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Speaker 1: the phone for a second date update today, and Mia
Speaker 1: says she feels bad about what happened on her date.
Speaker 1: Oh now, Mia, the rule is you only have to
Speaker 1: feel bad if you made them cry. So did he cry? No,
Speaker 1: he didn't cry. All right, Well, then you shouldn't feel bad. Okay,
Speaker 1: your conscience can be cleared and you are free to go.
Speaker 1: You're welcome, have a good day. I don't know. It
Speaker 1: sounds like she's about to cry right now, Mia, it's
Speaker 1: a joke. Sorry, he's being sarcastic. Not really though. Okay,
Speaker 1: well listen, maybe we should learn more before I jumped
Speaker 1: to intrusions. Okay, tell us about this guy. What's his name?
Speaker 1: His name is Steve. Okay, it sounds like a crier. Well, no,
Speaker 1: he didn't cry. My friends at work actually something up
Speaker 1: with him. He works for the company but on a
Speaker 1: different floor, so I've actually never met him. Oh, blind date.
Speaker 1: I always like to know, how are you feeling going
Speaker 1: into this blind date? Hopeful, doubtful? Oh, I was feeling good.
Speaker 1: I was excited. I know, it's it's just been kind
Speaker 1: of like dry for me, and I was excited to
Speaker 1: get out there and like meet someone that my friends
Speaker 1: actually said it was really cool, you know, okay, and
Speaker 1: we're your friends, right. Yeah, he was like really cute
Speaker 1: and we were talking at the bar, and I like
Speaker 1: to just kind of like talk about things right away,
Speaker 1: about relationships. And that's good to want to talk on
Speaker 1: a date. That's a positive no, but not everything. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what are you exactly are you talking? Like? She opened
Speaker 1: it up with like, I have four xes, I'm over
Speaker 1: three of them, but one still having issues. Well, by
Speaker 1: the way, here's my number. Yeah. No, it's just funny
Speaker 1: like how people think about relationships, I guess, And I
Speaker 1: was asking him. I just we were talking and I said,
Speaker 1: you know, I think that you should always share everything
Speaker 1: with your partner, Like in healthy relationships, you don't, you
Speaker 1: don't hide anything. You're really open about everything with each other.
Speaker 1: But not everybody does. I can see why that's an
Speaker 1: important thing to talk about. So you think everything needs
Speaker 1: to be shared, no secrets. Yeah, but then he said
Speaker 1: that he thinks it's not healthy to share everything, but
Speaker 1: there should be boundaries and certain things that you don't
Speaker 1: that are off limits. Basically, okay, I could see his point. Two.
Speaker 1: I mean, if it's how important, how did that sit
Speaker 1: with you? I don't agree. I said, if you're not
Speaker 1: sharing everything, then you're hiding something and that's obviously going
Speaker 1: to poison the relationship. You know. So wait, did you
Speaker 1: did you guys start out your first date with your
Speaker 1: first couple's argument? This is what it sounds like. It
Speaker 1: wasn't an argument. It was just a spirited discussion. You know,
Speaker 1: you're give me your phone? Real? I mean, that is
Speaker 1: a pretty intense way to start off the date. Like
Speaker 1: did things get lighter later? Uh? No? Oh? I said,
Speaker 1: let's test it. And I pointed to a girl across
Speaker 1: the bar and I said, do you think she's attractive? What?
Speaker 1: That is a terrible question. You want this state to
Speaker 1: go back, but don't shore No. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: show him what I was talking about, you know, prove
Speaker 1: my point. And then he said, I'm not answering that, yeah,
Speaker 1: good Joe, Way to go, Steve. How could anyone answer
Speaker 1: that properly? If he says yes, then you're gonna be mad, right,
Speaker 1: You're gonna be Joe's If he says no, then you're
Speaker 1: gonna think he's lying. Well, no, if he's honest and
Speaker 1: says yes, she'll say thank you for being honest. I
Speaker 1: don't think so. Or maybe he says yes and then
Speaker 1: the girl comes and joins in on the date and
Speaker 1: now it's a party. Now you're thinking like every other man.
Speaker 1: So what did he say? Well, he said he wasn't
Speaker 1: going to answer it, and I told him, well, it's
Speaker 1: just a test. Let's just see how it plays out.
Speaker 1: And he was like, fine, Okay, she's a little attractive, Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: safe answer to hit him him? I said, what do
Speaker 1: you like about her? Come on this to yourself. Well,
Speaker 1: he's been so vague. He's not playing by the rules
Speaker 1: I'm setting up. He's probably just trying to be polite
Speaker 1: and not offend you by saying that there's the gorgeous
Speaker 1: woman over there, and he's noticing all these amazing things
Speaker 1: about her. I'd rather he'd be honest and tell me
Speaker 1: that that's the whole point I was trying to make.
Speaker 1: So you nudged him a little bit. I was like,
Speaker 1: so you you probably want to sleep with her, right,
Speaker 1: wouldn't you? Right? This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.
Speaker 1: This sounds like an unstable relationship already, where you're incredibly jealousy.
Speaker 1: Will you just please shut up them? Let me finish? Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: finish okay. So then I said, if you lie to me, Steve,
Speaker 1: I can tell, I'll be able to tell, So just
Speaker 1: tell me the truth. And so then he finally admitted, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd probably sleep with her. And I didn't think he
Speaker 1: was going to answer and say that, and it honestly
Speaker 1: pissed me off. So you asked for the truth and
Speaker 1: then got pissed at it. She's trying to say, well,
Speaker 1: I just didn't think he would answer at least that quick.
Speaker 1: I know, really rude. Oh my god, So is that
Speaker 1: the end of your date? Like? Did you guys continue
Speaker 1: to hang out? You're pissed at this point? What did
Speaker 1: you do? Well? I got kind of quiet, and I mean,
Speaker 1: he tell he said sorry, and I told him it's
Speaker 1: okay to find someone an attractive but like, why would
Speaker 1: you say that you like, why would you say that
Speaker 1: you want to sleep with her? It is not You
Speaker 1: shouldn't have asked the question on This is probably why
Speaker 1: she feels bad. And then you were like, you you
Speaker 1: want to marry her too, you want to have babies
Speaker 1: with her too, You want to open a four O
Speaker 1: one K with her? Okay, stop being ridiculous right now?
Speaker 1: This is serious? Oh yeah, okay, Okay, So what happened next?
Speaker 1: I mean, the date fizzled, it was done. I went home,
Speaker 1: and I mean I just cried a lot, not in
Speaker 1: front of him. I credit home, and you know, I
Speaker 1: just feel bad. How we know? We just paid for
Speaker 1: our drinks and left and it was really awkward and weird.
Speaker 1: I just feel bad about how everything went down. And
Speaker 1: I think I freaked him out because now he's not
Speaker 1: calling me back. Okay, you definitely freaked him out. Are
Speaker 1: you feeling a little bit of remorse about how this
Speaker 1: all played out? Though? Yeah? Duh? I feel bad? Okay,
Speaker 1: how many times we gonna make me say it? Obviously
Speaker 1: that's why I'm calling you guys. Yes, sound remorseful. I
Speaker 1: guess I just told you. Okay, So you want us
Speaker 1: to call Steve, and you want to just explain or
Speaker 1: apologize or what exactly are you looking to do here? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I I want to know why he's not called me back.
Speaker 1: And also, yeah, explain a little bit and tell him
Speaker 1: I feel bad and I don't want the stick the
Speaker 1: end of us. Okay? And and are you are you like?
Speaker 1: Is your new standpoint that you're not going to ask
Speaker 1: those type of questions anymore? Okay? Stop asking me stupid questions.
Speaker 1: Can you guys call on try to get him out
Speaker 1: of date? That's why I called you guys. All right,
Speaker 1: no more questions. We're just we're just gonna play a song.
Speaker 1: We'll come back, we'll call Steve, and we'll try and
Speaker 1: get you a second date. Update. Great, Okay, hold update
Speaker 1: if you're just tuning in for today's second date update.
Speaker 1: We've got Mia on the phone, and Mia is feeling
Speaker 1: regretful about how her first date played out. Questionable but okay,
Speaker 1: I'm hesitant to even recap it because I'm afraid I'm
Speaker 1: gonna say it wrong and make her mad. But the
Speaker 1: sticking point that happened on the actual date is the
Speaker 1: question should you be honest and share everything with your
Speaker 1: significant other? Absolutely every that snowballed out of control because
Speaker 1: her date, Steve, thought that some things need to be
Speaker 1: kept private in a relationship, but Mia disagrees. I think
Speaker 1: you should always be one hundred percent honest. So she
Speaker 1: tested that theory by asking her date point blank if
Speaker 1: he would sleep with a lady sitting across the bar
Speaker 1: from them, and poor Steve gave in and said yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: Well he was asked, Well, that honest answer was a
Speaker 1: little too honest for Mia, and now here we are
Speaker 1: hard feelings on both sides, and Mia has said in
Speaker 1: her own special way that she feels remorse and she
Speaker 1: wants to make things right with Steve again. So Mia,
Speaker 1: what do you think was that recap accurate? I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess those were the facts, But I don't really
Speaker 1: like your tone. Guys. I feel like you're not really
Speaker 1: on my side or no, I'm gonna say, I am
Speaker 1: having a hard time yet, and I'll tell you why.
Speaker 1: It's not because I don't think that honesty is great.
Speaker 1: I just think that you're asking questions that don't matter
Speaker 1: in a relationship, Like it doesn't matter if he's attracted
Speaker 1: to another woman. What matters is he's with you. I
Speaker 1: guess that's your opinion. I disagree and it matters to me.
Speaker 1: So you don't know my life. You don't know how
Speaker 1: I feel about things or what I've gone through. So
Speaker 1: maybe that works for you, but not for me. I
Speaker 1: want to apologize me on behalf of Brook. She is
Speaker 1: just in a really crabby mood today. She gets really
Speaker 1: upset whenever she hears people that sound like they're really
Speaker 1: in love and that they actually have a chance, and
Speaker 1: she gets really jealous and lashes out. So that's probably
Speaker 1: where it's coming from. You're ready, Yeah, Alogy, I'm not apologizing,
Speaker 1: but I hope through all this that we all learn
Speaker 1: something together. Okay, I think that should be the goal
Speaker 1: right here? Okay, can we just stop talking about it
Speaker 1: and call him? Okay, I'm just gonna dial in the
Speaker 1: phone of it right now? Here we go? Why are
Speaker 1: we even part of this? Hello? Hi? Can I speak
Speaker 1: to Steve? Please? Yeah? Speaking Hey Steve. My name's Young
Speaker 1: Jeffrey from the radio. Do you have a minute to
Speaker 1: talk with us? The radio m yes, FM frequency modulated.
Speaker 1: Did I win something? No? Not really? I'm calling because
Speaker 1: we do a segment on our show called a Second
Speaker 1: Date Update. That's where if you go out on a
Speaker 1: date with someone and afterwards they're not calling you back,
Speaker 1: you can email us and we'll try and get a
Speaker 1: hold of them to figure out why. Okay, and so
Speaker 1: you recently went out on a date with a woman
Speaker 1: named Mia. Yeah, yeah, you're right, Steve. I don't think
Speaker 1: there's a lot of mystery and why you're not calling
Speaker 1: her back. She's calling a radio show to ask me
Speaker 1: if I went out with her. No, she knows that
Speaker 1: you guys went out, and she recognizes that maybe things
Speaker 1: didn't play out quite the way she had hoped. I
Speaker 1: don't know what she told you, but I do not
Speaker 1: mind talking about this publicly. The date was weird, man,
Speaker 1: What specifically was weird to you about it? Well, I
Speaker 1: mean the first it was fine. She is attractive, and
Speaker 1: I had coworkers trying to set us up, so it
Speaker 1: was like, okay, if my friends like her, she's got
Speaker 1: to be cool, right, right. So we're sitting at the
Speaker 1: bar and she sees this girl and she pressures me
Speaker 1: into admitting that the other girl is hot, and I
Speaker 1: kept trying to back off, being like, no, I don't
Speaker 1: want to do that, and finally she just wouldn't let
Speaker 1: it go, so just out of pure frustration, I just went, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd sleep with her. Yeah, yeah, we heard, we heard.
Speaker 1: That didn't sit well with her either, that although she
Speaker 1: said she wanted the truth, she didn't really and I'm
Speaker 1: not that kind of guy. And I felt really bad, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I could tell her her feelings, so I tried
Speaker 1: to make it better. It did not work. The date
Speaker 1: kind of sizzled out, and I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: maybe I'm thinking about this the wrong way. Maybe it
Speaker 1: wasn't as bad as I thought. So I was honestly
Speaker 1: planning on calling her back until I got to work.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you are a much bigger person than
Speaker 1: I think most people would have been in your situation.
Speaker 1: Sometimes those fiery girls kind of excited guy. Okay, well
Speaker 1: he's yeah, it was. I guess it was kind of
Speaker 1: like that. But I also just didn't want to base
Speaker 1: it on one day. You know, maybe she's had a
Speaker 1: bad day or something. Right, that's good. Now you're very
Speaker 1: open minded, and you've got really bad luck, like sitting
Speaker 1: across from this gorgeous woman, Like maybe if she had
Speaker 1: pointed to an ugly girl, you would have been inclined
Speaker 1: to say no. Me it's very pretty, Like I wasn't
Speaker 1: trying to say this girl was more attractive than her,
Speaker 1: but I mean, she just wouldn't let it go right right?
Speaker 1: But you said it changed at work. What happened at work? Yeah,
Speaker 1: because one of our mutual friends comes up to me
Speaker 1: at work and goes, dude, I heard what you said.
Speaker 1: Why would you do that? And I went, what are
Speaker 1: you talking about? And he goes, you told me to
Speaker 1: her face that you wanted to go sleep with another
Speaker 1: girl at the bar. Did not twist it like that? Why?
Speaker 1: She absolutely did, or my friend thought she did. So
Speaker 1: I go, hey, she asked me to do that. She
Speaker 1: wouldn't let it go, And then all these other people,
Speaker 1: the officer give me weird looks like I don't know,
Speaker 1: can I curse on the radio because I'm a little
Speaker 1: frustrated now that I'm back into it, because I felt
Speaker 1: like an assole and like that's what she asked me
Speaker 1: to say, right, No, she told us like I told her,
Speaker 1: I was like, Yo, there is no way any any
Speaker 1: person should ever ask another person in a relationship if
Speaker 1: you'd sleep with somebody else, like you're never gonna like
Speaker 1: the answer. And we weren't in a relationship. It was
Speaker 1: the first date, right, Well, we obviously have a lot
Speaker 1: of different opinions here. I think we all need to
Speaker 1: get on the same page. The only way to do
Speaker 1: that is to let you know, Steve that Mia has
Speaker 1: been on the phone listening this entire time. Oh my god, Yeah,
Speaker 1: she wants to talk to you, Mia, Steve him. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I just I just don't know why you're so upset
Speaker 1: about Hi. I'm sorry, guys, I cannot believe this. I
Speaker 1: mean really honestly, though, at this point, he shouldn't surprise me.
Speaker 1: I mean, listen me. I will tell you why I'm upset.
Speaker 1: You made me look like a jerk to everybody at work.
Speaker 1: You didn't tell them everything that happened about how you
Speaker 1: said people in relationships need to share everything. Okay, I
Speaker 1: didn't give them the whole story. I just but I
Speaker 1: told them exactly what you said to me on the date.
Speaker 1: Did you not say you would sleep with her? You
Speaker 1: said that, right? I just told them what was they
Speaker 1: supposed to say when they asked me what happened or
Speaker 1: what you said? You asked me to tell you that? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Are you delusional? I feel like you're living in this
Speaker 1: altered reality. Not only did you ask him, you pressured
Speaker 1: him and he didn't say. He didn't say I'm going
Speaker 1: to go sleep with her tonight? You said would you
Speaker 1: sleep with her? And force him to answer? Okay, first
Speaker 1: of all, shut up step it. Of all, I'm talking
Speaker 1: to Steve and asking him a question and asking him
Speaker 1: about if he had a problem with something like you
Speaker 1: clearly do. But weren't different people, So let us to
Speaker 1: figure this out. You can have to answer, Steve. I
Speaker 1: told my friends the truth, and did you want me
Speaker 1: to lie about what you said? Like I wasn't going
Speaker 1: to do that. They said, Well, I told them exactly
Speaker 1: what you said, but you didn't the context. You didn't
Speaker 1: tell them that you made me say it. It's not
Speaker 1: like I just sat down at the bar and said, hey,
Speaker 1: my name Steve. Oh look at that girl. I've like
Speaker 1: the banger. Okay, Steve, I don't appreciate you joking about
Speaker 1: how you wanted to bang that girl. Okay. I already
Speaker 1: feel sorry about it, already feel bad and already bad
Speaker 1: about the whole thing. Okay, that's why it has them
Speaker 1: call you. Hold on, Mia, can I just like ask you? No,
Speaker 1: you can't. I'm talking to Steve. Okay, not just me,
Speaker 1: it's your show me. You need to relax, Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: shop No, that's just why I had them call you.
Speaker 1: Can you do something extremely rude? Okay? You know at
Speaker 1: least you were being honest, and that's why I'm willing
Speaker 1: to give you a second chance. Okay, that's why I
Speaker 1: had them tell you. Oh, I'm so grateful, And what
Speaker 1: are you saying? I thought this whole thing was because
Speaker 1: you felt bad about pressuring him into saying that on
Speaker 1: the date. I feel bad that ended that way, but
Speaker 1: I also want to get him a chance to fix it.
Speaker 1: So you're taking into responsibility. What would have been a
Speaker 1: good response from Steve in that scenario? What would you
Speaker 1: have liked to hear him say? Well, the best response
Speaker 1: would have obviously been that he didn't want to sleep
Speaker 1: with that girl, but he did, and so now I
Speaker 1: want to figure to sat on the forward. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I feel like you guys are to spend forty five
Speaker 1: minutes talking about that stranger that Steve wants to sleep with.
Speaker 1: It was a huge chunk of the date. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. That's why I like it was just purely
Speaker 1: out of frustration. Just to get the conversation to end,
Speaker 1: I just went, yeah, okay, okay, Steve, you know you're
Speaker 1: not helping right now. Okay, you should just be apologizing
Speaker 1: for what you put me through. God, you know what,
Speaker 1: you know what, Mia, I will apologize. I am sorry
Speaker 1: that my friends set us up on a date. All right,
Speaker 1: No need to get mean and nasty now, okay, all right?
Speaker 1: Well you know what if I'm if I'm going to
Speaker 1: be one hundred percent honest, I would sleep with both
Speaker 1: of them. I honestly want to know if the two
Speaker 1: of you would go out on a second date. Steve,
Speaker 1: what do you say we'll pay for that? Oh? Sure, awesome, Okay,
Speaker 1: we'll send you guys out. No, no, god no, Oh
Speaker 1: that was sarcastic. That's so surprising, to be honest, Steve,
Speaker 1: No matter why. Mia, listen, you sound like you could
Speaker 1: be a rad girl, and you sound beautiful, and you
Speaker 1: need to stop being so insecure. Okay, I'm not insecure.
Speaker 1: Stop paint. I think you know what? You know what?
Speaker 1: You weigh in anymore on this brooke? Okay, like just sleep.
Speaker 1: I have a headache. Sorry, guys, I just want to
Speaker 1: tell you I am so happy that this is on
Speaker 1: the radio because all of our friends at work can
Speaker 1: now hear why things didn't work out a very good
Speaker 1: points and they all know, Steve, that you would totally
Speaker 1: sleep without woman. Oh yeah, yeah, we all know that
Speaker 1: you would sleep with someone else in a date when
Speaker 1: you worker. Okay, stop me,