Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Bell and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in grub a dub dub.
Speaker 1: In the dub but dubum. No space funds today, No
Speaker 1: my hair. I was actually gonna ask you for them,
Speaker 1: but my hair's a little wet.
Speaker 2: Dance sounds pain painful. Yeah, yeah, so we'd have to
Speaker 2: do low space funds, which I don't know if they
Speaker 2: would bring the same effects.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well you never know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just feels feels like we needed the space mounds today.
Speaker 2: You coming back from Mexico invigorated.
Speaker 1: No, you don't need the space funds because I am like,
Speaker 1: are you going to high Yeah. Because it's a short
Speaker 1: work week. I feel like I have to be so productive.
Speaker 1: So I've just been like on one, like I've done
Speaker 1: like fifty things today already.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: I know it's weird, like I don't know what's gone
Speaker 1: into me, but it's inside.
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, good for you, Thank you so much. How's your weekend?
Speaker 2: My weekend, alphabah, My weekend and was great. We went
Speaker 2: to the opening night of Wicked the movie. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: I the night before I was like laughing at my
Speaker 2: laughing by myself in bed while it was next to me,
Speaker 2: and she was like, what are you laughing at? I
Speaker 2: was like, how funny would it be if I went
Speaker 2: as Alphaba like to the theater and didn't tell anybody
Speaker 2: because we were going with a big group. And I
Speaker 2: had all the stuff because we were Alphaba and Glinda
Speaker 2: for Halloween last year.
Speaker 1: So it was last year. Yeah, that's sick.
Speaker 2: So I had everything. It's not like I like sourced
Speaker 2: it to go to the theater, but I was Glinda
Speaker 2: last year. So I was like, I'm gonna just like
Speaker 2: paint myself green and show up as Alphaba. And so
Speaker 2: I surprised everyone and it was hilarious. I actually thought
Speaker 2: people in the I thought there would be more people
Speaker 2: cosplaying and dressed up. So I was thinking, like, oh
Speaker 2: I nix with like the other Glinda's or the alphabus.
Speaker 2: No one else dressed up.
Speaker 3: No one I'm shocked by.
Speaker 1: I'm shocked by it too, just me.
Speaker 2: But let me tell you something. I was the actual
Speaker 2: I was getting sed up and we went to like
Speaker 2: a four o'clock showing. So there's a lot of young
Speaker 2: kids there, so they were like the parents would be like,
Speaker 2: can my kid get a picture with you, grown man
Speaker 2: asking for photos with me. So I was like, do
Speaker 2: we hit Hollywood Boulevard or do I go to Universal
Speaker 2: City Walk like start just sending out my venmo.
Speaker 3: Because the green makeup was like professionally done.
Speaker 2: I gotta be honest, I really did at.
Speaker 1: I was laughing so hard because I didn't see any
Speaker 1: of your videos that you'd posted, like on TikTok or
Speaker 1: anything that that you had dressed up like that. And
Speaker 1: I was on and I don't remember who posted it,
Speaker 1: but there was somebody posted a video and it was
Speaker 1: like Haley seeing the movie. Taylor Banks was there, Brittany
Speaker 1: was there, and I was like, that's weird. Beckonting go
Speaker 1: like just I was like, that's so weird whatever, and
Speaker 1: then I keep scrolling through and then I realized that
Speaker 1: you dressed up like that when I went back to
Speaker 1: that photo, and I realized, indeed you are that You're just.
Speaker 2: In an album. But yes, yeah, no, it was. It
Speaker 2: was really fun. But I guess people at some theater
Speaker 2: establishments people were painting their face and they were letting
Speaker 2: them in. I guess due to security. But I didn't
Speaker 2: know this, so I was like, imagine if I had gone,
Speaker 2: and they're like sorry, like you come in.
Speaker 4: They didn't know the rule was masks, like you could
Speaker 4: wear masks when you're cosplaying in theaters, which I do
Speaker 4: understand to a degree because people were masks for crimes,
Speaker 4: so I understand concealing your identity.
Speaker 3: But it seems weird. Just green paint.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I looked like myself.
Speaker 3: You did.
Speaker 1: In fact, that was really wow.
Speaker 2: This is green really brings off my eyes.
Speaker 1: But the movie is incredible, so it's like so good.
Speaker 2: It's so good.
Speaker 4: My daughter called it a cinematic masterpiece, which from a
Speaker 4: fifteen year old is really strong.
Speaker 3: Praise.
Speaker 1: You look like you're gonna cry right now.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna cry. But I can't listen to this
Speaker 2: version of define gravity without like full body chills.
Speaker 1: I've listened to I haven't one with with Cynthia and Arianna.
Speaker 2: I haven't listened to anything else musically since I saw
Speaker 2: the movie.
Speaker 5: You know, it's it's the it's the fighting for each
Speaker 5: other and the friendship and and being unlikely friends, and
Speaker 5: then and then.
Speaker 2: Alphabet fighting for what she believes in and being changed.
Speaker 2: And I feel like I've experienced that in my life
Speaker 2: of like I'm not the same person as I was.
Speaker 2: You know, like there's just something so powerful about it,
Speaker 2: and I'm so curious because you've never seen the play,
Speaker 2: if you're gonna.
Speaker 1: Honestly terrified because I feel like you're there's so much
Speaker 1: hype around it and people are like so freaking out
Speaker 1: and it's all my algorithms and then you you're like
Speaker 1: in tears right now talking about and everybody's like hyped
Speaker 1: it up that I'm scared that I'm gonna see it
Speaker 1: and be like.
Speaker 2: Well, one of my sisters, my youngest sister, sawt She
Speaker 2: said it was she's never seen the play and she
Speaker 2: was like, it's a little more singing than I was expecting. Like, well,
Speaker 2: it's a musical.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know that as much I didn't much.
Speaker 2: Caroline was like, I loved it so and she's never
Speaker 2: seen the play. So hard away, it's really hard to say.
Speaker 2: Maybe you shoot. Opening week is this week for the
Speaker 2: It's next Thursday is opening night at the Pantagious, So
Speaker 2: maybe you wait and see it's huge the play.
Speaker 1: First, I'm going to that you're going to see the
Speaker 1: play for playing going to opening night?
Speaker 3: What do you think?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 6: On stage, you're late, really not let me.
Speaker 1: Should I go with you?
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, tickets. I'll just got the ticket, so yeah, sorry,
Speaker 2: it wasn't me.
Speaker 1: Do you recommencing the play first and then the movie
Speaker 1: because that might change things?
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 6: I think going cold the movie, read the book, then.
Speaker 2: I think if you know that there's a lot of
Speaker 2: music and music and like every other word is like
Speaker 2: a song.
Speaker 5: Yeah I love that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like grease.
Speaker 1: Sure, okay, I know, but like same vibes. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: lots of music, lots of music. Yeah, I like singing.
Speaker 1: I liked The Gray's Anatomy.
Speaker 3: Uh I did too, Yeah, I.
Speaker 1: One with the songs.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you'll you'll love it. I think. I hope
Speaker 2: if you don't, and if you don't, that's okay.
Speaker 1: No, I can't come in here and be like I
Speaker 1: didn't like it. I feel so shamed.
Speaker 2: No no, no, there will be no shame, disrespect, no disrespect.
Speaker 2: Just give me your honesty and I just be curious, like,
Speaker 2: what didn't you like about it? You know, because I
Speaker 2: sat in one of the most uncomfortable outfits with green
Speaker 2: paint on, with the in a seat that didn't recline which.
Speaker 1: I didn't uncomfortable outfit. Weren't you just like a small.
Speaker 2: Interesting No, it was a dress, a witch dress, like
Speaker 2: a tato toll like skirt. Oh my gosh, I was
Speaker 2: pulling so hard. Yeah, I was not comfortable. I'd love
Speaker 2: to go back and like.
Speaker 3: Is the paint after a while?
Speaker 2: No, actually I was a little too comfortable in the
Speaker 2: page it was on there.
Speaker 1: Did you get any breakouts from it?
Speaker 2: I don't think so.
Speaker 1: Yeah, face looks great. Did you hear from Cynthia Arrivo herself?
Speaker 2: No, but she commented on our I did a reel
Speaker 2: of Haley and I just like put clips together from
Speaker 2: Halloween to the trailer audio, like a month or so ago,
Speaker 2: and she commented on that.
Speaker 7: Wow, and now it means so much more because she's
Speaker 7: everything we have a Haley got an Alpha BA doll
Speaker 7: when she went to the premiere, and I'm like, we
Speaker 7: are never giving that away.
Speaker 2: That might go on a shelf somewhere.
Speaker 1: Wow displayed It's like, yeah, remember when I saw the
Speaker 1: movie The Green Book? Can you do quick google the
Speaker 1: two main characters in Green Books?
Speaker 4: Sure, that'sherschel Ali Maherschela Ali.
Speaker 1: Yes, he was so amazing I've never seen any of
Speaker 1: his stuff before, but I posted on Instagram some like
Speaker 1: a snippet from the movie and like just tagged him
Speaker 1: in it, and he responded to it, and I literally
Speaker 1: felt like I'm trying to find like an equivalent of
Speaker 1: somebody that we would be like really like Patrick Dempsey responding
Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, yeah, it was a big deal.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's impactful.
Speaker 1: It's very impactful. I just did a little tag like cute, innocent,
Speaker 1: and then he responds, I'm.
Speaker 4: Like e but like Cynthia Riva was like the biggest
Speaker 4: start in the planet, universe, everything right in this moment,
Speaker 4: In this moment, there's no one bigger.
Speaker 1: I would argue maherschel Ali.
Speaker 4: Perhaps at the time because that was the best picture
Speaker 4: of twenty eighteen, but right now, none bigger.
Speaker 1: I love twenty eighteen. Twenty eighteen is my theme right now?
Speaker 2: Twenty eighteen teen?
Speaker 1: Does that mean that's that was what Haley called her?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, why is that your theme right now?
Speaker 1: On just like really basking in the year twenty eighteen.
Speaker 2: Okay, it was a good year.
Speaker 1: It was a great year. Yeah, I would say Green
Speaker 1: Book winning Oscars.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so y'all are seeing Wicked Friday Friday.
Speaker 6: Yes, Friday. We were up in the mountains this weekend
Speaker 6: and there's a movie theater that has one screen and
Speaker 6: they were playing Red One, and so we went did.
Speaker 1: You watch it?
Speaker 6: I absolutely get that bleep button ray. I love read
Speaker 6: Oh my god, it was so good. It was so good,
Speaker 6: and we were like also loved to walk out with
Speaker 6: all jazz, like we love Red One, and we go
Speaker 6: through our Instagram like everyone else's seen Wicked. We were
Speaker 6: so jealous because we wanted to see Wicked. We're seeing
Speaker 6: it this week though.
Speaker 1: But see, that's the thing, like I go into these
Speaker 1: movies lately with no expectations are very low, like Read One.
Speaker 1: I did not think I was going to enjoy Deadpool Wolverine.
Speaker 1: Thought I would hate it, and I end up loving
Speaker 1: these movies. So now I'm like, that's why I'm nervous
Speaker 1: for the expectation that I have on Wicked. But you know, I.
Speaker 6: Haven't seen a single person say anything bad about it.
Speaker 6: Like some people have problems with the color of Wicked,
Speaker 6: like the saturation.
Speaker 3: Wow, that's it.
Speaker 4: Getting deep there to complain about. By the way, Red
Speaker 4: One is interesting to me because you know, on Rotten Tomatoes.
Speaker 4: They have the ratings from the critics and the ratings
Speaker 4: from people who have regular people have gone to see
Speaker 4: the movie critics, it's thirty one percent positive reviews, which
Speaker 4: is terrible. Among people who go see it ninety positive.
Speaker 1: It's a blast.
Speaker 6: It's so funny that it's got great action. There's like
Speaker 6: practical effects. There's a Crampis costume that's insane that I love.
Speaker 6: Crampus showed up and elson I got and cheered. It
Speaker 6: was like it was like thorhad landed on the screen.
Speaker 1: Was new to me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Yeah, it's a great movie. Yeah, well,
Speaker 2: y'all have me hyped to see it. Yeah, I'm in
Speaker 2: my just like going to see movie eras.
Speaker 1: I'm very much enjoyed the movies myself.
Speaker 4: Yes, we'll put Becca. We didn't see any movies were
Speaker 4: good for Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I love a movie theater experience. I love sitting
Speaker 2: down with my popcorn and my candy and being all
Speaker 2: like cozy in my outfit and watching this like show
Speaker 2: come to lie. And I love not being tempted or
Speaker 2: to go on. You can't do it at home, like
Speaker 2: I have no control if my phone is anywhere near me,
Speaker 2: which is a personal problem.
Speaker 1: But I agree. I'm with you. I'm with you. It's
Speaker 1: like the it's like you're in a zone.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, it's just the general.
Speaker 1: Yes, you love yourself, as Eminem would say, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: as the great as the greatest.
Speaker 6: Do you get the same snacks every time? Do you
Speaker 6: have a routine?
Speaker 2: You know? So this one I went to a theater
Speaker 2: that's not my normal. They had pepsi products, which I
Speaker 2: found very problematic, a regal theater.
Speaker 1: I love a pepsi product.
Speaker 2: Good, well, you should go there. I like coke, so yeah,
Speaker 2: the pop the same thing. It's not the same thing.
Speaker 2: A pepsi and a Coca cola are not the same thing.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing. Though.
Speaker 2: I understand if you haven't Hedicota and ever then that
Speaker 2: they probably do taste similarly.
Speaker 1: There exactly the.
Speaker 2: One drink soda very regularly. There's a difference. They're fine,
Speaker 2: They're both fine. Pepsi's fine, Yeah, the same, But yeah,
Speaker 2: I get my popcorn sometimes if there's a mazzarella stick
Speaker 2: or nacho situation, I'll dabble. Okay, that depends on if
Speaker 2: I've popped a little, if I've gardened or not. Where
Speaker 2: my hunger level is I normally get like a.
Speaker 1: I don't know if everybody understands that reference.
Speaker 8: I think because I have found many of people I've
Speaker 8: used that reference in like the world, and people are like,
Speaker 8: that doesn't what you talking about, And so now I need.
Speaker 7: To hear how I'm using it because there could definitely
Speaker 7: be a delivery that's not no.
Speaker 1: Like we'll see someone on the TV that looks high
Speaker 1: as a kite and I'm like, oh, he's obviously was
Speaker 1: gardening before, and they're like, that's not a thing. So
Speaker 1: I'm like, I think we need to tell people on
Speaker 1: this podcast, because I don't think everybody listening no knows
Speaker 1: about if I gardened earlier means.
Speaker 2: Okay, gardening is taking it, taking an edible and being
Speaker 2: a little high.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, thank you.
Speaker 2: So when I say gardening, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Because I felt like I was led astray you were
Speaker 1: by this podcast.
Speaker 2: You're actually you're just cooler than the people you're hanging
Speaker 2: with because you're more in the No, that's what the
Speaker 2: people and that's what the kids on TikTok are saying.
Speaker 1: They're saying gardening.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because TikTok, you can't say.
Speaker 1: Like smoking an edible or taking an edible.
Speaker 2: There's no smoking.
Speaker 1: Edibles, smoking the ganja. I'm saying I did a little
Speaker 1: gardening smoking a dooby.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was like, oh, guarden And then.
Speaker 1: They were like huh.
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, you need to surround herself
Speaker 2: with just people in the know.
Speaker 1: I thought she was in the No, what's the candy situation?
Speaker 2: Situation is I get a chocolate candy and I get
Speaker 2: like a candy candy. So lately it's been nerd clusters,
Speaker 2: but I'll go with like, I love a bunch of
Speaker 2: crunch that's normally my chocolate choice, and then I I
Speaker 2: do nerd clusters are like a sour like water sour
Speaker 2: patch watermelon.
Speaker 6: I always wanted do double candy, and I never I
Speaker 6: feel like I can't. But now I'm gonna be like
Speaker 6: Tilly does it double candy.
Speaker 1: So the thing that you have to understand about Backatilly
Speaker 1: is she doesn't eat all of the candy. She'll have
Speaker 1: like two or three from the nerd cluster. She'll have
Speaker 1: like two or three.
Speaker 2: I have way more than two or three, but I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't eat the box.
Speaker 6: No, that's good where mama?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it just flops them in her mouth.
Speaker 2: Tanya talks about how gross they are, and then she's
Speaker 2: got her hand digging in my box the last one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you eat the rest of those nerd clusters. Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: Because Ali had a birthday gift for me and she
Speaker 2: was gonna put nerd clusters in the bag, but she goes,
Speaker 2: I ate the nerd clusters from your birthday present. Sorry
Speaker 2: about that, like before she ever gave it to me.
Speaker 2: And so I put the text on my Instagram and
Speaker 2: people were like, I put like, who do you think
Speaker 2: this is from? Ali, Tanya or Haley? And everyone's like, well,
Speaker 2: we know it's not Tanya. She would never eat those likely.
Speaker 1: Thank you are.
Speaker 2: So fooled by this act.
Speaker 1: There's no acts.
Speaker 2: There is an act.
Speaker 3: It's an act you.
Speaker 1: First of all, I don't buy nerd clusters for my
Speaker 1: home because I will eat them off.
Speaker 2: I don't say you bought them at home. I just
Speaker 2: said you once.
Speaker 1: I bought it once myself in an airport coming back
Speaker 1: from a Las Vegas wedding.
Speaker 2: And you love them.
Speaker 1: Yes, I was very drunk. Though.
Speaker 2: Hailey is so mad that I introduced her to the
Speaker 2: nerd clusters.
Speaker 1: I knew about the nerd because I used to like
Speaker 1: nerds on a rope. So these are just like a
Speaker 1: different yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, these are just a different adiation.
Speaker 1: Is it adiation?
Speaker 3: I don't think so.
Speaker 1: Iteration iteration.
Speaker 6: I'm afraid to try them. I have not tried them yet.
Speaker 3: I don't think I've had a nerd.
Speaker 2: People go crazy for the blue ones. The blueberry pink
Speaker 2: is good too. They're good, but the blue, if you're
Speaker 2: going to go for it.
Speaker 1: Maybe get a blue and a pink.
Speaker 3: Maybe.
Speaker 6: I'm afraid they're really good.
Speaker 2: Mark, did you watch Gray's Anatomy?
Speaker 6: Of course?
Speaker 4: Can we talk about a little shocking parts though, whether
Speaker 4: this is not a spoiler.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but when we come back, I love that. Wow. Okay,
Speaker 2: we're back, and this will mostly just be a conversation
Speaker 2: between Mark and myself.
Speaker 4: I just want to say that the most disturbing part
Speaker 4: of the whole thing was and it said to be
Speaker 4: continued March sixth.
Speaker 3: I was like, what the hell, that's forever from now.
Speaker 2: I haven't cared about the return date of Grade and
Speaker 2: Nasty in a minute, and it shocked me. I was like,
Speaker 2: one of the best finales they've had in years, and
Speaker 2: they're gonna make us way till March.
Speaker 4: I'm like, okay, take the holidays off, we skip December, we're.
Speaker 2: Back in January.
Speaker 4: I'll take early February fine, because February sweeps. That's when
Speaker 4: everybody's gonna be watching TV is in February.
Speaker 3: March sixth is an eternity from now.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something though that episode the past well,
Speaker 2: I've only watched the past three. I didn't go that
Speaker 2: far back. They are so good. I told Tanya, she
Speaker 2: just catch up on the last three, said the last three, okay.
Speaker 2: Basically when Sophia Bush comes in.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's a nice edition. She's a nice edition to anything.
Speaker 3: The iHeart family. Amen, amen scrubbing, we love her. But yes,
Speaker 3: I love the farewell to Levi. I love a mon taive. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm a sucker for a mondog like, oh he.
Speaker 2: Looks so young in you.
Speaker 1: That makes me so.
Speaker 4: Sad, really nice, really enjoyed that. And the drama we
Speaker 4: talked about last week with y Suda and her sister.
Speaker 3: I'm all in, but I never left.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, you've been consistent. I thought, Y Suda, I
Speaker 2: thought that story was going to go dark, like darker
Speaker 2: than she pretty dark. It was dark, but it was
Speaker 2: just like her spoiler alert, her like basically being like,
Speaker 2: I need to go find myself. I can't be here
Speaker 2: right where I thought it was going to be a
Speaker 2: little more dark than that.
Speaker 3: They're thinning the herd a little bit. What you have
Speaker 3: to do.
Speaker 4: You bring in a big new class of interns. Some
Speaker 4: people aren't going to make it, and she appears to
Speaker 4: be one of them.
Speaker 1: I wonder why people did people not like her.
Speaker 2: No, I think she wanted to go explore other like
Speaker 2: opportunities and the like. But that's what I read. Still
Speaker 2: one of the worst characters.
Speaker 3: Of all terrible.
Speaker 1: I will not tolerate.
Speaker 2: I think he might cheat on Teddy now, so we'll
Speaker 2: be back to just absolutely said that up.
Speaker 1: Such a baby. I will not hear this about my
Speaker 1: Kevin mckitt.
Speaker 2: I didn't say Kevin mckittt. I love Kevin.
Speaker 1: I will not hear this blasphemy about my Owen Hunt,
Speaker 1: not my own.
Speaker 2: Hunt, Christina and Meredith old school. He is a bitch.
Speaker 1: Baby, he is no, he's not he is.
Speaker 2: Yes. He stormed off and got mad because Sophia Bush
Speaker 2: touched Teddy's and the elevator opened and he saw her
Speaker 2: touching her shoulder and he's like, I'm gonna go take
Speaker 2: that break that you're suggested, and then he storms off,
Speaker 2: and then he offers to give this woman a ride
Speaker 2: who he was flirting with, to her hotel.
Speaker 1: Yeah, baby, don't talk about my own Okay, we're good
Speaker 1: friends now. Just if anybody's listening and taking notes. Kevin
Speaker 1: mckitt and I thick as thieves.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I would say it was like really intense.
Speaker 2: It had similar feel. I hate to give it the
Speaker 2: credit of the shooter episode, but it had similar intensity
Speaker 2: as a shooting.
Speaker 3: Well yes, because there was a shooter.
Speaker 2: Shooter, yeah, but it had that same feel where like
Speaker 2: everything every other scene felt very quiet except for what
Speaker 2: was going on. It was just old school grades were
Speaker 2: anything that could go wrong.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they need to never leave the hospital because everything
Speaker 4: that every time they do, somebody collapses. They have to
Speaker 4: save their life, Like something awful happens every time they
Speaker 4: leave that building.
Speaker 2: And I said on my Instagram, I said, if I
Speaker 2: was in an ambulance and they saiver going to Seattle Grace
Speaker 2: or Grace Loan, I'd be like, take me anywhere do
Speaker 2: the surgery and ambulance right this year, car, I have
Speaker 2: a better chance.
Speaker 1: Did you see those? And I feel like because Sarah
Speaker 1: Drew remember when she was on the podcast and she
Speaker 1: told us about how intense her scene was when she
Speaker 1: was delivering the baby, And I don't know why. For
Speaker 1: some reason, that really stuck with me. Hasn't left my mind.
Speaker 1: And I saw these tiktoks about Ariana Grande and how
Speaker 1: she hasn't been the same since she got this role
Speaker 1: as Glinda and that she's like kind of like adapting
Speaker 1: that behavior and that like I don't know, They're like
Speaker 1: showing like these before and after videos of her, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's so crazy that like playing a certain
Speaker 1: role can like infiltrate your psyche that much.
Speaker 6: But Butler syndrome.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like how crazy is that that it just takes you,
Speaker 1: takes your whole personality and morphs it into like something different.
Speaker 2: Well, her dream was to be this role and she
Speaker 2: was so in my opinion, she played it so similarly
Speaker 2: to Kristin Chenna with and so I felt like she
Speaker 2: just put everything she had into being like literally becoming Glinda.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but like now she's like still like has that
Speaker 1: same has that same to me? I know, I'm very
Speaker 1: curious to see if it continues.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm hmmm.
Speaker 1: And I always I think about that because of what
Speaker 1: Sarah Drew told us that Sarah really uh sticking with me?
Speaker 1: Yeah good, Yeah, memorable interview in my opinion.
Speaker 2: Yeah good, I'm serious.
Speaker 1: I had it the other day. I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: like that's so crazy. These roles can impact them that
Speaker 1: much with like physically it like impacts their bodies.
Speaker 2: Well yeah, I mean Sean has probably caused a lot
Speaker 2: of bodily trauma to these gray synatomy people having to
Speaker 2: act out these traumatic scenes, crazy switching gears. That was
Speaker 2: my weekend.
Speaker 1: I is it time to take a quick break?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I.
Speaker 1: Wanted to tell you that there's two types of people
Speaker 1: in this world. Okay, there are people who fill up
Speaker 1: their gas tank when the light goes on go. There's
Speaker 1: people who don't. Becca is one that doesn't.
Speaker 3: Becca has run out of gas on more than one.
Speaker 2: Occasion, and so is another very important person in Tanya's life,
Speaker 2: her fiance.
Speaker 3: Yeah you ran out of gas.
Speaker 1: No some this is actually like it's so annoying to
Speaker 1: me sometimes when he's right about stuff. But we're driving
Speaker 1: back from our workout and there's three miles left in
Speaker 1: the tank. He's like, I need to get gas. And
Speaker 1: I looked and I see three miles and I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, Like we're not even close to a
Speaker 1: gas station, like at all, not a close at all.
Speaker 1: He goes, I think it's about one point eight miles
Speaker 1: away from where we are right here.
Speaker 2: Look three miles left, correct, So you would have.
Speaker 1: Like, But then it switched in the middle of our conversation,
Speaker 1: switched to two miles. So I'm like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: So I look it up on my phone. Sure enough,
Speaker 1: it's literally one point eight miles from where we were.
Speaker 1: But this thing is going. Went from three to two
Speaker 1: real fast, and it went from two to one even faster,
Speaker 1: and I was like, we're not making it. Then it
Speaker 1: went to zero. It hit zero, and we're still going.
Speaker 1: So first of all, those things lie they do.
Speaker 6: That's a dangerous line.
Speaker 4: They know they can't trust you, So we'll give it
Speaker 4: an extra probably ten miles.
Speaker 1: So we ended up making it. We did make it
Speaker 1: to the gas station. We didn't have to push the.
Speaker 2: Car or whatever.
Speaker 1: But I was just like, I just spent the last
Speaker 1: ten minutes of my life stressed and panicked. Why does
Speaker 1: anyone like to live like that?
Speaker 2: But we don't. We don't experience that. In the same
Speaker 2: situation though.
Speaker 1: I was so stressed, I was like, pull over, let
Speaker 1: me get out of the car, because.
Speaker 2: I don't want to do I'm just uber home.
Speaker 3: Well, there's less weight in the car. You've used less fuel.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, I'll sacrifice myself so that you can get
Speaker 1: to this here gas station.
Speaker 4: I don't really have an issue with this because Robbie
Speaker 4: knows what his car can do. I've pushed it before
Speaker 4: because I know exactly what I'm dealing with.
Speaker 1: My life comes on and I am at the gas station.
Speaker 1: Baby girl never gets below twenty five miles life.
Speaker 6: I mean, it's bad for your car to run that
Speaker 6: low on the guest exactly. Easton Sam's boyfriend at one
Speaker 6: point in his life was would rent low frequently, and
Speaker 6: he famously coasted his car run out of gas, coasted
Speaker 6: into the gas station and up to the pump, and
Speaker 6: that rules.
Speaker 3: It's like some James Bonds.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we were at zero and he goes good thing
Speaker 1: it's downhill all the way to the gas. It's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he was doing things with the thing. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, the stress in my life.
Speaker 2: Well, some people just like to live on the edge
Speaker 2: or just feel like they can do it, you know.
Speaker 2: And I told Robbie, I go, you're gonna people on zero,
Speaker 2: like ninety percent of the time, you're gonna make it. No,
Speaker 2: I said, most of the time you're gonna make it,
Speaker 2: And he goes, yeah, like ninety I said, I'd say
Speaker 2: ninety five. I'd say out of all the times I've
Speaker 2: gone on zero, I've ran out of guess twice in
Speaker 2: my life.
Speaker 1: How many times have you gotten on zero?
Speaker 2: Every time I need to take gas? It's on zero
Speaker 2: every time.
Speaker 1: I haven't seen zero on my car since birth. Never
Speaker 1: have I seen it. Never have I seen the zero
Speaker 1: on my gas gage.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well you said it. There's two types of people
Speaker 2: in this world.
Speaker 1: Yes, indeed there are.
Speaker 3: How many times do you run out of gas in
Speaker 3: your life?
Speaker 1: She said two?
Speaker 3: Is that for sure?
Speaker 2: Three?
Speaker 3: Three times?
Speaker 2: One was a rental car, though, so I can't that
Speaker 2: one's hard because I was in a car. I had
Speaker 2: no idea how long I could go on zero. So
Speaker 2: I was just like, maybe this will go as long
Speaker 2: as it didn't. The Jeep compass does not have on zero.
Speaker 2: You better get to a gas station. You're not gonna
Speaker 2: go for very long. Wow, I was in the middle
Speaker 2: of Texas Cooston.
Speaker 1: Stress.
Speaker 2: That was a little bit stressful because that was literally
Speaker 2: in the middle of nowhere. Went knocked on people's doors
Speaker 2: in the neighborhood.
Speaker 3: Story.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well it's a It builds character at the very least.
Speaker 2: You have to be a little brain. You know. Had
Speaker 2: I not run out of gas and had to ask
Speaker 2: for help in my life, maybe I wouldn't have had
Speaker 2: the courage to go.
Speaker 1: Ask for help in life in general.
Speaker 2: To go to Wicket as alphabet on a level of
Speaker 2: like it can't hurt me, correct, Yeah, gave you a
Speaker 2: level of courage Ridge like the cowardly lion.
Speaker 1: Is he in this wickeed?
Speaker 6: No kind of they're in the trailer the gang.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm so curious to see what happens with that.
Speaker 1: I'm not I need to watch The Wizard of Oz
Speaker 1: again too, because I don't even know what that's about.
Speaker 1: A lot of homework that's about. No, I just remember
Speaker 1: the yellow Yeah, it's pretty classic. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Mexico did a lot of eating this weekend.
Speaker 1: I did a lot of eating this weekend. I ate
Speaker 1: so much food this weekend. It was insane, like more
Speaker 1: food than I've eaten in a week. But it was amazing.
Speaker 1: Any nerd clusters, No nerd clusters, straight they at the
Speaker 1: resort nerd clusters, I haven't seen any on the property.
Speaker 1: I haven't seen any.
Speaker 2: Those myself and bring them over.
Speaker 1: Yeah the No, I haven't seen any, but I'm sure
Speaker 1: at the gift shop they might have.
Speaker 2: Well explain to people what you were doing in Mexico
Speaker 2: because it was for a significant reason.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really cute because we are getting married
Speaker 1: in Mexico, and so we had to go and meet
Speaker 1: with like all of our vendors that we're using, because
Speaker 1: we've never met them in real life, just like over email.
Speaker 1: And so we had his parents come, my parents come,
Speaker 1: and then Robbie and myself and then our wedding planner,
Speaker 1: and we met with like the rentals, the music, the lighting,
Speaker 1: and then we did food tasting. So we did like
Speaker 1: a lot. It was like a very forty eight hours,
Speaker 1: like a very busy forty eight hours, big step.
Speaker 3: It's very real now, I would imagine, Yeah, yes.
Speaker 1: And it's so crazy because I wasn't sure where we
Speaker 1: were gonna have our ceremony. And then when we found
Speaker 1: the spot, I like walked down the aisle or like
Speaker 1: what it's going to be the aisle, and I just
Speaker 1: started like bawling, like this is I can't and I'm
Speaker 1: not having close like I like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like there's nothing, no music playing, and I'm just walking
Speaker 1: down this thing and I started like bawling.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we got to make sure you're not going to
Speaker 2: be good waterproof. Yeah it's not going to be good,
Speaker 2: Like it could be great.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that my water work situation is going
Speaker 1: to be a problem.
Speaker 2: When you get nervous, do you cry, like you know,
Speaker 2: if you're like nervous sometimes like it almost makes the
Speaker 2: emotion that you would normally feel like you were relaxed
Speaker 2: and in a very like you know, no one was
Speaker 2: staring at you and with address on, and you cried
Speaker 2: because you've probably felt like relaxed and safe. But I
Speaker 2: wonder if, like when you're you're trying not to think
Speaker 2: about tripping, if you'll be as like, right, yeah, allow
Speaker 2: yourself to go there.
Speaker 1: I did think about that because I was like there's steps,
Speaker 1: like it's like it's like a staircase kind of not
Speaker 1: like an aisle, like a normal aisle. It's like you
Speaker 1: come up from like a staircase. So and I.
Speaker 2: Gotta make sure the shoes I'm wearing or because we're
Speaker 2: all walking down the stairs, right, you're all.
Speaker 1: Walking down the stairs. But it's also grass too, so
Speaker 1: but the steels are gonna maybe want to be short
Speaker 1: or blocks or flocks. But you're gonna be walking with
Speaker 1: your dad, yes, down the aisle. Yeah, so you'll have
Speaker 1: him for like support. Yeah, but you know he he might.
Speaker 1: She's not not so clumsy himself. Really, he's been known
Speaker 1: to trip over a thing or two. So I got
Speaker 1: to make sure does that walk many times before we go.
Speaker 2: The rehearsal will be a long rehearsal. Yes, yeah, I
Speaker 2: get really emotional when I see the groom when he
Speaker 2: sees the bride walking down for the first time. That's
Speaker 2: always what like really chokes me up.
Speaker 1: Oh me too. I'm gonna need someone to video that
Speaker 1: because I'm not going to a videographer. A. Yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: we have not We have not gotten a videographer yet.
Speaker 2: Okay, that would definitely be on the list of the
Speaker 2: shot list you want.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I'm definitely gonna want to see that.
Speaker 2: Well, you'll see it.
Speaker 1: You'll be walking towards him, I know, but you know
Speaker 1: like that initial like, oh yeah, I guess I will
Speaker 1: see it.
Speaker 2: You'll be looking right at him.
Speaker 1: Ah yes, yes, yes, I imagine it's going to be
Speaker 1: like a blur. So I'm definitely yes. Yeah. But uh
Speaker 1: so we did all that, and it's so crazy because
Speaker 1: you don't even realize how many decisions you have to.
Speaker 1: I feel like I made a hundred decisions weekend, Like
Speaker 1: even like little things too, like what order do people
Speaker 1: walk down the island and like where do you like?
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, I didn't even know that.
Speaker 1: I was just I was just have my wedding planner
Speaker 1: to side that. But I guess it's a big decision.
Speaker 2: Using what side of you is going to be facing
Speaker 2: the audience?
Speaker 1: Audience are close friends and family.
Speaker 2: Know, like what side of your face? Like you know,
Speaker 2: because and don't you have a good side? I do it?
Speaker 1: Better be on my good side, a good side.
Speaker 4: And then there was like you're good, which is your
Speaker 4: I don't know, I'm sorry it should be obvious to me,
Speaker 4: but which is your good side?
Speaker 3: I see it? Yes?
Speaker 1: And then look at this side. Uh huh, which one's better?
Speaker 3: Exactly this?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you're lying.
Speaker 4: Show the camera way Crystal can make this her magic
Speaker 4: for Instagram. There's there's one side and there's the other side.
Speaker 2: You turn more, wait, you turn more for that way.
Speaker 2: So make sure you're like, look at look at my hand.
Speaker 1: Okay, I love the smile and like that.
Speaker 2: But yeah, yeah, just right there.
Speaker 6: Yeah it's right side.
Speaker 1: Right, my right side is better. Yeah, yeah, thank you
Speaker 1: really wow?
Speaker 6: Yeahs to me.
Speaker 1: Yes, so lucky you too, blessed.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's like even like stuff like that. And
Speaker 1: then and then we're doing we want to like have
Speaker 1: these lights over the reception, so it's like, oh, do
Speaker 1: you want the lights covering just the tables or the
Speaker 1: tables and the dance floor or I'm like, I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like all these little things that you just don't
Speaker 1: even realize until you're in it, and I'm just kind
Speaker 1: of making the decisions.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm telling you, and I know it doesn't
Speaker 2: feel like this because you want everything to be perfect,
Speaker 2: but not a single person is going to remember where
Speaker 2: the lights are or what the silver wear looked like.
Speaker 2: And we'll just be like, oh my god, that was beautiful.
Speaker 1: My biggest thing right now is the food. So the
Speaker 1: food's amazing at this hotel, Like, the food is delicious.
Speaker 2: You made some good choices for us.
Speaker 1: Yes, the choices are amazing ate every single one of
Speaker 1: them licked it to the bone. But here's the thing.
Speaker 1: So I've always thought I would have a plate of
Speaker 1: dinner at my wedding because I just thought I would
Speaker 1: have a plate of dinner. There's they also offer to
Speaker 1: do stations, not like a buffet, but like there would
Speaker 1: be like a station for the civice. There would be
Speaker 1: a station for the for the meat, and the station
Speaker 1: for the salad. Da da da da. I. For some reason,
Speaker 1: I've always just envisioned my wedding with a plate of dinner.
Speaker 1: But I feel like it's gonna mess up the vibe
Speaker 1: that I want, which is just like party and if
Speaker 1: some people because we're gonna have cocktail hour before the ceremony,
Speaker 1: so people might not even be hungry. So if you
Speaker 1: have stations, it lets people eat when they want to.
Speaker 1: We also have more variety because if people have to
Speaker 1: decide what they want, you only get that one thing,
Speaker 1: versus if you have the stations, you can pick from
Speaker 1: two or three things, you.
Speaker 2: Know what I mean. I, before I moved to California
Speaker 2: had never had a set, sit down, plated dinner at
Speaker 2: a reception. I've always had kind of buffet style, go
Speaker 2: up and eat what you want when you want. So
Speaker 2: like when my first wedding out here, when we had
Speaker 2: to sit down reception, I was like, what is happening?
Speaker 2: Are we all having to sit here and eat at
Speaker 2: the same time? Like I was so confused, But then
Speaker 2: everybody's been too since out here does the plate of dinner.
Speaker 1: I know, and I think that's so ingrained in me,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So it's like it's this
Speaker 1: weird thing that I can't. I'm like, I know, the
Speaker 1: logical answer is to do the stations, you know, and
Speaker 1: like also, we're not doing all of our speeches, We're
Speaker 1: gonna do the night before, so but for some reason
Speaker 1: I can't. And the desserts, Oh.
Speaker 3: You were very excited.
Speaker 2: She is a dessert. If y'all don't know this about Tonya,
Speaker 2: because we talk we focus a lot on.
Speaker 1: Your healthy ye, yes, but you love a dice. I
Speaker 1: love dessert like I love dessert. And we tried both
Speaker 1: of the desserts, ones like a chocolate one and one's
Speaker 1: like adulte de leeche one, and they were I can't
Speaker 1: even pick which one was better. It was like just
Speaker 1: thinking about it now makes me like makes my mouth water.
Speaker 2: I was like, please watch your words.
Speaker 1: But so that's kind of the big decision right now.
Speaker 1: But anyways, we did it and our parents really enjoyed
Speaker 1: the food and it was just like really sweet because
Speaker 1: my parents have hung out with Robbie's parents multiple times,
Speaker 1: like we've done things givings together and stuff like that,
Speaker 1: but we've never spent like a weekend together like a
Speaker 1: lot of meals, Like we've had breakfast and we did dinners,
Speaker 1: and we spent every day. We went to the beach together,
Speaker 1: and then Robbie and I came home Sunday night and
Speaker 1: our parents stayed and had dinner together and like, yeah,
Speaker 1: so like we've never I've never seen them spend so
Speaker 1: much time and like, I don't know, it's just like
Speaker 1: really really sweet and it was really really special. I
Speaker 1: was like emotional like the whole weekend and it made
Speaker 1: me and it almost it did feel really real, like
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my gosh, like this is where
Speaker 1: we're getting married. Yeah, we're like this is like this
Speaker 1: is it? So now it feels like countdown is on.
Speaker 2: So well, y'all go before the wedding around it. I
Speaker 2: mean I was so smart to do that though. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that was it, wow, because no, like really you can
Speaker 2: just make the decisions you need to make and by
Speaker 2: the timing, like you know everything, you're not going to
Speaker 2: be surprised by anything.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, hopefully what great.
Speaker 3: As long as you have chicken, that's all that really matters.
Speaker 1: Although we are having chicken as an appetizer, it's like
Speaker 1: it's like a crispy chicken taco. Oh yeah, but it's
Speaker 1: not like you're not gonna be able to have like chicken
Speaker 1: like off of a like chicken. O.
Speaker 2: God about.
Speaker 1: The carving, yeah, the carving. Also thinking like stations is
Speaker 1: better for like a Haley, because I was thinking about
Speaker 1: Haley with her onion and garlic.
Speaker 2: So thoughtful, but also she she's able to typically they can,
Speaker 2: especially at a resort like that.
Speaker 1: But I was like, oh, it's probably better for like
Speaker 1: her people that have allergies to certain things to do
Speaker 1: it kind of in stations because they can hold the
Speaker 1: onion or whatever.
Speaker 2: I don't know, Hold the onion, Hold the cilantro. Yeah,
Speaker 2: me exactly. Well, this is very exciting.
Speaker 1: It was so and we got like so drunk the
Speaker 1: first night because we were so excited, Like we we
Speaker 1: just got there and the hotel did like a lot
Speaker 1: of really sweet things for us. They like had a
Speaker 1: little band and they like had picture like pictures of
Speaker 1: us framed in the room and like a little like
Speaker 1: balloon with butterflies on it, and like they just did
Speaker 1: like a lot. And so they gave us a margarita
Speaker 1: when we got there, so we drank the margarita, and
Speaker 1: then they gave us champagne. So we drank the champagne
Speaker 1: and then we went to dinner with our parents. And
Speaker 1: it was the first night, so we were just like woo.
Speaker 1: So the next day we were like hungover doing all
Speaker 1: these walk through which was not smart. And it's like
Speaker 1: eighty degrees.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah it did look warm.
Speaker 1: It was warm.
Speaker 2: She was still not be cold.
Speaker 1: No wedding, No it will not be cold.
Speaker 2: This is great.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really really exciting.
Speaker 2: I wanted to talk about the bachelorette because there's this
Speaker 2: new thing saying people are ditching rides, are ditching bachelorette
Speaker 2: parties for solo trips.
Speaker 1: Not Amy, but let's talk about it.
Speaker 2: But we'll do it when we come back, all right, Tanya.
Speaker 2: So it seems to be that brides are ditching the
Speaker 2: traditional bachelorette parties for solo trips because the bachelorette party
Speaker 2: has turned into a multi day weekend trip for a
Speaker 2: lot of people. It cannot up to a lot of cost,
Speaker 2: and people love it. But some people are just choosing
Speaker 2: to go away by themselves to really ground themselves before
Speaker 2: the bridal festivities begin.
Speaker 1: No one needs to be grounded less than me. Solo grounding.
Speaker 1: I don't last thing I need is solo grounding. You
Speaker 1: could end time period, especially because I'm so stressed about
Speaker 1: all this stuff. The last thing I need is to
Speaker 1: be left alone in a hotel to my own thoughts.
Speaker 2: You could pin the penis on the robbie by myself.
Speaker 2: Nothing sounds worse blindfolds yourself.
Speaker 1: Is this because you want to get out of going
Speaker 1: to my bachelorette Now? I'm actually I'm hearing here.
Speaker 2: I'm very excited about your bachelor. I love a bachelorette. Yeah,
Speaker 2: they're so fun, I know. So I'm very excited about it.
Speaker 2: I would be very sad if you did your solo
Speaker 2: bachelorette party.
Speaker 1: Well, I ain't doing it.
Speaker 2: They're calling it a solourette.
Speaker 1: Nothing sounds worse to me, honestly, Like I don't want
Speaker 1: that at all. I was actually thinking, because we're doing
Speaker 1: things a little different, We're gonna do a cocktail hour
Speaker 1: before the ceremony so that people can have like a
Speaker 1: little food and a little drink before. And uh, I
Speaker 1: was like, well that sucks because I can't be there,
Speaker 1: like I'm not going to be a part of it.
Speaker 1: And then I was like, well, and none of my
Speaker 1: bridesmaids are gonna be therecause they're gonna be with me,
Speaker 1: And Roby's like, no, you should let them go, and
Speaker 1: like I'm sitting there by myself before the ceremony. No,
Speaker 1: thank you.
Speaker 2: Well, there might be a moment like right, because it's
Speaker 2: gonna be crazy, I will say, like Ali getting ready there.
Speaker 2: It was so much happening that I did feel like
Speaker 2: if she had had a moment just to like calm, yeah,
Speaker 2: like this is happening, have a moment with yourself or.
Speaker 1: I've had those moments, okay, but.
Speaker 2: We will not you that crowd you and not make
Speaker 2: sure you are not alone, but you know moments.
Speaker 1: You know, what I thought would be really fun is
Speaker 1: one night of the Bachelorette to do Love Island theme.
Speaker 2: What does that mean?
Speaker 1: I don't know, just like like just get like cups
Speaker 1: with our names on them essentially.
Speaker 2: Okay, the water bottle names on them. Color is going
Speaker 2: to be there.
Speaker 3: From Love Island.
Speaker 1: Taylor disrespectful.
Speaker 3: I don't know these people, tramp her.
Speaker 1: No, but you know what you might be excited about
Speaker 1: live from uh Love Island is dating Christian Cavalary's ex.
Speaker 3: I don't think I'm excited about that, but good for them.
Speaker 1: For sure, if they're dating. But that seems to be
Speaker 1: on the rumor mill.
Speaker 2: They definitely spent some time together because they did the
Speaker 2: Vegas screening of G and then they were also both
Speaker 2: at the premiere.
Speaker 1: Oh and then I saw some TikTok that she posted
Speaker 1: with him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there was something about like what she proposed to
Speaker 2: him or something.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, there's multiples. There's multiple with them.
Speaker 2: Well, well, when she comes on the podcast, we'll ask
Speaker 2: her about I'll ask her about it. Yeah, if there's
Speaker 2: any truth to that.
Speaker 1: I love any tie to a Christian Cavalary.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we know. Yeah, well we can have Kristin Cavalary
Speaker 2: on the podcast to talk about the rumors between Mark
Speaker 2: and Live.
Speaker 1: I don't think she'd enjoy that very much.
Speaker 2: Okay, right then we will not. I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 2: She's pretty much an open book.
Speaker 1: She is an open book, that's for sure. But like,
Speaker 1: would you want to go down a podcast talk about
Speaker 1: like your ex and their new girlfriend.
Speaker 2: I don't know, think about it, but I don't always
Speaker 2: do things the way Kristen does. Think so she could
Speaker 2: be into doing that just because I want it. Doesn't
Speaker 2: mean she would look at all this rain.
Speaker 3: Okay, see, we shouldn't have TVs on during the show.
Speaker 1: By the rain. Oh my gosh, it's going to be
Speaker 1: a wet Thanksgiving here in l A for us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is, so, it seems, Yeah, it seems there
Speaker 2: is a We do have a email from an anonymous It.
Speaker 4: Kind of fits the theme here. Yeah, Hi, Tanya, Beckham,
Speaker 4: Mark and Easton. I love listening to you age every
Speaker 4: week and always find myself smiling and laughing along. Your
Speaker 4: conversations are a bright spot in my week. That's very nice.
Speaker 4: I could really use some advice on a wedding related dilemma.
Speaker 4: I recently got engaged, and I'm thinking of asking my
Speaker 4: two best friends to be co matrons of honor.
Speaker 3: However, I'm a little torn.
Speaker 4: Because my sister, who would normally be my first choice,
Speaker 4: lives across the country and has already said she's not
Speaker 4: going to make it to my wedding.
Speaker 3: Oh gosh.
Speaker 4: I don't want to hurt my sister's feelings, but I
Speaker 4: also know that my two best friends would be the
Speaker 4: most helpful leading up to end during the wedding. My
Speaker 4: question is, do you think it's okay to ask my
Speaker 4: best friends to be co matrons of honor? Or should
Speaker 4: I just ask them to be bride'smaids instead? How can
Speaker 4: I make my friends feel special when I ask them
Speaker 4: to be part of the wedding party. How do I
Speaker 4: ensure my sister still feels included even though she won't
Speaker 4: be physically present. Any advice you have would be so appreciated.
Speaker 4: Thank you for all the joy and laugh do you
Speaker 4: bring to my life every week.
Speaker 2: Do we think she's really saying she's not going to
Speaker 2: the wedding or we think more just the fest of
Speaker 2: like the festivities, like like being there for the dress.
Speaker 2: I'm hoping it's not wedding.
Speaker 4: But even if the wedding, Anonymous seems cool with it,
Speaker 4: Like apparently it seems to be no matter what it is,
Speaker 4: Anonymous is cool with that.
Speaker 2: Anonymous is accepted.
Speaker 3: There's no bitterness here that I'm sensing.
Speaker 2: Right right, I think it's well, you what do you think?
Speaker 1: Uh? Well, I asked my sister and my two best
Speaker 1: friends to be co matron's maids of honor because I
Speaker 1: felt the same way like I was like, obviously I'm
Speaker 1: going to be I'm asked my sister, She's my sister,
Speaker 1: but I felt like Becka and Paulina would be doing
Speaker 1: the brunt to the work, so I wanted to like
Speaker 1: honor them and respect them and give them that title.
Speaker 1: In hindsight, I'm thinking, like, I only have two other bridesmaids,
Speaker 1: So I was like, I should have just made everybody
Speaker 1: you made of honor, you know what I mean, Because
Speaker 1: I'm like, recounts of fear are going to be doing
Speaker 1: just as much, you know, So in hindsight, I would
Speaker 1: have done that a little bit differently. But we're here now.
Speaker 1: But I feel like, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: there's so much pressure put on every single all of
Speaker 1: these little things, like and I think just telling people
Speaker 1: like that you want them to be as involved or
Speaker 1: not involved as much as they want. Like I get
Speaker 1: what she's saying, because it's like there's this weird like
Speaker 1: I like, my sister lives far away. She doesn't live
Speaker 1: across the country, but she lives in San Diego. She's
Speaker 1: two kids, so it's not so easy for her to
Speaker 1: just come up to La. We're doing flower girl dress trials,
Speaker 1: and it just happened to land on a day where
Speaker 1: like they're going to be somewhere for Thanksgiving, so they
Speaker 1: can't be there. And I'm like, I literally like and
Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like she's sad that I'm sad,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm not sad at all. I'm doing
Speaker 1: this to make everything easy for people to give the
Speaker 1: girl's flower girl dresses. If she cannot make it, we
Speaker 1: will FaceTime, We'll send photos, We'll send it. Like it's
Speaker 1: I think everybody just feels this like pressure on every
Speaker 1: single side. And I feel I wish that we could
Speaker 1: all feel unpressured and just do and enjoin and what
Speaker 1: we want to do and not feel I just feel
Speaker 1: like there's this level of pressure that just like it
Speaker 1: is not nice.
Speaker 2: I think it's just wanting to be a part though,
Speaker 2: you know, like you're invited to something or to be
Speaker 2: a part of something and wanting to be wanting to
Speaker 2: be there, but knowing that it's not really physically possible
Speaker 2: with the other obligations of life. But I think that
Speaker 2: you just honoring your sister and if she I can't
Speaker 2: tell if she's married because she's referring to her as
Speaker 2: a matron, because typically it's a matron and the maids.
Speaker 2: So maybe it's like your sister's your matron of honor
Speaker 2: and then your other bridesmaids are are maids of honor.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you don't say nothing wrong with having co's though.
Speaker 4: And make a three cos I mean you wish that
Speaker 4: she had whatever you.
Speaker 3: Want to do. There's no rules here.
Speaker 1: The rules are out the window, gone gone, left them
Speaker 1: in twenty eighteen.
Speaker 2: WHOA, I don't know if they've been gone that long.
Speaker 1: But but yeah, I feel like invite her to everything
Speaker 1: and just make her feel like obviously there's no pressure.
Speaker 1: I want you here, but I'm not gonna be upset
Speaker 1: or hold it over your head or you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I feel like that's the thing that like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know how to explain it.
Speaker 2: I think you just say, hey, I obviously know that
Speaker 2: circumstances and distance don't allow for you to be a
Speaker 2: part of everything, but I will invite you. I'm gonna
Speaker 2: include you in everything, right. I don't want you to
Speaker 2: feel like I'm upset for anything you can't make. I'm
Speaker 2: just so happy that you're going to be included and
Speaker 2: like be on this text messages to see what we're doing,
Speaker 2: how we're doing it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love you, and.
Speaker 2: That's it. That's it. You're the bride. You don't need
Speaker 2: to like take care of everybody.
Speaker 1: But you do.
Speaker 2: You really don't, but you do.
Speaker 1: No, but you do.
Speaker 2: Not everyone's emotions or your responsibility.
Speaker 1: I know, say it against sister.
Speaker 2: Not everyone's emotions are your responsibility.
Speaker 1: One more time for.
Speaker 2: The people to not everyone's emotions are your responsibility. It's good,
Speaker 2: especially adults.
Speaker 1: It's good. I gotta do that.
Speaker 2: That applies to everything, not just brides.
Speaker 1: Care to share anything, get anything off your chest?
Speaker 2: No no no no no no no no no no on
Speaker 2: that note. That's all we got. But this is a
Speaker 2: Thanksgiving week and we do have an episode coming out
Speaker 2: because what we do is we take care of our scrubbers.
Speaker 1: And on our most thankful day, we are thankful for you.
Speaker 2: We are thankful for you. So we hope that whether
Speaker 2: you're celebrating with family, friends or doing a solo giving,
Speaker 2: get back to yourself. Yes, we love your that's right,
Speaker 2: I wasn't going there girl.
Speaker 1: By love you bye to be continue out
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