: And I don't typically ask for shit that I can't

1026
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:39,239
Speaker 2: provide for myself.

1027
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:44,799
Speaker 1: That part, that part, and I don't know, because I

1028
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:47,840
Speaker 1: do save my bags for a big thing that I

1029
00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 1: can't do for myself. Otherwise I'm just doing it for myself.

1030
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 1: And if you come through with some shit, then thank you.

1031
00:52:52,600 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 1: But at this stage I need some big shit. What

1032
00:52:56,680 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 1: can't I do for my what can't you do for yourself?

1033
00:52:59,120 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 1: At this stage, it's not about what I can do

1034
00:53:02,480 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 1: what I don't want.

1035
00:53:03,480 --> 00:53:05,400
Speaker 2: To do right now, I ain't saying this all stuff

1036
00:53:05,440 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 2: that I want to do, but push come to shove.

1037
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 2: If you're not gonna do it, guess who will me?

1038
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:17,000
Speaker 2: You know somebody me, I'll do it. I could do it,

1039
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 2: so I know.

1040
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 1: Somebody somebody gonna do it. Said I'm gonna do it too,

1041
00:53:25,719 --> 00:53:27,399
Speaker 1: because I'm not about to act like I just had

1042
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 1: niggas finance in my life, my entire life. It's just

1043
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 1: not true. But I've never been in a relationship with

1044
00:53:33,160 --> 00:53:35,400
Speaker 1: a man who didn't want to take care of me. Now,

1045
00:53:35,440 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 1: they probably was doing all the other bullshit, but they

1046
00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:40,800
Speaker 1: were taking care of the shit they're supposed to be

1047
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 1: taking care of it when it comes. That's all it matters.

1048
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 1: So don't don't settle, ladies. Don't settle anyway, y'all. Listen,

1049
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 1: I already said the last last earlier. Just just keep

1050
00:53:52,040 --> 00:53:54,200
Speaker 1: your keep your regrets to a minimum. That's why I

1051
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 1: like to tell young girls, keep your regrets to a

1052
00:53:57,440 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 1: minimum when you're out here.

1053
00:53:59,000 --> 00:54:02,160
Speaker 2: Shit, everybody, not just young girls, all of us, keep

1054
00:54:02,200 --> 00:54:06,840
Speaker 2: your regrets to a minimum and set boundaries for yourself

1055
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:11,479
Speaker 2: and stick beside them. That's my biggest thing for twenty

1056
00:54:11,560 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 2: twenty four is not allowing my empathy for other people's

1057
00:54:16,040 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 2: situations to flex my boundaries for myself. Ooh, I've been

1058
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:22,800
Speaker 2: I've known to do that. Like, well he's his grandmother

1059
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:26,480
Speaker 2: is sick. Well, well he took a L.

1060
00:54:26,560 --> 00:54:29,279
Speaker 1: He takes benefit of a doubt. I stay giving him

1061
00:54:29,280 --> 00:54:30,479
Speaker 1: motherfucker benefit of the doubt.

1062
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 2: Oh he took an L. He took a huge L.

1063
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:35,360
Speaker 2: And then now here my boundaries are flexing. No, stop

1064
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 2: building l Pray for them and wish them luck and

1065
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 2: wish them well. But don't flex your own boundaries because

1066
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 2: of other people. Shit. You mess around in your boundaries

1067
00:54:44,120 --> 00:54:50,200
Speaker 2: laying down by the riverside, I know, trust me. That's

1068
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:51,320
Speaker 2: my last last.

1069
00:54:52,320 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, Okay, if you enjoyed this episode, y'all

1070
00:54:55,760 --> 00:54:58,240
Speaker 1: tune in every Thursday on the iHeart Radio app wherever

1071
00:54:58,280 --> 00:55:00,920
Speaker 1: the fuck you get your podcast at. This is your

1072
00:55:00,960 --> 00:55:04,840
Speaker 1: co host, aj Holiday two point zero on instagrams.

1073
00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 2: Kick a Tam, y'all, It's official Tam Bam on Instagram.

1074
00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:11,440
Speaker 2: Y'all guess what. I'm down twenty one pounds. I'm so

1075
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:12,840
Speaker 2: proud of myself and.

1076
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 1: Oh shit, bit ch'all got that type of flex. I

1077
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:19,120
Speaker 1: still look like a hamster and.

1078
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:22,120
Speaker 2: I've been doing herbal life and before I wanted to

1079
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 2: introduce it to y'all, I had to try to make

1080
00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 2: sure it worked for me. And it has worked. So

1081
00:55:26,280 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 2: if y'all interested, like, go to my page. The link

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Speaker 2: is in my bio. Y'all could join me. If you

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Speaker 2: decide to join me, DM me and I'll add you

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Speaker 2: to my close friends. We got about ninety days before summer. Come,

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Speaker 2: let's get this weight off and be fine for the summer.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, hit that link DM me. We're gonna be

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Speaker 2: home close friends now. Oh remember speak now.

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Speaker 1: And never hold a weight.

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Speaker 2: I guess.

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