1 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, and welcome to cheek Ease and Chill. I 2 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 1: have some very exciting news to share. So Apple Podcasts 3 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:15,120 Speaker 1: has this program called Spotlight. Basically, they pick one podcast 4 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: they love and highlight it for an entire month so 5 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:21,440 Speaker 1: that more people can find it. That's right. Apple's editorial 6 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 1: team listens to thousands of podcasts and they chose cheek 7 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:27,920 Speaker 1: Ease and Chill. It's the first I Heart podcast to 8 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:31,440 Speaker 1: be highlighted, so I'm super excited about this. So if 9 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: it's your first time listening to the show, welcome, and 10 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:36,199 Speaker 1: I'm so happy you're here. And if you've been with 11 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,720 Speaker 1: me for a while, you know how I feel about you. A. 12 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:41,840 Speaker 1: Chickens and Chill is my comfort zone. I talk about 13 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: anything and everything. Since I have you here, I wanted 14 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:47,199 Speaker 1: to remind you of some of my favorite episodes. We 15 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 1: have one on cheating a betrayal, losing my mom Jenny, 16 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:52,600 Speaker 1: and a really important one with my fertility doctor on 17 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: freezing my eggs. And of course I've had interviews with 18 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 1: some special guests, so be sure to check those out too. 19 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: New episodes drop every month to you guys, rate subscribe 20 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 1: to Chickens and Chill. Don't forget now, let's start the show. 21 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:12,119 Speaker 1: The one and only Whitney Cookie fame has changed. People 22 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 1: either come up to you, they know what you've had 23 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: for breakfast, They've seen all my specials, and their friend 24 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 1: is like, who's that. I was taught like you need 25 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:21,679 Speaker 1: to have your children early so that you can grow 26 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: up with them. That stuff is wild to me, And 27 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: I think the reason that I actually am chill about 28 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:28,320 Speaker 1: the kids thing is I froze my ex when I 29 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 1: was thirty three. Younger guys know that dating younger girls 30 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 1: is an actual liability. Twenty year old aren't that good 31 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 1: at sex? Yeah, they're still learning. I know. I wasn't 32 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: that great in my twenties. Hello everyone, Oh my goodness, 33 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 1: I am so excited for today's episode. It's going to 34 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 1: be a really great one. That's because I have an 35 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: incredible guest with us today. In my opinion, she's one 36 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: of the funniest people on the planet and I can't 37 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 1: wait to talk to her. So let's get into this. 38 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: This is chickies and chill. I almost feel like this 39 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 1: person doesn't even need an introduction. She's a comedian, actor, writer, producer, director, 40 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 1: and podcast host. She also just released her fifth comedy 41 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:21,800 Speaker 1: special Whitney Cummings Jokes on Netflix. Now you guys, okay, 42 00:02:21,919 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: our guest is the one and only Whitney Coomings. How 43 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: are you, Whitney. I feel like I just witnessed a 44 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:35,680 Speaker 1: like a broadcasting math class. I wanted to do it 45 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: really nice for you. Okay, but the things that you guys, 46 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:41,960 Speaker 1: they're gonna cut out a couple of things that I 47 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: just witnessed. But I just witnessed the most pro badass 48 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 1: gangster ship. Like that was incredible. And you know what 49 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:52,359 Speaker 1: else you didn't do that was you know what, keep 50 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: all that in or pull it and put it on something. 51 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:57,360 Speaker 1: Because I want people to see the way that you 52 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: handled like you said something away that you didn't even 53 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: actually want to and a lot of people and they do, 54 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:04,640 Speaker 1: they go, oh, I said that wrong, and they go 55 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 1: sorry you start and they get all. You just were like, no, 56 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: this is what human beings do. And I'm just gonna 57 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:11,640 Speaker 1: fix it and not waste everybody's time with my perfectionism ship. 58 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:13,360 Speaker 1: And you just went when you said something, You're like, 59 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 1: she's here up Take three and one too, and she's 60 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: with us today. That was incredible, Thank you so And 61 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 1: then you also said something that just made me fall 62 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: in love with you, and I'm gonna steal this, which 63 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:28,359 Speaker 1: is someone off camera asked you if you wanted something, 64 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: and you can answer you just went surprise me. Yeah, 65 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: you know what when I don't know what the hell 66 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 1: I want? I'm like, you know that was that was 67 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: actually my assistant to say, what do you want to eat? 68 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know, surprise me. I was like, 69 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 1: just make me happy today. I mean, but that's a 70 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 1: magical way of looking at instead of like, you know, 71 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: I want my sugar snappiece with it. You just surprised me, 72 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:50,080 Speaker 1: and then the person that works for you gets to 73 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 1: actually feel valued and that's an incredible thing to do 74 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 1: for the people that work for you. Thank you. For 75 00:03:56,600 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: those of you who don't know who Whitney comings is, sorry, 76 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: you're just you need to know, you need to know. 77 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: You need to follow her on Instagram. But really quick, 78 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: don't you think there's a new kind of fame, Like 79 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: fame has changed. There's like people either come up to you, 80 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 1: they know what you've had for breakfast, You've changed their life. 81 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 1: They have tears streaming down your face. They've read my book, 82 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,920 Speaker 1: they've seen all my specials and then their friend is like, 83 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: who's that. People either know you so well or they 84 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:28,040 Speaker 1: have never heard of you. Absolutely, I completely agree with you. 85 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 1: It's like it's I'll go on in the world and 86 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 1: like I'll go to you know, the airport, and someone 87 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 1: will be crying like I know everything about you, and 88 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: they'll they'll know more about me than things that I've 89 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 1: talked about that I forgot about them, like so, how's 90 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:41,720 Speaker 1: your knee, I'm like what. I'm like, oh, that's right, 91 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:45,279 Speaker 1: I had any thing. And then the next person, like 92 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: I'll be at Starbucks, I'm like what's your name And 93 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:50,479 Speaker 1: I'm like Whitney And They're like what Whitney what? And 94 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:57,039 Speaker 1: I'm like nothing, nothing completely. I I totally get it. Absolutely. 95 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: When did you realize that you were funny? When did 96 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:02,400 Speaker 1: you realize they you wanted to be a comedian? You know, 97 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: it's interesting because aspiring to be a female comedian was 98 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 1: never on the table. It's kind of like more unlikely 99 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: than like the president of the United States, the idea 100 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 1: of you know what I'm gonna there's no proof really 101 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: that anyone wants to hear a woman complain for an 102 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:22,040 Speaker 1: hour and you have to pay them, and if you 103 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: challenge them or talk back, security removes you. Like there's 104 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:27,280 Speaker 1: you know, I think most people are like I don't 105 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: want to hear my own wife talk that long, or 106 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: my own girlfriend, or you know. So I saw growing 107 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: up a lot of men that were shushing women, that 108 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: were like, stop whining, stop complaining, that women's feelings were 109 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:46,800 Speaker 1: a burden. You know, women's feelings were dramatic and hysterical 110 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: and hyper vigilant. We were crazy, we're psychos. And I 111 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 1: watched that and then, you know, I would watch women 112 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 1: be kind of shape shift for a man and trying 113 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: to sort of be this perfect step housewife, and then 114 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:04,800 Speaker 1: when the guy wasn't around, it was hilarious. It was 115 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 1: just like joke, joke, burn burn, you know, and I 116 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 1: was like, this is so fun I know, this is funny. 117 00:06:11,279 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 1: I think that, you know, guys are so trained to 118 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: believe as soon as a woman has an opinion, or 119 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: as soon as a woman you know, she's you know, 120 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: judging you, she's emasculating you, whatever. But I was like, 121 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: I know the medicine that I got growing up. You know, 122 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 1: my favorite show growing up is also Roseanne, where it's 123 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: a family that's just roasting each other. That's how That's 124 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 1: how my family we would just make Thanksgiving Christmas. I mean, 125 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: looking back, it would probably be categorized as like emotional 126 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:39,720 Speaker 1: abuse today. And also my last name is Coming, so 127 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: I also got bullied so much. I had to learn 128 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 1: to be able to defend myself. And is it still 129 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: very now that you're like in it? Like, is it 130 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: still very male dominated? You know? It's interesting because I 131 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 1: don't think it has is a bad thing if something 132 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:58,119 Speaker 1: is dominated in some way, like no one complains about 133 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:02,840 Speaker 1: like women dominate the field of nursing, like no one's 134 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 1: men aren't mad about that. You know. It's like the 135 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 1: veterinary practice. Federate vets are women. There's some things that 136 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 1: it's okay. It's just doesn't matter, you know. I think 137 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 1: that when we get so wrapped up and this is 138 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,280 Speaker 1: male dominated, the men in comedy are more sensitive than 139 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: most of the women I know. So it's like, is 140 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 1: it male dominated these guys? I've seen most of these 141 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 1: men cry over a negative comment on Twitter. Now that 142 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 1: you just said that, I guess it's been embedded, you know, 143 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:35,040 Speaker 1: And I've seen it in my genre, it is more 144 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 1: male dominated but now that you said it that way, 145 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, I like that. I'm gonna 146 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: adopt that because I'm like, you know what, You're right, 147 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 1: we have some masculine qualities which are traditionally masculine. I 148 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 1: think those labels just have to change. And I'm not 149 00:07:48,560 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 1: saying it we're all one gender. I have my own 150 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 1: thoughts about all that. Ship That's what my whole New 151 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 1: Hours about. But this is like comedians. You've heard their 152 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 1: podcast and the reason they're all getting so successful and 153 00:07:57,480 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 1: going to this other level, Dak Shepherd and Loot and 154 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 1: all the it's because they're being vulnerable. They're going on 155 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: podcasts or they're going up on stage and they're going 156 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 1: I feel insecure, I have depression. That's what the women 157 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 1: are supposed to be doing, talking about their feelings. And 158 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 1: then I go on stage and I'm just like I'm 159 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 1: doing the dick jokes and I'm like, i feel like 160 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 1: I'm the only man doing comedy, you know. So it's 161 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 1: like it's really hard because comedians have a lot of 162 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 1: traditionally feminine qualities, and the women that do it have 163 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 1: some traditionally masculine qualities. So it's kind of like I 164 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: get it give and take in a weird way. Yeah, 165 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 1: I kind of like put. But in terms of you know, 166 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 1: I think that the domination of the business because now 167 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:40,000 Speaker 1: the internet on YouTube able to do podcasts, there's less skatekeepers, 168 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:44,079 Speaker 1: and the gatekeepers used to be male, and now the gatekeepers, 169 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 1: you know, if anyone it's going to be like the 170 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 1: YouTube algorithm or whatever. So I think it's it's changing, 171 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 1: but I don't think it necessarily has to, because comedy 172 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:55,840 Speaker 1: is a reflection of what's going on in the world, 173 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: and comedy is fashion, and to make a comedian takes 174 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:02,960 Speaker 1: a really long time. So I believe that there's a 175 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: lot of female comedians right now. They're in the gestation period. 176 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 1: So it can't change right away. You can't just go, 177 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,160 Speaker 1: we want more female. They haven't been made yet. They 178 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: haven't been inspired enough to get into this business by 179 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: the people like us, you know, because when Phillis Diller 180 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:22,120 Speaker 1: made Joan Rivers and then a couple others, and then 181 00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 1: Joan Rivers made you know, Sarah and a couple others. 182 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 1: So it's gonna keep getting bigger. But I always tell 183 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 1: female comics they're so eager now to go, like we 184 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:32,839 Speaker 1: want this to be equal, but it's like, you're you 185 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 1: don't have the skill yet, and the worst thing you 186 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 1: can do as a female comedian is gets seen before 187 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 1: you're ready, and then it's well, female comics suck. We 188 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:42,319 Speaker 1: knew it. People are like, oh, maybe I feel like 189 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: a bad feminist when I say this, but I'm like, yes, 190 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 1: you are a female, Yes you're funny, but you've only 191 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: me doing this for three years. You don't deserve to 192 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: be on that stage yet. You're so fucking honest, I love. 193 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:52,680 Speaker 1: I'm just telling you. I'd say the same thing to 194 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: you know, but the guys are on stage. He's been 195 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 1: doing this for thirty years. So you're gonna get on 196 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: stage and you're gonna suck because you're it's not ready yet, 197 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: and then you're gonna sort of re enforce all of 198 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:08,680 Speaker 1: these stereotypes that are holding you down. Dude, I wish 199 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: that you were my freaking friend when I started my 200 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: career as a singer in I would have saved myself 201 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 1: so much fucking trouble, because that's exactly what it is. 202 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 1: It's like they already want to say, Okay, girls suck 203 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:24,200 Speaker 1: at singing by because it's very, very like masculine type 204 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:27,200 Speaker 1: of music, and so I wasn't ready and I came 205 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 1: out and they brought out a song and it's just 206 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: like sy I told you guys, exactly what you said. 207 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:32,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, that's what the freak happened. 208 00:10:32,679 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: But you know what, fuck it. It's been how many 209 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:38,319 Speaker 1: years now, almost like eight, So yeah, it's but it's 210 00:10:38,360 --> 00:10:40,200 Speaker 1: also I've done a lot of things before I was ready. 211 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 1: I think I wrote a book before I was ready, 212 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 1: at a TV show before I was ready. Like, I 213 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 1: know what it's like to like have the talent and 214 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: do the hard work. The key is having faith that 215 00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:49,920 Speaker 1: it is going to happen, and you only know in 216 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: your heart. You have to know in your heart that 217 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 1: you're gonna put the work in. But I think a 218 00:10:53,559 --> 00:10:56,640 Speaker 1: lot of women right now are confusing the difference between 219 00:10:57,000 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 1: empowerment and entitlement. And it's not empowering for you. You 220 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:04,559 Speaker 1: don't get to go on stage before you're ready. It's 221 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:06,120 Speaker 1: like it's like being an athlete. You don't get to 222 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 1: get be in the game yet, you're not a starter yet. 223 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 1: Being a woman now, in terms of like this being 224 00:11:11,040 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: a strong feminist or being empowered, it doesn't mean bullying 225 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 1: and guilting people into giving you something you don't deserve 226 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: just because you're a girl. Yeah, I believe for all 227 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: of us women, because I think we're all wired to 228 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 1: believe we have such a short window because we're gonna expire, 229 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 1: we're gonna get old, we're gonna get whatever. That's the 230 00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:33,160 Speaker 1: self limiting belief that keeps us down. So it's like, yes, 231 00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:35,440 Speaker 1: that's a it was put on us. But when you go, 232 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: the best is yet to come. Bitch, Like, I'm gonna 233 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:40,520 Speaker 1: get hotter as i get older, I'm gonna get strong, 234 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get back. My life is not over at 235 00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:45,079 Speaker 1: thirty five. I don't get to send out to pasture. 236 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:48,240 Speaker 1: That's fucking bullshit. Most of the people to buy tickets 237 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: products are women, and women do not mind if you 238 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:53,439 Speaker 1: have crows feed. They don't mind if you have the 239 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:56,640 Speaker 1: flabby arm. They don't give a shit. So stop living 240 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 1: your life according to the male gaze of Oh I'm 241 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 1: running out of time because I'm gonna be old soon. 242 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:04,960 Speaker 1: That's their ship. It's all about the talent, the gift 243 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:08,679 Speaker 1: and what you have to sell and take off that expiration. 244 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have kids, by then, so I'm not gonna 245 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 1: be able to achieve my goal. Moms are actually after 246 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:16,079 Speaker 1: you give birth, you have more testosterone. Moms are actually 247 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: better at running businesses because they also get better at 248 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 1: time management. The mom brain is better. All these things 249 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 1: that we were told are going to hold us back 250 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:26,800 Speaker 1: are actually part of our superpowers, so let's just lean 251 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: into them. Getting older is a good thing as a woman. 252 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: I got it. I got it, and I'm so happy 253 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 1: I asked you because I'm learning showing me to see 254 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:38,680 Speaker 1: things differently as well in my genre. So thank you 255 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:40,559 Speaker 1: for that. I think we all learned a freaking lesson 256 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 1: right now. How old are you, Whitney? Just during forty? 257 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:54,200 Speaker 1: That's right, you did have a birthday? When was it in? Um? September? 258 00:12:54,240 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 1: Four September? Yes, double burgo, thank you? Okay, so tell 259 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: us I love that. I honestly, you're just inspiring me 260 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 1: right now, because sometimes I do get that. It's like 261 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: I have no children, and my god, I'm thirty seven 262 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:10,080 Speaker 1: and I'm not necessarily ready right now. But it's like 263 00:13:10,160 --> 00:13:12,679 Speaker 1: I was taught, like you need to have your children 264 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 1: early so you can grow up with them and you know, 265 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:17,360 Speaker 1: have energy and I'm just like, dude, I'm living. I'm 266 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 1: chilling right now. But also, the worst thing for a 267 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:22,160 Speaker 1: kid is to be brought in the world before you're ready. 268 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:26,160 Speaker 1: Mom has so much career like that stuff is wild 269 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:28,440 Speaker 1: to me. And I think the reason that I actually 270 00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 1: am chill about the kids thing is number One, Um, 271 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:34,480 Speaker 1: I froze my eggs when I was thirty three, and 272 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:37,559 Speaker 1: it is something I talked at length about in my 273 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:40,720 Speaker 1: book because I feel like I have to shout this 274 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 1: from the rooftops. Because number one, when you freeze your eggs, 275 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:45,960 Speaker 1: it takes this pressure off. You know, in your thirties, 276 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:49,160 Speaker 1: when you're dating and you can only date someone through 277 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 1: the lens of will they be a good father? We 278 00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:54,360 Speaker 1: can't help it, but we do that, right, Or that 279 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:56,960 Speaker 1: you're dating someone at thirty four and you start lowering 280 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 1: your standards because you feel like you only have a 281 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: couple of years is left, so you start negotiating with yourself, right, 282 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: So the older you get, the lower your bars becomes. 283 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:08,720 Speaker 1: Like oh, yeah, I mean he does have a chain wallet, 284 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:11,280 Speaker 1: but what am I gonna do? Start over? But like, 285 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:15,320 Speaker 1: you know, yeah, he does follow thirty porn stars on Instagram, 286 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:16,719 Speaker 1: but like what am I. I mean, I'm thirty four. 287 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:18,320 Speaker 1: What am I gonna start from scratch? Like? This is 288 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 1: the best I can do given the biological limitations I have. 289 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:23,840 Speaker 1: So number one, it took off those biological limitations. And 290 00:14:23,920 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 1: you want to freeze your eggs young because they now 291 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:30,120 Speaker 1: have the technology that has just been actualized where they 292 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:33,200 Speaker 1: can freeze the eggs for ten years and they do 293 00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: not get freezer burn in the d thawing process. So 294 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:37,480 Speaker 1: you have your thirty three year old eggs, which is 295 00:14:37,520 --> 00:14:40,040 Speaker 1: the higher quality ones. You can put them into surrogate, 296 00:14:40,280 --> 00:14:42,960 Speaker 1: you can use them whatever. But I cannot tell you 297 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:45,960 Speaker 1: the difference that made in my life. It is not cheap, 298 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:48,560 Speaker 1: which is why I tell people like, like, young girls, 299 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 1: ask your parents for your graduation gift and your birthday 300 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 1: gifts just like for five hundred bucks a year and 301 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 1: start putting it in the thing and then you'll have 302 00:14:55,880 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 1: ten grand eventually to be able to do this or 303 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:01,360 Speaker 1: whatever it costs. It's kind of different for everyone. Also, 304 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 1: the more we talk about it, the goal is to 305 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 1: get it covered by insurance and your company should be 306 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:09,000 Speaker 1: paying for this. Every woman should have access to egg freezing. 307 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 1: Google started doing it, Yahoo, I think, and Facebook have 308 00:15:13,840 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 1: done it already. I don't know if I want to 309 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:18,800 Speaker 1: freeze my eggs with Facebook, but um I'll take their money, Like, 310 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:20,840 Speaker 1: can you just send me the cash, Like I don't 311 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:24,080 Speaker 1: want to. I don't want your egg freezing chamber out there. 312 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:27,560 Speaker 1: Um to. You're taking our data and our genetics, Like 313 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 1: I don't know about that. So that is huge, huge, 314 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:33,280 Speaker 1: huge in terms of being able to take that weight off. 315 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:37,800 Speaker 1: But also I have a very strong like instinct to adopt, like, 316 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 1: I know that's something that you know for me. I 317 00:15:40,720 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 1: like to go, I know what my genetics are, I 318 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: know my DNA genetics. Load the gun environment pulls the trigger. 319 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:48,680 Speaker 1: But I feel like I would be so paranoid because 320 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:50,640 Speaker 1: I have so much addiction in my family and mental illness. 321 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 1: Of this kid having it, and there's eight thousand kids 322 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:56,600 Speaker 1: in Appalachia that were born into the federal crisis and 323 00:15:56,640 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 1: what happens in foster care. Just I think about it 324 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: all the time, Like you know, a sexual abuse with 325 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:03,120 Speaker 1: physical abuse, they put them on all these drugs. So 326 00:16:03,760 --> 00:16:05,600 Speaker 1: it's not like trying to be a hero, it's just 327 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:08,200 Speaker 1: that might be the best fit for me personally as 328 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 1: someone who's kind of scared to have biological kids because 329 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 1: I know sort of what would be loaded genetically in 330 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:16,440 Speaker 1: their brain. That's crazy because I've thought about that. That's 331 00:16:16,440 --> 00:16:18,400 Speaker 1: one of the reasons why I've held back and I 332 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:20,680 Speaker 1: have thought about adoption. So now that you're like saying it, 333 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:23,280 Speaker 1: you're saying so many things that I'm like, oh my god. Yeah, 334 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 1: I haven't said it out loud because I'm like, how 335 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:27,320 Speaker 1: is that going to sound? But the truth is because 336 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:29,960 Speaker 1: everyone knows my family. But it's just like, I'm a 337 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 1: little scared about it. But you can still have a 338 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 1: biological kid. I mean, you could still one of my 339 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:37,560 Speaker 1: best friends. But I had a kid biologically at forty two, 340 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:40,040 Speaker 1: and then another one at forty three. She wasn't even trying. 341 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:42,680 Speaker 1: A lot of women do need help in that area, 342 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:46,400 Speaker 1: but we all deserve another ten years or twenties were 343 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:49,840 Speaker 1: basically unconscious. Our thirties is like, Okay, now I'm getting 344 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: my business started and things are finally cracking for me. 345 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 1: If I brought a child into this world right now, 346 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 1: I'd be a bad mother, Like, don't pressure me to 347 00:16:58,360 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: bring a child into this before I found the father. 348 00:17:00,880 --> 00:17:02,960 Speaker 1: I got to find the perfect father first, with the 349 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:05,280 Speaker 1: perfect s firm, don't or whatever it is. But the 350 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: irony is, I think the people that are the most 351 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 1: trepidaious about having kids are the ones that are the 352 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:13,640 Speaker 1: most qualified because they're thinking the way you think. That's 353 00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:15,960 Speaker 1: why you will be such a great mother, because you're 354 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 1: you're waiting and doing it when it's right, not for 355 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 1: reasons associated with guilt. Yeah, I don't want to feel 356 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:25,719 Speaker 1: pressured or do things because I feel forced, you know. 357 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 1: And I've been trying for a while to freeze my eggs, 358 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:30,840 Speaker 1: but I had like the situation with my ovar ease, 359 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 1: and I had sister whatnot, so I had to wait. 360 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna start hopefully in October. But by the way, 361 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:37,919 Speaker 1: thank god you even just went in. Would you have 362 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:40,199 Speaker 1: found out about the cist thing? Oh? Yeah, that's how 363 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:41,879 Speaker 1: I found out that I had one in there and 364 00:17:41,880 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 1: that if I went through the process, it was just 365 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,919 Speaker 1: going to make my sisters grow bigger and bigger. So 366 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:48,720 Speaker 1: how many how many cycles did you go through? I 367 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:52,240 Speaker 1: just did one. I did one of stabbing myself with 368 00:17:52,320 --> 00:17:56,040 Speaker 1: the hormones. But it was actually kind of a thing 369 00:17:56,119 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 1: because I had been on birth control pills for so 370 00:17:58,040 --> 00:17:59,760 Speaker 1: long and I have to be on them from my 371 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:02,200 Speaker 1: ins and stuff. But I had been on birth control 372 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 1: for so long that by the time I went off it, 373 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:06,159 Speaker 1: it took a couple of months to bend straight to 374 00:18:06,240 --> 00:18:08,880 Speaker 1: start the cycle so that I could then start the shots. 375 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: It was also very emotional, like I tell people, like 376 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:15,199 Speaker 1: freezing your eggs not only because you're getting you know, 377 00:18:15,240 --> 00:18:17,920 Speaker 1: shot up with estrogen, and you're more emotional anyway, because 378 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:20,200 Speaker 1: you're basically getting pregnant. I mean, you get four months 379 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 1: pregnant essentially, and you're getting pregnant with all these eggs, 380 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,159 Speaker 1: and ideally the younger you are, the more you'll get, 381 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:27,960 Speaker 1: you know, And you've got eighteen eggs that are super swollen. 382 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:31,800 Speaker 1: It's there's that of just the biochemical stuff and the 383 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 1: neurochemical stuff. But I just was angry, and I was like, 384 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,080 Speaker 1: I have to drive to a doctor forty five minutes 385 00:18:38,480 --> 00:18:40,800 Speaker 1: three times a week just because I'm a woman, Like 386 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:44,400 Speaker 1: I was promised that women could have everything. It made 387 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:47,080 Speaker 1: me angry of like we talked about sexism in Hollywood, 388 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:49,840 Speaker 1: We'll talk about sexism. No one talks about how sexist 389 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:52,120 Speaker 1: biology is. But I don't know who to be mad 390 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:56,200 Speaker 1: at God, Like our bodies are the most sexist ship. 391 00:18:56,320 --> 00:19:00,320 Speaker 1: My own body is rotting. It knows my of all 392 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:03,359 Speaker 1: people should know how well things are going. And now 393 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 1: you're gonna rock on me, you think, I like, it 394 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:09,679 Speaker 1: just made me angry. It made me angry that there 395 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:12,439 Speaker 1: are these biological limitations we have. Is the better you 396 00:19:12,480 --> 00:19:14,760 Speaker 1: get as a woman, the more season the more intelligent, 397 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:18,160 Speaker 1: the less pregnant we can get. Whereas a fifteen year 398 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 1: old who knows jack shit about fuck she can get 399 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:25,119 Speaker 1: pregnant easily. Why does our biology want the dumbest people 400 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:28,840 Speaker 1: to get pregnant the fastest. Yeah, I'm just like that. Honestly, 401 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:30,800 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie like i've I've been holding back 402 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:33,520 Speaker 1: because I'm like, damn, I'm already okay, I'm a cancer, 403 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 1: you know. So I'm already kind of emotional, and I'm like, 404 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 1: I'm trying to meditate to like not be so freaking emotional, 405 00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:42,200 Speaker 1: but then I'm gonna be injecting so many hormones in 406 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:43,359 Speaker 1: my body that I'm like, I feel like I do 407 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,200 Speaker 1: need to take two three weeks off because I don't 408 00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:48,880 Speaker 1: know how irritable I'm gonna be, how emotional I'm gonna be, 409 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:51,439 Speaker 1: Like all that ship scares the funk out of me. 410 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 1: To be honest, do like I would like a self 411 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:57,240 Speaker 1: care staycation of like all the movies and shows you 412 00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,120 Speaker 1: need to catch up on and like have your girlfriend 413 00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:01,800 Speaker 1: stopped by, you know, like I wish I had done that. 414 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:04,720 Speaker 1: I didn't do that. I didn't treat myself with tender, 415 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:08,680 Speaker 1: loving care when I froze. I was mad at my body, 416 00:20:08,880 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 1: and I think that had I had a brain like 417 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:15,120 Speaker 1: yours and been like, you know what, I'm gonna take 418 00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:17,360 Speaker 1: two weeks off and actually, do you know, take care 419 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:19,439 Speaker 1: of yourself. I didn't think that way. I was like, 420 00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:20,960 Speaker 1: I just have to jam this in between all the 421 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 1: other things I have going on, and I'm it was 422 00:20:23,280 --> 00:20:27,200 Speaker 1: like a resentful chore. But I was just emotionally not 423 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:30,840 Speaker 1: in acceptance at the time of like oh, or of 424 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,320 Speaker 1: you know. I made this movie about neuroscience called The 425 00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:36,159 Speaker 1: Female Brain, and it's about sort of the differences between 426 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:39,080 Speaker 1: male and female brains, and um that healed me from 427 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:42,080 Speaker 1: my anger towards all of the ways that women are 428 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:47,360 Speaker 1: labeled as crazy, sensitive, emotional, because actually all of those 429 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 1: are superpowers that are why the our species proliferated in 430 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:54,199 Speaker 1: tribal times before street lights before security guards, you know, 431 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:58,840 Speaker 1: being hyper vigilant. So you say crazy, I say hyper vigilant. 432 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 1: You mean I just have superhero ing And I can 433 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,400 Speaker 1: feel with my gut that your excess texting you because 434 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:07,040 Speaker 1: I'm fucking psychic and like you're gonna and they gaslight 435 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:10,119 Speaker 1: us into going like, well, you're crazy because we're magical. 436 00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:14,040 Speaker 1: We're magical witches, you know. So it's like we're obsessive 437 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: about squeezing zits on your Yeah, that is how we 438 00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:22,439 Speaker 1: used to expunge infection from the body. Grooming serves a 439 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 1: really important and purpose in human history two thousand years ago. 440 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:27,560 Speaker 1: That could mean the difference between life or death. That's 441 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,320 Speaker 1: why we get serotonin from squeezing zips and pulling hairs 442 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 1: and stuff like that. So when I was in the 443 00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:35,200 Speaker 1: space of freezing my eggs, I was just so mad 444 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:38,639 Speaker 1: at my body. And then you're like, wait a second, 445 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:44,280 Speaker 1: I can make a person like I can feel if 446 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 1: who someone's texting, Like, we have all these incredible superpowers, 447 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:50,919 Speaker 1: and I'm like, you know what, the freezing eggs thing, 448 00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:53,720 Speaker 1: we can take about put them in. I am literally 449 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:56,399 Speaker 1: a magician. I'm a I am Harry Potter at this 450 00:21:56,440 --> 00:22:00,399 Speaker 1: point you know. So it helped me change in the 451 00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:03,919 Speaker 1: way I looked at the things that I felt like 452 00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 1: we're holding me back as a woman. You know, I 453 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:08,960 Speaker 1: swear everything we've talked about he has helped me so 454 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,200 Speaker 1: freaking much. So this is like, now I'm gonna look 455 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:13,160 Speaker 1: at it that way. I'm gonna just meditate my way 456 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:16,200 Speaker 1: through it. And it's also like when I have a 457 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 1: criticism of myself in stopping and just I like to 458 00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 1: think all of our thoughts because most of our inner 459 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:24,800 Speaker 1: monologue is not ours. Most of it is the messages 460 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: we got growing up, or the survival instincts and coping 461 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:31,160 Speaker 1: mechanisms that we developed, and the stories and the narratives 462 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,280 Speaker 1: that we need to believe in order to rationalize whatever 463 00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:36,679 Speaker 1: was going on in our family of origin, like in 464 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:39,679 Speaker 1: our household growing up. So the idea of like, you know, 465 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 1: mom won't pay attention to me, while I must be 466 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:43,879 Speaker 1: ugly and I'm not lovable and I'm I have to 467 00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:47,320 Speaker 1: be perfect, but whereas she's just busy. But but children 468 00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:50,119 Speaker 1: don't know the difference, and to self soothed, they have 469 00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:51,880 Speaker 1: to make a narrative to make it their fault, because 470 00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:54,120 Speaker 1: it's they have to keep their parents on a pedestal. 471 00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:57,600 Speaker 1: Otherwise you'll go crazy, like you can't the thing that's 472 00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: responsible for your survival of that young of an age 473 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,479 Speaker 1: if you think they're flawed in anyway, it's just too 474 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:04,920 Speaker 1: annihilating to the psyche and you're in too much danger 475 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:06,879 Speaker 1: all the time, So you have to blame yourself. And 476 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:11,200 Speaker 1: so those self limiting beliefs or whatever. Ancestral trauma, ancestral programming. 477 00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,280 Speaker 1: A lot of people don't talk about enough of, like 478 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:17,200 Speaker 1: how we get epogenetic like imprinting in utero the same 479 00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:20,120 Speaker 1: way that a crack baby is addicted to crack, because 480 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:21,840 Speaker 1: those were the chemicals that were in the body when 481 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:26,960 Speaker 1: the baby's ingestation. The neurochemicals also do the same thing, adrenaline, cortisol. 482 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 1: So if you are in utero and a mom who 483 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 1: was stressed out in a bad marriage, you know, which 484 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 1: all of our moms had stressed Let's even if they 485 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:38,400 Speaker 1: didn't they did, that was just that generation. So I 486 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:40,719 Speaker 1: was an accident. So I was the second, you know, 487 00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: And so she was stressed out and dealing with the 488 00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 1: first baby and dealing with this one that's coming, you know. 489 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,960 Speaker 1: So I was born addicted to adrenaline and cortisol, and 490 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:51,399 Speaker 1: I would subconsciously gravitate towards it all the time. I 491 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:54,399 Speaker 1: was the person that was dating drug addicts and guys 492 00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:56,680 Speaker 1: that were married, but didn't tell me to just chaos 493 00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,680 Speaker 1: and then just a little lesson I've learned in life. 494 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:03,000 Speaker 1: Anyone who says they hate drama loves drama. So I 495 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:04,639 Speaker 1: was the person that was like, but I just hate drama, 496 00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:06,840 Speaker 1: but I hate drama, but I'm the one driving to 497 00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:11,160 Speaker 1: his how suck. I was so subconscious, it was so 498 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:16,359 Speaker 1: like I needed that neurochemical balance because that's familiar, you know. 499 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: It was that that was my equilibrium, you know. So 500 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: I think also learning what your threshold is for adrenaline 501 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,560 Speaker 1: courts all based on your ancestral trauma and your family 502 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:28,800 Speaker 1: of origin, because basically we tend to Harvill Hendricks wrote 503 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:32,199 Speaker 1: this amazing book, Um Psychiatrist about how we're attracted to 504 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,639 Speaker 1: people that have the negative qualities of our primary caretaker. 505 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:39,920 Speaker 1: So essentially, I know, as you move through the world 506 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,199 Speaker 1: and you're like, but usually if you're magnetically attracted to 507 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,440 Speaker 1: someone like that, that is, you know, our society is 508 00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:51,880 Speaker 1: basically alcomized that into like butterflies, and love at first sight. 509 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:54,639 Speaker 1: That is fear. That is your body telling, that is 510 00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,720 Speaker 1: your gut telling you this person's trouble, and it's activating 511 00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:01,399 Speaker 1: the basically fight or flight response in your brain. Yes, 512 00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:03,560 Speaker 1: because it's like this guy is a drug all of 513 00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:06,080 Speaker 1: a sudden, because he's creating this drama and mystery and 514 00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 1: I don't know what he's thinking, and I have to 515 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,479 Speaker 1: be perfect for him, and all my coping mechanisms are 516 00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:13,480 Speaker 1: gonna shine because you have to part with our coping mechanisms. 517 00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,560 Speaker 1: There's also a lot of loss there. You know. We 518 00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:17,520 Speaker 1: call him Christmas Trees, the people that when you walk 519 00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:19,800 Speaker 1: in a room and you're just like, like I used 520 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 1: to the most divorced guy with the most personality disorders, 521 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:28,280 Speaker 1: like smoking inside in the corner. I'm like like, that's 522 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:32,640 Speaker 1: just like my drug. You know, it's not about him. 523 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:35,639 Speaker 1: It's not about him. So for a lot of women, 524 00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 1: they're like this guy so toxic that I'm still whether 525 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 1: he drives me nuts. It's like what are you getting 526 00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:42,600 Speaker 1: out of this? Why are you staying? And it's important 527 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,720 Speaker 1: to know this person either gives me the hit of 528 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:47,920 Speaker 1: adrenaline I want, in which case I go, why don't 529 00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,320 Speaker 1: you just go to fucking six flags every couple of days. 530 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,879 Speaker 1: I don't know, there's other ways to get that adrenaline 531 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:57,040 Speaker 1: fix or is your addiction fixing other people? Is your 532 00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:02,359 Speaker 1: addiction rescuing people? You know? Codependence, the three m s, mothering, micromanaging, 533 00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:05,879 Speaker 1: and martyring. That is me. We all are wired to 534 00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:10,040 Speaker 1: recreate a childhood circumstances and find those familiar dynamics, you know. 535 00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:15,119 Speaker 1: But most of our thoughts are total science fiction. Like 536 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,719 Speaker 1: I don't look at my thoughts anymore as facts. I 537 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:20,679 Speaker 1: used to. This person thinks I'm a piece of ship. Whoa, 538 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:24,600 Speaker 1: it's not true, And I fancy myself someone who is 539 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,080 Speaker 1: a truth teller and is very honest, and I'm gonna 540 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,880 Speaker 1: believe that fucking garbage. So it's just a thought. It's 541 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 1: just an old thing, though I must oh. I developed 542 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 1: that when I was a kid, and oh yeah, that 543 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,960 Speaker 1: worked that. Those thoughts worked really well when I was five, six, 544 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:41,080 Speaker 1: seven years old. Now I just am carrying around in 545 00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:43,720 Speaker 1: my arsenal a bunch of tools that are obsolete, a 546 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,200 Speaker 1: bunch of weapons to fight a war that's been over 547 00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 1: for thirty years, you know, and now they're working. So 548 00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:52,080 Speaker 1: but I like to anthromorphize them with a in a 549 00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,639 Speaker 1: kind way and be like, oh, there's that inner bully 550 00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:59,040 Speaker 1: who's actually trying to help me. When people say inner bully, 551 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,480 Speaker 1: I don't think that it's a perfect way to say it, 552 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:04,399 Speaker 1: because I would say like inner helper, like that's your 553 00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:08,840 Speaker 1: inner helper, that's your inner champion, because it's your psyche 554 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,200 Speaker 1: is trying to make you feel safe and get out 555 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:13,720 Speaker 1: of a dangerous situation. Or it's just not our, it's 556 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:18,119 Speaker 1: not ours. Yeah, I look at my thoughts like a 557 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:21,119 Speaker 1: Star Wars movie, like that's crazy. I actually think she 558 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:23,119 Speaker 1: doesn't like me. Is that weird? Oh gosh, I actually 559 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:24,720 Speaker 1: think that person on the internet that just called me 560 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:28,800 Speaker 1: a busted whore, like I just like agreed with him, 561 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,679 Speaker 1: you know, or whatever, and then go, oh, that's not 562 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,480 Speaker 1: mine and that's not true. Most of our thoughts are 563 00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:41,280 Speaker 1: projections from little survival protectors. That was like, is this 564 00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,439 Speaker 1: gonna happen again? Because this happened when we're five, and 565 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:45,439 Speaker 1: we're not gonna let this happen again. So here's the 566 00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:47,399 Speaker 1: thought to keep you safe, and you're like, no, I 567 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,480 Speaker 1: don't need that anymore. So I like to kindly say 568 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:53,320 Speaker 1: to my own thoughts like thank you. You can sit 569 00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 1: on the bench. I see what's happening. So you also 570 00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:58,200 Speaker 1: have to be kind to your own inner bully, because 571 00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 1: our brain isn't signed to hurt us. It's only designed 572 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:03,639 Speaker 1: to help us. So if anything in your brain isn't 573 00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:14,240 Speaker 1: on your side, it's a perception issue. You live in 574 00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,800 Speaker 1: l a Whitney, yes, ma'am. Oh nice, Oh my god, 575 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:19,679 Speaker 1: I live in chats Worth. We need to hang. I 576 00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,960 Speaker 1: need to sit down with you. I want to go 577 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:25,200 Speaker 1: to lunch. I like have learned so much, like you've 578 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:27,880 Speaker 1: inspired me, and I got I felt like through Instagram, 579 00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 1: like I feel like, okay, I know you, but that's 580 00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:32,000 Speaker 1: just I don't know. I want to read your book. 581 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,360 Speaker 1: I want to like I'm like, dude, I can learn 582 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:36,160 Speaker 1: so much from you, Like you're blowing my fucking mind 583 00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:38,280 Speaker 1: right now, and like, wait a second, it feels nice 584 00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:41,880 Speaker 1: to sit with someone like I'm learning something. These are 585 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,240 Speaker 1: the type of friendships and relationships I want, so thank 586 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:46,760 Speaker 1: you for that. I'm like, dude, she's speaking straight to 587 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,080 Speaker 1: me right now. You know, addiction can even be a superpower. 588 00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:51,680 Speaker 1: I identify as an addict, and I come from a 589 00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,880 Speaker 1: lot of addiction, but if you can use that super 590 00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 1: machine of addiction, which is basically our brains don't hold 591 00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:02,040 Speaker 1: dopamine the same way in our dopamine receptors. It's just 592 00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:03,760 Speaker 1: like a brain disease that I think can actually be 593 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:07,000 Speaker 1: an advantage if you So I got lucky, uh and 594 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:10,960 Speaker 1: was able to turn my addictive personality for good. I 595 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:13,280 Speaker 1: use it with work, and I use it with rescuing animals, 596 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:16,080 Speaker 1: and I use it with the Operation Smile, which is, 597 00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:18,840 Speaker 1: you know, we go to third wal countries and U 598 00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:22,240 Speaker 1: help kids that were born with cleft palates and cleft lips, 599 00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:25,240 Speaker 1: and you know, so it's like I get lucky. I 600 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,160 Speaker 1: got lucky. Yes, during the pandemic, I went a little 601 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:29,680 Speaker 1: crazy with the edibles and I was like, oh that 602 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:32,160 Speaker 1: I know where that can go. Like that's that's a 603 00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 1: that's a no for me, because but I made my 604 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 1: addiction to work more important, you know, so now it 605 00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:40,160 Speaker 1: would be the other edibles are just getting in my 606 00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,040 Speaker 1: way of making great work. So that's got to go. 607 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:46,160 Speaker 1: So there's also a way to change what you're addicted to. 608 00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 1: I like to call healthy addictions, you know, instead of 609 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 1: being addicted to whatever it is, whether it's you know, 610 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 1: drugs or a person or sex or porn or gambling 611 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:58,480 Speaker 1: or whatever. Like what if you just got addicted to 612 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,440 Speaker 1: promoting yourself on Instagram, starting that podcast that you show, 613 00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,880 Speaker 1: you know, writing that book, Like there's a way to 614 00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:07,880 Speaker 1: do it and to be able to just sort of 615 00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:10,560 Speaker 1: change what your brain is addicted to is I think. 616 00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:14,400 Speaker 1: And all the things that you know ostensibly are supposed 617 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:18,239 Speaker 1: to be shortcomings I see as positives. It's like, oh, 618 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 1: you have O. C. D. It's like, no, dude, I'm 619 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,080 Speaker 1: not sending in the book until it is perfect. I've 620 00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,920 Speaker 1: done twelve drafts, Like this is a good thing for me. 621 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,360 Speaker 1: I don't want to dull that part of myself. It's 622 00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:31,520 Speaker 1: a superpower. I don't want to dull it. I mean, honestly, 623 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,200 Speaker 1: I can talk to you all freaking day. I've learned 624 00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:36,000 Speaker 1: so much and I feel like there's so much we 625 00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:38,240 Speaker 1: have to talk about, Like we have we're both dating 626 00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 1: younger men. I have a lot of questions. So how 627 00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,880 Speaker 1: old he is? Um seven years younger. So I'm thirty seven. 628 00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,120 Speaker 1: He just turned thirty. So it's it's been fun with 629 00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:51,400 Speaker 1: it live and great sex. It's awesome. So yeah, it's 630 00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:57,360 Speaker 1: also younger guys they grew up with Beyonce like in Oprah, 631 00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:03,400 Speaker 1: Like they love women, they respect women, and they also know. 632 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:07,479 Speaker 1: I think inherently the dating younger girls is an actual 633 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,960 Speaker 1: liability because they tweet if you have bad sex, they'll 634 00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:15,800 Speaker 1: cancel you. If you didn't eat them out perfectly, you're 635 00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:19,320 Speaker 1: a rapist. Um. But uh, it's really exciting. I also 636 00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 1: think it's like the smart ones also know that, like 637 00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,880 Speaker 1: twenty year olds aren't that good at sex. Yeah, they're 638 00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,240 Speaker 1: still learning. They're still learning. I know, I wasn't that 639 00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:31,360 Speaker 1: great in my twenties. No, like we got there. But 640 00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:33,520 Speaker 1: like these guys that are dating, like I'm dating this 641 00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:37,000 Speaker 1: hot twenty year old, I'm like cool, Like so you 642 00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:39,200 Speaker 1: have to jerk yourself off, like I don't know how 643 00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,600 Speaker 1: this works, Like you have to give someone a tutorial 644 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:43,520 Speaker 1: on how to give a hand job, like what is 645 00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:48,560 Speaker 1: that your kink teaching? Like, so, I freaking love you, dude. 646 00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 1: I honestly think you're a total vibe. If you guys 647 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:55,120 Speaker 1: have not watched Whitney Cummings jokes, you guys have to 648 00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 1: watch it on Netflix. Already said in the beginning, but 649 00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,200 Speaker 1: like you have to go watch it and all, so 650 00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:02,040 Speaker 1: you need to follow her on Instagram. Can you share 651 00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:05,040 Speaker 1: your socials with me, Whitney please, yes, Just Whitney Cummings. 652 00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,800 Speaker 1: Whitney Cummings on Instagram, Twitter whenny Commings dot com is 653 00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:11,240 Speaker 1: my website. I'm about to do a big project on 654 00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:14,880 Speaker 1: Only Fans. That is the roasts member with the Comedy 655 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,240 Speaker 1: Central roasts, and we used to do these like Savage 656 00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:20,040 Speaker 1: Friars Club roasts, and everyone's too scared to do roast 657 00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:23,800 Speaker 1: now because of this like mirage of like PC culture 658 00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,360 Speaker 1: killed comedy. That's not true. It's like two thousand people 659 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:29,840 Speaker 1: on Twitter um that aren't even buying tickets. So it's 660 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:33,160 Speaker 1: a better time than ever to do comedy, edgy comedy, whatever. 661 00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,400 Speaker 1: But Only Fans is the best place to do it 662 00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,440 Speaker 1: because it's like instead of dirty videos, instead of dirty 663 00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:41,560 Speaker 1: photos and dirty jokes. I love it. So I'll have 664 00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,960 Speaker 1: an Only Fans page soon and that is where only 665 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,880 Speaker 1: Fans is. That's where you make the more than honey. 666 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:51,320 Speaker 1: It's by the way, it's also way less pornographic than 667 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,880 Speaker 1: Twitter or Instagram. At this point. It's like teachers in 668 00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:58,560 Speaker 1: bikinis and they're making an extra two under grand a 669 00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:02,360 Speaker 1: year on top of their thirty grand salary and it's 670 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:04,880 Speaker 1: like awesome. You know what. I think I'm gonna do 671 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:06,800 Speaker 1: an only fans and just talk about ship that I 672 00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,320 Speaker 1: can't really, you know, say on social media. So I'm 673 00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:14,640 Speaker 1: gonna it'll be massive. I mean bad baby makes twenty 674 00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:19,880 Speaker 1: million dollars a month, CARDI b I mean freaking you guys, 675 00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:21,600 Speaker 1: you know what. We got to talk about that too. 676 00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:24,440 Speaker 1: And Whitney, I am so happy that you were on. 677 00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:26,360 Speaker 1: Like I said, I think I said like ten times. 678 00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:28,880 Speaker 1: I've learned so much already. I want your cell phone number. 679 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,480 Speaker 1: We need to kick it. And you guys know that 680 00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 1: I always have a quote for you at the end 681 00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:41,760 Speaker 1: of every episode of Chickens and Chill. The quote for 682 00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:44,360 Speaker 1: today is I found I was more confident when I 683 00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:47,200 Speaker 1: stopped trying to be someone else's definition of beautiful and 684 00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:51,560 Speaker 1: started being my own. You guys, that's the quote. That's 685 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:55,120 Speaker 1: all I have for you today, Whitney again, sending you 686 00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:56,440 Speaker 1: a big old hug and I'll see you soon. We 687 00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:58,760 Speaker 1: lived down the street from each other. Yes, yes, we're 688 00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,800 Speaker 1: hanging whether you like it or it. Thank you, guys, 689 00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:09,480 Speaker 1: I love you so much. Do you need advice on love, relationships, health, 690 00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,600 Speaker 1: emas I'm so excited to share with you that my 691 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:15,600 Speaker 1: Cheeks and Chill podcast will have an extra episode drop 692 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 1: each week. I'll be answering all your questions. Just leave 693 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:25,200 Speaker 1: me a voice message. All you have to do is 694 00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:28,040 Speaker 1: go to speak pipe dot com slash Cheeks and Chill 695 00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:30,600 Speaker 1: podcast and record your questions. I can't wait to hear 696 00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:37,360 Speaker 1: from you. This is a production of I Heart Radio 697 00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:40,960 Speaker 1: and the Michael Dura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram 698 00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:44,000 Speaker 1: at Michael Dura Podcasts and follow me Cheeks That's c 699 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:47,000 Speaker 1: h i q u i s. For more podcasts from 700 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:50,400 Speaker 1: my heart, visit the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcast, 701 00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:52,879 Speaker 1: or wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.