WEBVTT - Is it Gonna Break? 0:00:01.720 --> 0:00:04.480 Wine Down with Jane Kramer and I have our radio 0:00:04.600 --> 0:00:11.799 podcast Monday Happy Monday, because it's not Monday happy whatever 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:13.440 day it is, because it doesn't matter. All the day's 0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:18.840 bing together. Seriously, when you it's like, it's not Monday. 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:20.880 To them, it's Monday, but when we record it, it's 0:00:20.880 --> 0:00:24.320 not Monday. I'm a pro. I know when this is 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:30.760 coming out. Is that our top of show right now? Well, 0:00:31.600 --> 0:00:33.960 we're delirious in our house. It's kind of funny though, 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:37.839 because I like when you say it's Monday, Happy Monday's 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:43.000 hapking Monday? Is that Monday right now? It's Friday Happy Friday? 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:44.720 But you're gonna listen to this on Monday, But it's 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:49.080 Friday for us because Jane is gonna hate me. Alliday's 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:51.480 going together for everybody. You know, It's It's so true. 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.560 My neighbor Molly, she came up to me today and 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:57.760 she goes, had an interesting conversation with mys on Peter 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:01.000 today and I was like, yeah, what's that, Molly? She goes, Oh, 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:04.200 I woke up and I said, hey, Peter, it's Friday. 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:07.039 And he goes, what does that even mean? And she goes, 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:14.200 you know what, great question? Nothing? It means nothing. It 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:19.360 means absolutely nothing, Peter, and she just really thought about 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:24.240 She's like, yeah, it means nothing. And we had this 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:26.080 conversation where I was like, I know, I said, now 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:29.600 that it's just us and we're not working, it's I 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:32.960 don't know what day it is. I don't know, and 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:37.800 doesn't matter. As long as Jason is in bed for 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:41.720 nap and the kids are in bed at seven, that's 0:01:41.760 --> 0:01:44.920 all that matters. Tell me it's Christmas. Even I would 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.440 be like, okay, yeah, sure, oh I know. And we started, 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:49.320 you know, talking about Easter, and I'm like, okay, we 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:54.120 have Easter bags or baskets up in the the storage unit, 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:58.120 and I'm like, you know, but you just went out 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:00.720 for your another two week call for grocery and then 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:03.640 it makes you stripped down naked in the garage and 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:07.520 run in the house to cover in mud and you're 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:10.680 covered in COVID. No. But I'm just word, you know, 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:14.360 just very yes, cautionary. And so you know, you had 0:02:14.400 --> 0:02:16.760 your two week thing, which Michael is now going to 0:02:16.840 --> 0:02:20.120 stop doing the runs because he has very bad asthma, 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:22.760 and I do care about his life. Contrary to how 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:24.880 some people don't think that I care about my husband. 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.240 I do care about him, and I do care that 0:02:27.280 --> 0:02:29.679 if he were to catch COVID, he would be UM 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:31.639 one of those that would have a very tough time 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:36.000 with it because of your um asthma conditions. So I 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:38.760 will be the one now doing trips and I will 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:40.920 make sure that I follow all the guidelines that I 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:44.360 have placed on you, and um, I will make sure 0:02:44.400 --> 0:02:45.760 to FaceTime you while you're at the store so you 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:48.440 get the appropriate things. You can't FaceTime because I can't 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.360 touch anything. I know what to get. It's just you 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:55.000 get everything after two weeks. I can't FaceTime. You can't 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:57.240 touch I can't touch my phone when I'm like touching, 0:02:57.320 --> 0:03:02.480 you know, add the gloves and it's just aways. Um. 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:06.400 So yeah, So that's that's that. We hope everyone's staying 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:09.760 safe though and not being naive to the social distancing 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.400 and staying at home. Just do the right thing. Please 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.680 stay at home so we can get past all this. 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:17.160 So I want to talk about something, and we also 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:19.040 have a really special guess. We have Tyler rich coming 0:03:19.040 --> 0:03:21.320 on who I just love him. I love his music. 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:24.680 Lever Wilde is one of my favorite songs. He's coming 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:26.919 on the show. In a bit, but first let's take 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:39.560 a break. Okay. So I kind of have something I 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:44.160 do want to bring up. I don't even know to 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:51.480 say this is Uh, usually we save things for like therapy, 0:03:51.920 --> 0:03:54.000 but I guess this is kind of like therapy at times, 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:57.440 So sure, why not bring it up. Let's do it. Well. 0:03:57.480 --> 0:03:59.760 I don't want it to be two sided, and I 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:01.800 do want you to feel you want to be too sided. 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:07.720 I mean, I don't want to. I don't want it 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:09.440 to be too So what I'm saying is is I 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:12.560 don't want it to be one sided because I feel 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:17.320 like sometimes you might feel that I'm picking on you 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:19.840 or bringing up things from the past or doing those 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:21.480 kind of things, and I don't ever want you to 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:26.000 feel that way. Appreciate that because I feel like why 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:28.320 I bring certain things up is to help other people, 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.599 for sure, And so if we could just go into 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:35.880 it with that in mind, that in mind, and to 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:38.440 maybe sometimes I forget that people are listening to this 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:43.039 when we have these conversations. So what honey, Oh, we're 0:04:43.120 --> 0:04:51.159 just working baby, I love you in quarantine? Oh god? 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:54.960 Um yeah, So I just I get that, and I'm 0:04:55.000 --> 0:04:57.000 not trying to bring up the past. Or whatever. I 0:04:57.040 --> 0:04:59.880 just feel like something we went through could be helped 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:05.279 to other people. Okay, this bring it on? Do you 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:07.120 know what I'm talking about? I don't. Let's do it 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:17.440 the board, the shop, let's do it. So we had yes, baby, 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:21.480 what sweetheart, you want me to cuddle you up? Okay, 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:24.719 one second, entertain the crowd for one second. Well we 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:29.000 do this quarantine style in the house, no nanny, no help, 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:31.560 and I'm gonna go cuddle the baby up. So why 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:34.440 don't don't set the scene yet. Let's let's leave him 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:37.000 hanging a little bit on that, but give him something 0:05:37.000 --> 0:05:40.520 else coming, baby girl. I don't know if any of 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:46.080 you out there with smartphones play game Pigeon, but it's 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:49.000 a great way to connect with friends. Okay. It's like 0:05:49.279 --> 0:05:53.560 a game app that's through your messages and you can 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:55.960 play games back and forth to each other that come 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:59.200 in as text messages. You can play darts, you can 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:03.480 play pool, you can play battleship, you can play four 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:06.000 in a row. You can basically basically play beer pong. 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:09.280 That you call it cut pong, but it's probably us 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:15.240 former college kids out there. It's beer pong. But no, 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:17.320 it's great. You can play a little bit everything. It's 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:18.960 a lot of fun. It's a way to connect with 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:21.120 your friends. So even if you aren't a gamer like myself, 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:24.279 it's just fun something to do take your mind off 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:26.560 all of the stresses that we're all dealing with right now. 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.000 And this is not an ad. This is just a 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:34.560 personal endorsement from myself because I enjoy doing it. So 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:36.559 we're gonna give Jane in a minute, as she cuts 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:40.599 up Jolie on the couch. Um again, this is just 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:44.080 the joys of working from home during quarantine. So and 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:48.279 here's Janet, did you cuttle up? Jolly? Can I have 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:52.200 some popcorns? So she's just like sitting pretty out there. 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:56.479 It is Friday night, Yeah it is, okay, So I 0:06:56.520 --> 0:07:00.000 told them everything. Okay, it's all my fault, super ones, 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:03.520 I did, got it? Okay, No, but can we just 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:08.159 go into that. So let's put down the guards. Swords 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:10.280 and shields are Downards and shields are down. This is 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:13.240 just the teaching moment that we could both do better at, 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:16.600 and this could be maybe helpful. Why don't you give 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:19.640 the backstory of how we've been the last week we had, 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:23.800 this week we've been, this past week, we've been good. Yeah, 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:29.240 the week before it was a rough week. So usually 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:31.200 we're in ruts for just a couple of days, but 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:35.560 this one lasted umbout a week. Yeah, it was a 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:41.400 solid week. So I think because I'll just say, we're 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:43.160 so used to working from home, so a lot of 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:46.240 people are like, oh, it shouldn't be any different for you. True, 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:51.320 but usually we're doing you know, we're doing stuff and 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:53.680 I'm running here and he's got this, and I've got 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:57.000 a meeting or we've you know, we're not on top 0:07:57.040 --> 0:08:01.520 of each other. And even when travel, we usually travel 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:04.760 at least once or twice a month, and typically nine 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:09.920 percent of time it's together, where even that at least 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:12.920 breaks things up a little bit. Like, even the we're together, 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:15.720 it's still traveling is a different scenery, a different vibe, 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:17.920 in different moods, so it's still kind of feels different 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:20.440 for us. So I think even that not having the 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:23.160 travel that we're used to is a little different, and 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:26.160 I feel not to one side it, but I just 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:29.840 feel like I am a very inquisitive person. I ask 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:34.240 a lot of questions, and I think the questions throughout 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:37.240 the I'm walking across, like the kitchen James like, what 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:42.480 are you doing. I'm going to the refrigerator. Why. It's 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:45.120 just that's just who she is. I'm just very curious. 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:49.920 And I think I asked you, you know, enough questions 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.600 those few days that you just started to get annoyed 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:57.800 with me. Yeah. And one of the things was we 0:08:57.800 --> 0:09:05.040 were built this little patio outside for these uh, for 0:09:05.120 --> 0:09:07.360 these bins basically to hold all of our pool stuff. 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:11.400 And so I finally got around to it thanks to 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:14.840 the quarantine, and got it done, um six months later. 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:17.959 So I have these they're like mini sheds, have these 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:20.840 two little mini sheds up, but a little platform looks great. 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:23.760 When I finished the platform, like a week or two ago, 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:26.679 I'm like, hey, I text you. I'm like, hey, come outside, 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:31.000 come take a look. And she comes out, and my 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.520 expectation is for her to be like, oh my gosh, 0:09:33.559 --> 0:09:36.800 it looks great. You're basically hercules and I love you 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:44.400 so much. And she comes out she's like hmm, yeah, yeah, 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:48.839 it looks nice, and I can read through that immediately. 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:52.680 I'm like, okay, no, it did look nice. Yeah, but 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:56.400 you're you're you had a different expectation of what it 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:59.480 would look like. I had no idea. I had no expectations, 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:01.960 so I was more just like, oh that's what you did. Cool? 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.040 You through rocks downe and like what are like cool? 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:08.320 So she so she proceeds to go into questions around 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:11.719 She's like, oh, so, you know, is it's going to 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:14.960 be sturdy? Is it gonna like there, you know, there's 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:18.800 little ship's gonna wobble And she's like, you know, she's 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:20.760 like pushing it and it's like wobbling a little bit, 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:23.160 and I'm like, um, well, these things aren't you know, 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:26.160 five thousand dollars, Like we got them on you know, 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:29.720 Amazon for like a hundred bucks, So they're gonna wobble 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:31.440 even And I even had to pick this thing up 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:33.360 and put it on the pool deck concrete and show 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.040 her that it's still wobbles a little bit. It's just 0:10:35.080 --> 0:10:38.120 the way it is. And then you know, I have 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:40.360 it with a wood frame and these like nice grabble 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:42.640 grabble marble rocks to make it look a little bit 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:45.719 more sestetically pleasing, and she's like, oh, was the door 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:47.760 gonna open like even on rocks, like is it gonna 0:10:47.760 --> 0:10:50.800 get caught? Is it gonna I'm genuinely asking these questions, 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:52.480 by the way, just so you guys know, like I 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:54.280 am genuinely oh is it gonna because I'm like, in 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:55.800 my mind, I'm like, oh, it's probably not gonna open 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:57.839 because the rocks are right there, but not's a fault him. 0:10:57.840 --> 0:11:00.080 I'm just like yeah. And then so there's just my 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:02.559 inn dog. And then I'm telling her, I'm like, Okay, well, 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:06.280 you know, I'm underestimated on the rocks. I need to 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:08.880 get a couple more bags and under the rocks that 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:11.960 it's soiled to even things out. And she was just like, well, 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:13.680 you have more soil on the truck, so why don't 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:15.440 you choose that instead of I was like, we already 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:18.040 laid the rocks. I can exchange the back to soil. 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:21.240 And she's like, okay, well how much are the backs 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:22.800 of rocks and how much are the backs of soil? 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:26.080 And so I'm just giving these questions. I'm like, oh 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:28.880 my gosh in my head, and I don't burst out 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:30.800 about it as much as I wanted to. In my head, 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:35.160 I'm like, why can't I just do a job and 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:38.800 a wife just trust the husband that he's gonna like 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:43.199 trust my judgment, Like instead of having all these inquisitive questions, 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:47.520 I understand you are a curious person, but the way 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:51.280 I receive it is clearly the only reason you're asking 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:53.040 a question is because it's not the way that you 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:57.000 would have liked to have had it done. Can I 0:11:57.000 --> 0:12:01.520 respond her? Now? Sure, that's actually really not true, because 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:03.959 looking at it, First of all, I just want to 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:08.040 say thank you for sharing. Second of all, I one 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:10.839 thousand percent could as you're saying it, I'm like, oh, 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:12.839 that sounds really annoying that I'm like that I'm asking 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:15.040 all those questions that must that would be so annoying. 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:20.160 And also I love how it looks. I think the rocks, 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:22.440 like the white rocks, you know, how like the border, 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:25.640 I think it looks great. I just had no idea 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:28.640 what to even expect, So I was like, oh, like 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.560 it was those rocks was the last thing in my 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:34.280 mind that you would have put it on. So I 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:36.880 was just, so, what can I ask to understand better? 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:41.240 So okay, So in your head, you're like, you have 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:45.920 no expectation of what it's gonna look like, So why 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:48.680 not just be like what stops you from being like, oh, 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:52.080 like looks great, awesome? Like I trust my husband's judgment. 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:54.719 Clearly he wouldn't do that if it wouldn't open, if 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:57.520 the door wouldn't open, he wouldn't put rocks down. Like 0:12:57.559 --> 0:13:00.480 that's where for sure I get that that makes idiot. 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:04.559 I'm not what I'm doing now, it makes total sense 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:07.079 and I and logically I can look back and and 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:10.360 see that. Um and so that's something I can for 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:14.440 sure be better at and be more mindful of, because 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:15.920 I don't want you to feel like an idiot. I 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:19.040 don't want you to feel like you know, what you're 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:22.520 doing is questioned or why, like, of course you're not 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:26.280 going to have something that doesn't open. I think maybe 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:31.160 there might have been that handful of times where something 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.880 maybe didn't go as planned. So I'm in my mind 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:37.719 it's like, well, if I asked all the questions, then 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:40.800 we won't have to start from scratch, you know, because 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:44.959 of maybe something in in the past. But that's not fair. 0:13:45.880 --> 0:13:48.800 And I couldn't even remember, if you know, I couldn't 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:52.480 even think of a time, so you know, yeah, a 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:54.800 thousand percent should have just been like, oh, looks great, 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:58.959 that's awesome, good job, h But I didn't, and I'm 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:01.960 sorry for that. Shit. It's things that we gotta work on. 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:05.960 Speaking of which I felt very one sided, so well 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:08.760 to even this out for you. So the reason we 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:11.199 start with that story is but I feel kind of say, 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:14.640 I think it might be a wife thing too, asking questions, right, 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:16.640 but here's the thing, and and we're going to get 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:19.080 general right here, that does feel like a wife thing. 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:22.440 And as a man, it feels it doesn't feel like 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:25.560 y'all's questions are out of curiosity. There's a difference between 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:31.160 there's a difference between a question out of curiosity and 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:38.720 being challenged when you question somebody the way y'all wives, 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:42.320 not everyone. We're just overly generalizing right now for the 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:44.880 sake of the argument is it feels like we're being 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:48.320 challenged because a man's again, a man's mindset is like 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:50.800 mine where it's the only reason she would ask me 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:54.000 is because clearly she has an issue with it. So 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:59.280 and that's on y'all men or a woman if it's 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:03.920 rules are first, because that's not fair just because we 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:07.880 might be passive or say a comment or a question 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:12.680 out of like you've dumb ass, not all questions, but 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:15.840 you're reading all of our questions like that and those scenarios. 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:18.120 Because I genuinely just like oh wow, like is it 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:20.160 going to be starting on those rocks because in my 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:22.840 mind I just genuinely didn't think they were going to 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:24.840 be and it had nothing to do to question you. 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:27.840 I totally see how you take that though, but I 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.160 just there are questions when I genuinely just ask you that, 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:34.800 I feel like men and some other people might take 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:38.080 it the wrong You're obviously taking it the wrong way 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:42.400 because I that always being super just like oh interesting, 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:44.680 like duh almost like kind of like my dad, Like 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:48.120 my dad would be very much like is that a 0:15:49.240 --> 0:15:53.800 uh an electric plug? And it's like, yeah, why are 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:57.479 you asking that question? Like it's just but he's curious, 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:01.280 you know that does this plug plug in? Yeah? But 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:03.960 he's he's an engineer, so his mind I know. But 0:16:04.040 --> 0:16:07.120 I'm just saying I wouldn't. The thing is, I think 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:09.880 I understand what you're saying. I wouldn't ask you a 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:12.880 question of something that you know better than me, Like 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:17.760 you know how to sell I do, okay, but you 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:22.320 do you can. So when you sow those buttons on, 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:25.240 like those couple of jackets I needed done, I didn't 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:27.800 look at it in question, Well, did you go through 0:16:27.800 --> 0:16:32.880 the loop enough valid point. But but but here's here's 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:36.920 which direction should you start from? Valid point? But to 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:40.640 the valid point? Totally get that. But if you would 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:44.520 have said, oh, do you think that will hold? I 0:16:44.600 --> 0:16:48.280 wouldn't get I wouldn't think this is I think again, men, men, 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:52.120 wife think. I would not get defensive. If you asked 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:56.440 me if the string that I use used would have 0:16:56.640 --> 0:17:00.640 held the strength of your button unto your jacket, it 0:17:00.720 --> 0:17:05.480 would not offend me in the louise because we don't 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:10.600 ask those questions. But if you did, but did we 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:14.159 are used to your challenging questions to see what our 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:17.000 answer is. We don't question you all like that. We 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:21.000 give you the benefit of the doubt. Right, I'm just saying, 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:23.639 given the benefit of doubt, even on something that we 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:26.560 may know better than you. Oh that's not true. Like 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:29.240 I didn't. I didn't challenge you on certain things like that, 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:33.280 you know, hanging up the garage whatever, YadA yutah, hanging 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:35.800 up the garage, like the pull up bar. Like I 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:38.639 didn't be like, well you should use the double whatever 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:40.800 did you put that little thing of a jigger in there? 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:47.399 I don't know, but is it going to hold hold you? No? Janna, 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:48.879 I put it in the wall and making sure it 0:17:48.920 --> 0:17:51.040 wouldn't hold me, and as soon as we put our 0:17:51.080 --> 0:17:53.040 hands on it, we're gonna get a giant hole in 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:56.840 the drywall. You did ask your question? Is that going 0:17:56.880 --> 0:17:59.359 to hold us? Why else would I put it up? 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:02.239 From my feeling in the microphone, so I don't want 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:04.760 to hear you you didn't ask a question, because you did, 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:07.600 I don't know why. I it's just it's not like 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:10.159 I don't want you to take it defensively. It's just 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:14.040 a general question. And I don't know why. Maybe it's 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:16.040 just me. Maybe I'm the only female out there. And 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:19.040 if i am, then I'm so sorry that you have 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:22.720 to live with such an inquisitive female. And I'll never 0:18:22.840 --> 0:18:26.879 ask a question again. But that's not true. But I'm 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:30.560 gonna starting then. I'm gonna before i'm done, I'm going 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:32.320 to write a list of questions, the questions I know 0:18:33.080 --> 0:18:34.720 not anymore, because now I'm gonna be like great or 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:37.560 a list of the questions that Jan would ask. I'm 0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:40.120 going to write them out with my answer, and before 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:42.240 I show you something, or as I show you something, 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:44.080 I'm going to hand you the piece of paper with 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:47.120 your questions and the answers on there, and you won't 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:50.040 you won't have to ask a thing. Well, you know, 0:18:50.480 --> 0:18:53.680 you know what, that's great, That that really just I 0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:56.200 don't know. I just sometimes I just feel like you 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:58.639 guys have to Again, maybe I'm the only one. If 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:01.200 I'm the only one out there, then than than I sucked. 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:03.880 But I'm just hoping a few women will reach out 0:19:03.920 --> 0:19:06.800 to me after hearing this podcast and also validate that 0:19:06.920 --> 0:19:08.840 they may be asked questions not because they don't trust 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:11.359 their husband, but just because you know, there might have 0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:13.080 been a time or two that the dry wall did 0:19:13.160 --> 0:19:17.320 come out or whatever, or they're just curious. Once again, 0:19:17.400 --> 0:19:19.720 just validate. It's my point that you have a strategic 0:19:19.800 --> 0:19:23.440 purpose for asking a question, not all the time. Not 0:19:23.800 --> 0:19:26.959 all the time. It's but you, guys, I can understand 0:19:27.240 --> 0:19:30.240 how you would miss construe when we genuinely are just 0:19:30.320 --> 0:19:32.240 asking a question. These are the things that are coming 0:19:32.320 --> 0:19:34.760 up for us as we're quarantined together for a month straight. 0:19:34.840 --> 0:19:36.840 So far, let's get down to the next part of 0:19:36.880 --> 0:19:38.680 it now. I think maybe we should have saved that 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:40.680 one because we kind of went long on that, so 0:19:40.800 --> 0:19:43.320 maybe we should save that for another. But it goes 0:19:43.359 --> 0:19:47.080 hand in hand. It does, but that's kind of long, 0:19:48.440 --> 0:20:01.439 very one sided. I'm very defensive and angry right now. Okay, 0:20:01.640 --> 0:20:05.080 so excited because, um, we have on zoom with us 0:20:05.240 --> 0:20:12.240 Tyler Rich Yes, Um, how are you doing? Are we're 0:20:12.280 --> 0:20:15.240 doing well? We're hanging in there. Where do you guys? 0:20:15.359 --> 0:20:17.600 Your wife? I see your beautiful wife behind you. Where 0:20:17.600 --> 0:20:20.280 do you guys? Where do you guys live? So we 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:24.040 split time between Nashville, um and l A. So we're 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:29.520 in l A right now. To get crazy, I grabbed 0:20:29.520 --> 0:20:32.160 the dog and flow out here and just been hanging 0:20:32.160 --> 0:20:35.680 out inevitably and seeing what happens. So how's everything in 0:20:35.840 --> 0:20:39.760 l A then? Because I know you guys, it's it's 0:20:39.960 --> 0:20:42.520 getting hit some kind of a hot spot. So, um, 0:20:43.200 --> 0:20:46.280 is it super weird to just see nothing happening? Or 0:20:46.359 --> 0:20:50.879 is there are people still interacting and what's going on? Um? 0:20:51.520 --> 0:20:54.680 It's it's funny because when I look out side, it 0:20:54.920 --> 0:20:57.800 looks like everything is kind of normal. But I know 0:20:57.960 --> 0:20:59.919 that when they're everything is normal again. I'm gonna real 0:21:00.200 --> 0:21:03.520 that's how crazy it usually is outside. But I don't know. 0:21:03.560 --> 0:21:05.600 I guess I think I'm feel like I'm supposed to 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:07.040 look out side and see nobody, but I see so 0:21:07.119 --> 0:21:10.119 many people still. Um, so it kind of feels like 0:21:10.200 --> 0:21:11.960 not much has changed. But then you see the But 0:21:12.080 --> 0:21:14.200 we also live on a street with two grocery stores 0:21:14.320 --> 0:21:17.920 where they're they're lined up down the street. Yeah, so 0:21:17.960 --> 0:21:20.719 it's convenient for us, but there's people everywhere. How long 0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:26.400 have you guys been married for? Oh? Wow? Really was? Yeah, 0:21:26.440 --> 0:21:28.280 but they're in the newly wed phase. This is where 0:21:28.280 --> 0:21:30.800 they're like still right, but they're like they're accelerating their 0:21:30.800 --> 0:21:33.120 marriage clock by like years right now. It's like dog 0:21:33.280 --> 0:21:36.000 years like in marriage, you know, but like it's six months. 0:21:36.119 --> 0:21:38.239 Like you're still obsessed with their like breath, like when 0:21:38.280 --> 0:21:40.159 they wake up in the morning and they're like you know, 0:21:40.760 --> 0:21:43.359 they're every like time they walk through like yeah, like 0:21:43.440 --> 0:21:45.080 every time they walk through a door, it's like, oh 0:21:45.160 --> 0:21:49.000 my god, everything's still so cute and fancy it Like, okay, 0:21:51.800 --> 0:21:55.560 I mean, how is it though? It's it's been cool. 0:21:55.760 --> 0:21:59.040 It's we're literally in the middle of an argument, is 0:21:59.080 --> 0:22:01.360 whispering in my ear about right now about how hot 0:22:01.440 --> 0:22:03.360 he is right now. She always has it so hut 0:22:04.440 --> 0:22:08.200 sound for sound purposes, thank you, And he just whispered 0:22:08.240 --> 0:22:09.560 in my ear and he's like, it's so hot, Like, 0:22:09.560 --> 0:22:12.440 all right, can we're in the sound And I'm like, 0:22:12.560 --> 0:22:15.199 I feel like the sweating is definitely the trade off 0:22:15.320 --> 0:22:19.760 for bad sounds. That's definitely our argument pretty much. Seven, 0:22:19.840 --> 0:22:21.439 He's like, why did you turn the heat on? It's 0:22:21.520 --> 0:22:24.240