Speaker 1: Wine Down with Jane Kramer and I have our radio
Speaker 1: podcast Monday Happy Monday, because it's not Monday happy whatever
Speaker 1: day it is, because it doesn't matter. All the day's
Speaker 1: bing together. Seriously, when you it's like, it's not Monday.
Speaker 1: To them, it's Monday, but when we record it, it's
Speaker 1: not Monday. I'm a pro. I know when this is
Speaker 1: coming out. Is that our top of show right now? Well,
Speaker 1: we're delirious in our house. It's kind of funny though,
Speaker 1: because I like when you say it's Monday, Happy Monday's
Speaker 1: hapking Monday? Is that Monday right now? It's Friday Happy Friday?
Speaker 1: But you're gonna listen to this on Monday, But it's
Speaker 1: Friday for us because Jane is gonna hate me. Alliday's
Speaker 1: going together for everybody. You know, It's It's so true.
Speaker 1: My neighbor Molly, she came up to me today and
Speaker 1: she goes, had an interesting conversation with mys on Peter
Speaker 1: today and I was like, yeah, what's that, Molly? She goes, Oh,
Speaker 1: I woke up and I said, hey, Peter, it's Friday.
Speaker 1: And he goes, what does that even mean? And she goes,
Speaker 1: you know what, great question? Nothing? It means nothing. It
Speaker 1: means absolutely nothing, Peter, and she just really thought about
Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, it means nothing. And we had this
Speaker 1: conversation where I was like, I know, I said, now
Speaker 1: that it's just us and we're not working, it's I
Speaker 1: don't know what day it is. I don't know, and
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. As long as Jason is in bed for
Speaker 1: nap and the kids are in bed at seven, that's
Speaker 1: all that matters. Tell me it's Christmas. Even I would
Speaker 1: be like, okay, yeah, sure, oh I know. And we started,
Speaker 1: you know, talking about Easter, and I'm like, okay, we
Speaker 1: have Easter bags or baskets up in the the storage unit,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, you know, but you just went out
Speaker 1: for your another two week call for grocery and then
Speaker 1: it makes you stripped down naked in the garage and
Speaker 1: run in the house to cover in mud and you're
Speaker 1: covered in COVID. No. But I'm just word, you know,
Speaker 1: just very yes, cautionary. And so you know, you had
Speaker 1: your two week thing, which Michael is now going to
Speaker 1: stop doing the runs because he has very bad asthma,
Speaker 1: and I do care about his life. Contrary to how
Speaker 1: some people don't think that I care about my husband.
Speaker 1: I do care about him, and I do care that
Speaker 1: if he were to catch COVID, he would be UM
Speaker 1: one of those that would have a very tough time
Speaker 1: with it because of your um asthma conditions. So I
Speaker 1: will be the one now doing trips and I will
Speaker 1: make sure that I follow all the guidelines that I
Speaker 1: have placed on you, and um, I will make sure
Speaker 1: to FaceTime you while you're at the store so you
Speaker 1: get the appropriate things. You can't FaceTime because I can't
Speaker 1: touch anything. I know what to get. It's just you
Speaker 1: get everything after two weeks. I can't FaceTime. You can't
Speaker 1: touch I can't touch my phone when I'm like touching,
Speaker 1: you know, add the gloves and it's just aways. Um.
Speaker 1: So yeah, So that's that's that. We hope everyone's staying
Speaker 1: safe though and not being naive to the social distancing
Speaker 1: and staying at home. Just do the right thing. Please
Speaker 1: stay at home so we can get past all this.
Speaker 1: So I want to talk about something, and we also
Speaker 1: have a really special guess. We have Tyler rich coming
Speaker 1: on who I just love him. I love his music.
Speaker 1: Lever Wilde is one of my favorite songs. He's coming
Speaker 1: on the show. In a bit, but first let's take
Speaker 1: a break. Okay. So I kind of have something I
Speaker 1: do want to bring up. I don't even know to
Speaker 1: say this is Uh, usually we save things for like therapy,
Speaker 1: but I guess this is kind of like therapy at times,
Speaker 1: So sure, why not bring it up. Let's do it. Well.
Speaker 1: I don't want it to be two sided, and I
Speaker 1: do want you to feel you want to be too sided.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't want to. I don't want it
Speaker 1: to be too So what I'm saying is is I
Speaker 1: don't want it to be one sided because I feel
Speaker 1: like sometimes you might feel that I'm picking on you
Speaker 1: or bringing up things from the past or doing those
Speaker 1: kind of things, and I don't ever want you to
Speaker 1: feel that way. Appreciate that because I feel like why
Speaker 1: I bring certain things up is to help other people,
Speaker 1: for sure, And so if we could just go into
Speaker 1: it with that in mind, that in mind, and to
Speaker 1: maybe sometimes I forget that people are listening to this
Speaker 1: when we have these conversations. So what honey, Oh, we're
Speaker 1: just working baby, I love you in quarantine? Oh god?
Speaker 1: Um yeah, So I just I get that, and I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to bring up the past. Or whatever. I
Speaker 1: just feel like something we went through could be helped
Speaker 1: to other people. Okay, this bring it on? Do you
Speaker 1: know what I'm talking about? I don't. Let's do it
Speaker 1: the board, the shop, let's do it. So we had yes, baby,
Speaker 1: what sweetheart, you want me to cuddle you up? Okay,
Speaker 1: one second, entertain the crowd for one second. Well we
Speaker 1: do this quarantine style in the house, no nanny, no help,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna go cuddle the baby up. So why
Speaker 1: don't don't set the scene yet. Let's let's leave him
Speaker 1: hanging a little bit on that, but give him something
Speaker 1: else coming, baby girl. I don't know if any of
Speaker 1: you out there with smartphones play game Pigeon, but it's
Speaker 1: a great way to connect with friends. Okay. It's like
Speaker 1: a game app that's through your messages and you can
Speaker 1: play games back and forth to each other that come
Speaker 1: in as text messages. You can play darts, you can
Speaker 1: play pool, you can play battleship, you can play four
Speaker 1: in a row. You can basically basically play beer pong.
Speaker 1: That you call it cut pong, but it's probably us
Speaker 1: former college kids out there. It's beer pong. But no,
Speaker 1: it's great. You can play a little bit everything. It's
Speaker 1: a lot of fun. It's a way to connect with
Speaker 1: your friends. So even if you aren't a gamer like myself,
Speaker 1: it's just fun something to do take your mind off
Speaker 1: all of the stresses that we're all dealing with right now.
Speaker 1: And this is not an ad. This is just a
Speaker 1: personal endorsement from myself because I enjoy doing it. So
Speaker 1: we're gonna give Jane in a minute, as she cuts
Speaker 1: up Jolie on the couch. Um again, this is just
Speaker 1: the joys of working from home during quarantine. So and
Speaker 1: here's Janet, did you cuttle up? Jolly? Can I have
Speaker 1: some popcorns? So she's just like sitting pretty out there.
Speaker 1: It is Friday night, Yeah it is, okay, So I
Speaker 1: told them everything. Okay, it's all my fault, super ones,
Speaker 1: I did, got it? Okay, No, but can we just
Speaker 1: go into that. So let's put down the guards. Swords
Speaker 1: and shields are Downards and shields are down. This is
Speaker 1: just the teaching moment that we could both do better at,
Speaker 1: and this could be maybe helpful. Why don't you give
Speaker 1: the backstory of how we've been the last week we had,
Speaker 1: this week we've been, this past week, we've been good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the week before it was a rough week. So usually
Speaker 1: we're in ruts for just a couple of days, but
Speaker 1: this one lasted umbout a week. Yeah, it was a
Speaker 1: solid week. So I think because I'll just say, we're
Speaker 1: so used to working from home, so a lot of
Speaker 1: people are like, oh, it shouldn't be any different for you. True,
Speaker 1: but usually we're doing you know, we're doing stuff and
Speaker 1: I'm running here and he's got this, and I've got
Speaker 1: a meeting or we've you know, we're not on top
Speaker 1: of each other. And even when travel, we usually travel
Speaker 1: at least once or twice a month, and typically nine
Speaker 1: percent of time it's together, where even that at least
Speaker 1: breaks things up a little bit. Like, even the we're together,
Speaker 1: it's still traveling is a different scenery, a different vibe,
Speaker 1: in different moods, so it's still kind of feels different
Speaker 1: for us. So I think even that not having the
Speaker 1: travel that we're used to is a little different, and
Speaker 1: I feel not to one side it, but I just
Speaker 1: feel like I am a very inquisitive person. I ask
Speaker 1: a lot of questions, and I think the questions throughout
Speaker 1: the I'm walking across, like the kitchen James like, what
Speaker 1: are you doing. I'm going to the refrigerator. Why. It's
Speaker 1: just that's just who she is. I'm just very curious.
Speaker 1: And I think I asked you, you know, enough questions
Speaker 1: those few days that you just started to get annoyed
Speaker 1: with me. Yeah. And one of the things was we
Speaker 1: were built this little patio outside for these uh, for
Speaker 1: these bins basically to hold all of our pool stuff.
Speaker 1: And so I finally got around to it thanks to
Speaker 1: the quarantine, and got it done, um six months later.
Speaker 1: So I have these they're like mini sheds, have these
Speaker 1: two little mini sheds up, but a little platform looks great.
Speaker 1: When I finished the platform, like a week or two ago,
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, I text you. I'm like, hey, come outside,
Speaker 1: come take a look. And she comes out, and my
Speaker 1: expectation is for her to be like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: it looks great. You're basically hercules and I love you
Speaker 1: so much. And she comes out she's like hmm, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it looks nice, and I can read through that immediately.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, no, it did look nice. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you're you're you had a different expectation of what it
Speaker 1: would look like. I had no idea. I had no expectations,
Speaker 1: so I was more just like, oh that's what you did. Cool?
Speaker 1: You through rocks downe and like what are like cool?
Speaker 1: So she so she proceeds to go into questions around
Speaker 1: She's like, oh, so, you know, is it's going to
Speaker 1: be sturdy? Is it gonna like there, you know, there's
Speaker 1: little ship's gonna wobble And she's like, you know, she's
Speaker 1: like pushing it and it's like wobbling a little bit,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, um, well, these things aren't you know,
Speaker 1: five thousand dollars, Like we got them on you know,
Speaker 1: Amazon for like a hundred bucks, So they're gonna wobble
Speaker 1: even And I even had to pick this thing up
Speaker 1: and put it on the pool deck concrete and show
Speaker 1: her that it's still wobbles a little bit. It's just
Speaker 1: the way it is. And then you know, I have
Speaker 1: it with a wood frame and these like nice grabble
Speaker 1: grabble marble rocks to make it look a little bit
Speaker 1: more sestetically pleasing, and she's like, oh, was the door
Speaker 1: gonna open like even on rocks, like is it gonna
Speaker 1: get caught? Is it gonna I'm genuinely asking these questions,
Speaker 1: by the way, just so you guys know, like I
Speaker 1: am genuinely oh is it gonna because I'm like, in
Speaker 1: my mind, I'm like, oh, it's probably not gonna open
Speaker 1: because the rocks are right there, but not's a fault him.
Speaker 1: I'm just like yeah. And then so there's just my
Speaker 1: inn dog. And then I'm telling her, I'm like, Okay, well,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm underestimated on the rocks. I need to
Speaker 1: get a couple more bags and under the rocks that
Speaker 1: it's soiled to even things out. And she was just like, well,
Speaker 1: you have more soil on the truck, so why don't
Speaker 1: you choose that instead of I was like, we already
Speaker 1: laid the rocks. I can exchange the back to soil.
Speaker 1: And she's like, okay, well how much are the backs
Speaker 1: of rocks and how much are the backs of soil?
Speaker 1: And so I'm just giving these questions. I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh in my head, and I don't burst out
Speaker 1: about it as much as I wanted to. In my head,
Speaker 1: I'm like, why can't I just do a job and
Speaker 1: a wife just trust the husband that he's gonna like
Speaker 1: trust my judgment, Like instead of having all these inquisitive questions,
Speaker 1: I understand you are a curious person, but the way
Speaker 1: I receive it is clearly the only reason you're asking
Speaker 1: a question is because it's not the way that you
Speaker 1: would have liked to have had it done. Can I
Speaker 1: respond her? Now? Sure, that's actually really not true, because
Speaker 1: looking at it, First of all, I just want to
Speaker 1: say thank you for sharing. Second of all, I one
Speaker 1: thousand percent could as you're saying it, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that sounds really annoying that I'm like that I'm asking
Speaker 1: all those questions that must that would be so annoying.
Speaker 1: And also I love how it looks. I think the rocks,
Speaker 1: like the white rocks, you know, how like the border,
Speaker 1: I think it looks great. I just had no idea
Speaker 1: what to even expect, So I was like, oh, like
Speaker 1: it was those rocks was the last thing in my
Speaker 1: mind that you would have put it on. So I
Speaker 1: was just, so, what can I ask to understand better?
Speaker 1: So okay, So in your head, you're like, you have
Speaker 1: no expectation of what it's gonna look like, So why
Speaker 1: not just be like what stops you from being like, oh,
Speaker 1: like looks great, awesome? Like I trust my husband's judgment.
Speaker 1: Clearly he wouldn't do that if it wouldn't open, if
Speaker 1: the door wouldn't open, he wouldn't put rocks down. Like
Speaker 1: that's where for sure I get that that makes idiot.
Speaker 1: I'm not what I'm doing now, it makes total sense
Speaker 1: and I and logically I can look back and and
Speaker 1: see that. Um and so that's something I can for
Speaker 1: sure be better at and be more mindful of, because
Speaker 1: I don't want you to feel like an idiot. I
Speaker 1: don't want you to feel like you know, what you're
Speaker 1: doing is questioned or why, like, of course you're not
Speaker 1: going to have something that doesn't open. I think maybe
Speaker 1: there might have been that handful of times where something
Speaker 1: maybe didn't go as planned. So I'm in my mind
Speaker 1: it's like, well, if I asked all the questions, then
Speaker 1: we won't have to start from scratch, you know, because
Speaker 1: of maybe something in in the past. But that's not fair.
Speaker 1: And I couldn't even remember, if you know, I couldn't
Speaker 1: even think of a time, so you know, yeah, a
Speaker 1: thousand percent should have just been like, oh, looks great,
Speaker 1: that's awesome, good job, h But I didn't, and I'm
Speaker 1: sorry for that. Shit. It's things that we gotta work on.
Speaker 1: Speaking of which I felt very one sided, so well
Speaker 1: to even this out for you. So the reason we
Speaker 1: start with that story is but I feel kind of say,
Speaker 1: I think it might be a wife thing too, asking questions, right,
Speaker 1: but here's the thing, and and we're going to get
Speaker 1: general right here, that does feel like a wife thing.
Speaker 1: And as a man, it feels it doesn't feel like
Speaker 1: y'all's questions are out of curiosity. There's a difference between
Speaker 1: there's a difference between a question out of curiosity and
Speaker 1: being challenged when you question somebody the way y'all wives,
Speaker 1: not everyone. We're just overly generalizing right now for the
Speaker 1: sake of the argument is it feels like we're being
Speaker 1: challenged because a man's again, a man's mindset is like
Speaker 1: mine where it's the only reason she would ask me
Speaker 1: is because clearly she has an issue with it. So
Speaker 1: and that's on y'all men or a woman if it's
Speaker 1: rules are first, because that's not fair just because we
Speaker 1: might be passive or say a comment or a question
Speaker 1: out of like you've dumb ass, not all questions, but
Speaker 1: you're reading all of our questions like that and those scenarios.
Speaker 1: Because I genuinely just like oh wow, like is it
Speaker 1: going to be starting on those rocks because in my
Speaker 1: mind I just genuinely didn't think they were going to
Speaker 1: be and it had nothing to do to question you.
Speaker 1: I totally see how you take that though, but I
Speaker 1: just there are questions when I genuinely just ask you that,
Speaker 1: I feel like men and some other people might take
Speaker 1: it the wrong You're obviously taking it the wrong way
Speaker 1: because I that always being super just like oh interesting,
Speaker 1: like duh almost like kind of like my dad, Like
Speaker 1: my dad would be very much like is that a
Speaker 1: uh an electric plug? And it's like, yeah, why are
Speaker 1: you asking that question? Like it's just but he's curious,
Speaker 1: you know that does this plug plug in? Yeah? But
Speaker 1: he's he's an engineer, so his mind I know. But
Speaker 1: I'm just saying I wouldn't. The thing is, I think
Speaker 1: I understand what you're saying. I wouldn't ask you a
Speaker 1: question of something that you know better than me, Like
Speaker 1: you know how to sell I do, okay, but you
Speaker 1: do you can. So when you sow those buttons on,
Speaker 1: like those couple of jackets I needed done, I didn't
Speaker 1: look at it in question, Well, did you go through
Speaker 1: the loop enough valid point. But but but here's here's
Speaker 1: which direction should you start from? Valid point? But to
Speaker 1: the valid point? Totally get that. But if you would
Speaker 1: have said, oh, do you think that will hold? I
Speaker 1: wouldn't get I wouldn't think this is I think again, men, men,
Speaker 1: wife think. I would not get defensive. If you asked
Speaker 1: me if the string that I use used would have
Speaker 1: held the strength of your button unto your jacket, it
Speaker 1: would not offend me in the louise because we don't
Speaker 1: ask those questions. But if you did, but did we
Speaker 1: are used to your challenging questions to see what our
Speaker 1: answer is. We don't question you all like that. We
Speaker 1: give you the benefit of the doubt. Right, I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: given the benefit of doubt, even on something that we
Speaker 1: may know better than you. Oh that's not true. Like
Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't challenge you on certain things like that,
Speaker 1: you know, hanging up the garage whatever, YadA yutah, hanging
Speaker 1: up the garage, like the pull up bar. Like I
Speaker 1: didn't be like, well you should use the double whatever
Speaker 1: did you put that little thing of a jigger in there?
Speaker 1: I don't know, but is it going to hold hold you? No? Janna,
Speaker 1: I put it in the wall and making sure it
Speaker 1: wouldn't hold me, and as soon as we put our
Speaker 1: hands on it, we're gonna get a giant hole in
Speaker 1: the drywall. You did ask your question? Is that going
Speaker 1: to hold us? Why else would I put it up?
Speaker 1: From my feeling in the microphone, so I don't want
Speaker 1: to hear you you didn't ask a question, because you did,
Speaker 1: I don't know why. I it's just it's not like
Speaker 1: I don't want you to take it defensively. It's just
Speaker 1: a general question. And I don't know why. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: just me. Maybe I'm the only female out there. And
Speaker 1: if i am, then I'm so sorry that you have
Speaker 1: to live with such an inquisitive female. And I'll never
Speaker 1: ask a question again. But that's not true. But I'm
Speaker 1: gonna starting then. I'm gonna before i'm done, I'm going
Speaker 1: to write a list of questions, the questions I know
Speaker 1: not anymore, because now I'm gonna be like great or
Speaker 1: a list of the questions that Jan would ask. I'm
Speaker 1: going to write them out with my answer, and before
Speaker 1: I show you something, or as I show you something,
Speaker 1: I'm going to hand you the piece of paper with
Speaker 1: your questions and the answers on there, and you won't
Speaker 1: you won't have to ask a thing. Well, you know,
Speaker 1: you know what, that's great, That that really just I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just sometimes I just feel like you
Speaker 1: guys have to Again, maybe I'm the only one. If
Speaker 1: I'm the only one out there, then than than I sucked.
Speaker 1: But I'm just hoping a few women will reach out
Speaker 1: to me after hearing this podcast and also validate that
Speaker 1: they may be asked questions not because they don't trust
Speaker 1: their husband, but just because you know, there might have
Speaker 1: been a time or two that the dry wall did
Speaker 1: come out or whatever, or they're just curious. Once again,
Speaker 1: just validate. It's my point that you have a strategic
Speaker 1: purpose for asking a question, not all the time. Not
Speaker 1: all the time. It's but you, guys, I can understand
Speaker 1: how you would miss construe when we genuinely are just
Speaker 1: asking a question. These are the things that are coming
Speaker 1: up for us as we're quarantined together for a month straight.
Speaker 1: So far, let's get down to the next part of
Speaker 1: it now. I think maybe we should have saved that
Speaker 1: one because we kind of went long on that, so
Speaker 1: maybe we should save that for another. But it goes
Speaker 1: hand in hand. It does, but that's kind of long,
Speaker 1: very one sided. I'm very defensive and angry right now. Okay,
Speaker 1: so excited because, um, we have on zoom with us
Speaker 1: Tyler Rich Yes, Um, how are you doing? Are we're
Speaker 1: doing well? We're hanging in there. Where do you guys?
Speaker 1: Your wife? I see your beautiful wife behind you. Where
Speaker 1: do you guys? Where do you guys live? So we
Speaker 1: split time between Nashville, um and l A. So we're
Speaker 1: in l A right now. To get crazy, I grabbed
Speaker 1: the dog and flow out here and just been hanging
Speaker 1: out inevitably and seeing what happens. So how's everything in
Speaker 1: l A then? Because I know you guys, it's it's
Speaker 1: getting hit some kind of a hot spot. So, um,
Speaker 1: is it super weird to just see nothing happening? Or
Speaker 1: is there are people still interacting and what's going on? Um?
Speaker 1: It's it's funny because when I look out side, it
Speaker 1: looks like everything is kind of normal. But I know
Speaker 1: that when they're everything is normal again. I'm gonna real
Speaker 1: that's how crazy it usually is outside. But I don't know.
Speaker 1: I guess I think I'm feel like I'm supposed to
Speaker 1: look out side and see nobody, but I see so
Speaker 1: many people still. Um, so it kind of feels like
Speaker 1: not much has changed. But then you see the But
Speaker 1: we also live on a street with two grocery stores
Speaker 1: where they're they're lined up down the street. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: it's convenient for us, but there's people everywhere. How long
Speaker 1: have you guys been married for? Oh? Wow? Really was? Yeah,
Speaker 1: but they're in the newly wed phase. This is where
Speaker 1: they're like still right, but they're like they're accelerating their
Speaker 1: marriage clock by like years right now. It's like dog
Speaker 1: years like in marriage, you know, but like it's six months.
Speaker 1: Like you're still obsessed with their like breath, like when
Speaker 1: they wake up in the morning and they're like you know,
Speaker 1: they're every like time they walk through like yeah, like
Speaker 1: every time they walk through a door, it's like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, everything's still so cute and fancy it Like, okay,
Speaker 1: I mean, how is it though? It's it's been cool.
Speaker 1: It's we're literally in the middle of an argument, is
Speaker 1: whispering in my ear about right now about how hot
Speaker 1: he is right now. She always has it so hut
Speaker 1: sound for sound purposes, thank you, And he just whispered
Speaker 1: in my ear and he's like, it's so hot, Like,
Speaker 1: all right, can we're in the sound And I'm like,
Speaker 1: I feel like the sweating is definitely the trade off
Speaker 1: for bad sounds. That's definitely our argument pretty much. Seven,
Speaker 1: He's like, why did you turn the heat on? It's
Speaker 1: seventy three degrees outside, and like because it's cold in here,
Speaker 1: and she has on like shorts and a T shirt.
Speaker 1: I'm like, we'll put some clothes on and you won't
Speaker 1: be cold. What effort. This is a daily argument, so
Speaker 1: we get it. But I mean, is the is the
Speaker 1: bliss still there even with being you know, kind of
Speaker 1: on top of each other? Have you have there been
Speaker 1: moments of just that just annoyance or are you still
Speaker 1: in that honeymoon phase even with the quarantine? So how
Speaker 1: long did you guys date before you got married? Because
Speaker 1: I'll well, here's the thing, here's a think. Ty and
Speaker 1: I are a long distance so I live in l A.
Speaker 1: Tyler's in Nashville, So our norm has always been with
Speaker 1: a ton of space, so we've never really been on
Speaker 1: when you pretend together. So it's actually been really good
Speaker 1: with the issue is we're working from home so much
Speaker 1: time an actor, so I'm doing self tape auditions while
Speaker 1: he and voiceover auditions in the living room, while he's
Speaker 1: like in my room trying to record songs. So we're
Speaker 1: just more like it's it's a really good problem. Thank
Speaker 1: god we're able to like still try to be as
Speaker 1: as productive as possible, but it's like us trying to
Speaker 1: like honor the space and each other's like creative. We
Speaker 1: finally feel married for sure. Welcome. How has that been
Speaker 1: with both you guys and your professions, which obviously in
Speaker 1: both professions you're typically with a lot of people, whether
Speaker 1: you're on there set or touring or whatever. How has
Speaker 1: that been for y'all? Like mentally being able to be like,
Speaker 1: all right, we're just kind of stagnant right now. We
Speaker 1: have to do whatever we can to try to move
Speaker 1: the needle. But it's really hard. Yeah, I feel like,
Speaker 1: especially the first week was like scrambling and grabbing for
Speaker 1: straws to try to figure out how to instantly mold
Speaker 1: your business into this new business model of online only um,
Speaker 1: and it's been it's actually for me, it's kind of crazy.
Speaker 1: I actually feel busier than I've ever been because it's
Speaker 1: like wake up in the morning all the way ntil
Speaker 1: I go to sleep at night. It's trying as much
Speaker 1: as possible to be as productive as possible. When I
Speaker 1: used to have downtime, now I'm like, I need to
Speaker 1: feel every second of every day to stay ahead of
Speaker 1: this thing. Um. It's been exhausting. It's been inspiring, especially
Speaker 1: to see how everybody's coming together, Seeing how everybody's being
Speaker 1: creative in ways they've never been creative before. And um,
Speaker 1: using Instagram Live in ways that we've never used it before,
Speaker 1: and doing a podcast through Zoom, you know, and just um,
Speaker 1: all these different ways we're having to mold um. Sabina
Speaker 1: has actually kind of been busier too, because now that
Speaker 1: she can self tape, it's almost like even more auditions
Speaker 1: are coming in now. But at the same time, like
Speaker 1: not getting paid for anything that we hear you on
Speaker 1: that we just had to unfortunately lay off our nanny
Speaker 1: because we're not I mean, I booked a film up
Speaker 1: in Canada and we got we flew all the way
Speaker 1: up there and then we filmed one scene and then
Speaker 1: had to come right back to Tennessee, and so, you know,
Speaker 1: things like that aren't coming in and so we had
Speaker 1: to unfortunately lay off the nanny and that's been really hard,
Speaker 1: and you know, because I think people expect us to
Speaker 1: be making all this money and have all this but
Speaker 1: it's like nowhere we you know, we don't. Yes, we're fortunate,
Speaker 1: but at the same time, you know, we still have
Speaker 1: expenses and if we don't have money coming in, then
Speaker 1: we can't live our lives how we have lived them.
Speaker 1: So but yeah, it's fun times. But I'm glad that
Speaker 1: you're still able to, you know, do some auditions and stuff.
Speaker 1: But I can. It's definitely hard, especially when you know
Speaker 1: he's probably trying to do music in the other room.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of times and all self tape.
Speaker 1: Michael is usually my my person. That is the actor Tyler.
Speaker 1: Do you read do you read with Sabina on her sealthie? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Do you give? Do you give her text? Is he
Speaker 1: gives me? Not? Yeah? Hey, look you want us to
Speaker 1: help you. You know, the guys we've seen a lot
Speaker 1: of movies. We can you know, we have a little
Speaker 1: bit of education here. How long do you guys think
Speaker 1: you'll do the long distance for? Um? I guess as
Speaker 1: long as we have to. I think until we I
Speaker 1: think until we decide to have little ones because I
Speaker 1: think for now it's worked. It really does work for us.
Speaker 1: I mean it's it really worked for us. I think
Speaker 1: I find that Tide it's rather aunty. If I'm in
Speaker 1: Nashville with him for a good two week window, I
Speaker 1: find he gets cut, he's busy, he's right, and he's
Speaker 1: gone all day and I feel like he gets anty,
Speaker 1: like he feels guilty, like he's leaving me and like
Speaker 1: as if he's not honoring my dreams to Like I
Speaker 1: think there's some guilt that kind of sets in. So
Speaker 1: I think when we have a family, then we'll make
Speaker 1: the move to be together. But for now, it's for now,
Speaker 1: it's been it's been working. So because you guys have
Speaker 1: spent so much time apart, Like, what's one thing that
Speaker 1: you've noticed that you're like that kind of gets on
Speaker 1: my nerves. It's something there's it's actually something that Tie
Speaker 1: has actually really taught me. Like he wakes up, started
Speaker 1: up first thing in the morning and he has this
Speaker 1: to do list and he gets he sticks with it.
Speaker 1: He's like eight am, I'm doing this nighting and like
Speaker 1: he really he's actually taught me a lot because like
Speaker 1: I'll just I'll just like push things off on that
Speaker 1: I'll do it tomorrow the next day. So he's actually
Speaker 1: I don't know that it gets The first few days
Speaker 1: it was getting on my nerves because I just wanted
Speaker 1: to like sit for a minute. But but but now
Speaker 1: it's actually taught me that, like, Okay, this is why
Speaker 1: he gets so much done, and he's hustling and working
Speaker 1: so hard, and it just really taught me that I
Speaker 1: can't roll my to do list over from day to
Speaker 1: day to day. Tyler Janna, that's like her fantasy for
Speaker 1: me to have that trade to go buy a list
Speaker 1: like and not move anything. Because I mean, I'm like you,
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, does this really need to get
Speaker 1: done right this moment? Now, I'm good, I'll do it later.
Speaker 1: You want to you want to know? Hold on, let
Speaker 1: me show you. Let me just show you what ty
Speaker 1: got me. I kind of the thing is, I just
Speaker 1: got really bad O c D. And it's kind of
Speaker 1: things organize and meat and she's kind of like a
Speaker 1: cluster of chaos. Just what are those ore timers? Their
Speaker 1: efficiency timers, Those little sand things minutes, five minutes, ten minutes,
Speaker 1: little sand things are hourglasses. But there are timers to
Speaker 1: keep me on track, I'll be like, Saba, this has
Speaker 1: been on your to do list for two weeks. You have,
Speaker 1: Oh that is the most amazing thing. Like do you
Speaker 1: know if I did that to you, you would we
Speaker 1: would have getten the biggest fight ever. You'd yell at me,
Speaker 1: like would be broken by the you would you would
Speaker 1: take my hour glass and you would throw it up
Speaker 1: against the wall and it' chatter everywhere. He hasn't actually
Speaker 1: used it yet. I think if you actually implemented and
Speaker 1: put it in front of me and watched the sand
Speaker 1: go down and go freaking nuts, Oh gosh, I'm so envious.
Speaker 1: Like the stuff we could get done together, Tyler, Like
Speaker 1: we would just we would rule the world. You and
Speaker 1: Sabbina would just be like, hey, let us know what
Speaker 1: we can do just riding cotails out. No, but I
Speaker 1: will say, though it's been it's been nice, you know,
Speaker 1: just to affirm you, Mike, like you've you have instead
Speaker 1: of going to your normal trait, which is a little
Speaker 1: laziness in reclusiveness, like you've you've really like you've built
Speaker 1: the shed and the the you know, you've you've really
Speaker 1: done this stuff that hasn't been needing to get done.
Speaker 1: So I just I really appreciate it. You're welcome kind
Speaker 1: of guy, I am, honey. We're an apartments in both places,
Speaker 1: so we can't build sheds yet, but one of us doesn't.
Speaker 1: I cleaned a lot of Are you not impressed with
Speaker 1: how much I've gotten up? I showed up to l
Speaker 1: A with the dog three weeks ago and she goes, hey,
Speaker 1: so I have a honey to do list of what
Speaker 1: a husband should do around here that has been compiling
Speaker 1: for ever because I'm never here more than just a
Speaker 1: few days. And one was like, rearrange the entire storage unit.
Speaker 1: Great idea, help her rearrange and organize all of her
Speaker 1: clothes in her class night priorities. I love it. Oh,
Speaker 1: it's not actually organizing. I actually need to help with
Speaker 1: purgeing and need him to look at me and say
Speaker 1: you don't need this. It's more and it's not like organizing.
Speaker 1: It's actually look I get attached to everything, sure like
Speaker 1: I get so I need him to look at me
Speaker 1: and be like, you don't need this. We can get
Speaker 1: rid of this, and like okay. So it's more not
Speaker 1: organization tests it's more like I need me like kicking
Speaker 1: the butt. Understandable Tyler, what are you doing kind of
Speaker 1: with your brand and everything to build that right now?
Speaker 1: Like you're talking about you, you're trying to change your
Speaker 1: business model to you know, incorporate how things are and
Speaker 1: how society is right now. Like what do you personally doing?
Speaker 1: Like where can people find you? Here? Stuff from you
Speaker 1: and kind of follow what label are you on again,
Speaker 1: Tyler Valerie through Big Machine? Very cool? Um, So I
Speaker 1: created this thing. So my first single was called the
Speaker 1: Difference and so great song. By the way, thanks, we
Speaker 1: have it crossed out it says the Distance Tour. And
Speaker 1: so what that is is three shows a week um
Speaker 1: on Instagram Live and so on Tuesdays, what I do is,
Speaker 1: because everybody's going live and everybody is trying to be
Speaker 1: you know, give as many people to watch as possible.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, how can I be more
Speaker 1: creative and create a show that isn't just alive me
Speaker 1: sitting on my couch playing music. And so on Tuesday's
Speaker 1: I have a show called Singing Behind the Scene and
Speaker 1: I showcase three songwriters and what happens is each one
Speaker 1: gets twenty minutes and they tell stories. They played two
Speaker 1: of their hits and they tell the stories behind it,
Speaker 1: and then I either play a song I've written with
Speaker 1: that songwriter or I cover one of their other hits, UM,
Speaker 1: and we do that three rounds. And then on Friday's
Speaker 1: my new song coming out is called Feels Like Home,
Speaker 1: which is perfect as everybody's at home, and so we
Speaker 1: have it Feels Like Home Couch Concert series, which is
Speaker 1: just traditional Instagram live show for an hour. I just
Speaker 1: take requests hang out, um and then Sundays, I've got
Speaker 1: a song called leaver Wild that's my favorite. I was
Speaker 1: just gonna say leave Wild my absolute favorite jam. I
Speaker 1: even had it all cute up to say this is
Speaker 1: my favorite and trying to turn and live do you
Speaker 1: live if if? If? That's the jam right there? So good, dude.
Speaker 1: I love that song because so many times you just
Speaker 1: you know, it's like just live like leave her wild man,
Speaker 1: Now I see, and that's now I get it now.
Speaker 1: Meeting your beautiful wife, I get it. And she said
Speaker 1: every time I try to give her to do it,
Speaker 1: she goes yes. There's nothing you can say against that
Speaker 1: you leave him wild. It goes both ways. It's by
Speaker 1: the way I took I took leave her a whild
Speaker 1: was stup too far. On day one of Believe Her Wild,
Speaker 1: So Sunday says leave her Wild Sunday Brunch, And so
Speaker 1: at one o'clock in the afternoon on Sundays, we have
Speaker 1: this brunch that it's kind of like a day drinking
Speaker 1: thing for people that can't go day drink on a Sunday. Um,
Speaker 1: and we do it like a talk show. Like the
Speaker 1: first ten minutes, I do news, positive stories. Um, I
Speaker 1: don't have to playing music on this one. And then
Speaker 1: it leads us to say show number one didn't have
Speaker 1: like as much structure, and I started to get more drunk,
Speaker 1: and then I just started to text friends, join us,
Speaker 1: join us, and then what happened. It turned into like
Speaker 1: a three and a half hour Also, what happens is
Speaker 1: we have a guest come on and we do a
Speaker 1: drinking game for trivia, and then they promote whatever they
Speaker 1: have going on and we go to another guest. It's
Speaker 1: an hour show now, but first one was it was
Speaker 1: like the Wild Wild West, and now it's Sober Sunday.
Speaker 1: But before it was not. Yeah, well it's still not
Speaker 1: Sober Sunday, but it was It definitely wasn't blackout Sunday
Speaker 1: like Number one I was. I did it just got excited,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to make a drink because it
Speaker 1: feels like, I mean, I don't know, I'm gonna take
Speaker 1: a drink. I mean my Twitter, I'm gonna I'm gonna
Speaker 1: commit playing. You know, So we play this game, but
Speaker 1: we expected it to play around for one hour, and
Speaker 1: and I invited some more friends and we had you know,
Speaker 1: John Cardy came on and Dustin when she came on,
Speaker 1: and we had some really great friends of ours. And
Speaker 1: I was excited to see their faces. And then I
Speaker 1: just kept drinking, really drinking, and then I blacked out.
Speaker 1: So four thirty pm for thirty pm. She lays down
Speaker 1: on the couch. Basically, this is the bag. This is Sebina.
Speaker 1: She just puts her down. That's sticking a little nap.
Speaker 1: She woke up at nine thirty and she walks to
Speaker 1: the room. She goes celthing's not right. What happened? She
Speaker 1: goes to the room and she falls asleep until ten
Speaker 1: a m. Going hard. Eight hours. Good for you, quarantine coma,
Speaker 1: I mean one of those right now? Wow? Um wait, Tyler,
Speaker 1: how long did you um, you know, do the guitar
Speaker 1: singing song or anything? Before you got signed. Um, I mean,
Speaker 1: so I just turned thirty four. Um, I was in
Speaker 1: and out of bands, I mean since was nineteen, from California,
Speaker 1: from northern California, in and out of bands, touring stuff
Speaker 1: until I was about twenty two. Um. Then I went
Speaker 1: back to school. I got a degree in economics. For
Speaker 1: some reason, you used it to do the timer thing.
Speaker 1: That the same timer with my taxes, and he's very
Speaker 1: efficient the timers is what I've learned from all of this.
Speaker 1: But and then I started doing the singer songwriter thing
Speaker 1: in l A. Probably, I guess I probably did it
Speaker 1: for two years, three years. And then I moved to
Speaker 1: Nashville five years ago. Trying to piece all this together.
Speaker 1: I was in Nashville. I was a Nashville for a
Speaker 1: year before I got signed. I mean that's huge. But
Speaker 1: when I moved there, I moved because I was I
Speaker 1: guess I was already was already contacted, I had already
Speaker 1: taken some meetings, got it from California. So I went
Speaker 1: out there and met with some people, and basically what
Speaker 1: it was like, we love what you're doing. You just
Speaker 1: can't do it out there the best as you can't,
Speaker 1: you know, the best play. Yeah, they're not going to
Speaker 1: think you're authentic if you are. You live in California, Yeah,
Speaker 1: in do country music, which just makes no sense, But whatever,
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do? And when did you guys meet?
Speaker 1: Along the way? We met at stagecoach? Yeah you did.
Speaker 1: She was just wearing a cute little tap and a
Speaker 1: little fringe, had a little bandana on his face, and I,
Speaker 1: I mean, you could see he's got a nice little smile.
Speaker 1: But he was there dancing, and I was like, I
Speaker 1: didn't even know I like tattoos, by the way, and
Speaker 1: he's there dancing next to me. And my friends were like,
Speaker 1: that's the hottest guy ever. But I couldn't actually see
Speaker 1: his face, just saw his eyes and his tattoos, and
Speaker 1: I got better pries than That's where I covered up,
Speaker 1: you know, like, oh my god, this who knew I
Speaker 1: like tattoos. I'm so flustered while looking at him, and
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, he takes his bandanna off
Speaker 1: and he smiles. Okay, it was game over because she
Speaker 1: walked away. She's not got very flustered. I was like,
Speaker 1: this is too much. I did you had already here?
Speaker 1: I heard him sing. He wasn't performing. He was just
Speaker 1: there and he didn't know. We didn't know anything about
Speaker 1: each other. And then he was like, we must know
Speaker 1: each other. He was trying to look at my Instagram
Speaker 1: and there was on the surfaces and then I in
Speaker 1: that moment, I was like looking at him and I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh boy, I'm gonna I had just been through real relationships,
Speaker 1: so seeing this hot sexy man, I was like, I
Speaker 1: was like, I can't it can't be truck. She's drunk
Speaker 1: right now. It's fine. She's saying what we're all thinking.
Speaker 1: Tyler's lead for a whild So okay, I love that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: my Bandana Smile game was okay, but it was the
Speaker 1: d M game that really put her in the next
Speaker 1: day slid into the d M s. That's fabulous, I know. Well, okay,
Speaker 1: so your your new song, feel like Home. It's coming
Speaker 1: out when we don't know yet. So I'm actually recording
Speaker 1: it right now from Quarantine and sending files to Nashville.
Speaker 1: So we're doing zoom FaceTime live, real time recording recording. Yeah,
Speaker 1: straight into my producers computer. Well that's amazing, and I
Speaker 1: love you guys. I think you guys are so cute.
Speaker 1: And when you guys get back to Nashville, let's have
Speaker 1: and we can actually be around other people a little
Speaker 1: wine down. Yeah, I know I miss I miss connection,
Speaker 1: connection and other people. Like I know I have you,
Speaker 1: but like I want. It's killing Danna not to hug
Speaker 1: anybody because she's a big hugger. I'll hug stranger. You
Speaker 1: guys will have epic hugged then, So she it's killing
Speaker 1: her right now not to hug strangers. Yeah, strangers. I
Speaker 1: do that sometimes because bad bad happened. Oh do you
Speaker 1: give your what what numbers? Strange? Yeah, I know I
Speaker 1: do too, Like on planes, Like I met one of
Speaker 1: my best friends on the plane, so we are friends. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's how. And I shut everyone else out on
Speaker 1: the world, in the world when I'm on a plane. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you know it's okay now that we're instant best friends.
Speaker 1: When you guys come to Nashville, this is all over.
Speaker 1: We'll give big hugs, will drink wine. You can sing
Speaker 1: for us, Tyler and it'll be great, and you can
Speaker 1: just sit here and be me great. You guys can
Speaker 1: talk about your tattoos like, it'll be awesome and we'll
Speaker 1: just drink wine. So it'll be great. You guys, listen
Speaker 1: to Tyler Rich and Sabina. You guys are a beautiful couple.
Speaker 1: I love you, guys, and thanks for coming on wine down,
Speaker 1: Thanks guy to hang out. Thank you all right, Well,
Speaker 1: Tyler and Sabina were great either so sweet, yes, super
Speaker 1: sweet couple. You know. Look out for them and what
Speaker 1: they're doing. And uh, I'm sure we'll get together with
Speaker 1: them soon here in Nashville, for sure. I was just
Speaker 1: reading this little thing from Bianca though she goes, um,
Speaker 1: she's she's pregnant and she's really starting to miss her
Speaker 1: glass of wine. And what did I substitute for this? Um? Te?
Speaker 1: I loved having tea. It was tea and then um,
Speaker 1: I know it's getting warm, but if it's still cold
Speaker 1: wherever you're at Bianca. UM I loved having um hot
Speaker 1: chocolate with marshmallows. I don't know why, it just was
Speaker 1: so good. Um. And then if it's for like a
Speaker 1: cold drink, I would do Topo Chico and then some
Speaker 1: lemon and ginger and honey and it's a really nice
Speaker 1: little spritzer. Anyways, Um, y'all have a good whatever day
Speaker 1: it is, and talk to you soon.