1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 1: Conversations on life, style, beauty, and relationships. It's The Velvet's 2 00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Edge Podcast with Kelly Henderson. One of the questions I 3 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 1: get the most from you guys is where did the 4 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 1: name Velvet's Edge come from? And it started a long 5 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:18,919 Speaker 1: time ago when I actually started the blog with a partner, 6 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,920 Speaker 1: my friend April, who was an interior designer, and so 7 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 1: we were just searching for words that could work with 8 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: both her career and interior design and then also in 9 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: my career in fashion and hair and makeup, and velvet 10 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: and edge were two words that came to us as 11 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: both things that could work as far as describing a 12 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: personality type, but they could also work as far as 13 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:44,559 Speaker 1: a fabric or a corner of a room or the 14 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: corner of a couch, or a fabric for a couch, 15 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: or a velvet Matt lipstick. So the two words actually 16 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: worked for both of our businesses, and we decided that 17 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 1: the combination really kind of encompassed our personalities. What we 18 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: thought at the time was that she was the velvet 19 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: and I was the edge, which is actually hilarious to 20 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 1: think about because the more I think we got to 21 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: know each other, we realized that at different times, I 22 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: could be the velvet and she could be the edge, 23 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: or she could be the velvet and I could be 24 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: the edge. And so that kind of brings me to 25 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 1: what it means now. April has since moved on and 26 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: has a thriving business, April Toomin Interiors. I've talked about 27 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 1: it a lot on my Instagram. You guys, go check 28 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: her out. But what does Velvet's edge me now? Now 29 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 1: that it's just mine and that I've kept going with 30 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: this blog and with this website and now this podcast, 31 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 1: it's transition through the years. And so for me now, 32 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 1: I think everyone has a little velvet and a little 33 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: edge to their personality and to their self. And I 34 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: think it's really easy for us to look at someone 35 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: and kind of categorize them as I was saying, April 36 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: and I both did as one or the other, like 37 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:51,560 Speaker 1: she's really sweeter, or he's such a hardass, she's such 38 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: a boss, or he's so kind. But the more I've 39 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:56,920 Speaker 1: grown and I've just gotten to know other people on 40 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: a deeper level, the more and more adamant I am 41 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: about there's not one size that fits all for any 42 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 1: one person. Sure you may be kind, but that doesn't mean, 43 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 1: you can't also be sassy on some days? Am I right? 44 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:11,800 Speaker 1: For me? It just depends on the mood and the day, 45 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 1: And on most days I can honestly be many things. 46 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: I used to try and stop stop that part of 47 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 1: myself and try to just be the one thing and 48 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: be one way, but I realized that isn't actually me. 49 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 1: Like have you ever felt like you just don't fit 50 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: into a mold? Well, the mold was killing me. Trying 51 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 1: to live in a mold was actually killing me. And 52 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: I've really just started to embrace that my ability to 53 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: bring many things to the table is actually a good thing. 54 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: It's a gift to me and yours is a gift 55 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 1: to you. So the question I want to ask each 56 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:44,800 Speaker 1: of you guys today to think about is what are 57 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: the velvet parts of you? And what are the what's 58 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: your edge? So what's your velvet? And what's your head edge? 59 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:55,119 Speaker 1: Not your head at your edge? And yes, as I said, 60 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: I do believe everyone has both. Edge doesn't have to 61 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:02,079 Speaker 1: be feisty or aggressive. Of although my boyfriend's kids have 62 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: started referring to my tone like when I'm matter, I'm 63 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: irritated as the edge, so I think it could be that, 64 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: but I think it can be anything in you that 65 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: embraces the truth of hard things. So maybe it's a 66 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 1: triumph of overcoming some hardship, or maybe it's the way 67 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 1: you feel when you put on your favorite pair of 68 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 1: jeans and you feel a little sassy and you just 69 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:23,639 Speaker 1: feel like you're in your body and you're really feeling 70 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: that spicy side of yourself or the side with a 71 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: little bit of flavor. I've also been doing a ton 72 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: of work with spiritual healer Jake Woodard, and he works 73 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: with healing the masculine and the feminine energies inside of 74 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: all of us, And just like the velvet and the edge, 75 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: he thinks that we have both in each of us. 76 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: So maybe your velvet is your feminine side. It's the 77 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:46,080 Speaker 1: side of you that that can give so much love. 78 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: It's the flow, it's the heart healing that you can 79 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 1: offer the world. Maybe your edge is more of your 80 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: masculine You're like sturdy side, the side that gets ship done, 81 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: and it's grounded and just rooted and very very sturdy. 82 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: So whatever it means for you, my challenge to you 83 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:05,280 Speaker 1: is just to really think about all of the sides 84 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: of yourself and to even start living that way, because 85 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: I just don't believe that any one of us is 86 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 1: stuck being one thing all the time. None of us 87 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 1: should be stuck in a box. So don't let anyone 88 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 1: else frame you up to be only one thing. Always 89 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:23,480 Speaker 1: own both your velvet and your edge. I would also 90 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:26,039 Speaker 1: love to note what you guys want more from me. 91 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: It's just content wise, like what do you guys want 92 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 1: more of? It always helps me to get feedback from 93 00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:33,760 Speaker 1: y'all and just what kind of content do you want 94 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 1: on the podcast. I'm also about to reboot Velvet side 95 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:39,160 Speaker 1: dot com. It's been up, but I will say with 96 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:41,039 Speaker 1: the pandemic, I just had to take a sort of 97 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 1: a pause and a break, and I'm really wanting to 98 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: really establish a community where we can talk about all 99 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: things all velvet, all edge, um, bringing all the fashion 100 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 1: stuff and the makeup stuff that I used to bring, 101 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 1: but also going deeper into the inner beauty, the velvet 102 00:04:57,240 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 1: side of things, the side that makes us us on 103 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 1: the inside and our true selves, not just what we 104 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 1: present to the world all of the time. So what 105 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: do you guys want to hear on the podcast? What 106 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 1: is interesting to you? Interview wise? What's interesting to you 107 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 1: on the edge side of things. When Chip and I 108 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: are just talking and trying to find the funnier side 109 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:19,840 Speaker 1: or the harder topics to talk about them, maybe can 110 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 1: be a little bit awkward on our Friday podcast um 111 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:25,479 Speaker 1: also on my social channels like what is helpful and 112 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:27,880 Speaker 1: beneficial to you? I did just start a TikTok. I 113 00:05:27,920 --> 00:05:29,920 Speaker 1: have to mention that because this was a big thing 114 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: for me today. But I'm at Velvet's Edge on TikTok, 115 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: I feel like an old lady, but I'm trying to 116 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 1: learn the ropes um and just now that the world 117 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 1: is opening back up, I really just want to get 118 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 1: back into posting and really being connected with you guys, 119 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:46,080 Speaker 1: whether that's through fashion and glam post but also just 120 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:49,600 Speaker 1: in the digging deeper. Like I said, so everything from 121 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 1: spiritual hillers that have helped me to lifestyle style hacks 122 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:56,240 Speaker 1: I've learned on hair and makeup tutorials. Please just DM 123 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: me on my Instagram at Velvet's Edge or email me 124 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 1: at Ellie at velvet's Edge dot com with any feedback 125 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: or any questions you guys may have for me. Thank 126 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 1: you so much for listening. I just wanted to kind 127 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 1: of clear that up, because that's a question that I 128 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 1: get all the time, what is Velvet's edge? So now 129 00:06:13,080 --> 00:06:14,679 Speaker 1: you guys know, and it can live in a space 130 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:17,919 Speaker 1: where everyone can figure it out. When you have that question, 131 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,720 Speaker 1: don't forget to tune into the edge side of things. 132 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:24,200 Speaker 1: That was previously called Act Casual. We're still working out 133 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:26,719 Speaker 1: our tagline for that, and it's still very in line 134 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 1: with the Act Casual theme of finding yourself in these 135 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 1: awkward situations and how do you deal with them and 136 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:35,280 Speaker 1: how do you remain casual. But we were calling at 137 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: the Edge because I really want to stick with this 138 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: clarity for you guys of what is velvet and what 139 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:42,640 Speaker 1: is edge and topics that fall under that. So a 140 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 1: new episode of the Velvet side of Things goes up 141 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 1: every Wednesday, and the Edge goes up every Friday with 142 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: my friendship doorsh which is just a little bit late 143 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 1: racier pushing the boundaries a little bit more. All of 144 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:56,440 Speaker 1: our topics, though, on both the Velvet and the Edge 145 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: side of things, are just topics that maybe are hard 146 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: for people to talk about, and I just love diving 147 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,600 Speaker 1: into the real truth behind all things all things velvet 148 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:06,600 Speaker 1: and all things Edge. So I'll see you guys every 149 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: Wednesday and every Friday up on the Velvet Edge podcast. 150 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:12,560 Speaker 1: You can also check everything out on velvet edge dot com. 151 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,200 Speaker 1: It's a great place to shop. If you love vintage tease, 152 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 1: if you love anything you see me wearing on Instagram, 153 00:07:17,840 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: all of that is up on velvet's Edge dot com. 154 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: We also have merch coming soon and I'm on all 155 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: social channels at at Velvet's Edge. That's a tricky one 156 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:31,240 Speaker 1: at at Velvet Edge, on all social channels at Velvet's Edge, 157 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: so check us out. Email me at Kelly at velvet 158 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: edge dot com with any feedback. Thanks so much for listening. 159 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: We'll see you guys this week. Thanks for listening to 160 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: the Velvet's Edge podcast with Kelly Henderson, where we believe 161 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: everyone has a little velvet and a little edge. Subscribe 162 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: for more conversations on life, style, beauty and relationships. Search 163 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: Velvet's Edge wherever you get your podcasts.